The PROS vs CONS of Marriage
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- In this animation we explore why young men seem to be disinterested in marriage. We also trace the roots of monogamy, take a quick tour of the history of marriage and weigh the PROs & CONs. If you know someone who could benefit from seeing this video please share it with them. Or tell us your thoughts in the comments below. Thanks!
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At work, most of the men who are married tell me not to get married.
i hear it all the time from the guys at my work they are divorced hate lifes have 2 kids and drink their faces off
Men could solve the problems of marriage over night. Never date women with kids. Simple fix that should be signed into law.
how many men say they are" happily" married....none i have talked to...they admit to it like they are ashamed.
@@architdubey5196 lets see... with no wife to divorce me and take half of EVERYTHING and no college to pay for ill be in a big paid off house with more the enough cash to have a hot blonde wet nurse with DD breasts take care of every need....thats my plan at least...gonna be rough
@@architdubey5196 Retirement home? There are nurses who take care of you. What is sad about this statement is how many old people are abandoned in retirement homes even with family. I think having a family should bring happiness but it can bring allot of misery as well. Choose wisely. Don't go for the hot girl go for your best friend.
Marriage is profitable to wedding planners and divorce lawyers
solid snake and photographers.
There is a good documentary on this topic called "Divorce corp."
And probably diamond companies.
And women.
It is sooooooo true!!!! Can’t agree with you more!
A divorce can destroy your life emotionally and economically.
Internet Junkie And don’t forget psychologically as well. A divorced man will have that mental scar for the rest of his life.
Doom slayer!!
It's your choice to be destroyed
So can a marriage !!!!!!!
me and my ex divorced and it was amicable. its rare but it can happen.
Marriage is like water: it can be life-giving, like hydration or life-taking, like drowning.
great analogy
True
I am scared of the drowning part.
No thanks, I will keep renting my happinesses.
Hmmm, I like that.
Married men don't actually live longer. It only SEEMS longer.
hahaha
If they stayed married
@@carlsagan6429 Damn homie... lay off the porn a bit. It's starting to show.
@@keepitahunnid7133
I don't hear the audio bro.
That's what she said...
Some men don't want to get married because they see it as a financial trap.
VES SEV haha that's a good story.
And that never happens.
That's precisely what it is.
It is a financial trap. Especially for the men.
So do us women who are used to holding 2 or 3 jobs and the men want us yo be stay at home moms. My bf just suggested it, i am used to having 2 jobs and would end up clawing the walls if i didnt go to work...
"Married men may live longer, but they are a lot more willing to die"
I saw this spray painted on a van downtown 10 years ago and i still think of it often.
AAnd it's fnnn TRUE !!!!
Kids of...
Divorced parents: it's my fault
Deceased parent: it's the remaining one
Actually, the video's authors got it wrong. On the average, it looks that married people live longer than single people. However, when separated by gender, it turns out that married men have longer life compared to single men. And, married women have SHORTER LIFESPAN than single women.
@@ik1408 Also married men work on average 7 more hours a week until they're 60-65 while single men can retire waaay earlier (around 50 and its probably be earlier and earlier)
@@Ludoovik When I was a married woman, I worked about 10 more hours a week than my (ex)husband, helping him to get his degree. He got his degree and as a gratitude for my help, he tried to kill me twice to collect life insurance. There are just as many men as there are women willing and desiring to take advantage of their partners.
Marriage is just one of many things in our life that we just follow for no reason and without question. Start questioning
Right you have a handbook to study to get your other licenses. Marriage is the only license that you get no hand book or anything to study on the fucking you’re going to get. You are not told that you just blindly get married and keep up with the Jones.
Like religion?
@@effff327 exactly like religion
Exactly! Thank you!
When you become 70, no one will help you other than your children.
After a few years, if you divorce, your closest person becomes you worst enemy and knows the best ways to destroy you. Then they take your family and everything that you own.
I know that. My ex husband and my father are friends but my father's new wife refuses to let my father talk to me because my ex made me call him a cab home at their wedding... he got way to drunk and couldn't hardly stand up
Quite ironic, isn't it?
You speak the truth.
This guy is an amoral beta male loser
yep
Someone’s hurting 👀
So a 50% chance to Lose more than half of what I own? No thanks
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@@amazonmonopoly6869 the struggle is real. Women are expected not to want sex as often tho so Its easier (assuming you're a guy? )
Correlation =/= causation the odds of you getting a divorce after marrying someone isn't a 50/50 chance. Marriage is still a scam though.
50% chance of losing 50% lol
you would rather leave the mother of you kids in the streets begging for food before she can have some financial security after a divorce? Would you have the heart and stomach to hurt your ex wife even if there was a divorce. Man can always have a new family. For a women is not so easy for find a new man specially if she is OLD. SO if a women is the wife of a man for 10 20 30 plus years, it would be unfair that she would come out with nothing after investing all that time. Its just common sense. Nothing can work if people go in it with this egoistic mindset or fearful.
Your con list wasn't even close to how long it is in reality.
Was supposed to get married last June, but called off the wedding a month before. Hands down the best decision I’ve ever made.
Super-duper S-M-A-R-T !!!!!!!!!!!!
Thank GOD you did. Everything in traditions they gave us was to keep the ECONOMY GOING, they need you in situations where you are going to SPEND MONEY and marriage and kids with that life draining HOUSE with it’s never ending EXPENSES is where they need you. GUYS, IF YOU WANT FREEDOM FROM MISERY, DO NOT GET MARRIED. It is a TRAP THAT WILL DESTROY YOU. DO NOT LET THE BANKERS POLITICIANS AND WEALTHY INDUSTRIALISTS (corporation owners) enslave you to this system....
Congratulations for saving your life.
Lol
I'm female and I always ask my boyfriend why he wants to marry me when he's the one who will be fucked over if we ever divorce. Marriage is a scam.
Wait. Unless I missed something none of the "pros" would benefit men.
yes, thank you. i was waiting for a comment like that
You're welcome. It seems obvious and I am not sure why the video creator refuses to explain that.
senseofstile Marriage is way more beneficial to women than it is to men. They will always win the court battles in a divorce, they'll always win custody of the kids, and they'll take all of your money as well. It makes sense why fewer men in this day and age would rather not get married, there's nothing to gain from it anymore
Yes, that is quite evident. Although the video creator has a male sounding voice, it is difficult a male would post such a video
senseofstile Big facts
"Fewer and fewer men are getting married these days". In other words-- "More and more men are wising the hell up these days"
MARRIED IS BENEFIT THE WOMEN NOT MAN, YOU JUST BE IN TRAP WHEN SHE SAID ,,,i dont love you anymore
All those happy millennials. Wow. They are all the image of happiness and of fulfillment right. So wise too. Try this once: self-reflect.
hit it and quit it
Yeah and to be honest way back in the day marriage was only really for claiming a women so you Could have kids and repopulate the country of city state you lived in caue of war like in ancient Greece but now we are over populated and more men going mgtow means theres hope we can one day fix the over population crisis one day I wish life was like in video games where if you loved someone you got married had kids and lived in white picket fence house but no such luck what has the world come to this is why If i can I want to download my consciousness into a vr world and live with perfect women forever 2d women cause let's face it finding love isn't that much of a big deal nowadays
@@bobmcbobbington9220 Please excuse us while we grow up in a world completely different from every other generation, you don't know the world we grew up in...it's not the world you grew up in. Try this once: reflect on how society has changed and tell us how we're logically incorrect. I'll wait.
