Why Women Want Married Men

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  • @nytbk8880
    @nytbk8880 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    It's simple- many women love chaos, drama, conflict, and destruction. Period.

  • @standground8284
    @standground8284 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

    *I’m 38 married for 14 years.* I work in the corporate world. There are many women who are well aware that I’m married with children but they still proposition me. They’ve bluntly said things like, I’m not trying to take you away from wife and kids I just want to F, what makes your wife so special that she deserves her own man, I’ll be one of your secrets, etc. Discipline, self control and communication are important in a marriage at bare minimum.
    I’ve never cheated in a relationship and I’ll never cheat on my wife. I asked colleague who was aggressive, why don’t you pursue a single guy instead of a married man like me. She looked me dead in my eyes and said, a single guy likely has a roster full of hoes and likely passing around stuff. You on the other hand are faithful to your wife and we all know it. Therefore, we rather be a side chick since we know exactly who the other woman is that we have to sneak around and share you with (your wife).

    • @javiermorales365
      @javiermorales365 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Wow that’s crazy I’m 41 married with kids same thing Atleast 2 girls I know wanted to F with me. One had daddy issues so she loved how great of a dad I am and good husband. She wanted to be treated well even if she was just a side girl. That’s insane!

    • @wandaclement4000
      @wandaclement4000 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      It is beyond great! That you have been and continues to be faithful to your wife!!!! There are so many men and women who commit adultery. It's at an all-time high. May God continue to bless you and your wife!

    • @standground8284
      @standground8284 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@wandaclement4000 It’s sad that people cheat on their spouse. I’d never put myself in a position for a to be a question. My wife is amazing and I’d never betray her. If my wife passed away, I’ll be unfair to even pursue another relationship as I’ve never met anyone near her caliber.

  • @christopherjones512
    @christopherjones512 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +28

    Because men are established and that's the attraction

    • @HelenaPaschal
      @HelenaPaschal  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Simple as that. I listed that in the video description, I believe that, too!

    • @kaywashington5604
      @kaywashington5604 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Agreed, but that establishment comes from what that husband and his wife built together, no?

    • @christopherjones512
      @christopherjones512 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      @@kaywashington5604 excellent opinion

  • @hubertroberts7800
    @hubertroberts7800 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +25

    Helena ... You had two wonderful men with husband characteristics and you ran both of them away. Self sabbotage is real.

    • @HelenaPaschal
      @HelenaPaschal  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Yes it is. I have self sabotaged before but these were not good long term choices for me. I didn’t want to take care of a physically ill man who smokes nor have children with the other, I’m sure someone else would be a better fit for them.

    • @Qedoshim
      @Qedoshim 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      @@HelenaPaschalwhat exactly did you contribute to those relationships except provide company?

    • @HelenaPaschal
      @HelenaPaschal  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      @@Qedoshim nothing

    • @jasonharris996
      @jasonharris996 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      ​@@HelenaPaschaldamn, that's brutally honest.

  • @Ameal-w9w
    @Ameal-w9w 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +24

    This is an adulterous generation. All will pay a heavy price.

    • @jeannestrickland7027
      @jeannestrickland7027 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I do not believe that it has anything to do with generations. Adultery is not disgust in the past. That does not mean that it was not present in abundance. This generation just faces the harsh reality head on.

    • @Ameal-w9w
      @Ameal-w9w 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@jeannestrickland7027 certain sins are weighed out according to that particular generation

    • @marvinhagler4721
      @marvinhagler4721 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@jeannestrickland7027 It's NOT just ONE generation,the percentages and ways of thinking are different in each one.....

    • @garawa1987
      @garawa1987 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Exactly God gives is free will doesn't mean we are exempt from those evil choices no wonder HIV and other new diseases are popping up

    • @erichill4926
      @erichill4926 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      What's happening today is nothing new under the sun, there was adulterers back in the Bible days too.🤷

  • @brittanybrown9536
    @brittanybrown9536 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Girllllllllll wow ur timing is impeccable!!! I thought I was going crazy. Crazy chemistry with a married man currently, and fighting the desires and temptation EVERY DAYUMMMM DAY. The more I see what’s out here and the men who are broken it worsens knowing there are good men out there but they’re married. 😢

    • @KimmieB1993
      @KimmieB1993 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Don't fall for a married man. Love yourself and walk away.

