Professor M shares what it is like to have a Goth Mom, and be a Goth Dad. On request from Cosmic Blue Mama. Memories of the Professor's childhood come out of the Batcave.
SaraWalker, Hello Goth Sister! Twins, Wonderful. Thank you for watching. I wish I had more kids. Three would have been great. I have just one. Welcome to the channel.🎩
I envy you had such a mother. A lot. Your family's environment was so radically different compared to my own. I do not blame my parents, I think they genuinely thought they were doing their best to help me develop a character that would prove useful in landing me a good job and a respected place in society. But they actually derailed the spontaneous development of my own character, stunted my self esteem, made me feel miserable the most critical years of my life. And I could not even understand why I was feeling so bad when technically I did not lack anything. The more I struggled to please them and to prove their efforts were not wasted on me, the worse I felt. And I failed some of the most important goals in my life. I ended up blaming myself for the misery that I was suffering, until I managed to leave their house and get that weight off my shoulders. I cannot describe how enormously my life changed from that point onward. I was almost 30 by that time. My youth was a thing gone. My last clash with them was when I married a woman they did not like and did not want me to marry. She is still my wife, 20 years later. The separation made it possible to put together my own life and eventually reconcile myself with my parents. They too, considering what I had begun, had a second thought about what they believed was the right way to bring up a son and accepted that what they forced on me for so many years was not the right thing to do. I know they did all they did truly believing it was the right and best way to grow a boy. They were strongly influenced by people and notions they could not fully understand and whose long term effects they could not appreciate. They were not taught to understand what a child and a teenager is most apt to do and what is the best way to develop his potential. Basically, the followed the notion: "Coerce him to do and to be what society prizes most; eventually he will be a successful man and will at last forgive you and thank you for having made him a man fit for his time!" I know they actually loved me, they were just completely ignorant of anything about psychology and borderline characters like me and they fought against my inclinations for what they perceived was my own good. They almost destroyed me. But I could reconcile with them. I could see my mother shedding tears of joy striking my hair before she died. I do help out my wheel-chair confined father when I can, the man I hated the most in my youth. I do cry occasionally at the thought of how different my life, our lives would have been if only we did know then the things we know now. So many years, efforts and resources wasted. So many hopes dashed, ending in frustration. Now I am living what I can really call my own life. After the first half was lost. Better later than never. I know some did not survive a similar stress. Only lingering, long term effect is my refusal of having to deal with growing my own children. Times have changed, my economical resources are considerably inferior compared to my parents'. But what deters me the most from having children are the scars that my own youth left deep in my brain and heart. So, I envy you a lot. Queer parents are a blessing. At least compared to most "normal" ones.
Blatro Ceneidrago, Your letter was quite moving to read. You really shared your life. And again, I was moved. You made some very important points in the comment. One of them is ‘goals’ I wanted to tell you, whatever the goal was- you still have time to create it. Doesn't matter what it is. (The lady who played in all three of the Poltergeist movies, the tiny woman who could talk to the ghosts, her story is she woke up one day in her 50s(?) and said, “I want to be an actress!” and she did it. She only ever did that one role in her life, but, wow, what a goal she had. And did it. Their is still time. “Better late than never” is correct. I must agree. Youth gone- mine too. But, as yourself, I too, am reclaiming lost time. Doing things I really want to do while living. Still making bucket lists. I married late at 34, and also 18 years ago. My view is: the choice of whom you choose as your spouse is your own. Disapproval from parents, their opinions on whom you married, should be out of the picture/or even irrelevant, for it is your life not theirs. Years ago, the word ‘envy’, was a different word to me, now, it is, and in this case, a compliment. And I thank you. Mom would thank you also, for saying. If my upbringing sounds like something you found enjoyable, then that's where I would say to focus on, in this second half of our lives. Make the rest of our lives the best of our lives. The last thing is “I know they actually loved me”, although not shown, although never spoken, if you look back, you’ll see this was correct. A friend once said to me “ Children don’t come with instruction manuals” which just goes to show they are trying to figure it all out as we are, as they go along.
I'm not a parent but I am an Auntie to a wonderful little boy. It was lovely to hear about your family. Especially that you have your own baby bat to nurture and guide along our ooky spooky lifestyle.
SharonG-ip3ll~ Thank you! I like the way you mentioned "Auntie" and not "Aunt" so I have question where is home? For each area says it differently. I say Auntie!!
