I talk about what I call 'emotional impermanence' in this video, but after doing some research I realised I wasn't using the correct term, as 'emotional impermanence' means a different thing. For lack of a more accurate word, let's call it part of 'alexithymia' instead. I also mention 'pure O' in this video in relation to OCD, which isn't an officially recognised medical term, so please ignore it. You can find more information about OCD here: ocduk.org
Hello, Paune. That was so interesting to me to hear what you had to say about the balloons and umbrellas. I felt anxiety rise up in me as you spoke. I think that i feel the same way. When my son was two years old, he let go of his balloon and it floated away, getting smaller and smaller. He was heartbroken and i have remembered that moment for over forty years as a tragedy in his life. You have helped me to see that it may have been a seeming tragedy for me, more than it was for him. Thank you for helping me once again. And thanks for the tip about thr crackling candles! I have added one to my wish list to try. 💜
Thankyou for sharing your thoughts❤. I resonate a lot, especially to make yourself understood. Always thought I am too stupid to explain myself correctly. It led to so much self-hatred and suicidal thoughts. Since I found out that me being autistic I try to be gentle with myself. And yes mindfullness is so helpfull and patience( haha, thats not what my ADHD wants😊) writing down recurring thoughts without paying attention to grammar and NOT reading it afterwords(tear the paper😅) sometimes helps. Or describing something I am doing(f.o. wash dishes)out loud or singing. It's like overwriting my thoughts and trick my brain. ❤
I understand how you feel about emotions, I can feel like an emotion will last forever. When I feel them that is, which probably isn't as often as I should. I tend to find my issues lie in remembering how I felt in the past. One example, I had a meltdown in work a few years ago but when I look back on it, it doesn't seem/feel like it was that bad. I mean it was enough that I sought help even in that state and got put on the sick from work for 3 weeks and got my second diagnosis of depression and first anxiety diagnosis. But when I recently spoke to my friend about it (who was there), he said he knew something was wrong because he and a few other people (including my bosses) heard me shouting at the top of my lungs and when he actually got to me he said I was sitting on a bench rubbing my hands on my legs while shaking and rocking as well as saying "I can't do this" over and over. I was floored when he told me this as I really had no idea, even now I know that happened I still can't really remember the feeling even though I remembered the event. This was all prior to me even suspecting asd or adhd too.
Some mental experiences live in a part of our brain that isn’t very compatible with language. I’ve found somatics therapy to be a helpful way to connect with those experiences, because it doesn’t require picking the right words or having to describe it to someone else.
I said goodbye to a $1600 deposit, and an additional $280 to cover ridiculous claims for damages to my last apartment, just so I could move on from that hellish period of my life. I don’t have a lot of money. But I need peace of mind, and I just couldn’t even begin to entertain what challenging her claims would require from me. I just sent in the extra money and made peace with how ridiculous it is. At least I’m done.
I talk about what I call 'emotional impermanence' in this video, but after doing some research I realised I wasn't using the correct term, as 'emotional impermanence' means a different thing. For lack of a more accurate word, let's call it part of 'alexithymia' instead. I also mention 'pure O' in this video in relation to OCD, which isn't an officially recognised medical term, so please ignore it. You can find more information about OCD here: ocduk.org
Hello, Paune.
That was so interesting to me to hear what you had to say about the balloons and umbrellas. I felt anxiety rise up in me as you spoke. I think that i feel the same way.
When my son was two years old, he let go of his balloon and it floated away, getting smaller and smaller. He was heartbroken and i have remembered that moment for over forty years as a tragedy in his life. You have helped me to see that it may have been a seeming tragedy for me, more than it was for him.
Thank you for helping me once again.
And thanks for the tip about thr crackling candles! I have added one to my wish list to try. 💜
Thankyou for sharing your thoughts❤. I resonate a lot, especially to make yourself understood. Always thought I am too stupid to explain myself correctly. It led to so much self-hatred and suicidal thoughts. Since I found out that me being autistic I try to be gentle with myself. And yes mindfullness is so helpfull and patience( haha, thats not what my ADHD wants😊) writing down recurring thoughts without paying attention to grammar and NOT reading it afterwords(tear the paper😅) sometimes helps. Or describing something I am doing(f.o. wash dishes)out loud or singing. It's like overwriting my thoughts and trick my brain. ❤
I understand how you feel about emotions, I can feel like an emotion will last forever. When I feel them that is, which probably isn't as often as I should. I tend to find my issues lie in remembering how I felt in the past.
One example, I had a meltdown in work a few years ago but when I look back on it, it doesn't seem/feel like it was that bad. I mean it was enough that I sought help even in that state and got put on the sick from work for 3 weeks and got my second diagnosis of depression and first anxiety diagnosis. But when I recently spoke to my friend about it (who was there), he said he knew something was wrong because he and a few other people (including my bosses) heard me shouting at the top of my lungs and when he actually got to me he said I was sitting on a bench rubbing my hands on my legs while shaking and rocking as well as saying "I can't do this" over and over. I was floored when he told me this as I really had no idea, even now I know that happened I still can't really remember the feeling even though I remembered the event. This was all prior to me even suspecting asd or adhd too.
I resonate and understand a lot of what you're talking about.
Interesting. I often don't know how to communicate what is going on inside. I may also have intrusive thoughts based on how you described them.
Hi, i don't have ocd and intrusive thoughts come seldom. But i do relate to alexithymia with confusing hunger with anxiety.
Some mental experiences live in a part of our brain that isn’t very compatible with language. I’ve found somatics therapy to be a helpful way to connect with those experiences, because it doesn’t require picking the right words or having to describe it to someone else.
How We Feel is a great app for tracking emotions with alexithymia
Thanks for the recommendation 🙏
I said goodbye to a $1600 deposit, and an additional $280 to cover ridiculous claims for damages to my last apartment, just so I could move on from that hellish period of my life. I don’t have a lot of money. But I need peace of mind, and I just couldn’t even begin to entertain what challenging her claims would require from me. I just sent in the extra money and made peace with how ridiculous it is. At least I’m done.
I’m sorry to hear that 😢 at least now you’re in a better place hopefully ♥️
@@paunesjourney much better, thanks