I'm reminded of something said by one of my professors years ago that always stuck with me. "A psychopath will kill you for your wallet, and feel no remorse. A sociopath will steal your wallet, and then help you look for it."
That true I stole money from my boss cuz people always stole from me but wind up feeling bad and paying him back extra and telling him i stole his money he's a nice guy but I just hate people steal from me and don't even care and do what I did take accountability
as someone who has been diagnosed with Antisocial Personality Disorder (and meets almost all of the criteria for psychopathy - scored a 34 / 40 on the PCL-R), i'd definitely choose pickpocketing / swiping from a purse (and not saying anything) over violent robbery lol but i would feel absolutely no guilt or remorse, so i still fall into the former.
I always keep the difference clear by remembering: * A psychopath will lie to you about anything and pretend they care. * A sociopath will not usually lie and make it very clear that they don't care.
Not really I've done both and I'm not any of them. All these studies are complete bullshit as they all assume we as humans have to live by some code of conduct which we write in to law so that we can control our natural argues. As a result we all get judged by those standards, which we all just copy of one another. But deep down their ain't no standards.
Psychopaths target a type of people, Sociopaths target a type of society. So to Psychopaths a lie to people doesn't matter as long as a behavior they want is reached. Sociopaths care only by the type of society so lying is precious. To use it timely and wisely is how their lies impact people more. Yet the key part of this is that to be a Psychopath or Sociopath is consistency. Everyone has psychotic or social episodes. Yet if the entirety of their story is like that example a genre then be forewarned
@@officiallylauralegendary No. Psychopaths lack empathy but are masters of manipulation by acting like they care, or acting out any feeling that will manipulate others. Sociopaths have a limited range of emotions but what they feel is sincere.
This is an oversimplification, the video is an oversimplification. It's a spectrum on brain architecture. Some feel less emotion but don't ignore what is there. Many even follow a strict moral code guided by logical laws. Psychopaths often do care alot
The reason why this os wrong is because the majority of psychopaths studied are from criminal institutions. The ones who are trying to find balance and do good by defining the world logically aren't often studied
@@imhere49 Ironically enough, no one cares, my guy. Neither of them are the kind of people you really want in your friend circle or aspire to be like. So except on the basis of being anal about scientific accuracy, who really cares all that much?
@Kalashee because they are high functioning and the reason society even made it this far as a civilization. You may not want them as friends but they are better friends than you'd know. In fact, I wouldn't doubt if you have a good friend that is one and you just don't know.
I had a psychology class back in my school days taught by a person who had a doctorate in psychology. He said the difference in simplest terms was that a sociopath can't differentiate between right and wrong because they think its all just point of view, and in their minds they can rationalize anything they do as to why it was the right thing. A psycho path just doesn't care about right or wrong.
I am certain that you have explained this for those who didn't quite get the video or they haven't had to deal with a close family member when they were the child, thank the stars ✨. I feel like this is actually right on. Even compared to my college courses and the textbook descriptions However this was in 1983 and 1984. many 🌙 moons ago
That's very succinct. And it strikes me that the character of Walter White in Breaking Bad, though he can be very strategic, is most likely an impulsive sociopath. He feels empathy and emotions, and is deeply conflicted, but is also highly antisocial and acts on sudden and overwhelmingly powerful emotions regularly.
Smart psychos become lawyers and CEO dumb ones become cops lol three jobs that all involve basically doing things no normal human being could justify in their minds
As the video said psychopaths are expert manipulators; lairs too. It's about power to them. The thrill of it in wielding it for their own selfish ambitions. The power and authority to arrest people--who would dare challenge them? The power and honor to save them, specially through means of surgery. And the power and lucrativeness in knowing the law to set people's very fate and freedom in their hands. CEOs are indeed sought after because by their callous indifference they can easily make those corporate cut throat decisions that many, if not most of us, would aguishly to make, specially when it comes to profits/corporate interest vs people's lives & jobs. Still, it IS unnerving. I feel you.
The best explanation ive heard as to why some (most?) people with psychopathic traits never become 'dangerous' (i.e., serial killers) is that genetics loads the gun but the environment pulls the trigger.
As reported in the Niagara Falls Reporter in 2012 - "Mass Shooters are often on Psychiatric Drugs, but this is rarely reported in the Media." Also in 2012, Psychiatrist Allen Francis stated on T.V.: "Psy Drugs cause mass shootings!" Francis was the top player in putting together DSM-4 - since then he has become more comprehensive!
Some of the issues not explored include the concept of spectrum or tendancies. We could have a sudden explosion of rage at a family or social event, brought on by total frustration; feeling no one understands things from our perspective, panic that we are not in control, that others can't see what they are doing is driving us totally nuts, that the world is in total denial of what we ourselves perceive to be true. The outburst might even risk becoming violent. This might be perceived as sociopathic behaviour, but might only be exhibited once in a blue moon. Would this person be categorised as sociopathic or someone who occasionally exhibits such behaviour? Would not anyone in the same circumstances feel and react the same way? If we commonly behave the same way under the same circumstances why then distinguish it as a separate mental disease? On a separate point, the presentation devoted over three quarters of the time to psychopathy and only a quarter of the time or thereabouts to sociopathy. Did I just admit to feeling hard done by?!
Like pitbulls, Psychopaths can snap and go ape-shit without warning. Like that lawyer Alex Murdock stole millions from his law firm and then killed his wife and son so they wouldn't know about his crimes. Perfectly normal for a psychopath.
my brother was diagnosed with antisocial personality disorder with psychopathic and narcissictic traits. he was the scariest person i have never known. several doctors turned us away and told us just to be careful around him. we later foud out they were literallly too scared to work with him. one psychiatrist literally told us to make a safe room and remove all sharp objects from our house and lock our doors every night. he died of pneumonia while living on the street on christmas eve 23, so just a couple of months ago. he ran away because he didnt want to hurt us but couldnt help himself. i am traumatized.
I'm so sorry your whole family had to go through this, to love your brother but also fear him is unimaginable. I hope you've gotten some help with the trauma it has left you.
@@catprincesses5035 terrible thing to say. He should have received the help he needed. Chicken s-t psychiatrist should have helped your brother and your family or referred him to someone who could, or found a place for him instead of on the street!
I was close with a psychopath. They were a family member. They did not like being a psychopath. They wanted to feel emotions. She knew I loved and cared about her, but she didn’t feel those feelings towards me. She wanted to and hated that she didn’t. So not all psychopaths are evil and enjoy that they can’t connect on an emotional level.
An inability to feel love in general or to feel love for a specific person is not necessarily a symptom of psychopathy. The distinguishing trait is a lack of empathy, pity and guilt.
@pug ASPD is a literal spectrum. You're not capable of just looking at the flat symptoms of any disorder and just go "Oh, this is how they HAVE to behave". Some people with ASPD are entirely aware of their conditions and actively try to improve themselves, as it's an extremely hollow existence.
@pug Yeah that's true. ASPD in general can be mistaken as a lot of things, and a lot of things can be mistaken as ASPD. Certain types of PTSD manifest close to ASPD, same with certain types of autism. That's why going by a textbook definition never works, because a book shows no nuance.
@@pug7896 No she is my sister I am well aware of her diagnosis. She has an understanding of what an emotion should feel like. She just doesn’t feel them and it bothers her. Like she knows I’m her brother and I do nice things that make her life better. She doesn’t feel gratitude or appreciation, she wants to and even fakes it. She is a wonderful person that got her wiring all screwed up.
Glad to know that psychopaths are drawn to professions like police officers and lawyers. Nice to see such a great chunk of our legal system is in the hands of these people.
Apparently, CEO is a popular occupation for psychopaths, but not politician. You show heavy metal kids depicted as bullies in the pictures. The worst bullies from my high school were kids that didn't even stand out visually. They weren't really outsiders. They were generally part of the "in crowd."
@@bovinityleak2066 what ever is popular changes over time. The "popular" kids at school were awful people and sadly they are having kids. Their parents are most likely also horrendous people.
You hit the nail on the end. Looking how they treat the populace. Instead of caring for the country and her people, they are finding new ways to fuel and feed their sadism.
Yes they are absolutely a bunch of psychopaths. And if you think about it, it's their job TO BE a psychopath. Not only does it work for them, it's optimal for the job, too!
Thank you for the clarification. My brother, now deceased, was a sociopath. Born a sensitive child, raised by abusive narcissistic parents, he developed sociopathic characteristics. He learned that might made right and charm protected him from accountability. Only 3 years older, I wasn’t equipped to protect him…
@@tggchat not sure what you mean by productive… he divorced his first wife after she found out he was cheating on her. He proceeded to have one relationship after another with lots of overlap and even stole the wife of his best friend. He was very proud of his ‘accomplishments’ and would manage to lie and charm his way into a new woman’s life without guilt or remorse. He could sell honey to a bee then brag about it. He completely lacked a conscience and seemed to get worse as he aged.
I took an intro to psychology class in the early 2010's when I was in college and my professor (who is a PHD clinical psychologist) explained the discrepancies between a Psychopath and a Sociopath: 1. Sociopath has trouble diagnosing what is right and wrong while a psychopath knows what is right and wrong but they do not care about right and wrong. 2. A sociopath will sometimes feel remorse while a psychopath has no remorse or pretends to show remorse. 3. Psychopaths are more financially successful than sociopaths. For example, CEO's, politicians, doctors and lawyers are more likely to be psychopaths than sociopaths while insurance and real estate agents, chefs, and construction workers are more likely to be sociopaths than psychopaths. 4. Psychopaths are born while sociopaths are made. 5. Psychopaths are more dangerous than sociopaths because they can appear more normal than sociopaths. 6. Psychopaths are more charming and less nervous than sociopaths.
A psychopath would generally realize there is really no such thing as right or wrong and that the concept is a human construct used to govern weak minded people.
it's the lack of empathy, remorse and love towards others, as well complete disrespect for other people, that define a psychopath. not just "lack of emotion" :).
@WW most people seem to care what happens to others, there are many campaigns about slavery in Africa or using children for hard work in China. I don't care about any of those things as long as it doesn't affect me. Car crash accident that killed few people on radio? It happens, nothing I can do about that
@@PolishGod1234 i would say such a person is cold, and slightly insane.. why wouldn't you care about what happens to other people? people are good. they need to be helped..
Psychopaths will manipulate you, make you feel special, be super charming, charaismatic, seem like a good person but can switch up in an insant and do the most evil things and feel no remorse.
I would like to point out that people in the rock/metal community are not bullies. The people I met in that environment have been the most supportive people ever, whereas the bullies I met have been the ones who were desperate to be popular and better than everyone else, putting others down to elevate themselves. I found peace and a sense of comradery in the metal "underground." We were together with our differences and welcomed despite them. I admit I was surprised by the overwhelmingly wholesome people I have met and still call friends today from that environment.
@Lulu? I was very pleasantly surprised after my first mosh pit, everyone were so friendly, and we had beers together during the break between bands. Very wholesome crowd, 11/10 would recommend.
Outcasts or people with niche or fringe interests are always welcoming. It can be something good like the music community you mentioned or bad like drug addicts. People that are popular or elite in anyway try to keep their status special by rarely letting anyone in.
I a guy I went to highschool with and was briefly fooled by was a psychopath. He was so good at masking. One day we were at his grand parent's house. He had me head up the stairs to his bedroom first. In the doorway I stopped and turned to look at him and the temperature of the room dropped by like ten degrees and his eyes were absolutely empty. I was terrified. Nothing happened to me thank God but is mask fell hard a few months later. He got a group together like Manson and they lured a dear friend to a secluded park by the river and beat him to death. That takes time and is very personal because every scream and every plea is an OPP to register your failing humanity. After his arrest there were still foolish infatuated girls who tried to say he was innocent and would never. I told them they were delusional and it is absolutely terrifying to be alone with a psychopath when they chose to let the mask slip. I get chills to this day and it so painful to think of how scared and alone Scott felt crying out for help that never came. He was his mother's only baby. He was so kind. He used to wait by choir just to give me a hug and ask about my day. He was like a big brother to me and those monsters will never be forgiven.
What you saw/felt was the true psychopath. The same thing happened to me, minus the friend part. (Sorry for your loss btw). I call them "the kunlungeta". But yeah, that is what they truly are at their core. I don't trust psychopaths or sociopaths anymore. And ever since I "saw" I now have a gift where I can see them everywhere. At least I can avoid them. (Shivers)
@@bustercrabbe8447 how it was psychopathic and not narcissistic is he was never seeking or needing of the adoration. He simply exploited value placed in his looks and the charming nature he used as his facade. It wasn't until he willfully dropped it for that instance that I knew to run. He without regard or remorse "nudged" a group of malleable "people" into murdering someone one girl had dated, and the others had called a friend at one point. Have you ever looked into Charles Manson's eyes? They are empty voids. James was the name of the guy who did this. He had so many charmed with his easy smile and friendly nature. That is how the real monsters slip by. The point is he didn't need anyone to feed his ego he simply needed tools because that is what everyone was to him.
My mom is a psychopath. I've never seen her regret anything she did and put herself in the wrong. She is destroying her life and blaming everyone else and there is no way to convince her of this truth. Even the smallest arguments turn her into a blaring rage with her eyes BULGING out in anger against anyone who defies her. Simply checking one of my emails when I was arguing with her made her want to destroy my computer. She will always be a victim in her life, feeling the pain from a narrative that is never true.
I've got high end Autism. I could hurt someone if i want, i could kill them if i wan or steal from them if i want, i could manipulate people to do whatever i want to. But i just don't want to.
*A psychopath is born as a psychopath, whereas a sociopath is made into a sociopath, and that's why a sociopath can be on a spectrum/range of sociopathy.*
My father is a psychopath, it destroyed my life and nearly killed me very young. To this day he has never had to answer for his actions as his planning and discipline when indulging his sadism was thorough. As a child, his child, I had no chance to escape him or defend myself.
I can relate. My father was a teacher. A shop teacher. He was and still is a liar, cheater, deceiver, and manipulator. He has put his hard earned/stolen money above everything and everyone else and at 80 years old an a wealth of 3 million he is still obsessed with every penny. He lives in filth and watches his children and grandchildren suffer. Any dime he gives us is met with fury and he will relish in feeling victimized. He is responsible for my mother's death She was a rural postal carrier and died in a car accident in duty trying to do her job sitting on passenger side and operating the vehicle. My dad didn't want to spend the money to put the controls on the passenger side. She just started the job after he essentially made her feel she had to. My brother died alone and homeless at 50. Dads money too important!
@@stans144Ditto, same dynamic and destruction. Being the scapegoat I'm glad I got away and can't be found by any of the family flying monkeys since 2 yrs. I'm fighting for my life, sick and alone but at least they have no stronghold on my soul.
Shocking that, on average, one in every 100 individuals is a psychopath. Also interesting that just because an individual is a psychopath doesn't by necessity mean that they want to harm others. They may not be able to experience empathy or sympathy, but that doesn't mean that every one of them wants to kill you.
