MIL Was Boasting How My SIL Is Only Successful Women In Our Family Not Like Other Until I Whispered
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Anisha marries Raghav and moves to the US with him. When Raghav's father passes away, his grieving mother comes to live with them indefinitely despite Anisha's reluctance. The mother soon begins controlling Anisha, criticizing her cooking and chores and forcing her to change rooms.
Anisha's attempts to set boundaries fail as her mother-in-law throws tantrums. Raghav is torn between both sides. When Anisha's parents visit, her mother-in-law insults them too for not teaching Anisha to be a proper wife. Anisha feels frustrated and betrayed by Raghav's lack of support.
The situation worsens when Raghav's unemployed, allegedly abused sister Reeta also moves in after leaving her husband. Despite having no space, Anisha welcomes her. But Reeta refuses to move out or divorce and makes Anisha's life h*** along with the mother-in-law.
Exhausted, Anisha hires a maid who also faces abuse. Anisha starts recording the harassment and is shocked to find her mother-in-law stealing their money. She threatens to expose them, so the mother-in-law reluctantly leaves but turns the family against Anisha.
Although Reeta remains temporarily, the marriage deteriorates without resolution of the underlying issues. Raghav ignores Anisha's feelings. After a misunderstanding where he believes Anisha cheated, their rift widens further. Meanwhile, his mother plots Anisha's ouster.
Finally, Anisha decides to divorce Raghav. She reclaims the money her parents gifted during the wedding and exposes the truth, with help from her sister-in-law. Raghav's mother's reputation is ruined. Anisha finds peace after freeing herself from the toxic family despite loving Raghav.
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Wow! That husband has NO balls! Get rid of him!
My mom always told me that each house had one lady of the house who had their way of running it. My mom would respect each of us when visiting by abiding by the rules of our home. The moment OP's mil demanded to use the master bedroom, she should have told her husband "it's either me or her" and if he chose his mom, file for divorce the very next day.
Yep
Exactly
100 % agree, one of us would be leaving, holy hell how insufferable can u get.
Exactly! I would have left as soon as he let the mom take over. I'm not going to give up my private personal space in my own home for anyone! Except for maybe a night or 2.
100% TRUE!! I would not be bothered with that family EVER AGAIN. We would be divorced!! Raghav would be at home with his Momma!! She married into a family of vipers!! LOVE DONT SOLVE EVERYTHING..GOOD FOR HER!!
When they have to sleep in the living, that’s divorce time. I am so glad she caught all the video. The husband insistent to the videos were red flags.
Why are most of these OP characters so weak and lack a spine?! There is no way I would allow my MIL and SIL to move in MY house 🏠, take over the bedrooms, order me to cook, clean 🧽, abuse my maid, disrespect my parents and myself. I would have called the cops 👮 on them since my spineless husband didn’t step up to the plate as a supporting husband. But, I see where OP gets her doormat personality. Her parents took all the bull from the in-laws as well as gave them money. I would have divorced my husband and move on with my life! I would also have made them pay for stealing my money 💴!!!!
Different cultures often produce a lot of women that are very susceptible to stuff like this.
@@Nonono7226 Thanks 😊 for your comment! You answered my question. 😊
@earleneslay7977 Yeah, older tradition had women below men, sometimes children (especially boys.)
That's why certain groups are complaining about women's decisions, rights, etc.
OP in this story was a major floor mat! My husband cut his mother off completely telling everyone it was because of the mistreatment , disrespect towards me and our family, but it turned out to be bc of their own personal feud, and he was using it as an excuse to mask the things he’s really been up to, and to pretend like he’s a doting, loving husband, who would go against anything for the family he created lol it actually has nothing to do with our family. He could honestly care less how we are treated and everything to do with it like F the whole family…..so because she’s a crappy mom who raised a crappy son he’s a crappy husband and a part-time father who I am in the process of leaving and not looking back.! Excuse the lack of punctuation marks.😂😂🎉🎉🎉
Grats on fleeing!
