I'm surprised nobody has commented. Both my Fiancé and I act this way, but we both make sure to keep an open communication with each other and to always be willing to talk about whats on our mind or bothering us, bottling it up leads to us exploding in anxiety or frustration, when it could have been avoided by just being honest. Thank you for giving people good advice, The good Lord knows people need it today in their lives and relationships with each other.
I got 4 out of 5 of those. My dad was distant and quiet until he would explode in anger sometimes. Always learned to not be a source of stress for others in a household that was saturated in stress. So I hid my “bad” emotions . I only showed the good stuff. Happy, extroverted, “look at me I’m a good boy” all the whole quietly hurting because my needs weren’t being met
I'm very anxious, both in atachment and overall mental disorder (its being treated, under control now) But communication is absolutely key. You don't have to play mind games or test your parner. Just ask them for what you need. Be honest. I've been doing this in my 3 year relationship and it really works. He's pacient and understanding and a true kind and supporting soul whenever im not okay. "I know nothing out of the usual happened today, but I've been felling lonely, can you give me a hug?" "I am scared that you may grow tired of me and leave. I know you dindnt do or say anything different, but i had this feeling and it is bothering me. Is it true?" "Is everything okay between us? Are you mad?" These seem very insecure things to ask, but it is better to voice them out. They love you, they want the best for you, but they cant read your mind. So tell them
I had this with a friendship, I spoke up and boom, blocked after 8 months of talking nearly every day but where I was always terrified he would never talk to me again. I am lost now and it proved to me that whenever you speak up, people will leave you. Every time in my life I have said how I feel, it has been disregarded. The treatment proved to me that I wasn't worthy.
@saadia4009 being truthful is not enough. This is something I am also working to master. Wisdom in communication means applying truth with tempered reason. I have lost friendships I wanted to keep because I did not watch my tongue, I just spoke the truth I felt and it hurt my new friends who I really wanted to keep and I probably lost them for good. This taught me a lot.
It was just easier to break up after trying to express and then not being taken to seriously 🙃 Talking about emotions ain't always usefull. Actions are always stronger then words
My father was distant and my mother was erratic out of nowhere. I would say I have a blend of anxious/avoidant attachment, though I have been working on improving this. I still very much struggle with codependency with a weird mix of commitment issues tangled in there. Still though, I'm trying.
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I'm surprised nobody has commented. Both my Fiancé and I act this way, but we both make sure to keep an open communication with each other and to always be willing to talk about whats on our mind or bothering us, bottling it up leads to us exploding in anxiety or frustration, when it could have been avoided by just being honest. Thank you for giving people good advice, The good Lord knows people need it today in their lives and relationships with each other.
I got 4 out of 5 of those. My dad was distant and quiet until he would explode in anger sometimes. Always learned to not be a source of stress for others in a household that was saturated in stress. So I hid my “bad” emotions . I only showed the good stuff. Happy, extroverted, “look at me I’m a good boy” all the whole quietly hurting because my needs weren’t being met
I'm very anxious, both in atachment and overall mental disorder (its being treated, under control now)
But communication is absolutely key. You don't have to play mind games or test your parner. Just ask them for what you need. Be honest.
I've been doing this in my 3 year relationship and it really works. He's pacient and understanding and a true kind and supporting soul whenever im not okay.
"I know nothing out of the usual happened today, but I've been felling lonely, can you give me a hug?"
"I am scared that you may grow tired of me and leave. I know you dindnt do or say anything different, but i had this feeling and it is bothering me. Is it true?"
"Is everything okay between us? Are you mad?"
These seem very insecure things to ask, but it is better to voice them out. They love you, they want the best for you, but they cant read your mind. So tell them
Exactly right! 💯
I had this with a friendship, I spoke up and boom, blocked after 8 months of talking nearly every day but where I was always terrified he would never talk to me again. I am lost now and it proved to me that whenever you speak up, people will leave you. Every time in my life I have said how I feel, it has been disregarded. The treatment proved to me that I wasn't worthy.
Was your choice of all your words made with wisdom?
@@HarryGoulding probably not, but it was the truth
@@HarryGoulding I know I have anxious attachment issues
@saadia4009 being truthful is not enough. This is something I am also working to master. Wisdom in communication means applying truth with tempered reason. I have lost friendships I wanted to keep because I did not watch my tongue, I just spoke the truth I felt and it hurt my new friends who I really wanted to keep and I probably lost them for good. This taught me a lot.
@@HarryGoulding i feel the same :( makes me want to cry, the truth only creates hatred contrary to what we were told.
Shit, you described me haha. Guess ill need to adapt in future relationships...
Real shit this hit so hard
I wonder how hes sooo underrated!!!🤔
It was just easier to break up after trying to express and then not being taken to seriously 🙃 Talking about emotions ain't always usefull. Actions are always stronger then words
This is good advice yo
My father was distant and my mother was erratic out of nowhere. I would say I have a blend of anxious/avoidant attachment, though I have been working on improving this. I still very much struggle with codependency with a weird mix of commitment issues tangled in there. Still though, I'm trying.
Pulling the 5d move of monk mode
Ye I can completely relate to it but fuck relationships
Is it possible to have a little bit of both...an anxious attachment AND avoidant attachment style? I feel like I fit into both categories 😅
Uh
Yeah that's all me
Now i get why I'm this 😢