I'm a diagnosed Psychopath and I'm not going to kill anyone, it won't be in my advantage to be in prison. I'm better off working everyday and achieving my goals. And yeah, he is right at least for me I often fake emotions just to get someone to understand me or just be happy to do what I've asked him/her. As for lying I didn't know that other people feel guilty after that I thought it was normal for everyone to just lie and get over with it
Not all psychopaths are criminals. However, psychopathic criminals are especially dangerous, because psychopaths act out their impulses free from inhibition, conscience, or remorse. If a psychopath thinks torturing kittens is funny, they will spend their time doing that, because they only care about fulfilling their "needs" (Lack of inhibition), they don't see why they shouldn't be hurting others (Lack of conscience), and they don't feel sorry even if they're caught in the act and punished (Lack of remorse).
@@coffeetalk924 It's not irrelevant, because it explains why psychopaths need to be identified early in their lives, and brought up carefully. They can be convinced that a life of crime is not in their best interest.
@Tuppoo94 still irrelevant, because my argument wasn't "Hey not all of them want to kill you, THEREFORE WE DON'T NEED TO IDENTIFY THEM." I never even remotely implied such a thing. I simply stated a fact. "Not all of them want to kill you" full stop. That is a fact. So please don't strawman my argument. 😉
When you have to live with one or be close to one, you watch many sources of videos, documentaries and you read books. This remark is callous. So which are you?
A friend of mine who did psychology once told me I’m a textbook example of an everyday psychopath, watching this video makes me wonder if I don’t in fact have ADHD and perhaps my friend was correct. Therefore I’d like to bring some extra context, I absolutely have feelings, however I find it very difficult to understand others’. I do take joy in manipulating people and I do often find it very easy but I don’t do it in a malicious way as I’m not nasty. I just find it difficult to empathise with how someone feels in response to something that I don’t personally have to experience. That being said, if somebody was to break their arm, I would feel sorry for them as I myself have broken my arm, but if someone was hit as a kid, I kind of don’t really care because I can’t relate to that.
Having been diagnosed with ASPD and psychopathy, I can attest that it’s a daily struggle. As I’ve grown older, I’ve realized that my manipulative and compulsive lying tendencies don’t foster genuine friendships. In an effort to change, I decided to engage with people more empathetically. Over the years, I’ve made a conscious effort to ask others how they feel, especially when I’m unsure about social cues. It’s challenging-I often wonder if I’m inadvertently saying something abhorrent or being overbearing. However, it’s been about eight years since I last wove a web of lies and manipulation. Now, I have real friends without needing elaborate escape plans. It’s a liberating feeling, even if it means I once deceived someone into bending to my will.
I used to not care for people and their feelings at all (also didn't miss them or somethng), I reached out to Jesus about it, wanting to be able to care for other people. Today I can care for others and feel empathy and sometimes can even cry with others! I recommend you pray to Jesus he can truly change us where we can't
Only Jesus can save us from ourselves,,,,he will use his angels and Holy Spirit to guide us!! Someone in your life is praying for you,,,,believe it!! ❤🙏 ❤
The worst part is when someone with no experience in psychology decides to label people as psycho/sociopaths just because they had a negative experience with them.
That's why I categorize these people as "using anti-social behavior." It's more concrete to use examples of their own behavior and how it effects them. Diagnoses can only be made by physicians
I had a student who was clearly psychopathic, but he may also, on top of that, been psychotic. An extremely disturbing individual. When it finally became clear to me that his weird behavior, his adrenaline addiction (always keeping himself angry in order to maintain an adrenaline high), his heartlessness, his posturing, and his lying weren't going to come to an end, I disattached myself from him as quickly as I could. He tried to separate me from my friends (I have no family), "tried to cut me out of the herd." And his ability to comprehend why others did what they did was badly flawed. I also had another "frie3nd" who was always reading plays, watching movies, and reading books to absorb how others behaved in various situations. She *memorized* GAMES PEOPLE PLAY, and continuously interpreted others' behavior in terms of "games." She seemed pleasant enough until you got to know her, and then her cruelty and her nasty behavior became obvious. As with the first individual, I finally realized I had to get away from her, because she was draining me of all my energy and hope. My adoptive father may have been a psychopath, nonviolent but heartless. My adoptive mother was extremely narcissistic, only praising me or showing affection toward me when she could take credit for my behavior, my talents and other abilities, and so on. Maybe growing up with the two of them is why I was such a magnet for bad people and bullies. So I tend to avoid people now whenever I can. People like that poison everything and everyone they interact with.
Glad you were adopted into a family. So sorry it was with horrible people. Thankfully you dont have a genetic connection to their icky madness and you seem to have risen above. Hugs and kudos.
I am sorry you had to experience a family like that. My family was abusive and yes it gives you complex PTSD and cluster B people can see the neon sign.
I once had a friend named ashley in primary school, he was a psychopath. he would always do bad things to me and feel no forgiveness afterward. when i searhed up what a psychopath is, it struck me and made me realise that the description of a psychopath perfectly matches who he is. i would always forgive him, which did end up in me being bullied by him for a while. im no longer friends with him and i havent been for the past few months. he would always make me think he was a good friend and that he never did anything wrong but i eventually stop being matipulated by him and thats what caused me to leave him. he was a good friend for the first year we met, the rest was a horrible hellhole he created. i felt free ever since i left him.
Psychopath's are like School Bullie's they look for their victim who is Quiet and different worst still they will manipulate other's to humiliate. They love Drama . The fact a Psychopath Child can manipulate non Psychopath kid's into monster's, meaning there is no innocent people . All and all i'm glad my school days i would never want go back in Class of Horror.
Dealing with my sociopathic ex again recently has made me appreciate people with empathy like never before. To all of you out there who have and use genuine empathy, I appreciate you.
i hear you on that sentiment. when all you want out of someone is to "square up and be honest with people, show some level of awareness and remorse for what you're CLEARLY DELIBERATELY doing"...... and they physically cannot. it literally causes them pain to do so.
Sociopaths if they have empathy, it is genuine because it is very hard for a sociopath but is possible and many will do anything to feel emotions, if they don’t they are probably worse than psychopaths because they don’t give a shit about yelling at the top of their lungs in your face
How you described sociopaths and psychopaths, I always thought it was the other around. I always thought sociopaths were the calculated, amoral ones who became CEOs, lawyers, and politicians, while psychopaths were the violent ones who are more likely to become criminals
Given they're not serious clinical terms and are effectively used interchangeably because the only actual difference (that can't be meaningfully verified) has nothing to do with outward behavior and everything to do with etiology of either "condition," you think whatever you want.
@@brianbagnall3029 That's the general belief, but whenever you get around to performing an ethical experiment that's able to totally parse environmental influences from genetic variables, you go ahead and let psychology know so you can collect the first Nobel Prize in history awarded in the field. The ancient "nature vs nurture" debate is as dead as "you only use 10% of your brain."
I decided to watch this while doing dishes because it just sounded like an interesting subject. Now, I need to take a good, long look in the mirror, and make some appointments.
I remember a saying, " Not all psychopaths are serial killers, but all serial killers are psychopaths " Don't remember where from, but it struck me as a good rule of thumb for the definition.
I, surprisingly, like this... thank you for posting this, those of us in relationships with psychopaths/sociopaths who are actually amazing people, really appreciate you sharing this
@@Moonstruckmagicas a sociopath, I feel seen with Trevor Phillips from GTAV. A hotheaded serial killer who cares for his family, and those he deems well enough to be family who despises liars, traitors, and people who double cross good people.
All that is sensationalistic in nonsense. A recent study of serial killers actually showed they were lower in psychopathic traits than non serial killers. People will always talk bollocks on these things cos it's just a case of Chinese whispers. As more people talk about it they add false information born out of ignorance. Take a look at this quote from a study. "Why might murderers be less likely to be psychopaths than other types of criminal? The researchers suggest that while people high in psychopathy are more likely to commit a crime, murder is a special case. Yes, psychopathy has been linked to certain types of murder, especially the premeditated murder of a stranger or slim acquaintance. But most murders don't fall into this category. People kill others for all sorts of "reasons", from injured pride to a desire for revenge - and don't, it seems, need a high level of psychopathic or sadistic traits to be capable of doing this"-bps.org.uk
That’s an interesting statement. I’d like to know who was behind making such. All serial killer’s are NOT psychopathic.. Not having compassion nor remorse. There are various serial killer typologies to consider. The mission oriented type is little different than the average person. And then there is the sub-groups. Some can have jobs that they’re happy in and quite productive, respected for their contributions, families, children, feel love and compassion for animals and human beings. They can have a deep regard for nature, music et cetera. They follow societal norms (up to a certain point) Just like you or me. But this ends when it comes to those they’ve personally deemed unworthy of such humanism. They consider themselves as doing the job when the justice system has failed. They are the vigilante subtype. I’d go deeper into this.. But that will be your challenge if you truly wish to understand.
It took 38 years to realise that my brother is a sociopath. He abused be physically , verbally throughout the years , manipulate me, gaslight, etc and made me think that I am the wrong one.... thank you for this video
Aren't sociopaths also very emotionally unstable? For an example, Homelander from The Boys, but I'm truly sorry you had to go through that, that is horrible and I hope your better now ❤
I'm a clinically diagnosed sociopath. I've shown this video to several people, and they have all said that the description you gave was spot on for me as well.
@@PolishBehemoth Then, again.... they sell gasoline on practically every street corner with no questions asked (no background check, sold to everyone 16 or older and no registration and...)
I've been close to quite a few sociopaths, which shouldn't be surprising since some estimate as many as 1 in 5 are sociopaths. It's a tendency you're born with - but not something you can't overcome. My ex fiance was a delightful person to be with, when she was exercising her empathy intentionally, but when she wasn't - well there's a reason she's my ex. I wonder if you could overcome your natural tendency, and by exercising your empathy you could change your default to become 'normal'? Due to neuroplasticity I'm sure that it's possible. Prayer, mindfulness and meditation come to mind.
My ex was a Sociopath and thanks to you I know to avoid my next mistakes. Long story story short she has BPD and refused help and once morning I woke up with signs that she tried to kill me. So I played off the rest of the Relationship just long enough to make it out of state.
Hello! As an actual, diagnosed Psychopath, I must say it is always nice to see things like this that actually talk about us in a non "They're all evil murderers" light. Sure, I don't really care about anyone I meet, and may seem as though I'm from a different species at times with how I look at the world; but that doesn't mean I (and others like me) can't train or practice forms of mental and social conditioning to help offset our differences.
If this is psychopathy then your kind is not rare. So many people are like what you described nowadays. They only care about themselves and their loved ones. I'm one of them too
You're all illiterates. Socio = related to society. Pathy is a way of thinking. Conformists and most people are sociopaths. Psychos choose to be immoral.
@@Historian474He's right though. Doctors study the facts, people talk the fiction. If you want the best advice on managing epilepsy you ask a doctor not a guy that has watched a few documentaries about it.
@@cultfiction3865probably be best to listen to both. Ego is a real thing. Doctors have the knowledge but sometimes you have to stop making things complicated. The solutions can be right in front of you.
I would disagree about psychopaths planning everything carefully. Some are ever ready to improvise, completely confident they can talk their way out of anything they didn’t plan for. And it works surprisingly often, because most of us do give people the benefit of the doubt quite a few times before we balk at it.
@@nicolaspace1182 Yup, the prisons are full of the dumber and badly raised ones. But those raised to be well dressed and well presented can polish any turd. Look at the utter absurdity of Trumpian lies: if you can get people (especially middle class people) to WANT to believe something, they will. No matter how shoddy and self contradictory.
Im 29 and a diagnosed sociopath with psychotic tendencies, I was originally diagnosed as borderline, yes when I was younger I was a very violent individual, I’ve done unspeakable things to people that haven’t deserved it, but I would say that deception is a significant part of the disorder, I am unemployable lol but I’m self employed I run a medium size successful business nowadays with 3 employees, it’s sad how people generalise ASP disorders with Hollywood, the truth of it is, it’s a very lonely existence, filled with frustration and determination, it’s like a thirst that can’t be quenched, and I can fully understand how some people can become totally consumed by it and end up becoming serial killers, but.. I would say a substantial amount of people probably have ASPD’s just undiagnosed and they can be functional members of society
@@wandabanks6756 parenthood changed me, i have me something I’m to worried to lose, I found a good woman that has kinda always been at my side, but it doesn’t go away, it’s actually really hard to describe it from my point of view, I think as I’ve gotten older I’ve become more reclusive limiting the effects I have on others and others have on me, I went through dialectical behavioural therapy a good few years ago that was another thing that helped, but exactly as the guy says on the video, you really can’t help someone that doesn’t wanna be helped, I had a very traumatic childhood, loads of trauma, and when my wife was pregnant with our first child I realised it’s paramount that I get the help I needed so I could be a better role model to my child, as I say parenthood is a significant thing that levelled me out, not to say I still don’t have bad days
@@thatroverguy1937 curious - did you believe the mis-diagnosis of borderline, or think it was bullshit? Did the insight you now show come afterwards, or did you know something was different prior to contact with the mental health system and being assessed etc? Cheers.
@@KarmasAbutch when I was diagnosed with BPD, basically when I was 18 I tried to kill someone, as I say it’s no fairytale, consequently I was arrested and had an evaluation and was diagnosed, I was fortunate as I didn’t end up in jail during this period, instead I had a suspended sentence, therapy, a restraining order a fine and a few other bits of punishments provided I stool to the therapy that lasted 2 years, I did acknowledge it either way really at the time, I saw it as a handy excuse if I’m being honest, it was when I got to 20 (about 4 months after my therapy finished) I had a guy try and mug me and I beat him into a comma, consequently I was arrested again I did go to jail for this, but only on remand, as I actually got found guilty of excessive use of self defence, the guy stabbed me 7 times but I beat him so bad that he received brain injuries, it was while I was rotting in a cell and I was again reevaluated, they diagnosed me as sociopathic with psychotic tendencies, and it was then I started to reflect more on who I am and what I was, I was again back out on the streets after a couple of months, I had to pay a victim fine amongst other things, but upon my release I had an almighty party, loads of drugs drink etc, the morning after I took a look at my life and realised how close I came to losing it all, my gf at the time became pregnant and eventually my wife (we have 3 kids now) she stood by me ever since, she wasn’t the drug using type in fact she’s a very well put together person
I was told that Psychopaths will consider the consequences and still do evil things but in a very sneaky way to get away with it. Socialpaths don’t consider consequences thus making them more reckless in their wrongdoings.
Thankfully, I got into therapy early (relatively speaking) at 20, diagnosed with sociopathic tendencies that was quickly manifesting to full sociopath from years of being bullied and stepped. I'm now 24, been in therapy since to at least slow it and have better control over it. Still have my moments, but I would not like to know what I would be like without it.
This comment has convinced me I might try raising this concern to a psychologist or psychiatrist because for the longest time I've also been worried about psychopathic tendencies slowly creeping into sociopathy.
