People like this make me glad I'm not on social media. I love Hannah, but I, for the life of me, had to stop the video. I can't spare any time for those women to dumb me down with their foolishness. Keep fighting the good fight for those who engage willingly.
Then I waited for the tree to grow and bare fruit and I walked threw my apple orchard barefoot in a white linen dress with eyelet handkerchief in my hair and my hand loomed basket, and picked the apples while the sun shined upon my thin, beautiful, natural makeup touched face. Then I skipped joyfully back to the house. 😒🙄🙄😴 Being a stay at home mom was a necessity for me at one point in my life. And I lasted about 9months before I was like....mmm I think it's time I go back to school so I can get a better job, and back to work. 😂😂 Stay at home moms are built different. 💪 I couldn't do it full-time. Being a working mom is not easy either because it's like having 2 jobs, especially if you're a single parent. But these tradwives are just promoting a lifestyle that is not real or attainable to most women. And it's dangerous when paired with toxic religious doctrine and misogynistic husbands.
My toddler woke up sick and was all shivery so went to the stable, sheared a sheep, spun the wool and knitted my poor baby a jumper. When finished he was 7 years old
I had a sudden urge to end that the way Ricky Gervais would.... And by the time I finished the jumper he was dead. 😂 .............. There's a joke he says about he's decided to now become "woke". He's got so trolled for not being woke so he's given in. He says, take for example the word handicapped... that's no longer acceptable, you should say disabled. So one day he's at the beach, and he's still being woke. A woman runs up to him and says, help please, my handicapped toddler is drowning. He says, whoa whoa whoa, hang on a minute, don't you mean your _Disabled_ toddler? She says, well yeah, same thing. He says, no, they are not the same, you should say disabled. So he turns to look at the sea, toddler.....floating.....dead. And he says to the audience, that's what happens when you waste time being woke. 🤣 Your comment reminded me of that. 😅
I actually am a SAHM. I homeschool my kids while also handling a baby. Almost nothing I've seen on tiktok or TH-cam is what actually goes on in my home. 💀 I don't think it's bad to aspire to be that put-together all the time, but it's never going to actually look like that.
@@Purplexedtcthey have another parent 🤦🏼♀️🤦🏼♀️🤦🏼♀️ This comment reminds me when passengers would ask my female FA coworkers who was watching their kids while they were on trips. One got fed up and told a guy she left her kids with the dog lol THEY HAVE A FATHER
I feel this needs to be said more about these content creators. People can absolutely find the time to track down the ingredients and make these foods - as long as they are wealthy enough that they don’t have the same sorta 9 to 5 like the rest of us do. It’s rather easy to spend your day baking for your three kids and husband when you’re paying for a nanny to look after them.
Imagine asking your mom for a cough drop while you're sick & then waiting 3-5 business days for your mom to make you a cough drop while you hack your lungs out.
I hope you rose to the occasion and put on a full face of glam makeup, dressed up in your favourite ball gown and gloves and spent 2-6 hours to scratch make cough drops.
Crazy there's no children bothering her, hanging on her, shoving themselves between her and the counter, saying I'm hungry 100 times. Because someone else is caring for them right now. Not her. It's not real.
I feel like Nara has made it known that lucky does his part in the relationship so more than likely he could be watching their kids. I don't view her content as trying to be a tradwife
You are probably the most intellectually honest, self aware, and introspective creator I've seen and it's SO refreshing. I'm so glad someone is taking on these influencers and calling them on their bull... TY keep it up!
I agree! One comment on the homemade bread though, when my first baby was born, it took so long to get dressed and go out the door to the bakery 1 block down that I got a bread machine. Spending 3 minutes pouring flour, water, oil and yeast in the vat and pressing the button was faster than getting dressed and going down the street. That was my life hack at the time.
What’s so bizarre is that I’ve been a housewife for 26 years. Raising kids, baking bread, cleaning house, taking care of animals… we don’t have time to video ourselves, and dressing in those frilly outfits? What? 😂😂😂
I agree been a housewife for 17 years and I agree! With a very curious 16 month old , cleaning, and other things to do I don’t even have a min to write this 😂. I have disheveled hair( running around and this muggy weather 😂) and wearing “non traditional frilly “ little house on the prairie attire.
This! I was thinking the same thing the whole time, do NOT give a cough drop to a toddler! I would have zero problem with those videos if they didn't start with those ridiculous premises. Like my toddlers wanted corn flakes but I don't keep them in the house. Then why are your kids asking for them?? If they're never in the house why do the kids even think that's an option?? It's so clearly made up.
i also think the depiction of trad wives online severely downplays the labour of motherhood, stay at home parents, and home making. it makes it seem like there’s so little work involved that stay at home mothers have time to spend hours making cough drops and bread which isn’t the case.
They are not doing it even right. The blonde one casually seduces the audience by firmly showing a little bit of chest.. aren't you supposed to be traditional lol? That's not very trad of you. But of course she is doing that-the real face of the traditional women won't sell.
@@Laure__Linebased on the comments on tradwife videos, it really doesn’t sound like it. You’re giving people who follow that type of content seriously way too much credit.
@@DivideThatBy9PleaseThis too. The amount of men who look at this content and yearn for this type of wife, knowing full well that this is extremely unrealistic.
@@peachcookie6624ha keep telling yourself that. She didn't learn all that shit sarcastically 😂 she's making money, that's why she's doing it. She's clearly the breadwinner in that family yet pretending she's not
“My toddler woke up craving oxygen, but I don’t usually keep that in the air in our house, so I filled a pot with water and removed two hydrogen atoms from each molecule”
kind of disagree with some of these comments. nara smith has said she struggles with eczema and that she makes most of her food from scratch which is where her videos started taking off. then, i think she started to make “satire” commentary about how she makes them cornflakes or cheetos from scratch. do i think it is a damaging influence for other moms to see this and compare themselves to them? yes, especially in this economy, it is IMPOSSIBLE to live with two kids if both parents arent working (and dont even get me started on single parents). i do think naras content is damaging in the way that she portrays that she makes all of her food from scratch. i just think trad wife culture itself is horrendous so.
@@annawhite7998Then they shouldn’t watch her. If her content is damaging to some and if they can’t help but to compare themselves to her then they should learn to swipe away. No one is forcing you to watch anything. She is merely an entertainer/content creator, that’s her job. She is not trying to be realistic or telling women how to live their life or to make anything from scratch, she is just showing what she loves to do with HER life and you have the freedom to look away. She has said many times that cooking is her love language and she just wants to share that. These women also have the choice to follow creators that are more realistic to them and aren’t millionaire models.
@@wandooayabam1406 thats not what im saying? trad wife content is pushing the narrative that woman need to do 10000 things at once to be considered attractive or “wife-material”. and this is coming after we just made it out of the trenches. i think nara is a good person but trad wife content in particular is bad. and as a content creator, her job is to produce content that actually has a meaning/purpose. like i said, she started with normal content until she gained traction for making stuff from scratch. so, she continued to do that. i think her videos are just normal cooking videos with a satire commentary with it. AND, i didnt say anything about nara doing any of that. i said trad wife content makes people want to be able to do that
My 21 year old daughter, who will have her own daughter in September, saw the focaccia video and said “I feel like I’m going to fail as a mom, because that won’t be happening”. I told her, and I’d like all young mothers to know that your job as mom is to love your baby, feed it, and keep it alive. Teach your child to be a good human. That is what you should be doing.
That is absolute non sense!! What makes you a « good mom »? Making focaccia or bonding with your newborn… at 10 days postpartum, your job is to take care of your newborn and yourself while you are recovering from labor… Not having people take care of your newborn while you « perform » in front of a camera. This type of content makes me mad because it is a very distorted view of what motherhood really is or should be…
@@karinecoulombe2560Seems realistic to me. I know many mom's that after giving birth go straight to work or drive hours even when bleeding from their stomachs. All I'm saying is that walking to your kitchen to cook something from scratch and post it online seems pretty reasonable and not that hard to do if your rich. If people feel bad watching her because they aren't rich or have people helping them they should stop. Some people are just a little more mentally sensitive than others.
@@Jane-re1ku mom's shouldn't have to drive to work bleeding hours after giving birth. that is absolutely ridiculous and should NOT be normalised. and any woman who's willing to do that is either not in her right mind or under a lot of unfair economic/work obligations. which is a product of sexism. pregnancy and birth should be accomodated by workplaces. and these women are promoting false advertisement. if we saw the nannies taking care of their children and their cooks making dinner while they prep their cameras, people's reactions would be much different. the implication isn't that they're having fun 'performing housewivery', the implication is that they're the real deal and that if other women were just as fit, friendly and feminine as them they could have the same lifestyle. it's a lie, and that's insidious. of course people need to be aware that most things online aren't real and learn to be cautious/not so easily affected, but that's ankther issue.
@@Jane-re1ku oh stfu u would know only if u had a mom or wife who was a homemakers or u r one otherwise not. It is not at all realistic even if she's rich It's so obvious she's not dojng all that herself and has a whole ass cre behind her
Your TODDLER asked you for a cereal you don’t keep in the house? Where would they have gotten the notion to ask you for something you’ve never given them? 🤣
What these influencers don’t show you is the amount of support they have behind the scenes. They have assistants, house cleaners, groundskeepers, and even NIGHT NURSES. Kids or not, No one can do it all at once every single day.
Getting dolled up and cooking that complex of a meal 10 days postpartum is absolutely psychotic and the fact ppl think it’s aesthetic or should be standard is concerning.
Idk... I know a few women who give birth and the next day or so took a walk or re-organized the house to "get the circulation going". They genuinely terrify me....
(For context, though, I LOVE cooking and have been doing it for decades, it's very second nature for me. Even so, the level of spaced-out exhaustion and pain you can get postpartum makes even "easy" things harder)
Honestly I think that's the point of these social media agendas... not to go all conspiracy theory but it's giving "destruction of healthy relationships" by setting this up as somehow being how you "should" live your life and if you're not up to this standard then somehow your inadequate and your spouse begins to resent you for it. It's simply not realistic 😅
Thank you sooo much for this video! My baby is 10 months now and I had postpartum depression because I thought my life would be like that, it took me till now to realize why motherhood wasn’t that good…poor new moms who think their lives would be as perfect as it.
If you don't have time short version: be kinder to yourself and loved ones people are so conditioned to faking less work, rather than accepting the work as natural, and saying the joy comes from that, not a become super parent quick trick. All the work kind of feels like it was worth it, and really the only thing ya wish for knowing they're now whole doctors and lawyers truly is more time. Long version: Yeah the sleepless nights and sometimes babies getting colic is no joke. I think that's actually what broke my cousin and his wife. Damn kids got me with the doe eyes and doing a whole presentation thingy on paper like mine, but as best as they could. Then thanks to being blessed with wonderful parents my self expectations of good parenting kicked in. It's honestly easier I think having an understanding of the work involved in the phrase "don't lie to your kids, should never need to do that." There is no way you can fake true genuine care and attention so it's just mandatory. Man I see all these clowns online arguing about what a real man does and oh my God did you know I actually had four whole kids for a solid two and a half years. Due to unfortunate situation and the ole if you have the resources and got kids not only is it a moral obligation, how do you teach the value of people over money, if you decide to leave two kids to the whims of the foster care system, when all it takes out of you is a bit of effort. I'm not sure what prescription of man is being taught of online but I'm so much more concerned with being able to tell my maker that I gave my best the whole time to live up to my ideal of man that I hold myself up to. Not sure all these kids and their arguments of insults based on raising others kids work like they think they do. They seem to not understand that the relationship you build with the child needs to be one that is separate to the one with the mother, in actions, acts and basically everything. This is usual instinctual honestly but these dudes online moving like odd androids. Arguing on the most asinine irrelevant nonsense unwilling to just literally go attempt communicating respectfully with any girl. Yeah I changed the course of my 20s life for sure but being at 33 and knowing that my nephew in law school, my niece got into medical school, and just got her white coat, so the change of course feels like the route that was best regardless. I can't even equate the thought of trading for a life of meaningless sex that these dudes think I missed out on. There is never anything close to perfection, perfection is in the journey to the beatific vision, or construct of heaven in the soul of man. The joy is not found, it is created between you and your loved ones, over this joint journey taken through time and space, building bits of order against the chaos that is reality. To strive, seek, and never yield, was originally about this, as the patriarch you are not piloting a ship, you are guiding the essence of purpose, which is why you must strive and seek as well. A man cannot speak love into existence, he must show love, since to love is to hold purpose and make sure it never wavers. This is super heavy stuff for a young man, not sure how they expect to harness that kind of gravitas, it was only possible for three men of that age in all history. Alexander the Great, Mehmet II and Genghis Khan. I'm unsure of the surety I hold even today withstanding in the face of that kind of goal and expectation.
Today my toddler said he wants to be an astronaut but I don't usually keep spaceships around the house so I immediately got my aerospace engeneering degree and using all this parts I had in my garage laying around for no reason I built him this amazing spaceship. And I didn't even dirty my hands. What do you mean you BUY cereal from the store???
I know you're joking, but Stockton Rush of OceanGate told his parents he was interested in space and they literally paid for an astronaut to talk to him about his career aspirations and give him advice.
@@elizabethschreiter1127 That makes a lot more sense than making corn flakes by hand. Although a visit to a planetarium would probably have been sufficient for most of us.
And without an apron. I'm shivering thinking about it. Imagine the cleaning up process. At least kimono mom, although dolled up still wearing an apron.
I'm pretty sure most people are very aware that they are actors. This is just entertainment. Then again, there are still people that think TV is real, but those are the exception. Feeling bad that your life isn't like that is no different then wishing you were Ironman. You outgrow it.
