Second comment because my autistic/ADHD butt can't resist: The biggest thing is to learn your particular habits. Habit stacking is a common thing, it means you have one solid habit and you build other habits on it. ADHD is a lot about spending time and money orienting your life to fit your ADHD and medications can help, but aren't for everyone. If you know you'll forget/not do something, you learn to adapt things as best you can so that it gets done. For me, when I get up, I have a routine of cleaning my reusable ear plugs that I sleep in, bathroom, brush teeth, get a small breakfast, take vitamins and work out. If I do NOTHING else the rest of the day, I'm good, because my core important stuff for health and wellbeing is done first thing when I get up (and my sleep schedule is trash. I swear my circadian rhythm is longer than 24 hours. Currently, I got to bed at 5am. Used to be 3am, then got pushed forward. A known pattern for me). I generally don't use my computer until those things are done (today everything is thrown out of wack as I had a phone meeting and my ankle got sprained so I need to find a floor work out to follow) You learn your own patterns and modify your life to fit them. You don't fight against them. I have rotating interests as a ADHD/autist combo and if I'm not feeling like one of my creative endeavors, then that's fine. My work out changes all the time because I get bored. So long as I work out, be it dance, walk, pilates, wii fit, whatever, it counts. My "goal" is broad so that I can fit the fact that my brain gets bored and will drop whatever I'm trying to make into a habit if I make it too rigid. i have done it so many times. Work out same routine for a month, maybe 3 if lucky, dropped. Meditate for 6 months, same routine, dropped. Draw everyday for a few months, dropped. If I don't switch things up, I stop doing habits and my life goes to chaos. Oh, also, I am unemployed and on assistance. So yes, it does happen that some people end up in situations where they, ya know, can't. I am in a program literally made for people in my position who struggle to function due to various diagnoses. I get help with finding work or at least internships for a set amount of time and before this I had an activity plan program that just was meeting people and getting out of the house, but not work. I made a lot of good friends in similar boats that I still see. I'm very very lucky to live in a country where my conditions are in fact understood as disabilities and are treated that way. It's still a low bar, but no where in the world actually treats any mental health disorder with the severity a physical one can cause, even if they have the same effect. The brain is physical. It's not a magical thing. It's a mass of flesh run by chemicals and electric signals that uses calories converted to energy. It's weird and wrong in society to pretend that it is this magic thing and the rest of the body is just crude matter. It's all crude matter, all of it can mess up and does frequently. Treat a disability as a disability, regardless of what causes the disability.
ADHD is not a superpower, I don't know why people claim that. ADHD can have some benefits, but that's what I expect since it has SO many disadvantages that I at least would want something positive to come out of it lol. But anyway, it is mentally exhausting and disabling. I don't know who I am either. I completely understand how you're feeling and just know there is an entire community out there who knows your struggles, you are not alone and you are not a loser! (I don't know where my keys are right now)
I think it's because people see having superpowers as a blessing, but fail to see it has a curse. It's like you have the ability to do what normal people can't do, but it comes at the cost of the inability to do what normal people do from day to day. Even our superheroes wish and/or reminese the times when everything felt normal.
@@jimtierrank3542 Exactly! It’s like superman trying to be Clark Kent… kind of… And I am happy for the abilities that I DO have, but people still need to recognize that it‘s hard and a disability
so much guilt. Idk if i have adhd myself to be honest, but i've felt and seen other people carry this kind of guilt 24/7 wherever they go, all the time. I just hope you're able to love yourself a bit more because really it's all okay
Great video! It sums up my experience as well. Glad you got diagnosed! It's a battle, but it's much easier to fight even the toughest moments once you know what you're dealing with, and that it's not your fault or character flaws, it's just the way your brain works differently from everyone else's. From that point you can finally start to unwrap all the layers and find yourself and your peace.
my grandpa told me that my adhd is a gift but i think not … while i am creative i never have the motivation to do projects. not to mention school was hard for me both academically and socially(and still is in college) i really wish i had super powers lol!
