What Makes An Ex Change Their Mind About Me and the Relationship?
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 14 ต.ค. 2024
- This is what makes an ex change their mind and want to get back together again. Most people don't understand this concept and struggle to get their ex back or to determine if a reunion is likely. Coach Lee explains what can cause an ex to change their mind and heart so that they want to rekindle the relationship with you. Get more information on Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit at myexbackcoach.c...
SUCCESS STORY HERE!! My girlfriend and I got back together after 7 months. I started watching Coach Lee's videos a week later. I followed his advice, and worked with Coach Rex on his staff. I did not beg or chase. I gave her the breakup. She would reach out every month or so. I never ignored her, nor was I cold. But I made sure to never be the one whom initiated contact. She even got into a rebound. I did not show her that this affected me. I kept working on me. She left the rebound, and came back to me. I have been really slow to take her back. She's going to have to earn my trust again. I've also gotten used to being alone during our separation. Listen to coach lee. His program works
This ^ my ex was ringing the door after christmas
She was piped by another man and then came back to you, don’t know how you can do it but I would never do that
Well done!
Happy you put a success story for the men!
@@RealCoachLee couldn't not have done it without you and coach Rex. Thank you
If they come back, they saw your value. If they don't, they never did. Win/Win either way!
This is one of the best concepts out there, and people are wrong saying "Never look back, only forward". If there was love, and they come back, of course you have to see why they did, but it's not automatically because the couldn't find any better. It could be that they truly saw your value and that they miss you❤
Day 400 of NC as of today. I begged and pleaded and cried on the phone to her. Looking back I cannot believe i was that weak and pathetic. She probly isn’t comming back but i’m no longer in pain. Saving money, working out and talking to other women. Stay strong👍🏼
You’re not pathetic. You were in pain, like a wounded animal, helpless, hopeless, be gentle with yourself!
@@johndemario8173 For sure. When I was going through the initial stages I downloaded an app to keep tract of the amount of days no contact i havent checked in awhile and saw 397 days 😂. That’s how I know its the 400th day. Def wasnt keeping track myself. Life goes on! Breakups happen. It’s made me a stronger person.
Dont expect to her come back as well buddy. you move on and that is best for you.
@One With Nature After being in a relationship you notice you lose all your game lmao. Coach Lee should come out with a video on how to improve your game after being in a relationship for awhile. Mix it up a bit.
@@syedadnan5861 Ive accepted a long time ago that I will never hear from her again.
We are back together after 7 months apart!!! But only because I left him alone, worked really hard on myself, changed my mindset, and learned to accept and love myself, when I was ready, I sent a genuine heartfelt letter and to my surprise I got a response, we met up, talked and we both felt like we were home, it's only been 2 weeks but it's so much more loving and peaceful! Thank you, coach lee 🙏
That's great! So happy for you!
Did he date others/sleep with others during this time? How did you shake that off?
No more begging and pleading with them to prioritize me
Congratulations! I'm excited for you!
after how long did you send him a letter? did you see him ever in between the breakup and you sending him the letter? i saw your comments on some other coach lee videos where you said you were 99.9% sure he wasnt coming back, guess it turned out good for you haha congratulations
No contact is so hard when your mind pictures them moving on with another person.
True
Can’t express the pain 😢
@abhi5 been a year now. I'm still healing.
@@droflivelife how long were you two together?
@isimpforsugawarakoushi1479 that was 6 months into it, that was a year ago. I lasted two weeks no contact and then I reached out and friendzoned her. We got got back together a couple of moths later. I do recommend this. We were amazing for another 6 months. Unfortunately her avoidant relationship style meant it was never going to last. It's been 8 months now and I'm still healing.
In no contact for year and 10 months, I never heard from him again. But no contact still worked. I have new life now with someone new. So, dont give up on no contact never!
@Alex bohohoooooo, poor guys. The question is why do they dump their girlfriends so often then?! Because they get quite arrogant if you are too nice and trying to hold the relationship together. As soon as they think they found greener pastures they are gone.
@@TinfoilHatGirlkeep feeling bad for yourself
I watched your videos during my break up in 2020 and I always meant to come back and tell you how we are back together , better than we’ve been . It was a long journey , you & some other TH-cam videos were a great guide & comfort in those heartbroken days. Thank you
That's encouraging to hear! How long were you in NC?
Tbh I messed up a few times my depression would make me break but the longest time which was the final time was 8 months. And I know that sounds long and no one wants to hear that when we are going thru this that it can be so long. But you have to stand strong and know your worth, be realistic with yourself if they don’t come back life will continue to move on. It gave me and HIM time to reflect on a lot of stuff and experience that “the grass isn’t greener” effect for him.
-oh and another thing that I always wondered while in NC and he has addressed in his videos (is he thinking about me? Does he miss me?” When we got back together he confirmed all that and so did his family members. (Plus I turned off my social media one so he wouldn’t have a clue what was going on with me & I wouldn’t snoop on his page hurting my own feelings and two so I would keep posting sad break up stuff) I think when they are dumper, it’s their pride that keeps them away too. Feeling regretful. (I think coach talked about this in a video too actually)
I prayed a lot too but about healing our individual issues that didn’t make the relationship work on both ends. Like patience, communication skills and insecurity. But your life has a plan whether they come back or not remember that, it just hurts a lot for awhile 😅 Okay explanation rant over lol
@@Thessaloniaworsley Thank you for posting this story. Wow. Well done.
Your comment gives me hope!
Coach Lee provides superb advice. I followed his videos to the letter. Remained calm, remained the bigger person, and worked on myself... My wife reached out, and admitted she messed up... 2 years later, we are happy as ever, and trying for a kid! I cannot stress enough how good Lee's advice is..
Chris, would you please email myexbackcoach@gmail.com with your story? We will protect your identity but your story can encourage people.
Were you separated for 2 years?
Coach Lee is an angel! My boyfriend and I broke up back in May 2020 and we ended up getting back together around the fall of that year. I still come on here and watch Coach Lee for the confidence and how important no contact is---I watch him now to help deal with staying in no contact with toxic family members. Anyways back to my boyfriend and I, it took time, even when we got back together, but our relationship is healthier and more loving than ever! Our love has been going strong since 💪
I wish everyone a success story. As for no contact, I did it and it helped me not only get him back but raised my confidence. Please stay strong and trust the process. I promise you all can do it!!! You are strong enough to do no contact!! Listen to Coach Lee 🩷
Ashlie, I'm so happy for you! Would you please email my assistant Amber with your story? We won't use your name or image, but your story could encourage others. Amber's email is myexbackcoach@gmail.com and I would appreciate it! Glad for you!
@@RealCoachLee Yes! Of course!
@@RealCoachLee Just sent in my story!
How long were you two together when breaking up. And how long were you in no contact? How old are you guys?
Thx.
My humble advise to everyone here:
I know it's hurting you on New Year's to not reach out and contact an ex.
