I’m very pleased for you both that this move looks so positive. I’m sorry to hear you had a bad experience with the English country bumpkins seeming suspicious of you, that is depressing to hear 🙁 You are so right to get away from that toxic landlady, I could not tolerate that at all, it would make me ill. Good luck with the move, I really hope you find it suits you and improves your wellbeing 😊
Congrats on finding a new home, and it's great to hear that it all happened so smoothly! My only advice on how to approach the new landlord is to observe how he is to be around at first and judge from there if you think it's a safe environment for you to maybe ease up on the masking. It's hard to say what the best approach would be, given the cultural differences involved and it being someone that is new to you and your partner. He may be a really pleasant, nonjudgmental person that doesn't necessarily need to know you're autistic (especially given his possible lack of knowledge about it) and will just be very happy to have two nice new tenants.
I'm happy you found a new home. I know landlords are often an awful presence. My new landlady is an asshole but she isn't very involved so I'm ok with it. My past landlord was super chill and great but unfortunately the lease was ending. France does have good food 😊 As an introvert i am not about to move back to France, but maybe someday. I am aware I'm a pretty expressive person, white and good socioeconomy so unmasking will be easier for me than for others. Moving takes a lot of bravery and energy, good job! 😊
I’ve found people in general respond better to “I struggle with eye contact” or “I’m socially awkward” than “I’m autistic” Which is frustrating, too, but if the diagnosis isn’t well understood, all they assume from your disclosure is misconceptions about what it means.
I'd say only bring it up if it comes up in conversation. Mask and keep it short so you don't have to mask for long. I don't think there's any reason why your landlord needs to know you're Autistic - it's not going to affect them in any way. Let your partner do most of the interaction since he is better at it.
I’m very pleased for you both that this move looks so positive. I’m sorry to hear you had a bad experience with the English country bumpkins seeming suspicious of you, that is depressing to hear 🙁 You are so right to get away from that toxic landlady, I could not tolerate that at all, it would make me ill. Good luck with the move, I really hope you find it suits you and improves your wellbeing 😊
Congrats on finding a new home, and it's great to hear that it all happened so smoothly! My only advice on how to approach the new landlord is to observe how he is to be around at first and judge from there if you think it's a safe environment for you to maybe ease up on the masking. It's hard to say what the best approach would be, given the cultural differences involved and it being someone that is new to you and your partner. He may be a really pleasant, nonjudgmental person that doesn't necessarily need to know you're autistic (especially given his possible lack of knowledge about it) and will just be very happy to have two nice new tenants.
I'm happy you found a new home. I know landlords are often an awful presence. My new landlady is an asshole but she isn't very involved so I'm ok with it. My past landlord was super chill and great but unfortunately the lease was ending.
France does have good food 😊 As an introvert i am not about to move back to France, but maybe someday. I am aware I'm a pretty expressive person, white and good socioeconomy so unmasking will be easier for me than for others.
Moving takes a lot of bravery and energy, good job! 😊
C'est genial! I'm happy you found a place where you can feel safe and happy! J’espère que vous aimez votre nouvelle maison!
Congratulations and best wishes for your new venture.
A new chapter in yourself and your partner. I wish you well. Suzanne x
Thank you so much!
Vis-a-vis = overlooked? As in, the garden is not overlooked. I hope you're very happy in the new home.
That landlord sounds like a nightmare for anyone, but the trauma triggers on top of that? Ugh. I’m glad you’re moving.
I’ve found people in general respond better to “I struggle with eye contact” or “I’m socially awkward” than “I’m autistic”
Which is frustrating, too, but if the diagnosis isn’t well understood, all they assume from your disclosure is misconceptions about what it means.
I'd say only bring it up if it comes up in conversation. Mask and keep it short so you don't have to mask for long. I don't think there's any reason why your landlord needs to know you're Autistic - it's not going to affect them in any way. Let your partner do most of the interaction since he is better at it.
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