I would say having hyperfocus is not actually that good as they say. Cause I for example, instead of doing my thermo homeworks or studying for the exam in 2 days I just start drawing random stuff for my proyect in hyper focus cause even tho'' i love what Im studying its much easier and pleasant to do my mini proyect. That about the template and the ones own awnser is like one of my three most harmful things to deal with but thanks labs Im finding myself pushed through stuff I don't actually know how to do; its been easier for me to start driving, start searching for a job, getting to know people but Im not sure it'll work for all of us... Its just my unique experience. However, I was heading towards... I also think the fun in life might be searching for your own awnsers. Cause yeah you can find awnsers in books or in videos or stuff but. Seriously we actually don't quite get it unless we experience something. At least not always. Or as an example maybe Ive had bad experiences with psycologists but I dont feel none of them had actually understood me and thats when I gave up tu therapy... I had 16 years when I gave up to it btw. Ohp and if I have misspells or something Im sorry its not my native language. I'm 20 btw and I feel I had had much more experiences in these 4 years than in my first 15-16 years of life.
Thank you for sharing your experience. I believe that practising being present in the moment and being mindful about your focus is a great place to start improving the symptoms of ADHD. Mediation, exercise and a balanced diet have also been linked to improving the lives of people who live with ADHD and other mental health issues. To anyone who thinks that there's no way to get better - stop making exscuses and to quote Nike, "Just do it!"
This breaks my heart because you just 💯 explained my life. I got abandoned by friends so many times because I was always clingy and always trying to please them. This ofcause resulted in abandonment wound and I’m so lonely rn because I’m so scared to expose myself like that again. My friends would also call me slow for missing social cues so yah, I kinda avoid people now. I recently resigned from my job because I couldn’t keep up and that led to feelings of depression. I don’t know what to do at this point and I’m having an existential crisis. What I hate the most is feel scared when I have not done anything wrong😩
I'm ADHD and I watch this video at 1.5x and one thing about ADHD is great is normal ppl cannot watch any video at 1.5x and understand everything in the video with that speed. but I cannnn we cannnn even at higher speed
Thank you. I have friends who have ADHD. I've been trying to understand how it may be affecting them- How I can better communicate or empathize with what they go through. This helped a lot.
Keep up the content. You got a really creative voice. I have ADHD too. It sucks. Raising kids while dealing with it is hard. Glad the medicine works for you. I haven’t taken any yet.
I started noticing the same things you spoke about 2 years ago…never thought it was ADHD until I saw some vids but now I’m pretty sure. I go from excited to numb in an hour and it lasts …. I thought that by changing things up, i might be better but after a month of adjusting, still, same feelings. The anxiety, self criticism and annoyance is really tough and it’s devastating realizing certain things. I hsed to think adhd would be cool cause of the hyperfocus on cool things but honestly, when the crash comes, all thoughts of happiness just seem soooo far away😮💨. I’m sorry for saying all of this, just trynna figure things out. Love this channel though I found it a few minutes ago(lol already pouring my heart out😅 ) bye ✌🏽
You are not a loser. You are precious and meant to be here. It's our society that makes us feel that way. I'm so sorry that happened to you. 💖 Hope this helps today to know this. I know it sounds cheesy and silly. But it has to be.
well if taking the meds allowed you to utilize your potential then it's great for you. As for me, I can't take any meds because it's bogging down my potential so hard that it's impossible for me to even just play videogames. I got like my brain got reset whenever I tried to work even a small bit because my brain functioning higher than the meds allowed. So I just have to deal with ADHD and live with it. After I learned more about myself, my potential improved a lot more than I ever imagined. Well it's not easy, it took me at least 5 focused years to adapt into my nature.
The same people who say ADHD is a superpower, are the same idiots that think autism is a superpower. I literally have a hyper fixation on a stupid card game anime. THIS IS NOT A SUPERPOWER. I JUST WANT TO BE A NORMAL PERSON FOR LIKE FIVE MINUTES.
