Wife sets new marriage rules for her husband after he cheated 14 times and was caught. What would you do in this situation? Leave your thoughts in the comments ☺️
What I don't get is why this woman stayed all these 14 times. She told him in not so many words each time she stayed that she had no self love or respect. A whole of 14 times!!!
Exactly. He has zero self control at the very least. Why would you want him? You definitely shouldn't keep sleeping with someone who has no self control if you actually care about your own body. I don't get women like that. We all have had to let go of men that we loved but that just couldn't get their shit together. It sucks but you do it.
@@Liz-wz8dh its women who grew up hearing how important marriage is and she allowed those voices to enter her subconscious. I pray healing for all the women with the same mentality.
That’s the problem with men today. They are suppose to work two jobs and they don’t. There’s no reason that men and women are working the same amount of hours when their bodies were made to do hard labor and ours were not
Trying not to judge disrespectfully. But. How does one allow a spouse who cheats to ever touch them again?🤢 When an adulterer breaks the marriage vows it releases the non guilty from them, no? 'Staying for the children' only teaches them that cheating is ok and that breaking oaths is acceptable. That disrespecting your spouse is normal. Why even get married?🤦🏾♀️
She thinks talking to him will work 😂 uhm no honey. Talking works with healthy people toxic people will make it a mission to misunderstand you. He will pretend to be ok and than suprise attack you.
@@Vee_Davis-wb9wdshe is staying with a man who has shown her time and time again he does not respect, value, or even truly like her. For what? To say she has a man she loves? To say she has a husband? To say she is still with the father of her child and not a “baby mama”? I’m sure if she follows through with seeing other men, she will find one that has all that her husband is lacking and I hope then she would finally leave.
She fed up. She hoping that when he knows what she is doing he will stop cheating. That is what she is trying to do. I doubt she will get with any other man, but she wants to prove a point. Just thinking she with another man would have him messed up. This marriage is over. Men love to dish it but can’t take it. 🤷🏽♀️she should divorce but she wants him to feel what she feels.
I'd just say "our marriage is over, but because it is a business transaction, we will now live as roommates. We will hire an accountant to go over our finances and make sure everything is set, but we are roommates." I wouldn't even tell him what I found or what I'm going to do. People need to take their emotions out of this. She is reducing marriage to what it is. Yes, let him file for divorce, if they have wealth, she will not lose because she has proof of infidelity. I could absolutely get out my feelings for a business arrangement.
Too bad, he shouldn't have cheated. What you're stating is that boys are IRRATIONAL not emotional. Emotions require depth and he's got all the depth of a parking lot puddle.@@WaterLace-mw4by
Sometimes it isn't toxic in general, he fell out of love with her and disrespected her. She now won't take that anymore, so they can be roommates. If it's best for the kids and the finances and they can be cordial, cool. 🤷🏾♀️
@@KnowWhat but that's only if they remain spouses, or if the kid knows. All I'm saying is that marriage isn't like dating, at least in America. Marriage is a contract that binds you financially and gives you some benefits financially and cuts costs on child raising. If the ONLY issue is that he's a hoe, then they need to just be roommates. But she's all emotional and yelling so she still has feelings for him, so yeah, that does make it a dramatic and toxic environment. Fair play
@@peachesandpoetsshe wasn’t yelling she was stating that she was basically done . Yelling would be crying and screaming . Sis said , alright you do you and ima do me in the grown woman voice . Lmao 🤣 she tieddd
1. Women have got to stop forgiving cheating. It doesn’t stop. 2. Move in silence. She could do everything she said she would do with it saying it and eventually make her exit. 3. Black women, have some self esteem. It’s hard and the world will gaslight you into making you think it’s masculine to set boundaries and have independence but a man that loves you respects you.
I thought she said that "We are not F-ing anymore, then she says "Don't bring me no babies, don't bring me no diseases". So is she going to still sleep with him or not that is the question? She better be careful men can dish it but they can't take it.
When it comes to relationships, with partners I am selfish. I refuse to share who I'm with and I refused to be shared. Sex is a sacred thing. That should not be something thrown around and done so casually.
Thank you !!! I don't know what that one creator at the 9:00 mark was talking about. I feel like people are too hyper sexual these days, and the majority of the relationship shouldn't be about that. You can experience new things with your partner also. I mean your supposed to so you guys can grow together that's what I assume marriage is for. Also why would I want my partner or even me to be shared with just anyone we have chemistry with when the STD rates especially in the black community are GROWING.
@@groovycat2044she's a shallow airhead who thinks being self centered and hedonistic is a personality. She thinks she's special because she's cold, detached and has no issue using other people's bodies to get off. Newsflash, the whole world is cold, detached and crudely sexual these days.
The reason why, men think they can cheat is because some women allow it. It should be a deal breaker, and every time a man steps out. A woman should walk away from him forever and never look back.🧐💯
Exactly. Men respond to consequences. If they keep doing shit you don't like and you keep taking them back, then there is no incentive to change. They know this, it's just women that don't.
14 times?! 14!!! My parents have been happily married for 26 years now.. 27 this year October my dad would never intentionally do anything to hurt my mom. If you are with a guy and he puts you in a situation that makes you look stupid LEAVE HIM. He doesn't genuinely care about you. I asked my mom what's the secret to her marriage, she just said truly love each other because with love comes patient, gentleness, peace, TRUST. Honestly, I don't care about the couples I actually just care about the child. Men that cheat don't realise that they aren't just cheating on their partner but they are cheating on the children also.
