Why Some Men Deliberately Baby Trap Women | Guard Your Wombs
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- People discuss the reasons why some men deliberately baby trap women and why it’s important for women to be picky with choosing fathers of their children and also to guard your wombs.
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Never let a man talk you into being a mother or abandoning a career and education. You'll always live long enough to regret it at the end.
Literally, always regret it in the end
I believe it.
I wish someone would have told me this 13 years ago. But y’all they are not lying. Motherhood is not for young women who don’t even know who they are or who they want to be yet. Save yourself the pain and suffering and live your best life unapologetically!
The fact they have the audacity to ask anyone to end their education or career
Facts
My ex husband called me a whore because I said I wasn’t ready to have a baby. In reality I knew he was cheating and I was preparing my for my exit.
Girlfriend!!!😂 Seriously ???? He called u a whore because u weren't ready to have a child??? No disrespect but dude is a moron without the oxy in front of it!!!😂
Forgot something: U chose and planned wisely!!! Perfecto!!!🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉❤❤❤❤
So happy you didn’t get guilted by his words.
He was definitely projecting.
???? His insult doesn't make any sense.
Did he forget how babies are made? 😂😂😂
ladies, I worked in corrections as a nurse. Men that have been locked up for SA, not ONLY brag and boast about what they have done, especially about victims that are strangers, but they brag and boast about the STD they have given the women AND they be telling the homies on the block, they hope they got the victim pregnant so they could torment her with court if she had the baby. Imagine that for a minute. Some random dude, grapes you, gives you an STD and now that our reproductive rights have been revoked and they are trying to get rid of plan B, they now want to be in your life for the rest of your life and you have to look at that grape baby knowing who the daddy is, IF you don't give it up for adoption. Listen to these men, that say these heathens are sinister...they are pure EVIL. Be safe out there and guard your wombs.
I don't have to imagine. This happened in my family before Roe vs. Wade. However, I didn't know the extents of the depravity that you just explained.
Truly demonic behavior. I often wonder what do people like this live for. All they do is bring destruction.
Yeah Psych student here who can cfm this. They love how society makes women feel like an absolute sinner when they associate a baby, something that is supposed to be out of love & bliss be associated with something & someone so terrible. This then makes us feel unworthy of love & such a monster that can lead to suicide. Society even badmouths us in death. We literaly can't rest, be at peace, or rest in peace!! That's why I really hope courts & judges around the world are educated abt this. If I'm a successful psychologists, I wouldlike to bridge this gap of knowledge in the courts who make life changing decisions in their hands.
Wooooowww
That is one of the most DEMONIC 👹 things I've ever heard. Very parasitic and disgusting people exist 🤢🤮
Hate the guy calling his girlfriend selfish for affirming herself as a person and when she’s the one that does everything. When she confronts him that he doesn’t help around , he says that’s what she’s supposed to do. Infuriating.
He feels entitled to her labour and has probably convinced himself that he is a provider. The gaslighting and manipulation is insane.
Exactly! Doesn't help her, She is on section 8 with the baby, and trying to gaslight his audience into believing he is a good provider an supporter of her. Women that continues to believe submitting to these males will earn them more love and respect got some hard lessons coming.
@@Priscilla_BoyeBINGO
He's stupid for filming her! It just shows how useless he is!!!! The jokes write themselves ladies!!!😅😅😅
These are the narcissists narratives they tell themselves.. and now how she suppose to walk away .. smh
If a man has to beg and plead for you to have a baby with him...Don't do it! If both partners aren't wildly enthusiastic about the possibility of kids, it's gonna make a hard right exponentially harder.
And the child suffers
Or if you aren’t stable enough OR MARRIED it doesn’t take that long to go write your names on a certificate yet they wait till after having the baby to ask for more commitment
@@Alexz5040 a majority of Christian children in history were born out of wedlock. Bastard is not a christian term, and existed to degrade legitimacy of nobles. Until the late 1800's, the norm was to simply be domestic partners. Marriage did not become the norm until the DeBiers diamond cartel seized the engagement ring market. Marriage has nothing to do with the health of the child: you're regurgitating monopoly propaganda and assuming it's the truth. That helps none.
This. If a man is begging you to do something
1) You obviously don't want to do
2) That will take literal YEARS (3-5 to be exact) off your lifespan. That's just for gestation + birth, BTW.
3) Put a disproportionate burden on you (for a minimum of 18 years if not life)
Then all he's thinking about is his own benefit (at your expense). Agreeing to that would be one of the biggest/dumbest mistakes you could make for your life.
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It's crazy how when the woman is not there, everyone still hates the mother. Women are hated when we take care of the kids, or when we don't.
We can't win sometimes..
Yep. If you stay, have the child, take care of it, you are denigrated and hated. If you “abort” mission, you’re hated, if you let the father be custodial you’re hated, last but not least, recently, a mother with a history of mental illness dropped her 5 or 6 yr old off at a hospital (best thing she could have done, if she’s mentally ill and can’t care for the little girl), ppl were going in on this woman in the comment section about “what she should have done!”
There is no winning for women. That I why I don’t “play.” Some women are getting up from the “game” table and walked away, now men are mad and there is a “crisis” bec men are “lonely” or haven’t had smex. They can still get schmex from SW3rsf, instead of trying to trade a meal for shmexual “service” from “civilian” women.
@@kittykatz4001 In my country recently was a string of violent child murders and familicides perpetrated by clearly mentally unwell men and there was less backlash and discussion than when a female celebrity said she doesn't want to have children and feels fulfilled and happy without. It's that bad.
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@@margodphd Yep! Absolutely right!
Women go in on women who “abandon” their kids worse than they do when men do the same!
When I am on “childfree “ platforms, the mombies show up! It isn’t the men who post nonsense about “how much they love their kids in cf spaces, but the “mombies.”
Patriarchy is mofo, but it’s lasted this long with women as co-conspirators!
Wasn’t Kate (Serena Joy) Cox, down in Texas formerly “anti choice? Until SHE needed a D&C to clean out her Christian, married, pro-family womb?
I think it’s messed up how women have to be the one that has to take harmful birth control pills or other methods because men won’t put on a damn condom.
Baby girl condoms rip, some folks poke holes in condoms, IUDs can be painful, folks hide and tamper with birth control pills (which is extremely dangerous!) , diaphragms r rarely used today. There several brands of implant contraception plus now these fools r tracking ovulation cycles!!!!😮😮😮😮 JUST WHAT WOULD U HAVE WOMEN DO GIRL 😡????!!!! Tell me !!!!! This enquiring grandmother wants to know!!!!
It's horrible but I can't conceive the fact that there are women who will accept not to use condom, bcs it's our health we're talking about, not only childs
I think it’s messed up how sex is a given when dating 🥴. After hearing all these testimonies a wise woman would close up shop.
There's natural options, trust me they work when used correctly and consistently. Neem, black cohosh, unripe papaya. Check into it.
well why are you having sex with men who "wont put a condom on"???? this is dumb
A man shouldn't beg you to have a child, without begging you to marry him or beg you to move into a home he bought for you both. The baby is at the end of the rainbow not the beginning.
Begging for marriage doesn't matter, they still aim to trap you in something with them so they can be abusive. Begging of any kind is a red flag
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you shouldn't be an a relationship with someone who wants kids and you don't and they shouldn't be an a relationship with someone who doesn't want kids
@@dynamitewolft4194Cuz men never abandon kids they wanted. 🤔 Men shouldn't want kids if the best case scenario is they'll only have them two weekends a month. The nerve and audacity 2 want someone 2 risk her life and damage her body 4 free and when u can't is astounding.
