Men in my family literally have told me they go for uglier women because they'll put up with a lot more, expect less, and will be his mommy. Beautiful women have options, but many of them still struggle to find a quality man that actually values her beyond her looks. So the grass is greener, but because it's fake. It's an illusion, a lie. Being conventionally beautiful doesn't save you from being disrespected, used, or abused. Pretty privilege is real, but the privilege to do what exactly? Be preyed upon more often? Be victimized more? I've experienced both sides due to high weight fluctuations. Beauty won't save you from misogyny or the predatory nature of men. ALL women need to have a good self esteem, and as Cynthia G says "boundaries, standards, and expectations". Walk when men SHOW you they don't care to meet nor respect them. That will create a strong foundation within yourself so you never lose yourself in these relationships. It is better to be single in solitude than be to alone in an abusive relationship.
This is pretty much how it goes. That’s why men cheat on the woman that’s been with him before he got the fame and or money with a more attractive girl bc that’s the woman he’s always wanted; he just couldn’t afford her. I’ll never get with a broke man. lol You are basically just there to build him up for the next woman.
This is sadly untrue. Women who love themselves truly get the best men because they won’t settle for something else. All other women, ugly or not will not get anything worth having.
As a former hottie I want to share that these same guys would hit on me as soon as their “ugly” woman’s back was turned. Some of these women were super wives who cooked, sewed, built up their man’s career, etc but they got taken for granted. They were place holders while the guys keep an eye out for an “upgrade”.
A 56 year old woman i know was handed his number by a man who had a gorgeous wife. This older woman had the slim body/figure of a young woman and was wearing a face veil. Looks like many men are never satisfied with one woman. However gorgeous she may be.
So I'll be with a woman that I'm not really attracted to because she'll take care of me and treat me like a baby. But I won't be with a girl that has higher standards because I'm too cheap or to trifling to meet those standards. Thank you for telling us something that women have been saying forever!!!!!😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Lmaoo what? As a woman whos been ugly my whole life, this is absolutely untrue. Men would try to eff me after saying theyre not attracted to me. They get offended if you try to establish any standard or boundary. That goes for both men and women. Ppl will run you ragged if you let them
This. I always tell women if a man is very handsome and has an unattractive woman he’s trying to use you. NARC! I see they will cater to these men don’t like them be tall. Your being used ladies! A wise nan wants a beautiful women if he’s handsome.
That's exactly the point. They are not attracted to you because you are supposedly ugly🙄 so they make it look like they are doing you a favor trying to eff you.
You expect a man to pay for all the bills, pay for dates, pay for your lifestyle, let you make your own money, but keep it for yourself, and yet have the audacity to say outta your mouth that men are the users? But even after all of that, he has to also be this tall, this attractive, this funny, this ambitious, and this good in bed.... Ok😂... But it's the men are the users... Smh Ok U can't make this ish up
Society treats "ugly" people terribly. Especially "ugly" women. Growing up I've been called ugly my whole life and it did knock down my self-esteem to dangerously low levels. When my self-esteem was low I did almost anything to try to get a date and even keep one after that. This is why men go for "ugly" women. To use her until he's had enough. (Sorry for the constant quotes around the word ugly as I myself don't believe anyone is ugly. We're all God's children made in his image.)
I understand that it is hard but do you really think it is harder than being an ugly man? From your post it looks like you still got some attention but if you are a men and ugly you are badicly done for..
@@tmsupreme7763no your not actually if you have money, and a good sense of humor and the ability to support multiple women you'd probably luck out with a woman that's attractive enough to date you because men have an ugly privilege they just don't realize it but an ugly rich woman would not have the same benefits to a hot guy for that long as he would with an attractive woman which is proof that men are often times more shallow then women too he might sleep with one but it's not the same as dating an ugly woman and trying to build a relationship with them. I've seen it happen but the guy is almost always ugly too. A woman would probably make an exception to Elon musk and he was never that attractive either but because he probably offers his gfs a life of luxury he can have any woman he wants and if a man chooses to be broke and ugly it's a red flag because it means he is not stable enough to have that kind of relationship. Unless the woman is broke and unattractive too he can't expect anything more than someone on his own level. If we're being totally honest it's not women that are picky with looks it's men. There too picky they look for women that are way out of their league and then they wonder why there not finding good results from it because there preference doesn't want them. Some women may not want to date an ugly rich guy either but they never want to acknowledge that part either because there so worried about women being gold diggers.
That part ....cause I have been called ugly too and been used and abused...men will hump a light socket so this is str8 bs..they don't care this is more about them and less about us
I've rarely been called ugly by anyone, but I've learned you don't have to be called the actual word to know that you are. The fact that I'm fat and rarely approached by men pretty much let me know I wasn't attractive. The thing with me is I always knew that pretty women didn't have to do much to get male attention because I saw it. I saw men go up to them and actually be respectful to them in contrast to how they treated me. Did it suck, heck yes. Was I sad sometimes, yes. But I chucked it up to life isn't fair. And I've never believed the things people have told me about true beauty because I knew it was all BS. I know why I'm mostly ugly because I'm fat and I refuse to wear makeup so that's my fault. But I know I could look so much better, it's just that I'm often too impatient to wait to get to the better. But the desire to one day become pretty has never left me. I know what I have to do aka get thin and put on some makeup. It's just challenging and I keep procrastinating but to be honest I'm beyond tired and fed up with being the fat ugly girl and being treated differently for it. I want to be the thin pretty girl that men go crazy for and make women jealous. 🤣🤣 That sounds super shallow but it's my truth, and besides it's way funner being the pretty girl then it is being the ugly girl. Pretty privilege exist and always has, and always will. And I know for me I'd rather work on becoming the prettiest and best version of myself I can possibly be, and if still I can't find a equally good looking male that is kind, and respectful then I don't mind being single. I rather be pretty and forever single. Then be ugly and be with a man who just settled for me because he failed at getting the hot chick he really wanted. But that's just me.
@@PrettyEyesz girl.. these men cheat, beat, scheme on alllll types of women...Pretty or not. I hope you upgrade yourself to boost your confidence for YOURSELF. Self-esteem is a Pookie Repellant 🎉👏
People do not know how hurtful it is to call a woman ugly Viola Davis said it brilliantly that if you are not considered beautiful in society you are not considered worth value especially as a woman. Because society puts so much emphasis on our physical appearance and if something is deemed beautiful in society it's automatically seen worth value. Which is why so many abusers choose to disfigure their partners because they believe by taking away their beauty they take away their self worth.
Once married or in a long-term relationship there's no fear of abandonment so they can chase bimbos and still receive free labor and get their needs met by their significant other.
@@khrisi9410 which is 2 for the price of 1 😂🤣 which is awful and I honestly hate that social media telling men it's okay to cheat yeah okay u cheat on me I up and leave simple
Yup, they will cheat with the baddie too and get caught over and over while he gets another one and the ugly wife will stay because she’s insecure and doesn’t want to be alone.
All I'm hearing is basically that they choose the unattractive woman because she will basically take care of them, you know like cook, clean, let him drive her car, let him live in her home, she has more money than him. He doesn't have to lift a finger. She also gives him sex every time he asks, puts up with his serial cheating, and she will most likely never leave because she knows with her unattractive looks she really doesn't have that many options in men. Therefore they don't want the pretty woman because she wants to be catered to and provided for and some men aren't able to give her that so they go to the unattractive girl because she's more willing to put up with their BS and a pretty girl isn't because she knows she always has options and can always do way better. This is the real truth.
I would say that an atractuve women has been dicked down by so manny man than their expectations are really high and by just having sex with her boyfriend everynow and again is all the efort she has to put in the reletionship while expecting the men to do everything. Just my interpretation tho.🤷
@liabw05 makes sense that's why I said I didn't know if what that commenter said was factual because I really don't know. It's not surprising that people believe that most pretty women have high body counts because usually they always have men interested in them, but we also know that not every pretty woman is out here letting a high number of dudes smash, because those are the pretty ones that are often labeled stuck up. But anyway...
There are sooooo many beautiful, "hot" women that treat their men well and still get treated like crap or get taken for granted. Men are the ones that are hard to understand, not women as what society likes to have us think.
