How To Deal With A Break Up - Get Instant Relief!
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Noah Elkrief
This video how to deal with a break up, and how to deal with a broken heart. If you recently had a break up and you are trying to figure out how to deal with a break up, then you are in the right place. This video can really provide you with an immediate relief.
In order to deal with a break up, you have to understand why you were in the relationship in the first place. The reason why we enter relationships is to make ourselves happy. Therefore, that's why your romantic partner entered the relationship as well.
Since nobody can delete the thoughts in your head that create suffering, nobody can make you happy. That means you can't make them happy. Therefore, the relationship is destined to fail if the other person is looking to you to make them happy. How to deal with a broken heart? A broken heart is created by the worsening of your opinion of yourself. The only reason your opinion of yourself would worsen is if you believe they broke up with you because there's something actually wrong with you. You can't make them happy, nobody can. Nothing is wrong with you.
I hope you enjoy this video about how to deal with a break up, and how to deal with a broken heart. - แนวปฏิบัติและการใช้ชีวิต
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It's crazy how quickly someone can turn cold on you for no reason.
Yeah
Heartbreaking
So true
Yup
Yeah and i dont know why he quickly change
You basically stopped me from suicide, so technically saved my life thanks so much ❤️
+Henry Wardell You're welcome Henry
the same
That touched me a lot omg
Hoping for same
Glad you are alive and well :)
Girlfriend dumped me after 4 solid years.. It just happened 2 days ago and i still feel as bad as when it first happened. i had to move out of town so I dont have any of my old friends because of this... I'm 20 years old and I've never felt worse in my life. I have the largest feeling of emptiness throughout my whole body, she meant everything to me. It helps just to know that I'm not alone. For everyone watching this video, I feel every ounce of your pain. I'm just hoping time will heal me before I go under.
I feel u :( i got cheated on . We ve been together for 3 years. It hurts so much because i sincerely never doubt him.
+kidmen123In my case it was 2 years. She left me yesterday. Im feeling exactly how you described it. And yeah, none of us is alone in the feeling. Im just lost..
Just got dumped with my boyfriend for 5 years, 2 days ago. Fuck this feelings!
+Zemmel zem oh man that's horrible. I dont know if I can survive that long.
+Zemmel zem I already did that. But shit happens I accidentally saw a photo of him and his gf kissing today. 😢😢😢
I knew I was going to be dumped but I didn't know it was going to be this hard😓😓
my story is similar to yours
I feel you😢
+Amy francis break ups happen, it's the way it goes. I'm on the verge of losing my girlfriend and if it happens it happens. My advise move on like I'm going to do. I'm watching this video and I'm hearing things I found out the hard way because there was TH-cam when I was a teen. I thought maybe I'd hear something new by watching, but nope it's all the same. I'll just stick to what I know. I'll move on and find somebody knew.
same
Same here.
Same I got dumped today....
When you truly love & value yourself you will never feel lonely again. When you master it you are untouchable!
J Junior well said sir
I agree with this. 💯
How do you do it?
Yea how do you do it when your hearts been stopped all over?
Breakups are a part of life unfortunately, you will feel really hurt and betrayed but eventually those feelings will fade. Take care of yourself, just because someone doesn't want you anymore doesn't mean you are worthless or unimportant, if anything it's a reflection of their own insecurities and flaws, because if they don't care about you anymore their opinion becomes unimportant to you, just care about yourself. That way you will never be let down. Because no matter what you have yourself! Be happy, and do the things that make you happy. Relationships are great yes, but there is so much more to life. Go out there and live! When the right person comes along you will know.
The thing is, this logical way of thinking doesn't help. Right after a breakup the only feeling for the person who really loved the other is pain, apathy and despair. All you can think of is if the one you love will find someone soon, so soon as if they never loved you, that they won't even she'd a tear for you, the worst of all, that they are happy they left you. I don't know if you have ever been left by someone you truly loved, someone you thought you were gonna be with forever. But trust me, logical thinking is not what is I. your mind right then. There is only pain and infinite loneliness.
For some people it takes two months to heal, for some others it takes two years. Maybe more.
+Night Dark I recently broke up with someone that I truly loved. That I saw a future with. It's been six months since he left me. At the beginning I was in agony, for months I was so hurt and confused. I felt betrayed, alone and just downright depressed. I felt like shit. But the thing is I've gone through it. I went through all the stages necessary. I've experienced him dating other people. And I feel like he has truly moved on. He would call me his psycho ex all just because I missed him and wanted to talk to him again. I'm not going to get hurt anymore. But since there is nothing I can do to change his mind and no chance he'll come back to me I've decided it's illogical to sit here and pine for someone who doesn't give a rats ass about me. It's logical to take care of yourself and make sure that you let the other person know with your actions that you've moved on too. With time you can heal a broken heart when you learn that the only person that matters is yourself.