I genuinely have no idea what my actual personality is. Adhd + less than pleasant childhood experiences lead to a host of other issues that are only further exacerbated by adhd. What a messy disorder. No pun intended. It fuckin sucks. Thanks for the video.
This sounds like my entire life. Big big big HUGGG. ❤️❤️❤️❤️💖💖💖💖🤗 It does get better. It's hard because every person who has ADHD might be different. Some people it might be more severe than others, or maybe some of the things they struggle with might be a little different. It's easy to think why can't I do this? It's invisible. You know something is there, because it keeps happening and you don't know why. It makes you feel crazy, but you are not. Meanwhile society gaslights you. They make you feel it isn't real. Because they can do it, they don't understand why you can't. And how can you explain something you yourself don't understand. And then you're whole life, it feels like all you hear from everyone, is what you can't do. What's wrong with you? Why don't you just do it? There is nothing worse that having a disorder. Thinking you are just like everyone else, and not understand what is happening. Then when you do have a reason, no one believes you. Or if they do, they are understanding for a little while, but then still don't understand why you can't do this thing or that. It's no wonder there is people pleasing and sensitivity to criticism. A regular person gets negative feedback once in a while. But with ADHD, the things keep happening and you can't stop it. And you don't know why. And all you hear from parents, teachers, bosses, it's like what's wrong with you? It's not helpful. I have tried different things over the years. I am going to have some videos to share things that have helped me. I am a little overwhelmed and not sure where to start... But just know, 1 you are not alone. 2, you are not crazy. And 3, be flexible and patient with yourself as you try new things. We are perfectionists, and we have pain from so much failure, we don't think we can ever do it. So sometimes we expect to do things and not fail, and if we do it's actual failure. But it's not, it's part of the process. Think of it like, when new year rolls around and everyone makes huge resolutions to do these big things. Like overhaul their diet, working out ... They have a vision of themselves doing everything... But then they fail and get discouraged and give up. Well, they didn't fail really, they just had unrealistic expectations. So maybe instead of taking all the classes, going to the gym everyday, getting hurt or exhausted and making it so hard that they give up. Maybe just go for a walk for 5 minutes. Then maybe, next week make it 10. It is super frustrating doing it that way, and it takes a lot longer. But it's much easier to keep at it. And then eventually, maybe that person can get fit enough to be able to start taking dance classes and going to the gym. And especially us, we just expect failure. Because sometimes it feels like all we ever know. Then when it happens it's so painful and crushing. And you can feel even worse and beat yourself up, or spiral. It's a process. If you have insurance and can get a counselor or an ADHD coach it could be very helpful. Because each week you see them, they can reflect to you where your expectations are too high, and help you steer the boat that you feel you have no control over. Baby steps. You got this. 🤗🤗🤗💖 I hope this helps in some way! 💖 You are not alone.
I think people try to frame things that suck as super powers or get really up in your grill about not putting the thing down if it's something people are born with and/or can't get rid of. And I get it, but what is wrong with simply saying that it sucks? It's okay for things to suck. You're not saying the person sucks, you're saying the thing they struggle with sucks. It's dismissive to tell a person how to feel about their struggles and conditions. I survive and try to thrive in SPITE of my disorders, not because of them. If there were a fix, a legitimate non invasive fix for a lot of these things, I don't think it would be "wrong" to take it. I think society is obsessed with winning in the face of adversity that it conveniently forgets that people lose all the time. But it's fine, ignore them, because they aren't inspo pr0n and don't exist. We only care about people who think x or y disability/disorder is a super power and people who are successful with it are the real barometer to follow, not the ones who struggle. It's really insidious actually. It's okay to admit when something in your life is something that you don't like and sucks for you, even if it's something you have to deal with. Oh and of course all of this is extra compounded in societies that think you're "defective" if you aren't a perfect specimen in every way and play part in the appeal to nature evolutionary race of survival of the fittest. I get why people take the reverse and start taking pride in their "defects" that society tells them about, because what choice do they have? Again, it would be like saying someone with cancer is at fault or weak willed or whatever. No, you treat the disease as a disease and a person as a person. A person with a disease needs compassion, care and help. That's all that it means. We do not like admitting in society that sometimes, things are just plain unfair. Probably because then we'd have to get up off our butts and do something to make it more fair or as fair as possible. But nah, we just think karma takes care of it and that all terrible things are just blessings in disguise, because we can't have things actually be terrible, that would mean that we're not doing enough as a society to make sure things are fair for everyone or that we actually value life for life's sake.