I am almost positive id be classified as a sociopath or dark empath but frankly I see things around me that other people don’t and I’m not a bad person to hood people I just am bored most of the time and get angry easily also sadistic tendencies are there I have to fight that urge but I do and it fades eventually 👍
My psychiatrist a couple yrs back told me a sociopath is just TV talk for psychopath and that it's not actually a diagnosis or medical term. He said any liscensed psychiatrist worth their salt would never use this term bc it simply made up for TV drama.
I'm a sociopath and i somehow managed to teach myself to control my anger without any outside help before even knowing about my condition. I might even have been too successful, because now i find myself letting others step all over me way too often
My favourite film psychopath is Wes Chatham as "Amos Burton" in "The Expanse". He knows that he is a psychopath, so he choose a friend he trusted as his moral compass. and if the times need it, he uses his traits for the benefit of the group/humanity. by decision. a strong character, and a completely different framing of psychopathy, that i never had seen before.
One of my favorite characters hehe. No muss no fuss.. just do what needs to be done s the situation calls for it. Am only on season 4 tho.. not sure how far they have gotten yet.. but yeah.. the actor nails it.
Psychopaths make the best friends if you can get them to trust you to show themselves to you. When they do, you have earned a loyal protector for life. Kinda like cats. Maybe that's why we like them so much.
Probably at the end it matters more what actions one takes, then how ones brain is bundled. Amos Burton opened my eyes, that there could be more into psychopathy, than the clishees. As an autist myself (way more into logic, then into emotions, but my empathy exists) i think i probably could communicate with a psychopath on a meta way. but to be a friend one would have to be open with his intentions and clear with his actions. Because most of the "tricks" to manipulate people barely work on people like me, because they mostly attack over the emotional route. Anyway, if i ever meet a psychopath, that is open about that in real life, i wouldnt judge him anymore because of that. We are born how we are born, no faults and guilts with that.
The example you give sounds a lot like the series "Dexter". In the series the main character is a psychopath who works as a forensic blood spatter technician for a homicide unit. His father who was a cop saw he was a psychopath from an early age. While raising him, he mentors and focuses his sons lack of empathy and interest in killing things towards the benefit of humanity by bringing bad criminals (molesters, murderers etc.) to justice who the legal system failed. The ones who got off on technicalities.
I have had to deal with psychopaths, they have no remorse, no empathy, no conscience at all, always right, takes no blame or responsibility for action, always someone's fault. Appreciate you highlighting the difference between the two personality disorder
Did biden take respobolity sbout the 6 kids he bombede in afgainstan . No he called it a succes . Like he did with the 80 billion he gave afganistan in war material . Only a maniac give atom deal to your enemy Iran . Open border who only benefit mexican cartels . Human trafikkers and drug dealer . How many americsn have died now from fentanol . Vice presidents cannot declass7fy dokuments like presidents can . And bring it home . Biden did And had it in a garage he rentet out to hunter . And now they got a lot of money ? From china and ukraine . For what ? He did not know about hunters business deal in china . But have office with hunter and the brother in china . Liar . You should have followed the burisma case in ukraine court . Then you would se how corupt the biden gang is . He said dont wote for trump he is a warmonger . But never startet a war . How many have biden startet 4 or 5 and now ww 3 . We all know something is wrong in the head of biden . He cannot hold a speach where people 7nderstands what he is saying . He do not know where he is and who his wife is . Why avoid a cognitive test. Only people who had something to hide need censur . Greating grandma denmark
Only US president in 30 years to NOT go to war with another nation is the psychopath ... I'm guessing you're from that wing that's "always right, takes no blame or responsibility for action"@@novelist99
One runs cold one runs hot. I personally belive in apathy, bleaching out emotions until you can't feel anything, nothing to shock you, nothing to hurt you. No anger, no joy, no grief just a state of flatline. Modern day undead.
I won't lie. I wondered over my childhood years, and to some extent, presently, pondering over why I couldn't physically empathize with others. The only times I ever learned to feel for others was through stories. I only realized something was wrong with me when something dangerous happened in my life and the first thing I wanted to do was to think 'well, at least I got something interesting to tell people now' rather than feel scarred by it. Or when I pushed someone off once as a kid thinking 'well, they didn't get hurt in the cartoon, so they'll be fine if I push them right?" I always wondered if I was either of the two after I first discovered the definitions of either of them. Rationally, I think it would explain a lot of things. Personally, I'm terrified at the thought of being a terrible person. Like, I'm part-ways image/reputation-driven, partly wanting to be able to just be normal, even though the back of my head demands that I should be more reputable. If it were not for the humbler beginnings of growing up, being under a strict household, I would have been twice the monster I think myself to be. Moments after the act, I'd realize I'm dominating the narrative; sometimes, I'd yearn to make people see things my way. I had to learn how to physically empathize rather than to feel for others, and that to me isn't normal. I don't even know what this is innate of me, but I question my sanity every time I can't feel for others physically, to the point where it doesn't feel real until I felt emotions. Sometimes I force myself to feel, knowing if I don't, I'd be seen as uncaring, making me more and more feeling disingenuous. I questioned what is genuine every time I can't feel the emotions. I wondered each time, if I'm faking it to make me look better. Is that a sociopathic trait? I really cannot tell. The worst part is the loneliness that come with this unfeelingness. Because I have no way of knowing if I'm ever going to be able to tell if my attachment to people are genuinely out of love or for my own selfish manipulation.
@@humblewonder3260 But that's the thing. I really don't know nor could I tell the difference if I am manipulative or not. Am I mirroring emotions to make myself feel more human? Or is this what manipulation looks like? I don't know. I have no one to confirm this for me. I never had anyone to tell me otherwise. None to the point, I wonder if that was because I made it look like I was normal. There's more fear in me at the thought of being a terrible person that pushed me to learn how to empathize. Is that sociopathic? Or psychopathic? I put this out there because I don't have people to confirm this with me. I didn't write this post to have others cry for me. I put this out because i wanted to confirm if I am either a psycho or not.
As a sociopath, I can say that this is a pretty accurate description of this condition. In my personal case, I can say that this does not affect my career in any way, on the contrary, to some extent it contributes to it. It can be very difficult for me to control my impulsiveness, although I have learned how to deal with it, a clear daily routine and discipline help a lot with this.
I myself am on both spectrums, swaying back and forth every now and then with a trigger I have not yet identified. However It usually doesn't get in the way, in fact, I often consider my mind to be an advantage in most cases. Though, I do have a problem connecting to people, they are too unpredictable. Even with the same person, one day they will change it up on you. It's because of this I find it better to help people rather than cause harm
@@Zane12ai I understand what you mean, but the fact is that I (and most with a similar condition) do not feel the emotional difference between helping and harming. I consider both actions to be interactions with other people, but nothing more.
In Benedict Cumberbatch's "Sherlock" TV series he describes himself as a "high-functioning sociopath." It sounds like you're pretty self-aware and in control of yourself.
@@edwardkennedy6443I don't understand. Are interactions not supposed to be transactional? Not being a smartass or anything, I've never really understood people. They've always been an unnecessary burden.
Several years ago I had a strange mindful awakening when I realized that I grew up around narcissists and this caused me to be blind to it and I had a lot of psychopaths around my entire life. I didn't realize that in my experience my society loves them. I used to think something was wrong with me because of my empathy and inability to do what they would.
I had a real sociopathic manager in my first office job. She went out of her way to gather information on people for blackmail or bad mouth them, she put people down and stepped on anyone to get promoted. She took on roles that weremt hers - like punishing people or ordering people around that weren't even in her work group. She was hated. She used fake charm to get you to open up pretending to be interested as your friend, then would subtely slip in a question so she could spread that information around. For example - what did you do at the weekend.. did you smoke weed or do any other drugs? (In a more subtle way than that) then tell everyone you're a junkie. The worst thing she ever did to me was tell me that I wouldn't lose any paid hours if I came in late (I had an important appointment I couldnt move) I was less than 90 mimutes late and nobody even noticed when I did come in, but she decoded to deduct the entire day from me anyway.
I had a sociopathic general manager once. I was running late to work and so the outfit I picked out wasn't the best. The gm who was visiting for the day zeroed in on my ugly shirt because I was new. The look she gave me was one of disgust, like "you're not dressed well enough to work here". To make up for it, I decided to just stay quiet/invisible and work hard all day. She didn't like that and throughout the day, would give me more and more work than anybody else, and reprimanded me that I wasn't working hard enough. (I got pulled into her office, my manager's office, and yelled at in front of my manager and the assistant manager, that I was being lazy all day) When really I worked 6 hrs straight without a break. And only went to the bathroom once. I later found out the sociopath gm told my manager I had been in the bathroom a half an hour playing on my phone (lie). I ended up 3 weeks later quitting because my manager said I could either quit or get fired. (my manager was bff's with the gm) I chose to quit because I wasn't there long enough for employment government assistance, and walked away.
@@specialtwice4975 Wow.. awful managers must be 75% the reason people quit good jobs. Its awful waking up and dreading going to work because of the people. not the work.
Funny how narcissistic socio-psychopathy in authority are so eager & quick to snap the bull-whip of company policies & use it against you, to teach you a lesson!!
@@avert_I am in a similar situation with a "friend"... We have known each other for close to 3 years now and at one point in time I would have called her my best friend. I invited her and her 7 children to my hometown for Thanksgiving, I often (3-4 times a week) found myself at her house helping her with children. I would pick her up and bring her and the babies back to my house or take them to the river to explore or take her to run errands. I found myself doing all of the work to "help" her solve her problems but as quickly as one would get fixed, 3 more arose from her lawlessness, recklessness and continuous waste of resources. My mind is highly neurotic so it's my natural inclination to keep an account of everything I do. Im an avid planner and keep track of things by using a detailed timeline. I truly tried to believe the audacious excuses that this person would make for being out of groceries, having a disgusting house EVERY time I came over, never having time to care for her children, not making her children go to school, etc... she would cause fights with her mate and older children. She is extremely pompous and debased in her belief systems. I have helped her move and find houses only for her to destroy them and leave thousands of dollars in damages in her wake. All while claiming to be a victim of domestic violence. In late winter, earlier this year, I confronted her on many topics. She made it almost impossible to corroborate her story with any one of substance. I was finally able to connect with her foster mother in person and her new boyfriend that was in prison. She gave him my # one evening in case she was arrested and someone would need to come rescue her babies. Making those connections helped me to understand so much that I suspected but was never able to confirm. Turns out she had been lying and saying that I was putting my name on her work for a research project I worked on from Aug. '23 - Nov. '23. She had been selling her snap benefits for half price to gamble on her phone. It is only legal in WV and impossible to do when she would come to VA with me. I was able to give her foster mother my contact info and within a few days she had lied about the whereabouts of her newly gifted Dell laptop. The foster mother called me and we were able to connect the dots on 2 dozen more lies and see the patterns clearly. Once I confronted her about her lies, her gambling, her blatant disregard for anyone else's time, energy, resources, feelings, trust etc. she blew up at me! She immediately twisted the story and made it all about me wanting to watch her fail. How I sabotaged her life and ruined everything she worked so hard for. By early spring we had severed all direct contact but kept an update on her babies thru our teenager's friendship. The debauchery got so bad that I had no choice but to contact CPS. Her children were not attending school, her babies were malnourished, and her home was worthy to be condemned. The straw that broke the camels back for me was when she created a fake email address using my name and business contact to solicite "free" childcare thru a local entity. Thankfully she is a horrible con l-artist and used the wrong date on the email. The director of the child care servicing center called me to have me resend the email with corrections. I immediately knew that I had not sent any such email and I was able to ask a few questions to affirm that I was being manipulated once more by this person. Discovering all of her tendencies and malicious motives was not difficult but she was very good at pretending to care about the things that mattered to me. She "mimicked" the social ques but with almost apparent disdain. I would absolutely describe her as a narcissist and a sociopath but I am not so certain that she isn't a full fledged psychopath as well! She has zero remorse or guilt. She is a pathological, compulsive, habitual liar. She has audacious goals and illicit behaviors. The amount of aliases she has had via cell phone numbers and email addresses in the 3 years time that I've known her tell me that she is good at avoiding the consequences because no one has time to connect all of the chaos and manipulation. There is soooo much more that didn't touch on because it would take me all day! The moral of the story is that I learned so much about Adverse Childhood Trauma, Type B Personality Disorders (Borderline, Histrionic, Narcissim etc.) and I was able to walk away without allowing anymore of my time and resources to be depleted! Her children were never taken and they continue to suffer daily under her care. The sad reality is that people like this only escalate when there is no accountability. Sadly, her children will grow up to be just like her, if not worse.
I have been suffering with a psychopath for decades now. Once they have you, they really have you and they are not going to let you go or leave you alone. They are hauntingly possessed beings and that is their attitude toward their prey, one becomes their possession, their property they can do as they wish. They are figuratively and literally what nightmares are made of, only differences is one can awaken from a nightmare one can not awaken from these monsters. Beware, be educated because no human being could wish to become enmeshed with these vicious predators.
If only I’d been told 50 years ago that psychopaths are attracted to the Law, I’d have been able to save myself a lot of pain! This explains a lot of what l experienced at the hands of many of my ‘colleagues’.
You never figured out on your own that poorly educated people with self-esteem issues who are given firearms and unqualified immunity are psychopaths? You never ever heard anybody use the term 'pig' when talking about cops???
@@totalbliss1Police officers are the number one group of psychopaths. The really bad ones are just Bullies with Uniforms. You will probably be okay if you don't argue or contend with police officers because psychos are always right. You also must remember to ask them for permission to disagree with them. "Don't you think that you are being just a little bit unreasonable?" Tell them that they are doing a fantastic job and you're good to go, possibly even without a ticket.
I’ve been diagnosed with BPD for 10 years now, and i’ve had 8 severe head injuries in my life, a couple with inter-cranial bleeding and swelling. the last one was in mid 2019 and really fucked me up. i had to relearn a lot of things, and one of the biggest problems was it threw my emotional control completely out of the windows and i was in psychosis for over a year after. i got my mind back piece by piece and at the end of it, i feel like my personality and emotional spectrum are much flatter. i used to have a destructively strong sense of empathy that i couldn’t turn off, now i have a switch i can’t always turn on. same with other emotions. i don’t hurt nearly as bad as i used to emotionally, but i’m never as happy and i feel more detached from others than ever. and while therapy definitely helped me get a lot of the impulsive behaviors and fear under control, now i’m left with over-control problems and rage. as much as i struggle with the things that have changed, honestly everything’s still better now. i’m accepting the journey more now than ever.
You're not alone, man. BPD can be an absolute bitch. It's like being the driver and backseat passenger at the same time. I'm a very caring person normally, but I was prone to psychotic/sociopathic episodes before I was diagnosed and treated. I still disconnect from reality occasionally, but it's nothing like it was.