Men will settle for women they're not attracted to because that's the best they can do, doesn't mean that's what he wants ,, they would rather be with a hot attractive woman who has a nice personality but sometimes that's not available so they settle for whatever they can get because they don't want to be alone
Yes they do my fiancée said to me his co-worker said his wife is "okay looking". I was like what? Okay! You should never view or even say your wife is okay looking
@@Tati843 I hate that because in the end the woman gets hurt if a man doesn't find a woman attractive he should leave her alone and stop leading women on Leave them be and let a man who does find them attractive come into her life
It's just a simple triangulation technique. They do it also when they compare women based on nationality or race, saying one is better than the other. They do it in hopes that women will prove themselves as the better option. When you aren't male identified or desperate, you see they aren't a prize. Time for all women to decenter men
Right. More than likely they've hit on 10's their entire lives and those women wouldn't give him the time of day. So they've convinced themselves that pretty women don't have any other worthwhile qualities. I've heard women say that they refuse to date hot guys because in their experience, hot men aren't good to women because they don't have to be to get one.
@misspriss2482 That fact isn't surprising however unattractive men cheat and mistreat women too, so If I'm going to take a chance and get done dirty by a guy, I rather he be hot then not. Shallow I know. But regardless of looks a jerk will be a jerk, ya know...
I just keep hearing “Attractive women have high self esteem and standards, so I go for the unattractive girls-until I can at least meet the financial standard of the attractive women”. Baby the way I say “Stay a single baddie before you EVER settle for one of these broke decrepit non ambitious men”.
I think anyone who agrees with this commentary needs to rethink the definition of high maintenance vs. high standards. Being high-maintenance doesn’t mean you have high standards. Being "ugly" doesn’t mean you have low standards and will accept anything from anybody.
My pet peeve is when society just assumes all baddies and Gorgeous women are shallow and airheads. That narrative has to stop!! There are beautiful women who have great hearts and minds. On the contrary, people don’t talk about how some ugly/avg looking women can have nasty attitudes and project their insecurities onto other women. My point is everyone has to stop dating off of stereotypes.
it doesn't help the conversation when you have the likes of that polina chick mumbling something about beautiful women needing their this or that paid for. poor thing is being used and doesn't even realize it.... the narrative of "men pay for me because im beautiful" is very sad. they pay for you because you're for sale, love.
@@Thewhiteandorange Men invest/pay for what they value. If “she’s for sale” and he pays that means he respected her enough to pay for her time, her beauty and/or her services. Men will spend hundreds of thousands on OFs models while convincing other women to behave like non profit organizations. Its not a flex to be exploited for free love. 😕
You know, growing up being called "ugly" and being made aware that you're undesirable will really ruin your self esteem as a girl. So it's hard to get into dating spheres with all that unpacked trauma because even till today women like me who are dark skinned still get called undesirable because we aren't part of what's considered conventionally attractive. We still get back handed comments like "You weren't what I expected" "I should've spoke to you first" "You're pretty for a dark skinned girl/ black girl" and it's like who are you even talking to with that mess??? I'm honestly over men, and I don't blame women for actively choosing to be single if this is what the dating culture offers.
Honestly, I'm so sorry you have so much scars. Sending you love for healing. I've been ugly younger and now beautiful and let me tell you: I get disrespected on a daily basis. It's the wrong kind of attention: they treat you like an object, and women would literally kill you if they could erase you. I think being just a woman is hard in this world. You can never do right.
I think it's a sign of severe mental illness if you can look someone right in their face and actually manage say such evil and degrading things. I can't even imagine doing that.
Girl don't believe what their doing, I realized alot of men just try to play on insecurities. ITS ABOUT GETTING SEX EASIER. I came to that realization this year. Anything to down play and get what they want easier.
Honestly, all of this sounds like a headache. When you just want to have a genuine life with a genuine person and it seems it's all a game. I remember my clubbing days and I overheard men saying they go for heavy women or less attractive because they can take advantage of them. What's the point of a relationship if everyone is just playing games and no one is genuine?
Most of us are old enough to know that getting a man isn't necessarily a victory. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and some men do treasure personality over looks. However, most men get with ugly women because ugly women have low self-esteem, they have few options, and they'll put up with anything to keep him. No man hardly ever looks their way so they'll cater to a man in a desperate attempt to hold on to him. It's pretty sad. The man himself will usually have low self-esteem so he figures that the ugly woman isn't going anywhere. I've seen a few men get surprised though. I wouldn't advise any man to get too comfortable. 😂
Fewer options don't make a woman stay. Low self-esteem isn't a character of all the women you have decided to call ugly. Many beautiful women have low self value and constantly want attention. They feel insecure when someone doesn't like their picture or gaslight them about how much better they are. At the end of the day, being ugly or beautiful does not determine your self-worth and definitely doesn't define how you feel about boundaries and values.
Why do I feel like this video was to make someone somewhere make themselves feel better? A man feeds on desperation. Whether "beautiful" or "ugly" when you are desperate with zero self esteem, you can be used by anyone not just men. C'mon.
💯💯 Right bc good looking women can lack self esteem as well. Most men prey on weak insecure low self esteem women in general. They will benefit more from the relationship.
Attractions and attractiveness are extremely subjective. Beauty standards change all the time. I'm a "not traditionally good looking woman" who has an amazing husband I've been with for almost 30 years. He has always thought I was beautiful, and still does. Physical beauty fades as people age. You gotta have other stuff going on in a relationship.
I was always called ugly by my family. I was put down and told no man would ever want me. 18 years into my marriage and my husband still calls me beautiful and cherishes me. He says my sisters are ugly in both personality and looks. I've asked him why he would say that and he just stares at me like "really?". I still struggle with insecurities, but he always reassures me.
Ivam stunningly gorgeous. I don't date, I see no value in romantic relationships and marriage. It just means you do a lot of Extra work. The Hubby might love you, but does he do his share of household work and relationship work? Living with a man mistly means doing household work for two people. I see that as a waste of my time
Pretty women are too hard to obtain and take care for a lot of men internationally but “ugly” women require less maintenance and they will put up with a lot more. There, that’s it. Don’t fall for it ladies it’s not a compliment.
This comment is shallow as hell , vain asf and not a compliment. This conversation screams misogyny . Honestly, do you believe ugly women are just dumb and naive? By virtue of being physically unattractive, you are now desperate and stupid? And please describe an ugly woman for me, just curious 🤔
bs ,im ugly af ,i tried to get married from16-20 i got THE WORST INCELL NECKBEARD 30+ CHRISTIANS and told me ''u deserve worst and u ower me for lowering myself for u'' ugly/disabled women get the worst men cuz most people think we are lesser ,and that its ok to abuse us because ''womens worth based on looks'' you can do anything for a man and hell still cheat or abuse you and nothing is ever good enough my ex passport bro looked like a super model he constantly abused me ,and told me i owed him and have to earn him cuz im so ugly and worthless and that he can do better i get threats from 30+ men irl of joke-r-threats and that its ok cuz i have no value and the fact I HAVE THE AUDACIDY to reject men and wanna be alone instead of begging any man to be with me eaven women tell me ''u should be gratefull a gay male would wanna r you''
It is horrible and disgusting how people treat you as a disabled person. When I was fat I experienced the same. Only ugly fat disgusting men like alcoholics, homless and narcissists were interested in me. Now that I am slim and take more care of myself, these men dont show affection anymore. But also, no other men are interested in me. In my home country Germany men dont approach women on the street like it is normal in America. So, I dont know it is because I am still ugly or not. When I traveled to New York City a lot of attractive men approched me on the street or stared after me. So, I think I am not that ugly anymore, haha. But I was so dumb at that time to choose a narcassit 🙈
it's true, i had a visible skin disorder all my life and was ignored my entire life, no man approached me, no one asked my phone number or cared...they want beautiful
Oh man . As if women have hearts and souls ! How dare they not accept criminals because nobody else would want them ! Talk about logic . I'm losing my faith in humanity.
Ladies a good man will not treat anyone around him like something to be used and abused. If he is doing that to you, it is NOT because of your looks but his ugly heart. Even supermodels get abused and cheated on. Be careful who you allow into your personal life, you deserve to feel safe and cherished even if you have to do that alone. If a man calls you ugly, he is a piece of crap. End of discussion.
My friend used to tell me he didn't marry a average girl because he can't get more better woman but the problem is if he marry a woman who looks more beautiful than him or out of league then she won't tolerate there suck up behaviour but having a average looking girl means they can use them easily.
Malena was faithful to her husband until she was practically starving, after her husband was believed to have died and her father disowned her due to vicious rumors about her being promiscuous. She either refused to sleep with a man or another woman was jealous and deeply insecure about her husband being attracted to Malena and that was his/her retaliation. No one would hire her to work so she had no income. Prior to this, she was accused of having an affair and was required to prove her innocence in court. The lawyer who volunteered to represent her, pro bono, raped her as "payment."
Tell me you have internalised misogyny without telling me you have internalised misogyny. Jeez. Women have enough challenges without someone like this spreading toxic falsehoods about our agency based on our physical attributes.