Kids will be fine as long as parents keep their dirt under wraps. Most successful relationships are open at some point for some couples. Especially when marriages were long term and popular and divorce low.
I don’t even understand how people cheat - who has time/energy for that?! My husband works all day + overtime. His PTO is transparent and I manage the finances so not a PENNY gets by me. We check in and know where each other are/very transparent. I have 0 interest in cheating. My husband knows he has a good thing and I’d leave him in a heartbeat if he disrespects me. We’re a TEAM. So it’s true you can find good men who will not cheat; it’s just you’re the dream girl anyway, they couldn’t do any better. Not to say there can’t be temptation… but that’s where trust and love come into play. If you love someone you will never want to break their trust or hurt them.
Had to skip past the lady in the bonnet speaking that nonsense. The issue is ppl lying about their desires and needs. If you want to have other partners there are ppl who are into that. Be with them and let me be
Before my ex cheated, I sensed he was bored….. I offered an open relationship, he declined then went on to cheat. What’s good for the goose is good for the gander. It’s BS, and yes I left when I found out.
This is what the manosphere BELIEVES should happen: they should be able to disrespect you and yet you should....be okay?...with it. Throw the whole example away 😂😂😂
You got it wrong. Women are supposed to deal with it and let him cheat while she stays faithful and sad. They don’t want to really accept it. It’s not fun if they’re not hurting you.
I would have to leave him. But he could see his child if he’s a good father and all. However I’m not going to stay with him when he doesn’t really love me. My question is what are we teaching this child? The child is confused 😢
That one woman talking about having to accept sharing a man? No. If you step out on our relationship and find yourself in the embrace of another woman, you will never ever be welcome in my arms ever again. I hope it was worth it. I will never accept being cheated on. I deserve love.
Considering the economic state of the world, I understand the choice she made. It is not easy to raise a child alone or on your own income and our society is not kind to single moms. I personally wouldn't make the same choice but I understand it.
Not much difference between this and him trying to desperately hold onto everything for himself in a divorce. And she said the daughter isn't to know anything about it, so that will insulate the kid. @@beewest5704
But the thing is: hes GONNA come home with a baby and shes gonma be financially liable for that baby/those babies because they share assets. She should leave him.
A little off topic, but when ever I see this clip from those “alpha male” channels they always depict that woman speaking about her sleeping with other people in retaliation as “see how women cheat and don’t care about family anymore” and it just baffles me. Like they didn’t watch the whole video?!
Yes, it's ironic that they focus so much on women cheating when it sure seems like it's either the man doing it first or the man doing it only. Not to say that women don't cheat..but it seems like almost every man cheats.
That’s illegal. You’re not allowed to drain community property before divorce. It’s a cute comment to leave but it will result in legal action. Men can’t do it and neither can women.
@@Yassss-rj9zf No you didn’t. If you did you were married to a brainless loser who isn’t worth anything anyway. What I say still stands a man worth anything will consult a lawyer and that money will be returned or there will be legal consequences thereafter.
Her new rule needs to be her leaving!! It’s not even worth her dignity. But she deserves to keep getting cheated on if she stays! I don’t feel bad for people that allow cheating.
@GodLovesYouAllTheTime no she doesn't deserve it, it's because of the child they have , she doesn't want the child to grow up without a father and the stigma she'll get for breaking the relationship and leaving the child without a father.
@GodLovesYouAllTheTime crazy you call yourself Christian with your victim blaming of course I believe she should leave but no one should ever get cheated on
Cheating on a cheater is heartwarming. 🥰❤️ Leaving a cheater is HEALING 🙏🏽 Plus we’re contracting STDs like crazy. Protect your health and sanity- It’s just not worth it.
She can move the goalpost as much she wants. Whatever rules she lays down he will continue to break them because he doesn’t respect her or their marriage. She wants to open the marriage now because she realized her man is incapable of being faithful to her. But her rules are: don’t bring me any babies or any diseases. We’ll rest assured that he will def bring her babies and diseases. In fact I wouldn’t be surprised if he already has babies out there. Non monogamy works for people who actually are open, honest and respectful about their lifestyle. Non monogamy doesn’t work as a means to try to stay married to a man who is a dog.
I always find it interesting how we talk about how temperamental black women are and we say things like, "a black woman wouldn't do that," or, "a black woman wouldn't tolerate that..." But I knew when it said, "woman cheated on 14 times," I knew it was a black woman... We definitely tolerate too much when it comes to black men... And save the, "white women do it and non-black women do it too," for someone else... Cuz I'm talking about black women because, this is not the first time I've seen a black woman go viral talking about something similar to this... And I'm sure it won't be the last...
I just don't understand why the CHEATER doesn't leave or end the relationship....? That is the only logic here. Why is it ALWAYS the woman's responsibility to clean up a man's mess, even when her heart and home is involved?
Marriage is a business and a lot of married woman don’t even know their husband is cheating and they talk so highly about their husband. It’s so many married man out here acting like they’re single while they have a whole family at home. Man don’t want just one kitty cat they want to sample them all. Sad!
@BlkOnyx0508 Some men are now openly saying that they are married and still wearing their wedding rings and say their wives don't mind them having a side piece. They're lying. Some men make me sick lol
Cheated 14 times… Sis that is not your husband, he is everyone’s husband. This woman is a fool for even being willing to ever sleep with him again. Sleeping with a cheating man can cost you your life sis, you need to be around to raise your daughter. This woman doesn’t love herself. Period.