It’s a form of reproductive abuse, and it is not talked about enough. Ppl who do this do not see children as human beings. They should only be brought into the world when both ppl love and want them.
Absolutely right
They don't see neither the kids nor women as people. We aren't fully human to some of them, it's frightening.
Good story idea. I will see what fiction story I can write for online.
Or not bring children at all
I’m single, celibate 7 years, no children and proud because I’m not giving my expensive energy to a bad guy ☺️🌻
Celibacy is genuinely a superpower for women ❤🎉 Tell a narcissist man that you’re waiting for marriage, he’s GONEEEEEEEE
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@@thekeyimaniI think knowing what you want is okay both ways. I'm not really keen on not having sex in my relationship. I don't really wanna wait, I wanna know how we feel together. Are you patient and unselfish in bed? How well do you listen? I think it's fine to abstain from sex, but you don't have to. If you're straight there are good men available. The one I'm with is on the same level as me, but it wasn't easy to find him, but possible. Internet dating helps imo. When I did I put down you won't talk me into a baby and I see no rush to be married. I had a pretty time, and at that time I didn't wanna have sex a lot but just messing around led to no babies lol so I found people similar. I've only had sex with 2 men. I'm very careful. But in case anyone felt hopeless I wanted to bring it up.
@@theflowerheadif more women took a similar approach, their lives would be significantly better.
Myself included. Thank you for sharing
Same but it will be 4 years for me in July. And I'm not the least bit tempted. I'm actually more scared than ever and I definitely can't afford an oops baby. Even if I can abort, I have underlying medical issues so either way I don't want to put unnecessary stress on my body. Especially for someone with ill intentions.
Honey he rubbed my flat abs & said he wants to get me preggo ... i walked him out , blocked him & moved 😂
Good. I had a flat tummy in 1980. Just started working for a major newspaper . My ex felt my flat tummy wanted to put a baby in there. I was 30. He was 33.. We had nothing in common . Nothing. I has two babies and one will not speak to me as I am a progressive Democrat and his father my ex are avid republican gun toting fools. Anyway I divorced him in 1989. Had a boyfriend . Went in vacation with him. My ex locked me out of my apt . Sued me for child custody told lies out the wazoo. The thing is my ex the boys father was going out on me for seven years. I found out and he lied to me over and over saying he was true. He lied for years. Celebrated when my mom died . I divorced him with a $600 Montgomery wards attorney. He paid a big fancy attorney and made me into the scarlet woman , rubbed my name in the dirt and won custody and I was so devastatted. As an empath flower child I I ask myself " How did I allow myself to get baby trapped by thus women hater narcissistic two timing lying man." the patriarchal society wants to come back to force their woman into pregnancy to run around then fck them later making them wear a Scarlett letter for life
I am so tired of narcissistic tyrants and the patriarchal society
@@VickiTrusselli#HexThePatriarchy 🙌🏽
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@@VickiTrusselliwow I’m sooo sorry. That’s heartbreaking 💔 😢 what a horrible human he is
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I never thought about baby trapping until I got to college. I was in my junior year of college in 2011 and saw three girls baby trapped at the same time. I never had a fear of baby-trapping until this time. I saw them leave school. I wasn't even a great student but I said to myself, "I don't care wtf happens, there is nothing that will stop me from graduating." I don't know what happened to the other two girls, but one of them had a couple of more kids with the man. She just got a job after being a stay--at-home mom for a decade or more. I also saw two friends get baby-trapped. One of them is trying to keep her household together, it is stressful to watch. There is a man I knew that wanted to baby trap me. He had tons of money and was successful but had one baby mother who had three baby daddies. This man literally said, "I need to get you pregnant so that you can learn responsibility and sit down. Let me get you pregnant so no man will want you." Disgusting.
"I need to get you pregnant so that you can learn responsibility and sit down. Let me get you pregnant so no man will want you." 🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮
At least he said it out loud. Most of them don't.
@@maryfields877 That's exactly what I was thinking. I am glad that he said it aloud because now it has made me even more vigilant on protecting myself.
That’s disgusting. I hope u got a restraining order.🤮🤮🤮
Yep
Known this since I was a teen and saw my friends get trapped. I've protected my womb like fort fucking Knox
Keep it that way baby girl!!
I was educated on the use of birth control, too. I have sponges, spermicides, and condoms.
Me too. Celibacy has worked for over a decade now. Pure peace and bliss.
Get an IUD. They can’t be sabotaged
Fort FUCKING Knoxx 🗣️🗣️🗣️
In my early 20s my abusive ex tried to trap me by stealthing. It was intentional and he was tracking my ovulation. This goes really deep and it’s sadistic. He told my family that he got me pregnant now and he’s attached to me for the rest of my life. I’m glad I got away because he was crazy.
I would say it's a warning sign if any guy is following your ovulation that closely. A guy I was dating kept asking me questions about this and it really tipped me off that something was psychologically wrong with him because most guys just do not care enough to do shit like that. Also, guys are intentional in general. If they're not going to do something with the information, they're probably not going to ask that question.
Girl he went that far????? DIABOLICAL 😮! Glad u r safe with ur child .
@@Liz-wz8dhSAY IT LOUD FOR THE LADIES IN THE BACK!!! THESE MALES HAVE TAKEN IT A STEP FURTHER!!! If a dude starts asking when u ovulate or when did ur menstruation start, RUN LIKE HELL!!! THEY R STEPPING UP THE GAME!!! STEP UR GAME UP!!!!
This is why I recommend getting of the Birth control implant and not telling him! Hide your nexplanon card!
@@angelsweet9611 Better solution: IVF implants can have complications, and cause severe septic shock and even death in some cases. Hear me out!
A vasectomy is entirely safe: nobody has died from them, and they're easily reversible nowadays. I say we have vasectomy become mandatory with freshmen in high school. They can get it reversed with partner's consent, and it is a 1 hour procedure with most returning to work the next day. I see no downsides other than conservatives screaming about forced sterilization, because OH MAN do they care about kid's genitals.
I appreciate all the "pro-women men" in this video! There is definitely a paradigm shift in the patriarchal system and I am here for it!
I honestly think it's for a social media following but who knows for sure.
Bw are very loyal followers and they know this
@@757PrincessI agree, I question whether it’s genuine. Look at that Derick Jenkins guy! 😂
I STILL don't trust these men!!! They're ALWAYS up to something or have an agenda!
@@757Princess I've said this and these women are falling for the fckery!!! Not me!!! Not us!!!
When Halle’s boyfriend wrote that song about being jealous of her right when she was doing the little mermaid premiere I knew he was going to get her pregnant to trap her. I was hoping she would protect herself better but men will find a way if they want to trap you. I’ve heard about men tampering with women’s birth control for years.
I was and still am so sad for her and also appalled. I thought she knew better
You cant trap a man. My dad dipped out and got a new job every few years when the government tried to garnish his check. Its so easy for men.
My dad complained about having to give my mom 25 a week for child support.. Granted this was in the 80s but it still wasn't a lot. The way he talked she was living high on the hog . But you know hearing him being resentful about having to support his kids wasn't cute. He would have run if he wasn't drinking all the time.
