That ex-best friend who is marrying the ex-fiance didn’t ask her to be the maid of honor because she liked this woman. The ex-BF asked her to rub it in her face that SHE’S marrying the man, not the woman. For my sanity, I am not friends with male-centered women, and I’m not friends with self-centered women who want to use my resources and energy while not providing anything in return.
Yes. I don’t understand why people feel the need to make their friends or family be friends their boyfriend or husband then get surprised that one of them done slept with or stole your man. Keeping these relationships separate ensures no one can build an intimate connection with your man because that’s how this kind of situation happens.
Getting married or being in a relationship sometimes doesn’t feel like it’s worth it. It’s very emotionally draining. And a lot of people just want to play games. You could be married and pregnant, and your partner will still be looking for other options. Where does it end? Keep your energy to heal yourself.
FACTSS!!!!!! Because who in their right mind after betraying her BFF would ask them to be in the wedding as the maid of honor?????? She was definitely rubbing it in her face!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!🤬😡😤😠
Me personally, i wouldn't give a damn if they got married, they probably deserve eachother but the nerve and disrespect to not only invite me but to ask me to be maid of honor like standing there like a fool as my ex boyfriend and ex bestfriend get married is beyond me
This title just got me so triggered, I had a friend who would flirt with guys that I told her I liked in confidence. We aren't friends anymore. And its not about the guy, its the fact that I trusted you, and you chose the guy over our friendship that hurts the most.
My “friend” went on a date that she didn’t tell me about with my crush in high school. She knew I liked him but he didn’t know because I didn’t tell him yet, and she took that opportunity to pounce. Jokes on her though, that was the only date and he didn’t like her. He and I are married with a beautiful family all of these years later 😌
Lol, this is the plot of the Kdrama Marry My Husband. The female lead says "Thanks for picking up my trash" Basically, she stole your problem, not your man
The lady with the blonde hair has just put into words exactly what i went through with a woman ( so-called friend) who moved just like that. Ultimately, from what I've learned is when you spot that negative spirit, DO NOT proceed any further. The negativity is usually very deep seated, and they will ultimately transfer that energy onto you because you're the closest to them. Most people with that kind of spirit should be left on their own , the negative spirit is too strong and will leave you feeling drained. There are some people in life you just can't help no matter how hard you try.
I agree 100%. It happened to me a month ago. I ended the friendship because the negativity was too much for me to handle despite my efforts to make the other person happy.
Friendship is based on Loyalty, not convenience, not popularity. There is a big difference between Acquaintances and friends. Its ultimately up to you to realize this or get your heart broken. Betrayal sucks.
@@Misamane648I was also thinking this. I’m a person where if I don’t have it, I don’t have it and I like to splurge on myself so I wouldn’t take up the offer of being paid for because I’d want to get what I want, not what I feel obliged not to spend and would offer to take her out expenses paid on a different day. However the friend who was getting paid for was out of order for running up a bill she doesn’t have money for and wasn’t having to pay back. I would have went for the cheapest things no alcohol.
I would go and give a speech congratulating them. Letting everyone know how they met and the audacity. I'd also show up looking my best. Don't even get me started on the dress
I too used to have raggedy ass friends that would be shady and salty to me on my birthday and I am glad we are all setting boundaries and letting go of these toxic folks. I would’ve ordered a water and an appetizer and still would’ve given sis her money back and some when I had it. Ugh. Odd behavior smh
It’s like in Friends, when Barry was cheating on Rachel with Mindy and then Mindy asked Rachel to be her maid of honour, then Rachel got humiliated at their wedding. I still don’t know why she even agreed to this and came to the wedding
I had a friend like that. Met a guy back in high school and he asked me out. We went in a couple of dates and at some point, I introduced them together. At some point, he started talking to me less frequently and I was informed by a common friend that he was going to my friend's home, after visiting the pharmacy across her home, when she was home alone. Their romance lasted some days and he started to talk to me again. I confronted him about the rumours I had heard and he accepted that he was sleeping with my friend, but it was not serious and since me and him were not yet in a relationship, he was doing nothing wrong.... I never confronted her about it, but at some point, while we were all out and she got drunk, she started apologising to me about what happened with him and told me that he was violent during intercourse. I would assume I dodged a bullet that time.
I believe she was just trying to rub it in her face!! She should just have blocked her and ignored the request. When several previously close friends got married several years ago (literally one after the other), these were generally girls who I had gone to School or Uni with and I hadn't really seen for years, they made sure to invite me to their weddings so they could gloat about how THEY were getting married and I was not. I didn't understand this at the time, and I was just happy for them and very gladly and happily went ALONE to these weddings. I danced well and ate great food!!😆😆😆 I only figured it out afterwards that these girls had been trying to make me feel inferior... It didn't work. My experience with NIGERIAN girls, is that it's all about who has a husband and who does not. She should leave her ex bestie and her 'man' to it. They deserve each other. Nothing that begins in this wicked messy way will work well longer term.
So true Sis, so true. Most Nigerian women are male centred, let them continue to hold on to energy and peace draining relationships, no one cares over here.
The friend who ordered a drink but don’t drink didn’t wanna come to celebrate you you insisted that’s why she wanted everything you got and then some 😢
I’ll say I have never in my 32 years had friends such as these. I’m very good at picking friends who are on my vibe my whole life. I can spot phony a mile away. And if you gossip and are very nasty when you talk about other people I just know we can’t be friends.
