How To Deal With Loneliness - Never Feel Lonely Again!
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 23 ม.ค. 2015
- Bestselling author, Noah Elkrief, describes how to deal with loneliness in a way that will show you how to never feel lonely.
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Would you like to know how to deal with loneliness? This video will show you exactly how.
Noah Elkrief
This video is about how to deal with loneliness, and how to stop feeling lonely. If you would like to know how to cope with loneliness, you first have to understand what is causing your loneliness. In any moment that you are dealing with loneliness, what is going on in that moment? The only thing happening is thoughts telling stories about how much better life would be if you had a friend or lover. When you are distracted from those thoughts, there is no loneliness. Loneliness is not created by being alone. If it was, then every person would always feel lonely when they are alone.
In order to understand how to stop feeling lonely, you have to really understand what causes loneliness. The answer for, how to deal with loneliness, is to discover that being with others (friends or lovers) can't make you happy because it can't get rid of the thoughts in your head. When you see that being with others can't make you happy, then that means this moment isn't insufficient in any way. That eliminates the loneliness and sense of lack. - แนวปฏิบัติและการใช้ชีวิต
Does anyone else feel that if you were born in a different generation, or different part of the Earth you'd be happier and have more excitement in life?
Edit 3 years later 2020! Since making this comment I have learned that you have to make the best of ANY situation you’re in, we are here for a reason. So find a higher purpose and you’ll never be lonely
Yes, but... it's not gonna happen I think ._.
I feel like I don't belong here and i have a desire to be somewhere else ,free ,but Ik it's impossible which liipsnright back to being lonely,......i just want to be saved and no one quite understands that....i just want to be saved,yet idk who I am
all the time
i feel you but you think life is hard on you ? i live in Africa yet i'm able to make myself happy whenever i want regardless of the conditions :) its all in your head as Noah said
yes I have felt exactly that way
the fact that 1,200 people liked this video makes me feel a little less lonely and more connected with you guys.
same here, we should all message each other :)
skyalicejessi you lonely too?
+Vic Vinegar o my god yes. unemployment sucks. what about u??? where are u??
skyalicejessi I'm in psychology graduate school and I have a hard time dating because I have a few social difficulties and ADHD. Where are you from? I'm from St. Louis
+Vic Vinegar oic, I gave up on dating, I feel like I'll b single forever!
It's hard bc in school you see everyone having fun and being happy while you stand aside its rlly hard
Monika Baric i know the feeling. When i see people like that i get a pit in my heart and then i feel like crying
Mhmm
90 more years.
I know, even though i do have friends I just still feel so lonely even with them
RubyRosella yeah I’m usually strong hearted but it’s just that last time I get and insulted or excluded, a girl stopped talking to me cuz her BFF wasn’t interested with talking to me
the comment section made me feel like i have 2000 friends. thank you, i hope you all find happiness soon.
Yes
I get jealous when people say they went to eat/movies with a group of friends bc I wish I was too. Or at least find one true friend where we match. I'm not looking for a lover. But I do thank you for the video bc a big part has to do with the negative thoughts about myself :(
Same....I get really upset and jelouse.....
@@zo3651 why be jealous? You can make some friends. Just get out there and don't give up. Look at all of these people on here (me too!). I'm gonna do what he's saying over thanksgiving (while I'm alone) and be happy dang it. But being jealous is just another bad feeling that they have what you can't and it's not true. We just need to edit our habits.
@@JuniperTreeee tysm❤
Respect yourself enough to walk away from anything that no longer serves you, grows you, or makes you happy;)...And never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option.
J Junior very well said!!!
so true brother. i can totally relate. but there is illogical feeling which constantly have urge to talk to her even though she treat me as an option.
Wow is like you knew how i was feeling. 😵
Thank you so much for affirming this thought to me at just the right time
@@abhaysinghrajpurohit2641 that's because you don't value yourself as much as you should yet. Once you recognize that you and your time is valuable, you're not going to just allow the same people to continuously hurt you. You will remove them out of your life because you deserve pure happiness. Even though you think having them in your life is what make you happy, they don't deserve to be apart of your life if they don't see your worth. THEY ARE TOXIC FOR YOU!
I wish parents were this compassionate.
same
BenisseC M F:Yes, but they are mostly wounded adult children themselves. myrelationship with my Mother improved, as I dare to calmly say what I felt: I hate you when you spew gall like that". I was fearful to have said that, hate being a taboo feeling for me. To my delight and surprise, I heard her calm, honest accepting reply from the other rooom: Yes, I understand that" . We sadly rarely meet, but can talk on the phone. And you?
look up narcisstic parents
Claudia Bothner That's great :)
Same here
why do these type of kind hearted people which I can see in comment session never met me in real life 😥
Bad luck I think but don't worry I have the same luck
mood..it's not fair..then again what is..this all sucks to shit (sorry fro my language) honestly i probably am broken.