I don't believe none of these stories nobody has backbone
Okay, folks, here’s your English lesson for the day: the plural of mother-in-law is mothers-in-law, not mother-in-laws. Same with any other in-law (sons-in-law, daughters-in-law, fathers-in-law).
Have a wonderful day!
Op is doing the right thing. She tried talking to her husband but he wouldn’t listen. There were just too many many red flags Raghav was throwing off.
Divorce was the only solution, she had no support from her husband.
It always amazes me how people think it’s okay to deal with toxic behavior or to try to convince someone else too. I disagree. Your mental health is too important. If OP wanted to go through with the divorce, good for her! Happy she’s getting rid of that headache.
Some cultures need to reevaluate their traditions, there is helping your family and being supportive and then there is just being walked all over. I’m starting to see why the sister-in-law got a divorce. She’s horrible.
I’m squarely on team Divorce here and think she should’ve done a long time ago. Her weak ass mommas boy of a husband wouldn’t protect her and made her deal with his horrible and abusive family without believing her once. In fact got mad at her getting proof of their behavior and kicking them out.
OP deserves living her life free from these toxic fools and did way more than anyone could expect her to put up with these days. The mommas boy is going to be paying thru the nose with this divorce.
Finally
When OPs husband didn't believe her, put mother and sister ahead of her and only believed Oos friend and not her about not cheating, shows he doesn't trust Op.
@@jdavis7613 yeah their marriage isn't all that
The ppl saying that OP should have fought harder for the marriage and husband should have joined forces to take down MIL & SIL, well the husband wasn’t in OPs corner and after one year of blissful marriage, it was met with a stressful marriage, ending in divorce
Op's husband refused to talk about his family so his wife did the right thing.
I knew the sister-in-law’s husband was not abusive to her. It was the other way around you could tell by the way she treated OP I can’t stand women like that.
If you are born and brought up in western culture, then you seriously need to and must think a thousand times, before you make a decision to marry someone from an Asian country. Especially if you are a woman, it really doesn't matter what your ethnicity, race, religion, or ancestry is. It applies to all western born and brought up individuals.
When someone comes to the United States from another country and then gets married to a United States citizen, it's assumed they will assimilate. If they insist on continuing their former country's social customs to the extent that they will not assimilate, then a continued marriage is out of the question.
I don't know where you are talking about but I have yet to see that happen. Usually the American needs to change to meet the other person.
I married a man from a South American man…he assimilated to my Scot-Irish-American traditions, but we added a couple of his. MILs are never positive in my experience. Mine acted like I wasn’t there and talked over me. But fortunately she came only once every couple of years and died right before our second child. I always talk positively about her for my husband and our children’s sake.
@@darlenekozak8967 With all the disastrous consequences following, just like the video.
@@KimberlyVasconez-bm7cq Thank you for your example and proving the benefit of assimilation.
Op you're not going to win this fight am afraid, the best thing is to do is divorce your husband and leave his ass out on the street with his sister and tell him if he wants to live with his mummy go back to her house, all they're doing is pouring poison in his ears and he's going to listen to them, you are worth a thousand of him treats people then they should come over warning sign
I am on team divorce! Toxic marriages? Been there done that. My last marriage ended almost 5 years ago and I am still trying to heal my mind and heart. He had admitted to cheating on me, and I ended up having a heart attack. Almost a year later and I was diagnosed with breast cancer. I'm in remission, but the mental and emotional scars remain. He even cried me a river last year and tried getting back with me!! I'm like NOPE! I'm happier now being on my own, doing whatever I want.
Ok people, let's say it in unison, "DOORMAT!"
Op needs to kick MIL and Sil out of her house so her and her husband can have a normal marriage.
Letting Mom and Sis move in was not normal. Hubby should be more supportive of his wife and not a doormat. Let Mom and Sis move into a house or apartment would be the best solution for everyone.
Hubby was such a mama's boy. you NEVER side against your wife, unless she's DEAD wrong. if she's only slightly wrong and the other party is more wrong, guess what? you chose the wife. you back the wife.