When I was young, my wealthy grandpa was dying in his bed, had all the family members gathered by his bed. His last word to me was "Never get married.. all you need to do is hire couple nurses when you are old.." that line stuck in my head since I was young and I've been only dating since
Rip. I hope u r happy with ur life :)
Good for you . You only need to be aware of the girlfriend, as she will try to persuade you to marry her!
Yoo this is so simple yet so eye opening
castlevina “the day of judgement” stfu a loving god would never judge u his love is unconditional!
But then again he wouldn't have your family - children and grandkids - that gathered around him if he never got married! He'd die with only the couple nurses he hired to be beside him. So your grandpa didn't see the importance of your family being there.
I'm a millennial. I got married in my early 30's. My 2 year anniversary was yesterday. Happily married, with a kid on the way, to a woman I've known for over 10 years.
We're very practical and we try not to do things in a 'traditional' manner. My wedding cost under $5k including rings. We rather buy a house and stay out of debt. We're best friends.
Life could not be better!
Why are you watching a video on the pros and cons of marriage?! Trying to convince yourself?
@@DSN262 😂 Maybe he's just curious.
@@alexism.7712 "Curiosity killed the cat"
It's only 2 years tho... but I wish you the best.
You're going to regret that more than you can possibly imagine!!! Why are you here anyway??
What about alimony, child support, and losing custody of the kids?
They are
That's more of the good stuff men get to look forward to.
Men are no longer important save as a support system for the government's children. You have to be insane to get married.
I will tell you right now that marriage is one of the most wonderful bonds in life. I’ve personally been married 7 times
@Alpha Dog its never to late to find love man
If it’s one of the most wonderful bonds why have you broken 6 of those bonds?
@@kevinvictoria3957 sometimes only one side is the breaker of the bond and your heart. some women will leave u and break the bond wen u wanted to keep it strong. my second wife sanjuna left me for another man, 3rd wife left me for another women, my 5th wife died of yeast infection.
YOU GO BRO #8
Haha.. u must be from Afrika
I love being single. I get to do what i want. No dealing with anyone's ego.
Call me when you hit the wall
@@kanagawayarichin Men hit the wall at 30, bald heads, wrinkles, you name it. Don’t call us unless you’re 25 or younger. Old men are ugly.
Amen
@@Natashaa_1 shut up
@@Natashaa_1 Mad you're 40 single and the only thing that tolerate you are your cats?
Love is blind but marriage is an EYE OPENER!!!!
😂😂😂
Well said
I’m gonna tell you what happened to a friend of mine. He dated a girl for 5 years and She moved in with him. He bought her dream home when they got engaged. It was a really expensive and nice home. So a year later after they planned a huge marriage. It was an expensive wedding. They had everything in order. He loved this girl to death and would die for her. So a week before the wedding, she comes up to him and says she’s leaving him and that she’d been cheating on him the whole time, and that she’s found another man, and leaves him there. He lost thousands of dollars from that wedding. He eventually lost the dream home. He lives in a small apartment now, has bad suicidal depression, and hasn’t had a gf since her because he doesn’t trust women other than a couple friends. The man is most likely gonna die alone :(
Vianna Janelle yup
Proverbs 6:26 - For by means of a whorish woman a man is brought to a piece of bread: and the adulteress will hunt for the precious life.
That bitch
I read these stories all the time. This is why I don’t trust women. I had a girlfriend who I loved, but she was very selfish. She always talked about her and I getting married. At first, I was down until she started pressuring me and told me that I was in the red zone. When she said that a lightbulb went off in my head, I started thinking about what my life would be with her crazy ass. So I gave her a decision, either do what I want or it’s over. She refused to do it and now I’m FREE! The sex was great, but I didn’t want to be miserable anymore.
Valentines day needs to dissappear. LOL
If I gave you a parachute and told you there was 50% chance it would not work, would you still jump? Marriage is a 50/50 chance.
What about if I researched what made a parachute work and thoughtfully observed the parachute? Then maybe I would be able to tell if it would work or not.
If you truly wish to stay married with another person who truly wants to stay married it is not 50/50.
Chrissy Eh? The chances are still 50/50.
@@wanelly That's not really how probability works but okay.
Chrissy Eh? The probability of a divorce based on the USA data is 50%. There is no opinion or any deviation from it. Basically, of all the people that you know who are married, 50% of them will end up being divorced. The good thing is that divorce only happens to bad marriages...
@@wanelly that's US data. If you changed the population to just mormons for example a church I grew up in and know many married couples from, it's not going to be 50% rate of marriages that end in divorce. You're saying it'll be either a failure or a success so why take the chance except when some people that are 100% against divorce marry someone 100% against divorce that concept is inapplicable. Surprise how about we marry people we actually love and trust and want an ongoing relationship with.
Why can't you live with your loved one without getting married
Because fuck you give me money
Because women want the guarenteed access to your money.
Common law Marriage still comes into play depending on the state you live in
@@tolkien11 true... very true...
Unfortunately a lot of guys end up having to make a hard choice, b/c its usually a relationship deal breaker.
She'll have "nicer" reasons than wanting your money when she tries to convince you, but ultimately, if she considers this a deal breaker, those reasons are more important than wanting to be with you, which sounds like a pretty good reason to leave her anyway.
I would love to see a pro marriage comment. This comment section is brutal lol
FYI , not married. But love to hear both sides to every disagreement
I love being married. The people that say don’t do it are usually not good at picking the right partner..they’re just picking the right now partner.
I like it a lot, but I didn't get married until I was 39 years old and my wife is from another country and culture. Also, only 5 years into it. It's not bad with a good woman.
@@aguywithaname7764 lol people change all the time. Are you the SAME EXACT PERSON u were 10 years back? When u marry a woman she might be great, after 7 years she might change and now u are forced to give her all of your money just because she doesn't feel love anymore
If you're a guy there is no pro.
@@duyas1628 kids mate, that's a big pro. I wouldn't have believed it either when I was single.