Yash Pednekar you haven’t met anyone in real life only because it can be dangerous
I know right
Exactly
When you have this feeling like you've lost everything, here's what you'll always have :
- Books
- Kindness from strangers
- Languages to learn
- Music
- Animals to pet
- Voluntary work
- Good nights of sleep
- Season changes
- Endless new things to learn
- Thousands of people to meet and love
- Thousands of people who'll love you back.
+Lou Anna well music does help...not so sure about the other points...also cant have pets have to go to college....so cant leave them alone....
gursimar singh Focus on the positive, you have much more than you think you have. it might not seem like it but everything gets better at some point... Every little thing's gonna be alright, Bob Marley said it
Lou Anna well I do try my best.... Thanks for the kind words BTW...
+Nightcore Plague I actually really like reading but for some reason the idea of reading while feeling like that just makes it sound more depressing.
+Nightcore Plague I actually really like reading but for some reason the idea of reading while feeling like that just makes it sound more depressing.
I have really struggled with loneliness ever since primary school, and as I got to my early 20's its got so bad, because I don't have friends or a partner, its really effected my life and I've bee to counselling so many times and spoken to people and Its just got to a point I felt so tortured inside because no one understands, but this video is literally how my mind works, FINALLY someone understands, and it gave me a reality check and literally changed my life. thank you so much from the bottom of my heart.
Samia Rockson You're welcome Samia, thanks for sharing with me. Glad it helped
same no joke this stuff is deep I lost my dog to fleas my grandma cancer and all my old friends had to move😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😞😞😞😞😞
+Dominic C I'm sorry
same but it's nothing with school
I also feel bad 4 u
It's hard being single when everyone has someone one but you
Right single 6 years and my 2 friends have gfs and I'm the single one it sucks.
Single for 10 years here
Laura Cortez Hang in there, kiddo. Better days are coming.
Trust me when I say finding a significant other isn’t going to solve everything. It’s even worse when you’re in a relationship and still feel lonely
Just because others have hooked up doesn’t mean that they’re happy. There’s nothing worse than being lonely in a relationship.
I am incredibly proud of everyone in the comment section just for being brave and vulnerable. It’s a beautiful thing to see humanity in this light. I’m struggling to let go of so much pain from being in abusive relationships, friends that just ask to borrow money, my family not being healthy and me knowing the best thing to do is be alone but its hard and makes me sad. I cant stop trying though I’m just hoping one day I can be happy and at peace.
I am as well in childhood trauma, I have to look into my family of narcissistic an learn the ways because they are Hod children I had no contact with them for almost 3 years my mom sick an my sister has stage 4 cancer ! I look at it today even when you sick we refuse let Satan go! It was the perfect pic to see to day not fall into the trap of Satan not to go back where I was with them but keep focus on me an stand tall though lonely times ! I had recycle now I left home shelter a year ago got car apt an realize after losing my job I did it all wrong! I carried old habits with me that I did not realize was habit but to late I ate out of loneliness a lot sugar to take it away! Not sure where is I go but not back to family to dedrain myself but to find more self love an love them but never putting any one before myself! Sister got cancer stage 4 but still smokes an drinks I know pain she going though we both molelasted by our step father I know because my walk with Christ she still does not want remember I will say! I love her will be by her side but I come first ! Keep your head high we going make it
I just want to say to all the people who feel the same, I give you a huge hug. You are not broken ♥ I've always felt lonely... it's really horrible esp when you have depression and anxiety.
But I promise you're not alone, you're not 'pathetic' and it's not your fault to be feeling this way.
You are not alive to only feel like you're loved by a lot of people. You are the only one you have, so start by feeling comfortable with yourself and you'll start building more relationships as time passes. good luck
too bad it's too late for some of us. I don't even know what's wrong with me but I can never accept any invites of anybody being my friend sense I am so use to not having anybody who cares or wants to be around me. For example when me and some other people were camping (NJROTC camping) I went on a bible study with a couple people and everyone was crying which I didn't get because they have friends who care and share feelings while I was their still feeling lonely. Everyone was hugging each other and I was just sitting alone. The only person who hugged me was the kid who gave the bible study. And he has friends. I don't get what is wrong with me. My people I know with so many friends are sad and I SEE Them freaking talking to THEIR FRIENDS who can help them. I had to take on everything in my own mind because I have nobody.
how did i get invited by friends? the kid who started the bible study made an announcement. nobody came to me and said hey you want to go. I went by my self. next time don't assume things that are not true. Also you have friends so please shut up you don't know what you are talking about.