That's an Indian momma son pair for you. Very patriarchal society.
I'm team Divorce too. Like the song goes, '...Sometimes Love Just Ain't Enough..' Love doesn't conquer all and her sanity and livelihood is more important. Plus, they disrespect her parents but she should respect his?? Bump that. She has a good job and should make a clean break. Thank goodness they didn't have any kids, otherwise she'd be tied to that family forever.
Sometimes just a world, and keep an eye on your children real talk......
Compare to a lot of the mother-in-laws. I've been reading about mine was not very bad. When I was 6 months pregnant with my first child in 2012. My husband told his mother. I was pregnant and told her the name that we had chose well. She made a racist comment saying that the name we picked was not suitable for our ethnicity.. Our daughter's First name happens to be my middle name and her middle name happens to be my mother's first name.. We are all as caucasian as can be. We should have cut off then but we didn't.
She waited much too long with the divorce...
The mil in this story is a typical Indian mil. I used to work with Indian women, and some of them had horror stories about their mils. In Indian culture, when a son gets married his wife comes to live with him in his parents' house so the poor girl is stuck and if her mil is nasty her life is hell.
OP needs to divorce husband so that husband and abusive, thieving MIL and SIL no longer dragging her down financially and emotionally. Husband is letting all this abuse to happen. He sounds spineless.
You do not let a sister in law kick you to your living room. That was number one
My guests regardless who they are, the didn't get my bedroom or my kids'. They get the living room out the small office in our unfinished basement. If MIL doesn't like the options, she can go to her rich favorite son a province away from us 😂. Over there, there are no kids, no mess and she can cook whatever she wants
Yes, his mom is a criminal. This is one the times you stand up for your wife. OP tried talking to you and you wouldn’t listen to her you said oh I have to take care of my mom.
Some hard learned advice... if your loved one has a dramatic manipulative person in their lives that they keep excusing and asking you to "turn the other cheek/ understand" every time they treat you poorly you have to remove yourself from the equation. They seem to feel trapped between the two parties even when all you are doing is expressing how they are constantly wronging you. It's that absence makes the heart grow fonder saying - not just that but without you to be an abuse absorber and comfort for them as they take their own serving of the abuse they have to handle all of that on their own. They will either go further into the weeds of denial or gain clarity on the unreasonable asks they did to you. But you can't stay and don't go back until you are sure they understand the "new rules". My relationship survived but it's definitely still scarred by the abusive actions of another person and I think my partner now understands I will leave- no matter how much I love him for my health and safety I will leave. As I told one of my kids when they went through an abusive/ manipulative stage of trying to physically intimidate me and talking about things I did and some I never did as abuse I said "I will always love you but if this continues I will love you from a distance" and when pressed there I just told them "well you are saying I'm abusive I would never want you to keep an abusive person in your life and I also REFUSE to be painted as abusive and stay in that person's life". I will not argue the reality of the abuse because personal experiences are subjective but I will remove myself from the lives of people who paint me as abusive the family scapegoat has finally retired after 4 decades.
OP's husband is a tool, I am an Indian and I know the type, he will never change.Good Riddance.🎉
I'm not trying to be mean, but I'm not Indian and I'm genuinely curious: Were ANY of the "traditions" mentioned here ACTUAL traditions instead of cover-ups for entitlement?
I'm American, so I wouldn't know...
The poor man baby is still stuck on mommy's teet, but tries to hide behind culture when he gets called out because that's what mommy said to do.
If there are no children involved…I would leave. That MIL is way too meddling 🧐
Send HER back home or leave them to each other!! If he loves her that much, let HIM have to live with the “witch” 🧙♀️…she’s got the broom 🧹 now!😝🤟
She got rid of a RED FLAG!
Reason them telling him she was having an afair and blocking her out with out hearing what was going on!
Team D day over here, noone puts my wife down in our house. Not even HER parents.
