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Have you ever watched Psych? Its a sherlock holmes adaptation but its really good n imo both the leads are neurospicy. Dunno if on netflix in your area or not tho

Understand how you find it difficult to communicate how you are struggling. I feel the same. I'll often just shut down and not even try to tell people in my life how I'm feeling because either they don't understand (and I assume this is because the things I'm struggling with might otherwise be very easy for them) or I don't want to burden them with my (petty in their eyes) problems. This poses a major problem in that I am essentially pushing them away: I don't see any other choice however. If the understanding is not there, from either party essentially, then what hope is there. I also find it difficult to say no to people. I went to a social gathering of Family on the weekend; 5 adults, 3 children and it was just too much. I was given an out option - but I hadn't seen them for a while, and I did want to catch up. But it was still too much, and I've suffered as a result, and I do not feel good now. It also created conflict because I have gone into shutdown multiple times since and isolated myself in order to recover.

That landlord. Hate those types of people. To this day, 10+ years after trying to analyse the behaviour of manipulative people in my life, I do not understand why they behave this way. Thankfully you are leaving that behind. I need to start using ChatGPT. Just questioned something relating to my own ladlord which has been answered quite well. Better than the 2 agencies I've contacted so far regarding this.

What a painful experience!

Same

My fiancé and I worked from home together for so long, I didn't realize how much he helped me remember to eat. So now that he has weeks where he has to go into the office, I often just don't eat until dinner (which he makes, lol)

Im in a group home nobody understands me I am autistic

Phone calls are the worst. One phone call that I have to make might take me a week to prepare for, and come down from. And everything else, apart from the bare minimum will be put aside. If I have to make a phone call while employed, and I don't normally have to, I would sooner quit than make that call. I really don't understand why it is that the most important things require making a phone call, like making an appointment with the Psychologist or what not. Why can it not just be done via email?

I'd say only bring it up if it comes up in conversation. Mask and keep it short so you don't have to mask for long. I don't think there's any reason why your landlord needs to know you're Autistic - it's not going to affect them in any way. Let your partner do most of the interaction since he is better at it.

I love Sherlock and House, never connected them to autism though but then I didn't even see it in myself until recently. I might have to go rewatch them with the new lens 🤔 Thinking back it is kind of funny how I used the bare-knuckle fight scene from the 2009 Sherlock movie to describe to my partner at the time how my brain worked and this was 6ish years ago so well before I suspected anything 🤣

Yep, I've thought about that too. I'm usually praised or envied because of some of my traits but mostly the "results" of being me, if that makes any sense 😅 What they reject about us is the fact of being socially different, I think because of fear

I think unfortunately it is not the autism they admire but the high IQ?

Well said!

I’m talking about a fictional representation of autism of course; real life is a different story 😅

I was diagnosed with Klinefelter Syndrome first due to tiredness (and actually passing out because of it). But later after hormone replacement which fixed the physical exertion issue when exercising, I discovered that there was still an issue with getting tired after socialising = Autism. I've started unmasking by not responding to people who ask me "hi, how are you" at checkout counters, in shops and what not. I don't want to lie and say "I'm fine, thanks", I don't want to tell them how I am, and I'm pretty sure they don't want to know either. And I certainly don't care how they are; I've got my own issues that I'm dealing with. BTW your hair looks fantastic 😉

I really resonate with a lot of what you’re saying, especially with when I was younger and even my mom suspected I may have autism (she didn’t get me tested though) because I didn’t mask and my regular childhood friends (who are still my friends today) were neurodivergent. I struggle socially especially, and it’s affecting my current work situation greatly. But I don’t feel that I stim or really need to. I don’t have much sensory issues. So I want to get officially diagnosed by a psychologist. My current therapist (no.4) is the only one who has indicated that I may have autism. And just like many other female late diagnosed autistics, this is one of my special interests currently, especially autistic burnout because I may be in the midst of it. I really hope I find a job that I can at least tolerate. I am the breadwinner in my partnership currently; my fiancé is working but he’s in grocery, and we graduated with the same degree (B.S chemical engineering). I feel it’s so freaking unfair. I also relate to your toxic family relationship-I’m dealing with that now and I am not going entirely no-contact but I am low contact because talking with them makes me so freaking stressed out 😂😭. Also your name is beautiful!

Yes definitely an effort. Luckily my other half is good at cooking so he helps with meals too. It is a bind though, but like you Paune I am grateful for food of course.

Good idea. I also put on music and dance, I just do whatever I want but the moving around really helps get out any excess energy and calms me right down. I am a rubbish dancer..🤣 but it doesn't matter...😀

Thank you for your message, and I will give it a go. Take care

Love this

Perfectly said. ❤

Hmm good tip! 😊

I'm still working on the "compassion for myself" part. 😮‍💨

I read your facial expressions quite easily without you having to force an expression, but my dad also had a flat affect. If you watch the way people move their eyeballs, and their eye lids, you can find a lot of nonverbal communication in it. Especially without eye contact, it’s like watching how someone’s mind works.

Almost 50 years now of being asked "what's wrong?" & "are you ok?" when I'm not actively monitoring my facial expressions

I am so pleased for you and you are absolutely 💯 right.