Same! For example I don't understand why people get worked up for the first woman making those cough drops when it's obviously a fabricated story around those drops. Isn't it obvious that no one would do what she did in real life or at least not in these circumstances? Also if I'm not wrong she's not calling herself a trad wife. She just loves cooking and tries her best to sell her videos by giving everything a background story. I think it's a lot of jealousy and no media competence. I think a lot of people only see something they kind of envy and lose the ability to think critically.
Social media has made people lose their minds. "I saw it online, it must be true!" Of course that handsome soldier is in love with me, let me send him some gift cards. "He must be real, I saw his picture!"
@@B.H.56 Have you personally seen this behavior? Or just believe it because you hear people complain about it on social media. I only ask because while I've heard this many times, I have never actually met anyone that behaves that way.
@msSweeTae you're joking right? People don't dislike it because they're jealous, they dislike it because it's disingenuous and preys on the ignorant. Her comment sections are proof that people absolutely believe it. 12:56
Not to mention, taking the elderberry syrup on its own would be way better for you if it is something you had on hand. Why bother making the cough drop for anyone in the family who is sick?
Her toddler woke up coughing and the first thing to do is to put on a dress , put on some make up , do a nice hairstyle than make a cough sirup from scratch. That is total BS.
I was having a giggle at that too. First she spends 2 hours putting on an evening gown, full face make up and hair and then proceeds to spend make cough drops - not suitable for toddler - from the scratch. All the while the patient little one is sitting hands folded over knees on the white on white sofa. When my toddlers woke up with a cough first thing I did was mutter some curse words because I knew my next weeks sleep was ruined.
I am a 23 year old SAHM and seeing tradwives definately caused me to downspiral mentally cause all of a sudden i thought i wasnt doing enough for my partner or my kids or i needed to look better, etc. I cant believe i fell into it so hard but im finally feeling better and im glad i can see now how ~not real~ it is 🙃.
50s housewives usually gave their small children so morphine or something to knock them out all day so they could housework without having to stop to take care of them,
Except it insults cosplayers. We know reality and we are not trying to tell the internet we ARE the character we wear the costume of. These women are equally in costume but pretending otherwise. The dishonesty they display in this is not found in cosplay. I'd say it's more that they are "playing house" like little kids, but that probably would insult the kids....
feeding them anything like that, gummies, cough drops, and even uncut grapes are choking hazards. She honestly sounded like the one who needed the cough drops, judging by her voice.
@@pettykittyfamWrong. She said the honey reached its crack stage. That’s how you test hard candies to make sure they’re ready to pour. In order to make gummy candy, she would have to have used gelatin - which she did not.
after seeing videos of these trad wives, i heard my uncle say to my aunt, "if these young women can do it effortlessly without even as much as a sigh of complaint, why are you nagging and asking for help all the time?" it seems videos like those of these trad-wife women help in invalidating the very real struggles of the average homemakers, perhaps making their deadbeat husbands more irritable and less understanding, and more quick to use their fists.
I'm over 70. I used to see commercials when I was younger. Wife's in fancy house dresses and heels, running a sweeper or cooking a meal from scratch. As I stood there, with my toddler in a playpen, in Jean's and t shirt, waiting for nap time to go hang clothes outside. LOL.
@@Dominique20 to be fair, making yogurt from scratch is a process that you start about 24 hours before you actually WANT the yogurt, it doesn't just get whipped up. (It's also pretty easy if you have an InstantPot. I go through phases when I do it, but currently I am in my 'cannot be bothered' phase.)
What I hate about it are the men that see this and expect their wives to be exactly like this. Men like my ex-husband. When I became a stay at home mom he expected perfection. He would compare me to women like this, women with nannies, and maids and expected the same. That's not reality. I am so glad I got out of that marriage and now have a husband who truly gets it and is grateful and wonderful about all I do.
I got divorced before having children because my husband expected perfection despite me working over double the hours he did. He called me lazy, and then demanded we have children. I got out so fast after that. There was no way he was going to help me, and there's no way I'm going to subject myself or my future children to that kind of behavior. So glad you got out and found a real man who appreciates and values you
I totally understand you! When I was in maternity leave, my husband began to behave delusionally as he was the only provider of the house, and I was just "the stay at home mom". He even started to make important decisions without consulting me... Well, he's now an ex-husband...
Your ex is a loser and good for you getting out and getting your life. Not for nothing but if these men want perfection from their wives then SURELY they can provide the nannies, big bright state-of-the-art appliances & kitchens and luxury beauty budget, easy breezy, right? Oh wait.
I really love how you make sure to point out that you don't judge these influencers' chosen lifestyles and that you say they can still be inspirational and that they do put a lot of effort into their content. Your video is so carefully put together, showing that you truly do respect the hard work of these women, yet at the same time disaggree with their way of presenting it as if the content created was everything there is to it. A huge thanks for this video!
If my toddler woke up sick, I would be cuddling with a sick toddler, not making cough drops from scratch while my toddler suffers in another room for hours.
This was my thought too. Like he’s suffering so you what, just left him to himself and told him to stay out of the camera shot? More likely, his nanny was taking good care of him while mom made the content.
I think we have to remind ourselves that this is a fabricated story to sell her video better. It wouldn't get that much engagement if she would just upload a video about mking those drops. And that's why I think it's wasted energy to get worked up over something that's just a nice story like things you see in the TV.
My toddler woke up sick this morning and, he puked on the sofa then the dog tried to eat it and while I was running to help my baby I kicked the table and broke my toe. The rest of the mornin I was cleaning up vomit and obsessively taking temperature and worrying and limping. That is the reality, I know I lived that life. Nobody is making homemade medicene while looking beautiful with sick kids
And two days later Mom is sick herself with killer-toddler germs and puking all over the place while still having 100% of her responsibilitys and a toddler who is well and active again... but I guess one could do that in a fancy gown, why not 😅😅😅
That's a whole different kind of content... real life! I can relate to all of it, I hope the toddler is feeling better and I'm so sorry about your toe.
This is so on point! Thank you Hannah, for making this video. BS influencers like that ballerina farm woman pretending to be a sahm when she's in fact a shrewd businesswoman who sells her kids to the internet for views! The hypocrisy is appalling.
Right? My mom used to just take like 5 minutes to make a cup of tea with a bunch of lemon and honey in it. But of course, you can't really link a bunch of obscure ingredients and supplies for that to make money off of. And if we had bad chest congestion, she'd put a bit of bourbon in it. It tasted awful but it would make you sleep and you always felt a lot better when you woke up. Helped loosen the phlegm in the chest.
@@mommy2libras I was going to say the same thing. Just make some tea with honey and lemon. And, they won't even choke on it, lol. As long as they are over a year of course. You aren't supposed to give children under a year honey.
What’s also super meta is that the tradwife influencers while promoting a stay-at-home lifestyle (where the woman prioritizes her children and family) are actually being entrepreneurs and devoting all their time to their business lol
Any normal mom who has sick kids will understand that it's fake. When you have a sick kid, you don't think of doing your mom or taking a video of yourself. She is a scam yet people believe she is a real trad-wife
I am a fulltime housewife. If my kids cough or get sick and I have lemon and ginger, I just make drinks and ask my kids to drink. I have no time to make lemon candy.
Right. I'm like lemon, ginger, elderberry,. I have right now in the kitchen. even arrowroot powder is not that crazy to have either. Those are things real housewives get for their families. It's the cough drop molds that's silly and how perfect she looks. I don't think it's all a sham. Some is realistic and some is staged of course to perfection. I think we need to have a balanced view of it
The difference is that if a tradwife gets a divorce, she is still a millionaire. But if a real house wife get a divorce, she will find herself broke, jobless, with no recent working experience, with lots of debts and expenses and with children to take care of. So, with 50% of marriages ending in a divorce, the fantasy ends there...
My gosh that was dark. Also it’s not 50% of marriages… that stat is a few decades old and people just keep repeating it without actually knowing. It’s less and if religious it’s much less. Some reality thats positive for all the married people reading your comment 😬
If an already wealthy tradwife gets a divorce she is still a millionaire. There are older tradwives who are now divorced coming forward on social media to give the truth. Most tradwives are not independently wealthy and when the marriage ends, they end up with nothing.
it's still pretty close if I consider all of the weddings Ive gone to and who is still married....I would also venture to say that a decent percentage of people in a marriage arent happy either. Im 50 so Ive seen a lot of relationships at this point in my life
It's a dark thought, but honest and needs to be prepared for - 100% of relationships end in a break up or death. Ignoring thus is doing the family disservice.
As a full time house wife I feel absolutely insulted by these fake house wives trying to convince the masses that being a house wife is a breeze when it’s blood and sweat everyday to make sure that everything is clean and in order.
Oh it is. I am not even a housewife. I don't even have kids. I don't even work I am on SSI! But it's unbelievable how difficult it is to keep everything in order all the time. Someone at church years ago said " If you see a spotless home with kids in it..suspect child abuse". And this was a statement by a SAHM. I do see spotless homes that are not a lot of work but in those cases the homes are only used to sleep and watch TV in and the person is working all the time. In cases where the home is LIVED in...projects, cooking, art and crafts...etc. Nah..it's going to be a wreak.
I don't have children but I have a mother and believe me, most people know, and most real life people would laugh about this kind of content/believing this could be real for anyone.
Thanks for bluntly stating that videos are performative. It's lovely to watch someone calmly prep food or restore furniture. It's fun to experiment with new and exciting recipes. It's also super hard to experiment when if it fails you don't have dinner or you blew up your grocery budget. The privilege that underlies these videos is huge for both someone taking care of your kids or being able to order takeout if something goes wrong.
I'm definitely not jealous of these women. Who wants to spend all day making absolutely every morsel of food consumed in your home by scratch?? Not only do I not want to do that, I also don't want to spend hours a day pretending that I live that way.
Some of these women are probelmatic but how is it fake from Nara? You guys clearly dont watch Nara's content. She never touts herself as a normak SAHM or a tradwife. She loves to cook and she has verbalized multiple times that she loves it, it is not expected of her, and her husband helps with cleaning and other things. Clearly they have money and help, her videos are literally about her passion of cooking.
I’m an actual “trad wife” dude…. I never look like a 10 around my own home. I’m a solid 5 on a good day. I’m covered in baby puke, my hair is a mess, we are having leftovers for dinner. I try to do homemade food but sometimes babies don’t permit a whole homemade thing. Easiest meals to make from scratch are soups and roasts. Sometimes I don’t always get to the dishes or the laundry. My husband doesn’t always come home to a neat home and a put together wife. What he does come home to is a loving wife and babies who are fed and adore him! He is the love of my life. I’m not his slave. We are partners who both have extremely important jobs ❤️❤️ I’m here with the babies and he makes money so I can be home with the babies ❤️ Not everyone’s cup of tea but it’s the lifestyle we both wanted and talked about when we were dating!
I think you make an important point in talking about what the ideal marriage looks like to you both before the marriage, kids, etc. Don't rush and do what's right for you and yours. Also, baby puke is a phenomenal hair gel. It's renewable, sustainable, washable, and comes in 25 fun shades. 😂❤
Beautifully said, i’m in the same boat I don’t wear makeup i walk around with a baby on my hip oversized t-shirt on and just taking care of baby the house my hubby and last but not least myself i enjoy it hubby also enjoys the dynamic and you know what people who make assumptions/ give negative opinions are usually the ones who are jealous or just not within our close circle
Lol the "science bad" trend is both stupid and extremely problematic. I use home remedies for many minor illnesses or discomfort, but I still take all my prescriptions when I need them. My home remedies usually involve honey, teas, soup, and Vicks -- all of this I learned from my (boomer) mom as a kid. These are all very common household remedies around the world -- they are nothing special and usually cost a few bucks at the grocery store. It isn't glamorous like this person pretends they are.
It's complicated cause I want you call a traditional life. I tell my husband died anyway and I did a lot of what they're doing, but I had a time obviously and in my j's. I didn't do it in A. Full face makeup
Bravo!! Professor Neil nailed it!! You did an amazing job too pulling back the curtain and helping everyone to think critically about all of it. Thank you!!
Do these people understand that housewives in the 50s BOUGHT cereal and BOUGHT bread, jam, bubblegum, etc? People did make things from scratch too, of course, but this idea that everything right down to the everyday staples were consistently homemade is just delusional. 🙄
For sure! Look at the ads from the era, it's all 'simplify your life! Look at this product of the future!' These people forgot the 1950s lifestyle was also trying to stomp out the horrors of World War II
Not only that it would’ve been cheaper on their tight family budgets!! Like sure hand making some items is cheaper but for a lot you’re spending more on raw materials especially back when the pricing for food was more fair!
People have this weird idea of what life was like in the 50s and 60s. Tons of women worked, especially black women. Traditionally, black women have worked. The 50s and 60s also weren't ht best social time in the world .I wouldn't want to mimic anything from that time lmao
People, please please please learn this once and for all: the BEST way to protest against these phonies is to STOP watching their content. Don’t give them the views, PERIOD.
The old adage, “Don’t feed the trolls,” comes to mind. In a way these tradwives are trolling us all, pretending to be something nobody in the real world can be.
I straight-up REFUSE to watch tradwife content. It is so unrealistic and it is detrimental to the younger generation of women to portray this tradwife lifestyle, because it makes you feel bad when you can't achieve what they are portraying as gracefully as they are portraying. Reminds me of old 50s & 60s commercial advertisements, especially home appliances. You know, where the tradwife is dressed up like that Estee Williams meeting her husband at the door with slippers and a cocktail, then having the dinner table set and dinner served within moments of the husband walking thru the door. They're fakers and I don't like it. I don't like the ideology behind it. It influences ppl like that football player to make speeches discouraging women from pursuing anything other than a homemaker lifestyle. Which is fine for some, but there are a lot of ppl out there that have absolutely no business having children. As a pioneer of the opposition of tradwife ideology, I have been thru it. I still go thru it. I'm still made to feel bad because I didn't breed. Recently, my very own father said to me, "so my line ends with you." Which was a direct comment to me stating that No, I was not going to pursue fertility treatments to have a child because I'm beyond the "breeding" years for a human woman, and my childless husband is fine with that. I could really go on about how I married pretty much out of HS, how I was almost forced into having children by my 1st husband thru sabotage, etc, but it would be a novel. Just know that I've been thru it, and I totally disagree with the archaic ideological traditions that are being forced upon us, women, today. Personally, I will fight with tooth & nail to prevent us from every reverting back to that dead-end lifestyle for women.