My sister only gets 30 euro a week in 2023💀 @@alleycatalog
U really can't trap anyone. Unless he follows u everywhere he can't stop u from getting a Nexplanon or a shot. I wanna say he can't stop u from getting a Mirena or Kyleena but I believe those have strings that should be able 2 be felt with fingers. I assume they'd feel them, but I know from experience that males are dumb and don't know science. Anyway, I used condoms, too, but now I'm celibate cuz no one is gonna bully me into the 0.3% of women who get pregnant using my LARC. Ppl think LARCs are unsafe. Well, not as unsafe as pregnancy or delivery, and I'm Black, so I'm the most likely 2 perish from pregnancy or delivery.
Yes you can. Y’all are being disingenuous
@@animezaewhat traps a man so much that he can’t or won’t leave? go on and tell us then
I’ve literally had 3 exs try to impregnate me because they didn’t like that I had standards for myself and that I demanded marriage before a child. They got so mad whenever I took a plan b pill. And once I picked up on their plan I was out. Why when some men see a woman in a great situation & with standards and goals and a good trajectory, do they want to destroy her from the inside out?! Either meet my standards or leave, but you can’t stay here and try to bring me down or knock me off my square or dim my light. Absolutely not
Because they hate you
forget the after pill.
Get contraceptive implant.
same situation like im being “punished “ for being responsible…
control. men can’t even explain how a women’s body works but they still have the nerve to spew shit everywhere
@@tmoneypoleductions9764 It sure feels that way, huh?
That happened to me. I was trapped with my first child. he told me he intentionally got me pregnant. And I swear that man has made my life miserable since then. Trust me they will do that to you.
Are u still with this devil 😈?
They are devil's. To trap a woman into having your kid then abandon them both they are devil's.
They make up every excuse in the world lying to everybody when they know they just wanted to see that particular female DOWN.
Yep my oldest father said the same to me
Not me. I have an implant.
@@luthorforpresident9353 - Always used a condom that you bought yourself because STIs are still out there and some of them can k*ll you. As we used to say, "no glove, no love."
To be honest I never understood gendering of "baby trapping" cause there's enough abusive men who impregnate their girlfriends/wives so it's harder for them to leave terrible relationships.
True.
Always saw it as a guy thing but they often project their issues onto us & lecture us about how wrong it is 😂😂😂😂
It’s always been a men thing. Like HE chose to sleep with her HE’s the one who came in her. Unless she lied about being on bc it’s his fault every time.
@@m4nman even her lying about taking birth control is still not her traping him bc males know that birth control isn't guaranteed to work. They can control their ejaculation and they know there is always a possibility that they can impregnate a woman by ejaculation. Either way, once she births the child he has an obligation to raise their children because he could've chosen not to have sex if he didn't want to be a father. The problem is that men aren't being held responsible for their own children.
@@biblethumper8088 you’re right pretty much no matter what the woman is trapped
A girlfriend of mine hid her birth control in the kitchen. He ransacked the apartment looking for it and never found it. He doesn't cook!
Wtf! 🤢🤢🤢
😂😂🎉 il ne cuisine pas vraiment
That's why I'm 33, attractive, successful and committed to my anime husbands. The only males with dignity, compassion and determination.
Anime husband??? Better not be Itachi Uchiha😂 cuz he’s mine 😂
@@FransceneJK98for real itachi is crazy
this comment is funny asf cos of the anime husbands but big respect
Long as it's not Gojo I'm good, haha
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Can we stop the “pregnancy is a blessing” thing. 9/10 times its a disaster to a woman.
Exactly. Thats why a lot of women cant see they are baby trapped cause this pregnancy trash thing.. Pregnancy is not a blessing
Agreed.
Psalm 127:3 “Children are a gift from the Lord; they are a reward from him.”.
Children are intended to be a blessing from God and an expansion of the family that begins with husband and wife.
When God established the first family back in the Garden of Eden, He blessed Adam and Eve, then instructed them to “be fruitful and multiply” (Genesis 1:28) .
Now although we are not living in the time of Adam and Eve, God’s word is still the same. And of course there is our fallen nature that has caused us to have trials and tribulations but Jesus Christ has overcome the world.
@@ijustwanttosay7417she said pregnancy is not a blessing. That’s not the same as saying kids aren’t a blessing. Please read in CONTEXT
@@FransceneJK98 Psalm 127:3 NKJV Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord, The fruit of the womb is a reward.
One can conclude from this Bible verse that pregnancy is a blessing.
Without a pregnancy there is no child.
Now, every pregnancy is not the same. Some women experience more discomfort than others.
I would say that the symptoms or side effects of being pregnant may not be a blessing but being pregnant is a blessing.
And if you still don’t agree then might I suggest to you to go tell a woman who is trying to get pregnant what you believe. Perhaps she can keep it CONTEXT. 🤣🤣🤣
Now it makes PERFECT sense why some of these men are BIG mad at these child free women🤣
A guy tried to baby trap me by profusely “apologizing” that the condom “just slipped off”. While I was casually fishing it out of me, he looked perplexed and asked why I didn’t look scared. I just *smirked in stealthy birth control* and asked why would I be. He said the quiet part out loud about me potentially getting pregnant and I told him not to worry about it. He asked why and I said not to worry about it. Later that day, he learned I worked from home and happily sang, “🎵 I got a baddie 🎶 “, to which I laughed and asked “Do you have a baddie or do you *want* a baddie?” He didn’t say anything and just started mean mugging like Kanye. I kicked him out of my house shortly thereafter. The sheer audacity of one-night-stands 🤦🏾 Ladies and ppl with uteruses, never tell these guys you’re on birth control; not doing so has saved me from non-protection coercion and sabotaging. ❤
This why being celibate and focusing on yourself is key ladies
exactly!!
Nobodys allergic to condoms!!!!!
Egg retention 🎉
You know what's crazy. The only way society might shift from letting fathers abandon their kids emotionally and/or physically is when mothers start doing the same. Children aren't toys or pawns or tools but men use them that way and women are forced to take responsibility or else feel like a monster. The only way this can change is women to have no kids or put themselves first by putting the child up for adoption or leaving them with the dad. The latter option sucks. I'm so happy there's a strong child free movement happening, hope it grows and grows.
child free is the way to go if you want to avoid this situation altogether unfortunately. the women willing to chance it have my utmost respect because i can’t do it. i don’t want to be another walking statistic. being a single parent looks hard af.
@@hardcandy71287It is, as a single mother of 1 it’s not for the weak. I don’t plan on having more kids either, no man can change my mind. I learned my lesson. 😩🥴
This!!! My Nana never let my granddad baby trap her. Left my dad on his doorstep and bounced. Ended up marrying a good man and having 2 more kids and I never faulted her.
You can't legally put kid up for adoption without consent of dad aka signature even the. Anyone closest in family such as his or your mom or dad or grandparents or cousin,etc can claim the baby.
Oh and they can charge you child support 18 years
My first husband tried to baby trap me. He hid my birth control in a box of lightbulbs, in a cabinet above the fridge 💀
I left a few months later.
How did u find out????
@@user-jp1zs8wy5n so, the story is, I was on the last week-ish on my current birth control. I had gone to the pharmacy to pick up next month’s prescription. At some point he must’ve got it out of the medicine cabinet and hid it. THANK GOD! My bedside lamps bulb went out. While was scrounging around for a light bulb, I found it in one of the boxes. I didn’t confront him about it, I just re hid it somewhere where he couldn’t find it (winter coat pocket lol)
@@user-jp1zs8wy5n ikr 😳🤨
Wow was he dumb enough to think that you will not go to the store and buy another?
