This is refreshing. I’m tired of hearing “you need to just move on” because every relationship is different. Sometimes, getting back together IS a good thing. But all these love gurus just say to move on. This video is great because he gives options for both.
I 100% agree I'm committed to fight myself I had that kind of right relationship with my ex but she still chose to leave very confusing especially how described us and me before she left just need to clear the path and figure it out
Well moving on is part of getting them back. At least the appearance of moving on. It also gives you power when they do come back and you aren’t desperate for their return.
Gerrit Sluyter...I agree, I’m sick of hearing just “move on” right away when the breakup is still fresh. why can’t you fight for it if the relationship was good? There’s nothing wrong to want to try to fight for it and that is if you feel your ex has not given up on you and the relationship. You think you just want to “move on” but maybe your ex DOES NOT want to “move on” and would like to try again.
true i m sick of people telling me to move on when they dont nothing about our relationship.. i think they are just saying that from their bad experience, maybe they had a bad relationship but not everyone has a bad one
I’ve done the begging. I’ve done the constant contacting. Then when I took a step back and didn’t bother him he’s taken steps towards me. Two months. Almost 3 broken up & the other night he mentions he wants to meet up and talk. Be patient.. I know it seems hopeless right now but bugging them doesn’t help either of you.
I made the mistake of begging and pleading. 21 times over the course of almost 4 months to be exact. I have been in no contact for 5 months now. I try to be patient but it's still hard. I still love and miss her.
Danielle Rose mine sees me at work and when I didn’t say happy birthday the next day he came and talked to me .. but not almost two months later and he casually walks by keeps it short says hi somethings but that’s it.. like it’s annoying I don’t want to be just a hi and bye it’s useless pointless it’s like we both know something needs to be said but I am not saying it first this time this is our second breakup .. it’s so hard :/ did your ex talk to you casually? And then eventually talked more and more?
After 42 YEARS, she divorced me. No major problems-now almost a month of no contact. I am very lonely and DEPRESSED. I pray for her and for a reconciliation of our relationship every day. Your thoughts please!
Most of these people that go through breakups, can’t be alone, do not take care of themselves first, I used to be that person. If you are not happy alone, you will always have breakups, depending on others for happiness is a form of addiction. Get your life together before you date. This guy knows what he is talking about. Everything he has said has happened to me throughout my life. ALL my ex’s came back, at least once, sometimes twice. It doesn’t mean that it will workout. Growth happens to people in different times in your life. Live your life everyday and you will attract someone that shares similar values and with some commitment and compromises, also taking care of yourself first. You can have the best days and a great relationship BUT, it starts with a great relationship with yourself first. Good luck 🍀
You sound like a Robot. If you spend 7 years married to one person it's not that you're not happy with yourself if lets say the wife decides to break up. It's that you were emotionally attactched as it should happen if you are human. You don't sound human to me. You probably need oil or something..
Joshua that is really so true. You have to be on your own for a long time to finally understand what you need to do for yourself in order to really love yourself and not be lonely.
This is absolutely 💯 percent spot on. We'll said bro. I was one of those people too. Trying to find happiness through my relationships instead of being happy on my own first. Also, all my(if not most) my ex's came back at least once. This it spot on.
Dear Coach Lee and all! I have "fought" for him. He left me and immediately went into a rebound relationship. My pain was so deep. I thought I was fainting all the time. At the same time I kept watching these videos which eased my pain and trained my mind. It took some time and some ups and down. Today. He is so happy to be with me again and so I am! We started to plan for our family future again! 😍👪 I wish you all the best. And please do what Coach Lee suggests. He is the best👑💗
@@angrypatient2221 a month and a half following exactly what Coach Lee suggests at every step 😉 if you do not follow his advice you may go back to the beginning and the process starts again😉 Focus on yourself. Improve every aspect of your being💗
No one should waste time on someone who didn't think enough of you; to keep in the first place. Things don't happen as a mistake but it's for a reason. Meaning another door is opening for the RIGHT person to show up. Move on and never pursue someone who didn't value you much in the first place.
I feel like Hollywood has done far more harm than good when it comes to portraying relationships. The sooner people accept that no relationship is perfect and that romance movies are usually a bunch of BS, the happier people will be in real relationships. The key to maintaining love and passion in a long-term relationship is lowering your expectations and learning to be satisfied with less than perfect. That's how couples manage to stay married for 20+ years.
dragonslair951167 love is sweet when you're with the right person and the right person loves you, I want to direct you to someone who can help you get back your ex back without stress he's real and genie.....
I hit the 1 year and 3 months mark. It does get easier guys. And through the gift of time...I am healed enough to Begin dating again. Do I still think about my ex and miss them?? Yes I do and that Is perfectly normal and human...but now i am stronger enough to move on 😌
@@applesnicolle5144 I am! We celebrate 2 years in Mars and we currently live together since June 2021. Planing on extending the family, since I have 2 kids and looking for a bigger apartment or house.
Just move on its the best you can do for yourself. I moved 3,000 miles away across the country after we broke up and never looked back and feel better then ever. It takes time guys.
I can't thank you enough coach Lee, almost a month after I was dumped, I cried, I get desperate, I'm fearful of not getting my ex back, but everything I've been experiencing goes down and I feel calm when I watch your videos, thank you for keeping the hope of getting my ex back.
Just remember guys, a woman will throw away a perfectly good man to chase after fairytales.... move on and find someone worthy of your time and effort....they will come back if you treated them properly..
@@Derek-rh9mi fyi mine came back, not after chasing other men but just wanting to get married. We got married and just returned from Jamaica…. Sometimes it works out, sometimes it doesn’t. Just don’t hold out hope, live your life and move on and see what life brings you…
I think “moving on” is not the right thing to say. It’s “letting go”! It takes weeks or in reality months to feel normal after a breakup and get at a baseline emotional level! Just let time heal and delete all triggers. The memories will become more and more distant and that’s probably a good thing. Another thing to keep in mind is that you have to look at the entire relationship from beginning to end, everything that was said and everything that happened to put it all in perspective. If they are worth it and value you they will come back. If not, someone better will come along eventually… hopefully!
Hi Stephenn77, I think you are hitting the nail on the head with your comment. I also see it more of a process of letting go and detaching, which does hurt a lot obviously.
I been out of a relationship for 6 months ago and I still Watch Your videos because you Help me move on and do better things in life 💯💯💯 if it's not coach Lee Its not Real and I still Watch until This day keep inspiring men 💯💪🙏
I was polite friendly I didn't up the past why he dumped me and all and he explained him self why he did what he did which I know wasn't the truth my I was in control I just said to him I'm doing great and he went saying that he missed me and he wanted us to get back together but I know one thing he told me he was miserable without me
No Contact its not just for getting your Ex back, its for her to assess herself if you still have a place in their heart, but also to assess yourself if you really love them, or you can still live without them, if you can, just move on, NC is teaching us to love our self a bit more and appreciate what you have now, and let go of things that you can't control or have.
This is an interesting philosophy; if you have something unique you should not chase others, you should feel confident and be like the sun. Fascinating.
Once it's done... There's nothing left to fight for. The funny thing is in the future you may still fight but in the end you will feel nothing. Whether you want it back and nothing can compare to what you had, It's kinda crippling 😔
That's the part I'm scared of I'm scared of becoming numb towards her, mine was a long distance relationship and she lived in another state. We were together year and a half. It ended February 2nd the day before her birthday I can tell it kill her too but she had to choose her career, but then after two weeks of me doing no contact successfully, while she's breadcrumbing me to find out how my knee is doing I injured my ACL 5 days after The Break-Up, I went ahead and contacted her the week after Valentine's just to find out exactly what it was since I was more calm. And it turned out that she thought I still love my toxic ex which wasn't even the case. I wouldn't even be with this woman if I still had feelings for my ex.. my original ex left me for one of my closest friends and is still with him. Why would I want someone like that? She said what triggered her to make the jump was me wishing my ex a happy birthday and thanking her for being a mother she us to our kids. But I didn't mean anything by it I wasn't even hiding it the anniversary of our son passing away is a day before her birthday all I was trying to do was keep her spirits up it's hard to wish you a happy birthday with such a tragedy the day before. An honest mistake I guess I'm not sure...I was looking forward to having a new family my daughter (9) a lonely child now because of her little brother not being here and my recent ex has a daughter that was looked upon as her sister already.. I hope she comes back. I don't want to be indifferent towards her.. that's what's killing me now. But I'm doing my no contact and giving her The Break-Up like coach Lee sais
I don’t even want my ex back now coz he’s a prick and didn’t deserve me but I just love watching your videos!! 😍😍 your voice is so soothing!! I fall asleep to it!! 🥰
By doing NC u r in a way doing something significant.. It's a manifestation u have set and then just forget abt it.. I'm writing this after doing NC rigidly..and he has still kept me blocked.. But some important lessons I've learnt and that has changed my outlook regarding relationships.. It's not your fault that someone broke up with you.. This is the most important and lingering feeling which sticks with u after u get dumped.. But this is the moment of courage where we can rise from ashes and shine like stars.. Whether u fight for ur ex or move on just be truthful to yourself.. Cz u have to start loving and taking care of yourself first then only u can give love to other person.. 💫🌟.. Sending all of u ❤.. And also sending my ex ❤😘💞 and courage..