Yeah there was a mother and she got called the worst mother ever (and worse) when she made food for her kids. She lives off the food bank and people complained she didn't pick healthy food, i had a "aunt" who had to live off the food bank for a while, most food banks won't let you choose your food they just get a small portion from the supermarket to give to people, you are happy that you have food so that you can feed your children (and one of the children has sensory issues so they have difficulties with certain foods).
Omg I hate how much lower income mothers get hated on! Mama C used to get so much hate for filming her cooking videos while her (I believe ex) husband watched their kids yet her meals were both creative and realistic for the average person. There was a mom on tiktok who owned a trailer home and she showed the gifts she bought for her kids for Christmas (which totaled to $20 I believe) and you'd think she burned her children alive. People called her irresponsible for buying those gifts instead of saving it (because obviously lower income children don't deserve gifts 😤) and it got me so heated. Was 1000000% an overreaction on the internets part and it's disgusting because lower income mothers are the most creative people I've seen and as a childless person, I find their content more helpful. Like who cares about making homemade mozarella? I wanna see how people provide for their families with a budget of $35/week.
First, I would like to say thank you... for combing through social media, conducting thoughtful research, and reporting on your findings in a comprehensive way, so that I may be aware of more and not have to spend any time on the platforms I find completely toxic. Second, having personal experience in trying to find balance as a stay-at-home mom and homemaker over the last decade (a temporary arrangement because child care is too expensive) this topic triggers a whole menagerie of thoughts and feelings for me, and I "only" have two kids... I can't handle any more than that. IRL- Without support from family, friends, or paid help... on a single income (without any side income or stashed away funds)... dealing with perpetual illnesses, sleep deprivation, depression, and the demand to somehow make things all fit / "work out" is effing hard, messy, and exhausting. Tempered expectations, *forgiveness of self and circumstances, and the ability to creatively adapt when things are not ideal have been necessary... and I still need to figure my shh-tuff out. *corrected misspelling
I dated a guy for 3 years, I had to be the perfect girlfriend (hair and make up flawless, no body hair, no weight gain, etc.) Had to treat him like a king while I got nothing in return. I was so exhausted from being with him that I broke it off. I met my husband and married him 6 months within meeting, dating and engaged. 7 years later, he has seen me at my worst (4 babies, post natal depression, weight gain after kids, etc) and still looks at me with love and adoration. These trad wife video trends are quite unrealistic, it's equivalent to photoshopped magazines that young teens look up to causing them body image issues, except trad wife videos cause perfectly normal mothers feeling inadequate.
Kids are messy, cooking & baking is messy, gardening is messy...and yet these trad wives are always perfectly clean not a single stain on their clothes
This morning my husband said that his feet were cold, so I went outside into the field, sheered a baby lamb and spun the wool in my loom. I then picked some beetroot in my garden so that I could dye the lambs wool pink; dried the wool in the morning sun and then knitted him some slippers. I just happened to have some soft leather lying around so I cut that into sole shapes and quickly sewed them onto the bottoms of the slippers. I then toasted them on the fire so that he could have them extra warm to wear when he eats his homemade pancakes with elderberry jam. He was thrilled and couldn't believe that I had done all of that before my power yoga session at 8.30am.
Woman beat themselves up daily about ways they think they're failing. Mothers tear the crap out of themselves hourly because it's one thing to feel like you're failing yourself but to feel the guilt of thinking you're failing your child is brutal. It would be great to have one of these women say hey guys this is for entertainment and my life is not so picture perfect.
As a toddler mom, I am a firm believer that all parenting content on social media (with the exception of memes and humor) is useless and in many cases dangerous.
@@prachikalkar2493or better yet, content involving children should not be allowed. I think it's wrong to use kids for content and to make money off of that content when the children cannot consent. The kids will forever have their young lives on the internet for all to see. Children aren't capable of consenting to something that they don't understand the ramifications of. I've watched videos of some adorable kids and loved them but then think 'those videos shouldn't be on the internet!'
Same! There is so much bad advice out there! The sad thing is desperate parents will cling to it (this has been me at times) while the influencer is just post whatever pops into their head.
I’m a homemaker with 4 babies and love to cook from scratch, but yeah the number one thing that drives me nuts is when any influencer apparently has hours alone to cook, workout, etc, with lots of time where no one explains where the children are
Facts! I'm alsoa homemaker with 3 young children, here I am right now replying while seeing in the corner of my eye the pile of cleaned clothes that need to be fold. I'm not perfect, I love having more time for my children but we also have our challenges and sooo much work to do around.
Thank you for being realistic! This! We do have time to take care and make ourselves look great but not extra 8 hours for filming editing and setting up cameras around the house 😅 The reality is you don't have to make "everything" sometimes buying produce from good sources is time saving and equally better
As a mom of two toddlers, my kids were pissed because I went pee before handing them their (pre-made) breakfasts. I can't even imagine the riot that would ensue if I made them wait this long 😂
Thank you so much for your videos I have been crippling under the pressure of motherhood from idealizing these influencer lifestyles. This was such a comforting and relieving video.
I’m so glad somebody finally said it in a healthy way. There is no hate just a reminder to everyone that they should not compare themselves to a fantasy.
When I had three sick toddlers at once, I layered every blanket in the house over my bed, turned on the TV, and then as a child threw up I could take off that layer and get it in the wash and my bed was still covered. No, I did not put on makeup, curl my hair, and find pearls to wear before I tended my sick children.
The irony is that despite claiming its "traditional" only the most privileged women lived like this in the 50s. My grandma was a sharecroppers daughter who picked cotton to bring in income while her husband worked. The men who push the idea of the trad wife have never even spoken to one from the time period they fantasize over.
yes! that idealic image was created by marketing companies to sell products! That wasn't real life for many people in the 1950s... both my grandmother's went to college and had jobs. One was a teacher and one was an x-ray tech. My grandfather's were successful (business and dentist) and yet, they worked outside the home.
I am all for calling out the performative aspect of online Trad Wives, but I have to gently push back against this very modern idea that trad wives who didn't work outside the home were "privileged". I understand that sharecroppers and their wives had difficult lives, but they were actually the exception. My childhood was in the 1960s and SAHMs were the rule rather than the exception. No one considered themselves "privileged" - we're talking about women married to firefighters, cops, teachers, builders, tradesmen, sales, etc ... living in the vast suburbs. The majority of the husbands didn't have college degrees in those days, yet could afford to buy a house and have a SAHM wife and three children. They were not remotely rich and we would classify them as working class to middle class today. Sharecroppers were living at poverty level. The women who worked in those days were mostly unmarried single women or married women who were poor. This only began to slowly change in the 1970s.
@@lorrilewis2178 I should have worded my post a little differently. "The women who were stay at home wives who had time to doll up everyday in pearls and heels and make every single thing from scratch were privileged." The leave it to beaver lifestyle wasn't achievable while looking perfectly put together at all times without a nanny to watch the kids or maybe some day drinking to choke down the stress. Or, you know, a lobotomy for the women who broke.
@@strayiggytv Yeah, none of our mothers wore dresses and pearls at home. Some mothers wore very cool skinny pants. One of my friend's mother did wear dresses at home, but it was because of her figure type (very wide hips) being unsuited to pants. Once we were no longer little, we were either at school or outside playing with our friends. People had more leisure time back then.
As a 60 yo mom of 4 and Grammie of 3, this is a DANGEROUS model for moms to envy. She’s portraying a stay at home mother that is non existent and built by social media. This is the homemakers version of supermodels. I stayed at home with my babies for 11 years, and some days I was fortunate to get dressed for the day before bedtime, especially because all 4 of my children were six years apart. She’s an actress, and I LOVE you for spotlighting the non-reality of this nonsense. It’s TOXIC, and it needs to stop
It is toxic, but sadly it's nothing new. I remember when I first had my kids, before the days of influencers, I'd get all these parenting magazines that would show you all these perfect moms with their perfect kids and would show you how to make all these perfect snacks, perfect crafts, their homes would be perfect, the kids rooms would be perfect. They would give me so much anxiety and make me feel bad, like I was doing something wrong. It took a while to realize that none of that was realistic. I feel like it's the same sort of thing going on here.
For all three of these examples I threw up a little in my mouth seeing the ridiculous “I just did this because I thought of it”. You thought, researched, planned, scripted, shot, edited, and re-recorded it to make some person not in a reality check world watch it and get your content upvoted by the algorithm. Why are we doing them that favor. Sad that they feed on it and make them super rich for lying . Ugh… just staaaap!
My mom 6 of us within 8 years and she had time to dress herself, us and make our hair into braids & also she was a full time employee. I don’t understand women that can’t even dress up. I watch little ones and I get dressed, make bed- dress kids and brush their hair.
I’m a traditional wife, like the old school tradition where mom does the kid stuff and the home keeping while dad is the provider and helps around the house doing the repairs and what not. This tiktok tradwife trend is NOT traditional wife or motherhood lol we are working our asses off from daylight to dark with messy hair and stained clothes. It’s hard, it’s thankless and it’s not this picturesque life these women portray. But I will say, while it’s hard, I am “rewarded” with excellent kids. They are kind funny and my favorite little people. The memories we make every day are both happy and stressful but I wouldn’t change it.
I congratulate you for finding what works for you and your family. It seems you chose this for yourself and didn't feel pressured to be someone you weren't.
@@toomanymarys7355 But unless their home is in complete disrepair and he comes home every night and continues working (like she does because work at home doesn't stop at 5pm), then he's not helping out very much. My parents split the evening work up. One did the dishes while the other gave us our baths. They both then sat down after everything was taken care of.
Agreed. I'm listening to this while I'm making cough syrup (yes, I have the ingredients on hand), food prepping, and juggling homeschool lessons with my 3 kids. It doesn't happen overnight, you learn and grow on the job, and you'll have days that bring immense joy and days that kick your trash. I think that is something we can experience in many jobs/roles. We should be so careful when looking to influencers/social media for how to live life because it is super curated, money-making content, and not how it is in real life. It is almost always performative.
I tried doing content like them & my 11m old kept crying for me & my 5yo kept trying to ask me stuff & I had to tell her to give me a min. They were with my husband in our room & I was so mentally drained after & realized no way that the ones who actually do it all the time aren’t neglectful with their kids because I felt like that’s what I was doing. Even tho husband was with them. So yeah it’s not worth being an influencer. My kids are first. I will assume influencers neglect their kid unless they’re using them for content. Editing & all takes time too so that’s another hour of neglect.
To the woman making homemade bread 10 days postpartum: you can't fool the moms. We know. Under that full glam makeup and beautiful dress... is an adult diaper
Tbh I only wore a diaper for a few hours post birth. And most of the time I stopped bleeding within 5-7 days. I’m sure it’s not that way for most moms but all our bodies are different so different experiences are ok!!
It’s an ideal scenario when you’re married to money and only possible when it’s not just you running the show! I’d like to actually see some realistic trad wife videos and there are actually plenty out there, they’re far from glamorous. One lady works in the kitchen preparing meals with her kid strapped to her while she cooks. They have 5 kids and they’re lower middle class. She’s actually making realistic meals, she doesn’t look like a model but a mom and the food isn’t something that can’t be made by anyone due to time and cost! Fake, fake, and lots of fakes! Anyone that’s been a SAHM knows it really doesn’t look like that!
What personally annoys me the most with the tradwife influencer are : - the lies (like pretending they are spontaneously making cough drops from scratch after they toddler woke up sick) - the "holier tha thou" attitude. The "I don't keep cereals in my house" clearly implies "because I think it's bad for kids", and so that they are better than you for cooking breakfast from scratch - the fact that they pretend to be a stay at home mom while they actually are a work at home mom And then what annoys me about the "trad wife movement" in general is that it says that this model is better than any others and that women should be this nurturing, submissive caricature. Like I am all for choice and if a woman truly wants to be a sahm without any external influence (spouse, society...etc) good for them ! I want to support them ! That is a lot of work too often underappreciated! But this shouldn't be a thing that they have to do or feel pressured to do ! Or feel less than if they don't go this route. Also as a childfree woman by choice it irks me when any movement restrains a woman's role as a mother. Motherhood can be a beautiful thing for those who want it ! And finally... It's sad that so much cooking content have all this layer of religion / lifestyle agenda etc. Just make a cooking from scratch channel/ page. But the cooking is not their main content actually. It's like a commercial for a lifestyle filled with lies and false promises.
That's right. They complain about feminists, but they kind of belittle other women for being providers and having their own careers, and that's ridiculous. Each woman lives the life she sees fit, but these tradwives feel better than other women who don't live like them
@@Lexouchan this is very annoying. I'm a Christian, but there are many who use the name of God to justify this lifestyle, even though the Bible doesn't speak just one standard of women, all the women mentioned in the Bible lived differently from the others.
I came from a Mormon background, and I witnessed so many girls’ dreams get crushed by the reality of young marriage and traditional roles. Over half of them are now divorced with mental health issues.
I’m a current LDS wife/mom and although many of my Mormon friends had the same rude awakening, I think many of my non-Mormon friend had the same realization because they made being a Sahm their only goal/identity and got married too young (plus their own mothers didn’t help guide them). Although, to be fair some of my friends who got married young are still in strong marriages. But even though I wanted to be a sahm, I got my BS and doctorate and waited until I found the right guy in my late 30s.
