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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 15 ส.ค. 2024
- Hi ppl, I just wanted to share some thoughts on social media and how bizarre it actually is. These days I'm becoming more and more aware of the ideas that social media perpetuates and how deeply woven they are in our social fabric (to the point where we forget to question them). I'm lowkey just sick of all these new terms and categories and the general lack of nuance when it comes to discussing any topic, as well as the constant labelling and AGHHHH (it is late and I don't want to articulate anymore). Anyway, this is still just for funzies and I hope I helped elucidate some points that might've been floating around without proper identification.
Timestamps~
0:00 Intro
1:00 Effect on perception of reality
2:37 Brainwashing + moral high-ground
3:54 Content ≠ Reality
4:53 Brainwashing
6:24 Reading vs. Social media
7:47 Placing ppl in the extremes
9:51 Experiencing things for yourself (critical thinking!!)
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“Boy pretty” “deer pretty” “tomato girl core” “mafia wife core” Like what are we talking abt fr??
First time hearing those
Ikr don’t forget “mewing” “Looksmaxx” “red pill” I wish the internet didn’t exist.
@@pvinixje6852 rdb pills, looksmaxxing, mogging, subhuman, subfive, oofy-doofy, trucell and fakecell, different tier normies, chads and chadlites, manlet, femcel, moneymaxxing, betabucksing, yeah internet does a number on you.
Like for realll 😢😮
Wtf do those even mean?
I’m loving how people are slowly realizing how harmful social media is.
Fr, thats why i deleted them
Never have any social media
@@haruyanto8085 ur my inspiration fr
@@Linaosaurright
Same my friend
"girl math", "looksmaxx", "golden retriever boy", everything is a simulation of a simulation of a simulation. like what the fuck are we talking about anymore?
Fr...media has so much potential with all the info out there but most people are using it for dumb meaningless shit like this. I never got it.
@@07HaleySocial media is never going to recover without major changes, most people are in their own worlds and detached from whats happening in the world
Simulacrum has fallen upon us, the ultimate hyperabstraction shall lead us to madness.
What the hell are those even mean😭
nothing's wrong with golden retriever boy though its just a type of guys??
I keep seeing swifties saying girls that dont like taylor want men's validation and im just like what the actual hell does that mean
thats just crazy 😭😭 ppl just be sayin anything at this point
Lmaoo??😭 this is crazy
Ikrrr same with lana fans 😭
As a Swiftie myself, I'm so sorry for whoever said that to you. It's alright if you don't like her as long as you're not going out of your way to hate or her or smthn
BROO. This is why I quit being a swiftie. It's the fact that some people are making this their whole personality and downing others just because they don't like Taylor. What in the actual- 😂
The older you get, it really is "the damn phone"
And the saddest thing ever is that you realize your parents words were true 🙂man I'm 24 yo and I'm so miserable
@@hind197you’re not old, you can get your life together ❤
@@darehi2683 You're right! 👍 😭❤️ thank you I needed some words of encouragement ❤️
I hung out with a friend a month ago. I asked her what she does on her free time and what she likes to do. I offered painting, coloring, skating, watching movies, playing board games, making bracelets, talking about certain books. She then replied and said “yea I pretty much just watch tik toks all day”. Like its the new “normal” thing to do with your time. It makes it really hard to actually connect and spend quality time with people now days. It just makes me sad
this is so true, older people love to say we need to go outside and connect with real people but this is how the majority of people spend their time lol
and it’s not our fault either. Everyone is so anti social now and social media is kind of one of our only forms for gaining connection
no fr any time I'm with my friends they just sit and scroll it's so boring /;
@@torielle7812exactly, and it’s so rude too. Like, there’s a person right in front of you that you can talk to but you instead decide to go on your phone. Bruh
I wish I knew a guy like you.
OH MY GOD, I literally saw a viral post from an influencer yesterday about being ''a girl's girl'' and I genuinely thought to myself ''Bro, can we just try to be a HUMAN'S HUMAN first?''
Lmfaoooo humans human wait u got a point
seriously!! this only divdes men/boys from women/girls like why can't we just chill and be good people
@@the_higherground Yup, it's the weirdest divide, where both sides are unempathetic and at times, hypocritical towards one another. I think both those worried about women's issues and men's issues, forget that they'll continue to coexist with one another as long as they're both upheld.
@@the_highergroundthats statically true. There is a huge divide between gen z men and women if u Google it
@@the_higherground It's so ridiculous and stupid if all these people hate on each other just because of their gender they might as well live on Mars or Venus at least all the other non - problematic human beings can live in peace.
i feel like social media keeps you from thinking for yourself. you just get bombarded all the time, no space for anything thoughtful, no space to think. just like you said
Exactly, mostly the real reason for us to overthink how others feel/think about you starts from social media.
That makes so much sense omg. If anyone finds any good articles about that take, please tell me!! I'd love to read more about it
@l00ml I don't really know any, but there's the book 48 laws of power, idk if it's exactly what you said to be, but it's how you survive, or how the world works
yes, basically because most of the ppl want answers FAST. and the algorithm plays a major role in this
they dont want us to think for ourselves
The labels are so dumb
They are if I see anyone irl saying these stupid labels I’m going to laugh in their face.
Philosophers' terms be like: metaphysics, theology, stoicism, nihilism, solipsism
Gen Z terms be like: rizz, gyatt, ick, mog
I have a label that I really like and stick to these days: human
Without addressing the root cause nothing will improve and people will complain blindly 👉The Connections (2021) [short documentary] 🌳🌳🌳
Fr
The best advice my father ever gave me in life is "If you're not paying for the product... you are the product". In this case, the product is us and our addiction so that these companies can keep shoving advertisements down our throats for free and make more and more money while we keep coming back for more. Social media is our generation's cigarettes, look at how we pull them out and consume whenever we get stressed or nervous or are just bored. But because it's a recent phenomenon, not widely researched, and socially accepted, people just don't think about the downsides until they're too big to ignore.
wow that's such a smart quote! i'm gonna start using that LOL
Cigarettes were also deemed healthy for you last time it seems to be the same thing now
well said
Without addressing the root cause nothing will improve and people will complain blindly 👉The Connections (2021) [short documentary] 🌳🌳🌳
my teacher also said this the exact same thing
I just got tired of the aesthetic culture on the way that everything has to have a name, like "angel core" "deer pretty" "grilled chesee core" STOP, i cant even exist without being categorized.
