I didn’t get my degree to provide for a man. Why do men assume we get degrees for them? It’s not for them. I got my degree to provide for myself. I wanted to move out of my parents home. My parents are good people, but I felt like a little girl living there. When I moved into my first apartment, with my own money, I was able to activate my femininity naturally. I created my own schedule and wore sexier clothing to bed. I couldn’t wear that clothing in my parents home. I could explore who I am. Style my apartment in the decor that made me feel good. When I had my own money I could level up and really think about the man I wanted. I can’t explore who I am, if I went from daddy’s house to husband’s house. I needed that time in between to heal my childhood trauma and set my personality. When work at McD’s I couldn’t afford nothing, not even a manicure. However, when I got my degree and good job, I was able to level up so fast. I worked in a safe air conditioning office. I had health insurance and visited the obgyn. I had dental and got my teeth fixed. I bought better clothes. I moved into the rich side of town. I paid for a personal trainer. I’m leveled up, but men are intimidated now. I have too many degrees. Make up your mind, Sir. You want my luxury experience, but don’t want to acknowledge that I obtained it thru my own efforts. It’s a new era. Instead of dumbing women down, we should be encouraging men to level up. Catch up Guys! Being educated is a good thing.
Why do you want to live at the whims of fickle men??? True pick a protector and provider, but make sure you keep your career skills, because 95% of the time you will need to take care of yourself at least after 50.
@@cathylake9072 Okay well find some content regarding fickle men and careers if that suits you. I make this content because there are women interested. You don’t have to indulge.
@@gethimgirls Leading girls who don't know better to make very bad life choices. A man has never been a plan, especially not for a Black woman. In the words of Dorothy Dandridge a token and a man will get a black woman on a bus.
Same here 💗 but do you only have friends who are in the same position as you? How do you make friends with working women? Sometimes it’s hard for me to
A quote I heard and believe as a married women to a loving provider--- "Appreciate yourself he will appreciate you. Appreciate HIM he will appreciate HIMSELF. Care about what he eats ? He will care about what HE eats. Care about what YOU eat he will care about what YOU eat lol get it ? Good- and yes they want to feel respected as well. Thats why some affairs start at work- he may be more respected at work then home 👀Always keep your self confidence and self care high. Be feminine, be soft but have boundaries and respect yourself ! Good luck and God bless.
@@Gigi-mf5tdEven God wouldn’t want to you to submit to the leadership of someone who submits to the world. If you follow a corrupt leader, you are bound to fail. Never follow a man who doesn’t follow God, just like in the garden of Eden when Adam tried to blame God, and God still punished Adam because in judgment day you can’t blame your husband for misleading you as a Christian, you will still be punished to hell if you allow your husband who doesn’t submit to God to mislead you.
Every man I've dated has told me his favorite thing about me is how much I show appreciation for him. That is my strong suit! I would love a video on learning to stroke a man's ego in a genuine and authentic way.
True. This advice is definitely not for any man. I only speak regarding healthy masculine men on the channel. I’ll start to reiterate that with each video so no one thinks otherwise.
I like your thoughts and we think the same. I learned this with my dad first. He would give me gifts or money and I would react with such excitement and joked I will always take his money no matter how much I make. He would beam and laugh. I’m always confused when women miss the cues and are offended by men’s bragging. A masculine man’s joy is giving to you.
I love first and foremost a man of GOD born again ! A man that’s after the heart of God first works for me if he loves God and his obedient to all his laws his able to respect n honour provide and protect me period
The thing is some men aren’t worthy of this. They will expect this from jump. I agree with this video, but the disclaimer is describing the feminine behavior is reserved for a particular man. Often, men are not in their masculine, hence why women aren’t happy.
@@Memomommy I didn’t think so. Not everyone can read in between the lines. You’re making assumptions about others level of awareness. I don’t really get your response because it wasn’t warranted. I’m entitled to give feedback, it was even positive. Women like you love to deconstruct a message and turn it into to something else, not attractive.
@@CC-pu6qn Unfortunately you are one of the ones that can’t read in between the lines. I avoid women like you at all cost who love saying, “but some of these men are not worthy”. The video is about provider men, Men who don’t split bills, but yet you brought up wounded men You didn’t say that verbatim ik lol. You’re one of the ones that have a victim mentality, which I consider a red flag. Keep dwelling on the past or men that split bills. These videos are here to help women recognize high value men and develop our femininity so we can attract healthy men. Keep having that mindset and you will keep attracting 50/50 men. You brought negativity into the comment. This lady wouldn’t advise us to date those men. She never said it once in the video. But I hear you on some people can’t read between the lines I’ll give you that, but all im saying is consider having a more positive outlook on men.
@@CC-pu6qnhey beautiful so this message is definitely not for every man. This is in regards to healthy men who are actually meeting the needs we have. I wouldn’t instruct women to do this for men who are not meeting our standards.
I love this message. "Men desire us based on how we make them feel." A guy I was dating who was a provider type said I was so emotionally mature and that he just wanted to be around me. I noticed how relaxed he was and he opened up about things that were intimate (not sexual) about his family, etc and I'd just listen and comment if that was necessary. I could tell he felt at peace with me. Not to be confused with 'I was his peace' BUT that he felt at peace with me. We laughed, joked, had serious conversations too. It felt good and he liked that most.
