Myths About Marriage People Don't Talk About | Part 3
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 7 ก.ค. 2024
- In this final video (part 3) in our series on dating, engagement and marriage, Jennifer and I tackle some of the most common misconceptions or, myths, about marriage. Many people paint a picture of marriage that is not consistent with what marriage is really all about. In our first video we talked about dating. In the second video we talked about engagement. This video focuses on marriage. Enjoy and watch the other two videos in the series below.
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Hey BEAT family! This is the final video in this 3-part series on dating, engagement and marriage that I did with my wife. I hope you enjoy it. You can catch the other two videos here.
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Peace with you allen , it has been long that i didn't watch your videos but here this night you were on my dream praying rolling your ring and saying the ancient of days with full of tears may i have an explanation about this please?
Allan please do a video on this ... OSAS is false and Jesus words prove it. Read Matthew 25:1-12 the parable of the 10 virgins. Notice in this rapture parable
1. All 10 virgins were VIRGINS or believers
2. All 10 virgins had their lamps or the word of God (Psalm 119:105 Thy word is a lamp unto my feet, and a light unto my path)
3. The 5 foolish virgins had oil at one time (they were saved) (Matthew 25:8 The foolish ones said to the wise, ‘Give us some of your oil; our lamps are going out.’)
4. All 10 virgins were looking for Jesus return (Matthew 25:7)
BUT 5 were wise and 5 were foolish, why? They FELL AWAY (Luke 8:13 Those on the rocky ground are the ones who receive the word with joy when they hear it, but they have no root. They believe for a while, but in the time of testing they fall away) or ran out of OIL (Holy Spirit). They didn't know (Matthew 25:12 “But he replied, ‘Truly I tell you, I DON'T KNOW YOU.’) or have a relationship with Jesus. (Hebrews 5:9, Acts 5:32, 1 John 4:8 Anyone who does not love does not know God, because God is love, John 14:15 “If you love me, you will keep my commandments).
"Your spouse's job is not to make you happy, it's to make you holy" I LOVE this! Such wisdom!
Factssssssss i realize my husband can’t provide my sole happiness and it literally has forced me to lean into God like never before
I’m not married, no where near a relationship, but here I am looking forward to these videos everyday. 😂They are very helpful and God is truly using you both to bless others. Thank you!
Same😂😂
Same lol
Same here 😄🤣
Same
Same lol ... but I feel like one is coming around the corner 🙏🏾
You two are beacons of light. God is definitely putting together Godly couples.
For those hoping sex with their spouse will always be a super hot passionate creative moment, as the Parrs accurately stated, the porn industry has painted a false perception of that. With kids, fluctuating hormones and other major life events that will occur, the sex will not be on the same level all the time...but...when both spouses have overall peak performance attitudes, have a habitual tendency of consistent fitness, excellent nutrition, quality rest, and feeding his/her mind/soul with optimal content, quality sex will be more frequent because both individuals are generally holistically healthy and care for their temples with finesse and consideration
I’ve been divorced since 1993 when I was only 24 years old. I love this segment because knowing what I know now watching your marriage podcast series helps me reflect back why I got a divorce and what went wrong between my ex husband and I.I have not remarried but have had long term relationships. I’m happy to say that this is a wealth of knowledge for everyone who is considering the commitment to marriage. It is never too late to learn about what a Christian marriage suppose to look like. This is the video to watch! Mr. Parr, your wife Mrs. Parr is absolutely a gem and such a beautiful lady. She radiates everything a woman should strive to be and a husband who can lead the household just as God designed it to be. Thank you for sharing your experience with us. 🙏🏻
t͎h͎α͎n͎k͎s͎ f͎σ͎r͎ w͎α͎t͎c͎h͎i͎n͎g͎.. m͎α͎k͎є͎ α͎ n͎σ͎t͎є͎ t͎σ͎ i͎α͎n͎ m͎c͎g͎l͎σ͎i͎n͎ в͎ч͎ t͎є͎х͎t͎i͎n͎g͎ h͎i͎m͎ ч͎σ͎u͎ w͎h͎є͎r͎є͎ r͎є͎f͎є͎r͎r͎є͎d͎ в͎ч͎ m͎є͎ ч͎σ͎u͎’͎l͎l͎ в͎є͎ g͎u͎i͎d͎є͎d͎ r͎є͎g͎α͎r͎d͎i͎n͎g͎ c͎r͎ч͎p͎t͎σ͎ i͎n͎v͎є͎s͎t͎m͎є͎n͎t͎ в͎t͎c͎/͎є͎t͎h͎ s͎k͎i͎l͎l͎s͎..…͎.......±𝟏͎𝟒͎𝟕͎𝟖͎𝟐͎𝟐͎𝟕͎𝟔͎𝟕͎𝟐͎𝟖͎ l͎є͎t͎ h͎i͎m͎ k͎n͎σ͎w͎ i͎ s͎є͎n͎t͎ ч͎σ͎u͎💯͎.…..