+AniminxieCat I understand right after an intense breakup you will feel very intense feelings you just have to ride it out. The point is that if you focus on other things and focus on yourself the pain will start to subside and eventually you'll realise that the other person left you for a reason. It's not meant to be. And you just learn to deal. It comes naturally I think.
Animinxie how are u doing now? that was a great advice!!!
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My boyfriend broke up with me out of the blue completely. Everyone used to say how happy we were together and it was a genuine shock when he decided to end it. Neither of us cheated, he just said I stopped making him happy. Your video kind of helped... Except that he did make me happy. My parents loved him, my friends loved him and most importantly I love him. It's hard.
The same thing just happened to me. Everyone called us a beautiful couple and said we were perfect and then he said he didn't love me anymore and I still don't understand really
Sadly Im in the same boat 23 years and 4 daughters all blown apart when my wife had a midlife crisis and had 3 affairs .
I can relate to this but from his point of view. I broke up with my ex but she didn't do anything wrong. On paper she was a perfect gf. She was loyal and loved me and I could tell that I was the only guy she wanted and never worried about her cheating even though she went to school two hours away and we would only see each other a couple times a month. Really like the perfect gf, after awhile I just wasn't happy with her and I had to end it. I was always mad at myself for hurting her like I did but I just knew that I couldn't be in a relationship that didn't feel real. Maybe he just needs to work some things out with in himself. Don't wait on it. I know it hurts but I hope everything will
Be okay.
Going threw it hun
I know how you feel. It really hurts physically even. We just gotta stay strong and let time heal the wounds.
Man you are a genius, I have really learned alot from you today. Thank you for being there with great advice when everything seems like a neverending circle of pain.. I think I can break that circle now, I don't really want a relationship, I need to make me happy!
Eiqu Miller You're welcome Eiqu
Eiqu Miller hvad dælen?
She made me happy, I dragged her down, my depression, my anxiety, I'm a terrible person...
Same with my boyfriend..
sorry guys i hope u feel better
same.....
Same ..
Me too :( I still love her so much and I know I can be better but I can't get the chance
Let me say, if your true motive is to be with someone because "they make you happy", you will be the saddest human being. True love is about steping out of the child instinct "love me and take care of me" and became like a parent. It´s about giving, not taking. Thing is, the better you are in your life, health, money, emotional, spiritual, the more you can give.
This man is a god
Sam Dunmire he is the practical god ....
My ex broke up with me because we argued a lot. There were some insecurities on my part though. I've never been in a long term relationship and I didn't think I would feel depressed for this long. I'm getting better but it's hard not being able to talk to your best friend anymore...
+1
same😢😭💔
This is EXACTLY how I feel right now! I went through and am going through the same thing. I have no one.
Try my how to stop thinking about someone video. Good luck
same here! why!?💔💔😭😭
It's true! I had anxieties about him leaving... and he left! The relationship was NOT all good, just fleeting moments of pleasure.
Thanks I really needed this I've been sad for the last 3 days and thank you from the bottom of my heart
king bach You're welcome Bach
+Noah Elkrief Hi Noah, i'm sorry that i'm stealing this thread, but i reeaally need some advice before going under.
My boyfreind broke up with me today after almost a perfect 4 year relationship. His words where that he just don't love me "like that" anymore. I can tell that he wasn't happy, just like you are saying in this video, but here's the thing;
Whenever i looked at him (without him knowing), i feel/did feel that i DO love him. Everything that's him, good or bad. And my thoughts just disappeared while i was just watching him. I just "was" for a second before he noticed me staring and asked me why.
And, he was (well..IS) a huuuuge part in my life. I don't have a good connection with my family. The same with my freinds. For almost 3 years he was almost literally the only person i really hung out with. And without him i feel like n.o.t.h.i.n.g.. I know that i should reconnect with my freinds (and i am doing that in panic), but my identity has become "His girlfreind" (i was a confused 17-year old when we met..and i honestly didn't fall for him right away, instead he has grown to become so much more over time). Although we have a distant relationship since a year back, i always find myself wanting to share everything with him, to show him stuff and to just talk like we always do. And whatever thought that i have is linked to him, because he was the one who showed me that and teached me it. Like a bonus parent, in a weird way. I felt so safe with him....
He is my very best freind in so many ways, and he thinks so too. He really thought long and hard about it, because he is afraid to loose me as his freind.
So, my questions are; What should i think about? Do you have any good advice or other videos that could help me?
What should i do now that the major safety blanket around me has been tucked away and i'm panicing?
Also, what do you think about when someone says that they don't love you anymore, but still does it in a another way "because i love you as my freind and because you make me happy" and so on, is that more of a confusing state of still actually loving me, or is that just HIS safety blanket speaking?
