Woman Says Her Boyfriend Doesn’t Have A Single Romantic Bone In His Body | Excuses Or What?
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- Woman says her boyfriend doesn’t have a single romantic bone in his body is this true or is he just creating excuses?
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teaching a man to be romantic? what comes next teaching him how to get to know me and apply that? teach him how to google and plan dates? teach him to use his brain? a man who needs all this teaching needs to pay a teacher he doesnt need a woman he needs brain transplant and lifelong teaching in all things!!!
Exactly but nobody teaches them how to do the deed (to which some of them need lessons)and how to require women to cook and clean and serve them. 🤦🏽♀️😅
Grown men should be teaching them just like Young women should be taught important things about womanhood.
There are even grown men out there who needs to be taught to wash their hands, take showers, brush teeth and etc.
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Been with my 1st & only partner for nearly 13 years, currently 27 years old, & YES 👍 that is exactly what you will have to do/what happens- from my own experience.
Example: I told him this year I would leave him if he didn’t get me anything (as he didn’t for my birthday, Christmas or 12 yr anniversary). He got me a single rose 🌹 & a crepe (because I love them) with all these toppings on it (which I don’t like 😅).
If I’m completely honest I’d say he’s got me presents for around 30% of all the special events we’ve had in that time (if I had to guess). My dream date is a picnic but we’ve never gone on one (he tells me it’s been too long so he has to make it even more special now 🙄). We’ve stayed at a hotel twice for a weekend. I on the other have organised & planned the most AMAZING dates! Everyone who has seen the pics & videos have been like “please do that for me/help me”. I even bought him a limited addition PlayStation & gave it to him by creating the whole nerf gun war game where he had to win it from me (it was fun!!!💚) & then had also set up an outdoor cinema with fairy lights & multiple courses of food all made from scratch- to give just one example.
He won’t let me take him out anymore or pay for it, so now I invite my Mum, Nan & little sister & decorate & do a whole valentines meal, from scratch & decorate, for everyone 💚. Also I am always the one who is buying Christmas, birthday, etc presents for everyone (including his family) & planning everything. I make a lot less than him currently (long story) but he still doesn’t have a lot of money either. Whenever I bring up anything he always get really agitated & responses to me with:
“I know I’m sh!t”;
“I know you could do better/deserve better”
“I’m trying my best”
“I always forget & you know I’m terrible at planning!” - I’m a planner, you see, so of course I ask 😅🤣.
If I ask “why he doesn’t just search for [cheap] date ideas” he will tell me he “never thought of that/never remembers that”- how’s that work for over a decade 😅🤣😂
It’s a big reason why I think he still doesn’t have a drivers licence, though now it’s because £50 an hour for lessons- or so I’m told because I was DETERMINED that I was going to drive as soon as I possibly could & did within months of being old enough (& I worked myself TO THE BONE through college to do that as no one else around me drove. At the time I paid £21 an hour but paid for a block as they were only £150 for 10 hours (10 years ago now). Saved up & became the proud owner of a, 2 year olds at the time, 2012 Chevrolet Cruze LTZ (highest spec boiiii 💪) & then proceeded to become a free taxi to EVERYONE. None I’ve fallen on a not so financially stable place, due to disabilities & unforeseen circumstances, this has since not been returned.
I feel bad writing this, as I was always brought up that you don’t talk about your business, but the fact I’ve wrote so much (sorryyyy 😅) makes me think maybe I need to get it out; but I’m still going to just stop here 😅🤣. Also, he is quite low on the list of people, past & present, who I’ve poured infinity into & got drips- but now I think I just feel stuck. I don’t know why I wrote this, to be honest but, F⭐️k it! I’m not going to delete it all (hopefully it’ll be a warning for someone else).
Anywhooo, to all who happen to read this, wishing you absolute lovely dae/night/life❣️
Some of us call them “boyfriends” but they’re just long term fwb. We’re giving these men an honorary title and it shows.
You deserve to be alone.
@JasonFlake-op1ll YOU sound just like a good, supportive man. Sarc
@@crazymusicgrlcheesecake Yea and you sound like someone that never knew there dad.
