What These Men Have To Say About Stay-at-home Moms Will Shock You!
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 25 ส.ค. 2023
- These men on TikTok had a lot to say about stay-at-home mums and I think every man and woman must watch this.Are Stay at home mums lazy and privileged?
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Great video and nice to see some men being respectful of stay at home moms.
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@@Priscilla_BoyeToo bad my 78 yr old Mother couldn't be a stay at home Mom. She had a job since she was 12 and only just now "kind of retiring" just two years ago due to being a caretaker for her 94 yr old aunt.
@Pricilla_Boye Too.(Note: I wanted to clear up that that was MY wish not her because although she had to work, she didn't mind all that much because she never wanted to depend on a man for anyway. Oh, yes, I meant to also clear up that when she started working at 12. She really didn't have to work until she was 18 because her adopted dad was a good provider. So tge necessesity to have to work actually started at 18.
I’m binge watching channel.. girl .. it’s making sense oooh lol ..
"It's a privilege to be a SAHM", yeah for the HUSBAND.
I don't see the men volunteering to switch and the wives work.
It will cost us $150,000 to get someone to do what you do for free wow!
yet sahm's are lazy 🤔
Start charging
Lol these men know exactly what the hell they are doing 😂
That figure was from years ago. With inflation, it's probably much higher now.
😂😂😂
Let's not forget about the SAHM also being an unpaid bookkeeper, secretary, interior decorator, nurse, sex worker, stylist, event planner, project manager, nutritionist, tutor, therapist, etc.
Actually the hardest aspect of all of this is taking care of children - Because babies and toddlers and little kids they demand all of your time and all of your attention, they need to you every minute of every hour to entertain them, to keep them safe from falling etc., to feed them, to put them to sleep, to calm them, to dress them, etc.
It is the most energy consuming job in the world
And men actually question why most divorces are initiated by the women.
Because women don’t know how to maintain marriages. They quit instead of putting in the work.
@@ilikepancakes2368 a lot ppl dont know how to maintain marriages. Look at dr john delony. Its not just women
@@ilikepancakes2368they put in the work and theyre tired of being exploited
All these men would be singing a different tune if they had to actually PAY for the services that women do for FREE. And most go above and beyond even the standard.
Even if they had to do the jobs themselves.
Being a stay at home mom is NOT a privilege for the woman, it is for the man though. That shit is WORK!! Draining work for real.
Draining, monotonous, THANKLESS, repetitive work that almost NEVER is appreciated. Work that doesn't give you monetizable experience. The worst kind of work. And it's still not enough for them.
The second man made such an excellent point. Men don’t take being the stay-at-home parent as a serious role/job but they can’t spend 15 minutes alone with their kids without getting frustrated and angry.
I also hate all the talk about women “servicing” their men at night. I’m not a gas station attendant, who pumps your gas while you relax in the car. If women are feeling like it’s a task then their men need to step up and do some servicing themselves!!
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Puh-leassse men dont raise little ones - they hand kids over to the GRANDMA & aunties
Yeah the enablers 😆
They want traditional wives but then call those same women lazy and moochers. Damned if you do, damned if you don’t.
True
“Why won’t you have kids and get married?”
*gestures to this video*
😂😂😂😂😂exactly
I'd love to be a dad. If I could be a dad.. I'd be willing to have kids.
The first guy is really great. I have seen his content before. He really calls out men for their shitty behavior
Who is the first guy?
the guy with the beard and red colored suit?@@conflictpersona8
My husband worked full time and helped with the kids. He even got up with them at night. We would take turns on that. I never had to ask him to mow the lawn or take out the trash, and when he'd come home, he'd lay on the floor so the babies could crawl on him and play with him. I don't get some of these men. Kids are not an accessory, and they are not just "your legacy", they are your children! Never date or marry a man who wants kids without actually being a dad. Ask him why he wants kids first? Children should never be orgasms or "legacys" but precious gems that are carefully thought after.
You're completely right and I aspire to be a man like your husband. It doesn't matter if I'm the breadwinner, my wife and I split the bills, or if I have to for unforseen circumstances have to take care of the home I want to be their for my family and make sure they get the provisions they need. It's crazy how modern men call themselves traditional but can't do what a good traditional man could. Children aren't man's legacy but God's and god said to treat all with love and respect.
I won’t have kids unless I find a man like yours.
My husband is exactly like that. He has cherished and loved our kids and was involved completely every step of the way. I never had to ask for help because he understood we were a team. I have girlfriends who couldn’t even get a moment to shower themselves when their kids were infants because their husbands wouldn’t lift a finger to help out.
I’m a 30 yr old woman with no kids and people can’t stand that either. I’m selfish. My life is meaningless. I’m not a real woman. Etc
They are jealous haters. People want to see you struggle like they are.
@@KEOSHAANEILIA I even had someone tell me my “p*ssy* is trash because if I was any good in bed it’s no reason I don’t have kids yet
They're jealous!!!!
F them
What?!!
They would also say you’re worthless if you were a single mom 😡
"Being a SAHM is a privilege."
Yeah? So is having a wife...something I can tell he doesn't have.