I have dealt with both types. Psychopaths are often easier to deal with because if you are not in their way, or targeted by them they are just oddly calm and if you know what they are they are easy to distance from. A sociopath is chaotic and completely unpredictable.
@@Resident4Island Psychopaths are monsters that make even bigger monsters out of common (before the abuse) people. Creating a sociopath with bullying on school is one way to backfire for psychopaths when that kid comes back fueled to the bone with anger/revenge mindset and carrying guns. it is a cycle of complete destruction.
@@KaiserNightcoreMusic Extacly now you know why school shooting happen. It has nothing to do with gun's more to the fact what's going on in school's . When you spent 8 year's in school with monster's the damage to the brain can't be reverse. Worst still the teacher's didn't do anything about it i once was bullied in front of the teacher and she pretending nothing ever happen. That feeling of defenseless or powerless why they take their anger upon revenge.
I Own An Airbnb Off the Grid Campsite and Next to My Property Lives A Psychopath and His Cycle is Every 2 weeks He Acts out or Do something to Gain attention or Play His Music Up so Loud with Inappropriate Language 2 AM or 3 AM IN the Morning and sometimes between 7 AM and 9 AM with Childish Behaviors, MY Prayers goes out for People That have this Mindset, because they have a lot of Hurt and Hatred in their hearts, and SO Sad....
The thing that frightens me most is the fact that these things are not being taught, and murderers like Ted Bundy are idolised by people who don’t understand the truth…our society places more favour on looks and charisma than good behaviour. We need to get beyond the media cliches and stereotypes and learn about these conditions, and how to react in tricky situations with people we meet who show these traits, then we will live in a much safer world. I have a family member who is a highly functioning sociopath. They’re doing well, because it was diagnosed, and we learned how to understand them, and understanding is the key. Thank you for this!
pretty much all the people in positions of power would fall into one of these categories so that influences society deeply, including in regard to the teaching of these archetypes
@@MrWhitePerson absolutely. Which is even more concerning, and very much a reason for education. And self education is something I really encourage in my kids. We’re living alongside so many people who fall into these categories. We need to know how to be safe.
agreed 100%. instead of calculating hypotenuses, teach something we'll use in everyday life, like navigating manipulative behaviors. of course, i am personally convinced the educational system uses manipulation in its so-called "lessons" so i don't see it happening any time soon... but i pray it does.
Thanks for the video. I’m a retired Mental Health Therapist. I absolutely LOVED my chosen career. I did have to retire early on a medical after going blind. Though I haven’t worked since 08, I still try to keep up on my skills. Yes I still study from the DSM. I have a few friends who still practice as Counselors. I recently met a young man who has completed his intern and no longer has to be supervised by a PhD. He still asks me questions when he is unsure of how to counsel any one of his particular clients. I enjoy him “picking my brain”, as I too learn from him in his technique’s. I’ve subscribed to this podcast as I still want to keep my mind sharp. From time to time I still counsel others, but only as a non paid Counselor / Mentor.
I actually always thought that my ADHD was comorbid with psychopathy, since I feel little remorse when leaving my relationships in the cold, as I am distant even with closest friends, but then that is also a symptom of ADHD, where those who are not present simply "do not exist" to my brain. With this thorough explanation I have a much better understanding of the two, and also the fact that many of my "unemotional" situations are due to the extremely logic brain the ADHD gives me.
Being cold to ending relationships is not pyschopathy. Thats a defense mechanism. Now if you found actual joy in ending those relationships knowing you are causing pain, very different.
Yea it is hard when you are disassociating with ADHD to not feel like a psychopath because everyone else's emotional responses feels so distant from all the thoughts you are focusing on
@Laurel Much evidence supports nurture as largely causal in personality development in general, including sociopathy. Parental emotional neglect is extremely impactful on personality development, the earlier neglect and or abuse, the greater psychological harm.
I'm going to guess that this guy messed around with an INTJ personality and live to regret it. because he's describing an INTJ as a psychopath. There's a major difference between a psychopath and an INTJ personality But you cross a INTJ personality you will not like the outcome.
@@marlak4253 Blaming everything on the parents is so Gen Z. It’s the thing to do and say now. At some point humans need to take responsibility for their own emotions and mental disorders.
One of my professors describe two types of psychopaths those that get things done and those that do things. The group that gets things done includes your CEOs, entrepreneurs, etc. They have channel their psychological traits to a mostly positive direction. The group that do things are the ones who have channeled their psychological traits into a negative direction manipulating others in a devastating way. CEOs can also do this, but it is usually tempered within the realm of their aspirations at job advancement. The others manipulate you for a cup of water.
It is just like companies that have a standard "hire, use, fire" policy!! Forget it you will never get seniority & build yourself up because the highest ups are the only ones that will long-term benefit & they only want the 'most experienced workers'' to be hired!! Also they get high & a kick out of being ruthless & cruel to the common little-folk!! Also they can get angry in a jiffy like gasoline burning!!
Wow, that is super interesting about the link between brain injuries and sociopathy. My aunt has done some seriously messed up stuff to her own family, and I've always suspected that she is a sociopath. Someone threw a brick at her head when she was a kid, causing brain injury and epilepsy. Crazy.
I was diagnosed with aspd as a kid, made to go to counseling and anger management for a year but my counselor told me flat out I was a psychopath, not even conduct misbehavior, though this was the early 90s. But I know they were wrong. The entire reason I was in that place was because I was tired of being bullied for years and finally stood up for myself. Prior I didn't care because my home life was worse but I only realized it got worse and worse with time, they got too used to talking to me and treating me like shit and when it went to physical bullying I didn't snap per se, I just knew i needed to deal with it. I wasn't angry at all. I didn't resent them for it. It was purely practical. I got expelled from school and one of the kids mom's tried to sue me and my family. But in court when the truth came out I was reinstated into school and even though the judge told the kids mom she was lucky my family wasn't suing them instead he still forced me into counseling and anger management. Since I was a kid though the diagnosis didn't go on my record. In truth I nearly killed one kid. Fractured his skull and gave him several deep lacerations from banging his head into the concrete floor. In reality I'm a mix between autism, psychopathy, and sociopathy. I have traits from them all. I was born like this but my environment influenced me to prioritize myself. I dislike lying even if it's for good, because lies are easily uncovered down the road. It has nothing to do with guilt, because lying in the first place is ego oriented. Empathy and apathy. I have emotions and feel them like the next person does, I just don't let them influence my decisions. I try to think about things logically and rationally. I was also raised by my grandparents without a mother or father figure with all my cousins around because my grandparents was basically an orphanage for their grandkids. I was physically and sexually abused from a young age and mentally as well. Spoken about like the apple of someone's eye while in public but treated like a burden or a tool in private. Either way the difference between them is just the argument one was born and the other made. I wasn't born violent or hateful, but I did realize from an early age the contradictions and hypocrisy of human nature. I still don't consider myself violent or hateful either, truth is I don't care enough about anyone to hate them. Pure and simple. Emotions make you weak and easy to control. Slaves to our whims. Most consider me sneaky, creepy, too judgemental or an asshole because "you have too high of standards!" In reality I don't, you just have no standards at all. People are tedious and liars, lying to themselves the most out of anyone. All we care about is ourselves. How we appear in others eyes. Believing our own narratives regardless of what reality is showing. We have higher expectations on others than we do for ourselves. We fault others for not being knowledgeable enough, for not having foresight, awareness, dedication, and even in some cases fault them for not being psychic. But where's that same level of self expectations? Why are we so quick to judge and to try and label others but immediately get pissed when it happens to us? It's unfair, isnt it? The lengths we will go to to lie to ourselves are the real mental illness. We are just a product, both in the sense that we are made by our surroundings and societal expectations but also because we market ourselves to make a living. At least, we are supposed to. Humanity is a resource and has always been. So we delude ourselves into convincing ourselves we are different or unique. Have the superior genetics or traits, are the originals while everyone else is just fake. And we distract ourselves in anyway we can to avoid acknowledging that life is cruel and unfair, because we all eventually realize it's better off happening to someone else instead of me personally. Another lie, the copium isn't based on sense. It was always emotions that have shackled us, and always another person like us holding the leash and using that as a tool for their own gain. It's easier to believe our own narratives instead of stopping and taking in the truth of our reality. Escapism is the only way life becomes pleasurable.
Damn there's a lot there man, best of luck to you and I hope you find fulfillment and happiness someday. While you didn't ask, you do sound more sociopathic than psychopathic to me from your various takes on life.
@@lukenawrocki5042 I romanticize violence as much as the next person, think it's admirable if it's done for a just cause. The issue is I know anything can seem just with the right circumstances. But really no matter how you justify it violence is still violence. In an ideal world there would be no need for it, but ideals are just as romanticized and further a product of society. Ignoring all the death, murder, violence in nature only leaves one blinded. I think what I did that day was a moment of weakness, but a necessary one, because despite years of bullying, it stopped once I responded in kind with more force. Same with the abuse I was suffering at home. The only way you get people to stop abusing you and to leave you alone is you scare them with threat of death, and make sure they know it isn't some idle threat. They might laugh about it at first but I've learned if you can't even respect yourself, no one else will. Though I think I'm a bit of both, a psychopath and sociopath.. I truly was born feeling detached from my emotions. It's allowed me a certain level of clarity from a young age that I don't think most experience at first. I could go into more detail but I think this is already dark enough subject wise... No need to scar people online. I do think I was born with a critical eye, I just never made efforts to communicate with others because I felt like it was pointless. I didn't have the love of parents growing up and I know it had a large part in me shutting down emotionally, plus with little to no self esteem or self value, I never felt like i could make a difference in anyone else's life because I already realized the little contradictions within us all was just hypocrisy and ignorance, but even trying to tell someone this does nothing but make them angry with you. No one likes a person who points out their flaws, apparently, because they feel like they are being judged and labelled and take it like you are pretending to be better than them. In reality it's because I can relate and empathize with them that I'm able to see it.. still, my life just further desensitized me and made me cynical, distraught even, depressed with the grim outlook that is our shared existence. A nihilist and pessimist through and through. But not without reason. Honestly, happiness is impossible for me. I'm better off alone and immersing myself in work or something else that keeps my mind distracted from the trauma that is my memories. I don't resent it, though I, like everyone else probably would, would like to go back and change things if given the chance, but the reality is I've been suicidal since I was 12 years old and in the 21 years since then nothing has changed. I got older, uglier, a little more seasoned with greys and experience, but I've come to terms with the gaping wound within me. Nothing can fulfill it. I'm okay with that, because unlike most I don't need others to make me feel validated. I want love and acceptance as much as the next person, I just can't sell my dignity to get it. And unfortunately that's always the price I've been asked to pay. I thought one day I might love myself and then find true love and be happy, but it's a pipe dream. Nothing I do will ever be good enough. They say a person is shaped by nature and nurture, but what happens when nature always oppresses them and nurture was never an option? Cringey, I know, pathetic even. I bet I sound like a spoiled brat who's ungrateful for my squandered opportunities in life. A good foot in the ass and a push in the right direction and I would've turned out fine, no? 😂 Sadly no one has ever cared about me enough to see me as anything other than an object or a tool for their own ends. No platform to launch from, just the punching bag for layers of toxic relationships that don't even give the typical benefits. Don't sweat it though, I long for the release of the void because I know then I will be free and happy. From my experiences, life after death will be a nightmare. My happiness lies in my misanthropy. I just find it a little weird how I check 90% of all these boxes but never fully fit into one of them? Aside from psychopathy and sociopathy, nihilism is the belief nothing matters and is all pointless, with an general distaste for life and its rules itself. I do think it's pointless but insofar as I know we have to be the ones to assign its value. Same with misanthropy, an loner who secludes him or herself because they hate the world and people around them. Except, I don't hate anyone. Not even myself anymore. I just don't have that energy inside of me. The rest fits but I truly don't hate people unless you give me a reason to, and even then I dislike it because hating someone insinuates you care somewhat about them. Or did at one point. I don't have that in me either. I'm just broken, really. And I know it. I don't even want to fix it, wouldn't know where to start even if I wanted to try. Because what my issue is is a lot more deep-seated than ego or resentment. I appreciate the sentiment though, but I suppose I'm as happy as I'm ever going to be. I've been waiting for my life to start in a sense but I've only wasted it. I've needed a reason, something to motivate me to want to be better but no matter what happens or comes my way, I just want to shut down and forget it. Because I fully realize now that all the shit people in my life weren't just coincidence. I'm as much at fault as the next person is for my inability to show my emotions. The thing is everytime I've done so in the past, let my emotions take over and dictate my actions, i see myself becoming the thing I always told myself I would never be. Vindictive, jealous, egotistical, vain, cynical, and judgemental. I see my humanity and I'm disgusted by it. I wish I could be different, unique, or special, but I'm not different than anyone else. Aside from maybe being a little more self aware than typical. I'm genuinely scared of who I might be if I allow myself to be happy and motivated. If I had money and respect I would just abuse it and corrupt it. I know me all too well, my character and inner demons. I would be no different than those already in power and control, because unlike most, I know the monsters and evil exists within us all, aren't some separate and alien entities. Either way I'm done rambling and ranting. I appreciate your thoughts and wishes but you're better off saving them for someone who can actually make use of them. I'm beyond redemption, I've already made my bed. Now I just want to lay in it.
I’ve dealt with both. Avoid psyhopaths at all cost. Feeling sympathy is something they know you’re doing and will take advantage of you. It’s hard but the only way to deal with either of these is to cut your emotions off from them completely which means some what becoming one. It’s better to do this than have them change you into one of them from too many interactions.
Not all psychopaths are malicious, don't generalize a mental disorder just because they wouldn't feel bad about ending your life doesn't mean they necessarily want to cause you harm they don't have the same type of emotions as you
I believe the statistic is about 1 in 10 men with women being understudied per usual but most people with ASPD are functional in society and barely noticeable to the untrained/inexperienced. This just to back up the claim of @dommysprite3771
Keep in mind that the DSM 5 (Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders) written by the American Psychiatric Association does NOT ever mention the term psychopath or sociopath. Any individual seeking insurance reimbursement for mental health treatment in the US must be diagnosed by a mental health professional with one or more diagnoses from this manual. Another words, psychopath and sociopath are laymen's terms and not official diagnoses of the APA. So dictionaries may define them differently, but the psychiatric community does not use or define such terms.
@@monicadaniels784 Probably the closest would be Antisocial personality disorder. That is the one trump has along with also trump having a narcissistic personality disorder. Just sayin'.
@@billythekid1949 Thanks, yes he is the one I had in mind as I looked at this video. Definitely narcissistic, but he also has qualities of what I was using in the term sociopath. In uninformed society, me included, when one uses 'anti social,' it makes one think of someone who shies' away from people. He doesn't, but he definitely seems incapable of empathy.