@@JasonFlake-op1ll You mean, "their"
@@crazymusicgrlcheesecake😭😭😭
How do you even get boyfriend status without being romantic? Yall be liking anybody cus ain’t no damn way. You get wet for him but he can’t be thoughtful for you? Yall confuse me.
Listennn 🎯😤 Disney channel has them in a fuckin choke hold, I swear! 🙄😮💨😂
That part
I was still a child (14) & it’s been nearly 13 years…
I can honestly say that though I love him, I have never lusted over him- I get wet because of how I feel; not how I feel about him (though I do get 4+ “fireworks” when we do the deed😉). Everyone calls us soul mates also. I do love him unconditionally, as we’ve always said if we broke up it’s because we were meant to be best friends, & we can literally talk about ANYTHING!
That’s my excuse 😅😅🤣😂🤣😂.
My favorite game: What if they went out with *insert major Hollywood star/crush*. Where would take So and So? Lean back and listen to where they would take them, what they would get. Then you'll understand they just don't want to do it for you.
So true.🙌🏻
Brilliant
This these men know what to do he’s just not into u which is fine just move on
Exactly!!
This exactly. The cluelessness is woman specific.
Men aren’t taught to be romantic?? English literature says otherwise 😂
Ikr?! Maybe that's why they don't read 😂
Men don't get flowers do random romantic gestures etc for women outside of holidays.
The majority DO NOT.
I know this because I'm bi, and almost every woman I've dated (usually bi too) says "wow, no one has ever brought me flowers (or insert other romantic gestures)" I like to spoil my woman.
Im SERIOUS. It's rare imo ... These men are raggedy. This isn't 1960 where they're showing up on the first date with flowers.... It's not happening anymore
I did an instacart delivery feb 14, 2020. It was a small cake and flowers. Sent from a woman to her girlfriend. It melted my heart
Fr I'm a lesbian and I've gotten flowers for my gf multiple times
Even when it was customary for men to bring flowers there was too much of a trade off. Many legit expected full access for a $20 bouquet. Women were expected to hand over their whole lives and bodies to whatever man would have them.
That’s sweet. I love doing things for people but when I do it for guys, they barely reciprocate.
I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but there are plenty of men that do do romantic things consistently. If he’s not doing it for a girl, it’s because she’s not attractive enough to him that’s just me keeping it real if you are average looking or overweight. Yeah you’re not going to get princess treatment but those of us who are top-tier absolutely get that treatment year around
It's true ladies, don't be the cool girl, unless it's some random male friend you are REALLY not interested in. The COOL girl is the LAST THING to be.
This is true 😩
@@LisaSoulLevelHealingshouldn't you be on a walk.
There are no unromantic men; there are only uninspired men.
Hmmm ok
aromantic erasure much?
I always ask myself how would they treat things differently if Scarlett Johansson, Gal Gadot, or Katherine Winnick pulled up. Lol I bet their asses would message back like lightning and learn how to get romantic REAL fast.
For the guy I was interested in, it would've been Gwendoline Christie.
@@karasmusic123 but this is the thing: the men acting like that, are fuggy, poor hygiene, overweight and broke and is usually with an average woman that has herself together. I saw a VERY overweight man with a very fit woman the other day at the restaurant and I was like: huh???They ALL THINK, I deserve Scarlett, Gal or Katherine....LOLOLOLOLOLOLOL
@@ramenaddict1676some peoples romance is shopping you can't even do that for the person you love?
Ladies, you must read the book " He's just not that into you." If you were Rihanna, do you think he wouldn't suddenly be romantic?
Realistically speaking? You too _ARE_ your own unique "Rihanna" without the added benefit of highly-paid beauticians, makeup artists, wardrobe stylists, perfect lighting, exotic destinations, awesome backgrounds, expensive studio equipment and other such industry fanfare. In her day-to-day life, Rihanna and other beautiful celebs are just as in jeopardy of having the wrong man grow to lack appreciation and take them for granted too. If you find your guy suddenly seems to have a lackluster vibe, talk about it - find out if he is feeling down about something that has nothing to do with you or if it has to do with the relationship to see if you all can try to work things out. But there are also men out there who put lots of effort into *_getting_* you, but can't sustain that same energy to keep you because they were not being who they are at their core. To a certain extent we all may be guilty of the same from time-to-time because we're human and have different modes and dimensions to ourselves. So if finding a workable solution with your partner failed and you find you really are with someone who is actually "just not that into you," confront it head on because *HE* likely misrepresented himself and is the wrong one - not you. False/deceptive advertising sucks. You *_deserve_* to be in a viable relationship with a partner willing to do the emotional lifting with you to help sustain the relationship rather than someone who will require you to do it all yourself. Good luck. 💖
Some of these ladies need to bring in big bouquet's for themselves with a card from your "friend" or "admirer." See their man's reaction.