I always answer that with yes it is for the dad and the kids not the mom. This from a SAHM that loves my family and the time I get to spend with my kids and watch them grow up. My oldest is 15 and I see the difference in him and the kids that have two working parents.
EXACTLY! You better let'em know sister!
@krystelhardesty9960 girl, then it is a privilege for u because your kids turn out better. It's a privilege for you because your husband provided u with the ABILITY to provide proper mothering to your children. U have a roof over your head and your children's head without having to do anything for it. U get to enjoy spendin time with them and watching them grow, in your own words. THAT IS your privilege. Imagine having to give all u give WITHOUT THAT. ur kids would not be as happy and able to flourish. U sound silly saying it's not a privilege for u. Ppl that are privileged want to be underprivileged so bad! 🙄
@@TEWMUCH LOL a roof over my and my kids head with out doing anything. Like I didn't work for years. I worked for most of my life waking up at 5 am to get to work so I would be home before my kids went to bed. You may see me as privileged but you weren't there to see all the BS my husband and I had to go to get to this point. The years of working and not having the things we needed so one day we could get here. So no its not a privileged for me its something I earned by working and being smart about the things I did in my life. Also the house we live in is mine I inherited it when my grand mother passed away but it came with a mortgage and my mother and I were the ones to take care of her in the end.
@krystelhardesty9960 ok so u paid for the home, but u still get time with your kids. And u ACTUALLY GET TO MOTHER THEM..even if it's a privilege YOU created yourself by saving money first. you still have the CHOICE to stay home. A privilege doesn't mean u didn't have to work for it. U worked for it and now your kids and you benefit. Again, there are ppl that WISH they had the option AND DON'T and never will. Be grateful.
Most divorces are initiated by stay at home moms.
I can’t imagine why🤣
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I believe it. 😅
Why are women sigining up for this shit? Stay single if you cannot find a real one.
FACTS TOO MANY WOMEN ARE ALLOWING THEIR HUSBANDS TO GIVE THEM AN ALLOWANCE THAT'S CRAZY
It’s because they change once they feel like the person is trapped. This happens after marriage or after pregnancy. It’s especially common after pregnancy.
Zero appreciation for stay at home parenting and then they wonder why women don't want to do it.
If you work you’ll still be doing all of that and taking care of a man. I was a stay at home mom for 10 years, a working married mom for 3 years, and a single mom for 7. My life is easier as a single mom. He made my life harder and controlled everything about it while benefiting from me being his slave.
That last guy, when he said that she has to look after his physical needs when he comes home. Yuck. She is not his s*x servant. Intimate time is not an obligation and is not part of a stay ant home moms work. It is when both partners share their love and desire for one another.
Unfortunately that’s how most men see it
@@Priscilla_Boye And women fall into the trap of believing it too🤦🏽♀️
guys will guilt trip you every day and scream it's a privilege to be a SAHM and then get mad if we don't want to do it.
If it's such a privilege to be a stay at home parent, why aren't we seeing more dads stepping up and staying home 🧐
@@HauntedCadavercuz Bn no woman is dumb enough to let me sit at home and play video games a. Stay-at-home dads barely exist. Only stay-at-home moms actually do anything
@@HauntedCadaverBecouse men are career driven, they need the thrill of the outside world, and I understand them, as someone that has traveled the globe and now is at home I feel bored, and boredom is death.
@@grazielaalmeida8438women are human too. no wonder housewives are so depressed with the monotony… just better sense of responsibility i guess
😂😂I don’t wanna be wiping ungrateful nutsacks😂😂😂heehee you can do that bro! Supposed to be better than me 😂😂
I remember on this language learning video’s comment section a man said he studied 2-3 hrs a day. So that everyone else was just lazy and didn’t take it seriously…I was too young to pay attention at the time. But I remember he said he works full time, married and a father. Now I realized why he could dedicate so much time on his studies. His wife was doing everything for him….
It really sad that some men don’t get how hard being a housewife and mother is until THEY experience just a portion of what it’s like for themselves. My mother still tells me stories of the role reversal stunts she had has to pull on my dad just to get modern conveniences like a washer and dryer, after hauling a weeks worth of dirty clothing and four children to a laundromat every week. Even now, as a grown woman who has raised her own kids, I’ve had to defend my mother in conversations with my father and talk him down off his BS perception that my mother’s life was “easy”. Talk about being unappreciative and thick…. RIP Daddy 💀
If you are this kind of man please take note. Your children are watching your behavior, especially your daughters. They absolutely WILL have thoughts and opinions about the type of man and father you were. If you don’t want a paragraph like the one I just wrote to be part of your legacy, then do more. Do better.
It is a privilege to be a stay at home mom when you have a loving caring supportive understanding husband. Most women wouldn’t mind, we just don’t want to be taken advantage of
Privilege compared to what? It's an unpaid duty.
It may not be a traditional job, but it is still a huge set of responsibilities.
@@leaellas8400 well 1st it’s a privilege to even be able to find a husband with all the qualities I just listed. Lots of ppl are having a hard time dating nowadays. And believe it or not some women don’t wanna work (like myself lol) so to be able to not only find an amazing partner but also a partner that makes enough money to be able to provide for the family without you having an income as well is indeed a privilege most families don’t have.