@@gothicallyyoursprofessorm.7222 I have lived in East Tennessee all my life. I chose at a very young age to educate myself beyond the public education I received. I always had wonderful teachers who encouraged and inspired me.
That's really wonderful that you have a mother like her :) I wasn't aware you had a family, and am happy that you found someone who loves Goth like you do. If they are inclined, it might be nice to "meet" your Morticia and daughter at some point. My mother may have been supportive of my dark side, but I grew up very controlled by my father, and when my parents divorced at the age of 10, my life became even more controlled by my grandparents, and then future stepmother. My family were Very strict Christians and I wasn't allowed to do much. The only thing I got to do was to watch old Bela Lugosi and werewolf movies. I did like to sit in the dark all the time and they used to tease me about being a vampire; but everything else wasn't allowed. I then sadly got into a marriage with a very controlling Christian man, who I am divorced from. Even though it's very late in life, at least I can now work on being myself. I did get into official Goth music and clothes while I was married because my son actually got me into it. My then husband wasn't happy at all about it. My son is married now and no longer Goth; he has found another path in the Viking culture. So I am alone in being Goth, but I'm hoping at some point to move to a better location where I can meet other Goths. My mother has been gone now for 2 years, so I don't even have her to talk to about my interests. Sorry for the long response, but it's nice to talk to others with similar interests at least on the net :) Take care and see you again soon
Moonflowerfaerie~ Thank you. Always. Yes, she is a lovely lady. This was my first time sharing about my family on the channel. When I met my wife our paths crossed and I just saw the most pure of heart person before me, and said, its now or never- ask now. We dated for 3 years to get to know each other and did a LOT of traveling before we got married to really really get to know each other. She loves all that dark horror/ CSI/ and really spooky stuff I can't even watch, the really over the top movies, and spooky TV stuffs. My wife asked me when I started this channel that she didn't want to be on it; and asked the same with the daughter. So it will be just me for now. ~~ About 'stepmothers' Oh yes, I have heard some wild stepmother stories. "because my son actually got me into it"- Wow. That's new to hear! Coolness!-- a son influencing the parent. Sweet. Viking culture- Ah yes-there is even a branch on our tree of Goth called 'Viking Goth', and I have heard of several dark Goth Viking bands that played at Mera'luna, one had bagpipes?? Horns on the helmets with black kilts and rune symbols- if you know what I am talking about, or, if I stumble across them again, I will share who they are. ~~ 'Sorry for the long response,"- never apologize!- You text me as much as you like! I enjoy reading what others have to say!-~~ And losing a parent, we never get over that. Never. So feel free in your life and what you have now to explore, discover and do what makes you feel awesome. ~~I wanted to mention about the 'strict' Christian parts mentioned, this would be the time to forgive them, and 'not just get through it' but 'let it go' and that's even a more Christian thing to do. And I will back that up with Isaiah 43:18-19, “Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past.🎩❤
@@gothicallyyoursprofessorm.7222 thank you for your kind response. I understand about your wife and daughter wanting to be unseen for now. Yes I have heard of Viking Goths, but am not sure of which band you are referring to. My son listens to Heilung, Wardruna and a few others. Yes I know about forgiveness and have done so but lately it’s been hard because I have a very unforgiving and judgmental stepmom who is 9O and still condemning me. I’m going to have to cut her out of my life because she has me in tears nearly every time I talk to her. I’m doing research on my own spiritual path at this time due to the issues with how I grew up etc. Again thank you always for your kindness and see you again soon 🙂💜🦇
@@themoonflowerfaerie Oh, my pleasure, thank you!. I had to find out which band it was. I didn't find them yet.. BUT... I did find ' JÖRMUNGANDR 🌊 the (VolfgangTwins) Heavy Viking Music" It's very popular. And they look great banging on the drums in nature! Its kinda Heavy metal-ish but still dark goth. ~~ 90 you say? Hmmmm. I wanted share also my maternal grandmother is 94. And is not always how does one say? Not-t-t-t easy to deal with either. As you know, someday, we will eventually lose people in our lives. I knew you knew about forgiveness, focus on your happiness, and as you mentioned " I’m doing research on my own spiritual path" I would agree completely. There was also an American in Gainsville, GA named Jezeteen Franklin, a pastor guy, a month ago, he said exactly as you mentioned about "cut her out" he said, "Cut out toxic people, or things from our lives" Myself, take this to heart as well. I get the feeling you are really really strong. And I would also say I get the idea as being strong, something deep inside of you holds on, to the knowing, great things are on the horizon. 🎩Now I will go listen to Heilung and Wardruna this afternoon