Literally i saw a tiktok of a girl, i believe she was outside dancing in a field and a person commented "what is this aesthetic called?" And someone answered "being alive and normal" LIKE YES
I like having a name for certain styles/aesthetics so it's easier to find similar pictures or clothes, but i've also seen someone asking "what aesthetic is this" on a picture of a white flowy curtain and other random objects that are literally just what they look like
It's called labels and categories 😭 The one who asked must be trying to find a specific settings/fashion/stuff and didn't get the answer he/she want and not in a way the commenter was categorizing someone. Labels and categories help us find things what we want specifically and this isn't exclusive in the aesthetic culture. If someone ask me what kind of life I would live I'll immediately say 'Cottage core" cuz it's a specific category and if you research it'll give you the main visual what it looks like. It's not that bad. You just didn't know what it is. And this also help me find specific sounds in music production because they are also genres.
Oh my God the constant categorizing, I get you. And also the fact that you can literally make one move and your career can be over?? Especially when it's something stupid you've did as a young kid, who's still trying to navigate life. It's like we're constantly on a fixed mindset. I think it's fucked...
I like that tho, its easy to find exactly what youre looking for like that. But I get where youre coming from. I have the same thing with sexuality. Not labeling is fine too
Like bruh what even is a core?
I fucking hate how when I want to dress a certain way I immediately think I'm doing it for a guys attention.
🤷♂️
No fr
so true
me too :(
as a guy there are men who dress for girl's attention too but i guess thats natural
i feel like everyone would be on social media less if we had more walkable neighborhoods and third places :(
it's sad
yess i always think about this
YES ANS WE WOULD MAKE WAY MORE FRIENDS? AND BE WAY MORE FRIENDLIER TO EACH OTHER
Lol speak for yourself, in my country we don't have to drive miles to get to the market
im so jealous!! 🤧 i wanna move out of the US asap lol @@unpallar
LITERALLY THIS like yes sometimes the world is scary but it is a dilemma because I don’t wanna be on social media all day, nor do I want to be harmed for taking a stroll to the mailbox
The fact that after deleting my social media for almost a month these type of videos are being recommended to me 💀👍
Me too !
Same, I’m just surprised how few people actually realize how dumb it can be. Like, I get it, it can be entertaining and make you feel like you’re part of something, but it’s all a superficial illusion of reality. And it gets repetitive, even the jokes are just sort of cringy now
@@chickensoop6536 I actually wanna go outside just enjoy nature today,I mean social media was fun during the pandemic but you’re right it’s pretty repetitive now and it’s turning people brains into mush
Samee😭😭😭😭
The algorithm doing anything it can to attract more watchers 😭😭😭
Social media has made me miserable
As much good as social media does, it can encourage stupidity, degeneration, and division among us.
Exactly and some people are already divided, it’s like we’re getting divided even more but instead it’s in sub categories. Oh you’re a dog person? You go over here, you’re a cat person you go over there. You like soccer your here and your there etc etc. it’s very concerning that we’re being separated then just coming together and see who the actual problem is.
amogus (im chronically online)
Divide and conquer
Genuinely asking How does it encourage stupidity?
Without addressing the root cause nothing will improve and people will complain blindly 👉The Connections (2021) [short documentary] 🌳🌳🌳
Also the reason I deleted TikTok, it is very concerning how we are growing up in a society with a lack of real connection, mental health is getting worse and worse, I hope our generation can get out of this harmful cycle.
I'm actually genuinely scared for us
real. i chose to leave social media 4 days ago because i couldnt stop thinking why one of my friend didnt wish me birthday on her story when she did it for everyone else. i was so sad but again i just found it really toxic how a mere thing can affect my mental health. so i deleted it all
I don't think it's gonna get better especially for people who are under 17 bc social media has gotten worse
The way they behave on social media, they also bring it to real life rn, especially tiktok users and FB users. Like, they're categorising individuals as if they are the masters of everything about that individual. And also, there's an adult who'd behave the same and be so scary BC some other time he told me his...uhh... disturbing plans towards another person he hates. I found those....like alienating rn. But I think this is our new reality nowadays. Also, I only stayed on tiktok since the gaming fan community is so creative. But the advice from influencers there, I skip every time
We sure can. It starts with you , me. and us together. It's won't just change with hope. It will change if one does.
i’ve seen people say that if you don’t like makeup, you’re not a girl’s girl and you want male validation. which makes no sense considering how toxic the beauty industry can be.
the trend of mocking the ‘pick me girl’ is what kinda pisses me off. like people are just using it as an excuse to call any girl they don’t like a ‘pick me’.
I swear
I sometimes feel calling others pick me is that they are pick me themselves. Otherwise they could have just ignored and went on with life
If you have a opinion on anything you are always going to be placed in a box which sucks
REAL, everyone is now a pick me i even have to google it few times to remind myself what is that terms mean
EXACTLY it’s so ANNOYING AND RUDE and toxic
Social media got us thinking bout things that don’t really matter in da end☠️
People got tooo much time to be worrying ab this stuff fr
Yeah, you will feel so much better and overall grounded when you quit social media and start interacting with the real world.
@@kitcat2449 exactly, I wish more people would understand this
Let’s all remember is that it’s people on social media and it’s nothing now where people say stuff that affects how people think especially on things that don’t matter. Look at money when ur rich or well known that means you’ve ’made it’ 🙄
@@stooglesgoogles7246 I just learned the word “yapping” after I heard a few people say it after I deleted my tik tik and I was so confused like what is going on
@@stooglesgoogles7246 THIS!! People who say they hate "small talk" like...? How else is a conversation supposed to start? Even though small talk is insignificant or considered to be insignificant conversation, how else are people suppose to build/develop relationships. Social media has done a good job of creating labels/categories to put people in and for people to differentiate themselves as a means to be seen on a high moral ground (as mentioned in the video).