11:05 Lol. I used to do that all the time; that is, be friends with someone unworthy of my friendship because they didn't have any other friends. Never again.
Yeah don't do it the guy that immediately got married after a break up looks like the dumb one here because you should never rush marriage it's bad luck. The ex is the smart one here because she didn't give into his selfish demands she stayed firm in what she wanted and he found that intimidating so he looked for a woman with less experience in dating so he could manipulate the situation to his advantage he didn't cheat but he still cheated himself because if marriage is what he truly wanted he would have taken some time off to be single for awhile and made some new friends or spoke to a therapist.
Yeah this why i don’t have friends because its difficult finding trustworthy ppl. But you’re so right it’s no point disturbing your peace over someone who isn’t adding value anything to your life. This is why even when ppl I barely know try to have problems with me I’m not taking it personal anymore. I’m just gonna stay away and ignore them
I used to have this same view with not having friends due to trust. As I have grown I’ve realized that friendship and connection of some sort is important BUT with people who are worth it and have morals. We don’t need a lot of friends. We only need a couple trustworthy people who understand boundaries and respect for your personal life. We weren’t taught how to vet friends and as I’ve learned how to do so I’ve been able to make a few friends that’s uphold similar morals and boundaries as me. I’m my observation too many people are “friends” because of convenience, party life, gossip and trauma instead of being friends due to truly aligning with each other. Trying to be friends with people who are content with a chaotic life will only bring chaos to yours. People think friends are people we need to tell our business too when friends are people who we should enjoy moments with are there if we need each other. Friends should never be constantly comparing themselves to you, digging for details on your relationship, asking about your sex life with your partner.. as long as you are happy and being treated well there should be no further curiosity from them.. if they are overly curious about your man -> red flag. If they ask back to back nosey questions about your $$ or things that aren’t on topic what you’re comfortable sharing -> red flag. If you become open, one day you will meet your tribe. Your tribe will understand boundaries and not need to be told how to respect you or your relationship because they will be respectful people who understand principles and protections of what one values. Once we heal and know exactly who we are and realize the masses (the types we see and hear about all over social media) are not our tribe, we’re better off mentally. Funny thing is, your tribe is sitting home in isolation just like you and are on a similar journey that y’all will share in a few years after meeting.
When I ‘looked’ for friends I found mostly people with weird energy. When I stopped looking and prayed that the right friends be sent my way and just focused on myself and the things I already had in life, I met a friend. We can sit at lunch and talk for 2-3hrs easy with no invasive or nosey questioning and it’s just natural. Most women bond over talking about men, were both in relationship and there’s typically no topic that’s surrounds our men when we’re together. We talk about where we are in life, catch up and and then talk short term and long term goals, habits that we’re working on and whatever funny craziness that comes up in between.
@@SeUUme yeah maybe I just need to stop looking then and focus on getting myself together. Hopefully I’ll be able to meet someone easily the way you did
@@SeUUme yeah I love everything you said it’s definitely a lot of superficial friendships so I’m starting to see I don’t need to compare or worry that I’m not doing as well as others. You’re right I just need to focus on valuing what’s important so the right ppl will show up and the connection will be effortless. It’s definitely helped me reflect on what things were important in terms of true genuine friendships. So my solitude has definitely still helped me know more of who I want to be and just be a better version of myself in general. (Perhaps in preparation to welcome in people who are really for me )
@@naturallybecoming831 Yes exactly! You are on the right path. If you’re in tune with yourself you’ll know when you’ve meet a potential friend and they will be interested in exploring friendship with you as well. Your intuition won’t let you down. Keep in mind that so many people are afraid to say something so when you feel that friend connection you may be the one who’s supposed to step up and break the ice. I recently did so and they person thanked me for asking to hang out because she was a little shy to ask.
It's hard being the friend that has two friends that end up falling out badly and suddenly you have to pick between the two of them, and they are both expecting you to pick a side when you want to support both of them.
You pick the side that's been harmed, and you pick the person who has shown consistency and consideration. I'm sorry, but this isn't a complex situation. If one of my close friends does something to another good friend that hurts her, I'm failing like a shooting star away from that person. They are in the not-safe category in my brain. You can love that person if they're open to it and provide counsel, but if this is in your nature, they can keep their friendship.
I don’t think you need to pick a side because everything isn’t Black or white. However, if you do need to pick a side choose the one you align with the most and if might not be the one that was cheated on. Listen no one is all good or all bad, it just which one out weighs the other. At the end of your life your life will end 😂
The friend or the ex both hate themselves. The devil works to steal, kill, destroy and wants girl to hate herself. Girl, they did you a favor. Level up and be better for you. It won’t last. They’re disgusting.
Yea once my ex best friend recorded conversations and played it for ex fiancé, didn’t learn then, years later another friend bad mouthed to a then bf, who she introduced to me, all cis she was mad the man was doing more for me. Lol the man told me everything she said about me, he had respect for me as a person as we are from the same African country. He and her bf are friends and the men had a good laugh at her, little did she know her man was dogging her. I don’t know why women aren’t girls girl
I have four women friends and they would never do something disgusting like this,its these women that act entitled and like they are better than you gotta watch out for!, notice how they always are full of drama
aint a enough women are learning to support each other and going behind each others back, thats why we got some women out here crushing on their friends partner or being fake.
