Relationships | Busting Myths & Misconceptions About Asexuality Ep.3
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 25 ก.ค. 2024
- Episode #3 where I debunk all of the ridiculous things many of us have been led to believe about asexuality. In this video, I discuss different wrongful assumptions often made about asexuality and relationships.
Am I going to die alone because I'm ace? Can I even feel love? Can I date if I'm asexual? Watch for answers.
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My name is Elle (they/he/she) and I'm an enby and aro-space ace doing my queer thing here in the internet universe. Join me and let's be gay nerds. I'd really like that. Love you!!
0:00 intro
1:23 "aces don't date"
3:02 "bound to die alone"
4:22 "can't have deep relationships"
5:06 "aces are boring"
6:07 "lucky"
8:21 "incompatible with allos"
9:43 "cannot feel love"
I'm ace and married to an ace. We have a very healthy and loving relationship, we just don't have sex!
Yessss, ace relationships are rad!!
2 friends of mine are an ace lesbian couple and they're so cool!😁
Oof sounds like the perfect relationship 🥺😍🥰 I want one like that too, but my boyfriend isn't an ace... But I'm still a virgin lol 😁
I watch Ace Dad Advice here on youtube and he definitely helps explain things like an ace and allo relationship like he has. I love your channel and how you help people understand things as well.
I always felt excluded from "normal human conversations" at school too! And I'm not even an ace.... I think...
4:00 just to comment on this, as a ace person (specifically aceflux) I actually do desire a nuclear family, or atleast kids. When I assure my parents they are still gonna have grand kids they look at me like I'm crazy. 😂
But why would they think your crazy? 🤷🏼♂️ in vitro fertilication, adoption, etc. are all ways to start a family without sex, why wouldn't that work for ace or aro people 🤷🏼♂️
Adoption is a super amazing thing to do!
thank you for this video ! i’m currently learning to come to terms with figuring out my place on the ace spectrum and this series has been extremely helpful and just all around nice to watch
You're so welcome! Thanks for watching.
cool video :) always love the vibes of your vids
Glad you like them!
Awesome video, bean! Slay those misconceptions! ⚔️✨🏳️🌈
I hope your world domination brings with it the same soft vibes all the videos have, haha. Octopus revolution…?
8:04 awesome, cute, & a bit scary impersonation of a world domination schemer (evil genius, Muahaha) 😍
End of video, sweet lil platonic air kiss! 😙
Aces can & do feel & give love, be a parent (or involved uncle/aunt/etc), have LTR or dating (as opposed to remaining single), & grieve losses, so let's respect them & appreciate all the fascinating ways they make life interesting & listen to them to increase understanding of one another & let/keep them in our heart... without trying to change or pity or shame them!
Well said! ✨
Really enjoyed this video! Especially appreciated some of the commentary on the not being able to experience deep love/heartbreak, as I just had a lengthy committed relationship come to an end and I definitely had my heart broken and felt extremely deep love for that person, but if nothing else, part of the end of that is me looking back and reflecting a lot, which has lead to me realizing I am fairly sure that I’m ace. Appreciate your channels videos, they’ve had a lot of helpful info for me while figuring all this stuff out :).
Hey Author! I just wanted to check in and make sure your okay! This video looked particularly difficult for you, especially when recalling your past. Way to go sharing your experiences I know it isn’t easy. 🌸
As a greyro ace who’s not in a romantic relationship I don’t think I’m alone or lonely for being single. Many allos have a hierarchy of relationships in their minds, giving romantic and sexual partners more value than platonic relationships. This exclusivity makes them think we are lonely and cold which to me is sad bc that means they view friendships in that light.
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Yup, haha! Her name is Peach. 🐙
@@SpaceyAces So sweet and cute name.
People are way too judgmentful about people’s sex lives, even when they don’t have or want one 😔
You can have romantic drama with aro/ace character like they have a friend who has a crush on them and they don’t but they don’t want to lose them
I remember going to TAFE and I had befriended a group of lady's in their 40's(I was about 23 then). They were all talking about their sex lives and I was just sitting in silence blushing apparently. This was waaaay before I found out about Asexuality 😂
amazing
Thanks!