You can love someone more than life itself, but if they can't be a teammate and partner to you, then you need to cut your losses and move on. It will hurt for a while, but you'll live and be better off in the end. Don't get me wrong, love and marriage isn't always a 50/50 partnership, sometimes one partner carries more than the other for one reason or another but it needs to even out in the end. Ops husband wasn't on her team, he was on the team with his mom and sister.
OP’s husband is angry that OP uses baby monitor instead of talking to husband; stops talking to OP.
Right
Soooooooo that's what I'm talking to your way to Op...
OP really had to divorce Roggof even though MIL and Sol were gone. The reason being that though he apologized for hurting her he still didn't think he did anything wrong. 😁😻
I don’t usually say this OP is letting her mother-in-law and sister-in-law make all the decisions in her house while her husband to stand up for her why is they not pissed at this?
It's a culture excuse. Shitty excuse but that's what was explained here. There's a fine line to not offend ppl but I'm on the side of giving all of the offense decrying trash behavior.
I definitely think she should have left A LOT sooner. I wouldn't put up with any of that especially for that long.
No comments? Okay. Here is a comment. Good afternoon everyone!
Mind your business
@@indianheadjerry2622you should also mind your business
@@indianheadjerry2622you have some nerve telling someone to mind their own business when you are in fact the one butting into their business.
@@katyngah-ere4942 it was a joke Karen.
@@indianheadjerry26221st of your comment was not a joke no one here is laughing it was a rude and unnecessary comment you made
2nd what she said does not make her a Karen learn what a Karen actually is before you accuse someone who is obviously NOT being or acting a Karen you however are borderline a🍑hole
Sometimes, a partner can be a wonderful, wonderful person but their family is pure evil, or even just a type of crazy you are not willing to endure for the rest of your life. Sometimes, those same "wonderful" partners are unwilling to protect you from their families no matter how much you beg and plead with them. In those situations, you have to choose yourself over everyone else and *leave.* Will it hurt like hell? Almost definitely. Is it worth it to get away and heal? YES.
This can't be real.....m. Ain't NO WAY
Send him to his mama
His mom and sister need to leave.
This is a ridiculous situation. Who allows in-laws to take over their lives and their home?
Op your husband should have stuck up for you more against his family that couldn't have been me because I would have left his behind.😂😂
If they don't leave you should leave
Unbelievable!!!
OP, no, no, no. Never be disrespected in your own home.
I’m not even half way thru this and can’t stand to watch anymore! If you have any kind of anxiety, or get mad when you see someone being a doormat, don’t watch!
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Does OP have a baseball bat? if not, I'm sure she still has the backs of her knuckles with MIL and In-Laws. Whether or not you use either, you seriously need to GTFO and tell them "eat my dust"
OP why in the hell would you give them the key to your safe? She’s already taking money from you she’s making you sleep in the living room you need to either stand up to them or leave.
OP was trying to respect her husband's culture and was giving him the benefit of the doubt but it should have been clear to him that his mother was toxic the minute she started taking over the house and moving them out of their room. He should have put his foot down then if he wanted to keep his marriage. When a man and a woman join in marriage they become one flesh and all others are secondary to their relationship. Yes, you are suppose to honor your parents but then they also have to live by the golden rule to treat them as you want to be treated and she definitely didn't want to do that... She wanted to be the totalitarian matriarch of the family. Yes, there can be trouble when there is a choice between mother and wife and sometimes they feel like they are caught between a rock and a hard place but unless there was something horrible done by the wife, which clearly wasn't the case, he needed to put her first but he chose his mother over his wife so he got what he deserved. After all the abuse that was heaped on OP she could never look at him the same... I mean it wasn't like a one time thing but it was continuous for a very long time where he sided with his abusive mother and sister over the wife that was trying to support him. And the fact that he was mad that she exposed them more then what they actually did to her makes him look that much worse. I don't blame OP one bit.
There is only one Lady of the house and that's the wife!!! Every other Lady is a guest!!! Run OP run!!!