However attraction only grows when you match you're ex's distance. If he/she wants space.give them space.
If they draw closer and send a text..match it back, but only at that same pace.
Let them come to you, as if they really want to start over, they will eventually reach out.
(Btw: I'm going through it myself, but I don't want to push her quicker then she may need. And I'm not needy anymore and I just go with the flow now. And I say that after last New Year's we had an electric time together on both days. Good luck 👍)
This is my current situation. Our connection was instant and we clicked so well. It’s been 3 months of being together and she’s telling me we’re moving too fast and she needs time to think about things. I got caught off guard, I don’t know what to do. I want to give her space. I know I should, but man my heart hurts. My friends keep telling me to give her time and space and just reply to her with the same energy level. But I feel like I should go full no contact… god I’m a mess.
@@defyphysiics2274 check some more videos of coach lee, it can help a lot. For the meantime be strong, pray and put yourself in some people around you (ex: family and friends). I hope it can help this ♥️
She broke up with me on new year's 🙃
I really liked the opening to this one. That your ex has to change for you to get back together with them. I’ve had a counselor for the past year who has also helped me through the process of this break, and what she helped me see is that it’s not wrong for me to have felt anything that I did after what happened, but more importantly that I didn’t owe my ex anything. So often when someone is broken up with they analyze themselves to see what they had done wrong and where they need change. Too little attention is ever drawn to the dumper. Reminder for everyone: you are NOT obligated to fix what they broke. just because you may have made some mistakes doesn’t mean they had no choice but to break up with you. And just because they did the breaking doesn’t mean they were automatically right to do so.
So right
Excellent point and great advice! 👍
Well said
Agreed. Their choice to not stay and try to fix things.
You have to accept they may never be a part of your life again, that in itself will likely attract them back in.
When you are OK to walk away forever, you now have the power.
I can't believe I actually spent money and bought your breakup kit. I never thought I would do such a thing, as I am usually an "oh well, moving on" type of gal. But this one hurts. I have had your kit now for 48 hours, and I have listened to it three times. It's like therapy. It has really helped me to just take a moment and breathe. The tears are drying up a bit. Thank you for your videos and wisdom.
Warmly,
A Hurting Heart
I'm honored Jessica. Stay strong.
Jessica, the Kit is excellent! Good luck to you..❤
@@RealCoachLeecan u get ur ex back if they were breaking up with you and initiating no contact?
Update??
I don't need my ex back anymore i watch your videos Just to feel relaxed 🤗
even though were back with my ex and we have a better relationship now and were planning to get married. I am just here to watch and support Coach Lee.
Pat, CONGRATULATIONS AND GOOD LUCK!! ❤️💙
I’m back together with my partner of 8 years after 3 months apart and we’ve been stronger than ever. Thank you for your words. Your videos were the only thing calming me down during my break up. All while, I was beginning to regain confidence in myself as an individual again. Thank you for all that you do.
Hi Coach Lee, I ask you with all my heart, please reply to this short message. It would mean the world to me.
Does this apply to a case where I was the one to break up? She lost feelings and asked for space, and I said the fair thing to do would be to break up.
@@AustinFranklin-iq8tn What I remember - yes, this apply to a case when you broke up because other person lost feelings or was giving a crumps. You are going in no contact - and she should be the one who reach out to you.
@@bird7464 Thanks for replying. She actually reached out a few times. But now hasn't reached out again.
@@AustinFranklin-iq8tn in my opinion it does apply, the whole exercise it to give space and let people feel the emptiness. It’s hard to remember but the other person is 100000% thinking of you. Even if your mind tells you they aren’t. And if they really aren’t then you don’t want that person in your life anyway! You deserve better.
@@user-rn6iz8nj2f Did you let your ex know not to contact you for a while or did you just disappear? Cos I told my ex we shouldn’t talk for a while and removed her from social media because I didn’t want to see her reply to my stories or her rebound.
I'm looking forward to having this video live for you guys and girls!
I’ve done these approaches, but my husband still divorced me this month. He’s still in the affair with our neighbor that broke our marriage up. Do you recommend these things even after divorce?
@@emaema670 Ouch. I can't imagine what you're going though 😕 I just wanted to wish you the best & I hope things get better for you VERY soon. Stay strong & keep the faith. You'll be ok. Maybe not tomorrow or next week, but it WILL get better. I promise. Take good care of yourself 🤗🥰🧡
So…. He came back. 1.5 years later. I watched pretty much every single coach Lee video and they were so helpful. I was destroyed when my ex broke up with me. I’m living the best life I could without him. But now I’m still unsure!
I don’t know what to do really. I will always love him and we can live a great life together, I do want him back but I’m actually now worried, now it’s a possibility, that he will do it again. Let’s see how it goes. He has to work for me now! I’m the prize and he has to win me.
Keep strong everyone, if the love was strong enough on both sides they will come back. I love you all and I have you back 😘 remember you are the prize, work on yourself and they will chase you
evadex9161. I have a great idea for you
know it's really difficult and I've certainly been there. I don't know if you are aware, but Coach Lee has a live workshop called "Relationship Reignite." It's an incredible learning experience that I just can't say enough about. It focuses on saving a relationship from a breakup/separation and then keeping it after. It includes a coaching call each month for 6 months. You can talk to Coach Lee's team about it. I think the person for this is named Johnny and you can make an appointment with him to talk about it at myexbackcoach.com/relationship-reignite. I think you'll agree that it's an incredibly eye-opening and immensely helpful experience for you.
Thanks Coach Lee for all your help. I listened and eventually moved on after 8 months. Reshaped myself and I’m better off. I stayed away and moved on much faster than I thought I would. Take care.
So did I. It was rough in the beginning, but I am better off too.
Listening to these videos make me feel better… I use it as a therapy for myself when I’m having a hard time holding it together…thank you!!! I wish everyone luck!!!
As we approach the New Year, I just wanted to thank you, Coach Lee, for these videos. I started really internalizing your words at the ~40 day mark of my recent breakup, a man who I was with for ten months with the hopes of growing slowly together - the first man I ever truly loved and left me to pick up the pieces of his pain. Regardless of how you feel for your ex, and if the breakup was good - how good of a person they were , etc.- they broke your trust, your heart, with (probably) no explanation of why. They hurt you and it is their job to find their way back to you, not yours. No contact is truly the only way. So all you can do is hope and pray that journey leads to you or to someone else who they hopefully don’t hurt as they hurt you. It’s not your job to fix what they broke. Let them lose you and as they do, become the person you were destined to be. Great regardless if they are in or out of the picture. Don’t let them go but also prepare for that possibility all the same. I pray that everyone’s heartbreak is eased this New Year and thank you, Coach Lee, for this content. If anyone needs anything, please let me know.
🫶🏻you’re an Angel. It’s been 7 months for me now and I struggle every day thinking about her. I’ve changed so much in my life. I’ve lost 40lbs and I would say I feel like improved everything I am. She has a rebound bf right now I’m sure hoping I get my chance when that expires.