    • @Oritselababy
      @Oritselababy หลายเดือนก่อน

      How do you have chemistry with someone who is taken? You are nuts. You mean sex?

  • @marvinhagler4721
    @marvinhagler4721 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

    TOLD to my face, a woman told me she dates married men because they ALWAYS are straight up and the men that are single are full of it in too many situations.My female friends say the same thing about todays dating games..we are ALL over 50

    • @ERoss338
      @ERoss338 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Makes sense

  • @SylisDaGoldenPeach
    @SylisDaGoldenPeach 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

    I’ve never tried to date a married man , my ex was a alcoholic tho but I realized his drinking came from a place of pain , I’m now working through that pain wit him as friends , it makes me feel good that he’s smiling more and I’m learning more about his moods and who he is as a person , I figured out that he just needs patience and slowly he may leave his bad habit .

  • @ashleysalazar2012
    @ashleysalazar2012 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    Taken people are taken for a reason and left overs are left over for a reason. Generally speaking. So a married man is usually a better man. I think these women want an easy way in. I can always tell when a man is married, and I don't believe a woman when she says she doesn't know. Married men already know women, they're married to one. So they're more thoughtful, clean, respectful, have more money, ect. Men that are single really don't know how to speak to women or what a woman needs or wants. We mold them into good men. Just like they mold us. I know men from being married to one. I got lucky and I didn't have to mold him or a desire to mold him, but being with me does make him better, it's like a resume.

    • @HelenaPaschal
      @HelenaPaschal  2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you for sharing! Very insightful perspective, I appreciate it.

  • @AlvinStone76
    @AlvinStone76 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    Some older women prefer independence over a relationship.

  • @tonywalker2334
    @tonywalker2334 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Well the bottom line is the married man is more responsible and can be far more sensible. Always remember the married man will risk his family for an affair. The woman will outright destroy her family for her feelings in the affair. Last most women know their very attractive well put together husband is highly desirable and more than likely may step out.

  • @vincentParham-t3v
    @vincentParham-t3v 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

    That single guy was buying your love

    • @HelenaPaschal
      @HelenaPaschal  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      You don’t buy your woman anything? I guess I was buying his love, too. I bought him a lot of things too because I cared about him, that’s what people do in thoughtful relationships.

  • @chillywillie6283
    @chillywillie6283 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    When l was stationed in the UK while serving in the USAF, l dated a single military member in the army who dated mostly married men. I was single but l met her when she was in the club looking for her married boyfriend who was a part time bartender. He was off that night. When we were together at her place, she shared with me a story about a previous relationship she had with her married supervisor at her previous duty station. She said they were in his bed at his home while his wife was in the hospital recovering from childbirth. I told her how disgusting that was, when she thought l was gonna compliment her. That was the beginning of the end of that relationship. She just wanted a married man more. She loved the idea of being with another woman’s husband.

  • @msmampful
    @msmampful หลายเดือนก่อน

    I just found your channel today and I am a new subscriber instantly! I am engaged with the subjects that you discuss.
    Good luck beautiful I hope that your channel grows.

  • @YoungVino703
    @YoungVino703 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Women also like the idea of a married man because in her mind she sees he can be had

  • @WritersWay247
    @WritersWay247 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    Question at 22:45)Years ago, my former neighbor; a lady that never married or had children was the sweetest lady I had met. ( she said she wanted, desired marriage and kids, just never met her Prince Charming) I’ve also met some very mean married women and it appeared they had good husbands 🤷🏽‍♀️

    • @HelenaPaschal
      @HelenaPaschal  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Oooh that’s another video idea! Because I know some mean wives lol! There’s no perfect person, I say just be yourself because there is someone for everyone and it’s perfectly fine to be single. Thank you for sharing!