I like how my friends got married. They got married in a local park, dressed in clothes they already owned, asked the guests (only friends and local family) to bring the food, and the person who asked them their vows was my friend's aunt.
In the end the only money they had to put up was for the marriage license and any paperwork.
Amanda Glace that's the way to do it. If you're trying to be extravagant, youre just showing off and being a poser
They divorced yet?
That's the best way to get married tbh
Right, because the women's payout will come in divorce court.
Amanda Glace don't worry ,they will end up in divorce and all the money that guy saved in marriage ,he will loose to girl after divorce
Marriage isn't really the problem. Its just that over time people sorta hate each other. And today no one cares enough about anyone to work thru it. No one is a princess and their are no prince charming. Just depressed individuals who want out.
Uh, no. First, 70%+ women want out of all divorces in the US. Secondly, if there is something that is causing such disproportion, there must be an incentive to women to opt out. In reality, women are opting out of marriage (which they have no commitment) but have the benefit of having the man not opt.
This basically allows them to have sex with other men while the husband subsidizes her for doing this.
Yes true, plenty of marriages end because people don't realize it's work
I've been married twice, both lasted from courting to divorce, about 20 years. My thinking is that biologically, humans used to live 20 years or less, perhaps 18 years some 2,000 years ago. Just enough time to have children, and see after them a bit. They probably had children as soon as the could. Sooooooooooooo, perhaps 20 years is enough time learn to hate your spouse. So at age 70, if I were to marry again, I would tell her this, and warn her that in 20 years, I outta there.
i totally agree, i think its just a matter of first, knowing that u are with the right person for you, and second, lots of communication, this is key, and trust. Marriage or not, it really is like any other long term compromise. All relationships need work and care from both sides. I dont necessarily believe that u need to get married with your partner in order to build a life together. I think its a matter of personal preference.
That hit a little too close to home :(
I learned young, that marriage was simply asking to completely ruin your life. Even as a child, I knew of not a single solitary example of a marriage which was not a veritable nightmare.
I commissioned myself to remain unmarried. Thank You God.
I can surely see I made no mistake.
Why would a person get married in the first place, I could never understand that; marriage belongs only in storybooks.
I certainly never regretted it.
Now, had I done otherwise,
I'm sure this comment would read VERY differently.
Seeing my parents marriage was enough for me not to get married
Your outlook is based on your own experience not based on facts.
Your thoughts on others leads you to never expect anything from anyone. Your ass will need to be wiped one day. Understand today wants is not tomorrow needs.
@@MrDan11422 k
@@MrDan11422 your kids could still leave you dying and they usually do. Who lives with their 70 year old parents it's 2022 now
You will have to arrange for something where you can be taken care of at old age either way and you have better opportunities and chances of being financially strong enough by that age if you stay away from liabilities like marriage and kids.
I am open to having my mind changed
@@MrDan11422 experience itself is a fact.
I've been married for 3 years now, been together for 6. Definitely greatest decision we have made. She lifts me up when im down, keeps me level headed. She makes hard decisions easy for me. We travel, explore, started businesses, HAVE 5 CHILDREN. It's saddening to see how many people are so negative about marriage. Find the right person for YOU. Not your situation. It did not take long after us being together that I knew we would be together forever. Theres always ups and downs but with proper communication and patience and genuine love there should be nothing that cannot be overcome. BTW we are millennials. 28 years young
@J Kidd stfu please
"Together forever." You're in LOVE!!!! But son, when the inevitable time comes, know that you are not alone, and start watching Tom Leykis videos. Just don't before then. "Blow Me Up Tom!"
uk7769 the inevitable? And whats that? Divorce? Seperation? Its funny how sad people are in their own life to project, and predict anothers life. We are solid, and nobody's sad silly comment will change that. What's inevitable, is not what can be predicted by some miserable fools on youtube. There is no question that what we have is eternal. I just wish you all could find the same. Unfortunately with the mindset of the few that have commented so far, THAT will NEVER happen.
@@codygooden3638 I'm happy for you, man! Nothing wrong with being happy.
Congrats dude. Hope it lasts till infinity. It’s all by luck though so hopefully I’m as fortunate as you one day :). Not all of them are bad...but statistically speaking....my luck is getting worse by the day.
If an airplane had a 50/50 of crashing, would you get on it?
More like 50% chance to crush during flight and 75% chance to burn down when its done landing
🤣🤣🤣🤣
At least when the plane crashes you die right away. Marriage is a slow and painful death.
No
@@alanj554 amen Brother!🙏
Married men does not live longer it just feel longer
😂
Touché
Facts
Bahahaha hilarious
🤣🤣🤣😭
Society's pressure to get married looms in your 30's like you're a freak if you're not when I just genuinely want to be financially stable, happy, and as stress free as I can tbh
Exactly , people got life twisted I’m
35 and I’m the best shape physically and mentally and am happy everyday , most people are sheep and will do whatever everyone else is doing , I got my own condo drive a Benz got money in the bank I’m living great but ppl think cuz I’m not Marriad I should be unhappy lol fools
@@harpreetweston right but getting married doesn't make people sheep, for you being single gives you that feeling, for me that feeling comes from my partner and making him happy
100 percent bro congrats to you for finding your soulmate , for most people that just don’t happen . Marriage when it comes to your way is blessing , take care god bless
Married people are way more financially stable and own way more property statistically. It’s very hard to build wealth alone and much easier as a team.
I would definitely get married under one condition: we split or share whatever we made together, but we both leave with whatever we came with.
The outcome of a marriage depends on the laws of the county/state you live in AND AND AND the whims of the judge who handle your case.
It's called a prenup
lawyers taking an easy 10-20%
Also, I would like to add to the suggestions at the end to not listen to your f*&%ing parents. Whether they pressure you to get married, or if you decide to get married and they pressure you to have a big expensive wedding, don't listen to them. Do your own thing, especially if you're paying for it.
Rollie55 If you find yourself with some as irrational as that, you probably shouldn't be with them at all.
Fat Black Auto San Andreas well then you'd just be single forever at that point
Kelpy G Not every woman is a using bitch expecting to be molly coddled ;)
Not to be an ass, but maybe men should start saying "no" to women who don't share the bill on date night and especially when they begin to demand expensive weddings. We exist, I'm proof, and I know other ladies personally who think the same as I do. Yeah, maybe dating will get a bit more difficult but I think it's worth it to find a decent and loving partner. cheers.
All InOne In my dating experience I've always shared the bill or my date has offered to pay and I've refused. Still, there are some who insist. Any woman who expects a man to pay is disgusting, I certainly don't want to pay for two people so I'm sure he won't either.