I’m not gonna lie, “skibidi toilet, Ohio rizz, sigma, mogging, fanum tax, gyatt” basically every cringe slang word is just being spammed especially now that I’m in middle school.
skibidi toilet is literal brain rot!!😭
@@stephaniem2951 I know right 😭
very cringe, but also to be fair thats always been what middle school was like lol, just the overused slang in question changes
@@vlad5042yeah and it very sad that kids dont play like actual games or go out but instead they are on the internet and that have to make some type of way to spend time and then this skibidi shi came out
At this rate anyone who unironically calls themselves a sigma is a certified ligma male
Social media is ironically making people anti-social! I hope something gets done about it and ppl start realizing this
My brother in christ your effortless shorts are part of the issue
@@lululegendewild 😭
@@lululegendebro really checked 😭
@@lululegendeNot all hero's wear capes ☕🗿
@@lululegende damn lmao
Man, you’re really talking real sense. Im 13 and i deleted my socials last year when i was 12. It was hard but when i did, the first week was hell but after months, it was actually so freaking calming. Like i realized that “damn, i really didn’t need that shit in my life.” And the fact that it CHANGED SOOOOO MUCH OF MY PERSONALITY AND THE WAY I ACT. Like srsly. Now people especially in social media think that mental illness is quirky and makes you cOoL, people who WANTS to be autistic, who pretend to have adhd, and romanticize stuff that shouldn’t be so.
And especially in school everyone has social medias i feel lke its a normal thing and if you don’t have them, you’re “weird” or “you live in a cave”. So its hard to make friends at school bc of this :/
And another thing im happy abt when i deleted socials, is that i feel prettier. Like srsly, i really do. Cause now that i dont nave TikTok etc anymore, well im not comparing myself alot to other girls. And i realized that being different is what makes us beautiful. I also start to develop my own personality and my own mindset instead of being brainwashed by the way people talk, think, act and behave in social media.
Glad theres still people like you in this world!
UPDATE may 6th: i wish i could meet people like yall irl :(
You have taken the right step, i wish i did that sooner.
@@tasdeedoak8807 its never too late, okay?❤️ i know its so hard to do so, but especially put on a goal to support the idea of you quitting socials so that will be easier to do so. Cause if you dont have any goal, then your brain is most likely going to think: but whats the point of deleting them?
Just try, try ti delete all of your socials for a month. It might sound long but trust me time flies especially these days so you won’t regret it❤️ you got this!!
Good thing you started now because you’re very young. You should enjoy life more without social media.
Omg ur so smart, I got social media back when I was 12 in 2020 and it was one of the worst yet best things in my life, I met a lot of good online friends I’ve met but also compared myself to others and had a toxic mentality on a lot of things.
@@nateclipps exactlyy
As someone whose social media just consists of TH-cam and Pinterest, I still feel the effects of it sm. I feel like the generations are getting dumber and dumber by the day. It's a weird kind of paradox cuz we talk so much and have so many words for things but what even is the point if we're just making up shit that does not matter whatsoever irl. At this point, I can't function irl around people who I can text and talk for hours on end with. It's like everyone is getting more and more anti-social and we're all okay with it.
Question do you know how I can put my pictures on the search engine? For my business
@SWOONYMOONY ikr!!!
O ser humano é animal sociável. Nosso cérebro não foi feito para ficarmos horas e horas em frente à uma tela, mas se livrar dela é difícil por causa da dopamina...
"Generations" we are talking about one generation here? I understand your point, but why are making this seem so deep? You've been alive for I assume no longer than 30 years and you are already assuming the future decades ahead. This is the thing I respectfully dislike about pessimists, you always claim you hate your generation, you've lost all hope etc but then what have you actually done? 🤔 , you complain as if you are a deity of some sort who built a utopia watching everything is crumbling down.
If you actually want to change things then instead of latching onto the problems then spread positivity and have the empathy to realise there are others who want the world to change.
@@steelymanfan7276 I'm sorry if it came off offensive, that wasn't my intent. What I meant was that people always refer to the next gen as disastrous, gen x to millennials, millennials to gen z, gen z to gen alpha. Some days it does kinda feel true. And I don't mean it like "everyone is an idiot except me", i only said that I feel so cuz I see it in myself too, quite a lot actually as well as others around me, which can be a bit scary if not disappointing.
That being said, I totally see your point and agree too. I do tent to get really whiny and very pessimistic at times and that comment certainly seems like it was on one of those days. Again, I apologize if it came off as rude.
What if two people really like each other but they both subscribe to the "I don't chase, I attract" mindset and then neither one of them make a move, and they both live the rest of their lives lonely and sad?
exactly, it's so backwards
It's already happening
how tf would they be lonely and sad for the rest of their life 😂😂😂? they won’t meet ANYONE else? like wtf be fr
@@kenzieeoffthawall.. Yes, all because they listened to influencers who told them to attract and not chase. But don't worry the sun is supposed to blow up eventually so technically the entire history of humanity doesn't really matter. Have a nice day!
@@Tom33875 you are an unhinged bitter weirdo! you have a nice day too! ❤️
I feel like social media is a trap, we were made on the universe as creative beings so we’re made to create creative things that we love and enjoy. Not be on social media comparing ourselves and sucking our own lives away because of being scared of the unknown, scared of failure, scared of being a laughing stock and scared of trying new things and then realizing we don’t like it. Then getting upset about how much time we spent on it. But that is absolutely okay. Failure is good failure is okay.
