If He's Not Serious, STOP CHASING & Do This Instead... | RC Blakes
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On Today's Episode:
You're worried that if you do it, you’ll lose out, he’ll move on and someone else is going to replace you. This episode is all the reasons why you should walk away anyway. Be willing to stand for yourself and hold yourself to the highest standard because you are worth so much more.
Put your self-respect first and make sure the partner you’re giving your time to has earned access to you, your heart, and your vulnerabilities.
Pastor RC Blakes is a voice for female empowerment that doesn’t dance around hard conversations and addresses the realities women are struggling with in society. He’s the bestselling author of Queenology, Father-Daughter Talks, Soul-Ties and more. He and his wife, Lisa, also host women's conferences to bring healing and power to women in search of a better version of themselves free of abuse and manipulation.
In this short clip with RC Blakes, we get a complete break down on what we lose chasing the wrong men and everything there is to gain when you’re willing to walk away, even when it hurts.
RC Blakes Wisdom:
“A wife is a woman that sets a certain standard, holds to it, and demands that I meet her at that level.’
“If you don’t know who you are you don’t know who fits into your future.”
“One of the greater tragedies of a woman that gets caught up in a situation where a man keeps circling and drawing her back in. He’s made you unavailable for the right kind of man, the right kind of love that’s ultimately seeking to find you.”
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Mine too !!!
@@ashajeremiahqw8775😮😮😮 floppy drives for o by
Hi I jus wanted to tell u Lisa I used to love and watch your shows dedicatedly but now just have a look at all the thumbnails all show a negative caption like dot be fooled , walk away, stop being nice , I do support women empowerment but why does it have to be negative ? I would suggest pls have a look and lets create a positive mindset. thnx
@@akayk1928 ..
I already sent you $600
If the wrong person is occupying your life, he's keeping the right person from you.
This is such a great perspective😭 I feel much better from a heartbreak 🙏🏽🙏🏽thank you!!!!!
yes ! this is so true, and people will string you along with absolutly no intentions to give you anything.
Love this comment ❤️
Great Point ❤
Amen
A man i was dating asked to take a step back. I said ok. A few hours later he tried to text me. I told him he doesn't have access to me during this time, and he should stand on his word. Four days after that he text me asking did I want something I left in his car. I told him to throw it away. A month after that he sent flowers to my house on Mother's Day, we dont have children together. However, during the month I walked away, I realized I wanted more than he has to offer. I loved him and thought about him every day during that time, but that time was valuable for me to reflect.
Awesome❤
@Marlene Gonzalez Thank you. Self love is the first love and last love. You teach people how to treat you by what you accept.
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Chiiile. I feel like there needs to be a part 2! Wha happened next . Guys there is an update check the comments
@ice water He tried to make me jealous by posting something that appears to be him on a date. He showed him buying 2 drinks. I thought it was pathetic. Again, walking away allowed me to view the situation objectively. I require a mature man that doesn't play games. Walking away or no contact should not be a desperate attempt to win an Ex back. It is a time to invest in yourself. Trust me, it was very hard walking away from someone I love. However, I love myself too much to chase after someone that is not sure about me. I'm always going to bet on me!
If someone doesn't value you,walk away without expecting to reach out to you, it's better to be alone than to be with people who take you for granted.
This is at least 50% of the reason why I'm about to divorce my husband.
@@irinaivanovic9792umm 👀
@@irinaivanovic9792 100% why I Divorced mine,and I don't regret it one bit!!
Butg women reject all the men that value them its in your dna to reject men who value you because your programmed to get the best catch possible, this means in your mind unless someone doesnt value you he must be below me, so you reject all those men and only go for the ones who dont care about you at all, best case scenario is he cheats and uses you for sex, worst case scenario is he is really abusive and ends up hurting you ! its no use saying only go with men that value you, you just wownt do that ! like EVER ! It amazes me that women dont realize this, especially when they look back at who they rejected and all those awful dispicable discusting men they slept with on the very first night !
OMG stfu. You are SO dead wrong on all that nonsense. Stop listening to Red Pill and mgtow videos! geez..@@mcpartridgeboy
I'm fully convinced most men only care when you're walking away. It's really disappointing that you take a kind hearted person's presence for granted. If someone only appreciates me when I'm absent then I don't want that person! 💯
J, look at what he SAID, HIS mother told him to get her back. They are both haters. Obviously she pulled a star. And him & his mama. Couldn't stand it!! That lady could have been living fabulous..but settlement for a pastor!! Who is fake. God didnt speak to his heart it was his ego. She not only walked away but upgraded
@@juliedream1625 Agreed, I was referencing to that section of him taking her for granted how it made me remember my personal experience. I had to walk away as well.
Justicevibes1252 Just like most women too
@@unyverzequestyonable2758 it happens to both genders.💯 I'm speaking on my experience when I loved someone and he didn't care until I started to walk away. So I'm focusing on improving my life.
@@juliedream1625 Who knows. A professional athlete is likely to be a serial philanderer.