And most importantly; Should i keep being in touch with him (because he gives me alot of advices from his point of view, and i know he really cares), or will that just lead me to other issues, like never being able to heal?
I am so deeply hurt and i could've kept being his forever. I know this is the perfect time to just find myself and grow stronger at my own, but it feels like i have nothing. The only thing i have in my head is his soothing voice that always told me the right thing and calmed down.. But right know it only make me cry and i am so... lost.
If this question is to long to answer on here, i can just email you or something, let me know.
Thank you.
+IfYouMeetAWolf wow . just wow . your story is 100% like mine i need someone to help me cope with it i too feel like nothing those 3 years with her and i will not accept the fact she is gone !!! i just cant i have nothing no one else that i would ever want just only her but she "does not feel the same" How can she say that :( . wow i feel your pain !!! your not alone ! i grew a deep bond with this person . sucks cause you feel all is well and nothing not even the power of hate itself could take you from your lover :/ i need help :(
Dylan TheGreat It's nice to hear that i'm not alone in this... That i'm not the only one who "stupidly enough" let myself fall so hard for him (because that's what it feels like at the moment)... We haven't talked (chatted) with eachother for almost a week now, and i still miss him so much...
3-4 days after he broke up with me he just started to text me saying that he feels so lost, that he can't focus, and all he wanna do right now is to hug me.. And he wrote as in panic that he want me to promise that i'll always be there for him... And i said yes, it was a no-brainer. The day after we talked again, he said he felt so much better after he talked to me... And now he hasn't talked to me in a week... I don't know if i should feel proud that he trusts me and DO need me somehow.. Or if i should let myself feel used.. :(
+IfYouMeetAWolf You're a good person. I wish I could have met someone like you. Take care.
My girl broke up with me and I'll never feel the same again
+Dylanj Williams How are you doing now?
Lord Kham Better
I'm glad :) Remember that change. It will serve you well in life! Have a wonderful life my friend.
Thanks
Same
Are you saying people don't care about making each other happy? I did care about her being happy, I still do even though she doesn't love me anymore.
You may care about her happiness, but you won't be in a relationship with her just to make her happy. It will only be for you. It just makes you happy to make her happy, or you are afraid of feeling sad, worthless, or like you have no purpose if you aren't making someone happy
Okay. Let's agree that I care about her happiness but I care more about my own.
Leon Lind sameeee
Leon Lind same
Leon Lind same
I just use a break up to motivate me to better myself even if it wasn't my fault
S.T.V same here it hurts like hell but I want to focus on bettering myself so I never feel like this again
good peeps
S.T.V that's actually a good way of going about it
S.T.V The best reply ever, that's exactly how I live my life. When she left me it Motivated me so much to better myself and come back 100 times better. if only everyone could do this it would be so much easier 👍🏻
Same here...it's a good way to push yourself forward, care and love yourself more...but never forget to take care of yourself and continue learning and growing even when you find that special someone. For me, I noticed I always let go of myself after I meet that special person which at the end always end up failing...so this was a very good lesson learned
I just went thru a break up. My gf literally just broke up with me. I guess u can't run away from the pain u feel no matter what. U have to feel the pain to move on. I do feel much better after seeing this vid. I really appreciated it. Thanks!
You're welcome Tenzin
Noah Elkrief I want to die
Tenzin Dechen I would of you do the no contract rule on her...!!!, its actually works all the time.. if you feel don't even try to talk to her for a year ...!!! that gonna make her realized that she fuck up.. but right now its best to move on don't put your situation in a bad note....!!! keep yourself busy and always put yourself first...!!! if so also block her from Facebook and Instagram either way how you feel too. just to avoid the issue ...
Thank you, I really needed to hear this. It's been a year since my breakup but it still hurts like it was yesterday.
Sorry
Thank you :)
Sorry to hear that, man. Stay strong and surround yourself with people who care about you. I'm slowly coming to terms with it now. It's been tough and I have days when I keep thinking about her, but I'm sure with time I will move on. The key for me was to get rid of absolutely everything that reminded me of her. Photos, things we bought together. Get rid of all of it and start afresh.
a year! thats too long .. sorry to hear that .. I hope u r okay now ❤
Have honestly been angry, have had insomnia for days and have been questioning things non stop.. after watching this video during early hours of the morning... I can say you helped me sleep and break off alot of the negative thoughts I've had the past month. You are wonderful, and all your videos are absolutely inspiring too. Keep doing what you do!!
ckyrio Thanks for sharing, glad to hear it
Im in the same boat she always told me she believed i was bipolar no since she wants space i have been having horrible insomnia we made a beautiful son and i cared for her son too so it feels like triple heartbreaks... Nice video live the job opening line lol
I've been going through a heart-wrenching breakup over the past two weeks and today I was lucky to stumble upon this channel. Thanks, Noah Elkrief. I'm going to watch your 'How to Deal with a Break Up' playlist every day until I get over it. I have hope that I can be happy again but it's tough when someone you love woke up one day and realised they've been gradually losing feelings for you and that they don't love you anymore. I can't be mad at them because they've always been fair and honest with me and our relationship was a great one where neither of us mistreated the other. The break up happened when I was still madly in love and happy with the relationship, so it was a big shock to hear that they didn't want to be with me anymore.... I'm still learning to accept and understand the whole situation.