That's such an amazing video! You basically described what I am. Felt like I was listening to my inner self. I am concerned now about what you said about the medication. Do you believe you can build tolerance when on medication? I was considering start taking medication and hoping for a better life, but that was always my fear, building tolerance to the medication since it happens quite fast to me with caffeine and nicotine
@@adhd_alex23 So glad to hear that! Maybe it could be a great subject for a future video: your experience with the medication, pros and cons, how is your life different now from what you described in this video.
this is so real, growing up with undiagnosed adhd really fucks up our confidence
Second comment because my autistic/ADHD butt can't resist: The biggest thing is to learn your particular habits. Habit stacking is a common thing, it means you have one solid habit and you build other habits on it.
ADHD is a lot about spending time and money orienting your life to fit your ADHD and medications can help, but aren't for everyone. If you know you'll forget/not do something, you learn to adapt things as best you can so that it gets done.
For me, when I get up, I have a routine of cleaning my reusable ear plugs that I sleep in, bathroom, brush teeth, get a small breakfast, take vitamins and work out. If I do NOTHING else the rest of the day, I'm good, because my core important stuff for health and wellbeing is done first thing when I get up (and my sleep schedule is trash. I swear my circadian rhythm is longer than 24 hours. Currently, I got to bed at 5am. Used to be 3am, then got pushed forward. A known pattern for me). I generally don't use my computer until those things are done (today everything is thrown out of wack as I had a phone meeting and my ankle got sprained so I need to find a floor work out to follow)
You learn your own patterns and modify your life to fit them. You don't fight against them.
I have rotating interests as a ADHD/autist combo and if I'm not feeling like one of my creative endeavors, then that's fine. My work out changes all the time because I get bored. So long as I work out, be it dance, walk, pilates, wii fit, whatever, it counts. My "goal" is broad so that I can fit the fact that my brain gets bored and will drop whatever I'm trying to make into a habit if I make it too rigid. i have done it so many times. Work out same routine for a month, maybe 3 if lucky, dropped. Meditate for 6 months, same routine, dropped. Draw everyday for a few months, dropped. If I don't switch things up, I stop doing habits and my life goes to chaos.
Oh, also, I am unemployed and on assistance. So yes, it does happen that some people end up in situations where they, ya know, can't. I am in a program literally made for people in my position who struggle to function due to various diagnoses. I get help with finding work or at least internships for a set amount of time and before this I had an activity plan program that just was meeting people and getting out of the house, but not work. I made a lot of good friends in similar boats that I still see.
I'm very very lucky to live in a country where my conditions are in fact understood as disabilities and are treated that way. It's still a low bar, but no where in the world actually treats any mental health disorder with the severity a physical one can cause, even if they have the same effect. The brain is physical. It's not a magical thing. It's a mass of flesh run by chemicals and electric signals that uses calories converted to energy. It's weird and wrong in society to pretend that it is this magic thing and the rest of the body is just crude matter. It's all crude matter, all of it can mess up and does frequently. Treat a disability as a disability, regardless of what causes the disability.
ADHD is not a superpower, I don't know why people claim that. ADHD can have some benefits, but that's what I expect since it has SO many disadvantages that I at least would want something positive to come out of it lol. But anyway, it is mentally exhausting and disabling. I don't know who I am either. I completely understand how you're feeling and just know there is an entire community out there who knows your struggles, you are not alone and you are not a loser!