Even though I spent over a MONTH doing all the wrong things (begging, pleading, crying over the phone), as soon as I started actually following coach Lee's advice, my ex began responding. Texting me at first then calling, telling me he missed me, then inviting me to do things. Coach Lee's advice SEEMS counterintuitive and that makes doing it difficult but it works! If I had not found coach Lee I have no doubt I would have driven him away completely.
It's been a month and a week of no contact for me. Today I have felt really sad as if it were the first day, I even was tempted to break NC but watching you videos really calm me down. Really thank you Coach, I have watched other coaches, but I can see you have more experience and what you say it's totally true.
@@ricolinii Yes, I feel super good now. We never came back together, but I realized that it wasn't worth it at all. So in all this time, I met new people, visited new places, (even had a reborn). I can tell you now that it all depends on you, in my case if we hadn't broken up, I would remain the same person (chaos in my life) but now I have improved like I never did before. If you need any advice don't hesitate to email me bro, I know it is really painful at first.
I really can’t eat anything. My anxiety is so high and I’m having very important exams on the way and I can’t even begin studying. I really love him. He is such an amazing person. Every day this videos are my motivation. I managed to form a positive mindset but I just can’t focus on studying
So he broke up with me on January. A few days after that he texted me saying he still loved me and that he wanted us to be good friends, but I said to him that I needed time (a mistake, I know) and we haven't talk since that. He also said to me that he would consider coming back together in the future if we were single and still love each other, but that's not a yes... We used to have a good relationship but I fell into depression and we started fighting a lot. Things were never the same after that. Things got to a point where we weren't happy and I do not know if it was because of me and because I fell bad with myself. He even started liking another girl, he fell in love with someone else; I think he was looking in her what he couldn't find in me: a woman that love herself and was confident (I think they are not together, but I'm not sure). Anyway, he wasn't a perfect human being. He made some mistakes too. I think that sometimes what I wanted wasn't important for him. But I miss what we used to be before I got depressed and I think that he stopped valuing me bc I didn't value myself. I've been into no contact for about one month and a half. He likes my Instagram posts, watch my stories... but I don't know 😔. I just want to stop feeling, I just want to get over him. I have to admit that I am waiting for him to come back, because I feel like my dignity was beaten and I cannot believe he doesn't think I am worth it, because even though I was depressed I gave him all the love I could.
Ok you need an exercise regimen!!! That’ll help fight depression, you gotta force urself!!! Do any of ur friends exercise? Ask them if you can tag along Force urself
I know what it felt like to be in a relationship with her, it was so right! People are telling me to move on but I know what I’ll be walking away from. She dumped me in lockdown, which we did separately. Can’t help but think all this covid crisis has clouded her judgement of us, as she’s a paramedic and was under a lot of stress.
Well I've been in both scenarios. And really, when somebody tells you directly, after a year long relationship that they feel nothing towards you and there's no spark you can easily move on, been there - I was hurting for some time but it went away pretty fast. Right now I'm in a point when there's no significant reason, the relationship was flourishing really, it was a matter of days and then boom, suddenly he changed a lot, been down for a few days and finally said that he can't be with me due to his mental condition. It's been a month and I absolutely can't imagine letting this connection go.
@@filipvragolovic1175I'm in no contact since the middle of February. I'm definitely more peaceful these days. Time does heal wounds, it's common knowledge. He reached out to wish me happy birthday a week ago, I thanked him politely and didn't carry on a conversation. I'll update everything here if someting changes :)
I’ll say this. Sometimes it’s not worth it to get your ex back. Your ex is an ex for a reason. If they truly loved you, they would have never left.. who wants to be with someone that they have to intentionally stay away from in order to get them back? What if they leave you again? Are you going to continue to practice no contact? You get tired after a while. I’m someone who practiced the no context method at least 5 times with one person. Yes they came back but they would always leave again! Have some dignity and self worth and leave them where they left you ✌🏿
Araba Apau but what if it’s because you (as in me) screwed up so bad and took her for granted and made her feel unwanted and now you (as in me) hate yourself for it. That’s why I’m here, cuz she’s my ex cuz i f’d up
Joshua Pierce I understand , we all make mistakes . And if you truly love her , and if she wants you back too, don’t mess up the next time . Show her you appreciate her and you’ll never let her go. Please go into it with good intentions. Nothing worse than a heart that breaks twice.
Araba Apau I will if I ever get that chance but... she just got engaged after 5 months with him. I honestly feel like I killed her self esteem so bad that I’m the reason for that crazy decision to say yes after such a short time. I feel like she’s the love of my life and I felt I had for her life and that she’d never leave and now this, I’m not mad at her or him I feel like I deserve what I’m going through. I never ever verbally or physically abused her or put her down. I just stopped showing her she was the most important thing in my life and that ultimately led to my downfall and I hate myself for being that stupid.
Joshua Pierce you need to forgive yourself and take this as a lesson. What you did was wrong, YES. But use this as a lesson to NEVER make that same mistake . You may have lost an amazing thing , but everything happens for a reason and if you two are meant to be together , you two will find your way back to each other . If not , forgive yourself and move on. I pray everything works out for you
First of all no contact isn’t for getting an ex back. It’s for giving you distance from the situation so you can use the break up as energy to get better(mentally/physically/spiritually).
1. Your point about limerance is superb, it's a misplaced desiring desire itself. I feel instead we make a commitment to love an imperfect person imperfectly. 2 . My ex and I had a great relationship and were very close to one another, she dumped me because someone else came on the scene and he played on her personal issues. We even went to Paris a week before she dumped me, and it was a great holiday but I could tell something was wrong. Dumping me totally came out of the blue and I've felt left dangling ever since. Everyone was utterly surprised including her family. She was two faced and hid any feeling of unhappiness from me. Looking back it was as though she was conflicted between him and me for a while. The man she left for me is a counsellor and very manipulative. He's significantly older too. He called her repressed and made her feel very anxious but he caught her imagination.i had the misfortune of meeting him before I realised what was happening, and he probed into our relationship and used the 7 love languages to split her and I apart. They're still together now.
I took the quiz just for fun and I got 80% which gave me a bit of hope that he would Change his mind. We had a great relationship for 6-7 months. We click right away. He was like my best friend and a boyfriend on the same time. That’s why it surprise me that he broke up with me when I was insecure. Just like that..
Coach Lee I’m very miserable without my ex. I want to keep fighting for my ex and I don’t know how to without being harassing . Thank you for this video
Impressive knowledge of human emotions Lee. Not only you know why humans behave but you try not to judge them and accept them as they are which is what i aspire to do. I hope you are as great a human as u are a coach.
We’ve been broken up for 3 months and 10 weeks of no contact. I have hope, but feel discouraged at times. I’m tempted to reach out but I’m still hurting. He’s a confusing person which makes it harder. I’m still going to wait and work on myself.
Flora Kim I learned a lot about my attachment style & theirs also. It explains a lot. There are 4 styles. I’m secure so I attract anxious attachment styles.
Me and my “ex” had a really good relationship overall. Sure, we had some problems like anyone else. I honestly don’t understand the separation, and I think divorce sounds like such a radical idea. I want her back, and I’m working on myself in hopes she’ll come back. We had such an amazing emotional connection, such a perfect first date, amazing sexual connection. And got MARRIED.
I got over 90% in the quiz but lot points for begging to get him back. I have been in no contact for 2 weeks and I hope he sees how amazing we were and comes back to me
It's not about giving up. Just move on with your life. If they come back, you can hear them out and make a decision depending on where you're at at the time, pretty simple, really.
I got week and almost broke the no contact rule until I heard "Let it be" by the Beatles on the radio. Thanks to Coach Lee videos and listening to the Beatles gave me enough strength to not call or text my Lady.( I was the one that was Dumped.) 💔
This is exactly what goes through my mind, I do look back at my relationship, and we did have a good one, yes we had ups and downs but we hardly argued, I did make all the mistakes of txting her out after the relationship, I broke nc and have gone back into it, people just keep saying move on, but I just have this gut feeling and I just think deep down she still thinking of me, only coz I know what we had, and yes It does feel confusing to me, as iv not really had a proper reason for the split, I hope she does come back, and I could move on but, I think il ruin my chances, and people say as soon as u get with someone else she will come running back, but I honestly don't want to do that, I love her very much, but this gut feeling could just be wishful thinking, ur mind thinks all sorts, when u split up, and it is effecting my job, as she is on my mind all the time, I'm in my 3rd month of the break up and 3 weeks of my 2nd attempt of nc, I'm a strong guy but wow a woman is my weakness
@@jacksonmichael3074 I'm actually alright, mentally, just miss her but what is meant to be, will be, if she reaches out, great if not, well I got to be strong, but I won't be reaching out to her now, I made that mistake
Just came across my ex at work for the 1st time yesterday since NC about 40 days now and about 3 months since I was ghosted. Went about my day, made sure to look good bc I knew they would be at the job site. Laughed with everyone said hello and made sure to say hello to her as well with a smile and kept it moving. She looked nervous and startled when i approached to say hello. Guess she expected for me to be bitter or mad. Then said goodbye at the emd of the day and again she looked nervous fumbling a box she had in hand. Hope that was a good thing n puts that doubt in her head and curiosity that brings her back lol. No lie it killed me inside a bit when I left. Thought I was going to be just fine.