Samuel~ You picked up the right vibe there. Yes, she is a good lady. And I feel very blessed to have a mom who as you mentioned "raised her son right" Its because of her, I am who I am today. She is very welcoming, if my character is anything you enjoy, you would enjoy her even more, we are very similar in style. I am happy you got the first comment in this time.🎩
JasonTorres~ Thank you, nice to hear. That was the key element in the video, positive energy and good vibe to Goth mom and dads out there. Welcome to the channel! 🎩
AaronWells~ I should give you a shout out on upcoming videos then! Thank you for watching and with your 15 year old- I am honored. My channel is always going to be 'for family watching' so everyone can tune in. Honored actually. I want to wish you a very Happy New Year! 🎩
Since I was a kid, I have always been into the goth lifestyle. My favorite shows were Beetlejuice, the Addams family, Courage the cowardly dog and Goosebumps. I had first read King when I was eleven and Poe just a few short years after that. The first time I heard the Cure I was two or three years old and I actually remembered the video of the song playing on TV (close to me), which is how I re-discovered them when I was 12 years old. I was always a weird little kid, especially given the fact that I am from Bulgaria (where being weird doesn't win you any points with society 😂). I was always like the class clown and the introvert both at the same time. I was always fascinated with darker topics such as the meaning of life, why people are wired a certain way, our purpose, dreams and reality, death, and so on and so forth. So as you can imagine, very few kids wanted to play with me 😂 I was always the weirdo, the one kids didn't want on their team, because I was simply too different for their taste. My family are not in any way goth, nor are they familiar with the music, lifestyle or any form of media (well, my mom read King so there's that). But overall, it was literally like I was born like this and was destined to be attracted to the weirder and darker aspects of life. I started dressing goth and changed my hairstyle only a few years ago, but it has always been there, on the inside! And now it's on the outside as well 😁 I don't have any goth friends and am not a part of any in-the-flesh community around here (don't even know if there is one), but watching creators such as yourself and belonging to a larger community online feels really great! Now I am almost 32 years old and a mom myself. I will love and support my kid whatever their interests may be!
Poppyaddams -- This: " as you can imagine, very few kids wanted to play with me 😂 I was always the weirdo, the one kids didn't want on their team, because I was simply too different for their taste" -- I enjoyed reading that, now you are among family. I too had that happen to me. Welcome home Poppy. If you are writing to me from Bulgaria, I am honored. Thank you for watching the channel.
This reminds me so much of my mom and dad but genderswaped. My dad is a metalhead and retro game collector. I learned so much obscure crap about Atari and NES games and we talk about it for hours and play games together even to this day. We had PacMan world for the PS1 and when we were too little to even pick up a controller we’d watch him play like it was a TV show. I have just about every Black Sabbath riff burned into my skull and my favorite band is prog metal. (Ayreon, me and mom actually traveled to see them it was awesome) my sister went through the emo to hardcore kid pipeline and I’m a baby bat. My mom thinks metal is just ok and can barely even play Mario Kart but like you said she knew who she was marrying. I’m not rocking out with my goth out yet but Depeche Mode was on the radio once and mom said she “thought I might like it” so I think it’s fair to say she’s onto me. 😂
Odothedoll~ I read you comment, so nice to read about your family. And I smiled when you quoted the " she knew who she was marrying" part. DM is great. I had seen it as a part of the subculture, yet, was told it was in a different genre, but that didnt stop me from listening to it, specially Violator. I still own the CD to this day. PacMan!! Sweet. Welcome to the channel!
Great job Professor M. Your mom sounds so great! And its amazing being a goth parent. As a goth mom of a goth teen...what kind of music does your daughter like?
Thank you for inspiration for this video! Goth teen- that's what I have too. My daughter is into everything music, from pop to rock even K-pop. I have shared my songs I love and I am always surprised on just one hearing of the song, she knows exactly who they are and what the song is. Music memory? Thank you about mom, she is a lovely lady.🎩
NoirVelours ~ We have a branch of Goth called Rivethead that is where so many of our metalheads hang out. I would say having a metal head son is very close to having a baby bat!