Great video, my relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, Really love her so much, i can’t stop thinking about her. I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated because i literally can't envision my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.
Your feelings are understandable, It's always difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation when my wife of 12 years left me, i couldn't just let her go. I did all I could to get her back, I had to seek the help of a spiritual adviser who helped me bring her back.
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@@Margart526 her name is MONICA ERLENE MORA, and she is a great spiritual adviser as well as a caster and healer
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Your wife’s voice is so calming and pleasant to hear . 😊
Thank you for tackling marriage does not cure lust. I've been hearing notable teachers teaching people that they should lust after their spouse. This is not a biblical concept. I am glad that both you and Mrs. Parr spoke up about how lust is dangerous and can and will damage a marriage if not dealt with.
I second this!
You two are adorable, godly, wise, and REAL!! Marriage is hard work but so worth it. After 32 years we are still working and growing. We can only find happiness within and can not expect it from another person is so true. I love these videos from The Beat and we are also doing the Love Dare Devotional book this year after completing the original Love Dare last year. Still tending this marriage garden and new things are blooming, we continue to grow..... even after 32 years.
If y’all make a podcast on dating-married life, I’m for sure listening to every episode of it. Thanks for the series!
The end was the icing on the cake. Marriage is work, but it is good work and so rewarding. ❤️
So many couples want the wedded bliss and the happy ending but they're not willing to put in the work to make it happen like every other endeavour.
My ex spouse divorced me because he wasn’t “ happy”. He is remarried and still not “ happy”.
Not your ex spouse you still married in Gods eyes. You cannot pour 2 sand cups in one and try and divide it afterwards Only death breaks it. 2 become 1 people cannot seem seem to grasp this concept.
Follow Pastor Login. Dr Joseph Webb.
Dr Mike Gorrie. Stephen Wilcox,David Pawson,Gino Jennings.etc....
Only death seperates marriage from these names has studied scripture for 50 PLUS years.
He is living in Continous adultery.
Very Very Very few churches will speak on the permanance of marriage there is no other except it be death of a spouse. I will keep spreading the true word.
Happiness does not have to do with faithfulness, i learned that through time
I am with Sister Jennifer again! Experiences like travel are more important than material things, and an upgrade on a long-haul flight is so valuable! 🤗💖 Great tips throughout. I loved this series. 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
After 40 years I’ve learned the secret.
“What’s mine is hers and
What’s hers is hers!”
🤣🤣🤣🤣
That’s often true but it should not be.
Your probably thinking about just money, there are other stuff off hers, her work, her care, her contribution in the house etc that's also yours and for your maybe?
@@daisiesandpandas1218 if it crosses over to the point where her money is hers, it probably affects everything else as well.
Can you guys make more videos like this about the realities of marriage? I think a series of this content would be super helpful. I don’t see many christian TH-camrs talking about the realities and practicalities of marriage. I am newly married trying to adjust and it’s been so difficult. it would be such a benefit to hear more content like this.
How is it different from how you thought it would be ? I’m single, never married and want to learn.
