I'll NEVER Bring Another Filipina To America... Here's Why
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 14 ต.ค. 2023
- When you bring your wife or girlfriend from the Philippines to America it's a spectacle upon her arrival. Here's my story and why I'll never do it again. Thanks for watching.
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When you bring your wife or girlfriend home it's like the circus coming to town! Thanks for watching.
and everyone wants to clown you
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mag hanap kayo sa lugar nio wag nio yan sama sa tate baka ma wala pa yan!!
When you live in an area where a lot of Filipinos already live, like Seattle, it’s far less of a circus when you bring a Filipina to town. We even have Jollibee’s, Red Ribbon, and Chowking here. The 2020 Washington State census counted 195,000 Filipinos living here. It looks like Kentucky only has 6,000 Filipinos.
@@BigJack273 now you are calling grown 60 year old men fools?
“When the debate is lost, insults become the loser’s tool.“
-Socrates
You are absolutely spot on. Stay in the Philippines and stress free. Take care, brother.
Facts brother
Bro ...I've seen this so many times while in the military and afterwards - amongst other things. This is why I'm on record for telling people not to bring back ANY foreign wives. The risks are just too high because of everything it entails. I'm more than happy to be labeled a villian for believing this.
You're the prize overseas. dynamic shifts when she leaves.
True, absolutely!!!...
If a man is to marry a foreigner, I strongly advise you keep her in the home Country next to family, and NOT bring them to the US. Just too many temptations and no one to keep her in check!
If it is not the constant bombardment from thirsty guys, it other females prodding to leave and find someone better.
Nothing but headaches, and then she starts believing all of it. You are still on the hook for three years, and once she gets the green card she is ready to monkey branch. They will soon find their sexual marketplace value is greatly increased from perception from the homeland.
Not saying all, but your risk of divorce or cheating is greatly increased.
Thanks for bringing up this important topic.
Thank you, your words speak volumes.
I knew someone who brought a Russian wife to the US. The results were even worse.
So true. Filipinas become novelties once they come to America.
And the reverse happens when a western guy goes to the Philippines.
It's better to just live with your Filipina in the Philippines if you can afford it.
It only makes sense to play to your advantages, I'm starting to see that more everyday.
what you mean? white guys seduce filapino women?
@@jackson7922 if you have no intention of marrying her. Leave her to find someone who wants to get married and start a family. Real simple!
I live in NYC and there are people from every part of the world here. So it's not a novelty. But men everywhere are thirsty as hell. And the price of a super attractive wife is that men will be constantly hitting on her. And if she's not loyal and mature then she'll upgrade to richer, younger, or better looking guy. If you're looking for a loyal and loving wife skip the beauty contest girls. Find a solid girl of good character. You can identify them by how they're a blessing to the people around them. They're helping people, supporting people and nurturing. They go to church and give gifts. The Bible says a good woman is worth more than rubies.
@@GizmoMaltese i dont think so, rubies are more precious you can get more women with many rubies
My ex wife is Indian and she’s a beautiful woman, and she got hit on constantly everywhere we went by men and women . But that gonna happen when you marry someone attractive..
That’s true!!!!!!
But not like if she stayed in India where there's damn near 1.5 Billion people
You hold the cards in their country, usually.
@@derekcasanares4785or in any country where beautiful women are common.
A young, pretty Filipina's sexual marketplace value goes through the roof when they come to America. There is no way that they can be prepared for the amount of male attention they are going to received. What I found interesting when I brought my Filipina to America was how she went from mature and sure of herself to being immature, like a duck out of water. Being in their own country is optimal for them. They experience so many first in America that they kind of become childish in a way. There was an eight-year age gap between me and my wife. When we were in the Philippines, it was not noticeable, and I felt we were equals. When we were in America, it often felt like I was raising a teenager, and it did not feel as though we were equal. What your Filipina wife/girlfriend is in the Philippines is not what she is and will be in America. That's where the gamble is. You may or may not like what she will become and there are a lot of factors that do not play in your favor. Other Americanized Filipinas WILL coach her and there is nothing you can do about it. She is going to find them, and they are going to befriend her. It is only natural. Yes, there are success stories out there, but there are also far too many unsuccessful stories. If you bring them to the US, it is a coin flip on whether you will make it as a couple. Keeping her in the Philippines has a much, much greater chance of success.