I was beautiful when young ; skinny, loving, and caring and low self- esteem and low self- worth. I'm older premenopausal and body looks a mess and I have the most confidence and boundaries than i ever had before .
Men don’t care what you look like. If a man think you ugly and he is not referring to your character, he is really complaining about not getting the chick in his imagination. Dating is like playing Russian Roulette with a fully loaded gun. I don’t even care if it is red, green, yellow or royal blue, when I sense a flag about to fly I am exiting ship 💯. And got a guard dog. I have learned to keep my relationship status to myself cause nowadays admitting being single is hazardous to your health‼️
As an ugly woman, i find that men are either overtly disgusted by me, see me as a charity case or someone to pity or outright pretend i don't exist. I feel like i see who men really are, for all their shallowness and narcissism. Ngl, being ugly does suck so much, it does eat away at your confidence and it's a heavy cross to carry when you try to take care of yourself and no matter what you do, you just always look awful. But i am glad i do not get approached by men. Knowing that i will only be used or seen as someone who will never leave. I plan to remain single to the day i die and i will never entertain a single man no matter what.
I wish and hope you will find the beauty in you and let it out. You can water it and allow yourself to grow. Don't call yourself ugly anymore. Call yourself a budding flower, soon to bloom. ❤ work on yourself, let your beauty out. ❤
“The average woman will treat you like a wife” says a man talking about how he wants to be treated as a boyfriend, not even a husband. So many things wrong here. 😂
First- Society puts a woman's worth on her physical appearance. The same way society put men's worth on his wealth. To quote Marilyn Monroe "A girl being pretty is like a man being rich your not going to marry a girl just because she's pretty but it absolutely helps". Secondly who are you (The people in the video) to decide what is attractive and what isn't because standards of beauty vary decade to decade and culture to culture just because you aren't attracted to a person with a certain look does not mean that they are unattractive.
All I have to say is that this is a one-sided argument. I say this because men who genuinely love their wives despite not fitting the beauty standards, would not be in this discussion because of not wanting to dishonor their wives with the insult of being called ugly. If you want proof of this, the video with the woman reading the letter of the woman being called ugly by her husband's friends shows you the impact and consequences of a man doing this. I also want to mention, that there are men who care nothing about beauty who are very attractive and sought after. I have seen it with my eyes as an ugly woman (With High Standards and ONLY attract handsome men). There is a lot more I can say, but I am going to leave it at that. This discussion is disturbing on so many levels.
Its funny how she was giving food for thought and then dudes take that food for thought and turn it into a manipulative tactic. 🙄 Just because she's not a 10 doesn't mean that she doesn't have standards. I know I'm not gorgeous, but I tell people I have a high cute factor. I'm never going to call myself ugly even if someone says I am. Sheraseven says controversial things, but she's right about a lot. I had a friend that was mad that a guy she liked was talking to me. We had a good conversation that's all it was and my "friend" said, "He only gave you attention cause your plain and he knows he doesn't have to try hard with you." I told her, "He's Gay and already has a partner, and we were just talking."
One thing that we have to take into consideration is, beauty standards seem to be very eurocentric. My experience being a dude with close indigenous/native american ancestry (my aunt was), I have dated lots of girls who would be considered "atractive" by society standards, but I was almost never considered atractive myself. From Mexico to Brazil, there's alot of r*cism towards indigenous people, I used to not like my ancestry, but thankfully I am more than proud of it now 🧡🧡
They also want a woman who’s less attractive than them coz when they are punching above their weight, they just become painfully insecure coz they know you could do better and be with another dude, so they get extra jealous and possessive. Speaking from personal experience. 🙄
Pretty privilege doesn’t amount to much either. Ask Cassie, Halle Berry, and Amber Rose. Beauty heightens a man’s ego. It’s the other way around nowadays. I see more unattractive men with beautiful women.
What? Nah. I do not think a female thinks this way. I don't. I wouldn't get together with a physically ugly guy because of what he could do for me. No. Still looking for someone that's like me and that is compatible. I discovered that guys that are less attractive will drive you insane with their jealousy and insecurity problems and will even ask you - why are you with me?
@@theconsciousearthangel Personally, I couldn’t be with someone I’m not attracted to. There are some women who deal with unattractive men just for the sake of having a man. I knew a man named Yikes cause he was so unattractive. He had charm and street smarts. He would have the prettiest of women fighting over him. I couldn’t understand what they saw in him .
@@nubiangold1296 you can take an average guy that is physically very average but if he's got a good head on his shoulders, perhaps is funny and kind, and is respectful, then I can understand why he would be able to have a lot of pretty women. Physical looks is nice but once you get to know a person they either get prettier or less attractive based on their inner qualities. People focus too much on the physical which is funny as we always focus on the wrong things when it comes to everything. With that said - physical is nice and should still be there. However, it doesn't last. But inner qualities always remain.
@@theconsciousearthangel I agree with you wholeheartedly. Physical attributes shouldn’t be only determining factor when choosing a partner. Personality and compatibility means more to me than physical attraction alone. I wouldn’t deal with a jerk with a six pack, I’d rather take a respectful man with a little meat around the midsection . Looks are important but character is more valuable.
Beautiful women most definitely have more than just looks, as do most women. The point is that Beautiful women tend to also have higher self-esteem & boundaries. Whilst less-attractive women tend to put up with a lot more & are more willing to bend over backwards for their men, in fear that they won't get another.
I don’t think there’s necessarily anything wrong with viewing your partner as unattractive if you mean it CONVENTIONALLY (as in the more objective, wider society view on beauty standards). But your partner should definitely be attractive to you SUBJECTIVELY at least. Maybe I’m biased because of how my orientation works, but it wouldn’t matter to me if models or athletes or whoever else that most people find conventionally attractive is thrown at me. My husband has always been the most attractive person to me because I love him. And I have told him how attractive I find him (truthfully) at every stage of our relationship including all his different weight fluctuations, hairstyle changes, or clothing choices. Looks may matter in a way, but they are superficial reasons to build a life and love with someone. You need far more than that because looks change and fade for everybody over time. It’s just a fact of life some people can’t seem to wrap their brains around.
We can all look beautiful and ugly depending on where we are in our cycle, shower or no shower ect. I was really ugly yesterday hadn’t washed my hair in days and just didn’t care much. Today I washed my hair and did some skincare/makeup and I look beautiful. It’s all subjective there’s pics of super models looking haggard at grocery store it’s normal to feel and look ugly sometimes.
"Attractive" or "unattractive", women keep fighting each other to get men's attention. And that's the problem. Everything else is just talking. Men will get it all:, marry the "unattractive" woman to take care of him and have "attractive" women to feed his ego.
No - they may do the sensible thing young.. and then they’ll just cheat on her later. You can be a 10, have a phd,volunteer, be all the things.. and he’ll still cheat. It doesn’t matter. You do you boo
@@cat888 Not only social media, but Hollywood movies as well. Too many stories that we consume have that "love at first sight" thing. Where the girl is always the fairest of all or the hottest in the school and that's why the main guy loves her, while not even knowing her name.
What that woman said in the beginning was horrible. I am not pretty by any means but i have been treated horribly by a lot of people. I can care for people, and i have ab education. The last guy i was with abused me and i was done
For the internet’s sake, being average or a “plain jane” is what’s being considered ugly. But looks seriously aren’t everything. Oftentimes the people (both men and women) who have values outside of vanity tend to make the best partners because they can offer something real. They can be selfless, kind, creative, and most importantly humble. Iykyk
I strongly dislike that generalizing opinions! Handsome men don't choose ugly women for their inner qualities. There is a misconception that people have come up with that a beautiful woman must have inferior inner qualities than a not so beautiful one. There is a belief these days that a lie repeated enough times becomes a truth. It is a lie 🐸🤓
Nah, as a someone not conventionally attractive I just know that I am, everyone let me know growing up (sorry mom you tried but you couldn’t fight the words of the whole planet) and I still ain’t let an asshole walk all over me. They get extra mad at you too when you’re ugly and dump em 😂😂😂
It’s interesting how the first “relationship coach” came on here talking about ugly women get better men cus they’re better and men are literally on here saying with their chests that the only women they date ugly women is because they’re EASIER, do more and are easy to manipulate. It’s also very silly to think that gorgeous women also can’t being anything but beauty. I guess ppl tell themselves anything to make them feel good. lol men literally will use an ugly woman until they have the means to go for the women they want and then do that. Most men won’t even approach a woman with high standards cus they KnOW they can’t afford her lol
6:18 The guy who says: "I would rather wake up single every morning than next to someone ugly. " And he has to use an instagram filter Yeah, talk about projection.
