Should I Text My Ex?

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  • Should you text your ex if you want to get back together with him or her? If they dumped you, Coach Lee has some powerful things for you to consider if you are wanting to text them with the hopes of getting them back.
    Is keeping the lines of communication open with your ex by texting a good thing or bad thing in terms of your efforts to get back together with him or her?
    In this video, Coach Lee answers the question, "Should I text my ex?"
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  • @Dad_Brad
    @Dad_Brad 3 ปีที่แล้ว +465

    If you dare to text your ex, i’d recommend having done a lot of work on yourself and knowing what you’re going to say. Prepare to be disappointed. You’re rolling the dice with your heart on the line.

    • @fooshoo2006
      @fooshoo2006 3 ปีที่แล้ว +35

      Put yourself in their position. If you have ever dumped someone.. your either happy it’s over and slowly forget all about the person, or you see a few days/weeks later that you really miss the person. I’ve dumped girls and everytime the girl contacted me I felt bad for them and wish they would get over me. I’ve also dumped a girl and regretted it a few weeks later like hell and guess what I did? I REACHED out and got her back. I e also reached out to girls I’ve dumped 2 years ago but guess what, during that entire time I didn’t think a second about that girl.. I just wanted a easy booty call. I know it sucks but it’s the way it is. I got dumped a week ago and know if she doesn’t contact me within the next 1-2 months she is completely over me and that’s just the sad reality . After 2 months they should know.... much later is just a bootycall/ego boost

    • @Dad_Brad
      @Dad_Brad 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@fooshoo2006 I totally understand your situation. I’ve been there too. I think with us guys we’re more likely to reach out to an old flame we broke up with in the past just for a booty call. Women don’t seem to do that as much in my experience. I wouldn’t give up on your ex though if she doesn’t contact you right away. I’m 38 (old, I know) and have had an ex from 9 years ago reach out to me. A girl who had a crush on me in high school 20 years ago even reached out to me on Facebook but we were too far away to hook up. Never say never👍

    • @elieghummed7066
      @elieghummed7066 3 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      Rolling the dice and your heart on the line wow that’s exactly what scare me of contacting her

    • @29mirstudio
      @29mirstudio 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Great advice. If you call, you need to be ready for possible rejection. So true

    • @inafegodswill8476
      @inafegodswill8476 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      I know o f a man how help me gat my ex back.....

  • @ndkrnebejenele7358
    @ndkrnebejenele7358 3 ปีที่แล้ว +372

    48 days later...... she contacted me. We had a conversation, we might meet up soon. We have been broken up for close to 3 months now. Guys, I had the nightmares. I had the panic attacks. She went from saying she wanted to get back together one day to saying she would date other guys first. I begged I pleaded... I did everything. The only thing that worked was no contact. Stick to it my friends. It works in most cases. You know this more than likely if you are watching this video. So do it!! Please, I watched these videos I didn’t listen and it made it worse. I finally listened and.... she is now initiating contact and sending funny messages and cheerful conversations. Stay with it!! Soon enough it will work. If not... forget them. You deserve someone who fights for you

    • @gabbymontoya2085
      @gabbymontoya2085 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Well I never begged but tried to reason in civil manner .. that was my fight to reach an understanding yet it didn’t work 2 Nd time broken up from a guy that neglects and really doesn’t care if I’m gone.. SELF RESPECT is your priority ..Someone that will not COMPROMISE in any kind of relationship doesn’t deserve your time..even after coming back together continue with your standards.

    • @rajpallav4438
      @rajpallav4438 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Bro is shes know that u suffer from panic attack?

    • @vanthawng8524
      @vanthawng8524 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Giving me hope after I messed up bad

    • @pj8624
      @pj8624 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Awesome success story!! :) You give me hope!!!!

    •  2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      If she told you she wanted to date other guys she is evil, walk away

  • @vladig7006
    @vladig7006 3 ปีที่แล้ว +695

    This no contact thing is actually making me forget about my ex and not wanting her back..lol

    • @mlong506
      @mlong506 3 ปีที่แล้ว +33

      Winning!

    • @drdarnley6132
      @drdarnley6132 3 ปีที่แล้ว +49

      That’s exactly what I’m afraid of. Yet I snap back to reality and say “his lost”

    • @captainswan3079
      @captainswan3079 3 ปีที่แล้ว +38

      ❤ It's a freeing, transformative feeling.

    • @Giovanni-01
      @Giovanni-01 3 ปีที่แล้ว +32

      I'm at that stage now

    • @FOSELONE
      @FOSELONE 3 ปีที่แล้ว +33

      Sucks in a way doesn’t it?

  • @IrishCassidy
    @IrishCassidy 3 ปีที่แล้ว +380

    I hope you all have a Happy Holiday Season. I hope your Ex doesnt think your a fool. I hope your Ex realizes what an important person you are, and how THEY made a huge mistake!

  • @vintagebabyseventythree6244
    @vintagebabyseventythree6244 3 ปีที่แล้ว +56

    Don’t do it. Trust me. You’re not going to get the response you want.

    • @vintagebabyseventythree6244
      @vintagebabyseventythree6244 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@bonifaceeze8595 too late, I’m fucking over it 😂

    • @vintagebabyseventythree6244
      @vintagebabyseventythree6244 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @Jason lol I’m a sista 😂 but that’s ok. Yes, I did reach out to my ex about a month after the breakup and I got a mouthful of abuse. It just made things worse. I shouldn’t have bothered because it didn’t help my case, if anything it probably sealed my fate.
      It’s been over a year since I broke up with my ex and so this post is pretty old but my advice is the same, don’t contact them. No matter how much you want to. You’re better off walking away like you don’t care and letting them rethink it and if there’s any hope at all, they’ll come to you. That’s just how it has to be my friend. Hugs to ya 😊

  • @apollobarkley
    @apollobarkley 3 ปีที่แล้ว +66

    No Contact works like a charm. But if you’ve waited 3-4 months, move on with your life. You’ve won.

    • @brittany8868
      @brittany8868 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      So how long did you wait

  • @OscarMartinez-lo9ec
    @OscarMartinez-lo9ec 3 ปีที่แล้ว +169

    Guys and girls unless he/ she specifically told you time and time again to not contact them then please oh please listen to them because they have already thrown u out of their lives if they want you in their lives they will surely let you know they will contact you they will look for you just let them come to you because if they took the effort to break it off then dont hurt yourself by reaching out let them reach out please

    • @MegaAlsf
      @MegaAlsf 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Fake news

    • @drdarnley6132
      @drdarnley6132 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Exactly and don’t do a rebound relationship

    • @mayventurinafit1593
      @mayventurinafit1593 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      thank u..

    • @lisat5666
      @lisat5666 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Ouch, but Thank you...

    • @inafegodswill8476
      @inafegodswill8476 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      I know o f a man how help me gat my ex back.....

  • @user-xc7bh5ow1s
    @user-xc7bh5ow1s ปีที่แล้ว +33

    Going through a break up now. At night it’s always the hardest, after crying I just pull some videos of Coach Lee and listen to calm and reassure during no contact when all I want is to reach out.
    I’ve listened to his videos on my way to work, and sometimes during my lunch (when I find myself almost about to cry at work). It’s helping me just get through each day.
    I miss my ex so much. I begged and pleaded for the first week but have since stopped. Only on DAY 3. Hopefully this works.

    • @racheyg1980
      @racheyg1980 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Your not alone, me too it’s so hard

    • @patriciakenya
      @patriciakenya ปีที่แล้ว +1

      🤣🤣🤣🤣hang in there bud! you got this 💪

    • @user-xc7bh5ow1s
      @user-xc7bh5ow1s ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Update! Listening to Coach Lee’s videos before work and before bed has helped me a ALOT. It’s officially been 4 weeks since break up and found out ex is on Tinder already looking for rebounds. Not sure if I want him back now if he can easily move on to the next, but I am a little stronger now. I’m focusing on me. Like Coach Lee says, THEY walked away from you. Give them the breakup. You’ll be stronger and although he hasn’t reached out, he will feel the loss even more I stay in NC. If he tries to come back, I’ll hopefully know how to respond.