@@caseymcdonald2239 I have many Mormon friends and have known many families over the years. Never met one I didn't like. My granddaughter's first caregiver was a neighbor down the street who was absolutely wonderful with her! My Mormon friends all seem to be happily married (not that I have the total picture but our view is based on our experience) and have interests and many have jobs outside of the home. None of them are from Utah so I wonder if that makes a difference? One of my friends was suddenly dumped by her fiance' so she moved to Utah, met a new guy, and now is happily married. She was certainly no young bride. As a non-Mormon Christian, I also wanted nothing more than to get married, have kids, and be a mom and homemaker. That was my dream job and I got it. We are celebrating our 57th anniversary in 2 weeks. I know, I am one of the lucky ones. That did not happen for everyone.
@@caseymcdonald2239 this is what I'm sorta worried about. I'm getting an education for my own independence but I also found my life partner and we both have the conservative family oriented lifestyle and we know exactly what we want. But what if I'm too young? It's difficult. But it's what I want
I was that mom too, and I crashed HARD. Depression was a huge part of my daily life bc I couldn't be that perfect person, and couldn't understand why I was failing (or felt like it). This made me fall further and further into a type of cationic state, where if I couldn't be that perfect person I envisioned then what was the point in trying at all. This was before social media too
My grannie was a 1950s housewife. I've seen pictures and heard stories. It wasn't like this. She worked like a beast all the time and while she knew how to do it up and her house was always pristine, she wasn't wearing gowns and perfect makeup to scour the toilets, mop the floor, and bake bread.
Even as someone who’s never met a 1950’s housewife, I’m a big ass history nerd and know that in the 1950’s the woman was expected to do ALL the household chores. Especially making sure every room was spotless. I doubt she’d be putting on makeup just to later clean the bathroom, do the laundry, wash the dishes and cook a meal for her kids and husband if he wasn’t at work. I mean I don’t know for sure but who has time to look good when your main concern is doing housework? Not to mention how these influencers cook elaborate meals that take hours don’t at all get interrupted by their kids which I know isn’t true. Kids will bother you to no end until they get what they want, especially food. No kid is just gonna sit and wait for food, especially younger kids who haven’t passed double digits yet.
My grannie was also a 1950s housewife. She was being held financially hostage by her husband. She eventually worked up the defiance to go out and get a job in the Este Lauder factory. It wasn’t a privilege to be a housewife. It was a privilege to work.
See that’s what gets me! My grandmothers were both mothers in the early 1960s. Both worked. Both had masters degrees, one a PhD. My great grandmother also worked in a department store (out of financial necessity) and rented her basement to female college students. Even the homemaker label didn’t apply to all or even most mothers in the time periods these people are cosplaying. And when it did exist, it didn’t look like this.
My grandmother was a seamstress at the 1950's. Six children, no washing machine, no freezer, no microwave oven.. Poor women had to work to help provide for their families. Only rich women had the means to be a "tradwife", just like nowadays..
I heard a divorced trad wife say "whether you'll have food and shelter will depend on whether he still loves you and finds you fuckable" and that stuck with me. 😥
And that’s the life that these people are glorifying, and some men are expecting from their spouses. I don’t like having to work a job (who does?) but I’ll be damned if I’m going to depend on a spouse for all of my financial needs.
Oh my god, me too! That my whole life depends on this man even still liking me. Horrifying. It was so heartbreaking to watch her video. I just felt so broken fir her 😞
Dressed in frilly outfits, full face of makeup, tripod and camera ready, all rare ingredients ready, with 3 kids (1 toddler and 1 newborn). Sounds BS to me!
100% BS. What gets me mad tho is the pretentiousness. These are clearly girls who wanted to be instagram models and instead they do this, cause it's easier to stand out.
Where do the children go while she's swanning around her kitchen in a couture cocktail dress (in WHITE) for a couple of hours? The reality is she did the cooking separate from her cocktail dress shots. It probably took her a week of nap times to get all the footage, unless she has a nanny and filmed off-site in a kitchen made for filming purposes.
@@eliseri16 but they exist. I mean you guys are really be hating on Nara for being a fit and hardworking mom? Shouldn't society look up to actually productive people?
Thank you. I have no idea why these accounts have traffic. I was a homemaker for 34 years. These insult the hard work and real life skills it takes to keep a household running smoothly while raising children.
But, I mean, I don’t think anyone really “falls for it”, as she said in the video. It’s understood it’s a conceit to present the content, don’t you think?
I wonder if these influencers reach a psychological point where, they begin to lie so much, they genuinely start to believe in the lies. It’s so ridiculous. Since when did honesty become outdated?
I think we see this a lot with MLM huns. The number of videos I've seen featured on Hannah's channel where the huns are in TEARS over their delusions is insane!
It *already* does happen with actors, especially child actors. Imagine having the press and media knowing and questioning every thing you do. No wonder they destroy themselves in adulthood.
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The voice that's used by most tradwife content creators sounds so fake and freaks me out. It doesn't sound like a genuine loving mother.
No
People like this make me glad I'm not on social media. I love Hannah, but I, for the life of me, had to stop the video. I can't spare any time for those women to dumb me down with their foolishness. Keep fighting the good fight for those who engage willingly.
@@lilessab85TH-cam is social media.
That's right it's a job
My son asked me to make him an apple pie, but we didn’t have apples at home and I decided to plant an apple tree in our yard
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Then I waited for the tree to grow and bare fruit and I walked threw my apple orchard barefoot in a white linen dress with eyelet handkerchief in my hair and my hand loomed basket, and picked the apples while the sun shined upon my thin, beautiful, natural makeup touched face. Then I skipped joyfully back to the house.
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Being a stay at home mom was a necessity for me at one point in my life. And I lasted about 9months before I was like....mmm I think it's time I go back to school so I can get a better job, and back to work. 😂😂
Stay at home moms are built different. 💪 I couldn't do it full-time. Being a working mom is not easy either because it's like having 2 jobs, especially if you're a single parent. But these tradwives are just promoting a lifestyle that is not real or attainable to most women. And it's dangerous when paired with toxic religious doctrine and misogynistic husbands.
"Honey, your apple pie will be ready in three years, just be patient please."
You should also plant an apricot and plum tree. You could make jam.
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My toddler woke up sick and was all shivery so went to the stable, sheared a sheep, spun the wool and knitted my poor baby a jumper. When finished he was 7 years old
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LMAO 😂
I had a sudden urge to end that the way Ricky Gervais would....
And by the time I finished the jumper he was dead. 😂
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There's a joke he says about he's decided to now become "woke". He's got so trolled for not being woke so he's given in.
He says, take for example the word handicapped... that's no longer acceptable, you should say disabled.
So one day he's at the beach, and he's still being woke. A woman runs up to him and says, help please, my handicapped toddler is drowning. He says, whoa whoa whoa, hang on a minute, don't you mean your _Disabled_ toddler? She says, well yeah, same thing. He says, no, they are not the same, you should say disabled. So he turns to look at the sea, toddler.....floating.....dead.
And he says to the audience, that's what happens when you waste time being woke. 🤣
Your comment reminded me of that. 😅
"It's their job to pretend that they don't have a job," is the best summary of the trad-wife trend.
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That and that they are wealthy somehow
And they are privileged to pretend like that… majority of them are rich 😂
I actually am a SAHM. I homeschool my kids while also handling a baby.
Almost nothing I've seen on tiktok or TH-cam is what actually goes on in my home. 💀
I don't think it's bad to aspire to be that put-together all the time, but it's never going to actually look like that.
Excellent comment.
Nara Smith and her husband STARTED OUT AS MILLIONAIRES.
I believe that 100.%. Who is taking care of her babies while shes cooking gum. Lol. Ohhh i know. The nanny
@@Purplexedtcthey have another parent 🤦🏼♀️🤦🏼♀️🤦🏼♀️ This comment reminds me when passengers would ask my female FA coworkers who was watching their kids while they were on trips. One got fed up and told a guy she left her kids with the dog lol THEY HAVE A FATHER
@@whitney88b the husband is working, right? Trust and believe, they have a nanny.l
And that makes sense!
I feel this needs to be said more about these content creators. People can absolutely find the time to track down the ingredients and make these foods - as long as they are wealthy enough that they don’t have the same sorta 9 to 5 like the rest of us do. It’s rather easy to spend your day baking for your three kids and husband when you’re paying for a nanny to look after them.
Imagine asking your mom for a cough drop while you're sick & then waiting 3-5 business days for your mom to make you a cough drop while you hack your lungs out.
🤣 😂 🤣
Not business days 😂😂😂
While being a toddler that you probably shouldn't even give a cough drop to because of choking hazard...
That was too my exact thought, and I don’t even have kids!
All you want is relief and she’s waiting on Amazon to complete her supplies order to get to your request
My toddler woke up suddenly sick this morning, and I had a tripod and camera set up ready for no reason.
Have you seen the videos of people filming themselves "napping"
As you do
I hope you rose to the occasion and put on a full face of glam makeup, dressed up in your favourite ball gown and gloves and spent 2-6 hours to scratch make cough drops.
@@missfigs5255 Best comment!
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Crazy there's no children bothering her, hanging on her, shoving themselves between her and the counter, saying I'm hungry 100 times. Because someone else is caring for them right now. Not her. It's not real.
They already had breakfast lol
@@toomanymarys7355 They have nanny lol and house servants to do all the work in the house. Lol
@@toomanymarys7355 even when mine already ate I still have at least one of my 4 under foot lol
I feel like Nara has made it known that lucky does his part in the relationship so more than likely he could be watching their kids. I don't view her content as trying to be a tradwife
Every time I cook my daughter wants to help then she needs her but wiped because she had to poop😂😂
You are probably the most intellectually honest, self aware, and introspective creator I've seen and it's SO refreshing. I'm so glad someone is taking on these influencers and calling them on their bull... TY keep it up!
I could not agree more. I second a thousand times. Congratulations from canada.
So glad i found her, it’s very soothing watching her videos after a whole day of being fed with lies and fakery on Social Media
I agree! One comment on the homemade bread though, when my first baby was born, it took so long to get dressed and go out the door to the bakery 1 block down that I got a bread machine. Spending 3 minutes pouring flour, water, oil and yeast in the vat and pressing the button was faster than getting dressed and going down the street. That was my life hack at the time.
What’s so bizarre is that I’ve been a housewife for 26 years. Raising kids, baking bread, cleaning house, taking care of animals… we don’t have time to video ourselves, and dressing in those frilly outfits? What? 😂😂😂
Finally someone saying it like it is
I agree been a housewife for 17 years and I agree! With a very curious 16 month old , cleaning, and other things to do I don’t even have a min to write this 😂. I have disheveled hair( running around and this muggy weather 😂) and wearing “non traditional frilly “ little house on the prairie attire.
😂GUUURL leave those sick-crying babies right where they lay stat! You must set the lighting and sit for glam before muddling the lavender!!😫🤯
They give the real ones a bad name. Everyday home-makers just go about doing their thing.
The outfits and make up make it so fake
The danger is when MEN think their wives are supposed to be this way, not the wives.
Good point.
Yep.
They think we have so much time on our hands because we are home😅
That's the saddest part... This pretend played by women will only harm women
Recently found out that the first woman shown her husband has a child with another woman before her. Not very traditional huh? 😂😂😂
My toddler woke up with a cough and I had the good sense not to give him a cough drop because I knew it was a choking hazard.
Hahahahaha 😂 Yes!!!!
Mom observation here.
This! I was thinking the same thing the whole time, do NOT give a cough drop to a toddler! I would have zero problem with those videos if they didn't start with those ridiculous premises. Like my toddlers wanted corn flakes but I don't keep them in the house. Then why are your kids asking for them?? If they're never in the house why do the kids even think that's an option?? It's so clearly made up.
😊 my thought exactly
THIS!!!! thank you
i also think the depiction of trad wives online severely downplays the labour of motherhood, stay at home parents, and home making. it makes it seem like there’s so little work involved that stay at home mothers have time to spend hours making cough drops and bread which isn’t the case.
"Cosplaying" is the most accurate word for tradwives I have heard so far 😂
They are not doing it even right. The blonde one casually seduces the audience by firmly showing a little bit of chest.. aren't you supposed to be traditional lol? That's not very trad of you. But of course she is doing that-the real face of the traditional women won't sell.
I think everyone is aware that a tradwife doesn't put on a party dress to cook without an apron.
I agree. I would also add 'fetishizing' as an additional descriptor for tradwives.
@@Laure__Linebased on the comments on tradwife videos, it really doesn’t sound like it. You’re giving people who follow that type of content seriously way too much credit.
@@DivideThatBy9PleaseThis too. The amount of men who look at this content and yearn for this type of wife, knowing full well that this is extremely unrealistic.
My toddler is sick…. Let me slip in a cocktail dress and do my hair and makeup like I’m about to walk at the Met gala
My toddler is sick... let me completely ignore him for several hours so I can make a social media video.
@@peachcookie6624ha keep telling yourself that. She didn't learn all that shit sarcastically 😂 she's making money, that's why she's doing it. She's clearly the breadwinner in that family yet pretending she's not
It would have taken less time to just go to the store and get medicine or have child see PCP. I don't get how this is a flex.
It would have taken less time to just go to the store and get medicine or have child see PCP. I don't get how this is a flex.
Exactly… and instead of comforting him like any child would need. I’m gonna take an 1-4 hours out of my day do hair and makeup and film a video.
I'm an authentic, modern housewife, and I just ate ravioli out of a can using a plastic fork. Regrets? Zero. 😂
Dishes, zero either! Win win! ❤
I like the term “modern” 😂
That's good stuff. Been there, eaten that.
children love Mac and cheese and I know for a fact real busy moms aren’t about to make Mac and cheese from scratch😂
That’s disgusting and you do look like someone to do that
“My toddler woke up craving oxygen, but I don’t usually keep that in the air in our house, so I filled a pot with water and removed two hydrogen atoms from each molecule”
How can a toddler request Corn Flakes if she doesn't buy Corn Flakes and therefore, presumably, the toddler doesn't know what Corn Flakes is?