That's how dumb they are, you could've called the RX if you needed more. You called a lawyer instead lol. What a 🤡
Lol its weird how even random men that you dont even have a romantic relationships with will see you childfree and start pressuring you into having children
Like dang mr maintainance dude, I don't have a baby and I don't want one right now. Not that its any of your business
This and or will want you to take care of the kid they had with their baby mama. I man literally just asked me out on a date, called me hostile because I told him I didn’t want to date someone with daddy Tate videos on his profile and then told me he’s looking for a good woman to help raise his son and I wasn’t a good woman. It was the funniest thing ever. He should have kept it in his pants. 🤷🏻♀️😂
Few years ago some random guy reached out to me on LinkedIn. When he found out I was in my 40s and child free, he replied "How sad!" 😂 Sad for who?? I'm at peace with my life!
@@LaceyLou7I don't think some men hear themselves when they speak. Like sir, you sound like a certified a**hole.
Especially when they try and use if you’re almost 30 or even almost 35 for that matter to try and guilt trip you into pregnancy, saying some “your clock is ticking”, then make us feel like pariahs if we made it to menopause without children
This why it always be the maintenance people lol fix my fridge and get out 😂
This is why a lot of women are choosing to be child free.
My mom hipped me to this mess, and she was so right. I've had black men try to sabotage my birth control, even putting a needle through the condoms. I'm so glad I never got caught up like that but my heart goes out to the women that did get trapped.
I had a guy try tricking me into s€x and then debate on the pull out method. I sent him off with a bee in his ear. Years later I meet him with a woman and two young kids and he's so enamored by me _she_ starts harassing me.
One : Don't tell them u r on birth control! Tell them ur sterile! Two: Get birth control that they cannot physically tamper with such as Norplant which lasts five years but with that contraception u cannot smoke and there contraceptives that have the no smoking cigarettes while using edict. Glad u got away.
Wowwwwww How did you find out they did that??
@@butterpecan1938They usually tell on themselves when they're in a narcissistic rage.
White guys do that too. I had a white ex try that.
Abortion is the most compassionate thing you can do for your child in these types of situations. Ladies, think about the experiences your future sentient child will endure. Abortion simply stops your child from developing sentience, the capacity to suffer, and everything we value in practice about human beings. No harm is done and any potential harm is avoided.
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Give the baby up for adoption.
@@marlomchenry1784 what so they can go into abusive homes? Child labor and human trafficking? So they can be one of the orphans on ep's island?
The world isn't rational enough to be leaving perfect malleable victims around.
@@marlomchenry1784how many have you adopted?
Facts
My friend was baby trapped. This guy messed with her Birth Control and got her pregnant then unalived her and the baby when he realized she was still leaving. He'd only slowed her down, not stopped her leaving. He'd been going around telling all his friends he was going to do it, even making bets on when she'd be trapped by birth. This guy would constantly bitch and mourn how women keep baby trapping good men. I remember he once went on this rant of how he'd been baby trapped then backtracked to _attempted baby trapping_ when my friend wanted to end it since she wasn't looking to be a stepmom.
I'm sorry for your loss
hes in jail right?
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The most common cause of death in pregnant women isn't complications or birth, it's death at the hands of their lover. This is actually very serious, and I'm so glad to see young women taking this seriously en masse. I'm over 40 and happily childless, and it's been breaking my heart to see so many young women trapped by children they don't want, with men that don't really want either of them.
I saw my Ex Smile so hard when he realized I was pregnant. Right after he went and got Heroine and got high breaking his promise to stop doing drugs and got himself fired. I’m single,childless and happy. Some of these people will tie their destiny with yours because they plan on riding your Coat tails. Don’t listen when men tell you they love you. Let their actions prove overwhelming evidence of the things they tell you. Then make the decision, not a moment sooner
🙏 Exactly.
childless? oh man im so proud of you!
So proud of you.
Childless as well. ❤
Childless? Proud of you. Whatever way you unchained yourself from the baby trap, no judgement from me. Well done 👍🏻
On two separate instances I've overheard a man talk about getting a woman pregnant because they see she has a lot going for herself.
Once they start talking about how cute our kids will look, I’m out! Cause why are you thinking about that?😭😭😭😭
That happened to me with this boy who liked me when I was like in 8th grade. So weird.😂😂
My ex actually told me he did this to me. He said I’m stuck with him now. I do not associate with him outside of the children. I do not take it out on the children bc they are the most innocent ones in the equation. Their father is the only “child” (childish in maturity not age) I don’t want. A lot of women think that bc a man is willing to procreate with them it means he loves them and will stay with them when in reality some men just don’t care about leaving their seed behind.
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My ex did the same after I ghosted him, he harrassed me to talk to him and when I heard him out, that bastard literally said that he "hoped he got me pregnant so I'd have to deal with him for the rest of my life even if I left him" 😒
@@Cateyes767 It’s sad but it’s common. We have to protect our womb.
Girl same I was 17 😩 he was 23, I feel like he got away with something Scott free! Been tryna humble me ever since 😮💨
@@Prettytaddi__ doesn't that mean hes a pedo!?
My daughter just told me about a buddy of hers from school that got baby trapped right before she went to college. She tried to give the baby up for adoption but her parents made her keep the baby. So yes men & little boys do baby trap. I had a narcissistic ex fiance that wanted to baby trap me because he was banking on my mom pressuring me into marrying him. Thank God I insisted we use protection.
Ugh, yes, I've known some women who were baby trapped by their parents as teenagers... their parents wanted the baby, wouldn't let an adoption occur.
the parents need to raise the baby
They do stick needles through condoms though. So be careful
I was baby trapped because I wanted to finish my business degree and start my own business, be my own boss, travel, habe a nice house that I own in a city that is literally the most expensive in the US.... guess what. After 3 years of trying to leave and getting pregnant a second time, RIGHT BEFORE I was scheduled to get my tubes tied, I'm finally finishing my degree without his help 😊 women empower yourselves. It is never hopeless! I had pretty much given up on my life and my happiness. I had a strong mother who inspired me but she's gone. I have no family help NONE. I had to go online and serach for a free crib, a free car, free classes ect. Use all your resources they are out there. Don't wait til your feet are to the fire to make a change. Make a plan and get him out of your life! I survived homelessness, domestic abuse and all kinds of horrible things but everything and everyone that tried to stop me DIDN'T ❤ love you my sisters. Be good to yourself!
I love this for you ❤ As you stated,use your resources🎺
Some men say the quiet part out loud. I was on the bus and this guy told his girl to her face I'm definitely gonna put a baby in you. This comment was out of nowhere, they were initially talking about their friends they were meeting up with. The look on her face after he said that was of disgust. I hope she moves accordingly because he definitely was going to trap her one way or another.
I would have turned to her and said "gurl, run!"
And this is why I will not get married nor have children. I am happily single and childfree with no stress 😌
Amen
You preaching. The likelihood of being a divorced single mom is too high
SAAAAAAME!!!!!!!! ❤ celibacy is amazing
Keep it that way, well done for understanding their game on time ,
And men act like it's the biggest compliment that they want you to have their kid.....no Sir that's a threat and you are an enemy of progress
We already had one child I knew was a genuine accident. But, when he realized I would leave him even after having a child, he tried to get me pregnant a second time, on purpose. Suddenly, he was interested in my cycle, bought a copy of 'Everywoman' - a book on female se×ual health, suddenly didn't want to use prevention, and when I checked his diary for evidence of his cheating, saw my cycle being tracked. Fortunately, I got out. No more kids for him. My next and last child was planned with my husband.
