I’m a flight attendant and we had a layover in a city where the pilot lived. He had 2 kids (a new born included) & a wife and his home was only 10 mins away from the airport. We asked him if he was excited to see his family & he said he’s not going to his house bc his kids and wife “annoy” him and he’ll be sleeping at the hotel. We asked him what he meant by that and he straight up said, “the kids are too much especially the baby. She’s the wife so she can take care of it!” Like what…? The freaking audacity!! Like you’re not gonna go home & help your wife take care of those kids sir?! Or even go home just to spend time with them bc we’re constantly away from family and friends for long periods of time! Then proceeds to ask the flight attendants if we want to go to the bar with him wtf. What a shame!
Men don’t want to leave their marriage because of the free labour they get from their wives and the social capital from the society which they get promoted at work and respected. Women in the other hand especially married single mothers can not get divorced because they can’t afford it, they are handicapped financially because of children, childcare and the man child. It’s sad
@@sneakykamon yeah they are called married single mothers because often they work full-time but, thier husbands don't help with the kids or around the house.
Yes! This! We learned this at school - married men get promoted. Married women, don’t. Plus married men get more attention from women, and women get ignored by men when they’re married. Marriage benefits the men the most, so women need to be careful when they want to marry. Also, the amount of men who do hate their wives and cheat, it’s so sad. I feel bad for their wives . Instead of resenting society, they hate their wives. It’s like when men want to open their marriages, they want to close it again because women are doing better Also, yes the First Lady talking - the real truth about domestic violence is right there. It comes From entitlement and hatred for women. Not from men’s mental health
@@samco63not all married women get ignored or married women who cheat wouldn't be a thing and not all married men get chased after by women. You're generalizing too much.
@@Luci_purThat’s probably the biggest part. Then they no longer have free labour, access to sex, or complete control over their finances if they have to pay child support/alimony.
Yeah my bestie was leaving her husband and he was fighting it and she looked at him and said that in confusion " why are you fighting this? you hate me" and he had the audacity to look at her and say "I don't hate you I just don't like you but I don't hate you, you do t have to leave" She left. I was like dayum...!!! She was a good wife, faithful,loyal etc. Just couldn't take the contemptuous spite he dished daily. Blew my mind.
@leahweinberger583. Wow! What an unfortunate story. I have learned that the MAIN EMOTIONAL issue that erodes A marriage is the CONTEMPT that either partner ( or both), harbors.
@Ravenelvenlady gotta say he was straight up nasty. My girl never cheated, was a traditional wife, cleaned, cooked, took care of the kids and he flat out Hated her. She live nice across the county and he's got the dog to keep him company. So weird to see. Still can't figure that mess out but she's happy, single and having a good life. Truth is, she would have stood beside him come he'll or high water but some men tear down their home with their own hands.
I’m realizing a lot of men get married and have kids to prove to themselves that they are “men”. Just pathetic and heartbreaking for the women and children.
Men like to perform for other men and use women as social currency. It makes sense. My Aunt told me back in the day you were considered a man unless you had a (family) wife & kids. Etc.
Same with women and I’m a woman. If society wouldn’t put so much pressure on them they probably would be more “freely” with their feelings but society just now telling them that’s okay for them to have them probably waiting for the coast to clear smh I’m on neither side I just wish we could truly SEE the other we’re all the same anyway……
So... women get hate for not being "agreeable or submissive" to a man. But even when you're agreeable and submissive, a man might only be tolerating your existence and not actually in love with you? 🤔
If a man truely love a woman, submission comes naturally & becomes easy. My sister was submissive. This man never agree to anything that will benefit her. So controlling, belittles her,..
Never fall into the submissive trap once you are submissive to them they start abusing you and when you stop being submissive due their abuse they start to hate you and abuse you in worse ways
@@oluwakemitoluwanimi7203God gave all humans free will, so that he can judge us on the basis of our actions.. How will he judge us when our actions don't even belong to us...Submitting to a human is sinful.. The man who Demands submission knows we wouldn't love him willingly..
Lol if a man loves you he wouldn't want you to submit blablabla. That's bs girl wtf lmao a man in love with androotate and who thinks hes between you and God is not a man
I dated a guy who talked a lot of trash about his ex-wife/mother of his kids. She did everything for him - and I mean everything. I didn't stay with him long. He was so ungrateful and said such horrible things about her I couldn't even imagine what he'd feel and say about me after awhile. When I would ask him not to say such horrible things about the mother of his children and he would double down and say even more terrible things about her. He berated her character, physical appearance, lack of education and money but he was married to her for over 30 years. Granted I don't know everything that went on but I felt bad for her and hope she's in a better relationship or enjoying her freedom.
I know a man that did this, but his wife died. So, he was literally talking trash about his dead wife. He hated the fact she died before he could use her for a few more years to gain his accomplishments, now he is a single dad and a bad one at that...
When the Asian woman said, " Imagine being a kid and overhearing your dad say he hates his family, that he would rather work than be with his family." They dont have to say it. I was married to a workaholic. We all got the message. He didn't have to cheat, treat me wrong and I'm gone.
My Dad was an alcoholic who lost everything for a beer. Everything, EVERYTHING, was less important than a beer. His career, his marriage, his freedom, and his relationship with his kids. He gets to drink himself to death, alone, just like he always wanted. He sure was fucking pissed he didn't get to do that around his family in peace.
@@coyoteclockworkstudios3140 mmm no, i think with addictions works different, they have a problem and it is not because they don't like their families, they need recover
@@angelaschone2847 Yeah, and the problem with crazy people is they don't think they're crazy. My Dad ignored every doctor, priest, and professional, ignored his wife, his kids, and ended up alone with his drinking, like he WANTED. Don't BS me that addicts can be fixed with the snap of a finger if you just love them enough. Love alone rarely makes for lasting or good relationships.
@@coyoteclockworkstudios3140 jummm yes, addiction is not craziness, addiction is a problem, they need to have the will to recover, priest are not going to recover an addict, jumm also he needed to go to psicologist, main problem, don't be irrational and i am not giving you any bs over anything, recover is not with love, recover is a medical, psicogical and psiquiátric process, no they don't recover with a snap of a finger, that is a process that last minimum 6 months to years, no, the bs is the one you have in your head, love is just one part of the recovery
@@coyoteclockworkstudios3140Preach! Enough with this talk about adicts never being able to choose and decide. Some simply decide those chemical pleasures worth more then their families and there's nothing we can do about it.
Scary thing is the number one cause of death for pregnant women is being killed at the hands of their husband or boyfriend. That is so beyond sad and messed up.
I was in a airport bar. Some Chiropractor guy talked about being married for 17 years. That man clearly doesn't like his wife. He said he's there for the kids and it's been 17 years. Women want single women to envy marriage and their husbands don't like them ok.
I have a friend who is going through this. Her husband is constantly looking for ways to get away from her and their kids. I feel so bad for her.. Because she is actually a lovely person who sacrificed everything for him... And it still wasn't good enough for him.
@@genevieveaniko6492 this is the problem. If women sacrifice everything, men can’t handle it. Cause he knows how little his worth is to deserve such sacrifice.
I'm 48 in a few days and I'm still glad I never got married or had kids. I'm an aunt, and that's good enough for me. Anyone that will shame me for being "selfish" are the same people who are miserable in their marriages and resents me for not "suffering" like them.
@@Sandy-eb5ey They really do want everyone to suffer. There's an age where they suddenly stop shaming you about having sex and start pressuring you into having children and getting married. Families, coworkers, friends, everyone's asking "where is the husband where is the baby?" Where is the respect for my autonomy?
@@youresinningtoo3996 I hear you. And my response when asked, is- why do you give a shit what I do? Stay in your lane. Usually that shuts them up. My life, my decisions. Y'all not paying my rent or bills, I'm the boss😀
Some sign you know that your guy do not like you is he do not care about your corncerns and worries, he does not listen to your request and you gotta repeat yourself, weponize incompetence, Hating on things that make you enjoy doing (gardening, books or whatever), minimize your standard and boundaries, make fun of you for the shake of random crowd laughter.
I’m 30 year old woman no children no boyfriend / husband and my life is really chill. Also you are sooooo beautiful! You look like a model. I love your channel. 🎉
Some of them date / marry someone not because of love . For money , social status, beauty , got that person pregnant, ect . This young man , I know he is rich and educated got married , because he got his girlfriend pregnant . When they were dating ,He don’t love her ,but kept her for sex and money . She is rich and he is rich and wanted to keep that “ fancy “ lifestyle.
There's a whole contingent out there trying to normalize misery. I was married to someone that didn't like me. It took me a while to accept the truth because I couldn't comprehend someone pursuing me the way he did, asking me to marry him and being the first one to suggest we start trying for kids, all just because he thought he was supposed to do it. And then got pissed when I finally filed for the divorce HE asked for. I am not opposed to love and romance, but I do not prioritize longevity over genuine companionship. Idgaf about the relationship lasting forever, I care about it being real.
Some of them really DO just want to trap someone and make them miserable. Men who feel insecure in their power desire someone they can have “power-over”.
I have heard that there are men who have married women they are not in love with and passed up on the women they actually loved and cared about. That is so messed up.
@Finnhungambar b/c it's easier to take from her, lie to her, manipulate her, dog walk her & cheat on women they don't like/hate but couple up with. They pass on the women they love because it would require too much of his time, mental and emotional energy and money to reciprocate/give back to her. Naturally a man will avoid love out of fear of abandonment. See the woman he doesn't like will stay in a toxic loveless one sided relationship with him longer whereas a woman that requires love requires reciprocation or she's not sticking around too long to fulfill his Narcissistic one sided needs , she'll leave him. Love makes us equal. Patriarchy says we're not equal. Patriarchy encourages neglect and one sided situations that keep us at an unequal disadvantage.
@Finnhungambar. Because they still need their needs to be met. Believe it or not. Many men can’t actually get women. Go to their spaces. They always obsessing over these Instagram types and those types aren’t interested in them LIKE THAT. So they get resentful of the woman that they feel they ‘settled’ for. That’s why when that woman complains they call it ‘nagging’. For them. It’s like ‘you Better be grateful I even married you to begin with’. Go to their spaces. It’s very eye opening how they view women.
Not getting married practically speaking is a good idea but women and society in general make such a big stinking deal about men that don’t want to get married. Everything has to be about marriage especially if you are older and frankly it’s irritating.