PROS - 0
CONS - Unlimited
All benefits are legal. Like health insurance
@@yashaouchan but the man pays for it in most cases.
Alex Park Actually, children are a pro.
That’s assuming Karen doesn’t take the kids though.
The pros stay single and get rich
@@orppranator5230 that's such b.s. I hate how in divorces women almost always get kids unless proven unfit. Should be 50/50
If my sister ever get married I am going to feel bad for my sister's husband
Same buddy
Same bro
Hahaha that's mean.
So damn relatable. What I have realised is, most women in my family, they have an appealing facade, both interms of appearance and character, the flaw is hidden deep within.
I'm so certain that whosoever lives with them would never thrive for how brutally pathetic they are, but whosoever talks to them just for a while would feel pleased by their presence.
This gave me the realisation that most women are not who they seem to be, a few dates wouldn't let us know who they truly are.
Most men aren't gentle either, and this brought me to an utter conclusion that the fancy facade, is nothing but a deception, the sweet words and soothing service is nothing but a misdirection.
It may take years or even eons to properly know what's within.
If a woman tells you she wants to get married because you make her "happy" that's a red flag. Why?
Happiness is a mindset, which means that as she ages (nothing to do with maturity BTW) her idea of happiness will change as it will for the man, however the man DID NOT get married for "Happiness", he got married for the vagina and companionship.
How can happiness for her change? Let's look at her default languages.
Her first love language - money. Either you do not make enough to excite her anymore OR you make too much which requires you to be away from her more.
Her second love language - attention. They love to be desired and to turn heads, its why they cover their faces with powder and toxic chemicals to appeal to both sexes (not just men), some argue they wear toxic chemicals to appeal to the same sex more often than the opposite sex. Either you make her feel sexy 24/7 or you don't look at her "the same" anymore.
Her third love language - Adaptation. The female species believe that as a man you should adapt to her changes in life BUT DO NOT expect her to adapt to yours. Of course they will say they would or "I'm not like that" but statistically they're lying.
Who do I personally blame? I blame their grandmothers and mothers OR lack thereof. As little girls they were not taught the role of a woman in a family & to some extent in society. So as they grew into their manipulative bodies & vain mindsets they created their own ideology of what it means to be a woman which sadly in current times repulse men (at-least the ones with standards) and will begin a life where they become damaged.
Their outcome is limited
1. Single Mom = bouncing around men hoping one commits to raising the DNA of another man
2. Lesbian - deciding to scissor their significant other for as long as that lasts
3. Alone - where they become bitter and grow a dislike in men due to their inability to identify the problems within themselves.
As men we have to set standards high and also develop ourselves (physically, spiritually, financially) first in order to retain respect from the female species.
Girls will stop going to clubs for whoring hour if men would stop going there for whoring as well.
Girls will stop makeup and surgery if men admit how dumb or ugly it actually looks and our desire for natural beauty
Girls will stop divorcing you if you lay down your intent in marriage and for crying out loud STOP GETTING A MARRIAGE LICENSE!
You DO NOT NEED A MARRIAGE LICENSE, do you own research about that, this way the state is not allowed in your affairs and due to NO CHILD SUPPORT given she may even try to work out the marriage since there is no monetary incentive to ruin her children lives by removing both parents from under the same roof.
In closing one thing both sexes need to realize and some will through painful experiences, YOU CAN NOT FIX A BROKEN PERSON!
Broken people BREAK normal people. Do everything in your power to find out if the person is broken or damaged before you invest your time, love and energy into that individual otherwise they will hurt you in the long run.
@NightWolf It's the responsibility of both parents to raise a child. The mom isn't specifically in charge of the girl, and if that's how you think it is you've gone blind my friend.
Tristan Morales number one doesn’t work with American women because a lot of them out earn their partners
NightWolf this comment is so off lol you must of grown up if a shitty area
NightWolf
Who hurt you
Wise speech! Choose carefully your soulmate before it's too late!
Set conditions as if it's a business contract, clarifying roles and responsibilities.
Set priorities, financial plans so, no complaints are to be made in the future!
Who's the man of the house? Who's the house maker?
Learn How to raise children in a healthy environment?!
the fact that you don't mention the skewed divorce courts against men as one of the main reason men avoid marriage shows you did little research.
Not always. My dad had ties to a court judge that got him everything in the divorce and left me and my mother without anything. He beat her and tried to kill her, yet he got away without paying child support and took all material goods.
50% of women don’t get anything. Women are gradually becoming the bread winners. Furthermore, if you can have a woman sign a prenup before marriage to keep assets.
But they did mention the fact that divorced women have less money......you think the court might be doing that to help women who make less in general and have to spend more on the kids after?.......
@@wedeservetoheal Isn't the bias then that the courts assume the child needs to be left with the mother?
@@wedeservetoheal - Women make more than men nowadays. STOP with your antiquated bullsh*t lies.
I hate the Concept of alimony.
Max, it's legalized theft!
Only requirement to pay alimony is to have male parts. It’s an incredibly sexist double-standard making women have the upper hand. Just like child custody. Unless the woman is a crack whore out on the steeet or doesn’t want the child, she’s always in favor.
@@jondstewart yup. One of the biggest reasons guys dont stay around and raise their kids. Men have to pay out the ass and barely see their kids. Why would they stick around?
Alimony is actually from back in the day when women didn't work but for some reason it's still around.
@@Alan_One1 because the feminists got what they wanted ; equal rights and far less responsibilities
Marriage is like betting someone half of your stuff that they could love you forever
Never thought of it like that
Just got married 5 months ago. Our conversation last night made me rethink every decision that I have made.
Hi how are u now? I hope all is well take care, exersize
Try to work it out anyway possible.
Is everything okay brother?
I hope you doing fine.
Ok so basically you don’t get one piece of paper you get another!?!? And even if you don’t get married you may still have to go through legal proceedings to separate shared property, animals, and/or children. Weddings wouldn’t stress people out if they would just enjoy getting married instead of trying to impress people who are probably rooting for your failure.
msluvlee717 Just because the average couple spends $30k, doesn’t mean you have to. Most people in debt get divorced. If you don’t have debt right away, it helps immensely.
Every single benefit real or imagined with being married can be achieved without being married
I would spend 10k for a wedding not 30k
Infact you don't even need a wedding you can just get the paper and boom your hitched no debt weddings are stupid don't have one also fuck getting married for me if I want a kid hello adoption center
Marriage is honorable and the bed undefiled but, God never said to marry the state and that is what a state marriage license is. God intended to Govern marriage in holy matrimony and not be have it dictated by a Marist government. Marriage is a Covenant between two people who become one with God. A Government can't make a true covenant in marriage because marriage is ordained by God just like government can't license you as a preacher because that is ordained by God. For thousands of years people joined together in the sight of God, officiated by a minister outside of any legal arrangement with the state. The state has no business in the marriage business. And you make valid points and cheers!