@@blossom1290 ...when one know better, one should do better. I have no time, energy, of patients to play will she or won't she with my life. I CHOOSE TO PUT ME FIRST.
I LOVE this Channel..! THANK YOUUUUUUUUUU I am 31, and I have NO Friends! Healing from the hurt, Cuz I know better days are coming!!!! ❤❤❤❤ Much love 🧿🧿🧿
I have a friend group of 6. NONE of these ladies like each other. I have to spend time with each one separately. It's so weird. Maybe it's me. I try so hard to get them to like each other. I'd love them to suck it up occasionally and have one girls trip or one birthday party. Nope I have 6 birthday celebrations. You would think that would be great.......it's not.. only drama.
Since he's a serial "fiance," he's probably having second thoughts on actually marrying the "best friend," and he probably told her so. That or he may be comparing his new fiance to the lady in this video and his "new" fiance is jealous and trying to hurt her. That or she's just plain mean and rubbing the engagement in her face!
LISTEN TO ME RIGHT NOW: no matter how hurtful betrayal is , there is a moment where you MUST admit that if your “ Friend” and “lover” can switch up on you like that, they DESERVE each other and you are better off without the both of those trash bags. Trust me, it’s coming from a girl who have been not only betrayed but SET UP for rape by what I thought high school best friend to destroy me, my sanity and reputation while removing me from the new group of people I’ve introduced them to when I moved to Paris between 17 and 19years old. The guy I used to date at this time found nothing better to do that fucking with my frienemy: I was so broken I literally was desociating for years out of shame and sorrow. When I regained my sanity a few years ago I realised FUCK those lame people, they are jealous and you are better off without them, regardless of how they get out of your life. Best part is, rest assured that when people link up ONLY out of despise against you, their “ relationship “ will never be strong enough to last the long run, no matter how much pretending they invest into it. It’s a matter of time, you gonna get your lick back ❤
I don't know. I don't care who an ex gets with. The bare an ex for a reason. Not all relationships end horrifically, and even if they do, we don't own anyone. What if that's their soulmate or divine partner 🤷🏽♀️ Who am I to be possessive of someone just because I once had a relationship with that person. As for asking her to be a bridesmaid? Or maid of honor? I mean, if she is still calling and considering that person best friend, why not? As adults choose who we allow to be a part of our story. Have a Beautiful Weekend Priscilla & All 💖 Edit: Wait, Ex best friend?I wouldn't pay her no mind or give her any energy.
If it was long after u had already broken up with ur ex...i can see it. but if they snuck around while u were still together, its obvious... Also, if u had a terrible messy break up and ur best friend dates them, even if it happens after it was over? That girl is shady and they shouldnt be ur friend anymore...
Paying for friends that center themselves and make you late for your events is a no no because they are jealous and only want to be around to see what you are doing, wreck your vibe or soak up your energy
She wants to rub it in her face. She's like "he's wifing me, not you." She better remember how she got him snd not bring any of her friends around him. You lose 'em the same way you get 'em.🤷🏾♀️😂
The birthday girl should have accepted that friend A couldn’t make it. Why offer to pay knowing it's an upscale restaurant, and things are pricey. Did she want her to eat french fries or something? 😂😂
From my experience, sometimes it's the trouble maker that expects you to end friendships with people. If I was already friends with someone, why should I be expected to cut them off because you can't get along with people ? Especially when it's multiples instances. There is a common denominator going. But all this petty stuff is why I don't really keep friends anymore. As a grown woman, I value my peace of mind. Too many women are catty and in silent competition with their "friends".
I really don't understand being mad about exes. I feel like most people have multiple exes. To be worried about who the ex is dating is you having baggage. Why you worried about that man. Being mad about who an ex is dating is like being mad that your friend moved into your old apartment after you bought a house.
The other “don’t like my friend” perspective seemed self serving! She sounds like she justifying. She has no female friends but yall had female mutual friends. Maybe I just missed something
maybe the mutual friend doesn't like her either.I had a ex best friend that would make fun of me to her cousins how I had no friends (i legit had like 4 other friends n was friends with her next door neighbor) .my ex fwb/fling would tell me shit like that's y nobody likes you(when he was upset) etc. My mom tells me the same shyt. lol My sis kissed my ex in front of me I was 16 so was he she was 21 (she pushed herself on him n grabbed him by the neck she's a dusty scorpiHOE) n would bully me about me n him not being officially b/f g/f. People love saying such n such have no friends or that's why nobody likes you. When it's them who secretly don't like you or have no real friends' other times when they tell you that it's because they know a mutual friend or friends don't like you but just isn't telling you.
one other friend tired to message him but end up on the wrong social media n the other confessed to sucking his Dieck. lol I'm no longer friends with any of these people. Women use to bully me bad over him. You be surprised how much women waste energy on bullying women over men who don't want them. Now at my big big age I stay away from people i still interact with others but i try to keep distance.
Nope I don't care if my friend is friends with people I don't talk to. They have a problem with me and not my friend, until I find out that my friend is saying something about or my friend also doesn't like me than o well we end it. But I don't agree
I would go with my full chest, I would make sure I look my best (yes outshine the bride and bring a date and even hire one if Ihave to) and I would hype you like you have never been hyped before and have the best time of my life and be the last to leave.
