This was the most validating talk around ADHD that I have ever heard! I cried with you as you spoke to your 9 year old self knowing that there is a conversation that I am going to have with my 9 year old self too 😢 “Ain’t no shame in my brain” Thank you
@@caramelsubmerged7426 me to tears on my eyes just on that moment.. i am telling the same to my 10 years little boy.. will came days with a lot of pleasure and others with a lot of pain.. but no shame in your brain. God bless this sista and all the souls out there are not aware yet they have this differences (also known as hunters brain with pancreas differences N2D2 neuropeptides production) love and peace
I'm 41 and recently diagnosed with Severe ADHD. Now it makes sense! Losing jobs, unable to finish college, feeling Shame because I'm unable to complete a to do list...that I wrote out! Ughhh. ...but Thank God for other women sharing their ADHD journey too. Great TED talk Queen
Coming here from Sista’s w ADHD group on Facebook! 🌸🥰 loved this talk and it mirrors my journey. It was needed to hear your letter to your younger self. 🥰🌸🙏🏾 so grateful to you, your journey, and the space you’ve created for others in there’s.
That was an amazing probably one of the best ADHD speeches. 👌 Honestly I felt like she was talking about my life, you do feel shameful being told you're not trying hard enough or you don't work too full potential cuz you're working in a world that doesn't see you having a real different brain. I'm being told when you do find out what diagnosed I was 27 years old female that it's okay to have a different brain it just works differently you will be better at some things than others will and that goes for everyone. It's the understanding yourself and learning not to feel shame because people have been pointing out your little differences. I really like the no shame in your brain and will be repeating that to myself so I can understand it's okay to be different
Just to clarify a detail, people with ADHD don't have trouble with object permanence. Object permanence means not understanding that something that's not in your field of view still exists. That's why babies thing peekaboo is so funny, because in their mind, dad's not hiding behind a cloth, but has truly disappeared from existence for a second. People with ADHD know things that aren't in our field of view still exist, we just don't have the working memory to keep it all on the forefront of our minds. So my friends, who I know are alive and kicking elsewhere, may not pop up in my brain for months, leading to a sporadic and chaotic social life. Object permanence and forgetfulness of stuff that you aren't reminded off are not the same thing :)
I actually think people are dead when I don’t hear from them for a long time. It’s weird when people bring them up because I thought they died along time ago. I guess that would explain my almost always weird reaction to death. I always think people are dead anyways. Ima talk to my therapist about it 😂
Ooh girl this made me shed a tear! I’m the same way very smart, sociable, fun but when it comes to cleaning and being on time, paying attention to details, completing documentation at work excellent at my job but notes forget about it lol all this time I just thought those were character flaws not knowing for 35 years I had ADHD the whole time. Great TED Talk
Absolutely fantastic talk!! THANK YOU!!!!! I have lived with ADHD as long as I can remember but wasn’t diagnosed until I was 40 years old. I still have lived with chaos and shame. After some difficulties that changed my life, I’ve isolated and have felt shame constantly. Despite treatment, I feel like I’m continuing to spiral and it’s a hopeless feeling. I’m at a loss. Your talk gives me hope and I badly need to hang onto your wise words. ❤️
I was 21 when it suddenly felt like something had broken in my brain. For majority of my pre -teen and teen years i stayed in boarding school. It wasnt until i got to varsity and had to take full responsibility for myself that things went haywire. If i wasn't super stressed i was constantly running away from my emotions. It wasn't until this year Aug that i came to a stand still and came to the acknowledgement and acceptance of the difference in my brain. And that acceptance brought me so much peace and clarity when it comes to how i operate. And it has brought me to a state of working with my brain instead of rioting against it and being frustrated all the damn time.
How empowering! I’m going to follow this example and tidy away my perfectionism! Thank you! This talk helps me as a newly diagnosed 50 year old who is now learning to be ok with being myself!