Sounds like a wonderful woman, your mum. Wished I had same experience. But I was always "the different one", even since little child. Awesome your daughter follow the same steps too. Have a fabulous weekend Professor 🦇🖤🖤🖤🖤🦇
Sanniz, thank you always. I wanted say about being "the different one"... I will add 'we' all are. You are among a Goth family, 'we' are the ones who stand out, we are unique, not boring. Being different is the awesomeness that some crave. In all of your videos you share your passions, and we enjoy watching that. Our location of where are/live sometimes makes it hard to connect to like-minded folks. Thank you also- have a great weekend!🦇🎩 🕷
@@gothicallyyoursprofessorm.7222 Thanks for those words Professor and I am happy there is so many darkly inclined among us. Not all are goths, but I do enjoy all with similar intrests. But it's actually nice to know, that many of us share same way being kids and growing up. Still true to ourselfes, no matter what some think. Have a great week you too love. 🦇🖤🖤🖤🖤🦇
so cool! I'd love to hear more about growing up goth and how thats affected your own parenting style. do you think there are any disadvantages or did you do anything differently? I also grew up with gothy vibes in the family and most of it was AWESOME but there are a few things that I myself, dont do today.
LifeasLauren ~ Hello, Thank you!- I read this " do you think there are any disadvantages or did you do anything differently?" And I could be a whole new video! I would seriously consider making another video about how it Goth shaped my life and how I am raising a family with it. Welcome to the channel & Happy Halloween 🎃🎩
Lauren_Nerual- Your question asked 3 months ago- became the basis for a new video called What are the ups and downs of being a Goth. Please check it out- dedicated to you. Thank you for the question and inspiration.
ManweruEmanuilov~ Good to hear from you! Thank you. Are you looking or ready to settle down? My story is like this- I wasn't looking, and just crossed paths with a special lady, one who connected with me on a heartfelt level. We are opposites and opposites attract, so I have been told. Goth dating 101, that could make a video, on finding others. One of the best stories ever was when two young goth folks unexpectedly met at a gas station and there was an instant connection, even though the man was really into heavy metal and she was a goth-goth at heart. Several goths on youtube here have shared how they met their partners, the stories always move me.
I know people expect familial similarities, but my daughter (separated for 10 years through life's hardest trials, she's fine now) I found out were theater actors/ goth and pastel, drenched in horror! I didn't teach her that! She's mine!
Antdevamp~ I had a unique upbringing some have said, I am really close to my mom. Knowing that some families work, and some do not work well, wanted to share my story of closeness. You must have been excited to discover them being in the theater. My daughter is still finding her way, discovering what area she will study in the future. Right not, she loves writing as a possible future occupation.
I don’t think your parenting morals just pertain to goth I think all parents should encourage their children’s interests like you and yours your mother sounds awesome
Uniquelyme~ Thank you, yes, agreed. That goes outside the Goth-o-sphere, and to all parents should encourage their children's interests. Mom is a great lady, blessed to had had her as 'me mum' ~ Wanted to extend a happy New Year to you 🎩
Stitch_Wrath, I carry a New England accent, plus I embellish the endings. When I was really young, my best friend and I would listen to his family members who came to visit his home and shared stories. He had an uncle from Eastern Massachusetts. And every time he would say " We visited New York" it sound like he was dragging the "r" sound out. So we would find his speaking amusing. It would sound like " We visiT'-ed Nu Yourk" I picked it up from there. 40 years later I still use the same accent.🎩
As a goth mom, I have a set of baby bat twins. Every point you made I’ve shared with my daughters. Thank you much for your content!
SaraWalker, Hello Goth Sister! Twins, Wonderful. Thank you for watching. I wish I had more kids. Three would have been great. I have just one. Welcome to the channel.🎩
I envy you had such a mother.
A lot.
Your family's environment was so radically different compared to my own.
I do not blame my parents, I think they genuinely thought they were doing their best to help me develop a character that would prove useful in landing me a good job and a respected place in society.
But they actually derailed the spontaneous development of my own character, stunted my self esteem, made me feel miserable the most critical years of my life.
And I could not even understand why I was feeling so bad when technically I did not lack anything.
The more I struggled to please them and to prove their efforts were not wasted on me, the worse I felt. And I failed some of the most important goals in my life.
I ended up blaming myself for the misery that I was suffering, until I managed to leave their house and get that weight off my shoulders.
I cannot describe how enormously my life changed from that point onward.