Seeing this video is crazy for me because my first boyfriend said that he was only with me because of my looks but doesn’t actually like me as a person. I feel this way whenever guys focussed too much on looks… finally got one who actually appreciates my mind. I think some people get with people based on looks and then try to mould them into the person they want them to be
So the surest sign to know you ugly af is that you get a man to marry you. But listen to them. When they get rich and they truly have a choice, they will discard the average woman for a baddie quicker than you can blink. So what does that tell you? Guy at 3:30 is really speaking the truth.
Ladies, we are damned if we do and damned if we don’t…. We are getting picked because we are high standards/high maintenance, and on the other side we are picked because we are ugly and what we can offer these men not because of who we are. And them some people get mad when Sheraseven tells us to have the same audacity like these men do…. We will never win 😭😭😭
The guy who said "i know she is ugly" shouldnt have said those words like you just dont ever say those words its almost like "i was desperate but i love her" you dont say those words ever.
I wonder why men cheated on Janet Jackson.....Halle Barry....Carbi B.....so many beautiful women by social standards......My guess is didn't matter how beautiful you think you are......The grass is always greener in someone new bed.....
Is this the same dude that said he doesn't care if the woman that he's attracted to is toxic as f*** and said he'd rather be with her than be with somebody less attractive and nice to him?
The beautiful woman can get paid for her time though, the unattractive women have to settle for simple validation. Men want a partner yes but she is his crutch. I don’t wanna be a man’s partner really I need him to pay me for every single minute.
In my life I've learned that there are assh*les in all groups of people. I've also learned that for me, a person's personality and character is just as important as their physical looks. A person could be as pretty as an angel in a Renaissance painting, but if that's all they've got going for them, physical attractiveness alone won't be enough for long. I'll stick to my sexy-ly witty and intelligent spouse, with his great personality, dad-bod and all, TYVM 😁
Exactly, majority of men will only marry a woman that’s more attractive than them UNLESS he’s 1. Broke and needs a come up or 2. Using the ugly wife as a beard 🍆🍆
there's nothing sweet 😡about calling a woman ugly especially if she is his woman and he says she is ugly🤨, he should never say it out loud, he should keep it to himself and tell no one😤.
6:25 why do the men that talk like this always look like Billy goats, obviously god didn’t bless you once why you think he’s suddenly gonna decide you deserve to be blessed now 😂😂
Women on this post are missing the point. I have known several women who are not attractive by today's standards. But they are happily married for years, and no, they are not doormats. Some of them are quite in charge of their man, they are strong, powerful ladies, which I find really interesting. They wear sweats and are covered up. These women have jobs, one of them is a boss lady, owns her own company, and her man is in his 30s and she is in her 50s, with grey hair. He adores her, and they have been together for 11 years. No, these women self esteem is not low. On the contrary, they know that they don't need to look perfect to be worthy of love. These women attract a different kind of man. Not a man who is impressed by beauty and youth. I think being beautiful never guarantees you will have a happy relationship. Look at all the beautiful Hollywood actresses and how miserable most of them are and their relationships don't work.
What's really messed up about it, is while they may marry the woman who was not that pretty; they will definitely cheat on her with the prettier woman. Everybody loses with these types of men.
People in this video: "Men should date women who are deemed unattractive by society (since beauty standards are always changing) and who have poor self-esteem and self-worth. She will be extremely appreciative of your attention, and you won't even need to put in any effort in the relationship. Yes, treat this woman badly and with brutality." How awful and daft!
To all my ugly(beautiful to me) 😍 sisters around the world ! You are worthy and don’t let any man or anyone tell you otherwise ❤ next time somebody calls you ugly say your mama 😂
Suddenly, growing old with nine cats doesn't seem so bad. I'll be damned if a man uses me.
I'll be damn if my husband say I'm ugly or okay that is messed up!
I would rather be used by cats than a man 😂 . At least, cats are adorable!
on Gawd @@subratanandy2142
Single childfree women are the happiest demographic among all women. Cats ARE the best option.
@@Emptytopfloor exactly
Men in my family literally have told me they go for uglier women because they'll put up with a lot more, expect less, and will be his mommy. Beautiful women have options, but many of them still struggle to find a quality man that actually values her beyond her looks. So the grass is greener, but because it's fake. It's an illusion, a lie. Being conventionally beautiful doesn't save you from being disrespected, used, or abused. Pretty privilege is real, but the privilege to do what exactly? Be preyed upon more often? Be victimized more? I've experienced both sides due to high weight fluctuations. Beauty won't save you from misogyny or the predatory nature of men. ALL women need to have a good self esteem, and as Cynthia G says "boundaries, standards, and expectations". Walk when men SHOW you they don't care to meet nor respect them. That will create a strong foundation within yourself so you never lose yourself in these relationships. It is better to be single in solitude than be to alone in an abusive relationship.
Well said
Yes! Very well said. You really broke it all the way down.
This they prey on unattractive women because it’s easy to manipulate them and they know they don’t get attention like that these men are trash
Lost me at Cynthia g's mammy ass
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All I hear is guys using girls until they can get their dream girl
This is pretty much how it goes. That’s why men cheat on the woman that’s been with him before he got the fame and or money with a more attractive girl bc that’s the woman he’s always wanted; he just couldn’t afford her. I’ll never get with a broke man. lol You are basically just there to build him up for the next woman.
He’ll use the dream girl too.
Hell use her too..he'll treat her a lot better buuut she'll get cheated on
I agree
@@BM-tx2phyup. Pretty or ugly if that man isn’t submitted to God he’s gonna cheat. And a man of God is RARE!
This is sadly untrue. Women who love themselves truly get the best men because they won’t settle for something else. All other women, ugly or not will not get anything worth having.
The only sensible comment here
Finally. I was looking for this comment. It’s insane how many people have such a subjective topic twisted.
Yup i say this all the time. Gotta have self love, standards and boundaries
Exacto
Facts
As a former hottie I want to share that these same guys would hit on me as soon as their “ugly” woman’s back was turned.
Some of these women were super wives who cooked, sewed, built up their man’s career, etc but they got taken for granted.
They were place holders while the guys keep an eye out for an “upgrade”.
Which goes to show that even a WIFE can be a placeholder. It's not just the girl waiting for years and years for him to propose.
Those are not good men then
A 56 year old woman i know was handed his number by a man who had a gorgeous wife.
This older woman had the slim body/figure of a young woman and was wearing a face veil. Looks like many men are never satisfied with one woman. However gorgeous she may be.
Yeah men really aren’t going after looks. That’s where women FUp!
They are after what’s between the legs! One google search shows what men do!!
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So basically they choose the ugly woman cause they're the easy free servant. Thats jacked up. You're basically using them😖
Exactly! It is also what I see around me with friends, neighbours and myself.
Yep that's what I heard too. And some women are too delusional to read in between the lines, this isn't a compliment.
Yes servant
But once she becomes confident gets teeth fixed what he gonna do
@@Sky-yh3ml he will leave her or beat her
attractive men only chase less attractive women when they're BROKE
Period
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I had a guy friend that chose ugly girls cause they were easier to get in bed. Karma got him cause now he's fat, bald and lonely.
@@mamellomosase9448 Most attractive men tend to be broke and there is no such thing as broke and handsome. 😂😴
So I'll be with a woman that I'm not really attracted to because she'll take care of me and treat me like a baby. But I won't be with a girl that has higher standards because I'm too cheap or to trifling to meet those standards. Thank you for telling us something that women have been saying forever!!!!!😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
no you choose a real girl with values over a model with demands
@@harambo88 But models get their demands met, lol.
@@harambo88😂😂😂😂😂 You are hella delusional if you think the vast majority of men are not going to choose looks over morals every time.
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Lol right XD
Lmaoo what? As a woman whos been ugly my whole life, this is absolutely untrue. Men would try to eff me after saying theyre not attracted to me. They get offended if you try to establish any standard or boundary. That goes for both men and women. Ppl will run you ragged if you let them
tbh for bed i PREFER not perfect girls, bc then i can really get freaky. to beautiful and i can adore the beauty but will not get horny for her
Thats the point they willstill eff you, start a relationship with you and even marry you all while never finding you attractive.
This. I always tell women if a man is very handsome and has an unattractive woman he’s trying to use you. NARC! I see they will cater to these men don’t like them be tall. Your being used ladies!
A wise nan wants a beautiful women if he’s handsome.
Men will eff anything
That's exactly the point. They are not attracted to you because you are supposedly ugly🙄 so they make it look like they are doing you a favor trying to eff you.