@@larrywinkleman8526 Thank you for the light of this comment Larry, today is a tough day. Keep focusing on you, chief, that’s all you can do.
”That you have the ability, the inner strength, the quality of life to stay away from them”… Particularly the sentence “that you have the quality of life “… During the breakup, especially in the beginning, one thing that got effected was my ability to see my own quality. Instead, I defined myself through his eyes, his decision and what felt like being doomed and through the pain of the breakup to such depth that it brought down my self esteem and quality of life. For each day I practice the no contact (not for the purpose of having him back) to get back to my own life, I realize how far away I have been from my own values. Everything has been like a roller coaster when I have constantly been trying to make sense of the breakup and trying to gain back some self worth and quality for myself has been so far fetched. It is now I reflect and realize how much of myself I was about to lose.
Yes!
Absolutely 💯
I feel you dear
Coach Lee, the NC rule worked! My ex was really cold and cruel to me at the end of our breakup. When he finally said “we’re done”, I simply said “okay” and turned my back. Went NC and radio silenced for 14 days until he finally reached out with completely different attitude and asked if I could give him another chance. I took your advice to tell him to take it slow. We’re having dinner tomorrow!! Thank you so much! We have broken up before and the NC rule also worked last time as well (he only last 2 days back then), this time, the breakup was terrible so I thought we had no chance but wow NC really brought him closer to me and he admitted to going through all the stages this whole time!! Thanks Coach!
I don't expect to win her back after doing all the wrong things post break up...but watching these videos gives me hope. Thanks, Coach!
I'm glad I listened to Lee's advice and did no contact. It took about a month and a half, but I don't want my ex back now whatsoever.
Well friends, it finally happened. She reached out. After almost 6 months. It was a weird breakup. I was actually the one who said I would back up and leave her be. But only after over 6 months of being pushed away. There were a couple texts very early on from her and then silence. It was very difficult to remain silent through her birthday and the holidays. But I did not give in. And honestly, after not hearing from her through the holidays, I was even more convinced that I would never hear from her ever again. And then last night, out of thin air, I heard that all too familiar text tone. Listen friends, heed Coach Lee. For your sake, not the sake of whatever relationship brought you to him. I know that may be hard to digest but do it anyway. Stay the course!
What did they send in the text?
Thank you so much Coach Lee, you are a beacon of depth and clarity - not all coaches offer this. I hope you might be able to make a video about how to handle the renewed contact phase with an ex, in many ways it feels far trickier than no contact (as hard as that can be)!
How long did it take to renew?
Coach, I just wanted to say thank you. Your time, effort, experience and the manner in which you deliver the wisdom and insights you’ve acquired is so very much appreciated. You are imo head and shoulders above other commentators on this subject that I have seen. Very grounded, very real, not into promoting false hope, basically just everything. Thank you, very much! Please provide a link so that I can send you a tip. I want to contribute to your continued efforts and tangibly say thank you.
To those of you visiting Coach for the first time, watch and listen to his videos. As often as you need. It will help soothe your broken heart and mind and give you strength. Please do as he says. Stay the course. All will be well.
Followed your advice and after 14days I received contact. We’re now back together.
Thank you, your calm and logical advice helped me through a very emotional period.
No contact works!
Megan, if you would, please email your story to myexbackcoach@gmail.com. We would never use your name but would love to tell your story to encourage others.
How did you initiate no contact? Did you just leave them in read? Cause I told him I don’t want to leave on bad terms and May god bless him.. and last thing he said was “I love you and care for you so much” I just loved the message.. but I know he will text me later or tomorrow saying something so small..
@@Lalyslyfestyle Something similar, liked their last message but didn’t reach out at all following.
I want to say Coach Lee thank you!
I watch and am practicing this how ever my ex has lost me.
Its been I think three years since the break up. Realized I have someone right I front of me thats caring and loving
Keep up the good work!
I actually made the mistake of reaching out to my ex over new years, just to briefly wish them a happy new year. They responded with a long message, telling me, that they were glad I was reaching out, how they had done a lot of thinking, how thankful they were and never told me often enough, that they were in a bad spot emotionally during the time we met and how I "caught" them during that difficult time and how they hoped I was doing well. I was just thinking "Yeah, you already thanked me by throwing me away like a used toy". I simply told them, "Thanks, I am better than ever" and "I have some more of your stuff, I will be mailing that to you if it's okay." I feel like, I might have been too cold, but their message made me angry. Like they used me and then threw me away and now they feel all good about themselves. They shouldn't be thanking me, they should apologize for hurting me. At least that's what I feel like.
Wow
Whats the situation now? Sorry you experienced this
Well. I get your anger. I also think that you probably are a good listener and bring a lot of value to any relationship. She sounds a little clueless. And I think she got the message that you don't want her.
After 2 years watching your videos I can finally say I don’t want my ex back , thank god. I no contacted for 30days , 60days, 90days, 6months, 12months, a year and a half , 2 years, for a long while I thought the pain was never going to end , she did try to make contact on a few occasions but I stuck to my guns and I wish her well.
No contact works.
I created space and I eventually realised that she was only making contact to make herself feel better (ie she was testing to see if I was still available as a backup)
Going on to 5 months in NC thanks to Coach Lee. This channel has prevented me from crawling back to an immature guy who took me for granted. I hope he is remorseful by now; I’d sure welcome an apology for closure. Happy New Year indeed!
I feel it's not worth another chance yet I eagerly wait for Coach Lee's new videos.. listening to his words make me feel good and keeps my anxiety in check. Thankfully I had followed his advice and stayed in No Contact from the very next day that I went through the break up in March.
Thank you Coach Lee for making these videos. They have helped me immensely. It’s been about a month of no contact on my end, hoping she comes to her senses soon. Fingers crossed 😅
I have been watching your videos religiously for the past week. My husband and I have been off and on, back and forth for the past 6 months. Now we live hundreds of miles apart. We both love each other so much. There has been a lot of hurt but I am confident we can still come back from this and grow old together. I refuse to give up hope. He’s the only one for me. I’m praying that by going no contact, and “giving him the breakup” he will realize how much I mean to him and that he doesn’t want to lose me forever.
Nicole, I highly suggest you book a session with my staff coach, Coach Ken, at myexbackcoach.com/coach-ken
any update?
My ex is in a rebound and for new years I saw he was online on discord, asked he why he isn't celebrating with the rest in the discord server (they were originally his friends), encouraging him to celebrate with them, and then wished him a happy new year and hope it's a good one. He didn't reply to any of my messages, but that was fine by me as I wasn't expecting anything back. I know Lee tells us to keep our distance and not congratulate them etc, but I just felt like it was right to wish him a happy new years. Apparently this made his new girlfriend super jealous and they had a fight about it. Today he even invited his other friends to join when they go to the big city in two weeks, something he NEVER did when we did stuff together, as he always wanted it to be just the two of us. I feel like that relationship is finally falling apart, and it feels amazing. Not because I want him or the relationship anything bad(ok kinda do, but you know the feeling), but because it makes it clear to me how much I've grown and how far I've come these past 3.5 months.