It’s not worth your energy; don’t change your beautiful self because of others. Move away from the negative people in that group and the good ones will come .. even if it might take a while, it’s worth it !❤
About the first story, judging by the title alone I don't have strong feelings about it. Some people truly don't mind, and I am one of them. As in, if for some reason my best friend wanted to date my ex I would simply offer her advice if she asked, but I personally wouldn't be offended. So the issue is not the request, in my opinion, is the "how much you don't know you supposedly best friend to be unaware that she would find it uncomfortable, and even worse is to keep insisting when she had already declined".
Cutting friendship is hard esp when it gad been a long one...i cut my ex friend of long time 5 years ago &sometimes i wonder if i was being extra till i remember why i cut her 😂
@@roxywyndham you'd be surprised how much women are sexing their friends boyfriend/husband behind their friends back right now. Saying choose better friends is like men telling women choose better men. Alot of people are trashy, weird, low down, n secret haters. it's crazy how much people hang out with ppl they hate or don't like. I notice women do this more than men.
Friend A was telling you the whole time to not include her at your dinner, but to say you’re paying for someones dinner and in the back for your head like “get off the value menu…” don’t offer if that’s how you feel towards a friend that you feel will take advantage.
I hear you, not defending Friend A. She definitely should’ve been more considerate about the fact that she is spending birthday girl’s money. HOWEVER, to offer to pay for someone’s meal at a celebration, I would budget for more that an appetizer lol
I don’t agree that your friends can’t be friends with people you don’t like. It is also very childish to expect someone to drop their friends just because you don’t like them. Sometimes it’s nothing personal and you just don’t vibe with that person. For instance I made a new friend and one of her friends I didn’t click with but could tolerate so I would be around her quite bit. I would communicate my annoyance to my friend as well and she would just listen and not take any sides yet emphasize with me. One day her friend had a bad experience and I reached out to her asked if she was okay and to let us know if she needed anything. The dislike was mutual between us and she changed her tune and no longer had an indifference towards me and we became friends. This proves my friend was loyal to us both because she would not have been open to being friends if she knew some of the things I said about her.😂 However there’s some things that you just don’t do and stealing your best friends man is one of them and is grounds for ending a friendship.
@@roxywyndham You may not like using the term stealing in reference to successful affairs but “Stealing” is whenever you take something that was not rightfully yours to begin with. In other words what was taken was the position as that persons girlfriend/wife or boyfriend/ girlfriend.
That ex-best friend who is marrying the ex-fiance didn’t ask her to be the maid of honor because she liked this woman. The ex-BF asked her to rub it in her face that SHE’S marrying the man, not the woman.
For my sanity, I am not friends with male-centered women, and I’m not friends with self-centered women who want to use my resources and energy while not providing anything in return.
That actually makes so much sense, I couldn’t figure how someone would have the gall. She definitely wanted to throw it in her face
What an odd thing to try and rub in her face lmao. Like she has something of value.
Girls let's say it one more time. Never ever date your friends ex. Number one rule.
Dating a friend's ex is like digging in their trash can!!
Say it louder for the pick me's in the back.
Thats how I realized Jenn didnt consider me a friend, cause she started dating my ex
Yea right , they gone read the opposite
Unless they dated in elementary 😂😂😂
These heffas are BOLD
VERY BOLD
Bold as hell !
Shameless!
bold and thirsty
This is entitlement at is worst, both the dude and fake friend are trash
This is why I believe in separation of friends and lovers. Never mix the two
Exactly! But when you say this people say, "you must be insecure". No, I'm smart. lol
Boundaries are necessary in friendships and relationships.
@@NamasteInYourLanebig facts
I agree
Yes. I don’t understand why people feel the need to make their friends or family be friends their boyfriend or husband then get surprised that one of them done slept with or stole your man. Keeping these relationships separate ensures no one can build an intimate connection with your man because that’s how this kind of situation happens.
If they cheat then they aren’t for you. Separation seem like a lot of energy and work 😂
Getting married or being in a relationship sometimes doesn’t feel like it’s worth it. It’s very emotionally draining. And a lot of people just want to play games. You could be married and pregnant, and your partner will still be looking for other options. Where does it end? Keep your energy to heal yourself.
Discernment plus faith is the key
I feel exactly the same
@@TheNinjapancake14and action
She wanted to let her know and rub it in her face. She was being cruel!
FACTSS!!!!!! Because who in their right mind after betraying her BFF would ask them to be in the wedding as the maid of honor?????? She was definitely rubbing it in her face!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!🤬😡😤😠
YUP! 🎯🎯🎯
Me personally, i wouldn't give a damn if they got married, they probably deserve eachother but the nerve and disrespect to not only invite me but to ask me to be maid of honor like standing there like a fool as my ex boyfriend and ex bestfriend get married is beyond me
This title just got me so triggered, I had a friend who would flirt with guys that I told her I liked in confidence. We aren't friends anymore. And its not about the guy, its the fact that I trusted you, and you chose the guy over our friendship that hurts the most.
No, youre right. She's not to be trusted
Don’t worry let them fools be together
They say we pose to give to the less fortunate
My “friend” went on a date that she didn’t tell me about with my crush in high school. She knew I liked him but he didn’t know because I didn’t tell him yet, and she took that opportunity to pounce. Jokes on her though, that was the only date and he didn’t like her. He and I are married with a beautiful family all of these years later 😌
Lol, this is the plot of the Kdrama Marry My Husband. The female lead says "Thanks for picking up my trash" Basically, she stole your problem, not your man
Love that Webtoon!