    • @edt8535
      @edt8535 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      To my dear friend, I wish you the very best! I welled up reading your words. I just got broken up with, too.

    • @user-xc7bh5ow1s
      @user-xc7bh5ow1s ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@edt8535 let it out and cry it out. I think of him every single day and am still processing. Prayers and hugs during this difficult time 🙏🏻

  • @deirdremarshall-greene1181
    @deirdremarshall-greene1181 2 ปีที่แล้ว +23

    1. Removes The Mystery.
    2 Bring Limerence.
    3. Do Not Chase. Interpret is Higher Than You
    4. Do Not pull them back to the Relief Srage.
    5. Don't Experience the Breakup if approaching Ex To Early
    6. Prevents the Fear of Loss
    7. Reality Check./ Fake BreakUp/Dictatorship.
    8. NC 90days

  • @afistfuloflambsauce2641
    @afistfuloflambsauce2641 3 ปีที่แล้ว +193

    Been in No - Contact for at least 5 months or so, feeling great, better than I ever did before, believe me, I thought I was at the end of my life waiting for her, until I met these vids and your website, you are a true lifesaver Coach, much respect to you!

    • @mianrowan
      @mianrowan 3 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      Isn't it crazy that if we had never met this person we could walk by them like nothing in the street but for some reason this person who was nothing to me before we met now has me feeling all this misery

    • @afistfuloflambsauce2641
      @afistfuloflambsauce2641 3 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      @@mianrowan remember to steer clear of their path and head away from that person, for their charm makes you see them as a person you take the bullet for, but in the end of the day, they're the one's behind the trigger.

    • @erxfav3197
      @erxfav3197 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@afistfuloflambsauce2641 why 5 months? Are you still hopeful?

    • @afistfuloflambsauce2641
      @afistfuloflambsauce2641 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@erxfav3197 because from experience, I felt that 4 months or less was too little time for me, to heal, to focus on me.

    • @afistfuloflambsauce2641
      @afistfuloflambsauce2641 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@erxfav3197 I haven't really felt hopeful for her return as I used to before I went into No Contact.

  • @LoFromCali
    @LoFromCali 3 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    If I didn’t hear back from my ex after 3-4 months of no contact then I still wouldn’t reach out. It might set me back. If they don’t come back, keep moving forward. If someone is dumb enough to let you go, be smart enough to let them.

  • @hamza1517
    @hamza1517 3 ปีที่แล้ว +58

    Coach Lee is the best. His tactics work perfectly if they are truly were in love with u in some point.

    • @TheDepiano
      @TheDepiano 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      I wouldn't call them "tactics" though

  • @Micro_Learning
    @Micro_Learning 2 ปีที่แล้ว +30

    I love you so much as a relationship coach. You're not the only one out there who's good, but you have a particular style & demeanor that is possibly the classiest & most mature.

    • @okechukwuinnocent4185
      @okechukwuinnocent4185 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hello I'm so excited my relationship was fixed back again my ex is back to me we loving and happily together,l got help from a great man who brought us back together...

    • @okechukwuinnocent4185
      @okechukwuinnocent4185 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      WhatZapp hiM NOw🌹🌹🌹👆👆👆

    • @GordonPavilion
      @GordonPavilion 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@okechukwuinnocent4185

  • @jtsjoshy
    @jtsjoshy 2 ปีที่แล้ว +55

    You shouldn't text him/her because You'll give your ex the satisfaction of knowing you aren't over them. If you and your ex don't communicate, they have no way of knowing if you've moved on or are still thinking about them. As soon as you send that text, you remove all that doubt. Even just a quick text shows that you still aren't over the breakup.

    • @verseddd7003
      @verseddd7003 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thanks man, this helped me pick what I should do so much. I won’t text her .

    • @okechukwuinnocent4185
      @okechukwuinnocent4185 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hello I'm so excited my relationship was fixed back again my ex is back to me we loving and happily together,l got help from a great man who brought us back together...

    • @okechukwuinnocent4185
      @okechukwuinnocent4185 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      WhatZapp hiM NOw🌹🌹🌹👆👆👆

    • @AustinFranklin-iq8tn
      @AustinFranklin-iq8tn ปีที่แล้ว

      Is there any chance me and my ex-girlfriend could get back together?
      Last month she asked for time apart as her feelings had slowly faded over the course of the last three months. After giving it some thought, I told her the fair thing to do would be to break up. She insisted that she actually didn’t want the break up, but that she felt nothing for me (she said she truly loved me, but didn’t have feelings). She gave it some thought and agree that the best thing to do was to break up. I contacted her 5 days after our breakup for answers but the quickly gave up. Two weeks after no contact she reached out to me and I waited 6 hours to reply to her. She responded immediatly and kept the conversation going until I had to stop her. I said I had to do something and offered to get lunch the next day. She agreed. A week after this she sent me a random text, to which I replied with a short message. She didn’t reply. It’s been a week and we haven’t contacted each other in any way.

  • @TRESHONCURRY
    @TRESHONCURRY 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Life is a test, if you pass or fail determines how strong you are.
    It’s all mental. Stay strong whether they come back or not.

  • @apartmanin8145
    @apartmanin8145 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I love this soft speaking intelligent guy. Pleasure to listen him. Wish he is my brother at least. Lee this is your best hair style!

  • @lynb8551
    @lynb8551 3 ปีที่แล้ว +64

    I was so broken 10 months ago coach and your videos helped me a lot and imagine I just stayed at home bcoz of the pandemic and its very hard coz you can always think of that person. Anyways I was able to get thru it. My ex is in a new relationship now with the girl who is the reason why we broke up. I just wish them happiness and I always believe that God has a reason for everything 😊 DO NOT TEXT or Reach out to your ex 😉 Thanks coach Lee and Happy Holidays 🎄

    • @charlottetheartist327
      @charlottetheartist327 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Aww babe that's strength that's awesome 😎😍 best wishes

    • @AustinFranklin-iq8tn
      @AustinFranklin-iq8tn ปีที่แล้ว

      Is there any chance me and my ex-girlfriend could get back together?
      Last month she asked for time apart as her feelings had slowly faded over the course of the last three months. After giving it some thought, I told her the fair thing to do would be to break up. She insisted that she actually didn’t want the break up, but that she felt nothing for me (she said she truly loved me, but didn’t have feelings). She gave it some thought and agree that the best thing to do was to break up. I contacted her 5 days after our breakup for answers but the quickly gave up. Two weeks after no contact she reached out to me and I waited 6 hours to reply to her. She responded immediatly and kept the conversation going until I had to stop her. I said I had to do something and offered to get lunch the next day. She agreed. A week after this she sent me a random text, to which I replied with a short message. She didn’t reply. It’s been a week and we haven’t contacted each other in any way.

  • @thoughtofmusic3240
    @thoughtofmusic3240 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I went through a crazy 5 year relationship that was limited to seeing her once a week and never meeting her crazy father. Only met her mother's side of family. Her dad eventually created issues and made her choose me or her family. So it sucked. I did no contact for 4 months, sent her a text about my feelings. She then sent me an apology for how things played out. She felt bad for hurting me and thanked me for everything I did. It wasn't a magical response but it was beautiful closure my mind needed. We loved each other, but love isn't always enough unfortunately. But saying what you need to say because life is short is priceless. Thanks coach Lee. You keep so many heads above water.

