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Find a black woman to upgrade you find a black woman to build you up find a black woman to ride and die for only for them to leave when they reach their goal this is not compliment leave black women alone it's tiring

I get what they were trying to say, but it honestly stems from racism and the patriarchy. BW have been expected to take care of everything and everyone and carry everything on our backs since slavery. Cooking, taking care of other people's kids, being the maid, being the one the men slept with when the wives didn't want to put out (and we couldn't say no). The comment feels like a slap in the face. I'm done caping for people and being people's mammy. We tired and it's not our job 🤷🏾‍♀️ And the sad part is that even our own men expect this. Submission to them means doing everything we had to do during slavery and when we didn't have rights 😢 I wish people would leave BW alone. Stop bringing us problems to fix.

I'm not flattered about what he is saying, Indian, Bangladesh, Pakistani men don't like or marry black women! So why help them? Are we crazy? They need to look of their women to help them because you're not used me pretending to be "nice" when deep down they teached you that black people are nasty!

Interesting how we tend to help others but when it's time to help black women....radio silence from others.

My black mama taught me stranger danger,my black daddy taught me to scream fire and run.

The women talking about the west indies needs to stick to her island...Jamaican men are predators, she is right in saying we all have different lived experiences needs to have kept it at her experience and stop. I wish i had a different reality aswell but wevare talking about the issues and not the few that do not suffer under said issues. Aint no one bullying we are setting and respecting our boundaries.

Man people are miserable af! Find a reason to be mad about anything. Black women are strong = don't be calling me strong. I'm soft and feminine! Okay black women are soft & loving & are the perfect people to find comfort to in when you're in need of help = don't be calling me a mammy! 🤦🏾‍♀️

"Black women need to rest" hellloooo second response said it best im no ones mammie thanks 💯💯👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾💪🏾💪🏾

Apologies not accepted. Keep moving!

A very fascinating video, this brings back painful memories which i have been enduring. My relationship of 6 years ended 3 months ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.

Could he bring home a black woman to that same mother?🤔 would she remember all the "compliments" that she gave?😒

This captivating video triggers a flood of painful memories from the end of my 6-year relationship just three months ago. The woman I loved with all my heart chose to walk away, leaving me grappling with an insurmountable sense of loss. Despite my relentless efforts to salvage what we had, I'm left feeling disillusioned and unable to imagine a future without her. Despite my attempts to move on, I'm drawn to express my deep-seated longing for her here.

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A very fascinating video, this brings back painful memories which i have been enduring. My relationship of 6 years ended 3 months ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.

We can always go to Jesus, I like being a kind and helpful person, I'd like to think that most people would help someone in desperate need or someone that is in danger. So black women don't have to be singled out or put on some kind of pedestal and not all of us are the same. America can be very selfish and individualistic so it really depends on where you are.

I put my nose where it doesn't belong. " Well, the bull ring doesn't belong in your nose. The irony.

I love how the one girl tried to say social women cheat. Socially awkward women live in DMs 😅😂😅

1:05 she being shame but it’s ok for the man to leave not take care of his responsibility? Make it make sense.

At first saw it as a compliment but the sad fact is that after we stand by people, the other communities will happily turn on black women. It's rarely reciprocated.

i'm gen Z ...20 this year...still living of their money bcoz we live in india....i have my father's debit card since 3 years ...never ever parents asked how i spend...but still subconsiously i spend in my limit....bcoz when i was child they taught me value of money...value things.

This captivating video triggers a flood of painful memories from the end of my 6-year relationship just three months ago. The woman I loved with all my heart chose to walk away, leaving me grappling with an insurmountable sense of loss. Despite my relentless efforts to salvage what we had, I'm left feeling disillusioned and unable to imagine a future without her. Despite my attempts to move on, I'm drawn to express my deep-seated longing for her here.

Leave us ALONE! How come every time people want to go viral they invoke the black woman. 1:53 The question is: did his mother ever teach him to PROTECT BLACK WOMEN or only to use black women for HIS protection. Please don't come find me. Everyone only wants to take from black women. 😢😢

So is he saying look for a mammy? This isn't the time of slavery,1930,1980, it's 2024. We have our own stuff to deal with. His race should be looking out for him why didn't his mother tell him that or why didn't she tell him to always look out for black women? His race won't and our BM don't even look out for us. Stop taking advantage of BW because we are tired and done. Help yourself or as your own race, but don't ask us anymore....period.

Is he drinking crack in that cup...he must be.

But wait, high end restaurant dates are BORING dates 😂

Wow 🤯 so this is how African men are? I will not be moving to Africa!!!

I'm so selfish! Oops! First word was No.

No it's called your parents lived for a purpose,there was no distractions of evilness around....do u go out to eat,have pets? Go gym? Live a healthy expensive lifestyle? There's too many extras n high price clothing n adult toys n electronics they never had back then....u can afford kids u just selfish all of u, the whole point of us being alive is to reproduce,if u don't ever reproduce u are a complete failure,wats point u living then? Wat u living for , seriously wat u living for???? Your gym? Climate change for who? If u don't have kids politics should never be on your mind, do u have pets? Do u go out eat? Wat kind car you drive? Wats your rent,? If u got married I be able to split the bills....there's no point of living unless u reproduce

No,just no.we are not your savior.talk to jesus.

Another example of how we, as Black women, are seen . Yes, leave us alone

Those same Black women won't find help when they need it.