Just got a text. Says that they are sorry about yesterday for not saying hello but they just trying to do right and not be unkind at the same time. She said hope I understand. Not worth responding IMO. Doing right as in living by our religious beliefs as we both should be.
You’re good at what you do sir Hats off. I can’t stand that my ex lady just needed a little bit of your mentality she’s 36 with such immature mentality it killed our relationship. She broke up with me because she gave up easy it’s been a long road for me. If she were to come back she’s going to have to work on her self A lot. Thank you again master Lee.
Not walking away from 25 years without at least trying. It makes no sense why he left without any notice. I''m not giving up without a fight. Started NC after 2 weeks. It's been almost 3 mos.
I gave my all to my relationship i fought hard to try to understand why would he want to all the sudden sabotage what he had am not waiting on nobody i was in deep depression💔💔💔but now i realized that i dint loose him he lost me🌹💁 And now well i heard KARMA🖤 has been giving him a taste of his own medicine
Thank you Coach Lee, your videos keep me inspired, I would've broken NC ages ago if not for your vids but so far I'm 2 weeks in and feel 200x better than I did a week ago. Cheers from England man.
I have a bad habit of trying to make unrequited love relationships work. And, I have a hard time giving up on unrequited love relationships when they unsurprisingly don't work out in my favor.
Can you do more videos on trying to get your ex back when you dumped them. I have shown complete humility and admitted I was wrong and suffering from depression. We split just over 5 months ago, he got into a relationship 7 weeks later, I poured my heart out a month ago and he still cannot tell me how he feels. We were together for 7 years
It's been over two months since the breakup. She still doesn't want to see me. She told me she's been giving us both time to heal and that she's been working on herself. I feel she won't want to see me until she's completely over me, if she sees me at all. And this is counter-intuitive because if she's "over me" when I finally see her, everything will be for nothing. And I feel I can't trigger that spark without being in-person...
This was by far the best video of coach lee. It’s like a win win situation for the dumped. You wait for them to contact you. Either she comes back you or you have already moved on by then. Either way, you, who have been dumped, feel cheated with a pathetic rebound, and hurt, you win either way. You’re not losing anything in this life, my kings and queens, all you’re doing from now on is winning in life, getting stronger and pulling big life flexes that will DEFINITELY make your ex jealous 😉.
@Coach Lee: Would you consider doing a video on "Monkey Branching" vs "Rebound Relationship" and your take on how to approach them? Is it important to approach them differently mentally? i.e. If it's a Monkey Branch scenario, should one just move on? I don't currently see any videos in your library on this. Thanks.
yeah its more complicated than that. It's kind of as dumb as "you'll meet someone when you stop looking". Just dumb feel good sentiments that have no bearing on the real world in a way. There's some truth to those statements, but they're oversimplifications
@@TheCc064 yeah, but I'm not taking about those relationships. I'm taking about all the people who use this statement w/e anyone brings up reconciling w/an ex. It's just a lazy statement, and I'm so tired of hearing it.
Thank you so much for this advices , i feel better and refreshing ur advices keeps me strong in NC rule, iam in the real fighting now with my self , we had something special and beautiful i dont want to move on still want her back always , always , Thank Coach Lee
NICE VIDEO Coach.. I will fight for him. Im in radio silence for 1 month and 1 week. Its tough. I will change my cover photo and profile photo in fb. I hope we will reconcile. 🙏🤞
Day 42 NC... I feel like giving up. I feel like having this hope is just going to hurt me in the long run. If he loved me like he said he did, he would have contacted me by now 😓
Maya love is sweet when you're with the right person and the right person loves you, I want to direct you to someone who can help you get back your ex back without stress he's real and genie.....
When they disappear and ghost you, they destroy the secure foundation of the relationship. You can't have a SECURE relationship, family unit, etc. With someone who doesn't want to communicate. How do you take someone back putting you thru extra bs? PHUCK them, move on, and free yourself!
Hi Coach Lee, Can you do a video about how to get around your fiance's parents blocking our chance of getting back together? My ex has been brain washed by his family to breakup. 2.5 months of ghosting already :(
I broke up with my girlfriend of 4 months recently. I really loved her and she told me that she really loved me too. We were both unknowingly hurting each other until it was too much. She eventually decided to break it off telling me how she truly felt and that she needed time to find herself and heal. It seemed like we ended on a neutral note. I was so shocked and speechless that I didn't even get a chance to tell her how I truly felt. Ironically we both felt the same things. Not worth it to the other person, sad, lonely, and lost. I truly do want to get back with her and talk things more thoroughly but that won't come to fruition. It has been about 3 weeks now. It is really tempting to break the no contact rule but I know that it will only make things worse if I try to get in contact to say something as simple as "hi". I am going to keep on no contact and see what it develops into. Honestly if we don't get back together it isn't the end of the world. I'm not going to lie that I wont be sad if she does move on. I will be, but that just means that I have to move one too. I truly wish her the best and want her to be happy.
My partner left me 4 months ago whilst I was pregnant, I showed alot of emotion and anger at the time, I went chasing for closure and answers on and off for about 6 weeks before I went into strategic contact... I only spoke when he reached out, it took a good 2 months of not contacting him before he decided he wanted to come back. I haven't fully agreed yet just sad I'm open to it but want to take things slow... I hope things work out this time but I have learnt a good lesson not to fight or chase in the future as it does nothing!
Just in time ! Im feeling so desperate and feeling weak been 28 days NC and no progress :( but he set the SINGLE status up on his public profile , the only way I can somehow take a peek
I am in a somewhat unique situation. She broke up with me. I went NC. She contacted me on our anniversary and I ended up going up to see her and stayed 3 nights. We had a wonderful time with no fights and no heavy talk. As I was leaving I told her we should do that again sometime. I was keeping it light. She got it and smiled and said sure. We texted each other a couple of times the next day. The day after that I texted her and said we should do that again. She didn't answer back and we are entering week two now. There doesn't seem to be any reason for no contact other than I did text her last and never heard from her. All I know is that we are both very stubborn and prideful. But I have swallowed my pride so many times with her . I wish I knew what was going on in her mind.
At this point I dont even think he will come back because I called him out on his lies 4 months after the breakup. I started NC immediately, day 4 now. Whatever it is, I will be strong.
I got 70.9% on the quiz. Honestly, I really want him back but I think working on myself so I can be a better me is more important. I love this man, but self love is going to benefit us or another man, if neccessary
@coachlee please someone answer this question. If they are "Happy" in a new relationship even if it's rebound relationship, does that mean it was never a good relationship in the first place?? Meaning they'll never come back...
@@skatonio Yes but this is the best way. Don't stick to one person, live for youself. Then u will find better person just like me and you will take a look at past and say how stupid was I.
13:44 I think I am in this timeline... It's hard to know what to do... It had become long distance (the past 2 years or so..) but was quite a long relationship (nearly 9 years, a bit off and on... moreso on constantly- a couple small breaks from fights..) formally 'ended things' about a year ago, she and I were still in touch every few months just via text after breaking up due to the LDR more than less (neither person wanted to move where the other was..) ... but anytime I'd mention us seeing each other in either city (or meeting somewhere inbetween) she was never for it. This year neither person bothered to wish a Merry Xmas or HNY.. I didn't bother to reach out on her bday either shortly after because it feels like it's just run its course. Anyway- it sucks to just let it die. I'm tempted to reach out, but I think it had become "move here to be with me (away from my entire family in the western states...)" ..her mom's side of her fam lives in the same state as her.. or nothing. But- then when I was visiting her over there (eastern side of the US) she only seemed marginally interested in finding a place together. She'd offered me to live w her and her mom (whom she lives with over there...) but- I didn't want to do that. -Anyways.... I'm kind of just thinking two things, if she doesn't care for it anymore then why should I? And also just as far as no contact leaving her alone and leaving it a book facedown, unless she gets ahold of me. She would get ahold of me every few months to 'check in' or ask me how things were, but then anytime in the convo if I mentioned meeting up she wasn't for it. She had asked if 'can we ever be friends?' shortly after the initial breakup, to which I basically declined and said I'd rather not as I'm not interested in that. I wish the Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind technology were real I'd fry this shit out so fast! lol... Anyways sorry for rambling if anyone took the time to read it or has any insight toward this situation (Coach Lee or otherwise) thanks people and do your thing!