I work at a school and today, for Valentine's day, I saw little middle school aged boys go all out, getting bouquets of flowers, candy, teddy bears, balloons, and even a pair of Nikes for the girl they like! Much less a grown man. THEY ARE NOT CLUELESS!! They know exactly what to do from an early age. NO EXCUSES for this!
Listen!!!! I just commented the same. These little boys know better at their young age. They know better. A grown man has access to more resources than the boys so they have no excuse.
My ex used to say I couldn't have Valentine's Day and my birthday because they were too close together, my birthday is (27th Feb)
Made me feel awful, that's why he's an ex.
I've been so lucky to have boyfriends that bought me gifts on both days. My birthday is 3 Feb. I do feel bad cause the days are so close to each other but I would never suggest that they should not gift me on both days 😂
@@omphilemoerane2569 nobody chooses when they're born and it's disgusting to tell your partner they have to choose. Funny how I never made him choose since his birthday was bang on Christmas. People like that are not worth having around. I'm thankful I now have a husband that treats everyday like Valentine's Day
I’m the 10th my daughter the 6th. Valentines right around the corner and for the whole month my hubby goes all out for myself and our daughter. A man who loves you, will do everything he can to put a smile on your face. Life is blessed. 🙏🏽😊💕
@@sg5720 Exactly 💯🥰
Even if your birthday WAS Valentines Day, you deserve both.
I'm not teaching men anything anymore. You know what you need to do, so do it or move it.
"Most ladies act like cool girls" THAT PART! That was something I had to unlearn. You're only hurting yourself by lying about the things you like/want. I'm in a new relationship and when I tell you that I don't hold back on my interests and what I expect from my partner!! I am being treated the way I deserve and I love it. It really is that simple. I've made it crystal clear to my partner that if I feel mistreated and nothing changes after I've pointed it out, then it's not the relationship for me. Ladies don't suppress your expectations out of fear of losing a relationship. There will be someone else that would love to do those things for you.
same here....
When I was younger I didn’t care about flowers and stuff like that. I don’t think I really understood what Romance was because I didn’t really understand what being in love meant in a mature way. As I became a woman and I became emotionally mature I started desiring those things. I think this is common and as a woman grows her man should be growing with her and accommodating those things. Boys and girls should see examples of Romance through their married parents and in this modern culture of broken homes we aren’t seeing it… so we don’t know
Thank you for the voice of reason! I’m Autistic and ADHD, I choose to only date other Autistics and if there wasn’t clear communication going on NOBODY (I’m including my offspring and THEIR partners too) in our family would have a clue what DAY it is let alone what others are desiring and wanting. The neuronormativity in these TT conversations is actually a source of amusement for Autistic culture, we actually use them as teaching moments with our Autie offspring to show them a) why dating nonAutistic individuals is generally a very bad idea and b) how allistic culture is bizarre in its expectations and behaviours when it comes to relationships because apparently allistics are clueless about honesty and communication.
You just sound like a spoiled brat.
Happily married 21 years, I agree with you, remember it goes both ways. 😉
If he was dating “Halle Berry” in her 20’s… he’d find the romantic bone. You wouldn’t need to ask or beg or set low expectations. He’d suddenly know what to do voluntarily
I need the guy in the glasses to shut up. He too old to be so immature.
Yeah, he chose to be obtuse.
@@shaolinqueen3684 Exactly.
That guy who says men don't learn romance is talking out of his butt. Every man has watched a thousand movies showing examples.
Romance is not about "romance". It is about caring. Caring is not a show saved for one day of the year and 364 days of struggle the rest of the year. ALL WOMEN PLEASE KNOW THIS AND ONLY THIS FORVEVER.
This!!! YES, exactly!! I appreciate being appreciated year round. Valentine’s Day is just a Hallmark holiday to me. I expect caring always.