I miss playing with a yo-yo, I could do a couple of simple tricks but I would happily sit there just making it go up and down. I'd never thought of it as a stimming thing though. Maybe that's why I also enjoyed doing Poi so much at one point, not that I was very good at that either but it was fun to do and since I used glowsticks it was pretty to look at (for me at least). Also thank you for sharing the link for where you got the Needoh cube, I've ordered one off amazon but I didn't get to pick the color. Keeping my fingers crossed for pink 🤞

I like how you edited this from the long-form video, plays in a loop perfectly ❤️

Agreed. My label changed my life. It's amazing the difference

I hate it when socks don’t fit right or get messed up!😥

Alot of people don't understand how much it means to have the diagnosis. Like you say it helps you understand yourself and have compassion. My son was 14 when he finally got his dyspraxia diagnosis and for him it was along the lines of a life saver because until then he suffered with depression and frustration and anger towards himself because he struggled with alot of tasks, when all his friends didn't. A diagnosis/label is everything when you are struggling. I agree Paune that you are lucky if you don't have to have a label.🧡

I know that feeling, when I remember to eat that is 😆 What I want to know is why no one has developed nice meal replacement options, I'd be happy if I got everything I needed in a drink. At least food would be optional and not feel like a chore.

I’ve had very bad social anxiety for as long as I can remember and was never given any kind of help for it, so I have never been officially diagnosed with anything except depression. I self-medicated with various things until I started shutting down around 29. It has been a steady decline since then. I’ll be 44 next month… I’ve thought it was depression all this time but your video has helped me realize this is most likely burnout. I’ve only recently been learning about masking and sensory issues, which I’ve always dealt with but just never knew anything about. Thank you for talking about this and I hope that you are able to get back to doing the things in life that bring you happiness.

The worst part is thinking about what to eat. The other worst part is making it. I never want to do either of those things.

I considered myself to be very well adjusted for my teenage years but when I graduated highschool and specifically when I came out as trans and dealt with many issues in workplaces my life "ended" and I have been burnt out since its been 2 years of no work and 6 years of himikomori behaviour. I'm working so hard to fix this but from the outside it looks like I am literally just doing nothing.

I'm with you there. Ever since a car accident in 2009 resulting major head trauma, combined with other major medical issues, cptsd, unhappy work enviromnents, bad relationships and loss which led to being burnout since. *I hope things get better for you, dear. And anyone else feeling similar. Hugs.*

Thank you so much for reminding me of Scoubidous, I used to love them as a kid. I've already gone and added some to a list on amazon, lets hope I still remember how to do them 😂 I've also got some pop-it things in a list aswell, I've wanted one for a bit but didn't know what they were called so thanks for that too ❤

Your story is very interesting! Thank you for sharing. 😊

Asking myself that every frigging day😅

I'm in my 40's and I need to work full time or else I will have nowhere to live, but I am so afraid that I won't be able to continue at some point. Summer here can get over 35 Celsius and winter can get below -35 Celsius... on top of not having stability and my things and my routines. Being homeless is so terrifying that I somehow manage to cope and continue.

I’m okay with breakfast(on weekdays only) because I have the same cereal every morning. And I am good on dinner because I absolutely love cooking and exploring new recipes but I really hate lunch! If I don’t have leftovers, it’s so hard to find something that is relatively healthy to eat that is quick and easy. I don’t have the time or energy to cook more than one big meal a day. I skip lunch a lot because of this…. Then on weekends I have my chore routines where I must get them done before anything else so I’ll wind up not eating or drinking anything until dinner time on both Saturday and Sunday. Ive got a love hate relationship with food haha

I don't know why too. I am a foody and just make sure a have breakfast with my meds, then it's whenever and whatever. Burnout sounds rotten and have not yet experienced it. Take care

The thing is you dont have to, i just never eat

This is humorous; I’m grateful to even have food to eat in the first place ❤

I was 50 this year, and until recently I used to feel that I was 10 years behind my peers with regards to a career progression etc. I self-diagnosed at 49 being AuDHD, and I've taken a step back from doing anything extra for the past 3 months. I recently was poorly sick and was able to sleep for 12 hours a day for a few weeks. Now I'm getting back to health I'm staying awake until I feel exhausted (normally 2am right now), and then I'm up at 7am to get kids ready for school. This level of sleep is something I've never done but I feel much better for it. I am now conscious of needing to manage my senses inputs and the environment I am in. I carry noise cancelling headphones all the time. I reduce multi-tasking to 2 tasks at once (or less). I keep my time interacting in a multi-person space to a minimum. If you can, take time out and just sleep if you feel you need to. Don't try and push through it, as that doesn't help long term.

Do you think you have agoraphobia? My partner struggles with a lot of the same issues around people coming to our house, or how many different social events are in the week, even if they’re not long. She also has agoraphobia, that’s why I ask. It’s more a curiosity/my trying to understand them, and less about me trying to tell you that you might have agoraphobia. I started physically resting to recover from my burnout, too, and for a time it helped, but it only got me so far. I’ve had to pursue my special interests pretty intensely, actually, and realize when I’m tired vs shutting down an emotion (which makes me feel tired). And I realized my brain has a NEED for learning. Like, not learning things regularly makes me deeply depressed, so maybe it would help to think about if there is something like that for you. Like, reading isn’t just nice, it’s vital, or something else like that. And then also I had to switch antidepressants, and finally medicate my ADHD. I’d noticed that without coffee, I was feeling depressed, so part of it might be related to not treating my ADHD. I started straterra less than a week ago and I feel more like myself than I have in ages. I know depression and burnout are separate things, but they create a feedback loop for me, so I have to address both.

Dropped in just to listen to you speaking French for a bit.

Interesting about the books. I had big issues with books at school. I had to read it and highlight parts that were important, then take notes from the highlights, then do the process again before I could remember anything. I could also read several pages and then realise that I had no idea what I just read, and I'd have to read it again. Side note, my x-wife was a teacher; I wonder if it's common that teachers are narcissists.

If you're concerned about noise... you could try getting Waves Clarity. Both the noise reduction and the de-reverb. They really make a difference, and they're easy to use. I'm playing around with them, and for one thing, the difference it makes on the room tone is night and day.