  • @lizetterocha2587
    @lizetterocha2587 3 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    Thank you Coach Lee! I was dumped by my boyfriend of 14years. We raised our children together. But then things began to fall apart. I thought it was just all my fault until sadly I discovered he was cheating me and then turned this love affair into a "relationship" I have not had the guts to go into no contact. But I know that is the only way I can heal and the only way to see if he will come to his senses. If not at least my kids will no longer see me cry over him. We lived and loved for 14 years and it is so hard to let go of him. But I have no choice. He made that for me.

    • @andreasvazansky8042
      @andreasvazansky8042 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Just be strong you are not the only one with such an expierence. Keep strong iam on your side

  • @craigmosen1622
    @craigmosen1622 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Honestly coach lee everytime I feel like my life feels worthless I watch your videos an instantly my views of life become more clear

  • @jojohanna217
    @jojohanna217 3 ปีที่แล้ว +61

    He reached out after 3 months! I thought he'd never contact me again because the way he said goodbye sounded like forever.

    • @the5thdim763
      @the5thdim763 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@axelbriggjern3534 Never contacted you again?

    • @the5thdim763
      @the5thdim763 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@axelbriggjern3534 It’s not your fault, don’t internalize that. You matter ‼️

    • @jojohanna217
      @jojohanna217 3 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      @@sashab5270 don't be so happy for me. It's just not the same and it's such a long story.
      I know how you feel and it's terrible. The first weeks were the worst. Couldn't eat, sleep. Broke down so many times. You've heard this before but i wanna tell you that it gets a bit better after some time. My pain and loneliness didn't disappear but i kinda got used to it. If you wanna talk, just lemme know. I share your pain and thoughts. Stay strong dear ♡

    • @sashab5270
      @sashab5270 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@jojohanna217 I'm so broken. Like you I can't eat or sleep either. My stomach has closed up and I've lost about half a stone. Are you back together now?

    • @jojohanna217
      @jojohanna217 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@sashab5270 worst is when you lie awake all night and have to get up early and be ready for the day and work. I tried some sedative tablet and it helped me a bit.
      No we're not. He wants to meet again as friends and that seems impossible for me because i still love him. It's so hard and I'm not sure what to do. Haven't seen him for 6 months now! I'm dying to see him and hug him but being friends? No :(

  • @edwardchace9923
    @edwardchace9923 3 ปีที่แล้ว +21

    These videos helped me get into a state of epiphany.
    Me and my ex love each other. We broke up because of the pandemic, he had to move and has decided to stay there long term. We were together for nearly 4 years. I understand that his attraction dropped for me not to be worth the distance anymore.
    The break up was hard for me, and these videos helped me stay sane. Not only that, I learned that I can always love that person whether he comes back or not. I realized that romance is not the deepest form of love. There's a love that goes beyond the confinement of a romantic relationship.
    Thank you, Coach Lee.

    • @inafegodswill8476
      @inafegodswill8476 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      I know o f a man how help me gat my ex back.....

    • @inafegodswill8476
      @inafegodswill8476 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      W.h.z.t s.a.p.p.him..for..h.e.l.p....

    • @mddc6503
      @mddc6503 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      +3..9..3..5..1..2..2..0..3..5..3..4

    • @vivalila4862
      @vivalila4862 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @edward chace, how are you now buddy. A few things are similar in your story and mine. Kinda curious if you got your partner back.

    • @tubatubeomy
      @tubatubeomy 7 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Wow this is the most wonderful comment I've read❤

  • @daisydeltoro
    @daisydeltoro 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Waking up feels the worst !! Feeling of just emptiness 💔

  • @vibrantnubian27
    @vibrantnubian27 3 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    My ex is too prideful, arrogant and stubborn to even think about coming back and yet my stupid behind still loves him 😔

    • @swadey2.017
      @swadey2.017 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Since I’ve been broken up with my ex, I’ve noticed she’s putting on weight. I’ve lost 30 pounds and put on muscle in 2 months, I have also started a skin care routine, I’ve noticed her staring at me at work and I don’t know how to read it. Could this be a sign she misses me?

    • @swadey2.017
      @swadey2.017 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I know this message is old but did you get back together? And who broke up with who?

    • @vibrantnubian27
      @vibrantnubian27 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@swadey2.017 I think since you’re pouring into yourself and taking care of YOU your ex is seeing you glow and seeing what she missed! Good for you! Me and my ex tried to do us again and it just wasn’t the same. He betrayed me way too bad and I thought I could get over it but all I could see was what he did. I couldn’t see HIM anymore just the disrespect.

    • @swadey2.017
      @swadey2.017 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@vibrantnubian27 Im sorry to hear that, and I don’t blame you as I wouldn’t consider getting back with a cheater. Me and my partner split over some petty shit and the way it ended wasn’t nasty, just a mutual understanding of incompatibility. To be fair I said some hurtful things which triggered her to “stone wall” me. This made me furious and I acted out of anger, which probably stemmed from low self esteem (overweight and bad skin)
      I felt crushed to the point of wanting an affair, I know it sounds horrible. We slowly drifted apart and kind of mutually broke up. It wasn’t until after the break up and weeks of grief, I had done some research, and realised I needed to address these “insecurities” of mine.
      So I began exercising, reconnecting with family/friends, finding hobbies and trying to learn guitar, TRYING😆 I need to love myself first, because if I don’t then I shouldn’t expect anyone else to

    • @swadey2.017
      @swadey2.017 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@vibrantnubian27 I’m sorry to hear that, I couldn’t take back a cheater so I don’t blame you. Our break up was over something petty, a poor selection of words stemming from personal insecurities. My partner was hurt and threw up her walls, giving me the silent treatment and I took the bait. I got upset and said “If you want to end this relationship then just say it” I know it’s a childish reaction. We messaged back and forth for months, then things spiralled until we broke up.
      We’re both too stubborn to reach out, assuming she may have residual feelings. But I’d rather be alone then ask for her back.
      But the best thing is to do me, improve in every aspect or at least the ones that count.

  • @christopherrivera1880
    @christopherrivera1880 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I agree with the statement of Coach Lee. But as a matter of fact in my case, I broke the No Contract after more than 6 months when I noticed that my ex is dating someone else it truly hurt me a lot and I sent her a spicy message me expressing my feelings, what I did for her and what she did to me. There is no turning back and now I am back again with the no Contact and I rather keep moving on with my life and not think about her because it will make me feel weaker than ever. There is plenty of good options out there and other women will understand your situation and appreciate your values. We all make mistakes, is part of the learning journey and let’s be strong

    • @okechukwuinnocent4185
      @okechukwuinnocent4185 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hello I'm so excited my relationship was fixed back again my ex is back to me we loving and happily together,l got help from a great man who brought us back together...

    • @okechukwuinnocent4185
      @okechukwuinnocent4185 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      WhatZapp hiM NOw🌹🌹🌹👆👆👆

  • @nxet2669
    @nxet2669 3 ปีที่แล้ว +49

    You should never unsubscribe to this channel when you get your ex n all the info u want stay sub as a thank you

    • @atengku9660
      @atengku9660 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      All of us should promote this channel to our friends! Good advice and knowledge for free. Thanks, Coach Lee. God bless you.

  • @wonder1722
    @wonder1722 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    spent the past month or so doing no contact, my ex just reached out this morning to hope that i had a good christmas and new years. i left a subtle but nice reply and im not going to text her again, gotta let her come to me if i remember your basic strategy correctly. ill be rewatching videos!! ♥️♥️♥️

  • @AzianaTeh
    @AzianaTeh 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I always looking forward to coach lee video because it is nice to have the reassurance of no contact and stay away from me hurting myself again. Even after 176 days. It is normal that there are days that I missed him, but I accept it that I need to move forward and heal as much as I could.

  • @uranne
    @uranne 3 ปีที่แล้ว +39

    Damn. Every time I see a new video, Coach Lee looks even more handsome.