But it hurts more when they don't do romantic things all year round too.@@theladynextdoor313
So glad I decentred men and no longer care about these things because I remember how crushed I used to feel every Feb 14th. Now, Im older and have given up on the pursuit of love, and I've never felt more peace in my life.
Sure that's way your posting it here on TH-cam?
Same!! I'm soooo done with the pursuit~ if I find it then cool. But it has to be someone worth my time, and compliments my life.
I don't want to end up with any of these dusties like this JasonFlake guy commenting, they're just so gross!!
Done with men~ I'm now at peace ❤😊
@valrose6083 welcome sis! Grab a seat and let's talk lol. Yes, I ignore and avoid the angry dusties on here like Jason. They have nothing better to do than cyber harass women who are doing great without them. I still believe in love and hope it finds me one day, but the juice definitely wasn't worth the squeeze (so to speak), so my energy and time is used for other things now. All the best my dear!
@Age_Of_Aquarius84 thank you sis 😊🩷🙏 all the best to you too!!~~~ 😊💕💕
@@valrose6083 You look like your parents are related chubby ain't nobody gonna be with you.
I remember being in a relationship with the guy many years ago and he told me he wasn't the romantic type, that he wasn't into this or he wasn't into that. Isn't it funny how he did become that guy in his next relationship after me though. Although it was a painful realisation, I learned the valuable lesson that day. Men know how women want to be treated. If he's giving you less than the Bare minimum, stop going on social media talking about it and just leave!
Great advice!!!
Men know what to do if you let them get away with it they will
Well my husband said that too early into our marriage when I started desiring more romance (as I matured). You know what I told him? I’m not the cooking, cleaning, have sex on demand type… and I told him it would be in his best interest to learn to get romantic. He is way more romantic. Which makes me want to cook and have s3x 😂😂😂
Well, have you not been stupid enough to listen to feminism and build up a man you would not have been a placeholder. This is what happens when you decide to play. Miss independent.
Exactly I knew a couple where the man was not romantic towards her in the beginning, that girl was an influencer. Right after their breakup he got into a relationship with another women(who is also an influencer). Now he is super romantic towards her, it was such a 180° change in his behaviour.
People learn what they want to learn. They figure out what they need to figure out. They prioritize what they want to prioritize. Case closed.
That's bullshit I broke up with my man because he was not putting in effort but was demanding more xxx from me. I only wanted more romance but he made excuses so I just gave up.
Was at the grocery store today. Saw a guy in front of the flowers, looking at a small vase of them. Went up behind him and whispered "get the big one." Hope he took my advice. 💙
He still gotta pay that light bill sis 😂
@@kayabe856 🤣
@@Charlene-suilol Did you not get the big one, sunshine? Awwww...poor thing. Maybe you need an attitude adjustment? Best of luck!
Maybe it's not my place since I'm an aromantic person, but you'd think part of the fun of having a gf is having someone to spoil and them happy when you pick out a gift that they like.
Right?!
You can be romantic and broke.
Find a romantic place and have a picnic.
Find a romantic place and just dance with your partner.
Find a romantic place and give your partner a massage.
Find a romantic place and just cuddle with your partner and tell them how much you love them.
This is part of the problem, having to even list out ideas, why can't they think for themselves, Google is free.
@@neoloanderson6676this! They know how to google everything else. If they wanted to be romantic on a budget they would be.
Last dude don’t know what he blabbin about😂 All over media we learned romance towards women and men. And romantic comedy, any action movie, any drama with a female character. Even thrillers got romance in that shit. Don’t fall for that bull excuse y’all, we was taught romance🤦🏿♂️
😅These men aren’t stupid. My lil boyfriends in middle school knew how to be romantic or do nice things for the young lady they like. Not even love yet. They KNOW!!! They would go home and ask their parents to pay for dates or buy cute little gifts with their allowance. They would offer to pay for my lunch or pay for tickets to events.
Even the most masculine macho men know how to treat the woman they love and desire. Don’t let them lie. Don’t let them get comfortable not showing they care. Stop setting the bar so low.
“Oh well he pay the bills so I don’t expect anything more than that” 🤨 girl that’s the problem. YOU set that standard.
