Freeloader Dad Demanded I "Donate" Half Of My Salary To His Mistress Because She Just Lost Her Job
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Holly's father was an absentee alcoholic who drained the family's finances growing up. Her mother raised her mostly alone, with help from Holly's grandfather Frank. As an adult, Holly became successful in IT to support her mom.
When her parents divorced due to her father's cheating, he crashed at Holly's apartment. Despite his toxicity, she let him stay but limited financial support. This enabled his freeloading. His mistress Sally later began intrusively interacting with Holly at home.
Holly's dad then shamelessly asked her to pay Sally half her salary since she lost her job. Furious, Holly refused and fought with him. She hoped her grandfather would intervene with the freeloader.
Indeed, Frank harshly confronted Holly's dad and tossed him out upon learning of his behavior. Her father desperately tried begging others for help, but her family
cut contact. His mistress Sally also approached Holly but left after Holly threatened her.
Months later, Holly's mother revealed her father tried returning to her but she refused aid. Frank provided temporary housing on condition he got a job. When her father didn't meet terms, Frank made him leave for good.
With her father finally gone, Holly felt mentally free. She focused on saving for her mother's retirement to repay her for the support growing up. Holly was finally at peace without her toxic father around draining her mental health.
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Sounds like the final comment was written by the horrible Dad. No one in their right mind would have said any of that. 😻😁😻
The dad the mistress or someone just as stupid
IT ALSO CROSSED MY MIND THAT ONLY THE USELESS DAD OR SOMEONE JUST LIKE HIM WOULD WRITE SUCH A COMMENT. IF NOT THEN , THAT PERSON COULD TRY AND SEND OP DAD HIS INFO. THAT WAY THE PERSON MAKING THAT IDIOTIC COMMENT CAN TAKE OPS DAD IN, ALONG WITH THE MISSTRES.
Probably not dad. He's not sober enough to know how to operate a computer. Just some bleeding heart that needs to shoot OP a message and beg her to find her father. Then take him to get a taxi; a bus or a train to get dad to their place. Then the bleeding heart can be dad's new doormat and ATM. The commentor can be dad's new child and care for him.
❤ I was thinking it was Sally
I thought that comment was weird also..who and the hell would even think about it???
I am dumbfounded at the way that the "family" term keeps getting thrown around with these people. You absentee father's mistress is NOT FAMILY 🤷🏽♂️
The only reason the mother was paying that woman was to get rid of both of them and because she knew they would go for her daughters pockets if she didn't pay up. Really it was more like blackmail then "family helping family" BS
100% agree with you. "Family helping family" is what people who want the help say... and they are generally those who don't give the light of the day to their relatives if they are in need.
Mom was stupid . I don't understand supporting hubbies mistress under any circumstances.
What’s crazier is comments in the original thread called OP cold and a horrible person for not taking care of them.
I'm tired of "family " being allowed to lie, manipulate, and hurt someone just because they're family. Family is supposed to be there for you, have your back, not drag you down. I myself hold family to a higher code, just because they are family. If a stranger on the street isn't allowed to hurt me, a family member sure isn't allowed either. Don't let a family member do what a total stranger can't. All OP had to do was not renew her lease. Put furniture in storage and move in temporarily with either OP mom, a friend or a studio apartment. No room for OP dad.
First mistake you didn’t have him leave when he first came.
I agree she should have never let her toxic manipulate father into her home. If someone's trying to ruin your childhood keeps abusing you remember this don't give any more chances or else they're going to keep hurting more
Where is this place where ANYONE CAN JUST MOVE IN WITH OTHERS WITHOUT PERMISSION?!?!? 😤🤨--AND, WHO ARE THESE WOMEN THAT ALLOW THIS BEHAVIOR?!?!??
inside a computer, you know how stories are AI generated this days
In some 'not weestern' countries this is 'normal'
Woman need to do what men tell them to do and even the law is on their side in some cases
OP, I'm glad things turned out somewhat ok in the end. Any mothers out there: Take this as a warning that putting up with a husband like this, and teaching your daughter to continue this cycle is absolutely horrible. You and your mother both need counseling. Why didn't either of you inform grandpa years earlier of the situation??
Her dad was a blight on her life mentally, emotionally, and financially.
Wow, glad you have a badass for a grandfather. Wonderful of you to help your mom with her retirement fund.
Daddy dearest needs to get a fricken job to support his side piece
I didn't know you could make coffee with a cake mixer. 😮😂😂😂
It’s best that OP should have never let her father back in the picture. The trauma and heartache enough should have warned her.