I feel like the best case scenario is that after meeting other guys her confidence will go up, she’ll meet a dude who’ll treat her well, and then leave her trifling husband. Or she’ll keep her marriage charade until her daughter graduates high school/college or when the husband actually brings home a child/disease. Their child is gonna have a difficult time no matter what.
How they make it to 14 times😭? Even the Bible justifies divorce if adultery is committed. 🤷🏾♀️ so babe he broke the vow to God, the vow is no longer there what are you staying for?
lol yeah the statement she made only has value and impact if she said it the first or second time he cheated. I mean after 14 she’s so low value to him he probably doesn’t care anything for her opinion surely 🤷🏻♀️
Cheating is toxic. You don't agree to engage in toxic behavior. This is not the point of a monogamous union and is not good. They're better off apart. Children don't need this toxic example of a heterosexual union.
Rules for a cheating husband??! How do you control contaminated bodily fluids? How do you put boundaries on outside children?? How do you make a whole adult abide but what you say? What a toxic home for a child to grow up in!! Couldn’t be me.
As a RN I have to disagree with this. The diseases that are now flying around makes this an unsafe arrangement. She needs to leave. A relationship is about trust . This is emotional abuse, emotional abuse changes you. You will not be the same person for allowing him to abuse her for money and the kids.
I think good for her and many other women who do this. Because men will have to be forced to realise that women also want to be out there and if they open that door, it automatically opens for all. Let him feel it
It took 14 times getting caught to get like this, seems to me she’s hurting and coping… at this point it’s no longer a relationship.. it’s codependency/cohabitation.
Wow, there is a lot of nonsense in these reactions. We can just stick with common sense and science. First, how do you allow a person to cheat on you 14 times? I understand wanting to stay together for the business and because you have a child. But that's an extremely toxic situation which will have serious consequences. For one, you can catch a disease and become infected for life. Second, what kind of examples are you being for your child? You are going to create a broken and dysfunctional adult just like you yourselves are, and cause your child permanent suffering, it's inevitable. Think about it. What you do now is going to become your legacy. Don't sacrifice yourself, your health, your future, and your offspring just for patching up temporary satisfaction. Don't follow the lead of the weakest one and become promiscuous too. You will surely regret it. The best thing to do is to break the cycle of dysfunction now and do things in a healthy way for yourself and your child, and future generations.
Easy said and done but let’s be real. Men and women have needs and wants . These days and time are unpredictable and majority of the people are still stuck on toxic shit . So who to say she’ll ever find “the one “ or just be alone tbh . Cause it’s dangerous out here too . Like pick your battles.
ALLOW - denotes that you think of someone, that's an adult, as a child. So I doubt youo can think of ANYTHING with common sense or science, since you know nothing about either.
@@KaylaCoils I am a counselor. Although that is irrelevant on TH-cam and other social media platforms. But does not change the fact that I do know what I am talking about without going too technical. Let's just say that I deal with countless individuals with similar scenarios. Allow - denotes healthy boundaries. If your partner cheated on you 14 times, they are a professional cheater, and it's certainly more than 14 times they have infringed, in fact overstepped and violated your personal boundaries. It's total disrespect at best, not to mention a health hazard. So, why do you allow it? You have to decide at some point to preserve your dignity, honor, and self respect. You have to decide what kind of role models you want your child to emulate. You have to decide what kind of legacy you are creating. Therefore you have to decide what you allow. Does that make sense?
Her responding “she should be allowed to cheat back” sounds like a trauma response, she should just leave with her dignity. Talking about no outside babies, she probably a step mommy and don’t even know it.
Man… Whatever happened to just breaking up or divorce? Now people want to find all these loopholes to justify staying in toxicity acting all big and bad to cope being lied to constantly.
This is definitely a trauma-bond. She loves him. But, she has also been hurt so many times (by him), that it has clouded her judgement. This isn't about the money/businesses. If he has cheated 14 times, she has proof of atleast 5-6. She can get a bulldog attorney and clean him out. This is about her heart, fear, anxiety about her future and being alone with a child, etc. If she doesn't reconcile how much she has been hurt and that she will be ok alone, even if it takes times, it'll be more of the same. Wishing her healing. She is hurt and is lowering the bar to hell to keep him around.
It's not and he's a narc so you act like divorcing him outright would be simple. You don't even know what a Trauma Bond is if you think this is it. Stop projecting your BS onto her. You're delulu.
Rules only get followed out of respect. This guy isn't going to follow nothing so i don't know why she is even wasting her breath. There is no negotiating this. He's tuned her out long time ago. Leave, heal, and find better.
I can’t believe it’s taken 14 times for her to open it up, is she wanted to stay married but open it up why wait so long. Open marriage can be cool. But I wouldn’t sleep with him anymore. I’d make him file for divorce.
She said all this because at the end of the day she DOESN'T WANT to leave! I'm just trying to figure out if she scared or what? I agree with the first lady... why do all of this and stay in a relationship with someone you don't even want to touch you. I get that you may be disgusted because I would too but chileeee pack yo bags.
He didn't cheat 14 times... He got CAUGHT 14 times. There were more.
I suspect this too
Exactly.
This has to be a joke. They are not in a relationship. This is a joke. Cheated 14 times???? 😢
100000%
What I don't get is why this woman stayed all these 14 times. She told him in not so many words each time she stayed that she had no self love or respect. A whole of 14 times!!!
