I'm a asexual and aromantic goth metalhead guy. I am not attracted to people. I prefer to not deal with people because most people are hates. I know myself better than anyone, and my whole 25 years on this Earth have been crud when it comes to social interactions.
"I don't know why I don't use panromantic, biromantic just fit me a little better, also the bi flag is really cute" I'm so glad I'm not the only one with that mindset, ty for existing xD
Just found this channel yesterday, and I've loved everything I've seen about Ace and Aro, being one myself of both spectrums. It really helps knowing I am not alone in it.
I've really appreciated these videos since it's only been a few months that I've understood that I'm on the asexual spectrum. I love getting to hear perspectives on issues and further understanding of my own identity. Thank you!
Thanks for this! That last one always makes me mad....a lot of ace people are very affectionate people 🥰 and even if they happen not to like showing affection in traditional ways, it does not mean they don't value the relationships and people in their lives
As a person married for mostly religious reasons beforehand of knowing my asexuality after and having kids would you find I oppress others? I mean gate keeping is one thing but I am aromatic. I thought I was broken for a long time but still get along with my partner. Stereotypes of any sort are not the best way to look at such. Did you know there are asexuals like that also where gay people marry straight or have had straight relations? Did you know some also do not always get a choice of being in relationships arranged marriage to forced marriages? Did you know some could be biromantic and some just assume they are faking and greedy? Yeah slow down there. There are exceptions to your rules.
I'm still not sure if I'm asexual. But I'm pretty sure the act of sexual intercourse does repulse me. Don't even get me started on romantic relationships. Right now, I'm not liking it. But......again, I don't know if I'll always feel this way. I hope I do.
I am afraid of telling my friends because I fear they will assume what it means. I want to take the time to ask them if they know what it means and then explain stuff to them so that they understand. I haven't told many people but I've already heard the "are you sure it's not s phase?" I honestly don't care what it is. All I know is I have been like this my whole life and that it took me a long time to figure out that I wasn't feeling what others were feeling. I would like to tell people, though, because I don't want my closest people to think I'm afraid or traumatised. I want them to know that there's a reason I'm not big on dating and stuff. Having said all that, thank you for you contributions to the community. I find that your videos are easy and pleasant to watch.
With all due repect, I wonder in a way, why does it matter if they know why you don't seem interested in dating or partaking in activities of sexual nature? Your refusal should be enough and respected. For myself, I only feel the need to mention it to people (mind you may be older than the general audience of this channel and one could say I have a bad attitude) when they are overwhelming me with conversations that revolves around their personal sex life or stories. I am also aromantic and most of our society is based on romantic relationships, acquiring them, maintaining them, ending them, mending ourselves after the end and repeat.... Medias and movies main subject is romantic love or sex in and of itself. I have always felt excluded based on those factors, the people who know of my sexuality don't and can't change much in those regards. Mind you, I also understand that relationships are what makes the world be the world but I also know I do not wish to be a part of those things. I contribute differently to the world. As per the rest of the people I know or hang out with, I simply do not care if they think I am celibate or not having luck in love or wtv, My life is none of their business. And that seems to be the issue in an over sexualized society, what people do behind closed doors is a mystery everyone seems to want to have access to and be able to relate easily. Which I think a lot of the stigma for Aces comes from, people want to be able to relate or make sense of it and simply cannot. They understand attraction; it is simple for an Hetero person to understand what homosexuality is since they are simply attracted to people of the same sex as they are, same with all the range of sexual orientation; except when there is no attraction. That is not conceivable for most people. I have been watchng a lot of videos on the topic lately and I kind of wonder, does it even matter what other people know or think of me? Not everyone is the same and i understand that (up to a point) because I also cannot understand the need to be recognised for something that will not have an impact on the other person's life nor your own. I may see things the wrong way.
my dad is one of those people who forces sex onto me, hes been doing it ever since I was 14, but ive never really had a desire for it, he tells me to have sex and be "normal" I dont care about being normal, I care about being myself.
I'm a asexual and aromantic goth metalhead guy. I am not attracted to people. I prefer to not deal with people because most people are hates. I know myself better than anyone, and my whole 25 years on this Earth have been crud when it comes to social interactions.
