Why Young Women 18-30 Are Failing In Dating
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How Women Are Ruining Their Dating Life (The Female Struggle)
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What do you think is the biggest problem with modern dating?
Women.
That we’ve spent decades separating humans from their inter-personal ecosystem, the first animals to try and do so.
And we’ve turned into the human equivalent of zoo animals.
@@LukeGilroy this is honestly so true... You have cracked the code.
Men for sure , have to admit hah
Men
i don't hate the 1%, i hate the 99% of simps who inflate womans egos
facts
This
Agreed
Simps are like drug dealers, giving the attention addict their fix.
oh sh*t!!!! I'm 42, i remember it like it was yesterday when that 'inflation' started.
Met my current girlfriend off a dating app and can confirm that 99% of women on dating apps are trash. Went on a streak of real bad dates, and all the ghosting/mind games got exhausting. I genuinely think most women on dating apps just want casual sex with attractive men and free attention they aren't actually looking for something serious, they just tell people they do.
I noticed that the moment I would tell a girl I wanted to take her out on a date, it went nowhere or she'd lose interest; but if I asked if she wanted to come over watch a movie with drinks she'd be over easy and we'd hookup.
If me and my girl breakup, I'm in absolutely zero rush to get back on dating apps.
I have no luck on dating apps. Did you ask your current gf to come over or on a date? Do you ask girls to come over in the first message or chat a bit then ask? Planning for when I become hot xD
Facts. Ive found it better to talk to them in irl situation. I think all men should practice doing that
Yes because a lot of fools be thinking they pimps on dating apps
@@LukeDickerson1993 I asked her on a date. We moved things to Snap and we met at a Cafe for coffee. You can't ever ask girls to come over within the first few messages and actually succeed unless you're a model or a celebrity, you have to work your way towards that.
My code is to casually talk for 2-3 days to feel them out and get them out the same week. If I can't get them out within a week after matching, I'll move on because they'll more than likely waste your time.
dating apps are the worst. the women are rude as hell and give the bluntest answers, it wasn't always like this
The whole dating game is broken. Used to want a girlfriend, but now I'm genuinely under the impression that being single and focusing on my own priorities is far more attractive than any woman.
Idgaf about girls. Just straight hustling
I agree. I feel the same as a woman in the dating world. I'm so over it
The best thing a girl can do is make herself approachable. While it's true that it's become less common for guys to approach, far too many girl walk around with a scowl on their face or their face buried in thier phone. I miss the days of flirty eye contact being a common thing.
When was that?
@joshuaosborne9203 before smart phones. I'm 42 but can clearly remember living in the city in the early 2000's and on my 10 minute walk to the subway I would usually get at least 2 or 3 cute girls lock eyes and smile. Or at the very least it was obvious we were checking each other out. Yeah I'm 42 now but people always mistake me for 10 years younger and I'm in the best shape of my life but that shit rarely ever happens now.
@@danielbezjak1479 oh, I’m 25 and never experienced that.
So you would pass by a girl with you both smiling at each other, then how would you start that conversation?
I am super jealous of you. I can't even talk to beautiful cool women on trains anymore due to their headphones and faces buried in their iPhones
Man, the social media effect you speak about is massively true. It becomes SO apparent when you date a girl that never relied on social media and still doesn't. Both times I've had a non-social media gf, they've given equal or more effort, didn't do sleezy shit like party and get drunk every weekend, and are just actual good partners. It's for that reason if I find a girl who doesn't use much if any social media, she shoots up to the MVP list. It seriously adds 2-3 to the attractiveness scale.
Or just date girls with private accounts that have little to no posts & be familiar with technology so that hackers and online doxxers can’t fuck with your phone or your girlfriends’ phone.
Why didn't you keep either of those girls?
@@desuretard8654 The first was already in the onboarding process for the Army when we met and the distance apart eventually made things too difficult for her. The 2nd just had some other incompatibilities that I knew would only get worse down the road, so I broke up with her.
Where the hell did you even find a person like that today, let alone a girl!?!?
I am literally the only person under 30 I know that doesn't have a chronic reliance on social media and the internet. People don't go out and do anything anymore without feeling the need to check their phone and tell the rest of the world about it. It's really depressing.
@@Dave5400 Don't worry dawg, you aren't crazy. The non-social media girls are rare as hell. I've only encountered 3 so far, so they do exist, but rarer than a shiny legendary pokemon.
Women are waiting for a guy to approach them. Uh-huh. You gotta be tall and handsome. If not, you'll get rejected.
For sure.
Don't assume that and get discouraged. Get a job (if you are working) or go to a college (if you are studying) where there are a lot of women around try looking of "choosing" signals when you are there. Not all women want tall and handsome. Its the media trying to brainwash you. By the pareto principle, most people are average which also includes women.
@@roninenlightened6350I can agree with you that stepping outside you’ll find that it’s not that bad as social media portrays. But there is an ego issue that’s become increasingly apparent with the rise of social media/dating apps. Most people are average, but average women are now believing they’re the top 1% because women have entered this unspoken social contract that they all refer to each other as 10s, and all tell each other that they deserve the top 1% of men. All of them. It doesn’t help that there are plenty of insecure men with low self esteem out there that inflate the egos of these women further average, above or below, they’re all too aware of their options. I know how this sounds, but I’m not anti women or anti men or any of that. Someone said it in another comment but the blame for the modern dating world and its pitfalls falls on both sides.
