I have been married to my wife for 36 year and I can tell you I am still intoxicated. She is so wonderful, so beautiful. I cannot get enough. I am thankful I had the brains to listen when God put her in my life. Marriage is awesome!
Thank you so much for your comment because we see a lot of people demonizing marriage and calling it names like "prison". From a single lady waiting for a husband, your comment is very much appreciated. May God continue to bless your marriage and grant you and your wife many more blissful years together. ❤️
Praise God! I'm just so happy for you too and that you're still Intoxicated by her that's amazing! God bless you and continue to bless your marriage🙌👏🎊🙇🏼♀️💜
Long as this your first wife if this your second or third wife and your first wife still living you're living in adultery hope this your first wife can't remarry unless first wife dead
I struggled with sexual immorality for years. But now I understand and have told God that I don't want sex unless it's within a Christian marriage. If I can't have that, then I don't want it, because I realize it's immoral outside of a marriage. Please pray for me that a good man will be given to me from God. Thank you.
Same, sis. I'm praying for a husband every other day. And not just anyone, but a man who loves God more than life itself. If he loves God, obeying God is a given and we'll both not have infidelity issues and the like. Cheating is one thing I'm not dealing with. I don't do it, I expect my partner to be on the same page.
Praying for a God-loving husband over here in South Africa. I'm 34 and not getting any younger. Your additional prayers will be highly appreciated, fellow Christians.
26 year old fellow South African waiting on the same - I will be praying for you, sister in Christ! 🙏 Remember that the timeline we comprehend in our minds is not the same as the Lord's - His will supercedes our understanding and does not forsake us, but rather builds us up into vessels of honour through which every good work He planned out for us in advance is brought to completion, through your full and utter submission to Him. 🤍 You are neither too "old" nor too spent, so hold on to the trust and willing obedience -the faith - that you have for the Lord, and His fruit will be multiplied from the Vine that is Our Lord and Saviour. HE is restoring and healing areas in you that need to be surrendered to Him in order for the process of sanctification, perfection in Christ, to take place. So do not be disheartened, and gladly rejoice in all the trials and difficulties you face now in your singleness. It will strengthen your personal relationship with your Saviour, Jesus Christ, and allow you to stand upon solid foundations in a world that is slowly crumbling to the seductive ways of Satan. God Almighty is with you, so take one step at a time knowing that He understands your desires and hears your prayers. It is in His hands.
@@Pro-j4qmaybe for you 😂 Listen, we're born sinners according to the Bible so... This is sin which most of people have strongly manifested... Sin of the flash, body! Only way you can minimise it is through the teachings of the Bible... Less and less... that is the point! Never perfect but still saved!
@@YeshuaLord.777 Well its not sex that kills you , its declaring sex as a sin that kills you ;) Your bible is only 3000 years old, humans like us (homo sapiens) exist since 300,000 years. In none of the millions of artefacts, cave paintings, scriptures or any other testimony in the 297,000 years before the bible, your “one and only” god with with a narrow minded sexual morality was ever mentioned. Your version of a “one and only” god with a narrow minded sexual morality is an invention only 3000 years old. One day your religion will disappear like all other religions, humans then will still go on existing as they did before : ) Have a great day : )
Thank you, brother Allen. Before I married my husband, my mother told me, "Never deprive your husband from his needs, because the devil never sleeps and there's always another woman just waiting for him." I took those words to heart and as I learn more and more about God, I can clearly see how His word is a beautiful guide for life and marriage.
_"I can clearly see how His word is a beautiful guide for life and marriage"_ Unfortunately, Jesus disagreed when he brought a sword to turn families against each other while commanding a man to hate his wife along with all of his family!
@@aebrae4896 So why did Jesus specifically talk about 'hate' rather than 'prioritizing'? He mentioned nothing whatsoever about priority (it was desperate apologists who came up with that idea)!
I'm single and abstaining. What people rarely discuss is the struggle to avoid immorality. The struggle is real! 😅 However, I believe that abstaining will bring me and my future spouse closer together. One other benefit is that it weeds out the people who are only looking for... Physical pleasure. They, for the most part, won't stick around.
That's my thought exactly. God gave us this command for a reason. On a practical level, it helps to eliminate sexual urges from the equation. There are so many people that get married simply because the sex is good, but that is nothing to build a life or a future on. It also helps to discover liars, not just people that won't stick around. I'm a man and the two girls Tha tive previously dated were obviously looking for me to save them from their bad situations and move them into a nice house where they could be away from their family. We had established from the beginning that there wasn't going to be any sex until marriage, and then after they pressed the issue and saw I wouldn't budge, I caught them cheating. Tursn out if people want something other than sex from you, abstaining from sex just means they'll go elsewhere and make it easier to catch their infidelity.
Exactly! It does weed out the people who are only looking for physical pleasure. There are so many "Christians " out there who don't have a problem with sex before marriage. Well, the Bible says that people who say they are Christians and still believe sexual sin is OK are Christians by name only. When you truly give your life to Christ you TURN from your sins. You forsake the old man. You walk in Christ as a new creation.
@SK-le4lj been there done that! It's very hard. I'm sure there are girls that may do that with they guys who are trying to abstain too. I think there are churches that are not fully preaching the word of God. So the singles don't really get all the facts about how God wants us to wait until we're married to have sex. That's the problem! They're not being taught what the Bible says. The pastor is just gloss over the bad stuff and preaching the Good fluffy God loves you stuff which is good but people need to hear the whole Bible the whole truth! Then they would not be getting into sexual sin
As a married woman I have read these scriptures & thank God it has given me so much clarity in my marriage & has made it so much more enjoyable knowing God is the author 🙌🏽 You always come through Allen! I appreciate your work & time.
This is so good brother Allen... as a man I have struggled with sexual immortality before I was married, in my first marriage, and now in my current marriage.. I've truly had to repent and turn from sexual immortality because its truly a disastrous sin.. Thank GOD for his mercy... Peace to everyone trying to live righteous like our Lord & Savior
I LOVE the tastebuds analogy! My wife and I both thank God for giving us the ability to taste our food, and others we know act like we are crazy! But He didn’t have to give us this gift. He gave it to us because He loves us and loves when we are happy!