OP & OP'S Mother are both enablers. Thank goodness that Grandpa was able to put things straight. I hope a better life for all.
RIGHT!! and passive aggressive to boot!! Giving dad and the mistress the silent treatment ,LOL all she had to do is do what grandpa did when he was there for more than a couple days, but nope she let it go on for YEARS.. LOL Talk about enabling..
@@chadsulski9020 I don't think it's easy for daughters to stand up to father's especially unreasonable ones. Pecking order aside I do think they dragged their feet on resolving this.
Op, you did the thing, kicking your narcissist father out of house! It’s not your responsibility to support him or his mistress! It’s his responsibility to support you as a parent. Take care of yourself first before taking care of others. Wishing you peace and happiness and comfort in your life and your wonderful grandpa and your mom.
OP You should never have let him in the door!! I'm not cleaning up after a grown ass man!!
I shocked to see there are people so disgustingly mean as Holly's father and his girl friend, and others so disgustingly tolerant as Holly and her mother.
What. 😮
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have his girlfriend support him have him get a job....she can get unemployment, he can gat a job.
I can bet whoever says she's a horrible daughter It's because they're a horrible person themselves that will do the same like the dad. Did I often question why people leave these kind of commons.
@@deborahkizer4664 read the comment again, the comment mentions how op and her mother are awfully tolerant, unless you find normal to fund your partner's mistress...
I agree 100% with her decision in this case the father really overstepped his boundaries and the person who had the last commitment, put yourself in her shoes .
I thought Op showed a lot of restraint after what her dad put her through.I wouldn't have put up with half of his nonsense.
With the last comment, I 100% agree. Holly's dad is 100% at fault for what happened to himself. Treating Holly the way he did? Bad idea. Trying to rely on others for money despite him being able to hold a job? Even worse idea. Cheating? Very, very, VERY bad idea. He should've at least TRIED to support himself. It's one thing if you fall under for unforeseen circumstances that are beyond your control, but it's quite another when you make ZERO effort to financially support yourself and then Pikachu-face when you run out of money after spending it all in one big swoop.
I think Grandpa Frank is the one who knew best here. Holly's dad's request was unreasonable. Even if Holly was like a Bezos, 50% of a paycheck is just absolutely ridiculous, ESPECIALLY when you're already being financially supported by the person in question. However, Holly did put this on herself in the sense that she let her dad freeload on her when she could've said no. "But the dad may have hurt her!" That's what police are for! There was ZERO reason why Holly's mom couldn't have done the same thing, too.
And, yes, how ironic that Holly's father said family looks out for each other... When he never supported HIS family, so... Yeah... Pot calling the kettle black. Basically Grandpa Frank was the only one who knew what to do, and if Holly's dad gets to be homeless, it's his fault for not finding a job. You know, LIKE A NORMAL PERSON.
At this point in your life you need to completely cut ties. You've enameled him all these years. Enough is enough
@@dawndtofte7639 I 100% agree with your comment as well!
OP you allowed this situation to get to this point. You allowed not on your dad to leach off you but his mistress leach off you as well. You was running from your own home because of a deadbeat, no not a deadbeat but 2 deadbeats.
Anyone sympathizing with the dad needs to go away and rack off, sounds like they didnt listen to the whole story
That last comment was absolutely written by the dad!
Anyone bashing OP, and calling her horrible is either a troll or her dad found the story. Her father is nothing but a leech, and leeches have to be remov d to stop sucking the life out of their victims.
oh no dad get the hell out take your ho whith you.......get a no contack order stay away....nooooo.
I have a feeling that OP is not living in a western country
Their view on 'but family ' seems extreme to me!
Hate those "be the better person" commenters. The out of sight out of mind mentality is part of what wrong with the world today.
@@Spartan3D213 'Be the better person ' NEVER works because if there was a good reason to be the 'bigger person' you would not need a reminder from AHs
@@robertx8020 "be the better person" just means "be a push over". Dont forget majority of these just want the OP's to give up their livelyhoods and resources but will never chip in their own 2 cents.
I guess OP likes to be walked all over. There is no way in hell my father and his mistress would be living with me. She needs to throw them both out and tell him to man up and pay his own way.
