That was a very regulating video, as someone who's used to watching fast snappy things with music. I appreciate you just sitting there and chatting quietly. And I agree with many things. We need to find ways to actively regulate ourselves because rest is not hitting the spot a lot of the time.
As someone who has both autism and complex PTSD, it’s hard to tell what is causing the anxiety. Sometimes when I’m having CPTSD flashbacks, it can cause my autistic brain to be overstimulated. I know I do have some anxiety, and sometimes I can tell what is causing it and why. Other times, it’s hard to understand why and what I’m dysregulated about.
Hi! Yes i relate to the thinking that i was anxious where tips to avoid anxiety didn't really work because it wasn't really worried thoughts but rather sensory overwhelm. I didn't have physical symptoms though, I'm sorry you struggle with that. I will be spending Christmas alone at home. I hope you have happy holidays and happy channel birthday! 😊
I can relate to so much of what you've shared in this video. I’m from a French-speaking province in Canada, and it’s been a long and complicated journey to get an AUDHD diagnosis. As a kid, I was diagnosed with anxiety and social phobia, and later with ADD (without the H). What’s been especially frustrating is how the diagnostic process for ASD felt like being stuck in a “grey area.” Specialists would recognize that I clearly have many ASD traits but wouldn’t officially diagnose me because I don’t fit the stereotypical criteria. They often focused on how I’m able to express myself eloquently, which didn’t align with their expectations of how ASD typically presents. Instead, they labeled me as HPI, which feels strange because most of my difficulties are limiting me, and the HPI label doesn’t feel like it reflects those limits-especially my sensory challenges. During burnout phases, my ASD-related difficulties become so much more intense, making it even harder to function. The ADD also adds another layer, as it often feels like I can’t make proper use of my “high intelligence.” It’s frustrating to be boxed into a label that doesn’t truly capture my struggles. Thank you for making this video-it’s comforting to see others sharing similar experiences.
Funny you weren’t given an autism diagnosis because you express yourself eloquently while the psychiatrist who diagnosed me as autistic pointed out the very same thing about me as an autistic trait. It’s incredible that those denying you a diagnosis don’t even really know what they’re talking about 🤷🏻♀️
@@paunesjourney Thank you for sharing that-it’s wild how subjective the diagnostic process can be, right? It’s frustrating that some professionals dismiss certain traits as “not autistic enough,” while others recognize them as part of autism. Your psychiatrist sounds like they had a much better understanding of the spectrum-it must have been validating to finally have someone see you for who you are. When you mentioned that they pointed out your eloquence as an autistic trait, I’m curious-what exactly did they mean by that? It’s such an interesting perspective, especially since it’s the opposite of what I’ve been told. It makes me wonder how many people are left in that “grey area” just because they don’t fit outdated stereotypes. How has your journey been since getting your diagnosis?
She didn’t really elaborate; she only said I’m well-articulated and wrote it in my diagnostic report so I figured it was one of the things that indicated autism in her mind 🤷🏻♀️ yes she seemed quite knowledgeable; I chose her because she had experience diagnosing autistic women specifically. Feel free to check out the “Autism Diagnosis Journey” playlist I created which includes several update videos I made after my diagnosis (and I’ll make more in the future) 😊 thanks for being here!
Beautiful tree. I love white flocked trees like that. How do you keep the crazy kitties off of it?! I can't even have a tree because mine two are brothers, just turned two and like to jump on, chase, and eat everything they see. I'm bummed though. I am sitting here in burnout and could cry and laugh at how much I relate to your video ❤.. Like the delayed processing we have to deal with and being diagnosed so late it is just a ridiculous thing to think of sometimes i just have to laugh. In my case, I'm older than you so I have decades of things I'm trying to think about from this new perspective. I was just diagnosed this past Spring so not even a year into this new journey. I am delayed at being angry too because it is not my nature to be, I always blame myself for everything. Its all the masking we do just to make it through the day I cannot see unlearning that as it is a survival technique that is completely ingrained in me at this point. Anyway, I'm praddling on here now 😊 OH cute pj's btw are those seals? I live in pj's lol 😂
Our cats are the best; they’re not at all destructive but my in-laws can’t put up a Christmas tree because their cats break all the baubles 🥲 tbh I prefer greener, less flocked trees, it’s a bit too white for my liking haha but we only bought it last year so we’re going to get a few years out of it before thinking of getting a new one! I was wearing a Hedwig jacket 🦉 I also live in PJs these days 😂
I was prescribed an inhaler growing up because I would have the same shortness of breath! But it wasn't like any asthma the people around me had. That is so incredibly interesting. It's blowing my mind. Now, I get some shortness of breath, but mostly a racing heart, like my heart will feel like it's beating out of my chest..but all day long. Now, I'm going to research how to accommodating overstimulation vs. anxiety, because I am quite sure that's what's going on! Thank you so much for this.
28:31 you partner’s ADHD might be worse because his routine and structure got ripped away from him. It’s really hard to self impose structure with ADHD. I kind of need school or work or my mom (as a kid) to establish a schedule, and then I figure out how to fit life around that schedule. Without it, I’m a bit of a floundering mess. Especially with the stresses of income and job searching on top of that, it makes sense he’s not feeling great.
We also have “gifted” in France, which is called “surdoué(e)”, but it’s not an actual diagnosis like HPI 🤷🏻♀️ yes HPI is related to an IQ of over 130 (I think) 👍 it basically only exists to validate the experiences of autistic people with higher intelligence, therefore more valued by society, whereas the rest of us can continue to suffer in silence 🤐
That was a very regulating video, as someone who's used to watching fast snappy things with music. I appreciate you just sitting there and chatting quietly. And I agree with many things. We need to find ways to actively regulate ourselves because rest is not hitting the spot a lot of the time.