@@amiyrbarclift1640 I think women are often taught marriage is what gives them worth and pressure them into so often. When women get married to men. Men have been proven to cheat more or they are more likely to abandon there wife if she gets a illness in marriage. And its been shown womens happiness decreases when married to men. I also notice men get extremely offended by single women with no children which I find odd. Women have been proven to be happier single. Its so weird that men get so offended that women choose to be single. Why? Or worried that women are opting out of marriage. Why does it offend men so deeply (also i know not all men or women are the same)
I think you can tell how much your husband values you in the way people around him view you. Every time I meet his friends, old or new, they always tell me how highly he speaks of me. He protects and stands up for me every time, and vice versa. My people also see how much he values me just by his actions.
I found out how much my SO was down playing my contributions in our shared business, and what I did at home. I was astonished, because I was working my butt off, juggling multiple tasks. Most of our friends knew he was full of bs, but damn! 11:19
Not necessarily, some people treat you different behind closed doors and will speak highly of you in public, because their perception of how others see them, with a perfect or great marriage is what matters to them. They want the praise from others and prefer that everything looks great on the outside looking in.
ive noticed that the women from my office redecorate the facility out of their own pockets with new Ikea furniture, paint jobs, couches, gym equipment and fancy china . they stay late and come early. they treat the office as the second home because its away from the kids and their husbands who are at school/work. its so common its scary. 99% of married people RESENT their kids and spouses its terrifying
I dated someone who secretly hated me and was visibly annoyed by my presence. I Broke up with him and now he’s calling my family during holidays, birthdays etc and having his family wish me happy holidays which never happened when we were together. Sir we were never friends and you made sure of that. Leave me alone stranger …lol
I’m so happy when women don’t tolerate bs in relationships and don’t ignore the red flags. Because a man that does not like you will possibly be emotionally abusive, cheat or even kill so good on you!
Years ago I had a friend who used to make the most beautiful gift baskets for holidays and special occasions. He used to sell them on the corner of Crenshaw and MLK Blvds. in Los Angeles. Sometimes he'd ask me to come down and keep him company and on that corner, I got an earful of BM expressing their contempt for their wives, girlfriends, and for some, even their mothers. It was like listening to a degradation marathon, and while most of them stopped just to buy an obligatory gift, making it clear that they didn't want to spend more than $10, if that, they were proud to show off their big wads of cash, jump back into their expensive SUVs (with the custom rims), and go home to those women, filled with animosity and rancor towards them. It got to the point where I couldn't go and keep my friend company anymore as I ultimately became traumatized by the amount of hatred these BM felt towards BW. No one can EVAH make me feel bad about my choice to remain single, CF. Most BW don't even know that when they get married to a BM, they are marrying an oppressor who hates them and will chip away at them until there's nothing left. DIVEST NOW!
my Lord, that was depressing. I'm sorry you had to be a witness to all that. My father was in an intercultural relationship with my mother and when he divorced her, all he did was talk bad about her and call her a sand N word, because she was Arabic. The disrespect was appalling. She had to work like a man because he was the only bread winner and refused to work, my grandmother enabled that behavior too much. Anyways, he was able to gain custody of me and my siblings and I remember when I was cooking dinner and handed him his food, he looked right at me and said, "You know, you are going to make someone a fine N word, when you grow up." my utter distain for him resonates to this day and he has been dead for almost ten years.
@@heneverforesakesme4038 OMG! I'm so sorry your dad was such a jerk and I can really relate. Your dad probably never thought about the impression he was making on you and your siblings when he said things like that because he didn't care. Imagine what he put your mom through behind closed doors. I hope she came out of everything okay, and you, too. ☮❤
@@queenlj12jax97 I believe you…I’ve witnessed this and my own dad is a d ark sk inned mid E astern guy who always trash talking about my mother to strangers willing to listen. The entire neighborhood knew what he thought of my mother. He would mistreat us as well. Barely any food in the fridge and my mother didn’t speak English as im migrant herself so she struggled to find a job.
They should just hire a maid and get a blow up doll. There's a man in some Slavic country who actually married a blow up doll. It was on social media.😂
Not even that - they want a maid (that's why they get married) but have a mistress for sex and all the nice, enjoyable stuff which is such a SHAME 😡😡😡 It's always the wife getting the shit end of the stick, the mistress is perfectly fine - no chores, no drudgery but the full amount of freedom and fun... Stay single and childfree, ladies!
Yes. And that’s why tech moguls are developing artificial wombs and seggs robots who look like teenaged anime girls. They plan on replacing us anyway, which is even more reason to avoid getting involved with them.
This is why it says in Colossians 3:19 “Husbands, love your wives and do not be bitter towards them.” Paul also states in Ephesians 5:25. “For husbands, this means love your wives, just as. Christ loved the church and died for her.” Most men are very selfish and God knows this. So He actually made it a commandment to men to LOVE their wives. Now I really know why it’s been written more than once.
If a man needs bible verses to be kind and respectable to his wife he has bigger issues. A good man doesn't need to be told to be a good man he just is.
I used to work with someone who seemed to really hate his wife and he was not subtle about it. His ringtone for her was literally a siren sound that said 'WARNING. IT'S THE WIFE. WARNING.' I don't know why they bother.
The fashion blogs written by gay men are crazyyyy. It's gallons of misogyny _"looks good if you don't look too close" "throw these high heels in the trash"_
Truth. And I wish people would realize that the very women many of them admire and model themselves after - in particular the "Real Housewives", et al - are a construct of a gay male. Demeaning, exaggerating, patronizing the woman - putting women in the worst light possible. And yet so many women fall for this today and it does not help but promote the stereotype of the high-maintenance ho - which in most mens eyes appears to be most women today.
I really don't see how women have not acknowledged this for so long..The fashion police and women's degradation brigade are often g ay men. They seem to especially dislike women's body parts. Talk about women by calling them "fish" in reference to women's private parts. I am still surprised how so many women throw on a cape for g ay men.
@@hawkrose2698yes yes yes! Even the beauty standards pushed often resemble what men fetishize in other males. Example: when I was a teen, tall anorexic super models were the fashion. In hindsight, many of them resembled adolescent boys because they were so thin and tall, had androgynous faces. Then it occurred to me that it was the image of the adolescent male that these fashion designers wanted to push- many men in that group fetishize teen boys more than anyone else. Now they push the ultra fake l ay deee boy look; because these men also find that attractive.
@@user-od5fh3gn4dI don't buy into that theory. If that was the case, treats like mustach and body hair would be part of fashion too. The fashion world is more an hebophilic fantasy where the only appearence aceptable is that of a good looking teenager, for both genders. Both womanwood and menwood in its mature forms are despised.
Some men don’t love their wives , they married them for other reasons other than love .They see them as “ wife material”, but they are not in love with them .❤❤
@@amiyrbarclift1640why can’t you just say no I don’t want to get married. If that’s important to you you need to find someone who wants that….: because you’re are selfish and can’t stand to lose someone you want with bare minimum…
A week after I gave birth a man came up to my car to tell me what he knew about my husband from his wife who my husband fired. He told me my husband was afraid of me, didn't like me and worked late to avoid coming home and dealing with me and the children. My husband of course denied it all but I knew deep down in my spirit that the man wasn't lying. I knew that my husband had exposed his thoughts to coworkers who gossiped about us and eventually it got back to me. I don't like him either. We are married but no longer friends.
@BlackRelationshipsUncut I'm really sorry to hear that. May I ask in all seriousness why you stay? (I'm nor married so would like to educate myself). I am truly praying for you and your children
It is my sincere hope that you all find a way to amicably divorce and move on and stop playing roommates… You both deserve a chance at TRUE happiness… there is nothing worse than not having your home be your peace! To have both parties to a marriage disliking one another is damaging to your spirit. Not to mention damaging to your children’s spirit and emotional well-being (whether you realize it or not)… Marriage should not be a long walk on eggshells 🥚
My husband and I are best friends. He texts me at least once an hour while at work and is constantly trying to make me laugh and do stuff for me. I can't imagine the hell these women with shitty husbands are are going through😢
Yep. I've met many men like this. They had no desire to get married, but they can't hire a woman to do all that a wife will do. They genuinely don't like women. I do have a co-worker who likes women and he is so refreshing. He will literally talk to women for hours and ask us what we think. He is married and not flirty at all. You can just tell that he respects and likes women and how we think.
Wow that line “why would you go without talking to someone you like for the sake of pride” just made me realize my ex never liked me. He was mad at me for having a lunch date with his sister and refused to talk to me for 2 weeks and I still have no idea why he had that reaction to me hanging out with her when I told him we were planning a lunch date
I've always felt my dad hated my mom and us kids. He never wanted to be seen with us. Never would go out anywhere as a family. He'd "brag" about his kids but wouldn't want anything to do with us when he was home. Wouldn't get my mom any gifts but would buy gifts for his mother. The one time he got my mom something is was a potted mums plant on Valentine's day...while he got his mother 2 dozen red roses...I can go on 😅
This is because they don’t want partners to share their life with. They want free chefs, maids, and nannies they can have sex with, and many times also bring in an income on top of that.
The sex and all the nice, enjoyable stuff is being outsourced - they share it with their mistress... For the chores and drudgery they've got their wives...😮
I was intrigued by this in how it relates to my brother. We grew up an an abusive household, and emotional health was not modeled for us by either parents, both of which were mentally ill. I watched my Dad destroy my Mom on the daily, emotionally and verbally. They were co-dependant. My brother was controlling of me in a very subversive kind of way: he would tear me down in terms of "what men don't like." "Men don't like hairy legs, you're disgusting." "Men don't like girls without makeup, you're so ugly." He would have these moments frequently when he would suddenly realize he had contempt for me, and it was like he'd just reminded, and needed to be an asshole to me out of the blue to remind me of my place. Just very gendered stuff, that had obviously been demonstrated to him. We're estranged now, because he gave me an ultimatum that I wasn't allowed to talk about the abuse we suffered as kids. But yeah, I don't think my brother liked me because I was his little sister.
@@shivanipde it does i am mexican dating a toxic mexican men im trying to leave the relationship but he gets agressive everytime i try to leave men are the same everywhere they just hate women
Love should not be difficult. True love should not be difficult. when someone is in a marriage and it’s true love there it won’t be difficult. Women wake up.
Women need to understand that most men are incapable of love. They don’t love their own mothers, sisters or even themselves. Truly a degenerate gender.
The way he described the way he feels when spending time w his wife just made me melt I can’t wait til my man speaks of me with such high regard and heartfelt emotions. ❤
Even if they like you at first, some men get very "comfortable" in their relationship/marriage and enjoy so much all the things that you do for them, they start thinking they are something special and could find someone better. So they start picking on you and slowly destroying the relationship because they think in the moment where they leave you, some supermodel is going to ask them out. Men are delulu too. And when they realize it's not true, they start hating you even more because they feel worthless.