@@roninenlightened6350 "try looking of choosing signals" -- nah we good. we not doing none of that anymore. stop throwing hints like a grade school girl. if you like a guy, be a mature adult, open your mouth & introduce yourself. close mouths don['t get fed.
"By the pareto principle, most people are average which also includes women." --- hypergamy. most average women are going for men 2 to 3 points more attractive than themselves. which results in multiple women being in situationships with one man.
News flash tall and handsome isn’t enough anymore too
This is why anyone who dates will fail at dating. Too many unrealistic expectations and insecurities in people to form a lasting committed relationship.
Yo F the loop F the game focus is n your self.. she will leave
Men don't actually want committed relationships. The commitment comes from us not them. Nothing to gain from it.
@@williamlevy6964 That selfishness is why you will not do well in relationships. Also there are women who do not want a committed relationship and men who do, do not think it is because of your sex silly.
@@msarilyn7677 I don't really know where any of either the bullshit comes from. Sounds like personal preference and personal purpose to keep something going while living individually
Women look for security
14:45 - I am never attracted to men with committed relationships with other women. Anyone who leaves another woman for me will leave me for another woman. It’s straight logic.
So, you always know when you look at a guy?
@@StuJones-gn7te haha, most guys run away from me; those who remain tend to be loyal. Lucky.
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Yes you are and no men don’t leave the eir main woman. You’re looking at the situation from your lens
@@StuJones-gn7teshe’s looking at the situation from her POV.
For a guy who studies history, sure seems like you missed the chapter on women dropping a handkerchief on the sidewalk near a man she admired, as an invitation to meet.
Modern women need to be more creative at offering an invitation to meet than, “I looked at him and smiled in a bar, so he should know I’m interested.”
He also missed the white feather bit from the WW1. Where women would give men at war time a white feather to indicate to others that he was a coward for not going to war to die.
History has many lessons.
That's it I'm going to start dropping handkerchiefs
This video removed the women of their own decision-making and their responsibility to be mature. There are too many excuses. Infantilizing them.
And it's sad because it's actually all part of the game they're playin
Manosphere grifters like Denmo are women worshipers
Bro you would not last as a woman one day
This has been the problem with men since the garden of Eden. Always pandering to women. There is nothing new under the sun.
Hey, but 20-some-yearl old girls ARE immature. So are the boys. ;-)
The game was invented by guys in their 20s for people in their 20s, please notice.
I was enjoying watching some of these videos, however, when he said “do you think happy people watch these videos” I realized I am happy and that’s when I turned off the video and decided to not watch these anymore
Yo
Denial is a disease
And then you came back to write this comment to let people know.
Then I'm happy for you bro
You got the wrong friends if they seriously criticize your virginity as either gender.
what about co workers who overheard a private conversation, and harassed me for a couple of months driving me to be suicidal
This just made women sound like neurotic narcissists.
In a way, they are, but western society has also been teaching them from their youth that they are the prize, and the insane amount of positive attention they get from thirsty men naturally inflates their egos.
The blame falls in all directions.
@@BasedChadmanterrible take. Absolutely no consideration on how men can also be neurotic narcissists as is commonly seen throughout the entire red pill. Could it be possible that there are good people on both sides, but we allow shit arguments to justify dehumanizing the other side?
They are
Why do you think dam near every woman wants everything in the divorce and will do just about anything to get it
Don't help anyone by telling the truth?
8. Men don't like to settle with high bodycount women. It's disguisting what has been normalized nowadays.
Virgin women/ women with low body counts don’t like men with high body counts
As someone who is a virgin I can tell you I’ve received so much shame for it that I’m boring a prude and pathetic 😂
@@annafclare Like I said. Its disguisting what has been normalized these days. I dont know how genuine you are but if its correct what you said, you have my utmost respect. Dont let anybody fool you into things that dont align with your own self worth
@@Cat_in_Bljat I agree these people are even in the church too.The hookup culture has ruined love . Many make this a gender thing but it’s just the culture 😔 it’s important for women to be aware of men’s future faking (the most common manipulation to pump and dump) and false commitment and wait until marriage so they aren’t manipulated.
@@annafclare I agree with this 100%. I've met some guys that will use some of the dirtiest and sleaziest lies to get with a girl who's a virgin. Like lying about being a Christian, which to me was something that is just immoral. If you ever know a "friend" like this, warn the other person.
61. It’s over
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It's ovvvverrrrrrrrrr 🖤💙⚡
64. It never started.
It was over for me and my friends at 30.
“If she doesn’t give you a sign don’t approach” is only partly true. A lot of times, you have to start a conversation with her before you’ll get a sign, especially if you both have just made eye contact with one another.
If you get one, great. If not, you still get to workout your social muscles. Win win.
Ooohhhh yes....no signs or green light to approach...I'm not going anywhere!! But honestly, I LOVE getting choosing signals from women...makes life so much easier....getting laid too😂
Never got any signs so I just walk pass by them and eat a nice hamburger
I have experienced the opposite case, women who literally groped me (I always had this thing about having a big butt and chest) but they became uncomfortable with the simple action of touching their elbow.
I don't understand what is a sign and what is something else -
How much social workout do we need until we get the Chad face?
Men approach without a sign the vast majority of the time. Women are awful at giving hints and men are terrible at giving hints. If men didn’t have dumb courage there’d be way more single people right now.
Absolutely loved the breakdown of the impact of social media and dating apps on our relationships. It’s something we all know deep down but often overlook. Thanks for highlighting this critical issue!
To Jack Denmo:
My problem with approaching women is not going up to them, but I freeze up during the conversation & run out of things to say.