Thanks for your advice.
Wise words. I agree completely
Well put. Solid advice
@@Nomadic_Wanderlust_Adventures No.
The problem is most men go for the prettiest Filipina they can find and put very little value on character. Then they blame the Filipina when they're the one who made the choice. If you're 50 do you really need a girl in her 20's? If you're interest in her is superficial you'll have a superficial relationship. I would suggest you avoid the extremely attractive ones. Even here if you try to date some model looking girls men will be hitting on her all the time. This is a thirsty country.
Ask yourself why you want a wife? To raise children? To grow old with? A trophy? A sex toy? Some men are looking for a trophy and sex toy and not a genuine relationship.
Better to stay in paradise, than bring paradise home !
Nothing is paradise anymore
Deep comment
I left America for good. No intention of bringing my wife to the toxic US environment.
The choices men have in the west for women are getting very slim. That's why I went to the Philippines. I also read a book about a guy who brought a Filipina wife to Canada and he went through hell when she started to get westernized.
People have no morals or respect anymore, hard to trust anyone in the west nowadays.
low-trust societies are mutli-cult societies
@@blockaderunnerphilippines has a low trust society.
The West isn't like that, it just brings a whole host of other issues you cannot control for. And the law is not in favour of men.
Agreed that is why I am moving to and retirement in the Philippines 🇵🇭 every thing you say us true brother glad you found your peace and happiness
We came to the US for a visit. We went to visit one of her sisters friends that is married to a US guy. Never met this guy in my life and did not know him nor he me. But, the first thing out of his mouth was "She is out of your league."
My wife was happy to get back home. She did not like the US and how things are there.
This is so true, especially in the Midwest. I moved my Filipina and our kids to my home town Akron Ohio for a year before going to Las Vegas. It was flattering at first because they would compliment our kids. Then it became like you said disrespectful. Men would literally stalk us in stores. They made my wife very uncomfortable to the point she would run to the car.
In an "Open Carry" State that shit is rare.
At least she’s still with you
I'm originally from Los Angeles and currently living in Vegas. Lots of Asians and inter-marriage in those cities, so I've never noticed my Filipina wife getting any extra unwanted attention. I hope your situation has improved since you moved to Vegas.
@@JohnSmith-ho3cu Yes very much improved. Almost like night and day. There are not a lot of Asian in Ohio where I am from. Vegas is the complete opposite.
@@nyunixguru We have been married 17 years. So we are doing great! We been here long enough. Now it’s time for us to move to the Philippines 😎
From a selfish standpoint, if you bring your Filipina girlfriend/wife to the USA you’re probably going to have to go back to work if you were already retired in the Philippines. Another thing is that your Filipina will go from an average girl back home to an exotic beauty in the States. She’s going to be getting a lot of attention from younger and maybe wealthier guys than you. If she doesn’t have good moral values, that could be a potential problem. There are the Filipinas that intend to use you for a Green Card and support until they’re able to leave you. Yes it happens. Of course, every situation is different. My father brought my mother back to the USA from the Philippines in 1966. They were married for 50 years until he passed away. I know of a lot of other situations that didn’t work out like that too. In fact, most didn’t work out especially in the most recent past.
Truth 💯
Well here's the thing with me, my fiancee is coming to be with me in the U.S. soon. If things work out, great. If they don't it will not change my plans. I told her from day one that I am retiring in the Philippines (four years from now but possibly sooner) I think one move ahead of the game a lot of times so if things don't work out between us, I will still come up a winner. There is a lot in play that she is aware of and quite a bit she is not aware of but retirement is forth coming. If we were not together I might have retired by now and roughed it for a few years until the big payday came about in just 2 years but time will tell everything
You repeated everything that he explained to you. Atleast you listened.
Well Calvin...I vought my ex-wife to Cali. It was a nightmare. The America guys hazzled her to a point she started to believe the noise. You are right. They will not go to the Philippines to get a wife. They will try to steal her when she get there. I used to explain to her not to allow your co-workers' men or women to get into her ear. But my ex wasn't strong enough. You have to understand the mental disposition of some Filipina women before you bring them to your country. I wouldn't ever do that again.