I still want him, but I'm at that point where I would be totally fine without him too. I feel so much better and more confident in myself, and if he now comes crawling back I will be in control and demand to be treated right. If he can't do that, I will leave and never look back.
Thank you Lee for helping me get to where I am today!
Happy New Year, Coach Lee! 🎉Thank you for all your generosity in sharing your knowledge with us! Your Kit helped a lot, and your videos were key in keeping me focused and redirecting my energy towards myself. Despite him coming back and wanting to renew our connection, I just realised I do not want it anymore. You warned that it can happen, and it it happened in my case. It is funny how everything you said it would happen, it happened, even if it took a bit more time... I trusted the process and I do not regret doing so. In fact, I gained more than I hoped for. I learnt a lot about myself in the process and how to navigate other relationshops as well, so, in a way, it felt like free therapy and guidance. Forever grateful! ❤
One of my personal favs so far! Starts strong and maintains impactful insights throughout
I played your videos/break up kit over and over when my special person left me for somebody else over a year ago. My special person was in deep limerence with someone over a decade, had known the limerant object before ever meeting me. That person (limerant object) expressed a small desire for a relationship with my special person, and so I was dumped. But that fire was put out after my special person had a showdown and was disappointed in the response. So they came back to me. And our relationship has been getting better all the time. I have friends who don't allow their ex to feel the break-up. This I think made all the difference. My beloved gets very upset now thinking how they lost me.
Spaceship. Are you saying that your FRIENDS don't approve of you going back to your beloved?
If you are, you better think twice. If I read this wrong, I apologize, but the WAY YOU WROTE IT!!
Success story here…
She dumped me on August 6th, 2022. She even said there is nothing I will do or say that will make her to change her mind. I went NC for three months. Texted her in October to wish happy birthday but mentioned that she doesn’t have to reply if she doesn’t feel so. Surprisingly, she blew my phone with text call etc… Since then she had been the one initiating any conversation. She told me during Christmas 2022 that she is ready to be back. I followed coach Lee advices and it went well. We are definitely back together. No contact works guys
That's awesome. Did she have a rebound?
I seriously pray and hope this will help me because in my case, I know I messed up we both messed up, I begged, cried, called but he refused picking my calls. He told me it will never work out between the both of us, that I should move on, that I should give it time that I will heal from the hurt but he never coming back to me. It pain and I'm hurting but I have decided to let him go, it going to two Months now, no call from him nor text. I'm seriously trying to let go it's not easy but I have to so I can work on myself and move on. Thanks coach Lee
I have a success story except mine is that I never got back together with my ex of 11 years. In the past 6 months, I've learned that it wasnt me. It's not my loss and I'll never ever go crawling back to her. The time I've spent in no contact allowed me to really think about things. I had time to think about all the problems we had and we just were not compatible in any way. Total mismatch. She treated me poorly, gas lit me all the time, blamed me for things I didnt do, made me feel bad for being normal when she was the abnormal person. Anyways, my success is that I've become indifferent towards her. In the beginning I would have anything to get her back but now I dont want anything to do with her. The disrespect I put up with was unfair to me. Never again. The time apart made me realize shes a very toxic person with deep roots trauma and she lives off drama. I cant be apart of any more. Whether she stays single or dates, I feel sorry for who ever she ends up with because she'll make his life hell too or they'll be mutually miserable. Either way I dont care. I knew it was the right decision to put her in the past because I started feeling happy again, I'm content with life and people around noticed I looked and acted happier and was friendlier and more enjoyable than I've ever been. This tells me I was not in a good relationship. I'm taking time to be alone and enjoy the peace and quiet of solitude. I'll start entertaining new women when I feel I'm ready for a romantic companion again and this time I'll choose someone who compatible with me, someone who feels, thinks and acts like I do. I'll meet that person in due time. Until then I'm happy just being me. That's my success story.
Amazing!!!
another great and helpful vid for all of us going through a breakup and the no-contact period.
Thank you Coach Lee!
Finally did NC, which was hard to do, five months later, he texted out of the blue. No contact works!
Thank you Coach Lee for your words of encouragement, my ex came back after 8.5 years of no contact and left again,doing no contact period ! People have to grow up and learn , you cannot do the learning for them , you cannot quench someone’s else’s thirst
AM-gc1rk. Congrats to you. Here's something you will find interesting
I don't know if you are aware, but Coach Lee has a live workshop called "Relationship Reignite." It's an incredible learning experience that I just can't say enough about. It focuses on saving a relationship from a breakup/separation and then keeping it after. It includes a coaching call each month for 6 months. You can talk to Coach Lee's team about it. I think the person for this is named Johnny and you can make an appointment with him to talk about it at myexbackcoach.com/relationship-reignite. I think you'll agree that it's an incredibly eye-opening and immensely helpful experience for you.
Exactly Lol if we are here it’s because we want them back 😅. The problem it’s that when you think your own a person or have them save it’s when they go.
She can think that all she wants. New Years Eve day I said ITS OVER! Out with the old in with the new!!! She is Bi Polar/Narcissist. I blamed her actions, lack of actions, on the illness. Not holding her accountable for her actions.. NO MORE!!
She knew what she was doing! Yesterday I started doing things for ME!
She has a Green light & she can GO!
She just better not think about doing a U turn. That road is now CLOSED!
SHE LOST!
Hope her best wishes with her new supply!
I get more satisfaction ignoring my ex than ever get back with him , He is left knowing that I rejected him again and again again after he dumped me. Karma is a biatch 😉
If you don’t want him back, by all means. Not every relationship should be saved.
Hi Coach Lee
Can you make a video on how to handle anger being dumped?
Thank you.
Day 27 of NC after 3 months of begging and crying. She left me for a co-worker after having a 9 years of relationship with me. I have done every mistakes after the BU. at one point she did came back but told me that she could not say no to the other guy I got angry and fought with her. At last I lost all hope then I found Coach Lee I have watch almost every video and I wish I had found this channel right after my BU. I have hopes but I know she will not come back she is happy with the other guy and I think she will never get out of the relief stage because he is there with her all day long from gym to office. I am feeling a lot better in NC. I am starting to work on myself and doing what I love and learning new things. But the emptyness is there. anyway stay strong guys and wish me luck to get over it.
Such a strong message, as always❤
Any dumpers here, is this how you guys actually felt? If so, I will not spend an ounce of tears from this night forward on my heartbreak. It’s been a tough 3 months but I value my self respect way more
Can you maybe a some point address breadcrumb texting? I have the kit but it doesn’t really mention it there either. It feels like responding to a breadcrumb on social media.
Can you do a video on ... when the dumper dumps you for good reason. Needs were not being met. It took leaving to make the dumpee realize.