I don’t think men gain perspective from distance. They immediately take up with someone else, so they don’t have any distance. The woman should still respect herself by dropping him, though.
True. They tend to rebound a lot, they don't want to or can't seem to process their emotions. But whoever dates them during this phase is not getting the best version of the man though especially if he had deep feelings for the woman that walked away.
So true Gotta love yourself first don’t ever settle for less
He was never a man to begin with. Boys distract themselves with flings and fun to avoid the work of growth. Some boys are too scared to become real healthy men.
Now we have a bunch of scared boys looking like men that will harm women and children instead of protecting them. They will neglect,emotionally abuse, physically abuse and more instead of protecting, supporting, loving them. They can't give it to themselves so they can't give it to others.
This is how you know he's not the one God has for you.
They definitely do…
Lisa’s totally nailed it - if a man doesn’t want you (or offers commitment) within a certain time-frame, WALK AWAY. Don’t waste your life ‘waiting’ - get on with your life and he’ll see what he’s missing. And (from experience) if he doesn’t capture you, he’ll be the loser. Guaranteed.
If he give a baby and leave it what should do
After how much time should we demand committment when dating a guy?
@sabajahangir1588 don't demand it. Discuss commitment with him and what it means to you both, tell him where you would like for your relationship to go and what you would like for your future in general (marriage, children, etc.), then listen to his side, and if the two don't match and there is no room for compromise, release each other. Demanding won't get you anywhere, it's counterproductive and sets a very bad tone for the relationship as a whole.
@@tatina3 thank you. That's a really good advice 🙏
You have to honour that everyone has a different pace at which they reach commmitment, but a conversation needs to be had and a middle ground established.
"If you love someone, set them free. If they come back, they’re yours; if they don’t, they never were!" True words 🎉❤👍
Ladies Ima be honest…take what these dating coaches say with a grain of salt. I’m so confused as to how his love story is “beautiful”…a good woman took a chance on a serial cheater and he told her he didn’t wanna marry her..only to change his mind when he realized that she can pull a “high value” man. Dating men involves so much mental gymnastics….why can’t i love you 100% without you getting weirded out. The more i talk to married women..and single women the more i don’t see men as worth it. When you ask men why they are bitter towards women it’s always something around money or the woman having emotions and asking them to have accountability. Weeding out a gold digger is not rocket science…men are willfully ignorant cuz they want that chase and subconsciously desire women who don’t want him. If Blakes wife remained single…he would have never wanted her back but because he saw the caliber of man she can pull…now she’s a queen. Men care more about the opinion and values of other men than what woman is best for them
Thank you🙏🏾
👏👏👏 you nailed it! It's exactly that! I happy someone said
Hush Chile 🙄
So spot on everything you say! 👏
Heavy on the weirded out because they want us until they get us and then start acting like that wasn’t the plan like WHAT? It’s too much
When you finally get the courage to walk away, also prepare for the possibility that he may never come back and be ok with that. That’s how the healing process starts. No contact work but it comes with discipline. I’m learning to work away from people who don’t see my value.
Good riddance. Your future is not with the people who leave.
Chiiiiile I had to do that two weeks ago. Told him if you see no value in me as a friend then what good am I as a partner.... so it's been 2 weeks and I ain't heard from him since. 5 years of friendship down the drain cuz he was ultimately looking to smash and i was not on that trajectory. I'm good though, and wish him well. 😌
@Marlene Gonzalez if he comes back don't double back.....you left the first time for a reason. He wasn't your person. He is who he is he's not going to change. Love yourself enough to know you deserve unconditional love....stay blessed Marelene.
same.
We have children but… I wish
She said OK. We ended the conversation. She never called me back. 🤣 Go Lisa!!! That’s what you have to do.
I laughed so hard 😂
And he probably kept thinking she’ll come back.
Lisa a real one 😂
@@MattRomPsalms facts!
Lmao! Men only want love if it’s torture 🤣
So hard to be Lisa 😅 maybe I can fake it til I make it 🙏
I don’t care if they come back. Normally they come back only to repeat the same cycle. Believe them when they reveal themselves the first time and go look for someone that respects you and value you.
true
1. Happy And Fulfilled In Singleness.
2. Know your own purpose.
3. Be aware of areas of brokenness.
4. Be open and willing to change.
5. Rest In God For The Fulfillment Of Healing.
Sounds like you got your head on straight, Theo. You could be a catch!
Love this
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I walked away three years ago because he asked me to. Three years later, I'm still getting texts with his favorite pictures of me he saved in his phone. I do not respond. I've never loved a man like I loved him. I gave him every part of me faithfully...when he said he didn't love me anymore that's exactly what I said, okay. I've never been with a man again and nor do I want to. I'm good and happy alone.
His loss.
I’m so sorry.
Thank you for this discussion 🙏 I was married to a Man who was a habitual liar and womanizer 23 years. I walked away from DRAMA 👣⏰😁
No. Open your heart. Therecare 4billion men out here. Dont punish urself because hes a moron. He is not the right for you. Never was never will be. When u r happy with new man truthfully hes gonna crawl back. And u kick him to te curb without remorse. He does not deserve u. He will always play u because hes not seeing worth in u at al if he was able to do all those things. If hewoud have loved u hewoud have proposed long time ago to lock u up
I'm right there with you. There is a freedom and being alone and getting to know yourself. Putting yourself first. The one who is worthy of you and you ❤ will come at the right time.