My mind goes completely BLANK, I get nervous and the whole situation gets awkward.
My conversational skills when talking to women just suck man.
there is a video from denmo where he tells you how to never run out of things to say
Watch videos from Bartek Social. This guy is great. He approached with full honesty, no smart things and catch phrases. This actually works if you have such problems with conversation.
Owen Cook and Todd V had good videos on never running out of things to say
The way I always approached it, was that it's a friend, but it's been years since I've seen them. Since it's been so long, you of course have to ask what they do for work, if they're in school, blah blah blah. Then when you get past the simplicities, slowly travel between "oh what music are you into", "you watch sports", "what shows you watching right now", and as the one asking the questions, ALL you have to do to make it interesting by agreeing with a couple things and disagreeing with a couple others, and the convos will be interesting from both sides.
Dont worry about running out of things to say. Juat ask her questions and she will do all the talking. Always build rapport with these: who, what, where,how and what. Always works
Approaching a woman in public! Please stop. That sheet is generally over. In fact, it really used to be pubs, clubs..etc. Not sidewalks or parks!
Looks so matter for men. Esp. For the top range girls “9’s & 10’s” not all of course. But they just won’t be attracted no matter how “useful” you are. Nice face, hairline, good hygiene, grooming, good sense of style, and #1 is height and physique of course. So you are wrong. And you throw out the word “model” too easily. On Instagram every girl is a model - despite the fact that she’s a 6 or 7 (maybe even below), and her dress size is let’s say 8 or 10, and she has no sense of style. That’s akin to saying you’ve “dated models”. Just because she calls herself a model, doesn’t mean she is recognized by others of that caliber. The bottom line is… people should [GENERALLY] date their equal or their MATCH in terms of physical appearance, culture, interests, socioeconomic standing, education level. And I see it as an issue on both sides. Everyone wants “better”. But you’re not gonna get better than your level… bcus the person at the top wants their equal (or better). So many times I hear ppl say “ I don’t want to settle” which many times means - they want a partner that is out of their league, they don’t want their equal. So I guess the alternative is to stay single - which I personally think is quite fine.
"So many times I hear ppl say I don’t want to settle” --- just say women... you hear WOMEN say that. because men, never say that.
The system is fucked for both sides. At least men can change their destiny. If they actually put in the work.
What system?
@@ADHD799Socioeconomic system
@@Aubatron Figures
Does limb lengthening count as changing destiny? Your forgetting how it's already over for alot of men based on things they can't change(easily) like height
@straighter100 it does and i will do it by getting a job in i.t. to get that and jaw surgery for better teeth and face then get a better option girl in Phillipines or mexico 🇲🇽 they didnt want me along the journey but wait at finish line.. gtfo
Before man approach women, women should give man a sign! Always beem like this.
that is not happening today
I've never had problems getting laid. I'm just old enough now to realize it's not worth all the problems that come with it. You WILL pay for it, one way or the other.
Girls want ATTRACTIVE guys to approach not UNATTRACTIVE guys. ATTRACTIVE guys rarely ever get rejected. Popularity is for guys. Girls are BORN with popularity status.
I don’t need to be rejected in public to feel bad, any rejection anywhere is bad; hence a slow approach feels more manageable than a fast approach. Getting to know a woman first can eliminate a lot of ‘she will say no’ boxes.
Ah the good ole long game. A respectable strategy. Hard to do outside of school though, unless you are trying to work on your coworker *don’t recommend shitting where you eat*
Doesn't work. This is why they call it the friend zone. Basically, women don't date/sleep with/marry their male friends. They use them to get emotional comfort during bad times, like break ups, to pay their bills occasionally, to give them attention. Not a two way street.
I recommend either dumping any female friends or just recognizing that this form of seduction does not work anymore, if it ever did.
When women find you attractive, they will let you know. Same for men. Y'all so in a rush to be liked by someone, you don't allow time for someone to decide if they like you. Love at first sight does not always need to happen. When you show signs of desperation, the person you like is not going to magically like you more...& the biggest reason yall keep feeling like "dating is failing" is because you keep listening to people tell you the same line over & over so they can sell you stuff lol. People who are out enjoying life & being social don't have a problem smh.
And then year after year, self improvement and going out while nooobody cares.
What are we supposed to think?
But I'm sure glad I got to watch a lot of my generation being degenerate or date old men. Sure, sure.
That only works for women and chad. Imagine trying to be a subhuman 5 ft 2 Indian janitor and see if this still works
@@Halo4beatsB02They are still getting partners, no idea what you are on about
@@novacaine_ cope
"I got 21 questions....would you love me if I flipped burgers at Burger King?"- 50 Cent
I went to a concert over the weekend, saw this two women who were together...I approached to the older one with hi, are you enjoying the show, turns out the other girl was her daughter and de facto bodyguard and swooped in and said get out of here. I said cool 😎, did not mean nothing just saying hi. I know its a numbrrs game, but man, we are not all creeps. I'll keep approaching cause dating apps are trash.
This is the right attitude. Love to see it
It's the bodyguard's loss and lack of empathy
I go to concerts and I'll be a dick to the friend Idc.... I'm not talking to you im talking to the more attractive one. I'll ruin her night I really don't care. Usually the girl I like will give and let me talk to her then I'll work my way in, in one case I got the friends to not talk to each other 😂
@@britneyt9253 no.
have some self respect & stop approaching low value women like single mothers.