Most men are just users
Women dont get it yet, they make up soo many conclusions. The point is they are ALL USERS.
Facts. 💯 They choose whoever they benefit from the most. It’s not rocket science 😂 Women are like this as well tho.
You expect a man to pay for all the bills, pay for dates, pay for your lifestyle, let you make your own money, but keep it for yourself, and yet have the audacity to say outta your mouth that men are the users?
But even after all of that, he has to also be this tall, this attractive, this funny, this ambitious, and this good in bed....
Ok😂...
But it's the men are the users... Smh
Ok
U can't make this ish up
Period. No matter what you look like.
And men are LIARS. PERIOD.
Society treats "ugly" people terribly. Especially "ugly" women.
Growing up I've been called ugly my whole life and it did knock down my self-esteem to dangerously low levels. When my self-esteem was low I did almost anything to try to get a date and even keep one after that.
This is why men go for "ugly" women. To use her until he's had enough.
(Sorry for the constant quotes around the word ugly as I myself don't believe anyone is ugly. We're all God's children made in his image.)
I understand that it is hard but do you really think it is harder than being an ugly man? From your post it looks like you still got some attention but if you are a men and ugly you are badicly done for..
@@tmsupreme7763no your not actually if you have money, and a good sense of humor and the ability to support multiple women you'd probably luck out with a woman that's attractive enough to date you because men have an ugly privilege they just don't realize it but an ugly rich woman would not have the same benefits to a hot guy for that long as he would with an attractive woman which is proof that men are often times more shallow then women too he might sleep with one but it's not the same as dating an ugly woman and trying to build a relationship with them. I've seen it happen but the guy is almost always ugly too.
A woman would probably make an exception to Elon musk and he was never that attractive either but because he probably offers his gfs a life of luxury he can have any woman he wants and if a man chooses to be broke and ugly it's a red flag because it means he is not stable enough to have that kind of relationship.
Unless the woman is broke and unattractive too he can't expect anything more than someone on his own level. If we're being totally honest it's not women that are picky with looks it's men. There too picky they look for women that are way out of their league and then they wonder why there not finding good results from it because there preference doesn't want them. Some women may not want to date an ugly rich guy either but they never want to acknowledge that part either because there so worried about women being gold diggers.
That part ....cause I have been called ugly too and been used and abused...men will hump a light socket so this is str8 bs..they don't care this is more about them and less about us
I've rarely been called ugly by anyone, but I've learned you don't have to be called the actual word to know that you are. The fact that I'm fat and rarely approached by men pretty much let me know I wasn't attractive. The thing with me is I always knew that pretty women didn't have to do much to get male attention because I saw it. I saw men go up to them and actually be respectful to them in contrast to how they treated me. Did it suck, heck yes. Was I sad sometimes, yes. But I chucked it up to life isn't fair. And I've never believed the things people have told me about true beauty because I knew it was all BS.
I know why I'm mostly ugly because I'm fat and I refuse to wear makeup so that's my fault. But I know I could look so much better, it's just that I'm often too impatient to wait to get to the better. But the desire to one day become pretty has never left me. I know what I have to do aka get thin and put on some makeup. It's just challenging and I keep procrastinating but to be honest I'm beyond tired and fed up with being the fat ugly girl and being treated differently for it. I want to be the thin pretty girl that men go crazy for and make women jealous. 🤣🤣 That sounds super shallow but it's my truth, and besides it's way funner being the pretty girl then it is being the ugly girl.
Pretty privilege exist and always has, and always will. And I know for me I'd rather work on becoming the prettiest and best version of myself I can possibly be, and if still I can't find a equally good looking male that is kind, and respectful then I don't mind being single. I rather be pretty and forever single. Then be ugly and be with a man who just settled for me because he failed at getting the hot chick he really wanted. But that's just me.
@@PrettyEyesz girl.. these men cheat, beat, scheme on alllll types of women...Pretty or not. I hope you upgrade yourself to boost your confidence for YOURSELF. Self-esteem is a Pookie Repellant 🎉👏
People do not know how hurtful it is to call a woman ugly Viola Davis said it brilliantly that if you are not considered beautiful in society you are not considered worth value especially as a woman. Because society puts so much emphasis on our physical appearance and if something is deemed beautiful in society it's automatically seen worth value.
Which is why so many abusers choose to disfigure their partners because they believe by taking away their beauty they take away their self worth.
calling someone ugly, for me a ugly person, means i respect you as a person. good looking ppl mostly never grew character
erotic capital
Amen
@@harambo88what a huge cope lol
Viola Davis wasn’t deemed beautiful but those who said it can’t deny she’s attractive.
People in general are so shallow, I'd rather be alone than deal with any of these people in the video or anyone like them
Same here. Thats why I am single for 12 years. But I am happier than in any relationship I had.
Right
They may marry the "ugly" women but they still gas up the BBL baddies
And cheats on his wife for the bbl ladies etc
@@Tati843 nothing but truth
Once married or in a long-term relationship there's no fear of abandonment so they can chase bimbos and still receive free labor and get their needs met by their significant other.
@@khrisi9410 which is 2 for the price of 1 😂🤣 which is awful and I honestly hate that social media telling men it's okay to cheat yeah okay u cheat on me I up and leave simple
Yup, they will cheat with the baddie too and get caught over and over while he gets another one and the ugly wife will stay because she’s insecure and doesn’t want to be alone.
All I'm hearing is basically that they choose the unattractive woman because she will basically take care of them, you know like cook, clean, let him drive her car, let him live in her home, she has more money than him. He doesn't have to lift a finger. She also gives him sex every time he asks, puts up with his serial cheating, and she will most likely never leave because she knows with her unattractive looks she really doesn't have that many options in men.
Therefore they don't want the pretty woman because she wants to be catered to and provided for and some men aren't able to give her that so they go to the unattractive girl because she's more willing to put up with their BS and a pretty girl isn't because she knows she always has options and can always do way better. This is the real truth.
I would say that an atractuve women has been dicked down by so manny man than their expectations are really high and by just having sex with her boyfriend everynow and again is all the efort she has to put in the reletionship while expecting the men to do everything. Just my interpretation tho.🤷
@tmsupreme7763 you're view point is interesting but I don't know if it's actually factual.
@@PrettyEyeszit’s not. It’s based on what people “think” is the reality
@liabw05 makes sense that's why I said I didn't know if what that commenter said was factual because I really don't know. It's not surprising that people believe that most pretty women have high body counts because usually they always have men interested in them, but we also know that not every pretty woman is out here letting a high number of dudes smash, because those are the pretty ones that are often labeled stuck up. But anyway...
These men are lazy and their logic is giving Forest gump
There are sooooo many beautiful, "hot" women that treat their men well and still get treated like crap or get taken for granted. Men are the ones that are hard to understand, not women as what society likes to have us think.
Exactly
Exactly I'm one of them now I don't and they treat me well!
Im “hot” and men do great by me
Men will settle for women they're not attracted to because that's the best they can do, doesn't mean that's what he wants ,, they would rather be with a hot attractive woman who has a nice personality but sometimes that's not available so they settle for whatever they can get because they don't want to be alone
I agree
Yes they do my fiancée said to me his co-worker said his wife is "okay looking". I was like what? Okay! You should never view or even say your wife is okay looking
@@Tati843 I hate that because in the end the woman gets hurt
if a man doesn't find a woman attractive he should leave her alone and stop leading women on
Leave them be and let a man who does find them attractive come into her life
beautiful women don't usually have their own personalities. And they don't have to. They're boring and dry as hell
And they will cheat on them with the kind of women he wants but doesn't want him and only wants his money
This ain't true, but whatever... A pretty women can be kind and helpful too wtf.
Thank you! Beautiful women can be modest as well.
And be smart. And have hobbies. I could go on.
It's just a simple triangulation technique. They do it also when they compare women based on nationality or race, saying one is better than the other. They do it in hopes that women will prove themselves as the better option. When you aren't male identified or desperate, you see they aren't a prize.
Time for all women to decenter men
Right. More than likely they've hit on 10's their entire lives and those women wouldn't give him the time of day. So they've convinced themselves that pretty women don't have any other worthwhile qualities. I've heard women say that they refuse to date hot guys because in their experience, hot men aren't good to women because they don't have to be to get one.
@misspriss2482 That fact isn't surprising however unattractive men cheat and mistreat women too, so If I'm going to take a chance and get done dirty by a guy, I rather he be hot then not. Shallow I know. But regardless of looks a jerk will be a jerk, ya know...