Going through the same situation and time frame. She was also a great person to me and would never hurt me but over time she began losing that love she had for me and I couldn't help but blame myself as if I did something wrong. I didn't want the relationship to end, but I couldn't do anything about it anymore. Anyways, remember your not alone and like the video said, find what makes you happy and believe in your heart that you will be able to overcome this:) we both will. Stay strong!
your situation is exactly like mine
how are you dealing with your situation, I've just been crying. please help
I was in a long distance relationship with someone for 8 years... 8 years i knew this guy. He was my best friend, my soul mate, my everything... and now thats all gone, every little memory we created, all our love for each other, everything. He just said goodbye to me forever... blocked my number and never will speak to me again.... i dont think ive ever hurt this much in my life. Somehow I can still hold back my tears?? idk, although this just happened less than 24 hours ago i feel like i was ran over by a fucking bus, and it sucks. Badly. i need advice, or just something that will help...
was the break up a blindside?
Mashoto Shaku we had been getting into previous mini-fights before... nothing big, I wouldn't have thought any of them would've led to him breaking up with me. so yeah, never saw it coming.
+Morgan Mccarrey sounds to me like he got scared because of something. If the relationship is as you say, you know with the soul mate connection, then he could have gotten some kind of anxiety. anxiety and fear in a relationship triggers fight or flight responses and I have seen many people act out because of this. I am not at all saying it's your fault and it is likely the way he thought about things that caused him to clammer up and "escape"
Mashoto Shaku you're probably right... its just extremely hard to have lost someone youve loved for that long you know. Its kind of surreal almost. I mean its only been three days and its already hard enough, I dont know what it will be like in a few weeks or months.
+Morgan Mccarrey I know exactly what you mean. From experience working on yourself is probably the best thing you can do. What makes you happy? If money was no object what would you do with your life? It may be hard to think clearly right now, but finding the answers to these over time will give you true happiness and maybe get you in a state to trust another human again.
I'm not hurt by a relationship ending, I'm mad at myself for wasting time fighting, sacrificing, compromising putting my life on hold to ensure I give them what they require to make them happy. after watching this I've learnt my lesson and truth be told Noah you're the man. awesome advice buddy.
I have read countless books, been to seminars, read articles about why I stayed with a mean person. Thinking that it was me who didn't measure up and analysing what could have happened. And I gotta say, this video brought me so much enlightenment and peace. Thank you!!!
Thank you man, this is just what i needed i just ended a 7 year relationship because my ex gf just couldn't control her anger she was always making me feel misserable and constantly fight me about anything when i finally confront her she told me that her anger comes from her frustration about not having what she wanted the way she wanted, and that confirm my beliefs about the relationship, "She will never accept me as i am and she always will be angry at me because i'm not the way she likes", she still saying that she loves me but she hurt me a lot with her anger she never give me the peace i was looking for but i was thinking that maybe i was wrong but now i know that i did the right thing just Thank you from the bottom of my heart men you save my life.
Thank you so much!!! You just helped me. My boyfriend of two years just broke up with me (he had also cheated on me previously). I was blaming myself and thinking of all the things I should have done differently. You saved me from crying myself to sleep again tonight.
NCGirl9ify You're very welcome. That's great to hear
This is so true now to work on me n enjoying all the other things in life that makes me happy. Time to let go those bad thoughts of the past n the anxiety of not wanting to be alone in the future. Time for real vacations, meditating, me time, candle lit bubble baths with strawberries, genuine fun & positive family outings
& time to start eating again, looking myself in the mirror n loving who i see. Time to stop feeling sorry for myself & unworthy.
I am amazing & I love ME!😍😘👏👏👏👏
I swear I have never talked this way before in my life don't know what took me so long☺ but everything happens when it should☺
I know I'll get through this. I just don't want too. We had life together. We tried to have kids. I wish she would just give it another shot. She is happy with another man, and I'm happy for her. I don't want her to be, but I want her to live a happy life with or without me. That's hard for me to say. She was my first true actual love. The first girl I tried to get pregnant. The first girl I shared bills with. It hurts, but I have to love myself and my life too and respect her.
good man
How are you now brother ?