I am so happy with my husband he is the best. But HE acknowledged me about the fact that some men just are pissed with their wifes. And he mentioned HIS FATHER (which is still with his mother). And when he said it it became obvious. My father in low always finds something to say about his wife (so much that she just stopped taking care about herself even stopped brushing her teeth this is awful). It isn’t that he doesn’t love his wife but my husband pointed the fact that if it wasn’t about his « religious » ego, he’ll probably cheat. And more than once. Also my husband preferred to stay with his mom when he was young. His father wasn’t really emotionally present. And! They had 5 children. But every time we come to say hello with their grandchildren he acts like it’s a burden. Don’t make 5 « mistake » and then complain about having grandchildren everywhere. My mother in low always has to hide to give me some food before we leave. He isn’t saying all of this out loud but it’s the little sentences, little moaning and stuff. He just hates the life he had built
Great he can die bitter 😂karma is on the corner ..great you re doing good. She s not brushing her teeth cause she s disgusted by him and herself to stay with such a jerk lol
Watch out for the men we work with too. You know, the ones who "joke" at your expense, picking on you for a "laugh". Them. They dont like women or their wives either. Trust.
There is no secret about it. Everyone one knows, especially his wife and kids. But the truth of it is that these men hate themselves and their laziness when it comes to their families. And instead of dealing with it, they push that hate onto their wife and children.
This is what happens when you demonize the "friendzone". I realise that disliking your partner and/or mother of your children is an issue older than the "friendzone" meme, but if it didn't make it worse, it sure as heck didn't make it better. BE. FRIENDS. FIRST. But I guess in this dating culture most would rather just stay single because "it's just too much effort" smh. Oh well.
Girl mehn hate the friend zone so bad but it’s definitely needed, especially in today’s time. Men want to smash any woman they come in contact with or get close to. It’s ridiculous & a huge turn off. 😐🤦🏽♀️ They definitely don’t know how to just befriend women on just get to know us on a platonic level.
I’m sorry I’m not being friends with a man I feel uncomfortable around. If he wants to secretly have sex with me, I don’t trust anything he does for me because it’s STEEPED in the idea that he’s closer to 3rd base and ONE day he might. That’s not a true friendship
Yeah I disagree, friendships are for wpmen, we're not the same and men are built to get what they want, good guy or not. You jist need to Learn to vet and get comfortable rejecting.
Men who want yo be with you don’t want you to see who they really are. They want you to sleep with them. You see who they are AFTER they’ve gotten the cookie. It’s up to the women to leave or stay
This is part of the reason I am contently 40 and Single! I have no problem WAITING for a TRUE and GENUINE loving relationship/ marriage. DESPERATION is the cause of so many miserable marriages… stop ignoring the red flags 🚩 just to be someone’s WIFE! … Learn to be TRULY happy with YOU and self-sufficient by yourself! THEN the Universe can and will send you your person who is truly for you! You will never find a true mate when you are in a state of desperation.
So true!… Gave 6 years to a toxic narcissist, who said the most horrific things to me- that’s when I really felt the hatred, and walked away. He tried to get me back - but I refuse to be with someone who hates me, just because I was convenient for him. The love wasn’t real. I am happily on my own and at peace. No once verbally abusing me, using me or cheating on me with porn sites and secret date site profiles. Thank you God for finally giving me the strength to walk and not weaken. 5 months no contact. Onwards and upwards. Stay blessed 🙏🏽
My ex-husband had issues that he admitted to trying to keep secret but I'm abusive for not knowing what he was going through all while I did everything for him. My will to live was gone for over a year. I'm finally free. No longer a maid and expected to be a psychic therapist to him. I don't need to fix his problems even the ones I had no idea about. I taught him to drive, my family gave him a car he let rot, I let him use my car, got our house for us, fixed it, decorated it, ran it. I'm a monster for not realizing he was unhappy and leaving him earlier. No joke that's how he feels.
They hate them now, but when he's sick who will he be asking for help or a organ transplant. If the marriage isn't toxic then you shouldn't hate your wife or the children that by the way you helped make!
I will never understand the logic behind marrying a person you don't like... Because of societal standards. It's nonsense this is the age of pride.. They need to come out of the closet and leave women alone.
@@genevieveaniko6492men call other men losers if they don't have a woman in their lives. It can be a thing to prove himself as a man to other men, among other benefits ofcourse.
DATE! Really date before you marry and have kids. My husband and I were together for 7 years before marriage and kids. We were free to come and go as we pleased and chose each other every time. If we had free time, we chose to be with each other - not out of obligation but pure desire. Soooo many people judged us and said to either just go get married or just break up but nope. We took our time and chose each other. Now we’ve been together over 20 years with 3 kids and we both LIVE IN THE HOUSE! We rush home and do everything together and with our kids. We are still the best of friends and low key are disturbed when both our sets of friends complain about having to be around their spouses and kids. Can’t relate!
some of these men might really actually be closeted, BUT I think we need to be very careful about pathologizing emotional openness and comfort between men. It's not a bad thing for men to be close and to love each other; we just want them to also do that for us, to see us as equals and as safe and as full human beings. We don't want the negative equality of them not being able to be emotional and vulnerable to ANYONE, that's literally patriarchy and one reason we're in the f'ed up situation we're in regarding gender relations.
obviously. The point being made here and the reason for highlighting the fact is that it demonstrates that while they have THE ABILITY to be vulnerable, share space, and demonstrate comradery between themselves, they demonstrate a widespread unwillingness to do the very same with the women who birth their children cook their meals and polish their gear sticks. Straight men who only like the anatomy and not the basis of what a woman is are very dangerous and questionable. This is not about throwing stones at their ability to connect with each other. Bravo. ITs that they claim to love/like women and refuse to do the same with them.
In Ancient Greece they said women are for marrying and breeding and men are for loving. Our society hasn’t changed much but become even more difficult to be a woman.
My dad didn't like his mom, my mom, his wife, his many mistresses, and none of his daughters. He raised my brothers the same. It was horrible as a girl in my house. That lady spoke facts about being picked on by her brother. Rumor in town is my dad and one of my brother are on the DL. My brother actually told me he didn't want to marry his wife the day before their wedding. They have been married 17 yrs and have 5 kids. He constantly cheats and treats his family like trash from what his son tells me. I went no contact years ago.
Men with enough money to get the girl they really want, and provide for them, so their girl stays relaxed and looking fresh, who can hire nannies and maids so their wives don't have to nag them/'force' them to do domestic chores, are the only ones who love their wives.
The full meaning of a homosexual is a man who has feelings of love, affection and affinity for other men.. They prefer the company of men and feel like men are worth investing in over women. Its not always necessarily a sexual thing... So based on this logic modern culture is a homosexual culture. Alot of men today are gay but just don't want to embrace it... So they seek heterosexual relationships to hide their truth... And end up resenting their women. 🤷♀️
By your definition, frienship doesn't exist. And all "loving" families are based on inc*st. Don't confuse the different types of "love", otherwise you end up creating nonsense. Being gay isn't about loving people of the same gender platonically. It's about eros. The sexual love. The one mostly driven by temporary hormones.
I don't know why they won't embrace it. It's 2023. It's safe for them to come out of the closet now. I've been saying for a long time they should just date each other and stop bothering women.
This is what I've been saying. Men keep giving all their attention and affection for other men. All a woman is for them is a maid and a hole. They dislike anything else about us and openly say they endlessly prefer men and male nature for company and friendship. That's a full blown platonic romance. The only thing that's missing is the romantic/sexual element, and I find it harder and harder to believe it's actually missing for many of these men. They are so in love with themselves that even their partners now need to reflect them or otherwise they are uncapable of loving them. Crazy
Because in order to be a man they have to have a woman give him this identity. So he comes to resent bring with her and getting his manhood defined through her.
If he's a narcissist he'll force (or at least coerce) his wife to have anal sex with him, even if she's making absolutely clear that she HATES it... Then he'll call her prude and uptight and will RAPE her (anally, of course) when she's in a state of defenselessness... 😳😱🙈
I worked with a man who would openly talked about disliking his wife and his kids. He even had the nerve to be besties with a woman that he worked with who he seemed to go estly like more than his wife. This pushed me to stay firm in my stance of no marriage/kids. A man will marry and have kids with you yet dislike you and resent being with you all at the same time.
"imagine overhearing your dad saying he'd rather work than be around you/" Don't have to imagine and can confirm, I do need therapy. Edit: No shame to him, he was just born in the wrong era with not enough discussion of what to look for in a marriage.
Marriage is for the birds but most Moms and even Dads, like their kids. We love them too but we actually LIKE them. But, dealing with someone I didn't create and who's acting like an overgrown child? Ick! I'll pass.
True: alot of men in this predicament leack self awareness and don't realise the reason they can't get on with their wives is because they are unlikeable, can't function peacefully, lack critical thinking skills and conflict resolution abilities... But they think that the problem is their wife...
The lady at about 5 min give or take that talked about the man who hates his family is spot on….listen to Princella the Queen maker. Going through a baaaaad breakup & it made me feel better listening to the biological reasons she gives that prove men are incapable of love & women should focus on themselves & not live their lives worrying about r’ships & marriage.
It is sad that the standart for men is so low. I literally thought that the first men is such a sweetheart. But actually love and appreciation for your wife/husband is the fundament for a healthy and working relationship. I wish the best for their realtionship, they seem very cute ❤❤
I’m grateful my husband and I are best friends. He goes Out of his way to spend time with me. It’s been ten years and I just am glad to think about Him.
If you have pets, you aren't alone. My cat doesn't cheat, lie, or frustrate me. These men don't get it. We can be miserable and alone without them making things worse. In most cases, they are a burden, not an asset.
@@Ktsjay187men cant live without women even at 80 they're still looking for a young woman to marry lmao. I know so many divorced women who CHOSE to never marry because marriage isnt beneficial to women and because women have friends and family and dont need a man in their lives. Yall men are lonely. Boohoo.
I lit have a male friend who has been married to this woman for a few yrs...I was surprised he even married her, cause he didn't even seem to like her all that much...she would call when we were hanging out and he always seemed annoyed by that...Like how dare she call me...Now yrs later... Married with a new baby he's telling me he got a second job just so he could spend less time with his wife....Says he can't stand spending any time with her...Hates talking to her, or being in the same RM as her...They now sleep in separate bedrooms...But he does acknowledge she's a good person and a great mom...But he just doesn't like her company...but feels stuck cause of their new child ..he said he feels like he made his bed and now he just has to lay in it...To be fair she doesn't seem all that happy with him either...Always fighting and she's brought up divorce a few times ..He says he has one foot out the door but feels conflicted cause of their child ..It just seems so miserable...He says it feels like he just as to except being unhappy for some yrs, until their kid is a bit older... def makes me wanna stay unmarried...