A man will put you through the ringer if you let them. It doesn’t matter how you look. Get some self esteem and keep it pushing
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I just keep hearing “Attractive women have high self esteem and standards, so I go for the unattractive girls-until I can at least meet the financial standard of the attractive women”. Baby the way I say “Stay a single baddie before you EVER settle for one of these broke decrepit non ambitious men”.
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I think anyone who agrees with this commentary needs to rethink the definition of high maintenance vs. high standards. Being high-maintenance doesn’t mean you have high standards. Being "ugly" doesn’t mean you have low standards and will accept anything from anybody.
Yep, like they feel because they define you as ugly that You wake up feeling worthless, imagine that?
My pet peeve is when society just assumes all baddies and Gorgeous women are shallow and airheads. That narrative has to stop!! There are beautiful women who have great hearts and minds.
On the contrary, people don’t talk about how some ugly/avg looking women can have nasty attitudes and project their insecurities onto other women.
My point is everyone has to stop dating off of stereotypes.
Omg soooo true!
Thank you. This.
When a man says , attractive women are shallow , he is the one that's actually shallow and those women rejected him . Believe it !!
it doesn't help the conversation when you have the likes of that polina chick mumbling something about beautiful women needing their this or that paid for. poor thing is being used and doesn't even realize it.... the narrative of "men pay for me because im beautiful" is very sad. they pay for you because you're for sale, love.
@@Thewhiteandorange Men invest/pay for what they value. If “she’s for sale” and he pays that means he respected her enough to pay for her time, her beauty and/or her services. Men will spend hundreds of thousands on OFs models while convincing other women to behave like non profit organizations. Its not a flex to be exploited for free love. 😕
You know, growing up being called "ugly" and being made aware that you're undesirable will really ruin your self esteem as a girl. So it's hard to get into dating spheres with all that unpacked trauma because even till today women like me who are dark skinned still get called undesirable because we aren't part of what's considered conventionally attractive. We still get back handed comments like "You weren't what I expected" "I should've spoke to you first" "You're pretty for a dark skinned girl/ black girl" and it's like who are you even talking to with that mess???
I'm honestly over men, and I don't blame women for actively choosing to be single if this is what the dating culture offers.
Honestly, I'm so sorry you have so much scars. Sending you love for healing.
I've been ugly younger and now beautiful and let me tell you: I get disrespected on a daily basis.
It's the wrong kind of attention: they treat you like an object, and women would literally kill you if they could erase you.
I think being just a woman is hard in this world. You can never do right.
I think it's a sign of severe mental illness if you can look someone right in their face and actually manage say such evil and degrading things. I can't even imagine doing that.
I'm pale and I got the same. It's gaslighting, not race.
Girl don't believe what their doing, I realized alot of men just try to play on insecurities. ITS ABOUT GETTING SEX EASIER. I came to that realization this year. Anything to down play and get what they want easier.
It's not just hard being a woman in this world. It's hard being/existing/surviving. Period.
Honestly, all of this sounds like a headache. When you just want to have a genuine life with a genuine person and it seems it's all a game. I remember my clubbing days and I overheard men saying they go for heavy women or less attractive because they can take advantage of them. What's the point of a relationship if everyone is just playing games and no one is genuine?
The age of being hyperfocused on romantic relationships is over.
Go find some friends
Most of us are old enough to know that getting a man isn't necessarily a victory. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and some men do treasure personality over looks. However, most men get with ugly women because ugly women have low self-esteem, they have few options, and they'll put up with anything to keep him. No man hardly ever looks their way so they'll cater to a man in a desperate attempt to hold on to him. It's pretty sad. The man himself will usually have low self-esteem so he figures that the ugly woman isn't going anywhere. I've seen a few men get surprised though. I wouldn't advise any man to get too comfortable. 😂
Fewer options don't make a woman stay. Low self-esteem isn't a character of all the women you have decided to call ugly. Many beautiful women have low self value and constantly want attention. They feel insecure when someone doesn't like their picture or gaslight them about how much better they are. At the end of the day, being ugly or beautiful does not determine your self-worth and definitely doesn't define how you feel about boundaries and values.
All of this just sounds toxic, on all fronts 😅
That's because it is 😅
I think it’s because men don’t want to feel as insecure about other men taking their lady
A lot of super attractive have low self esteem and act just as pick me as a homely woman might. This is why I don’t agree with these opinions
I would rather be the beautiful woman that he can’t have and can only dream about then the ugly woman at home waiting for her doggy treat…
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Say that again 👏🏽
Lol, who wouldn't be? But, not everyone is born with or can even access that luxury...
@@samhayet4286 unfortunately some women are born into unfortunate circumstances.
I know it’s unfortunate, that why we should always help one another.
Why do I feel like this video was to make someone somewhere make themselves feel better? A man feeds on desperation. Whether "beautiful" or "ugly" when you are desperate with zero self esteem, you can be used by anyone not just men. C'mon.
💯💯 Right bc good looking women can lack self esteem as well. Most men prey on weak insecure low self esteem women in general. They will benefit more from the relationship.
Attractions and attractiveness are extremely subjective. Beauty standards change all the time. I'm a "not traditionally good looking woman" who has an amazing husband I've been with for almost 30 years. He has always thought I was beautiful, and still does. Physical beauty fades as people age. You gotta have other stuff going on in a relationship.
Of course. But we're talking about men who don't find their wives attractive. Your situation is different.
I was always called ugly by my family. I was put down and told no man would ever want me. 18 years into my marriage and my husband still calls me beautiful and cherishes me. He says my sisters are ugly in both personality and looks. I've asked him why he would say that and he just stares at me like "really?". I still struggle with insecurities, but he always reassures me.
Ivam stunningly gorgeous.
I don't date, I see no value in romantic relationships and marriage.
It just means you do a lot of Extra work.
The Hubby might love you, but does he do his share of household work and relationship work?
Living with a man mistly means doing household work for two people.
I see that as a waste of my time
A TOTAL LIE!! the second guy response was telling the whole goddamn truth. Let’s keep it a buck. Dudes is waiting to upgrade.
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Being ugly myself, this video was brutal. But I’m glad I saw it. You’re totally right.
Exactly. The only one that kept it a buck. Most men drop the women that they could pull once the elevate. Only date accomplished men. 🤷♀️
Pretty women are too hard to obtain and take care for a lot of men internationally but “ugly” women require less maintenance and they will put up with a lot more. There, that’s it. Don’t fall for it ladies it’s not a compliment.
This comment is shallow as hell , vain asf and not a compliment. This conversation screams misogyny . Honestly, do you believe ugly women are just dumb and naive? By virtue of being physically unattractive, you are now desperate and stupid? And please describe an ugly woman for me, just curious 🤔
bs ,im ugly af ,i tried to get married from16-20 i got THE WORST INCELL NECKBEARD 30+ CHRISTIANS and told me ''u deserve worst and u ower me for lowering myself for u''
ugly/disabled women get the worst men cuz most people think we are lesser ,and that its ok to abuse us because ''womens worth based on looks''
you can do anything for a man and hell still cheat or abuse you and nothing is ever good enough
my ex passport bro looked like a super model
he constantly abused me ,and told me i owed him and have to earn him cuz im so ugly and worthless
and that he can do better
i get threats from 30+ men irl of joke-r-threats
and that its ok cuz i have no value
and the fact I HAVE THE AUDACIDY to reject men and wanna be alone instead of begging any man to be with me
eaven women tell me ''u should be gratefull a gay male would wanna r you''
It is horrible and disgusting how people treat you as a disabled person. When I was fat I experienced the same. Only ugly fat disgusting men like alcoholics, homless and narcissists were interested in me. Now that I am slim and take more care of myself, these men dont show affection anymore. But also, no other men are interested in me. In my home country Germany men dont approach women on the street like it is normal in America. So, I dont know it is because I am still ugly or not. When I traveled to New York City a lot of attractive men approched me on the street or stared after me. So, I think I am not that ugly anymore, haha. But I was so dumb at that time to choose a narcassit 🙈
it's true, i had a visible skin disorder all my life and was ignored my entire life, no man approached me, no one asked my phone number or cared...they want beautiful
=< I'm sorry people talk to you like this
@@howtopaint3552did you try dating sites like badoo etc because now young men very shy to ask phone number on the streets
Oh man . As if women have hearts and souls ! How dare they not accept criminals because nobody else would want them ! Talk about logic . I'm losing my faith in humanity.
Ladies a good man will not treat anyone around him like something to be used and abused.
If he is doing that to you, it is NOT because of your looks but his ugly heart.