Can you make a *(10 signs you're non binary) pt 2?*
I really liked it
I can add it to the agenda for sure! Are there any signs you would like to see mentioned? Thanks for the suggestion. 💕
@@SpaceyAces :o
I'm so happy :D
I mean I can only speak for myself but I think these can be pretty cumon:
Hiding your arms and legs, and usually wearing hoodies
It also applies binary trans people, but I'm often ashamed of my body
Sometimes feeling like you're not even human, and wishing you didn't have a body at all
Simply finding gender roles nonsensical ( because it is ) why do men have to fix the cables and women have to wash dishes?
When clothe shopping I often stop to look at the "wrong gender" section because something picked my attention
Hating a LOT, whenever they separate groups by gender
( Even tho that's a classic )
I'm still thinking of other but anyways, I can't wait :p
I wonder if people who are sex repulsed are also likely to not want to be pregnant, or are the two things unrelated? I mean I guess they both involve reproductive organs, so maybe they could be linked?
Not ace, but from what my ace friends tell me it is very dependend on the individual, so I imagine that it can happen if you are repulsed by certain aspects that involve both sex and pregnancy. But I'm sure sex repulsed people with a child wish exist and there a good ways to get pregnant without sex 😁
Hello! Fellow Asexual with Tokophobia here! I genuinely don't find attraction through sexual reciprocation, rather, I'm way more attracted through sensual, aesthetic, and romantic attraction. I'm totally one hundred percent content with not having sex. That being said, as a woman, I do have massive fears relative to getting pregnant. As a career driven person who loves what they do and has no plans, nor interest in ever raising a child, let alone giving birth to one, creating a family is the last thing on my list. Being both of these had confused me for the longest time, questioning the legitimacy of my sexuality, (especially as someone who's hetero) until Ace Dad introduced language that had not existed when I was younger (I'm 30 as of typing this) which dispelled a lot of my self doubt and questioning. I'm sex-aversed, meaning I don't mind talking about sex and listening to others talk about it, including jokes, but any sexually related reciprocations directed towards me, not my cup of tea.
"ace people can date anyone!" yeah, because a relationship shouldn't JUST revolve around s3x unless its agreed on by both parties. wonder who would be shallow enough to think a relationship automatically equals "s3x time now!!"? 🙄 /sar
I can definitely relate to the whole "stepping away/fading into the background when it comes to school/classmate relationships as a teen because I had no crushes". The people who called us lucky have no idea how crushing was the feeling of confusion and loneliness, being "left behind", that comes from this kind of situation. Before I eventually gave up on "pretending to be a human being" and talking about the subject with people to the point of eventually becoming "The One With Whom We Walk On Eggshells And Shouldn't Discuss Relationships", I pretended to have crushes (obviously led to catastrophic situations of people trying to play Cupid for me and me ghosting the victim out of sheer panic/ social anxiety) and mistaking aesthetic attraction for a crush (equally devastating for a teen who just couldn't understand why looking at other teen was nice but not Thinking Of Doing Things with them)... 🥲
So glad you eventually found yourself & started setting boundaries so you could A. be your real self instead of faking so others would accept you; B. feel comfortable & secure about yourself instead of feeling there's something wrong with you #Different_IsntBad ; & C. avoid the drama & negative emotions that seem to accompany conversations about a part of human experience that you don't really experience.
In order to stand up for yourself & keep social anxiety to a minimum, you first gotta realize who you are & what is or isn't important in your life. It's normal to go through some uncomfortable, even painful or traumatic, situations on your journey toward figuring out what doesn't work for you, what triggers or upsets you, what is good for you, etc.
It's also normal to face criticism & judgment from clueless prejudiced people, & *there's nothing wrong with* A. clueing them in so they'll treat you more kindly; or, B. distancing yourself from them so their negativity impacts you less. #ProudOfYou
#NoH8!
@@BurnWithinQT words of wisdom! I agree with you. I just wish there was more information about asexuality at the time so I wouldn't have to navigate my self discovery completely on my own and way past my teens, it was confusing and I felt so lonely back then. Hopefully that won't be the case for younger aces...