I’m realizing this now, i’m trying to detach myself from social media and focus on hobbies and joining clubs
nothing sounds more stupid than "delulu is the solulu" how people are casually using this terminology without second guessing themselves is beyond me
Yes and those "I have adhd, I'm autistic, i looked up the signs on google" man, stop self diagnosing go to a doctor, and just because we imagine things in our head doesn't mean we delusional
I only use those statements ironically I can't imagine someone anyone being serious about that
@@sreyasreya4650 not how self-diagnosis works. Just looking up symptoms isn't enough
@@Hackiyori generally people look up symptoms in Google and self diagnose and obviously that's not right,
@@sreyasreya4650 That's a fair assumption. Of course, just looking symptoms up isn't enough for a proper self-diagnosis, though. You'd have to do proper digging and investigating if you really want to make sure you have that mental illness or neurological condition you're thinking of.
I’m so happy to see a video like this bro omg, maybe my mom was onto something when she said, “It’s cause that damn phone.”
NO FR BC THINKING BOUT IT NOW THEY WERE ONTO SOMETHING
we used to make sm fun of them but turns out they were right all along
Right???
fr like for me it WAS, in fact, the damn phone 😭
My mother DID NOT want me on Facebook, TH-cam, MySpace, etc. She didn't want me on it, PERIOD. Now I completely understand... 17 years on the Internet & I'm severely drained... 😔
"my roman Empire is..." I swear you are capable of communicating your toughts like a normal person Sindy
Nah this one's definitely been one of the most annoying ones, even tho all of them are and they just become so repetitive to a brain numbing level.
FRRRRRR i just can't stand it
I realized it was bad when I was 15 lmfao and people thought I was weird for not having social media smh 🤦🏻♂️
Omg thats actually me (except for youtube)
same!! I realized I just felt like ass spending hours looking at other peoples lives lmaoo spending no time on my own. Still on youtube too much though.
@@wheatbread1606yt better then insta tik tok however I’m tryna be carful with scrolling it’s coming like the dark web I don’t want to see p diddy when I scroll…
Insecurities are at an all time high thanks to social media. Like it shouldn’t even MATTER.
Insecurities have existed throughout history, This generation has least insecurities issues than in the past. Read some books for sure.
@@MrSaxobeat020go deeper g
@bellaj-kd7oi Today insecurities happen because people overthink, back in the days insecurities were given and forced by people on us. We were forced to wear corset for making waist thinner and chest big, forced to wear hair products to make our hair look certain way, forced to wear slippers so our feet looked a certain way, forced to apply natural herbals to make our skin glow or be in a particular colour, forced to have longer neck etc. In this generation we aren't forced but still insecurities are there. It's time to accept ourselves as who we are.
OMG DO YOU KNOW HOW WEIRD SOCIAL MEDIA IS WHEN IT COMES TO PHYSICAL APPEARANCE AND INSEUCIRITIES AND STUFF… LIKE THEY LITERALLY CREATE NEW INSECURITIES FOR PEOPLE THAT DIDNT EVEN EXIST FROM THE BEGINNING i deadass be watching these videos like “beautiful insecurities” then it says some bs like “having rectangular teeth” or some shit LIKE JUST LET US LIVE😭😭😭😭😭
RIGHT like i saw someone shave their HAIRLINE to make it look more "symmetrical or cleaner" which is so insanely stupid. seriously who cares about hairlines that much. this increasing level of perfection on social media is destroying us
You nailed it, social media brainwashed me a while back in the relationships, to the point where I felt insecure due to the countless standards being promoted every day, making me feel like no woman would ever love me and that I would end up alone. It took me a while to realize that reality, just like Instagram photos, is very different.
Eventually, I almost completely quit social media because of the harm it was causing me, not even training my feed could make that horrible content promoting toxicity disappear. So, like you, I started dedicating more time to books and other activities that disconnect me from that overload of information from people I don't know, living more slowly and gradually learning what really interests me. 🤠
for me as a young woman social media made me super insecure about my looks and my body-even got having eating issues-, it's not normal/natural in real life to get exposed to literally over a hundred of super pretty, put together girls, and it's not about jealousy or lack of confidemce, but if my hrain sees so many hot women every single day all day ofcourse I'm gonna end up feeling ugly. when I quit instagram I immediately became more comfortable in my skin. social media really triggers our "insecurities" as men and women to make us addicted which is so horrible
@@bayanbishara6666 I agree, it is an excess of information that our brain is simply not used to, but it likes it. Being aware of this, it is best to distance yourself as much as possible, trying to have a much slower and focused life like in the old days.
I hope that little by little you can begin to have a good image of your body, remember that not meeting the inhuman standards imposed by the social media does not mean that it is not beautiful. ✨
For context there is this whole thing about how many people self sabotage and ruin the relationship by overthinking and getting super possessive.
I think That social media is what help caused a lot of connections and relationships to fail, because social media likes to sell and promote things and the people who make this content are promoting the idea of what you need in a relationship. When honestly you should just do what’s best for you and the person. I think what many need to realise including myself is that there is always someone who will love you (yourself,family,friends) and that you should focus on those relationships and just what you want in life.
:)
I totally get what you’re saying.
What bothers me is how some people claim to be an “expert” or have that “I’ve got it all together” attitude when their life doesn’t even reflect the advice they give.
A classic phrase that I think needs to make a comeback is “practice what you preach” because some people are just hypocrites.
Critical thinking definitely needs to be taught in school.
If you’re not able to see something from a different perspective or even question what you’re taking in,
it’s that much easier for mass media & social media to influence you.
I wish more people understood this bro. You are SO much more likely to fall for bs without basic literacy and critical thinking skills
Deleted tiktok and ig. It makes me sad seeing kids younger than me having social media and acting so rude and adult. Romance is dead and even seeing my mom on ig reels all the time instead of hanging out with me 😭 I wish social media never existed, esp tiktok
Frr
@@sawody How?
I just deleted tiktok and it’s honestly so refreshing. Today was the first time I literally sat outside without going on my phone. I wish more people were educated on how harmful short form content is for your brain.
life got so boring. people don’t wanna hang out that often anymore..
so depressing
I was so shocked to learn about boy pretty vs girl pretty it was started on TikTok 😭
why would that be surprising
it was actually a thing way before titkok, i've seen "boy pretty vs girl pretty" in a magazine from the 2000s. a lot of trends on tiktok are rehashed trends from that era. they are just as problematic now as they were then. every social media brings back things we all should have just left behind years ago
Wtf does that mean 😂
We all know that a mob mentality is very bad. But people don't seem to realize that social media has very large groups of people that have never even met acting with a mob mentality. I see things on social media every day that can be easily disproven by simply walking outside and interacting with other people. This video is insightful. Thank you!