My mom described what men do to me as “false advertising”. It’s initial narcissistic love bombing. They establish a relationship and then get distant.
Women do the same. We (humans) all offer our best in the beginning and our shadows eventually come out. Who on the first date or first month of dating shows all of their negative traits? That's not narcissism that's just relationships!'😅
@@IndigoWisdom1 I mean they get distant and then drift away. That’s if they don’t outright ghost. It’s like they were just after the conquest.
Facts
@@genxx2724absolutely!!
They get distant because they don't LIKE you anymore. That's when you Walk away!
Some men do comeback and some don’t. What’s important is that you walked away and didn’t allow that man to mistreat you, disrespect you or whatever he did.
And some come back unchanged
@@drac464 MOST of them come back unchanged. That's why you don't let them back.
Yes, don't give someone too much access too quickly. Protect your peace, soul ties are real.
very true
Facts💯
How do you cut those soul ties?
Matthew 18:18 unbind them🙏🏽🔥♥️
Soul ties 😭!
Yes , I was in the same relationship he didn't want to commit so I just walked away 2 yrs later we reconnected both still single , I gave him time & space to realize a lot of things & he was sorry & he was ready, the catch is I didn't feel the same...I had moved on.
Same.
Amen!! I think its kind of crazy to go back to what was willing to let you walk away in the first place. God bless you all who walked away and stayed away.
I would’ve kept on walking, but God bless!
@@aneeshaatkins9888 After 2yrs I guess I was just curious of what was going on in his life...Sometimes curiosity kills the cat & after that I kept it moving
@@shekiLane1166 oh i wasn’t referring to you i was referring to the woman the Pastor was talking about. But kudos to you! Forward movement for the win. 😊
Narcissists are demons. Turn away from the adversary.
Exactly very demonic beings
It’s true I just walked away from one but it’s breaking me into pieces
@@Jovalela3 It takes time but it will get better🙏
What is narcissist behavior?
@@TheMallyjoe they lack of empathy for others, dehumanizing others, preoccupied with self, unrealistic expectations just to name a few from own experience
She summed up the most important rule for all women, forever: “ No matter what though if he doesn’t want me, I will walk away”. Amen
This happen to me too, when a women can walk away from a man she loves without any issues and move on with life this is a sign of Power of this women. The women knows who she is, what's good for her, and what she needs to do to stay healthy mentally, psychically emotionally, and spiritually
Here! HERE!....AMEN..!
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Going through it right now!!!! Soooo hard sometimes I hate my heart is so vulnerable
This is me Lmaoo
I needed to see this thank you ❤
I walked away from my ex after years of wasted time and two children. He's been trying hard to win me back for 2 years now. Unfortunately I'm not Lisa I don't have anymore years to give away, and I don't trust that a man who has never been faithful will suddenly become faithful. I could be wrong but God hasn't told me to go back, he told me to go forward.
The answer to an idiot is silence. Whoever doesn’t want you is obviously an idiot 🗣️ this was much needed to remind myself who I am
It’s true. A lot of the time if there is TOO much space, usually it’s the woman who decides “hold up, I’m worth more than his indecisiveness, I’ll make the decision here.” 😅 Thinking time is awesome and needed. He doesn’t want me? Ok, I’m not chasing or begging. My self-esteem and worth are much more important. A man WILL move mountains to pursue a woman he loves, so there’s no excuse. None. I always remember a quote from long ago, “Silence IS your answer.”
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I can relate to this conversation. I walked away from a man that did the same thing he did. I gave a lot and received nothing in return. I walked away and yes told him how I felt. Men Don't realize how good of a woman they have until she's gone
Sometimes I suppose. If he's a Libra or Leo, there's an even bigger chance that he STILL won't give a damn after she's gone. Smh.
@@irinaivanovic9792oh how spot on!
@@irinaivanovic9792oh ys he was a libra....
@@aswathyreena1963same
Yes
It’s ok if they walk away, or you gain the strength to walk away… Because the best is yet to come!🧘🏾♀️🤍
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Saw this @ 3:33
AMEN AMEN AMEN AMEN AMEN AMEN AMEN AMEN AMEN 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
THANK YOU, JESUS!!!!
@@miabellah1639 💗💗💗👁️
Stop chasing mankind period. Do this instead:
Matthew 6:33
“But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.”
King James Version (KJV)
Matthew 6:34
“Take therefore no thought for the morrow: for the morrow shall take thought for the things of itself. Sufficient unto the day is the evil thereof.”
King James Version (KJV)
There can be no positive results on this planet without seeking The Most Highest first! Teach that!
Amen 🙏
I don't understand why women or men antagonize themselves this way,, it either is or it isn't. Be ok if it isn't, praise God and be appreciative if it is.