NTA, how could he ask for 1/2 of her salary to go to his mistress??? That request is insane!! He was never around and you allowed him to live with you as well as support him? Thus, his reasoning is that you would support his mistress? OP I would say you also have some fault in this. You should have never allowed him to live with you. You should have never given him money nor allowed his mistress into your home. Your mother is the same. I can’t believe she supported the woman who broke her marriage for 6 months. Unbelievable, she is nothing to you!!! Please under no circumstances allow him back in your home. You’ve already helped family but since the won’t help themselves you are not responsible for him. Stay firm. Have a life. The person who deserves some help and has not asked for it, is your mother. Change the locks and install cameras as well as alarm system to protect yourself and your home.
Op should know better not to let her toxic manipulate father into her apartment I just don't understand why she give him another chance it's just weird. This toxic father also cares about his mistress and the money he doesn't care about the family he just cares about himself. Op and her mom should have a straining order just in case the toxic father is back into their homes. Like I said before if there's one thing that I taught us the lesson is that you should never give any chances of them because it's going to hurt you even more
He is not your father OP, he is just the person that helped conceive you and then abandoned you and your mother. If he really wanted to be called your father, he would have been around when needed not trying to guilt trip you in his hour of need. As for his request for you to give half your salary/wage to his girlfriend, that was the ultimate betrayal.
Poor girl, thinking anything is the mistresses fault and not all her dad PLUS hers, and her moms like her grandfather said for supporting and protecting him
Whoever made the response about her being a bad daughter has to be an entitled brat! He mooched off both his wife and daughter for years. Remember when birds have to push their children out of the nest for their own good? He has never been out of the nest and it is about time he stand on his own 2 feet and quit being a waste of oxygen. You need to be able to contribute something to humanity and not just be a sponge your whole life. He is almost 50 and hasn't a thing to show for it.
How are doormats like OP ‘created’?!
How can OP be soooooo stupid to allow the dad to mooch off her ‘just to protect mother’?! After divorce, both her and her mum should just kick the dad out and cut him off. He’s a grown up and have no responsibility for him!
Was it because OP’s mother just put up with the mooching behaviour? Even while the dad was an alcoholic and contributed nothing to the household while OP was growing up?
I don’t get parents who stay in abusive relationships
THIS the result: modelling doormat behaviour to the kids.
Weak people should not have children
That last commenter doesn't know what tf they are talking about. At some point you have to stop allowing someone to abuse you financially and emotionally, even when they are family. Maybe that commenters dad was a good dad and they can't imagine allowing their dad to be homeless, but OP's dad is a drunken, cheating, lazy bum and he caused his homeless situation. He extorted money for the mistress from the wife he had cheated on with. He deserve to be out in the streets.
If someone accuses me for being horrible because I refuse to support a bunch of moochers, I'd agree with them. I am a horrible person, now you know never to ask anything of me again. If I were you I'd stay far away from me because you know I'm just so horrible!
The last commenter must be a leech himself, expecting others to support him.
Wife's fault especially paying the mistress 🙎🏽🙎🏽♀️ She allowed the abuse by staying and funding his addiction and then paid again after divorce BC daughter is mentally and emotionally damaged from her decision to remain in abusive environment 💯❗‼️ Then for op to suddenly remember she had grandparents is mind boggling after three years 🤯
It is delusional.
I would have told him if he ever works himself up to ask again. Just do us both a favor. Pack up and move out
Being a doormat never turns out well
You showed compassion as soon as you housed him your father had his life and did with it what he wanted yes you look after your parents in their old age as they looked after you! The problem for him is he didnt do anything positive for you. He and his mistress need to be given an eviction from you! Good luck!
I hate hearing the negative comments that are on the side of toxic people's side.😢
My father asked to move in with me when parents divorced. I told h im no because he would spend my money like he spent my mother's! No way in hell am I going to kill myself for anyone like that! He was also controlling.
How the heck OP tolerates her father living with her and treating him as if he is the KID, is just mind boggling! OP, how the heck are you tolerating this, Lord knows I would NOT have ANYTHING to do with him, seriously, WHAT IS WRONG WITH YOU?
Send your dad to that person let him put up with his bs.
Nope. . Omg. 😢
No way in Hades should Op give that homewrecker any of her money! 0p worked hard to keep a roof over her head and food on her table! Plus she has to pay rent, gas for her car and insurance. Dad is totally out of line saying his mistress is family. They aren't even married just shocking up together. If Op wants to help her family she should help her birth mother and not her alcoholic father because he would just drink up what money Op would have given to Dad's mistress.
Why does the commentator keeps saying “inventation” rather than “invitation”?
where was granppa when this all started , ....should have told him eairler.