My young cousin, though not formally diagnosed, exhibits behaviors that cause us concern. We feel uncomfortable and unsafe around him. This isn’t his fault. His parents neglected him at a young age, leaving him alone at 8 or 9 years old. His father also physically and verbally abused him, despite their religious claims. Out of compassion, my sister-in-law offered him a job at her restaurant. However, she noticed some troubling behaviors. He was indifferent to helping coworkers and, more alarmingly, attempted to SA a colleague, leading to his dismissal. Now, at 23, he's withdrawn and rarely leaves home. We've expressed our concerns to his parents, but they've dismissed our worries and assured us they’ll handle the situation. Yet, we fear that nothing is being done.
At 70, I've met quite a few people during my lifetime and hearing these traits, I'm almost certain I've encountered more than one of these people. Even without knowing these symtoms, I've almost always instinctively made a point of steering clear of these people. It's interesting to note that many have been successful in their careers (doctors and lawyers!), unfortunately, many times at the expense of others, who they find expendable.
I have a sibling we believe has a severe personality disorder. As a youngster, the joke was that she cried "crocodile tears". Little did we know at the time, that her later publicly expressed emotions as an adult were also just a ruse. Destroyed our family by way of lies, conceit, and taking over assets on the sly.
or you and your family destroyed her/him by treating her/him as a pathological lier and a ''mentaly ill'' person the fact that sociopathy and psychopathy exist doesnt mean IN FACT that they have those symptoms most times YOU and everyone else tend to bring the worst in others and make assumption on their mental health i talk out of experience , i have been diagnosed with three different mental illnesses assuming i am a sociopath with ''anger issues'' cause they felt i am the problem for being myself or the problem is the humans that have ''power'' in their hands and yet THEY (most likely YOU) dicide that we really do became sociopaths or even are psycopath because you are afraid what you cannot understand and what you cannot understand you seek to destroy it .... talk about mental problems... although your actions based on your history brought chaos in our lives because YOU couldnt handle us the way we handle YOU those ''crocodile tears'' have you ever thought that YOUR inabiliety to act like a human being cut off someone elses chances to feel like a proper human being that the impact of your actions made us who we are or does your ego flows above all and everything that you cant admitt the truth . We are more sane and normal that you could ever be in all of your life time she/ he didnt destroyed your family ...there wasnt any family to begin with i bet you and your parents for sure treated her/him and even psycologicly declare a war over her/his inabiliety to lets say feel sane feel like she/him belongs somewhere and even feel accepted by her/his OWN family but oh well humanity never ceast to surprise me you are full of lies and pretensious moves over the weak ones making your ego shine through time and space because you cant handle the truth and the actions of us because our pinky is more capable of understanding the whole existance of this world rather by caring for your unworthy wannabe attraction to reality so you can live your life as A) it was dreamed by you and B) because someone planted that idea in your little puny brain of yours. YOU and your kind disgust me .PERIOD
@@prettydraw1757 You seem to (claim to) know a remarkable amount about a family and people you have no direct experience with. It is beyond arrogant to think you know anything at all with certainty that contradicts the bona fide facts stated by @MrDibbons. Frankly your comment says far more about you than it casts any doubt on his offhanded remark. The "us" vs "them" mentality (which is your characterisation and your choice) from your rant speaks volumes. Just some food for thought from a third party observer that has no axe to grind. May you be happy and well.
My stupid PR babysitter who helped raise me would always claim I was crying crocodile tears. I was really just a sensitive kid that would cry if sock seams rubbed in between my toe nails or if my nails were cut down past the hyponychium. I was not allowed to show anger or cry as a kid so now when I'm angry, which is a lot, it's either dulled or it comes out as tears. And man, the temper tantrums I had as a kid... They were so bad I gave my mom a black eye, lol.
I grew up in a "transitional" inner-city neighborhood. Many enriching experiences, but also developed a good sense of danger. There have been a few instances over the many years when I picked up .... vibes?... from a stranger. Being an inner-city kid I dealt with all sorts of people. I recognized the "dead" eyes and odd facial and body movements as dangerous. Cross the street, retrace my steps... and run... to a safe place, never ever ignore my gut instincts. I have had those experiences only a few times, (thank god) but quickly assessing the situation and acting on it is part of my DNA. That's why it is important to teach children how to judge others, especially adults, and the signs of danger. I used to tell my son if ... god forbid... we got separated in a store or mall, go to a mother with children or a store clerk for help. Fortunately that never happened, but children need to know what to do in challenging situations.
Im so glad to honestly say neither of these are definding me, i was almost convinced that i was 50 % psychopath, 30% socialpath and 20% normal , which is good to know , , now i need to find out what am i
*_Some of us do not have Netflix nor have even heard of Tommy. A very long time was spent describing psychopaths and about a fifth of the time describing sociopaths. Why? While we are supposed to be learning the difference between the two, they are not actually compared. A huge big long list of the traits of psychopaths is followed by a list describing sociopaths and we are expected to remember what was said about psychopaths instead of comparing and contrasting traits between the two one at a time. In other words, I did not learn the distinction._*
I lived in that same apartment with a psychopath. I always knew there was something off about that guy but I could never out my finger on it. Watching this video, it hit every point about him. One way other to identify them is by the darkness and emptiness in their eyes even when they're being "friendly".
I was married to a psychopath. He had every trait. No remorse, no empathy, violent, pathological liar, repeated criminal activity, unfaithful. He was fearless and didn't care if he was risking anyone's life. He was cold and never showed any affection, never apologize for his bad behavior. After five months, I left him. I had to sneak away and run to another state so he couldn't find me. It was terrifying to say the least. A nightmare!
When I was a child I went through many traumatizing events. From seeing death first hand to physical, mental, and emotional abuse by my mother, sister and other peers. I grew up cold because of this. I didn't like people touching me and most people described me as cold and standoffish. I didn't like being around people, and I didn't care to make conversation that would just lead me to pretending to care about what was happening in their lives As I grew older, into my teens, I was constantly angry, or as professionals would later describe it 'quick to anger'. I first became aggressive towards my sister as a way to defend myself, but later, I actually enjoyed it. I became depressed at a certain point and tried to take my life on quite a few occasions. I was diagnosed with bipolar disorder, anxiety, depression and Sld (a type of memory loss). After a while, I made some friends, but it felt off somehow? I was never able to keep a stable job due to my indifference. I've been in therapy since I was a kid and had been taking medications for said diagnosis. They made everything worse. I told my therapist as much, and she just insisted I give it time even after a year. I lashed out more and kept to myself to keep others safe, not liking who I was around them. I finally decided to speak to a specialist to figure out why I am the way I am. Turns out I am, in fact, a sociopath. I am now seeing a specialist regularly and am on the PROPER medication. I have never been happier in my life. I'm able to be around people and not feel any annoyance. I am able to feel regret, sympathy, empathy. I am able to manage my emotions in ways I never thought possible. I feel like a weight has been lifted. I have no interest in harming anyone or myself. I am able to understand actions and consequences as well, as this was something I used to really struggle with. I do sometimes wonder if I'll ever feel that deep connection, though. The one where you look at your loving parents and feel that emotional link or two people who feel like they have come together as one, or your child and feel that connection in your chest (soul). Some have desribed it as a ball of light, or happiness. Of true bonding. That's something I don't feel still. Somedays, I hate that I am me just for that. It's rather lonely sometimes. But before, I was always so confused by my own self, and now I know.
It’s interesting how a short video like this could help me understand my family members and the people I was friends with as a child and a teen. Psychopaths and sociopaths are among us through our lives and our every day experiences.
It’s frustrating how closely the different types of personality disorders come together. I got reminded of borderline personality, antisocial personality, narcissistic traits etc I couldn’t imagine being a psychiatrist having to decide what exactly a person is
I was DXd with BPD last year by a psychiatrist the first time she met me. But through my own research, I am so all for the cluster B spectrum that I genuinely can’t tell which of the 4 I have or if I am comorbid with any of the 4, most likely NPD/ASPD imo. I’ve been DXd with psychosis, bipolar I, BPD, ADHD, anxiety and PTSD. I don’t know what the fuck is wrong with me and no doctor can give me the same DX because they all get a different version of me or they think I’m overreacting or exaggerating when I’m actually trying to be honest about what I’m like. I don’t know what I am and it actually eats at me all the time to the point that I have to NOT think about it bc I will obsess and that’s part of the reason I went to a hospital last year bc I couldn’t stop obsessing about it. It’s confusing for the doctors and it’s a living nightmare for us.
@@Fmradio803 No you definitely bpd, based on how much you whine and make yourself out to be a victim, its not npd cause in your spiel about how hard your life is you didn't blame anyone else for it a narc would. Honestly you should probably just kiss yourself people with bpd are horrible creatures and leave destruction in their wake. And you literally sound insane.
@Fmradio803 it's not possible to be diagnosed with a personality disorder after just one session with a psychiatrist, it requires multiple sessions. further, there's a difference between having a full blown personality disorder versus just traits thereof. almost all people have some traits of BPD to some degree. it is massively overdiagnosed in women, especially women who were sexually abused at a very young age as well as autistic women (meltdowns caused by sensory overload mistaken for intense emotional dysregulation). I would get a second opinion.
@@theangryquad3127 I actually think most of these movements are spearheaded by vile psychopaths who have recruited a wide variety of personality disordered people to their cause. Mostly narcissists and borderlines who are either personally invested or are caught up believing they are doing something meaningful with their pain.
Sadly, I fear my mother may be a psychopath. Though she doesn't laugh at murder or feel at ease watching it, she has always had an inappropriate way of giggling out of nowhere when I've cried or tried to confide something emotionally difficult. She's even done it in talk therapy and made the therapist ask why she did it and she always says she didn't laugh. I've always wondered what it was. She's lies a lot and they're dumb lies too. I've often told her, it's like she doesn't seem to be complete until she's lied at some point in the day. She hits almost every mark on this but maybe one, even down to the shallow relationship part. It is all there.
I had to leave my family completely alone. My mother my brother and every kid my brother has their psychopaths. Mean and cruel and sneaky. There's no cure for them just get away for your own personal safety. And of course our mental health
A little bit of knowledge can be dangerous... When you share your problems and your mom smiles or even chuckles, she might just be uncomfortable and doesn’t know what to say or do. The smile isn’t one of happiness, it’s one of confusion. She might be a pathological liar, but hold on with diagnosing her as a psychopath!
@C B honest to God I don't know how they do it. My father stuck with her even though she had an affair with another man and had my brother. Also she was full of ridicule and violence towards me just like your mom. To this day I can't do anything right. To this day every time my brother does something wrong it's because of me and my bad attitude. I've been the one holding him back for 60 years
I was a management assistant for 10 years during my working life. Met quite a few psychopaths that masqueraded as caring CEO's, whilst making the most ruthless decisions without blinking. That is the reason I quit my last job. Just could not bear being around those sorts of people.
Yeah, these types love to fire & hire!! I remember various jobs in my youth of companies that did such proceedures!! They also want only highly experienced workers. "experienced only need to apply" & "profit, profit, profit", only the bottom-line figures matters!! Using the business as a menas of "get rich quick & retire early"!! All crooked bosses are at least narcissists if not worse!! They did not care that I was trying to get experience, go somewhere else & get your experience there, sorry not here!!
I once called my ex a psychopath when he was raging at me, unwarranted and out of no where. (This was before I figured out he was a narcissist.) And after I said that to him he said “I’m not a psychopath, I’m a sociopath and I’m smart enough to know the difference.” I will never forget that.
My father is a narcissistic sociopath (clinicly diagnosed). Its a very difficult thing to deal with as a kid. At home a monster, to the rest of the world a saint. They find it easy to justify the abuse they cause, and refuse to take responsibility for the things they do to the people i lm their lives no matter what. EVERYTHING they do, even for other people, is for themselves. When it does come to them admitting their wrongs the do it in a way that they dont fully admit any wrong. The most frustrating thing is that in their work life they will fool everyone into believing they are good hearted people, while those in his family see a totally different person and feel disdain when people compliment them as a "good person". Luckily m father was able to make aome changes, but i can still see the lingerring affect of his sociopathy. If t was ever told to me that my father was a serial killer, I would not be the least bit surprised. At times, I expected it.
Dr.les Carter is my life line to cope with a narcissist. I recommend him because he is the best. Sorry to read your situation, I understand it and know how difficult it is to have a narcissist in the family.
I understand your pain, my father was diagnosed as a sadistic psychopath and my mother as a narcisistic borderline... Especially those who aren't aware that there is something wrong with them will hurt beyond believe... But still a person isn't a disorder there is a free will... Sorry you experienced so much pain 🌺
The last video I watched was about social effects of capitalism and I mentioned that it relies on apology gifts. This is that too. The normal some fools want to get back to makes people that way. I really am the person with ten years of college, living in a van down by the river. Y'all are nucking futz.
I think you got the conscience part back to front. I believe it's psychopaths who are more socially intelligent and aware; but just don't care; why sociopaths are generally less aware of how their actions influence others.
This is false, not being every connected emotionally it's difficult to grasp any emotions to their fullest, this has caused me to seek a path of pure logic and reason. Which of course has lead me to being even less emotionally connected, as now instead of going "hey this thing made people upset" I think "hey, *why* did this make people upset?" I only view the illogical errors in I'd thought process, and view the concept of respect as required to an extent, but vastly taken to overkill by the majority of the population.
I struggle with being empathetic, I know a lot of people do, but I am pretty blunt to people because my entire year level and generation is a shit heap, they always ask how I am in a sarcastic voice, when I tell them to go away they act like I’m being mean for no reason. I’m virtually a social exile in my grade, not even kidding, have been since year 3 and it bloody shows when they have to sit next to me while we listen for what we have to do in PE, I’m not overly weird, not unsporty, only slightly nerdy because I know how to listen. God humanity is done for, whether I’m a sociopath or not.
Important to remember some sociopaths like me also learn to hide their issues and are more ticking time bombs. In cases like that they become even harder to distinguish, really the biggest difference is nature and nurture.
@@GymRowboat Correct. Also sociopaths are capable of feeling empathy, but only to those they have strong bonds with. Though I have heard of psychopaths having 'favorites', not the same thing they don't empathize by nature but they can like people. It is complicated, but important. Sociopathy can be treated psychopathy really can't be.
@@deplorabledegenerate2630 Many thanks. The favorites is something I noticed too. Yes, it's complicated. Humanity is more difficult to troubleshoot than the electronics I'm used to but it's starting to make sense. Spotting my own faults is humbling. 🤪
You should add that all the symptoms you describe are experienced by many people in a normal daily life but Psychopaths and sociopaths experience very exacerbated version of those. Too many people start to believe they suffer from a mental illness because of normal brain behavior related to a way of living, or life events, rather than to a physiological disfunction. We all experience various degree of mental illnesses, but we are considered ill when these have an uncontrollable impact on our life and the life of people around us
ASPD is a spectrum BUT it works a little different than for example Autism, according to some studies an average person is in about 30% a Psychopath, to these 30% you can put a wanting a good career, egoism at some point, micromanagement or manipulation BUT unconscious such as "if you don't wash the dishes you won't get pocket money for 2 months" etc In ASPD these traits are escalated Also another thing, Psychopaths are more like imposters, they care A LOT about how they appear to other people manipulating their way out of troubles, they're more incognito but outstanding Sociopaths however don't pay attention to social image, they're just different and couldn't care less, they live by their own rules and make it obvious, they don't really pretend to be sane and stable, Sociopaths are menace to society and everyone knows it (Psychopath are also menace depending on their sadism and narcissism level, if they're highly sadistic and narcissistic, they're serial killers, lower levels of these make them more useful to society)
Psychedelic's definitely have potential to deal with mental health symptoms like anxiety and depression, I would like to try them again but it's just so hard to source here.