14 times?? Absolutely not, the streets can keep him
He’s a straight up 304 😂
Exactly. He has zero self control at the very least. Why would you want him? You definitely shouldn't keep sleeping with someone who has no self control if you actually care about your own body. I don't get women like that. We all have had to let go of men that we loved but that just couldn't get their shit together. It sucks but you do it.
Right?
@@Liz-wz8dh its women who grew up hearing how important marriage is and she allowed those voices to enter her subconscious. I pray healing for all the women with the same mentality.
Yup 💯💯💯💯
this man is doing so much cheating, it's basically his second job 💀
A part-time cheater
That’s the problem with men today. They are suppose to work two jobs and they don’t. There’s no reason that men and women are working the same amount of hours when their bodies were made to do hard labor and ours were not
Which means he has no true purpose
It's his main job. Whatever he gets paid for is his side hustle
Does that make him a W-2 employee or a contractor? It is tax season, after all.
If he can't follow one simple rule, how can he be expected to follow several nuanced rules?
😂
Those aren't nuanced, they're very blunt.
@@radicalreactions1633it probably would be to himself 🫷🏾😂
Trying not to judge disrespectfully.
But.
How does one allow a spouse who cheats to ever touch them again?🤢
When an adulterer breaks the marriage vows it releases the non guilty from them, no?
'Staying for the children' only teaches them that cheating is ok and that breaking oaths is acceptable.
That disrespecting your spouse is normal.
Why even get married?🤦🏾♀️
Wouldn't let the shee happen to me though~
Cheat on me once we done!
Agreed!! It’s disgusting 🤢.
She said from the beginning, we are not going to f... anymore together. Let's just be housemates from now on.
I agree 100%. I hold grudges so first I’m cheating on him with his enemy or his brother or cousin lol then I’m filing divorce papers
Cheat on me once & I'd be singing " As the capons keep rolling along!"
She thinks talking to him will work 😂 uhm no honey. Talking works with healthy people toxic people will make it a mission to misunderstand you. He will pretend to be ok and than suprise attack you.
Yep
best comment i’ve seen
I don’t care what “new rules” she makes he will break them. A woman who stays with a man like this does not value herself.
how does she not value her self?
💯💯💯 no value, no respect. It’s sad.
@@Vee_Davis-wb9wdshe is staying with a man who has shown her time and time again he does not respect, value, or even truly like her. For what? To say she has a man she loves? To say she has a husband? To say she is still with the father of her child and not a “baby mama”? I’m sure if she follows through with seeing other men, she will find one that has all that her husband is lacking and I hope then she would finally leave.
He can’t break those rules. She’s at the point where she doesn’t give a fuck anymore anyway. She’s ready to go have her fun too now.
She fed up. She hoping that when he knows what she is doing he will stop cheating. That is what she is trying to do. I doubt she will get with any other man, but she wants to prove a point. Just thinking she with another man would have him messed up. This marriage is over. Men love to dish it but can’t take it. 🤷🏽♀️she should divorce but she wants him to feel what she feels.
I'd just say "our marriage is over, but because it is a business transaction, we will now live as roommates. We will hire an accountant to go over our finances and make sure everything is set, but we are roommates."
I wouldn't even tell him what I found or what I'm going to do.
People need to take their emotions out of this. She is reducing marriage to what it is.
Yes, let him file for divorce, if they have wealth, she will not lose because she has proof of infidelity.
I could absolutely get out my feelings for a business arrangement.
We wouldn’t even be living as roommates
Why have him as a roommate though? He will only cause more work.
That would be absolutely horrible for the kids. They'd see their parents stewing and resenting each other...no good.
Too bad, he shouldn't have cheated. What you're stating is that boys are IRRATIONAL not emotional. Emotions require depth and he's got all the depth of a parking lot puddle.@@WaterLace-mw4by
@@WaterLace-mw4by I 100% agree with this it's best not to play their game , because it can turn violent really quick.
You gonna to continue raise your child in that toxic environment?! 😮 No ma’am!!!
Sometimes it isn't toxic in general, he fell out of love with her and disrespected her. She now won't take that anymore, so they can be roommates. If it's best for the kids and the finances and they can be cordial, cool. 🤷🏾♀️
@@peachesandpoetsNo! That child is going to grow up thinking it’s normal to accept a cheating spouse…..that’s straight disfunction!
@@KnowWhat but that's only if they remain spouses, or if the kid knows.
All I'm saying is that marriage isn't like dating, at least in America. Marriage is a contract that binds you financially and gives you some benefits financially and cuts costs on child raising. If the ONLY issue is that he's a hoe, then they need to just be roommates.
But she's all emotional and yelling so she still has feelings for him, so yeah, that does make it a dramatic and toxic environment. Fair play
@@peachesandpoetsshe wasn’t yelling she was stating that she was basically done . Yelling would be crying and screaming . Sis said , alright you do you and ima do me in the grown woman voice . Lmao 🤣 she tieddd
You clearly don't know what dysfunction is since you can't even spell it.@@KnowWhat
She is determined to be his woman. And that's what is giving him the confidence to act this way.
Exactly 💯
1. Women have got to stop forgiving cheating. It doesn’t stop.
2. Move in silence. She could do everything she said she would do with it saying it and eventually make her exit.
3. Black women, have some self esteem. It’s hard and the world will gaslight you into making you think it’s masculine to set boundaries and have independence but a man that loves you respects you.