6 and a half minutes into this video and I’m SCREAMING at the screen!!! What am I screaming, you ask??? I’m screaming “ YOU ARE NOT A DOORMAT, YOU ARE A PERSON IN YOUR OWN RIGHT!!!” OP, stop what you’re doing, tell your MIL “NO!”, tell your husband “NO!”and any other relatives of your husband who try to cow you, “NO,NO,NO!!!”! Enough! “NO”is a full sentence, in and of itself, and as such doesn’t need an explanation. Tell MIL to kick sand, pound rocks, chew grass, take a looooong walk over a short pier, go play with the cars ……. on 5he freeway! In other words, go away and leave you and your husband alone. If hubby disagrees, tell him”buh-bye”. You are a twentieth century woman, act like one!!!!
She gave it her all by sacrificing her home to those women, her savings, her mental/emotional health. Not having them arrested for abuse and theft. Her parents are abused by his family in every way possible except physical and didn't even do their side of the ritual-which was they should of gifted her family as well and it not be one sided.
She gave it her all and he didn't even do the bare minimum from day one of their engagement.
She is better off without them all
OP DID TRY to make things work but hubby refused to listen to what was going on and support his wife. And if it was "just misunderstandings" then where was the mediator? it wasn't DH MIL or the sister/cousin or whatever they were the source of OP's misery even when she was trying, but it takes two to make a marriage work
Kick Her Out and Then Divorce Him
Some cultures/traditions are sickening and we should just trash them.
Nothing like peace in your own house. He should have stood up for his wife. Women want to feel safe and he refuses to make her feel safe, he get what he gets.
Ain't no WAY.
The min I had to sleep in the living room it would be over.
The thing is, it wasn't that the sister in law couldn't have kids she just didn't want to. She just felt entitled to their son. So everything she got she deserved. If she didn't have her location on they maybe still looking for the baby until this day so I feel she didn't get enough time.
Your house speek the way you want
Honestly the comments on op baffle me ...
She's divorcing him because he defended his mother time after time and let them verbally, mentally, and emotionally, abuse her... They stole from her and they were purposely trying to split her and him up .. and he allowed it...
To those who think she should of stayed how about you endure that kind of abuse tell me how you like, no being should ever stay in an abusive, unsupportive, toxic environment...
She should of divorced him when he was mad at her for recording them abusing her!
He should have been kicked sister out.
OP was an absolute fool leaving money laying around
It is for this that a man will leave his father and his mother and cleave unto his wife...
Divorce for sure!
Leave this man
4:28 nope nope nope. Sorry mom you want a room with a bathroom you can get one back in India
He's mad you recorded his Mom because you have proof now. He's afraid you will send Mom to jail.
Rawgoo
Can we get the name of the poster or story so we can get the update?
When you say that the problem is not with hubby but with SIL and MIL and hubbys inability to stick uo for you; I have news for you; then the problem is with hubby as well! Divorce him now and do not look back! Allow him to acknowledge that his lack of a spine is what caused you to leave him!
Op nta. But you need to move. Find a different place and move do not give anymore tonthe house. Move and when they call asking when you will be hom to cook or clean just say you are and when they can't get it say straight out you moved. Wait you own your house. Okay sell it and keep half.
Op waited way to long and should have pressed charges not let them leave the country
He is not worth the time and he will not change let his mommy take care of him
Kick hom put too
That's what happens when marrying into Indian families... I did that. My mother in law is never happy. I made dinner and she said to my husband "I'm not serving THAT to my friends". I don't give my room to anyone, not even her. I hate when she can't into my room with her name friend to show my bedroom like he needs to see it. The man is a pervert, I hate him. He kept staying at my bed and then me. I told my husband I never want that man in my house unless there's a gathering. No one goes into the bedrooms because they often take over the whole house. We have locks to the bedrooms. When she comes to visit, she complained so much that my husband and I fought. I hate her visits. She walks around with a look on her face as if she's smelling fart in the air. Damned annoying
22:28 uhh too late
I think the FIL (rest his soul) took the easy way out.
How dare the MIL & SIL expect them to give up their room, household chores, and stealing money. They paid the for the house yet they did all the stuff but was getting scraps. Get rid of the extra trash.