I have researched and found out that shrooms are very helpful , it has really helps to reduce anxiety and depression . I would love to try magic mushrooms but I can't easily get some , Is there any realiable source I can purchase one
The Trips I've been having have really helped me a lot,I finally feel in control of my emotions and my future and things that used to be mundane to me now seem incredible and full of nuance on top of that I'm way less driven by my ego and I have alot more empathy as well
@@fernandolopez5817 I was having this constant, unbearable anxiety because of university stress. Not until I came across Sporeville , a very intelligent mycologist. He saved my life honestly
I have to deal with a sociopath every single day. Every time I wake up and look in the mirror, in fact. It's actually really difficult to not revert back to problematic ways of thinking. Especially when you see them as having been beneficial for you in the past. I survived incarceration very well. Then again, I wouldn't have been incarcerated had I not engaged in the behavior that I did.... it's a jumble, really.
I have Borderline personality disorder, and I fall into the sociopath category. I've known this for some time after carefully evaluating myself... I think violent things, and evil plots, but never have acted on any of them...I just realize the thoughts, and allow them to pass. All of my brutal violence has been impulsive with no true motive behind them other than the release of rage. I'm not a stupid person by any means of the phrase, and I'm very good at any job I get... I do tend to choose jobs like dishwasher, or anything outta sight that will allow me to deal with ppl the least (even tho I'm quite the social butterfly). I have NEVER maintained consistent employment, and even when I'm able to gain some semblance of it; my work is varied, and differentiates widely. I have a fascination with serial killers, but I can't look at, hear, or be around extreme violence (watching on TV, hearing stories, etc) without it pushing what's called "intrusive thoughts" into my mind. The fascination with them has always been WHY they do it where I'm just aware of the ideas within myself. I'm also intrigued by their intelligence, as I've always excelled academically. A natural attention and interest in human behavior is what I know I have in common with them, but I'm well aware that we are not the same; me and psychopaths. Shout out to whoever made this video. Good shit, and way better than the armchair psychology most do now. I don't feel like enough is said about the intellectual capacities of both socio, and psychopaths; their interest in the psychological responses of people, or their ability to use the findings of said interest to cold read potential victims. I'm rambling tho. Thanks for the video again.
I think you have a wild imagination. You don't hold jobs, because you are not interested. Be a crime novels writer, that may be you calling. With time you might also write other types of novels. I don't like crime novels myself.
The more times someone goes impulsive with no true motive behind actions other than the release of rage, the more their brain ends up becoming wired in a sociopathic way. The more times someone lets their thoughts pass by like birds chirping or the wind blowing, the more the brain will rewire itself to be able to control one's reactions. We are what we consume. This is why meditation works.
@@zekihasan-yg9xv sry man but u just don't understand what goes on in our minds. I have borderline too and im a lot like him, especiaally the employement thing - it is extremely consistent amongst our type and believe me "I think you just have a wild imaginition" while a guy is trying to list out the way in which is mental illnesses effects him is pretty fucking cruel tbh. We've already been denied a normal mind by our own childhoods and genetics and now the rest of society wants to deny us the ability to put a name to our disorder when we do it? Now it's just a "wild imagination" Lemme ask you: Does Amber Heard ( johnny depp's abusive ex) have a "wild imagination" is that what produced all of her insane behavior? cus a whole fuckton of psychologists identify that series of behaviors that caused her to ruin her life in regular ass people like us too. It explains a lot. She's EXACTLY like me. Exactly like us. I'd argue i'm a lot worse tho - and it is not because of a wild imagination. This man is barely scratching the surface of the horrors our rages unleash. But it's not really super treatable. Even as I'm typing to you right now i'm struggling to control my anger at how fucking insolent and ignorant some of you humans are... We get bored very easily and will straight up quit goals / jobs etc. We'd rather die than do whatever it is that you want us to do. We will fight, physically, tooth and nail against you and it doesn't matter who you are or your position of authority in the many hierarchies of mankind... its like our brains just didn't care to begin with, then obviously we're forced by society to participate in it regardless... and invariably we get bored and depressed to the point where we either just quit or like me and the last job i had to work : try and kill yourself. But actually Sincerely try this time. tbh i'd put the whole lot of us to death now that i think about it. Cluster B personality disorders are like 95%+ of all serial killers, all mass shooters etc. imo we're pure evil, berserker warriors without a war and withotu a country that wants us as warriors. :/ Hell it's unethicaly for me to ever even have children. I've discussed that a lot with doctors. I want kids naturally as im about that age but .... i don't want to bring something into the world only to hurt it eventually in anger I can't control. Not to mention whatever partner agrees to that fate lmao
My favorite bit of this Video is when at the end i realized (or rather it was confirmed), that even though i share most of the traits of both groups, i am something altogether different.
Bc this video was straight garbage. So generic with no in depth explanations. It's done this way for the clicks and views. I learned nothing from this video.
This helped me to understand that the man I married (stayed married for 20 years) was both a psychopath & a sociopath. Could never work out exactly what he was. This opened my eyes to how much danger he was to me. Yes, I divorced him, but I still have the effects of that behaviour to this day. I still have ongoing intermittent therapy. He was extremely violent, but the emotional and mental is what I'm still dealing with.
We endured over 35 yrs of a violent, manipulative creature, moved 6 times, two stints in refuges, but he always said "It doesn't matter where you go, I'll find you, I'll get you and I'll kill you". "I'll smash your f'ing head in and cut your f'ing throat" was also popular". There were others.The creature died last year and I was so relieved, but it doesn't make up for the traumatic years and years of cruel behaviour. All that time, wasted on just trying to get on and have a decent life, that's what gets to me. If only....It's gets me down sometimes, but I try and just get on with things. I do wonder sometimes as to the point of it all. On the upside, I find i notice a lot of things about people's body language and demeanour and recognise certain traits which I find useful when dealing with people. Hope your situation gets better with time, we hope. Good luck.
You can’t be both. You’re incredibly uninformed. You’re another overly emotional unintelligent female claiming that her cheating ex was totally a psychopath. Two thoughts occur when I see comments like this. 1. I don’t fucking care 2. You’re an idiot who has no clue what they’re talking about, you’re so unintelligent it’s almost cringeworthy.
I'm reminded of something said by one of my professors years ago that always stuck with me. "A psychopath will kill you for your wallet, and feel no remorse. A sociopath will steal your wallet, and then help you look for it."
I’m definitely the second 🤣
That true I stole money from my boss cuz people always stole from me but wind up feeling bad and paying him back extra and telling him i stole his money he's a nice guy but I just hate people steal from me and don't even care and do what I did take accountability
Poo poop
as someone who has been diagnosed with Antisocial Personality Disorder (and meets almost all of the criteria for psychopathy - scored a 34 / 40 on the PCL-R), i'd definitely choose pickpocketing / swiping from a purse (and not saying anything) over violent robbery lol
but i would feel absolutely no guilt or remorse, so i still fall into the former.
@@mrskulllockHow do people always steal from you? Have you tried doing something?
You told us how to identify a psychopath and a sociopath, but you didn't tell us how to identify a careerpath.
Ah haha
Booooooo
And a cycle path
I’m 20 and stuck on what to do with my life it’s rough out here life ain’t sad glamorous as we were told as a kid 💀
Haha 😂😂😂😂
I always keep the difference clear by remembering:
* A psychopath will lie to you about anything and pretend they care.
* A sociopath will not usually lie and make it very clear that they don't care.
Not really I've done both and I'm not any of them. All these studies are complete bullshit as they all assume we as humans have to live by some code of conduct which we write in to law so that we can control our natural argues. As a result we all get judged by those standards, which we all just copy of one another. But deep down their ain't no standards.
A Psychopath and A Sociopath is kind of the same they also have the Same type of mental behavior
A psychopath does actually care. A sociopath does not. A sociopath lies and is very vindictive, absolutely no feeling.
Psychopaths target a type of people, Sociopaths target a type of society. So to Psychopaths a lie to people doesn't matter as long as a behavior they want is reached. Sociopaths care only by the type of society so lying is precious. To use it timely and wisely is how their lies impact people more. Yet the key part of this is that to be a Psychopath or Sociopath is consistency. Everyone has psychotic or social episodes. Yet if the entirety of their story is like that example a genre then be forewarned
@@officiallylauralegendary No. Psychopaths lack empathy but are masters of manipulation by acting like they care, or acting out any feeling that will manipulate others. Sociopaths have a limited range of emotions but what they feel is sincere.
Here’s how I differentiate the two:
-A sociopath *doesn’t* care.
-A psychopath *can’t* care.
Perfect
This is an oversimplification, the video is an oversimplification. It's a spectrum on brain architecture. Some feel less emotion but don't ignore what is there. Many even follow a strict moral code guided by logical laws. Psychopaths often do care alot
The reason why this os wrong is because the majority of psychopaths studied are from criminal institutions. The ones who are trying to find balance and do good by defining the world logically aren't often studied
@@imhere49 Ironically enough, no one cares, my guy.
Neither of them are the kind of people you really want in your friend circle or aspire to be like. So except on the basis of being anal about scientific accuracy, who really cares all that much?
@Kalashee because they are high functioning and the reason society even made it this far as a civilization. You may not want them as friends but they are better friends than you'd know. In fact, I wouldn't doubt if you have a good friend that is one and you just don't know.
I had a psychology class back in my school days taught by a person who had a doctorate in psychology. He said the difference in simplest terms was that a sociopath can't differentiate between right and wrong because they think its all just point of view, and in their minds they can rationalize anything they do as to why it was the right thing. A psycho path just doesn't care about right or wrong.
That's very helpful... 👍
I am certain that you have explained this for those who didn't quite get the video or they haven't had to deal with a close family member when they were the child, thank the stars ✨. I feel like this is actually right on. Even compared to my college courses and the textbook descriptions However this was in 1983 and 1984. many 🌙 moons ago
That's very succinct. And it strikes me that the character of Walter White in Breaking Bad, though he can be very strategic, is most likely an impulsive sociopath. He feels empathy and emotions, and is deeply conflicted, but is also highly antisocial and acts on sudden and overwhelmingly powerful emotions regularly.
Given that there's no such thing as a psychopath in psychology, that seems highly unlikely.
I had a similar explanation years ago from a Psychology tutor
It’s a little scary knowing that psychopaths are drawn to jobs that keep us safe.
ASPD is a spectrum. We all have it in us to be one. But the degree varies
Smart psychos become lawyers and CEO dumb ones become cops lol three jobs that all involve basically doing things no normal human being could justify in their minds
As the video said psychopaths are expert manipulators; lairs too. It's about power to them. The thrill of it in wielding it for their own selfish ambitions. The power and authority to arrest people--who would dare challenge them? The power and honor to save them, specially through means of surgery. And the power and lucrativeness in knowing the law to set people's very fate and freedom in their hands. CEOs are indeed sought after because by their callous indifference they can easily make those corporate cut throat decisions that many, if not most of us, would aguishly to make, specially when it comes to profits/corporate interest vs people's lives & jobs. Still, it IS unnerving. I feel you.
That's in 'How To Spot A Psychopath 101', taught in community colleges, but should have been taught to you by your parents.
Police ?????
The best explanation ive heard as to why some (most?) people with psychopathic traits never become 'dangerous' (i.e., serial killers) is that genetics loads the gun but the environment pulls the trigger.
As reported in the Niagara Falls Reporter in 2012 - "Mass Shooters are often on Psychiatric Drugs, but this is rarely reported in the Media." Also in 2012, Psychiatrist Allen Francis stated on T.V.: "Psy Drugs cause mass shootings!" Francis was the top player in putting together DSM-4 - since then he has become more comprehensive!
Where in that metaphore does personal responsibility come in?
@@frankconnor4969 It doesn't. With a condition of psychopathy, personal responsibility is to yourself alone.
Some of the issues not explored include the concept of spectrum or tendancies. We could have a sudden explosion of rage at a family or social event, brought on by total frustration; feeling no one understands things from our perspective, panic that we are not in control, that others can't see what they are doing is driving us totally nuts, that the world is in total denial of what we ourselves perceive to be true. The outburst might even risk becoming violent. This might be perceived as sociopathic behaviour, but might only be exhibited once in a blue moon. Would this person be categorised as sociopathic or someone who occasionally exhibits such behaviour? Would not anyone in the same circumstances feel and react the same way? If we commonly behave the same way under the same circumstances why then distinguish it as a separate mental disease?
On a separate point, the presentation devoted over three quarters of the time to psychopathy and only a quarter of the time or thereabouts to sociopathy. Did I just admit to feeling hard done by?!
Like pitbulls, Psychopaths can snap and go ape-shit without warning. Like that lawyer Alex Murdock stole millions from his law firm and then killed his wife and son so they wouldn't know about his crimes. Perfectly normal for a psychopath.
my brother was diagnosed with antisocial personality disorder with psychopathic and narcissictic traits. he was the scariest person i have never known. several doctors turned us away and told us just to be careful around him. we later foud out they were literallly too scared to work with him. one psychiatrist literally told us to make a safe room and remove all sharp objects from our house and lock our doors every night. he died of pneumonia while living on the street on christmas eve 23, so just a couple of months ago. he ran away because he didnt want to hurt us but couldnt help himself. i am traumatized.
WOW
I'm so sorry your whole family had to go through this, to love your brother but also fear him is unimaginable. I hope you've gotten some help with the trauma it has left you.
@@catprincesses5035thats still fucked up for him tho he didnt choose that
Stop being so uncaring to someone who's clearly in a bad condition and didn't choose it consciously @@catprincesses5035
@@catprincesses5035 terrible thing to say. He should have received the help he needed. Chicken s-t psychiatrist should have helped your brother and your family or referred him to someone who could, or found a place for him instead of on the street!
I was close with a psychopath. They were a family member. They did not like being a psychopath. They wanted to feel emotions. She knew I loved and cared about her, but she didn’t feel those feelings towards me. She wanted to and hated that she didn’t. So not all psychopaths are evil and enjoy that they can’t connect on an emotional level.
An inability to feel love in general or to feel love for a specific person is not necessarily a symptom of psychopathy. The distinguishing trait is a lack of empathy, pity and guilt.
@pug ASPD is a literal spectrum. You're not capable of just looking at the flat symptoms of any disorder and just go "Oh, this is how they HAVE to behave". Some people with ASPD are entirely aware of their conditions and actively try to improve themselves, as it's an extremely hollow existence.