You're the prize overseas. dynamic shifts when she leaves.
It goes both ways. Way back in 2007 I met a Filipina girl at a friends wedding in the States that recently arrived from Cebu. She was beautiful! Also well spoken, charming, and definitely a head turner. She was really flirting with me. I know that I didn’t need the extra complication since I was in the middle of a divorce, but I figured what the heck. It turns out that she was MARRIED and the guy was at the wedding. He was a younger guy, but really goofy. A few weeks after the wedding her friend approached me, telling me that her friend liked me and wasn’t happy in her new marriage. As beautiful as she was, I said no thanks. If my situation was different, I probably would have dove in head first. Her and her husband soon separated. The last that I heard is that she’s still living in the States and her white husband moved to the Philippines. I can’t ask current details because my girlfriend now is friends with her friend that approached me.
@lmcc0072 Wow, that is crazy. Some Filipinas that come to the states lose pride in themselves. Everyone and everything is fair game to them. This is why I say - some Filipinas who come to the States are not mentally stable. If a Filipina is doing that here, in a new country, just think about what she was doing in her own country. To much conflict.
I guess you should have taken more time to get to know her first. If that had been the case, then she wouldn't have been bothered by such remarks, and neither would you have.
@jeffburnham6611 sometimes you can know someone for years, and not really know them until you move in or marry them. That is why 1 in marriages in America ends in divorce. So, the answer is not always getting to know someone. Although, sometimes that may play a part in it. I dated my ex for a number of years and still didn't know who she really was.
Yep this is exactly what happens. My wife is Korean and same shit happened. People suck. They really do. All that attention gives birth to your lady thinking you can be replaced
That can happen any were any women
B4 movement
Calvin in Alaska the saying went you did not lose your wife you just lost your turn.
Facts! It is bad man... it never happened to me, because I would never in a million years bring a Filipina back to the states. Just as Calvin explained the same thing happened to my cousin. Bought his Filipina wife back to the U.S., guys were all over her at work. Literally rescheduling their breaks, to strategically match with hers. They knew she was already married, but it made no difference at all. Men were blatantly starring her down in public, in front of him, with zero shame. Also had a few stalkers in the neighborhood they lived in. It is truly deplorable the thirst level of men in the U.S. these days. Seriously... it is a hidden crisis. I am convinced it can happen anywhere in the U.S., but it is worse in areas that don't have large Asian populations. The Filipinas are viewed as extra exotic, and lusted after by guys with Asian fetishes. To the point of stalking.
Yes sir! You are absolutely right. My wife and I been married for 10 years before coming back to the states in 2018 and it was just like you said, my cousin, my brother, and even my own father hittin on her... Gees what was going on? I thought.. we packed up and moved to the other side of the state. 5 years have passed now and things have have been pretty normal. But still, I just couldn't get over our first 5 months. How everyone was acting. Thank you for your video, it speaks the truth.
Your own family doing that is really crazy.
Own family 🙄
I'm not bringing any foreign female to America, I met a you Filipina that jumped ship as soon as she saw the light
Hahaha a topic close to my heart😂 like I tell everyone, if you bring your Filipina back to the the US you are accepting the fact you’re taking a gamble on your relationship, nobody can escape that, young/ old, rich/poor.
Exactly. Some of these guys think they’re different because they may have money, maybe physically attractive or they are in denial. It doesn’t matter who or what you are, the odds are against you.
Listen to Calvin on this one. Don't bring a filipina to the west! The risk it too great.
Thanks, Calvin. I need as much insight against bringing my gf to the US as possible. I've been considering it as a temporary solution to the distance as my career will have me here for the next 3 or more years. End goal is moving to Ph, which she is down with 100%. I'm 25, she's about the same age.
She's young, mature and carries herself with a sense of respect. I trust her, but not the intentions of those she'll work with or around. I will weigh the pros and cons, it wouldn't be smart to only listen to the bad cases and not consider the successful ones. There must be a method to the madness!
Your wife is, more than likely, a strong Filipina and is not phased by the American media and the craziness that goes on in America. Stay close to her and try to guide her in the right direction.