When u sit there and realize how long you’ve been on social media you’re just going to want to delete it completely. I’ll be 20 in 19 days and I already have instagram set to delete but now it’s TikTok too bc it’s too addictive, I don’t wanna spend my 20s just looking at everyone else. Our generation is already going downhill even more bc ppl sit online all day and apply it to their real life.
I wish I did this at 20, I’m 25 and I deleted insta, snap and TikTok 4 days ago. You did well!!
@@themanecareactor1512 Yeah TikTok is very addictive but sometime this year I'll get rid of it completely. Good luck🖤
@@themanecareactor1512 Thank u & good luck u got this :)
@@themanecareactor1512 Good luck :)
@@themanecareactor1512 It's not letting me reply but good luck to you and thanks!
Recently I discovered the reason my friend has been so passive aggressive and actively leaving me out of every conservation because she thought I was being condescending and instead of bringing it to me as a friend she said she thought I was going through my “better myself grind era”. I tried bringing it up to my other friend and she didn’t see what was wrong. WE’RE REAL PPL NOT TIKTOK TRENDS
In a world full of growing satire and shrinking authenticity, it becomes hard for us to have more good experiences. The energy we provide to the world around us does matter, and our interpretations do as well.
Anti-intellectualism seems be raising too, which is sad. The internet is so full of information yet people don't take the time to (critically) search for it.
@@kitcat2449 I agree
Im 32, and my little cousins are 9 and 12. Seeing their level of separation anxiety from their phones is astounding
100% FACTSSS!!! i love what you said about categorizing people into groups like 'girls girl/guys girl' bc this has totally switched our reality and made us become quite nitpicky and dare i say it RUDE! our generation are always in this constant state to be labelling something or making problems out of nothing genuinely, like i remember being in the comments section of an outfit video and people are arguing over aesthetics and cores like omfg cmon there are bigger things to be frustrated over genuinely. sorry for the long comment,what you said is just so refreshinggg, thank you so muuuuchhhh
I love how people realizing Social Media is only a tool and entertainment not a life to revolve with.
i think more and more people are going to realize and notice this. ive heard people saying that gen alpha is screwed because of technology and social media but if we continue to realize and popularize that social media is bad for us, they might not be.
@@braidcgexactly “there is always light at the end of the tunnel” we should just go back to 2000’s-2014 for the future generations happiness and our happiness sake
On the one hand, I get what you're saying but on the other hand, there's a lot I might have taken much longer (or even never) to realise about myself and who I am and maybe some issues I might have without seeing and reading other experiences from people similar to me and how that has shaped who they are. Social media can be bad and can do bad but it can also equally help you realise a lot about who you are and give you a moment to connect with people who might be able to understand you on a deeper level because whatever it is you are going through or feeling is something they also have.
I study communications and we literally always talk about what you just said, how media changes our perceptions and actions.
Every media is different and they will ALWAYS shape the message that they are trying to tell you, changing the way you perceive it and the world around you.
Science has come to the conclusion social media is so bad, its making our brains want information shorter and faster
Foreal, what’s wrong with just chilling and looking at nature without having your phone out. Swear that shii makes people around you nervous and they start scrolling lol
So true.
I don't carry my phone while going to markets and people are like oh why didn't you carry? DON'T you want to click pictures? Wtf I'm only buying groceries and I want to see the actual world and not a stimulation.
Exactly my thoughts. It seems that social media has created this weird sense of treatment where people don’t see each other as unique individuals. Suddenly everybody is this and that. There’s no grey zone anymore. There’s no acknowledgment of individuality, someone’s character, background, feelings. Why are we actively trying to deprive ourselves of empathy and common sense. It’s a good thing that it’s not much so in real life situations…
+ Wanting to fit into categorizes so much…is another whole issue, yes. Wanting to follow trends. Fear of missing out…people need to collectively step out and touch grass quite literally.
Social media fr gives ppl worries that didn’t even exist 10 minutes ago
2:49 took the words right out of my mouth. I was always against the "labels" thing, ESPECIALLY with the growth of LGBT community. I'm not homophobic in any way, what I'm saying is that people try to come up with a name for EVERYTHING. "Oh you're a girl and you like non-girls and you don't like this but you sometimes like that and you kinda feel like these? Let's name you [insert the label]." Every person is unique, you can't just categorize people, people can't just categorize themselves because they set boundaries for themselves this way and try to stick with the stereotypes. Same thing for any other niche of society.
do u have discord?
@@333scy Used to, now rarely use it
oh okk i was going to ask for your user to dm u but changed my mind, have a good day tho@@krafuae
EXACTLY!!! for years ive identified as lesbian but i told my friend "the label feels weirdly confining, i think i'll just go unlabeled, i'll ust like who i like" and she said "oh cool so you're pansexual" LIKE... THAT'S A LABEL!!!
it’s called micro-labeling. it’s pretty much very annoying
the people here are literally my people. I thought I was the only one weirded out by how social media makes everyone some identical simulation.
"We don't chase we attract " like wtaf is that 😂 social media makes me so depressed!!!
That makes sense because it's related to manifestations. But rest doesn't make sense
Manifesting is actually a real thing tho. You can prove it to yourself through experience 😂
@@thespiritschild yeah I have manifested a lot of things in life with that mindset
thats just manifestation😭 thts real
that’s just manifestation. nothing wrong with manifestation it just sounds dumb since social media discovered it
not being a pick me is the new pick me
Ugh , finally
people with no self awareness trying to use the trendy words and phrases without realizing they apply to themselves
And few months later-
Being pick me is actually better than not being a pick me.