(I don't know where my keys are right now)
I think it's because people see having superpowers as a blessing, but fail to see it has a curse. It's like you have the ability to do what normal people can't do, but it comes at the cost of the inability to do what normal people do from day to day.
Even our superheroes wish and/or reminese the times when everything felt normal.
@@jimtierrank3542 Exactly! It’s like superman trying to be Clark Kent… kind of…
And I am happy for the abilities that I DO have, but people still need to recognize that it‘s hard and a disability
so much guilt. Idk if i have adhd myself to be honest, but i've felt and seen other people carry this kind of guilt 24/7 wherever they go, all the time. I just hope you're able to love yourself a bit more because really it's all okay
Great video! It sums up my experience as well.
Glad you got diagnosed! It's a battle, but it's much easier to fight even the toughest moments once you know what you're dealing with, and that it's not your fault or character flaws, it's just the way your brain works differently from everyone else's. From that point you can finally start to unwrap all the layers and find yourself and your peace.
I hope you enjoy this video!!
my grandpa told me that my adhd is a gift but i think not … while i am creative i never have the motivation to do projects. not to mention school was hard for me both academically and socially(and still is in college) i really wish i had super powers lol!
I would say having hyperfocus is not actually that good as they say. Cause I for example, instead of doing my thermo homeworks or studying for the exam in 2 days I just start drawing random stuff for my proyect in hyper focus cause even tho'' i love what Im studying its much easier and pleasant to do my mini proyect.
That about the template and the ones own awnser is like one of my three most harmful things to deal with but thanks labs Im finding myself pushed through stuff I don't actually know how to do; its been easier for me to start driving, start searching for a job, getting to know people but Im not sure it'll work for all of us... Its just my unique experience.
However, I was heading towards... I also think the fun in life might be searching for your own awnsers. Cause yeah you can find awnsers in books or in videos or stuff but. Seriously we actually don't quite get it unless we experience something. At least not always. Or as an example maybe Ive had bad experiences with psycologists but I dont feel none of them had actually understood me and thats when I gave up tu therapy... I had 16 years when I gave up to it btw.
Ohp and if I have misspells or something Im sorry its not my native language. I'm 20 btw and I feel I had had much more experiences in these 4 years than in my first 15-16 years of life.
Totally! Hyper focus cost me so so so much trouble as well. Thank you for sharing this
agreed OMG
New subbie. Totally relate to your content and loved your most recent video because i could also relate.
Thanks for subbing! ❤️🥰
Thank you for sharing your experience. I believe that practising being present in the moment and being mindful about your focus is a great place to start improving the symptoms of ADHD. Mediation, exercise and a balanced diet have also been linked to improving the lives of people who live with ADHD and other mental health issues. To anyone who thinks that there's no way to get better - stop making exscuses and to quote Nike, "Just do it!"
This breaks my heart because you just 💯 explained my life. I got abandoned by friends so many times because I was always clingy and always trying to please them. This ofcause resulted in abandonment wound and I’m so lonely rn because I’m so scared to expose myself like that again. My friends would also call me slow for missing social cues so yah, I kinda avoid people now. I recently resigned from my job because I couldn’t keep up and that led to feelings of depression. I don’t know what to do at this point and I’m having an existential crisis. What I hate the most is feel scared when I have not done anything wrong😩
My story exactly 🫶🏼
Thank you for the beautiful content from a beautiful being as you are Jingwen.
Thank you for being so real. I feel you.
you aint alone there are plenty of us that feel exactly the same way
1:02 the dad reaction to ADHD is so real 😂
I really enjoyed your vid. Thank you for making it
I’m proud of you keep going
I'm ADHD and I watch this video at 1.5x and one thing about ADHD is great is normal ppl cannot watch any video at 1.5x and understand everything in the video with that speed. but I cannnn we cannnn even at higher speed
Thank you. I have friends who have ADHD. I've been trying to understand how it may be affecting them- How I can better communicate or empathize with what they go through. This helped a lot.
I’m happy that your friend have a friend like u
@@adhd_alex23
OMG I also got my diagnosis just this month and I'm also 23, Asian, female!