@@leaellas8400unpaid? You get free housing and free foods and possibly gifts. Forgot that part
@@Sagefrakrobatikfree food and housing and no salary,also no safety net. Would you take a job with these benefits?
@@sandradaniela1916 ok if it's so bad than why don't most women look for house husbands? I'm sure there are plenty of men that will gladly trade places.
It’s definitely not a privilege; working a full time job is much easier. It’s a sacrifice made in love. No one would willingly sacrifice their financial freedom to become dependent, take on multiple unpaid jobs & perpetual on-call status 24/7/365, if it were not for love of their family. Provision of food, clothing & shelter are not sufficient incentives. Coercive control & financial exploitation of SAHM’s & men’s refusal to participate in the family are the primary reasons women file for divorce 80% of the time.
Its a priviledge, a priviledge for HIM. He should be proud of what is done, appreciate what is done and support what is done.
Few women in the 21st century are SAHMs so I wouldn’t say SAHMs are what drive divorce
My ex husband and I agreed that I would stay at home ( not that I wanted this, our church at the time forced this). He would come home not help with chores or anything else. Then he had a spending problem. Once it became apparent to his supervisors that this was an issue(he was in the military) he lied and it was because I rEfUseD to work.
We women can’t win.
As a 43 y/o divorced, childfree woman I love my life. Dedicated myself to a tragic marriage for years right up until he got violent then I finally had enough. Had to completely rebuild my life, build my confidence and create firm boundaries. Now living my dream life ❤😊 Good luck ladies ❤
Thanks for sharing
BRAVO TO YOU SIS! ❤❤❤
Good thing you protected your womb from that man! Now you can peacefully live without being reminded of your former toxic relationship 👍🏽🙌🏽 wishing you the best
This is why I personally could never do this. These men say they want a sahm then hold it over her head and use it as a battering ram against her. Nope. I will ALWAYS have my own money. Always.
Sameeee 😊 it's always smooth talk during the talking stage then once married it's oh I'm doing all the work. Everything you buy is micro managed smh
It’s terrible
if it's "just" cooking and cleaning and childcare then why even have a wife to do it for you? if men think their wives' jobs are so easy why aren't they just doing them themselves?
They're too good for that. Below their level n stuff
@@sevp.8185They THINK they’re too good for that but they’re WRONG.
Some of these men,they mothers are the ones getting into their head treating them like a delicate human being so they are forever stuck in the prince’s and king’s shadows without growing up.
You should watch out for the mommy’s boy.
Lazy
My ex husband use to cry when it was his turn to take the baby a bath/ feed/dress her, because he supposedly didn’t know how & maybe crying would encourage me to take over. I’d just stare at him like he was an idiot.
Because he *was* an idiot💪
My mom's ex husband would behave the same way when my little brother was a baby. I saw him literally, tear drop crying because he had to change a diaper. It was pathetically sad.
@@Indyawillis85 wow, 😂 I’m speechless & here I thought it was just a “him” thing.
Wtf😂😂😂😂😂 that's so embarrassing to even read 🫢🫢
Typical male weaponized incompetence
I always felt like a married single parent.
When a spouse says of a SAHM that all she does is clean, cook and take care of kids….it is time to tell him to take a week of vacation, because you are going on vacation for a week and he needs to do your job. Be sure to write up a schedule for him inclusive of all the things you do. Others have done it and the spouses find it eye opening.
Same I would do this
Every mother in the world should do this to their rude/disrespectful S.O./ Spouses. They won’t be singing that same tune once they live in their shoes for a week. 💯😐
Nowadays having kids is lonely and difficult. No village, no one to help. Even a whole neighborhood, family and friends rather watch you struggle. Even most husbands watch you crumble and get sick and no one cares. It's plain sad.
Completely agree
Most households were multi-generational before the rise of consumer capitalism. I.e. "Get your OWN house".
There's good and bad there, but I feel like we have moved away from "the village".
It cost way more than 150K. Especially when you consider childbirth! It's priceless!
These men forget wife's had maids...no one person ever did it all.
Not most, only the well off.
$150,000 + is what it would cost in 2023 if a mom's job was paid. I will never stop being blown away by this fact.
Actually, it was calculated at over $150k several years ago before COVID
Saw a man the other day on his phone asking his daughter to spell her name so he could send a package 📦 and a lady told me the other day her husband does not even know his own daughters shoe size… beyond stupid and unnecessary!! So useless
What's useless? Knowing your children?
@@belle8i I think they meant that the husband who didn't know his own daughter's shoe size was useless.
Of someone hired a nanny and told her that all of this was going to be part of her job discription she wouldn’t take the job. It would be exhausting.
Did you mean description ?
@@zohramartini9425 damn auto correct!! 😂😂😂
@@Lovelyone1 Indeed, we are all victims of it though so needed in our life
I’m glad I’m not married neither have children
That's Excelent! If possible keep it that way. Your Life is minus sooooo much STRESS of dealing with an UNCONSIDERATE Man & Needy Children !