You should try to get her to the US because what you might be trying to hide her from in America it might happen in the phillipines,
You be crazy to bring her to this circus 🎪 🤡 show here in the states. Never put that much trust in a women to not switch on you. You only 25 with time you will learn. This why I don't believe in LDR , you just jumping the gun desperate skipping steps , first get your money right ,then when it's right then you go get the women when you in the Phil's. Tryna skip steps you just putting yourself in misery waiting, you know how it go first man to reach the Phil's taking that girl from you
Imo, if you bring her, if it was me, it would only be for a vacation
Don’t do it my brother. Trust me. You will regret it if you do.
Bro. I had the same type of situation, married a chick from Spain, while in the military. I got out the military in the early 90s and returned to the States. Everyone was trying to whisper in her ear at work, the gym, etc. She fell for the bs, I had to kick her ass to the curb and got divorced. She fell for the bs and got used up… Ended up back in Spain with her kids…😂
As usual great content, very timely thoughtful advice. Thanks brother Cal!
Thanks! One of the best videos and you addressed a major issue with bringing them back. 💯
One of your best informative videos! Thanks Calvin.
I never had any problems with anyone when my wife came here to the US on a K-1 Visa. My wife wouldn't put up with any of that crap that your wife was going through Calvin. I talked to my wife for at least three years before we met as we both wanted to get to know each other. Any time she went to the doctor I went with her, not that I didn't trust her, but because she didn't have any way to get to the doctor. My wife also didn't wear things that would have people looking at her all of the time. I'm not sure why any loving man would want their wives or fiances to wear things that would get them unwanted attraction but if they do then they have to learn how to deal with it. I also feel that most guys know that the women in the Philippines don't care about age or looks so the guys go looking for young sexy women and then they get angry when their ladies get the looks from other men. If you know how the men are in the area are about hitting on women regardless if those guys know that they're with someone then it might be best to find another place to live. My wife has been here for 10 years and is a US citizen. Every place and everyone is different and we live in the Los Angeles area where there are lots of Filipinos. Eventually I want to move to Florida because there's too much crime and too many crazy things that happen out here plus things are cheaper in Florida.
I'm from Kentucky and not LA. That's a big part of my story. I stated that in the beginning. Filipinas are nothing out of the ordinary where you live. Big difference.
I would think being open with your wife and talking about all these things and seeing her reaction might help also. Sounds like that's what you did.
Leave LA.
Back in college in Florida, I was dating a stunning 5'11" blonde with blue eyes named Jackie. Every date, everywhere we went there was some guy trying to shoot his shot. I am a 6ft tall bodybuilder and was driving a new Trans Am, but there are guys 6'4" driving Ferraris with PHDs. I almost got into so many fights, I finally just broke up with her. Too damn much trouble.
I'm sure Gio will catch hell also bringing Maya back to the states.
I have made it clear to any girlfriend that I am not talking anyone to the West. Not starting any business and not buying any land.
Always be ready to just walk away…🚶🏾♂️
@user-gw8ce8ig3i well he's a passport bro himself it's not Black man's movement I been in the navy hats off to our white brothas who started passport bros back in the 40's.
@@keith4826 facts
In Australia. When I was in my late 30's I meet a lot of imported philipino woman, at work. Many of these woman had old husbands. They were exstra friendly, trying to get my attention. I could have had anyone of them. I had a girlfriend at the time, so I ignored there attention.
Most of them are well educated and or hard working. My wife of 25years got a small pension and to her it seemed like a lot a USA government pension. She left me about 14 years ago.Her name is Marilyn also.Go navy. I got my passport. I plan to go to the Philippines next year
It's just a home delivery for those no-passport bros. Don't even think about it.
I had decided long ago I’m not bringing a Filipina back to the United States, I don’t care how people think about it. First of all, the majority of the Filipinas I’ve met in the Philippines are attractive, and work for the medical industry. (which a lot of Filipinas will work for, especially if you’re dealing with the ones of a little higher quality) Can you imagine bringing a hot Filipina nurse back to the United States, her getting a job at Kaiser, and getting hit on by every doctor and senior nurse in the building? Men she’s working with day and day out, making $200,000-$300,000 a year, trying their best to get your woman.