I thought she said that "We are not F-ing anymore, then she says "Don't bring me no babies, don't bring me no diseases". So is she going to still sleep with him or not that is the question? She better be careful men can dish it but they can't take it.
She said na
She says no but that phrase sounds like they're gonna hate screw!
@@edunlap6594 Lol! If she is going to do all of that she might as well let that ninja cheat in peace.
@@mrttamaraexactly. Just be in an open relationship. They both so corny
I think she doesn’t want to take care of him if he do get a virus or something
14 times?! I would already pack my bags and leave after writing “here lives the cheater who has cheated 14 times” on the wall 😂
🤣🤣🤣
Same! 😂
He didn’t even getting a chance to cheat for a second time
When it comes to relationships, with partners I am selfish. I refuse to share who I'm with and I refused to be shared. Sex is a sacred thing. That should not be something thrown around and done so casually.
Exactly 🙌🏽💯🙌🏽
Thank you !!! I don't know what that one creator at the 9:00 mark was talking about. I feel like people are too hyper sexual these days, and the majority of the relationship shouldn't be about that. You can experience new things with your partner also. I mean your supposed to so you guys can grow together that's what I assume marriage is for. Also why would I want my partner or even me to be shared with just anyone we have chemistry with when the STD rates especially in the black community are GROWING.
The failure rate for open relationships is 92 %.
@@groovycat2044she's a shallow airhead who thinks being self centered and hedonistic is a personality.
She thinks she's special because she's cold, detached and has no issue using other people's bodies to get off.
Newsflash, the whole world is cold, detached and crudely sexual these days.
This !!
The reason why, men think they can cheat is because some women allow it. It should be a deal breaker, and every time a man steps out. A woman should walk away from him forever and never look back.🧐💯
Please tell that to Beyoncé. Please do.
Exactly. Men respond to consequences. If they keep doing shit you don't like and you keep taking them back, then there is no incentive to change. They know this, it's just women that don't.
If they did, the preponderance of narcissists wouldn't be MEN. Narcs DON'T FACE CONSEQUENCES. You're in delululand.@@Liz-wz8dh
Louder! For the ladies in the back!
Nope. It's not because women allow it. It's because the cheater is trash. Put the blame on who it belongs
...Why did she tolerate the cheating 14 times?🥴
I’m hoping she found out about them all at once 😂😂😂
@hubabaloop sounds like it
14 time that she know about
14 times?! 14!!! My parents have been happily married for 26 years now.. 27 this year October my dad would never intentionally do anything to hurt my mom. If you are with a guy and he puts you in a situation that makes you look stupid LEAVE HIM. He doesn't genuinely care about you. I asked my mom what's the secret to her marriage, she just said truly love each other because with love comes patient, gentleness, peace, TRUST. Honestly, I don't care about the couples I actually just care about the child. Men that cheat don't realise that they aren't just cheating on their partner but they are cheating on the children also.
Do you REALLY think that your dad never cheated. You're Mom was just smart.
Kids will be fine as long as parents keep their dirt under wraps. Most successful relationships are open at some point for some couples. Especially when marriages were long term and popular and divorce low.
You don’t know what your mom and dad are! You don’t know their marriage. Trust me.
I don’t even understand how people cheat - who has time/energy for that?! My husband works all day + overtime. His PTO is transparent and I manage the finances so not a PENNY gets by me. We check in and know where each other are/very transparent. I have 0 interest in cheating. My husband knows he has a good thing and I’d leave him in a heartbeat if he disrespects me. We’re a TEAM. So it’s true you can find good men who will not cheat; it’s just you’re the dream girl anyway, they couldn’t do any better. Not to say there can’t be temptation… but that’s where trust and love come into play. If you love someone you will never want to break their trust or hurt them.
Same same same my parents made 36 years recently my father would never
Had to skip past the lady in the bonnet speaking that nonsense. The issue is ppl lying about their desires and needs. If you want to have other partners there are ppl who are into that. Be with them and let me be
I skipped her as well. Her appearance alone let me know that she wasn't qualified to give a opinion that made sense😂
Everything she said didn't make sense. She shouldn't have been in the video
I'm so happy Im not the only one. She was giving massive "mami" vibes and it irked me
@@erehistruth2356304 was apart of her name😂😂😂 Sometimes you have to consider the source
I skipped her too! She sounded real ignorant and like a super spreader!
Before my ex cheated, I sensed he was bored….. I offered an open relationship, he declined then went on to cheat. What’s good for the goose is good for the gander.
It’s BS, and yes I left when I found out.
Because the goal was to hurt you
If he already cheated 14 times then she can file for divorce and still get that bag--she don't need to stay for him to pay.
ONE time and I served him divorce papers… It would have never got to 14 times… NEVER
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This is weird and toxic. Girl leave that man.
This is what the manosphere BELIEVES should happen: they should be able to disrespect you and yet you should....be okay?...with it.
Throw the whole example away 😂😂😂
No the manosphere thinks she should stay and deal with it. Not open the relationship on her end😂
You got it wrong. Women are supposed to deal with it and let him cheat while she stays faithful and sad. They don’t want to really accept it. It’s not fun if they’re not hurting you.
@@LoveK1exactly. Women cheat just as much as men. You have a 50 percent of being cheated on so men might as well cheat first. Let the ray cheater win
Was leaving not a choice?😭😭😭😭😭😭
Eventually
Shes torturing him before he leaves😂
A lot of animals are strictly manogomus so i never understand why people say its not natural.
