Finally Forgive Yourself - The Missing Link

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  • เผยแพร่เมื่อ 26 เม.ย. 2022
  • Have you been trying to forgive yourself, but nothing seems to work? This video will guide you through a powerful exercise to lighten your guilt, shame, & self-blame... so that you can finally forgive yourself.
    If you found this video helpful, but you would like more support, then I would like to invite you to join my online course, "Forgive Yourself To Love Yourself".
    I welcome you to click this link to learn more:
    noahelkrief.com/forgive-yours...
    Do you want to forgive yourself and be kinder towards yourself? Have you already tried many tactics to forgive yourself, but made little progress? One common reason why this happens is because there is a part of us that subtly wants to hold onto the guilt and shame. As long as a part of your wants to keep your shame, then you can't forgive yourself. This video guides you through an exercise to discover what beliefs are blocking you to forgive yourself.
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  • @NoahElkrief
    @NoahElkrief  2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Hi! If you would like more support to lose your guilt, lighten your shame, or soften your inner-harshness towards yourself, I invite you to click the link below to learn more about my course, Forgive Yourself To Love Yourself:
    noahelkrief.com/forgive-yourself-to-love-yourself/

    • @djok5194
      @djok5194 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      ❤️ thank you 😊

  • @nostrilcake
    @nostrilcake 2 ปีที่แล้ว +23

    Thank you for existing.

    • @NoahElkrief
      @NoahElkrief  2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      :) You're welcome Teo

  • @tbichl
    @tbichl 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Thanks, it’s always so calming just listening to you.

  • @MegaJamesno1
    @MegaJamesno1 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Thanks noah... best person on here👌 so greatfull for your genuine videos that help people across the planet.
    J from Ireland🇮🇪

    • @NoahElkrief
      @NoahElkrief  2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      :) You're welcome James

  • @shanehall98
    @shanehall98 2 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    I felt guilty when I threw out my sentimental teddy bear. I remember feeling depressed and guilty for months almost like I betrayed it. I think it sounds a bit silly but it was almost like losing a person or at least a pet.

    • @NoahElkrief
      @NoahElkrief  2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      I hear you Shane.

    • @Elvis-qw8fq
      @Elvis-qw8fq 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      what a very loving, sincere person, that wants to help us

  • @coomartist
    @coomartist 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    This video was a big piece of the healing puzzle for me Noah, thank you for releasing this video!

    • @NoahElkrief
      @NoahElkrief  2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      So great to hear that :) You're welcome!

  • @jobunny919
    @jobunny919 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Omg you are so right. Subconsciously, we are groomed to think if you don’t feel guilt or shame, you’re a bad person.

    • @NoahElkrief
      @NoahElkrief  2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Yeah, so many destructive subconscious beliefs :(

  • @cruisepaige
    @cruisepaige 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I didn’t realize I needed to do this, Noah, but TH-cam knew.

    • @NoahElkrief
      @NoahElkrief  2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      haha. Glad you ended up here

  • @acavmusic
    @acavmusic ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you Mr.Noah. The best part is you reply all of the comments individually. 😊

  • @jobunny919
    @jobunny919 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Dang your voice is like a Xanax. Love it

  • @davidmahle1221
    @davidmahle1221 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I have a very hostile inner critic. On the outside most people like me :-) so I admittedly cried listening as I never occurred to me to reframe my inner critic to a cheerleader or support person! Noah, thank you so much. David

    • @NoahElkrief
      @NoahElkrief  2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      You're very welcome David!

  • @quynhhoa6618
    @quynhhoa6618 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    This makes sense a lot. I can relate to everything you said in this video. Thank you so much

    • @NoahElkrief
      @NoahElkrief  2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Glad it helped you Quynh

  • @andrzejmaranda3699
    @andrzejmaranda3699 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Noah Elkrief: TANK YOU SOOO MUCH for GIVING ME this MISSING LINK!

  • @ms.voicer3214
    @ms.voicer3214 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    This is awesome. Thank you. I need this

  • @Bricklinsv1970
    @Bricklinsv1970 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    So true! Spot on! Saved this to my favorites for that one day.

    • @NoahElkrief
      @NoahElkrief  2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Let me know how it goes when the time comes.

    • @Bricklinsv1970
      @Bricklinsv1970 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@NoahElkrief I will and thank you. You are doing great work my friend!

  • @tanya8940
    @tanya8940 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you Noah, great as always 🙂

    • @NoahElkrief
      @NoahElkrief  2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      You're welcome Tanya :)

  • @fp-ko7vg
    @fp-ko7vg 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thanks so much!!

  • @sharroncocker401
    @sharroncocker401 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thankyou so much your amazing this has helped me today

  • @jenvoss1800
    @jenvoss1800 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Your videos are very helpful to me and I tune in regularly. This one fits especially well. I have had such a even mean inner voice, that I even gave her a mean name at first! After following through your exercise tho, I felt it actually soften just like you said it could! I've given that voice a nicer name now - that feels like healing. Many thanks and blessings. 💖

    • @jenvoss1800
      @jenvoss1800 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      I wanted to add that I think what you had actually said was that I could first begin to soften my own feelings toward the inner voice, by understanding things about it such as it's effort to provide me with safety. I'll be using this video more - more thanks, j

  • @ilhamabubaker3985
    @ilhamabubaker3985 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thanks!