This is my exact situation as well and I'm hoping we get this video. It's killing me...
@@whereintheworldisnori in my case the dumper doesn't need to feel his consequence.... I did. I am in contact with my ex and on nice terms now. I hope you are too
@@tammylapenta621 not yet but I'm keeping hope alive. Best of luck to you
I don’t choose to live with a compulsive liar and betrayer in my life
Good for you! You deserve unconditional love and respect. 🧡
Thank you very much Coach Lee! I follow you from France (thank you TH-cam Translation 😊) 31 days of NC today for me 👌🏼💪🏼
You help people all over the world, thank you again for everything 😉
On est dans la même situation 😂😂
@@iiHorus hahaha j’adore! Bonne année à toi 🎊
@@cleopss merci à toi aussi! Ça va c’était pas trop dur hier ? 🥲😂
@@iiHorus hier non, aujourd’hui très. C’est de ma faute, j’avais l’espoir d’un msg de bonne année. J’espère que ça n’a pas été trop dur pour toi.
@@cleopss j’avais l’espoir aussi, j’ai failli craquer pour lui envoyer un message mais au final je m’étais dit que j’allais respecter son choix, ça faisait longtemps que vous étiez ensemble ??
Since the breakup about 5 months ago I've walked the line between guilt and being angry towards her. I'd rather have just 1 emotion rather than both of those.
You can hear in Coach Lee words and knowledge that he knows what he speaks. Believe in that be good to yourselves work on yourself . And stay in no contact! Until he or she contacts you.
Holly Iris Drucker. I recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit for you. It's excellent! It has strategies for every situation.
myexbackcoach.com/ebk
I'm on day 39 of NC after a week of figuring out my bf (ex) of a year ghosted me. I'll admit, I'm finally starting to feel really good about myself, I'm a gamer and been having fun and being incredibly flirty with my gaming friends (even the girls) and talking with someone more directly that's not in that crew, nothing serious as I'm not ready, but I'm at that point where if my ex did reach out then cool and if not then that's also cool. The heartbreak is coming to an end and I know my worth and trust the universe to bring only the best of things into my life.
Oh also, his bday was Dec 26th and I didn't reach out for Christmas or his bday - proud of myself!
Flirting with your Gaming friends!?...daaang, that's 304 behavior!
No wonder why he doesn't want to know about you.
@@JoshP86 what on earth is that supposed to mean? I was completely loyal to him while we were together, the hardcore flirting happened after the ghosting - but ok! thanks for being a jerk
I never thought I will watch coach Lee again. 😅 I did the no contact before and it worked! Now he broke up with me again. And I am doing NC again. If he come back, I may accept him again, but if not, I am ready to move forward. I love the guy but he has issues he need to fix. 😢
You never thought you would watch me again? Ouch.
@@RealCoachLee sorry, bad english. Lol. I always watch your videos.
Hey choach PLEASE HELP ME!! my ex broke up with me a view days ago but told me in tears „“please fight for me“ multiples times I am in NC since then but I am so confused and hurt please help me your Videos are the best and I trust you i just dont want to mess it up now!!
Update?
I can’t deal with bs pleasantries though! Like a merry xmas or stuff like that, means nothing to me. I rather just ignore him, not because I want to because I’m a polite person but I hate this back and forth. Oh well, we’ll see what happens. Thank you for your knowledge and kindness.
Yup. She sent me a "Merry Christmas' text. I didn't respond. Gonna have to try a bit harder than that for attention.
@@joncarbone she’s just testing the waters, don’t fall for it. In the name of politeness, I did it and realized later it was a mistake, or maybe helped me get a better idea of what was really going on. Anyway, hang in there!! 😃
@@theglowingbrownie5124 likewise! Thank you :)
You are the best coach. I tried to buy your emergency breakup kit from UK a couple times but was unable to, because its not recognising my phone number. Can you fix that please. Respect coach...I seen many coaches on TH-cam, but you make most sense to me, I can see your passion for what you do, and you tell the hard bits...like it is. Please fix that bug.
I could be wrong but in a video of yours you mentioned that you are a bit traditional with relationships, but I want to just say that I’ve been watching a lot of your stuff now and I just started a few days ago my NC and my ex who is a guy has been reaching out and I almost fell into the trap of not responding. We are both gamers and he texted me if I was online and I just said yes and he grouped up with me and a friend, I left the voice chat and all that and eventually he left. It was horribly painful and hard to even focus and it filled me with rage honestly. I’m just thankful I found your channel and honestly feel like I will get through this.
My ex left me in March of 20 21. I watched all the videos I could find of yours. It was the toughest thing I have ever done to not beg and plead her to come back to me. Before I ever knew you existed and just after my breakup I did ask her once if we could ever get back together and she said maybe when we're 80 years old. Then, soon after I begin watching your videos and decided to go no contact. It did not reap the outcome that I originally wanted, I wanted her back and the worst way and went to no contact to try to give her time and space to decide to come back but she never did. However, no contact gave me strength. Made me feel like the man in the situation. The no contact rule gave me power and control most of all over myself. Today, nearly two years later, I don't want her back. However, I have stayed in no contact ever since and if she ever does come back, I will do the same thing she did to me! I will take her back, get what I want, and break up with her! I know that this was not the reason why no contact was designed but, I literally and seriously don't want her anymore and feel like I am a better person than I would have been if I never watched your videos. No contact is truly the natural way things should be in a breakup. At least for a man. I am now single and enjoying my solitude. I don't even want to date anyone which is a result of some modern day dynamics that play into this situation. I'm 48 years old and don't care whether I have a girlfriend or not! I don't care if I am sexually active or not. I am seriously and truly enjoying this time all to myself with no one to answer to! It is glorious! She probably did me the best favor anyone ever did.
I so get it. I understand what you're saying and I felt that way too. It's revenge. But if you took her back to only do what she did to you, it only makes you look weak. Be proud that you moved on and in a stronger space emotionally.
If you seek revenge, that'd mean you're still affected by what she did and haven't totally healed. Give yourself the healing of forgiveness.