The person that created marriage is crazy, they be like *"I'm so in love with you that I'm gonna get the government involved so you couldn't leave me"* .
When you have to get the government involved to prove you love someone is a red flag right there it's a trap you can't get out of that's not love many men who are not happy who are married can't leave because if they do they lose everything. The woman on the other hand can cheat take the house and kids take the car have the man she cheated on you with move in with her and the kids while you pay alimony and child support and live in a cheap run down apartment with your life ruined.
I have friends who are married and it seem like a prison camp. 🤣
Then they shouldn't have gotten married
Only if they are lying
Or a plantation .. man being the slave
Marriage or Divorce, either ways its like a Death Penalty for Men anyway. You can ask any married or divorced Man for confirmation!😂😂😂
Im sure millions of divorced men would rather be dead than paying alimony and child support just for the bitch to spend it on clothes
@@wanilimbe or her crack addiction
I'm gonna explain in 2 WORDS why women still want to get married :
Walt, Disney.
Walt Disney sold a falsehood to women. There are no princes out there.
It's kind of funny that Disney sold such a loving scenario to them, much less enough to want it... as that kind of love is how men feel, not women.
@@AnthonySforza men are the true romantics. MGTOW
Spot on dude! Spot! On! 😂😂😂
so do men....
Thinking that marriage is an obligation is the first mistake. Thinking that having kids is an obligation is the second.
Amen to that
💯
More and more people realise, it is not worth it to trade your freedom with marriage
exactly
The women can marry themselves now, start a family, and protect each other...since they don't need no man.
Yeah we don't lol but I still love boys
Without even watching the video...dont do it, don't do it and don't do it!
Jesus, was it really that bad for you? 0_0
Alexnadru Dinca - yep and I would advise any man considering marriage their fools. Family courts are biased against men. An unknown judge will tell you when and if you can see your children. They will tell you what you're going to do with your property and income. While your ex will go to court for no contact orders, use your children as pawns. Trust me guys it will happen to you. The woman your considering marrying is no different from any other woman out there.
+john doe
hey don't forget the most important part: don't do it!
@@johndoe-wv3nu your mother must be a greedy bitch then. Lol
+bryson chatman
his mother or his wife?
either way doesn't matter because many young men have their mother do the same shit to their fathers and step-fathers
I wanted to married when i was 21 but my gf (same age) said we are young and we must live our lives before we made this big step!
Now at 34 i dont even want to hear about kids and marriage.
Sounds about right. 50 years ago u would have had wife, prob a good one.
That's a very mature thing for your gf at the time to say. I respect that.
Rayven Wrong. It was an ignorant one.
Women are at their most marriageable at 25. After that, the quality of men they can attract goes down and down. She should have settled down early, to get the best possible man. Now she will die as a cat lady.
Meaning your far more mature than you where before
that was her way of telling you she was getting dick somewhere else
Dont get leashed. Enjoy your freedom. You will regret it.
That's what I think too. Marriage is overrated and a waste of life. I choose not to be overendebted.
I got divorced 5 or 6 years ago and went celibate, and I’m living my best life ever!!!! I smile before bed and upon waking up!!! 👍🏽🥰
Amen girl. Marriage is a scam. I'm supposed to be a man's slaves , work cook clean sex, and get cheated on and put up with men's nasty attitude...no thank you. I'm cam survive on my own and be a single mom of 4 . I actually smile now.
yeshua my saviour you deserve the best. I had to drill that into my head and actually believe that I don’t have to conform to that hype about marriage. To tell you the truth, people that I know and are married are at the doctor’s office more than single people!!!! Smh
I am an epidemiologist and make my own money.
yeshua my saviour absolutely, you and any woman can live a peaceful and abundant life solo:-)
you know truly you aren’t celibate thats just a mask you put on to make yourself seems better to others
I’m a married woman and strangely enough I believe that men have little incentive to get married. My husband has been divorced a few times before and it’s given me insight into the inequality and sexist nature of divorce court. I agreed to sign a prenup so that in the (God forbid) event of a divorce, I wouldn’t take his pension that his ex tried to take. I feel for divorcing men who genuinely are good fathers and and husbands but their wives were too unwilling to work harder at the marriage knowing full well that divorce favors them. Why should a divorced woman be entitled to anything? If I quit my job, I am not entitled to the same lifestyle that I had while employed. It’s my responsibility to make my life better, not depend on an ex anything.
Society is all about women, no one cares about men. Most women are to self centered to even see it.
Mgtow Boo Boo as a woman I agree with this statement. We make too many choices based on our ever-changing emotions.
@@mgtowbooboo8530 It's a shame because men used to be respected in society. Being a man actually meant something and now we are reduced to tools. It will rebalance itself eventually because men are the backbone of society after all.
Life Form men is no longer respected because when they’re in charge they oppress women. And now, karma.
Kelly Leung you know nothing. If you read some history books you would understand men never oppressed women. Women relied on men cause they couldn’t survive on their own. Ever heard of dowries?
Do you have reliable sources regarding the 1st half of the video talking about the history of marriage ?!
The Sources you listed are mostly opinion articles not facts.
Basem Tawfek well when the subject of the video, (marriage) is really about feelings, that makes the subject of the video completely subjective. I wouldn’t say you could properly article feelings anyway, and why humans feel them.
He meant the history, not the 2ed part about feelings.
Exactly.
the future will be a sight too see mark my words a bunch of senior single citizens no children the level of selfishness will go through the roof. Because if you think about it people are already pretty shitty to each others and the towards the planet right !!! So with the marriage and children born per year rate lowering every year the less people will care about how they treat each other or what they leave for future generations.
Honestly, I think when you get to the deepest parts of history, we can pretty much only guess anyway. I'd say just take that section with a grain of salt.
Now I understand why people in Asia get married to virtual characters, they remain young and cute for ever and they don’t take your stuff, win/win
Look up a beyond-the-bot video with Curt Richy; he looks into how expensive some of those marriages can be actually
Marriage isn’t that bad.. been married 5 years & i only think about killing my self every other month .
It's no secret that divorce laws in the US favor women. Oh wait, it must be, because here's a video about why men aren't getting married that goes for over ten minutes without mentioning alimony or visitation rights.
my visitation rights are on a Tuesday from noon-3pm, even though i raised/had my kid 7days a week, she found a new man and lets him be dad now while i give her my pay checks
Sorry Greg. No one cares about men.
and what the fuck, tuesdays 12 - 3 are fuckin' working hours. unless you have tuesdays off, how the fuck is this doable?