Yup.. that’s my mom… looking down her nose at single women and mothers.. pedestalizing her late husband who didn’t seem to like her, stated openly he regretted marriage and discouraged his sons from marrying.. demanded she abort her 4th child, refused to get life insurance cause he didn’t want to “take care of anybody” .. the “anybody” being his (at the time young) family… I mean.. I didn’t understand then.. but I sure do now.. he hated his life and resented his family and more so women (def had mommy issues). My moms in denial and that’s unfortunate. I am not. And it’s ok. He was my dad and I love him despite.. didn’t like him.. like he didn’t like me. He was mean and a bully. But he also didn’t abandon us physically (some cases tho it’s better if a toxic parent does go away). If he were alive I would def take care of him. But I just am not deluded about the quality of our relationship.
“That’s how patriarchy conditions them”… “I think society conditions men to not like women.” This does nothing but absolve the men of their accountability in mistreating women. Patriarchy is not a person capable of holding a gun to a man’s head forcing him to treat a woman like crap. He is making a very intentional CHOICE when he treats her bad. I can’t stand the fake calling out of men, especially by men b/c it simply proves that they won’t go against each other no matter how wrong the other may be. Men are not forced against their will to be horrible human beings, they are willingly doing so. 8:05 I hate how she scarily asks “can I say something” as if she’s a kid, then they proceed to ignore her and she asks again hesitantly as if her opinion doesn’t matter when in reality she hit the nail on the head.
That's what patriarchy is, it's not an entity or a conscious conspiracy, it's the system that educates men to do all the little actions that collectively keep women down. Men being horrible human beings individually as a choice is literally patriarchy.
This is such an interesting topic. On one hand, I had a guy who wanted to start a family with me, but along the way, I felt like he didn't even like me as a friend. Blew my mind. There's another guy who likes me as a friend, and more than that, but I feel that he is in his relationship out of duty. Because if you were in love and happy, you wouldn't be searching elsewhere. Third, I felt what she was saying about men not liking their families. My dad doesn't like me, I didn't ask him to be here. I wish that men would quit unaliving their families and just freaking leave.
As an engaged woman, my opinion is this video talks about A CATEGORY of men, not about all of them, and I'm sorry for the mentality those men have. I can't imagine being so resentful, dreading your life and your marriage. I mean, they say "yes, I do" to those women, only to talk bad about them behind their backs? I pray that if me and my man ever get into this situation, at least, we'll be human enough to end it on good terms. I adore him, so if he ever starts to resent me, at least, I'd like him to have the spinal cord to come tell me in my face. What the public just watched right now, is the result of men who have unresolved issues with women, getting married. And those men don't hate or dread only women, they hate and dread everybody.
@@Mariam-kg7fr Until proven wrong, I'm right. I know my man, we've been through some stuff together, before he proposed. Another thing is I didn't pick him just because I saw him once and I liked him, I also ran a background check on him, while we were in the talking stage. I am a woman of good faith, but I don't like it when people think they know what I have at home better than I do. I don't invalidate your experiences, I don't deny anything, but just because you made your cup of tea doesn't mean you get to sit everybody at the table with you. With all that being typed, your opinion is your opinion.
I go to Dobbs when I need to get tires for my vehicle. Once I was in Dobbs getting tires & I was speaking to the manager & he was telling me a lot of men bring their wives cars in to get work or repairs & he said most of the men act like they don’t care if their wives cars are running right or not… 🤔
Men marry a certain type of woman for social currency. They look for women with a pedigree, basically. The woman they marry must improve their social standing in the eyes of their employer, family, and peers. It doesn't matter if he really likes her or not, she's fulfilling a role.
My sister, bless her heart, and I can't really blame her as according to her IQ test she is just barely not considered mentally challenged so its really far more on her ex husband, but anyways he impregnated her with 9 kids and he started doing meth and one day screamed that he hates her and all of the kids, IN FRONT OF THE KIDS! I once overheard my father say the only reason he kept me around is the law, in other words he didnt want to get jn trouble for child abandonment and that hurt bad and I left. I cant imagine how it would have affected me if i heard him say he hated me outright!
This happened to my cousin. He's still going through the divorce, but he moved on and got another woman and had a child with her. My cousin use to tell me he wanted to leave his wife when his second child was born. He later had a 3rd with her before the divorce. His kids are teens now, but I still remember the day he told me "Sometimes, having a family is the worst."😢 It hurt when he said that because I always love seeing people married and with children, especially my cousin. But seeing his anger and hearing his bitterness even now it's very difficult.😢
WTF. He doesn't enjoy having kids, so he had a 3rd one. He didn't like having a family, so after the split (but before the papers were finalized) he had ANOTHER KID with the new woman??? DUDE! Get a vasectomy! It's So Easy
I have already decided to stay single. I am not willing to be a maid to anyone least of all a man who takes advantage of the women and all she does for him only to hate her and be two faced to her.
Plenty of TV shows (ftom the 70s until now) have characters who despise their wives! Remember the show Married with Children? If not, look up clips. The whole premise of the show was Al Bundy hating his wife, kids and entire life! 🤷🏿♀️
Can't relate my dad loves my mom he's crazy about her! She's his dream girl. They do almost everything together. This is such a shame. And my dad loves me and my brother. He may be harsh on us because not gonna lie I did stupid things in my youth but he's my rock and I love him
I’m a flight attendant and we had a layover in a city where the pilot lived. He had 2 kids (a new born included) & a wife and his home was only 10 mins away from the airport. We asked him if he was excited to see his family & he said he’s not going to his house bc his kids and wife “annoy” him and he’ll be sleeping at the hotel. We asked him what he meant by that and he straight up said, “the kids are too much especially the baby. She’s the wife so she can take care of it!” Like what…? The freaking audacity!! Like you’re not gonna go home & help your wife take care of those kids sir?! Or even go home just to spend time with them bc we’re constantly away from family and friends for long periods of time! Then proceeds to ask the flight attendants if we want to go to the bar with him wtf. What a shame!
So lazy.
He will be "shocked" when he gets kicked to the curb. " never saw it coming," the betrayal waawaa
And men are some of the main ones who want a child to continue their "legacy." If you didn't want kids, then why did you ejaculate in your wife????
Pilots are among the worst husbands
His family is probably glad he doesn’t come home to spend time with him😂. Sounds like they get to enjoy his money without him being around.
Some men only like the female anatomy and free labour : cooked food, clean house.
❤❤❤very true ❤❤❤❤
Almost all of them
@@venda1008*all of them.
@@rses916 I agree
@@Aqua23-ammg there are genuine straight relationships where partners are best friends. See eye to eye and genuinely like to be together.
Men don’t want to leave their marriage because of the free labour they get from their wives and the social capital from the society which they get promoted at work and respected. Women in the other hand especially married single mothers can not get divorced because they can’t afford it, they are handicapped financially because of children, childcare and the man child. It’s sad
“Married single mothers”…?🤔
@@sneakykamon yeah they are called married single mothers because often they work full-time but, thier husbands don't help with the kids or around the house.
Yes! This! We learned this at school - married men get promoted. Married women, don’t. Plus married men get more attention from women, and women get ignored by men when they’re married. Marriage benefits the men the most, so women need to be careful when they want to marry.
Also, the amount of men who do hate their wives and cheat, it’s so sad. I feel bad for their wives . Instead of resenting society, they hate their wives.
It’s like when men want to open their marriages, they want to close it again because women are doing better
Also, yes the First Lady talking - the real truth about domestic violence is right there. It comes
From entitlement and hatred for women. Not from men’s mental health
@@samco63not all married women get ignored or married women who cheat wouldn't be a thing and not all married men get chased after by women. You're generalizing too much.
@@jacijune nowhere did I say “all” … but in general, it’s true
But then men cry about when women divorce them.
I'm so sad
Exactly
It hurts their egos lol
"She left me and I don't know why she's overeating and I'll never take accountability,"
-a scary large number of men
@@Luci_purThat’s probably the biggest part. Then they no longer have free labour, access to sex, or complete control over their finances if they have to pay child support/alimony.
My ex husband did not like me and he does not understand why I will never take him back. Men are so delusional.
because you wanted love and he wanted a toy and servant
Yeah my bestie was leaving her husband and he was fighting it and she looked at him and said that in confusion " why are you fighting this? you hate me" and he had the audacity to look at her and say "I don't hate you I just don't like you but I don't hate you, you do t have to leave"
She left. I was like dayum...!!! She was a good wife, faithful,loyal etc. Just couldn't take the contemptuous spite he dished daily.
Blew my mind.
@leahweinberger583. Wow! What an unfortunate story. I have learned that the MAIN EMOTIONAL issue that erodes A marriage is the CONTEMPT that either partner ( or both), harbors.
@Ravenelvenlady gotta say he was straight up nasty. My girl never cheated, was a traditional wife, cleaned, cooked, took care of the kids and he flat out Hated her. She live nice across the county and he's got the dog to keep him company. So weird to see. Still can't figure that mess out but she's happy, single and having a good life. Truth is, she would have stood beside him come he'll or high water but some men tear down their home with their own hands.
@@tiahnarodriguez3809💯🔥😮💨❤️
I’m realizing a lot of men get married and have kids to prove to themselves that they are “men”. Just pathetic and heartbreaking for the women and children.
Men like to perform for other men and use women as social currency. It makes sense. My Aunt told me back in the day you were considered a man unless you had a (family) wife & kids. Etc.
Even today, men bluntly call each other losers if they don't have a girlfriend or wife.
Same with women and I’m a woman. If society wouldn’t put so much pressure on them they probably would be more “freely” with their feelings but society just now telling them that’s okay for them to have them probably waiting for the coast to clear smh I’m on neither side I just wish we could truly SEE the other we’re all the same anyway……
I feel bad that so many men force themselves to be straight
😂
I do feel bad for them but I feel equally bad for the women who are unaware of their lie and end up being collateral damage when these men go nuclear
@@Asterisk.17 Yeah... the women basically got involved with a vampire. Hiding their true identity and stealing away the woman's life
Right. Just be gay. It's 2023
Lmao
So... women get hate for not being "agreeable or submissive" to a man. But even when you're agreeable and submissive, a man might only be tolerating your existence and not actually in love with you? 🤔
If a man truely love a woman, submission comes naturally & becomes easy. My sister was submissive. This man never agree to anything that will benefit her. So controlling, belittles her,..