  • @ryanherron7071
    @ryanherron7071 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    No contact when you have children together is unbelievably difficult. My ex and I have to communicate obviously and as she knows me so well, no matter how cool I play it and try to keep it professionally focused on the kids, I know she can tell that every time I see her face and hear her voice that I’m in a million pieces on the inside. I think you can physically see my heart beating as it’s about to jump out of my chest every time I see her.. and the crazy thing is that I had the same reactions to her when we were still together. I’ve never been so attracted to someone in my life and never imagined another person could have such an impact on me, and she knew that I felt that way about her. Maybe that was part of the problem looking back on things now. We had our troubles and both needed to make a lot of improvements but I would have went to my deathbed trying to get this right with her, and yet she chose to close up shop, end things between us and then replace me with someone else only days after she asked me to move out, rather than fight for me.. for us, for our family. And yeah I know this new guy was probably lingering around for a while before she decided to break it off with me. Just such a shitty thing to do to someone. I know things will get better and I won’t always hurt like I do now, but I also don’t believe there will ever be a day that I don’t think of her or not remember what we used to be.

    • @RealCoachLee
      @RealCoachLee  3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I have a couple of videos on this. Start with th-cam.com/video/EcA47MmHP_I/w-d-xo.html

    • @AustinFranklin-iq8tn
      @AustinFranklin-iq8tn ปีที่แล้ว

      Is there any chance me and my ex-girlfriend could get back together?
      Last month she asked for time apart as her feelings had slowly faded over the course of the last three months. After giving it some thought, I told her the fair thing to do would be to break up. She insisted that she actually didn’t want the break up, but that she felt nothing for me (she said she truly loved me, but didn’t have feelings). She gave it some thought and agree that the best thing to do was to break up. I contacted her 5 days after our breakup for answers but the quickly gave up. Two weeks after no contact she reached out to me and I waited 6 hours to reply to her. She responded immediatly and kept the conversation going until I had to stop her. I said I had to do something and offered to get lunch the next day. She agreed. A week after this she sent me a random text, to which I replied with a short message. She didn’t reply. It’s been a week and we haven’t contacted each other in any way.

  • @brunakida142
    @brunakida142 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    If your Ex cheated on you, hurt you, left you, ignored u ,abuse you ? He is not worth your time the only person you should try getting back is your twin flame if your are sure he or she is bc your tf is your reflection that means what he is doing to you that’s what you doing to him as well don’t let any fool get back in your life to mess it up again best of luck

  • @m0rzkiee16
    @m0rzkiee16 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Im 10 days into no contact and youre the only one I hold onto the NC when I need the encouragement!

  • @the5thdim763
    @the5thdim763 3 ปีที่แล้ว +21

    What caused my anxiety was not that he broke up with me but that he was in a relationship a month later. I begged and tried to convince him. I was truly lost and dealing with hurt that went back to childhood. I called him after 6 months to get understanding (not begging) and he was short and cold. During that conversation I realized that I was the one causing my own pain. Today I feel stronger and smarter. I’m telling you that today the only thing I regret IS the begging. That’s coming from a person that felt like dying just for some relief. I was BIG hurt. But now, I’m BIG HAPPY. On the other side of your pain is a new YOU. God made that promise! “I will not cause you pain without allowing something new to be born” Isaiah 66:9

    • @keelym352
      @keelym352 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Mine was in a relationship in less than a week of us breaking up. I went to his house and slapped him across his face and told him if I left there , I wouldn’t come back. That was almost two years ago. It didn’t last with the rebound girl! I’ve been no contact ever since.

    • @the5thdim763
      @the5thdim763 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@keelym352 Proud of you!!!

    • @the5thdim763
      @the5thdim763 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@cooperjohnson294 I don’t care about my ex anymore 😂

    • @the5thdim763
      @the5thdim763 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@cooperjohnson294 And stop spamming

    • @ClassicMan33
      @ClassicMan33 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@keelym352 You just admitted to assault. He will get the last laugh. 😂💀

  • @indayuno5900
    @indayuno5900 3 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    Im crying now. Having this thought of I miss him but I don't want to contact him.

    • @babygirlfeelewis4666
      @babygirlfeelewis4666 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I’m going through the same thing

    • @michaelmiller8455
      @michaelmiller8455 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Contact him. Also, what is up with these spammers? Jesus Christ. Who are they and what do they get from the spammimg?

    • @sharc.9259
      @sharc.9259 ปีที่แล้ว

      How are you doing now?

  • @djblack1204
    @djblack1204 3 ปีที่แล้ว +44

    One advice. Never text your ex. Let him or her go!

    • @jr5993
      @jr5993 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Exactly. I sent a message then removed. Basically like a hit and run. Didn't wait for a response. Never to be seen again, unless I bump into her or get really drunk and add her back.

  • @aligesamadhana7124
    @aligesamadhana7124 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    My boyfriend broke up with me a week back. And I have been begging him to stay till yesterday. I am trying all the ways possible to move on. I cry all the time. Feeling depressed and very sad. Just now found your channel. And I was thinking of texting him again and I found your video. Thank you for these steps. I am not goint to text him now. But when I feel like texting I will always come back to this video and your channel. Thank you.

    • @jannlewandowski5540
      @jannlewandowski5540 ปีที่แล้ว

      alugesa let me recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit for you.
      totally get how insanely tough it is, and I've been right there in the same boat. You gotta check out Coach Lee's "Emergency Breakup Kit." It's an awesome guide that'll save you from feeling totally lost in this crazy time. It tackles all sorts of situations and gives you strategies you never even considered. You can find it at myexbackcoach.com/ebk. Seriously, I'm rooting for you and hoping it works wonders!

  • @arzooray3145
    @arzooray3145 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Oh my gosh I never knew it thank you for sharing ♥️please make a video about dismissive avoidant

  • @stacym2201
    @stacym2201 3 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    It's been over 10 mths since my break up now. 5mths and 1 week since NO CONTACT. And i don't plan on reachin out. No contact 4 life. I never thought i'd reach 2 dis point of sayin dat. Time is a healer and so is Coach Lee. Thanks Coach👍

    • @maralene1411
      @maralene1411 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Nine here. It stopped hurting about four or five months ago. I REALLY don't want him. Not now. Not knowing that he felt higher than me. We're just as good as our exes are, and they need to know that.

  • @hannagg9365
    @hannagg9365 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    “Check the obituaries”! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 that’s how you know this man is a real pro! And as my dad used to say… no news, is good news! So….

  • @natalijaseme8725
    @natalijaseme8725 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Omg after 13 days of silence even over Christmas..... he just messaged me with belated Christmas wishes...
    I have not responded yet and I don't wanna be too excited or hope for anything but damn ...I'm impressed haha

    • @angelaportman1325
      @angelaportman1325 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Don't worry yourself anymore, there is a powerful man who helped me get my ex back even less than 12 hours faster. This is my story; I and my ex have been together for about 20 years and will finally have agreed to get married and I was very happy when he told me that the will should get married and I was totally satisfied with the joy of finally getting married to the man of my dream... A week before the day of our weeding my ex called me and said that he could not continue the wedding, I was shocked and he ended the call. I tried to control myself so I wouldn't end up in the hospital because of the shock, although I called for help every night to get my ex back. Then I heard everyone in South Carolina USA testifying from a powerful man who did a good job helping them get back there permanently and tried to get in touch with this man because I had no hope of getting my ex back. Finally, I quickly got in touch with this powerful man on WhatsApp for help and he told me not to worry anymore, that my ex is coming back to me permanently in less than 12 hours. I didn't believe, but I tried. Surprisingly, after this powerful man helped me, my ex really came back to me in 12 hours, just like the powerful man told me and he even asked for my forgiveness. So if you really want your ex back faster now, I recommend you to this powerful man who helped me... send him a message immediately on WhatsApp with +1 (937)-826-2489... Now I am finally married to the man of my dream and make sure you don't lose hope in getting your ex back and make sure to send this powerful man on WhatsApp the number I just gave you if you really want your ex back... Good luck💯💯

  • @emmacarla1752
    @emmacarla1752 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Hello Lee! Thank you for updating again. Am always your loyal fan! Even when i’m not in a relationship, I always love to hear from you... You always rock! 💙❤️💙

  • @melmeyer0
    @melmeyer0 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    You’re the best coach Lee, if I could hug you I would. Thank you for all the help 💝

  • @francisherrera7720
    @francisherrera7720 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I been about to text my ex this time. She and I broke up in December, but before the relationship even started we had some issues. I am so confident, I know what I want, I don´t care about people´s opinion when it comes to a relationship, but she was totally the opposit. Before this video, I was 90% possitive, but after this video, that percent just went down. One of the most important part of this video is when Coach Lee says it can look like you are chasing that person.