My parents pressure me and my sisters to NOT get married. They have been happily married for 43 years but they tell us there is nothing wrong with living with someone you love and building a live together without the legally binding documents.
I think they don't want you to come back home. Crying after the divorce and you out on your butts. Smart parents
scott sanger depends on the state
@scott sanger I don't understand this common law marriage if your assets and finances are not tied together how can she legally take half of it when you technically own it all since you are not technically married doesn't really make sense
There's an interesting thread on Plozee about this. A couple of reasons why ppl are choosing not to get married:
- independence. You aren't tied down to anyone.
- money. You get divorced and watch your wallet get lighter. Lawyers are expensive.
- tradition. Do we even question why we do things anymore? Who cares if people have done it in the past. We need to ask ourselves if marriage is still suitable for the 21st century
Marriage is not good. I know 4 or 5 couples whom are married that are not happy. Its scary some of the stuff they tell me. I say dont do it.
Ninja k Do you think marriage can be a very useful tool for raising kids though?
So u want more single moms raising kids ??? Then those children have to help the single parents and have lil time or money for them. Sinve their parents are un able to do everything alone.
Sam Stfu with you trolling and shaming men under every comment thread!!
@@Walking-MY-Path are you another single mom maker?
Sam I never married.
I don’t see any benefits for man not one
Then don't get married :)
I did two times
Horrible
Awh man I'm sorry
@@teddythickness7734 Yeah I don't see either happening but I guess I'll find out eventually! Though that would be very disappointing, I care for him quite a lot, and he seems to like me back. Hahhaa everyone is dysfunctional, you're a step ahead when you accept that.
@@letsstartadialogueeh7692 True!
Divorce is a great way for your ex wife to take HALF of what you own.
so fuck it, why should anyone give up half of his shit
League of Cancer the solution is not to get married in the first place
You're a dumbass for sharing a chunk of what you own to your spouse if they have done little or less than what they've done for you.
I agree
i am not even married lol
Those who end up in this problem often find that the root cause is not setting the prenuptial agreements beforehand in order to protect personal assets in the event of a divorce.
I'm married for 13 years and I wish i wasn't! And i approve this message!!! Just don't get married for Gods sakes!!!
Then divorce the lady and let her be free to find someone who actually wants to be with her.
I just cancelled an engagement and fully planned wedding that was supposed to happen in 3 months. Glad I came to my senses. I think marriage at this point in society is less about love and romance and more about money and government benefits. You can still have a long term committed relationship without marriage and the risks of what comes with divorce.
@J Kidd The 'benefits' being more than financial. It also comes with "look how happy and wanted I am." bragging rights. It's all an illusion.
Marriage was never about love and romance.
There's this thing that I saw once (probably isn't true for everyone) that the more you spend on your wedding the more likely you are to get divorced with the person you married
If I ever get married I probably won't spend much, but can someone explain this to me?
@@michaelstephenvargas8821 I'm 26, my wife and I have been together for 8 years (married for four) and our relationship is amazing. We also spent about 100 dollars on our "wedding" we invited a justice of the peace (USA) to our favorite restaurant, along with our parents. We had lunch said our vows and signed the paper. I think the reason a more expensive wedding makes divorce more likey, isn't really about the wedding, it's about the couple. To me a big expensive wedding is more about showing off, for lack of a better term, rather than committing to the one you love. It's an ego boost for the couple and if you're going into a marriage for an ego boost, you have the wrong idea. That being said I don't think this applies to everyone, though I don't know anyone personally who spent 30 grand or more on a wedding.
@@muttman12 yeah, nice explanation
My parents got married in a courthouse. Their marriage license cost more then my mom’s “wedding dress”. They just celebrated 28 years.
the amount i would spent on a wedding is $0
IMO, for men, if you are not married by age 30 the cons greatly outweigh the pros. I'd rather have my freedom and money.
gwwayner I want to get married I hate being single!!!
@@MrGZM90 Your'e going to hate being married even more you'll regret it
guys. remember when u were so happy and free when u finally moved out of home? having a wife is like getting a mom back again
Lol this is exactly the type of comment I’d expect from someone who’d be the reason of a failed marriage
Me and a buddy of mine are thinking about getting a place together. We've known each other since middle school and have been good friends for 11 years now (longer than what most marriages last these days). No we're not gay, but there is probably not a thing I don't know about him and vice versa; that's how strong our bond is. Both of us have been down on our luck when it comes to women. Though I've never been in a toxic relationship myself, my buddy has had his fair share of heartbreaks. One girl he dated hurt him so bad he tried killing himself. It's nice knowing that we can rely on each other. If one of us had a rough day at work, then he or I can take comfort in knowing that we're coming home to a cold beer, video games, and a good friend. You don't need a woman for emotional support when you have friends and family.
Hell yea!!!
That sounds perfect! Except for me, it's not necessary I need my fam or something, but having to do what u dream about and a good friend is enough.
Wooow that's seriously awesome, I wish I could have this kind of friendship in my life, that's all you need. You guys can even travel together and share costs, when you want to sell your property it's easier to divide profits without divorce. You guys will be friends till death than many so called commitment married couples
Definitely gay boys.....
I have been single for most of my life. I have no interest in geting marryed or having kids. I like my freedom to much.
right?!
Most men out here are selfish anyway, so why should a women bother? I too like my freedom too much to change my last name for any man.
Marriage is a scam itself LOL. Marriage is a Prison and the only way to get out is to pay with everything you have.
@@vanaphill2454 Lol You sure about that? I have a crush right now. I love her with all my heart. If we were to get married. I would not be selfish. I would be caring. I would be gentle. To be honest with your men are scared of what women can do in today's society. *cough* (take all the money and leave) *cough* Wow that was a long cough. It doesn't even make any sense since this is written text. 😂
@@vanaphill2454 girrrrl, same lol fuck all that nonsense
It's funny how in your pros you miss one of the most important reasons to get married. Look at the stats on the difference between kids raised in a two parent household vs. kids raised by single parents.
Came here just to say this.
I'm a man and I'm afraid my free life after marriage will disappear. Now my parents want me to get married. I wonder if life after marriage is as stressful as I thought it would be!
There are no advantages for a man to get married just life ruining risks that all rely on her feelings, marriage is the worst contract you can get avoid it.
Q: How are women and a hurricane alike?
A: When they arrive they're both wet and wild, when they leave, they take your house and your car and everything else.
HAHAAHAHAHAHAHAAHSH NAHHH I'M USING THAT. HSHSHSHS
Not to mention leaving your life being flooded with bullshit that takes years to recover from.
And I shall call her "Katrina" or "Sandy" 🤣🤣
@@JULYXXIV
Ike...?