Great message Allen. One other and most important regarding "sex" outside of marriage is the damage it does to children conceived. Many are foster and adopted. Not orphans but foster and adoption. It protects the entire persons!
This might sound weird, but I really love this topic of biblical sex. Its something that needs to be spoken about but it's shyed away from and few people talk about it. Thank you Brother Allen 🙏
Yes, Ray Comfort always asks his interviewees if they have had sex before marriage.... It's a rhetorical question, because the Bible clearly teaches that Consensual Sex is marriage, so that there can never ever be a case of sex before marriage.
@@delawarecop Just because two people consent doesn't make it okay, if it's not within the walls of marriage, it's fornication. That's a sin, but marriage itself is not a sin. You can't have sex before marriage, and the Bible clearly teaches that.
@@TheGospelGuy "Marriage is a legal contract, not an act of sexual relations." LOL, so says you, which is why you cannot provide a Bible verse to support your delusion. So now I will provide a Bible verse that proves that you are a DELUSIONAL LIAR! 1Cor 6:16 What? know ye not that he which is joined to an harlot is one body? For two, saith He, shall be one flesh.
@@TheGospelGuy - "You can't have sex before marriage, and the Bible clearly teaches that." LOL, somebody forgot to tell Isaac and Rebekah your interpretation of Gods Law, huh? They never got Married by a Pastor in a Church, nor before a prophet, nor did they get a license from any Government. Nope, they went into Isaac's tent and made love and Rebekah became Isaac's wife. You are a delusional fool who is teaching unbiblical lies - aka traditions of men.
Oh Allen. If only the Christian /church community had been more like you down the ages, it wouldn't be in the mess it so often is. This is a priceless gem of a video. Looking forward to the rest in the series. God bless you.
I remember waiting for patiently for years in college (a Bible college) and seeing all my friends get married and so on…and then several years after college passed by and I gave in and failed in many ways… The Lord is still working on me now as a minister of the gospel….
I am struggling with purity and also fighting sexual fantasy! I deal with trauma so it triggered me sometimes but i keep fighting and abstaining it until the Lord give me a spouse!
@@letuwait baffles me when people say marriage doesn’t make lust go away. If a person is lusting because they are unmarried and have no sexual outlet, then of course getting married and having that sexual outlet is going to help!!
@@letuwa even with therapist it still doesn't go away. And yes i go to christian therapist/counseling. This is a battle because dealing with trauma is never ending and exhausting so even going to therapist it will not go with a snap of a finger and life doesn't make it easier too it can cause trigger which i am aware of it. Sorry but i am insulted with the question. Of course i go to therapist. I am dealing with trauma after all not general life problems or sins.
@@anne.ominousif the desire for sex is natural and not influenced by outside factors such as trauma (e.g. rape) or pornography, then yes, marriage will cure the lusting. But if the source of the lust is not the natural desire for sex, but something else, something outside of that, then even marriage alone will not be enough to cure the lust, since the underlying factors will need to be addressed.
Thank you brother Allen for talking about this subject. I struggled with sexual immorality for a long time. My life is different now. I didn't realize that I was binding myself to different men every time I was in a dating relationship. I was not following what the Bible instructed and I believed the lies that was mentioned to me men and the devil. I am single and I made the decision 6 years ago to no longer have any sexual relations with a man until I get married. The devil is trying to break me but I am standing my ground by reading the Bible, prayer, and talking to mature Bible believing sisters. Please pray for me.
The Bible very clearly teaches that Consensual Sex is Marriage - aka you are already married to the fist man that you consented to have sex with. Once you repent, then you get baptised and then are a new creature in Christ, where you can then wait for a man who consents to spending the rest of his life with you, then you have sex, then you are married in the eyes of God. What the church or Pastor or Government says is irrelevant, because the Bible says consensual sex = marriage!
My life's experience has been incredibly sexually damaging. Damage in this area can never be fully overcome. This current culture is heinously damaging, especially to children. They need the voice of God's ways to protect them from situations that can completely wreck their lives. I beg everyone reading this! Protect those around you with fierce courage. Ask for God's wisdom and boldness. Thank you, Alan, for doing exactly that 📖
Yassss we said some scriptures from Songs of Solomon as part of our unity words at our wedding ceremony instead of an unity sand demonstration. Overall, love this teaching and all the other teachings by Allen Parr!
I see that he’s saying that solution to sexual temptation is marriage because we can express our desires in marriage. However, what about the fruits of the spirit such as self control? Does marriage solve lust issues? I don’t think it does. Im speaking in terms of singleness. Perhaps he speaks about in marriage.
This is valid point. Marriage don't solve lust as many married ppl cheat and watch porn as he stated in the video. I think he was saying for the single ppl the only way to not give into fornication is marriage as scripture states. But yes it complicated because ppl still lust in marriage. I think another video on that topic would be good as well.
Thank you so much for this. I was sharing some of what you said with my husband, and he said he's glad to know someone is talking about this. I completely agree. I've heard of far too many people who have used sex as a weapon against their spouse. It's awful, and makes me so sad for the one being deprived. One thing I wish we would talk about more is the affects of being taught so much to abstain until marriage, while having very few, if any, conversations about how to initiate with your husband or wife once you are married. I'll go out on a limb and say that purity culture, or perhaps my misunderstanding of it as an early twentysomething, really hurt me in this way. I didn't marry until my early forties, and even now, after almost a year, it's still surreal that these things aren't sinful between us. More pastors, and pastors' wives, need to be talking about this with married couples.
This is why I'm glad your channel is here! Great teaching and very convicting! I think I'll save it to my great sermon playlist like I have so many of your videos.
Allen, this made me appreciate your previous video about your own personal struggle with sex even after getting saved and how you overcame. I think that will help a lot of people :D
This reminds me heavily of the premarital counseling my now wife and i went through a couple years ago. Our pastor actually emphasized the importance of sex within marriage obviously without delving too deep into the specifics as that would be a little odd.