Maybe she made it for them previously and they wanted it again?
Because they don’t live under a rock and the toddler had somehow a chance to eat some or maybe she made some before?
kind of disagree with some of these comments. nara smith has said she struggles with eczema and that she makes most of her food from scratch which is where her videos started taking off. then, i think she started to make “satire” commentary about how she makes them cornflakes or cheetos from scratch. do i think it is a damaging influence for other moms to see this and compare themselves to them? yes, especially in this economy, it is IMPOSSIBLE to live with two kids if both parents arent working (and dont even get me started on single parents).
i do think naras content is damaging in the way that she portrays that she makes all of her food from scratch. i just think trad wife culture itself is horrendous so.
@@annawhite7998Then they shouldn’t watch her. If her content is damaging to some and if they can’t help but to compare themselves to her then they should learn to swipe away. No one is forcing you to watch anything. She is merely an entertainer/content creator, that’s her job. She is not trying to be realistic or telling women how to live their life or to make anything from scratch, she is just showing what she loves to do with HER life and you have the freedom to look away. She has said many times that cooking is her love language and she just wants to share that. These women also have the choice to follow creators that are more realistic to them and aren’t millionaire models.
@@wandooayabam1406 thats not what im saying? trad wife content is pushing the narrative that woman need to do 10000 things at once to be considered attractive or “wife-material”. and this is coming after we just made it out of the trenches.
i think nara is a good person but trad wife content in particular is bad. and as a content creator, her job is to produce content that actually has a meaning/purpose. like i said, she started with normal content until she gained traction for making stuff from scratch. so, she continued to do that. i think her videos are just normal cooking videos with a satire commentary with it.
AND, i didnt say anything about nara doing any of that. i said trad wife content makes people want to be able to do that
My 21 year old daughter, who will have her own daughter in September, saw the focaccia video and said “I feel like I’m going to fail as a mom, because that won’t be happening”. I told her, and I’d like all young mothers to know that your job as mom is to love your baby, feed it, and keep it alive. Teach your child to be a good human. That is what you should be doing.
@@kristinaarends7104 that is all.
That is absolute non sense!! What makes you a « good mom »? Making focaccia or bonding with your newborn… at 10 days postpartum, your job is to take care of your newborn and yourself while you are recovering from labor… Not having people take care of your newborn while you « perform » in front of a camera. This type of content makes me mad because it is a very distorted view of what motherhood really is or should be…
@@karinecoulombe2560Seems realistic to me. I know many mom's that after giving birth go straight to work or drive hours even when bleeding from their stomachs. All I'm saying is that walking to your kitchen to cook something from scratch and post it online seems pretty reasonable and not that hard to do if your rich. If people feel bad watching her because they aren't rich or have people helping them they should stop. Some people are just a little more mentally sensitive than others.
@@Jane-re1ku mom's shouldn't have to drive to work bleeding hours after giving birth. that is absolutely ridiculous and should NOT be normalised. and any woman who's willing to do that is either not in her right mind or under a lot of unfair economic/work obligations. which is a product of sexism. pregnancy and birth should be accomodated by workplaces.
and these women are promoting false advertisement. if we saw the nannies taking care of their children and their cooks making dinner while they prep their cameras, people's reactions would be much different. the implication isn't that they're having fun 'performing housewivery', the implication is that they're the real deal and that if other women were just as fit, friendly and feminine as them they could have the same lifestyle. it's a lie, and that's insidious. of course people need to be aware that most things online aren't real and learn to be cautious/not so easily affected, but that's ankther issue.
@@Jane-re1ku oh stfu u would know only if u had a mom or wife who was a homemakers or u r one otherwise not.
It is not at all realistic even if she's rich
It's so obvious she's not dojng all that herself and has a whole ass cre behind her
Your TODDLER asked you for a cereal you don’t keep in the house? Where would they have gotten the notion to ask you for something you’ve never given them? 🤣
That part lololol
Good point 😅
The iPad you don't see on screen 😂
Yes with the common sense 😁
I dont care if you're hungry right now, please kindly wait 2 hrs so i can make these. haha
I don't even have kids and I can barely get up to make myself a bowl of oatmeal in the morning.
What these influencers don’t show you is the amount of support they have behind the scenes.
They have assistants, house cleaners, groundskeepers, and even NIGHT NURSES.
Kids or not, No one can do it all at once every single day.
They're influencers not celebrities. Lol. Im sure the only support they get is from family.
@@s.r6331 if you’re making at least $100k a year you can def hire all the support you need.
Also a nanny. The rich ones aren’t even the ones taking care of their kids cause the rich don’t do that
@@s.r6331 You would be surprised. Some influencers do surpass most celebrity's net worth. So, they can definitely afford to pay such services.
@@s.r6331 if you’re making at least $100k a month you can def pay for $40k/yearly assistant, $50k/yearly nanny, etc.
Getting dolled up and cooking that complex of a meal 10 days postpartum is absolutely psychotic and the fact ppl think it’s aesthetic or should be standard is concerning.
Idk... I know a few women who give birth and the next day or so took a walk or re-organized the house to "get the circulation going". They genuinely terrify me....
It's pretty insane to be sure. I was proud I made some rice pudding like a week or two postpartum bc I had a craving.
When you just give birth you do t want to do anything of the sort they are crazy
I’m a years post partum and currently pregnant again and still don’t fill up for any reason.
(For context, though, I LOVE cooking and have been doing it for decades, it's very second nature for me. Even so, the level of spaced-out exhaustion and pain you can get postpartum makes even "easy" things harder)
The problem is when men believe this content to be true and achievable for women.. and feel their partners are not doing enough
so true, you see it in every comment section
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@@2mYgR that's irrelevant to this video and has no value in relation to it.
Honestly I think that's the point of these social media agendas... not to go all conspiracy theory but it's giving "destruction of healthy relationships" by setting this up as somehow being how you "should" live your life and if you're not up to this standard then somehow your inadequate and your spouse begins to resent you for it. It's simply not realistic 😅
sadly true
Thank you sooo much for this video! My baby is 10 months now and I had postpartum depression because I thought my life would be like that, it took me till now to realize why motherhood wasn’t that good…poor new moms who think their lives would be as perfect as it.
If you don't have time short version: be kinder to yourself and loved ones people are so conditioned to faking less work, rather than accepting the work as natural, and saying the joy comes from that, not a become super parent quick trick. All the work kind of feels like it was worth it, and really the only thing ya wish for knowing they're now whole doctors and lawyers truly is more time.
Long version:
Yeah the sleepless nights and sometimes babies getting colic is no joke. I think that's actually what broke my cousin and his wife. Damn kids got me with the doe eyes and doing a whole presentation thingy on paper like mine, but as best as they could. Then thanks to being blessed with wonderful parents my self expectations of good parenting kicked in. It's honestly easier I think having an understanding of the work involved in the phrase "don't lie to your kids, should never need to do that." There is no way you can fake true genuine care and attention so it's just mandatory. Man I see all these clowns online arguing about what a real man does and oh my God did you know I actually had four whole kids for a solid two and a half years. Due to unfortunate situation and the ole if you have the resources and got kids not only is it a moral obligation, how do you teach the value of people over money, if you decide to leave two kids to the whims of the foster care system, when all it takes out of you is a bit of effort. I'm not sure what prescription of man is being taught of online but I'm so much more concerned with being able to tell my maker that I gave my best the whole time to live up to my ideal of man that I hold myself up to. Not sure all these kids and their arguments of insults based on raising others kids work like they think they do. They seem to not understand that the relationship you build with the child needs to be one that is separate to the one with the mother, in actions, acts and basically everything. This is usual instinctual honestly but these dudes online moving like odd androids. Arguing on the most asinine irrelevant nonsense unwilling to just literally go attempt communicating respectfully with any girl. Yeah I changed the course of my 20s life for sure but being at 33 and knowing that my nephew in law school, my niece got into medical school, and just got her white coat, so the change of course feels like the route that was best regardless. I can't even equate the thought of trading for a life of meaningless sex that these dudes think I missed out on. There is never anything close to perfection, perfection is in the journey to the beatific vision, or construct of heaven in the soul of man. The joy is not found, it is created between you and your loved ones, over this joint journey taken through time and space, building bits of order against the chaos that is reality. To strive, seek, and never yield, was originally about this, as the patriarch you are not piloting a ship, you are guiding the essence of purpose, which is why you must strive and seek as well. A man cannot speak love into existence, he must show love, since to love is to hold purpose and make sure it never wavers. This is super heavy stuff for a young man, not sure how they expect to harness that kind of gravitas, it was only possible for three men of that age in all history. Alexander the Great, Mehmet II and Genghis Khan. I'm unsure of the surety I hold even today withstanding in the face of that kind of goal and expectation.
My son woke up this morning & was demanding pizza so I warmed up a hot pocket in the microwave & told him to stop whining.
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😂😂 now this is real life
Now that is content I can relate to
Now thats.. a mom😂
That was me when I was a kid lol
Today my toddler said he wants to be an astronaut but I don't usually keep spaceships around the house so I immediately got my aerospace engeneering degree and using all this parts I had in my garage laying around for no reason I built him this amazing spaceship. And I didn't even dirty my hands. What do you mean you BUY cereal from the store???
Comment of the year
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I know you're joking, but Stockton Rush of OceanGate told his parents he was interested in space and they literally paid for an astronaut to talk to him about his career aspirations and give him advice.
@@elizabethschreiter1127 That makes a lot more sense than making corn flakes by hand. Although a visit to a planetarium would probably have been sufficient for most of us.
The dress of the lady in the first video costs $3000...Imagine cooking in a dress worth more than the average person's rent
And without an apron. I'm shivering thinking about it. Imagine the cleaning up process. At least kimono mom, although dolled up still wearing an apron.
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Right? I wear an apron over PJs when doing the dishes. I can't imagine wearing a dress worth more than my entire wardrobe without even an apron
That's double my fucking *mortgage*
That's twice my monthly income
i like how ur just trying to make people feel better, not bash the influencer. that’s ur point to this, and i like that.
The fact that we need to remind ppl that this is not real is what actually gets me.
I'm pretty sure most people are very aware that they are actors. This is just entertainment. Then again, there are still people that think TV is real, but those are the exception. Feeling bad that your life isn't like that is no different then wishing you were Ironman. You outgrow it.
Same!
For example I don't understand why people get worked up for the first woman making those cough drops when it's obviously a fabricated story around those drops. Isn't it obvious that no one would do what she did in real life or at least not in these circumstances?
Also if I'm not wrong she's not calling herself a trad wife. She just loves cooking and tries her best to sell her videos by giving everything a background story.
I think it's a lot of jealousy and no media competence. I think a lot of people only see something they kind of envy and lose the ability to think critically.
Social media has made people lose their minds. "I saw it online, it must be true!" Of course that handsome soldier is in love with me, let me send him some gift cards. "He must be real, I saw his picture!"
@@B.H.56 Have you personally seen this behavior? Or just believe it because you hear people complain about it on social media. I only ask because while I've heard this many times, I have never actually met anyone that behaves that way.
@msSweeTae you're joking right? People don't dislike it because they're jealous, they dislike it because it's disingenuous and preys on the ignorant. Her comment sections are proof that people absolutely believe it. 12:56
No one gives toddlers cough drops. It’s a choking hazard.
very true!
Not to mention, taking the elderberry syrup on its own would be way better for you if it is something you had on hand. Why bother making the cough drop for anyone in the family who is sick?
Omg, thank you!
SHE wouldn't know, I bet she has AT LEAST one nanny, maybe a few
@@telise8730 I made cough drops because my kids don’t take any syrup . They are too young to eat them so I melt them in warm milk
Her toddler woke up coughing and the first thing to do is to put on a dress , put on some make up , do a nice hairstyle than make a cough sirup from scratch. That is total BS.
Don't forget setting up the tripod, camera, and lighting before even starting
Yeaaah !! That one is making it even worse @@imzabatch
Also who gives their toddlers a cough drop? Choking Hazard !
I was having a giggle at that too. First she spends 2 hours putting on an evening gown, full face make up and hair and then proceeds to spend make cough drops - not suitable for toddler - from the scratch. All the while the patient little one is sitting hands folded over knees on the white on white sofa.
When my toddlers woke up with a cough first thing I did was mutter some curse words because I knew my next weeks sleep was ruined.
No! She has ALL of that done wayyyy before her toddler woke up.
I am a 23 year old SAHM and seeing tradwives definately caused me to downspiral mentally cause all of a sudden i thought i wasnt doing enough for my partner or my kids or i needed to look better, etc. I cant believe i fell into it so hard but im finally feeling better and im glad i can see now how ~not real~ it is 🙃.
Yeah, I find it’s really easy to get sucked into comparing oneself with illusions of reality.
Think of it like watching a movie or a tv show. It’s not real. Can be entertaining. But definitely not worth watching if it’s hurting you in any way
And I would say definitely don’t watch it. It’s a waste of your time. Watch things that uplift you. Or don’t watch at all.
The soft “influencer voice” is worse than nails on a chalkboard.
Nara’s voice is so boring 🥱
That along with modern aesthetics being all white, black, and grey makes for a very boring experience branded as "soothing."
Oh god yes! It's boring to death and somehow making me aggressive at the same time. 🫠🤮
Yes! It’s soooo fake you can tell that they’re forcing it. Nobody talks like that in real life.
Thank you! I was thinking the same thing 😅
My 8 year old wanted to go swimming so I ordered 30 bags of concrete. While waiting for those to arrive I grabbed my shovel and started digging.
Lol
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🤣🤣🤣🤣 you made my tea come out my nose
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Twist: is the son still alive? Was the concrete for his dead body?