The word you spoke out “difficult” is a straightforward giveaway that your marriage is in trouble already. This just means God did not assigned this person you married. You’re supposed to be happy but here you are as a newly married person says it’s difficult. Wow! I’m sorry this is happening to you. 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
@@accesstotheredcarpet what makes you say God did not assign this person? He is author and sovereign over all. I’ve known people who say their first year of marriage was the most difficult. And they now have a great marriage and have been married for 10+ years. Others have said their really difficult years didn’t come until years later. Difficult times doesn’t mean God didn’t ordain it. The Parrs even just said in this video, marriage isn’t about being happy all the time. Nothing is happy all the time.
@@accesstotheredcarpet Shame on you for saying that to her/him. You have no idea what you are talking about and yet you are speaking as if you knew everything. You are not God, and you are cursing their marriage. You are a fool.
@@accesstotheredcarpet God never says in the bible that He will make human beings happy
I so love Jennifers voice ❤
Thank you for being so open. My husband and I had to really compromise on finances. I like the keyboard/plane upgrade example and the flex money idea. This video is life giving and God honoring. May the LORD richly bless your marriage and family.
She's so pretty.
Thank you so much for this. You all dropped some major jewels💕As a single woman of God this is so helpful.
Flex money is an excellent idea! I see the logic of each person and agree with both! Great video guys!
What I appreciated was y'all's ability--even in conflict--to see and appreciate the other person's perspective even if you did not necessarily agree or see things the same way.
Man this is awesome! Sending all three videos to my girlfriend now 😂
I watched parts 1 and 2 just this morning. I am so glad that part 3 came out today!
Love these series ❤. I'm praying to get married and so these types of videos act as my training 🙏. It has open my eyes to how not ready I am for the covenant of marriage but working on it 😀
Thank you for this video. Thank you for this series. The biggest takeaway that I’ve gotten from this video (which is also confirmation) is that marriage is not supposed to make you happy. If you’re miserable while you’re single, you most likely will be miserable while you’re married. The best thing to do as singles is to work through your trauma and issues as much as you can BEFORE getting married.
Straight facts! 💯💯 Many people are desperate to get married because of the fear of being alone but in reality they are miserable being single. That was a light bulb moment. I’ve been happily single and celibate for 5 years now. Best decision I’ve ever made. It’s a game changer that has shifted my focus solely on myself before I allow a new person into my life in the future.
@@accesstotheredcarpet you’re absolutely right. Some people rush to get married, thinking that it will make them happy. The key is to be happy while you’re single. I’ve been single and abstinent for many years now. I’m loving my peace!
As a single man, I used to feel both unhappy and inferior, as I thought marriage was this near heavenly state and that being single meant I was a bad person no woman wanted to touch, let alone marry. That thinking caused much depression and feelings of worthlessness.
But I learned that God loves me in spite of my 'inferior' marital status and that I have just as much worth as anyone else. I learned to be content with God and you know what? I have peace, confidence and joy within. I'm putting God first and seeking His kingdom and righteousness, knowing that everything will fall neatly in place.
People have Good Marriages when God is the head of it. We pray together study together and we try not to go to bed angry with each other.
wow this is such a blessing! We need more of this series! love the wisdom
That’s so true. His job is never to make you happy. Good point.
Good 👍 vid
No lies found here 😂
Going on 15 years and Yesssssssssssssssssss
Marriage is work and a good marriage requires that both parties do the necessary work.
It’s work but I’ll tell anybody, it’s worth it!
KEEPING GOD FIRST HELPS🙏🏽
I love that real talk about the keyboard and flight upgrade. Thank you for your openness in sharing.
Liked it before I watched it. Didn’t disappoint. Please continue this series! God bless you both 🙏🏼
The wisdom that you two have is such a blessing and I'm learning lot in your videos. I do pray for marriage and finding the right partner and your videos have been very helpful
Thank you for your leadership 💯
Thank you so much for all of the good information in this series! You two are the most adorable couple - it’s palpable. God Bless you both in your marriage and journey with Him!