"You say nobody cares yet get invited by friends?"
you plain out said I had friends. so yea you did. so yeah you do have no idea what you are talking about you spoiled jerk. try not to be so condescending.
your dp pic makes me happy
Thank you for that message. I've become so alone the last 2 years and today my parents left on a 9 day trip. I've been feeling so so so depressed since learning they'd be leaving. it's gotten so bad, I'm taking my dog to their vacation house (hopefully) this weekend only for 1 day! 3 hour drive down and 3 hour drive back just so I can be around people. But I am willing to do that so I am not alone for 9 days straight. Just sucks we have 2 dogs and the one is to old to come so I'd need to drop him at the dog sitter but haven't heard back from her yet. Hopefully I can get down to the vacation house this weekend, I really need people around me :( :(
I came here from typing "lonely" because yeah I AM lonely. I've been struggling with it since I was a kid. I do have several friends but most of them changed because they have found new friends which are more likely to give happiness more than I do. It's not that they forget about me but still, they made progress in their life while I'm still stuck in the same spot. I feel like I am left behind. I think that's what makes me lonely. It's so painful even more because nobody can understand this feeling. But after seeing this video (actually reading the comments) I feel better and not to miserable. I know I just have to try more. It's hard but I hope one day I can be successful. Anyway thanks :):):)
+pink thunder thankyouu, so glad that someone can finally understand me (: but sorry I only have this youtube channel
I am crying cuz I'm lonely I'm at my mom's boyfriends house and for some reason I feel lonly... I don't have my pets with me nor a TV :( I'm still crying cuz I'm so lonely
+pink thunder yeah.. Now that I've found a person with the same situation as me, I do feel stronger:) We can do it! Feel free to talk to me here when you have any problem:)
+mlp lover 3000 Aww what happened? Go talk to me here if you want, I hope that way I can help you to at least feeling better:) I'm sorry for the late reply:(
My girlfriend died and I know I'll be really lonley. I have no friends and now that she's gone.. I even thought of killing myself 😢 I don't know what to do with life
You don"t know what what loneliness is. It's very real. I was married for 30 years when my partner suddenly left the marriage. I been alone for 8 years now. Have no family or friends. The loneliness I feel everyday. Loneliness is very overwhelming.
I hope you are doing better. Time heals.
Sorry but a lot people feel this way including me
I’m sorry to hear about that. Hope things are doing even a little better now
Oh brother how I can relate. I was married for 31 years and then I came home and everything was gone. The guy came to my door after I realized everything was empty and was given divorce papers. My ex moved out of state with my children and my children now refused to talk to me. There was no abuse in the marriage I had a job for the entire marriage, was always faithful, my wife did not have to work and if she did work the money was hers. All that time effort and devotion, and nothing to show for it. Hang in there brother.
@@SabbathSOG if you are surviving such history you are an inspiration to me
I have friends but I'm alone most the time and I feel like that's what gets me. I feel like no one would blink if I died tomorrow, no one would visit me if I was in a coma. I feel like everyone would forget me or never recognize me. I also realized that I don't love anything or anyone and I want Someone to Chang that.....
I'm almost 20 and I'm struggling
Lost I feel the same exact way! if I died tonight no one would blink!
The way out of loneliness is a difficult one. It is like a trap, or a group of traps. You must first find what it is that you need from others (companionship, conversation, care, etc.) and then seek out how to go and fetch it. You must first, however, realie, that it is not because of who you are. It is much more complicated than that.
the same :(
Lost me too, dont worry all I say to my self is that people are having worse than me right now and I try to keep going throught life even tho I am sad down the majority of the time but trust me there is always something good in the end so get rid of the thoughts and do what makes you happy even if you do it alone, I sit in the toilets at school and listen to music and draw or do rubiks cubes that makes me happy even though I am alone at school just be ur self and ignore hate and thoughts do your favourite things and do it alone theres nothing wrong with that or you. hope this helped u a bit
I dont know what my problem is im just tired of living
same bro
I feel you
i think i should tell u this when i watched an anime, this sentence was really meaning to me “even when times get dark and painful, people should feel lucky to be alive at all"
i'm not gonna give advices but i just wanna show u another look of people's lives and how meaningful they are so dont just think about negative things :)))) let's try to think about joyful others :))
Little Girl s
Charles: MAybe tired of living your old life+ what about changing it and you, exploring a new level? i feel similar, and have understood it's not tiredness of life itself, but of the life I have LED and tired of not being connected with myself snd my life.
not having people around you makes you feel like you're unworthy of being loved. feeling loved makes you happy.
Yep......really man you know I learned something truly valuable a few days ago I went out with my sister and one of her friends you know what fucking kills me dude ? People don't hate me her friend cool didn't have a problem with me I could easily be friends with her but I fucking hate myself I take every good thing anyone says or does and twist it to use it to fucking hate myself more I'm fucking done I am sick of being a lonely fuck with no friends who sits around hating himself while they will never know it they just on that one few hours of hanging out taught me something I can make friends people don't fucking hate me I hate me and I put myself down night after night thinking no one would give a fuck if I shot myself. I'm done being a selfish self hating lazy fuck I can do whatever anyone else can fucking do. Well shit now I owe a debt to her for making me realize my self worth I will repay that one day. After all we all go through fucked up times and need a hand right ? You have a good fucking night cause after I stop man crying like a bitch I sure as jack shit will! It's a new fucking day. One new debt one new idea. This is going to be a good fucking night
Le Lo but are you loving yourself?