This is literally the best explanation on how to date your man in a healthy way that celebrates and feeds our divine feminine and masculine natures. Thank you!!
Energies need to be aligned, and all things will fall into place. We have an epidemic of weak men. Strong men have become the minority. Feminine women also want respectful men; only then can she respect him.
I agree men are leaders therefore set the tone. When i met my husband i thought he was king but he himself slowly destroyed that image of himself with lack of motivation, anger issues, 50/50 mindset. 10 years later my respect for him is so low 🥴🥴. Sometimes when he does take charge i can feel myself melting to more feminine version of myself and then he asks to go half on something so small and i slowly can feel my ovaries disappear 🥴
@@maribee5201 off course what do you expect. If man no longer wanna take the masculine responsibility for woman then woman are forced to use their masculine energy
Not being negative. But basically treat men similarly like a child. Rewards, respect and ego stroking. But honestly I think we all need this not just men
@@gethimgirls this video has helped me understand a little better. For years I tried the feminist try to break gender roles approach & it left me f'ing exhausted! 🤣I still believe that I want to continue pursuing my career, but this time around I am not going to put so much stress & pressure on myself. My man is happily allowing me to take a physical, mental, & spiritual hiatus from working right now. I appreciate & love him dearly for this! He told me that this is an investment in our relationship. I cried so hard! Beause for the first time, I am with someone who wants to protect me & provide for me in a known way. 🥲I feel like this video will keep being a reminder of how to prioritize gratitude, love & respect. He makes it so easy to do that. 🥰
I’m a very happy person and young for my age. I’ve had 2 marriages and a great pretend 10 year marriage. The Pretend marriage was the best because he was looking for a good woman and recognized I was that woman. He was a great man and reciprocated in kind. You are spot on with the info you are explaining. All A woman has to do is be a respectful wife and your man will keep it coming 👊🏻! Sure there will be some who will take advantage of those goodies and kindness of a woman, BUT WE SHOULD KNOW WHEN THE RECIPROCITY IS LACKING AND EXIT THE SCENE.
I have to thank you, I’ve never fully thought about how much men talk about their finances and what they can accomplish with me in full depth, but you opened my eyes. It use to be vastly unappealing but now you’ve opened me to seeing it in a different way. I use to ask my cousin do I have gold digger written on my forehead like what’s happening here…😡 It was just so extreme~
They definitely want to be understood. But, girl it's so hard to understand a person who doesn't make any damn sense. But, I'm trying even if it doesn't make sense to me to stroke that ego!!
And here’s the thing, I’m not saying you have to be a yes woman. There is a feminine way to express those types of emotion. The ego stroke is when they do deserve it.
Hehe, i think i found Where the problem is or where things changed at. Let me re-introduce myself to that feminine side of me and ride this wave ❤❤❤❤. Thank you girl 👏👏🙏🙏
Girl 💯. In my msg to him last night I didn’t say babe. And he felt that my energy changed in that moment. I didn’t notice but he did. Then I remembered that he needs words of affirmation- noted!!!
As a woman that is provided for… there’s a certain way of existence that you have to be ..to attract a man that wants to be in your energy. You have to be addictive to be around.🎉…men LOVE JOY and peace. Happy bubbly and joyous women. do you take time to make yourself pretty? Do you have a routine for your skincare hair and beauty? Do you take care of yourself as in does your body look like you have a fitness routine ? Do you go to the gym? Do you drink water? Are you reading books ?going to cultural events that sets you apart from women he’s dated that all do the same thing every day? Because if you’re doing these things on your own that would be shown in your energy…. it’s a lot of work, but it’s a lot of unseen work that you’re doing on your own. That’s really an investment upon you and when he sees that you don’t mind investing in yourself he will do the same thing to be around you
Yesss we dove into this a bit in a video a couple weeks ago. That’s that asset mindset! Pouring into ourselves to the point that it has no choice but to benefit him! Whew! I love it girly. Good take! 💕
@@gethimgirls yes it’s just an embodiment that you carry . Learn it, study it, copy and paste…. Put your own unique femininity twist on it and that frequency will radiate to ALL men….then you will have the pick of litters OK💕😂. @pedestalwives @universeguru @sheraseven …. All of these women have shaped my mind in waves that were so abundant to me and I wish you all the success in your page my dear in your channel 💕👑. Women need a safe place for safe sound advice.
All facts! And ladies she is right! Masculine alpha men who are successful do not care how much you make! If the “boss chick” making 6 figures is stressing him out and challenging him all the time he will choose the feminine peaceful barista at Starbucks. I’ve seen it happen countless times and the previous woman who got it wrong will say things like “I make more money than her etc.” not realizing it never had anything to do with money.
I love this. Thank you from those of us who have become way too comfortable in our relationships and can’t seem to recover from the brokenness we’ve caused.
As a spoiled wife, the answer is to literally have boundaries, be attractive, and be feminine. that is what worked for me! It’s not going to work without all three unless your man is a betamale. Hope that helps!
@@gethimgirls I’m not asking for a different topic. I’m just stating that men have to earn respect and you can’t just give it to them so easily. It’s a statement very much aligned with your video on the same topic.
@@aruytpadyugf there’s enough videos discussing what to do regarding men who can’t be trusted, watch those. I discuss healthy men and how we interact with them. So very different topic.