I understand everyone is supposed to have confidence, but there’s no point in just putting your girl in the middle of the candy store and walking away. I will keep my relationship in the Philippines, thank you very much.
Thank YOU BROTHER Calvin
You are SPOT ON!!!!
As always God Bless You And Your Wonderful Family Robert Thomas Houston Texas I'll be at the meet and greet in December
I think nowadays, with social media and and the increasing cost of living, I don't think it's a good idea to bring a filipina to the US.
Truth 💯
Hey Calvin. Yeah there's truth in what you say, but it also depends on what sort of environment someone is coming into. My filipina fiancee has never had a problem anywhere we've been here in Australia, but there's places I won't take her because I know that she's going to be uncomfortable from the unwanted attention. Sydney is very multicultural and no-one notices race much at all, but away from big cities, geez, you think men have been hit with the stupid stick sometimes when they're around any pretty woman! Sorry, I'm country born and bred but it's true.
I live in a town of less than 1,500 people & I know of 3 different guys that happened to...& if it's happening that often in a town that small, then I can just imagine how often it happens in heavily populated areas... I'd love to be with one, but this aspect of it worries me... I can only live in the US on my disability, but I don't want one coming back over here for her to see what other people with real money live like over here & just how exotic & in demand she will be here... that kind of rock star type attention is hard for anyone to ignore, especially when it's coming from guys who have real money by even American standards... I just don't know if I can risk it... great & real perspective to hear...🖖🏿😎👍🏿
Told guy at Va I was planning to spend half my year in Philippines once my dog dies . He rolled his eyes lol . When you see an older guy with a philipina in states everyone has a bad opinion it seems . Live and let live
It's called: EXPAT AND DON'T BRING THEM BACK. Why escape an insane asylum, just to come back bringing someone to share a cell with you?
Great video, my brotha!!!
Calvin I took my first Filipina wife to USA. She got pregnant by another guy. I got married again to Filipina from Philippines. Took her to states for 26 years. No issues. We moved back here to retire in 2015.
It all depends on Filipina. Been married 34 years. We will go back to live in USA someday. My wife is beautiful. But she has character.
There nothing wrong if you just want to take a vacation here in the United States with your Filipina wife. Many men do have there wife live here in the United States just let your Filipina wife know that you love and have the strong love for each other you will have a wonderful wife that she will only love you.
Wow, thanks for sharing Calvin
Dogs will be dogs. It doesn’t matter whether the woman is foreign or American. It’s amazing to watch a dog sit right next to another man and covet that other man’s woman right out in the open. Having lived life now on multiple socioeconomic levels and witnessed the behaviors of men on each level I can say this. A dog never stops allowing his small head govern his actions first and foremost. So the challenge of every responsible man is to keep the women in his life as far away from dogs as humanly possible. This means at some early point in adulthood one must separate out from among the dogs-even if some are friends and relatives. When you decide to bring a woman into your life you must do everything possible to buffer her from any contact with dogs. If she is a good woman she will work in partnership with you to keep any dogs as far from your relationship as possible. Too many men fail to discern if the potential girlfriend or wife is a “relationship seeker” or an “asset/financial security seeker.” The first kind of woman will work to bond strongly with her man such that only the most dramatic events can separate them and will stay for better or worse as long as she is not being abused. The second kind of woman will trade up/ trade in even at mere hint she might be able to get a better deal. The nationality of the woman is incidental to this measurement.
Quit insulting dogs. Dogs are loyal.
@@rockon8174 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
I hope Gio watches this.
Maayung buntag and kumusta? I have to give you credit on this TH-cam video, because you are telling the truth!! Taking a Filipina to the USA is like taking a deer to the lion’s den!!!
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Lol
Nice video, thanks for sharing
Thanks for sharing 🤜🏾🤛🏾
As always, thanks for "tellin' it like it is" Always enjoy your spot on content without the B.S.