Love this guy always makes me feel better when I can't sleep!
Chloe Minaya :)
He said he doesn't love me :(. We broke up. I know being single and happy. Is better than being with someone who makes you feel unloved or unworthy. But it hurts to know someone you spent nearly a year with give up on you.
We didn't have major fight.
I'm not contacting him, trying not to dwell on it. But I feel a tinge of sadness when I think of him & he isn't there.
Time will make me feel better. I know. Looking forward to when I can feel great.
+Mia a same here
+Mia a same
same
Definitely how I feel
Totally same exp. 😭
I feel like he drained my world of all colors, ripped my heart out and took the pieces with him.. I'm so sad and broken
I feel ya....) :
dont worry. i swear things WILL get better for you!! i promise.
I have a corgi too ❤️
if door close always remember theres a window will open.
I cried almost all day I couldn't stop crying... 😢
I also..... I cry everyday and night.... my two year gf let me go.... grief
almost two month. still I am in grief... my heart is broken. I am valueless. I suffer it......
Stop idealizing your ex partner. Make a list of his/her flaws and of the problems of your relationship. You might not find any at the beginning, but trust me, there are more than you think. My beloved boyfriend broke up with me 11 days ago. I did not expect it at all, it all seemed to be perfect between us. I still feel anxiety, I cry everyday and I miss him. But I've talked with my family and a friend of mine, I've analysed the situation, I've thought about our relationship and I realized it was not so perfect. My boyfriend wasn't perfect, nor he was for me. Make a list of all the problems, it will help you cope with your grieving and heal your broken heart.
Remember, you existed before you began your relationship and you exist now. Your body works, you are a whole. Do what you like, don't ever think you're valueless because it is not true. Make another list of your qualities and of the things you're grateful for. You are a whole, you are unique, and you'll be your companion forever, so love yourself, surround yourself with positive people, relax, meditate or do some sports. Try to consider this break up as an opportunity to grow, to become more self-confident and strong and independent. I know it's terribly hard, and it will take time, but think of yourself, of your goals and try to reach them. Take care, good luck.
by the time I know everything she done. she was with me, but starts to cheat, I know her boyfriend. I do not find the reason why she love that man. I do not find the answer... every day I am with many questions I dont solve. uufffff....
There are many questions we can't solve. Stop asking you why she did what she did. You probably won't ever know the answer. I understand, however, since I keep asking myself why he left me, how it happened and so on. But we have to try to let go. It has happened, and unfortunately it hurts like hell, but we will recover and this can be an opportunity for us to grow and to be who we want to be. Good luck, you're not alone, I in this moment am getting anxiety over the thought of my ex boyfriend and am starting to cry. It just hurts so bad but we have to let go and keep on living our lives, which can be beautiful and more beautiful than it was with our ex partners.
Very uplifting thanks. I just watched this after the first break up I've ever had, its a different kind of pain to any other I've experienced but I'm sure it'll make me a better person. Respect and all the best to those going through this
Wow, I just found your videos and can't stop watching. I'm currently going through a divorce from a marriage of 7 years. Your videos have helped so much in just 24 hours. It's amazing to me that I never considered or discovered the things you've said. I only wish more people could open their minds to discover these things, the world would be a very different placd. Thank you Noah, please continue to share your insights!
Sadly going through this now. Gf of 2 years left me. She was always telling me how much she loved me, wanted a future with me...and then broke up with me. Did not see this coming at all, and now she is moving up north with her family. She had fairly severe mental issues ( bullumia, depression, anxiety) and I knew she hated herself. She is young, 22 and I am 28. Just didn't expect it and in this way. Fucking sucks.
Jeffrey Palmer We have the exact same story as of today, I feel for ya man
same just happened to me man, it was not 2 years though it was only 9 months. BUT exactly the same, talking about how much she loved me, and wanted a future but without a warning it was over. One day to the next. It sucks, I hope you're doing better.
Same my dude.
Looks like we are all in the same boat
Yeah I feel you man. You can't love someone who hasn't yet truly learned how to love themselves. I knew this yet I thought I was the exception, I tried to teach her to herself like I do. It all makes sense now.
I watched this video and the feeling In my stomach changed. It went from a stomach ache to being hungry. Guess it's because I haven't eaten in a while. But now I can. It was very helpful and a different way of looking at things.