The title alone makes me want to fight. This is why I stay at my house and don't talk to people.
Literally all I saw was red
😂😂😂 indeed🎉🎉
Oh you too 😂😂. Happy single and ALONE
LMFAOOOOO right
The lady with the blonde hair has just put into words exactly what i went through with a woman ( so-called friend) who moved just like that. Ultimately, from what I've learned is when you spot that negative spirit, DO NOT proceed any further. The negativity is usually very deep seated, and they will ultimately transfer that energy onto you because you're the closest to them. Most people with that kind of spirit should be left on their own , the negative spirit is too strong and will leave you feeling drained. There are some people in life you just can't help no matter how hard you try.
It’s called Jezebel spirit aka narcissist traits. 😂
I agree 100%. It happened to me a month ago. I ended the friendship because the negativity was too much for me to handle despite my efforts to make the other person happy.
it’s so sad how emotionally unintelligent some people truly are
Friendship is based on Loyalty, not convenience, not popularity. There is a big difference between Acquaintances and friends. Its ultimately up to you to realize this or get your heart broken. Betrayal sucks.
This. I have a lot of friendly acquaintances, but I have very few friends.
Birthday are meant for spoiling your girlfriend, not for asking to her to pay your bill on her birthday 🤦🏻♀️
Friend A is hateful and spoiled.🙄
In my early 20s, I had a bf who would borrow money from me to send me flowers at my work! 😂 Boy, I'm glad I'm older now.
The birthday girl offered tho, friend A said she couldn't make it. The birthday girl told her she would pay.
@@Misamane648I was also thinking this. I’m a person where if I don’t have it, I don’t have it and I like to splurge on myself so I wouldn’t take up the offer of being paid for because I’d want to get what I want, not what I feel obliged not to spend and would offer to take her out expenses paid on a different day.
However the friend who was getting paid for was out of order for running up a bill she doesn’t have money for and wasn’t having to pay back. I would have went for the cheapest things no alcohol.
I’m petty. I would have attended and wore a scandalous white dress. I’m gonna show out at your wedding 😂😂😂 the aunties would be big mad.
I relate so much to a friend copying everything that I do it’s exhausting. I stopped sharing and I limit everything I tell her.
That's not your friend. Slowly do what you need to do to end the relationship with her. Good luck
I would go and give a speech congratulating them. Letting everyone know how they met and the audacity. I'd also show up looking my best. Don't even get me started on the dress
This is what I would’ve done 😂
I too used to have raggedy ass friends that would be shady and salty to me on my birthday and I am glad we are all setting boundaries and letting go of these toxic folks. I would’ve ordered a water and an appetizer and still would’ve given sis her money back and some when I had it. Ugh. Odd behavior smh
This has happened to me its funny now. But it hurt back then
I wouldn’t be friends with either of em but I’d be happy for them and keep it pushing
you will lose them the same way you get them
It’s like in Friends, when Barry was cheating on Rachel with Mindy and then Mindy asked Rachel to be her maid of honour, then Rachel got humiliated at their wedding. I still don’t know why she even agreed to this and came to the wedding
I had a friend like that. Met a guy back in high school and he asked me out. We went in a couple of dates and at some point, I introduced them together. At some point, he started talking to me less frequently and I was informed by a common friend that he was going to my friend's home, after visiting the pharmacy across her home, when she was home alone. Their romance lasted some days and he started to talk to me again. I confronted him about the rumours I had heard and he accepted that he was sleeping with my friend, but it was not serious and since me and him were not yet in a relationship, he was doing nothing wrong.... I never confronted her about it, but at some point, while we were all out and she got drunk, she started apologising to me about what happened with him and told me that he was violent during intercourse. I would assume I dodged a bullet that time.
I believe she was just trying to rub it in her face!! She should just have blocked her and ignored the request.
When several previously close friends got married several years ago (literally one after the other), these were generally girls who I had gone to School or Uni with and I hadn't really seen for years, they made sure to invite me to their weddings so they could gloat about how THEY were getting married and I was not.
I didn't understand this at the time, and I was just happy for them and very gladly and happily went ALONE to these weddings. I danced well and ate great food!!😆😆😆
I only figured it out afterwards that these girls had been trying to make me feel inferior... It didn't work.
My experience with NIGERIAN girls, is that it's all about who has a husband and who does not. She should leave her ex bestie and her 'man' to it. They deserve each other. Nothing that begins in this wicked messy way will work well longer term.
It worked out for Alicia Keys.
@@tjaspirelol, where is she today? Even though her marriage lasts 25 years before divorce, it is still a failed marriage.
So true Sis, so true. Most Nigerian women are male centred, let them continue to hold on to energy and peace draining relationships, no one cares over here.
The friend who ordered a drink but don’t drink didn’t wanna come to celebrate you you insisted that’s why she wanted everything you got and then some 😢
I was thinking the exact same thing.
Oh, he’s going to drag that ‘best friend’ through hell and back in that marriage.
She wasn't really your friend to begin with!
I instantly saw red 🌚🤧
I’ll say I have never in my 32 years had friends such as these. I’m very good at picking friends who are on my vibe my whole life. I can spot phony a mile away. And if you gossip and are very nasty when you talk about other people I just know we can’t be friends.