Because men never EVER do anything like that to women right?
married people dont look happy to me if anything they look stressed
kek.. 2 of my close friends got married young and until now they living together happily
@Ice i can confirm that its true.. their children are raised well and ofc it doesnt go happy all the way through like fucking fairy tales! there will be ups and down but they went through all of them together, the commitment and loyalty remains.
@Ice then go on.. do you really have to tell me that? if thats your choice then fk with that... but that doesnt mean the world and everyone go by your thought of nobody have a happy marriage. You can believe that but you cant force people to believe that
@Ice mgtow is only golden path to hapiness.
I have friends and relatives who have a child and some are still in high school. And they don't seem to give a damn. WHY?
A friend of mine was engaged for 15 year's but divorced after 3 year's...
That couple is super dumb your supposed to get marry early not at the end. Lol
I think marriage can be a beautiful thing. As long as it is about loving each other unconditionally. No control. No expectations. Just best friends without an agenda. ♥️
in a parallel universe.
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Agreed but I believe there’s other factors to a successful marriage. Equality, being faithful(no hoeing around, partying, basically anything that can lead to cheating), sacrifices, love for each other, interest in each other and morals
In a sitcom it is possible, in reality only if you are obsessed with that other person and they are with you
OMG ... help me stop laughing at your naivete!!
Those who create debt for a marriage ceremony are just foolish. I get that they want to have a "happy celebration" but they should be able to afford it foremost. Plus, a big wedding cake, a white dress and black tux, and countless guests are not what makes a marriage ceremony "happy." Far from it; from what I've seen it creates more stress than happiness. But hey, you do you booboo.
msk omg yes as turkish man i can tell you a marriage celebration day costs 10-20 thousand dollars anything less is seen as cheap.
30 grand? My wife and I spent maybe 1 grand! She grew up poor like me, and despises debt. Lower debt, less chance of divorce.
Oguz Oflaz
You must be of royal blood to spend that much for a show off
msk they can skip the fancy wedding and just have a practical civil marriage/wedding ceremony.
People care too much about "being seen as cheap"
Those who care about that, care more about what other people think of them than the financial stability and happiness of the actual marriage, unfortunately..
It's the whole diamond ring dilemma again. If you can't say "yes" because someone presented you with a cheap ring, then you don't deserve that person's devotion anyway, gold digger.
Money sucks, basically, lol.
I cant wait to not get married.
Can i not attend your not wedding?
So did you not getting married
@@zyzmal2004 no sir , he just can't wait to not get married
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Ive never actually met a married man who told me he was glad he got married. Most in fact told me that I should avoid it. I tell younger guys the same thing.
Look, here's the point. You don't get married because of money or because you want someone to do all the job for you, you get married because of love, and that's around it. Don't want to get married? Don't, you're not living in a country where you're forced to marry. Keep on whoring around as much as you'd like, man or woman. No need to judge. You want to live together with the person that you love and not get married? Fucking go for it. You want to get married to make your relationship more 'official' and be committed to someone for the rest of your life? Dude, that's your choice. If we're talking about a marriage where everything revolves around money, why the fuck did you marry in the first place? Marriage is a choice in modern society, we're not living in a third world country where you get married to an old man at the age of ten. Stop complaining, do what you want to do, and treat people with respect.
Well said.
Lily Zett But before loving others, you need to love yourself. Otherwise, you will repel love and soon, hate. Hate as a Sith. This video is easier to explain: th-cam.com/video/vXbCWJNfq_0/w-d-xo.html
99legion who hurt u dude
99legion ok...
99legion lol you have the funniest opinions. I hope you never fall in love, I don’t think you’ll get out of it alive.
Wanna be happy and financially successful? Three rules: 1. Do not marry. 2. Do not have children. 3. Do not buy a house.All this from personal experience, and observation.
word!
From personal experience, I find doing the exact opposite can be far more effective, if done right. Depends a lot on your self, who you are as a person.
@Benni B Then find a house that's actually build properly, not one of those shitbox project homes that are build to fail. Or even learn to build one yourself, although to be fair when most people do that they still end up fucking it up out of stupidity. Also, know where to invest. Basically, don't be an idiot. But sometimes that's just too much to ask of people.
Benni B houses are never ending money pits because most of them are designed to be. Tradies rig it to ensure ‘future business’. If you buy a house that’s made properly, it’s not going to be a money pit. Simple.
I can agree with the first 2, if you can get into buying and flipping houses that can actually help the financial aspect
Lets be honest
Marriage is only beneficial to women, with the occasional exception.
Why do men avoid marriage??
For the same reason men in jail avoid picking up the soap..
@@andreakotze5309 My older brother found out his youngest child was not his biological child.He filed for divorce.She can keep the house, he has to pay alimony for her, and a ton of child support.He was willing to care for the children 50%.But she rather receives a paycheck and leave the kids at her moms house so she can party.He has to go to court everytime to make her letting him see his kids.And he can't get custody because he doesn't have a house lol.Believe it or not they even tried to make him pay child support for the child that is not his.
This may seem over the top.But just ask any man and they will know a man in a similar situation.
@@andreakotze5309 Yes but i think when people are in love they don't want to think about these things.But they really should.And you are right i wouldn't trust their intentions either.It was really ugly and before this happened i've heard many men men complain about similar situations. at this point i would say just have your own ceremony.
@@andreakotze5309 nowadays, not even a prenup can save a man. Lawyers are good at working around prenups.
Men avoid marriage because it's basically prison in reality. When a woman divorces a man she takes all of his fortune and belongings for which he worked hard for. Feminists have been fighting against shared custody, it's not destroyed, but divorced men very rarely see their kids, which the woman took with her. I will never get married. When you get married, you sign a waiver that says you have to give up your life.
@@andreakotze5309 or just don't get married. Nothing legal. No extra expenses
I've been happily married for 34 years and I do not feel it's important for my children to follow suit. Love should be the only bond you need.
*It's all about true love.*
In Disney
But many romantic love today doesn't last the test of time stipulated by marriage.
Because true love is about as beautiful (and fragile) as glass.
Put simply, if you're a man, it's all Cons, if you're a woman it's all Pros.
Jyps Ridic you got it
That's why intelligent men go MGTOW. (and adventerous, intelligent men get PASSPORTS!) internationalsexguide -- search that term and get the 'info'!
Musicbox Mermaid I wrote a long ass reply but I'll sum it up "happy wife, happy man. Happy man, happy wife" so long as at least one of you tries to make the other happy it should flow smoothly. :)
true
Don't flatter yourself, Jyps, there are plenty of cons to marrying a man.
I have found that marriages seem to end at about 13 years. Either in the form of divorce or where the couple stays together but aren't really together. Marriage is good if both people desire it greatly and are willing to sacrifice and work...I mean WORK together always. Keep respect there too.