@pug Yeah that's true. ASPD in general can be mistaken as a lot of things, and a lot of things can be mistaken as ASPD. Certain types of PTSD manifest close to ASPD, same with certain types of autism. That's why going by a textbook definition never works, because a book shows no nuance.
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@@pug7896 No she is my sister I am well aware of her diagnosis. She has an understanding of what an emotion should feel like. She just doesn’t feel them and it bothers her. Like she knows I’m her brother and I do nice things that make her life better. She doesn’t feel gratitude or appreciation, she wants to and even fakes it. She is a wonderful person that got her wiring all screwed up.
Glad to know that psychopaths are drawn to professions like police officers and lawyers. Nice to see such a great chunk of our legal system is in the hands of these people.
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Explains alot.
Goodness leave police alone
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Apparently, CEO is a popular occupation for psychopaths, but not politician. You show heavy metal kids depicted as bullies in the pictures. The worst bullies from my high school were kids that didn't even stand out visually. They weren't really outsiders. They were generally part of the "in crowd."
The worst bullies are typically from the “popular” crowd. The silent and friendly till deadly are generally the bullied. Generally.
I noticed that too. Totally unfair. CEOs are the biggest psychopaths.
Exactly
@@bovinityleak2066 what ever is popular changes over time. The "popular" kids at school were awful people and sadly they are having kids. Their parents are most likely also horrendous people.
Yep
TH-cam is an excellent place that draws psychopaths and sociopaths.
This is literally the description of every politician out there today.
Yes, they are attracted to politics like flies to #$*(.
Which one?
You hit the nail on the end. Looking how they treat the populace. Instead of caring for the country and her people, they are finding new ways to fuel and feed their sadism.
Yes they are absolutely a bunch of psychopaths. And if you think about it, it's their job TO BE a psychopath. Not only does it work for them, it's optimal for the job, too!
Was so worried for a moment...thought I was a psychopath but turns out I'm just a sociopath. Thank goodness 😁
Thank you for the clarification. My brother, now deceased, was a sociopath. Born a sensitive child, raised by abusive narcissistic parents, he developed sociopathic characteristics. He learned that might made right and charm protected him from accountability. Only 3 years older, I wasn’t equipped to protect him…
Sounds like me. Any insight. He must have been productive in some way.
@@tggchatfuck dude same here those two principles have cradled me
He seems to have been very good with sincerity - which can be dissimulating!
Lucifer also pretended to be doing good things!@@tggchat
@@tggchat not sure what you mean by productive… he divorced his first wife after she found out he was cheating on her. He proceeded to have one relationship after another with lots of overlap and even stole the wife of his best friend. He was very proud of his ‘accomplishments’ and would manage to lie and charm his way into a new woman’s life without guilt or remorse. He could sell honey to a bee then brag about it. He completely lacked a conscience and seemed to get worse as he aged.
I took an intro to psychology class in the early 2010's when I was in college and my professor (who is a PHD clinical psychologist) explained the discrepancies between a Psychopath and a Sociopath: 1. Sociopath has trouble diagnosing what is right and wrong while a psychopath knows what is right and wrong but they do not care about right and wrong. 2. A sociopath will sometimes feel remorse while a psychopath has no remorse or pretends to show remorse. 3. Psychopaths are more financially successful than sociopaths. For example, CEO's, politicians, doctors and lawyers are more likely to be psychopaths than sociopaths while insurance and real estate agents, chefs, and construction workers are more likely to be sociopaths than psychopaths. 4. Psychopaths are born while sociopaths are made. 5. Psychopaths are more dangerous than sociopaths because they can appear more normal than sociopaths. 6. Psychopaths are more charming and less nervous than sociopaths.
A psychopath would generally realize there is really no such thing as right or wrong and that the concept is a human construct used to govern weak minded people.
This is actually the best description in my opinion
A lack of emotion can also be a symptom of depersonalization, the lingering effect of a trauma, and does not make one a manipulative psychopath.
yep I had depersonalization / derealization for a year and had little to no emotion during that time
it's the lack of empathy, remorse and love towards others, as well complete disrespect for other people, that define a psychopath. not just "lack of emotion" :).
@@mortenovergaard7397 what about a case of someone who loves and cares about his family but doesn't care about what happens to other people?
@WW most people seem to care what happens to others, there are many campaigns about slavery in Africa or using children for hard work in China. I don't care about any of those things as long as it doesn't affect me. Car crash accident that killed few people on radio? It happens, nothing I can do about that
@@PolishGod1234 i would say such a person is cold, and slightly insane.. why wouldn't you care about what happens to other people? people are good. they need to be helped..
Psychopaths will manipulate you, make you feel special, be super charming, charaismatic, seem like a good person but can switch up in an insant and do the most evil things and feel no remorse.
So.... wives.
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@@redfields5070Personal experience?
They will literally stab you for not doing what they want and leave you bleeding..
So… Alastor.
I would like to point out that people in the rock/metal community are not bullies.
The people I met in that environment have been the most supportive people ever, whereas the bullies I met have been the ones who were desperate to be popular and better than everyone else, putting others down to elevate themselves.
I found peace and a sense of comradery in the metal "underground." We were together with our differences and welcomed despite them. I admit I was surprised by the overwhelmingly wholesome people I have met and still call friends today from that environment.
As someone into rock (alt rock and "heavier" rock though cause soft rock and "gentle/slow" rock are not my style at all), I agree!!
@Lulu? I was very pleasantly surprised after my first mosh pit, everyone were so friendly, and we had beers together during the break between bands.
Very wholesome crowd, 11/10 would recommend.
agreed
As a lifelong metalhead I fully agree.
Outcasts or people with niche or fringe interests are always welcoming. It can be something good like the music community you mentioned or bad like drug addicts. People that are popular or elite in anyway try to keep their status special by rarely letting anyone in.
Watching this video gives me a sense of being on a rollercoaster as I go from wondering if I'm a pyschopath to thinking I'm not then back again.
I a guy I went to highschool with and was briefly fooled by was a psychopath. He was so good at masking. One day we were at his grand parent's house. He had me head up the stairs to his bedroom first. In the doorway I stopped and turned to look at him and the temperature of the room dropped by like ten degrees and his eyes were absolutely empty. I was terrified. Nothing happened to me thank God but is mask fell hard a few months later. He got a group together like Manson and they lured a dear friend to a secluded park by the river and beat him to death. That takes time and is very personal because every scream and every plea is an OPP to register your failing humanity. After his arrest there were still foolish infatuated girls who tried to say he was innocent and would never. I told them they were delusional and it is absolutely terrifying to be alone with a psychopath when they chose to let the mask slip. I get chills to this day and it so painful to think of how scared and alone Scott felt crying out for help that never came. He was his mother's only baby. He was so kind. He used to wait by choir just to give me a hug and ask about my day. He was like a big brother to me and those monsters will never be forgiven.
What you saw/felt was the true psychopath. The same thing happened to me, minus the friend part. (Sorry for your loss btw).
I call them "the kunlungeta".
But yeah, that is what they truly are at their core.
I don't trust psychopaths or sociopaths anymore. And ever since I "saw" I now have a gift where I can see them everywhere. At least I can avoid them. (Shivers)
Kunlangeta*
Saw a true crime show like that, except the psycho was killed by his friends
You seem to be describing a Narcissist. It is the Narcissists who become cult leaders, not the psychopath.
@@bustercrabbe8447 how it was psychopathic and not narcissistic is he was never seeking or needing of the adoration. He simply exploited value placed in his looks and the charming nature he used as his facade. It wasn't until he willfully dropped it for that instance that I knew to run. He without regard or remorse "nudged" a group of malleable "people" into murdering someone one girl had dated, and the others had called a friend at one point. Have you ever looked into Charles Manson's eyes? They are empty voids. James was the name of the guy who did this. He had so many charmed with his easy smile and friendly nature. That is how the real monsters slip by.
The point is he didn't need anyone to feed his ego he simply needed tools because that is what everyone was to him.
My mom is a psychopath. I've never seen her regret anything she did and put herself in the wrong. She is destroying her life and blaming everyone else and there is no way to convince her of this truth. Even the smallest arguments turn her into a blaring rage with her eyes BULGING out in anger against anyone who defies her. Simply checking one of my emails when I was arguing with her made her want to destroy my computer. She will always be a victim in her life, feeling the pain from a narrative that is never true.
I know one of these myself
I feel for you. Had someone like that in my life. Now her impulsive action set me free
I believe that's narcissism not psychopathy. I suggest you look into narcissistic parenting. It's really common.
@jazzaguayo9842 narcissism is also apart of being a psychopath
Sounds more like a sociopath
It's scary how many similarities both psychopathy and sociopathy have with any number of neurodiverse conditions.
Yes. Psychopath nearly equals adhd excpt guilt. I thnk they process it later
I was thinking the same thing.. I have AuDHD
@@StainedBrain haha.. God knws. Psychopath way bettr than adhd lol.
@@StainedBrain cause i have it myslf.. Haha
I've got high end Autism.
I could hurt someone if i want, i could kill them if i wan or steal from them if i want, i could manipulate people to do whatever i want to.
But i just don't want to.
*A psychopath is born as a psychopath, whereas a sociopath is made into a sociopath, and that's why a sociopath can be on a spectrum/range of sociopathy.*
So, can you make a psychopath into a sociopath ? With like, "special treatment"
@@Julian-Lehmann GENERALLY? no. - They are missing key genetic properties.
@@scottcarr1534 i see
My father is a psychopath, it destroyed my life and nearly killed me very young. To this day he has never had to answer for his actions as his planning and discipline when indulging his sadism was thorough. As a child, his child, I had no chance to escape him or defend myself.
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I can relate. My father was a teacher. A shop teacher. He was and still is a liar, cheater, deceiver, and manipulator. He has put his hard earned/stolen money above everything and everyone else and at 80 years old an a wealth of 3 million he is still obsessed with every penny. He lives in filth and watches his children and grandchildren suffer. Any dime he gives us is met with fury and he will relish in feeling victimized. He is responsible for my mother's death
She was a rural postal carrier and died in a car accident in duty trying to do her job sitting on passenger side and operating the vehicle. My dad didn't want to spend the money to put the controls on the passenger side. She just started the job after he essentially made her feel she had to. My brother died alone and homeless at 50. Dads money too important!
@@stans144Ditto, same dynamic and destruction. Being the scapegoat I'm glad I got away and can't be found by any of the family flying monkeys since 2 yrs. I'm fighting for my life, sick and alone but at least they have no stronghold on my soul.
Give your life to Jesus and pray that you can forgive. It's for your own health. Don't hold on to bitterness. It will harm you.
Yah sure, cause you said so, so must be True.
Shocking that, on average, one in every 100 individuals is a psychopath. Also interesting that just because an individual is a psychopath doesn't by necessity mean that they want to harm others. They may not be able to experience empathy or sympathy, but that doesn't mean that every one of them wants to kill you.
I'm a diagnosed Psychopath and I'm not going to kill anyone, it won't be in my advantage to be in prison. I'm better off working everyday and achieving my goals. And yeah, he is right at least for me I often fake emotions just to get someone to understand me or just be happy to do what I've asked him/her. As for lying I didn't know that other people feel guilty after that I thought it was normal for everyone to just lie and get over with it
Not all psychopaths are criminals. However, psychopathic criminals are especially dangerous, because psychopaths act out their impulses free from inhibition, conscience, or remorse. If a psychopath thinks torturing kittens is funny, they will spend their time doing that, because they only care about fulfilling their "needs" (Lack of inhibition), they don't see why they shouldn't be hurting others (Lack of conscience), and they don't feel sorry even if they're caught in the act and punished (Lack of remorse).
@Tuppoo94 yes, still irrelevant to my claim here. But yes, they are potentially more dangerous
@@coffeetalk924 It's not irrelevant, because it explains why psychopaths need to be identified early in their lives, and brought up carefully. They can be convinced that a life of crime is not in their best interest.
@Tuppoo94 still irrelevant, because my argument wasn't "Hey not all of them want to kill you, THEREFORE WE DON'T NEED TO IDENTIFY THEM." I never even remotely implied such a thing. I simply stated a fact. "Not all of them want to kill you" full stop. That is a fact. So please don't strawman my argument. 😉
"Your Honor, my client isn't a psychopath. He watched the video by Wellness Lenses, so he CLEARLY would know if he was one."
Thanks Saul
Thank you, Saul
I will advise my attorney to mention this in about 5 hours.
I'm getting ready for case to be dismissed
Saul your scamer
When you have to live with one or be close to one, you watch many sources of videos, documentaries and you read books. This remark is callous. So which are you?
A friend of mine who did psychology once told me I’m a textbook example of an everyday psychopath, watching this video makes me wonder if I don’t in fact have ADHD and perhaps my friend was correct. Therefore I’d like to bring some extra context, I absolutely have feelings, however I find it very difficult to understand others’. I do take joy in manipulating people and I do often find it very easy but I don’t do it in a malicious way as I’m not nasty. I just find it difficult to empathise with how someone feels in response to something that I don’t personally have to experience. That being said, if somebody was to break their arm, I would feel sorry for them as I myself have broken my arm, but if someone was hit as a kid, I kind of don’t really care because I can’t relate to that.
if it's alright to ask, could you clarify or, give an example or two of manipulating people but not in a malicious way?
Having been diagnosed with ASPD and psychopathy, I can attest that it’s a daily struggle. As I’ve grown older, I’ve realized that my manipulative and compulsive lying tendencies don’t foster genuine friendships. In an effort to change, I decided to engage with people more empathetically. Over the years, I’ve made a conscious effort to ask others how they feel, especially when I’m unsure about social cues. It’s challenging-I often wonder if I’m inadvertently saying something abhorrent or being overbearing. However, it’s been about eight years since I last wove a web of lies and manipulation. Now, I have real friends without needing elaborate escape plans. It’s a liberating feeling, even if it means I once deceived someone into bending to my will.
I used to not care for people and their feelings at all (also didn't miss them or somethng), I reached out to Jesus about it, wanting to be able to care for other people. Today I can care for others and feel empathy and sometimes can even cry with others! I recommend you pray to Jesus he can truly change us where we can't
You sound AI ngl
@DigitalViscosity: Was there a single event that made you want to be less psychopathic? Can you tell us more about your transition?
@@SophiaTraweek he's using manipulation right now lol
Only Jesus can save us from ourselves,,,,he will use his angels and Holy Spirit to guide us!!
Someone in your life is praying for you,,,,believe it!! ❤🙏 ❤
The worst part is when someone with no experience in psychology decides to label people as psycho/sociopaths just because they had a negative experience with them.
It has happened to me. They weren't wrong tho.
That's why I categorize these people as "using anti-social behavior." It's more concrete to use examples of their own behavior and how it effects them. Diagnoses can only be made by physicians
@@jawarholol4651 it’s fair to say that someone exhibits socio/psychopathic tendencies
Ironically, they'd be more than happy to interact with a true psychopath and look up to them.