I would have to leave him. But he could see his child if he’s a good father and all. However I’m not going to stay with him when he doesn’t really love me. My question is what are we teaching this child? The child is confused 😢
I don’t think the lady with the bonnet understood we were talking about cheating in a marriage, which is breaking marital vows
Don’t be deceived! She will stay and be pregnant by next year. I don’t believe people who come on the internet anymore.
That one woman talking about having to accept sharing a man? No. If you step out on our relationship and find yourself in the embrace of another woman, you will never ever be welcome in my arms ever again. I hope it was worth it.
I will never accept being cheated on. I deserve love.
Marriage is not about love and sex. Its a contract to care for each other. However, I personally would rather be single.
Considering the economic state of the world, I understand the choice she made. It is not easy to raise a child alone or on your own income and our society is not kind to single moms. I personally wouldn't make the same choice but I understand it.
Kids rather come from a broken home that be in a broken home. This is going to end bad!
Not much difference between this and him trying to desperately hold onto everything for himself in a divorce. And she said the daughter isn't to know anything about it, so that will insulate the kid. @@beewest5704
You make a really good point
That was my first thought. Maybe they’re in business together or financially she can’t afford to leave him. Which is a terrible place to be
Women attach. She’s gonna step out, find someone better and leave and he’s gonna be hurt hurt 😅
But the thing is: hes GONNA come home with a baby and shes gonma be financially liable for that baby/those babies because they share assets.
She should leave him.
No she ain't going to be liable for nothing, that's on HIM. And since when does the MAN take the kid? GTFO.
The number is higher than fourteen. These are the only times she found out.
Cheating is a deal breaker for me. 💯 I would not be staying
why would anyone listen to someone who’s partner cheated on them 14 times LMAOOO 😭😭 nothing but rocks up there
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A little off topic, but when ever I see this clip from those “alpha male” channels they always depict that woman speaking about her sleeping with other people in retaliation as “see how women cheat and don’t care about family anymore” and it just baffles me. Like they didn’t watch the whole video?!
Yes, it's ironic that they focus so much on women cheating when it sure seems like it's either the man doing it first or the man doing it only. Not to say that women don't cheat..but it seems like almost every man cheats.
IMO, I think she has a plan. When she drains those accounts and ghosts him, he’ll get it. 😉
That’s illegal. You’re not allowed to drain community property before divorce. It’s a cute comment to leave but it will result in legal action. Men can’t do it and neither can women.
@@aar0n709 As long as they’re married it is marital property. I did it and it was cute🤣
@@Yassss-rj9zf No you didn’t. If you did you were married to a brainless loser who isn’t worth anything anyway. What I say still stands a man worth anything will consult a lawyer and that money will be returned or there will be legal consequences thereafter.
@@Yassss-rj9zf Yup and you can’t squander or hide marital property
@@aar0n709 so crazy how something that happens often "isn't allowed" just because you typed it 😂 sure, guy.
14 times is not just a slip up or a drunken mistake ... 14 times being caught, that shit is a deliberate power play
Her new rule needs to be her leaving!! It’s not even worth her dignity. But she deserves to keep getting cheated on if she stays! I don’t feel bad for people that allow cheating.
No one deserves to be cheated on. If anything I think religion plays a part in a lot of people's decision to stay in broken relationship
@@lewid019if she’s stupid enough to stay with someone who has cheated 14 times and she stays….SHE DESERVES IT!!!
@GodLovesYouAllTheTime no she doesn't deserve it, it's because of the child they have , she doesn't want the child to grow up without a father and the stigma she'll get for breaking the relationship and leaving the child without a father.
@@mikamikadrawz9032She has options and choices. She’s choosing to stay there, she deserves it. Argue with yourself.
@GodLovesYouAllTheTime crazy you call yourself Christian with your victim blaming of course I believe she should leave but no one should ever get cheated on
Cheating on a cheater is heartwarming. 🥰❤️
Leaving a cheater is HEALING 🙏🏽 Plus we’re contracting STDs like crazy. Protect your health and sanity- It’s just not worth it.
Normalize LEAVING THE FIRST TIME 🤦🏽♀️
And never looking in his general direction again.
SHE JUST FOUND OUT, MO. NORMALIZE THINKING BEFORE PROJECTING YOUR BS.
She can move the goalpost as much she wants. Whatever rules she lays down he will continue to break them because he doesn’t respect her or their marriage. She wants to open the marriage now because she realized her man is incapable of being faithful to her. But her rules are: don’t bring me any babies or any diseases. We’ll rest assured that he will def bring her babies and diseases. In fact I wouldn’t be surprised if he already has babies out there.
Non monogamy works for people who actually are open, honest and respectful about their lifestyle. Non monogamy doesn’t work as a means to try to stay married to a man who is a dog.
That part 👏🏾
Please don't compare men to dogs. Dogs are loyal and loving creatures.
@@Liz-wz8dh right lol my dog would never
This 💯 a girl I know got cheated on and she dressed it up saying oh I told him he could go sleep with others if he wanted too. Sure jan 😅
Why you let Whoopi’s Goldberg’s video play for so long? She was talking nonsense. She’s never getting a husband. 🤣🤣
🤣🤣 I had to fast forward through that mess.
I was thinking the same thing! 😆
Lmaooo I was just about to say “what is Ms. Bonnet talking about?!” 😂🤦🏾♀️
I have one rule: You cheat once, I'm out.