Marriage only works if both understand they are not the only ones that needs to be loved. One day they both will need to have their ass wiped. Only being real. Are you willing to wipe? Are you willing to do the gross shit?
One day it might be you who needs it done for you.
Stop looking for today's wants and look for tomorrow needs.
Believe it, freedom is precious thing,,
Don’t loose it
You missed a huge con for men. You touch on women being more independent and earning more, but don't mention that they are still the ones that make out like bandits in a divorce. Why would men want to risk their finances for an arrangement that has very few pros? Fix the divorce courts and you've done step one for fixing marriage. People who decide to leave a marriage shouldn't be entitled to lifelong monetary payments, go get a damn job.
Plus women marry up so she will always be looking for a man who makes as much or more than her, women don't want to take care of a man in any way shape or form, the only reason they did it in the past is because they had to cause they were stuck home.
d3rkaderk4 One word, "prenup"
Judges wipe their ass with prenups. Over 80% are ignored in divorce court.
b166ir Bro, you ever hear of the Uniform Premartial Agreement Act? It was created in 1983, and is in place in 27 states. It states that prenups can’t be thrown out unless one partner commits fraud, the prenup is signed under duress, or the terms of the prenup will result in one partner being eligible for welfare. I’d like to hear where you got that 80% statistic, because even in states where the UPPA isn’t a thing, it’s fairly rare for a prenup to be thrown out. An interesting fact is that marriages that begin with a prenup are more likely to fail. The reasoning behind that is fairly obvious.
@@missmorbid1439 "made under duress"
depending on the judge you get saying "they wouldn't marry me if I didn't sign the pre-nup" can beclassed as duress
I was married 2x 7 years the first time in the 90s cost me $300,000 plus all the depression and financial problems that came with it, the 2nd time in the 2000s again for 3 years cost me $300,000 never recuperated from the financial problems, it cost the women nothing they had nothing when we were married. and then after the divorce they were financially independent, what a deal for the women. Marriage is not a good thing today the government and the law makes it very difficult. what do we have to live for if the great thing that we can have in this life ( a family) is destroyed by the laws made by incompetent leaders..
Mario Piazza` You already knew first hand that the stove was burning hot, why did you come back for more and stick your hand in it once again? You were seeking your own financial destruction. That’s what self reflection is for.
You just got what you paid for that is a shit sandwich.
I’m sure you know the definition of insanity according to Einstein.
Hopefully, you learnt your lesson, it’s not rocket science. Unless you want to obliterate what remains of you after those two iterations.
Sadly MGTOW will unlikely ever be understood by the majority of simps and cucks out there.
Agreed shadow also men should learn about the disgusting and predatory female nature
You got married twice. It s your fault. Should have learned from the first failure. Thanks for the info I can retire on time
I am never going to get married, Only to have a woman take half or more of what I worked so hard to get!!!
Living alone or with someone, it's always gonna be a gamble. Shouldn't let the institutionalization of marriage poison your ability to form a union with someone though. Finding the flame that mirrors your own can blaze a trail towards personal growth much faster than on your lonesome. It's easier to consider the feelings of your loved ones when you dont think your stuck with them or worse, own them.
@@joshjohnson2460 WOW, that was well said.
so the cons outweighs the pros? heheh
The greatest con ever pulled was this idea that being "commitment phobic" is somehow a negative thing. Like, it's rational to want to handcuff yourself to another human being for the rest of your tiny miserable life. FFS.
Go mgtow. We aren’t incels. Don’t hate women. We are simply not playing the game anymore. That’s the only winning move
Any woman with work ethic, her own earned money and common sense will be happy to just date (even v long term) and not get married. For truly independant women who don't want to sponge off a man, marriage in 2019 has no benefit. Unfortunately, that type of woman is very rare today!
Do not go Mgtow just be a player
@@toptiergamers5656 That's part of it dude. You can choose to be a purple pill.
TOP TIER GAMERS mgtow doesn’t mean the same thing to everyone. I still casually date. Some don’t. Some avoid women completely. We all believe in something a little different but we all agree that marriage is a horrible deal for men
MGTOW is a scam to make young males not want to have children.
We were married in the 70's and because we were both students 18 and 20 yrs old we had more or less a free wedding. The guests prepared their own food for the reception! Our spending money for the fortnight honeymoon in a sparse Welsh cottage was under 30 quid!!!????? As the Monty Python sketch goes "We had no money but we were happy". Together we set up a business college, built a house in the country then had 3 children. We are a perfect match and are still happy together and having fun 43 yrs later! We so appreciate our union.
All I see, the wedding bands and rings are shackles around your hands and feet!
Japan Nippon Pretty much. It is a form of slavery.
Checking out the Tinder scene in every city might also mean checking out the STI rates in every city. Have fun and be safe out there.
Not that easy anyways. Women on tinder are only interested in the top 5 to 10 percent.
@@michaelplitt2135 1%
I wouldn't consider expensive weddings a con to getting married. That's something the couple can choose, not a direct result of tying the knot.
Also, the average cost for weddings in America is much higher than it is in Europe, probably because many "typical american" (not all of them, of course) are aiming for a straight-outta-Hollywood kinda look. I don't remember the exact difference between the average costs, but I remember it being quite huge.
Totally agree, my mom got married in our living room. A priest came over and married them. They wore sort-of nice clothes. That's about it. xD
thats so great oml
Only need $20 to get married in indonesia. Then have family dinner . No need to waste money
20 for marriage certificate.
The modern idea for a marriage and why lots of people want to get married is because it's essentially a contract to make it hard to just walk away providing stability and making it so you have to be open and work through things avoiding the hardships of a divorce is a good incentive to work things out together, not that you need that structure necessarily as plenty of couples do this without being married but some people need the structure and some like me just love the idea of have a special day with someone you love and having it as official as it could be between you both, plus the structure helps relieve anxiety about not knowing exactly how my partner feels about our relationship because no matter how much she says stuff to me that's reassuring nothing will beat a legally bound contract to relieve anxieties
for me it would be a way to assure my parents have no legal control over me or my assets in the case of an emergency. let alone the ability to turn off my life support
Never marry when you’re young. Wait until you’re ABSOLUTELY ready. Not everyone is ready to commit to a life long partnership
@Thanos the Farmer that’s the result of choosing the wrong partner
@@aguywithaname7764 what if I'm never ready? I just don't want any restrictions on my freedom
@@KARTIKEYA007 pretty selfish sounding there
@@peterberg8417 ah yes, making my own lifestyle choice is selfish... ah i love traditionalists...
Even better advice: Never marry. Ever. Signing that contract is like asking for financial suicide.