And this is why I’ve been ready fantasy romance novels. 😂
Every man can be romantic. If he’s not being romantic it’s bc HE DOES NOT WANT TO BE. Pay attention ladies. He doesn’t value you. It’s that simple sis.
Why wait until February 14th? Dump him now. He has already shown you that he thinks so little of you that low effort is enough to keep you around and that he doesn't care if he loses you. Why waste any more of your time, hoping he'll change? That would be foolishness on your part and more bitterness/resentment t and disappointment the longer you stay. "When someone shows you what they are, BELIEVE THEM!"
Tbh I understand the requirements argument, but I dont agree for this specific subject. He just dont like her. Men will do nice things for a woman they actually care about and like/love
I can’t believe i was in a 4 year relationship with a man who NEVER did anything romantic for me😭 he hated me 💀 I even rented a room with roses everywhere and all.. don’t ask me why.. I was dumb! The only time he would buy me flowers, it’s when I would leave him… 2 years single and I’ve been working on my self esteem and unlearning things I thought were normal. Someone who likes you will be romantic without you ever begging for it
The first lady speaking is saying how her boyfriend changed for her. Its because he really cares about her, thats why. If a man doesnt care then he isnt worth it
I guess 90% of women ain't worth it.
Most Men do extra for validation.. and if he doesn't make an effort he could care less
He’ll be romantic with the next girl
When that woman said I know your chest hurt 😂😂😂 I can't.
As a lesbian I enjoy watching your videos to get the perspective of straight women and see how things are, I honestly feel really bad for how mistreated a lot of women get and I hope more of them decide to decenter men and do what’s best for them. Breaks my heart not seeing women getting treated as they deserve, I couldn’t imagine doing my gf the way most of the men do their women now 🤦🏽♀️
It's tough out in these streets for sure😅 God bless you in the name of Jesus Christ, who is the name above all names & the only way to Heaven💖
He don't like you. Move on!
Sometimes it's not about requirement, it's the fact that you have to tell him every little thing to do. From A-Z why not just have it in you.
Can we just acknowledge what Feb 14 is really about? It’s when Hawaiians took that hideous colonizer Captain Cook off the census! 😂
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“If he wanted to he would.” He’s just there to pass the time girl. You’re a placeholder.
5:41 she it too right, it's measured in the little things. And sometimes it's things that won't cost a cent but may cost the whole relationship if it can't be met
Men who are completely unromantic are probably sociopath/psychopath. My father is like this. I’ve seen him be in three long term relationships and feel nothing for the women he’s with. Although my father is not diagnosed ASPD I’m sure he has it because he behaves just like other people I know that do have aspd.
Whatever, they are romantic when they are trying to get with you or they want to do the do. Stop the cap!!
Right off the gate "Simon says he got until February 14...."
Took me out 💀😂
JUST BE SINGLE!!!!!
No such thing as a unromantic man. This is so sad. I hope she sees the writing on the wall. 💔
Girl, if you don't get cho hash up outta that raggedy relationship and find yourself a real man!
What that girl with the grey blanket said is true !! I told my bf I expected gifts and he stepped up. He stopped playing dumb. Have that conversation or drop him !!
You don't have one.
I really never cared about things like this as long as he treats me with love, respect, loyalty, faithfulness throughout the year I'm happy.
I always love the sound of the small child in the background
Hopefully you get to see him soon ☺️
She was to nice to him i already moved out of my exs house a few weeks ago now I live behind a government building my ex texted me and said happy Valentines day he's already single af i just left under the radar a few weeks ago and im hoping my landlord wil finally take me off his lease actions speak louder then words. If your going to leave leave but do it a few days before Valentine's Day so he remembers when you left.
Some are and some are not. If you got with a man that never did anything romantic, you cant expect it.
He’ll suddenly have it, when he’s the right woman. Stop being with emotionallyavailable men.
As a fantasy romance author I… 💁🏼♀️ 😅 ✨
You know what? I want women to have standards! Men should be chivalrous af! Buy yourself a book for Valentine’s Day! 🥰 📚
My first series starts with “Blood Moon: Book 1 of the Crescent Crown Saga” 👑 🌙 💖 about vampires, witches, demons, and werewolves
I also have a kindle vella about an arranged marriage situation with a fae in a Celtic inspired fantasy setting called “A Promise So Dark & Wicked” 🗡️ 💘✨
Woohoo! I'm going to check your books out, the one about fae sounds cool💜
I’m a horror junkie and it physically pains me to see what romance fetish shit has done to vampires and werewolves.
i dated a cheapskate once. For romance, he pulled out a telescope and we checked out the moons of Jupiter. Unfortunately, it was just the one time.