FACTS AND SAME HERE GIRLY IT REALLY MAKES ME WANNA VOMIT TO EVEN THINK ABOUT LYING DOWN TO HAVE A CHILD BY THESE SCUM BAGS I'M GOOD ON ALL OF THAT!!!!.... I LOVE HAVING A PEACE OF MINE VIBING ALONE BECAUSE BABY THESE MEN ARE NOT IT🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢
@@janemathaba7706 MS JANE SAY THAT LAST PART AGAIN PLEASE INCONSIDERATE🤢🤢🤢🤢
Neither do I...But we are not supposed to say that we are happy about it....😜🙄
I’m a stay at home mom and currently pregnant. I’m definitely on call 24/7 we are military so no friends and family around. I never get a break. Hubby goes to work and that’s it lol he will help if I ask. But other than that I’m exhausted. Working and putting your kids in daycare is definitely easier. One time my husband tried to get cocky with me during an argument. I was like “what do you do besides bring home a check?” Any man can do that. He’s never tried it again. Because it’s true, I cook breakfast, lunch , dinner, clean, bathe the kids, grocery shopping, laundry, clean up after him, clean up after the kids, fold his clothes, take kids to appointments, therapy, school, IM TIRED. But I do it. I’d rather work and let him stay home but guess what? Nothing will get done. People think I’m so lucky, I think they are so lucky 😅 you get a break away. You get a chance to breathe and reset. You just go drop your kids off while you go work and mingle. No my friends it’s not a privilege lol it’s a job that never stops. And then when the men get home they wanna watch tv and drink or play the damn game. And then you think I have energy for you in the middle of the night.
Have you ever seen sudden widowers, men who suddenly lost their wives and found themselves single fathers? Let me tell you, they find a way, they figure it out through trial and error, and they make it work and do a fairly decent job (and they call their mothers), you'd be surprised how capable men are when they can no longer get away with learned helplessness and have to man up. Please do not infantilize your husband, make him put in the effort, he is an adult not a teenager, let him carry half of the burden, he is their father not their babysitter (start by maybe forcing him to take the kids to the library and help them with their homework every Saturday to give you me time, make Saturday Mommy Day and use those days to rediscover yourself and socialize with friends, it's a win win, your husband bonds more with the kids and you get to be childfree without worry)
@@juliannehannes11 💯
my dad doesn't know how to do laundry. it took him a while to learn how to use the oven too. pathetic.
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That's just sad, I'm thankful mine cooks with me and we do launrdy together too :D
Wtf???😂
Honestly I feel like I am happy being single. Men act like all women want is their money. I don't need to rely on them
And the real gag is most of them don't even have money to begin with. Not REAL money.
I hear a lot of guys complaining about career women, and them being too masculine or whatever, but then when women do the opposite and are taking care of them and their family, it's still not enough. If women aren't good enough for certain men to appreciate and respect them when they're career oriented, but also not good enough when they give up outside ambitions for "women's work" in the home, then what do women have to do to get those things from men exactly?
In the Bible, women had help! Handmaidens, servants, etc. So for the men who want traditional marriages and wives, remember this. It was never a one person job. So if she is doing it all, respect, appreciate, and honor her.
If you are going to take it to the Bible just remember. In the Bible those men were having sex with the handmaidens and servants as well as their wife. In Genesis 16:3 it says "And Sarai Abram's wife took Hagar her maid the Egyptian... and gave her to her husband Abram to be his wife." Keeping the man happy sexually wasn't a one person job either. If a woman couldn't have or didn't want to have more babies, she had her servants give birth for her.
Brothers, Hagar was an Egyptian which means she was a sister. That means she probably had a booming system. Imagine seeing her walking around the house with all that going on. Then one day your wife gives you permission to hit it! That would definitely make you respect, appreciate and honor your wife for having the wisdom of a Proverbs 31 woman. 😁😁😎
the reply beneath your comment is why I fail to understand women who are still desperate for relationship with males. They hardly have enough money to afford have their wife at home, they absolutely do not have the funds for helpmates. If they did, they wouldn't e as bitter as males commonly are, and would absolutely be sleeping with those help mates like the male just said. Nevermind the fact that they don't value housework and raising children, so they would see no reason in you needing a helpmate. They already think those who do it by themselves are lazy lol. It's a lose lose situation, and this video confirmed what I suspected. They hate you at work because how dare you have money that could buy you autonomy, and they hate you at home because your duties are useless thus rendering you lazy. If you dare expect help with such useless work, que the male below, and you will be required to allow your male to sleep with all kinds of women.
@@zerotomillions1016 You misunderstood the story. First of all, the only reason his wife did that is because she failed to have a child when God told her they would and she missunderstood that he will have a child with another since she is unable but they will raise this child together. But after the servant had a child, she also had a child. The lesson is to be patient and not make someone enter your relationship as God will provide what was said.
You making it seem like this is the right way is severely wrong. Not to mention Abraham did not decide this, his wife did.
Also, there is no such thing as "keeping the man happy sexually" ... lust is a sin... sex without the intent of preocreation is a sin.
You're interpreting things as you like and creating excuses for your warped mentality. I am not sure how big of a sin it is to shift around lessons and logic in the Bible for your benefit, but you do you.
The fact that your mind created this whole image that was not there says a lot.