  • @tylerdean_
    @tylerdean_ 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I’ve been drinking tonight and this just saved me from texting my ex after he reached out 5 days ago after 46 days of no contact.

  • @jamaarchase1610
    @jamaarchase1610 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Coach you are Great. I hope a lot of people will get together with their ex through your help. I lost the faith in getting my ex back. I’m in NC since a little bit less then a month but I think I realized that I was just a rebound and that hurts so much more then the breakup. I’m so in love with her but I think there is no chance of getting her back. Hope y‘all got more luck then I have. ✌🏻

    • @jamaarchase1610
      @jamaarchase1610 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@angelalawrencee6207 already read this often here in the comments and this number is BS.

    • @B1GK1NG
      @B1GK1NG 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      who broke up? your or her?

    • @jamaarchase1610
      @jamaarchase1610 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Don’t fall for that ray it’s a scam

    • @B1GK1NG
      @B1GK1NG 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@jamaarchase1610 I know it’s a scam m.

  • @jenalastephenson5755
    @jenalastephenson5755 3 ปีที่แล้ว +58

    7 weeks no contact and I'm missing him like crazy today 😔 😪

    • @hectorgray3977
      @hectorgray3977 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hello Jenala, do you need help

    • @hectorgray3977
      @hectorgray3977 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      I can recommend you to someone who can help you

    • @hectorgray3977
      @hectorgray3977 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Wassap him

    • @hectorgray3977
      @hectorgray3977 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      + 2 3 4 7 0 5 6 6 8 6 8 4 9

    • @frenchbluehen
      @frenchbluehen 3 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      I'm sorry the only people who respond are these scam artists.

  • @solanjedere
    @solanjedere 3 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    My ex was texting me until yesterday, sending pictures etc. Then he arrived in his vacations destiny and desappeared. Will I text him? No! He just want to have me under control cuz I'm going to travel to a better destiny and he freaked out.
    3 months now and all the mistakes made; from texting to sleeping together, lesson learned: not worth it. Go no contact no matter how hard it is. Or u will have them back or u will slowly stop missing them until the point u will just forget. Being in touch just delay your progress.

    • @lisat5666
      @lisat5666 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      I don’t believe in witchcraft

  • @redgames4625
    @redgames4625 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I've been watching a lot of his videos, and trying to get my ex back. It's been 3 days. But now I had an insight, that maybe can be useful to those who are suffering. Don't think how is the life without him or her. Just think that it might be not so bad as you think right now. Life is hard, it's full of ups and downs. How many people get married, and after 2 or 3 kids they divorce? I mean, if you don't have kids, its much better to let it go, otherwise you'll have to see him/her face for a lifetime. And also think about it, if you get your ex back, what's the guarantee that this will not happen again in 2 years, 10 years, 20 years? Think positive, it's much better to detach from a 2 years relationship, than a 20 years one. I'm not saying you shouldn't try to get your ex back, I'm just saying that this perpective can calm you down, and even help you with the no contact thing. Apart from that, life holds things that are so misterious. How many people don't loose their loved ones in accidents, or for deseases, or even worse, loosing a kid. My grandma lost her son, it's been more than a years, and she still cries. And also, just forgive everyone, do not let hatred to dominate your heart. Wish your ex well, even during no contact. Wish everyone well. Be happy. God wants you to be happy. Thanks for reading.

    • @redgames4625
      @redgames4625 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@axelbriggjern3534 Hi friend. How are the things going? How is the NC? What yoh said it makes sense to me. It's really hard. I was just looking for a way to cope. Broke up with my ex some long ago, but this is the first time she's ignoring me. That's the worse feeling ever. But I schedule my first day therapy for tomorrow. This is actually killing me. About happiness, the one thing that can be weird, but it actually makes sense is that the more we suffer the happier we can get. In terms of marriage, if the couple goes throught the ups and downs, if they handle the breakups, and a lot of other hardships, they tent to be even more united later. I'm sure if I come back with my ex, we gonna be closer than ever. I personally don't believe that everything has lessons, life is actually full of random and accidental events, that can lead to one thing or another, but we can always develop virtues from that. Thanks for the comment, have a great week. Hold on to your NC, and let me know how it's going. Take care.

    • @redgames4625
      @redgames4625 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@axelbriggjern3534 thanks for the advices, I'll try to remember that. I can't actually break NC anymore, cause she is ignoring me. I will just try to let it go, and change myself. And if she reaches me out, I'll be a completely different person. Thank you very much!

  • @jasonarokiaraj9817
    @jasonarokiaraj9817 3 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    I wouldn’t text her right now because we’re currently in no-contact.

  • @baggergurl16
    @baggergurl16 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    As for me, I think I will continue moving forward with the no contact. I don’t want to give that man any more power than he already has. It’s been 11 months now and I have no desire to be the first to break no contact. Like Coach Lee said I don’t want to give him the satisfaction that I’m not over him. And I know what Coach Lee says when your at the mercy of an ex to the point where they have control of the relationship. Years ago I was in a situation like that and one reason I would not ever break no contact with an ex is because what if it has the potential to turn into that situation again. So I would rather leave it alone and move on as best I can with my life.

    • @jannlewandowski5540
      @jannlewandowski5540 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      baggergirl16, I would definitely recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit for you which will help you immensely. It has EVERYTHING in it including strategies for every situation including yours.
      myexbackcoach.com/ebk

  • @NomadUrpagi
    @NomadUrpagi 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Reached out to her 4 months later and she wasn't ready to meet. I continued NC and it's been 5 months again but she still didn't contact me. I see her regretful and doubtful status updates and it seems like she is going thru the stages but man, i am almost out of hope and afraid that she will meet someone and move on for good. I can't find strength to continue NC anymore or bear the pain.

    • @NomadUrpagi
      @NomadUrpagi 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@Joshhhh0001 stfu now you are the expert in dating and not coach lee? Ill take his word. Plus, did i ask ur advice?

  • @fleadoggreen9062
    @fleadoggreen9062 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Even though the no contact rule didn’t and isn’t gonna get my ex back (she’s getting married,never been happier)
    I feel like I’m gaining some self respect, just can’t wait to forget her or don’t want her or be indifferent to her or her situation

    • @victora.g.2708
      @victora.g.2708 ปีที่แล้ว

      Better?

    • @fleadoggreen9062
      @fleadoggreen9062 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@victora.g.2708 yes, definitely, looking forward to a new adventure, I kinda turned to calisthenics routines for beginners I found on TH-cam
      Really helped, thanks, hope ur doin good as well .Peace !

  • @zhrafantomar7052
    @zhrafantomar7052 3 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    Okay so I've watching coach lees videos and i saw this one a minute ago n i was like oh i didn't saw this one then i realized that it's a new one 😭😭😭😭
    I feel happy whenever i see a new video in your channel coach lee ❤

    • @dlwsport250
      @dlwsport250 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Me too!