I respect and appreciate A.Parr and The Beat but wish you elaborate more on the polygamy and concubines and the Rahabs in the Bible because people can view this from a hindsight approach and compare then and now. Glad you still producing A Parr continue success
Thank you, brother. I have dealt with both sides. And, there was one I was dating who would try to give me lines like "what if we're not sexually compatible" which, quite frankly, is bull-oney. Another was "but we're getting married anyway" and even tried to promote getting married right away so we COULD have sex. And another topic related to the last point, there are times when married couples NEED to refrain from full-on sex, like at the end of a pregnancy, for at least 6 weeks after giving birth, when one is hospitalized, and so on. I am a cancer widow, and our last year, well, let's just say I learned to enjoy whatever kind of intimacy was possible, because he didn't have that sexual energy. So, future videos related to that would be appreciated. Thanks. Even for older folks who have been married before.
Could you remind me which version of the Bible you use? Always enjoy your teachings. Sometimes there's things you don't want to hear but need to. Thank you for putting yourself out there. God Bless you and your family!
I used to be quite awful in all aspects of this I found God again and have a happy marriage now. I am thankful for his mercy because I would have never stood a chance. When I was sexually immoral I was truly unhappy . When sex is treated as God intended it is much more gratifying.
We must keep in my what Genesis 1:28 said. I totally agree of the sensation of sex in a marriage, it's what it produces - precious children many of which are conceived via lust and infatuation and are not wanted, loved and care for. This many times causes a generation of the same and the goal of the enemy (Satan) is just what he wants to undermine the power of what builds a strong society.
It's hard to ask for mercy when you continue doing the thing that you're asking for mercy from. At that point you're not asking for mercy, you're just asking to not suffer the consequences. Mercy means you recognize the error of your ways and are asking for leniency in exchange for the promise of refraining from that course of action.
@@NovusIgnisthat’s not necessarily true. The Bible tells us that the grace of God is sufficient for us. It’s through the grace of God one can truly repent. If one confess their sin and is sincere, in due time, the Lord will give us the grace to overcome the weaknesses of our flesh. It’s not something you can overcome in your own strength or will. We should all pray that God should give us the grace to overcome whatever we are finding it difficult to let go of.
@@gabbytarlue1561 It's very much true. That's literally how mercy goes. You can't say you're sorry and then deliberately keep doing the very thing that you apologized for. That doesn't show repentence, it just shows that you don't want to suffer the consequences but want to keep doing that thing
I love this video but have two issues. If soul ties exist, why did God never address his most faithful servants such as Abraham, Israel, and David for having multiple wives? Also what about individuals who have deceased partners? It seems a bit awful to word it as being disgusting for someone with a deceased partner to remarry and think about someone’s deceased partner and their intimacy? Would love if you could answer with another video!
Love, compassion, and prayers are all we truly need. As a single mom, things have been tough on me. My husband passed years ago. I still miss him dearly. Both of my sons are autistic. I’m overwhelmed. Father God hear my prayers. Since covid I’ve been struggling to support my children and myself but my faith in GOD is strong! I lost my job for declining the vaccine. I’ve been struggling since. I declined because of my health conditions lupus, and heart disease. I tried to get my job back at Forsyth hospital but they are still wanting vaccinated people over the unvaccinated. I’m now waitressing Im thankful to be working but I’m not making nearly enough to get by. BUT! Even as I constantly struggle to pay my rent. And I constantly struggle to provide groceries for my children! I’m choosing to keep faith. Walking with faith is the most important thing us christian’s must do. So as I struggle I Thank you Heavenly Father and I thank you Yeshua I will keep faith! Amen! ❤
Is there any legal recourse you can take to retaliate against your previous job for refusing to take the vaccine? I think I saw that many people were suing their old workplaces for being fired after that was deemed unconstitutional.
I was previously a drug addict I have over 20 years clean. During that time I prostituted and I had to abortions. The guilt of it all still stays with me even though I prayed so many times for forgiveness. I want a nice man. A faithful man and they seem to be harder to find these days to be honest.
I think people might misconstrue the phrase "two become one flesh" as a soul tie. But it says one "flesh" not one "spirit" or "soul". In the mind of "nobody hated their own flesh" that is you care for one another as a unit, not that your souls are necessarily bound up. We're each our own soul; you can't drag someone's soul to heaven or hell with you. I will say that sex creates an extremely real physical, mental, and emotional bond- as it's meant to! - and it can *feel* like your souls are tied up together. It's meant to be a bonding agent between spouses, but it's just not ever referred to as a soul tying agent in the Bible.
@@SkegeeAceI had sex before 7 years ago outside of marriage if there was any soul ties between us. Than they vanished I do remember the morning anther I was like wow can’t believe I did it flesh was pleased. But I told God I’m not having sex again until I’m married. I found out sex is easier too find than truelove commitment
If a woman shuts the shop down and the man decides to sin- I’m sorry but that’s on him. He’s the one that chose to sin. Perhaps the woman has a good reason to take or need a break.
I messed up with my ex fiancee. I didn't think of it at the time, I was absolutely going to marry her until she decided not to. I regret it and it hurts.
I'm 61 years old and I have never been married. I feel that I have been cheated out of a sex life. I am angry with God about my situation. It is so unfair.
Absolutely understandable. In my ignorance the best advice I can give is tell Him. When you're angry with God don't hold back. Tell Him, maybe shake your fist but be honest. He knows everything anyway, but opening that communication may help you understand. Love and caring to you brother.
Sex in marriage is more than a just a physical union between a husband and wife. It's a spiritual union between God and the church. So sex is spiritual
I had a penitentiary pastor say sex manifests spiritual power, that is why it is so powerful and so abused in the world. For the same reason you need to respect it and not abuse it yourself
This was a very good video! Thank you! Would you consider doing a video on what PRACTICALLY husbands should do to lead wives spiritually. As our spiritual leader what does that PRACTICALLY look like. Thank you!
Join me in this prayer. The more that pray it the stronger it gets. Pray God’s will be done on this earth as it is in heaven. Pray God protects and blesses the children. Pray for the truth to be revealed. Pray God lifts the scales from the lukewarm and lost eyes, opens their ears and soften their hearts. Pray God strengthens His children, gives them more discernment, pours more Fire on them and wakes them up. Pray the end times harvest will increase. Pray God exposes the evil people and brings them to justice 🙏🏻
Amen I agree 100% that when you have sex before marriage, you’re cheating on your future spouse. That’s something people don’t think about, but I personally would feel cheated on if my wife had a sexual history previous to me.