Why is no one commenting on the black women who basically said sharing ur man is ok?? Like is she OK! Because she gave me the ick
If a man can't be monogamous he's just not for me
If you cant stay loyal. Dont get married. Or at least get with like minded people. Makes sense. Monogamist people should be with monogamist people
Polyamory doesn’t work unless both partners respect each other and are honest. She should just leave him.
Set new RULES?? Don't you mean divorce!!
I always find it interesting how we talk about how temperamental black women are and we say things like, "a black woman wouldn't do that," or, "a black woman wouldn't tolerate that..." But I knew when it said, "woman cheated on 14 times," I knew it was a black woman... We definitely tolerate too much when it comes to black men... And save the, "white women do it and non-black women do it too," for someone else... Cuz I'm talking about black women because, this is not the first time I've seen a black woman go viral talking about something similar to this... And I'm sure it won't be the last...
No standards, boundaries or expectations….
I’m sorry, but I’ve seen women outside of blk women except cheating in large numbers. This is global
"Don't bring me no babies, don't bring me no diseases", but yall are sleeping with other people.... smh🤦🏽♀️
What's your point? If you LISTENED, she ain't sleeping with HIM anymore.
I just don't understand why the CHEATER doesn't leave or end the relationship....? That is the only logic here. Why is it ALWAYS the woman's responsibility to clean up a man's mess, even when her heart and home is involved?
Stop making it your responsibility
Obviously she didn't, but answering the questions proactively would have been a good look for you.
Marriage is a business and a lot of married woman don’t even know their husband is cheating and they talk so highly about their husband. It’s so many married man out here acting like they’re single while they have a whole family at home. Man don’t want just one kitty cat they want to sample them all. Sad!
Yep
Married men are respectable so when they cheat, it feels classy to the recipient. Seen it a lot back home
It’s disgusting how many married men are “dating” and lying saying they are single
If they were "respectable" then they WOULDN'T BE DOING IT. @@2okaycola
@BlkOnyx0508 Some men are now openly saying that they are married and still wearing their wedding rings and say their wives don't mind them having a side piece. They're lying. Some men make me sick lol
I'm not trying to sleep with a bunch of people.... I'm good I'd just leave lol
Lol this is why I’m staying by myself
Yeaa no I'll never stoop to a cheater's level I would just leave and never look back its not worth it 🤷🏾♀️🙄
Cheated 14 times… Sis that is not your husband, he is everyone’s husband. This woman is a fool for even being willing to ever sleep with him again. Sleeping with a cheating man can cost you your life sis, you need to be around to raise your daughter. This woman doesn’t love herself. Period.
He’s not going to be able to deal with those New rules.
I feel like the best case scenario is that after meeting other guys her confidence will go up, she’ll meet a dude who’ll treat her well, and then leave her trifling husband. Or she’ll keep her marriage charade until her daughter graduates high school/college or when the husband actually brings home a child/disease. Their child is gonna have a difficult time no matter what.
The first woman... That's me. I'd rather have half the money and all the peace.
I probably would not have told him anything until after I cheated. Then I would ask for a separation and enjoy side pieces while separated.
Sis just leave him ffs!!!😂😂You are still acting like a pick me
She should have her side piece and treat the man like a roommate
How they make it to 14 times😭? Even the Bible justifies divorce if adultery is committed. 🤷🏾♀️ so babe he broke the vow to God, the vow is no longer there what are you staying for?
If she stayed after 14 time, then she ain't going anywhere. Let him cheat in peace at this point
lol yeah the statement she made only has value and impact if she said it the first or second time he cheated. I mean after 14 she’s so low value to him he probably doesn’t care anything for her opinion surely 🤷🏻♀️
Who tf cares about the man at that point… would solely focus on making my own moves and plans lol.
DA, ever think that she JUST FOUND OUT ABOUT IT? Y'all need to stop projecting. @@moominmay
@@radicalreactions1633 calm down love. I don’t know if you realise it but you’re in the comments section 😂
😂😂😂😂😂
She's scared of breaking free she likes the lifestyle
You're projecting.
Cheating is toxic. You don't agree to engage in toxic behavior. This is not the point of a monogamous union and is not good. They're better off apart. Children don't need this toxic example of a heterosexual union.
I think it's stupid to wait for a disease or baby to leave.... One or the other will happen eventually, just ask Wendy Williams lol
It’s gross. How do you even stomach him touching you after cheating? 🤮
EW, I rather be alone than In a marriage where we are sleeping with other people🤢🤮
That’s why I’m pro cheat back 😂🤣😂🤣
Screw the business in the house get a good lawyer get your half and leave
She should have left him after the 1st time, lol. She's go have constant anxiety of him cheating a 15th, 16th & 17th time 🤦♂️
Rules for a cheating husband??! How do you control contaminated bodily fluids? How do you put boundaries on outside children?? How do you make a whole adult abide but what you say? What a toxic home for a child to grow up in!! Couldn’t be me.
As a RN I have to disagree with this. The diseases that are now flying around makes this an unsafe arrangement. She needs to leave. A relationship is about trust . This is emotional abuse, emotional abuse changes you. You will not be the same person for allowing him to abuse her for money and the kids.