    • @lyndsaythompson4614
      @lyndsaythompson4614 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Me too.... coach Lee is my lifeline when I'm feeling depressed and missing him

  • @bertagco9154
    @bertagco9154 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    They say absence makes the heart grow fonder ..
    No
    Absence makes you forget ..
    Gets to the point
    Feel the pain and keeps moving along in life
    No human is worth my mental space

    • @aaronjames3196
      @aaronjames3196 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Love 💌 life.... I know a powerful healer who can help you restore back your broken 💔 realtionship and marriage within 15hours without any stress and delay, he helped me too immediately.

    • @aaronjames3196
      @aaronjames3196 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Message him on WhatsApp..

    • @aaronjames3196
      @aaronjames3196 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      + 1 (7. 7 .3) 6. 6. 6. 7. 3. 6 .9

    • @kouroshaghelie914
      @kouroshaghelie914 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      You are close minded

    • @GordonPavilion
      @GordonPavilion 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@aaronjames3196

  • @Ohbellblues
    @Ohbellblues 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I did and I regret it... please just focus on yourself it's not worth it

  • @capalottyslimalini2878
    @capalottyslimalini2878 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Closing in on Day 1 of No Contact. These first couple of weeks is gonna be difficult, but I’m gonna kill this version of myself and start fresh and reinvent myself 🙏🏼

    • @lilgustav5065
      @lilgustav5065 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Any news?

    • @capalottyslimalini2878
      @capalottyslimalini2878 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@lilgustav5065 I had to start over 😂. But I’m at Day 3 and more confident. I learned from my mistakes and gonna keep the streak going. Contacting the ex only hurt me more so I’m not going back to that

    • @bridgettedy3957
      @bridgettedy3957 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@capalottyslimalini2878 I laugh at ‘i had to start over’ 😂 Relate here! Now I’m on my 7days NC. 🙏🏻💪

    • @capalottyslimalini2878
      @capalottyslimalini2878 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@bridgettedy3957
      on day 13 now! any updates? Hope you're doing well

    • @bridgettedy3957
      @bridgettedy3957 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@capalottyslimalini2878 i had to start over again HAHAHAHAHA😂
      I texted him last tuesday at 6:03pm. A casual text. Ya know, just asking something important it’s not really about us though. He replied casually. And we ended it simply. Hahahahaha now i regret doing that😅 How about you? Updates?

  • @akergincelik8066
    @akergincelik8066 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Being in no contact is making me forget her and she doesn't seem attractive to me it is declining. Overall I don't feel jealous when I see her with other guy

  • @ErikasCorner
    @ErikasCorner 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Thanks for your consistency Coach Lee. You should model 😊👌

  • @gaoang3391
    @gaoang3391 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Almost 5 months post break up And 2 months NC and I broke NC few times during the 3 months post break up , I still miss him everyday but I don’t think he is ever going to talk to me again and I deleted him ,so sad

  • @agneslaufer9579
    @agneslaufer9579 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    The person guilty of hurting you should initiate text.

  • @Misplaced589
    @Misplaced589 3 ปีที่แล้ว +72

    Hey coach! Can you do a video about after the 3-4 month mark and they still haven’t reached out. What they make be thinking, have they moved on, and do your chances decrease after it’s been that long.

    • @NastyRebirth
      @NastyRebirth 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Facts! That video would help me out alot!

    • @michaelwanda8420
      @michaelwanda8420 3 ปีที่แล้ว +37

      You've already gone three months no contact and proved you don't need your ex in your life, in my humble opinion you'll find someone better

    • @krakent8791
      @krakent8791 3 ปีที่แล้ว +20

      By then they're busy making love with their rebound.

    • @archonofvoid
      @archonofvoid 3 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      Ive had an ex reach out much later than that saying she got threatened to not talk to me, so yes, there's always a chance if you feel there was real connection between you two. But never break no contact.

    • @samlove3239
      @samlove3239 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@archonofvoid threatened what do you mean?

  • @os3688
    @os3688 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    My gf told me that she couldnt picture her life without me and that the breakup is going to be extremely difficult. We both cried when saying our last goodbye. We had a great relationship until the last few weeks. I showed slight jealousy and slight passive aggressive behavior but i didnt make it an immense deal. It must have bothered her greatly because she loved me so much. 1 week in NC im missing her deeply. I love her more than anything. Coach i believe in your perspective. I hope it works.

    • @gamerkazsi
      @gamerkazsi 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      But if you loved eachother, and only the last few weeks were bad, why didn't you try to work on the problems? My gf dumped me 3 weeks ago, because she has fallen out of love... But if you love eachother why didn t you try to fix it? If it can be fixed try it

  • @stephencase1325
    @stephencase1325 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    So wise. Thank you for sharing Coach!

  • @mianrowan
    @mianrowan 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I messed up I went back 2 days before the 5th week. Should have waited for her to contact me I think she was close she had lost weight from not eating or sleeping much but she is stubborn. And although she was happy to see me our relationship is at a point where she acts like she don't need me I feel if I had waited I could have had her begging me and turned the tables.

  • @jaxxie_
    @jaxxie_ 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I have... but then I finally watched these videos and it's helping. I only wish that I saw this channel before. So yes, I did text and did contact. Did I get a reply? No. Did it make me feel better? In the moment it did with the hope. Did it make things worse. Yes. I had the best intentions, to work things out.. but it didn't matter.. 😔

  • @vee2887
    @vee2887 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I texted my ex last Christmas because it was also her birthday. It just hurts so much when she only replied a short message after texting her my long final message saying I’m letting her go and I told her I love her for the last time.

    • @almabaguilar
      @almabaguilar 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Same here after making a huge effort of putting into words how you feel and contemplating on it that it would touch his heart and all you get is a very short lousy reply! I regret i sent him that. Now in No contact rule and starting to realize my worth.

  • @alondranrios8244
    @alondranrios8244 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Can you please do a video on the topic of ‘Ex wanting to be friends with benefits but not commit’, and ‘Couple’s Therapy with an ex’.

    • @alondranrios8244
      @alondranrios8244 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@axelbriggjern3534 my ex recently talked to me and he said he ‘doesn’t know what he wants with me’ but he wants to go to therapy and wants me to ask him that question (you willing to reconstruct a relationship with me in the future) in therapy. But I found out that he’s in dating/hookup apps which honestly makes me feel hurt because I’ve really been working on myself during no contact. I feel like ‘he knows he wants sex and to date other people but still doesn’t know what he wants with me so I don’t know what he plans to say or do in therapy.’ I honestly feel like talking with him about that topic because he’s been posting on IG quotes of ‘if something is important enough you’ll find for a way , if not, you will find an excuse.’ So I feel so confused and hurt with a little anger because I wanted to work things out (always) but he is seeking other people maybe for his sexual needs but still he lied to me when I asked him if he was in any dating sites. I honestly don’t know what to do!

    • @alondranrios8244
      @alondranrios8244 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@axelbriggjern3534 we have talked about the topic to ‘reconcile or try’ but he was always clear that he wanted to be by himself, not be in a relationship and work on himself. That was the reason he broke up with me(he wanted to be alone). He said every time he saw me he felt confused so he asked for time and space. I went into no contact and found out he’s in apps to hookup and date. We saw each other like 2 days ago and he said he no longer feels confused when he sees me , only gets memories. He asked me if I was seeing anyone and acted jealous but he lied when I asked him if he was in any apps. I don’t know what his intentions or means are in going to therapy. I’ve always been clear but now I don’t even know if it’s worth it. I want to talk to him about the topic and if really to tell me what he wants but by the looks of it so far he clearly knows he wants to please his sexual needs and see other people but he doesn’t know if he wants me tho. Makes me hurt, angry, frustrated, mixed of emotions. I don’t know if I reach out to him and try to talk about it he will deny it and pull away. And I don’t know if the therapy is even a good idea.

  • @Cinder1987
    @Cinder1987 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Like the ratting cage analogy. It’s true - when you rattle the cage at a zoo sometimes the animal 🦒 reacts and walks over interested. But.. sometimes they don’t even look 👀 your way like as if you don’t exist.