They say either you're married or have standards
"Men aren't taught to be romantic"... but he listed what is romantic. Weird.😅
I save the material stuff for holidays, usually supplemented with more personal gestures. But I write a lot of things at random intervals through the year, or make ornamental things out in the shop that we can hang inside or stake in the garden, or cook a particularly fancy meal as a surprise. There’s lots of ways to engage in love language and use creativity to supplement or offset lack of funds. Material shit has never impressed me, it’s the work that requires effort and thought. Sometimes that requires money to be fair; but many times it doesn’t.
If he not romantic I don't want him 😂
Seriously sometimes when i hear some stories or how some women are treated and how they wanted to be treated, i sometimes think i must be a horrible bish that complains all the time. Hearing things like this makes him appear to be an angel. I need to reflect as he always does the most even without me asking. His kept the same energy and he spends money i mean money even if im not nice. I need to start being grateful 😂😂😂
Romance is about doing what communicates care/effection of another person. You do it with passion and thoughtfulness. Whatever that may look like. It’s doing what’s out of the ordinary or going above and beyond. If you’re with a man that can’t b me romantic at all for you, the woman he desires somethings off. If you can’t be romantic towards him either then you have to question why he’s your “man” as opposed to any other random guy.
He doesn’t like her.
Asking would he do it for a Hollywood actress is stupid. Yes he would do it for her because it’s the ultimate test of his manhood to get her. But after he gets her it would stop because that’s not who he is. If it was who he is, he would naturally be doing it for all the girls he talks to. I’ve dated men that are very romantic for the first few years but when they get comfortable, no matter how much they chased you and begged you to give them attention it always stops. It’s just not who they are.
I thought this same thing. Sure they’ll try right in the beginning and a week or a month later it’s done!! Back to who is really is, especially if he’s a lazy one 🥴🙄😂😂.
My mother-in-law was busy making excuses for her son: she said how unfair it was to expect him to give my heart's desire.
So I went out and got my own; that went over well.
...and then it got me thinking; if he couldn't be bothered to get me gifts (his excuse? he was "too busy" to shop for me)..what did I need him for?
I don’t understand all this teaching business! What about him taking the initiative to learn his woman and what she likes or treasures? Or appreciate who she is and their relationship and strive to show her!
When did it because acceptable for an inconsiderate and selfish man to enter (and stay in) a relationship?
Ladies it’s time for self love!
That part
Um…who’s gonna tell her??
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People-pleaser cool girl mentality begone!!! It gets you poor treatment: crumbs, low-effort, being used for all kinds of things, disrespect, even disdain. It attracts users. This applies to all relationships -- romantic and platonic, even familial -- but especially romantic. The first step is respecting ourselves and treating ourselves accordingly. Have a no-tolerance policy for bs or disrespect from ANYONE ever again and EXPECT good treatment.
It's funny how people can sense your standards and adjust their behavior automatically to be in alignment. It actually makes them feel good to treat you good. And good men feel their best when they step into their masculinity and become the givers, fixers, protectors and romantic pursuers, so let's accommodate them in that respect! When they see you as their dream girl, they will pull out all the stops and you'll know it. Even the jerks and narc will, but we aren't entertaining them.
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Sorry I just want an egaltarian relationship nothing much we would Persue each other with gifts , love each other, protect each other, provide each otherr, cook each other, clean each other , wash clothes each other lol 😆
Hello lovely, could you possibly do a video with the last guy, just before you started speaking? Because what I've learned in these last couple of years of enlightenment is, me and are stupid, they know exactly what they are and are not doing. American men in particular know what Valentine's Day entails, just like they know what super bowl entails. I would just like to hear the comments because I have quite a rebuttal to that guy who said we got to teach them, show them, they don't know,. They know.
Oh ok I am sure he has more from where that came from. I’ll do a little digging
@@Priscilla_BoyeI just think it would be real interesting to hear the input from women on his comment.