Hi Coach Lee, I am 36 and she is 30. We had a 3 months relationship which was full of joy and sometimes sadness as she was sick and i had to send her to clinic or hospital. All in all, i took great care of her and tried my best to make her happy. But i am needy kind of guy which got worse after she left the country and was far from me. I was needy several times, texting and questioning her. She told me about 5 times that she will be back and tells me to relax. But i was just bothered by her coldness and continued to write many text a day to get her attention and at the same time still questioning her and doubting her. So end up she says she don't want relationship anymore and then block me because i said think about the good times we had and the diamond ring and gifts i bought for her. She said its disgusting i talk about the gifts as i am a man. After blocking me, i got work up and messaged her from another phone, saying some very crude words about her and thanking her for leaving me as i don't want a women with 2 children ( she has twins). But i quickly regret what i said and followed up with numerous apologies everyday for 5 days to explain that i was angry and did not mean what i say. Each and every attempt was blocked or met with a reply that says 'I don't want to hear anything about you! Don't write me again". My last message to her was that i will message her again at Mar 15 to see how she feels. I say i will give her the time to cool down and i will take these 2 weeks to be better mentally and physically. My question is how do you think she will react when i message her on Mar 15. Supposedly she is coming back end of Mar. But she said after what i said to her, she never want to see me again.
Corey Wayne+Coach Lee+Develop Attraction+Dating Advice+Enterprenuer in car+33secrets=the best combination ever! Watch them guys and you will not be screwed up. No wussy stuff. Thanks to them I dumped my gf as she had no f...en respect whatsoever. Now she is bombing me with calls and messages I miss I apologise I am not stable... makes me vomit. As Corey says and I love it: the strongest negotiation position is being able to walk away and MEAN IT! Good luck my friends. This stuff IS working.
Coach Lee, does the Emergency Breakup Kit allow us to schedule a coaching call with you? I would explain my situation, but it would college-essay long, lol
Hey, don't buy his kit, I did. It's just like another 6 videos that say basically the same as his youtube videos. 50$ don't seem much, but it's still way too much for it
Hey, Coach Lee! Great videos as always. I really enjoy them. Heres a scenario you may not have considered. You have an ex you broke up with about a year ago because things got heated. But you had a real great connection and chemistry. She called incessantly, text etc, emailed but you needed time to clear your head and ignored all her efforts. Then as the dumper, you finally reach out to her( a year later). She takes your call, you apologize, but she tells you she's back with her abusive ex and is pregnant, asks why you couldn't have reached out sooner and is really upset and says she has to try and make it work with him now that she's pregnant even though you know how much she feels for you because she said so. What to do in that situation? I mean obviously go no contact , but should I not expect anything at all with this type of revelation? I mean this scenario is a bit of a game changer, no? She already called me a month ago crying saying this guy wants nothing to do with her and the baby because he knows how she feels about me(she told me) and when I followed up with her in an email she said she would reach out to me when she chooses. Confusing....I know. She said she was so confused at that moment. So, P.S. I assume she worked it out and went back with him because she went radio silent and I haven't called or text her either in over a month. Figured just let it be...?
thetemple, I would let her go. She chose to be with someone else, so let her have him. Is it worth all the pain and suffering? Move on, take time for yourself, and concentrate on YOU..⚘️ONE final word, YOU ENDED IT, and she most likely lost attraction.
I've been doing no contact w/my ex for 3 weeks while living together with our son. We were a couple for 12 years. I normally stay in the kitchen while she's in the living room if I'm home. Other than that, I'm normally out with friends or I take my son out. Lately, she has been asking questions around the house; it seems like she has been making efforts to get a response from me. She'll walk by and ask if I'd like a cupcake etc. I always respectfully answer her questions with a short reply, and I keep my distance. About fifteen minutes ago she asked if I'm still going to move out (as we discussed weeks ago). I told her that I am still waiting for a response from the complex. Then she said, 'I was just wondering.' I then made a quick comment like 'It could take longer but we'll see.' Then she said 'Because it's been weird with you still here.' Would really appreciate some input - do you all think that she said that to get a rise from me, or maybe this was a test? I kept my cool and was pleasant. Hope I responded correctly?
Dean F love is sweet when you're with the right person, life is too short to be sad I want to direct you to someone who can help you get back your ex back
I'm facing serious odds against and should probably give up. She's over 40 now and her attitude is flippant, dismissive. We are long distance, never had sex. She was my high school narc ex who broke my heart. Let's just leave it at that. Sometimes love ain't enough.
Definietly move on, if breakup is irrelevant it means they had another option and were waiting for u to give them reason to blame you for everything and leave
My ex Robert loved to blame,accused and assumed stuff on me a lot. I even noticed Narcissist traits in him. I had to breakup the relationship and I also had to end the Friends With Benefits situation with him. He was causing me stress.
Will they still feel that fear of loss that you explain even if they are dating a rebound? Or will that delay when they start to be curious about you and the fear that they've lost you
Lex F love is sweet when you're with the right person, life is too short to be sad I want to direct you to someone who can help you get back your ex back
My relationship was long distance, and things ended over the phone. I haven’t had contact since the break up and I sent flowers today to let her know that I want to talk in person when ever she’s ready, and to take all the time she needs. I wanted to put myself out there to let her know I wasn’t happy how things ended to let her know that I haven’t forgotten about us. Because the way things ended was very confusing to me, I honestly don’t want to talk about it, but from this day forward I’m doing no contact until she’s ready and I want to work on myself and push to become a better person inside and out wish me luck.
No contact helps,
But not to get your ex back... But to move on with your dignity
kundai mazarura
I hope I can forget and heal💔
@@angrypatient2221 sooner or later you won't even remember hurting.
You won't even remember the relationship. Trust coach Lee.
How do you get her back then
@@painthuretfocus on yourself and grown your attraction. When she comes back you most likely won’t want her at that time
This is refreshing. I’m tired of hearing “you need to just move on” because every relationship is different. Sometimes, getting back together IS a good thing. But all these love gurus just say to move on. This video is great because he gives options for both.
I 100% agree I'm committed to fight myself I had that kind of right relationship with my ex but she still chose to leave very confusing especially how described us and me before she left just need to clear the path and figure it out
Well moving on is part of getting them back. At least the appearance of moving on. It also gives you power when they do come back and you aren’t desperate for their return.
Gerrit Sluyter...I agree, I’m sick of hearing just “move on” right away when the breakup is still fresh. why can’t you fight for it if the relationship was good? There’s nothing wrong to want to try to fight for it and that is if you feel your ex has not given up on you and the relationship. You think you just want to “move on” but maybe your ex DOES NOT want to “move on” and would like to try again.
I’m also binge-watching Coach Lee because he lays out all the options on the table with no bias. 🤍
true i m sick of people telling me to move on when they dont nothing about our relationship.. i think they are just saying that from their bad experience, maybe they had a bad relationship but not everyone has a bad one
I think once they get with another person or a rebound, that’s enough disrespect for me
Agree
Facts my boy
Yeah thats the point of no return.
Straight up
Not necessarily. Some need that to see you are what they want.
I’ve done the begging. I’ve done the constant contacting. Then when I took a step back and didn’t bother him he’s taken steps towards me. Two months. Almost 3 broken up & the other night he mentions he wants to meet up and talk. Be patient.. I know it seems hopeless right now but bugging them doesn’t help either of you.
I made the mistake of begging and pleading. 21 times over the course of almost 4 months to be exact. I have been in no contact for 5 months now. I try to be patient but it's still hard. I still love and miss her.
But he’s so stubborn and I highly doubt I’ve crossed his mind. I apologized on my part and still no response
Danielle Rose mine sees me at work and when I didn’t say happy birthday the next day he came and talked to me .. but not almost two months later and he casually walks by keeps it short says hi somethings but that’s it.. like it’s annoying I don’t want to be just a hi and bye it’s useless pointless it’s like we both know something needs to be said but I am not saying it first this time this is our second breakup .. it’s so hard :/ did your ex talk to you casually? And then eventually talked more and more?
❤️
After 42 YEARS, she divorced me. No major problems-now almost a month of no contact. I am very lonely and DEPRESSED. I pray for her and for a reconciliation of our relationship every day.
Your thoughts please!
Most of these people that go through breakups, can’t be alone, do not take care of themselves first, I used to be that person. If you are not happy alone, you will always have breakups, depending on others for happiness is a form of addiction. Get your life together before you date. This guy knows what he is talking about. Everything he has said has happened to me throughout my life. ALL my ex’s came back, at least once, sometimes twice. It doesn’t mean that it will workout. Growth happens to people in different times in your life. Live your life everyday and you will attract someone that shares similar values and with some commitment and compromises, also taking care of yourself first. You can have the best days and a great relationship BUT, it starts with a great relationship with yourself first. Good luck 🍀
You sound like a Robot. If you spend 7 years married to one person it's not that you're not happy with yourself if lets say the wife decides to break up. It's that you were emotionally attactched as it should happen if you are human. You don't sound human to me. You probably need oil or something..
Joshua that is really so true. You have to be on your own for a long time to finally understand what you need to do for yourself in order to really love yourself and not be lonely.
Thank you
This is absolutely 💯 percent spot on. We'll said bro. I was one of those people too. Trying to find happiness through my relationships instead of being happy on my own first. Also, all my(if not most) my ex's came back at least once. This it spot on.