When I was stationed in the Philippines from 1988 to 1991. Towards the end of 1990 all the women in the Philippines were getting really aggressive in trying to get sailors to marry them. They knew with the base closing down, the gravy train to the USA was going to close for good. I knew a lot of guys that got married in 1991 and they regretted their decision. Their wives just hanged out with the other Filipino bar girls in San Diego. When the husband went to sea, their Filipino wives where at the base clubs , picking up sailors. Who they slept with in the Philippines. When the ships were deployed to San Diego. A lot of them got divorced, the wife couldn't care less because. She was only interested in the idea of marrying to get to the Philippines, not actually loving or caring for her individual who they married.
Bringing a Filipino to America for them it's like winning the lottery
Not just filipinas ... ALL of them.
@@ericpowell4350 true
I'm with my American fiancee for 9 years and I never ever intend to live in America. Why would I be? I am earning 6 digits here in the Philippines and close to my family and friends.
That's amazing
@@lynnr8909Six digits in pesos is not the same as 6 digits in USD. I know a Filipina that came to the states and moved on to another guy cuz SS income is not enough to enjoy life in the US.
I really appreciate your Honesty!!!
Great info.
You're a good man Calvin. Thank you.
The crazy thing is if you bring your Filipina back to the USA you have to deal with the toxic Filipino American friends she makes. They will corrupt her and she will start losing respect for you.
What’s up Bro I had to comment on this video because you said you are from my hometown. I take it you are a Cardinal Fan huh. But anyway I enjoy your videos I learn quite a bit from what you preach keep on putting out that wisdom about the travel to the Phillipines. Stay up Calvin be swell ole G
Hey Calvin I’m from Louisville too. Fern creek and worked at LMDC. Louisville guys are extra thirsty for any woman that from out of country. Especially Asian there. I’m still sorry you went through that though.
Thanks 50 cal I was thinking about bringing my Filipina over to America but I agree with you because your right about the beauty of a Filipina she is a stunner and men would always try to hit on her thank you for your boots on the ground experience
The Filipina Pea actually made a video on this topic called "Curse of the Hot Filipina" where basically said to foreign man to keep the Filipina in her country. The same thing happened to me with my Japanese wife.
Thanks for the info i wondered about that
I am guilty of what you say when I was a single man in America. Here in the Philippines propositioning a married Filipina can result in serious shaming, bodily harm and possibly death.
Thanks for the information brother 🙏 I'm getting ready to relocate to Philippines 🇵🇭 so I appreciate your comments and I understand exactly 💯 what you're saying
YES, DO YOUR HOMEWORK AND DON'T RUSH INTO ANYTHING 😊😊😊
@lancefogle1433 will do I've been researching for 10 years now I'm fully retired from military and have social security retirement as well now just heading over believe me brother I'm in no hurry just going and getting set up then I'll decide who thx though I appreciate 👍 you
@lancefogle1433 however Lance I'm always up for information I don't have thx brother
As a brotha from Canada I told my family I'm not bringing my filipina to the western country. I see how some Filipinas divorce and leave their husband's behind. Me and my fiance(filipina) can start investing own business in Philly 🇵🇭. Great video thoughts my brotha ✊🏾
You don't trust your fiance enough to bring her to Canada but you will still marry her and go into business with her?
@@snuscaboose1942 we can visit in 🇨🇦 she can meet my family but we're not staying because feminism and divorce rates which is getting worse. Plus my fiance got family here in 🇵🇭 she's taking care of. Her family own the land in the province. So my option my choice deal with it
@@christopherperkins1894 Fair enough, you're at least providing a visit to your home land. Up to you we don't know your circumstances in detail and wish you the best.
If she has strong convictions, there won't be a problem. Brought my Filipina wife to the US, taught her to drive, she wanted a job and got one, that was 42 years ago, we're still together and doing great.
I totally agree with you Calvin, I actually had a beautiful Brazilian lady visit me here in the US and not only did nearly every man try to hit on her, but a couple of Lesibians also pursued her. One Lesibian even stalked her and followed us all over a local mall.