  • @djok5194
    @djok5194 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Wow! I didn't realize how incredibly mean this voice in my head was, until i wrote it down, as you instructed. 'BOB...even told me, daily, i was better off dead.
    'I' have told myself that if i can't be PERFECT, and pain-free, I should die.
    Don't worry, Noah, I'm not in any way suicidal 👍, just shockingly harsh. In fact many things i told myself, in this list, came as a surprise. It's truly amazing what comes out when you write it down.
    It will probably not surprise you, then, that i live with Chronic migraines and Rheumatoid arthritis, and then some....
    Many thanx for this insight, Noah 💕

    • @NoahElkrief
      @NoahElkrief  2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I hear you. I'm sorry you've had to live with that harsh voice. Those types of voices are much more common than you may realize. I hope this exercise can help to soften that voice a bit.

  • @luisa1045
    @luisa1045 ปีที่แล้ว

    amazing video, thank you.Your energy is beautiful.

  • @darkmana1000
    @darkmana1000 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    It basically sounds like all resistance comes down to 2 categories - Our happiness (If this doesn't happen I'll be unhappy) and our morals (If this doesn't happen others will be hurt or I will have acted badly).

    • @NoahElkrief
      @NoahElkrief  2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I don't know. I don't like to limit possibilities, because then I'm cutting out potential other categories to arise. For me, it's mostly about pain, safety, and love.

  • @justohayes
    @justohayes 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I went on a small small rampage yesterday. I got angry at someone and I probably hurt them but today is a new day and I think I can let it go eventually. Thanks for the help.

    • @NoahElkrief
      @NoahElkrief  2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I hear you Justin. I hope you can let it go, and learn from it, so it becomes less likely you'll do it again in the future.

    • @justohayes
      @justohayes 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      It's kind of cool how the creative universe gives you the teacher when you are ready.

  • @vidainvestor
    @vidainvestor 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thanks you so much it help , I need it to understand that actually those harsh inside comments are trying to help , the agreement 🤝 is compassion with myself understanding I did the better I could , I can not safe or change no one only myself

  • @mohamadhasanbaninajar463
    @mohamadhasanbaninajar463 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Hi , i will do what you said and then i will share the result here , thank you for your nice statements and help🌹

    • @NoahElkrief
      @NoahElkrief  2 ปีที่แล้ว

      You're welcome Mohamad. Sounds good.

  • @pattybaselines
    @pattybaselines ปีที่แล้ว

    Bro you are like the second coming of Jesus…thank you so much for what you do

  • @surakshaguragain5538
    @surakshaguragain5538 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Waiting for more videos ❤

  • @risingphoenixx66
    @risingphoenixx66 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Just wanted to say that you look extremely good, more healthy, hope you,re doing fine

  • @lokistorm5531
    @lokistorm5531 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thanks Noah. You are so Handsome. Love you

  • @net_lag
    @net_lag 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Hi Noah! I'm unemployed for almost 10 years of my life. Naturally I 'know' I wasted all those time. Somehow the only harsh voice is in myself (not my parents or other) Covid was definitely one factor why i find it comforting to stay unemployed. I don't know why I'm typing this, I haven't figured out my future. I used to be a musician but I don't have the money anymore to even buy/upgrade my instruments. The only safe option is write stories but that seems like another huge task. I hope i become something eventually.

    • @NoahElkrief
      @NoahElkrief  2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I hear you.

    • @jeanlundi2141
      @jeanlundi2141 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Don't feel bad bro. I haven't worked for years myself. Your value doesn't come from having a job. And remember we work to benefit OURSELVES. If there is no benefit to something, obviously we won't want to do it. For me it's because I'm too sensitive and empathic to hang out in 99% of work envionrments. I even tried starting a coaching business on my own...but the motivation wained very quickly....like I was going againsg the flowç. The truth is I have so much energetic content to process....my sensitive body/mind can''t deal with too much in the 3d at this point. Please don't feel shame. It's ok not to work. Let's normalize it, because it's the socially internalized judgement that causes most conflicnts around this. Take care :)

    • @net_lag
      @net_lag 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@jeanlundi2141 thank you so much for I needed to hear that. Hopefully we are maybe doing the world a favour by not pushing ourselves to mindlessly blend in. But I do believe we must find a resolve still and I guess it'll come in any form, we just have to keep our eyes open.
      Like I read a comment in another video where this guy just took daycare job and his life was fulfilling as ever.