Traditional (original) marriage... between one man and one woman (adam and eve) is what is being talked about. Sarah GAVE Hagar to Abraham to bear children in her place bc she lack faith and trust in Yah. He promised they will have a child and she tried to fulfill that promise in a way he did not intend. And look at the way that ended. Hatred, jealousy, her being sent away, etc. And Yah then fulfill His promise as he intended. A man who finds a wife, finds a good thing; and he must love his wife as he loves himself.
Further, a man must be able to provide for his family. One who doesn't is worst than a unbeliever. Many can barely provide for the wife and children they have... so, no need to try to "add" more women to the scenario.
But all of this is wayyyyyyyyyyyy besides the point. We are simply asking that you love and show appreciation for the work that women do in the home. Period.
@@zerotomillions1016 Actually it was. Just because men were doing that didn't mean GOD approved
Patriarchy has taken the "village" away. Women worked together to do domestic things, especially raising the children. The creation of the nuclear family has isolated many. It's really not worth it! We were meant to be in community.
I didn't know what direction this was going to go but the first video made me so happy. A lot of people need to rethink their definition of "work".
Thanks for watching and commenting
The first skit makes me thankful I’m single and childfree
Back in the 1800s, housewives had staff at home .... maids, biddies, children's educators... Butlers. Of course they needed coke and alcohol in the 50s. That's when they couldn't afford them anymore.
The one job description the guy forgot to add at the very beginning was that she would also have to have a full-time job.
and then there are women who actually put up with it even today, keeping these men in perpetual entitlement and arrogance due to these women enabeling them.
10:22 if more men experienced what he experienced, they'd change their minds instantly 😅 even my own dad when I was a kid, he worked from home within the living room.. but instead of spending time with me, 99% of the time he'd just buy me heaps of video games to play by myself. Most men just don't want to spend time with their kids, which is really annoying to me.
That first guy is speaking pure facts! Love the men who realize and admit this.
You’re also a nurse, the house manager, a teacher, a counselor, the cosmetologist, … I maintain our daughter’s hair. I save us thousands of dollars every year JUST doing our girls hair alone.
🗣️ you preaching girl!!! I have to mentally prepare for wash days four heads of hair to wash, condition, detangle, dry and style. A three day process that no one prepares or thinks about but me.
@@Nitra813 Yep. That last line! 🥹
While you at it the butler, personal driver, chef, maid, and the support system for the whole dang house
Exactly!! I'm a nurse right now as I type it lol😂and I do everyone's hair cut my sons hair and style my daughters and she has such long curly hair it ain't a quick brush and braid it's a lot of work
Men will bitcg and whine about abuse victims not having a father in the hone, or assume someone has dadsy issues based on false judgements, yet dont know how to be a fatger themselves.
It’s okay, so many man have no idea how hard it is to be a stay at home wife. We are not slaves.
Can we switch so I can be a stay at home husband?
@@Sagefrakrobatik Ask your wife.
@@manarcabrera2528 you are missing the point, which is why not just switch roles with man. I was raised by a single mom that worked two jobs. Y'all complain way too much.
@@Sagefrakrobatik My mother was 37 years old when my father die. She worked two jobs to support her three children. I raised my son’s basically alone. I worked a full time job, came home cooked everyday. Cleaned the house, did laundry, iron all of my son’s clothing, made all medical appointments, took them to the doctor, did homework and help them study. My ex-husband did work but I always made more money then he did. I’m not missing anything. Most man want a slave not a partner.
@@Sagefrakrobatik Because men who stay at home don't do half of what women who stay at home do so the woman still has to come home and finish everything he didn't do. She is still going to be the one the school calls even if the school is told to call the father. She is still going to have to remind him of the appointments, plan the meals, make the shopping list, etc. I've overheard the phone conversations of female coworkers whose husbands were at home and they were constantly answering basic questions that anyone should know about the home they live in. One actually called his wife to ask if there was meat in the freezer, instead of getting off his ass and looking for himself. I visited the home of another coworker whose husband was a stay at home dad and I had to throw my socks away because the floors were so dirty that I couldn't get the stain out. It isn't worth it to switch roles with the man. It's more work.
Also his personal S*x worker, Nurse, accountant, health coach/dietician, project manager, Stylist and Counselor.
True
may we not forget
Why be in a relationship with someone you aren't sexually attracted to?
@@SagefrakrobatikYou advocate for sexual abuse? Disgusting asf like your father
@@Sagefrakrobatikits not about attraction- its the loss of it because of being unappreciated- sex for women is emotional
If you decide to be a stay-at-home wife, my only advice is to make sure you have your own source of passive or part-time income BEFORE you marry. That way, you’ll have something to fall back on if things go downhill.
To the guy who says that it’s a privilege to be SAHM:
How about you taking up this privilege yourself? And you are not supposed to drink and play games all day while on this privilege.
This kind of thinking is why teachers are paid so little and short changed on equipment. It is viewed a female profession. Womens work, so less deserving of adequate compensation. That thinking is still prevalent in the workplace. Female worker earn less cause male bosses think that working men earn for a family and females are just earning pin money, and have no obligations.
Meanwhile the men who go into teaching or nursing get more praise and faster promotions.