Sometimes it’s better to have a simpler, drama free life
11:05 Lol. I used to do that all the time; that is, be friends with someone unworthy of my friendship because they didn't have any other friends. Never again.
Yeah don't do it the guy that immediately got married after a break up looks like the dumb one here because you should never rush marriage it's bad luck. The ex is the smart one here because she didn't give into his selfish demands she stayed firm in what she wanted and he found that intimidating so he looked for a woman with less experience in dating so he could manipulate the situation to his advantage he didn't cheat but he still cheated himself because if marriage is what he truly wanted he would have taken some time off to be single for awhile and made some new friends or spoke to a therapist.
Yeah this why i don’t have friends because its difficult finding trustworthy ppl. But you’re so right it’s no point disturbing your peace over someone who isn’t adding value anything to your life. This is why even when ppl I barely know try to have problems with me I’m not taking it personal anymore. I’m just gonna stay away and ignore them
I used to have this same view with not having friends due to trust. As I have grown I’ve realized that friendship and connection of some sort is important BUT with people who are worth it and have morals. We don’t need a lot of friends. We only need a couple trustworthy people who understand boundaries and respect for your personal life. We weren’t taught how to vet friends and as I’ve learned how to do so I’ve been able to make a few friends that’s uphold similar morals and boundaries as me.
I’m my observation too many people are “friends” because of convenience, party life, gossip and trauma instead of being friends due to truly aligning with each other. Trying to be friends with people who are content with a chaotic life will only bring chaos to yours.
People think friends are people we need to tell our business too when friends are people who we should enjoy moments with are there if we need each other. Friends should never be constantly comparing themselves to you, digging for details on your relationship, asking about your sex life with your partner.. as long as you are happy and being treated well there should be no further curiosity from them.. if they are overly curious about your man -> red flag. If they ask back to back nosey questions about your $$ or things that aren’t on topic what you’re comfortable sharing -> red flag.
If you become open, one day you will meet your tribe. Your tribe will understand boundaries and not need to be told how to respect you or your relationship because they will be respectful people who understand principles and protections of what one values.
Once we heal and know exactly who we are and realize the masses (the types we see and hear about all over social media) are not our tribe, we’re better off mentally. Funny thing is, your tribe is sitting home in isolation just like you and are on a similar journey that y’all will share in a few years after meeting.
When I ‘looked’ for friends I found mostly people with weird energy. When I stopped looking and prayed that the right friends be sent my way and just focused on myself and the things I already had in life, I met a friend. We can sit at lunch and talk for 2-3hrs easy with no invasive or nosey questioning and it’s just natural. Most women bond over talking about men, were both in relationship and there’s typically no topic that’s surrounds our men when we’re together. We talk about where we are in life, catch up and and then talk short term and long term goals, habits that we’re working on and whatever funny craziness that comes up in between.
@@SeUUme yeah maybe I just need to stop looking then and focus on getting myself together. Hopefully I’ll be able to meet someone easily the way you did
@@SeUUme yeah I love everything you said it’s definitely a lot of superficial friendships so I’m starting to see I don’t need to compare or worry that I’m not doing as well as others. You’re right I just need to focus on valuing what’s important so the right ppl will show up and the connection will be effortless. It’s definitely helped me reflect on what things were important in terms of true genuine friendships. So my solitude has definitely still helped me know more of who I want to be and just be a better version of myself in general. (Perhaps in preparation to welcome in people who are really for me )
@@naturallybecoming831 Yes exactly! You are on the right path. If you’re in tune with yourself you’ll know when you’ve meet a potential friend and they will be interested in exploring friendship with you as well. Your intuition won’t let you down. Keep in mind that so many people are afraid to say something so when you feel that friend connection you may be the one who’s supposed to step up and break the ice. I recently did so and they person thanked me for asking to hang out because she was a little shy to ask.
It's hard being the friend that has two friends that end up falling out badly and suddenly you have to pick between the two of them, and they are both expecting you to pick a side when you want to support both of them.
You are also the type of friend we need to keep a distance from .
You pick the side that's been harmed, and you pick the person who has shown consistency and consideration. I'm sorry, but this isn't a complex situation. If one of my close friends does something to another good friend that hurts her, I'm failing like a shooting star away from that person. They are in the not-safe category in my brain. You can love that person if they're open to it and provide counsel, but if this is in your nature, they can keep their friendship.
I don’t think you need to pick a side because everything isn’t Black or white. However, if you do need to pick a side choose the one you align with the most and if might not be the one that was cheated on. Listen no one is all good or all bad, it just which one out weighs the other. At the end of your life your life will end 😂
The friend or the ex both hate themselves. The devil works to steal, kill, destroy and wants girl to hate herself. Girl, they did you a favor. Level up and be better for you. It won’t last. They’re disgusting.
You stole her man and had the audacity to ask her to be in your wedding? The delusion is real. 😂
Yea once my ex best friend recorded conversations and played it for ex fiancé, didn’t learn then, years later another friend bad mouthed to a then bf, who she introduced to me, all cis she was mad the man was doing more for me. Lol the man told me everything she said about me, he had respect for me as a person as we are from the same African country. He and her bf are friends and the men had a good laugh at her, little did she know her man was dogging her. I don’t know why women aren’t girls girl
THIS is one of the many reasons why I don't want/keep women friends. Smh.