"It's a made up, commercial holiday" "I dont celebrate it because it's a pagan holiday" Yep, I've heard it all.
Pretty sure romance does have a definition 😂
Happy Palentine's Day❤
It's not about being "romantic" it's about effort. Men are fighting for the right to be lazy and not do anything. If he starts treating her well she will always expect it, if he does the bare minimum or nothing at all he thinks she won't expect anything from him. Men like this either don't care if you leave them or they think they can treat you like an animal my "training" you into not expecting anything from them.
Wasn't he romantic in the beginning?
My bf started doing nice stuff like that when I started to treat him how he treats me (like shit)
Break up with your boyfriend....do you really want love that is not being served healthily?you deserve so much more
Men can be romantic when they want to be and its usually for a woman they really want to be with. Guys will treat you based on how they feel about you, if don't think you're worth the time or energy, they will show it to you in various ways. That's why i say, if you are a man or woman, don't settle for someone you know you're not 100% into or in love with, just be single until you find the person you want and who wants you back..it's not hard to be single.
Like ... "boyfriend" is a romantic role. That's a romantic designation. How tf you have a boyfriend that's not romantic? The answer is: you don't! You have a FWB, at best. Which is fine, but you can't expect a FWB to be romantic. Giving an ultimatum like this is crazy work. Go get a real boyfriend!
Neither my bf nor I are very romantic. But we still buy each other birthday dinners, he still gets me chocolate on V-Day, this man tried sooo hard to find me a clip that would hold my massive hair, etc. We still show we give a damn.
I think Valentine’s Day is really stupid. It’s just an excuse for my husband and I to spend money on ourselves. Now that we’re in our 40’s and don’t need an excuse. I could honestly care less. Just establish boundaries and be honest. If he isn’t romantic ask him why. If the answer is a gaslight, then he needs to go. If he’s being honest in return. Tell him what you need him to do. If he doesn’t do it, bye.
I think celebrating Valentine's day or any other holiday provides an excuse to get out of your usual routine, which can be healthy because it brings freshness to the relationship.
That last part made me cry lol I lost it at "it's just me"
Idk but for me I’m not heavy on romance pass year 5 or 6 of our marraige. After while, it just feels cheesy and I’d rather him just give me more money and leave me alone 😂😂❤
They just common sense let’s take it back to kindergarten…. What do you think is girly?? Now apply it in adult form lordt my five year old gave a girl candy for valentine day 🙄
Ladies, stop waiting and hoping and wishing and praying and PREYING and hinting at men let alone anyone else for any kind of affection, romance or whatever it is. It's not cute. Use your voice in a nonconfrontational way. Assert yourself confidently from the beginning and you won't have these problems. And stop comparing yourself to others. As stated in this video, what you see online can be fake. I bet you the lady complaining about dude not being romantic and not having a romantic bone in his body wants people to mind read. And if he wanted to he would no matter the cost, size, or gesture.
Just keep it real, ladies. Some of us ,ya'll, are not "that" womam he wants to do that for. Come to grip about it. It's okay. There is a Pecking order. Pay attention to the women who are not complaining. 🎉❤
There are just unhappy men. Happy couples are just a pair of blessed people
Valentines day is for the merchant
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Me, the Autistic whose life has improved immeasurably since deciding to only date other Autistics, sitting here munching on the popcorn as I’m reminded yet again why I find the allistic world SO bizarre and uncomfortable…. Apparently there’s a confusion between the word ‘romantic’ and ‘paying attention’? Has the woman in the first video even EXPRESSED- at ALL- her wants, needs and desires? Or is she doing that dumb allistic thing of ‘he should know’ and standing in the belief that a ‘real’ partner would be able to ‘read her mind’ and ‘just know’?
It was the elements in the last sentence in my previous relationship that made me swear I’d never date an allistic individual again- just NO MORE to the crazy.
Neurotypical dating is weird and the way relationships are approached is frightening- so much _mindreading_ and ‘you should know’ and ‘this is how it is for EVERYBODY’- Autistic culture is the exact opposite.
(I was asked recently if I’d take a pill to ‘cure’ my level 2 Autism if one was available and I just started laughing- the absolute LAST thing I would ever, ever want would to be neurotypical, have you SEEN their weirdness, their lack of empathy, their weird overstimulated emotionality and inability to communicate amongst themselves? Mmm.)