They’ll do everything pertaining to destruction, but won’t study and make goals for betterment. I doubt he read any other books of his own free will out of school.
Glad u got away! This is crazy!!! I'm past childbearing but this ish is COMPLETELY DIABOLICAL!!!!! 😮😮😮 What's really crazy is that some of these DUSTIES can actually read!!!😂😂😂😂
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Women stop having babies for other people,and stop letting these dusty dudes stop your goals ,and progress
Let is a strong word to use when men are out here stealthing us, poking holes in condoms and tampering with our birth control.
So how do you stop these men from secretly sabotaging your birth control? How do you stop a man from stealthing and removing the condom workout your knowing? Stop making his lies and manipulation her fault.
Bro that story of the mom who had to leave her child just gutted me to my absolute core…
He lied about her mother… and then had the audacity to hide the MONSTROUS payments she was shelling out EVER month…
HOLY SHIT.
That story is a reddit story. It got deeper. The Father lied about struggling. It all came to a head when the payments got transferred directly to the Child. It came out that the Father wasn't as employed as he feigned to be, he was using drugs, & using the excess money to impress Women who wouldn't have given him the time of day otherwise. There's more to it too.
i’ve heard this story. the update is WILD!!!! the father assaulted him when he found out the son was going to move out. charges were pressed. the father k!lled himself before he went to prison. the son’s mother pays for his college and he’s happy in a relationship with his boyfriend. there are more details but i’ve forgotten them.
Honestly not that shocked. There are a lot of men who are bums who steal from women whether it be time, energy or money. There are still good ones.
Wow. Truth is stranger than fiction (assuming it’s a true story).
My partner begged me to have another baby and cheated the entire time I was pregnant. Definitely felt like he trapped me. As soon as my child turned 1 I left. It's insane what some evil people will do.
i’m 15 & this honestly makes me wanna save myself for marriage. ain’t no body stopping my bag especially not a man…
also telling guys that i’m saving myself for marriage will make it a lot easier for me to know who just wants to get into my pants or who actually sees a future with me cause if he truly respects me and cares for me… he will wait ❤️
Don’t just wait for marriage.. Make sure whoever you choose that he is kind, protective, considerate, and respectful to you in all situations.. You should be ok. Now If, he ever makes you uncomfortable.. run!
If marriage is what you want, I hope you find a healthy one.
they can also trap you in a marriage, turn 180 once they got you. You really need to look into their character their ACTIONS, consistenecy of their character, their family their friends who influences him, how he deals with difficult situations and challenges, how he treats you when you argue or have disagreement or your boundaries how he reacts to them. Also important how he talks about other women and treats women in general. Becaue he might trap you in marriage if you knows you want to wait and then trap you with a baby you dont know how calculated and patience these demons are. Make sure you keep a good and trust worthy supporty system, not everyone is your friend nor needs to be your friend. cultivate your environment good character is more important then fun and charaismatic characters. Centre GOD in your life and ask him to cultivate the right man for you. But you must know you as a person are enough, you are whole and you are fine. Dont let anyone else tell you anything else (yes of courses we can always grow and develop) but dont need a man or people to be whole you are whole. other people and a husband should be positives that add to your life, never take away from it or drag you down or burden you. Also dont be afraid of cutting people off that are toxic or not compatible to you. Also be careful who you discuss your goals and plans with not everyone needs to be in your buisness. There are good people out there but there are jealous and shady people to. I personally find it's important to seek people that respect your personal boundaries and who are respectful and kind but have a backbone. I wish you all the best and GOD bless you with a good life.
thats true because the guys who dont aline with that will leave. but becareful of the men who want to "humble" women who are "stuck up" aka have standards and boundaries because they might want to do something bad to you because you arent accessible to them or might prented to be gentleman only to do a 180 once they got you. Avoid men who are obsessed with virginity in women they are users, and make sure they respect women regardless of what their sexual history is. I say this as someone who is also waiting for marriage and I am very careful who to tell that because it might make some guys target you. Some guys also think virgins are doormats that they can exploit sexually and otherwise after marriage then. avoid the dusties that ran through the streets and now that they are done having fun want to "settle down". Im sorry to say this but in my perspective i have found the men that can just go through so many women usually tend to end up with sex addiction or and consiously or subconsiously demuanize and hypersexualise women even women who they "love" and perceive as "good girls" and "modest".@@rayeeiffel480
“Stop looking for another layer with him. There is no other layer.”
Damn. 💯
I solved this by refusing to have sex until he had the funds to take care of me and put a ring on it.
Period
Yes! I’m definitely in the same boat as you 👏🏿❤️
the fund better be in your name as well, you shouldnt have had to risk your life to bring another life into this world and not have money to your name. So happy for you that you were strict with your boundaries. The baby in your picture is adorable reminds me of my little brother when he was little. You and your loved ones stay safe and healthy.
i like your profile picture 🩷
This
This is why I'm not that upset with stories of some women who decide to up and leave their kids with their father/adoption etc.(even if they are technically called dead beats) because I'm tired of the narrative of women not being able to leave toxic and/or abusive situations and being miserable simply because they have a child. (It happens to men too of course but more so to women). Remove the child as an obstacle, give them to someone better able to take care of them and go reinvent and live your life. Women deserve to live happy lives too. Men up and leave whenever they want despite having a child and women can too.
Society has gotten use to men doing it but it's a shock when women do it and they get demonized for it because of the whole women's purpose, motherly instincts bs that's pushed onto women.
so just eff the kids and be a terrible mom to kids you laid down to have? You dont prove the point by being a hypocrite.... youre literally enabling irresponsible women to be like the men. How does this help? Unless the women are graped, stfu complaining.
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This is why aborting should be legal in all states. A woman shouldn't have to deal with being a single parent while a man can leaving the relationship and escape responsibilities.
Women you have to remember that "ONE MONKEY DONT STOP NO SHOW!" Keep doing you, baby ir not. Do school and career. People will help you not to stay in that deliberate trap. Shake the dust off and keep going.
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Exactly! If you are fortunate enough to have a village and funds for childcare. There will be networks to help you become unstoppable
I've had more than one man try to trap me with babies. It's terrifying.
I'm curious, how have men tried to trap you?
And that's probably just the start of the controlling behavior if you are with someone like that. More women need to walk away and abort so these guys start getting the message that they're not going to be bullied into staying with them.
Same thing happened to me numerous times in my twenties and thirties, and it's really scary to go through!!! I'm speaking from personal experience so I stay far away from men to this day because they're all predatory and self centered narcissists in my opinion!!!
One lied straight to my face that he didn’t know he hadn’t put a condom on when I’d told him my pregnancy test came out positive. Ik he could sense I was gonna leave him soon and bc I was only 19 he felt threatened and tried to trap me but as soon as I learned about it I took myself to get rid of it but not without making him pay for some of it
His entire goal was to humble her. She was right to drop the baby off . That’s not a healthy situation. She paying all the bills but he claims he can’t be there cause he works 🤔 and they’re on section 8 🤦♀️. That dude is a entire liar
You might catch some of these men saying “Your children are your legacy.”