@@FavDogBisquit in the context of dating, yes men have to literally earn your respect and don’t give it to them so freely. They do take advantage of it since we are more empathetic and give more benefit of the doubt. Again I’m taking in the context of dating men, not in everyday life situations.
As a woman who has never been with a man who hasn't provided 100 percent and currently 11yrs happily married as a housewife, I completely disagree lol. But I do like the video.
And agreeing to disagree is completely okay in this space. I speak to what works for me and women I work with but that doesn’t mean there aren’t other viewpoints that may work for different people for various reasons. I just hope mine helps some women who may not be in your position yet.
@kemly_ I completely agree. That’s why I did not invalidate her point. But I’ve been married to a provider since January of 2014 and have not touched a bill. So my points are from experience.
Unfortunately I’m not a gracious receiver no one ever gave me shit to be grateful for 🤷🏽♀️ and because my father did me how he did me I am the way I am. I can sit down and do all the healing work I desire but until god present me with the proper opportunity to see it from a different lense I can only operate from what I have experienced and until I experience something different 🤷🏽♀️ but I’m so screwed up I can’t even allow myself to experience something different cause it doesn’t feel normal. I’m too use to not receiving, not being protected or provided for shit is sad
This came right on time in my life. A season of accountability for my actions and approach to my own life’s goals. Thank you. We are in Autumn 🍂, a season’s for this. Peace to everyone 2024❤!
You’re UhMazing!!! I 100% agree with you. ❤❤❤ you broke the experience down a blind could learn from you! I really enjoyed this 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🫶🏾🫶🏾🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽 May the Most High Continue to Enlarge Your Territory!!! I could feel your passion and hear your genuineness! 😍
1. men need to feel respected # we have to listen to them when they convey their standards so we should actually hear them out n not take it as bragging. keep tabs on what tiks them off. stroke his ego so he can do more for you, it shows appreciation, also reward him
I didnt watch the whole video, i had to go to work lol but i agree men want respect obviously but also think some men just brings that out of a woman. I tried to respect my husband but he wont budge with his 50/50 mindset and its the biggest turn off. How do you want to be listened to and thought of as if you are a provider but will go to the store to buy diapers and ask me to send half and you make more money than me?
Tell him: "Either you: Provide 100 percent, and I will listen to you, follow your lead, and respect you as the provider or We do 50/50 and I have as much equal say, I am also thought of and respected as half provider as well, because we can't and ain't doing both. Pick one.
We have to ask those questions while we are courting. I asked and understood. I thought it would be ok. My husband has more of a 80/20 thought on money. I'm praying about it because I entered into the marriage knowing this. Because he requires so much attention there is no way I can work and and take care of me and family and have the energy to be who he wants me to be most of the time. I will be making some improvements. Also continue to do what is right in God's eyes. That is what matters. God knows what we need. We can also make sure we are marrying someone that will be a 💯 provider if that's what we require from the start.
I love this advice and I swear to God...i try hard to do this...sometimes. Listen, do you ever have encounters with the guys who try so hard to be extra impressive that it's like the man literally has no understanding of the idea of subtlety? And you try not to grin about it or roll your eyes but like...its so extra and cute that it's hard to take him seriously? Ugh, I'm so jaded, too, tho. This might be a tell of the kind of men I've dated, but I don't feel like men are trying to prove they can keep me safe. I feel like they try to get me in bed as fast as possible. I know that's not true of every man on earth and I have my own healing to do around that. I've just found it really challenging in the past. I just want to come into a healthier mindset around men and dating.
And you know what Jesse, everything starts with a thought first. Meaning the fact that you’re even evaluating self and realizing that you want to develop a better mindset is beautiful. And men, they do want to get us in bed lol. But that doesn’t mean he isn’t also wanting to show you he’s capable of having you in his life. Both can be true. Sounds like you’re starting a beautiful journey girly 💕
@@gethimgirls yes, but I'm from the South. Down here, some men come from families where education is a status symbol. You must be educated. Those type of men will mess around with you but they will not take you seriously. It's a sign of laziness if you don't have a degree in some circles.
Men are attracted to visual first. To start this video off with how a man feels comes second in nature. Looking beautiful is very important. Keep yourself pretty. Keep yourself up. Hair nails feet; etc. then once you look good. Then he will see whether you’re able to hold a conversation with him. He wants a woman not just well kept and pretty. But a woman with a brain. Most older men looking for a woman to show off. But if you don’t have a brain you won’t go far!
I’ve been married for 13 years, I own a few businesses, I birthed his children, I’m a stay at home mom and homeschool. I agree and never worry about cheating. My husband cherishes me and treats me like the goddess that I am. He leaves home and brings home the bacon (even though my businesses bring in more income than he earns at his job). I don’t have to lift a finger. He does it because I respect him. I cherish him and treat him like a God. I love him unconditionally and do not take him for granted. I apologize when I’m wrong. I listen to understand with empathy when he speaks to me. I have s3x with him whenever he needs it. I keep my body right and my health in order. I keep our home in order. I feed him and cook for him etc…
Well there are multiple ways to skin a cat but GHG wants men to feel respected and encouraged to provide, not the other way around. We want them to be excited about doing so.
What if you’re doing all these things and supporting him and he wants you to struggle with him and says he feel like he has to be the provider on his own but in the same breathe saying he’s doing all these things for us.
Read "respect and love" and follow Laura Doyle to change that dynamic in your marriage. Focus on being in the feminine energy ( receptive, admiration, respect) so you can inspire him to be a better husband.