Nah nah nah... men cant handle when we give them their own taste of medicine. She needs to leave before something bad happens
I think good for her and many other women who do this. Because men will have to be forced to realise that women also want to be out there and if they open that door, it automatically opens for all. Let him feel it
He will unalive her if she does it. I would unalive my wife if she did what he did. Sorry, that’s the way it is. 🤷🏾♂️
Then she will unalive her husband for defense also perfect plan for disgusting cheating husband@@aar0n709
@@aar0n709why are you so dumb? Just learn the lesson be monogamous so your wife wouldn't excuse herself for cheating
Umm, I'm good. If someone wants to cheat, then I'll let them go! Buh-bye! 😮
It’s not even a question I’m leaving. I got a big ego
It took 14 times getting caught to get like this, seems to me she’s hurting and coping… at this point it’s no longer a relationship.. it’s codependency/cohabitation.
She told him not to bring home diseases and babies. I _guarantee_ he will do both.
At this point, why wouldn't he? He can't follow rules.
Oh he CAN, or he'll learn to really fast.@@Liz-wz8dh
Wow, there is a lot of nonsense in these reactions. We can just stick with common sense and science. First, how do you allow a person to cheat on you 14 times? I understand wanting to stay together for the business and because you have a child. But that's an extremely toxic situation which will have serious consequences. For one, you can catch a disease and become infected for life. Second, what kind of examples are you being for your child? You are going to create a broken and dysfunctional adult just like you yourselves are, and cause your child permanent suffering, it's inevitable. Think about it. What you do now is going to become your legacy. Don't sacrifice yourself, your health, your future, and your offspring just for patching up temporary satisfaction. Don't follow the lead of the weakest one and become promiscuous too. You will surely regret it. The best thing to do is to break the cycle of dysfunction now and do things in a healthy way for yourself and your child, and future generations.
Easy said and done but let’s be real. Men and women have needs and wants . These days and time are unpredictable and majority of the people are still stuck on toxic shit . So who to say she’ll ever find “the one “ or just be alone tbh . Cause it’s dangerous out here too . Like pick your battles.
ALLOW - denotes that you think of someone, that's an adult, as a child. So I doubt youo can think of ANYTHING with common sense or science, since you know nothing about either.
Thought i was the only one noticing how nonsensical these reactions are 🤨🤨🤨😐😐😐😑😑😑😑
@@KaylaCoils I am a counselor. Although that is irrelevant on TH-cam and other social media platforms. But does not change the fact that I do know what I am talking about without going too technical. Let's just say that I deal with countless individuals with similar scenarios. Allow - denotes healthy boundaries. If your partner cheated on you 14 times, they are a professional cheater, and it's certainly more than 14 times they have infringed, in fact overstepped and violated your personal boundaries. It's total disrespect at best, not to mention a health hazard. So, why do you allow it? You have to decide at some point to preserve your dignity, honor, and self respect. You have to decide what kind of role models you want your child to emulate. You have to decide what kind of legacy you are creating. Therefore you have to decide what you allow. Does that make sense?
Her responding “she should be allowed to cheat back” sounds like a trauma response, she should just leave with her dignity. Talking about no outside babies, she probably a step mommy and don’t even know it.
Honestly after the second time this arrangement would have been made lmao. 14 times is crazy
Man… Whatever happened to just breaking up or divorce? Now people want to find all these loopholes to justify staying in toxicity acting all big and bad to cope being lied to constantly.
One time cheating on me, and you're gone. Why, oh WHY does it take 14x for her to set some rules? LEAVE DAMNIT!
How can she sleep at night knowing she’s still with him after cheating FOURTEEN TIMES!!! I wouldn’t be able to look at myself in the mirror
The first time he did it he would have lost all access to me, being with me is a privilege and if you don't act right those privileges will be revoked
Marriage is a committed relationship,this is why is called like that
Also male side pieces get very competitive. That’s actually a very deadly recipe. She probably has someone in mind.
This is definitely a trauma-bond. She loves him. But, she has also been hurt so many times (by him), that it has clouded her judgement. This isn't about the money/businesses. If he has cheated 14 times, she has proof of atleast 5-6. She can get a bulldog attorney and clean him out.
This is about her heart, fear, anxiety about her future and being alone with a child, etc. If she doesn't reconcile how much she has been hurt and that she will be ok alone, even if it takes times, it'll be more of the same.
Wishing her healing. She is hurt and is lowering the bar to hell to keep him around.
Exactly
It's not and he's a narc so you act like divorcing him outright would be simple. You don't even know what a Trauma Bond is if you think this is it. Stop projecting your BS onto her. You're delulu.
Trinadahlia took me the fuq out 😂😂😂....a whole vibe 🤌🏾👌🏾
Rules only get followed out of respect. This guy isn't going to follow nothing so i don't know why she is even wasting her breath.
There is no negotiating this. He's tuned her out long time ago. Leave, heal, and find better.
I can’t believe it’s taken 14 times for her to open it up, is she wanted to stay married but open it up why wait so long. Open marriage can be cool. But I wouldn’t sleep with him anymore. I’d make him file for divorce.
What happened to moving in silence?
people want reactions 🥲
I say this every day - my business is my business lol MINE not MINESSSSSS
I just feel bad for the baby- sounds like the beginning of a 20/20 episode.
She said all this because at the end of the day she DOESN'T WANT to leave! I'm just trying to figure out if she scared or what? I agree with the first lady... why do all of this and stay in a relationship with someone you don't even want to touch you. I get that you may be disgusted because I would too but chileeee pack yo bags.
Too addicted to the materialistic things they’ve acquired.
Did he cheat with 14 different women or with the same woman 14 times? Her life and health is at risk if her husband is a reckless sex addicted.
This why marriage doesn’t mean anything to me