Zeinab Sharqi hell yea I love my lonely ass
Le Lo me
+Fractured Dawn Mann... I've learnt a lot from reading that, God bless u.
I feel tortured by my presence
wow, thats very poetic
Don't be hard on urself dear
i do to because ive hurt others
Same
Literally how I feel
I’m just wasting so much of the prime of my life because I can’t make any real connections with the people around me.
I feel this
You have a hypnotic calmness in your voice, expressions, body language... I don't know whether its temporary or permanent BUT I am feeling better after watching this video... and for that THANK YOU! ........
I'm mentally incapable of being happy while alone. I absolutely believe life isn't worth much to me if it isn't spent with good company.
me too
Money Man I feel the exact same
Tamera Lewis
I always end up lonely, all of my friends find someone better to be with and I just notice they will never come back again and I dont know why if I am a good and kind person who has so much love to give why do they leave or replace me with someone else.Am I not enough for them?If that is the case i dont know what they want me to be.
Diana Villanueva Guerrero im going through the same thing. My self esteem is extremely low because I feel like its me. Lonliness is not fun allll the time.
I feel very lonely too. I've locked myself up in a room for almost a week untill today I finally found the courage to go out for a walk in the city. One of the first things I noticed was there were others sitting alone on benches, terraces, etc... It made me feel a little bit less lonely and more at ease with myself in less then 30 minutes. The sun was shining, so that felt good too. I kept walking and tried to force myself to smile at other people, make eye contact, or just say hello to someone. But I couldn't do it because I have so much social anxiety and low self esteem and I couldnt look at other people's eyes for over a second. Plus most of them just avoided eye contact. But then something weird happened. All of a sudden, out of all those people walking around in this shopping street, this older women which I had never even seen coming, stops me dead in my tracks in front of me and she says 'hello'. So I'm like, euh... yeah? hello...and I smile at her. She smiles back at me and walks away and that was that. Then this wave of pure happiness came over me. Somehow that 2-3 second event completely made my day. Out of all those people out there this women picked me out to say 'hello' to. It's hard to describe what I felt next, but it almost felt like God does exist, and he saw how I was struggling with my loneliness and he sent her my way to acknowledge me.
your not alone man, i get it in fact most people watching this vid are here for the same reasons has you and i
I'm not lonely but I feel lonely and I feel like nobody cares
Thank u so much... I spent almost 15 yrs of my life being alone... The fact that I started living with the loneliness and I even enjoyed that.... But when she came to my life I felt like I can live a life with someone and I cant be alone anymore and now when she has left me. its very difficult for me to concentrate on everything and I am feeling like I cant live a life alone any more. But thanks to U that U have just showed me the way to live again and I dont need anyone to be happy... Seems like I m born to be alone..... I just have to accept it again that I can be happy even without having a love interest in my life.... Thank u so much... I am feeling better now....
Jason Otto j
swagat dash Shit, looks like someone wrote by me, it's the same I always feel since she left me
Your situation is a lot like mine. swagat. I feel much better now that I have seen this video.
Noah Elkrief. Your rational thinking is simple, precious and unique. Most of us look far away while they can't see what is in between their legs. Honestly ur videos worth billions of dollars.
Yeah man! Ideas worth money nowadays.
Mow Modern haha thanks, glad you liked the video
Skip to 15:50 for anyone that needs help and cant sit through all the blah blah and wants to know what his solution is, I grew very impatient watching this video waiting for the answer
Thank you, savior ☺️☺️
I don‘t know how many times i‘ve watched this video... whenever I feel lonely I watch this video and then feel better and when the loneliness comes back I watch it again
Almost started crying when listening to this... This calm and friendly voice and that friendly caring face saying words of wisdom... thank you for this video, thank you from the bottom of my heart.
his voice feels healing and calming...so steady and assuring.
This is one of the best videos I think I’ve ever watched in my whole entire life. The immediate relief of sadness is indescribable. I just woke up and not feeling great at all just laying here silently with tears heavily flowing out of my eyes down my face and all over my pillow. I really am not up for today. No one’s knows because I NEVER ever talk about it I’m busy making sure I’m a positive person at all times. I’m sort of relieved now. I will watch this every morning …and while I’m My daily walk. I’m about to go head on my walk . I’m going to go head on my walk now. Thank you. I hope everyone here Finds peace . We ALL deserve it and will be at peace one day. ❤️
I think I'm depressed,and all I wAnt in life is freedom(not suicide) I want to go on long walks outside maybe at evening or go expire because it makes me happy but I can't,then I get pushed back to being lonely and depressed I'm stuck in an endless cycle and all I want to do is be saved......i have been fighting for years and I'm still trying,it's hard...i just want be saved
explore*
keep trying. and keep trying something new. never give up
nobody-nothing can save you, you are the only one who can save yourself
Never give up
Try your best!! We are the same and i'm trying my best to get a better life so let's try with me. i believe oneday all of us (people the same with us) could find out our appropriated way and dont have to bear these hateful feelings. Let's try together. Never give up!!!