So tired of hearing that. Kids make their own legacies. If my ancestor or parent was a infamous serial killer, how does that positively impact me and my legacy. What you do with your life affects your legacy. The kids create their own. But legacies aren’t passed down.
This reminded me of Blake Lively, he make sure he impregnate her right before most met galas and fashion events, Ryan Reynold's wife, Chris Hemsworth wife, etc. They all became unemployed after having kids. I don't care what somebody has to say but when a male is making you pregnant back to back he isn't concerned about your health, hormones, body, etc. Because we all know how much pain, trauma, blood loss, stitches, aging, etc women go through during pregnancy, those husbands do not care. And a lot of males marry for societal status as well and to trap you especially when you are good looking not out of love.
The Blake Lively one though..👀 👁👁
Huh thought I was the only one who notice that.
Blake Lively is the only one who doesn't see it or keeps a blind eye..... @@jinijinxed6839
I’m not surprised. Scarlett Johansson said being married to him was like being married to her enemy because he could not handle that she was more successful than him.
Tristan Thompson trapped Khloe Kardashian too
My ex told me at least twice (from what I can remember) that he wanted to get me pregnant to humble me. He was the controlling type and my free-spiritedness didn’t allow for him to have so much power over me. He didn’t bring much to the table anyways. So I left ❤️ some men will intentionally “inconvenience” you to have a hold over you. crazy!
My ex admitted 8 years after baby that he was scared I would graduate medical school and dump him, so he baby trapped me (not in those exact words) my 1st semester of med school. I…was…floored, but it confirmed my suspicion. Beware ladies!!!!
I was once told the same thing by my ex "You see that's why I want to get you pregnant, so that I can humble you".
He blurted that out from frustration, I don't think he intended on telling me.
But the minute he said that my heart sank.... Why did he think I needed to be humbled , when I was already going through a lot during that time.
It hurt me to the core and I never viewed him the same way again.
It’s war out here in these streets, don’t let your guard down. I vowed to myself to not have children until I was married to a good man and I’m holding out. It’s not worth endangering oneself.
Ain’t that the truth!! I’ve been in isolation for a long time now, and keep having to move only to acquire a new stalker or a man who is jealous of me and seeks out to harm my life. I hate guns and weapons with a passion but I think I’m going to have to get some way of protecting myself because they are really not taking no for an answer out here.
And that good man may change after he thinks he's got u. There are men who have left women after decades. An old coworker said she hated that when she divorced her husband he divorced their kids. U can't predict that. U can't predict that a man won't get fired from his job and come home and take out u, the kids, then himself. Everyday is a new, unpredictable day.
I promised myself the samething. I won't even lay down with a man that isn't my husband. Tooo risky. Too many demons out here
@@LaceyLou7Try taking some self defense classes just in case
@@LaceyLou7 Why do you hate guns and weapons?? Guns & weapons are your friends, they are tools for your protection! I have several. Every woman in America should be armed. Stay safe ❤️
As an old woman with two children I would like to say women who feel like they can take charge of their lives are really not doing it. If you were over the age of 18 you must have some kind of birth control whether pills or IUD etc. You should not enter into any sexual relationship whatsoever until you have that nailed down. You control your life you decide when to have a baby, not him.
I'm 64 and u r WRONG AND RIGHT! Have actually read some of the comments of these younger women? I've come across at least ten who said the father of their children tampered with their birth control pills!!! Abstinence works up until a point! Step up ur knowledge! Ur not seeing the whole picture and the new schemes these r trying! I read at least 4 comments here that said these males are tracking these women's ovulation cycles????!!!! Read through some of the comments! I read a comment where a married woman's birth control pills in a lightbulb box! She then found evidence of his cheating and planned her exit! Methinks thou art a bit behind the times!!!
Birth control fails sometimes, condoms can still fail. The best way to avoid pregnancy is abstinence.
You said it, or if you never want them, sterilize
@@Chrisia-Queensagree
That's bad advice. Teaching women to take poisonous bc pills for the sexual pleasure of males is wrong and evil. Women, stop having sex. Period. You are a fool if you jeopardize your life for a male who can easily prevent pregnancy. Don't trust males with your life. If you choose to risk your life because you're desperate for a man, then make him pay you upfront the full cost of raising his child and your compensation for loss of income.
This is so true. I was definitely humbled, and it was a huge ego boost for him, not to mention a free place to stay lol and a lifelong connection and means of control for a very petty male. I’m pretty sure this happened to me, but after almost a decade of struggle and anger, jokes on him because I kicked him to the curb (he thought he would always have a place to stay and be able to milk the fact that we would be eternally linked by the child), and I’m an amazing mother, if I do say so myself. Ladies, even if this did happen to you, do NOT let it make you bitter! And most of all, do NOT let your child feel unloved because the cycle will continue if you don’t break it by raising a child with a healthy dose of self esteem.
To be honest with you if someone did that to me and I wasn't in a safe situation I would just give it up for adoption there is a way out of it but you have to dangle that in front of his face see if he wants custody first because there always saying how the mom doesn't let him see his kids then pass the child to him they act like they just gave birth to it or something it really depends on the situation and if he has more resources then you do and better housing for it, it should become his problem now as long as the child is linked to him..let him.take care of this wonderful legacy he created for you and you mail a check and see the kids once in awhile..
Same. I refuse to have more children. Every few years my sons father comes into our life under the guise of wanting to bond with him, but then he’ll talk about getting back together and having more children like HELL NO.
If you have kids out of wedlock/ give them your surname
If you’re not married don’t put the surname of XY on your children 😅
Paperwork matters
@@unicorn73212I would have gotten an abortion. It’s so strange that women ESPECIALLY Black Women fear pregnancy but don’t fear being a broke single mother.
@@sourcandydollEewww. The fkn nerve of him. That’s disgusting and the fact he even has the audacity to even say that to u. How disrespectful.🤮🤮
That's what Homer did to Marge, what Peter did to Lois, what Jerry did to Beth.
This is real and I preach this all the time. In my early 20s my then boyfriend actually told me he “wanted to get me pregnant, so no one else would want me”… and he no doubt wanted to block my career as I’d just graduated. He became jealous and abusive. Needless to say I left, I’m child free and thriving but still meet men who tell me they can’t wait to put a baby in me…I block and delete straight away! I see so many women fall for the trap. And in all cases the men have had the luxury of walking away, starting afresh and pulling strings from afar. Ladies pls put yourselves first at all times!
Nah. Guys Want to Hold On to a Woman Sometimes without being there. It's more control than to Humble. ❤
Two things can happen at the same time. So most times it’s both
I was almost the victim of baby trapping. It was hard to believe because he always used to remind me how much he didn't love me, but it all makes so much sense now.
Reproductive coercion is so real. I remember my boyfriend at the time kept mentioning kids and wanting them which is no issue, but I told him not without a ring. To protect myself I got a copper IUD. Now we're engaged and the relationship is going the way I want it to.