Father is a swiss and mamas boy, loser
The one thing I don't understand is why are you complaining on Reddit about your room being taken over twice but you let them do it for the sake of accommodation because you feel bad about their said situations I mean it's your house why are you letting people kick you out of your room and just going along with it that's level grade s doormat
What happens next
Op's husband is a serious red flag and she should have left him because him and his family are seriously toxic.
Team divorce over here. Nobody puts my wife down in her own home.
O.p's husband is a doormat. She should have raised an eyebrow at the whole tradition for the family to get gifts at the wedding thing.
I will be one to say you will show respect to my family. And i will be the first to call out my family when they are being disrespectful. If my mother had said i want the main bedroom i would have looked at her and said guestroom is fine or nothing. Let alone i wouldnt have nrought her to live with me without consulting my wife first
OP leave yoiur husband now if he will not support your decision to kick his own mother and sister out!
OP’s husband consistently did not support his wife throughout the entire story. I do not think he was capable of coming together with his wife to work on their marriage. Culture runs deep.
Did you forget to book a one way for Husband?
OP was not wrong to divorce him. He was scummy and a total little bitch-boy for his mommy and sissy. He never sided with OP and didn't really love her. His action/ inactions speak for themselves. She loved him/ he didn't love her, he didn't even do the bare minimum in care of his wife. I hope she gets all she can get from him. She should also start criminal case against his mother and sister.
My opinion is that only Jay, Pooja, Rajesh and Dylan are the good ones. Everyone else was wrong to at least a degree.
Anisha was wrong. Not because she divorced Raghav too early. On the contrary: She divorced him too LATE! I understand wanting to make a relationship succeed, but Anisha, OP, kept trying to repair a relationship that was unfixable. She wanted to right the ship even though it was already taking its final plunge and lifeboat stations were being called. There is ZERO REASON why Anisha should've allowed the drama to continue. She also should've searched if the "traditions" Raghav's family spoke of were real, I mean she has reddit, surely she can Google it. Anisha also should've found the fact that Reeta wasn't trying to divorce Jay was suspicious, and sent MIL and Reeta to jail, regardless of what it'd do to her ailing relationship. Also, marrying someone just because of heritage isn't really a good idea, in my opinion.
Raghav was initially understandable, but supported his family far beyond the scope of reason. I mean, come on, dude. I get that going against family is hard, but are you REALLY going to let them be leeches, stealing YOUR money in YOUR house, kicking you out of YOUR room while your wife does THEIR chores? He's a bad husband.
The MIL was evil for stealing funds and treating Raghav like he was 12. Btw, does anyone else find it weird that a WOMAN is saying that women are inferior to men? That can't only be me. I hate it when men say it, but I also find it weird when women say it.
Reeta was evil, too, lying about Jay, not getting a job and working with her mom just to annoy the crap out of OP. Both she and MIL should've been thankful to have a roof over their heads at their rate.
This story is probably one of the dirtiest I've ever seen, again, with almost everyone in the wrong and adding fuel to the fire...
OPs husbands is a trashy fool for not knowing what goes on in his own house with his own family.
Instead of complaining, pack up and move out and let your husband deal with HIS family. Then hey can deal without your income.
It’s funny that husband finally gets mad at his mother when he sees her stealing his money. He doesn’t care if she stole his wife’s money. That’s a big red flag. I would have left a long time ago, besides checking on what the brother in law had to say about his wife.
Your husband is not in a relationship with you,because he won’t side with you. Get out of this marriage
OP should take the divorce and pillage him over the false allegations. OP volunteered for this treatment. She should have left when kicked out of the bedroom and told him to call when he can be a husband.
Do they not realise that every ritual they are talking about are criminalised by indian law. This woman needs to divorce this spineless mama's boy
Why it is repeating without stop the same and the same???????
I don’t understand it’s your house why can’t you put your foot down?..and tell her absolutely not? you all have made her comfortable that was your only duty if she doesn’t like the way you do things she can leave