So i had a realationship with a girl 2days ago. We were 4 years together. We were happy and she went to vacation. So i said to her you know, look out for yourself etc. She replied of course. Then everything happened. She lives next to her bestfriends house. She was constantly with him there. I didnt say anythinh because i didnt want to hurt her. And then she became cold to me. I said to her, hey i trust but i dont trust your bestfriend. Then she said dont worry. At the end of her vacation i wanted to talk to her. I said ,hey our relation is going bad its maybe because i miss you. Then suddenly she said " i really needed this vacation but now i see everybody as a friend" i asked her me 2? She replied yes. So we broke up because everythinh went to worse. she asked that i could still hang out i replied no that will only hurt me. And now 2days later she has a relationship with her bestfriend... And i am sitting here thinking that the 4 years we were together was a waste of time.
so sorry to hear that !hows now going ?did you get over ?
I just discovered your channel and I actually ordered one of your books off of Amazon. I've listened to a lot of advice concerning relationships but deep down I know what you speak of is the truth. Thank you for helping me and many others feel better.
This video completely changed the way I think! A paradigm shift at it's finest! Thank you Noah.. You have sincerely helped me to not only heal myself but also increase my overall understanding and awareness.
Thank you for this video Noah. Very clear and helpful message. Keep doing them.
Beto Ruiz You're welcome Beto
ive been watching your videos for a few months now and you've helped me out so so so much better than any doctor ive visited. thanks so much you have given me my life back! I owe you so much!!!
Lauren whitworth I'm really glad to hear that Lauren. Thanks for sharing. And you're very welcome.
this is THE MOST helpful video I've ever seen in this topic. thank you so much!!
Thank you sir. You have just pulled me out of misery. You are a real lifesaver. Once again, thank you a million!
your voice would be the best for guided meditations.. so soothing in my opinion.
Hey there Noah Elkrief,
This has just opened up my mind to a whole lot of ways to help get over an awful breakup, thank you
+Brendon MacKenzie You're welcome Brandon
Brother😭😭😭 You just saved my life... And I love you for that mate.
this man know what's up. Thanks man.
this is really what I needed.May God bless you!
+Papa Ousseynou Diagne Glad it helped Papa
I am blown away. Seriously almost have no words for this video other than THANK YOU so so much! Been trying to hard to hide the pain or ignore it. To get advice from others but with just this video & literally felt like a calm blanket with placed over my entire body. I know I will have some sad thoughts but at least ill know they arent true.
thank you again
wea have you been all my life, im so thankfull to you truly. i have spent countless nights crying because i was allways treated like a door matt simply because i allowed people to do so without even knowing it, and as im typing having tears in my eyes because im going through the same thing again, but thanx to your words. you have awoken the inner me and put a smile back on my face
Holy shit. THANK YOU. I have been in so much pain and this is a new perspective. Also, I love your demeanor, it shows compassion. Namaste
Drop That Knowledge Noah!
I'm such an over thinker and this video answered all my questions. Thank you so much. I'm glad I found this channel. Sub!!!
krystylec You're welcome Krystylec
I was in a relationship with this beautiful girl for over a year, and then last night she leaves me. She claims it was because she just didn't feel it anymore. She wasted no time letting everyone know she was single. It was very heartbreaking. I don't know how I will escape this.
You have no clue how much this helps. Thank You.
This is my life right now:
1.Crush broke up with his boyfriend.
2.We started dating
3.He broke up with me
4.He went back together with his ex 😭
I never thought I'd be here...
Makes sense, nicely put, I just realized that even in my broken heart despair, I’m happy deep down inside 😃 and always have been and that is recomforting to of found out!
Self love is the ultimate answer. Thanks for the video, you have made me feel better by making me look through the fog.
Thank you so much this really help! 😀
Bf dumped me two weeks ago. We see each other all the week bc we study in same classroom. He said he didn't loved me anymore and it was like that for a while, so I felt he lied when I was with him making him happy, laugh, always caring for him and maybe he looked at me like I was stupid? He then told me yesterday if we can be friends and go to watch a movie and I really want to go but he wants to be JUST friends. He is over me for what, a week? I hate him, I'm just crying everyday when no one sees. Is so hard for me, I can't do this anymore. 😢
And here I am.. 4 months after a breakup watching this video again but not for me.. for a friend. Thank you so much Noah, when I discovered this I was more broken and defeated than ever and this video gave me so much perspective. Live is beautiful.
Noah..you are the best.Whenever i am down,i just browse through your videos and i feel peacefull.Thank you.
After 7 years... I find out my boyfriend is dating someone else.. she isnt the first.. nor would she be the last.. but she was the last that I would have to deal with.. currently on day two or healing.. its hard.. I feel sick.. almost a decade for nothing.. all for some girl to come in and reap the fruits and benefits of everything we struggled for together.. No I wasnt perfect.. But i provided loyalty.. and love.. ego boosting... Never once would I hurt him the way he has hurt me..I choose peace and single.. over suffering in a relationship
My head feels like it's gonna burst. I feel like crap.