Good for you for keeping strong and finding comfort in solitude! My ex came back, and, just like you, I cannot rekindle or recreate our relationship because I am not that person anymore and I feel he hasn't done enough work on himself to allow us to start a new relationship... At first, I was excited he would call and say he missed me bla-bla-bla. But then, gradually, I realised I wasn't feeling comfortable. I did not even enjoy saying 'No' or rejecting his ideas of coming together. Should have been the moment I was waiting for. But, no, it kept me anxious and opening old wounds. The moment I realised that I needed to forgive myself and forgive him, too - I started becoming truly free. It took me a while, as we needed to go over what happened, our responsibilities and our faults in the relationship, etc - but, eventually, the feeling was persistent: that I personally could not resuscitate this 'dead body' - that was our connection. It is a sad thing, and if you really loved somebody, it can drag you down. I would have loved to have the heart and the inspiration to even try again, give it another chance - but I simply couldn't. And I started questioning myself as to why. I thought I was afraid of being hurt again, I questioned the loved I had for him, it was terrible .... Forgiveness is the only thing that helped me and that allowed me to move on and keep only the most beautiful memories and, of course, learn my lesson. Just like you, I believe he did me a great favour! *The moment we transform the pain into a lesson, we win. Revenge eventually backfires. It might give you a momentary satisfaction perhaps, but, in the end, it is just a waste of energy and a destructive path overall. I only want for him to be able to get over me (as he doesn't seem willing to do so) and find love again. Just like you, I have become way too comfortable in my solitude and I am not willing to change it for now. If I were you, I would use your newy found freedom and peace for creating things - rather than thinking about revenge! It is simply not worth it. Peace and light!❤
I have already mentioned my case. I know, I am one of thousands. And I am adding. She broke no contact on Christmas. I know what it means, not a thing at all. Though she is feeling bad. 4 days she did not write anything and then on the 29th of December she wrote again. It was about how good I am. Time after time she says something like that since. I don't consider it as a sign of reconnection. It is a sign of breadcrumbing and her bad inner state. Sometimes she records long audios, sometimes one short and than disappears for the work. She is using no contact, disntancing me. The thing is I start to feel different, I doubt if I need this. Dismissive, avoidant. She could have beaten people with dangerous things. Though she never attacked me, even though I am 5'3 and those were bigger men.
I don't know what to do next. Just here. I am just waiting for the military comission to say whether they take me to war or not as I have been recruited to fight for my country (Ukraine). Relationships bother me more and I understand it is a trauma.
She wrote to feel better, making me feel hope. I don't show any grief. Calm voice, polite manner. Sometimes funny, happy. She told she can't understand my state. It is good. The second time breakup feels worse that the first one. The first one was just from those 3 months relationships. I write it to calm down, as I feel bad inside.
For people, who want their exes back, I would say, 'Be brave! Live your lives without exes if it is possible! It will make you shine in their eyes!'
Thank you, Coach Lee! I am still in this process. I wish it were before the war to appoint a consult.
I cried and begged when my BF of 2.5 yrs said he wanted space. I finally stopped all contact and he started watching my fb stories. He never really used to watch them. Yesterday I texted him to tell him I was sorry about how I reacted when he said he wanted his space and I respect his wishes and hope you’re doing well. Can you tell me if that was a mistake? Now I’m thinking he might be thinking I’ll always be there and he won’t experience the loss! 😢🥺
No luck for me. Made all the mistakes up front after I was dumped by text. Went no contact, they rescheduled out to be friendly which caused a ton of confusion. I didn’t ignore them, just didn’t reach out. I bought the EBUK and followed it but Im dealing with a stubborn dismissive avoidant. I found someone new and do the best I can, tough days like today, I review a video or two. Made changes and have grown, but still have lingering anger about it all.
Coach Lee,
I’m currently in no contact going on week 3. I feel so much better since the breakup! His mom texted me to check on me and I didn’t respond back to her…I kinda feel bad, but don’t., he knows I’m about to get a new phone and I’ll have a new number so I guess that can be my excuse for not responding back to his mom. When I do get my phone should I give them my number or continue with no contact and have HIM question me about why I haven’t responded to his mom. When this happens it’ll only be via social media…I love him, but I love me too.
What doesn’t come out in the wash definitely comes out in the rinse!!! The cycle of no contact is a beautiful thing and it puts the mirror back in your face. I thank God for you Coach Lee and I sincerely pray for you always ❤
Can you do a video about breakup during long distance and reasons why it happens?
Hi coach! I'm wondering how long my NC really is so far- after an 8 year relationship, we broke up in the beginning of December and I left immediately (we were both very upset, crying etc, I think I felt too proud to stay any longer). Didn't really know about NC but just thought silence is the only right thing to do- I didn't know what to say anyway, I had always been a needy girlfriend (texting, kinda jealous of his time with friends etc. Nothing crazy though), and he did actually ask for some space as he wants to see a therapist to deal with some issues he has. We even said during the 'breakup chat' that we only have love for each other, and we weren't fighting. So I didn't speak to him at all for weeks, but I did message to wish him a merry Christmas- he replied in a friendly manner, and we exchanged a few jokey messages but it didn't go any further- and I didn't expect it to. Does that count as breaking NC? Looking back I wish I didn't do that, but glad I didn't act desperate or talk about the relationship in any way. Not sure if that reset my NC, if only I had seen your videos before that!
I would say your okay just reciprocate their energy. But don’t go out of your way to contact regularly
Hey coach, could you make a video on how to break no contact successfully? Pretty counter intuitive hence the name of your channel, but I feel that you’d bring value to the topic as no one has covered it!
Ultra, check out Coach Lee's Library. He has many videos including the one you're looking for. I can't think of the title off hand, but I guarantee you will find it.
If anybody sees this, I’m in need of some advice…
A week ago I got broken up with, I’ve stuck with NC firmly for now.
I’ve known this girl for years, she was dating my best friend and after some time passed after their falling out and him moving to another state, she reached out to me to go out for dinner and essentially a hookup, then, we started talking seriously. The first few months of our fresh relationship were beautiful, we felt like all we needed after what we’ve been through was eachother. She went through multiple “abusive” relationships so she speaks, which if this is really the truth coming from her I truly do sympathize, I’ve wanted nothing but the best for this girl since we first met when she was with my old friend. She told me about some of the things he did to her and sure enough I wasn’t his friend afterwards.
Point being. We dated for 4 months and after exchanging gifts for Christmas, the next day she seemed off so I asked what was wrong, she said the weather was upsetting her, and I obviously knew it was more, so later on she gave in, we went to my car and had a chat where she ended up breaking up w me saying she needs time to be alone, she specifically mentioned how she feels like she’s been hopping from relationship to relationship and never got the time to be single like o did for 4 years prior after getting out of a very long term relationship. Before I started seriously started talking to this girl I felt entirely numb, incapable of feeling love for someone, I tried with countless people yet no feelings showed themselves. Yet this one was different, we had actual chemistry and got along so well. There was no fight with the breakup and I agreed to give her space, because I really just want her to be happy no matter what happens with me. That’s how real my love is for her.
The breakup is strange to me because she still shares her location with me, yet no words from her. I’m wondering since our serious relationship was short lived in comparison to longer ones if I should reach out sooner so the chemistry doesn’t just die out. We were so happy together. I feel like we may have spent too much time together and I especially got too invested too fast and may have scared her into thinking I’m tying her down so to speak when really I just love spending time with her. I haven’t said anything besides merry Christmas the day after and she replied, yet I haven’t reached out because in my message I reassured her I’d be giving her the space she needs and if she needs to talk the door is always open.