True.
I was a SAHM and married twice. Find a way to generate money in a way where you can be with your babies. I was doing side gigs and never had a break of taking care of baby. It was exhausting.
I was financially abused, mentally, and emotionally. Dude cheated too. Yup he blew up my phone cause he couldn't handle his offspring.
Be careful of covert narcissists. I knew nothing about them till this year.
I was a SAHM for 3 years. It was the busiest time of my life. I couldn’t wait to get back to work. Now they are all grown and I’m glad they are grown.
I really don’t understand why black women allow black men to have a say in this. Since when have they become breadwinners to make anyone a sahm. I have a brother who constantly talk about how women have it easier YET he gets everything he needs from women around him. Doesn’t have any bills at all and never has had any and he’s 24. He don’t cook or clean after himself. At this point I’m not even sure if he buys his own clothes. Yall allow them to play both side of the fence.
Exactly! They never have anything to ADD to anything but feel entitled! They need to address why they're the only race of Men that are KNOWN for abandoning their Children & Women. 🙄 I could go on but it'll be a Book by then. 😒🤦
I wasn't even a stay at home mom; I worked, but I did it all in the house as well, and now that my former husband has remarried and that woman doesn't do half of what I did. He is now appreciating me.
well its too late for him now.
He doesn't appreciate you he appreciates what you were providing for him for free.
Damn, women have been raised dum.b as fuck like 'I'll do everything for him and he will appreciate me, NO'.
You appreciate your house, your phone, your food, your internet service but you don't appreciate the people who built or planted that food or keep working for you to have access, you don't even know who these people are and they don't cross your mind. You paid for the stuff and thats it.
Men think exactly the same of women who do free labor for them. Their food is cooked, the house is clean, the clothes are ironed, the kids are washed and fed. They appreciate it but don't appreciate you, if someone else was doing the same they would be feeling the same.
They don't care
Even poor women back in the day didn’t do it all, society created it for family to help, such as grandparents.
What I couldn't believe was when my ex-husband was getting ready for work, and I was folding the clean laundry that I washed and had the TV on as I was folding. He made such a big deal that I had the "convenience" of being able to stay home and watch TV.
The only times I had the privilege to watch TV were times when I was also doing work around the house. We also had three small children that I was raising and taking care of.
If I was that Asian woman, I would have continued using whatever money he is providing me for the household and put the children in daycare, and then get me a little stay at home job. Wouldn't tell him shit either. Would just be stacking up and saving my money. I'll be damned if I have this mf telling me I'm lazy and all I do is stay on my phone when I'm raising his kids.
Only, daycare/group care is not beneficial to child development of those under 3 years old and is only beneficial for up to 6 hours per day for those children 3 years old and up. This is why grade school is only 6 hours long. That's the longest children do well away from their family consistently on a daily basis.
"Being a stay-at-home mom is a privilege" How is working as an au-pair, chef, driver, doula, cleaner, nanny, nurse, shopper, community leader, therapist, laundromat assistant, s&x-worker, seamstress & on-call 24/7 FOR FREE, a privilege? lmao,
Because you get to tend to your kids needs and not have to go to work all day everyday and do family things too. It is hard to be able to get off work when your kids get sick or have doctor appointments or days school are out for holidays, summers, random days kids are out of school too, plus tend to your husband’s needs and wants too. Without having to work. It is a privilege. Very hard, but also a privilege. Start appreciating what you don’t have to do and also what you are able to do at the same time instead of complaining about it.
It’s for your kids and your husband, not yourself.
@@EmpressJackson thank you for this,finally someone gets it,when you have to work and still take care of the household and everything without your husband really helping out is definitely worst than being able to not work and stay at home taking care of everything,I would have been against it if the man had not said it was also a privilege to have a SAHM,because I do know that being a SAHM is definitely hard on its own.
But it's just easier to be able to do all you need to in those 24hrs IN those 24hrs,than having to work for like 8hrs and then having just 16hrs left to do every other thing and still be able to sleep,u would definitely get a higher rate of burnout
It is hard work but also a privilege especially nowadays. It's a privilege for the mum, kids and the dad who can come home to a warm meal.
@@EmpressJackson So kids having a stay-at-home mom are privileged. NOT THE MOM
If its not for yourself it can’t be a self proclaimed privilege… its the privilege of the man and children lol.
I say just go to a hotel by surprise. Just leave for a week. Let him figure it all out. He knows everything and why would I subject anyone to anything other than his infinite wisdom and competence? I made food only for myself, quit laundry service, laid on the couch, just stopped doing everything. It didn’t last two days before I was appreciated. And I’d do it again any time!!!! Nobody is disrespecting me! Period!
It's SO crucial that you have a partner who APPRECIATES a stay-at-home parent AND who does still help clean, cook, help with homework, etc.
I want a wife swap style show where instead of families swapping wives, spouses swap daily lives with each other for a week. Not saying there’s not really good hardworking men out there, just saying the whole “ just a stay at home mom” comments would end real quick
there was one tv that did that. I dont rmb the name, but the man with a trad wife who even homeschooled the kids went crying and running home because he couldnt deal with it.
@@che4840which show? I want to watch!