More bloody doormats
I am shocked by the second top comment. Her father literally asked her to give half her income to the mistress not to mention he was an absent father. How is she cold for turning her back on him when it was clear he thought of her and her mother as people required to care for him and his girlfriend.
Dad was a total mooch!
That last comment sux! OP is not a bad or horrible person, just dumb AF. So is mom. No friggin way that 🤡 would be staying with me, then have the audacity to ask to take care of his mistress?? Still don't understand WTH mom was thinking. Good for Grandpa to put an end to the BS!!!
Yeah he was just looking for handouts. To keep the golddigger. Just a mess. . 💪
Omg if i was the op with the dads mistress. I would pack up my apartment move to a different one and not give dad her address.
OP just because he is your father doesn't mean your are responsible for his life. OP, you are a better person than me by allowing your dad and his ho sleep in your home. Glad you finally went to your granddad to get rid of that leech. For anyone giving you lip about taking care of that man just ask for their address and send him there to live. It seems they have a better connection with him than you ever will have.
The mistress is not family so she should tell her father that!
Sorry, the moment he asked that, he would out out on his rear.
Not only would I not give support to his mistress I wouldn't give financial support to him he's living with her rent free she paid everything including the food so hell to the no with cash go from me to them
Some people on these comments on reddit live in bubbles... Sorry, but if you have a relative who has never been a dad... because this dude was not a bad father, he just was not one at all. Being family or blood doesn't give you a pass to be absent or horrible and expect being treated with respect, compassion and love. The only help I would have given (maybe) that man is to pay for the rehab... and just once!
It's not your place to support his mistress
Not hear/read the last comments
BUT please,please OP don't put any other name than yours on your savings! You can "gift" as much as you want to your mother, but NEVER that chain you, that allows you to decide what to do with major investments....
Last commenter must be like the OP's father if its not him.
JFC what country is this that oh no the man says he's moving in and we can't possibly stop him
The negative comment WAS her dad hahaha
Lol. 😅
OP's dad was a drunk that NEVER worked for a living and spunged off his wife, while abusing his daughter. When he cheated on his wife she tossed him out. He then moved in and spunged off his daughter and even tried to have her pay for his mistress. Then his parents took ihim in and heve never even tried to get a job. They got him an apartment paying the first month's rent and it was then up to him to ACTUALLY get a job and work. OP's father needs to finally grow up and do what most people do, work for a living.
These people like to brag about getting their revenge on people, while telling everyone how spineless they are to begin with. I don't know why, if these were even true, you'd want people to know how cowardly you are. Stop 'doing it for the family' to begin with, especially when said family has been abusing you your whole life.
I think the 2nd comment was Sally
Why did OP let her dad move in with her
I don't understand why op & her mum never mentioned him to get a job in the first place
Why is it op owes her father while he's living at her house?
Yes, I aggree. The last comment has selective hearing.
commenter 2. like we haven't figured out you are that mistress.........lol
Was that comment from SALLY???
Op Nta she had every right to do what she did op father did it to himself he doesn’t need sympathy at all and I think the comment was from the father🤦🏽♂️🤦🏽♂️
There is no X in the word Escape
Family helps family??? OK DAD WHEN was the last time YOU helped YOUR family instead of using them??? Hmmm
My dad would’ve been homeless after a year
for the last commenter , if you feel that way why don't you support him.
Why is dads gf in your house. Why isn't he in her house.
I just don’t get this - mother divorce her father and OP allows him to move in with him! When her mother offers OP to move in with her she says no because he’d be pushing to move in with them! This whole story makes no sense. I loved my father, but he was an AH and there would have been no way I would have allowed him to move in with me and that was back in the 60’s when family was supposed to really step up no matter what! I think there is something more wrong with OP than her father.
1st Story: wait why is this woman in ops home?. It's bad enough that she has her cheating father living in her home but then you bring the mistress in your home. I guess the apple doesn't fall too far from the tree when it comes to dumbness. I will be so disgusted with my daughter if I knew that she was allowing the mistress to live in her house.
Ops mother is a fool.
When they were never family unless it was convenient you don't owe family anything. God haven't we evolved out of this blood actually means something crap yet? Family is who is there family is loyalty family is safety family is not someone who keeps showing up like an ATM
Ridiculous and preposterous!
OP…remove toxic dad from YOUR 🫵🏻 LIFE!!!