I was almost 30 by that time. My youth was a thing gone.
My last clash with them was when I married a woman they did not like and did not want me to marry.
She is still my wife, 20 years later.
The separation made it possible to put together my own life and eventually reconcile myself with my parents.
They too, considering what I had begun, had a second thought about what they believed was the right way to bring up a son and accepted that what they forced on me for so many years was not the right thing to do.
I know they did all they did truly believing it was the right and best way to grow a boy.
They were strongly influenced by people and notions they could not fully understand and whose long term effects they could not appreciate. They were not taught to understand what a child and a teenager is most apt to do and what is the best way to develop his potential. Basically, the followed the notion: "Coerce him to do and to be what society prizes most; eventually he will be a successful man and will at last forgive you and thank you for having made him a man fit for his time!"
I know they actually loved me, they were just completely ignorant of anything about psychology and borderline characters like me and they fought against my inclinations for what they perceived was my own good.
They almost destroyed me.
But I could reconcile with them. I could see my mother shedding tears of joy striking my hair before she died.
I do help out my wheel-chair confined father when I can, the man I hated the most in my youth.
I do cry occasionally at the thought of how different my life, our lives would have been if only we did know then the things we know now.
So many years, efforts and resources wasted.
So many hopes dashed, ending in frustration.
Now I am living what I can really call my own life. After the first half was lost.
Better later than never.
I know some did not survive a similar stress.
Only lingering, long term effect is my refusal of having to deal with growing my own children.
Times have changed, my economical resources are considerably inferior compared to my parents'.
But what deters me the most from having children are the scars that my own youth left deep in my brain and heart.
So, I envy you a lot.
Queer parents are a blessing. At least compared to most "normal" ones.
Blatro Ceneidrago,
Your letter was quite moving to read. You really shared your life. And again, I was moved.
You made some very important points in the comment. One of them is ‘goals’ I wanted to tell you, whatever the goal was- you still have time to create it. Doesn't matter what it is. (The lady who played in all three of the Poltergeist movies, the tiny woman who could talk to the ghosts, her story is she woke up one day in her 50s(?) and said, “I want to be an actress!” and she did it. She only ever did that one role in her life, but, wow, what a goal she had. And did it. Their is still time. “Better late than never” is correct. I must agree.
Youth gone- mine too. But, as yourself, I too, am reclaiming lost time. Doing things I really want to do while living. Still making bucket lists.
I married late at 34, and also 18 years ago.
My view is: the choice of whom you choose as your spouse is your own. Disapproval from parents, their opinions on whom you married, should be out of the picture/or even irrelevant, for it is your life not theirs.
Years ago, the word ‘envy’, was a different word to me, now, it is, and in this case, a compliment. And I thank you. Mom would thank you also, for saying. If my upbringing sounds like something you found enjoyable, then that's where I would say to focus on, in this second half of our lives. Make the rest of our lives the best of our lives.
The last thing is “I know they actually loved me”, although not shown, although never spoken, if you look back, you’ll see this was correct. A friend once said to me “ Children don’t come with instruction manuals” which just goes to show they are trying to figure it all out as we are, as they go along.
Just discovered this mid june 2024. Thank you so much. its providing so much more comfort than uou probably know
beneath.the.rosesluciddream- Thank you!! Honored. Welcome to the channel!!!🎩
Me and my mom have our issues, but she is my goth mom and I'm very glad to at least have that. It's one way we can actually connect
I'm not a parent but I am an Auntie to a wonderful little boy. It was lovely to hear about your family. Especially that you have your own baby bat to nurture and guide along our ooky spooky lifestyle.
SharonG-ip3ll~ Thank you! I like the way you mentioned "Auntie" and not "Aunt" so I have question where is home? For each area says it differently. I say Auntie!!
@@gothicallyyoursprofessorm.7222 I have lived in East Tennessee all my life. I chose at a very young age to educate myself beyond the public education I received. I always had wonderful teachers who encouraged and inspired me.