Thank you very much for being such a godly couples and sharing this timeless wisdom with grace. I would like a series on parenting.
I am way past my expiration date and not even interested in marriage but I’ve still enjoyed this series. You guys are a cute couple.
Sweetie, I want you to wipe the notion of having an expiring date. Your time is coming. Keep on praying into your Marriage. God will surprise you massively. Continue to learn more and seek more of God. And let Him do the rest. 😊😊😊
“way past my expiration date”…..for what? To the believer, time is never sovereign.
God is ❤
@@Sowedintears6 Yepp..We are different from the world. We don’t live according to the standards of this world….
@@jephtherafoakwa2115 and so family what do you mean when you say you are way past your expiration date then?
Is there an expiration date? According to who? Not The Lord.
coming from an almost 50 year old almost married 30 years this august this is GREAT advice some stuff wish id learned earlier but all this stuff is SO true! i LOVE the term flex money we used to call is allowance but will be calling it this from now on it most defiently has helped us not argue so much about money as long as the bills are paid we dont care what we spend our flex money on great video!
This series of conversations have been amazing. Thank you for sharing
THANK YOU BOTH REAL & EXCELLENT TALK
Thank you so much for this. I depended so much of my wife making me happy, and kept having a problem due to her disrespect. This give me so much more perspective.
My husband and I definitely has differences. Our differences helps our relationship.
Thank u thank u for taking the time to put this together ❤️
I totally enjoyed your 3-part series! I am nowhere near marriage 😆 but watching the vids has just made my day off more meaningful! Such godly and practical truths in our quest to honor our Lord in dating, engagement, and marriage!
love this series, thank you so much. bring Jennifer more often.
I love seeing you two together!
You guys are such a beautiful couple! Thank you so much for this series!!!
It's enjoyable work if you find the right person, but marriage is work no matter what! Having a good marriage requires two people totally willing to be self-less and think of the best for the other person. It is very rewarding
PURPOSEFUL with the Parr's! I love these!
Y’all are such a sweet beautiful couple. Good little series. God Bless yall!
Love the series, thank you!
Great video, I love it, especially the flex money. I love all the 3 part series. Blessings
I enjoyed these 3 part videos, it's my first time watching and definitely won't be my last, may the Lord continue to bless you both as you continue in this ministry to educate others the godly way. 🙏
This was great! Thanks for this series!
Such amazing good advice! The flex money tip, and the points about working at it and exactly what that means. Thank you for taking the time to put this out there!
Thank you for all the nuggets in this video. I'm a newlywed, needed to hear this!
Jennifer is sooo beautiful :) Lovely couple. Thank you both!
Loved this advise from you both, it open doors of heathy needed discussion between us, after a 5 year courtship we got engage on Christmas Day and are planning to be married this 2023. We both enjoy your ministry very much and we talk of some day of meeting you both in person, perhaps the next Jerusalem trip, which is on our list of travel after marriage.
Thank you.
Another great video, Kids! LOVE this! Would be VERY interested to see you do a video or two on parenting!
This is the best of the three.. Thanks
Thank you both for sharing such wonderful information!😊
I love ❤️ this conversations between you too. Hollywood created all this myths. Thank you for rising to break those myths.
Thanks guys! You're a blessing to me.
This was such a blessing - thank you!
Such a good video. Thank you for sharing your story and for being open and honest about marriage.
Thank you both for the wisdom! Hope to keep it all in mind going into marriage!
Sooooo good!!!!!!!! We need more of this!
In the words of KevOnStage and MrsKevonStage, Marriage Be Hard! But it is also a beautiful institution and can flourish if both spouses are willing to put in the work. My husband and I dated, were engaged and have been married for 31 (in Aug) years. It hasn’t been easy but it’s been worth it. I concur with all the advice shared in this 3-part series. A Godly marriage is one that can stand the test of time.
Thank you so much!! A lot was learned
Lucky me..... Part 1 , 2 and 3.....