  • @clivematthews95
    @clivematthews95 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    I believe what you’re saying about childless, single men being better off dating childless, single women. I know that I shouldn’t even think about being with a married woman, but I don’t cheat, in general, anyways. But I wonder if I ever do get married, would I, ever, find myself on the other side of being single and divorced, and would I date a woman that’s never been married before 🤔

    • @HelenaPaschal
      @HelenaPaschal  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      At your age, I would definitely recommend being with a woman who has never been married and has no children. You deserve a fresh start to build a family. At my age, people are more stubborn and selfish so I believe it’s best to choose someone who is conditioned to be considerate. I can’t wait to see how your future unfolds. 🥰

  • @WhatsThatBeats
    @WhatsThatBeats 13 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I have an odd situation. This is very random but I’ll go into it. I’ve smoked cigarettes off and on for about half my life. I’ve done it in secret, not in front of people I know (unless I’m out drinking). I’ve recently accepted its part of who I am and part of my identity and I feel most like myself when I’m smoking (brings out the “bad boy” in me). I consider myself a classy, clean, professional guy (a good boy) I’ve hid my smoking not to tarnish that image. so I’m slowly letting the whole world know I do it. So I’ve been married for 4 years, together 6 with my wife. She knows I indulge with smoking from time to time. I’ve smoked around her on multiple occasions. We’ve talked about it and I’ve brought it up because I want to do it openly and I just wanted to test her response. She tells me it’s her biggest turn off, she would have never dated a smoker had she known up front, she hates it. However I’m extremely confused because when she knows I’m actively smoking her attraction level to me goes through the roof. She submits to everything I do and say. It’s like our marriage is on cloud 9 when she knows I’m smoking. Yet she’s told me her feelings about smoking. So I’m in a conundrum. I know it’s unhealthy so I don’t need the thoughts about that. It’s just like I don’t want to do it because she says she doesn’t like it but I want to keep doing it because I love it, the way it makes me feel (mentally) and my wife is basically head over heels when I do it. So do I just keep doing it and let nature take its course?

  • @proudblackwoman4824
    @proudblackwoman4824 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    You and I are around the same age. So I can DEFINITELY relate. But I wanna say this: If we are speaking of black men specifically, they are already aware that MOST black women have never been married. Because MOST black men are not marrying us anyway. So in my experience, it really hasn't been a red flag for men that I've never been married. Because most of them haven't either lol......BUT, I've been engaged 6 times in my life. Four were white men- 2 were black. But none of them panned out for different reasons. I date ALL races of men so that is the first thing that I recommend us as black women consider nowadays. In regards to dating a man who has been MARRIED before, versus single men- YES! I must agree with you. Men who were once married CATER to you more. You can kind of sit back and relax, rest in your femininity. Especially if they grew up with BOTH parents in the home. I am experiencing that now and it's nice. At my age, I don't think I would ever date another man who didn't grow up with his father in the home. It makes a difference. It really does. For the MOST part. Great video!

  • @Itmetijuana_84xo
    @Itmetijuana_84xo 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Hello I just got done watching your video and I have to say you are on point. I’ve been single for 6 years now because I was going through a lot. I had a stalker a player, a liar, narcissist, girl I’ve been through it all, and I don’t know what to do when a man come up to me and try to talk to me. You are right. The first thing I think is he wants sex playing games and I gotta stop thinking like that because every man is not like that and I know that but I never been with a married man never so I just wanna say thank you for sharing this with us
    On your next video, can you do a video about?
    1. Still a virgin at 40 years old.
    2. 50-year-old women
    Dating a 20-year-old man
    3. Would you date someone that is a register sex offender or would you date a man that’s been in jail?
    Thank you 😊

  • @zubrickbullies3595
    @zubrickbullies3595 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Shouldn’t be a red flag 🚩 in today’s climate… (for a MAN )

    • @HelenaPaschal
      @HelenaPaschal  2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      It is a red flag if he’s selfish.