Being a stay at home mother/wife is A LOT. I rather work outside the home and be single. It's too much work and the expectation of always serving gives me an attitude. 😂😂
Even when I was an adult, my father called my mother 20 minutes after she went to the store. He wanted to know where she was at all time. The men don't always care about the kids. My Dad didn't watch us anyway and we knew to not ask him for anything....
House work is physically and emotionally taxing truth is it take mental strong person to do it. Mentally weak men are afraid of it.
My husband's rage when I simply made the comment of "when I cook, I clean the kitchen and you dont."
I have told him that it's funny you break me down, and make me feel like I do nothing right and I'm not even allowed to question you but you expect me after being broken down to nothing to get a job and be the bread winner once the kids are in school. You messed up because it will back fire on you when I can't do it."
Why does so many of the internet interested in having a woman do something that they themselves don’t appreciate
This is why, when my husband gets his direct deposit paycheck, a reasonable portion of that paycheck is directly deposited to my account…is it $150k a year? Well, no, that is not the kind of income he draws. But it is reasonable and allows me to do all I need to do without having to ask for money.
Also, we tag team on everything. Cooking, cleaning, laundry, grocery shopping, childcare…I, of course, do most of the housework because he is at his job during the day. But after dinner, he just gets up and cleans the dishes on a fairly regular basis because he knows I am also tired from doing MY job at the end of the day.
partnership
Y'all sound like best friends ❤❤❤❤❤. That's beautiful
Beautiful ❤
There’s a core issue that’s missed here…children are not always the core of happiness. There is no need to have kids, but there is a need for an income and a job. Having kids is the core of misery for most folks.
I hate to say it, but it is starting to look like that
I'm not interested in doing any of those things. Team no kids!😂
I was a nanny its a job to take care of the home and children.
He kept saying some. No. Its MOST. And that needs to be stated. Ladies stop doing this for them.
I didn't know owning a free pass to Hell could ever be a privilege. 😅
The fact that men will reduce being a SAHM/W to “just cooking and cleaning” is the reason I refuse to stay at home. If that position was in fact appreciated and valued and looked at as a respectable lifestyle.
Because in the end it doesn’t pay to be a SAHM and as a mother I’m not the only parent.
I do not agree with the idea that it’s solely on the SAHM to PARENT, care for and raise the children.
I always ask these males, if cooking and cleaning is so easy, why don't they stay home do it and let the women be the breadwinner?
A traditional home takes lots of 💰💰💰💰💰💰💰💰
I will take a job . It’s an escape 🤷🏾♀️
No it’s not. All of these things still have to get fine, you just have way less time to get everything done if you’re working full time.
The man with the bald head is speaking truth, my mom went through this 😂😂😂. And y'all wonder why I'm divorced and child free. I saw myself heading down that road and moved on 😂😂😂😂
The uptick in TH-cam content aimed at glorifying housewives, having enormous unaffordable families, and promoting eradication of women’s basic civil rights is concerning.
I’m not “against” or hateful towards housewives, but I find it frightening how badly many men want to force us into that state- and it’s clearly so they can abuse and exploit women (as they often despise the wives they already have).
I don’t really see men making the content though. It’s women. And it mostly has a female audience. Can’t really blame that on the “patriarchy”. I think the real reason there is an uptick in popularity is simply because of Covid as well as the cost of living and childcare is through the roof. Being a housewife makes a lot more sense to more people than it did even 5 years ago.
@@user-od5fh3gn4d people steal other people’s content for whatever person since the inception of the internet. A misogynist is going to misogynist no matter what others are doing or content they are creating.
@@MsFlamingFlamerWomen absolutely can and do enforce patriarchal, deeply hateful, misogynistic views.
@@margodphd housewife inherently equal being bad is very pro capitalist and pro corporation
To all the ladies out there, think very carefully before becoming a stay at home mom. Being out of the job market for extended periods of time puts you at a serious disadvantage if you ever need to rejoin that job market. You will be unqualified for most things as your skills will be outdated. You also won't be contributing to any funds like pension plan or social security because you are unpaid as a stay at home mom and the father isn't contributing to a fund for you honey. Fun fact, men are 6 times more likely to leave their wives should the wife be diagnosed with a serious illness or disability. Food for thought. Imagine being left with nothing after being an unpaid stay at home mom for years just when you need help the most. I know it's a tough choice. There are real consequences. Being a working mom is also scary. Going child free is scary. However having your own money is the safest bet logically.
Actually women can apply 4 their husband or ex-husband's disability or social security if she was married at least 10 yrs. I know a divorced woman who did. Also, the problem isn't being a SAHM. Women sometimes get part their ex's 401K or retirement in divorce. Know a woman whose husband had 2 give his army retirement 2 his 1st wife. The problem is dealing with men at all. The risks aren't greater than the usual rewards.
Going childfree is wonderful. Being pregnant and giving birth are scary and dangerous, especially as Black women.
you realize in the case of a divorce, especially if you've spent your marriage as a homemaker, you're entitled to HALF of all assets, including his retirement or other investments, if not also continued spousal support. The current no fault divorce system makes this tricky sometimes, but a woman could certainly require a prenup that protected her interests and welfare if the husband were to violate or abandon the marriage.