I don’t blame her one bit for leaving him homeless I don’t know why he didn’t move in with his mistress she should have made him get a job instead of supporting him all this time I wouldn’t hope op has good fortune in the future ❤❤.
Again there's no X in the word Escape
She is not family!
He left and cheated then used . And a drunk . Demanding that she take care of his family .that they were family you didn't raise her you were nowhere around you stayed drunk all the time .trust me I know I'm the daughter of a drunk and what he did to us😢 was horrific. God is helping me cope. 🙏im old now . I was a baby then . Till i was 10. I left home at that age because of what he did to five of us that was children and one mother so that was six. .
Shes not your family. .
I was expecting him to tell OP that he and Sally were engaged and, because he was going to marry her, that made her family.
It’s pretty telling that she blames the psycho sally instead of the dad as the “problem”. No frakn way does Sally get her dirty talons on ur anything. Be smarter OP no is the answer to everything
Horrible daughter? That's bovine scatology!
Holly's dad is terrible, BUT Holly is also a passive aggressive enabler.. It wasn't grandpa's job to kick dead beat dad out of her place.. That should have been handled YEARS before it got to that.. But nope, she chose to hand out the passive aggressive silent treatment instead of opening up her pie hole.. That means a LOT of this drama was totally on her for not handling that situation before he was there for days much less YEARS..
😮. Money grubbing.
This story sounds crazy. You act as if you never get to make a decision about your life. It's like you make excuses for your abuser, you make the same excuse for your mother putting up with him..
Last update what a horrible human u r for blaming op for finally getting tired of useless free loading drunk dad .
I understand why people are upset or even mad with the last commenter.
I'm kinda mad and upset with the last commenter as well.
The last commenter is the same way that’s why
What is OP's dad problem that he can't work to put a roof over his own head? As terrible as her father was growing up, I don't blame her for her actions.
When I was growing up, my parents expected me to get a job, or go to college to move out. I essentially have done that, mind you jobs had either been low paying or difficult to find at times. For the most part, I lived on my own, if an emergency came up, I would move back temporarily.
If her dad was a more compassionate man, and proved to her he was getting his sh1t together, then it wouldn't be so bad. As she stated, he was most of the time drunk, how he was able to find a mistress was amazing since he wasn't working nor looked as if he was looking for a job, to always practically being around. Her mom should have put conditions on what money she was giving to Sally or her ex.
Another thing that I can not see is since mom was basically the bread winner, how come she didn't have to pay spousal support when they were divorced? In cases similar to this, the higher wage earner for the couple divorcing, especially when one isn't working, usually can request spousal support either until they can support themselves or up to 2 years, whichever comes first. I know this, because my aunt almost had to do this when she got properly divorced, luckily her backstabbing friend married him almost a month later.
comment number two is the same type of person the dad is if its not him he made his bed and he gets to lie in it now
Does anyone else think Sally or OP's dad wrote that last comment? 😂
Yeah, what a horrible daughter expecting her father to get it together, get off his butt, and get a job to support himself. Who does she think she is? 😂😂
Oh heII no! That last commenter is actual the horrble person, bruh would have went off on them for even trying to paint op as the bad guy, just went in on from, so you want to treat your spouse and especially your child like he did?, because the only reason he is homeless and humiliated because he was/is a horrble father and spouse for choosing alcohol over his family, using op's mom while being horrble to op and not giving her, any type support for anyone that was suppose to be his family especially to op his child he should been caring for, he lied to op saying he had a normal argument with op's mom when in reality he was rightfully was kicked for cheating, brought his mistress into op's home without her consent, wanted op to give his mistress half of the money op worked hard for to the woman that hurt her mom and disrespect her too, he and his mistress lied and took op's mom's money too, and to top it all of he try to put his hands on op when he was confronted with op's grandfather about every horrble unjustly thing he had done, so naw you take say op should have kept allowing this to happen, you are the one actual purely disgusting and horrible person besides op's father and mistress, and you should be ashamed of yourself for taking this man's side when cause everything himself and telling op she is a horrble person and daughter when she is everything but anything of that, and honestly if you every try to do something like what he did I hope karma gives you double then what he got., because that comment was unacceptable 😡.
Last commenter is an ah, OP did her best for someone who showed no love or kindness, she was supporting her toxic father just because he was family even though he was definitely taking advantage. He brought everything on himself he deserved everything that happened to him, my only complaint with OP and her mum is that they should have gotten grandfather involved early in the marriage, then maybe they could have been happier over the years instead of OP and her mum living in a toxic household.
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