Good talk but the biggest problem is the legal system and divorce rate. If men were divorcing 70-90% of the time and basically robbing the women who were providing most of the money id agree. As someone who doesnt have a couple million to split in half and pay to her. Most men are barely above water and all they hear when they get online is a list of demands from the already extemely demanding world.
I’m 18 and had no parents role models.
Trying to grow myself up since 3 years and it’s working.
I’m happy being single but I know it will be better with a beautiful woman that I’m trying to find.
2 days ago after school I wanted to approach chicks on the street but during P.E. I had broken my leg so I’m not able to put any work now
36 yo here and spaniard. I started approaching girls 6 years ago because the online and app scheme here in Spain is soooo frustrating. Even with real life approach the reject rate was soooo high for me at least that my self stem got destroyed at some point last year and I had to go on therapy and now I can say that I’m still single, I still get rejection, but I’m super happy. Living my second youth and being happy for the first time in many years. Just stop putting all the pressure on you guys. Just be cool with yourself, irradiate your own super fun masculine energy and don’t let anybody else’s opinopinion to change your own perception. You are all whole and incredible, enjoy your friends and the little pleasures of life and don’t be needy of women. Just enjoy the fucking awesomeness of everything around and everyone will notice that glow. Ciao!
I’m 30 just 2 months ago. It would seem I’m already following the same path as yours
I’m feeling great being single.
Wish u better luck than mine. Even tho the process itself is worth. You will feel like a social horsepower and better valued facing the fear to rejection and the fear to awkwardness. And also don’t became anxious when you feel unable to approach. You will be able next day no problem. Speak kind to yourself
Jesus is King
Hi Denno, I feel this is all pretty accurate. Especially the part about social media!
Dave the type of dude to give play by play commentary on a Denmo video
😂
Parts of this are good, but many of these issues are multivariate. Guys don't refuse to approach women solely because no one ever taught us how. Most of us have done it in the past and have now stopped. Entitlement, hypergamy, and general lack of quality in modern women modern women are all perfectly reasonable, defensible reasons to change one's approach (or to eliminate it). There are worse things men can be than single, and one of those worse things is to be perpetually taken advantage of. Many things can be causing this simultaneously.
Man, I just finished it, and this takes a nose dive off a cliiiiiiff. By the end you are bragging about running through young women with Daddy issues while simultaneously calling everyone else narcissists. And....I mean... I'm not sure whether it was you "getting rich" that did it, but you're right about one thing. Sometime definitely made you an asshole.
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what's the point of courting a 304? sex isn't special anymore. I'm not committing my time, attention and resources who's already slept with like 6 guys before me. Recreational use is one thing, but the whole point of dating is to marry... wtf is the point of marrying someone who is ran-through and forever has her exes living rent free in her brain? who knows this person is? 5 years....10 years down the line she could wake up one day, realize she doesn't love you anymore, divorce you and take half.
Actually, they take more then half. It's more like 75% when you factor in child and spousal support.
Most men don’t approach because they’re nervous. If you deny that you’re either naive to your surroundings or you’re in denial.
I’m old. I’m out of the loop. Women don’t want me to initiate anything, so I don’t. The only people I talk to are other men or women that I would not have anything to do with, mostly some light-hearted joking. Low risk.
People talk about MGTOW but there's also TFL/MSTOW.
True Forced Loneliness/Men Sent Their Own Way.
The signs never come. The interest is never there. You're basically run away from.
And so yeah. It's not that men are scared. It's that we see terrified females, who paradoxically seem completely satisfied, who are not friendly. And thus, we don't continue to try over and over. Even if the signs come, it's usually an ego boost. She wants somebody to get the ball rolling and you might be it. After she rejects you she's looking at the older, taller or cuter men she really wants. And then she laughs at you when or if she gets it.
@@SartorialisticSavage65 "but there's also TFL/MSTOW." --- the word you're looking for is INCEL.
@@asdfxcvbn746 well yeah but that's not what I meant
@@SartorialisticSavage65 i'm just going off what you said. you're describing incels.
@@asdfxcvbn746 Incels admit the issue, not sure why we use it as shaming when they embrace it as red pill? Those who shame others as incels are posers themselves in fear of becoming one. Pretty stupid.
I appreciate your humility. Keep up your work.
Low birth rate and later childbearing age are issues in almost all countries with a high standard of living. For example, here in Finland, the birth rate is less than 2 children per woman, which means extinction of our people in the longer term unless we do something to improve it. There is only one country in the world with a high standard of living and same time natural population growth, and that is Israel.
USA too
Finland's population used to be less than 20% of what it is today. Chill out.
@@channel1_channel You are right. Even if the number of Finns dropped by a million in this case, it still wouldn't be such a bad thing.
But our declining population combined with mass immigration from third countries makes it worse. Currently, more immigrants move to Finland than Finns are born here per year.
This development consciously made by politicians has its own name, people replacement.
@@juhoseppala1343 Destruction is easier than construction. Yes, these nations are being dismantled.
Don't worry, your nation will stay native unlike England, but the composition of natives will different, probably Laestadian
This dave guy is losing his mind in the comment section boys somebody check in on him lol
It's fascinating 🍿
I see him, but I honestly think he has good points, Jack. Maybe you could go over the points some time? And tirle it "why men don't want to put themselves out there" or something... like we all see it. It's fear. Men have no reason to feel confident anymore. We all need a fucking mediator.
@@nathan_somethingy’all have no reason to feel confident, I’m proud of myself and the improvements I’m making
@@nathan_somethingWhy don’t you feel confident?
@@33Danso3xAgreed. Accomplishments and competency breed confidence.