Dear Coach Lee and all! I have "fought" for him. He left me and immediately went into a rebound relationship. My pain was so deep. I thought I was fainting all the time. At the same time I kept watching these videos which eased my pain and trained my mind. It took some time and some ups and down. Today. He is so happy to be with me again and so I am! We started to plan for our family future again! 😍👪 I wish you all the best. And please do what Coach Lee suggests. He is the best👑💗
Sonia díaz
How long did it took to reunite again?
@@angrypatient2221 a month and a half following exactly what Coach Lee suggests at every step 😉 if you do not follow his advice you may go back to the beginning and the process starts again😉 Focus on yourself. Improve every aspect of your being💗
Sonia díaz
Wishing you a very happy life, and thank you for your answer.
@@angrypatient2221 Thank you so much! Be strong💪💗
Did you reach out ? Or he did?
No one should waste time on someone who didn't think enough of you; to keep in the first place. Things don't happen as a mistake but it's for a reason. Meaning another door is opening for the RIGHT person to show up.
Move on and never pursue someone who didn't value you much in the first place.
@mr fantastic when they ignore you that is so hurtful and disrespectful
I feel like Hollywood has done far more harm than good when it comes to portraying relationships. The sooner people accept that no relationship is perfect and that romance movies are usually a bunch of BS, the happier people will be in real relationships. The key to maintaining love and passion in a long-term relationship is lowering your expectations and learning to be satisfied with less than perfect. That's how couples manage to stay married for 20+ years.
dragonslair951167 love is sweet when you're with the right person and the right person loves you, I want to direct you to someone who can help you get back your ex back without stress he's real and genie.....
+2348170991722.....
My ex girlfriend needs to read what you wrote...
FACTS
I hit the 1 year and 3 months mark. It does get easier guys. And through the gift of time...I am healed enough to
Begin dating again. Do I still think about my ex and miss them?? Yes I do and that Is perfectly normal and human...but now i am stronger enough to move on 😌
Thrive for better. Don't chase girls, Chase success, then girls will come. This including your ex if you want her back.
I hope you have success, and we all deserve better.
Idk how, when, and if I can start dating again.
@@jharris7838 you might start out slowly, you never know, a kind person may show up in your life...
"The fight is within yourself". Wow. You are so wise Coach Lee!
It's been a year now. I'm not waiting and I'm seeing others. Her loss.
I actually met someone since a month back. The most wonderful girl ❤️
Had she tried to reach out to you
@@lukeskywalker313 She didn't. Now there is no way I would change my mind regardless. Feelings change with time just hold on.
bossen 1: are ya still with new girl?
@@applesnicolle5144 I am! We celebrate 2 years in Mars and we currently live together since June 2021.
Planing on extending the family, since I have 2 kids and looking for a bigger apartment or house.
Just move on its the best you can do for yourself. I moved 3,000 miles away across the country after we broke up and never looked back and feel better then ever. It takes time guys.
I can't thank you enough coach Lee, almost a month after I was dumped, I cried, I get desperate, I'm fearful of not getting my ex back, but everything I've been experiencing goes down and I feel calm when I watch your videos, thank you for keeping the hope of getting my ex back.
How are you now
@@Sihara.Liyanapathirana Better in the way that I understand that probably it's better for me to not get my ex back, thanks for asking.
Just remember guys, a woman will throw away a perfectly good man to chase after fairytales.... move on and find someone worthy of your time and effort....they will come back if you treated them properly..
Amen
Thanks man
@@Derek-rh9mi fyi mine came back, not after chasing other men but just wanting to get married. We got married and just returned from Jamaica…. Sometimes it works out, sometimes it doesn’t. Just don’t hold out hope, live your life and move on and see what life brings you…
@@coryturner9140😂 first time in life I saw a click bait. Comment 🤘👀😂
@@coryturner9140how long did it take?
I think “moving on” is not the right thing to say. It’s “letting go”! It takes weeks or in reality months to feel normal after a breakup and get at a baseline emotional level! Just let time heal and delete all triggers. The memories will become more and more distant and that’s probably a good thing.
Another thing to keep in mind is that you have to look at the entire relationship from beginning to end, everything that was said and everything that happened to put it all in perspective. If they are worth it and value you they will come back. If not, someone better will come along eventually… hopefully!
Hi Stephenn77, I think you are hitting the nail on the head with your comment. I also see it more of a process of letting go and detaching, which does hurt a lot obviously.
I been out of a relationship for 6 months ago and I still Watch Your videos because you Help me move on and do better things in life 💯💯💯 if it's not coach Lee Its not Real and I still Watch until This day keep inspiring men 💯💪🙏
Yes I did no contact for 8 months listen to coach lee advice guys it definitely Works
Did your ex come back?
Yes he did I went the whole 8 months and he's still asking to come see me and can we become a couple again
That's awesome!!
@@brendaedwards3651 Congratulations, how did you respond to him out of the blue contracting you?
I was polite friendly I didn't up the past why he dumped me and all and he explained him self why he did what he did which I know wasn't the truth my I was in control I just said to him I'm doing great and he went saying that he missed me and he wanted us to get back together but I know one thing he told me he was miserable without me
So no contact is a must! Its the best thing to make her feel if she wants you back.. and if not then you are already on the wey of moving forward...
No Contact its not just for getting your Ex back, its for her to assess herself if you still have a place in their heart, but also to assess yourself if you really love them, or you can still live without them, if you can, just move on, NC is teaching us to love our self a bit more and appreciate what you have now, and let go of things that you can't control or have.
youre awesome man i cant thank you enough ... never quit man we need you -- this is science, this is therapy, this is real
This is an interesting philosophy; if you have something unique you should not chase others, you should feel confident and be like the sun.
Fascinating.
"To be like a star" I like that 👌🏽
Once it's done... There's nothing left to fight for. The funny thing is in the future you may still fight but in the end you will feel nothing. Whether you want it back and nothing can compare to what you had,
It's kinda crippling 😔
That's the part I'm scared of I'm scared of becoming numb towards her, mine was a long distance relationship and she lived in another state. We were together year and a half. It ended February 2nd the day before her birthday I can tell it kill her too but she had to choose her career, but then after two weeks of me doing no contact successfully, while she's breadcrumbing me to find out how my knee is doing I injured my ACL 5 days after The Break-Up,
I went ahead and contacted her the week after Valentine's just to find out exactly what it was since I was more calm. And it turned out that she thought I still love my toxic ex which wasn't even the case. I wouldn't even be with this woman if I still had feelings for my ex.. my original ex left me for one of my closest friends and is still with him. Why would I want someone like that? She said what triggered her to make the jump was me wishing my ex a happy birthday and thanking her for being a mother she us to our kids. But I didn't mean anything by it I wasn't even hiding it the anniversary of our son passing away is a day before her birthday all I was trying to do was keep her spirits up it's hard to wish you a happy birthday with such a tragedy the day before.
An honest mistake I guess I'm not sure...I was looking forward to having a new family my daughter (9) a lonely child now because of her little brother not being here and my recent ex has a daughter that was looked upon as her sister already..
I hope she comes back. I don't want to be indifferent towards her.. that's what's killing me now.
But I'm doing my no contact and giving her The Break-Up like coach Lee sais
If you think it will be the same, then dont try. It will be a new relationship, go from there.
@@toms81162 exactly. If you go back to a relationship and didn't change and start over then why even bother
I don’t even want my ex back now coz he’s a prick and didn’t deserve me but I just love watching your videos!! 😍😍 your voice is so soothing!! I fall asleep to it!! 🥰
By doing NC u r in a way doing something significant.. It's a manifestation u have set and then just forget abt it..
I'm writing this after doing NC rigidly..and he has still kept me blocked.. But some important lessons I've learnt and that has changed my outlook regarding relationships.. It's not your fault that someone broke up with you.. This is the most important and lingering feeling which sticks with u after u get dumped.. But this is the moment of courage where we can rise from ashes and shine like stars..
Whether u fight for ur ex or move on just be truthful to yourself.. Cz u have to start loving and taking care of yourself first then only u can give love to other person.. 💫🌟.. Sending all of u ❤..
And also sending my ex ❤😘💞 and courage..
Even though I spent over a MONTH doing all the wrong things (begging, pleading, crying over the phone), as soon as I started actually following coach Lee's advice, my ex began responding. Texting me at first then calling, telling me he missed me, then inviting me to do things. Coach Lee's advice SEEMS counterintuitive and that makes doing it difficult but it works! If I had not found coach Lee I have no doubt I would have driven him away completely.
It's been a month and a week of no contact for me. Today I have felt really sad as if it were the first day, I even was tempted to break NC but watching you videos really calm me down. Really thank you Coach, I have watched other coaches, but I can see you have more experience and what you say it's totally true.
any update bro?
like how you feel?
@@ricolinii Yes, I feel super good now. We never came back together, but I realized that it wasn't worth it at all. So in all this time, I met new people, visited new places, (even had a reborn). I can tell you now that it all depends on you, in my case if we hadn't broken up, I would remain the same person (chaos in my life) but now I have improved like I never did before. If you need any advice don't hesitate to email me bro, I know it is really painful at first.