So, basically you need to be into acting 😂 To pretend he is smarter, sexier and more mature than he is. I’m very authentic and honest, I’d rather put all of these efforts into my own business and friends. My business won’t cheat and isn’t watching corn
No. You have to find a man you genuinely respect. You have to find a man whose jokes are funny to you, a man you can learn from and seek out for his wise counsel.
Happy Wednesday! Chile, coming from a spoiled woman of 25 years of marriage! First of all he have to Love you, and second thing all men want is good Sex, and that does include oral sex lol. And he will get you whatever you want. He will go out and work two jobs if he have to. Good sex, agreeable, and peaceful. Men are very simple. Its not complicated. Every man I dated going back to high school, have always spoiled me. My children say daddy you have mamma so spoiled. I come first to him before anything. My husband will do anything for me. I am a Blessed Woman of God! Be Blessed everyone!
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I didn’t get my degree to provide for a man. Why do men assume we get degrees for them? It’s not for them.
I got my degree to provide for myself.
I wanted to move out of my parents home. My parents are good people, but I felt like a little girl living there.
When I moved into my first apartment, with my own money, I was able to activate my femininity naturally. I created my own schedule and wore sexier clothing to bed. I couldn’t wear that clothing in my parents home. I could explore who I am. Style my apartment in the decor that made me feel good.
When I had my own money I could level up and really think about the man I wanted. I can’t explore who I am, if I went from daddy’s house to husband’s house. I needed that time in between to heal my childhood trauma and set my personality.
When work at McD’s I couldn’t afford nothing, not even a manicure.
However, when I got my degree and good job, I was able to level up so fast. I worked in a safe air conditioning office. I had health insurance and visited the obgyn. I had dental and got my teeth fixed. I bought better clothes. I moved into the rich side of town. I paid for a personal trainer.
I’m leveled up, but men are intimidated now. I have too many degrees.
Make up your mind, Sir. You want my luxury experience, but don’t want to acknowledge that I obtained it thru my own efforts.
It’s a new era. Instead of dumbing women down, we should be encouraging men to level up.
Catch up Guys!
Being educated is a good thing.
Why do you want to live at the whims of fickle men??? True pick a protector and provider, but make sure you keep your career skills, because 95% of the time you will need to take care of yourself at least after 50.
@@cathylake9072 Okay well find some content regarding fickle men and careers if that suits you. I make this content because there are women interested. You don’t have to indulge.
@@gethimgirls Leading girls who don't know better to make very bad life choices. A man has never been a plan, especially not for a Black woman. In the words of Dorothy Dandridge a token and a man will get a black woman on a bus.
My husband is the provider, I stop working 2yrs ago, yes ladies I love it I feel so FREE !!!
Okayyy, don’t it feel good sis? 🙂↔️
Same here 💗 but do you only have friends who are in the same position as you? How do you make friends with working women? Sometimes it’s hard for me to
Amazing ❤❤
That's so good!
Enjoy ya life sis❤
A quote I heard and believe as a married women to a loving provider--- "Appreciate yourself he will appreciate you. Appreciate HIM he will appreciate HIMSELF. Care about what he eats ? He will care about what HE eats. Care about what YOU eat he will care about what YOU eat lol get it ? Good- and yes they want to feel respected as well. Thats why some affairs start at work- he may be more respected at work then home 👀Always keep your self confidence and self care high. Be feminine, be soft but have boundaries and respect yourself ! Good luck and God bless.
Go ahead and start a channel ma’am 😂 you get it. I think appreciating him and yourself is a balance thing and you do both but yes ma’am. You speaking.
I will ever ever submit to a man that he himself isn’t first submitted to God ! This is my deal
I agree!
And the choir says Amen❤
Most Christian man are players my dear!
Its like saying , I won't obey the Lord unless others do first.... sounds like self sabotag & disobedience to the word
@@Gigi-mf5tdEven God wouldn’t want to you to submit to the leadership of someone who submits to the world. If you follow a corrupt leader, you are bound to fail. Never follow a man who doesn’t follow God, just like in the garden of Eden when Adam tried to blame God, and God still punished Adam because in judgment day you can’t blame your husband for misleading you as a Christian, you will still be punished to hell if you allow your husband who doesn’t submit to God to mislead you.
Every man I've dated has told me his favorite thing about me is how much I show appreciation for him. That is my strong suit! I would love a video on learning to stroke a man's ego in a genuine and authentic way.
Sometimes stroking an ego becomes exhausting. I did it for almost 7 yrs and it became a lot! I loved it. At first…
Does he give you lots of gifts and financial support after showing him this appreciation or does he just say it?
It takes more than stroking a man's ego to keep a man. Especially, if you want marriage. What do I know. I've only been married 36 years.
As beautiful as this is, to the wrong man, none of it will count!
True. This advice is definitely not for any man. I only speak regarding healthy masculine men on the channel. I’ll start to reiterate that with each video so no one thinks otherwise.
Choose the right target
@@xportiaglobalconsulting right!
Im A Spoiled Wife & I Love It! ❤
Yass!!
Yassss hunny!!!! We live it over here.❤
I like your thoughts and we think the same. I learned this with my dad first. He would give me gifts or money and I would react with such excitement and joked I will always take his money no matter how much I make. He would beam and laugh. I’m always confused when women miss the cues and are offended by men’s bragging. A masculine man’s joy is giving to you.