(sorry if u dont understand, my english is bad :((( but anyways we gonna try try & tryyy 💪💪😉😉
In my view, this is the most insightful and helpful video anywhere on TH-cam. I purchased Noah's book and it resonates personally with how I think -- or overthink things, especially in the area of loneliness. I now spend part of every day reading Noah's writings and watching his videos. He is a gentle genius who knows exactly what to say to help you.
Noah - Your videos have opened up my mind in a way that no therapy or medication ever has. I'm blown away at how powerful and effective what you are saying has been for me. Thank you so much!
When I went to 6th grade I felt loneliness because my friends would always do stuff without me and I would find out from social media.i would just stay at home crying my eyes out.I'm still doing this to this day.😰😭
It doesn't help that I'm an only child too.It's just me and my mom
Indiyah Sidhartha that happens to me a lot. I know how it feels and it feels like you aren't good enough for those people, but just talk to them and tell them you feel left out and that you want to be included more.
For me I don't have real friends
Not lonely anymore since watching your videos Noah.
All i want is to have a lot of quality people around me all the time. There is so much potential for me in life which never ends up happening and coming through due to things i can't control. The thing is the reason i have no real friends or anyone to hang out with is because of external problems like other people themselves creating problems that don't allow for fun, happy and good things to happen to me. If it was my fault, i would know. I am literally finding anything i can blame myself for by being open minded and logical. Which i can't cause to it makes no sense to and doesn't add up in my situations. I see all these people that do bad in life and they get everything they want and things that i can only imagine of getting. While i try to be the best version of me and get bullshit handed to me when its not my fault. Life is unfair, it feels like im born to loose..
i struggle with same thing
My story too. Blessings to you.
Wow you are opening my eyes THANK YOU
SAundra Wesley You're welcome Saundra
Noah Elkrief I know this is an old video. Does this mean you do not need to socialize? or do we need it also
We don't NEED it, is the point. It doesn't mean we shouldn't or can't its just training you to accept yourself, accept that thoughts aren't physical and stop believing them. When you stop believing the negative thoughts in your head, you become more relax and peaceful which can help in many aspects of your life including socializing. You won't put so much importance on the opinions others have of you.
Noah is BRILLIANT! Clarification is effective! All I can say is, “Thank you for helping me in such a significant way!”
everyone yearns to have someone to share their life with them. I feel moments are incomplete because I have no one share them with, it's an unfulfilled moment.
Thank you for your calm explanations. Your voice is very soothing. You are truely helping this world. Ofcourse I watch most of your videos. I aim to remember your words and to be this helpful towards my kids.
74 videos in a nutshell: Don't believe your thoughts.
Amazing how many of us do.
I hope you're being sarcastic. I found your comment really funny. :)
Muhammad Adil It's the simple truth, isn't that funny right? We all have different perspectives but at the end of the day it's only a thought.
I thought you to be sarcastic when you said 74 videos in a nutshell. You just summarized the entire channel in 4 words. That is funny to me.
Shibo
You have these thoughts for a reason
You need to have sex reproduce and have children so your genes can survive
I am a "loner." I enjoy solitude. I recently decided that anxiety (fear) about certain situations was boring me to death. (It's like a friend who continually tells the same story.)
You have helped me immensely, young man. Thank you.
my husband left, I am now disabled with an inoperable tumor in my brain, and left to raise my son, my only child, by myself while I try to live with my parents whom I really despise but try to hide that every day. But this morning I didn't burn the house down so that's good. "those who wait on the Lord will renew their strength" - #hisnameisYehoVAH
anita, you are brave and awesome. thanks for sharing what you are going through. i hope you feel better i will pray for you.
I`ve been alone for 3 years. I'm 26 now. Up until recently I would have someone to talk to, and occationaly do stuff with, but most of my time I was alone.
Now however, I for some reason took a job as a night guard in a remote place. Had no other options. And I've never been this lonely. I've been social outside of work only 1 time, and some guy took me to a concert for the night. It wasn't that social cause it was overcrowded and I was standing in one place just listening to music.
Other than that I only speak cassualy (not work related) with 1 or two guys who work as a guard during the weekends when our bars are open until 02am. But that's only about 1 hour combined on friday and saturday. Rest of the time I'm on my own.