Glory be to God! Mtt6:33 is the key! May the Lord give me the grace to keep this scripture first
Yes, you walk away, they gain perspective and miss you, then they come back. But they will lose perspective again. It’s a never ending cycle.
I don’t even know Lisa but I love her
Her courage
Her strength
Her forgiveness
Her self respect
Her standards
Her tolerance
Her patience
Omg I love it
If a man isn’t ready for what you’re ready for & you know it’s only going to bring out the best in you two
Drop him leave him
& if he doesn’t come back then it was never meant to be
Nobody have time to be playing with indecisive people
Either you want forever with me or get out the next persons way who does want forever with me 🤭
Amen 🙏🏾
Mam oh man I love the last part of your comment stand up beautiful lady LET HIM GO.. HE IS TOSSING OUT THE PEARL FOR HIS what might only be plastic l...hand him a fork d walk out .. .. what a woman Lisa is
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Lisa should have found away to stay with the athlete in my opinion!
This man is my adopted dad, uncle, brother and Pastor all at the same time!
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Hahaha, me too.
The wisdom he has and how he delivers it in such humility is phenomenal.
what is adopted dad? he adopted you or you adopted him? 😂
Yessssss mine toooooo
Don't chase a man or a woman who has bad behavior because they are not worthy of your goodness. They don't deserve in your life.They are not a great loss in your existence. There is still an individual who is much much better than them. Just enjoy life in many good ways to the fullest each day without hurting other people.
This is so true I walked away from a marriage that wasn't good for me and I took time to heal like almost 3 years and I met someone unexpectedly and we just so compatible and he treats me with so much respect it was all worth it
Congratulations dea
I hope it works out for you in the LONG HAUL and not just for a few years. Like in my experiences. Walking away from a 10 year relationship is NOT easy. I couldn't take the emotional neglect anymore and I finally told him it's over last night.
Wow
He is so lucky she took him back and he got another chance. Amazing they worked out. Most men probably would’ve gotten their ego boosted so hard they’d leave her again.
She took him back because and it worked because it was God design for them to be together. Everyone ain't meant to be together that's why it don't work and the other person leave because it's not from God. When God put 2 people together nothing can tear it apart.
Well, you can "torture" him a bit 😊 just don't allow him to get you back so easily, give him the feeling that he needs to step up and fight in order for you to come back and give him a new chance 😊
And it also helps if that person ends up to be your soulmate 😉
@@the_professional007 and this is where good girls go wrong. They don’t understand the power of negotiations, think they are being “mean” and so don’t do this, so the man comes back easily and thinks he could have done better. A critical ingredient to love is feeling like you did the best you could and nature has a beautiful way of pairing people up with the best they can get. The amount of our crap the other person is willing to take is a sign they are not our equal. Why many men marry the girl that walked away…
@@AkireMaru if a girl takes him back like nothing has happened....she is being mean towards herself, it is going to affect her self esteem, her value will drop even in her own eyes (in his also).
With that being said, when a guy wants to leave, let him, ignore him, don't text him, put yourself first, and if he comes back, it is up to him to win you over, and you act distant 😊 know your value and demand respect 😊 that would be my advice 😊
This man is a legend. Have been listening to him for 2 years now and raised my self worth, self consciousness, helped me to remind me who I am and what I deserve, heal soul from toxic and narcissistic relations. his amazing teachings and books should be mandatory especially for younger generations.
AMEN ❤
I totally agree ❤
So true.
Me also ! ❤
So happy you have recieved such a benefit from him! ❤
Yes. I started listening to him last year and he has been a blessing to me.
If someone tells you they don’t want you it’s hurts worse to try to stay, walk away, heal, learn grow you deserve better and who wants to give genuine love to you
Baby! What he is saying is ABSOLUTELY CORRECT! ❤Absence gives them time to adjust their perspective!!!! They have always came running back and marriage is ALWAYS THE OFFER!!!!
Signed… happily married ❤
"You can live a full life if the Right Person never finds you." This is precisely why I no longer believe there is somebody out there for everyone. I am 41, have done "the work" on myself for over 2 decades now and still do not attract the right person or anyone at all. SO MANY people die alone without ever meeting the right person, just a lot of wrong ones.
Do you put yourself out there?
I'm similar. But I don't venture out much.
I say better to be happy in yourself with God, than miserable and all sorts of negativity with a man
Consider dating younger men
@@felicitygrace5113 Very true
A lot of dates disappointing dates being used being deceived attempted narcissism . The dating world is toxic is like these men and possess , cold-hearted and they play games.
You have a couple of decent conversation you think it's going somewhere them bam they disappear or say something very bad.
I got rid of a "man" ...& I RAN...I did not WALK! God has opened the door for the man that has come into my life. He treats me like the good woman that I am!! 💃🏾💃🏾 RC Blakes is an amazing man of God. I've been following him for years now! I truly understand what a good man looks like now!!
Don't stay where you are not valued or wanted👌. Know your worth
When you take something for granted, you don't realize what you have until it's gone.