What the fuck is ‘romance’ if it’s _performative_ ? I would be absolutely grossed out by a bunch of flowers unless it was _dead_ ones covered in seeds and my partner was saying ‘I knew you wanted some of these and I saw this, thought you might be able to propagate them’.
The demonstration of someone paying _attention_ to the things I’m saying, the way they demonstrate they know my desires and wants because _I’ve clearly expressed them and what I would love_ and then they refer to those things, bring them into my life in some way on a regular basis- THAT’S what does it for me. The thing is, this is foundational to healthy relationship- being seen, reflected, heard, responded to- not ‘romantic’, which is a performative action that proves nothing but the ability to act in a performative way. How many who have cheated make romantic gestures on the regular? Makes zero sense.
Obsessions with specific days are weird and if you’re dating someone on the spectrum or with ADHD, unless they have a good handle on days as it is they’re not going to remember this one either- and then you’re going to make it _personal_ ?
I mean, a woman wants something, and I tend to say it
It honestly doesn’t matter so much whether someone is on the spectrum. Men know the difference.
The very reason that it takes more effort is the reason it (whatever it is) is noticed and recognized. You do it for the one you desire most. It’s not an everyday occurrence. The video wasn’t just about Valentine’s Day it was about allowing men to lie and say they don’t know the definition of romance is.
There’s way too much media and information that give examples of this. It’s not just flowers and chocolates. You find out what your person finds alluring and go above and beyond with that.
It could be a favorite fragrance, or a shopping spree at their favorite store, it could be tickets to see their favorite artist in concert or show. Whatever it is it’s would show you were paying attention and knew it would make their heart sing. It would show you see them and understand their own unique desires and needs.
That’s not the same as hey I saw we were out of laundry detergent so I went out and got some. No, it must be unique to them. Thats romantic. These gestures don’t have to be done on Valentine’s Day they can be done anytime but preferably the right time.
I don't have a single "romantic" bone in my body and I'm a woman.
Buying flowers or chocolates is not romantic. It's a cheap way to get a girl who thinks so. Fixing a broken thing, being useful, being there for you is true romanticism.
That's not 'true romance' ...thats your definition of it....its not a one size fits all....just cuz you don't like flowers and chocolate doesn't mean that giving a person you love them who likes them isn't a romantic gesture....likeeeeee3 stop it
My african man is not romantic because the thought is there but the execution sometimes fails him. I'm very spoiled though. Getting a tax degree sponsored until I get a bursary type of spoiled 😅
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The dude is aromantic
Indeed, an aromantic onlysexual.
Yeah, an aromantic ONLYs3xual 😂
My bf from Sweden he said they are used to 50/50 shit. I didn’t tell him but he figured out when it was time to pay for an Uber and he was shocked, he didn’t say anything but I saw it😂. During dinner he was like the culture here is different from what I’m used to (I’m from East Africa), and he proceeded to tell me about that 50/50 thing and I was like nah we don’t do that here😂😂 but he understood after that my man pays for everything. And if I want something he makes sure to give it to me lol😅. So ladies if he wanted to he would. They really do have that 50/50 thingy in Sweden😂 but he changed for the better😂
Mind you he learned from our first date, imagine if I acted like I was okay with it😂
Exactly! They adjust and learn quickly. Let him! ❤
So u should cook, clean , wash his clothes raise his children, do all gardening by urself and if u have quit it too..
*american black men. Wm know.
Not my American black man
Most African men as such to be honest!!😢😢😅😅
Yeah they are rubbish 😅sorry
Dating must be HELL for the Autistic, remembering specific days in which you treat people differently dependent on?
*DON'T COMPLAIN ABOUT WHAT YOU ALLOW*
I'm sorry, but women need to understand that a lot of men aren't going to do everything you "think" or "feel" like they should do. If you don't communicate what you like and or how often you'd like it or even ask, the chances of you being disappointed are going to be even higher. Of course if there's no effort being put in at all, then that is an issue that should be addressed. But women will never have this "ideal" relationship under the assumption of what men are supposed to do because men are individuals and they may or may not know how to just do something. Sadly, they will often times need to be told or asked.