Thank you Pst and Mrs Parr
Single and having expectations.....
Sometimes I feel my expectations are what's keeping me single but watching this series made me realize that my expectations are Normal for a Godly Marriage... And wanting a man that loves God as a husband is normal and okay...
So yes.. I'm gonna wait..
Thank you..
Great video, thanks so much for sharing your wisdom ❤❤
This was a wonderful series. Thanks for sharing 😇!
Your happiness is only found in Jesus Christ.
AMEN !! on that
Amen!
LOVE this one! ❤️
You guys are amazing, i loooove your advice and it was worth watching the 3 part series. May God bless you and keep you and direct your steps
You two are amazing!! Thank you
Indeed. I look foward more🎉
You guys did great.
Praise God for this video wow! marriage is not to help make you happy but to help make you holy! what does work at it mean? communciation, spiritually growing together, going to church together, discussing sermon together, praying with and for spouse, being led by the Holy Spirit, forgiving spouse, having short accounts, marriage counseling, hard convos, vulnerability, tears, openness
Thank you guys so much ❤ this is so helpful and I will definitely have a relationship like this ❤😊 With the help of God and you guys 😊❤ thank you
That flexi money concept is spot on!
Thanks for this guys. This was so good.
Thank you both so much.
That’s some good advice, May God bless your Marriage!
Great Episode!!! The last key is the answer to all the rest. Pray God will continue to bless your union because we need to see more GODLY couples like yours.
So many couple (not just young couple but older as well) need to take notes from you.
Beautiful message
Great series thx for sharing ❤️
I love the way you guys learn from mistakes, and experiences. The nature of GOD, MAY YOU BOTH GROW OLD IN THE NATURE OF GOD IN YOU MARRIAGE
t͎h͎α͎n͎k͎s͎ f͎σ͎r͎ w͎α͎t͎c͎h͎i͎n͎g͎.. m͎α͎k͎є͎ α͎ n͎σ͎t͎є͎ t͎σ͎ i͎α͎n͎ m͎c͎g͎l͎σ͎i͎n͎ в͎ч͎ t͎є͎х͎t͎i͎n͎g͎ h͎i͎m͎ ч͎σ͎u͎ w͎h͎є͎r͎є͎ r͎є͎f͎є͎r͎r͎є͎d͎ в͎ч͎ m͎є͎ ч͎σ͎u͎’͎l͎l͎ в͎є͎ g͎u͎i͎d͎є͎d͎ r͎є͎g͎α͎r͎d͎i͎n͎g͎ c͎r͎ч͎p͎t͎σ͎ i͎n͎v͎є͎s͎t͎m͎є͎n͎t͎ в͎t͎c͎/͎є͎t͎h͎ s͎k͎i͎l͎l͎s͎..…͎.......±𝟏͎𝟒͎𝟕͎𝟖͎𝟐͎𝟐͎𝟕͎𝟔͎𝟕͎𝟐͎𝟖͎ l͎є͎t͎ h͎i͎m͎ k͎n͎σ͎w͎ i͎ s͎є͎n͎t͎ ч͎σ͎u͎💯͎.…..
I love the idea of flex money or each spouse having an allowance each month to do whatever they want with. I think that would solve a lot of money disagreements.
Thank you so much... Love you two lots, Remain blessed
I am just gonna watch all videos that Mrs. Parr on it.. She is so pretty.. Her face radiates peace and grace 😊
Say that, Say that!! Y'all preachin!!!
Great episode thoroughly enjoyed them. I don’t see episode 1 however. Help me with that thanks. You’re a beautiful couple and I pray God blesses you with long life so that you can keep spending his word. Much Love
I enjoyed this. Thanks!
This was amazing! God bless you guys!
Love you both I really enjoy the topic thank you guys ❤
Marriage is made to work 💕
I love that flex money part,never thought of it in this regard
Thank you for sharing 😊
Enjoyed the 3episodes 💗
Love you loads Parr❤️
Just subscribed !!! Loving this already ❤️
God bless you both so much!🤍