Words cannot describe how devastate I am about how and why my relationship ended. I feel like I have nowhere else to go... Trapped in pain and hunting memories. But this video broke down those walls. Now I can take my steps forward into happiness. And I thank you. So much.
Been feeling pretty down about my recent break up (sad face) watched sad movies, listen to sad music deactivated my social media accounts etc.....Been crying nonstop just feeling low until now! After watching this video it breaks down y my relationship ended.I feel relieved , and thankful that i found this video. IM READY TO STOP FEELING SORRY FOR MYSELF n focus on my own happiness. everything happens for a reason im so thankful for your video, your advice and support.God bless you Noah
I behaved like an ass way more then once, that is why my girl broke up with me
Me too bro
That of course is ok. When in a relationship in the future you will have lol graduated into knowing how to GROVEL!
Investigate why you acted the way you did, and address that emotion so it doesn't show up again in the next relationship
I have my all to her and she still crushed me😞 ouch
This is the definition of the truth....the thoughts are the war in ones head, not the other person, I can see that. Thank you for the insightful advice
wow this gave me a whole new perspective on relationships
My girlfriend broke up with me yesterday morning and it crushed me. She was my first, she had a great personality like me and loved me and I loved her. But she came up to to me and said to me that she wasn't ready to continue our relationship and didn't really know me all that well which is respectable. The thing is she still loves me and I still love her, why can't this work? Can you please give me your thoughts Noah it would be appreciated or anyone who is in the comments, Thanks
I am in the same boat. I guess the question is what does love for each other matter if you have no love for yourselves?
Thats what im sayin
Sargie29 My first girlfriend just broke up with me too. we really did love each other. but then she said that i had too many flaws anc caused her too much stress. And when she broke up with me she treated me like shit. And it hurt me. Because she had no respect for me. At all. And i really loved her and its gonna be hard to get over her.
Declan Lacey Im sorry to hear that man, its gonna be pretty hard for me to get over my ex too. Im gonna try and see if i get her back but if i cant then im gonna have to move on some how
Sargie29 I'm just like you. This girl I had loved broke up with me this afternoon. She wasn't ready for a relationship and she said it wasn't my fault. Me and her got complications in life. She was my first kiss. But I'm happy and understand with the decision she made. I'll still love her though, she never made me lonely. But yeah time to move on.
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This is truly amazing... Thank you for opening my eyes.
This is the best advice out of any video on this. Excellent.
I wish I could get over this break up soon...I really need support and help
hey me too wanna chat?
Same fam 99%are prob boys
Try my other break up videos and loneliness videos as well if this didn't help
A breakup was the best thing that ever happened to me. Of course it hurt terribly for a while, but then I decided to see it as an incredible opportunity. When I made that choice, my life became better than it ever has! Great video!
Travis Barton :)
Travis Barton how long did it take for you to get out of the pain ?
omg this video is an eye opener........every human being should watch this video........i will hopefully delete all the negative thoughts after dis........thank you so much.......keep up with the good work.......god bless you
From the bottom of my heart thank you. You helped to lift the fog.
My girlfriend broke up with me... I have been sad for a while.
what to do when the video that helps everyone doesn't help me
Watch it again
thank you so much. i don't know if you actually read your comments but, I have spent years struggling with depression and anxiety, feeling lonely. thinking that, if iam in a relationship, that will make me happy. I now realize i have to be happy with myself first, then maybe one day i can find someone to share this adventure with me that we call life. Ive been through my share of break ups and recently went through another, and feeling that there has to be something else to this. Im tired of the deep sadness it brings each time. I came across your videos and they have helped me so much. Even years of friends and family doing there best, trying to help me, they could not put into words what you have. What you have said flipped a switch in my mind and a whole new way to look at life. It will take a little time for me too get use to this new train of thought, but I already feel so much better. You have obviously put a lot of time into your work, but id like to say thank you, and you have changed at least one mans life for the better.
Thank you so much for this video........I literally watched it after I found out stuff and nobody was here for me..truly thank you
I'm here cus I just got dumped by a girl I dated for 2 years, it's painful 😜
Same here two year and we split yesterday it's horrible
same here...3 days ago
same here, 2 hours ago. 2 year relationship done just like that.
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Good luck man...
The reason why My girlfriend broke up with me is . she found another person , i was crying myself to sleep almost every night . Pls i need help .
+FrostyPancakeHD Feeling hopeless is one the worst places a human can be. We are sentient beings, meant to enjoy the fullness of life and its amazingness however when we loose perspective it can be very torturous. Do these things every night before you go to bed and when you wake up and sometime in the middle of the day. Write out a list of your positive traits, i.e. your a good listener, physically attractive, etc. Then write a list of 10 things you are thankful for, it doesn't matter how mundane it may seem. Idk what brand of spirituality you practice I have found prayer and meditation to be very helpful. I will think good thoughts and prayers for you!
