How To Be Happy In Life & Why You Aren't Already Happy
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 22 พ.ค. 2014
- Bestselling author, Noah Elkrief, explains how to be happy in life and why the normal ways to pursue happiness don't work...
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Noah Elkrief
This video is about how to be happy in life. In order to be happy in life, you first have to understand what makes you unhappy. When answering the question "How to be happy in life?", we tend to think of it as "What will make me happy?", as if happiness is a layer we can add on top of ourselves. Happiness is what remains when there is no suffering. How to be happy in life? Lose your suffering. What causes suffering? Thoughts. No matter what you achieve, it can't get rid of your thoughts. Therefore, it can't make you happy. If you want to be happy in life, then you have to find what thoughts are making you unhappy, and then address those thoughts.
I hope you find this video about how to be happy in life to be helpful. - แนวปฏิบัติและการใช้ชีวิต
Shakespeare said it best: "for there is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so."
Ha! My favorite quote by him!
😊
about the only thing he did say that made any sense
Arent unhappy thoughts the assessment of unfulfilled needs? Even if I chose to stay oblivious to my needs, they dont disappear as im human. If thoughts are making a need a need, whats our purpose in life? If we dont have needs and goals should I just live? Should I just stay in my room for ever, eat, drink and dont create a value through my thoughts?
Excellent!
I swear i am not exaggerating but you are SUPER_MAN for people like us who's suffering emotionally, and have inner pain, this f***ing society will never understand.
Thank you brother, keep it up, we love you.
Dude U could put Dr. Phil outta business. Your message is soooooo simple its perfect.
haha I'm glad that you are "getting" the simplicity of it.
@@NoahElkrief Love your stuff man, hope you are well, and would love to see another post one day. God bless.
Man, you are my hero ! You are different than any fake TH-cam coach! You tell the truth :)
Mohsinuddin Saiyed :)
+Mohsinuddin Saiyed : agree :)
Mohsinuddin Saiyed 💯💯
Yudit Yuhana what kinda name is that🏤🏤🏤🏤🏤
100%
Thank you Noah. Your videos have really helped me in a tough time.
why would anyone dislike this?he's trying to help.
Kaylee Morton Lol.. I was thinking the same thing as I was scrolling down.
Maybe because some of us don't see cognitive approaches as the be-all and end all. Depth psychology is out of fashion.
Maybe those afraid to look within
may be tonny robbins, eckhart tolle ,brendan buchard or jim rohn , it kind of competitive industry kaylee
Could be because the guy is an inch away from being homeless and his common sense tells him that he’s not going to be very happy when he’s cold and homeless. I guess after he learns to accept it then he can work on being happy again.
I'm not unhappy myself, but I decided to watch anyway, I think everything you said is 100% right
I am at this point of my life where I have to search on the internet how to be happy
I usually visit Elkrief's videos for guidance whenever am facing a tough day.
I differentiate happiness and contentment. Happiness is like a buzz that comes and goes, the cream on top of the pie. Contentment is more permanent and underlying and can be rested into at any moment we detach ourselves from thought. Contentment doesn't require a smile or jumping up and down with glee. It is more reserved and in line with peace than the rush of happiness. I think when people talking about seeking true happiness, they are actually talking about contentment.
The thrill of seeking happiness in the form of a temporary buzz is what gives life that extra bit of spice. But know that contentment is always there, underneath those goal oriented thoughts, underneath the dissatisfaction and rumination. Proof of this can even be found in the slums of the poorest countries. People can find contentment in the most modest of conditions.
epiphany55 :)
I think what you are saying is that happiness comes from within. Anything external cannot bring you happiness in and of itself.
Happiness comes from within and God is within
Wow.. From the bottom of my heart, thank you, Sir Noah. I have been feeling unhappy and lacking lately and i've decided to listen to your videos. Within a few minutes, my perspective has changed completely. Thank you, thank you so much. Just watching your videos allow me to smile thinking, hey, maybe i am happy afterall. You help me look at the positive aspect of things and it's amazing. I just can't thank you enough. You are amazing and continue making others happy. Thank you!
I got fired from a job I really loved and moved back in with my parents. These videos helped me. Thank you for all those who dig deep and move on each day.
I love you. this works better than my current therapist.
Love Noah Elkrief! Your voice is so reassuring and calming. Thank you very much for all you do!
God bless you and shine His face upon you, my dear friend ! You are a blessing and a light for the world! Love, faith and joy be with you and all the people you teach
This guy makes me happy every time. This is amazing. When i feel bad i watch him and i can smile...
No ONE and no THING can make you happy. Happiness comes from inside us,
not external. If you say that your boyfriend or wife doesn't make you
happy anymore, they not only can't make you happy but why should they?