"if you say hi to a women it could be consider a criminal offense" what the fuck is wrong with this world
Ugly guys are not allowed to talk to anyone.
Thanks for helping to put things in perspective for everyone.
Single and unready to mingle
I'm single bilingual and not ready to mingle
9:31 - BETAS need to pay off her debt at 30, hot guys do not need to provice shit. I’ve lived on both sides
OH ok 🙄
Great video….Thanks!
if saying Hi is cat calling, I recommend moving out of that country that's insane
30 here. Also in Canada right now, because of the mass immigration problem, men now outnumber women 10-1. But that's another issue entirely.
damn didnt even think about that
Damn, is that a real statistic? Canada had 39 million people before the pandemic. About 20m were female.
They must have let in 200 million exclusively male immigrants to make the ratio 10:1 since the pandemic.
It's weird that I see a tonne of Filipino and Indian girls working at every Tim's, Wal-Mart and McDonald's.
What I find is that anti-immigration people are always high IQ and up to date on the statistics, and didn't just decide to be xenophobic based on their emotions.
That's a good statistic.
Those immigrants have family and dont even interact with woman
I noticed this the first time I went out to a club in downtown Toronto after a 10 year hiatus. Sausagefest.
25M, I’ve definitely had troubles because I never had a girl like me in high school despite many attempts of asking girls out, I’ve somewhat made it out of this but recently I’ve been freezing up trying to approach more despite previous experiences
Keep fighting the good fight.. no pressure..
The only way is forward my friend. Keep trying!!! Im struggling too. But we gotta keep going until we get one. And your still young dude, men reach their prime in their 30's, so you early in the game as long as you keep putting in the effort.
Same for me back in college and now that I am out of college, life gets much harder to meet kind beautiful and chill women who won't give me cold energy
stop approaching. get in the gym & attract. women don't chase men who chase...
Beautiful video I really enjoyed. Thanks.
Very well made video!
32 male, trying to date but it's tough. very competitive
Ok… 32 women are old
Why? Gave up at 30 .
stop competing. get in the gym & attract. 90% of men don't work out so getting buff will put you in the top %
I dated a 19 year old (5-6, 130 lbs) when I was 40.
Yes @@LoneWolf-bz2id
Living in the UK I can assure all that even thinking about approaching a women could get you bad attention from the authorities. This does not deter some elements who simply regard it as an occupational hazard and will simp all day long. So it means women for ordinary men are strictly off limits but good sport for those that don't care about the possible consequences. The game goes on...
I love the uniqueness of your videos. I a lot of fresh concepts that I don’t see anywhere else.
literally every red pill youtuber talks about this stuff. especially casey zander.
@@asdfxcvbn746 cool
As a 29 year old woman I spent my 20s working on myself and handling situations in a bad way. I didnt go out much cause im a introvert. I was pretty but looked awkward at the same time. Turning 30 I handle situations better and look so much better than my 20s. I am also saving myself for marriage. My life has gotten so much better. I think everyone’s values goes up as you get older. You lose value when you’re a terrible person.
Female brain
@@cristobal.ashton It's a beautiful brain isn't it? It's full of compassion, nurturing, intuition, creative, and empathic ❤
@@misscleo_ yeap
Why is the one with no power or control in the situation the one forced to take the initiative? It's completely backwards. Women are the gatekeepers. They should be the approachers. Men being the approachers is a remnant from a time when men had all of the power and control in the situation. Now that the situation is reversed, approaching also needs to be reversed.
I agree with all your other points though.
To simply answer the video title without watching the video:
Because of their lack of social skills and the consequential inability to flirt.
That goes for guys too, by the way, although less so.
How did they come to lack this trait? Through their overexposure to the digital world (understand social media) and underexposure to the real one.
Very informative! Please take care everyone.
This was actually a really interesting watch. Good luck to you all out there!
19M, I find that it’s practically impossible to maintain a relationship these days due to this viscious cycle. It’s stopped being Men and Women and turned into Men vs Women and it’s having a terrible effect on both men and women.
Ugh ikr! It’s so toxic
Yeah but laydayz also don't realize how much we get C_ensored even when saying good things to try to make it make sense.
People don't realize the state of CTRL.
I'm 26 and it was like this when I was 19. I've lost almost all desire to date at this point.
It’s a gender war that continues to be perpetuated by the red and blue pill. It’s literally that simple.
If you're a reasonably normal looking guy, acting like an a..hole works. It doesn't help you find "the one," because the girls who'll go for you probably won't be the kinds you want to keep.
Also helps to lower the standard as much as you can stand. Older women are usually a lot easier to bed.
talk yo ish Denmo.. .. subscribed 💡
That was the most through and accurate explanation I've seen. As an attractive fit woman in her 50's single I can tell you 30 40 yr olds something. Don't loose hope, I still get hit on by men as young as 30. Keep yourself up, and just enjoy men's company, don't be bitter and put yourself out there. Unconditional love is still love, and I love all my friends guys and gals. Sometimes your friends are the loves of your life! LOVE YOURSELF so important!
"That was the most through and accurate explanation I've seen." --- casey zanders explanations are even more detailed.
"I still get hit on by men as young as 30." --- they only want sex, they're not offering commitment.
Its generally believed that older (40+) women are easier to bed. That's why men as young as 18-19 "date" women in that age range.
"Being a virgin at an old age, like if you're 20, 21 and you're still a virgin, that's humiliating"... ouch.
I was 25. Just socially inept.