EXCELLENT VIDEO 📹 👏
Brought my Thai wife to America almost 15 years ago. It was a bit of an adjustment for her but she did fine. Started her own store and built it into a nice business which she sold for a nice profit!. She’s college educated and speaks, reads and writes English very well. She is 31 years younger than me and it’s never been a problem for us. She was even asked to do modeling for some major ad agencies and acted as our videographer while I was on tour with The Miracles for a few years. Now after 11 years we moved back to Thailand financially very secure and living a great life where I still play music at the highest levels. She is also expecting our first baby, a girl, in July after being told for years she could not have children. So I know what I’m doing the rest of my life and I find that incredibly meaningful and exciting. I can’t even imagine “retiring” in the traditional sense. We don’t need the money but I love what I do as a pro bassist and will never give that up. She also loves that I’m a musician and is my biggest fan! My advice is always have something to do that gives your life meaning. Otherwise the boredom in your later years will kill you eventually.
Yeah bro I did the same thing and I didn't know I was in my last year in the military and fell in love and brought her over here to the US and everything you said is true and that's crazy thanks for the video your right on point I wouldn't do it again we were married for 20yrs but got divorced it played apart thanks
Thanks for this valuable information. I thought about bringing my Filipino girlfriend to the US.
Calvin my man this is so important and so true! The ONLY state I can see you bringing a Filipina and NOT having problems like that is California because there are tons of asian girls all over and people are USE to seeing them. I once went out with a beautiful Asian girl who I met when she was on vacation in New Orleans. Man U should have SEEN the looks we were getting from EVERYBODY! Black, white and everything else. She was Chinese and Taiwanese and gorgeous ! It was like a spotlight was following us every step we took and as a man U KNOW if U leave her side for 5 seconds somebody was gonna be in her face trying to get her number. I can only imagine how bad it would be if you have a wife like this and have to deal with it almost everyday. That's a HUGH strain on a relationship if it's not rock solid.🤔
LA in Las Vegas has such a huge Filipina population. Most just blend right in. But Calvin makes another good point. You have to watch out
NYC has a lot of beautiful asian women as well and there are starting to be a lot of pinays in the tri-state area. I will have to see how things work out with my fiancee but I am one of those IDGAF brothers so no matter what I will always come out on top
@@LADETROITliving in San Diego I don’t even need to comment about Filipinos blending in. 😂
I experienced the same thing with my Taiwanese wife going back to the US.
Hey Calvin, greetings from Palm Springs, Cali.
Good evening!
Hey it's understandable man. That'll wear you down quick. Fighting off every man that comes in contact with her can be a bit much especially as you get older.
Most Guys going to the Philippines were not considered a great catch in their own country but over there you are viewed as income even if you aren't a high earner. If they run out of money they get dumped.
In the foreign country, you are the prize, in America she in now the prize 🏆 It is all about leverage my friend.
Calvin I did that in 1988 and she told me that she don’t love me she only wanted too come to the USA so I left her with her auntie and uncle and then I write a letter too the immigration and told them what she said and also told them she has no children from me so I divorced her in 1989 her name is Jocelyn de leona she lives in Las Vegas now she is 53 now with 4 boys
Was there a prenup or did she take half your stuff?
Pre-nuptials change from state to state.
If the prenup was written in one state and then the divorce happens in another 🤷🏻♂️
@@Yourpolice69 no she don’t get anything from me
I got all my assets before I married mine. @@richarddixon550
@@richarddixon550 with or without a prenup?
Thanks for your advise, Cal.
I understand just what you are saying. I've been in ldr for 5 years, I've been there twice. I plan to move there in the next couple of months. I told my girlfriend we will not get married for awhile. Until we both are sure. And I will never bring her back to Louisiana.
Ty Calvin.
You're spot on.
Maayon buntag Calvin. Nice video. Been there, done that. Never again. Moving there soon for good, God willing.
I personally plan to go overseas with the Philippines as my first stop, and I don't plan to go back to the US. I mean if you are working from home, retired, got no young kids, why come back. Why even think of bringing your woman back to the US😢. Its a win-win for most American guys to leave the US. Thanks, Calvin, for the video.
After about 2 weeks I was feening for some milk.... you will miss the comfort foods of your country really fast haha....but I would do it if I were in your shoes, I don't work remotely or I'd be there as well
@@brandonjohnson1968 Thanks 😊
@@brandonjohnson1968ironically, I miss the comfort foods of Italy, Spain and Portugal. Oh and Philippine lechon, of course. 😋
Amen on your first statement!