I love this Rose! You are exactly right 💕
Right a feminine woman gives
Same here my dad also like give me a money or buy me some food even I had my own business 😅
Same with my dad its facts
To some it up..show him respected by listening and show gratitude.
I love first and foremost a man of GOD born again !
A man that’s after the heart of God first works for me if he loves God and his obedient to all his laws his able to respect n honour provide and protect me period
The thing is some men aren’t worthy of this. They will expect this from jump. I agree with this video, but the disclaimer is describing the feminine behavior is reserved for a particular man. Often, men are not in their masculine, hence why women aren’t happy.
Yeah agree there are men that want to split bills with their gf/wife but still EXPECT all of this
And some men are, I don’t think she would advise us to give this treatment or behavior to men that are not worthy.
@@Memomommy I didn’t think so. Not everyone can read in between the lines. You’re making assumptions about others level of awareness. I don’t really get your response because it wasn’t warranted. I’m entitled to give feedback, it was even positive. Women like you love to deconstruct a message and turn it into to something else, not attractive.
@@CC-pu6qn Unfortunately you are one of the ones that can’t read in between the lines. I avoid women like you at all cost who love saying, “but some of these men are not worthy”. The video is about provider men, Men who don’t split bills, but yet you brought up wounded men You didn’t say that verbatim ik lol. You’re one of the ones that have a victim mentality, which I consider a red flag. Keep dwelling on the past or men that split bills. These videos are here to help women recognize high value men and develop our femininity so we can attract healthy men. Keep having that mindset and you will keep attracting 50/50 men. You brought negativity into the comment. This lady wouldn’t advise us to date those men. She never said it once in the video. But I hear you on some people can’t read between the lines I’ll give you that, but all im saying is consider having a more positive outlook on men.
@@CC-pu6qnhey beautiful so this message is definitely not for every man. This is in regards to healthy men who are actually meeting the needs we have. I wouldn’t instruct women to do this for men who are not meeting our standards.
I love this message. "Men desire us based on how we make them feel." A guy I was dating who was a provider type said I was so emotionally mature and that he just wanted to be around me. I noticed how relaxed he was and he opened up about things that were intimate (not sexual) about his family, etc and I'd just listen and comment if that was necessary. I could tell he felt at peace with me. Not to be confused with 'I was his peace' BUT that he felt at peace with me. We laughed, joked, had serious conversations too. It felt good and he liked that most.
This is literally the best explanation on how to date your man in a healthy way that celebrates and feeds our divine feminine and masculine natures. Thank you!!
Energies need to be aligned, and all things will fall into place. We have an epidemic of weak men. Strong men have become the minority. Feminine women also want respectful men; only then can she respect him.
I agree men are leaders therefore set the tone. When i met my husband i thought he was king but he himself slowly destroyed that image of himself with lack of motivation, anger issues, 50/50 mindset. 10 years later my respect for him is so low 🥴🥴. Sometimes when he does take charge i can feel myself melting to more feminine version of myself and then he asks to go half on something so small and i slowly can feel my ovaries disappear 🥴
This!
There is also an epidemic of hyper masculine women.
@@maribee5201 off course what do you expect. If man no longer wanna take the masculine responsibility for woman then woman are forced to use their masculine energy
I agree
Not being negative. But basically treat men similarly like a child. Rewards, respect and ego stroking. But honestly I think we all need this not just men
Never said just men need anything. But this video is tailored to women who need help operating with men. So of course, I would discuss men’s needs.
@@gethimgirls this video has helped me understand a little better. For years I tried the feminist try to break gender roles approach & it left me f'ing exhausted! 🤣I still believe that I want to continue pursuing my career, but this time around I am not going to put so much stress & pressure on myself. My man is happily allowing me to take a physical, mental, & spiritual hiatus from working right now. I appreciate & love him dearly for this! He told me that this is an investment in our relationship. I cried so hard! Beause for the first time, I am with someone who wants to protect me & provide for me in a known way. 🥲I feel like this video will keep being a reminder of how to prioritize gratitude, love & respect. He makes it so easy to do that. 🥰
@@samurai9319 soooo good! I’m so happy you’re experiencing this 💕 take your time beautiful
And on the other hand we want to be spoiled like little girls.. It's not about treating men like a child.
@@samurai9319There's no one size fits all when it comes to men and marriage.
Now THIS actually made sense compared to those other superficial channels where all they talk about is looks.
Yesss diva! I’m so glad you resonate 💕
I’m a very happy person and young for my age. I’ve had 2 marriages and a great pretend 10 year marriage. The Pretend marriage was the best because he was looking for a good woman and recognized I was that woman. He was a great man and reciprocated in kind. You are spot on with the info you are explaining. All A woman has to do is be a respectful wife and your man will keep it coming 👊🏻! Sure there will be some who will take advantage of those goodies and kindness of a woman, BUT WE SHOULD KNOW WHEN THE RECIPROCITY IS LACKING AND EXIT THE SCENE.
Oh yes. I am a spoiled wifey 💍 🥰
Yes ma’am you are 💕
I have to thank you, I’ve never fully thought about how much men talk about their finances and what they can accomplish with me in full depth, but you opened my eyes. It use to be vastly unappealing but now you’ve opened me to seeing it in a different way. I use to ask my cousin do I have gold digger written on my forehead like what’s happening here…😡 It was just so extreme~
They definitely want to be understood. But, girl it's so hard to understand a person who doesn't make any damn sense. But, I'm trying even if it doesn't make sense to me to stroke that ego!!