Never fall into the submissive trap once you are submissive to them they start abusing you and when you stop being submissive due their abuse they start to hate you and abuse you in worse ways
You are the woman, an actual goddess, a creator. Goddesses don’t submit
@@oluwakemitoluwanimi7203God gave all humans free will, so that he can judge us on the basis of our actions.. How will he judge us when our actions don't even belong to us...Submitting to a human is sinful..
The man who Demands submission knows we wouldn't love him willingly..
Lol if a man loves you he wouldn't want you to submit blablabla. That's bs girl wtf lmao a man in love with androotate and who thinks hes between you and God is not a man
I dated a guy who talked a lot of trash about his ex-wife/mother of his kids. She did everything for him - and I mean everything. I didn't stay with him long. He was so ungrateful and said such horrible things about her I couldn't even imagine what he'd feel and say about me after awhile. When I would ask him not to say such horrible things about the mother of his children and he would double down and say even more terrible things about her. He berated her character, physical appearance, lack of education and money but he was married to her for over 30 years. Granted I don't know everything that went on but I felt bad for her and hope she's in a better relationship or enjoying her freedom.
Good move. Good call.
He had some love for her but she let go of his loser ass
@@kittyncocoalways1And he's bitter about it.
She's probably got the glow up from the dead weight she dropped after the divorce.
I know a man that did this, but his wife died. So, he was literally talking trash about his dead wife. He hated the fact she died before he could use her for a few more years to gain his accomplishments, now he is a single dad and a bad one at that...
When the Asian woman said, " Imagine being a kid and overhearing your dad say he hates his family, that he would rather work than be with his family." They dont have to say it. I was married to a workaholic. We all got the message. He didn't have to cheat, treat me wrong and I'm gone.
My Dad was an alcoholic who lost everything for a beer. Everything, EVERYTHING, was less important than a beer. His career, his marriage, his freedom, and his relationship with his kids.
He gets to drink himself to death, alone, just like he always wanted. He sure was fucking pissed he didn't get to do that around his family in peace.
@@coyoteclockworkstudios3140 mmm no, i think with addictions works different, they have a problem and it is not because they don't like their families, they need recover
@@angelaschone2847 Yeah, and the problem with crazy people is they don't think they're crazy. My Dad ignored every doctor, priest, and professional, ignored his wife, his kids, and ended up alone with his drinking, like he WANTED.
Don't BS me that addicts can be fixed with the snap of a finger if you just love them enough. Love alone rarely makes for lasting or good relationships.
@@coyoteclockworkstudios3140 jummm yes, addiction is not craziness, addiction is a problem, they need to have the will to recover, priest are not going to recover an addict, jumm also he needed to go to psicologist, main problem, don't be irrational and i am not giving you any bs over anything, recover is not with love, recover is a medical, psicogical and psiquiátric process, no they don't recover with a snap of a finger, that is a process that last minimum 6 months to years, no, the bs is the one you have in your head, love is just one part of the recovery
@@coyoteclockworkstudios3140Preach! Enough with this talk about adicts never being able to choose and decide. Some simply decide those chemical pleasures worth more then their families and there's nothing we can do about it.
Scary thing is the number one cause of death for pregnant women is being killed at the hands of their husband or boyfriend. That is so beyond sad and messed up.
Chris Watt..
Yup...
Like the movie "match point"
WHEN WOMEN REALIZE THAT DOMESTIC AND SEXUAL VIOLENCE IS ROOTED IN THE MALE SELF ESTEEM, THEY WILL LET A MAN'S ISSUES BE HIS OWN...
Eeewww
I was in a airport bar. Some Chiropractor guy talked about being married for 17 years. That man clearly doesn't like his wife. He said he's there for the kids and it's been 17 years. Women want single women to envy marriage and their husbands don't like them ok.
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
I have a friend who is going through this. Her husband is constantly looking for ways to get away from her and their kids. I feel so bad for her.. Because she is actually a lovely person who sacrificed everything for him... And it still wasn't good enough for him.
@genevieveaniko6492 Of course, he wants to go out and whore himself around.
Single is the way, don’t waste your energy and efforts on these trashbags.
@@genevieveaniko6492 this is the problem. If women sacrifice everything, men can’t handle it. Cause he knows how little his worth is to deserve such sacrifice.
@shesomuch that part about married women thinking single women envy them is REAL!!
And then when us women don't want marriage or kids, the same men will admonish us for it.
I'm 48 in a few days and I'm still glad I never got married or had kids. I'm an aunt, and that's good enough for me. Anyone that will shame me for being "selfish" are the same people who are miserable in their marriages and resents me for not "suffering" like them.
Right? I'm 64 and don't regret not getting married or having kids. I'm an auntie/great auntie, and I love it!
@@Sandy-eb5ey They really do want everyone to suffer. There's an age where they suddenly stop shaming you about having sex and start pressuring you into having children and getting married. Families, coworkers, friends, everyone's asking "where is the husband where is the baby?" Where is the respect for my autonomy?
@@youresinningtoo3996 I hear you. And my response when asked, is- why do you give a shit what I do? Stay in your lane. Usually that shuts them up. My life, my decisions. Y'all not paying my rent or bills, I'm the boss😀
Some sign you know that your guy do not like you is he do not care about your corncerns and worries, he does not listen to your request and you gotta repeat yourself, weponize incompetence, Hating on things that make you enjoy doing (gardening, books or whatever), minimize your standard and boundaries, make fun of you for the shake of random crowd laughter.
Your absolutely correct!!
All you got to do is ask the man what do he like about you. If he say its about what you do for him then he doesn't like you
He responded: " it's complicated" 😅
I’m 30 year old woman no children no boyfriend / husband and my life is really chill. Also you are sooooo beautiful! You look like a model. I love your channel. 🎉
Thank you so much!!
🎉 well said. You are so right. I'm single, and I think marriage is a scam anyway. ❤❤
Me too girl 🙌 no kids or man. 😌
@@amberotl5276 I wasn’t completely honest I’m a lesbian lol
@@easiersaidwithmeg still winning 🏆 lmao 🫶
I don’t understand how a person can marry let alone date someone they do not like. It makes no sense to me at all.
Same. Because why? What's the reason?
Exactly I can’t imagine doing that marrying someone I don’t like.
It's easy for men to do. The only thing they care about is getting their needs met. Doesn't really matter who does it.
Some of them date / marry someone not because of love . For money , social status, beauty , got that person pregnant, ect . This young man , I know he is rich and educated got married , because he got his girlfriend pregnant . When they were dating ,He don’t love her ,but kept her for sex and money . She is rich and he is rich and wanted to keep that “ fancy “ lifestyle.
@oncetwice5942 You KNOW?!
There's a whole contingent out there trying to normalize misery. I was married to someone that didn't like me. It took me a while to accept the truth because I couldn't comprehend someone pursuing me the way he did, asking me to marry him and being the first one to suggest we start trying for kids, all just because he thought he was supposed to do it. And then got pissed when I finally filed for the divorce HE asked for. I am not opposed to love and romance, but I do not prioritize longevity over genuine companionship. Idgaf about the relationship lasting forever, I care about it being real.
… I’m convinced there is something DEEPLY wrong with their brain chemistry.
THIS..especially the ending!! I'm sorry you had to go through that..
Some of them really DO just want to trap someone and make them miserable. Men who feel insecure in their power desire someone they can have “power-over”.
Gosh, I am so sorry that happened to you :/ and I'm glad you got out of that situation. Hope you are doing better!
Whewww that last sentence!! 🔥🔥🔥
Growing up I heard my father say horrible things to my mother...one being was "l never loved you." Getting married for NEVER a thought for me.
Some hate their whole family.
Truth!
Met a guy like he purposely worked long hours to avoid his entire family
I have heard that there are men who have married women they are not in love with and passed up on the women they actually loved and cared about. That is so messed up.
Men are the true hypergamous ones
@divinegoddess386 that makes no SENSE!!
@Finnhungambar b/c it's easier to take from her, lie to her, manipulate her, dog walk her & cheat on women they don't like/hate but couple up with. They pass on the women they love because it would require too much of his time, mental and emotional energy and money to reciprocate/give back to her. Naturally a man will avoid love out of fear of abandonment. See the woman he doesn't like will stay in a toxic loveless one sided relationship with him longer whereas a woman that requires love requires reciprocation or she's not sticking around too long to fulfill his Narcissistic one sided needs , she'll leave him. Love makes us equal. Patriarchy says we're not equal. Patriarchy encourages neglect and one sided situations that keep us at an unequal disadvantage.
Yes because men can only marry the women that they can actually get. The women that they truly wanted. Are the ones that rejected them.
@Finnhungambar. Because they still need their needs to be met. Believe it or not. Many men can’t actually get women. Go to their spaces. They always obsessing over these Instagram types and those types aren’t interested in them LIKE THAT. So they get resentful of the woman that they feel they ‘settled’ for. That’s why when that woman complains they call it ‘nagging’. For them. It’s like ‘you Better be grateful I even married you to begin with’. Go to their spaces. It’s very eye opening how they view women.
Men just don't get married if yall will begin to hate your families
@user-ThWall not my story just simple advice if you cant be loyal or your not ready for marriage maybe just don't get married
They hate their wives BEFORE getting married... They just don't let them know - only when it's already too late...😢
Not getting married practically speaking is a good idea but women and society in general make such a big stinking deal about men that don’t want to get married. Everything has to be about marriage especially if you are older and frankly it’s irritating.
@@amiyrbarclift1640 I think women are often taught marriage is what gives them worth and pressure them into so often. When women get married to men. Men have been proven to cheat more or they are more likely to abandon there wife if she gets a illness in marriage. And its been shown womens happiness decreases when married to men. I also notice men get extremely offended by single women with no children which I find odd. Women have been proven to be happier single. Its so weird that men get so offended that women choose to be single. Why? Or worried that women are opting out of marriage. Why does it offend men so deeply (also i know not all men or women are the same)
@@amiyrbarclift1640you can say NO… no one can force you
I think you can tell how much your husband values you in the way people around him view you. Every time I meet his friends, old or new, they always tell me how highly he speaks of me. He protects and stands up for me every time, and vice versa. My people also see how much he values me just by his actions.
That is wonderful! These are the best aspects for a healthy relationship: true admiration and support. I'm happy for you!💖🙏😄
You can consider yourself REALLY lucky...🙏👍
I found out how much my SO was down playing my contributions in our shared business, and what I did at home. I was astonished, because I was working my butt off, juggling multiple tasks. Most of our friends knew he was full of bs, but damn! 11:19
Not necessarily, some people treat you different behind closed doors and will speak highly of you in public, because their perception of how others see them, with a perfect or great marriage is what matters to them.