6:40 and this is why AI girlfriends are gonna get more popular in 5-10 years. Companies can use self driving cars and self driving trucks to offset the financial costs and risks from having a human driver because they don't have to be paid a high salary and they are also way less likely to get into an accident. Same deal with most of these human women.
that is so true i dont approach because the risk of it being awkward and humiliating is very freakin high lol
Spitting the fax on each point
I'm 35. Dating for the first time after a decade of serious relationships.
Sorry to hear that.
my condolences.
Girls can approach to boys as well. We live in 2024.
I just turned 30 this year. I agree with most things you said in the video. I will say that the thing between this video and the other video made for men is missing, is that most people don't know how to focus on their own goals and desires. Like you said in the video, we have these attention drainers(phones/social media) that tell/show us the "lives we should be having". Most of it is all fake and everyone including you(Denmo) are trying to get views as well for money.
Nothing is wrong with that. I won't say to completely stop watching videos and using social media, but you really have to take the bits of the information and things you're consuming that really resonate with you as a person. Everyone is different, so the content they produce may be true for them, but it may not be true/work for you. It's up to you to figure that out for yourself. This is also true for books and other things you consume.
My advice, do what you can, focus on your goals, meet people without expectations, and just be a kind human being. This will solve 90% of your problems in my opinion. If you solely focus on yourself, you don't have time for the bullshit. If you focus on trying to bang/date/sleep with whoever, it's going to get you nowhere. Just meet people who resonate with you and keep them in your life. Maybe you may meet that girl/guy, that you will marry and spend the rest of your life with (relationships are difficult and communication/trust is literally the most important thing). Lastly, I really think who you choose to keep around your circle and especially who you marry is super important. Make sure those people align with you as well.
This doesn't mean that you can't be friends with people with different opinions, I actually encourage the opposite. The more differing opinions and viewpoints you are exposed to, the more well-rounded of a person you will be because you will learn more about the world around you. Everyone is so vastly different with different backgrounds. Keep a circle that is likeminded in the sense that you can talk about your viewpoints and work together(essentially communication).
i can't told you what my brother did because he was married and not me, but the pressure was unreal
很有意义的视频，介绍了男女关系的现状和不好的结局，似乎很难解决这个问题
Very informative. Maybe you could try to use Roman characters and the language of the video?
@@StuJones-gn7te not everyone have to talk the way you do. Also if you are that curious google translate is two clicks away. here is the translation 'A very meaningful video that introduces the current situation and bad endings of male-female relationships. It seems difficult to solve this problem.' racist
@ensdogukan - Gute Punkt. Natuerlich sollte ich es so lassen.
Trotzdem, ich mache keine Kummer um was er/sie gesagt hat. Mir ist es scheiss egal.
Uebersetzen etwas bedeutet mehr Arbeit als es bewehrt.
Allies gut! Deifel hab di!
@@StuJones-gn7te hen you yi yi de shi pin ,jie shao le nan nv guan xi de xian zhuang he bu hao de jie ju ,si hu hen nan jie jue zhe he wen ti.
A very meaningful video that introduces the current situation and negative outcomes of male female relationships, which seems difficult to solve。
sorry ,I thought app could translate the comment ,this is the translation
I was recently in costa rica sipping on a martini at a hotel pool and heard an interesting convo between two good looking woman behind me. She was saying how she passed a cute guy on the beach and when she came back that way he was still there.. she said how she wanted him to talk to her and how now adays shes makes it very clear when she is interested because she knows how hard it must be for a guy to get rejected 4-5 times and after a while they must want to just give up. and the other girl was saying how if she got rejected even once she would probably go to her bed and cry for the day and how "we have almost done it too ourselves at this point". They were both very attractive woman as well
Hard to believe that happened ,empathy for men is genuinely no felt by other women
@@badchinchila9799 Yeah I was surprised to hear them saying that, was kinda a breathe of fresh air that woman are getting it too
@@badchinchila9799 because in thee Anglo West it's effeddddd
This definitely helps me. Granted I already understood both sides, but I find myself getting emotional when I see attractive women putting in 0 effort and getting everything in life handed to them.
I’m currently 24, I’m 6’1, I work out daily, I have a full beard, I have a business with my step dad, and I just bought a house yet I’m still invisible to women or I get rejected when I try so I just don’t anymore and keep to myself. I have really dry humor and people in my career love my personality.. but the only thing that makes me so bitter is that pretty women don’t even have to try and they get it all handed to them while I bust my ass and get nothing or the scraps.
I understand it takes time to get stable, but I don’t want women waiting on me and only wanting me at the finish line. At that point I’m not interested, I need loyalty, not vanity and a me me me wife who’s only pretty and can’t have wife qualities.
23:50 , Some people are content the way things are and i think theyre the exception to what you are saying here. But if they have an internal desire to get something, people cope with resentment until they get it or realise they no longer need it or their attention shifts to the next thing, like Greene and you say.
I switched so many times between like and dislike, you said some truths and some opinions I don't agree with, so I won't put a like/dislike.
When you said "Come on, Do you think happy people watch videos like this?" I burst out laughing while cleaning my oom.
I actually am happy, genuinley. I could be happ-IER, who couldn't? but curiosity more than anything led me to watch this video. But yes, dating sucks and it's hard... but bitching about it in TH-cam comments doesnt make it easier, so time to roll-up the sleeves and hit Lakeshore to hopefully talk up some badies next month.
Lll what’s Lakeshore may I ask?