Gio are you listening ?
I have watched Gio’s channel for years .
These ladies are sweet, beautiful and manipulative if you allow it.
Girlfriends are like a lease.
If it doesn’t work out…. When the lease is up…. Move on .
Evidently not 😂
Thanks brother. ✊🏾
Man you brought a stunner by to the states! You know you done messed up right?!?! Lol
I’m sorry all you brothers have this experience. As a Fil-Am, my family always marries women from PI and then brings them back home with no incident. Very weird dynamic that happens to non Filipino descended Americans.
You seem like a good person . I wish you the best my friend .
The same thing happened with my Ethiopian wife, now ex. Even my brother disrespected me by trying to talk to her, even though he’s married with two kids.
It's 3x worst for active duty military men bringing them back to the US. They get the attention for sure and being active duty you will eventually deploy. Now she is alone and being Americanized by the wives of your unit or other Americanized Filipino women in the community.
There's this old story around the old Alameda Naval Base I use to hear when I was young. Goes something like, when a ship deploys, it means easy "sailor widow" picking time. Don't know how true that is.
My family is from Peyton Ridge down in KY bro. We travel through Louisville every time we go there from Indianapolis.
Excellent video with excellent advice.
Yes it is a real problem.
I'm African American here in the USA with my Filipino wife and people stare us down all the time. I hate it. We especially get the state down all the time from African Women American. Many of them assume that I'm ex- military and they are shocked to discover that I was never in the military !!!
Both me and my wife have learned to deal with it and continue on with our lives ... !!!
Again, THANK YOU FOR THIS GREAT VIDEO !!!
Hey my brother I from Louisville, KY too, I love your videos because your telling to truth, and I’ll be there soon my brother, let’s link up
Cal got it right!
From a Military Brat’s experience across the US and other countries, any foreign-born female spouse from any country that is brought to the US or US military base, will be treated just like Western Men are treated in Southeast Asia, as the Prize.
such a wise man you are!
When I Lived in San Diego they were called: West PAC Widows. When the boys were away (Navy) the girls would play…😮. Most of the girls had been brought here from Subic bay bars during the roaring Navy days in PI.
It depends on the Filipina, the guy, and their relationship. If Filipinas applied the same logic to us, they wouldn’t want to live with us in the Philippines either because of all the other Filipinas that might want to try and steal us. If the country you live in doesn’t affect your relationship, then it’s probably a good one. Spend as much time together as possible in each other’s country to see how strong the relationship is before marrying.
@@user-gw8ce8ig3iA woman does not need to be very aggressive to seduce a man. Men are usually the aggressor in any country. Women are usually more subtle.
This story has nothing to do with the Filipina but the reaction of the men in America to her. Watch the video again because you obviously were not paying attention. Thanks.
@@calroach1got it.. most men don't even consider the factors that you brought up.
Men in America do not respect or even take notice of the Ring or they're just too stupid to know which ring is the ring finger of marriage. There's no regards for decency or morality anymore.@@calroach1
@@user-gw8ce8ig3i That's hilarious! If we pull up to a stop sign next to a college in the Philippines, the girls have spotted my husband more than a block away and have a cheer line formed up before we get there. They're so brazen they just don't care I'm on the back. They would push me off and get on if he told them to.
That absolutely sucks....I feel your pain
You import cars not women
Been there, done that. Any one who thinks the grass is greener on the other side, has got to consider the earth is round. We Americans are spoiled from birth to want more and always be looking for the 'Garden of Eden' somewhere else. Over there, a visit will show you how we were blessed to be here. After 2 visits, I know I am blessed, and can live day to day without all the hassles of jealousy, and the low self-esteem that others would do to my more beautiful, hard-working, sweet Filipina wife. God bless you for being able to stay there.
Agreed 100 % from personal experience
Yea it depends where in america like you said. Not a big deal in the big cities in CA, HI, NY, or TX where there is a lot of people that are like them so the community won’t be inflating their heads and egos. Anywhere else and what you shared is exactly what will happen. When we lived in small town FL, she was in constant head inflation. When we moved to a big city in TX, she got deflated because the Latinas were competing ..lol. I stayed faithful though since she did when it was her turn in that small town.