I have four women friends and they would never do something disgusting like this,its these women that act entitled and like they are better than you gotta watch out for!, notice how they always are full of drama
aint a enough women are learning to support each other and going behind each others back, thats why we got some women out here crushing on their friends partner or being fake.
@@blossom1290 ..Good for you, HOWEVER, there will always be a first time for everything. It's only a matter of time, or changed circumstances.
@@blossom1290 ...when one know better, one should do better. I have no time, energy, of patients to play will she or won't she with my life. I CHOOSE TO PUT ME FIRST.
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I had to breathe before clicking this video. Because WHAT! 😩. The RAGE I would feel.
I have a friend group of 6. NONE of these ladies like each other. I have to spend time with each one separately. It's so weird. Maybe it's me. I try so hard to get them to like each other. I'd love them to suck it up occasionally and have one girls trip or one birthday party. Nope I have 6 birthday celebrations. You would think that would be great.......it's not.. only drama.
You may wanna watch out they probably don't like you behind your back. That's a weird situation.
Since he's a serial "fiance," he's probably having second thoughts on actually marrying the "best friend," and he probably told her so. That or he may be comparing his new fiance to the lady in this video and his "new" fiance is jealous and trying to hurt her. That or she's just plain mean and rubbing the engagement in her face!
Life is too short to have relationships that don't work for me.
LISTEN TO ME RIGHT NOW: no matter how hurtful betrayal is , there is a moment where you MUST admit that if your “
Friend” and “lover” can switch up on you like that, they DESERVE each other and you are better off without the both of those trash bags. Trust me, it’s coming from a girl who have been not only betrayed but SET UP for rape by what I thought high school best friend to destroy me, my sanity and reputation while removing me from the new group of people I’ve introduced them to when I moved to Paris between 17 and 19years old. The guy I used to date at this time found nothing better to do that fucking with my frienemy: I was so broken I literally was desociating for years out of shame and sorrow. When I regained my sanity a few years ago I realised FUCK those lame people, they are jealous and you are better off without them, regardless of how they get out of your life. Best part is, rest assured that when people link up ONLY out of despise against you, their “ relationship “ will never be strong enough to last the long run, no matter how much pretending they invest into it. It’s a matter of time, you gonna get your lick back ❤
I don't know. I don't care who an ex gets with. The bare an ex for a reason. Not all relationships end horrifically, and even if they do, we don't own anyone. What if that's their soulmate or divine partner 🤷🏽♀️ Who am I to be possessive of someone just because I once had a relationship with that person.
As for asking her to be a bridesmaid? Or maid of honor? I mean, if she is still calling and considering that person best friend, why not?
As adults choose who we allow to be a part of our story. Have a Beautiful Weekend Priscilla & All
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Edit: Wait, Ex best friend?I wouldn't pay her no mind or give her any energy.
U missed the part where she stated he was her fiancé when he started dating her best friend
@@ventriced7608Yes, I did miss that. They shouldn't even be a thought in her mind. I hope she can get to that place.
I would have responded May Karma Bless your marriage and blocked her
If it was long after u had already broken up with ur ex...i can see it. but if they snuck around while u were still together, its obvious...
Also, if u had a terrible messy break up and ur best friend dates them, even if it happens after it was over? That girl is shady and they shouldnt be ur friend anymore...
Paying for friends that center themselves and make you late for your events is a no no because they are jealous and only want to be around to see what you are doing, wreck your vibe or soak up your energy
She wants to rub it in her face. She's like "he's wifing me, not you." She better remember how she got him snd not bring any of her friends around him. You lose 'em the same way you get 'em.🤷🏾♀️😂
That’s CRAZY!!! She needs to block her number.
Birthday dinner fiasco...friend A? Oh yeah, she was just waiting to show her she didnt really like her. She wanted to make a grand gesture! Mmmm
8:49 her ex-friend is histrionic aka low-level narcissist 😂. I have an ex friend like that.
Ya'll are going to be surprised on who I blame for this 1.....Ladies, learn how to shut your mouth when you're in a relationship with a good dude.
If he is a good dude he would never do shit like that. He would tell the friend to get her ass on.
Seriously. I'm not trying to hear that crap. 😂
Girl if the person is “good” they won’t hurt you like that 😂
Girrrrl. She is an X-friend for a reason. Stand your ground. NO!
The birthday girl should have accepted that friend A couldn’t make it.
Why offer to pay knowing it's an upscale restaurant, and things are pricey. Did she want her to eat french fries or something? 😂😂
Did you not hear the story 😆
I would stay the hell far away from them or anything to do with them…they deserve each other!!!😅😅😅
From my experience, sometimes it's the trouble maker that expects you to end friendships with people. If I was already friends with someone, why should I be expected to cut them off because you can't get along with people ? Especially when it's multiples instances. There is a common denominator going.
But all this petty stuff is why I don't really keep friends anymore. As a grown woman, I value my peace of mind. Too many women are catty and in silent competition with their "friends".
It’s giving sociopathic behavior..
I cannot believe the audacity.
I really don't understand being mad about exes. I feel like most people have multiple exes. To be worried about who the ex is dating is you having baggage. Why you worried about that man. Being mad about who an ex is dating is like being mad that your friend moved into your old apartment after you bought a house.
Friends show, Rachel Green maid of honor for Barry & Mandy's wedding.