Thanks Allen for being brave and open about such an important topic! Let me tell you, never think that because of the things you've done you could not go to Jesus and ask for forgiveness. Or that it would be to late. He's waiting for you, he is full of mercy, much more than anybody you know. Don't let shame dictate if you approach Jesus. Just come and receive forgiveness. Doesn't matter how often you fail, as long if you come to the throne of mercy. You might suffer the consequences of your sin, but Jesus paid the wages so you no longer have to die for your sins if you come to him. He will give you a new heart so you are able to live a life in obidience to him. What a wonderful savior. Greetings from Germany
The Bible says: Marriage is honourable in all and the bed undefiled (Hebrews 13:4 emphasis mine). Marriage was designed to deposit unique honour on man. Yet from Hebrews 13:4, we see that God attaches a condition for honour; the bed must be undefiled. Sexual immorality is what defiles marriage bed.
After that verse it continues that says in verse 6, "but it speak this by permission, and not of commandment" does that mean it's not a commandment from God but of Paul?
But I miss that you explain whats really marriage? Marriage today is in the church with a Pastor but where in the bibel says its necessary to have a Pastor instead the parents for the blessings...I can't find this form of ceremony in the bibel...
Bringing the bride from her father’s home to her husband’s him on the date agreed upon constituted the wedding in patriarchal days before the Law. There was no religious ceremony and no priest or clergyman officiated or validated the marriage. When the bridegroom took his bride to his house, tent, or the house of his parents, the matter was publicly made known, recorded and the marriage binding. (Genesis 24:67) Marriages under the Law were registered, as well as births resulting from the union were recorded in the official records of the community. For this reason we have an accurate genealogy of Jesus Christ. (Matthew 1:1-16; Luke 3:23-28)
I have been married to my wife for 36 year and I can tell you I am still intoxicated. She is so wonderful, so beautiful. I cannot get enough. I am thankful I had the brains to listen when God put her in my life. Marriage is awesome!
Thank you so much for your comment because we see a lot of people demonizing marriage and calling it names like "prison". From a single lady waiting for a husband, your comment is very much appreciated. May God continue to bless your marriage and grant you and your wife many more blissful years together. ❤️
Praise God! I'm just so happy for you too and that you're still Intoxicated by her that's amazing! God bless you and continue to bless your marriage🙌👏🎊🙇🏼♀️💜
Lord bless your marriage. I'm waiting for mine.
Long as this your first wife if this your second or third wife and your first wife still living you're living in adultery hope this your first wife can't remarry unless first wife dead
@@geralinethomas6729 Yeah or unless The 1st wife committed adultery against then he can remarry but with another believer.
I struggled with sexual immorality for years. But now I understand and have told God that I don't want sex unless it's within a Christian marriage. If I can't have that, then I don't want it, because I realize it's immoral outside of a marriage. Please pray for me that a good man will be given to me from God. Thank you.
The answer which you seek is found at the cross
May God grant your prayer.
I said a prayer for you, sister! It's in His time and not our own!
Prayers up!!! May God bless you with the perfect one!!!❤🙏🏾
Same, sis. I'm praying for a husband every other day. And not just anyone, but a man who loves God more than life itself. If he loves God, obeying God is a given and we'll both not have infidelity issues and the like. Cheating is one thing I'm not dealing with. I don't do it, I expect my partner to be on the same page.
Praying for a God-loving husband over here in South Africa. I'm 34 and not getting any younger. Your additional prayers will be highly appreciated, fellow Christians.
26 year old fellow South African waiting on the same - I will be praying for you, sister in Christ! 🙏 Remember that the timeline we comprehend in our minds is not the same as the Lord's - His will supercedes our understanding and does not forsake us, but rather builds us up into vessels of honour through which every good work He planned out for us in advance is brought to completion, through your full and utter submission to Him. 🤍
You are neither too "old" nor too spent, so hold on to the trust and willing obedience -the faith - that you have for the Lord, and His fruit will be multiplied from the Vine that is Our Lord and Saviour.
HE is restoring and healing areas in you that need to be surrendered to Him in order for the process of sanctification, perfection in Christ, to take place. So do not be disheartened, and gladly rejoice in all the trials and difficulties you face now in your singleness.
It will strengthen your personal relationship with your Saviour, Jesus Christ, and allow you to stand upon solid foundations in a world that is slowly crumbling to the seductive ways of Satan.
God Almighty is with you, so take one step at a time knowing that He understands your desires and hears your prayers.
It is in His hands.
The struggle against sexual immorality is real. May the holy spirit help us and our firm resolve to obey God's word by His grace. Amen!!
Its a complete unnecessary struggle.
@@Pro-j4q?
@@Pro-j4qmaybe for you 😂
Listen, we're born sinners according to the Bible so... This is sin which most of people have strongly manifested... Sin of the flash, body! Only way you can minimise it is through the teachings of the Bible...
Less and less... that is the point! Never perfect but still saved!
@antonio, better to marry than to burn 🙏
@@YeshuaLord.777 Well its not sex that kills you , its declaring sex as a sin that kills you ;)
Your bible is only 3000 years old, humans like us (homo sapiens) exist since 300,000 years. In none of the millions of artefacts, cave paintings, scriptures or any other testimony in the 297,000 years before the bible, your “one and only” god with with a narrow minded sexual morality was ever mentioned.
Your version of a “one and only” god with a narrow minded sexual morality is an invention only 3000 years old.
One day your religion will disappear like all other religions, humans then will still go on existing as they did before : )
Have a great day : )
I'm single, and I abstain. Waiting for the man God has for me who is doing the same.
Same… at 38… with God, its not too late!
Same here been waiting for 20 years, even if it doesn't happen God is still good
same, I'm 33 and even if I abstain till my 90th birthday that's okay.
Amen 🙏🏾
@@dirt_reborn 😊 God hasn't sent me the right man.