I went through exactly the same: hiding, isolation, depression, shame. Intense shame. For years. I am not diagnosed but I believe to have ADHD because I have most of the traits and symptoms of a woman with ADHD. Thank you so much for this talk. ❤
❤ Thanks so much….”There ain’t no shame…. in my brain” I’m so tired of shaming myself because of ADHD….I also was brought to tears! This was also my favorite! Every time that I beat my self up with negative thoughts …..I will try to always think of your positive “There ain’t NO SHAME….in my brain” 😀🤗
I always knew there was something different about me. Not wrong, but I was off. That I'm just forgetful. That I should set the bar low with anything because regardless of how I studied or trained, it was never enough. I'm still digging myself out of the hole that my Imposter Syndrome drilled into my bones. I'm okay now, not totally, but it feels good to be on the right track. ❤
Yessss!!! Love this! I found your talk in my algorithm and was excited when you shouted out our fb community. You did a great job and I can’t wait to share! Now, where is this T shirt line and info on the straight As framework?
while watching this video i couldnt help but notice the vip and sponsor woman who highly agreed with Torrian, i don't think she stopped nodding for a whole 2 minutes
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This was the most validating talk around ADHD that I have ever heard! I cried with you as you spoke to your 9 year old self knowing that there is a conversation that I am going to have with my 9 year old self too 😢 “Ain’t no shame in my brain” Thank you
It was simply beautiful; I too was elevated to tears! Validating of the valleys that I have experienced; I am grateful for having been seen!
@@caramelsubmerged7426 me to tears on my eyes just on that moment.. i am telling the same to my 10 years little boy.. will came days with a lot of pleasure and others with a lot of pain.. but no shame in your brain. God bless this sista and all the souls out there are not aware yet they have this differences (also known as hunters brain with pancreas differences N2D2 neuropeptides production) love and peace
I'm 41 and recently diagnosed with Severe ADHD. Now it makes sense! Losing jobs, unable to finish college, feeling Shame because I'm unable to complete a to do list...that I wrote out! Ughhh. ...but Thank God for other women sharing their ADHD journey too. Great TED talk Queen
this is LITERALLY my exact experience. I cired watching this talk cos it jus made everything fall into perspective.
I was about to type this exact thing, but you got here first, so I'll just say- Same.
Exactly the same here verbatim… they just don’t understand…. I’m well 😂
Simply beautiful and inspiring talk. And yes, I too am in tears! 💛
Coming here from Sista’s w ADHD group on Facebook! 🌸🥰 loved this talk and it mirrors my journey. It was needed to hear your letter to your younger self. 🥰🌸🙏🏾 so grateful to you, your journey, and the space you’ve created for others in there’s.
That was an amazing probably one of the best ADHD speeches. 👌
Honestly I felt like she was talking about my life, you do feel shameful being told you're not trying hard enough or you don't work too full potential cuz you're working in a world that doesn't see you having a real different brain. I'm being told when you do find out what diagnosed I was 27 years old female that it's okay to have a different brain it just works differently you will be better at some things than others will and that goes for everyone. It's the understanding yourself and learning not to feel shame because people have been pointing out your little differences. I really like the no shame in your brain and will be repeating that to myself so I can understand it's okay to be different
Out of site and out of mind even people! True Statement.
Whew, I've watched a loooot of Ted Talks about ADHD but this is by far my favorite. Thank you so much Torrian!
I’ve never felt more seen. I’m literally crying as I write this. Like a veil has been lifted. Thank you for this. ❤
My ADHD brain trying to listen but getting distracted by the women on the left nodding her head constantly.
Nah, why was this me thought LOL
During the speech was interesting too
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took me 5 years to get a 2 year degree lol yep... we are not alone ❤❤
What a speech! 48 yo just been diagnosed. Thank you so much for the amazing speech. Hugs from Guadeloupe
I'm so thankful for this! Didn't know so many women suffered from the things I've been struggling with for years!!! Thank you for this!
You explained my whole life. Especially the shame part. It has really taken its toll.
Just to clarify a detail, people with ADHD don't have trouble with object permanence. Object permanence means not understanding that something that's not in your field of view still exists. That's why babies thing peekaboo is so funny, because in their mind, dad's not hiding behind a cloth, but has truly disappeared from existence for a second. People with ADHD know things that aren't in our field of view still exist, we just don't have the working memory to keep it all on the forefront of our minds. So my friends, who I know are alive and kicking elsewhere, may not pop up in my brain for months, leading to a sporadic and chaotic social life.