@ 6:00 reminds me of how in dating shows like Love Island, the black women seem to be expected to support and advise her white peers in their love pursuits at the expense of hers. It's like we're only valued for our utility. 🤔

To every race, we are "The Help," but always underappreciated by everyone... His comment is so true, tho. Men, women, and children will ask me questions or for help....I could be in a room full of people, and they will journey across a room, to ask me for help... I had a man who spoke very little english ask me to help him check in for an appointment... I then turned to asked the security guard if he could help him, and he said he couldn't because of the personal information part, so I walked back over to the kiosk and walked him through the process, even turning my back when he needed to put in his SS#... got him all checked in. He was so grateful... Sometimes, it feels good to help people, but it's a bit awkward because out of all the other people in this room, why you come to me?... I'm guesssing smiling, and making eye contact is an open invitation that you're a helpful person?😅... But we must also understand "You never know if you're entertaining angels" when you help a stranger!!!...

That is NOT flattering to me. I’m tired of black women being used. We’re officially “The Help” to other people. Nah, don’t look for me.

Who do black women look to? I'll wait...

Dang…I just don’t know how to feel anymore…I’m Hispanic. Born and raised in South America. I’ve noticed, for years, that my views on racism is not, apparently, mainstream. I don’t want to insult anyone, but…the liberator of my country called and loved the black lady, most likely a slave or ex-slave, who cared and raised him. We learned that in history class. So, in my mind, she must’ve been more important to him. Probably even more that the women that gave birth to him. I believe, from what I remember (I could be wrong), his biological mother was sickly. The black servant, loved his mom. Yeah, I guess that I’ve, naively, believed that the black lady was the one with the true selfless heart and gave everything to the people she cared for. Now I feel that it might have been just narrative to convince certain groups to accept a type of normalized abuse towards them…I don’t know how to feel anymore

Dude with the fluorescent cap… You’re still friends with horrible men! THAT is what we are talking about! Y’all condone the behavior which is why it still persists! If you ostracize awful men, or beat their asses, then maybe they’ll stop!

The Caribbean woman is just proof that BP who grow up in predominantly black countries where BP are the majority (Africa too)--they all have blind spots when it comes to the system of WS…. Leave them in their isolated bubble of ignorance 🙄😒

She does not need him. He can’t live without her because she is social capital for him, free labor, et cetera.They are all like that. She’s not acting. Plus, remember he doesn’t care if this hurts his own children.

Most Gen X parents don't have a problem with sharing their material gain or wealth, but when children, adult children feel entitled to what we have earned, and they're disrespectful, It's a definite no! I watched this video and I am hollering! If projection, deflection, and manipulation were a video, this would be it! 😂😂😂😂😂

Notice the message is find a black woman for help not find a black women to marry/provide/protect/treat well. Find a black woman to use. That’s the message. No thank you.

Yes, we want to go to expensive places. On special occasions. Nobody wants $2.50 ice cream and wandering in a park on EVERY DATE. That's casual "let me see if you can carry a conversation" date territory. If by the third or fourth date, he isn't even suggesting nice places to go, or making actual date plans? No. He won't get better. He is not trying to impress you and he does not care to put effort into keeping your attention. He should just admit he's stingy and sit back down... Also that hollering man with a chain, yelling about "masculine and feminine energy", needs to calm down and...ugh. The men who step on women don't love or care about ANY woman. The high goal woman? Eventually he will make HER into a stepping stool. That's how toxic men are.

In my bio class a Hispanic boy age 24 married a black woman 10 years older than him. I was shocked to hear. He said she understood him and helped him spiritually and mentally. 10 years. I’m 30 and I was proud. For 6 years they’ve been married

This man speech is belebolent misogynistic at core .... It doesnt matter the color of the skin, is men thinking WOMEN NEED TO SAVE THEM, which this very dangerous narrative that women love to help, to edúcate, to save men .... No, i don't , cuz 99,9% of the type this is not reciprocated .... I seen it AGAIN and AGAIN and AGAIN, women doing the most to save evey single men around, making them better human beings, helping them in need, but if the woman is in need, they dont care, not their problem, they are busy, they dont have the time neither want to, cuz what are you going to give me in exchange. MEN DONT DO ANYTHING FROM THE KIDNESS OF THEIR HEART, EVERYTHING IS TRANSACTIONAL, and if men help women, believe me, the want US to pay them with our bodies, cuz in their mind You gain anything from helping someone...men are selfish by Nature but they want all the women of the world to coddle them like little kids ... no, i'm tired !

In Paris an asian woman with a 7 year old boy and a baby in a pram needed some help to go down the stairs in the metro station and she asked a black woman to help her which she did. Then she arrived on the second set of stairs and she had the audacity to ask me (black woman) for help when there were men left and right walking down the stairs. I simply turned my head to the left and walk away elegantly in my baby blue cashmere coat.... mum I am not your helper.😂

THIS IS WHY THE STRONG BLACK WOMAN narrative irritated me. You guys ranting on about bing a SBW and then get annoyed when people test or lean on that strength. We need to also be careful of the image we set of ourselves.

This is not a compliment. They look down on us, but we’re supposed to come to the rescue. Who’s going to do that for us? The 1st BW annoyed me; she sounded silly. We are not your mammies or mules. This man is pandering while married to a whole WW.

All narcissists 🧐

THE SAD PART IS WE GET THIS RAP OF CARE TAKER AND THE HOLD YOU DOWN PERSON SO I UNDERSTOOD WHY HIS MOM TOLD HIM WHAT SHE DID. BUT TOO MANY OF US HAVE BEEN TAKEN FOR GRANTED AND TAKEN ADVANTAGE OF. TIRED OF IT. I SPENT MOST MY LIFE HELPING MF'Z I BECAME SELFISH WAY TOO LATE IN LIFE. I DON'T THINK HE MEANT ANY HARM IN WHAT HE SAID. BUT WE DON'T WANT TO BE SEEN THAT WAY ANYMORE. A LOT OF US ANYWAY.

The second video/black woman & the last video was 🔥🔥🔥🔥