And here’s the thing, I’m not saying you have to be a yes woman. There is a feminine way to express those types of emotion. The ego stroke is when they do deserve it.
You probably have relationship with wrong man
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I feel you when you say don’t make any sense
Stop trying to make sense of it. Just do what is best and realize he’s for real. As long as it’s reciprocal ITS GREAT👍🏻👏
I love the idea of winning with my man. That makes him feel respected and like we’re on the same team 💗
We all want to be seen, heard, and appreciated ❤❤❤works both ways💯💯
Hehe, i think i found Where the problem is or where things changed at.
Let me re-introduce myself to that feminine side of me and ride this wave ❤❤❤❤.
Thank you girl 👏👏🙏🙏
Lol I love to see it ma’am 😂
I literally love my man. But to be honest, it’s exhausting. There has to respect on both sides. Some people feel entitled. And compatibility
Girl 💯. In my msg to him last night I didn’t say babe. And he felt that my energy changed in that moment. I didn’t notice but he did. Then I remembered that he needs words of affirmation- noted!!!
Gratitude is very important, show appreciation. Listen and support 💯
As a woman that is provided for… there’s a certain way of existence that you have to be ..to attract a man that wants to be in your energy. You have to be addictive to be around.🎉…men LOVE JOY and peace. Happy bubbly and joyous women. do you take time to make yourself pretty? Do you have a routine for your skincare hair and beauty? Do you take care of yourself as in does your body look like you have a fitness routine ? Do you go to the gym? Do you drink water? Are you reading books ?going to cultural events that sets you apart from women he’s dated that all do the same thing every day? Because if you’re doing these things on your own that would be shown in your energy…. it’s a lot of work, but it’s a lot of unseen work that you’re doing on your own. That’s really an investment upon you and when he sees that you don’t mind investing in yourself he will do the same thing to be around you
Yesss we dove into this a bit in a video a couple weeks ago. That’s that asset mindset! Pouring into ourselves to the point that it has no choice but to benefit him! Whew! I love it girly. Good take! 💕
@@gethimgirls yes it’s just an embodiment that you carry . Learn it, study it, copy and paste…. Put your own unique femininity twist on it and that frequency will radiate to ALL men….then you will have the pick of litters OK💕😂. @pedestalwives @universeguru @sheraseven …. All of these women have shaped my mind in waves that were so abundant to me and I wish you all the success in your page my dear in your channel 💕👑. Women need a safe place for safe sound advice.
Hmm noted thank you for sharing
All facts! And ladies she is right! Masculine alpha men who are successful do not care how much you make! If the “boss chick” making 6 figures is stressing him out and challenging him all the time he will choose the feminine peaceful barista at Starbucks. I’ve seen it happen countless times and the previous woman who got it wrong will say things like “I make more money than her etc.” not realizing it never had anything to do with money.
@@ReversedFeminist yes mam!
That’s true , my husband says he dosent even think about how much I make
It is not my responsibility to make a man feel like a man. If he isn’t in his masculine energy himself then we are probably not dating.
Yeah you missed it. It’s okay lol.
I love this. Thank you from those of us who have become way too comfortable in our relationships and can’t seem to recover from the brokenness we’ve caused.
As a spoiled wife, the answer is to literally have boundaries, be attractive, and be feminine. that is what worked for me! It’s not going to work without all three unless your man is a betamale. Hope that helps!
Having boundaries with what exactly. Please I would like to know. Thank you
Don’t just give all men respect. They have to EARN that respect. I wish this video talked more about that instead of
So find a video that talks about that or make one. There’s different videos for different topics. This is what I chose to discuss.
@@gethimgirls I’m not asking for a different topic. I’m just stating that men have to earn respect and you can’t just give it to them so easily. It’s a statement very much aligned with your video on the same topic.
@@aruytpadyugf there’s enough videos discussing what to do regarding men who can’t be trusted, watch those. I discuss healthy men and how we interact with them. So very different topic.
Earn? So they don’t get respect normally?
@@FavDogBisquit in the context of dating, yes men have to literally earn your respect and don’t give it to them so freely. They do take advantage of it since we are more empathetic and give more benefit of the doubt. Again I’m taking in the context of dating men, not in everyday life situations.
As a woman who has never been with a man who hasn't provided 100 percent and currently 11yrs happily married as a housewife, I completely disagree lol. But I do like the video.
And agreeing to disagree is completely okay in this space. I speak to what works for me and women I work with but that doesn’t mean there aren’t other viewpoints that may work for different people for various reasons. I just hope mine helps some women who may not be in your position yet.
Could you please share a few off your tips or the most important lesson you'd give a lady who wants to attract a provider? Appreciate it 😊
Your delivery is so funny and captivating. I can see why you’re provided for 😂
Please enlighten us, women that are married should be the ones giving these advice
@kemly_ I completely agree. That’s why I did not invalidate her point. But I’ve been married to a provider since January of 2014 and have not touched a bill. So my points are from experience.