  • @southernafricanboy4148
    @southernafricanboy4148 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Sis great video
    Just curious, when you've been tempted what tempted you? His looks or personality or accomplishments
    Ill watch ghe video properly later💪🙏

  • @monjue55
    @monjue55 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I ran into your channel and decided to stay and listen to you. Thanks for explaining a woman’s psyche when it comes to relationship. As a heterosexual male, I did learn a lot from your presentation.

    • @HelenaPaschal
      @HelenaPaschal  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      WOW! I really appreciate the thoughtful response. For someone to listen to my stories and experiences without judgement and insults is a level of maturity I deeply respect. Thank you!

    • @monjue55
      @monjue55 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@HelenaPaschal I’m an OG….☺️trolling and insulting is not part of my online persona. I was endeared to your knack for storytelling, that’s why I listened to your entire spiel, give you a like, and subscribed.

  • @Hellishot24
    @Hellishot24 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    That's why some are sick,the sexual sins they are committing.

  • @Lashawn4795
    @Lashawn4795 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    But also lets be clear it takes two not just the woman the married man imitates the majority of the time .

  • @smoothwill
    @smoothwill หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Sounds like you’re just tough to please if everything is not perfect . The minute there was a health scare you jetted outta there . Please correct me if I’m wrong . But I do agree no one should be forced to start off a relationship with someone who has health problems . We are not obligated nor should we be forced . You have had these fabulous men with all the traits a real woman loves, but you’re not with either of them now . Any of them . Maybe you really have commit issues huh . I’m just saying .

  • @lamarreerickson3502
    @lamarreerickson3502 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Chivalry is a leaned skill that you can learn at a anytime in your life depending on the women that you’re dating !

    • @HelenaPaschal
      @HelenaPaschal  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Chivalry is taught in the home. If a man doesn’t know how to do it, are you saying he will magically know what to do with certain women?

  • @southernafricanboy4148
    @southernafricanboy4148 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Women want the top level men. Simple as that

  • @HooliTV
    @HooliTV 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    If a married man is dating a woman for the sake of a second wife, is that still adultery?

    • @kaywashington5604
      @kaywashington5604 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      I'd think so, especially if the marriage is grounded and rooted in Christ.

  • @TwoH.Q
    @TwoH.Q หลายเดือนก่อน

    More support for content creators like this!

  • @westbeats2050
    @westbeats2050 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    The issue with this is. All u have is that person. While when u dating a separated and parent person. They always have some one else they always have some one to fall back on. A kid a husband/wife baby daddy/mommy they always have something and you are sorta a 3rd wheel. And you won't feel good most the time In this

  • @eddiecainbeats
    @eddiecainbeats 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    You don’t have to be married to have all of these traits. Smh

    • @HelenaPaschal
      @HelenaPaschal  2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Yet, here you are not married and trolling ...smh

    • @eddiecainbeats
      @eddiecainbeats 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@HelenaPaschal yet you listen to respond and not to understand smh. And you don’t know me you don’t know what I am you just pulling shit out ya ass Helena.

  • @JamesBennett-rg2xv
    @JamesBennett-rg2xv 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    The side chick isn't committing adultery because she's not married...The man is...

  • @brittanyb5942
    @brittanyb5942 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    I DONT want a married man but I guess some women just want to see if they can get a married man to leave his wife for them…

    • @t.p.anderson1833
      @t.p.anderson1833 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      I saw a man leave his wife and go back to her nobody won!

    • @HelenaPaschal
      @HelenaPaschal  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      @@t.p.anderson1833it’s a losing game. That wife who accepted him back will never be the same, trust and respect are completely broken 💔

    • @HelenaPaschal
      @HelenaPaschal  2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Good point!

  • @dyoung2739
    @dyoung2739 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Jmo but it depends. Even if he’s been married before he might be fake &/or toxic. Even when I was a teenager, Ive never been tempted to date anyone’s bf or husband but karma was not kind to me in that regard because many women dated my ex during our marriage. Looking back at my situation,I should’ve been honest w/myself about the🚩🚩🚩. In my situation, consideration of birth order would’ve been important . I’m the oldest who married the youngest.