LITERALLY
OMG FRFR- YOU LITERALLY GET JUDGED FOR LIKE EVERY LITTLE ACTION YOU DO LIKE DAMN WTH
and the fact that when you delete all your social medias you actually realize how much time you actually have w you when theres ppl crying abt "oh i dont get much time to get sht done" you prob just sit on the couch and scroll vids throughout the day
"Always complain about others
But not themselves"
Wise man
I once heard from a Dr. K video that social media is the second most common cause of depression and its very noticeable how much less depressed I’ve been since deleting social media
we tried so hard to eliminate "boxes" like "white", "black", "yellow", "brown"
ONLY FOR US TO END UP CREATING MORE OF IT. "girl's girl" "guy's girl" "sigma" what the.. we're done as a society. the kali yuga is just dawning.
I have no idea what any of those mean
But.. the boxes you just described are words to describe races ?? You can't really get rid of a box that you're born with (race).. I get what you mean though
@@TakeMeHomeEPgood cuz it’s terrible
@@beamshark It shouldn't be boxes
astute observation! personally, I've never used tik tok, facebook, instagram, twitter, reddit, snapchat, or any of that junk people my age use. One thing I've noticed is the weird traits people who use those platforms have. Constantly using weird terminology, having a dirtier mind, etc. it's refreshing to see someone finally take notice of this behavior and go "wait a minute... what the flake are we doing?!" good video
Just yesterday I stumbled on a video from Alexander Grace (I didn't subscribe to him for a reason, but yet he popped up again),
where he showed a study, that showed women find smiling guys unattractive.
And that was the tipping point, where I now refuse to take any advise,
from the internet in these regards.
His point was more or less "smiling be low key gay, ngl"
and if that's what it is, then so be it.
Like, I can't imagine any women I ever gave a shit about, to be like:
"I don't think you're boyfriend material, because you seem too happy".
as a woman, what in the world?? smiling always makes a guy more attractive
@@hanam430right
That’s some dumbass advice, frfr. A smile on ANYONE always makes them more attractive (to me).
bros trying to make himself look more attractive by making other guys insecure 😟 because where the heck did he get that from
where do these ppl get these studies from wtf
every girl i know including me, would say "a cute/nice smile" when u ask them what one of the most attractive things in guys is
as humans, we we never supposed to have THIS much access to this many humans at once.
Mom was right when said, "It's all because of that damn phone!"
this is so real, i also get confused when people will randomly start saying somehting that i havent heard bc I’m also off tiktok, like i was so confused when everyone was calling people autistic/acoustic like LMAO it feels so odd yk
Also, another problem with social media is that THERE'S NO FREEDOM OF SPEECH!! LIKE WHAT HAPPENED TO RESPECTING PEOPLE'S OPINIONS???? LIKE ALL I SEE IS HATE AND HATE. LIKE RESPECT YEACH OTHER'S GODDAMN SELVES PLEASE.
I started laughing when you started using the phrases "mogged" haha
The "like actually wtf" was so relatable hahah, like man what's up with people
RIGHT. What even is that? I came across that on Tiktok. It's so weird.
I dont have insta,snap,tick tock...so there is no way i am being addicted to some sorts of videos but to be very honest now a days as TH-cam shorts are being dumb day by day that thing is literally an addiction to me 😢
thanks for speaking about this. i always try telling that to most of my "friends" , they're like yeah yeah but they don't care at all, they don't want to change, they think they have time for absurd things like this. social media really influence you into being someone(?), not into being yourself and unique. that's the thing i hate the most about social media, everyone just look like everyone else, they don't have hobbies anymore, just scroll endlessly , going to school, sleep, repeat
also your deserve a lot more, your videos are great 🫶🏻
keep posting this is what youtube needs more of - in depth thought /thinking for ourselves without allowing to be force fed opinions and ideas
no because this video is so real, my elder sister is almost 18 and has never had social media and everytime i just talk to her or just like be with her i realise damn she's so lucky, her way of "being" is so real, she does not categorise ppl necessarily and doesnt judge people or every move of someone like iykwim like everything u said in the video
I feel like social media ruined everything…
You make insightful, interesting, and relatable content and your channel growth reflects it. Thank you
one day itll be me fr
So true social media is brain rotting but it still can be used the right way we just lack of balance. At this point it is using us not the other way around 😢
girl's girl is not a social media term, like it has been alive further than my age, and I'm 22, tiktok was not vibing with it in 2001. But I agree with the video, except for that one point, I hate when terms and definitions are appropriated, misunderstood or just overall done dirty because of lack of understanding or knowledge.
Exactly. I think people take things too seriously on social media and this is honestly an example of that. A girls girl isnt just a girl who hangs with girls the same way a guys girl isnt what was described. Vaguely interpreting social media phrases and dont use context clues to guide understanding then yeah, it’s not gonna work out well. But honestly the same can be said for reading some philosophical perspective on something.
Or making sensitivity the "illness" when insensitivity is literally the reason people cause illnesses
Back during when i was depressed, during lockdown and after I had just moved to a new country, social media helped a lot with maintaining social connections and making sure i wasn't completely isolated. This made me more willing to make friends once I got back outside, and I now have a thriving social life. I'm grateful for that but many use that social connection harmfully.
this is exactly how i think it just didn't take as long to set in to this reality.
everything is so stupid and it could be better but it just isnt.
it's been a slow and difficult process to relearn how to live a normal life without being on my phone 24/7, but one day at a time i'll get there. i only use youtube and tumblr at this point, which is a huge progress considering i used to have accounts on almost every social media out there. i know how excessive social media content consumption can brainwash us, i used to spend 10ish hours every day on tiktok during the pandemic and all the stuff in there altered my way of thinking. it's been more than a year since i deleted tiktok and i cant tell you just how beneficial that was for my brain. i hope in the next few years we see a rise of more and more people rejecting social media addiction..
If i have wish 1 thing disappear forever, i would go for social media. Must be a lot of fun to see how everyone reacts 😂
Social media made is so hard for people to socialize irl I swear lots of will connect on social media but irl they wouldn’t be able sit together for 1 hour, making friends is so hard right now it’s really ridiculous everyone brain is so over stimulated they can’t form actual real connections with real humans.