@@user-is4zu1kb9b it was a reference to a place in Toronto great for cold approach. its basically a long boardwalk/beach that gets busy in the summer
I watch these kinds of videos and I'm quite happy. Maybe I have a unique perspective.
Thank you!
36:39 Good point man! Good on on you for working to actually fix this mess instead of making it worse.
This is why passport bros movement works for many young men. I am moving to Japan. USA ain't it chief
9:00 - they get no attention huh? so they don’t have 2000 followers. 4000 matches and hundreds of messages per day? What delusion land do you live in?
Women prefer to get attention in real life because it's natural. Think about it this way. You, as a guy, can't get attention in real life. You'll obviously get desperate. As a result, you go to dating apps. Same thing goes with women but with slight difference from there on.
Real life is always better than dating apps.
They dont get good attention in real life. Only in Bars or Clubs
Ooh so this is the “Dave guy” 😂😂😂
Right he talking crazy
All you said has already been said but you put it all together in a nice video. 👏
You are absolutely great man! You inspire me so much! I'm learning so much from you and I agree with most of the things you say.
I just don't agree with a couple of things. The reason why you say that dating is easier for girls is because of a blindspot. As the same for you to think that not agreeing with this, is because men are upset with women. I'm not saying this doesn't happen but you are only thinking about goodlooking girls with not many issuses... and insecure men full of issuses.
Maybe is just because in your contry things are different than mine (Italy).
I also don't agree when you say that women mature quicker. We had this conversation in my classroom and at the end we all agreed that the roles we have implicate different levels of maturity in different sectors. The fact that usually girls look for older men is because they need a man more mature than them, not because the younger ones are not as mature as them.
I agree with the fact that men need to be helped. There is so much sexism against men in the western world that we need to be enouraged by both other men and women. Women need us and we need them.
In my understanding of life we do have a narcisist side, but that's the side which makes us suffer. Don't disavow it because that's what keeps you alive but at the same time remember to feed your soul. Always learn from your parents and grandparents because life might be different but deep down we are still the same.
"Maybe is just because in your contry things are different than mine (Italy)." --- the U.S is different from Italy... this is not Italy. I guarantee the dating scene is much harder & worse in the U.S.
"I also don't agree when you say that women mature quicker." --- that some b.s men say to make women nod & agree.
Nah this dave guy has to be a bot
💀 bro commented more on this video than I ever did in my entire life
I like what You said,what are women good at. Being self centered,selfish,proud,cheating,lieing.etc...
There was a time where I was deathly scared of being perceived as some kind of creep, so I was overly cautious. But sometimes that could happen for reasons totally out of our control.
A story: I was at a dance event when I expressed interest in a dance at a later time to a friend of a friend. About 10 minutes later her friend (a female, also a close friend of mine) pulled me aside and advised me to steer clear of her. This friend said that she was "creeped out" by my approach. I basically heeded her warning and that person was invisible to me for the rest of the evening - even as I socialized with others there.
In retrospect, I could find absolutely nothing wrong with how I approached this person. I am confident that there was nothing in my behavior that a reasonable woman would have considered "creepy". It is a dance event - men ask women to dance all the time at these things. I figured it likely this person wasn't used to events like these. (Disclaimer: if you're thinking by "dancing" I am referring to grinding your private parts on her hiney, I'll have you know that kind of thing isn't even recognized as dancing in our circle.)
This is the best video you’ve made so far 😊
I normally wait till women start talking to me and then I'll ask her because then I know she might be interested. I don't approach women like I did in highschool and before because things have changed a lot.
That's it. Never approach her first.
Beautiful whiteboard tactics in this one bro!
Im a 24yo woman in a happy relationship. I actually made the first move with my current bf whos the love of my life and my ex. Growing up, I was insecure, mostly chubby, tomboy, didnt get attention from boys at all. But I also didn't crave it! I preferred staying home, playing videogames, going outside with my cousins. As I got older, I went on social media (i got a smartphone when I was around 14) and I did start comparing myself. I felt horrible. I felt like nobody's gonna love me and I gave up on ever finding someone. But as I grew up, I took care of myself, let my hair grow out, lost weight, did my eyebrows, took care of my skin, and I felt better about myself. Unfortunately I did get groomed at 16 years old online but at least that gave me the confidence to know Im actually attractive. So when I had a crush on my ex I felt confident enough to confess, and he liked me back. Ive never been attracted to fuckboys or even guys that seek alot of attention from women. If a guy follows alot of women on social media that would turn me off immediately. And I dont even see the opposite sex as potential partners cuz I grew up with mostly boys and other girls who had the same interests as guys, like me. When I was younger i never cared about makeup, fashion etc. I only started when I wanted to look more attractive to feel better about myself. And I still don't know how to do proper makeup, but I dont need that anyways. So far everyone has told me I look better without it. So yeah, just wanted to give some insight on my life.. I also don't like competing with other women, and Ive never been on dating apps. I also dont want to be liked for my looks only, I actually met my bf online and fell in love with him before I even knew what he looked like. I also dont like most girls because of the drama I experienced with them in school. One old highschool friend recently called me saying that shes cheating on her bf with someone she met on vacation. How vile is that. And no I dont consider her my friend. I actually don't have any friends apart from online friends. And i dont even feel the need to have any.