They want the praise from others and prefer that everything looks great on the outside looking in.
Nope! Because they play a role outside the house.
ive noticed that the women from my office redecorate the facility out of their own pockets with new Ikea furniture, paint jobs, couches, gym equipment and fancy china . they stay late and come early. they treat the office as the second home because its away from the kids and their husbands who are at school/work. its so common its scary. 99% of married people RESENT their kids and spouses its terrifying
Can’t blame them. Who wants to be around overly loud people that you clean up after.
@magnarcreed3801 they should be selwre enough not to create them...that's why I'm childfree cause I hate noise
I'm SO glad I'm in the 1%. 99%? Really???
That is sad to hear . I hope family life in America gets better 😮
we are not in america. its a universal thing now unfortunately @@moonfish8229
I dated someone who secretly hated me and was visibly annoyed by my presence. I Broke up with him and now he’s calling my family during holidays, birthdays etc and having his family wish me happy holidays which never happened when we were together. Sir we were never friends and you made sure of that. Leave me alone stranger …lol
It’s crazy how they hate us but, won’t leave us alone! 😭😭😭😭😭
@@misssincere5762control over you
I’m so happy when women don’t tolerate bs in relationships and don’t ignore the red flags. Because a man that does not like you will possibly be emotionally abusive, cheat or even kill so good on you!
Years ago I had a friend who used to make the most beautiful gift baskets for holidays and special occasions. He used to sell them on the corner of Crenshaw and MLK Blvds. in Los Angeles. Sometimes he'd ask me to come down and keep him company and on that corner, I got an earful of BM expressing their contempt for their wives, girlfriends, and for some, even their mothers. It was like listening to a degradation marathon, and while most of them stopped just to buy an obligatory gift, making it clear that they didn't want to spend more than $10, if that, they were proud to show off their big wads of cash, jump back into their expensive SUVs (with the custom rims), and go home to those women, filled with animosity and rancor towards them.
It got to the point where I couldn't go and keep my friend company anymore as I ultimately became traumatized by the amount of hatred these BM felt towards BW. No one can EVAH make me feel bad about my choice to remain single, CF. Most BW don't even know that when they get married to a BM, they are marrying an oppressor who hates them and will chip away at them until there's nothing left. DIVEST NOW!
my Lord, that was depressing. I'm sorry you had to be a witness to all that. My father was in an intercultural relationship with my mother and when he divorced her, all he did was talk bad about her and call her a sand N word, because she was Arabic. The disrespect was appalling. She had to work like a man because he was the only bread winner and refused to work, my grandmother enabled that behavior too much. Anyways, he was able to gain custody of me and my siblings and I remember when I was cooking dinner and handed him his food, he looked right at me and said, "You know, you are going to make someone a fine N word, when you grow up." my utter distain for him resonates to this day and he has been dead for almost ten years.
@@heneverforesakesme4038 OMG! I'm so sorry your dad was such a jerk and I can really relate. Your dad probably never thought about the impression he was making on you and your siblings when he said things like that because he didn't care. Imagine what he put your mom through behind closed doors. I hope she came out of everything okay, and you, too. ☮❤
@@queenlj12jax97
I believe you…I’ve witnessed this and my own dad is a d ark sk inned mid E astern guy who always trash talking about my mother to strangers willing to listen. The entire neighborhood knew what he thought of my mother. He would mistreat us as well. Barely any food in the fridge and my mother didn’t speak English as im migrant herself so she struggled to find a job.
White men are no better. Have u seen their divorce rates?😂
THIS!! What does CF mean?
Some men just want a maid and a sex robot
They should just hire a maid and get a blow up doll. There's a man in some Slavic country who actually married a blow up doll. It was on social media.😂
@@RavenelvenladyAt least this guy can't emotionally destroy his "wife"...😮
Not even that - they want a maid (that's why they get married) but have a mistress for sex and all the nice, enjoyable stuff which is such a SHAME 😡😡😡 It's always the wife getting the shit end of the stick, the mistress is perfectly fine - no chores, no drudgery but the full amount of freedom and fun...
Stay single and childfree, ladies!
Yes. And that’s why tech moguls are developing artificial wombs and seggs robots who look like teenaged anime girls. They plan on replacing us anyway, which is even more reason to avoid getting involved with them.
Then shouldn’t y’all do more to make men believe there is more to y’all than just cooking and sex?
This is why it says in Colossians 3:19 “Husbands, love your wives and do not be bitter towards them.” Paul also states in Ephesians 5:25. “For husbands, this means love your wives, just as. Christ loved the church and died for her.” Most men are very selfish and God knows this. So He actually made it a commandment to men to LOVE their wives. Now I really know why it’s been written more than once.
If a man needs bible verses to be kind and respectable to his wife he has bigger issues. A good man doesn't need to be told to be a good man he just is.
I used to work with someone who seemed to really hate his wife and he was not subtle about it. His ringtone for her was literally a siren sound that said 'WARNING. IT'S THE WIFE. WARNING.' I don't know why they bother.
😂that ringtone tho wth 😂
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I just lol’d so hard at this 😂😂
Tf 😂 wow I'm so glad to be single
I definitely support the gay theory. A lot of gay men hate and envy women.
The fashion blogs written by gay men are crazyyyy. It's gallons of misogyny _"looks good if you don't look too close" "throw these high heels in the trash"_
Truth. And I wish people would realize that the very women many of them admire and model themselves after - in particular the "Real Housewives", et al - are a construct of a gay male. Demeaning, exaggerating, patronizing the woman - putting women in the worst light possible. And yet so many women fall for this today and it does not help but promote the stereotype of the high-maintenance ho - which in most mens eyes appears to be most women today.
I really don't see how women have not acknowledged this for so long..The fashion police and women's degradation brigade are often g ay men. They seem to especially dislike women's body parts. Talk about women by calling them "fish" in reference to women's private parts. I am still surprised how so many women throw on a cape for g ay men.
@@hawkrose2698yes yes yes! Even the beauty standards pushed often resemble what men fetishize in other males.
Example: when I was a teen, tall anorexic super models were the fashion. In hindsight, many of them resembled adolescent boys because they were so thin and tall, had androgynous faces. Then it occurred to me that it was the image of the adolescent male that these fashion designers wanted to push- many men in that group fetishize teen boys more than anyone else.
Now they push the ultra fake l ay deee boy look; because these men also find that attractive.
@@user-od5fh3gn4dI don't buy into that theory. If that was the case, treats like mustach and body hair would be part of fashion too. The fashion world is more an hebophilic fantasy where the only appearence aceptable is that of a good looking teenager, for both genders. Both womanwood and menwood in its mature forms are despised.
Some men don’t love their wives , they married them for other reasons other than love .They see them as “ wife material”, but they are not in love with them .❤❤
They see them as the perfect obedient, submissive and worthless SLAVES... 😢😢
So many men marry women because women make such a big deal about marriage and he just goes along with it. Not really knowing what he’s getting into.
@@amiyrbarclift1640the poor innocent genuine honest men 😂
@@rses916 Exactly. We all really need to rethink the whole idea of marriage and relationships between men and women.
@@amiyrbarclift1640why can’t you just say no I don’t want to get married. If that’s important to you you need to find someone who wants that….: because you’re are selfish and can’t stand to lose someone you want with bare minimum…
A week after I gave birth a man came up to my car to tell me what he knew about my husband from his wife who my husband fired. He told me my husband was afraid of me, didn't like me and worked late to avoid coming home and dealing with me and the children.
My husband of course denied it all but I knew deep down in my spirit that the man wasn't lying. I knew that my husband had exposed his thoughts to coworkers who gossiped about us and eventually it got back to me.
I don't like him either. We are married but no longer friends.
That is really sad. I'm sorry you're in this situation. I pray you grow to like each other and become friends again. 🙏💖
@@Ravenelvenlady Thank you. We could really use your prayers right now. I mean that.
@BlackRelationshipsUncut I'm really sorry to hear that. May I ask in all seriousness why you stay? (I'm nor married so would like to educate myself). I am truly praying for you and your children
It is my sincere hope that you all find a way to amicably divorce and move on and stop playing roommates… You both deserve a chance at TRUE happiness… there is nothing worse than not having your home be your peace! To have both parties to a marriage disliking one another is damaging to your spirit. Not to mention damaging to your children’s spirit and emotional well-being (whether you realize it or not)… Marriage should not be a long walk on eggshells 🥚
Your husband needs to keep his mouth shut and stop blabbering to people that aren’t truly his friends
My husband and I are best friends. He texts me at least once an hour while at work and is constantly trying to make me laugh and do stuff for me. I can't imagine the hell these women with shitty husbands are are going through😢
Thank you for sharing your story, it’s refreshing and I’m happy there are women being treated well in marriage ❤🤍
Yep. I've met many men like this. They had no desire to get married, but they can't hire a woman to do all that a wife will do. They genuinely don't like women. I do have a co-worker who likes women and he is so refreshing. He will literally talk to women for hours and ask us what we think. He is married and not flirty at all. You can just tell that he respects and likes women and how we think.
Lol, women don't think. Shut the f uck up
Wow that line “why would you go without talking to someone you like for the sake of pride” just made me realize my ex never liked me. He was mad at me for having a lunch date with his sister and refused to talk to me for 2 weeks and I still have no idea why he had that reaction to me hanging out with her when I told him we were planning a lunch date
My coworker said he hates working from home because his wife works from home too.
I've always felt my dad hated my mom and us kids. He never wanted to be seen with us. Never would go out anywhere as a family. He'd "brag" about his kids but wouldn't want anything to do with us when he was home. Wouldn't get my mom any gifts but would buy gifts for his mother. The one time he got my mom something is was a potted mums plant on Valentine's day...while he got his mother 2 dozen red roses...I can go on 😅
This is because they don’t want partners to share their life with. They want free chefs, maids, and nannies they can have sex with, and many times also bring in an income on top of that.
The sex and all the nice, enjoyable stuff is being outsourced - they share it with their mistress... For the chores and drudgery they've got their wives...😮
@@rebekkagasmi9451..: or they give all their love to their digital mistresses. What they really want are machines to wait on them.
And an incubator for their legacy
Women have always BEEN the prize but these dusties think they are one.
33yo woman child free and man free! For the first time in my life I am learning to love myself and my life is so peaceful I have never been happier!
I was intrigued by this in how it relates to my brother. We grew up an an abusive household, and emotional health was not modeled for us by either parents, both of which were mentally ill. I watched my Dad destroy my Mom on the daily, emotionally and verbally. They were co-dependant.