It's hard enough for each human to evolve inside to find happiness
within themselves and no matter how many things they do for you, no one
can make you happy for real. Buying gifts and standing on your head for
someone just to make them happy is like putting a band aid on top of
cancer. Each person's journey in life is to find a way to be happy or at
least content on their own amidst all the ups and downs of life. If you
say you aren't happy due to a person, you already lose because you are
giving up your personal power to another person and being too weak to do
your own inner work yourself. Our life on earth is a classroom and how
much we evolve inside and how we choose to interact with others shows
whether we die winners or losers. Don't spend your life looking to
others or things to make you happy, because there are very poor, very
sick, and people who are alone in life that have found a way to be happy
despite their circumstances. I always remember this video that shows
these kids in Africa somewhere who don't have a playstation and probably
only eat once a day. They were laughing and smiling while hitting an
old flat ball with a stick, I see mothers who work 3 jobs to take care
of their 2-4 kids with no help from family who are joyful for their life
and don't blame the world. It's easier to blame others for your lot in
life but perhaps those with more are unhappy too. Life is a journey of
ups and downs, the ups are gifts and the downs are lessons, don't make
it more than it is. You WIN when you die HAPPY, but you die alone and
you die penniless because no ONE and no THING is buried along with you. There are no 1-2-3's of happiness so making videos about how to be happy is futile. Each person is unique in their personality, their emotional, mental, and spiritual maturity and are surrounded by other unique people and circumstances that are unlike anyone else, so no method of how to be happy is going to fit anyone BUT YOU.
Well said, but think about using paragraphs.
Forgive me, I made this comment on another video about happiness and copy and pasted it to this one as well. I don't type like this when I am making original comments. I hope you find happiness this holiday season despite the many who feel despair and sadness due to unreasonable expectations of what others say it's supposed to be like. There is no "normal" or best way to do anything, just whatever feels good to each one of us, we have full control of this.
what other video?
Omg. I was not in a good mood today. I was worrying about something. I questioned myself as to whether i would really be worse off if the situation continued. I smiled because i could honestly say no. My thoughts were lying to me. I instantaneously smiled and felt calm. Thanks. This is a skill to truly learn
well done pal thats what i like to hear chap
Not sure about me and myself, if it will get better or not but I genuinely hope and wish you will be happy forever with much love in and around you, for what you have been doing for others. So much of effort and time you put in these videos to heal hearts out there. I see so much honestly and care in the way you speak. I can't fall asleep when it is too quiet, I have been staying alone for years, I used to play just any videos or music to fall asleep, now i just play your videos, and fall asleep while listening. Thank you from bottom of my heart, Noah. :)
Noah. 8 years and still so practical. I used to watch your videos 7-8 years back. Your videos helped me get out of anxiety. God bless you
Awesome video Noah. Just wanted to add an important nuance: Emotions are just messengers, (think of them as your ancestors making you aware of changes in your environment). They're trying to help you. Awareness/control of your emotions doesn't mean the goal is to never get angry, or anxious, or sad again. That wouldn't be healthy or even safe. The goal of mindfulness is to become aware of the story you're telling yourself, so that you can let go of the emotion IF/WHEN YOU CHOOSE!
In the job interview example, for instance, you could use the anxiety as motivation to prepare more. Maybe that's what you need, but maybe not. Knowing which one is true takes discernment, and WISDOM :)
FAR better message than I've heard anywhere; one that makes a lot of sense about thoughts linked to happiness. Thank you for bringing us this message. :)
Noah,u r too good. Always u r there. Your voice always gives comfort. Thank you.
Noah, thank you so much for your videos. Every time I watch them, it makes me really happy. You are such a sweetheart. You're helping so many people by doing this, and I truly wish you happiness. I love you!
Noah I’ve seen all your videos but this one is by far the most profound one you’ve ever done.. Thank you🙏🏼
thank you. you save my life you help me.
Thanks, I really needed this. I've had relationship problems but now I understand that I need to really look at the route cause of my sadness. A lot of the thoughts that made me unhappy are insignificant to my life and it can always get better
I love you Noah babe! you really have been helping me.
at first this kinda made me feel worse because i was like well then im like screwed forever then if when I solve one problem 5 more will come up..but listening more..I am going to try to get to the root of it and getting rid of it
Noah is amazing. I feel so enlightened and HAPPY listening to him!!!
I am HAPPIER after watching you video! Thank you a lot
Sometimes the thoughts aren't stories that we tell ourselves, they really happened and these thoughts can't escape a person's head. How do we deal with this?
I’m subscribing! I loved your message and delivery. Its really all stuff I’ve heard before but I’ve always thought certain things were just going to be negative no matter what but you’ve got me questioning whether I really know for sure that anything is actually bad in the big picture.
This is the only person who tells very calmly.. Feels relaxed
Youre a really sympathetic dude. You make me smile sincerely. Id love to give you a hug.
Thanks alot Noah! This really helps alot
It's been a year since I've known about you Noah and I'll be honest I had a hard time understanding what you mean..the experiences I've had from then to now have helped me understand what you're saying..I can't believe this is now making total sense to me!! It was that simple.
I am highly indebted to you for sharing such a life changing video. God Bless.