"My toddler woke up sick, so I left him alone for 9 hours to make him a homemade cough drops."
This 😂😂😂
But makup, hair and dress first!
And then he choked on them because toddlers are not supposed to be given hard candy as they are a choking hazard 😮
@@MCGCummings My child is dying so I'm going to make a dinner so my husband have something to eat after the funeral.
@@MCGCummingsI couldn't stop thinking about that.
Your content should be required for anyone who watches TikTok. The education you give on social media is so valuable and eye opening.
They call themselves “trad wives” while working and people seem so fooled by it.
This
They work a lot 😂
50s housewives usually gave their small children so morphine or something to knock them out all day so they could housework without having to stop to take care of them,
With a whole camera crew director, deal handlers, accountants, lawyers,
@@middleagebrotips3454Assistants, Editors, social media managers as well
"Cosplaying homemakers" is the best description I've heard of what they're doing.
I would call it Homemaker Porn.
Except it insults cosplayers. We know reality and we are not trying to tell the internet we ARE the character we wear the costume of. These women are equally in costume but pretending otherwise. The dishonesty they display in this is not found in cosplay.
I'd say it's more that they are "playing house" like little kids, but that probably would insult the kids....
Ok but who is giving a toddler a cough drop? Isn't that a choking hazard?
Yes, it is
They were gummies
And you would never give them an actual couch drop... But they do make gummies for kiddos ❤
@@pettykittyfamGummies are a known choking hazard until close to age 5, much like popcorn, whole nuts, etc.
feeding them anything like that, gummies, cough drops, and even uncut grapes are choking hazards. She honestly sounded like the one who needed the cough drops, judging by her voice.
@@pettykittyfamWrong. She said the honey reached its crack stage. That’s how you test hard candies to make sure they’re ready to pour.
In order to make gummy candy, she would have to have used gelatin - which she did not.
after seeing videos of these trad wives, i heard my uncle say to my aunt, "if these young women can do it effortlessly without even as much as a sigh of complaint, why are you nagging and asking for help all the time?" it seems videos like those of these trad-wife women help in invalidating the very real struggles of the average homemakers, perhaps making their deadbeat husbands more irritable and less understanding, and more quick to use their fists.
It is destroying relationships.
I'm over 70. I used to see commercials when I was younger. Wife's in fancy house dresses and heels, running a sweeper or cooking a meal from scratch. As I stood there, with my toddler in a playpen, in Jean's and t shirt, waiting for nap time to go hang clothes outside. LOL.
God bless Betty Crocker!😁
You mean, this isn’t new?!?
You spend 2 hours making cereal from scratch for your toddler. Only to have him say, “No, I don’t want that. I want eggs!” after it’s done.
All these mom who make yogurt from scratch kids are always yelling in the back “YOGURT AGAIN!!” lol 😂
This, I’m like, and her kids eat everything she makes?
@@Dominique20 to be fair, making yogurt from scratch is a process that you start about 24 hours before you actually WANT the yogurt, it doesn't just get whipped up. (It's also pretty easy if you have an InstantPot. I go through phases when I do it, but currently I am in my 'cannot be bothered' phase.)
Better get to it and get that baby chick now! 😂
Trad wife = trad spoon
What I hate about it are the men that see this and expect their wives to be exactly like this. Men like my ex-husband. When I became a stay at home mom he expected perfection. He would compare me to women like this, women with nannies, and maids and expected the same. That's not reality. I am so glad I got out of that marriage and now have a husband who truly gets it and is grateful and wonderful about all I do.
I got divorced before having children because my husband expected perfection despite me working over double the hours he did. He called me lazy, and then demanded we have children. I got out so fast after that. There was no way he was going to help me, and there's no way I'm going to subject myself or my future children to that kind of behavior. So glad you got out and found a real man who appreciates and values you
I totally understand you! When I was in maternity leave, my husband began to behave delusionally as he was the only provider of the house, and I was just "the stay at home mom". He even started to make important decisions without consulting me... Well, he's now an ex-husband...
I actually thought that most of her viewers are red pill men
Your ex is a loser and good for you getting out and getting your life. Not for nothing but if these men want perfection from their wives then SURELY they can provide the nannies, big bright state-of-the-art appliances & kitchens and luxury beauty budget, easy breezy, right? Oh wait.
@@aichabt8869ohhhhh good point! You’re probably right
I really love how you make sure to point out that you don't judge these influencers' chosen lifestyles and that you say they can still be inspirational and that they do put a lot of effort into their content. Your video is so carefully put together, showing that you truly do respect the hard work of these women, yet at the same time disaggree with their way of presenting it as if the content created was everything there is to it. A huge thanks for this video!
If my toddler woke up sick, I would be cuddling with a sick toddler, not making cough drops from scratch while my toddler suffers in another room for hours.
Hundred times this!
This was my thought too. Like he’s suffering so you what, just left him to himself and told him to stay out of the camera shot? More likely, his nanny was taking good care of him while mom made the content.
Ugh, but cuddling with the offspring means she actually has to touch them.
& you're not going to give your toddler hard candy/cough drops 🙄
I think we have to remind ourselves that this is a fabricated story to sell her video better. It wouldn't get that much engagement if she would just upload a video about mking those drops.
And that's why I think it's wasted energy to get worked up over something that's just a nice story like things you see in the TV.
"they aren't traditional wives, they are performers" LOVE THAT SENTANCE, SO SO SO ON POINT
My toddler woke up sick this morning and, he puked on the sofa then the dog tried to eat it and while I was running to help my baby I kicked the table and broke my toe. The rest of the mornin I was cleaning up vomit and obsessively taking temperature and worrying and limping. That is the reality, I know I lived that life. Nobody is making homemade medicene while looking beautiful with sick kids
And two days later Mom is sick herself with killer-toddler germs and puking all over the place while still having 100% of her responsibilitys and a toddler who is well and active again... but I guess one could do that in a fancy gown, why not 😅😅😅
You just put my morning into perspective 😅 Good luck with the sick kiddo and broken toe
Also hard candy for a toddler = choking hazard!!
Ouch! I hope the little guy is OK with helping you feel better. Wishing you calm cuddles, and lots of ginger ale.
That's a whole different kind of content... real life! I can relate to all of it, I hope the toddler is feeling better and I'm so sorry about your toe.
This is so on point! Thank you Hannah, for making this video. BS influencers like that ballerina farm woman pretending to be a sahm when she's in fact a shrewd businesswoman who sells her kids to the internet for views! The hypocrisy is appalling.
My toddler woke up sick this morning so I decided to spend an hour making them an organic choking hazard.
Right? My mom used to just take like 5 minutes to make a cup of tea with a bunch of lemon and honey in it. But of course, you can't really link a bunch of obscure ingredients and supplies for that to make money off of. And if we had bad chest congestion, she'd put a bit of bourbon in it. It tasted awful but it would make you sleep and you always felt a lot better when you woke up. Helped loosen the phlegm in the chest.
But it's organic!
@@mommy2libras I was going to say the same thing. Just make some tea with honey and lemon. And, they won't even choke on it, lol. As long as they are over a year of course. You aren't supposed to give children under a year honey.
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What’s also super meta is that the tradwife influencers while promoting a stay-at-home lifestyle (where the woman prioritizes her children and family) are actually being entrepreneurs and devoting all their time to their business lol
Nara has a talent agent, so she's definitely making money. If she didn't, said agency would have terminated her contract by now.
EXACTLY 😂 Playing in ERRBODY face!
Exactly!
👏 nailed it
Pyramid schemes!
Wearing a full on Prom Dress to make medicine for your sick kid is psychotic 😂
Any normal mom who has sick kids will understand that it's fake. When you have a sick kid, you don't think of doing your mom or taking a video of yourself. She is a scam yet people believe she is a real trad-wife
You probably shouldn't ever think about doing your mom..but whatever...@@merihseriz821
Now this is funny
Those cough drops are a choking hazard for toddlers!
I am a fulltime housewife. If my kids cough or get sick and I have lemon and ginger, I just make drinks and ask my kids to drink. I have no time to make lemon candy.
Same. Now that sounds relatable and real to me 😅
Right. I'm like lemon, ginger, elderberry,. I have right now in the kitchen. even arrowroot powder is not that crazy to have either. Those are things real housewives get for their families. It's the cough drop molds that's silly and how perfect she looks. I don't think it's all a sham. Some is realistic and some is staged of course to perfection. I think we need to have a balanced view of it
Period 😂😂😂
Girl your a real stay at mom hero!
Oh come on. You know you use home grown ingredients!
The difference is that if a tradwife gets a divorce, she is still a millionaire. But if a real house wife get a divorce, she will find herself broke, jobless, with no recent working experience, with lots of debts and expenses and with children to take care of. So, with 50% of marriages ending in a divorce, the fantasy ends there...
Spot on
My gosh that was dark. Also it’s not 50% of marriages… that stat is a few decades old and people just keep repeating it without actually knowing. It’s less and if religious it’s much less. Some reality thats positive for all the married people reading your comment 😬
If an already wealthy tradwife gets a divorce she is still a millionaire. There are older tradwives who are now divorced coming forward on social media to give the truth. Most tradwives are not independently wealthy and when the marriage ends, they end up with nothing.
it's still pretty close if I consider all of the weddings Ive gone to and who is still married....I would also venture to say that a decent percentage of people in a marriage arent happy either. Im 50 so Ive seen a lot of relationships at this point in my life
It's a dark thought, but honest and needs to be prepared for - 100% of relationships end in a break up or death. Ignoring thus is doing the family disservice.
As a full time house wife I feel absolutely insulted by these fake house wives trying to convince the masses that being a house wife is a breeze when it’s blood and sweat everyday to make sure that everything is clean and in order.
Oh it is. I am not even a housewife. I don't even have kids. I don't even work I am on SSI! But it's unbelievable how difficult it is to keep everything in order all the time. Someone at church years ago said " If you see a spotless home with kids in it..suspect child abuse". And this was a statement by a SAHM. I do see spotless homes that are not a lot of work but in those cases the homes are only used to sleep and watch TV in and the person is working all the time. In cases where the home is LIVED in...projects, cooking, art and crafts...etc. Nah..it's going to be a wreak.
I don't have children but I have a mother and believe me, most people know, and most real life people would laugh about this kind of content/believing this could be real for anyone.
No offense dude but how does it take a full day to make beds, do laundry, wash the dishes, and cook? That takes like 3 hours MAX
@@GooseCee Well yeah. Well what do you mean by "cook?" If you mean a full on meal prep for the month it takes days sometimes.
@@GooseCeeyeah, if you are doing those without kids.
Thanks for bluntly stating that videos are performative.
It's lovely to watch someone calmly prep food or restore furniture. It's fun to experiment with new and exciting recipes. It's also super hard to experiment when if it fails you don't have dinner or you blew up your grocery budget. The privilege that underlies these videos is huge for both someone taking care of your kids or being able to order takeout if something goes wrong.
I'm SO tired of people saying, "you're just jealous," every time someone has a problem with something!
I'm definitely not jealous of these women. Who wants to spend all day making absolutely every morsel of food consumed in your home by scratch?? Not only do I not want to do that, I also don't want to spend hours a day pretending that I live that way.
IKR. Also "you're sexist" and "you're not as successful as her so you don't matter." As if privilege means we can't critique the wealthy.
I get wanting to be positive but these days you can't express any kind of dislike or distaste without being accused of “hating” or being jealous.
Or “you’re a hater!” What I hate is the fact that it’s all fake.
Some of these women are probelmatic but how is it fake from Nara? You guys clearly dont watch Nara's content. She never touts herself as a normak SAHM or a tradwife. She loves to cook and she has verbalized multiple times that she loves it, it is not expected of her, and her husband helps with cleaning and other things. Clearly they have money and help, her videos are literally about her passion of cooking.
I died at “my sister in law was craving bubble gum so bad.” I’ve never once in my life craved bubble gum so bad 😂
If my SIL said she was craving gum, I’d ask her to grab me a Diet Coke while she drives herself to the store to get some lol
I mean.. you’re not everyone. People having cravings for everything lol
I have..
The scenes at the end though… it all screamed fetish content to me!
@isabelle6632 yeah, no.
I’m an actual “trad wife” dude…. I never look like a 10 around my own home. I’m a solid 5 on a good day. I’m covered in baby puke, my hair is a mess, we are having leftovers for dinner. I try to do homemade food but sometimes babies don’t permit a whole homemade thing. Easiest meals to make from scratch are soups and roasts. Sometimes I don’t always get to the dishes or the laundry. My husband doesn’t always come home to a neat home and a put together wife. What he does come home to is a loving wife and babies who are fed and adore him! He is the love of my life. I’m not his slave. We are partners who both have extremely important jobs ❤️❤️ I’m here with the babies and he makes money so I can be home with the babies ❤️ Not everyone’s cup of tea but it’s the lifestyle we both wanted and talked about when we were dating!
And this is how a good marriage is. Thank you for sharing ❤
Im a traditional wife and i look nice every day. To each their own. If you like baby puke in your hair and looking bad thats a personal choice
@@lalittl you also make vedioes while wearing promdress😂😂
I think you make an important point in talking about what the ideal marriage looks like to you both before the marriage, kids, etc. Don't rush and do what's right for you and yours.
Also, baby puke is a phenomenal hair gel. It's renewable, sustainable, washable, and comes in 25 fun shades. 😂❤
Beautifully said, i’m in the same boat I don’t wear makeup i walk around with a baby on my hip oversized t-shirt on and just taking care of baby the house my hubby and last but not least myself i enjoy it hubby also enjoys the dynamic and you know what people who make assumptions/ give negative opinions are usually the ones who are jealous or just not within our close circle
Hannah your take was like my mom therapy for today. Thank you for your realism in this fake world that I find myself weirdly navigating. ❤
The soft, calm voice that sounds unbothered and bored… really grinds my gears!