Even supermodels get abused and cheated on. Be careful who you allow into your personal life, you deserve to feel safe and cherished even if you have to do that alone. If a man calls you ugly, he is a piece of crap. End of discussion.
Neuroscientist andrew huberman says most men are afraid to go after who they truly desire 😊
I truly believe this…
@@AlexaGoldSoul it's disturbing and sad
Which podcast/episode was that from?
My friend used to tell me he didn't marry a average girl because he can't get more better woman but the problem is if he marry a woman who looks more beautiful than him or out of league then she won't tolerate there suck up behaviour but having a average looking girl means they can use them easily.
This is your friend?
There's a movie "Malena" starring Monica Belluci about how beauty can be a disgrace for a woman.
Highly recommend it.
Malena was faithful to her husband until she was practically starving, after her husband was believed to have died and her father disowned her due to vicious rumors about her being promiscuous. She either refused to sleep with a man or another woman was jealous and deeply insecure about her husband being attracted to Malena and that was his/her retaliation. No one would hire her to work so she had no income. Prior to this, she was accused of having an affair and was required to prove her innocence in court. The lawyer who volunteered to represent her, pro bono, raped her as "payment."
Tell me you have internalised misogyny without telling me you have internalised misogyny. Jeez. Women have enough challenges without someone like this spreading toxic falsehoods about our agency based on our physical attributes.
Exactly I'm confused as to why she even thinks this conversation is okay to have
I was beautiful when young ; skinny, loving, and caring and low self- esteem and low self- worth. I'm older premenopausal and body looks a mess and I have the most confidence and boundaries than i ever had before .
Men don’t care what you look like. If a man think you ugly and he is not referring to your character, he is really complaining about not getting the chick in his imagination. Dating is like playing Russian Roulette with a fully loaded gun. I don’t even care if it is red, green, yellow or royal blue, when I sense a flag about to fly I am exiting ship 💯. And got a guard dog. I have learned to keep my relationship status to myself cause nowadays admitting being single is hazardous to your health‼️
As an ugly woman, i find that men are either overtly disgusted by me, see me as a charity case or someone to pity or outright pretend i don't exist. I feel like i see who men really are, for all their shallowness and narcissism. Ngl, being ugly does suck so much, it does eat away at your confidence and it's a heavy cross to carry when you try to take care of yourself and no matter what you do, you just always look awful. But i am glad i do not get approached by men. Knowing that i will only be used or seen as someone who will never leave. I plan to remain single to the day i die and i will never entertain a single man no matter what.
I wish and hope you will find the beauty in you and let it out. You can water it and allow yourself to grow.
Don't call yourself ugly anymore.
Call yourself a budding flower, soon to bloom. ❤ work on yourself, let your beauty out. ❤
“The average woman will treat you like a wife” says a man talking about how he wants to be treated as a boyfriend, not even a husband. So many things wrong here.
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First- Society puts a woman's worth on her physical appearance. The same way society put men's worth on his wealth.
To quote Marilyn Monroe "A girl being pretty is like a man being rich your not going to marry a girl just because she's pretty but it absolutely helps".
Secondly who are you (The people in the video) to decide what is attractive and what isn't because standards of beauty vary decade to decade and culture to culture just because you aren't attracted to a person with a certain look does not mean that they are unattractive.
We are all beautiful when we have the kindness and positivity.
All I have to say is that this is a one-sided argument. I say this because men who genuinely love their wives despite not fitting the beauty standards, would not be in this discussion because of not wanting to dishonor their wives with the insult of being called ugly. If you want proof of this, the video with the woman reading the letter of the woman being called ugly by her husband's friends shows you the impact and consequences of a man doing this.
I also want to mention, that there are men who care nothing about beauty who are very attractive and sought after. I have seen it with my eyes as an ugly woman (With High Standards and ONLY attract handsome men). There is a lot more I can say, but I am going to leave it at that. This discussion is disturbing on so many levels.
I agree. I did not like this discussion or video. I was hoping for another outcome.
"If you let a person talk long enough, you’ll hear their true intentions"
"Why men are incapable of love"
- Princella Clark
Its funny how she was giving food for thought and then dudes take that food for thought and turn it into a manipulative tactic. 🙄
Just because she's not a 10 doesn't mean that she doesn't have standards. I know I'm not gorgeous, but I tell people I have a high cute factor. I'm never going to call myself ugly even if someone says I am.
Sheraseven says controversial things, but she's right about a lot.
I had a friend that was mad that a guy she liked was talking to me. We had a good conversation that's all it was and my "friend" said, "He only gave you attention cause your plain and he knows he doesn't have to try hard with you." I told her, "He's Gay and already has a partner, and we were just talking."
One thing that we have to take into consideration is, beauty standards seem to be very eurocentric. My experience being a dude with close indigenous/native american ancestry (my aunt was), I have dated lots of girls who would be considered "atractive" by society standards, but I was almost never considered atractive myself. From Mexico to Brazil, there's alot of r*cism towards indigenous people, I used to not like my ancestry, but thankfully I am more than proud of it now 🧡🧡
How ironic. Eurocentric beauty standards with an afrocentric appropriated twist because that's the trend
Yall have the most perfect noses ever
@@chayo4537 "trend" in your warped reality maybe.
@@CyberMachine thanks ❤❤ but I disagree, my nose is not considered beautiful here, I can assure Ya 🥺
@@wellersonoliveira5334if thats you in your pic you're a gorgeous man😊
They also want a woman who’s less attractive than them coz when they are punching above their weight, they just become painfully insecure coz they know you could do better and be with another dude, so they get extra jealous and possessive. Speaking from personal experience. 🙄
"A girl who drains me out" 🤮🤮🤮
Pretty privilege doesn’t amount to much either. Ask Cassie, Halle Berry, and Amber Rose.
Beauty heightens a man’s ego. It’s the other way around nowadays. I see more unattractive men with beautiful women.
What? Nah. I do not think a female thinks this way. I don't. I wouldn't get together with a physically ugly guy because of what he could do for me. No. Still looking for someone that's like me and that is compatible. I discovered that guys that are less attractive will drive you insane with their jealousy and insecurity problems and will even ask you - why are you with me?
@@theconsciousearthangel
Personally, I couldn’t be with someone I’m not attracted to. There are some women who deal with unattractive men just for the sake of having a man. I knew a man named Yikes cause he was so unattractive. He had charm and street smarts. He would have the prettiest of women fighting over him. I couldn’t understand what they saw in him .
@@nubiangold1296 you can take an average guy that is physically very average but if he's got a good head on his shoulders, perhaps is funny and kind, and is respectful, then I can understand why he would be able to have a lot of pretty women. Physical looks is nice but once you get to know a person they either get prettier or less attractive based on their inner qualities.
People focus too much on the physical which is funny as we always focus on the wrong things when it comes to everything. With that said - physical is nice and should still be there. However, it doesn't last. But inner qualities always remain.
@@theconsciousearthangel
I agree with you wholeheartedly. Physical attributes shouldn’t be only determining factor when choosing a partner. Personality and compatibility means more to me than physical attraction alone. I wouldn’t deal with a jerk with a six pack, I’d rather take a respectful man with a little meat around the midsection . Looks are important but character is more valuable.
“If you ever think you’re ugly, there’s always someone out there who’s uglier than you”
-Cardi B
What a terrible take to basically imply that beautiful women don't have more to themselves than looks. This is just deeply rooted misogyny.
Beautiful women most definitely have more than just looks, as do most women. The point is that Beautiful women tend to also have higher self-esteem & boundaries. Whilst less-attractive women tend to put up with a lot more & are more willing to bend over backwards for their men, in fear that they won't get another.
Everybody knows men with money are the most visual are you kidding me! What's this some new PHENOMENON??
Yup. Even if the woman isn’t a supermodel most men with money date women in their same social and economic circles too. 😕
Delusional propaganda to get mediocre males a woman that will tolerate thier bs
I don’t think there’s necessarily anything wrong with viewing your partner as unattractive if you mean it CONVENTIONALLY (as in the more objective, wider society view on beauty standards). But your partner should definitely be attractive to you SUBJECTIVELY at least.
Maybe I’m biased because of how my orientation works, but it wouldn’t matter to me if models or athletes or whoever else that most people find conventionally attractive is thrown at me. My husband has always been the most attractive person to me because I love him. And I have told him how attractive I find him (truthfully) at every stage of our relationship including all his different weight fluctuations, hairstyle changes, or clothing choices.
Looks may matter in a way, but they are superficial reasons to build a life and love with someone. You need far more than that because looks change and fade for everybody over time. It’s just a fact of life some people can’t seem to wrap their brains around.