I really can’t eat anything. My anxiety is so high and I’m having very important exams on the way and I can’t even begin studying. I really love him. He is such an amazing person. Every day this videos are my motivation. I managed to form a positive mindset but I just can’t focus on studying
Hi @Lidia J How thing are going on? He reached you? I'm on just my first day of radio silence
@@victoria9614 has your ex reached out to you yet?
Update?
Out of the blue.... you have 100k subscribers. I was checking on this for long time...
Around 4 months ago, I checked and he only had around 38K. Correct me if I'm wrong. But amazing.
Quarantine happened lol
So he broke up with me on January. A few days after that he texted me saying he still loved me and that he wanted us to be good friends, but I said to him that I needed time (a mistake, I know) and we haven't talk since that. He also said to me that he would consider coming back together in the future if we were single and still love each other, but that's not a yes...
We used to have a good relationship but I fell into depression and we started fighting a lot. Things were never the same after that. Things got to a point where we weren't happy and I do not know if it was because of me and because I fell bad with myself. He even started liking another girl, he fell in love with someone else; I think he was looking in her what he couldn't find in me: a woman that love herself and was confident (I think they are not together, but I'm not sure).
Anyway, he wasn't a perfect human being. He made some mistakes too. I think that sometimes what I wanted wasn't important for him.
But I miss what we used to be before I got depressed and I think that he stopped valuing me bc I didn't value myself.
I've been into no contact for about one month and a half. He likes my Instagram posts, watch my stories... but I don't know 😔. I just want to stop feeling, I just want to get over him. I have to admit that I am waiting for him to come back, because I feel like my dignity was beaten and I cannot believe he doesn't think I am worth it, because even though I was depressed I gave him all the love I could.
Cristina Betancourt love is worth fighting for, I know of someone who can help you get your ex back without stress he's real and genie
Cristina Betancourt kindly get in touch with him now here is his what's app number
+2348170991722...
Omg! Almost the same thing happened to me! It’s so hard!
Ok you need an exercise regimen!!! That’ll help fight depression, you gotta force urself!!! Do any of ur friends exercise? Ask them if you can tag along
Force urself
I know what it felt like to be in a relationship with her, it was so right! People are telling me to move on but I know what I’ll be walking away from. She dumped me in lockdown, which we did separately. Can’t help but think all this covid crisis has clouded her judgement of us, as she’s a paramedic and was under a lot of stress.
Did you get her back?
How's things going now for you both?
I have one month watching all the videos this coach does and I have to say it’s helping me to move on with my life after a bad breakup.
I don’t even want the person back. Because I realized with all the videos I’ve seen this person never cared about me. He was only using me
Well I've been in both scenarios. And really, when somebody tells you directly, after a year long relationship that they feel nothing towards you and there's no spark you can easily move on, been there - I was hurting for some time but it went away pretty fast. Right now I'm in a point when there's no significant reason, the relationship was flourishing really, it was a matter of days and then boom, suddenly he changed a lot, been down for a few days and finally said that he can't be with me due to his mental condition. It's been a month and I absolutely can't imagine letting this connection go.
@@filipvragolovic1175I'm in no contact since the middle of February. I'm definitely more peaceful these days. Time does heal wounds, it's common knowledge. He reached out to wish me happy birthday a week ago, I thanked him politely and didn't carry on a conversation. I'll update everything here if someting changes :)
@@Emila1695 any updates?
@@carmensmith1453 frfr
I’ll say this. Sometimes it’s not worth it to get your ex back. Your ex is an ex for a reason. If they truly loved you, they would have never left.. who wants to be with someone that they have to intentionally stay away from in order to get them back? What if they leave you again? Are you going to continue to practice no contact? You get tired after a while. I’m someone who practiced the no context method at least 5 times with one person. Yes they came back but they would always leave again! Have some dignity and self worth and leave them where they left you ✌🏿
Araba Apau but what if it’s because you (as in me) screwed up so bad and took her for granted and made her feel unwanted and now you (as in me) hate yourself for it. That’s why I’m here, cuz she’s my ex cuz i f’d up
Joshua Pierce I understand , we all make mistakes . And if you truly love her , and if she wants you back too, don’t mess up the next time . Show her you appreciate her and you’ll never let her go. Please go into it with good intentions. Nothing worse than a heart that breaks twice.
Araba Apau I will if I ever get that chance but... she just got engaged after 5 months with him. I honestly feel like I killed her self esteem so bad that I’m the reason for that crazy decision to say yes after such a short time. I feel like she’s the love of my life and I felt I had for her life and that she’d never leave and now this, I’m not mad at her or him I feel like I deserve what I’m going through. I never ever verbally or physically abused her or put her down. I just stopped showing her she was the most important thing in my life and that ultimately led to my downfall and I hate myself for being that stupid.
Joshua Pierce you need to forgive yourself and take this as a lesson. What you did was wrong, YES. But use this as a lesson to NEVER make that same mistake . You may have lost an amazing thing , but everything happens for a reason and if you two are meant to be together , you two will find your way back to each other . If not , forgive yourself and move on. I pray everything works out for you
First of all no contact isn’t for getting an ex back. It’s for giving you distance from the situation so you can use the break up as energy to get better(mentally/physically/spiritually).
1. Your point about limerance is superb, it's a misplaced desiring desire itself. I feel instead we make a commitment to love an imperfect person imperfectly.
2 . My ex and I had a great relationship and were very close to one another, she dumped me because someone else came on the scene and he played on her personal issues. We even went to Paris a week before she dumped me, and it was a great holiday but I could tell something was wrong. Dumping me totally came out of the blue and I've felt left dangling ever since. Everyone was utterly surprised including her family. She was two faced and hid any feeling of unhappiness from me. Looking back it was as though she was conflicted between him and me for a while. The man she left for me is a counsellor and very manipulative. He's significantly older too. He called her repressed and made her feel very anxious but he caught her imagination.i had the misfortune of meeting him before I realised what was happening, and he probed into our relationship and used the 7 love languages to split her and I apart. They're still together now.
That’s terrible! Would you mind giving me an update on this relationship or your love life now? Hope things have turned around!
Hmmm it’s almost the same with mine . Any update
I took the quiz just for fun and I got 80% which gave me a bit of hope that he would Change his mind. We had a great relationship for 6-7 months. We click right away. He was like my best friend and a boyfriend on the same time. That’s why it surprise me that he broke up with me when I was insecure. Just like that..
Coach Lee I’m very miserable without my ex. I want to keep fighting for my ex and I don’t know how to without being harassing . Thank you for this video
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Coach Lee, man I would love to have a beer with you. You just seem like a genuine guy with a good heart. God bless, brother
Impressive knowledge of human emotions Lee. Not only you know why humans behave but you try not to judge them and accept them as they are which is what i aspire to do. I hope you are as great a human as u are a coach.
We’ve been broken up for 3 months and 10 weeks of no contact. I have hope, but feel discouraged at times. I’m tempted to reach out but I’m still hurting. He’s a confusing person which makes it harder. I’m still going to wait and work on myself.
We live the same life.
Move on is the best thing. Never wait on a person who discarded you.
NC is generally for longer relationships as that’s the psychology
Cy Colburn we dated for a little over a year, but I understand your point
Flora Kim I learned a lot about my attachment style & theirs also. It explains a lot. There are 4 styles. I’m secure so I attract anxious attachment styles.
My husband is a true narcissist. His rebound can have him
Me and my “ex” had a really good relationship overall. Sure, we had some problems like anyone else. I honestly don’t understand the separation, and I think divorce sounds like such a radical idea. I want her back, and I’m working on myself in hopes she’ll come back. We had such an amazing emotional connection, such a perfect first date, amazing sexual connection. And got MARRIED.
I got over 90% in the quiz but lot points for begging to get him back. I have been in no contact for 2 weeks and I hope he sees how amazing we were and comes back to me
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It's not about giving up. Just move on with your life. If they come back, you can hear them out and make a decision depending on where you're at at the time, pretty simple, really.
Love conquers ! my love for him conquers the pain he gave me. Fight for him till I died💕
Did he come back?
I got week and almost broke the no contact rule until I heard "Let it be" by the Beatles on the radio. Thanks to Coach Lee videos and listening to the Beatles gave me enough strength to not call or text my Lady.( I was the one that was Dumped.) 💔
This is exactly what goes through my mind, I do look back at my relationship, and we did have a good one, yes we had ups and downs but we hardly argued, I did make all the mistakes of txting her out after the relationship, I broke nc and have gone back into it, people just keep saying move on, but I just have this gut feeling and I just think deep down she still thinking of me, only coz I know what we had, and yes It does feel confusing to me, as iv not really had a proper reason for the split, I hope she does come back, and I could move on but, I think il ruin my chances, and people say as soon as u get with someone else she will come running back, but I honestly don't want to do that, I love her very much, but this gut feeling could just be wishful thinking, ur mind thinks all sorts, when u split up, and it is effecting my job, as she is on my mind all the time, I'm in my 3rd month of the break up and 3 weeks of my 2nd attempt of nc, I'm a strong guy but wow a woman is my weakness
@@jacksonmichael3074 I'm actually alright, mentally, just miss her but what is meant to be, will be, if she reaches out, great if not, well I got to be strong, but I won't be reaching out to her now, I made that mistake
Damn.. I feel EXACTLY the same man.. We are sooo on the same boat.. I hope you are oke! Stay strong.