My brother was controlling of me in a very subversive kind of way: he would tear me down in terms of "what men don't like." "Men don't like hairy legs, you're disgusting." "Men don't like girls without makeup, you're so ugly." He would have these moments frequently when he would suddenly realize he had contempt for me, and it was like he'd just reminded, and needed to be an asshole to me out of the blue to remind me of my place. Just very gendered stuff, that had obviously been demonstrated to him.
We're estranged now, because he gave me an ultimatum that I wasn't allowed to talk about the abuse we suffered as kids. But yeah, I don't think my brother liked me because I was his little sister.
This is very sad. I’m sorry you had to experience this. Thank you for sharing.
I can relate
Hé can stay alone this devil leave you life abd dont turn BACK
Naw even in India, men talk shit about their wives behind their back
Everywhere is like this sadly
@@salsipuedes8425 i thought it doesnt happen in west
@@shivanipde it does i am mexican dating a toxic mexican men im trying to leave the relationship but he gets agressive everytime i try to leave men are the same everywhere they just hate women
@@salsipuedes8425 please try to get help, i will pray for you 🙏🏼
@@salsipuedes8425run SILENTLY NEVER turn back he will delete you one day otherwise
Love should not be difficult. True love should not be difficult. when someone is in a marriage and it’s true love there it won’t be difficult. Women wake up.
@LovelyKola THIS!!!
Watch Princella the queen maker , men are not capable of love she backs it with data and biology of men
💯‼️🔥 I say this all the time.
Women need to understand that most men are incapable of love. They don’t love their own mothers, sisters or even themselves. Truly a degenerate gender.
The way he described the way he feels when spending time w his wife just made me melt I can’t wait til my man speaks of me with such high regard and heartfelt emotions. ❤
so often these men forget that it goes the other way too
Even if they like you at first, some men get very "comfortable" in their relationship/marriage and enjoy so much all the things that you do for them, they start thinking they are something special and could find someone better. So they start picking on you and slowly destroying the relationship because they think in the moment where they leave you, some supermodel is going to ask them out. Men are delulu too. And when they realize it's not true, they start hating you even more because they feel worthless.
I am so happy with my husband he is the best. But HE acknowledged me about the fact that some men just are pissed with their wifes. And he mentioned HIS FATHER (which is still with his mother). And when he said it it became obvious. My father in low always finds something to say about his wife (so much that she just stopped taking care about herself even stopped brushing her teeth this is awful). It isn’t that he doesn’t love his wife but my husband pointed the fact that if it wasn’t about his « religious » ego, he’ll probably cheat. And more than once. Also my husband preferred to stay with his mom when he was young. His father wasn’t really emotionally present. And! They had 5 children. But every time we come to say hello with their grandchildren he acts like it’s a burden. Don’t make 5 « mistake » and then complain about having grandchildren everywhere. My mother in low always has to hide to give me some food before we leave. He isn’t saying all of this out loud but it’s the little sentences, little moaning and stuff. He just hates the life he had built
So nice to hear that you're in a great relationship. A true partnership.
Great he can die bitter 😂karma is on the corner ..great you re doing good. She s not brushing her teeth cause she s disgusted by him and herself to stay with such a jerk lol
Watch out for the men we work with too. You know, the ones who "joke" at your expense, picking on you for a "laugh". Them. They dont like women or their wives either. Trust.
There is no secret about it. Everyone one knows, especially his wife and kids. But the truth of it is that these men hate themselves and their laziness when it comes to their families. And instead of dealing with it, they push that hate onto their wife and children.
This is what happens when you demonize the "friendzone". I realise that disliking your partner and/or mother of your children is an issue older than the "friendzone" meme, but if it didn't make it worse, it sure as heck didn't make it better.
BE. FRIENDS. FIRST. But I guess in this dating culture most would rather just stay single because "it's just too much effort" smh. Oh well.
Girl mehn hate the friend zone so bad but it’s definitely needed, especially in today’s time. Men want to smash any woman they come in contact with or get close to. It’s ridiculous & a huge turn off. 😐🤦🏽♀️ They definitely don’t know how to just befriend women on just get to know us on a platonic level.
I’m sorry I’m not being friends with a man I feel uncomfortable around. If he wants to secretly have sex with me, I don’t trust anything he does for me because it’s STEEPED in the idea that he’s closer to 3rd base and ONE day he might. That’s not a true friendship
@@MIA-zk4iw but that is exactly why being friends with men is important. Because you have time to see who they really are.
Yeah I disagree, friendships are for wpmen, we're not the same and men are built to get what they want, good guy or not. You jist need to Learn to vet and get comfortable rejecting.
Men who want yo be with you don’t want you to see who they really are. They want you to sleep with them. You see who they are AFTER they’ve gotten the cookie. It’s up to the women to leave or stay
Exactly thats why i stay single my ex was very. Very mean to me he really hate me some man really hate women
When you realize you're there just to make that man look and be stable, RUN!
This is part of the reason I am contently 40 and Single! I have no problem WAITING for a TRUE and GENUINE loving relationship/ marriage. DESPERATION is the cause of so many miserable marriages… stop ignoring the red flags 🚩 just to be someone’s WIFE! … Learn to be TRULY happy with YOU and self-sufficient by yourself! THEN the Universe can and will send you your person who is truly for you! You will never find a true mate when you are in a state of desperation.
So true!…
Gave 6 years to a toxic narcissist, who said the most horrific things to me- that’s when I really felt the hatred, and walked away. He tried to get me back - but I refuse to be with someone who hates me, just because I was convenient for him. The love wasn’t real.
I am happily on my own and at peace. No once verbally abusing me, using me or cheating on me with porn sites and secret date site profiles.
Thank you God for finally giving me the strength to walk and not weaken.
5 months no contact.
Onwards and upwards.
Stay blessed 🙏🏽
My ex-husband had issues that he admitted to trying to keep secret but I'm abusive for not knowing what he was going through all while I did everything for him. My will to live was gone for over a year. I'm finally free. No longer a maid and expected to be a psychic therapist to him. I don't need to fix his problems even the ones I had no idea about. I taught him to drive, my family gave him a car he let rot, I let him use my car, got our house for us, fixed it, decorated it, ran it. I'm a monster for not realizing he was unhappy and leaving him earlier. No joke that's how he feels.
Your time in hell is over - I really ENVY you for that... 🙏🍀🤗
It’s like you’re describing my life for the past few years.
Its giving: put up with me and my mess.
Now I understand how my mom always made time for my school events and dad couldn't.
They hate them now, but when he's sick who will he be asking for help or a organ transplant.
If the marriage isn't toxic then you shouldn't hate your wife or the children that by the way you helped make!
I will never understand the logic behind marrying a person you don't like... Because of societal standards. It's nonsense this is the age of pride.. They need to come out of the closet and leave women alone.
@@genevieveaniko6492men call other men losers if they don't have a woman in their lives.
It can be a thing to prove himself as a man to other men, among other benefits ofcourse.
DATE! Really date before you marry and have kids. My husband and I were together for 7 years before marriage and kids. We were free to come and go as we pleased and chose each other every time. If we had free time, we chose to be with each other - not out of obligation but pure desire. Soooo many people judged us and said to either just go get married or just break up but nope. We took our time and chose each other. Now we’ve been together over 20 years with 3 kids and we both LIVE IN THE HOUSE! We rush home and do everything together and with our kids. We are still the best of friends and low key are disturbed when both our sets of friends complain about having to be around their spouses and kids. Can’t relate!
And right now they will say girl that’s too long I give him 2 yrs
Men make me sad. Most of them are horrible.
Nah we aren’t, y’all are projecting lol.
Yes, that good ole "tolerable level of unhappiness"
A tolerable level of Permanent unhappiness
So true. I have a married friend who said he stays because “it’s not SO bad”. I can tell that he doesn’t like his wife. It’s so sad.
some of these men might really actually be closeted, BUT I think we need to be very careful about pathologizing emotional openness and comfort between men. It's not a bad thing for men to be close and to love each other; we just want them to also do that for us, to see us as equals and as safe and as full human beings. We don't want the negative equality of them not being able to be emotional and vulnerable to ANYONE, that's literally patriarchy and one reason we're in the f'ed up situation we're in regarding gender relations.
They’ll never look at us like that.
Facts ❤
Meanwhile, in real life..
obviously. The point being made here and the reason for highlighting the fact is that it demonstrates that while they have THE ABILITY to be vulnerable, share space, and demonstrate comradery between themselves, they demonstrate a widespread unwillingness to do the very same with the women who birth their children cook their meals and polish their gear sticks. Straight men who only like the anatomy and not the basis of what a woman is are very dangerous and questionable. This is not about throwing stones at their ability to connect with each other. Bravo. ITs that they claim to love/like women and refuse to do the same with them.
@@ladybug3380 find one who does. You have to become friends.
I am dying alone with a cat, it's awesome! After being married, it's pure bliss!!
and they are offended by us not wanting to marry/date/be with/procreate with them anymore.
In Ancient Greece they said women are for marrying and breeding and men are for loving. Our society hasn’t changed much but become even more difficult to be a woman.
My dad didn't like his mom, my mom, his wife, his many mistresses, and none of his daughters. He raised my brothers the same. It was horrible as a girl in my house. That lady spoke facts about being picked on by her brother. Rumor in town is my dad and one of my brother are on the DL. My brother actually told me he didn't want to marry his wife the day before their wedding. They have been married 17 yrs and have 5 kids. He constantly cheats and treats his family like trash from what his son tells me. I went no contact years ago.
This crap is sad...guess it's okay to be happily divorced!
Men with enough money to get the girl they really want, and provide for them, so their girl stays relaxed and looking fresh, who can hire nannies and maids so their wives don't have to nag them/'force' them to do domestic chores, are the only ones who love their wives.
As it should be:) lol
@@Mariam-kg7fr Amen! Kisses from KSA
The full meaning of a homosexual is a man who has feelings of love, affection and affinity for other men.. They prefer the company of men and feel like men are worth investing in over women. Its not always necessarily a sexual thing... So based on this logic modern culture is a homosexual culture. Alot of men today are gay but just don't want to embrace it... So they seek heterosexual relationships to hide their truth... And end up resenting their women. 🤷♀️
By your definition, frienship doesn't exist. And all "loving" families are based on inc*st.
Don't confuse the different types of "love", otherwise you end up creating nonsense. Being gay isn't about loving people of the same gender platonically. It's about eros. The sexual love. The one mostly driven by temporary hormones.