    • @jeanlundi2141
      @jeanlundi2141 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@net_lag The resolve is simple and does NOT come in the future. I'm not a believer in "divine timing", I think it's bs. Reality reflects the relation between the energy in you are emitting and the collective.
      So, if you are going to have money at some point down the line....you are going to have to change your relationship to it in SOME way. Rememeber, there are people out there that never worked a day in their lives that have money. Working and having money are not the same thing. Every advice I could have for you around money has to do with giving yourself leeway BEYOND the way people normally do this area of their lives. Think outside the box. Using my example - i KNOW I can manifest money. I just have resisted it....why? Because at some level I don't believe in the system we have...it creates unfariness.
      You may also not have mopey. And it's possible....what's the block? The collective. It's like living to 140 years. It's totally possible and relatively easy...but the inertia of OTHER people believing is hard WILL affect you. That's why it's always easier to fit in. Problem is....your soul won't allow you to fit in, because energetically you are differente. It's a bit of a catch 22......which is why we have issues around many things :)
      I can tell you the FUTURE in terms of evoluton for us is realizing money is not the only form of abundance and DETACHING the value of thigns from moeny, and allowing our behaviour and practices to adjust accordingly.
      I kinda always wanted to participatte in that....but let me be blunt - I think we won't be ready for a few decades still.....so for all intents an purposes.....you are going to run an uphilll battle resisiting money.
      You should like your blocks are different. Like you can only think of it coming througha job. Have you ever tried manifesting money? What were your blocks?

    • @net_lag
      @net_lag 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@jeanlundi2141 wow.. I'm lost for words. You've nailed it. I too feel the same about money. However it was never about making money it was about finding my place in society. I did work for about 9 months as a programmer, thinking I would like it but that experience left me traumatized, and then conveniently covid came and now I can't even bother to make a resume even.
      Anyways thanks again, i need to reread your words of wisdom several times bcz my English is not very strong even though my goal among many others is to write.

  • @Laura-xz9ev
    @Laura-xz9ev 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Hello! I'm from Italy...could you make a video about how to stop COMPARING with other people, please? I've been suffering for a long time. Thanks in advance!

  • @johnnicolaspron6506
    @johnnicolaspron6506 ปีที่แล้ว

    I can't finish your video. I think I'm not ready to totally forgive myself.

  • @AlekThunder47
    @AlekThunder47 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Oddly enough, it was easier to forgive myself than it is to forgive everything else. I had times when people or outside world were very much harsh, so now my protection mechanisms keep me from interacting with either. And I don't think there's any way to guarantee that people or world in general will treat you well.
    I feel stuck. I'm working through it, but so far any changes are little and few.

    • @AlekThunder47
      @AlekThunder47 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Your videos are very helpful though.

    • @NoahElkrief
      @NoahElkrief  2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I hear you Alek. My experience is that the more kind I am to myself, the more that the people around me happen to treat me kind.

  • @jackieroslak1313
    @jackieroslak1313 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Hi Noah: Would you please do a video on the questions you need to ask yourself if you should leave a relationship. Thank you.

    • @NoahElkrief
      @NoahElkrief  2 ปีที่แล้ว

      I don't think I will do one specifically on relationships for the time being, but I can make one for how to make difficult decisions from intuition. That would help.

    • @jackieroslak1313
      @jackieroslak1313 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@NoahElkrief thank you!

  • @silvanaramirez7011
    @silvanaramirez7011 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you for the advice.
    I think a better mic, a better room to record and maybe some music, could make your video more...homely, more inviting.

    • @NoahElkrief
      @NoahElkrief  2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      You're welcome Silvana. Message received :)

    • @trishp1449
      @trishp1449 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I would find music disconcerting in Noah's videos. The sound of his voice is comforting enough and music eo2uld distract me. Even soft..

  • @TheKingOfTheClouds
    @TheKingOfTheClouds 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Hi Noah! Do you see much value on using breath work maybe other similar physical exercises combined with techniques like these for enhancing results? Thanks for this

    • @NoahElkrief
      @NoahElkrief  2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Hi Jordan, from my perspective, there is so much stuck/buried emotional energy in the body that is blocking both our happiness and health. The type of work I share on my channel is limited to what you can become consciously aware of. There are many forms of bodywork out there that can be amazing at releasing stuck/buried emotional energy that is so deeply unconscious you have no idea it's there. Breathwork can be helpful as can many other forms. I have been incredibly helped by bodyworkers over the last 8 years, and I highly recommend bodywork to all who ask (and some who don't :)).

  • @mohamadhasanbaninajar463
    @mohamadhasanbaninajar463 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Hi again . I did those exercises .now i have a question . If its possible plz answer it . My problem is this : i have inner anger and it's been with me for along time . I tried lots of ways to fix it but i couldn't . When i'm talking to people my anger reveals and causes me to act so bad toward others . My relationships are getting worse . Plz tell me what can i do for that 💔

    • @NoahElkrief
      @NoahElkrief  2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Hi Mohamad, maybe my videos about anger and acting mean might help you.

  • @dldlx5386
    @dldlx5386 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Read Quran and you will know the truth of life.

  • @venividiscripsi
    @venividiscripsi 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    it did really help; i didn’t expect that to happen, to be honest. now i’m not sure if it would last, but i’m so grateful to see a change finally in my attitude towards all of my downs. thank you SO much 🤍