I’d hate to see the most beautiful thing in my life fade away just because I’m ignorant in my decisions with my lack of experience with real feelings of love in so long. If anyone has some insight I’d really appreciate it. We’ve known eachother and talked frequently through the past couple years. I just miss her man, it’s hard not to reach out especially when she’s still sharing her location. I feel like I’m missing a sign. I miss her
For context, I’d say I can work on myself during no contact, but I’ve consistently been at the peak of my life while with her. Work is great, my fitness is at its peak, and I’ve been enjoying how I spend my free time with friends. When I’m free I work on their cars and my own with them, and my career is set and steady. Everything has been fulfilling and fun, only thing that changed is now I’m single. She saw me at my peak and even though I still have everything I love and appreciate in life, I’m still just missing my best friend that gave me fulfilling hugs kisses sympathy and compassion.
My ex broke up with me and said he “lost feelings and doesn’t know why”. then i found out he had another girl 2 weeks later, a rebound. I am the last thing on his mind anymore now after we were together for so long. He somehow just switched one day and completely ghosted me and seems to be fine not talking to me. He doesn’t even care that he hurt me like he did and is doing just fine without talking to me. Im feeling the breakup more than anything but he isn’t having to because he is in another relationship as a distraction. I don’t think he feels regret or guilty for it.
Only a Narcissist does that. They don't care. They'll move on like you never existed.
@@shawny979 he was such a sweet guy when we were together though and i could’ve never saw him doing what he did to me.
@@briray8449 Yes, the same thing happened to me. It's like the mask came off. Now I realize I just didn't know him like I thought. You're not alone.
@@shawny979 ABSOLUTELY!!
Hey Coach Lee, I'm sooo thankful I found your TH-cam channel. My ex broke up with me 4 days before Christmas & sent me back to the states. We moved to Bali together after dating for 2 months (ik crazy) then broke up after dating & living together for an additional 2 months in Bali.
I decided to block him on social media because I didn't want to see all the fun things he was doing in 100° weather while I'm currently freezing in my home town lol. Plus I tend to stalk & just don't have time to further torture myself. I begged for 2 days straight & on my last night there I didn't come home so he assumed I hooked up w/another guy, he then proceeded to tell me that it was my last test to see if I wanted him or the lifestyle & I failed. I think he just needed a ego booster bc after 2 days of begging, I got all dolled up & acted like I was content w/his decision & then didn't come home, so I think he was amazed I stopped begging. We kept in contact up until Xmas only bc my flights got cancelled & I needed help w/hotel rooms. I said my goodbyes on Xmas & he hit me up on the 27th asking about filing a claim w/my travel insurance so I could get reimbursed for the hotel fees. I answered only bc I could use the $$, but once I receive the hotel receipts I plan on starting NC. However, seeing another video of yours you say not to block them bc that's childish...does my reasoning make sense considering the unique situation? Plus I think it would look even more childish to block & unblock him so quickly?
Yes, it might look childish and unstable to unblock him so soon after you blocked him. So just leave it.
Ok thank you coach Lee! He reached out 5 days after NC, just casual conversation for now 1 or 2 texts a day the past 3 days....I honestly wish he would have took some more time, but he knows I'm pretty much starting my life over & maybe genuinely concerned, So I'll take it slow until I can gage his intentions!
Hey I’m currently 20 days into no contact and I feel normal/good. Better than when I was last single honestly at my best in life we are LDR and was together for 5 1/2 months. So far she’s just posted like songs showing she’s lonely bc she is by herself she’s got family also around her city but she lives by herself. She reposted a tiktok that was special about relationships and I feel she meant it towards me. I’m not reaching out anytime soon idk if I should around 2 months or not I hear it could be good or it could be bad
Boy did this one come at the right time. Question- when is it too early to get on things like Tinder? And if my ex is also on there and sees me, is that likely to help or make things worse in regards to where they are in the breakup?
Some go online dating the next day others a year later generally 3-6 months seems to be average
I went on like a day afterwards just to talk but I saw my ex on there too so really who cares 🤷
Coach Lee,
I’m still hanging in there. I understand there’s upsides and downsides to this however, It’s been sometime and I don’t think she’s ever coming back. Well that’s my update. Stay healthy and safe inside your body 😉🤙🏼
How long?
I didn’t beg or plead. I gave a little pushback, told her I loved her but respected her decision, and I explained that this means we won’t talk anymore. Did I ruin no contact for myself by saying this? I didn’t technically tell her I was doing no contact but I explained that this breakup means we won’t talk anymore and the relationship is over.
Huge Guy, not necessarily over at all. Take a break, go NC for a while. Give it TIME.. also, I recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit for you. It's excellent!
myexbackcoach.com/ebk
Hey coach lee. Can you do a video on “why your ex is mad at you during NC when she's the one who dumped you” that's my situation.
Algiers, there is a video in Coach Lee's Library about DUMPERS & DUMPEES. Check out the Library regarding being Dumped. He has a large Library. Also, I would recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit. It's terrific!
myexbackcoach.com/ebk
My ex of nine years left two years ago,a couple of months ago liked my stories and recently followed me then a couple days later unfollowed. I have not reached out, liked or followed. No direct contact on either side
Me and my ex split back 2 months ago I begged and did all the wrong things for about 2 weeks and it pushed her away. I finally went no contact about about 2 weeks later she reached out and said she wanted to work on it but was scared of being hurt again. I sat and talked with her we set boundaries and decided to work again. The first 2 weeks was insanely good better then we had been in a long time. Then the last week we have struggled she was having a hard time with trust and saying her heart wasn't in it anymore. She ended it again 2 days ago which threw me off because the night before we were very good everything seemed fine like maybe we were going somewhere. I'm pretty sure there is someone else potentially in the picture a grass is greener on the other side type thing. We have separated a few times before first time was for a month the second time was for about a day then this most recent time was a month, she seems very angry and emotional a lot of crying when we discuss this. And she says she doesnt care anymore and i broke her heart. Well I expressed my feelings to her how I'm serious about her and want to be with her then after that I went no contact. Do i still have a chance or will this be over for good?
Jathan Lake, this does not sound like a healthy relationship. Back & forth is a bit too much, especially for no obvious reason from what you're saying. Why don't you both go NC for a while then meet up and straighten this back & forth out...This is what I would do. Give yourself a chance to THINK and work on yourself. I wish you both well.❤️
Well Coach. My story is kinda difficult. This is our second breakup. 1st we got back together after 1.5 week wich is know now was wrong. Second time she dumped week before the holidays. She had allot of pressure at the moment cause of her study, mentally heavy work, and..2days before we were cuddling on her sofa watching a movie. She took my hand and hold it. The next day we called and she said : ok i love u! Kiss! See you tomorrow. And the day after she broke down and said she wanted to be alone and needed time and is under pressure. She cryed and i left. Havent seen her since.she wished me al goods and best of luck on new years eve with a kiss. Im in NC for 9 days now. But....she had an abortion in oktober she was pregnant of me and decided to remove it cause of al the pressure of work, study etc. It broke her and the she broke me by dumping me. I understand her pain and grieve but we could have worked it out together like partners do. I was so shocked. Im so full of questions and pain. I know she still loves me. She said that day that she is so sorry she had to put me through this again. Her mom and brother said she will realise and notice that im gone in time. But tbh...i dont think she is coming back because she dont want to hurt me anymore. We were together for 2.3 years.