That's really wonderful that you have a mother like her :) I wasn't aware you had a family, and am happy that you found someone who loves Goth like you do. If they are inclined, it might be nice to "meet" your Morticia and daughter at some point. My mother may have been supportive of my dark side, but I grew up very controlled by my father, and when my parents divorced at the age of 10, my life became even more controlled by my grandparents, and then future stepmother. My family were Very strict Christians and I wasn't allowed to do much. The only thing I got to do was to watch old Bela Lugosi and werewolf movies. I did like to sit in the dark all the time and they used to tease me about being a vampire; but everything else wasn't allowed. I then sadly got into a marriage with a very controlling Christian man, who I am divorced from. Even though it's very late in life, at least I can now work on being myself. I did get into official Goth music and clothes while I was married because my son actually got me into it. My then husband wasn't happy at all about it. My son is married now and no longer Goth; he has found another path in the Viking culture. So I am alone in being Goth, but I'm hoping at some point to move to a better location where I can meet other Goths. My mother has been gone now for 2 years, so I don't even have her to talk to about my interests. Sorry for the long response, but it's nice to talk to others with similar interests at least on the net :) Take care and see you again soon
Moonflowerfaerie~ Thank you. Always. Yes, she is a lovely lady. This was my first time sharing about my family on the channel. When I met my wife our paths crossed and I just saw the most pure of heart person before me, and said, its now or never- ask now. We dated for 3 years to get to know each other and did a LOT of traveling before we got married to really really get to know each other. She loves all that dark horror/ CSI/ and really spooky stuff I can't even watch, the really over the top movies, and spooky TV stuffs. My wife asked me when I started this channel that she didn't want to be on it; and asked the same with the daughter. So it will be just me for now. ~~ About 'stepmothers' Oh yes, I have heard some wild stepmother stories. "because my son actually got me into it"- Wow. That's new to hear! Coolness!-- a son influencing the parent. Sweet. Viking culture- Ah yes-there is even a branch on our tree of Goth called 'Viking Goth', and I have heard of several dark Goth Viking bands that played at Mera'luna, one had bagpipes?? Horns on the helmets with black kilts and rune symbols- if you know what I am talking about, or, if I stumble across them again, I will share who they are. ~~ 'Sorry for the long response,"- never apologize!- You text me as much as you like! I enjoy reading what others have to say!-~~ And losing a parent, we never get over that. Never. So feel free in your life and what you have now to explore, discover and do what makes you feel awesome. ~~I wanted to mention about the 'strict' Christian parts mentioned, this would be the time to forgive them, and 'not just get through it' but 'let it go' and that's even a more Christian thing to do. And I will back that up with Isaiah 43:18-19, “Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past.🎩❤
@@gothicallyyoursprofessorm.7222 thank you for your kind response. I understand about your wife and daughter wanting to be unseen for now. Yes I have heard of Viking Goths, but am not sure of which band you are referring to. My son listens to Heilung, Wardruna and a few others. Yes I know about forgiveness and have done so but lately it’s been hard because I have a very unforgiving and judgmental stepmom who is 9O and still condemning me. I’m going to have to cut her out of my life because she has me in tears nearly every time I talk to her. I’m doing research on my own spiritual path at this time due to the issues with how I grew up etc. Again thank you always for your kindness and see you again soon 🙂💜🦇
@@themoonflowerfaerie Oh, my pleasure, thank you!. I had to find out which band it was. I didn't find them yet.. BUT... I did find ' JÖRMUNGANDR 🌊 the (VolfgangTwins) Heavy Viking Music" It's very popular. And they look great banging on the drums in nature! Its kinda Heavy metal-ish but still dark goth. ~~ 90 you say? Hmmmm. I wanted share also my maternal grandmother is 94. And is not always how does one say? Not-t-t-t easy to deal with either. As you know, someday, we will eventually lose people in our lives. I knew you knew about forgiveness, focus on your happiness, and as you mentioned " I’m doing research on my own spiritual path" I would agree completely. There was also an American in Gainsville, GA named Jezeteen Franklin, a pastor guy, a month ago, he said exactly as you mentioned about "cut her out" he said, "Cut out toxic people, or things from our lives" Myself, take this to heart as well. I get the feeling you are really really strong. And I would also say I get the idea as being strong, something deep inside of you holds on, to the knowing, great things are on the horizon. 🎩Now I will go listen to Heilung and Wardruna this afternoon
@@gothicallyyoursprofessorm.7222 You are very kind & thank you :) I hope you are doing well today and that we will see you again soon :)
This made me happy to listen to! So cool to have such a wonderful mom! Love the waterfall black hair! Wow! 🕸️🕷️🦇
Mandyhiggs~Thank you! I will share this comment with her! 🎩
Your family sounds so amazing. Thank you for sharing with us!