I don't know why they won't embrace it. It's 2023. It's safe for them to come out of the closet now. I've been saying for a long time they should just date each other and stop bothering women.
This is what I've been saying. Men keep giving all their attention and affection for other men. All a woman is for them is a maid and a hole. They dislike anything else about us and openly say they endlessly prefer men and male nature for company and friendship. That's a full blown platonic romance. The only thing that's missing is the romantic/sexual element, and I find it harder and harder to believe it's actually missing for many of these men. They are so in love with themselves that even their partners now need to reflect them or otherwise they are uncapable of loving them. Crazy
Because in order to be a man they have to have a woman give him this identity. So he comes to resent bring with her and getting his manhood defined through her.
If he's a narcissist he'll force (or at least coerce) his wife to have anal sex with him, even if she's making absolutely clear that she HATES it... Then he'll call her prude and uptight and will RAPE her (anally, of course) when she's in a state of defenselessness... 😳😱🙈
I worked with a man who would openly talked about disliking his wife and his kids. He even had the nerve to be besties with a woman that he worked with who he seemed to go estly like more than his wife. This pushed me to stay firm in my stance of no marriage/kids. A man will marry and have kids with you yet dislike you and resent being with you all at the same time.
Women will do the same thing
Yep what kind of shyt is that
"imagine overhearing your dad saying he'd rather work than be around you/"
Don't have to imagine and can confirm, I do need therapy.
Edit: No shame to him, he was just born in the wrong era with not enough discussion of what to look for in a marriage.
I heard my dad saying how dissapoined he was because i was a girl and not a boy i heard him talking shit about my mom and beating her up
Marriage is for the birds but most Moms and even Dads, like their kids. We love them too but we actually LIKE them. But, dealing with someone I didn't create and who's acting like an overgrown child? Ick! I'll pass.
True: alot of men in this predicament leack self awareness and don't realise the reason they can't get on with their wives is because they are unlikeable, can't function peacefully, lack critical thinking skills and conflict resolution abilities... But they think that the problem is their wife...
THANK YOU
The lady at about 5 min give or take that talked about the man who hates his family is spot on….listen to Princella the Queen maker. Going through a baaaaad breakup & it made me feel better listening to the biological reasons she gives that prove men are incapable of love & women should focus on themselves & not live their lives worrying about r’ships & marriage.
It is sad that the standart for men is so low. I literally thought that the first men is such a sweetheart. But actually love and appreciation for your wife/husband is the fundament for a healthy and working relationship. I wish the best for their realtionship, they seem very cute ❤❤
I’m grateful my husband and I are best friends. He goes
Out of his way to spend time with me. It’s been ten years and I just am glad to think about
Him.
If you have pets, you aren't alone. My cat doesn't cheat, lie, or frustrate me. These men don't get it. We can be miserable and alone without them making things worse. In most cases, they are a burden, not an asset.
Likewise
@@Ktsjay187men cant live without women even at 80 they're still looking for a young woman to marry lmao.
I know so many divorced women who CHOSE to never marry because marriage isnt beneficial to women and because women have friends and family and dont need a man in their lives. Yall men are lonely. Boohoo.
I lit have a male friend who has been married to this woman for a few yrs...I was surprised he even married her, cause he didn't even seem to like her all that much...she would call when we were hanging out and he always seemed annoyed by that...Like how dare she call me...Now yrs later... Married with a new baby he's telling me he got a second job just so he could spend less time with his wife....Says he can't stand spending any time with her...Hates talking to her, or being in the same RM as her...They now sleep in separate bedrooms...But he does acknowledge she's a good person and a great mom...But he just doesn't like her company...but feels stuck cause of their new child ..he said he feels like he made his bed and now he just has to lay in it...To be fair she doesn't seem all that happy with him either...Always fighting and she's brought up divorce a few times ..He says he has one foot out the door but feels conflicted cause of their child ..It just seems so miserable...He says it feels like he just as to except being unhappy for some yrs, until their kid is a bit older... def makes me wanna stay unmarried...
What you really want is someone to cater to your ego and your brokenness bro facts.
Yup.. that’s my mom… looking down her nose at single women and mothers.. pedestalizing her late husband who didn’t seem to like her, stated openly he regretted marriage and discouraged his sons from marrying.. demanded she abort her 4th child, refused to get life insurance cause he didn’t want to “take care of anybody” .. the “anybody” being his (at the time young) family… I mean.. I didn’t understand then.. but I sure do now.. he hated his life and resented his family and more so women (def had mommy issues). My moms in denial and that’s unfortunate. I am not. And it’s ok. He was my dad and I love him despite.. didn’t like him.. like he didn’t like me. He was mean and a bully. But he also didn’t abandon us physically (some cases tho it’s better if a toxic parent does go away). If he were alive I would def take care of him. But I just am not deluded about the quality of our relationship.
At least cat's know how to show love .
Exactly
“That’s how patriarchy conditions them”… “I think society conditions men to not like women.” This does nothing but absolve the men of their accountability in mistreating women. Patriarchy is not a person capable of holding a gun to a man’s head forcing him to treat a woman like crap. He is making a very intentional CHOICE when he treats her bad. I can’t stand the fake calling out of men, especially by men b/c it simply proves that they won’t go against each other no matter how wrong the other may be. Men are not forced against their will to be horrible human beings, they are willingly doing so.
8:05 I hate how she scarily asks “can I say something” as if she’s a kid, then they proceed to ignore her and she asks again hesitantly as if her opinion doesn’t matter when in reality she hit the nail on the head.
That's what patriarchy is, it's not an entity or a conscious conspiracy, it's the system that educates men to do all the little actions that collectively keep women down. Men being horrible human beings individually as a choice is literally patriarchy.
WHEN WOMEN REALIZE THAT DOMESTIC AND SEXUAL VIOLENCE IS ROOTED IN THE MALE SELF ESTEEM, A WOMAN WILL LET A MAN'S ISSUE BE HIS DAMN OWN...
This is such an interesting topic. On one hand, I had a guy who wanted to start a family with me, but along the way, I felt like he didn't even like me as a friend. Blew my mind. There's another guy who likes me as a friend, and more than that, but I feel that he is in his relationship out of duty. Because if you were in love and happy, you wouldn't be searching elsewhere. Third, I felt what she was saying about men not liking their families. My dad doesn't like me, I didn't ask him to be here. I wish that men would quit unaliving their families and just freaking leave.
❤ I'm so grateful for him sharing!
As an engaged woman, my opinion is this video talks about A CATEGORY of men, not about all of them, and I'm sorry for the mentality those men have. I can't imagine being so resentful, dreading your life and your marriage. I mean, they say "yes, I do" to those women, only to talk bad about them behind their backs? I pray that if me and my man ever get into this situation, at least, we'll be human enough to end it on good terms. I adore him, so if he ever starts to resent me, at least, I'd like him to have the spinal cord to come tell me in my face. What the public just watched right now, is the result of men who have unresolved issues with women, getting married. And those men don't hate or dread only women, they hate and dread everybody.
So let's strongly hope for you that your future husband is NOT a narcissist... otherwise... 😮😳🙈
You're in denial. Good luck 😂
lol 😂 Good Luck!
I'm sure the women described in the video said the exact thing you just did - "my man is NOT like that."
@@Mariam-kg7fr Until proven wrong, I'm right. I know my man, we've been through some stuff together, before he proposed. Another thing is I didn't pick him just because I saw him once and I liked him, I also ran a background check on him, while we were in the talking stage. I am a woman of good faith, but I don't like it when people think they know what I have at home better than I do. I don't invalidate your experiences, I don't deny anything, but just because you made your cup of tea doesn't mean you get to sit everybody at the table with you. With all that being typed, your opinion is your opinion.
I go to Dobbs when I need to get tires for my vehicle.
Once I was in Dobbs getting tires & I was speaking to the manager & he was telling me a lot of men bring their wives cars in to get work or repairs & he said most of the men act like they don’t care if their wives cars are running right or not…
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This is so disgusting...
Men marry a certain type of woman for social currency. They look for women with a pedigree, basically. The woman they marry must improve their social standing in the eyes of their employer, family, and peers. It doesn't matter if he really likes her or not, she's fulfilling a role.
A place holder
I GOT MY CAT READYYY!! He even wakes me up with purrrrs for my morning workout!!!
I know several men with this exact! attitude!!😅😅
My sister, bless her heart, and I can't really blame her as according to her IQ test she is just barely not considered mentally challenged so its really far more on her ex husband, but anyways he impregnated her with 9 kids and he started doing meth and one day screamed that he hates her and all of the kids, IN FRONT OF THE KIDS! I once overheard my father say the only reason he kept me around is the law, in other words he didnt want to get jn trouble for child abandonment and that hurt bad and I left. I cant imagine how it would have affected me if i heard him say he hated me outright!
This happened to my cousin. He's still going through the divorce, but he moved on and got another woman and had a child with her.
My cousin use to tell me he wanted to leave his wife when his second child was born. He later had a 3rd with her before the divorce. His kids are teens now, but I still remember the day he told me "Sometimes, having a family is the worst."😢
It hurt when he said that because I always love seeing people married and with children, especially my cousin. But seeing his anger and hearing his bitterness even now it's very difficult.😢
WTF. He doesn't enjoy having kids, so he had a 3rd one. He didn't like having a family, so after the split (but before the papers were finalized) he had ANOTHER KID with the new woman???
DUDE! Get a vasectomy! It's So Easy
@@FallacyBitescreepy, right? Maybe he’s into kids?
It’s not really a “secret.” They been saying it covertly and def acting like it but the women just don’t really hear it. 😕
I have already decided to stay single. I am not willing to be a maid to anyone least of all a man who takes advantage of the women and all she does for him only to hate her and be two faced to her.
priceless info. thanks!
Plenty of TV shows (ftom the 70s until now) have characters who despise their wives! Remember the show Married with Children? If not, look up clips. The whole premise of the show was Al Bundy hating his wife, kids and entire life! 🤷🏿♀️
Why am I watching this on Valentine’s Day🤦🏽♀️😂😂😂
That kind of man telling and showing his friends that he is married = he has succeeded in keeping a hostage.
My dear you’re looking fine o
Thanks honey 🤗💕💕
honestly I was just comlaining about this today. they dont like and repsect you as a person, not like they do with their friends.
"i'd rather die alone with a cat"
Priscilla Boye
Cats don’t scare us 😂
Very interesting, thank you
Can't relate my dad loves my mom he's crazy about her! She's his dream girl. They do almost everything together. This is such a shame. And my dad loves me and my brother. He may be harsh on us because not gonna lie I did stupid things in my youth but he's my rock and I love him