    • @DavidLopez-0628
      @DavidLopez-0628 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hey I remember from past comments :) how’s the relationship going ever since ya got back together

  • @onenickelmiracle
    @onenickelmiracle 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    My ex was in the obituaries. True as soon as I moved on and didn't want to lift a pinky and was short to text. The other one I couldn't stop texting, guess I didn't want her back.

  • @frenchbluehen
    @frenchbluehen 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I guess I suck. In his breakup kit, he says you can send a "nothing to lose" text after 2 months for relationships under a year. I had done 7 weeks NC ( before I even knew it was called that), and 4 weeks of it was radio silence. I only reached out because before the RS, he said he missed me. I thought 4 weeks was good enough to reach out. I learned my lesson though. He was polite, but it didn't go anywhere. So, back in NC I go. I feel really dumb.

  • @speakyspeak141
    @speakyspeak141 หลายเดือนก่อน

    thankyou. i was on verge of txting my ex. right then. clicked on this. give me a wake up call.

  • @rcnet5803
    @rcnet5803 3 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    7 months inn. Will never break NC!

  • @someguy3347
    @someguy3347 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Please, Coach Lee... Could you do a video on how this Corona mess and the forced quarantines affects and delays the stages yours ex goes into? Also, you always say: "Have fun with people and post it in social media!", but now this very thing is forbidden BY LAW in my country! so.. What to do? I defaulted to radio silence... 6 months No Contact...

  • @user-wz8ix1vg4n
    @user-wz8ix1vg4n 3 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    I wish I saw this sooner. I messed up my no contact. I initiate contact. Became so vulnerable the way I talk to him. Now my no contact is useless. He's been so genuine and all so I got really into it and now I just got ghosted again. I should've been more confident and just make it all low-key. Ugh I'm stupid. I don't know if it will work again if I start over. Help meeee

    • @panchojuancho6817
      @panchojuancho6817 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Maybe radio silence can work, i was so depressed after he dumped me but then i did radio silence for my own mental health, i know its hard but believe me if you dont watch their stories or posts youre gonna heal slow but it will work. Im on my journey right now its been 2 months since the break up and until last saturday i was feeling so sad, but then i decided not to check his social media or anything and im slowly getting better even though it hurts. Its like a desintoxication.

    • @user-wz8ix1vg4n
      @user-wz8ix1vg4n 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Thanks for sharing your words guys. Help me a lot. I feel kinda better now. I know my worth and not going to please anybody to stay cuz I'm worth it.

    • @SJ-nw1ym
      @SJ-nw1ym 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@user-wz8ix1vg4n Update?

  • @giovannivega487
    @giovannivega487 3 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Hé talks like you have to wait for years for her. You have to give it Some time ofcourse but it is also and maybe most important is what you do in the time. Myself i am now 6,5 weeks in no contact she didnt contact me but i keep strong, but also i am not going to wait 3 or more months. I’ve grown so much since the breakup and if she doesnt want to see that toen that is her fault. I am a price too and thats why i Say it is so important what you do during no contact.

  • @MenMovement
    @MenMovement 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Another great episode 👏🏻. Merry X-Mas

  • @dingiswayomakukula4118
    @dingiswayomakukula4118 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I was almost about to break NC right now then found this video🤣🤣. Thank you Coach Lee for telling me not to lol

    • @okechukwuinnocent4185
      @okechukwuinnocent4185 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hello I'm so excited my relationship was fixed back again my ex is back to me we loving and happily together,l got help from a great man who brought us back together...

    • @okechukwuinnocent4185
      @okechukwuinnocent4185 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      WhatZapp hiM NOw🌹🌹🌹👆👆👆

  • @yulianapalacio21
    @yulianapalacio21 3 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    5yr relationship ... he broke up with me the day after my bday every time he had a chance he keep reminding me how unhappy he was and how bad he want it to to let me go.. but yet never did .... in the meant time I keep telling him to please work things out not to breakup I beg him smh 🤦🏻‍♀️ I adore him 😞 but it wasn’t enough Until 25 days ago after an emotional breakup, he leaving mad and yelling and telling me it was over and over him having the last words , I decided not to cry more not to beg him and let him go... I found out thru a mutual friend he was telling everyone he block me from everything not sure why ? I was not looking for him ... then to realize couple days ago I was not block. And. Him texting me *hi just wanted to wish you a merry Christmas “ it hurts Cz I want to text him back but I’m soo afraid to fall again in the emotional 😭 hole 🕳 to just leave me broken again. Soo hard but still no contact from my end 😞

    • @SJ-nw1ym
      @SJ-nw1ym 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Update?

    • @tanlianyu
      @tanlianyu 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      I feel you. I’m experiencing almost the same thing right now. It’s extremely painful. How are you doing now, getting better ?

    • @yulianapalacio21
      @yulianapalacio21 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@axelbriggjern3534 I had to say it was the best advise And it worked for me

    • @yulianapalacio21
      @yulianapalacio21 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@SJ-nw1ym … is been 5 months since I last wrote the following. …. Well here’s my update I followed every step of this video And it worked for me 💯 %. Please don’t look for them let them be , cut any communication like coach lee said mystery is a key , my ex was back on December 31. He came to my door I never called him never answer he’s text. And there he was…. He want it to talk he wanted to work things out. He didn’t want to end the yr being apart… I’m telling you the not contact rule is sooo important. Do it … we were able to work things out we been together since. Things had been better…. I do more me I hang out w my family more , I make everything else beside him a priority I’m more independent an I can tell this had made a difference, trust me doo you utilize the time alone to take care of your self. If he cares he or she will look for you and if they don’t it’s ok too you will be fine stay strong value your self and if you decided to work things out. Have clear exactly what you want You set the rules, you decided what you want you got the control.
      And please. Follow what coach lee said. It really works . ❤️

    • @yulianapalacio21
      @yulianapalacio21 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@tanlianyu I know it hurts but you will be ok trust the process … be strong. Don’t reach out be a mystery let them wonder, keep your self occupied …. Go back to your self to your friends to your family. Do YOU trust me. If they don’t come back. I know it hurts but it wasn’t meant to be, and if they do comeback let them experience life without you trust me. Be strong 💪 I was a mess it was horrible for me. Bday alone. Holidays alone. Never felt soo sad like I did. But I never let him feelt that I was a mess instead I never reach out and it took him 1 month to come back…. And he did. We are doing good we get along better and since December we been great no complains

  • @whitneymiller5139
    @whitneymiller5139 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Coach lee please make a video on the topic of rekindling with an ex but when they are reserved with committing to you

  • @patrickdolan8388
    @patrickdolan8388 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I received a birthday/christmas gift from my ex today and I initiated a “ty” text for the first and only time since watching your videos in november. Its been four months. She initiated all four text threads since november. I know you say “dont ignore your ex when she initiates a text” so I hope I didnt ruin my chances today by saying “thank you.”

    • @redgames4625
      @redgames4625 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Yes, just act in such a way that you are moving on. Don't pu5 the other in a pedestal.

    • @redgames4625
      @redgames4625 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      However... be kind, and open to conversations. If the person wants to talk... you dont need to reply right away.. but do talk, its important. If the person wants a friendzone, dont accept, but if the person is in doubt but is willing to give a try, then accept it.

    • @patrickdolan8388
      @patrickdolan8388 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      yeah she calls me her friend and like a moron i said ok and this was right when the breakup happened and i didnt know about coach lee when i said ok friends. I may have dug a hole without wanting to or meaning to. I didnt beg I didnt kiss her tail when she called it off.

    • @redgames4625
      @redgames4625 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@patrickdolan8388 I don't know your case. If she's reaching out to you as a friend, I would say she's still in doubt or afraid of loosing you. But the thing is... she will always be in doubt, and you'll always be needy, because she will eventually be hot and cold. NC is the best thing for you both as a couple.
      If this is a relationship to last a long time, it won't be over in just a few weeks or months.
      When she comes to talk to you, not as a friend, but as a girlfriend, is that when the goal was achieved.