Zaytris, your name is so cool!! Thank you! Welcome to the channel🎩
Thank you so very much!@@gothicallyyoursprofessorm.7222
Your mother sound like a wonderful woman, and I think she raised her son right.
Samuel~ You picked up the right vibe there. Yes, she is a good lady. And I feel very blessed to have a mom who as you mentioned "raised her son right" Its because of her, I am who I am today. She is very welcoming, if my character is anything you enjoy, you would enjoy her even more, we are very similar in style. I am happy you got the first comment in this time.🎩
Your so fortunate to have a wonderful mother. 🙂
Thank you ~ its one area in my life I am grateful for. I know before my dad passed away he told me he too was grateful to have married her.🎩
What a lovely video! The vibe is so positive. New subscriber here.
JasonTorres~ Thank you, nice to hear. That was the key element in the video, positive energy and good vibe to Goth mom and dads out there. Welcome to the channel!
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Thank you for sharing this about you. I always watch your vids with my 15 year old baby bat.
AaronWells~ I should give you a shout out on upcoming videos then! Thank you for watching and with your 15 year old- I am honored. My channel is always going to be 'for family watching' so everyone can tune in. Honored actually. I want to wish you a very Happy New Year! 🎩
Since I was a kid, I have always been into the goth lifestyle. My favorite shows were Beetlejuice, the Addams family, Courage the cowardly dog and Goosebumps. I had first read King when I was eleven and Poe just a few short years after that. The first time I heard the Cure I was two or three years old and I actually remembered the video of the song playing on TV (close to me), which is how I re-discovered them when I was 12 years old. I was always a weird little kid, especially given the fact that I am from Bulgaria (where being weird doesn't win you any points with society 😂). I was always like the class clown and the introvert both at the same time. I was always fascinated with darker topics such as the meaning of life, why people are wired a certain way, our purpose, dreams and reality, death, and so on and so forth. So as you can imagine, very few kids wanted to play with me 😂 I was always the weirdo, the one kids didn't want on their team, because I was simply too different for their taste. My family are not in any way goth, nor are they familiar with the music, lifestyle or any form of media (well, my mom read King so there's that). But overall, it was literally like I was born like this and was destined to be attracted to the weirder and darker aspects of life. I started dressing goth and changed my hairstyle only a few years ago, but it has always been there, on the inside! And now it's on the outside as well 😁 I don't have any goth friends and am not a part of any in-the-flesh community around here (don't even know if there is one), but watching creators such as yourself and belonging to a larger community online feels really great! Now I am almost 32 years old and a mom myself. I will love and support my kid whatever their interests may be!
Poppyaddams -- This: " as you can imagine, very few kids wanted to play with me 😂 I was always the weirdo, the one kids didn't want on their team, because I was simply too different for their taste" -- I enjoyed reading that, now you are among family. I too had that happen to me. Welcome home Poppy. If you are writing to me from Bulgaria, I am honored. Thank you for watching the channel.
@@gothicallyyoursprofessorm.7222 ♥️ yes, tuning in from Bulgaria 🙂 and thank you for the content you make!
This reminds me so much of my mom and dad but genderswaped. My dad is a metalhead and retro game collector. I learned so much obscure crap about Atari and NES games and we talk about it for hours and play games together even to this day. We had PacMan world for the PS1 and when we were too little to even pick up a controller we’d watch him play like it was a TV show. I have just about every Black Sabbath riff burned into my skull and my favorite band is prog metal. (Ayreon, me and mom actually traveled to see them it was awesome) my sister went through the emo to hardcore kid pipeline and I’m a baby bat. My mom thinks metal is just ok and can barely even play Mario Kart but like you said she knew who she was marrying. I’m not rocking out with my goth out yet but Depeche Mode was on the radio once and mom said she “thought I might like it” so I think it’s fair to say she’s onto me. 😂
Odothedoll~ I read you comment, so nice to read about your family. And I smiled when you quoted the " she knew who she was marrying" part. DM is great. I had seen it as a part of the subculture, yet, was told it was in a different genre, but that didnt stop me from listening to it, specially Violator. I still own the CD to this day. PacMan!! Sweet. Welcome to the channel!
@@gothicallyyoursprofessorm.7222 I’ve been told that too yes. It’s one of those “doesn’t count only by technicality” things
Great job Professor M. Your mom sounds so great! And its amazing being a goth parent. As a goth mom of a goth teen...what kind of music does your daughter like?