ME TOOOOO ! 😡I can’t stand listening to her
sounds like she either just woke up or didnt get any sleep for 5 days straight
@@annipsy2185 yes!!! 😅
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I thought I was the only one who hated her voice I can’t stand it honestly
Trad wives: “I don’t believe in traditional medicine it’s poison”
Also trad wives: *have tons of lip fillers* 👁️ 👄 👁️
THIS LOL
Maybe her toddler asked for the lip filler
Lol the "science bad" trend is both stupid and extremely problematic. I use home remedies for many minor illnesses or discomfort, but I still take all my prescriptions when I need them.
My home remedies usually involve honey, teas, soup, and Vicks -- all of this I learned from my (boomer) mom as a kid. These are all very common household remedies around the world -- they are nothing special and usually cost a few bucks at the grocery store. It isn't glamorous like this person pretends they are.
It's complicated cause I want you call a traditional life. I tell my husband died anyway and I did a lot of what they're doing, but I had a time obviously and in my j's. I didn't do it in A. Full face makeup
bratz doll mouth lol
The fact that she dresses like she’s going on the red carpet just to cook. 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Exactly 😅
I've seen bits of this creator and I thought she was a PARODY account.
I actually used to do this back in like 2018 and my bf said it was creepy. Too much influence from the church. 😅
Everyone wants to look good, if she wants to look good while cooking then that's great
She’s a model they are probably sponsored outfits.
Bravo!! Professor Neil nailed it!! You did an amazing job too pulling back the curtain and helping everyone to think critically about all of it. Thank you!!
Do these people understand that housewives in the 50s BOUGHT cereal and BOUGHT bread, jam, bubblegum, etc?
People did make things from scratch too, of course, but this idea that everything right down to the everyday staples were consistently homemade is just delusional. 🙄
To be fair all the women were on lithium back then. Maybe they were baking a ton lmao
For sure! Look at the ads from the era, it's all 'simplify your life! Look at this product of the future!' These people forgot the 1950s lifestyle was also trying to stomp out the horrors of World War II
Not only that it would’ve been cheaper on their tight family budgets!! Like sure hand making some items is cheaper but for a lot you’re spending more on raw materials especially back when the pricing for food was more fair!
Thank you! Even the poorest of the poor had to buy items and supplies! It amazes me people watch them and actually believe it!
People have this weird idea of what life was like in the 50s and 60s. Tons of women worked, especially black women. Traditionally, black women have worked.
The 50s and 60s also weren't ht best social time in the world .I wouldn't want to mimic anything from that time lmao
People, please please please learn this once and for all: the BEST way to protest against these phonies is to STOP watching their content. Don’t give them the views, PERIOD.
I've never watched any of them!
True! Ban those internet trash!
The old adage, “Don’t feed the trolls,” comes to mind. In a way these tradwives are trolling us all, pretending to be something nobody in the real world can be.
The problem is that you can't tell teens and preteens that. They WILL form their worldview based on all of it
I straight-up REFUSE to watch tradwife content. It is so unrealistic and it is detrimental to the younger generation of women to portray this tradwife lifestyle, because it makes you feel bad when you can't achieve what they are portraying as gracefully as they are portraying. Reminds me of old 50s & 60s commercial advertisements, especially home appliances. You know, where the tradwife is dressed up like that Estee Williams meeting her husband at the door with slippers and a cocktail, then having the dinner table set and dinner served within moments of the husband walking thru the door. They're fakers and I don't like it. I don't like the ideology behind it. It influences ppl like that football player to make speeches discouraging women from pursuing anything other than a homemaker lifestyle. Which is fine for some, but there are a lot of ppl out there that have absolutely no business having children. As a pioneer of the opposition of tradwife ideology, I have been thru it. I still go thru it. I'm still made to feel bad because I didn't breed. Recently, my very own father said to me, "so my line ends with you." Which was a direct comment to me stating that No, I was not going to pursue fertility treatments to have a child because I'm beyond the "breeding" years for a human woman, and my childless husband is fine with that. I could really go on about how I married pretty much out of HS, how I was almost forced into having children by my 1st husband thru sabotage, etc, but it would be a novel. Just know that I've been thru it, and I totally disagree with the archaic ideological traditions that are being forced upon us, women, today. Personally, I will fight with tooth & nail to prevent us from every reverting back to that dead-end lifestyle for women.
Meanwhile, the lower income mothers doing videos of their meal prep get nothing but hate for not making everything from scratch.
Yeah there was a mother and she got called the worst mother ever (and worse) when she made food for her kids. She lives off the food bank and people complained she didn't pick healthy food, i had a "aunt" who had to live off the food bank for a while, most food banks won't let you choose your food they just get a small portion from the supermarket to give to people, you are happy that you have food so that you can feed your children (and one of the children has sensory issues so they have difficulties with certain foods).
It’s because she has pretty privilege
Exactly because a lot people are costumed to seeing those videos and are too ignorant to realize those videos are an act
Omg I hate how much lower income mothers get hated on! Mama C used to get so much hate for filming her cooking videos while her (I believe ex) husband watched their kids yet her meals were both creative and realistic for the average person.
There was a mom on tiktok who owned a trailer home and she showed the gifts she bought for her kids for Christmas (which totaled to $20 I believe) and you'd think she burned her children alive. People called her irresponsible for buying those gifts instead of saving it (because obviously lower income children don't deserve gifts 😤) and it got me so heated. Was 1000000% an overreaction on the internets part and it's disgusting because lower income mothers are the most creative people I've seen and as a childless person, I find their content more helpful. Like who cares about making homemade mozarella? I wanna see how people provide for their families with a budget of $35/week.
THIS!
First, I would like to say thank you... for combing through social media, conducting thoughtful research, and reporting on your findings in a comprehensive way, so that I may be aware of more and not have to spend any time on the platforms I find completely toxic.
Second, having personal experience in trying to find balance as a stay-at-home mom and homemaker over the last decade (a temporary arrangement because child care is too expensive) this topic triggers a whole menagerie of thoughts and feelings for me, and I "only" have two kids... I can't handle any more than that.
IRL- Without support from family, friends, or paid help... on a single income (without any side income or stashed away funds)... dealing with perpetual illnesses, sleep deprivation, depression, and the demand to somehow make things all fit / "work out" is effing hard, messy, and exhausting.
Tempered expectations, *forgiveness of self and circumstances, and the ability to creatively adapt when things are not ideal have been necessary... and I still need to figure my shh-tuff out.
*corrected misspelling
I dated a guy for 3 years, I had to be the perfect girlfriend (hair and make up flawless, no body hair, no weight gain, etc.) Had to treat him like a king while I got nothing in return. I was so exhausted from being with him that I broke it off. I met my husband and married him 6 months within meeting, dating and engaged. 7 years later, he has seen me at my worst (4 babies, post natal depression, weight gain after kids, etc) and still looks at me with love and adoration. These trad wife video trends are quite unrealistic, it's equivalent to photoshopped magazines that young teens look up to causing them body image issues, except trad wife videos cause perfectly normal mothers feeling inadequate.
Precisely feeding off creating insecurity. Vampires.
Im glad u did
I’d also like to be w someone who sees me as a human
Yes girl. Exactly 💯
Good point
Truth
Kids are messy, cooking & baking is messy, gardening is messy...and yet these trad wives are always perfectly clean not a single stain on their clothes
OCD person here. My kids were not messy. Home training. Cooking and baking is not messy either because one is careful and clean as you go.
@@levanahyll5884So what? Get your trophy for that.
sponsored social media videos are curated just like TV adverts even this video is curated...hope this helps!
With perfect makeup, hair, and dressed in clean “fancy” clothes.
@@levanahyll5884 my sister is ocd and things can still get messy at times. Not sure how any of that correlates.
This morning my husband said that his feet were cold, so I went outside into the field, sheered a baby lamb and spun the wool in my loom. I then picked some beetroot in my garden so that I could dye the lambs wool pink; dried the wool in the morning sun and then knitted him some slippers. I just happened to have some soft leather lying around so I cut that into sole shapes and quickly sewed them onto the bottoms of the slippers. I then toasted them on the fire so that he could have them extra warm to wear when he eats his homemade pancakes with elderberry jam. He was thrilled and couldn't believe that I had done all of that before my power yoga session at 8.30am.
😂 facts jeeeeez what a fraud
Too funny 😂
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Lol..oh no not the elderberry jam!!!
I disagree with the finale. He wasn't thrilled because he died in the process 😅
Woman beat themselves up daily about ways they think they're failing. Mothers tear the crap out of themselves hourly because it's one thing to feel like you're failing yourself but to feel the guilt of thinking you're failing your child is brutal. It would be great to have one of these women say hey guys this is for entertainment and my life is not so picture perfect.
As a toddler mom, I am a firm believer that all parenting content on social media (with the exception of memes and humor) is useless and in many cases dangerous.
100% well stated
I believe all channel based of children in youtube should not be monetized
@@prachikalkar2493or better yet, content involving children should not be allowed. I think it's wrong to use kids for content and to make money off of that content when the children cannot consent. The kids will forever have their young lives on the internet for all to see. Children aren't capable of consenting to something that they don't understand the ramifications of. I've watched videos of some adorable kids and loved them but then think 'those videos shouldn't be on the internet!'
Samantha Ravndahl is my exception to this rule. Her content about having a child is 100% reality
Same! There is so much bad advice out there! The sad thing is desperate parents will cling to it (this has been me at times) while the influencer is just post whatever pops into their head.
I’m a homemaker with 4 babies and love to cook from scratch, but yeah the number one thing that drives me nuts is when any influencer apparently has hours alone to cook, workout, etc, with lots of time where no one explains where the children are
I can’t even pee for 30 seconds without my kids yelling for me! (Funnily enough I am an adult woman but my son changed my name on here as well hahaha)
All while dressed to the 9s in full makeup and silk dresses lol
Facts! I'm alsoa homemaker with 3 young children, here I am right now replying while seeing in the corner of my eye the pile of cleaned clothes that need to be fold. I'm not perfect, I love having more time for my children but we also have our challenges and sooo much work to do around.
Thank you for being realistic! This! We do have time to take care and make ourselves look great but not extra 8 hours for filming editing and setting up cameras around the house 😅
The reality is you don't have to make "everything" sometimes buying produce from good sources is time saving and equally better
@@Timmybabim😂😂 sounds like mine
As a mom of two toddlers, my kids were pissed because I went pee before handing them their (pre-made) breakfasts. I can't even imagine the riot that would ensue if I made them wait this long 😂
Seriously 😂 my kids are crawling up my leg if I’m in the kitchen trying to make them something
My toddler got upset because I didn’t get the memo that she only wanted melties and bananas for breakfast 😂
Waaaaaaaaait... You got to go to the toilet *without* supervision? 😲
This. ALL of this🤣
Maybe those babies are just props? Who says they have to be real?
Thank you so much for your videos I have been crippling under the pressure of motherhood from idealizing these influencer lifestyles. This was such a comforting and relieving video.
“My toddler was sick and I still had time to do my full makeup and dress up before making his meds”😂😂😂
Dont judge others. Its a sin
@@Dontplaywiththat😂😂😂it’s an observation not a judgment
Exactly what I thought- When my toddler was sick I didnt even brush my hair in three days 😀
@@Dontplaywiththatobservation and critical thinking isn’t judgment. Also, sin isn’t real.
Also he is a toddler. I hope nobody would give hard cough lollies/sweets to a toddler. He could choke.
I’m so glad somebody finally said it in a healthy way. There is no hate just a reminder to everyone that they should not compare themselves to a fantasy.
A fantasy indeed. Where are her kids when she is doing all this cooking?
@@matheromichellenkhalambaI'm guessing they're asleep, because it's 1 a.m.
Oh! Or, she hired help.
The first influencer is flat out Ridiculous! My sister ran out of gum 😂😂😂😂😂😂
Who craves gum, lol?
They sell gum in every corner store in America!
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When I had three sick toddlers at once, I layered every blanket in the house over my bed, turned on the TV, and then as a child threw up I could take off that layer and get it in the wash and my bed was still covered.
No, I did not put on makeup, curl my hair, and find pearls to wear before I tended my sick children.
The irony is that despite claiming its "traditional" only the most privileged women lived like this in the 50s. My grandma was a sharecroppers daughter who picked cotton to bring in income while her husband worked. The men who push the idea of the trad wife have never even spoken to one from the time period they fantasize over.
So true!
yes! that idealic image was created by marketing companies to sell products! That wasn't real life for many people in the 1950s... both my grandmother's went to college and had jobs. One was a teacher and one was an x-ray tech. My grandfather's were successful (business and dentist) and yet, they worked outside the home.
I am all for calling out the performative aspect of online Trad Wives, but I have to gently push back against this very modern idea that trad wives who didn't work outside the home were "privileged". I understand that sharecroppers and their wives had difficult lives, but they were actually the exception.
My childhood was in the 1960s and SAHMs were the rule rather than the exception. No one considered themselves "privileged" - we're talking about women married to firefighters, cops, teachers, builders, tradesmen, sales, etc ... living in the vast suburbs. The majority of the husbands didn't have college degrees in those days, yet could afford to buy a house and have a SAHM wife and three children. They were not remotely rich and we would classify them as working class to middle class today.
Sharecroppers were living at poverty level. The women who worked in those days were mostly unmarried single women or married women who were poor. This only began to slowly change in the 1970s.
@@lorrilewis2178 I should have worded my post a little differently.
"The women who were stay at home wives who had time to doll up everyday in pearls and heels and make every single thing from scratch were privileged." The leave it to beaver lifestyle wasn't achievable while looking perfectly put together at all times without a nanny to watch the kids or maybe some day drinking to choke down the stress.
Or, you know, a lobotomy for the women who broke.
@@strayiggytv Yeah, none of our mothers wore dresses and pearls at home. Some mothers wore very cool skinny pants. One of my friend's mother did wear dresses at home, but it was because of her figure type (very wide hips) being unsuited to pants.