I feel you...
But I do suggest to just move on when you've already done everything to get them back
@@k.a.o1222 update?
Just came across my ex at work for the 1st time yesterday since NC about 40 days now and about 3 months since I was ghosted. Went about my day, made sure to look good bc I knew they would be at the job site. Laughed with everyone said hello and made sure to say hello to her as well with a smile and kept it moving. She looked nervous and startled when i approached to say hello. Guess she expected for me to be bitter or mad. Then said goodbye at the emd of the day and again she looked nervous fumbling a box she had in hand. Hope that was a good thing n puts that doubt in her head and curiosity that brings her back lol. No lie it killed me inside a bit when I left. Thought I was going to be just fine.
Just got a text. Says that they are sorry about yesterday for not saying hello but they just trying to do right and not be unkind at the same time. She said hope I understand. Not worth responding IMO. Doing right as in living by our religious beliefs as we both should be.
Coach Lee..your voice and advice are so calming..you're a lifesaver..literally..
You’re good at what you do sir Hats off. I can’t stand that my ex lady just needed a little bit of your mentality she’s 36 with such immature mentality it killed our relationship. She broke up with me because she gave up easy it’s been a long road for me. If she were to come back she’s going to have to work on her self A lot. Thank you again master Lee.
Not walking away from 25 years without at least trying. It makes no sense why he left without any notice. I''m not giving up without a fight. Started NC after 2 weeks. It's been almost 3 mos.
I gave my all to my relationship i fought hard to try to understand why would he want to all the sudden sabotage what he had am not waiting on nobody i was in deep depression💔💔💔but now i realized that i dint loose him he lost me🌹💁 And now well i heard KARMA🖤 has been giving him a taste of his own medicine
Coach lee You should make a video on how others influences on them decreases your chances of them feeling consequences from leaving you
That would be good
Thank you Coach Lee, your videos keep me inspired, I would've broken NC ages ago if not for your vids but so far I'm 2 weeks in and feel 200x better than I did a week ago. Cheers from England man.
One of your best videos yet, Coach. Excellent. Thank you! I'm not sure you could possibly know how much you have helped people!
Coach Lee is absolutely the best coach. And there's really good coaches out there, mind you. Hopefully he'll come back to giving consultations.
You can’t just flick a switch when you fell in love with someone. It’s normal to want to try and get them back. It’s being human.
Linda, you are 100% correct. You cannot just flick a switch. Something had to cause such disdain.
I have a bad habit of trying to make unrequited love relationships work. And, I have a hard time giving up on unrequited love relationships when they unsurprisingly don't work out in my favor.
Daniel C love is worth fighting for, I know of someone who can help you get your ex back without stress he's real and genie
Daniel C kindly get in touch with him now here is his what's app number
+2348170991722.
Thank you Coach Lee. All these advices you are giving is very important & valuable.
Can you do more videos on trying to get your ex back when you dumped them. I have shown complete humility and admitted I was wrong and suffering from depression. We split just over 5 months ago, he got into a relationship 7 weeks later, I poured my heart out a month ago and he still cannot tell me how he feels. We were together for 7 years
It's been over two months since the breakup. She still doesn't want to see me. She told me she's been giving us both time to heal and that she's been working on herself. I feel she won't want to see me until she's completely over me, if she sees me at all. And this is counter-intuitive because if she's "over me" when I finally see her, everything will be for nothing. And I feel I can't trigger that spark without being in-person...
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And the more pure, truthful, strong your love is, the strong you are in fighting with yourself.
This video would literally pop up after I just saw my ex.
This was by far the best video of coach lee. It’s like a win win situation for the dumped. You wait for them to contact you. Either she comes back you or you have already moved on by then.
Either way, you, who have been dumped, feel cheated with a pathetic rebound, and hurt, you win either way.
You’re not losing anything in this life, my kings and queens, all you’re doing from now on is winning in life, getting stronger and pulling big life flexes that will DEFINITELY make your ex jealous 😉.
he’s not worth the fight. definitely didn’t think of fighting for us when he decided to cheat. MOVE on!
@Coach Lee: Would you consider doing a video on "Monkey Branching" vs "Rebound Relationship" and your take on how to approach them? Is it important to approach them differently mentally? i.e. If it's a Monkey Branch scenario, should one just move on? I don't currently see any videos in your library on this. Thanks.
I was wondering about the same thing
Thank you, Coach Lee, I really hope that you know just how many people you help with these videos.
I got 80% in your quiz and it's more than my 1st - 12th class result 😅😅😅
Well what happend? Update?
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"An ex is an ex for a reason." Dumbest statement I've ever heard.
Not necessarily.. some and I will say, some relationships are not worth giving another shot
TheCc064 it’s a blanket statement some are worth giving it another try some of them ended for a reason and they aren’t compatible
yeah its more complicated than that. It's kind of as dumb as "you'll meet someone when you stop looking". Just dumb feel good sentiments that have no bearing on the real world in a way. There's some truth to those statements, but they're oversimplifications
@@TheCc064 yeah, but I'm not taking about those relationships. I'm taking about all the people who use this statement w/e anyone brings up reconciling w/an ex. It's just a lazy statement, and I'm so tired of hearing it.
@@themadmattster9647 Exactly! ...waaaaayyy over simplified.
Thank you so much for this advices , i feel better and refreshing ur advices keeps me strong in NC rule, iam in the real fighting now with my self , we had something special and beautiful i dont want to move on still want her back always , always , Thank Coach Lee
Can you do a video about breaking up during quarantine/before quarantine started?
NICE VIDEO Coach..
I will fight for him. Im in radio silence for 1 month and 1 week. Its tough. I will change my cover photo and profile photo in fb. I hope we will reconcile. 🙏🤞
@Gustavo Gonzalez we are back in communicating. But the other women is a problem.
Thank you for everything coach, you are the best , I'm always looking forward watching your video especially when there is new one , thanks :D
Good stuff here once again coach. The impact of limerence is awesome. You need to write a book ! Real talk !
Day 42 NC... I feel like giving up. I feel like having this hope is just going to hurt me in the long run. If he loved me like he said he did, he would have contacted me by now 😓
Maya love is sweet when you're with the right person and the right person loves you, I want to direct you to someone who can help you get back your ex back without stress he's real and genie.....
Maya kindly text him now on WhatsAp
+2348170991722.....
that's true if what you had was real he would contact you...maybe he will....who knows keep moving on and let time reveal the truth
Same exactly… she said she loved me, and I said it too
When they disappear and ghost you, they destroy the secure foundation of the relationship. You can't have a SECURE relationship, family unit, etc. With someone who doesn't want to communicate. How do you take someone back putting you thru extra bs? PHUCK them, move on, and free yourself!
Hi Coach Lee, Can you do a video about how to get around your fiance's parents blocking our chance of getting back together? My ex has been brain washed by his family to breakup. 2.5 months of ghosting already :(
Yes! Going through the same thing. His family has played a huge role in him leaving and ghosting men
Are you guys together now ?
I broke up with my girlfriend of 4 months recently. I really loved her and she told me that she really loved me too. We were both unknowingly hurting each other until it was too much. She eventually decided to break it off telling me how she truly felt and that she needed time to find herself and heal. It seemed like we ended on a neutral note. I was so shocked and speechless that I didn't even get a chance to tell her how I truly felt. Ironically we both felt the same things. Not worth it to the other person, sad, lonely, and lost. I truly do want to get back with her and talk things more thoroughly but that won't come to fruition. It has been about 3 weeks now. It is really tempting to break the no contact rule but I know that it will only make things worse if I try to get in contact to say something as simple as "hi". I am going to keep on no contact and see what it develops into. Honestly if we don't get back together it isn't the end of the world. I'm not going to lie that I wont be sad if she does move on. I will be, but that just means that I have to move one too. I truly wish her the best and want her to be happy.
Thank you for this. I miss her and your words give me strength.
My partner left me 4 months ago whilst I was pregnant, I showed alot of emotion and anger at the time, I went chasing for closure and answers on and off for about 6 weeks before I went into strategic contact... I only spoke when he reached out, it took a good 2 months of not contacting him before he decided he wanted to come back. I haven't fully agreed yet just sad I'm open to it but want to take things slow... I hope things work out this time but I have learnt a good lesson not to fight or chase in the future as it does nothing!
Just in time ! Im feeling so desperate and feeling weak been 28 days NC and no progress :( but he set the SINGLE status up on his public profile , the only way I can somehow take a peek
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I am in a somewhat unique situation. She broke up with me. I went NC. She contacted me on our anniversary and I ended up going up to see her and stayed 3 nights. We had a wonderful time with no fights and no heavy talk. As I was leaving I told her we should do that again sometime. I was keeping it light. She got it and smiled and said sure. We texted each other a couple of times the next day. The day after that I texted her and said we should do that again. She didn't answer back and we are entering week two now. There doesn't seem to be any reason for no contact other than I did text her last and never heard from her. All I know is that we are both very stubborn and prideful. But I have swallowed my pride so many times with her . I wish I knew what was going on in her mind.