Thank you, brother Allen. Before I married my husband, my mother told me, "Never deprive your husband from his needs, because the devil never sleeps and there's always another woman just waiting for him." I took those words to heart and as I learn more and more about God, I can clearly see how His word is a beautiful guide for life and marriage.
_"I can clearly see how His word is a beautiful guide for life and marriage"_
Unfortunately, Jesus disagreed when he brought a sword to turn families against each other while commanding a man to hate his wife along with all of his family!
@@cardcounter21taken out of context
@@aebrae4896 I would appreciate you giving me the correct context.
@@cardcounter21 The main point of it is to prioritize God before everything else.
@@aebrae4896 So why did Jesus specifically talk about 'hate' rather than 'prioritizing'? He mentioned nothing whatsoever about priority (it was desperate apologists who came up with that idea)!
I’ve been married to my wife for almost 7 years and love her so much! God is good and blessed me with her and our son.
I'm single and abstaining. What people rarely discuss is the struggle to avoid immorality. The struggle is real! 😅 However, I believe that abstaining will bring me and my future spouse closer together.
One other benefit is that it weeds out the people who are only looking for... Physical pleasure. They, for the most part, won't stick around.
That's my thought exactly. God gave us this command for a reason. On a practical level, it helps to eliminate sexual urges from the equation. There are so many people that get married simply because the sex is good, but that is nothing to build a life or a future on.
It also helps to discover liars, not just people that won't stick around. I'm a man and the two girls Tha tive previously dated were obviously looking for me to save them from their bad situations and move them into a nice house where they could be away from their family. We had established from the beginning that there wasn't going to be any sex until marriage, and then after they pressed the issue and saw I wouldn't budge, I caught them cheating.
Tursn out if people want something other than sex from you, abstaining from sex just means they'll go elsewhere and make it easier to catch their infidelity.
@@NovusIgnis amen 🙏🏼 🙌 👏
Exactly! It does weed out the people who are only looking for physical pleasure. There are so many "Christians " out there who don't have a problem with sex before marriage. Well, the Bible says that people who say they are Christians and still believe sexual sin is OK are Christians by name only. When you truly give your life to Christ you TURN from your sins. You forsake the old man. You walk in Christ as a new creation.
I got hit with the "it's okay, what we have is deeper than sex" just to find out he's getting it elsewhere lol you have to be so so careful
@SK-le4lj been there done that! It's very hard. I'm sure there are girls that may do that with they guys who are trying to abstain too. I think there are churches that are not fully preaching the word of God. So the singles don't really get all the facts about how God wants us to wait until we're married to have sex. That's the problem! They're not being taught what the Bible says. The pastor is just gloss over the bad stuff and preaching the Good fluffy God loves you stuff which is good but people need to hear the whole Bible the whole truth! Then they would not be getting into sexual sin
As a married woman I have read these scriptures & thank God it has given me so much clarity in my marriage & has made it so much more enjoyable knowing God is the author 🙌🏽 You always come through Allen! I appreciate your work & time.
This is so good brother Allen... as a man I have struggled with sexual immortality before I was married, in my first marriage, and now in my current marriage.. I've truly had to repent and turn from sexual immortality because its truly a disastrous sin.. Thank GOD for his mercy... Peace to everyone trying to live righteous like our Lord & Savior
You mean immorality?
@@MichaelVoize yea brother crazy spell check lol
@@YTC06 nothing bro, I was just confused lol
I LOVE the tastebuds analogy! My wife and I both thank God for giving us the ability to taste our food, and others we know act like we are crazy! But He didn’t have to give us this gift. He gave it to us because He loves us and loves when we are happy!
Great message Allen. One other and most important regarding "sex" outside of marriage is the damage it does to children conceived. Many are foster and adopted. Not orphans but foster and adoption. It protects the entire persons!
Well said!
Not to mention that one getting diseased will most likely ruin any opportunity of marriage.
Orr killed in the womb cause apparently wantedness dictates value
This might sound weird, but I really love this topic of biblical sex.
Its something that needs to be spoken about but it's shyed away from and few people talk about it.
Thank you Brother Allen 🙏
Yes, Ray Comfort always asks his interviewees if they have had sex before marriage....
It's a rhetorical question, because the Bible clearly teaches that Consensual Sex is marriage, so that there can never ever be a case of sex before marriage.
@@delawarecop Just because two people consent doesn't make it okay, if it's not within the walls of marriage, it's fornication. That's a sin, but marriage itself is not a sin.
You can't have sex before marriage, and the Bible clearly teaches that.
@@delawarecop Marriage is a legal contract, not an act of sexual relations.
@@TheGospelGuy "Marriage is a legal contract, not an act of sexual relations."
LOL, so says you, which is why you cannot provide a Bible verse to support your delusion. So now I will provide a Bible verse that proves that you are a DELUSIONAL LIAR!
1Cor 6:16 What? know ye not that he which is joined to an harlot is one body? For two, saith He, shall be one flesh.
@@TheGospelGuy - "You can't have sex before marriage, and the Bible clearly teaches that."
LOL, somebody forgot to tell Isaac and Rebekah your interpretation of Gods Law, huh? They never got Married by a Pastor in a Church, nor before a prophet, nor did they get a license from any Government. Nope, they went into Isaac's tent and made love and Rebekah became Isaac's wife.
You are a delusional fool who is teaching unbiblical lies - aka traditions of men.
This is a great teaching and I want to thank you for affirming this for me. People don't understand the danger of soul ties. Thank you sir
Oh Allen. If only the Christian /church community had been more like you down the ages, it wouldn't be in the mess it so often is.
This is a priceless gem of a video. Looking forward to the rest in the series.
God bless you.
I remember waiting for patiently for years in college (a Bible college) and seeing all my friends get married and so on…and then several years after college passed by and I gave in and failed in many ways…
The Lord is still working on me now as a minister of the gospel….
I am struggling with purity and also fighting sexual fantasy! I deal with trauma so it triggered me sometimes but i keep fighting and abstaining it until the Lord give me a spouse!
Have you considered a therapist or phycologist? Marriage will not help that lust to go away. I would consider getting serious help first.