The first 4 years are critical to child development. This time is best spent at home with mom. After that, she should of course, go back to work. Children under 3 years old receive absolutely no benefits from group care. They actually do worse. Children under 5 years old only benefit from group care under 6 hours per day. Over 6 hours is too long and their behavioral/emotional development takes a serious hit. Plan your work schedule around your child's needs and your family will thrive.
@@vickih5405 you do realise your husband could rack up dept and not have any assets by the time of divorce right? You do realise if your husband dies and leaves a mortgage you will have to pay it off or foreclose and become homeless right?
What about all the working moms that do all this too....talk about a scam and a half.
You ladies are extra super women and moms.
😂😂😂 I swear human life is just one big scam/ pyramid scheme
@@fredahwiwu5219
Exactly
It will always baffle me how little my mother was appreciated for being a stay at home mother for 4 children for 16 years. Married for 21. Suffice to say, I don't want that life. I don't know what I want yet, but I know it's not that.
I was and still am the single mom working and providing for my daughter. No child support so i worked really hard to provide. I missed out on so much. The thing i appreciated more than anything...my sahm best friend. She was the one taking care of my daughter while i worked. Not just my daughter but her own kids too. She was in a bad marriage and doing all this selflessly. I did pay her which i really tried to be sure she had pocket money separate from her husband. I knew my daughter was safe and well fed. Depending on my shift SHE did everything from school to bedtime through the week. At one point i was doing school and work at the same time. Her dad wasn't around (his choice). I still to this day thank her for all she's done for us. Y'all work miracles. Don't let anyone tell you anything less.
Oh wow! Can't believe there are still such people in this twisted world....your friend is truly amazing. If you can, please try help her get funding for her kids' education, etc....
@jellybite1 her kids are set for their education however she is my beneficiary to my life insurance policies to both take care of my daughter (she's an adult now) responsibly and there's enough for her to have about 100k in case something happens to me. I still take care of her any way i can. She's happily divorced and with someone that makes her very happy.
@@LadyInTheHangar not enough 💓💓💓💓💓💓 for this 👆. You literally got me in tears right now.
Sis, I'm at a loss for words!!!!
You and your friend are special, and the world needs more sisters like you....
@@jellybite1 thank you so so much 🩷🩷🩷. I’ve been beyond blessed with her in my life. I’d be lost without her. No matter what role your friends have, try and support that role. We’ve always joked that I was her other “husband”. We’ve been through allot in 20 years. There were times I thought we’d end the friendship but man we got through it by being loyal and honest with each other. That’s why we ladies gotta support each other. Through thick and thin.
if it's such a pRiViLEGe then why don't he do it?
he’s just gaslighting & manipulating, if he had to do it he’d start whining 🙄
@@Strawberrypocky911 this is why i say that women are stronger than men and being strong has absolutely nothing to do with physical strength. if a person has to use tactics such as gaslighting and manipulating, that proves how weak they are.
@@diosa.loba333 💯%!
Yeah I've said over a hundred times to mine that he should switch places with me I'll go get a job and he can stay home with them to cook clean laundry Dr appointments giving baths dishes grocery shopping all hygiene routines for the kids doing all the paperwork for the household etc 😂he shuts up every time I say it
And this is the reason women are choosing to remain child free, and on the other side I hear all 😭😭😭but I’m good listening to the 😭😭better them than me😂😂🥳🥳💃🏽💃🏽💃🏽.
Housekeeping is simple but not easy. Its physically taxing, esp over time. But raising kids? Esp before theyre in pre-k?! Its physically, mentally, & emotionally exhausting!!!!
You forgot to add the maid service cooking, laundry and household chores and not to mention stay fit and ready to please them sexually and still looking your best 💅🏽
EVERYONE HAS THEIR PREFERENCES... HOWEVER I FEEL LIKE EVERY MAN AND WOMAN SHOULD HAVE THEIR OWN INCOME.... MOST OF THE TIME IT'S A CONTROL THING
*WHAT I FIND FUNNY IS WHEN IT'S A VIDEO OF A STAY AT HOME FATHER HAVING S ROUGH/OFF DAY MEN PRAISE HIM YET WOMEN THEY SAY "ur lazy" "it's not thst hard" "that's what ur supposed to do" WOMEN AREN'T SHOWN THE SAME GRACE OR PRAISE*
This was literally the conversation I played out in my head the day I was proposed too. I said "no thank you!"
Not just appreciate the stay at home mom/wife, but also help her. Just appreciating her when all those jobs she has to do at home without a day off or a break which is technically slowly killing her, does nothing.
It is exactly what my ex said when i left. Staying home with kids and cooking cleaning and working part time is being lazy. When i left he waa crying he actually give more money to the cleaner and the nanny for coming 6 days a month than child support.
most men can afford to be single fathers 👍 Let them do their duties
The last guy most likely married the mother of his child so she can do all those "7 jobs" by herself but as his wife.
Oh plus get a part time job just so you can have some actual money
Then why don't you also make sure that your husband is also doing his part? You are working part-time and then doing all of these things at home, you pretty much have 2 jobs.