Thank you for inspiration for this video! Goth teen- that's what I have too. My daughter is into everything music, from pop to rock even K-pop. I have shared my songs I love and I am always surprised on just one hearing of the song, she knows exactly who they are and what the song is. Music memory? Thank you about mom, she is a lovely lady.🎩
I was not able to raise a baby bat, my son is a metal head but he supports his goth mom!
NoirVelours ~ We have a branch of Goth called Rivethead that is where so many of our metalheads hang out. I would say having a metal head son is very close to having a baby bat!
Sounds like a wonderful woman, your mum.
Wished I had same experience. But I was always "the different one", even since little child.
Awesome your daughter follow the same steps too.
Have a fabulous weekend Professor 🦇🖤🖤🖤🖤🦇
Sanniz, thank you always. I wanted say about being "the different one"... I will add 'we' all are. You are among a Goth family, 'we' are the ones who stand out, we are unique, not boring. Being different is the awesomeness that some crave. In all of your videos you share your passions, and we enjoy watching that. Our location of where are/live sometimes makes it hard to connect to like-minded folks. Thank you also- have a great weekend!🦇🎩 🕷
@@gothicallyyoursprofessorm.7222 Thanks for those words Professor and I am happy there is so many darkly inclined among us. Not all are goths, but I do enjoy all with similar intrests.
But it's actually nice to know, that many of us share same way being kids and growing up. Still true to ourselfes, no matter what some think.
Have a great week you too love. 🦇🖤🖤🖤🖤🦇
Lovely video thank you 🦇🦇🦇
Thank you. More gothic talks coming up in 2024. Any subject matters you'd like to hear about, let me know
so cool! I'd love to hear more about growing up goth and how thats affected your own parenting style. do you think there are any disadvantages or did you do anything differently? I also grew up with gothy vibes in the family and most of it was AWESOME but there are a few things that I myself, dont do today.
LifeasLauren ~ Hello, Thank you!- I read this " do you think there are any disadvantages or did you do anything differently?" And I could be a whole new video! I would seriously consider making another video about how it Goth shaped my life and how I am raising a family with it. Welcome to the channel & Happy Halloween 🎃🎩
Lauren_Nerual- Your question asked 3 months ago- became the basis for a new video called What are the ups and downs of being a Goth. Please check it out- dedicated to you. Thank you for the question and inspiration.
God bless goth mom. TH-cam video guide on getting a goth wife soon?
ManweruEmanuilov~ Good to hear from you! Thank you. Are you looking or ready to settle down? My story is like this- I wasn't looking, and just crossed paths with a special lady, one who connected with me on a heartfelt level. We are opposites and opposites attract, so I have been told. Goth dating 101, that could make a video, on finding others. One of the best stories ever was when two young goth folks unexpectedly met at a gas station and there was an instant connection, even though the man was really into heavy metal and she was a goth-goth at heart. Several goths on youtube here have shared how they met their partners, the stories always move me.
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Neither looking nor ready. Looking for that random magical encounter so I don't have to do anything myself.
I know people expect familial similarities, but my daughter (separated for 10 years through life's hardest trials, she's fine now) I found out were theater actors/ goth and pastel, drenched in horror! I didn't teach her that! She's mine!
Antdevamp~ I had a unique upbringing some have said, I am really close to my mom. Knowing that some families work, and some do not work well, wanted to share my story of closeness. You must have been excited to discover them being in the theater. My daughter is still finding her way, discovering what area she will study in the future. Right not, she loves writing as a possible future occupation.
I don’t think your parenting morals just pertain to goth I think all parents should encourage their children’s interests like you and yours your mother sounds awesome
Uniquelyme~ Thank you, yes, agreed. That goes outside the Goth-o-sphere, and to all parents should encourage their children's interests. Mom is a great lady, blessed to had had her as 'me mum' ~ Wanted to extend a happy New Year to you 🎩
Please make a video on linguistics, I admire the way you speak
Stitch_Wrath, I carry a New England accent, plus I embellish the endings. When I was really young, my best friend and I would listen to his family members who came to visit his home and shared stories. He had an uncle from Eastern Massachusetts. And every time he would say " We visited New York" it sound like he was dragging the "r" sound out. So we would find his speaking amusing. It would sound like " We visiT'-ed Nu Yourk" I picked it up from there. 40 years later I still use the same accent.🎩