Once we were no longer little, we were either at school or outside playing with our friends. People had more leisure time back then.
As a 60 yo mom of 4 and Grammie of 3, this is a DANGEROUS model for moms to envy. She’s portraying a stay at home mother that is non existent and built by social media. This is the homemakers version of supermodels. I stayed at home with my babies for 11 years, and some days I was fortunate to get dressed for the day before bedtime, especially because all 4 of my children were six years apart. She’s an actress, and I LOVE you for spotlighting the non-reality of this nonsense. It’s TOXIC, and it needs to stop
It is toxic, but sadly it's nothing new. I remember when I first had my kids, before the days of influencers, I'd get all these parenting magazines that would show you all these perfect moms with their perfect kids and would show you how to make all these perfect snacks, perfect crafts, their homes would be perfect, the kids rooms would be perfect. They would give me so much anxiety and make me feel bad, like I was doing something wrong. It took a while to realize that none of that was realistic. I feel like it's the same sort of thing going on here.
My Mom had four of us in 4 years- yes FOUR years! We also had a farm. There was NO glamour about it.
Yup and then men are going to be using these examples and be asking us why can’t we be like Nara Smith “If she can do it, why can’t you?”-Men
For all three of these examples I threw up a little in my mouth seeing the ridiculous “I just did this because I thought of it”. You thought, researched, planned, scripted, shot, edited, and re-recorded it to make some person not in a reality check world watch it and get your content upvoted by the algorithm. Why are we doing them that favor. Sad that they feed on it and make them super rich for lying . Ugh… just staaaap!
My mom 6 of us within 8 years and she had time to dress herself, us and make our hair into braids & also she was a full time employee. I don’t understand women that can’t even dress up. I watch little ones and I get dressed, make bed- dress kids and brush their hair.
I’m a traditional wife, like the old school tradition where mom does the kid stuff and the home keeping while dad is the provider and helps around the house doing the repairs and what not. This tiktok tradwife trend is NOT traditional wife or motherhood lol we are working our asses off from daylight to dark with messy hair and stained clothes. It’s hard, it’s thankless and it’s not this picturesque life these women portray. But I will say, while it’s hard, I am “rewarded” with excellent kids. They are kind funny and my favorite little people. The memories we make every day are both happy and stressful but I wouldn’t change it.
Does your man do anything else besides working and doing repairs lol? Like helping you out around the house and with the kids?
I congratulate you for finding what works for you and your family. It seems you chose this for yourself and didn't feel pressured to be someone you weren't.
@@Renee84repairs is helping around the house. I do the repairs; my husband does some of the kitchen cleaning.
@@toomanymarys7355 But unless their home is in complete disrepair and he comes home every night and continues working (like she does because work at home doesn't stop at 5pm), then he's not helping out very much. My parents split the evening work up. One did the dishes while the other gave us our baths. They both then sat down after everything was taken care of.
Agreed. I'm listening to this while I'm making cough syrup (yes, I have the ingredients on hand), food prepping, and juggling homeschool lessons with my 3 kids. It doesn't happen overnight, you learn and grow on the job, and you'll have days that bring immense joy and days that kick your trash. I think that is something we can experience in many jobs/roles. We should be so careful when looking to influencers/social media for how to live life because it is super curated, money-making content, and not how it is in real life. It is almost always performative.
I love it “what do you mean you have time to make corn flakes from scratch in a gown” omfg that’s hilarious 😅
'' my toddler woke up sick thismorning ...... so i spent the next four hours ignoring them to film a youtube video about baking ''
Yes!! What are the toddlers doing while she cooks?!?
I tried doing content like them & my 11m old kept crying for me & my 5yo kept trying to ask me stuff & I had to tell her to give me a min. They were with my husband in our room & I was so mentally drained after & realized no way that the ones who actually do it all the time aren’t neglectful with their kids because I felt like that’s what I was doing. Even tho husband was with them. So yeah it’s not worth being an influencer. My kids are first. I will assume influencers neglect their kid unless they’re using them for content. Editing & all takes time too so that’s another hour of neglect.
To the woman making homemade bread 10 days postpartum: you can't fool the moms. We know. Under that full glam makeup and beautiful dress... is an adult diaper
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PREACH GIRL!!
And a nanny
Tbh I only wore a diaper for a few hours post birth. And most of the time I stopped bleeding within 5-7 days. I’m sure it’s not that way for most moms but all our bodies are different so different experiences are ok!!
"We're watching a curated and privileged fantasy."
Bingo! 👌🏾
It’s an ideal scenario when you’re married to money and only possible when it’s not just you running the show! I’d like to actually see some realistic trad wife videos and there are actually plenty out there, they’re far from glamorous. One lady works in the kitchen preparing meals with her kid strapped to her while she cooks. They have 5 kids and they’re lower middle class. She’s actually making realistic meals, she doesn’t look like a model but a mom and the food isn’t something that can’t be made by anyone due to time and cost! Fake, fake, and lots of fakes! Anyone that’s been a SAHM knows it really doesn’t look like that!
Haha love the cat comment, I thought my son was waking up from his nap, but it was your kitty in the background lol❤😅
What personally annoys me the most with the tradwife influencer are :
- the lies (like pretending they are spontaneously making cough drops from scratch after they toddler woke up sick)
- the "holier tha thou" attitude. The "I don't keep cereals in my house" clearly implies "because I think it's bad for kids", and so that they are better than you for cooking breakfast from scratch
- the fact that they pretend to be a stay at home mom while they actually are a work at home mom
And then what annoys me about the "trad wife movement" in general is that it says that this model is better than any others and that women should be this nurturing, submissive caricature. Like I am all for choice and if a woman truly wants to be a sahm without any external influence (spouse, society...etc) good for them ! I want to support them ! That is a lot of work too often underappreciated! But this shouldn't be a thing that they have to do or feel pressured to do ! Or feel less than if they don't go this route.
Also as a childfree woman by choice it irks me when any movement restrains a woman's role as a mother.
Motherhood can be a beautiful thing for those who want it !
And finally... It's sad that so much cooking content have all this layer of religion / lifestyle agenda etc.
Just make a cooking from scratch channel/ page. But the cooking is not their main content actually. It's like a commercial for a lifestyle filled with lies and false promises.
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Bravo
That's right. They complain about feminists, but they kind of belittle other women for being providers and having their own careers, and that's ridiculous. Each woman lives the life she sees fit, but these tradwives feel better than other women who don't live like them
@@liviasantos3509 exactly! It's not "I like to live that way ", it's "that the way everyone should live their lives or else they are falling"
@@Lexouchan this is very annoying. I'm a Christian, but there are many who use the name of God to justify this lifestyle, even though the Bible doesn't speak just one standard of women, all the women mentioned in the Bible lived differently from the others.
But cereal is usually bad for you 😅
I came from a Mormon background, and I witnessed so many girls’ dreams get crushed by the reality of young marriage and traditional roles. Over half of them are now divorced with mental health issues.
Is it true that most Mormon woman are Karen's?
I’m a current LDS wife/mom and although many of my Mormon friends had the same rude awakening, I think many of my non-Mormon friend had the same realization because they made being a Sahm their only goal/identity and got married too young (plus their own mothers didn’t help guide them).
Although, to be fair some of my friends who got married young are still in strong marriages. But even though I wanted to be a sahm, I got my BS and doctorate and waited until I found the right guy in my late 30s.
@@caseymcdonald2239 I have many Mormon friends and have known many families over the years. Never met one I didn't like. My granddaughter's first caregiver was a neighbor down the street who was absolutely wonderful with her! My Mormon friends all seem to be happily married (not that I have the total picture but our view is based on our experience) and have interests and many have jobs outside of the home. None of them are from Utah so I wonder if that makes a difference? One of my friends was suddenly dumped by her fiance' so she moved to Utah, met a new guy, and now is happily married. She was certainly no young bride. As a non-Mormon Christian, I also wanted nothing more than to get married, have kids, and be a mom and homemaker. That was my dream job and I got it. We are celebrating our 57th anniversary in 2 weeks. I know, I am one of the lucky ones. That did not happen for everyone.
More-men dudes are gay.
@@caseymcdonald2239 this is what I'm sorta worried about. I'm getting an education for my own independence but I also found my life partner and we both have the conservative family oriented lifestyle and we know exactly what we want. But what if I'm too young? It's difficult. But it's what I want
This is an industry of making women feeling guilty and unfit
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Doesn't make me feel guilty nor unfit. I thunk some of.yall are too sensitive for content like this to knock you off your equilibrium! Woman up!
Tbh this is so true
If you allow this content to make you feel guilty or unfit, that’s on you. Put down the phone.
Ageerd they shpuld just ignore ppl like her @@heysistuhs9886
I was that mom too, and I crashed HARD. Depression was a huge part of my daily life bc I couldn't be that perfect person, and couldn't understand why I was failing (or felt like it). This made me fall further and further into a type of cationic state, where if I couldn't be that perfect person I envisioned then what was the point in trying at all.
This was before social media too
My grannie was a 1950s housewife. I've seen pictures and heard stories. It wasn't like this. She worked like a beast all the time and while she knew how to do it up and her house was always pristine, she wasn't wearing gowns and perfect makeup to scour the toilets, mop the floor, and bake bread.
Even as someone who’s never met a 1950’s housewife, I’m a big ass history nerd and know that in the 1950’s the woman was expected to do ALL the household chores. Especially making sure every room was spotless. I doubt she’d be putting on makeup just to later clean the bathroom, do the laundry, wash the dishes and cook a meal for her kids and husband if he wasn’t at work. I mean I don’t know for sure but who has time to look good when your main concern is doing housework? Not to mention how these influencers cook elaborate meals that take hours don’t at all get interrupted by their kids which I know isn’t true. Kids will bother you to no end until they get what they want, especially food. No kid is just gonna sit and wait for food, especially younger kids who haven’t passed double digits yet.
Yeah dressing into a ball gown in the kitchen is so funny and ridiculous. 😅
My grannie was also a 1950s housewife. She was being held financially hostage by her husband. She eventually worked up the defiance to go out and get a job in the Este Lauder factory. It wasn’t a privilege to be a housewife. It was a privilege to work.
See that’s what gets me! My grandmothers were both mothers in the early 1960s. Both worked. Both had masters degrees, one a PhD. My great grandmother also worked in a department store (out of financial necessity) and rented her basement to female college students. Even the homemaker label didn’t apply to all or even most mothers in the time periods these people are cosplaying. And when it did exist, it didn’t look like this.
My grandmother was a seamstress at the 1950's. Six children, no washing machine, no freezer, no microwave oven.. Poor women had to work to help provide for their families. Only rich women had the means to be a "tradwife", just like nowadays..
I heard a divorced trad wife say "whether you'll have food and shelter will depend on whether he still loves you and finds you fuckable" and that stuck with me. 😥
And that’s the life that these people are glorifying, and some men are expecting from their spouses. I don’t like having to work a job (who does?) but I’ll be damned if I’m going to depend on a spouse for all of my financial needs.
@@sabrinaladyswallowtail4262🗣️PERIODDDDDDD!!!!!
I was always told “a man is not a financial plan”.
Oh my god, me too! That my whole life depends on this man even still liking me. Horrifying. It was so heartbreaking to watch her video. I just felt so broken fir her 😞
@@ufos-cos May I know who you are talking about?
Dressed in frilly outfits, full face of makeup, tripod and camera ready, all rare ingredients ready, with 3 kids (1 toddler and 1 newborn). Sounds BS to me!
100% BS. What gets me mad tho is the pretentiousness. These are clearly girls who wanted to be instagram models and instead they do this, cause it's easier to stand out.
Where do the children go while she's swanning around her kitchen in a couture cocktail dress (in WHITE) for a couple of hours?
The reality is she did the cooking separate from her cocktail dress shots. It probably took her a week of nap times to get all the footage, unless she has a nanny and filmed off-site in a kitchen made for filming purposes.
She hit the nail on the head when she said they are playing into a fantasy. And people are lapping it up 😅
Thank you! Exactly!
And a ring light
I don't know but I find Nara's voice is so soothing, that could be another reason why many watch her videos.
Lying to women that she made all these foods during postpartum should come with a warning as it can be really dangerous.
I agree!!!
Uh, but I know someone who still do irl 🤷
@@WhiteStripesStripiestFan Girl, not everyone is the same as someone you know.
@@eliseri16 but they exist. I mean you guys are really be hating on Nara for being a fit and hardworking mom? Shouldn't society look up to actually productive people?
Nara is a businesswoman. She has people watching her kids while she films her videos. Her content isn’t real.
Thank you. I have no idea why these accounts have traffic. I was a homemaker for 34 years. These insult the hard work and real life skills it takes to keep a household running smoothly while raising children.
And it's not helpful to people who could use help with planning or organization...or keeping reasonable expectations
Mad respect to you
But, I mean, I don’t think anyone really “falls for it”, as she said in the video. It’s understood it’s a conceit to present the content, don’t you think?
@@hopegold883 I guess you haven't heard, young women are falling for it.
What did your useless husband do. You sound like you were a single mom
I wonder if these influencers reach a psychological point where, they begin to lie so much, they genuinely start to believe in the lies. It’s so ridiculous. Since when did honesty become outdated?
I think we see this a lot with MLM huns. The number of videos I've seen featured on Hannah's channel where the huns are in TEARS over their delusions is insane!
"We are what we pretend to be, so we must be careful about what we pretend to be." --Kurt Vonnegut Jr.
Yeah of course, and they no doubt think they are absolute geniuses for figuring everything out too.
i doubt it.... it's a lot of work and a lot of tech and logistics to create this facade
It *already* does happen with actors, especially child actors. Imagine having the press and media knowing and questioning every thing you do. No wonder they destroy themselves in adulthood.