Been thinking about this a lot lately and a sad thing for a lotta people is even if you get off socials and "enter the real world" it can be hard to find people who wanna talk to you let alone someone you can get along with and befriend because the effects of social media already have a grip on so many (especially young) people today. Should you live in a rural area or otherwise out of the way of most people, you may not even know where to go or even have a reliable way to get there in the first place.
yeah fr, its a big effort to find community, let alone with other young people. not saying it isnt worth it, but sometimes u go and touch grass looking for enlightenment and to get offline and come back w a fulltime job, more problems, and realise ALOT of people get their worldview off reels lmfaooo. but going out and going to any kind of meet up is worth it tho, if it isnt cliquey people are more than happy to chat as thats what theyre there for IME. but i fr get the struggle of finding connections when ur freshly out of school and dont have a friendship group from school.
i feel the same way and it's hard to get along ppl my age too because they'll talk abt a niche meme and i wouldn't get it (i'm guilty of still having social media bc of this) thankfully i have a job and it's actually refreshing talking to my older coworkers because they're not on social media as much and it's nice to hear them talk abt things other than social media
Personally, i NEVER take anything from social media seriously bc its just not real life. I life in the real life not inside my phone so im gonna trust and take seriously the stuff i see/hear in real life 🤷🏾♀️
Sorry I’m not trying to raid ur comment section with my long ass comments but another thing that comes to mind is online dating which I think has become more and more common. I’m someone who has absolutely no experience in a single thing romantic. The closest thing I got to that was in middle school when I tied my crush’s shoe laces💀 but I yearn for a relationship just like a lot of people do it’s just that when people approach me I’m almost never attracted to them. So idk I saw Wizz and Yubo which are advertised as apps to “make friends” but really they’re like teen dating apps and omg I was obsessed😭 most people just wanted to hook up and honestly not many were down to have real conversations but whenever I got some kind of interaction from someone I thought was attractive it would feel like validation ig and would give me so much hope like “oh yeah this year I’m finally getting a bf” which btw is pretty out of character for me😭 but not just that, it made me so judgmental I guess? Like, I would swipe left after only seeing someone’s face for a millisecond 💀 like it became almost a game and I kind of forgot that the people I was interacting with were actually people. And I feel like it’s because it was online yk like things online don’t feel real a lot of the time and tbh most of the time things online aren’t real😭 so when u have ig a “digital disconnect”?? It makes you act in ways that face to face human interaction would not allow you to. But living in a world outside of our phones is inescapable because I mean it’s the real world that we’re living in so I guess we try to mix in our digital reality with our actual reality and categorize each other and force things onto one another (even if it’s all in our head) so that we can all fit into the box that was made for us on social media when really all that shit is made up or highly exaggerated and detached from like actual real life
Relationships are overrated. If you're not happy alone they aren't gonna make you any happier in the long term at least.
@@johnmas2735this is so real
Why is this my exact thought process lately omg. Social media has become a hive-mind consisting of a set amount of ideas while simultaneously having a million micro trends and labels. People have lost all personality in pursuit of finding their place on the internet. Idk. Sad
You put all my recent thoughts into words. Awesome video, very important topic.
People's media literacy skills have gone down yet they spend hours on end on social media. A very dangerous combo. People, especially sad and mentally ill individuals, are easy to brainwash. Algorithms can trap you in a loop where you only see certain kind of content, usually negative content since it tends to get the most views and interactions. That must twist your worldview if you don't give yourself reality checks from time to time.
Omfg especially “looksmaxxing” that actually ruined my perception of everyone’s looks because they all talk about how a standard pretty person needs to have blah blah and so everyone thinks appearances are what matters but once you have that and you have no personality on the inside you’re just as insecure and miserable
Hang around real friends and they couldn’t care less about your looks and you feel content inside out
This mog thing actually drives me insane I will lit go crazy if someone said that irl
I enjoyed this video. There’s definitely a lot of bad stuff on social media that doesn’t matter forever. Like when you’re 30 you won’t remember some dumb trend from 10 years ago. No one will remember what a random stranger posted from years ago. Unless it was their favourite video or a famous account.
i like the way you express yourself it makes me learn new vocabulary because english is not my first language
Girl same, TikTok has started some of the weirdest, silliest trends and pranks related to relationships that make my blood boil. Like what do you mean we cannot have close friends of different genders anymore? What do you mean we cannot find people of the same/ different gender attractive anymore? People project insecurities on social media and people prey on others' insecurities tho
I agree with this so much. After I deleted all my socials except for TH-cam, my friends would tell me about the stuff on Snapchat and how important sending someone a picture of your wall was. It was so toxic and I’m so glad I deleted it bro 😭
LOL the sound effects in your head. You're right it's like even when you do stop scrolling, it still doesn't leave you. I CANNOT be friends with someone that is addicted to their phone.
Social media definitely ruined me and lowkey made me hate a “certain type of people” and I wouldn’t say social media ruined my social skills school did that and bullying but social media definitely made me feel like I have to be a certain way and look a certain way to online people if not I’m not doing something right I’m slowly realizing that’s not the way to go but the deeper you are the longer it takes for you to realize and that’s why I’ve spent months off social media I’d still watch TH-cam but things that aren’t so harming to my mind like gaming or listening to music I stay away from drama and etc when it comes to videos cause I realize it brings the worst out in myself and don’t get me wrong i still eventually fall back into it but it’s easier for me to ignore watching peoples drama or commenting on the drama even though I’m arguing with a old lady in TH-cam comments somewhere I’d say it’s growth it’s just taking me longer but I wanna get back to the times where people would go outside have fun and forget they have a phone but I know I have a problem when I can’t even be outside without looking at my phone once or taking pictures of my food and etc I don’t think that’s too bad but it was a point in my life where I didn’t have a phone and if I did I rarely used it and I was outside playing for hours and I had so many friends and family I hung around now I don’t speak to anybody I have maybe 3 friends and 2 cousins I talk to on a daily kind of but it’s mostly over the phone with friends and it’s always short convos i definitely think people need to get back into socializing and spending time outside and not being so consumed too social media and I’m also talking about myself .