We can all look beautiful and ugly depending on where we are in our cycle, shower or no shower ect. I was really ugly yesterday hadn’t washed my hair in days and just didn’t care much. Today I washed my hair and did some skincare/makeup and I look beautiful. It’s all subjective there’s pics of super models looking haggard at grocery store it’s normal to feel and look ugly sometimes.
I won’t date a 10/10 guy bc I think he’ll cheat but then the ugly ones cheat too 🥴
So, it’s best to date the rich one and get the bag 😂
@@Emptytopfloorit's best to get the bag by yourself and worry about nothing
@@knot_kisses ding ding ding!!!
@@knot_kisses you can do both. Get your own bag and date a rich man to have his own bag too 😂
Pastor P tells us they dont give a hoot about any of that lol
"Attractive" or "unattractive", women keep fighting each other to get men's attention. And that's the problem. Everything else is just talking. Men will get it all:, marry the "unattractive" woman to take care of him and have "attractive" women to feed his ego.
No - they may do the sensible thing young.. and then they’ll just cheat on her later.
You can be a 10, have a phd,volunteer, be all the things.. and he’ll still cheat. It doesn’t matter. You do you boo
It's not about looks. Successful people who are smart know that they need people to have a good character and be smart, not just look cute
@@cat888
Not only social media, but Hollywood movies as well. Too many stories that we consume have that "love at first sight" thing. Where the girl is always the fairest of all or the hottest in the school and that's why the main guy loves her, while not even knowing her name.
What that woman said in the beginning was horrible. I am not pretty by any means but i have been treated horribly by a lot of people. I can care for people, and i have ab education. The last guy i was with abused me and i was done
Dude any man who uses "sexual market value" is a walkign red flag
For the internet’s sake, being average or a “plain jane” is what’s being considered ugly. But looks seriously aren’t everything. Oftentimes the people (both men and women) who have values outside of vanity tend to make the best partners because they can offer something real. They can be selfless, kind, creative, and most importantly humble. Iykyk
I strongly dislike that generalizing opinions! Handsome men don't choose ugly women for their inner qualities.
There is a misconception that people have come up with that a beautiful woman must have inferior inner qualities than a not so beautiful one. There is a belief these days that a lie repeated enough times becomes a truth. It is a lie 🐸🤓
No. Stereotypes exist for a reason lol
Nah, as a someone not conventionally attractive I just know that I am, everyone let me know growing up (sorry mom you tried but you couldn’t fight the words of the whole planet) and I still ain’t let an asshole walk all over me. They get extra mad at you too when you’re ugly and dump em 😂😂😂
It’s interesting how the first “relationship coach” came on here talking about ugly women get better men cus they’re better and men are literally on here saying with their chests that the only women they date ugly women is because they’re EASIER, do more and are easy to manipulate. It’s also very silly to think that gorgeous women also can’t being anything but beauty. I guess ppl tell themselves anything to make them feel good. lol men literally will use an ugly woman until they have the means to go for the women they want and then do that. Most men won’t even approach a woman with high standards cus they KnOW they can’t afford her lol
Listen to shera yall
Take care of yourself, eat healthy, workout and have a good heart and you'll be beautiful. And have self love ❤️
This is the perpetual reality of being a woman ugly or not men need to work on themselves!
6:18
The guy who says:
"I would rather wake up single every morning than next to someone ugly. "
And
he has to use an instagram filter
Yeah, talk about projection.
He was annoying.
there are attractive women who have a lot to offer personality-wise too 🤪
Exactly!!
Seeing this video is crazy for me because my first boyfriend said that he was only with me because of my looks but doesn’t actually like me as a person. I feel this way whenever guys focussed too much on looks… finally got one who actually appreciates my mind. I think some people get with people based on looks and then try to mould them into the person they want them to be
I’m just tired I’m done with men, dating, everything.
I genuinely don't understand how men try so hard to not get better.
So the surest sign to know you ugly af is that you get a man to marry you. But listen to them. When they get rich and they truly have a choice, they will discard the average woman for a baddie quicker than you can blink. So what does that tell you? Guy at 3:30 is really speaking the truth.
Yeah, you’re ugly if the broke guy marries you. You’re pretty if you’re the old rich guy’s 2nd or 3rd wife. Such is The world we live in!
I think it boils down to options. It's really not nice to call people ugly or average.
Ladies, we are damned if we do and damned if we don’t…. We are getting picked because we are high standards/high maintenance, and on the other side we are picked because we are ugly and what we can offer these men not because of who we are. And them some people get mad when Sheraseven tells us to have the same audacity like these men do…. We will never win 😭😭😭
Most good looking men do not have money. They know beautiful women aren’t going for it.
The guy who said "i know she is ugly" shouldnt have said those words like you just dont ever say those words its almost like "i was desperate but i love her" you dont say those words ever.
The second guy was absolutely disgusting. He looks forward to ditching an “ugly” woman for a “pretty” one? Ugh. 🤬
Dusties believe in making their lives easier and can't blame them. These men are princesses
And then they try to cheat with the baddies
Never believe a man that says he doesn’t want a chase.. lol ok homie pleeeeeeeeeaaaassssseee
I wonder why men cheated on Janet Jackson.....Halle Barry....Carbi B.....so many beautiful women by social standards......My guess is didn't matter how beautiful you think you are......The grass is always greener in someone new bed.....
Is this the same dude that said he doesn't care if the woman that he's attracted to is toxic as f*** and said he'd rather be with her than be with somebody less attractive and nice to him?
The beautiful woman can get paid for her time though, the unattractive women have to settle for simple validation. Men want a partner yes but she is his crutch. I don’t wanna be a man’s partner really I need him to pay me for every single minute.
Same.
In my life I've learned that there are assh*les in all groups of people. I've also learned that for me, a person's personality and character is just as important as their physical looks. A person could be as pretty as an angel in a Renaissance painting, but if that's all they've got going for them, physical attractiveness alone won't be enough for long.
I'll stick to my sexy-ly witty and intelligent spouse, with his great personality, dad-bod and all, TYVM 😁
The men who said he dates ugly women as a strategy is actually ugly himself though
Hmm I haven’t seen this IRL unless the “best/good men” are fat, sloppy with poor genetics and not financially stable.
Exactly, majority of men will only marry a woman that’s more attractive than them UNLESS he’s 1. Broke and needs a come up or 2. Using the ugly wife as a beard 🍆🍆
there's nothing sweet 😡about calling a woman ugly especially if she is his woman and he says she is ugly🤨, he should never say it out loud, he should keep it to himself and tell no one😤.
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The kind of things yall people call unattractive are just decent average looking.
6:25 why do the men that talk like this always look like Billy goats, obviously god didn’t bless you once why you think he’s suddenly gonna decide you deserve to be blessed now 😂😂
Ladies, don’t be the peanut butter sandwich, be the caviar👑♥️💰💅🏾
Women on this post are missing the point. I have known several women who are not attractive by today's standards. But they are happily married for years, and no, they are not doormats. Some of them are quite in charge of their man, they are strong, powerful ladies, which I find really interesting. They wear sweats and are covered up. These women have jobs, one of them is a boss lady, owns her own company, and her man is in his 30s and she is in her 50s, with grey hair. He adores her, and they have been together for 11 years. No, these women self esteem is not low. On the contrary, they know that they don't need to look perfect to be worthy of love. These women attract a different kind of man. Not a man who is impressed by beauty and youth. I think being beautiful never guarantees you will have a happy relationship. Look at all the beautiful Hollywood actresses and how miserable most of them are and their relationships don't work.
So no one wins. Ugly women get the ring but get his remnants after he gives to the pretty women he actually desires his all?😂💔
Just because a pretty woman is high maintenance that’s why he’s choosing a ugly girl just by default?? And that’s a win?? Umm no he’s just setting
@@tiahnarodriguez3809 All I know is a man will always guard his wallet with his life so that’s where we need to hit him in the mf wallet.
And then they cheat with pretty princesses.
What's really messed up about it, is while they may marry the woman who was not that pretty; they will definitely cheat on her with the prettier woman. Everybody loses with these types of men.
People in this video: "Men should date women who are deemed unattractive by society (since beauty standards are always changing) and who have poor self-esteem and self-worth. She will be extremely appreciative of your attention, and you won't even need to put in any effort in the relationship. Yes, treat this woman badly and with brutality."
How awful and daft!
Facts. Fine men only. You definitely told the truth. Keep up the great content girl.
To all my ugly(beautiful to me) 😍 sisters around the world ! You are worthy and don’t let any man or anyone tell you otherwise ❤ next time somebody calls you ugly say your mama 😂