I feel like most men do not see what they missed with a good woman. I feel like they move on without realizing what they missed prior.
Janellmd Most people
Some need to experience the reality of what's in the streets. All the masks, secret phones, lying, lil side odd jobs that's terrible just to see how life would be with that person.
Chasing a woman versus Pursuing a woman. When he highlighted the difference, it really resonated with me. It's funny I've focused more energy on toxic situations with a guy that was chasing and it devolved into a game of tom and jerry...And yet there is one guy who has been pursuing me in a very calm and soft manner. And this has me really trying to focus on my own healing and learning what is the right type of attention for me. The right person comes on time, not before nor after.
I hope you find true, unconditional love - sounds like you've done some valuable personal inventory on this topic. For what it's worth, and from personal experience, when it's the right person, you just know... it's like grace, almost.. a feeling of comfort and grounding all the giddy stuff with new love too... Anyway, you'll know! Just be true to yourself. :)
That's a good way of describing it as a Tom and Jerry cartoon where the relationship is something that's not even serious when it should be.
Chasing x pursuing! Never realized the difference!!
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Do your personal work, wait on the right person, and keep that space open for him earning all of you💍. That's enough said.
I’ve been like Lisa. He left then came back I refused. I can’t be with a man that can’t give me stability from the get go. I should be nervous not him.
This is what I've been struggling with. Now I see my error. I will be strong and walk away because it's not right and I'm tired of crying EVERYDAY
Its so painful and hard to walk away bt better to be in pain walking away than staying and hurt and cry everyday
I understand. I've experienced this for the first time ever, a shock to my otherwise healthy systems; it lasted 4 months and I've finally closed the door to him. I hope you are doing better.
@@aycoyote Did you announce your departure explaining why you’re leaving or did you just block him ? I need help 😢
I walked away too. Some guys loose and are not going to ever know that kind of love again. FORGET THEM.
It’s been 7 months since I walked away. I’m every name in the book which idc but the threats that he was gonna kill me was so DEMONIC! He used to beat on me & tried to fight my son & I believe he wanted my daughter as well. I did the right thing & refuse to go back! PERIODT 👏👏
*Stay strong, Niece, and don't go back!!!*
*Many are proud of you, rooting for you, and praying for you ⚘️!*
What you all don't realize is that men only want you back when another man has you, most of the Time its their ego.
Walking Away On A Road Called Self Respect ✌️💃
At 57 years old, I'm still learning and hoping that I get it right.❤
60 yo the same... 🙏🏼
59 and the same!!
*64 and Fabulous...but still the same 👍!*
If you do your personal work, you will attract what you are. Preach Sir🙌🏽💯
I read this right when he said it in the video gave me chills 🥺
Woow. I needed to hear this. I spent time CHASING a man && it ended me up in a HORRIBLE place. I finally walked away. Didn’t block him or anything because I knew that meant nothing. I want to live my life as if he doesn’t even exist && it has been GREAT! I have received so many blessings and my life is flourishing in the way it needs to.
Doing this now it hurt so much I don’t understand why he is acting this way he tears up saying he loves me but never in his life he loved this way but yet pulling back I’m confuse I’m tired of wondering and chasing
I walked away three months ago. He looked me in the eue and said we have to stop doing this. I said okay. Left his house, didn’t call, didn't text and two weeks later he started reaching out. I let him back in and he still didn’t choose me. Tuesday I walked away again telling him I am done. My self worth is more important than our relationship.
Two weeks ain’t enough give it 5 months
@@ctokyox977*Besides getting a few (answered and unanswered) calls and hoovers, mine popped up on me recently -- 10 MONTHS LATER! Boy bye/F¥ck off!*
after he literally told you that y'all have to stop doing "this", why did you let him back again in to begin with.
There's a huge difference between a man who can lead and a man who is leading you on!
After 10 months of us knowing each other and dating, I told him I wanted more. He said he wants friendship. I told him I have too much to offer and will not wait for him, chase or beg him. He blocks me after that.Just before that I was vulnerable with him on the phone and he did hear me weep but I did pull myself together and sent him that txt and wished him luck. I see it must have hurt his ego but I dont want anything less either. It's been a day since this happened and I do miss him and cry. WHAT'S MEANT FOR ME WILL BE MINE! I ATTRACT I DO NOT CHASE.
It's hard but you can do this. I'm going through it too.
I’m going through that as well we going to get through it 💯💯
Same me here
Same 😢
This video is what I needed to watch right now. Just went through this and had to walk away from someone I truly loved but my self respect is much more important than someone not meeting my needs. It hurts but the power of walking away is necessary to preserve your self worth!
Amazing job on choosing YOU. I hope you're okay ❤
I'm glad you chose you! Keep pressing forward.
You made I good choose. Keep strong. Better things will come!
@@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool yes I’m okay! I definitely know I made the right decision.
@@katonyashakir8847 thank you 🙏🏼
Loved this! Women are giving men too much sexual access! Preach .
Knowing your worth helps a lot even if another person might not understand it.