Social media are only ending when everyone understands how bad they are, and it will not end soon
more people should talk about this!! not just online but to the people that you see everyday as well. the conversation has to start somewhere. we have a lot of hurdles on the horizon it would really suck to be stopped by Tiktok…
literally im so tired of people inventing new phrases and labels everyday. like what is “fox pretty”, “looksmaxxing”, “frog ugly”, “legging legs”, “ick”, “(random word)core”, “sigma”, “alpha”, “omega”
LIKE PLEASE JUST SHUT UP, YOU’RE GIVING YOURSELVES AN IDENTITY CRISIS
how lol isn’t it just another generation’s slang?
You literally took the words out of my mouth. I've been trying to explain this to my friends but they all look at me weirdly and say "you're just saying that coz you don't understand those concepts" like yes, exactly. It doesn't make sense to me 😀
this video is probably the most well articulated video for reasons why social media is such a cancer to society. great video.
I am so so happy to see more and more videos about this topic. Year ago, I uninstalled Instagram and few months ago I deleted my Instagram account completely, I don't have any other social media except messenger to text with my friends. Couln't be happier. People think how much they would be "missing out" without social media but once you delete them you will slowly realize there is nothing to be "missed out" of. I don't judge people who use social media (I have been there too myself), but I encourage everyone to at least try for themselves to delete them for a few days and you will see what happens. It is obviously a process and it takes some time to realize this but the longer you stay away, the better. 😊
The thing that bothers me the most about advisory videos, is that we are literally sitting in our bed eating snacks and trying to "learn" how to live and what to think. Which movies should we watch that aren't pRoBlEmAtIc in any way, which clothing companies should we support (btw you can NEVER know for sure if a company is ethical unless you go work there), which foods should we consume to treat our bodies like temples, which face muscles should we not stretch too much by smiling or using a fucking straw, which position should we sleep so we don't get wrinckes or acne, which way should we wash our hair, our bodies, our faces, how much water should we drink, which people should we approach (or atTrAcT), which behaviors should we accept as okay, which artists should we hate cause although they're talented they're not good people, as if we or all the other artists, are by default better because some internet people say so. We have strangers who do not care about us at all, they're not our friends, they just want to pay their rent or promote some product, telling us how to exist, cause clearly we are doing it all wrong and that's why we're sad and lonely, cause we didn't try this new calming app, or ethically made cruelty free gluten free, vegan whatever.
I have no social media anymore, but I am addicted to TH-cam. :/
I can't let it go. I don't use Shorts but can "waste" hours on random videos with MOSTLY no value... and if I binge lots of complex videos or motivational videos or essays I feel tired much earlier and yeah... DON'T DO ISH, like you said.
Your video is great btw. :)
i just watched the one that looks interesting nothing more
Samee and pinterest too !
@@f6cks pinterest for me is for either uploading my art or looking at pictures
I got the same amount of problem just like you are. I've been trying tools and web extension to stop me from hours of youtube binge and I guess it's kinda works, though a lot of times I've impulsively turned off the extension myself and still don't know how to stop it and this applied to every tool that I've used. And by the way, the tools that I've used is: for web, use unhook. Just search it in the extension store whether it's chrome or firefox, etc. For phone (android) Digital wellfare google/base app. This app tracks your screen usage and can limit app usage by setting timer for each app individually. But again, I find myself impulsively trying to turning these off. The old 'putting your tech away' seems the best way to limit screen uses, in my opinion.
When you live somewhere with nothing really to do and no places really to hangout all you feel you can do is watch TH-cam and be stuck inside at home.
Spot on! It feels like I just listened to someone who formulated my exact thoughts. I never had tiktok and glad I didn't, although it was hard to relate to many people my age who use terms I vaguely understood. I hope that more people get off social media and get back to enjoying life truly with each other.
Life is so short, we need to gtf off our phones and literally touch grass😫(I'm forcing myself to do that)
Yep. Seeing how addicted people are to their phones reminds me of a black mirror episode. A lot of us are trapped.
the outside arc
Thank you for inspiring me and all of us so much with your video, I agree with everything you said :)♡
From a psychology student point of view (and sorry in advance for any mistake, English isn't my 1st language): social media is the incarnation of the human brain's fears, lazy heuristic strategies to read reality and need for dopamine through validation, confrontation and social interaction without actually getting out of the comfort zone.
We've tried for centuries to find escapism techniques in order to avoid reflecting on our own flaws, intertwining feelings and opinions with other people risking to be seen as vulnerable, and ultimately really considering both the major and minor social issues around us. People once weren't as aware as we are now about basically everything, so since we can't close our eyes anymore what we're trying to do is change our interpretation "codes" in order to protect our delusional selves and to entertain our minds while we do so, too.
There doesn't seem to be any downside to all of this...until we think closely about so many simple yet crucial things, like how conforming and repetitive our thoughts are now compared to once, how short our attention span is, or how much we doubt ourselves and envy other people constantly trying to bring them down to show someone (do we even know who?) that we're not worthy of the same judgment because we're cooler, more talented, kinder, prettier.
We all live as if we were celebrities under the world's eye, and in a way we are because everyone can create content, but existing in your real realm where you really are just a normal person while your mind exists in a complete other dimension makes everything so confusing and especially exhausting.
We probably fear looking inside of ourselves and our microcosm and realizing that we're no one to everyone, and we can't be blamed for that since the people behind social media kinda wrote this script for all of us; however, we should also get a hold on the fact that, despite being no one in a whole universe, we could also be everything to the special people in our lives if, collectively, we really opened up and showed one another our flaws, our cringe side, our weaknesses and our most intimate essence, without having to conform to a standard and looking for real connections. I just hope we all can open our eyes in the future.
This was just a personal thought, I'm glad if someone reached this point