"I don't know why I don't use panromantic, biromantic just fit me a little better, also the bi flag is really cute"
I'm so glad I'm not the only one with that mindset, ty for existing xD
I get this! I consider myself bisexual even though pan describes me pretty well, too. Bi just... suits me. 🤷
Just found this channel yesterday, and I've loved everything I've seen about Ace and Aro, being one myself of both spectrums. It really helps knowing I am not alone in it.
I've really appreciated these videos since it's only been a few months that I've understood that I'm on the asexual spectrum. I love getting to hear perspectives on issues and further understanding of my own identity. Thank you!
same
Thanks for this! That last one always makes me mad....a lot of ace people are very affectionate people 🥰 and even if they happen not to like showing affection in traditional ways, it does not mean they don't value the relationships and people in their lives
im Bi-romantic Asexual too!! :)
As a person married for mostly religious reasons beforehand of knowing my asexuality after and having kids would you find I oppress others? I mean gate keeping is one thing but I am aromatic. I thought I was broken for a long time but still get along with my partner. Stereotypes of any sort are not the best way to look at such.
Did you know there are asexuals like that also where gay people marry straight or have had straight relations? Did you know some also do not always get a choice of being in relationships arranged marriage to forced marriages? Did you know some could be biromantic and some just assume they are faking and greedy? Yeah slow down there. There are exceptions to your rules.
Ugg, I hear these myths all the time.
1 word.
Underrated.
Wow this is so informative! Gosh it’s like I’m discovering a whole new world of things that make so much sense!
I'm still not sure if I'm asexual. But I'm pretty sure the act of sexual intercourse does repulse me. Don't even get me started on romantic relationships. Right now, I'm not liking it. But......again, I don't know if I'll always feel this way. I hope I do.
I am afraid of telling my friends because I fear they will assume what it means. I want to take the time to ask them if they know what it means and then explain stuff to them so that they understand. I haven't told many people but I've already heard the "are you sure it's not s phase?" I honestly don't care what it is. All I know is I have been like this my whole life and that it took me a long time to figure out that I wasn't feeling what others were feeling. I would like to tell people, though, because I don't want my closest people to think I'm afraid or traumatised. I want them to know that there's a reason I'm not big on dating and stuff. Having said all that, thank you for you contributions to the community. I find that your videos are easy and pleasant to watch.
With all due repect, I wonder in a way, why does it matter if they know why you don't seem interested in dating or partaking in activities of sexual nature? Your refusal should be enough and respected. For myself, I only feel the need to mention it to people (mind you may be older than the general audience of this channel and one could say I have a bad attitude) when they are overwhelming me with conversations that revolves around their personal sex life or stories. I am also aromantic and most of our society is based on romantic relationships, acquiring them, maintaining them, ending them, mending ourselves after the end and repeat.... Medias and movies main subject is romantic love or sex in and of itself. I have always felt excluded based on those factors, the people who know of my sexuality don't and can't change much in those regards.
Mind you, I also understand that relationships are what makes the world be the world but I also know I do not wish to be a part of those things. I contribute differently to the world. As per the rest of the people I know or hang out with, I simply do not care if they think I am celibate or not having luck in love or wtv, My life is none of their business. And that seems to be the issue in an over sexualized society, what people do behind closed doors is a mystery everyone seems to want to have access to and be able to relate easily. Which I think a lot of the stigma for Aces comes from, people want to be able to relate or make sense of it and simply cannot. They understand attraction; it is simple for an Hetero person to understand what homosexuality is since they are simply attracted to people of the same sex as they are, same with all the range of sexual orientation; except when there is no attraction. That is not conceivable for most people.
I have been watchng a lot of videos on the topic lately and I kind of wonder, does it even matter what other people know or think of me? Not everyone is the same and i understand that (up to a point) because I also cannot understand the need to be recognised for something that will not have an impact on the other person's life nor your own. I may see things the wrong way.
great video!
Well that takes a load off of my mind!
my dad is one of those people who forces sex onto me, hes been doing it ever since I was 14, but ive never really had a desire for it, he tells me to have sex and be "normal" I dont care about being normal, I care about being myself.
Nice hair
great video!
Thank you so much!!