@@letuwait baffles me when people say marriage doesn’t make lust go away. If a person is lusting because they are unmarried and have no sexual outlet, then of course getting married and having that sexual outlet is going to help!!
@@letuwa even with therapist it still doesn't go away. And yes i go to christian therapist/counseling. This is a battle because dealing with trauma is never ending and exhausting so even going to therapist it will not go with a snap of a finger and life doesn't make it easier too it can cause trigger which i am aware of it.
Sorry but i am insulted with the question.
Of course i go to therapist. I am dealing with trauma after all not general life problems or sins.
May the Lord bless you with a Jesus-loving husband. ❤️
@@anne.ominousif the desire for sex is natural and not influenced by outside factors such as trauma (e.g. rape) or pornography, then yes, marriage will cure the lusting. But if the source of the lust is not the natural desire for sex, but something else, something outside of that, then even marriage alone will not be enough to cure the lust, since the underlying factors will need to be addressed.
Thank you brother Allen for talking about this subject. I struggled with sexual immorality for a long time. My life is different now. I didn't realize that I was binding myself to different men every time I was in a dating relationship. I was not following what the Bible instructed and I believed the lies that was mentioned to me men and the devil. I am single and I made the decision 6 years ago to no longer have any sexual relations with a man until I get married. The devil is trying to break me but I am standing my ground by reading the Bible, prayer, and talking to mature Bible believing sisters. Please pray for me.
Please hang in there my sister. God’s grace is sufficient to keep you. I too went down that road but the Lord cleaned me up. I will be praying for you
Praying for you!! 💖🙏
The Bible very clearly teaches that Consensual Sex is Marriage - aka you are already married to the fist man that you consented to have sex with. Once you repent, then you get baptised and then are a new creature in Christ, where you can then wait for a man who consents to spending the rest of his life with you, then you have sex, then you are married in the eyes of God. What the church or Pastor or Government says is irrelevant, because the Bible says consensual sex = marriage!
May the strength of Jesus be on you.🙏
Good Evening. The more sex that you have, you will start to become a better person.
My life's experience has been incredibly sexually damaging. Damage in this area can never be fully overcome.
This current culture is heinously damaging, especially to children. They need the voice of God's ways to protect them from situations that can completely wreck their lives.
I beg everyone reading this! Protect those around you with fierce courage. Ask for God's wisdom and boldness.
Thank you, Alan, for doing exactly that 📖
I’m a single man and I abstain.
Yassss we said some scriptures from Songs of Solomon as part of our unity words at our wedding ceremony instead of an unity sand demonstration. Overall, love this teaching and all the other teachings by Allen Parr!
do you mind sharing what Scriptures You all chose to use from Songs of Solomon pls.? Shalom! Blessings!
@@MsAliciaVictoria I don't mind!! I read to him Songs of Solomon 5 :10-16
He read to me Songs of Solomon 4:1-7 and 6:8-9
@@tonihemby3876 🤗Thank You kindly!! Blessings to You both! 🙂
I remember when I was a teenager thinking that any and all sex is sinful, but God can use to create families. Thank you for sharing this teaching
Augustine thought something along those lines. It makes sense given his own personal story, but he was wrong.
Sex is only a sin if it is outside of marriage. God uses sexual pleasure between a married man and woman to create families.
I see that he’s saying that solution to sexual temptation is marriage because we can express our desires in marriage. However, what about the fruits of the spirit such as self control? Does marriage solve lust issues? I don’t think it does. Im speaking in terms of singleness. Perhaps he speaks about in marriage.
This is valid point. Marriage don't solve lust as many married ppl cheat and watch porn as he stated in the video. I think he was saying for the single ppl the only way to not give into fornication is marriage as scripture states. But yes it complicated because ppl still lust in marriage. I think another video on that topic would be good as well.
Thank you so much for this. I was sharing some of what you said with my husband, and he said he's glad to know someone is talking about this. I completely agree.
I've heard of far too many people who have used sex as a weapon against their spouse. It's awful, and makes me so sad for the one being deprived.
One thing I wish we would talk about more is the affects of being taught so much to abstain until marriage, while having very few, if any, conversations about how to initiate with your husband or wife once you are married.
I'll go out on a limb and say that purity culture, or perhaps my misunderstanding of it as an early twentysomething, really hurt me in this way. I didn't marry until my early forties, and even now, after almost a year, it's still surreal that these things aren't sinful between us.
More pastors, and pastors' wives, need to be talking about this with married couples.
This presentaion is dtruly divine. bro, you are saving and restoring marriages as well as winning souls for Christ. To God be all the glory
I have been struggling with sexual immortality all my life. I need prayers to be free from this sin
Not for Sundays only. Amen
The Lord will forever reign.
This is why I'm glad your channel is here! Great teaching and very convicting! I think I'll save it to my great sermon playlist like I have so many of your videos.
Allen, this made me appreciate your previous video about your own personal struggle with sex even after getting saved and how you overcame. I think that will help a lot of people :D
Thanks for the honest talk we didn’t get from our parents
This reminds me heavily of the premarital counseling my now wife and i went through a couple years ago. Our pastor actually emphasized the importance of sex within marriage obviously without delving too deep into the specifics as that would be a little odd.
The STRUGGLE!!!!! PRAY FOR ME YALL! Seriously.
This was so simply put! Thanks for explaining
I lost it when you said…”I’m just gon close up shop”! 😂😂😂 Awesome video, Allen!
Great breakdown of Relations. I’m going to share this with my wife so we won’t be tempted
I respect and appreciate A.Parr and The Beat but wish you elaborate more on the polygamy and concubines and the Rahabs in the Bible because people can view this from a hindsight approach and compare then and now. Glad you still producing A Parr continue success
This is a great teaching
Thanks brother
This is something that need to be taught
Amen god help me
Hi Allen, can you perhaps do a video on soul ties and the biblical view on it?
This is hardcore truth but thank God it heals
Thank you, brother. I have dealt with both sides. And, there was one I was dating who would try to give me lines like "what if we're not sexually compatible" which, quite frankly, is bull-oney. Another was "but we're getting married anyway" and even tried to promote getting married right away so we COULD have sex.