It's because men take pride among each other by bringing women down and breaking them. Be it dating, abuse, you name it. When I first came to my college dorm, I didn't speak or hang out with the guys at all. It wasn't my goal anyway. But I was bombarded with almost every single one of them trying to ask me out. Simply, because I was the only single girl. Even when 2 more girls become single, the guys were still chasing me. A guy. Brought it to my attention that they all had a bet on me, who would break my "arrogance" and date me. The other girls dated easily, they saw me as a more rewarding target. Keep your standards skyhigh, ladies. Even after you start dating
Yup yup yup 💯 this. It's really disgusting and dehumanizing, but they can't understand anything unless it directly happens to them.
yes, and dont be a pick me. some women would be so full of themselves thinking the men are chasing them because she is so awesome and the best (which i dont doubt you are Mary surely awesome and great) not knowing that they are just using her as their latest entertainment for their own ego. Never be impressed or surprised a man is intrested in you just know that no matter the man even a good man are approaching you because they want something and make sure you pick the good one but even with the good one keep your standards and boundaries up and consistent and dont make them ever make you feel they are doing you a favour because trust me in many cases it is you doing them a favour (unless the woman is an abuser of course)
@@rene3759 totally agree
Sooo what happened? Did any of them win their bet or did you give them all the 👢??
Same questions that the comment before me
We REALLY need to talk about this subject more! 😭
@@RebelNutts-gg1xfbro stop!! Wth. Keep to yourself
@@RebelNutts-gg1xfyou being repulsed by this subject shows your probably just like them
My brother has 8 kids with 7 different mothers. He admits openly that he doesn't use condoms because he doesn't like them. Will keep having children because he wants to be fruitful and multiply, but will not get a job to monetarily take care of these kids and will be unfatithful to the mothers. He's a parade of red flags and women will still flock to him and let him impregnant them. People are just hardheaded and don't want to learn.
What is wrong with some women!!!😢😢
I hope your brother isn't carrying any diseases. Since he's the type that will pull down his pants for just about any and everyone. Ran through!
What is wrong with a man who won't care for kids and won't wear a condom.@@meep_murp8758
@@princessglandy6776those women are broken. That’s why that has nothing to do with the women who don’t want that
@@meep_murp8758his brother definitely ran through and got multiple diseases
This needs to be addressed a lot more birth control and condoms and when they show you who they are don't have sex with them at all
Women don't need to have sex with men they don't won't a child with. If you don't want him then don't have sex with him. Period.
I had this FWB I found out was cheating on his gf with me all the while making me feel objectified. I immediately cut him off & he spent a good year trying to get back into my pants & one time during our final year, I was stupid enough to let him.... ..then boom, a pregnancy scare.
I initially didn't think much of it till he started making these constant jokes about me being pregnant ( even though I never shared my concerns with him). He made jokes about how the bump would look underneath my graduation robe & how I'd probably have to take some time off before starting our internship program cuz I'd be too pregnant to cope.
I realised he probably tried to ruin my whole life to heal his broken ego cuz I'd rejected him for a year.
😂 "...baby trapped The Little Mermaid..." 😂😂😂
He really did. Was jealous during her press tour because he was the one being unfaithful and now she’s hiding her baby bump smh just sad
Discovered my spouse's infidelity, initiated divorce proceedings, and now dealing with the challenge of securing child support for our two children. Despite his substantial income as an attorney, he's resisting the obligation to contribute financially to the well-being of our kids, despite earning nearly three times my salary. These men 🗑️ regardless of the socioeconomic status.
Well he has to legally though right?? Doesn’t matter what he wants
Yep, this happened to a classmate of mine. She had a HUGE glow up when she got in shape, & wasn’t chubby anymore. She got tons of attention and her boyfriend got insecure.
One day while they were having sex he went inside of her without her consent. She got really upset and started crying, and told him why did he do that. He told her he wanted to make sure that she’d never leave him, because he loved her too much. She was only 18yrs old.
Did she leave him? That's assault.
@@missgingerlime No, he got her pregnant again. This was like in 2008, so Idk what happened later on in her life.
So abortion wasn’t an option 🥸
@@nikkisavageNo, not 4 everyone.
Condoms aren't an option?
It was done to me and he said he did it so “in case we didn’t work out he could always be in my life”. I said “So you trapped me!?” He thought it was funny but he told me. I’m raising that child alone.
*laughs with IUD* i’ve had one since 17 because i don’t trust ANY man to determine MY future with a BABY
Things like this are why I've been celibate for years.
My ex actually drugged me so he could impregnate me and threatened self harm by death if i didn't birth his child because then in his own words "i couldn't whore around". I didn't know yet that he was cheating on ME , classic projecting.
Honestly, we women need to stop having children with men that will not commit to marriage first…. And if you really still want children, just be ready to be a single parent just in case. We need to protect our wombs and our autonomy
I felt her frustration when the guy was all in her face recording instead of being mature and having a discussion.
My husband baby trapped me. It’s been almost a decade now and I’m seeking divorce. I plan on leaving the kids with him because he doesn’t have a job anyway. The kids already complain that he doesn’t cook as well as I do (he got fired from six jobs in a row, and since his last firing he has been doing a lot of the cooking recently), but I guess they’re going to eat bland food for the rest of forever because I’m leaving regardless.
But uh isn’t that the reason you get married is to procreate eventually .. unless y’all had that conversation before marriage not to have kids then I understand
yes but even if they wanted kids, people do not want endless kids, most people have a limit on how many kids they want or and can afford or handle. My mom got trapped into 2 more kids, she was goind to leave him after two becaue she could of still afforded to raise two without his support (she had alot of passive income through her buisness) but he was always jelous of her and was trying to break/humble her funny part even with 4 kids she still managend to safe up enough money to be able to leave but she was too scared to because she had low self worth and he ended up destroying even her finances and career, took all her money and house and started to abuse as to the point we had to secerlty leave and run away to another country. This is why I do not play with men and see them as the high risks that they are. and very very carefully associate with them also do not want kids but do want to get married but with very high and strict standards that i never compromise on. Helped me dodge alot of bullets.@@Hines2
Good. Go live your life ma’am. I just hope u keep contact with your kids and call them somtimes
I'm 51 years old, and in all those years I've rarely heard of unmarried men who really want children (some married, too, of course). So, having numerous kids with multiple women means control over all of them.
This is the very reason I left my ex, he refused to wear a condom and always talking about having a baby with me (we had only known each other for 3 months) right then I knew that dude was either crazy or trying to baby trap me. On another note, he has a child with another woman and his relationship with both the mother and the child is terrible, if you let him tell it, the mother is the problem and he is a good man. I'm just glad I didn't fall into that mess.
And the worst thing is if you confide in "friends" or relatives all they do is BLAMING YOU for not having aborted... 🤮🤮🤮😡😡 You really can't make this shit up... 🙈
We are always blamed for everything :( but times are changing and they’re changing rapidly now that women have started to really open up and talk to eachother ❤
I swear this is exactly what happened to me. It took me forever to get my life together. I cut all contact and my life is so much better.
I say to women the exact same thing I say to men. If you don’t have what it takes for single parenthood or truly want to get out of real baby trap-give up your parental rights. The only difference for women is that this is without a doubt your child. Your DNA.
There might be a chance to make up that relationship in the future and there might not. Clearly it’s a risk. But I can honestly say it’s one I would take to get away from a POS man if I weren’t ready to learn to be a mother at his mercy.
To me it makes no sense to complain and regret if you’re gonna continue to deal with it. There’s a chance that mother who wanted to drop her daughter off at the fire station will one day come to genuinely love her, *and there’s a chance she won’t.* There’s honestly too many different scenarios where these innocent kids just don’t win.
It also makes no sense for a man to complain about raising or giving child support to a kid that’s not biologically his-give up the parental rights. To complain about it as if anyone can go backwards is pointless.