    • @KimmieB1993
      @KimmieB1993 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I never thought of that perspective. I am also the oldest who married the youngest. He wouldn't stop cheating. I wonder if the birth order difference had a lot to do with his behavior.

    • @dyoung2739
      @dyoung2739 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@KimmieB1993 I’ve often wondered if birth order mattered because even though my ex and I are the same age,he always acted so immature.

  • @shomarimonroe150
    @shomarimonroe150 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Big facts

  • @Stax-ht9md
    @Stax-ht9md 26 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I'll bet it's a lot more than 20% who have engaged in affairs with married men. I think back on the women I've known, and that number, among them, would be closer to 90%. Could be 100%... the discussion didn't always come up.

  • @tjack552
    @tjack552 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Because she has no respect for herself that she would not be number one!!!!

  • @TimmyBullard
    @TimmyBullard หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Im 32 years old, been single for 9 years, never been married, and always wanted a friend! That was it!
    Great Video 💜

  • @charlesbeatty888
    @charlesbeatty888 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Women date married men because they should. Polygyny I'd a biblical and righteous. That's why they're doing it! If we got on board with Jesus, the community would be soo much better off

    • @southernafricanboy4148
      @southernafricanboy4148 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Amen
      I just wish the women who date married men would come out openly and we could have a discussion as it fascinates me

  • @brianfreckles8542
    @brianfreckles8542 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Had 2 womn who knew i was married try. Both times, i told my wife she should invite them to church 😅😅

    • @HelenaPaschal
      @HelenaPaschal  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      lol! That’s a good one 😂

  • @erichill4926
    @erichill4926 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I think if
    this country, would allow multiple wives for one man, then the adultery would stop. Look at it from that perspective.

    • @HelenaPaschal
      @HelenaPaschal  2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Men have multiple women already with a wife, side chicks, and baby mothers. I don’t understand your point.

  • @Lawrence-cs8mw
    @Lawrence-cs8mw 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Preselection. Simple.

  • @courtneyj.4043
    @courtneyj.4043 17 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    Married men are the ones chasing single woman. I have had many married men trying to pursue me in different ways, because they crave attention. They are always coming off as charismatic, confident and charming, because they know they have less to lose. If the woman declines his offers, he still knows he has a wife at home picking up his shortcomings. Married men are not any more stable financial, mentally, or emotionally. Their wives are usually picking up the slack. Stop feeding these lies.

  • @Lashawn4795
    @Lashawn4795 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Lets be clear i did and yes im 53 he was 75 i understand yes sis totally different ❤ . But i can tell you as well military men also are not my thing they like door mats not all of them.

    • @HelenaPaschal
      @HelenaPaschal  2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Interesting. Thank you for sharing!

  • @macavelli8905
    @macavelli8905 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    It really is a self esteem issue, the excitement aspect is not all it seems from a movie. As for the men or woman that looks outside of their paper union usually is based on one or both choosing the wrong person from the beginning. Even if they have a few years of being together, the cheating aspect more or less has been there from the start. It requires conversation between people to find out what they are thinking, and believe missing, things like flirting romance stranger interest can be replicated within a good relationship, but it requires work and desire. And the value of knowing love languages can never be overstated.

    • @jonthomson9262
      @jonthomson9262 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Its not just a paper union. Its called MARRIAGE........and being a cheater has nothing to do with choosing the wrong person........the cheater is the wrong person. This comming fròm a reformed cheater.

    • @macavelli8905
      @macavelli8905 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@jonthomson9262 Thank you for engaging, the wrong person is made by choice. That decision is optional...

  • @HerbertWells-hr5de
    @HerbertWells-hr5de 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Hello Ms. Paschal

  • @GeePee-h2s
    @GeePee-h2s หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    You seem a little old to not have been married 🤔

  • @williamransom2920
    @williamransom2920 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Are these men white? B honest 😊

    • @HelenaPaschal
      @HelenaPaschal  หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      No. Doesn't sound like a black man to you, huh? Which part, the generosity or the respect for a black woman?