And another topic related to the last point, there are times when married couples NEED to refrain from full-on sex, like at the end of a pregnancy, for at least 6 weeks after giving birth, when one is hospitalized, and so on. I am a cancer widow, and our last year, well, let's just say I learned to enjoy whatever kind of intimacy was possible, because he didn't have that sexual energy. So, future videos related to that would be appreciated. Thanks. Even for older folks who have been married before.
Praise God I gave up having sex before marriage. Thank you Holy Spirit for giving me the power to overcome temptations
Could you remind me which version of the Bible you use? Always enjoy your teachings. Sometimes there's things you don't want to hear but need to. Thank you for putting yourself out there. God Bless you and your family!
nice msg brother allen, a perfect msg for me. big amen
I used to be quite awful in all aspects of this I found God again and have a happy marriage now. I am thankful for his mercy because I would have never stood a chance. When I was sexually immoral I was truly unhappy . When sex is treated as God intended it is much more gratifying.
Thanks for sharing 🙏🏾
His grace and mercy be upon you and your loved ones 🕊️🥛🍯
This is a terrific video. This covers the points correctly as mentioned in the Bible.
We must keep in my what Genesis 1:28 said. I totally agree of the sensation of sex in a marriage, it's what it produces - precious children many of which are conceived via lust and infatuation and are not wanted, loved and care for. This many times causes a generation of the same and the goal of the enemy (Satan) is just what he wants to undermine the power of what builds a strong society.
This is a TOUGH ONE😞.... I'm in a committed relationship but not married. Engaged yet not married. I pray God has mercy on me and my future wife 🙏
It's hard to ask for mercy when you continue doing the thing that you're asking for mercy from. At that point you're not asking for mercy, you're just asking to not suffer the consequences. Mercy means you recognize the error of your ways and are asking for leniency in exchange for the promise of refraining from that course of action.
Hurry and get married
Get married!! 🎉
@@NovusIgnisthat’s not necessarily true. The Bible tells us that the grace of God is sufficient for us. It’s through the grace of God one can truly repent. If one confess their sin and is sincere, in due time, the Lord will give us the grace to overcome the weaknesses of our flesh. It’s not something you can overcome in your own strength or will. We should all pray that God should give us the grace to overcome whatever we are finding it difficult to let go of.
@@gabbytarlue1561 It's very much true. That's literally how mercy goes. You can't say you're sorry and then deliberately keep doing the very thing that you apologized for. That doesn't show repentence, it just shows that you don't want to suffer the consequences but want to keep doing that thing
Widowed and not looking. But agree with you.
HalleluJah! Awesome Teaching Brother Allen!
KJV - Genesis 18 : 12 “Therefore Sarah laughed within herself, saying,
After I am waxed old shall I have PLEASURE, my lord being old also?”
I love this video but have two issues. If soul ties exist, why did God never address his most faithful servants such as Abraham, Israel, and David for having multiple wives? Also what about individuals who have deceased partners? It seems a bit awful to word it as being disgusting for someone with a deceased partner to remarry and think about someone’s deceased partner and their intimacy? Would love if you could answer with another video!
Or what about Jesus's command that a man must _hate_ his wife!!!
He may be wrong about soul ties.
Another great video appreciate your channel it’s truly a blessing! Praise God!
Great teaching Alan!!!!! ✝️♥️♥️♥️✝️🕊 needed this!!
Wow...I so much loved your teachings all the time .God bless and strengthen you
Love, compassion, and prayers are all we truly need. As a single mom, things have been tough on me. My husband passed years ago. I still miss him dearly. Both of my sons are autistic. I’m overwhelmed. Father God hear my prayers. Since covid I’ve been struggling to support my children and myself but my faith in GOD is strong! I lost my job for declining the vaccine. I’ve been struggling since. I declined because of my health conditions lupus, and heart disease. I tried to get my job back at Forsyth hospital but they are still wanting vaccinated people over the unvaccinated. I’m now waitressing Im thankful to be working but I’m not making nearly enough to get by. BUT! Even as I constantly struggle to pay my rent. And I constantly struggle to provide groceries for my children! I’m choosing to keep faith. Walking with faith is the most important thing us christian’s must do. So as I struggle I Thank you Heavenly Father and I thank you Yeshua I will keep faith! Amen! ❤
Oh my gosh. That sounds like a lot, I will be praying for you! Hope everything gets better!
So strong!! God bless you!! I'll be praying!!
Is there any legal recourse you can take to retaliate against your previous job for refusing to take the vaccine? I think I saw that many people were suing their old workplaces for being fired after that was deemed unconstitutional.
Praying for you!
Yes praying 🙏 for you.
I was previously a drug addict I have over 20 years clean. During that time I prostituted and I had to abortions. The guilt of it all still stays with me even though I prayed so many times for forgiveness. I want a nice man. A faithful man and they seem to be harder to find these days to be honest.
Thank you for this video. It is very helpful. I wish I had stuck as closely as possible to this DESIGN.
Love the video and explanation. But where is the black love😢
Amen live in the Word The Bible. 📖
THE BIBLE WILL KEEP YOU FROM SIN
SIN WILL KEEP YOU FROM THIS BIBLE
What a blessing this video was! Much needed, thank you! Your videos are always right on time!
Bro Allan, where in the Bible does it talk about soul tie? I heard someone says its not biblical.
Thanks
I think people might misconstrue the phrase "two become one flesh" as a soul tie. But it says one "flesh" not one "spirit" or "soul". In the mind of "nobody hated their own flesh" that is you care for one another as a unit, not that your souls are necessarily bound up. We're each our own soul; you can't drag someone's soul to heaven or hell with you. I will say that sex creates an extremely real physical, mental, and emotional bond- as it's meant to! - and it can *feel* like your souls are tied up together. It's meant to be a bonding agent between spouses, but it's just not ever referred to as a soul tying agent in the Bible.
@@SkegeeAceI had sex before 7 years ago outside of marriage if there was any soul ties between us. Than they vanished I do remember the morning anther I was like wow can’t believe I did it flesh was pleased. But I told God I’m not having sex again until I’m married. I found out sex is easier too find than truelove commitment
If a woman shuts the shop down and the man decides to sin- I’m sorry but that’s on him. He’s the one that chose to sin. Perhaps the woman has a good reason to take or need a break.