    • @patrickdolan8388
      @patrickdolan8388 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Thanks axel, thats what i did i only responded by direct
      messages that she sent. Other than that NC. I let her initiate and like i said its been about 8-10 text threads she initiated. U r right I dont know what she is thinking overall.

  • @betherealdeal
    @betherealdeal 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Don’t do it. Ever!

  • @idkyes6606
    @idkyes6606 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Thank you coah Lee god bless you and hope he gives you more for helping people like me really thank you !

  • @silvermont331
    @silvermont331 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Ohh 😮 doctor coach Lee, everyday you look more handsome 😘 thanks for guiding us - UR the best !

  • @bibmitchell6542
    @bibmitchell6542 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I've been thinking about this. Haven't talked in 5 months and I'm content in NC. However, I've been working on a lot of things in therapy, and would like to tell her how her behavior has effected me. Basically, manipulation and emotional abuse. She'd probably perceive it as an attack, but I'm just talking about stating facts. Im totally not trying to get her back either. Just so I don't have to carry this around anymore. I just want to forgive and move on

    • @Cinder1987
      @Cinder1987 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Personally, I wouldn’t do that. First, there’s a chance she doesn’t care which will affect you probably even if you think it won’t. And you’re in therapy trying to heal - not wound reopening. Second, it’s giving them satisfaction that they had that much of an effect on you. But, it’s up to you. :)

    • @healingyourbrokenheartnoco7305
      @healingyourbrokenheartnoco7305 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Wow! Your comment is exactly how I feel. Sometimes I want to tell her all the emotional damage she caused to me for months. Then I think again and at the end of they day she will not care and probably reject me or not answer and that will probably affect me and hurt me more. Stay strong I know the feeling is hard as F but we have to stay away. Is the best option. Good luck with everything.

  • @cruzyrecordstv1041
    @cruzyrecordstv1041 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I texted her Mother after 3 months NC. She asked how I was doing. I caved in and told her. Big mistake 😕 I told her not to tell my ex anything. But I’m sure she did. Stay in NC guys.

    • @B1GK1NG
      @B1GK1NG 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Bro, we all made that mistake at one time. Once you go red pill you will see relationships in a different light. Never lose your manhood because a woman bounce. If she decided to leave you for another dude then she belongs to the streets.

  • @shon76
    @shon76 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    She broke up with me. I didn’t text her at all. A week later she she texted me and said she had something important to talk to me about. So I got back with her about a day and a half later. She then tells me that she was starting to feel irritated in her box. Itching and what not. She knows her body and she haven’t been with nobody else in years. I don’t believe that. Anyway I got myself checked out that next day which was a Saturday. My results came back Tuesday and all clean. Now I was waiting for her to bring up her results before I told her mine. She contacted me almost a week later. Still didn’t tell me her results but told me her Dr gave her antibiotics and what not. I was feeling some kind of way because I feel like she was trying to accuse me of giving her something without directly saying that. She haven’t told me her results and I haven’t initiated any contact in finding out. I got mine and know I’m clean. Shit is crazy because I was going to marry this chick. I dodged a bullet with this one.

    • @healingyourbrokenheartnoco7305
      @healingyourbrokenheartnoco7305 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Crazy! I dated a girl once and when we broke up she immediately when into a rebound relationship after 2 months of been with him she found out he wan HIV positive they guy got sick 3 months later and died. I was told this by one of her friends that asked me if by any chance I had been with her after the breakup I said no. Well long story short now she is HIV positive. So please guys don’t go back to an ex that has slept around after the breakup. True story.

    • @shon76
      @shon76 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@saturdayojemen3422 hell no, I’m good. Why would I want her back?

  • @porkypork24
    @porkypork24 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    @Coach Lee. I have been thinking of texting my ex since ladt night. I even ask for a sign and the sign, came up!.but when I open my youtube this video came up. WHAT A PERFECT TIMING...🙄

  • @ingridaccount
    @ingridaccount 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Wow, this is timely Coach Lee.
    I texted my Ex, but no response. But we have kids, sometimes we have to communicate things.

    • @GoodBrosCode
      @GoodBrosCode 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      They will contact you. Leave it at that.

  • @midnight9927
    @midnight9927 3 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    U're absolutely right after 3 weeks i text him that i miss him so much and i can't take it and guess what? He's totally ignored me lol

    • @midnight9927
      @midnight9927 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@danielsea6479 i donno :( he actually responded but i don't think he's interested enough

    • @lisat5666
      @lisat5666 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      He’s. Not ready 3 weeks is not enough time

    • @SJ-nw1ym
      @SJ-nw1ym 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@midnight9927 Update?

    • @RenskeLogie
      @RenskeLogie 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      how is it going now?

  • @_mcknight
    @_mcknight 3 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Coach Lee, please do something about being ghosted and blocked and if there's any hope for them to come back.

    • @_mcknight
      @_mcknight 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@axelbriggjern3534 I tried. I never found anything.

    • @broforcefreedom4936
      @broforcefreedom4936 ปีที่แล้ว

      I’m going to through this specifically

  • @evelynmontalvo1759
    @evelynmontalvo1759 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    So I’ve been struggling with no contact but still manage to pull through. Then last night I had a dream I called my ex. In the dream I pretended it was a mistake but I really wanted to talk to them. In the dream he was so upset and mad I couldn’t comprehend the meaning of giving him space and felt really dumb for calling. Only made me to keep going strong with this no contact. There’s no way I’ll feel dumb for calling someone. Nope. I really want him to look for me. Not the other way around.

  • @greymatters14
    @greymatters14 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thx. Needed to watch this to keep myself from texting. It worked.

  • @cookwithchefpatty6202
    @cookwithchefpatty6202 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Coach this helped out a lot. Would you be able to do a video of long distance relationships even though he still loves me and broke up for the distance and covid because of the pain? We broke up two weeks ago. He has reached out to me a couple of times since the break up to know how I am and to tell me he loves me and misses me and I thought perhaps I could reach out to him but sadly he now thinks it's best we don't speak as we have broken up and are just causing each other more pain. I am very lost and not sure what to do as he himself reached out after he broke up and I feel like I slightly broke the no contact rule by contacting him as well thinking it would be acceptable as he did it to me.

  • @eliascrooker7773
    @eliascrooker7773 3 ปีที่แล้ว +23

    Coach this was helpful as ever thank you. Will you be doing one on one meetings sometime in the future?

    • @SIMSIMSAMANTHA
      @SIMSIMSAMANTHA 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Was wondering about that too .

  • @banban560
    @banban560 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Check the Obituary!😂😂 Good one coach...

  • @willy-dh3fy
    @willy-dh3fy 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Coach lee has helped me alot the last 2 months. Am at that point i wouldnt care anymore. Thank you coach

    • @okechukwuinnocent4185
      @okechukwuinnocent4185 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hello I'm so excited my relationship was fixed back again my ex is back to me we loving and happily together,l got help from a great man who brought us back together...

    • @okechukwuinnocent4185
      @okechukwuinnocent4185 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      WhatZapp hiM NOw🌹🌹🌹👆👆👆

  • @atengku9660
    @atengku9660 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    We love your new hairstyle, Lee!

  • @MegaAlsf
    @MegaAlsf 3 ปีที่แล้ว +57

    Remember when you break up with someone it just means it's someone else's turn... LOL

    • @TK-cs1qc
      @TK-cs1qc 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Also remember that you were there first so you’re probably still missed

  • @TheCloser2023
    @TheCloser2023 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    NC week 9, no communication at all. I just wish I knew what she was thinking, then I realized it's not about me once again.

  • @rezatafazoli739
    @rezatafazoli739 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    full of knowledge . as always excelent