Keep up the content. You got a really creative voice. I have ADHD too. It sucks. Raising kids while dealing with it is hard. Glad the medicine works for you. I haven’t taken any yet.
Thank you for your support ❤️❤️
Preaching to the choir here lol. Raising children, one of whom is also ADHD and ASD. It's a functionally dysfunction dynamic
I started noticing the same things you spoke about 2 years ago…never thought it was ADHD until I saw some vids but now I’m pretty sure. I go from excited to numb in an hour and it lasts …. I thought that by changing things up, i might be better but after a month of adjusting, still, same feelings. The anxiety, self criticism and annoyance is really tough and it’s devastating realizing certain things. I hsed to think adhd would be cool cause of the hyperfocus on cool things but honestly, when the crash comes, all thoughts of happiness just seem soooo far away😮💨. I’m sorry for saying all of this, just trynna figure things out. Love this channel though I found it a few minutes ago(lol already pouring my heart out😅 ) bye ✌🏽
agreed
(Another Asian girl here (T^T)
+ im prepping for engineering lol it sucks
& yeah I hate being a loser
You are not a loser. You are precious and meant to be here. It's our society that makes us feel that way. I'm so sorry that happened to you. 💖 Hope this helps today to know this. I know it sounds cheesy and silly. But it has to be.
well spoken thank u!
well if taking the meds allowed you to utilize your potential then it's great for you. As for me, I can't take any meds because it's bogging down my potential so hard that it's impossible for me to even just play videogames. I got like my brain got reset whenever I tried to work even a small bit because my brain functioning higher than the meds allowed. So I just have to deal with ADHD and live with it. After I learned more about myself, my potential improved a lot more than I ever imagined. Well it's not easy, it took me at least 5 focused years to adapt into my nature.
I’m happy for you!!
I saw positive reviews on adhd meds, maybe keep trying one that works for you❤
Just remember not to build your entire identity around ADHD. It's something you have, not who you are.
I'm not clicnically diagnosed with adhd (yet) but I'm suffering from all the symptoms. I'm literally procastinating to go to the doctor💀
And the process is not very ADHD friendly
The same people who say ADHD is a superpower, are the same idiots that think autism is a superpower. I literally have a hyper fixation on a stupid card game anime. THIS IS NOT A SUPERPOWER. I JUST WANT TO BE A NORMAL PERSON FOR LIKE FIVE MINUTES.
pretty sure i have adhd but idk? my brother and my sister got diagnosed and we definitely share the same traits so i’m thinking i should too
I genuinely have no idea what my actual personality is. Adhd + less than pleasant childhood experiences lead to a host of other issues that are only further exacerbated by adhd. What a messy disorder. No pun intended. It fuckin sucks. Thanks for the video.
This sounds like my entire life. Big big big HUGGG. ❤️❤️❤️❤️💖💖💖💖🤗 It does get better. It's hard because every person who has ADHD might be different. Some people it might be more severe than others, or maybe some of the things they struggle with might be a little different. It's easy to think why can't I do this? It's invisible. You know something is there, because it keeps happening and you don't know why. It makes you feel crazy, but you are not.
Meanwhile society gaslights you. They make you feel it isn't real. Because they can do it, they don't understand why you can't. And how can you explain something you yourself don't understand.
And then you're whole life, it feels like all you hear from everyone, is what you can't do. What's wrong with you? Why don't you just do it?
There is nothing worse that having a disorder. Thinking you are just like everyone else, and not understand what is happening. Then when you do have a reason, no one believes you. Or if they do, they are understanding for a little while, but then still don't understand why you can't do this thing or that. It's no wonder there is people pleasing and sensitivity to criticism. A regular person gets negative feedback once in a while. But with ADHD, the things keep happening and you can't stop it. And you don't know why. And all you hear from parents, teachers, bosses, it's like what's wrong with you? It's not helpful.
I have tried different things over the years. I am going to have some videos to share things that have helped me. I am a little overwhelmed and not sure where to start...