He really is a legend because he talks about HIMSELF! not just everybody else. How many men expose themselves like this and have a testimony? Find that!
He’s the only one I listen to because yes been married for decades. The other “gurus” aren’t married and they don’t seem to be in long term relationships.
The part about contacting her while she was in another relationship…hmmmm. No one would suggest that to a woman- to do to a man. I notice once we move on, they always come back around.
They ask at the wedding, if anyone opposes the wedding, speak now. I think it's better to shoot your shot before the person makes it to the altar.
Got to walk away prepared that he will not come back. You will have to be really let go.😭
Very painful
Sheesh…. Prepare that he won’t come back…. Hard pill to swallow.
*It's crucial to recognize our worth and not chase after someone who isn't serious. Let's invest our energy in those who reciprocate our feelings and efforts. Here's to respecting ourselves and attracting the love we deserve.*
Lisa walking away, said" if you didn't value my presence... he won't feel my absence"
Don’t try this at home folks. He got lucky that Lisa and God have him another chance. Most people (man or woman) wouldn’t go back to someone who rejected commitment with them, especially if they were with a millionaire who MIGHT have given them what they wanted. Funny how things look “shinier” when someone else wants it. It’s a dangerous game to play that many lose.
I agree. If someone has to lose you to see your value then what’s the point? Lol
Great video, there is nothing like a perfect marriage or relationship, I learnt that in everything there is always a solution, 5 years ago I and my wife divorced because we were having some difficulties in our marriage but we are back together ,it was a really bad phase but we got through it
there is a lot of sense in what you just said and I hope mine works the same way too, we are currently separated but I cant live without her, I love her so much. wish I can get her back I can do anything to have her back, we have tried therapy amongst other things
@@DarylSimpson58 its always difficult to let someone you love go, but in my case I had the help of a spiritual adviser who saved my marriage from collapsing her name is SHELLY RENEE WHITE.
@@Kurt5Dobson this is helpful, I will look her up. I hope this works for me too, I really miss her.
I'm going through that right now not divorce yet but constant threats and I'm just trying to make him happy and get the help we need. Any tips
@@DarylSimpson58 I 😅
I walked away .. Freedom and no
more disrespect!!!!!
I suffered the borderline disorder for over 23 years.
With so much anxiety Not until I came across psilocybin mushrooms treatmentPsilocybin treatment actually saved my life honestly. 6 years totally clean.
Never thought I would be saying this about mushrooms
Microdosing helped me get out of the pit of my worst depressive episode, a three year long episodeenough to start working on my mental health
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Germany. Really need
Yes, dr.porass. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
The shroom experience stands as my most remarkable journey, an awe-inspiring encounter that left an indelible mark of amazement.
He’s on insta?
I LOVE how Lisa allows her guests to speak and finish their thoughts without interrupting. This makes for a truly amazing interview. Thank u!❤
My thing was he let me go without telling me.. action spoke louder..I was hurt but I met someone else who was worthy so when then things started to get good dude had nerve to text me😳.. after 6 months.. thinking he could come back cause he didn't have no one to have sex with..told him I moved on ..had the nerve to ask if we was serious..but of course..why would I go back to someone who left me hanging.. nope an nope..
VALUE YOURSELF, EVERYONE.
No one else does until YOU do.
Love YOURSELF-- you're worth it, my beautiful friends.
Thank you for your comment ❤
My ex finance got with someone else and said he was going to marry her. I said okay and walked away!!!. It Hurt like HELL I healed/healing !!!! He didn't come back and I'm glad I didn't stay he didn't love me after all. But his mother is reaching out to me now and I know his marriage was a power move and i was expected to beg and make a fool of myself. I didn't respond to the mother. I didn't realize he was narcissistic while I was in it. Spirit made me reject his projected tramua he would play. It took me years to leave. I am like a spiritual warriors now. I decided to not be bitter but it was a lot of mental work, and many tears and sleepless nights but I love who I am without him. I knew he wasn't for me but I gave him too many opportunities and for that I hold myself accountable.
So glad I’ve discovered these videos, they’ve kept me strong 💪🏽 I really slipped up and let a inconsistent man get away with too much too long.
Good luck! You desverve the best ❤
Same
Same! But it's never too late to turn it all around
Ditto! We've all been there. It takes a tremendous amount of courage to leave someone alone that has literally SHOWN you all the red flags!!
I did that for way too long as well. But thank God I finally let go, feeling free and light.
RC Blakes has been truly a God send. I had been trying to go no contact + with his encouragement, I left. He started stalking me + I called the police. It’s over now + I’m Grateful
I am happy it's over Lori. That stuff is so scary and dysregulating. Hope you are feeling a lot better ❤
It’s Cap he just knew she was enough for a better man which means that she was too good for him which made him open his eyes….Boy the Ego is something else
Yes. He is sooo fake. Actually his mama felt how dare the ex upgrade. He spelled her to come back. So she would not have the BEST. Now he brainwashing people like he is a pastor.. He is fake
Accept people for who they are while placing them where they need to be.