Ain't Nobody got time for dat! I'm in Love with being Celibate! ❤
Yasssss Yasssss 👍🧬🧬🧬💜😻🕊️🥂🥂
Lmao
It’s about to be a cold winter, lol
@@kbunny74 I don't care, plenty soft warm covers, pj's Robes 😄😄 Throw's Baby Girl been thinking. Next month Anniversary 😍🥳 Yasssss 🥂✌️ Yasssss 🥂✌️😍🤩🤩🤩
@@kbunny74it’s a cold winter every year…
Thank you for this message. I took copious notes on areas I need to work on. RESPECT is the message for me.
It’s very true iam experiencing this right now #spoiledrotten
I love seeing comments like this 💕 I’m so happy for you.
Unfortunately I’m not a gracious receiver no one ever gave me shit to be grateful for 🤷🏽♀️ and because my father did me how he did me I am the way I am. I can sit down and do all the healing work I desire but until god present me with the proper opportunity to see it from a different lense I can only operate from what I have experienced and until I experience something different 🤷🏽♀️ but I’m so screwed up I can’t even allow myself to experience something different cause it doesn’t feel normal. I’m too use to not receiving, not being protected or provided for shit is sad
first video on TH-cam I fully agree with it. Ladies listen to her this is true
I love it! Thanks Tammy 💕
This came right on time in my life. A season of accountability for my actions and approach to my own life’s goals. Thank you. We are in Autumn 🍂, a season’s for this. Peace to everyone 2024❤!
Isn’t it beautiful when that happens? Thank you so much 🙏🏾
You’re UhMazing!!! I 100% agree with you. ❤❤❤ you broke the experience down a blind could learn from you! I really enjoyed this 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🫶🏾🫶🏾🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽 May the Most High Continue to Enlarge Your Territory!!! I could feel your passion and hear your genuineness! 😍
1. men need to feel respected
# we have to listen to them when they convey their standards so we should actually hear them out n not take it as bragging. keep tabs on what tiks them off. stroke his ego so he can do more for you, it shows appreciation, also reward him
Kendrick said “I rather you TRUST me than to love me”.
This was great information.
Every provider ive met except my Dad. Expects his ego stroked and were not calm men.
There was a lot of truth to this.😊
Everything that you said is facts, it’s just hard to do in this red pill culture we’re in
You definitely have to filter through the men to decide which ones deserve this treatment. All men are not ready. I pray you find the one deserving.
This is so true the red pill culture makes it very hard
What is the red pill culture? I hear people say this, and I generally don't know what that means. I instantly think about the Matrix movie. 😅
Absolutely Loved This Video
Taking my time to have more education about men before I finally choose one.
Thank you Queen for your wisdom
I m a spoiled wifey
Yes ma’am 🥰
and did the video go with what you do or not?
Great content!
I just opened my TH-cam and saw my face on here. I don’t even have one single person hollering at me 😭😭🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Stop it!! 😂 Which one are you?
I didnt watch the whole video, i had to go to work lol but i agree men want respect obviously but also think some men just brings that out of a woman. I tried to respect my husband but he wont budge with his 50/50 mindset and its the biggest turn off. How do you want to be listened to and thought of as if you are a provider but will go to the store to buy diapers and ask me to send half and you make more money than me?
Yeah he’s not a provider man. I’m sorry to hear that. If you’d like email me, so we can chat.
Tell him:
"Either you:
Provide 100 percent, and I will listen to you, follow your lead, and respect you as the provider
or
We do 50/50 and I have as much equal say, I am also thought of and respected as half provider as well,
because we can't and ain't doing both. Pick one.
How did he even become your husband and the father of your children with such a mindset?
We have to ask those questions while we are courting. I asked and understood. I thought it would be ok. My husband has more of a 80/20 thought on money. I'm praying about it because I entered into the marriage knowing this. Because he requires so much attention there is no way I can work and and take care of me and family and have the energy to be who he wants me to be most of the time. I will be making some improvements. Also continue to do what is right in God's eyes. That is what matters. God knows what we need. We can also make sure we are marrying someone that will be a 💯 provider if that's what we require from the start.
I truly enjoyed and appreciate this video. I would be interested in some coaching.
Go ahead and send me an email using the address in the description so we can chat.
Thank you!
Love it and will take note
I love this advice and I swear to God...i try hard to do this...sometimes. Listen, do you ever have encounters with the guys who try so hard to be extra impressive that it's like the man literally has no understanding of the idea of subtlety? And you try not to grin about it or roll your eyes but like...its so extra and cute that it's hard to take him seriously?
Ugh, I'm so jaded, too, tho. This might be a tell of the kind of men I've dated, but I don't feel like men are trying to prove they can keep me safe. I feel like they try to get me in bed as fast as possible. I know that's not true of every man on earth and I have my own healing to do around that. I've just found it really challenging in the past. I just want to come into a healthier mindset around men and dating.
And you know what Jesse, everything starts with a thought first. Meaning the fact that you’re even evaluating self and realizing that you want to develop a better mindset is beautiful. And men, they do want to get us in bed lol. But that doesn’t mean he isn’t also wanting to show you he’s capable of having you in his life. Both can be true. Sounds like you’re starting a beautiful journey girly 💕
I really liked this video! I’m interested in coaching.
Where does one find a man who wants to provide or talk up himself up and give us the opportunity to appreciate or cheerlead him?
It's the man you don't normally date then..so find the opposite of who you currently date.