But just know, 1 you are not alone. 2, you are not crazy. And 3, be flexible and patient with yourself as you try new things. We are perfectionists, and we have pain from so much failure, we don't think we can ever do it. So sometimes we expect to do things and not fail, and if we do it's actual failure. But it's not, it's part of the process.
Think of it like, when new year rolls around and everyone makes huge resolutions to do these big things. Like overhaul their diet, working out ... They have a vision of themselves doing everything... But then they fail and get discouraged and give up.
Well, they didn't fail really, they just had unrealistic expectations. So maybe instead of taking all the classes, going to the gym everyday, getting hurt or exhausted and making it so hard that they give up. Maybe just go for a walk for 5 minutes. Then maybe, next week make it 10. It is super frustrating doing it that way, and it takes a lot longer. But it's much easier to keep at it. And then eventually, maybe that person can get fit enough to be able to start taking dance classes and going to the gym. And especially us, we just expect failure. Because sometimes it feels like all we ever know. Then when it happens it's so painful and crushing. And you can feel even worse and beat yourself up, or spiral.
It's a process. If you have insurance and can get a counselor or an ADHD coach it could be very helpful. Because each week you see them, they can reflect to you where your expectations are too high, and help you steer the boat that you feel you have no control over.
Baby steps. You got this. 🤗🤗🤗💖 I hope this helps in some way! 💖 You are not alone.
Thank you for always writing those warm words out😘🥲😭✨
@@adhd_alex23 holy canoli! I just open my brain and downloaded it all here! Sorry about that. I wish I could write something shorter. 🤦🏻♀️Lol
I think people try to frame things that suck as super powers or get really up in your grill about not putting the thing down if it's something people are born with and/or can't get rid of. And I get it, but what is wrong with simply saying that it sucks? It's okay for things to suck. You're not saying the person sucks, you're saying the thing they struggle with sucks. It's dismissive to tell a person how to feel about their struggles and conditions.
I survive and try to thrive in SPITE of my disorders, not because of them. If there were a fix, a legitimate non invasive fix for a lot of these things, I don't think it would be "wrong" to take it. I think society is obsessed with winning in the face of adversity that it conveniently forgets that people lose all the time. But it's fine, ignore them, because they aren't inspo pr0n and don't exist. We only care about people who think x or y disability/disorder is a super power and people who are successful with it are the real barometer to follow, not the ones who struggle. It's really insidious actually.
It's okay to admit when something in your life is something that you don't like and sucks for you, even if it's something you have to deal with. Oh and of course all of this is extra compounded in societies that think you're "defective" if you aren't a perfect specimen in every way and play part in the appeal to nature evolutionary race of survival of the fittest. I get why people take the reverse and start taking pride in their "defects" that society tells them about, because what choice do they have? Again, it would be like saying someone with cancer is at fault or weak willed or whatever. No, you treat the disease as a disease and a person as a person. A person with a disease needs compassion, care and help. That's all that it means.
We do not like admitting in society that sometimes, things are just plain unfair. Probably because then we'd have to get up off our butts and do something to make it more fair or as fair as possible. But nah, we just think karma takes care of it and that all terrible things are just blessings in disguise, because we can't have things actually be terrible, that would mean that we're not doing enough as a society to make sure things are fair for everyone or that we actually value life for life's sake.
you just summed up my entire life ahhhh
Great videooooo ❤️🙂↕️
That's such an amazing video! You basically described what I am. Felt like I was listening to my inner self.
I am concerned now about what you said about the medication. Do you believe you can build tolerance when on medication?
I was considering start taking medication and hoping for a better life, but that was always my fear, building tolerance to the medication since it happens quite fast to me with caffeine and nicotine
Heyyyy I think it’s about finding the right dosage! I’m on 28mg for a while now and so far so good!
@@adhd_alex23 So glad to hear that! Maybe it could be a great subject for a future video: your experience with the medication, pros and cons, how is your life different now from what you described in this video.