Women everywhere! NEVER give have any kind of sex with a man you're not engaged to with the date set. I don't get used because I don't let it happen. Do background checks. There are people out there who can pretend to be someone else for a LONG ass time. Half of all men are addicted to attention, soooooo, definitely, hold out. Any woman who ended up with a good man, the right man, said a lot of goodbyes before he came along. 💯
Spot on! 👏 So many crave attention but like RC says queens give attention only to high value man
Now I do understand what you mean about being played in that Arena I don't know it firsthand, but I do know just by hearing others. When you're a real woman and you know what you want and sexual desire is a enormous part of us- to simply ignore it, is absolutely ridiculous advice- just be picky on who you choose, and a man should be doing the same damn thing--- but Society has indoctrinated the human male to be absolutely honorless- as far from being a (real man / Divine masculine) and non-Discerning as one can get. and let's not forget- with a depravity that knows NO BOTTOM!! That's what's really going on here , but nobody wants to address the real problem ! Gee, I wonder why that is?????
And B t w- she can wait as long as SHE WANTS- hes just gona be getting it on the side, make it look like he's waiting and being patient 😏
And I'll be damned if Im going to pay for that by lessoning this life that i was given by denying my desires!
My how we forget what this (toxic and cowardice patriarchal regime has done for thousands of years -
"RULEZ FOR THEE, BUT NOT FOR ME"
(YEH, THEY CAN KISS MY ASS AND WALK BACKWARDS)! like they usually do anyway--
Engagements get boken and dates get changed- and why r u advocating we need to be a (mother Theresa) my god, what bad advice-
It’s true 🎯
@@Magicisreal66 Not bad advice. You need to understand how a man really thinks. I've seen this instant gratification thing played out too many times. A man who desires you isn't going anywhere.
I had a 3 year relationship with a covert narcissist. He ended the relationship unexpectedly and he was brutal.
"Sometimes we are giving things away that have to be EARNED" ~RC Blakes - Sir, I SALUTE you!!!!!
I walked away from my daughters father I loved him but there's was no direction in our relationship. There was no intimacy romance just banging. He didn't fight he got with someone else, I was heartbroken felt worthless but I didn't regret my decision because I know my worth. 5 years on I'm so glad I did the blessing that came into my life has been wonderful
I'm the same way. We want you happy. We dont want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with us. I understand Lisa completely. I will walk away.
@JoshuaBaris-je6ws I'm not the one he wants or needs. We are not equally yoked in love. He is my soulmate. I will love him until I die. You can't make someone be what you need them to be. I don't want to anyway.
If changes don’t come and he keeps allowing things that he think is harmless. I will go! Proverbs 1: 8-19
I learned how to walk away no matter how painful through losing my 5 yr old niece and my sister. .
I learned this the hard way but the day I finally walked away I gain my self-worth and life back!
This has been unbelievably hard but not for the same reasons. After 27 years of marriage with an abusive Narcissist I've found myself alone. He finally broke me (which I unwittingly allowed.) And he secretly moved onto another woman. One day my world was turned upside down after discovering this. I do NOT want him back. But the long connection between us leaves me so vulnerable and desperate on occasion. Not desperate to have him back but desperate to know I'm still valuable. When in truth, I know I was always valuable & he still doesn't deserve me. I've grown more in a few months than the last decade. I just NEED to let go of my desire to feel valid to this man.
You will, Sis. Prayerfully keep walking in the other direction.
I don’t know if this will matter much from a complete stranger but, I want you to know that you’re valuable. God bless you sis.
Gosh I hurt for you sis! From my understanding a person like that will never give you what u deserve! You know u are valuable and just remember it’s not you. It’s him, I know it sounds crazy but he knows I are valuable , that is why he treated you the way you did to make u think you weren’t! You were his bait he knows he isn’t valuable!! You will be waiting until death to receive that validation from him. I went through something a little similar and still trying to pin point when someone is a narci! I always wanted validation from him and he came to someone that wasn’t broken and knew I was able to validate myself. I wanted it from him and know till this day, I will never get it! They are beneath us’ I hope this helps and hope it makes sense!
I can relate to what you've said here.
Your story is an excellent example of why women should abandon ship ASAP when there's a red flag (instead of ignoring said red flag). It sounds like a sunk cost fallacy. You put nearly three decades into a person, so you're trying to get some return on your investment even though he couldn't care less about you. Sounds like he shouldn't have even gotten three months.
We as women have all been hurt in some way. I desire to be married and loved correctly! We must take the time to heal correctly and allow God to remove and fill any void that in within. Also our words are conduits to what we sow into our life. If that’s all you say that you’re not going to find love and there is no love for you. That is exactly what you get.. Let’s use our words and thoughts wisely! They are so expensive!💕
I love this, you are 💯 percent correct, life and death is in the power, of the tongue. Everything isn't like a microwave oven, so I believe if one look at self, and began to know their value, and their worth, they'll then begin to attract, what God has for you then, because everything that trys to attach itself too you too fast, isn't always good for you. That's when discernment should comes in. It's always signs we just don't pick up on them, or we avoid them. That's when we get hurt. ( Perception) is off. Thanks for sharing.😊
You’re absolutely right as well…All the things be off.. flags be neon pink! 🤣 Perception and discernment is vital!❤
Amen ❤❤
I walked away from my husband after he said he wanted an open marriage & to live separately. I don’t know if he gained any clarity but I did. I wasted years of my life being with him & would’ve continued wasting time had I stayed. He didn’t truly love or value me… Only himself. I deserve better.