Im doing better day by day. Thnx people! Be strong
Thanks a ton Coach Lee. You are the best and doing great for millions of people. I couldn't maintain no contact. It's 1 year now. Am I too late ? Could you please make a video on a girl with bpd borderline personality who is now with a new guy will no contact work on her now?
Couch Lee im taking your advise and doing the no contact ....i was left 3 months ago from a 8 year relationship and did not do no contact but about a week ago i was told by my ex that she has met someone else ....it hurts like hell but i just want to thank you for your advise as it may not get my ex back but helps one deal with the process thank you couch lee !
Matthew Johnson, I recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit. It's awesome!
myexbackcoach.com/ebk
my ex knows she wont loose me ever, and she is actually correct. no matter how long i stay in no contact, she knows i will never move on and i dont have the ability to be with someone else ever. period. so, even though i am in no contact, but honestly theres no incentive for her to worry about loosing me or anything. i am in no contact because i dont have any other choice. theres nothing else to do. So i guess i am waiting for ever. :(
sad to say, but its true.
we were in a relatiomship for 11 years and from that lived together for 4 years, and was supposed to get married this november,
Coach Lee's advice helps,
Thats the only thing that has given hope through these difficult times.
I have been the dumper recently. Guys/girls please listen to what coach Lee is saying. He knows what he is talking about. Feel free to ask me any questions. Im not a professional but i have experienced being the dumper. Best of luck everyone. All will be well.
I have a question since you were the dumper. My Ex dumped me, strung me along with Breadcrumbs, but decided to stick with the Rebound. What was up with that move? It was extremely hurtful and confusing.
@@shawny979 Hi, i’m sorry your ex dumped you. Its really sucks and hurts like hell. It sounds like they were keeping their options open incase the rebound didn’t work out. Never be a back up plan my friend. You are worth more than you realise. No contact is simply the best option. Work on yourself and if/when they do come back you will be totally over it.
What do I do if my ex was in love with me and I forced the breakup out of fear? She's been hot and cold, she just started initiating contact with me 9 days ago and I sent a series of text to check If she was OK which I think pushed her away again. This morning i sent a text apologizing for the break up.
@@invisiblesurge44 She is very hurt, and she needs time. Apologies take time also. You became frightened of love, and she's in pain. Give her TIME to heal. If your interest in her is platonic, stop contacting her bcse you're hurting her more. You cannot be just friends with an ex.
@@jannlewandowski5540 thanks
I know my relationship can work now. Ive done nothing but self reflect during this time apart and she doesmt see the changes ive made or doesmt care. Just like Coach lee says...when you have 2 people who can see someone has changed and wants to work things out then it can become an awesome relationship for the long haul. Unfortunately my ex wont give me the chance. She instead jumped to a rebound the same week with a 31 yr old loser who still lives with mommy and Daddy and has a crap job. While im over leveling up like a video game on every level, mind, body and spirit. Ive changed so much and yet she refuses to even notice. Its a shame too because im someone willing to work at this and right all my wrongs. And its sad i dont get a 2nd chacne.
He cheated while still going on with me 6years and he just threw it away just like that..and guess he is happy with his choice... Life goes on for me
Joyce, I was in a 5 year relationship with a toxic person. We were engaged to be married. I had no idea he never had any intentions of marrying me. He USED me, and I left him. I found out 2 weeks after we broke up, he rebounded and married her in 2 weeks. Sometimes it's a BLESSING that these guys are GONE ! You can do much better. Stay strong, and good luck to you...⚘️⚘️
Why go back with someone who dumps you like crap? If a person does not love you the first time, what makes you think they will love the second time?
You are saving , Coach Lee. Thank you so much
Hi coach Lee, would you be able to give some quick advice for me? I initiated no contact with my Ex 2 days ago. New Years Eve is soon to come, and I expect her to say "Happy New Years" because she did the same with Christmas. If she says "Happy New Years" and continues with some small talk mixed in, should I just say "Happy New Years" and leave it or, should I go with the small contact back?
Small talk back***
It’s been almost 6 mounths of NC for me. I guess it’s over but I feel stronger.
the same, I am 7 months in
@@DeadMysticx Stay 💪 Strong!
I took half day from work to watch this
Can you make more vids on how no contact works if you’ve REMOVED them of social media . Not Blocked.
coach lee, thanks for the amazing videos. does the amount of time we dated matter?
I was in a LDR for 3 years and I broke up with him due to a huge misunderstanding. We went into no contact and he reached out just before christmas asking if i was ok, wishing me merry christmas and telling me he was comingnout to my country to visit his parents. I reponded but he ignored me. He reached out on the 28th Dec saying hello and i responded, i was friendly. We chatted a bit on the 29th. Then yesterday he got cold. He sent me a lovely good morning msg which I responded to, then i reached out last night and I have been ignored. Do i leave it and wait for him to reach out again. Right now I feel so despondent
I've been watching your videos here and they've been helping me out with the pain. My bf wanted to break up with me but I didn't say yes to it but I told him I understood his reasons somehow and then he said the next few days after we spend the New Year together after he asked me for break up that "I think I just need a break" and I told him okay I'll give you that. We decided to spend the holiday together for closure but ended up not doing it coz of the intimacy we'd shown each other at that time he told me he tried to figure out if he can fix it and work on it but he's still confused if wants to continue or not even tho he still loves me. It's been 4 days now of no contact after he asked me for a break and I'm wondering if I should text him that I'm giving him the breakup and break that he wanted or just continue with no contact ?
You should give him the break he asked for and there is no reason for you to tell him that since he asked for it. Dont make it easy for him, keep NC.
Don't text him, give him what he wants.
Nc
Hey couch Lee.Michelle from South Africa 🤗.so my boyfriend broke up with me on new year's day 2022.was heart breaking but the break up was bound to happen,we had two weeks of no contact,he blocked me,but then unblocked me to give me the sad news of his granny.then the conversation went on and he was quit upset about an picture on my post,but also liked the picture aswell.then he tried to get to sleep with me aswell .I didn't budge.then he quit on the sex and regret messaging me in the first place.he then said he wants us to be on good terms but I just said goodbye to him.we haven't spoken again.he didn't block me again,but should I block him from my side? I am not messaging him or anything, what do I do ,I do want us to get back together ♥️thanks couch Adrian I do love your videos 💯
Michelle. I am not Coach Adrian, but I would wait till he contacted me. From what I've read, you said he broke up with you in 2022. Since then, he had a death in the family. I understand that it's up in the air now, and you want him back. Let HIM make the first move. Let him contact you and take It from there. Good luck to you. I hope I works out.