I found out some news that made me unhappy and disappointed, and by using these techniques, my mentality changed. I feel so spiritually cleansed and i want to thank you :)
You,sir,are a legend.Thanks for uploading these videos.
Love your videos. I totally agreed. Thoughts are responsible of our suffering
i love your videos noah, please please make more content on your channel, i would love to see more helpful videos of yours
Thank you Sir Noah. Now I can be happy what ever situation I am into.
I can control my anger too. Everything is in the mind. I ddnt know this that u ate in control of your thoughts.
God Bless Noah
i just started watching you, i thank god for your videos.
it has already helped me through some of the situations im going through. thank you. god bless you.
For me his voice is so calming and nice and he is so good at his job
Thank you Noah! You are a nice guy, doing a good job! Stay happy!
Thank you... You helped me a lot!! GOD BLESS YOU😇
Thank you so much Noah. I suffer from cognitive distortion and this advice spoke to me.
Noah, thanks alote for all this remarcable videos!! You really make a great work!!!! Congratulations for all!!!!
Noah,you are the Angel.
You explain this much more clearly than Eckhart Tolle, who I love. But you make it simple and crystal clear. Thank you.
This is a very good content, Noah. I'm getting alot better with my confidence and making myself more happier
I love you so much Noah :) you helped me so much with your videos. I wish you peace and happiness
Noah so true. Happyness starts with you
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This video was sooooooo helpful, thank you so much man :D
This is amazing. So simply explained! Thank you!!!
You are GREAT! 😊😍👍
Some coaches make it more complicated with so many steps and instructions, but it's very simple and it's all about the absence of (over)thinking and analysing etc..
It's all about the present moment.
I think the best example are babys. They are simply happy and unworried. No judgments or no worries about tommorow. They cry and then suddenly they laugh. They don't think about past...
However, it's a big challenge to live like that because our mind is sooo hiperactive and always needs to analyse and think..😧
You are amazing!!!! Thank you, thank you, thank you 💓🙏
Thank you, haven't been happy for quite a while this helps
This is an awesome video!! Thank you so much :) I am sending lots of positive energy
It's simple but powerful. I already applied your advice and it works ! Thanks a lot !
Keep the good work!
Im listening to this video daily. Very powerful.
Best video I've ever seen!,, and I've seen alote!,, thanks Noah 🙏
Wow, this is really powerful.
Noah Elkrief: this video is REALLY IMPORTANT & INTERESTING for me!
I've been struggling for a while and this has really helped me.
I'm really thankful for you're advice
Thank you Noah, you are a good man.
I enjoyed all ur topics thus far....thank u fr giving me a new prospect on hw to see tings in a different light...I ave nw the tools...fr healing my emotional disturbances... thanks again
Thank you Noah, working towards living with peace and being free from anxiety and your video is very calming and helpful : )
Hey flora, do you meditate a lot? I am creating a Facebook group for meditation activists to share their progress.
Very important video
Thank you Noah!!
This is a very sound and incredible video. We know that rumination is a key component of triggering and maintaining depression. What is rumination? Constantly mulling over negative thoughts and memories.
THANK YOU, NOAH!
Respect Noah again thanks for the wisdom
Thank you so much! I have ben unhappy for so long…….You are so kind
thank you I was depression you saved me
it's difficult to stop the thoughts... but your video was very helpful. I've watched several of your videos
Thank you so much! You helped me a lot
great video, questioning thoughts, questioning the thoughts that make me unhappy
my new guru! Thank you!
I’m happy not being in a relationship because I think it will be to stressful on me.
!!! Really the best speech of all the time !!! This is sooo true and wise but yet sooo simple !!! Keep marching on !!!
Fasi Hasi Glad you liked the video
this man is AMAZING! he helped realize life's worth :)
Thank you so much, I love you
my first time to listen to you and am happy that your teaching has answered many question that was pending in ma life for long time love it woow
This is my favourite TH-cam channel
thanks man, your video is really helpful
I ❤ your videos. Thank for all you share with us.
This actually helped very much thank you
Extraordinary work of you
Thank u very much u made me realize that they aren't true. U changed my life
Wow thank you very much.
ur advice sure help me very deeply in my soul I fell soo renewed......
We understand that our unhappiness comes from our thoughts. However as we have to live in this world and and go on living in this world which requires so much things to be responsible and face the problems our thoughts still have to do its duties to try to solve our problems and analyze everything it cannot be detached from us as much as we want it to be. If the problems still be there unsolved and it is not a small problem it is unavoidable to think of. We can only be happy if we can make ourselves not to care or mind everything but this is something we can only do sometimes and not every time. We cannot also force our mind to obey us as to select the kind of thoughts that will make us happy. The important thing is that facing the real situation that triggers our thought is not the same as while we are listening to some good things or advice or reading self help books. We also need to consider the heaviness of each individual cases of suffering and problems. It cannot was treated as the same thing. Thank you
You are amazing!
Thank you so much for your videos there great.
Thinking thinking thinking. Thank you
Thank you Noah