There is something about this conversation that makes me uncomfortable. That someone had to walk away for you to realise you loved them. How do you know you weren’t just jealous and your ego was taking over. Now that she’s dating someone better than me it gives her a higher standing than you. I can see how the brain goes… now I’ve got to get back with her to soothe the ego.
Also, the fact that it wasn’t until his Mom said to him that’s his wife. You mean to tell me he didn’t know that on his own.
Thank you Dr Oluwaseun for helping me solving my love problem. I will never forget your favor for the rest of my life.❤
I was in a relationship and he was verbally abusive,
No matter how I begged him to stop.
It wasn’t my fault, it was him acting on pain from his past relationships. I talked to him about his past, I gave him the offer to leave me if he wasn’t ready.
He told me he was over his past and acted right for a week.
I finally blocked him with tears in my eyes. He called my mom, and I wouldn’t talk to him.
2 months later ( with no communication)
He called me, apologized, acknowledged his ways, and we are now happy.
He expressed he understood why I did what I did, but couldn’t stop thinking about me.
I had listened to RC BLAKES teaching about the power to walk away, it’s for games, it’s not to taunt, it’s for clarity for the both of you.
I must admit I wasn’t surprised he called, we had a connection, and truth be told, I thought about him daily, but for me and my sanity, I couldn’t take the verbal abuse.
We are GOOD now, and he’s a lot more mindful of his words.
THANK YOU RC for all your teachings.
I don’t have anyone to teach me what you do, so I THANK YOU
*I'm happy for you both ⚘️!*
I agree with you completely- I was in a situation where I loved him - he told me he love me as well as he was showing me differently and was not communicating with me, hiding, lying and opening up about certain things. So I decided I deserved to be treated much better than that and I walked away, I prayed that if he wanted me he would reach out to me.
Moral of the story is that alot of men take women for granted. Gotcha. Smh
Am glad he pointed out that it’s earning access, I think a solid man should also be uncomfortable with unearned access
Lisa , I love that you brought RC Blake on your show. This man’s knowledge and wisdom has empowered me to heal and value myself, after being broken by narcissistic abuse. He also tought me how to spot a narcissist. Seriously all ladies should go check his material out. He is fabulous !!!!
I love this video!! In January of this year I walked away from a on and off again relationship of 17 years, not married.... I've never felt more free. I'm NEVER going back, and I can say NEVER because that's how I reached 17 years, not listening to my thoughts, and ignoring the red flags. So glad I found this video. ❤❤❤🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
Me 19.5 years. Finally done.
@@1tlb0k Holy 💩... I was dying, couldn't do it anymore. I'd been with him since I was 20 years old, and I'm 37. I gave up enough. I'm glad you left, congratulations. I hope you're happy ❤️❤️❤️🙏🏽
@@keshiawilliams2312 thank you for your kind support & sharing. I too was dying.
@@1tlb0k You're welcome, and I'm glad you had the strength to walk away. 💐💐
Damn so much wasted time you will never get back, your prime years. May you find peace now.
I’m a victim of toxic nostalgia going on nine years. This person still has a certain psychological hold on me. I need to go no contact. The wrong person preoccupies my life. I need to keep space open for the right man. A man keeps circling and drawing me back in. Giving people access to you can build resentment. I need to qualify people. A man should prove they are worthy of access to woman, especially sexual access.
Sounds like you are trauma bonded to the wrong person. Please look into this. There are alot of videos on breaking ruminating behaviors. Free yourself. 9 years is a long time.
😢mine was over 20years…smh…looking back, I can’t believe I lost allllll that time waiting and hoping 😩😭😭 only THE FATHER got me past it…it was soooooooo hard and I didn’t know how much damage I was doing to myself till these years have passed and I look back….🙏🏾😔
Standards, boundaries, expectations and self love will save you a lot of heartbreak
You make a really good point about how letting people have access to yourself when they are not wanted can build resentment whether it's a conversation or social interaction or more
You will heal ❤️
Not sure why this came to my timeline, but its right on time. Had to walk away from a 2year relationship. Its hard, but things are better now that im away from it. He still reaches out and says he misses me; we were friends for over 10years. I want a man that respects and cherishes me not a man that had to think twice about me.
“If you do your personal work, you will attract what you are!”
That doesn’t work for everyone. I’ve done it all my life and they never got back with a good commitment or changed. Many men will reach other women and when they get bored, they’ll come back again. Or they’ll keep promising you they’ll work on you but will repeat the same. A person only changes when he/she has a real “click”. But sometimes will be too late.
Agreed
Have just walked away from the man l loved so much it's not easy to let go of the ones u love