Just stfu
+tbone martinez thanks :)
+Spicie Keuso why don't you mind your own business
+Spicie Keuso why don't u show me how to , since you're so goddamn smart telling people to shuddup
you have no idea how much this helped. thank you so much
Wow. Thank you. I'm not very old I'm in high school and I just had gotten out of a really rough relationship. This video made me realize, I wasn't happy in the relationship I was distracted by it. It sound dumb but you may have saved my life...I was going through the thoughts of I'm useless I'm not good enough to I could've done better but I all actuality. No one could have done better. Thank you again you are a real inspiration and please keep doing what you do! The world needs people like you!
My girlfriend dumped my this Valentine's Day. She has so many guy friends and I still have feelings for her and I don't want anyone to take her and it's like I'm more jealous now AFTER we broke up and I can't fucking do this it gets harder and harder everyday to see her at school and help
I've been crying for 2 days straight because my boyfriend broke up with me because he doesn't have time for a girl friend, we been dating almost a year and he has work and college and his mom but he broke up with me, I loved him a lot I guess but he wanted me to wait a year but I think we will both move on, it hurts
NellyBell good luck nellybell
I'm in the same situation as you. He left me a few days ago and iv been crying ever since. He says he just has a lot going on and doesn't have room for me. Today we are supposed to meet up to give each others stuff back...
Hannah Elshaw im sorry, im so so sorry. i coudnt even touch his stuff, we got back together because i realized all the extra stress i was putting on him and we worked it out, i am the worst at break up im the crazy stalker ex, not too crazy i cut them all out and hurt them because im not really an person im open about and caring and loving so it hurts really bad
im glad that you two worked it all out. thats really good! my ex and i are still separated. he said he didnt want to talk to me again. i saw him at the store the other day and the second i saw his face, i started crying. i cannot even look at him or hear his voice without breaking down and it sucks because he wont even text me back. i am the complete opposite lol i always want to talk about how im feeling and he would rather just ignore it.
Hannah Elshaw cry it out, just talk to people who understand, and that is the only thing i can say
Wow! Deep and thoughtful. Why have I spent the last two years feeling crap, what a waste. Wish I knew about you before. Thank you
My boyfriend broke up with me the day before his birthday, we'd been together for almost two years and were very happy just being in each other's company, he broke up with me while walking down the hall to my next class without giving me a reason. I asked him the day after why he broke up with me and he literally said that he was tired of other people asking if we were together, I told him that he could've told me that and at this point most people wouldn't ask at this point, he said he "didn't want to hurt my feelings" apologized and walked away. I did cut the first two days, I had given him my whole heart and I regret doing so. But I feel a lot better now, so thank you!
Is it normal if the pain gets worse overtime?
I hear you... I guess we're obsessing, clinging which is arguing w/ reality (they're gone) and that's what triggers suffering, not letting go.
Im getting worse too, its been 3 weeks and at first it hurt but i started to feel better now the past few days i feel so much pain all over again cant stop crying etc. Almost like day one all over again
I been there it takes time, focus on ur self and move on !
If you are blaming yourself or think it is bad to be alone, it can get worse. You have to discover there is nothing wrong with you and she couldn't make you happy
I'm scared my girlfriend is about to break up with me
JKing100 U a bitch for that
Excellent video Noah. You have truly given me some insight that I have been searching for. Thank you so much. My eyes are filled with tears and my heart feels less heavy than it did before I watched this video. I will be watching over and over again. Thank you so much.
Man My head is spinning now !!! you are AMAZING !
I am glad it didn't last very long so I won't suffer so long 🤔
April Jackson Same
April Jackson me too
I'm 14 and This girl I freaking LOVE broke up with me. I can't fucking sleep I always think someone is going to take her and never I can't have another chance with her. I feel terrible I never felt this feeling my whole life I need help OMG I can't fucking do this
+Barack Beach Same here... Everything you say i thought to say !!! :( :(
+Barack Beach same here but my ex broke up with me just for someone new.. she's gone with all the promises that she made haha im so fvckin crazy bout this, ive been crying for 5 days straight, i lost my appetite.. just like JB's song "that should be me" You said you needed a little time for my mistakes, its funny how you use that time to have me replaced.. haha poor me huh?
so bro, dont ever think bout someone is going to take her,anymore. You still have ur chance, just prove that you love her.
Me too!
arell edythia Thanks!
+Barack Beach i feel ya bro! ;( same situation here
Noah you changed my entire life. Thank u very much!
Wow. Blew my mind. Truest shit ever. Wasnt my relationship that was bad, was her insecurities that ruined it. And nobody will make her happy until she gets over her insecurities. Makes me feel 10x better. Thank you Noah.