And my values are pretty traditional. When I have kids I definitely want to be a stay at home mom, I want to please my husband, i want to make his life easier. I dont go outside looking for the next best option, I am mindful and grateful. Oh and Im from Germany where women my age already have a high bodycount, go outside, seek male validation, etc. Im so glad im not like this. I did grow up with a dad but my parents divorced when I was 17. My mom was the main breadwinner and still did most household chores and taking care of us kids. So internally I thought, i never want to have a life like that. I know my value as a woman and I deserve a loving, protecting, providing husband.
men used to approach but today they don't. why? clearly something has changed, men are responding, they were not born like this. But like all you started the video blaming men stating women are waiting and pissed, women are waiting for someone else, they don't like nice guys. this is not the case. I'm Unsubscribing.....
nobody like nice guys...people like to get manipulated.
Psyhology isn't taken seriously.
All dating advices are actually manipulation techniques.
@@Yuri-nc9vl exactly, it's all manipulation
@@Yuri-nc9vl In general, everything is sales.
@@zebec518 I know man.
And it's funny that his approaches on cam are reallyyyyy nottttt that successful. But he'll say. See? Wasn't so bad. Uh yeah it was ok but it wasn't GOOD either.
22:06 - that’s not by choice *face palm*
I was going to comment saying im happy in my 30s but you totally called me out at the end hahaha
happy people don't watch these videos lol
Spitting facts
26, single, and definitely a little angry but as far as i can tell i have every right to be. One thing thats a bit annoying about your videos is that you still assume that a lot of the problem is dumb stuff like men not being masculine or brave enough where i think the only problem on the men’s side is that there’s too many of them. Supply and demand plus society being set up to prioritize making life easy for women at the expense of men in the modern era is making women’s attitude more toxic than any dude i’ve seen because they are wholly self unaware in most cases. These days you cant even get a girl that notifies you if she wants to cancel plans or she’s no longer interested because they think they and their time is worth so much more than you that they cant send a message. The rug of society needs to be pulled out from under modern women until they stop acting like they’re better than men.
What do you mean by "the only problem on the men’s side is that there’s too many of them"? As far as statistics go birthrate of men and women is basicly 50/50. I mean globally and excluding nations where 1-child policy was and other weird alterations leading to dominance of one gender. It might seem like there are too many men just because majority is constantly being rejected by women and all the women want to date small percentage of top-tier men. Leading to small percentage of men having majority of women while the rest of the men struggle - leading to a situations where if there is some opportunity to get a women those places are riddled with men - bars, events, and finally dating apps. So yeah you are kind of right but not because of nature or imbalance in numbers of each gender.
@@lubomirkurpel9757 pretty sure the population charts show otherwise for many countries. If theres significantly more men than women for any given population there’s more men that are going to be around to vy for or serve women in general; so the attention of men becomes cheap even if many of the men are realistically on the same level as the woman. She feels (maybe jot consciously) as if she can just treat men poorly because if she takes advantage of one man there’s another around the corner who will still give her a chance, and in general the society she lives in will bail her out of situations she could end up in as a result of poor life decisions and these bailouts are worked and paid for off the backs of men. There’s basically no way you can realistically lose as a woman in modern society without completely and consciously throwing away all your opportunities, there will always be a lot of guys interested in dating you and the government will subsidize your finances so you have no incentive to behave well towards men.
Womp Womp
@@womansrights6068 Rage bait used to be believable...
@@MK_ULTRA420 Womp Womp
Still not much sympathy to be honest .... tons of women lack insight, and actually proactively analyse and self reflect on their trajectory and life choices .... most of their problems are self inflicted .....
What a terrible attitude, you act as if women aren't even human. Do you think that men are perfect beings who are all doing self-reflection and meditation every day?
@@MegaGraceiscooloverreaction he didn’t portray women as subhuman at all, he’s actually very accurate and I 100% have nothing against women.
And no some men definitely lack self reflection but the issue is they don’t have the privilege of lacking self reflection. They’ll be punished for it in one way or another, women get kid gloves therefore don’t need to be accountable for themselves. Nobody will hold them accountable. This is why they lack self reflection, not because they’re subhuman, it’s because society treats them like children
Hey what’s your haircut called? I have a similar face shape and I’ve been struggling to find a good haircut.
Jack please, could you list the books you talked about in this video. Thanks.
go look up any robert greene book.
@@asdfxcvbn746 Thanks.
The man is back🔥
12:32 - what guys? what the fuck are you talking about? I have NEVER seen a guy at the gym ‘insecure’ because a guy next to him was bigger. They respect him and maybe get competitive. Women aren’t insecure either, they’re simply manipulating to control the market in their favour. They are way more ego driven than you’re either letting on or understanding.
As a guy I get a bit insecure when another guy is 3+ years ahead of me in muscle mass
Yeah the gym is a pretty positive environment. And when people take off their headphones to talk, we all call eachother bro.
Haha lies men in the gym are so catty I have met so many men who will talk shit about each other to get a girl or will talk shit about a girl who isn’t interested in them.. the gym is one of the main places I learned how insecure and girly men truly can be
Great... Yet another infomercial. Just what the world needs...
If you date a firstborn girl, and more so one who rose above a bad family and helped their siblings when their parents were addicts or whatver, you have a whole world of difficulties ahead of you unless you are happy to let her be the man. Highly agree on that, speaking for a friend of course 😅
38yo single guy here, only had one relationship in my early thirties which only started because she was the persueer and it fizzled out a few years later. Never have I asked a women out or even contact information.
Only recently I fully understand whats up, I researched a lot about cptsd and childhood trauma. I definitely did not have a good childhood and was neglected and abused by both parents. I have disorganized attachment style and low self worth because of what I want through. I just stay away from women and do my own thing and keep my peace.
Might be something else worth looking into to further your biz.