I'm getting depressed, and I realy realy need someone to talk to. For a moment I met a nice girl on-line and we could talk about anything, eventualy sending eachother pictures of ourselves and showing interest in one another. However, after she quit her job as a bartender to pursue her dreams, she hasn't been able to stay up for as long, so the ammount we talk now is bare minimum, and the conversations has gone from "oh my god I want to meet you" - to show lack of interest and just empty talks most of the time.
That's sad, cause when we were talking I forgot all about my lonelyness. Now that we don't get to talk as much, it's all coming back.
Just getting someone to talk to on a regular basis makes a world of difference for me, so I've been looking through the internet hoping to find someone like her again (we are as mentioned still talking though), but the internet is full of trolls.
Therefore I was thinking that the people who can relate, are looking up videos like this. So. Anyone want to talk with me?
Oh my god, How coincidence between you and me. I also happen in this way. Now I am overcoming this lonliness.
I'd give you a big hug if I could, Noah. First you calmed me when I was feeling extreme anxiety about a new job, and now you've helped me understand the feeling of loneliness that I've had for the past 13 years, since graduating high school. Thank you so much.
Just want to come in here and say after watching the video I felt like he was speaking directly to me because I have always dealt with negative thoughts about myself. 2020 has been one hell of a year for us all. For me personally my wife decided to separate after 16 years of being together we were high school sweethearts and for the first time in my life at 33 I'm having to navigate life without a partner. It is videos like this that give me hope! To everyone out there I want to say you may be alone such as I but we are not alone in this struggle of life, May we find peace and happiness!
How are you doing now Jeremy? I hope you’re recovering. X
@@wardygrub Well it’s been five months since the separation and I still have my days but I am healing. One thing that is helping me is doing things for myself like eating much better and exercising. Getting out of the house and staying busy. Even though 2020 knock me down I’m optimistic about the future. Thank you stranger for asking. Hope you have a good day!
@@jgilbert29803 hey, glad to hear you are being kind to yourself. At 33 you are still very young so, get better and get back into dating. You are a good soul, I can tell and you deserve to be cherished. Keep going buddy. X
i love how u make me feel. thank you so much for existing
I'm glad I found this video again.... Ty
I am so damaged that when someone treats me nice. I dont know what to do. I love this video. One in a kind
I was recently diagnosed with perniosis and my girlfriend left me. I dont have any real friends and im extremely depressed, i wake up everyday with my hands and feet turning purple and it is very painful. But i would overcome the pain to just type in Noah Elkrief because truthfully these videos are SO helpful, and they make me feel alot better about myself. thank you noah your such a great person.
If your reading this. You are loved. You are of value.
May god bless you
God Bless you Noah, thank you so much for posting this video. I cried hard in the beginning because everything you said was so true and so relatable to how I feel. I never thought of it that way that friends can't make you happy, it's all from thoughts, it's so true. I'll be sure to watch your other videos as well, you seem like a very knowledgeable person thank you.
This was a beautiful reminder to love myself. Your voice is also so calming and friendly. Thank you, I needed this right now. :)
This video really helped me to understand what my problem is. Thank you so much
Thank you. You have no idea how much I needed this.
Noah, you have a great message and a compassionate delivery. Great food for thought. Wished I could afford your sessions. Keep up your positive contribution!
your words are so conforting...
This was really uplifting and just what I needed to hear right now! Thank you for this wonderful video
To the end of the video I started to cry.. from feeling happy ant that I’m not alone.. Huge thanks for this video!
Noah your all logics have power that make me so lighted and happy. You are genuine presenter. I love you!
simply thanks for being so postive and sharing it with others
***** You're welcome jechero
I don't have friends, man. I don't know, but the people look at me and simply create an antipathy. It's something like a preconception against me. Even when I smile. This make me so bad
+Cadu Andrade i usually dont care about the people who judge others without even knowing them....try avoiding them or ask them whats wrong...anyway you are the best judge of your life.....
+Cadu Andrade
Could it be you judge yourself too hard and assume that is what they think?
Most people are actually very friendly, but also deal with their stuff.
My experience is that I had a similar way of seeing the world when I was younger
One of the smartest approaches to loneliness, thank you for sharing...
I feel every year so lonely and sad on the new year when you supposed to celebrate with friends...
Noah, you really nailed it in this video.
Thank you for sharing!
When you become ill and you are alone, it is pretty scary though, so they can make you feel more secure. I've been pretty sick this last week and it is very hard when there is no one to help you.
I wish I could be a child again
seriously
Rewatching a lot of your old videos and they are really helping me once again. Thank you for your journey and sharing the things that you have discovered along the way.
This video almost made me cry. It hit so many things I've never been able to explain to people. I feel a weird sense of relief I haven't had before with this way of thinking.
I reached the point of going to TH-cam for the answers
Really good , powerful n great messages!! Thx 1000 times
I love you for this. U said everything I needed to hear
His voice is so calming...
wow this was on point
Yeahhh
All your videos have helped me tremendously
Such a powerful and helpful video! ❤️ Thank you. That's basically what I've been talking about on my therapy, that it's not the situation that makes me feel a certain way, it's the thoughts I have and my reaction to them.