I messed up with my ex fiancee. I didn't think of it at the time, I was absolutely going to marry her until she decided not to. I regret it and it hurts.
I ain't getting none and don't know if I ever will because I don't know if I'll ever get married.
Proverbs 24:16 , 1 john 1 v6-10 , Matthew 3:8 , luke 5;35-40 , 2 timothy 1:7 , luke 24 , matthew 26
Brother Allen, thank you. I’m using this as a tool for my children. ❤
2 cor 10:1+5 , 1 king 12 , genesis 3 , job 3 , johns 10 , 2 cor 5 , james 4, song of solomon 1:7, 2:14 , 7:7-10
Genesis 30-28-38:15-18
Thanks for the video Bro. Allen. Please could you shed some light on biblical encouragement for brethren who are rape victims. Thanks
I'm 61 years old and I have never been married. I feel that I have been cheated out of a sex life. I am angry with God about my situation. It is so unfair.
Don’t be upset or mad with God. Just keep praying for that man to come your way. I believe everyone deserves to be happy with their soulmate.
That's fair and I understand how you feel.
Absolutely understandable. In my ignorance the best advice I can give is tell Him. When you're angry with God don't hold back. Tell Him, maybe shake your fist but be honest. He knows everything anyway, but opening that communication may help you understand. Love and caring to you brother.
I'm in my late 50's and never married. It's a struggle that doesn't relent. There's times I'm quite bitter about it. These videos rarely help.
Proverbs - fruit as gal 5 v16-24
This was good. Very informative. There needs to be a video on contraception. Are Christian’s allowed to have these things on
Amen brother Allen. Keep the word coming
Sex in marriage is more than a just a physical union between a husband and wife. It's a spiritual union between God and the church. So sex is spiritual
I had a penitentiary pastor say sex manifests spiritual power, that is why it is so powerful and so abused in the world. For the same reason you need to respect it and not abuse it yourself
Six years Celibate, thank you Jesus Christ!I will be Celibate until I marry Mrs Price, Great Show!
"Now I'm gonna let you use your imagination to what you think she's talking about" 😂
Allen, seriously, thank you so much for this video ❤️
Beautiful Bro Allan!! Isn't our GOD AWESOME!!
This was a very good video! Thank you! Would you consider doing a video on what PRACTICALLY husbands should do to lead wives spiritually. As our spiritual leader what does that PRACTICALLY look like. Thank you!
Yes Allen, I've been telling people this. God gave sex to us as a gift. If you can afford to buy your spouse a gift, wrap yourself up and be the gift.
Join me in this prayer. The more that pray it the stronger it gets. Pray God’s will be done on this earth as it is in heaven. Pray God protects and blesses the children. Pray for the truth to be revealed. Pray God lifts the scales from the lukewarm and lost eyes, opens their ears and soften their hearts. Pray God strengthens His children, gives them more discernment, pours more Fire on them and wakes them up. Pray the end times harvest will increase. Pray God exposes the evil people and brings them to justice 🙏🏻
Thank you Allen.
very helpful - looking 4wrd to the rest of the series
Absolutely True. Want God's Blessing. Stop being god and make GOD, Lord, or in charge of what you do and think. STOP following what is pervited.
Amen I agree 100% that when you have sex before marriage, you’re cheating on your future spouse. That’s something people don’t think about, but I personally would feel cheated on if my wife had a sexual history previous to me.
Thanks Allen for being brave and open about such an important topic!
Let me tell you, never think that because of the things you've done you could not go to Jesus and ask for forgiveness. Or that it would be to late. He's waiting for you, he is full of mercy, much more than anybody you know. Don't let shame dictate if you approach Jesus. Just come and receive forgiveness. Doesn't matter how often you fail, as long if you come to the throne of mercy. You might suffer the consequences of your sin, but Jesus paid the wages so you no longer have to die for your sins if you come to him. He will give you a new heart so you are able to live a life in obidience to him. What a wonderful savior.
Greetings from Germany
Can you please elaborate on what the Bible expects from singles who are not married? Who want to be but are not?
So one thing I never hear discussed is when a man and woman are married, can their sex life be crazy, kinky, and wild as can be, or is there limits?
Tune in for video #2 next week! That’s what it’s all about. Can’t wait!
The Bible says: Marriage is honourable in all and the bed undefiled (Hebrews 13:4 emphasis mine). Marriage was designed to deposit unique honour on man. Yet from Hebrews 13:4, we see that God attaches a condition for honour; the bed must be undefiled. Sexual immorality is what defiles marriage bed.
Powerful message of truths.
Thank you for clearing things up.
Psalms 118:5
I called upon the LORD in distress: the LORD answered me, and set me in a large place.
After that verse it continues that says in verse 6, "but it speak this by permission, and not of commandment" does that mean it's not a commandment from God but of Paul?
But I miss that you explain whats really marriage? Marriage today is in the church with a Pastor but where in the bibel says its necessary to have a Pastor instead the parents for the blessings...I can't find this form of ceremony in the bibel...
Bringing the bride from her father’s home to her husband’s him on the date agreed upon constituted the wedding in patriarchal days before the Law. There was no religious ceremony and no priest or clergyman officiated or validated the marriage. When the bridegroom took his bride to his house, tent, or the house of his parents, the matter was publicly made known, recorded and the marriage binding. (Genesis 24:67)
Marriages under the Law were registered, as well as births resulting from the union were recorded in the official records of the community. For this reason we have an accurate genealogy of Jesus Christ. (Matthew 1:1-16; Luke 3:23-28)
I love this. ❤️ God is Sooooooo good!
Awesome word! And practical.
You are blessed, brother Allan. This video is a beautiful massage 👍❤️🙏
Romans 2 1 cor 5-11-16 , heb 13:4 , revelation 21:1-10 , 1 thess 4-5
single brothers and sisters, stay strong💪🏾💪🏾
Don’t even know why I’m laughing when he got to songs of solomon😂 I knew it was going to interesting