As someone who has both autism and complex PTSD, it’s hard to tell what is causing the anxiety. Sometimes when I’m having CPTSD flashbacks, it can cause my autistic brain to be overstimulated. I know I do have some anxiety, and sometimes I can tell what is causing it and why. Other times, it’s hard to understand why and what I’m dysregulated about.
Hi! Yes i relate to the thinking that i was anxious where tips to avoid anxiety didn't really work because it wasn't really worried thoughts but rather sensory overwhelm. I didn't have physical symptoms though, I'm sorry you struggle with that.
I will be spending Christmas alone at home. I hope you have happy holidays and happy channel birthday! 😊
I can relate to so much of what you've shared in this video. I’m from a French-speaking province in Canada, and it’s been a long and complicated journey to get an AUDHD diagnosis. As a kid, I was diagnosed with anxiety and social phobia, and later with ADD (without the H).
What’s been especially frustrating is how the diagnostic process for ASD felt like being stuck in a “grey area.” Specialists would recognize that I clearly have many ASD traits but wouldn’t officially diagnose me because I don’t fit the stereotypical criteria. They often focused on how I’m able to express myself eloquently, which didn’t align with their expectations of how ASD typically presents.
Instead, they labeled me as HPI, which feels strange because most of my difficulties are limiting me, and the HPI label doesn’t feel like it reflects those limits-especially my sensory challenges. During burnout phases, my ASD-related difficulties become so much more intense, making it even harder to function. The ADD also adds another layer, as it often feels like I can’t make proper use of my “high intelligence.” It’s frustrating to be boxed into a label that doesn’t truly capture my struggles.
Thank you for making this video-it’s comforting to see others sharing similar experiences.
Funny you weren’t given an autism diagnosis because you express yourself eloquently while the psychiatrist who diagnosed me as autistic pointed out the very same thing about me as an autistic trait. It’s incredible that those denying you a diagnosis don’t even really know what they’re talking about 🤷🏻♀️
@@paunesjourney Thank you for sharing that-it’s wild how subjective the diagnostic process can be, right? It’s frustrating that some professionals dismiss certain traits as “not autistic enough,” while others recognize them as part of autism. Your psychiatrist sounds like they had a much better understanding of the spectrum-it must have been validating to finally have someone see you for who you are.
When you mentioned that they pointed out your eloquence as an autistic trait, I’m curious-what exactly did they mean by that? It’s such an interesting perspective, especially since it’s the opposite of what I’ve been told.
It makes me wonder how many people are left in that “grey area” just because they don’t fit outdated stereotypes. How has your journey been since getting your diagnosis?
She didn’t really elaborate; she only said I’m well-articulated and wrote it in my diagnostic report so I figured it was one of the things that indicated autism in her mind 🤷🏻♀️ yes she seemed quite knowledgeable; I chose her because she had experience diagnosing autistic women specifically. Feel free to check out the “Autism Diagnosis Journey” playlist I created which includes several update videos I made after my diagnosis (and I’ll make more in the future) 😊 thanks for being here!
Heeyy! You’re almost to ONE THOUSAND SUBS.😊
I know, it’s crazy 🤩
Beautiful tree. I love white flocked trees like that. How do you keep the crazy kitties off of it?! I can't even have a tree because mine two are brothers, just turned two and like to jump on, chase, and eat everything they see. I'm bummed though.
I am sitting here in burnout and could cry and laugh at how much I relate to your video ❤.. Like the delayed processing we have to deal with and being diagnosed so late it is just a ridiculous thing to think of sometimes i just have to laugh. In my case, I'm older than you so I have decades of things I'm trying to think about from this new perspective. I was just diagnosed this past Spring so not even a year into this new journey. I am delayed at being angry too because it is not my nature to be, I always blame myself for everything. Its all the masking we do just to make it through the day I cannot see unlearning that as it is a survival technique that is completely ingrained in me at this point. Anyway, I'm praddling on here now 😊 OH cute pj's btw are those seals? I live in pj's lol 😂
Our cats are the best; they’re not at all destructive but my in-laws can’t put up a Christmas tree because their cats break all the baubles 🥲 tbh I prefer greener, less flocked trees, it’s a bit too white for my liking haha but we only bought it last year so we’re going to get a few years out of it before thinking of getting a new one! I was wearing a Hedwig jacket 🦉 I also live in PJs these days 😂
I was prescribed an inhaler growing up because I would have the same shortness of breath! But it wasn't like any asthma the people around me had. That is so incredibly interesting. It's blowing my mind. Now, I get some shortness of breath, but mostly a racing heart, like my heart will feel like it's beating out of my chest..but all day long. Now, I'm going to research how to accommodating overstimulation vs. anxiety, because I am quite sure that's what's going on! Thank you so much for this.
You’re so welcome ♥️
28:31 you partner’s ADHD might be worse because his routine and structure got ripped away from him. It’s really hard to self impose structure with ADHD. I kind of need school or work or my mom (as a kid) to establish a schedule, and then I figure out how to fit life around that schedule. Without it, I’m a bit of a floundering mess. Especially with the stresses of income and job searching on top of that, it makes sense he’s not feeling great.
That makes sense! I read your comment to him and he said he hadn’t seen it that way but it resonates with him!
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“High intellectual potential” sounds like what Americans call being “gifted”. Does it have a similar implication for IQ, or no?
We also have “gifted” in France, which is called “surdoué(e)”, but it’s not an actual diagnosis like HPI 🤷🏻♀️ yes HPI is related to an IQ of over 130 (I think) 👍 it basically only exists to validate the experiences of autistic people with higher intelligence, therefore more valued by society, whereas the rest of us can continue to suffer in silence 🤐