But the second guy is right, people need to be choose careful who they kids with. If you can’t enjoy protective sex, take responsibility and try abstinence. Laws against abortions are only going to continue to get worse until a woman unfortunately dies from being denied an abortion.
Protect the options you have left. Protect yourself. Protect your womb. Protect your children if you truly want to keep them.
Protect myself? Yes kids? Abort mission w depo and tubal ligation plus gender neutral clothing!!
Women already have been not surviving pregnancy. TX maternal morte rate went from 21/100K live births to 39/100K after restrictions & 90% were *ruled* preventable.
I live in Egypt, in Middle East, we dont has sex without marriage, but I still saw men trying to do it in marriage, then later even deflect it and say women trapped them, when they try to avoid paying to their children, I saw once guy loved girl who was studying to be doctor and she was smarter than him, his friend advised him to trap her by kids after marriage and tell her that she has to stay home with them, so she achieve less in life than him. another one was mother of my friend, she was great doctor before her marriage, her husband made her quit work for kids, then he left her after 17 years, to marry his coworker.
Men will drive you mad and then record and post you so you look like the smaller person.
reactive abuse
I remember seeing the video of the mom who said she "didn't want" her baby, on a different platform. Even then, with no context - just her meltdown over seemingly wanting to "go party," (as the BD was trying to paint)... I knew she wasn't the bad guy.
I very much wanted and intended to have my children, and chose their dad very carefully. STILL, I get tired. I get overstimulated. I get burned out. I need a BREAK and I feel like my head is going to explode because I go for weeks and months, busting my behind with no respite.
My husband travels for work. Today is my birthday and I woke up throwing up at 4 am 🤣🤣🤣 he took our oldest son to school on his way to work, but the rest is on me. I can't have a breather or throwaway day because there is nobody nearby who can assist.
The mom in the video is not a bad mom and the majority of other parents can see right through what her toxic a$s BD *TRIED* to do by releasing the video.
She's tired! She needs and deserves break, to rest, to let loose and YES even to party!! I would have watched her little one for free, no questions asked, because I know how it feels.
I don't regret my kids but this is the first time in my life that ive only been able to worry about myself. My sister adopted my girls because I CANNOT AFFORD TO PROVIDE WITHOUT A COLLEGE DEGREE which both my older sisters and brother in law do. Im lucky i have family that could afford to.
Im ok with being the bad guy because the foster care/adoption agency in Texas pays full tuition to any state college or university in Texas. All three of my sisters and brother in law went to UTof Austin, its the best way i could find to break the cycle of poverty.
It was the hardest thing I've ever done.
It is great that ur daughters r safe!!! I do not fault u for ur decision! I know it was the hardest thing you've ever done 😢! I'm glad u had the strength and foresight to make that decision!!! Hopefully u will find gainful employment of ur choice and hopefully reunite with ur daughters! The only place to go now is UP!!!🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
@@user-jp1zs8wy5n im looking at homelessness quite honestly, but the situation I'm in is pretty bad so you know at least my daughters are safe
That is so beautiful. I’m so glad that they are safe and with a person who loves and cares about them enough.
@@ambergraham103 it feels crappy but student loan debt is crappier and my siaters all just barely paid theirs off. They graduated in 2002
My cousin is a devout Christian, she was married for almost 10 years before having her child, and her husband waited until the day after their child was born to tell her he wasn’t a Christian and in fact had never been but now she could never escape the marriage because, in his own words: “now she was stuck with him for at least the next 18 years”
Nice story, did everyone clap?
🤮 I'm not having any more children because there isn't enough good attractive men for every female child we birth. We really need to think of our girl children. Born or not born.
My momma told me “he was the one who got you pregnant, but you will be the one taking care of it!”. That scared me!
This is the reason I was always on birth control (where he couldn’t find it to sabotage it), and why I later got a tubal ligation. I wasn’t going to ever leave it up to chance or have some guy baby trap me. Ladies, take care of yourself FIRST so he can never baby trap you.
Me ex graped me and took my wallet so I couldn't get Plan B. Thankfully, I always have emergency cash hidden. I'm childfree, and he lied that he was too. I got away from him and got a hysterectomy to keep myself safe
You ex sounds like a cool dude
Had my Tubal Ligation at 21.
I am SAFE because motherhood always Seemeilen to me as the biggest threat to my wellbeing, physically and emotionally.
Of course men who hate women want them to be mothers!
still make them use condoms becaue of STDS and also if they cant ruin you with pregnancy they will with diseases
Stay on guard though, unfortunately you can still get an ectopic pregnancy, not to mention STDs. Stay safe out there
4:05 I heard section 8. This is why you don’t have sex with bums and risk a baby.
If a man wants a baby, then he should get married first.
Trap or no trap from both sides, it doesn’t matter. The woman will end up doing most of the work.
-Peep the 🚩
-His living/career situation. -Does his “goals” turn to actions or is it all smoke.
-Get your PI hat on to find out if he has kids, gf or wife in the winds.
-Can he speak, write and read the English language.
-You all have smart phones in your possession to do your due diligence.
Sidebar: If you want kids and are stable, plenty of sperm banks that can provide without the headache.
Abort. Choices. Don’t get trapped.
Agree until the end
White and Asians are only sperm domain category acceptable least two groups are employable or less of an ass hole
@@2okaycolathe end is fine too. If you don’t want an abortion, don’t get one. But you don’t get a say as to whether another women does.
baby trapping just sounds like a form of assault tbh....
I have met many guys who have that mentality. They are an enemy to you. My mother warned me early in life to "NEVER let a man sit a baby in my lap." I've NEVER fallen for that trap. I have a nice body that no man's baby will mess up. I'll only have a baby for my husband. Its not fair to the child either. I hope that women wise up. Don't get pregnant out of wedlock, don't neglect to keep them before the courts for child support if yiu have one.
yeah they can also baby trap you in a marriage. then they have you double sealed in with marriage and a baby it will be harder to get away. make sure you have income and resources and assets in your name only. make sure he can and wants to raise a child, words mean nothing with men actions are everything an incompetent father is a burden to you and your children. make sure to get birth control or tubes tied after you are done having kids, because you dont want to be pushed into having kids you cant physically and mentally and financially handle. Some evil men love watching their wife struggle and suffer and pregnancy and child care becaue they feel bitter about either getting married or and having to finance the family so they let out their resentment by making your home life a nightmare if they dont also sabotage your career, family relations or friendships. It's horrible what we have to look out for to be safe. Also i say this as a kid to grew up in a family were the dad did all this to my mom to "humble" her.
Marriage doesnt do anything. You can still get baby trapped in marriage and the husband do a 180 and become abusive and or not take responsibility for the kids. Women need to get out of the mindset that marriage solidifies and prevent things like this from happening. It doesnt. If anything marriage makes it more complicated bc youre gaslight even more when you confide in people about your husband baby trapping you.
It’s risky for black women to become mothers and get married the most because black men still have yet to realize that it wasn’t normal for their mothers to have done everything alone. Black women take your time with marriage and children and open yourself to other races of men to increase your chances of finding the best provider and mate ❤
Couldn't agree more with you❤ Black males are NOT the best fit for Black women.
i had a guy who used to tell me i belong in high places and he tried several times to get me pregnant i refused and got away from him fast
i love hearin the allergic to latex comment because i exclusively use latex free condoms
HAHA me too I heard that line and pulled out latex free condoms. He gonna leave after seeing it😂