The other “don’t like my friend” perspective seemed self serving! She sounds like she justifying. She has no female friends but yall had female mutual friends. Maybe I just missed something
maybe the mutual friend doesn't like her either.I had a ex best friend that would make fun of me to her cousins how I had no friends (i legit had like 4 other friends n was friends with her next door neighbor) .my ex fwb/fling would tell me shit like that's y nobody likes you(when he was upset) etc. My mom tells me the same shyt. lol My sis kissed my ex in front of me I was 16 so was he she was 21 (she pushed herself on him n grabbed him by the neck she's a dusty scorpiHOE) n would bully me about me n him not being officially b/f g/f. People love saying such n such have no friends or that's why nobody likes you. When it's them who secretly don't like you or have no real friends' other times when they tell you that it's because they know a mutual friend or friends don't like you but just isn't telling you.
one other friend tired to message him but end up on the wrong social media n the other confessed to sucking his Dieck. lol I'm no longer friends with any of these people. Women use to bully me bad over him. You be surprised how much women waste energy on bullying women over men who don't want them. Now at my big big age I stay away from people i still interact with others but i try to keep distance.
Nope I don't care if my friend is friends with people I don't talk to. They have a problem with me and not my friend, until I find out that my friend is saying something about or my friend also doesn't like me than o well we end it. But I don't agree
I would go with my full chest, I would make sure I look my best (yes outshine the bride and bring a date and even hire one if Ihave to) and I would hype you like you have never been hyped before and have the best time of my life and be the last to leave.
Similar to my story plus they did black magics on me two devils
Short hair really brings out your eyes
*SHE WAS NEVER YOUR FRIEND POINT BLANK PERIOD*
Depends on how long they have been an ex . Like if it was someone from high school or early 20’s I wouldn’t care.
If that was me I would have gone jare hummm and I’ll mess that whole thing up for them.
Howntf is your ex best friend asking you for a favor when you not even friends anymore!!
She doesnt want that she just wanted to hurt her and let her know they are getting married.
This is how women end up on snapped...
I know for a fact my friend’s friends don’t like me. They’re all boys as well, but we also talk shit about them so that’s how I justify it. lol
Are you sure your friend is going back and talking about you to them?
It’s not worth your energy; don’t change your beautiful self because of others. Move away from the negative people in that group and the good ones will come .. even if it might take a while, it’s worth it !❤
@@NamasteInYourLane She probably is, but she's literally my only friend so I ignore it for now, but I know where we stand.
The tittle pulled me IN! …like WTF!!!😳
Trifling
About the first story, judging by the title alone I don't have strong feelings about it. Some people truly don't mind, and I am one of them. As in, if for some reason my best friend wanted to date my ex I would simply offer her advice if she asked, but I personally wouldn't be offended. So the issue is not the request, in my opinion, is the "how much you don't know you supposedly best friend to be unaware that she would find it uncomfortable, and even worse is to keep insisting when she had already declined".
It depends on the ex, if we were together for less than a year like 4 years before maybe, if it’s anything different I’d be unbelievably angry at her
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This is wilddd 😅
Cutting friendship is hard esp when it gad been a long one...i cut my ex friend of long time 5 years ago &sometimes i wonder if i was being extra till i remember why i cut her 😂
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Pricila do u have a white mom or a white dad u look bi racial ❤
I wanted to talk about atsv and they found a way to turn the conversation about the lack of trans and gay representation in mainstream films. 😢
This is why I don’t introduce my friends to my man
Get better friends 😂
@@roxywyndham it doesn’t matter what kind of friends, why you wanna know my man for? Your the type to sleep with your friends man clearly
@@roxywyndham you'd be surprised how much women are sexing their friends boyfriend/husband behind their friends back right now. Saying choose better friends is like men telling women choose better men. Alot of people are trashy, weird, low down, n secret haters. it's crazy how much people hang out with ppl they hate or don't like. I notice women do this more than men.
Friend A was telling you the whole time to not include her at your dinner, but to say you’re paying for someones dinner and in the back for your head like “get off the value menu…” don’t offer if that’s how you feel towards a friend that you feel will take advantage.
I hear you, not defending Friend A. She definitely should’ve been more considerate about the fact that she is spending birthday girl’s money. HOWEVER, to offer to pay for someone’s meal at a celebration, I would budget for more that an appetizer lol
I don’t agree that your friends can’t be friends with people you don’t like. It is also very childish to expect someone to drop their friends just because you don’t like them. Sometimes it’s nothing personal and you just don’t vibe with that person. For instance I made a new friend and one of her friends I didn’t click with but could tolerate so I would be around her quite bit. I would communicate my annoyance to my friend as well and she would just listen and not take any sides yet emphasize with me. One day her friend had a bad experience and I reached out to her asked if she was okay and to let us know if she needed anything. The dislike was mutual between us and she changed her tune and no longer had an indifference towards me and we became friends. This proves my friend was loyal to us both because she would not have been open to being friends if she knew some of the things I said about her.😂
However there’s some things that you just don’t do and stealing your best friends man is one of them and is grounds for ending a friendship.
“Stealing” no cheating but you can’t “steal” a person unless you’re involved with human trafficking
@@roxywyndham You may not like using the term stealing in reference to successful affairs but “Stealing” is whenever you take something that was not rightfully yours to begin with. In other words what was taken was the position as that persons girlfriend/wife or boyfriend/ girlfriend.
That’s so tacky