Be like a star, flower ... Fantastic analogy ...
At this point I dont even think he will come back because I called him out on his lies 4 months after the breakup. I started NC immediately, day 4 now. Whatever it is, I will be strong.
I got 70.9% on the quiz. Honestly, I really want him back but I think working on myself so I can be a better me is more important. I love this man, but self love is going to benefit us or another man, if neccessary
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How do they experience the break up if theyre happy in a new relationship?
@coachlee please someone answer this question. If they are "Happy" in a new relationship even if it's rebound relationship, does that mean it was never a good relationship in the first place?? Meaning they'll never come back...
Exactly
Just came to save everyone time I did it all, move on even though you don't want to and better comes your way. Make sure you like Lee's video.
I trust you coach lee I will try my best. Thnx a lot u are the one who gives me hope.
Hey, how did it turn out?
@@skatonio divorced but find the truth😀
@@kimiyobu5435 lol 🤷🏻♂️
@@skatonio Yes but this is the best way. Don't stick to one person, live for youself. Then u will find better person just like me and you will take a look at past and say how stupid was I.
13:44 I think I am in this timeline... It's hard to know what to do... It had become long distance (the past 2 years or so..) but was quite a long relationship (nearly 9 years, a bit off and on... moreso on constantly- a couple small breaks from fights..) formally 'ended things' about a year ago, she and I were still in touch every few months just via text after breaking up due to the LDR more than less (neither person wanted to move where the other was..) ... but anytime I'd mention us seeing each other in either city (or meeting somewhere inbetween) she was never for it. This year neither person bothered to wish a Merry Xmas or HNY.. I didn't bother to reach out on her bday either shortly after because it feels like it's just run its course. Anyway- it sucks to just let it die. I'm tempted to reach out, but I think it had become "move here to be with me (away from my entire family in the western states...)" ..her mom's side of her fam lives in the same state as her.. or nothing. But- then when I was visiting her over there (eastern side of the US) she only seemed marginally interested in finding a place together. She'd offered me to live w her and her mom (whom she lives with over there...) but- I didn't want to do that.
-Anyways.... I'm kind of just thinking two things, if she doesn't care for it anymore then why should I? And also just as far as no contact leaving her alone and leaving it a book facedown, unless she gets ahold of me. She would get ahold of me every few months to 'check in' or ask me how things were, but then anytime in the convo if I mentioned meeting up she wasn't for it. She had asked if 'can we ever be friends?' shortly after the initial breakup, to which I basically declined and said I'd rather not as I'm not interested in that.
I wish the Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind technology were real I'd fry this shit out so fast! lol... Anyways sorry for rambling if anyone took the time to read it or has any insight toward this situation (Coach Lee or otherwise) thanks people and do your thing!
Hi Coach Lee, I am 36 and she is 30. We had a 3 months relationship which was full of joy and sometimes sadness as she was sick and i had to send her to clinic or hospital. All in all, i took great care of her and tried my best to make her happy. But i am needy kind of guy which got worse after she left the country and was far from me. I was needy several times, texting and questioning her. She told me about 5 times that she will be back and tells me to relax. But i was just bothered by her coldness and continued to write many text a day to get her attention and at the same time still questioning her and doubting her. So end up she says she don't want relationship anymore and then block me because i said think about the good times we had and the diamond ring and gifts i bought for her. She said its disgusting i talk about the gifts as i am a man. After blocking me, i got work up and messaged her from another phone, saying some very crude words about her and thanking her for leaving me as i don't want a women with 2 children ( she has twins). But i quickly regret what i said and followed up with numerous apologies everyday for 5 days to explain that i was angry and did not mean what i say. Each and every attempt was blocked or met with a reply that says 'I don't want to hear anything about you! Don't write me again". My last message to her was that i will message her again at Mar 15 to see how she feels. I say i will give her the time to cool down and i will take these 2 weeks to be better mentally and physically. My question is how do you think she will react when i message her on Mar 15. Supposedly she is coming back end of Mar. But she said after what i said to her, she never want to see me again.
Brilliant Sir, I'm going to follow your advice, thank you 😍🙏👏
Corey Wayne+Coach Lee+Develop Attraction+Dating Advice+Enterprenuer in car+33secrets=the best combination ever! Watch them guys and you will not be screwed up. No wussy stuff. Thanks to them I dumped my gf as she had no f...en respect whatsoever.
Now she is bombing me with calls and messages I miss I apologise I am not stable... makes me vomit.
As Corey says and I love it: the strongest negotiation position is being able to walk away and MEAN IT!
Good luck my friends. This stuff IS working.
impac01 Corey Wayne is God Sent..
Coach Lee, does the Emergency Breakup Kit allow us to schedule a coaching call with you? I would explain my situation, but it would college-essay long, lol
Hey, don't buy his kit, I did. It's just like another 6 videos that say basically the same as his youtube videos. 50$ don't seem much, but it's still way too much for it
Hey, Coach Lee! Great videos as always. I really enjoy them. Heres a scenario you may not have considered. You have an ex you broke up with about a year ago because things got heated. But you had a real great connection and chemistry. She called incessantly, text etc, emailed but you needed time to clear your head and ignored all her efforts. Then as the dumper, you finally reach out to her( a year later). She takes your call, you apologize, but she tells you she's back with her abusive ex and is pregnant, asks why you couldn't have reached out sooner and is really upset and says she has to try and make it work with him now that she's pregnant even though you know how much she feels for you because she said so. What to do in that situation? I mean obviously go no contact , but should I not expect anything at all with this type of revelation? I mean this scenario is a bit of a game changer, no? She already called me a month ago crying saying this guy wants nothing to do with her and the baby because he knows how she feels about me(she told me) and when I followed up with her in an email she said she would reach out to me when she chooses. Confusing....I know. She said she was so confused at that moment. So, P.S. I assume she worked it out and went back with him because she went radio silent and I haven't called or text her either in over a month. Figured just let it be...?
thetemple, I would let her go. She chose to be with someone else, so let her have him. Is it worth all the pain and suffering? Move on, take time for yourself, and concentrate on YOU..⚘️ONE final word, YOU ENDED IT, and she most likely lost attraction.
@@jannlewandowski5540 👍🏻 ok...thank you.
I've been doing no contact w/my ex for 3 weeks while living together with our son. We were a couple for 12 years. I normally stay in the kitchen while she's in the living room if I'm home. Other than that, I'm normally out with friends or I take my son out. Lately, she has been asking questions around the house; it seems like she has been making efforts to get a response from me. She'll walk by and ask if I'd like a cupcake etc. I always respectfully answer her questions with a short reply, and I keep my distance.
About fifteen minutes ago she asked if I'm still going to move out (as we discussed weeks ago). I told her that I am still waiting for a response from the complex. Then she said, 'I was just wondering.' I then made a quick comment like 'It could take longer but we'll see.' Then she said 'Because it's been weird with you still here.'
Would really appreciate some input - do you all think that she said that to get a rise from me, or maybe this was a test? I kept my cool and was pleasant. Hope I responded correctly?
BTW I'm about to buy the emergency breakup kit. Hope my situation applies. Love all your videos Lee!
Dean F love is sweet when you're with the right person, life is too short to be sad I want to direct you to someone who can help you get back your ex back
Dean F kindly get in touch with him now on his what's app number
+234 817 099 1722
Dear Dean I pray you left her bc she sounds cold…
I'm facing serious odds against and should probably give up. She's over 40 now and her attitude is flippant, dismissive. We are long distance, never had sex. She was my high school narc ex who broke my heart. Let's just leave it at that. Sometimes love ain't enough.
Definietly move on, if breakup is irrelevant it means they had another option and were waiting for u to give them reason to blame you for everything and leave
My ex Robert loved to blame,accused and assumed stuff on me a lot. I even noticed Narcissist traits in him. I had to breakup the relationship and I also had to end the Friends With Benefits situation with him. He was causing me stress.
Thats always the case if a married man leaves they are usually cheating
Coach lee please make a video on a cheating partner and how they probley had someone right before the breakup
You just uploaded this video, thank goodness because I need one of these rignt now.
Will they still feel that fear of loss that you explain even if they are dating a rebound? Or will that delay when they start to be curious about you and the fear that they've lost you
Watch this video all the way through: m.th-cam.com/video/pgFdnWWlJQA/w-d-xo.html
Lex F kindly get in touch with him now on his what's app number
Lex F love is sweet when you're with the right person, life is too short to be sad I want to direct you to someone who can help you get back your ex back
My relationship was long distance, and things ended over the phone. I haven’t had contact since the break up and I sent flowers today to let her know that I want to talk in person when ever she’s ready, and to take all the time she needs. I wanted to put myself out there to let her know I wasn’t happy how things ended to let her know that I haven’t forgotten about us. Because the way things ended was very confusing to me, I honestly don’t want to talk about it, but from this day forward I’m doing no contact until she’s ready and I want to work on myself and push to become a better person inside and out wish me luck.
Lmk how it goes for you I too was long distance but am currently close enough to see her more in person and started my journey yesterday
Pedro - long distance is always a poison.