Object permanence and forgetfulness of stuff that you aren't reminded off are not the same thing :)
I actually think people are dead when I don’t hear from them for a long time. It’s weird when people bring them up because I thought they died along time ago. I guess that would explain my almost always weird reaction to death. I always think people are dead anyways. Ima talk to my therapist about it 😂
Ooh girl this made me shed a tear! I’m the same way very smart, sociable, fun but when it comes to cleaning and being on time, paying attention to details, completing documentation at work excellent at my job but notes forget about it lol all this time I just thought those were character flaws not knowing for 35 years I had ADHD the whole time. Great TED Talk
Absolutely fantastic talk!! THANK YOU!!!!! I have lived with ADHD as long as I can remember but wasn’t diagnosed until I was 40 years old. I still have lived with chaos and shame. After some difficulties that changed my life, I’ve isolated and have felt shame constantly. Despite treatment, I feel like I’m continuing to spiral and it’s a hopeless feeling. I’m at a loss. Your talk gives me hope and I badly need to hang onto your wise words. ❤️
I was 21 when it suddenly felt like something had broken in my brain. For majority of my pre -teen and teen years i stayed in boarding school. It wasnt until i got to varsity and had to take full responsibility for myself that things went haywire. If i wasn't super stressed i was constantly running away from my emotions. It wasn't until this year Aug that i came to a stand still and came to the acknowledgement and acceptance of the difference in my brain. And that acceptance brought me so much peace and clarity when it comes to how i operate. And it has brought me to a state of working with my brain instead of rioting against it and being frustrated all the damn time.
How empowering! I’m going to follow this example and tidy away my perfectionism! Thank you! This talk helps me as a newly diagnosed 50 year old who is now learning to be ok with being myself!
Loved this so much, what a beautiful and creative speech!
I went through exactly the same: hiding, isolation, depression, shame. Intense shame. For years.
I am not diagnosed but I believe to have ADHD because I have most of the traits and symptoms of a woman with ADHD.
Thank you so much for this talk. ❤
Thank you for your rawness and honesty. Still difficult at my age .
❤ Thanks so much….”There ain’t no shame…. in my brain” I’m so tired of shaming myself because of ADHD….I also was brought to tears! This was also my favorite! Every time that I beat my self up with negative thoughts …..I will try to always think of your positive “There ain’t NO SHAME….in my brain” 😀🤗
This was As BEAUTIFUL as it was informative! Ty, YOU’RE INSPIRING!❤🙏🏽👏🏽
I always knew there was something different about me. Not wrong, but I was off. That I'm just forgetful. That I should set the bar low with anything because regardless of how I studied or trained, it was never enough.
I'm still digging myself out of the hole that my Imposter Syndrome drilled into my bones. I'm okay now, not totally, but it feels good to be on the right track. ❤
thank you, sis!
I saw my self all up and through this! Thank you 🫶🏾
What a beautiful soul & great mind too..Plus is also representation..☺️🙏🌸💠💚😘
the last words really bringing me to tears - so true
Powerful
Yessss!!! Love this! I found your talk in my algorithm and was excited when you shouted out our fb community. You did a great job and I can’t wait to share! Now, where is this T shirt line and info on the straight As framework?
Thank you so much!!!
Thank you. ❤
This was so healing Thank you so much!!!
This was amazing. I felt seen! Thank u
I want 'Ain't no shame in my brain!' on a t-shirt for myself and my neohew! 🎉
Thank you so much for sharing your story.
while watching this video i couldnt help but notice the vip and sponsor woman who highly agreed with Torrian, i don't think she stopped nodding for a whole 2 minutes
Much love for this knowledge!
👋👋👋👋👋🎉🎉🎉❤!! Thank you so much!
Great talk!
This is great
Great talk! Thank you 👏
Incredible. This was amazing ❤
snaps snaps snaps thank u for this!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Thank you Torian. Beautiful talk♥️♥️
Thanks sis🫶🏾💪🏾🖤🙏🏾
This has helped me so much❤
❤❤❤❤ I'm so proud of you!!!! This was an amazing talk.
Well said 🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺
I think I am just Add, I hardly be hyper, but full of energy
Sometimes the "hyperactive" part isn't physical but mental
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Wasting gas at UPS suuuuuucks
"ADHD symptoms are not character flaws" 😭
Yeah how do we not feel that shame? I hate myself. I know that even my mother can’t handle the real me
Thank you💖
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❤ Goosebumps!! 😊
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but the first 60 seconds you say you was ashamed and still am for the cluttered room so which is it???
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