I had a hard time today, forgot about everything I've learned, but you helped me to remember and notice how much I still have to learn! 💜
Simple and comforting. It feels like a loving dad is talking to me
I have a lot of friends and a supportive family, but i don’t have someone I can call just to talk or to hang out with or do homework with. I feel like the loneliest person in the world.
It was so inspirative session.Thank you so much sir.feeing positive. So much relief also. God Bless 😍
love your videos and voice...so calm and kind...thank you
I really love this video! I know the power of thoughts already, but still i learn a lot from this. Thank you Noah!
Im lonely because im a truck driver and ive always had this deep desire to travel and i think about that constantly. Im married. We cant have kids. She controls all the money. I cant even buy a new toothbrush without begging for my own money. I feel like we grow more distant everyday. I use to wake up and go to bed with a text message from my wife. But now i hardly ever hear from her. My family never calls me so much so that i dont even have half of them in my phone contacts. Im a quadruplet. I lived in the same room as my 3 brothers until i was 18. We were close. As close as twins who finish each others sentences. But I became a truck driver to explore america. But all ive really ever wanted to do is grab a backpack a few small things necessary to survival and backpack across america become a true explorer of everything life has to offer But society says no! You must work! Live in a house! Raise a family! Your crazy to offer such notions. My wife thinks im crazy to. Is it so wrong that the idea of being a traveler taking odd jobs meeting new people learning their life stories discovering new things and Living off nothing is all i think about? Is there anyone like me? Am i all alone in this? Am i the only one that thinks when something bad happens and you overcome it that that is the best kind of memory? That to truly appreciate the world you must know what having nothing feels like? To travel see beautiful scenery up close and personal is to immerse yourself in the spirit of Gods green earth? To learn everything about a complete stranger on the sidewalk understand how they think, feel what they feel, see the world from their eyes is to know life? Everyone ive ever told this to thinks im insane. And maybe i am. But there has to be one person who feels how i feel. Thanks for letting me get that out internet.
Garrett Oneal Traveling is beautiful. The first time I thought about other places was answering the phone at work. I heard a song in the background of the caller’s office. I realized ‘There are people far away listening to the same songs I do.’ I didn’t think I could ever travel. My boyfriend was strict. I don’t know how to drive. Then one day, I got on the Amtrak and went to Texas to visit Lakewood Church. I hope your truck driving brings you joy. I was in a big rig once. It was a great thing...one of my very happy moments. I never tell myself I’m lonely. I tell myself I’m bored. So I go do something fun😊 May the Good Lord bless you and your family 🙏
Garrett Oneal this is a year later since you posted! I hope you got to go on great adventures, journeys and a new chapters in your life! Wish I could do all that t
If i could have this guy talk me trough situations on a everyday basis, i would be so happy with my self
This was the best video I have seen in a very long time, thank you so much!
You're helping a lot of people think correctly and maybe saving lives. Thank You!
Sorry Noah, I usually agree with most of the points you make in your videos but when it comes to loneliness I believe it stems from something other than thoughts. We are social creatures, we're meant to interact with one another. It's like telling someone who is in love and trying to get over someone by saying "Your love is a thought" when it's not. It's a primal instinct to be part of the pack. Also to reference the "You don't feel lonely all the time" point, well I'm sure people going through breakups don't miss their partner 24/7, they'll be distracted by something but it doesn't mean that they don't love them anymore. It's just a distraction.
What I'm saying is loneliness is a feeling not caused by thoughts. My mind can be totally vacant, I know I don't need someone to be happy and that this moment is fine despite the fact I'm alone but I have this inner need to connect with someone.
Definitely felt like this video could have been more in depth
I agree with you somewhat. It's hard to ignore loneliness when your body also craves attention from another whether that is physical/sexual or social. The problem with your statement is that, yes, we humans need to socialize and interact every now and then to satisfy horniness or boredom; however, you could find sex or friendship in anyone on the planet whenever you want. The issue is you don't want just anyone to sleep with or become friends with, you want a specific person with specific traits both physical and personality. Your thoughts are telling you that you need to be friends with someone who also has the same interests in Star Wars and football, not the guy who likes Indian Jones and Redsox. Yes, you desire sex as an instinct, but your mind (ego) is telling you to sleep with the blonde girl with big boobs, not the bookworm. Loneliness stems from your ego, or the lack of being able to satisfy your ego. You feel so much shame that you feel like there is something wrong with you when you aren't able to make the ego happy through societal standards, which you then isolate yourself until you can find ways to satisfy the ego again or, at least, get away from triggers that upset it. Loneliness is mental, because you can connect with anyone on the planet, you just want to connect with certain people who may reject you, because they too have egos to "satisfy".