@@librascorner2271 the ones I do not respect?🤪
😂I feel this 😅
Thank You sister for sharing your wisdom with us.❤❤❤
You are SUPER ARTICULATE & ELOQUENT!
Thank you 💕
This is awesome thanks
You are the truth❤ty❤
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I SPOIL MYSELF
Nobody said you shouldn’t lol
Wowwwwwww! This info was so helpful. Thank u! 💯 And, yes I definitely need ur help. 🙂
Awww I’m glad to hear that! And go ahead and email me 💕
This is so helpful and practical, I've learned something new 😊
Thanks
Very insightful view
Please Listen Ladies...
We need more content! ❤❤❤
Absolutely working on it.
awesome video content. Keep it going.
Thank you so much 🙏🏾
this really picked my brain
Glad to be the first person To❤ comment
I am a spoiled wifey for sure🥂🥰
I know that’s right!
Men have to 1st have to know what a wife looks like and if she is a wife respect her.
It kind of seems like manipulation, but I like. I’m on board! 😉
some of them do care about degrees and accomplishments...just saying...
You know someone who’s gotten turned down for not having a degree?
@@gethimgirls yes, but I'm from the South. Down here, some men come from families where education is a status symbol. You must be educated. Those type of men will mess around with you but they will not take you seriously. It's a sign of laziness if you don't have a degree in some circles.
I’ve heard a man say that. They want their children to be a product of and raised by a smart mother.
@@gethimgirlsYou didn’t eat with this reply.
@@spybubbblewho cares you’re on my page and I’m not on yours. I ate with this channel ☺️
This information does not apply to every man.
Facts lol
Men are attracted to visual first. To start this video off with how a man feels comes second in nature. Looking beautiful is very important. Keep yourself pretty. Keep yourself up. Hair nails feet; etc. then once you look good. Then he will see whether you’re able to hold a conversation with him. He wants a woman not just well kept and pretty. But a woman with a brain. Most older men looking for a woman to show off. But if you don’t have a brain you won’t go far!
That’s a fact.
Great video 💕
Thanks Sparkle 💕
I’ve been married for 13 years, I own a few businesses, I birthed his children, I’m a stay at home mom and homeschool.
I agree and never worry about cheating.
My husband cherishes me and treats me like the goddess that I am. He leaves home and brings home the bacon (even though my businesses bring in more income than he earns at his job). I don’t have to lift a finger. He does it because I respect him. I cherish him and treat him like a God. I love him unconditionally and do not take him for granted. I apologize when I’m wrong. I listen to understand with empathy when he speaks to me. I have s3x with him whenever he needs it. I keep my body right and my health in order. I keep our home in order. I feed him and cook for him etc…
What business are you in?
I love that y’all have your balance! 💕 he’s happy and you’re happy. I love it
@@gethimgirls I hope that other women take your advice. It’s solid
@@tammywilliams8569 I own a legal practice and an international school business.
@@tammywilliams8569 legal operations and a school business
Thank you 🖤
I am a spoiled wifey ❤
Had a man ask me to go in my purse and return the date he gave me……
I dropped him
I've heard the total opposite b4
Well there are multiple ways to skin a cat but GHG wants men to feel respected and encouraged to provide, not the other way around. We want them to be excited about doing so.
@@gethimgirlswhat’s GHG?
@@StassiPryce it’s Get Him Girl. The acronym.
Ow yes
Super
Man choose a woman because how she makes him feel
I need some help !!! 20:52
What if you’re doing all these things and supporting him and he wants you to struggle with him and says he feel like he has to be the provider on his own but in the same breathe saying he’s doing all these things for us.
I would love some help with coaching and just giving encouraging advice
Hi love, go ahead and send me an email at gethimgirls@gmail.com so we can connect privately and see how I can help.
The email is in the description as well. Feel free to reach out.
I am going to be a very spoilt wife😊😊🙏
Not based on social status?!
My husband has never bought me anything not for my bday valentines or Christmas all he asks me is where is the money for the bills.
@Jenny-z2f WHAAAAT????? Please say you’re kidding friend😭
Read "respect and love" and follow Laura Doyle to change that dynamic in your marriage. Focus on being in the feminine energy ( receptive, admiration, respect) so you can inspire him to be a better husband.
…and why did you agree to marry him?
I need your help.
Hey lovely, email me using the email address in the description. I’d love to see how I can help.
make more vids!
Absolutely.
So, basically you need to be into acting 😂 To pretend he is smarter, sexier and more mature than he is. I’m very authentic and honest, I’d rather put all of these efforts into my own business and friends. My business won’t cheat and isn’t watching corn
No. You have to find a man you genuinely respect. You have to find a man whose jokes are funny to you, a man you can learn from and seek out for his wise counsel.
Hahaha 😅😅😅so funny but your being real
so true
I need help girl!
Email me love!
I need to ask you something , if I may.
Sure.
Thanks😊
💖
I need your help
Happy Wednesday! Chile, coming from a spoiled woman of 25 years of marriage! First of all he have to Love you, and second thing all men want is good Sex, and that does include oral sex lol. And he will get you whatever you want. He will go out and work two jobs if he have to. Good sex, agreeable, and peaceful. Men are very simple. Its not complicated. Every man I dated going back to high school, have always spoiled me. My children say daddy you have mamma so spoiled. I come first to him before anything. My husband will do anything for me. I am a Blessed Woman of God! Be Blessed everyone!