Dude i agree with you...but what he says its real. If we dont think we dont need anyone in order to feel lonely, then we are not going to feel lonely. But if you are 100% sure that you need friends and a wife to be happy, you need to focus on that and put all your effort in it.your probably going to fail like everyone else, but life is hard and will beat you till you fell to your knees, after that you have to choose whether you give up or you just keep trying to achieve your goals.
I agree on you and I even am diabetic more feelings going around my situation is exactly what you described
We are put on this earth by ourselves and we will die by ourselves, God put us on earth alone so we are born with the tools to be happy so he is right we should be able to be happy by ourselves
Despite having a loving partner, I still feel very much alone. I cried throughout this whole video. I am even more alone now that I am in a relationship, I worry if he is cheating on me, I am more body conscious, I have self esteem issues. It's not his fault, it's mine. Insecurity and jealously rule my life
Try to talk to him about it, even if you think he won't understand. You'll be surprised how caring and deep some people can be when you need them to.
Hello Sir,
Your amazing thoughts came as silver lining for me when I really needed it the most. I am thankful from the bottom of my heart.
I really appreciate this guy. Thanks Noah
I don't want to die alone. I mean, it is good if you stop torturing yourself with thoughts, but living all the time alone is just sad. At least for me.
Sebastián Muñoz one could have a mate yet feel the loneliest person in the world. That's sad!
Noemi+ If that is the case you are with the wrong person beside ; when we talk about a "companion" is not just anybody that happens to be just our "mate", but that person has to be "compatible" with you, You both has to have "chemistry", for if there is not, you are better without that mate , and therefore still feel "lonely"
When we are with the right person (and notice I didn't say "perfect person") things get a lot easier and both will enjoy deeply each other company.
Man this message was right on time...I love the internet. You didn't mention god, nor did you mention the myth of everyone having these so call friends we can depend on.
Thank you Noah for your arc that is saving the earth's inhabitants that are drowning in a sea of lonely feelings.
Thank you so much Noah, this is exactly what i needed to hear :)
But I feel like I don't feel bad sometimes because I'm simply distracting myself from the fact that I'm alone.
Whenever my brother goes out with his friends, I get sad because I realize that I want that. I'm tired of distracting myself constantly to avoid the truth.
You say "some moments" you don't feel alone, that's true but that's really like for an hour or two every week.
I often cry myself to sleep because I realize that I don't have friends and that I can't connect with other people.
Does anybody else feel like this?
yes I'm in the same boat with you, since you already realize you don't have friends, why don't you make some? starting with me....I'm your friend....,
I'm taking depression medicine since 2007 and still struggling, but some lessons of my life I have learned just cuz of depression....so I don't use the word depression anymore
I call it teacher
And please don't think crying is a bad thing, if you do think it is...
I often cries and it feels good cuz crying is like removing all negative thoughts with tears
hi b
Javier Aguilar oh trust me, your not the only one. Same story here, the wanting for a friend Is major.
im in the same situation but I am a only child and my parents don't talk to me and everyone at my school thinks that im retarded I don't know what to do
loneliness is miserable. im lonely most of the time. no friends, no spouse. no human contact -my answer is " i want my girlfriend back" that wont ever happen. i want option 3... friends, romantic partner and no loneliness. right now, i feel lonely all the time. i cant distract myself from these thoughts
+Canna Sayit i feel exactly the same as you.Fucked up feeling :/
same now my resting face is ( o o )
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+Dominic C sorry tablet glitched out
Plays Cool shit, same
This video is very helpful thanks so much
It is amazing what happens when you hear the right words at the right time. I have only just found this video but it was enlightening and exactly what i needed to gain a new perspective. Thankyou Noah.
Your words,the presentation , so soothing they are...
When I’m in class a girl always cries everybody goes up to her but when I’m upset nobody comes up to me as I think there my friend, I feel lonely
Same here.There is this one girl everyone gets along with and everyone cares about then there's me.When it was my birthday,no one gave a shit.Some even moked a girl singing happy burthday to me.In her birthday,everyone in the dressing room sang happy birthday,EVERYONE.When i cried,only one person cared.When she cried,everyone was so worried about her and got up in a crowd.I just want as many people to care for me like they do for her...
Ever since i moved back to the US I was feeling lonely and missing my friends from Spain, but the thing is that i felt lonely back in Spain even when i had friends and i thought that moving to the US was gonna help, turns out that i keep having the same thought wherever i am, and i'm really a person that is insecure and rely happiness on being with people and when that doesn't help i feel lonely and depressed, i really don't know what to do because nothing makes me happy, but seeing this video made me see things differently, and i will try to apply it to the real life
this helped me remove my misinterpretation of reality and so remove my loneliness, thank you for making this video!
This video disected a lot of what i've feel but couldn't put into words. Great video. Thanks. The comments are so helpful too.