That's the worst part?
I'm pretty sure correctly identif- I'm sorry. I forgot this is the internet.
I had a student who was clearly psychopathic, but he may also, on top of that, been psychotic. An extremely disturbing individual. When it finally became clear to me that his weird behavior, his adrenaline addiction (always keeping himself angry in order to maintain an adrenaline high), his heartlessness, his posturing, and his lying weren't going to come to an end, I disattached myself from him as quickly as I could. He tried to separate me from my friends (I have no family), "tried to cut me out of the herd." And his ability to comprehend why others did what they did was badly flawed. I also had another "frie3nd" who was always reading plays, watching movies, and reading books to absorb how others behaved in various situations. She *memorized* GAMES PEOPLE PLAY, and continuously interpreted others' behavior in terms of "games." She seemed pleasant enough until you got to know her, and then her cruelty and her nasty behavior became obvious. As with the first individual, I finally realized I had to get away from her, because she was draining me of all my energy and hope. My adoptive father may have been a psychopath, nonviolent but heartless. My adoptive mother was extremely narcissistic, only praising me or showing affection toward me when she could take credit for my behavior, my talents and other abilities, and so on. Maybe growing up with the two of them is why I was such a magnet for bad people and bullies. So I tend to avoid people now whenever I can. People like that poison everything and everyone they interact with.
Glad you were adopted into a family. So sorry it was with horrible people. Thankfully you dont have a genetic connection to their icky madness and you seem to have risen above. Hugs and kudos.
I am sorry you had to experience a family like that. My family was abusive and yes it gives you complex PTSD and cluster B people can see the neon sign.
⭐⭐⭐Fear for psychopath is a High...
⭐⭐⭐Violence for a psychopath is comfortable for them...
⭐⭐⭐You can be a Serial killer and not be a psychopath...
I once had a friend named ashley in primary school, he was a psychopath. he would always do bad things to me and feel no forgiveness afterward. when i searhed up what a psychopath is, it struck me and made me realise that the description of a psychopath perfectly matches who he is. i would always forgive him, which did end up in me being bullied by him for a while. im no longer friends with him and i havent been for the past few months. he would always make me think he was a good friend and that he never did anything wrong but i eventually stop being matipulated by him and thats what caused me to leave him. he was a good friend for the first year we met, the rest was a horrible hellhole he created. i felt free ever since i left him.
Psychopath: The smartest nerd in the whole school.
Sociopath: The quiet kid with anger problems.
Psychopath's are like School Bullie's they look for their victim who is Quiet and different worst still they will manipulate other's to humiliate. They love Drama . The fact a Psychopath Child can manipulate non Psychopath kid's into monster's, meaning there is no innocent people . All and all i'm glad my school days i would never want go back in Class of Horror.
@@Resident4Island Human beings are meant to be evil. Just look at our history... evil & wickedness is our nature
1. Bill Gates 🤓 💉
i feel like it's the opposite.
what if i happen to be both of them
Dealing with my sociopathic ex again recently has made me appreciate people with empathy like never before. To all of you out there who have and use genuine empathy, I appreciate you.
i hear you on that sentiment. when all you want out of someone is to "square up and be honest with people, show some level of awareness and remorse for what you're CLEARLY DELIBERATELY doing"...... and they physically cannot. it literally causes them pain to do so.
I feel your pain m8. Been there before myself 🙄
Sociopaths if they have empathy, it is genuine because it is very hard for a sociopath but is possible and many will do anything to feel emotions, if they don’t they are probably worse than psychopaths because they don’t give a shit about yelling at the top of their lungs in your face
Amen - bless the heartfelt helpers! 🙏
Hang in there, you'll get through this.
How you described sociopaths and psychopaths, I always thought it was the other around. I always thought sociopaths were the calculated, amoral ones who became CEOs, lawyers, and politicians, while psychopaths were the violent ones who are more likely to become criminals
I always heard it as psychopaths are born, sociopaths are made. Robert Hare has written some good books about it.
This was also completely my understanding
@@peachguystone7086 Same, I need another "expert" opinion now...
Given they're not serious clinical terms and are effectively used interchangeably because the only actual difference (that can't be meaningfully verified) has nothing to do with outward behavior and everything to do with etiology of either "condition," you think whatever you want.
@@brianbagnall3029 That's the general belief, but whenever you get around to performing an ethical experiment that's able to totally parse environmental influences from genetic variables, you go ahead and let psychology know so you can collect the first Nobel Prize in history awarded in the field. The ancient "nature vs nurture" debate is as dead as "you only use 10% of your brain."
I decided to watch this while doing dishes because it just sounded like an interesting subject. Now, I need to take a good, long look in the mirror, and make some appointments.
damn that's real as fuck
Yeah but will u actually do it or is it just talk?
I remember a saying, " Not all psychopaths are serial killers, but all serial killers are psychopaths " Don't remember where from, but it struck me as a good rule of thumb for the definition.
I agree
I, surprisingly, like this... thank you for posting this, those of us in relationships with psychopaths/sociopaths who are actually amazing people, really appreciate you sharing this
@@Moonstruckmagicas a sociopath, I feel seen with Trevor Phillips from GTAV. A hotheaded serial killer who cares for his family, and those he deems well enough to be family who despises liars, traitors, and people who double cross good people.
All that is sensationalistic in nonsense. A recent study of serial killers actually showed they were lower in psychopathic traits than non serial killers. People will always talk bollocks on these things cos it's just a case of Chinese whispers. As more people talk about it they add false information born out of ignorance. Take a look at this quote from a study.
"Why might murderers be less likely to be psychopaths than other types of criminal? The researchers suggest that while people high in psychopathy are more likely to commit a crime, murder is a special case. Yes, psychopathy has been linked to certain types of murder, especially the premeditated murder of a stranger or slim acquaintance. But most murders don't fall into this category. People kill others for all sorts of "reasons", from injured pride to a desire for revenge - and don't, it seems, need a high level of psychopathic or sadistic traits to be capable of doing this"-bps.org.uk
That’s an interesting statement. I’d like to know who was behind making such.
All serial killer’s are NOT psychopathic..
Not having compassion nor remorse.
There are various serial killer typologies to consider.
The mission oriented type is little different than the average person.
And then there is the sub-groups.
Some can have jobs that they’re happy in and quite productive, respected for their contributions, families, children, feel love and compassion for animals and human beings.
They can have a deep regard for nature, music et cetera.
They follow societal norms (up to a certain point)
Just like you or me.
But this ends when it comes to those they’ve personally deemed unworthy of such humanism.
They consider themselves as doing the job when the justice system has failed.
They are the vigilante subtype.
I’d go deeper into this..
But that will be your challenge if you truly wish to understand.
It took 38 years to realise that my brother is a sociopath. He abused be physically , verbally throughout the years , manipulate me, gaslight, etc and made me think that I am the wrong one.... thank you for this video
Same here
Aren't sociopaths also very emotionally unstable? For an example, Homelander from The Boys, but I'm truly sorry you had to go through that, that is horrible and I hope your better now ❤
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He is just envious n impulsive not emotionally unstable i guess
That’s typical big brother behavior in my society
I'm a clinically diagnosed sociopath. I've shown this video to several people, and they have all said that the description you gave was spot on for me as well.
Dont ever own or use a firearm, plz.
@@PolishBehemoth That's silly, because a psychopath doesn't need a firearm to be cruel. Besides, they're easy to build.
@@stevelangstroth5833 true, to be cruel. False, for killing groups of children and other people.
@@PolishBehemoth Then, again.... they sell gasoline on practically every street corner with no questions asked (no background check, sold to everyone 16 or older and no registration and...)
I've been close to quite a few sociopaths, which shouldn't be surprising since some estimate as many as 1 in 5 are sociopaths. It's a tendency you're born with - but not something you can't overcome. My ex fiance was a delightful person to be with, when she was exercising her empathy intentionally, but when she wasn't - well there's a reason she's my ex.
I wonder if you could overcome your natural tendency, and by exercising your empathy you could change your default to become 'normal'? Due to neuroplasticity I'm sure that it's possible. Prayer, mindfulness and meditation come to mind.
My ex was a Sociopath and thanks to you I know to avoid my next mistakes. Long story story short she has BPD and refused help and once morning I woke up with signs that she tried to kill me. So I played off the rest of the Relationship just long enough to make it out of state.
Hello! As an actual, diagnosed Psychopath, I must say it is always nice to see things like this that actually talk about us in a non "They're all evil murderers" light. Sure, I don't really care about anyone I meet, and may seem as though I'm from a different species at times with how I look at the world; but that doesn't mean I (and others like me) can't train or practice forms of mental and social conditioning to help offset our differences.
Couldn't agree more.
If this is psychopathy then your kind is not rare. So many people are like what you described nowadays. They only care about themselves and their loved ones. I'm one of them too
@@sepehradonis6959 you definetly don't know what it is.
@@sepehradonis6959 people want to belong to a group. You’re not a psychopath if you care about only your loved ones. Everyone would be one.
If you really are a psychopath you wouldnt share it with yt😊
I've always seen sociopaths and psycopaths as having the same end game but sociopaths are just more emotional about it
Well you're not a doctor so your opinion means nothing
You're all illiterates.
Socio = related to society. Pathy is a way of thinking.
Conformists and most people are sociopaths.
Psychos choose to be immoral.
@@deanraney1049 This is such a rude and ignorant modern mentality. You don't have to be a doctor to read up on subjects. Also, doctors can be wrong.
@@Historian474He's right though. Doctors study the facts, people talk the fiction. If you want the best advice on managing epilepsy you ask a doctor not a guy that has watched a few documentaries about it.
@@cultfiction3865probably be best to listen to both. Ego is a real thing. Doctors have the knowledge but sometimes you have to stop making things complicated. The solutions can be right in front of you.
0:22 tell the truth, y'all were smoking
No, you are projecting. He should do a video on people who do that. Some of us can actually sit and have a conversation without drug use.
It's possible to hold conversations without drug use but they definitely add fun to it😂😂😂
😂😂😂😂
I would disagree about psychopaths planning everything carefully. Some are ever ready to improvise, completely confident they can talk their way out of anything they didn’t plan for. And it works surprisingly often, because most of us do give people the benefit of the doubt quite a few times before we balk at it.
Sometimes it doesn’t work out at all for them either. Impulsive psychopaths are the quickest to get caught when they commit crimes.
@@nicolaspace1182 Yup, the prisons are full of the dumber and badly raised ones. But those raised to be well dressed and well presented can polish any turd. Look at the utter absurdity of Trumpian lies: if you can get people (especially middle class people) to WANT to believe something, they will. No matter how shoddy and self contradictory.
Im 29 and a diagnosed sociopath with psychotic tendencies, I was originally diagnosed as borderline, yes when I was younger I was a very violent individual, I’ve done unspeakable things to people that haven’t deserved it, but I would say that deception is a significant part of the disorder, I am unemployable lol but I’m self employed I run a medium size successful business nowadays with 3 employees, it’s sad how people generalise ASP disorders with Hollywood, the truth of it is, it’s a very lonely existence, filled with frustration and determination, it’s like a thirst that can’t be quenched, and I can fully understand how some people can become totally consumed by it and end up becoming serial killers, but.. I would say a substantial amount of people probably have ASPD’s just undiagnosed and they can be functional members of society
I'm glad you can recognize the problem. Sounds like you're healing. Congratulations 🎉
@@wandabanks6756 parenthood changed me, i have me something I’m to worried to lose, I found a good woman that has kinda always been at my side, but it doesn’t go away, it’s actually really hard to describe it from my point of view, I think as I’ve gotten older I’ve become more reclusive limiting the effects I have on others and others have on me, I went through dialectical behavioural therapy a good few years ago that was another thing that helped, but exactly as the guy says on the video, you really can’t help someone that doesn’t wanna be helped, I had a very traumatic childhood, loads of trauma, and when my wife was pregnant with our first child I realised it’s paramount that I get the help I needed so I could be a better role model to my child, as I say parenthood is a significant thing that levelled me out, not to say I still don’t have bad days
I'm proud of you for all the hard work you're doing every day to be the best person you can be.
Congratulations on fatherhood!
@@thatroverguy1937 curious - did you believe the mis-diagnosis of borderline, or think it was bullshit? Did the insight you now show come afterwards, or did you know something was different prior to contact with the mental health system and being assessed etc? Cheers.
@@KarmasAbutch when I was diagnosed with BPD, basically when I was 18 I tried to kill someone, as I say it’s no fairytale, consequently I was arrested and had an evaluation and was diagnosed, I was fortunate as I didn’t end up in jail during this period, instead I had a suspended sentence, therapy, a restraining order a fine and a few other bits of punishments provided I stool to the therapy that lasted 2 years, I did acknowledge it either way really at the time, I saw it as a handy excuse if I’m being honest, it was when I got to 20 (about 4 months after my therapy finished) I had a guy try and mug me and I beat him into a comma, consequently I was arrested again I did go to jail for this, but only on remand, as I actually got found guilty of excessive use of self defence, the guy stabbed me 7 times but I beat him so bad that he received brain injuries, it was while I was rotting in a cell and I was again reevaluated, they diagnosed me as sociopathic with psychotic tendencies, and it was then I started to reflect more on who I am and what I was, I was again back out on the streets after a couple of months, I had to pay a victim fine amongst other things, but upon my release I had an almighty party, loads of drugs drink etc, the morning after I took a look at my life and realised how close I came to losing it all, my gf at the time became pregnant and eventually my wife (we have 3 kids now) she stood by me ever since, she wasn’t the drug using type in fact she’s a very well put together person
I was told that Psychopaths will consider the consequences and still do evil things but in a very sneaky way to get away with it. Socialpaths don’t consider consequences thus making them more reckless in their wrongdoings.
Thankfully, I got into therapy early (relatively speaking) at 20, diagnosed with sociopathic tendencies that was quickly manifesting to full sociopath from years of being bullied and stepped. I'm now 24, been in therapy since to at least slow it and have better control over it. Still have my moments, but I would not like to know what I would be like without it.
This comment has convinced me I might try raising this concern to a psychologist or psychiatrist because for the longest time I've also been worried about psychopathic tendencies slowly creeping into sociopathy.
I am almost positive id be classified as a sociopath or dark empath but frankly I see things around me that other people don’t and I’m not a bad person to hood people I just am bored most of the time and get angry easily also sadistic tendencies are there I have to fight that urge but I do and it fades eventually 👍
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My psychiatrist a couple yrs back told me a sociopath is just TV talk for psychopath and that it's not actually a diagnosis or medical term. He said any liscensed psychiatrist worth their salt would never use this term bc it simply made up for TV drama.
I'm a sociopath and i somehow managed to teach myself to control my anger without any outside help before even knowing about my condition. I might even have been too successful, because now i find myself letting others step all over me way too often
My favourite film psychopath is Wes Chatham as "Amos Burton" in "The Expanse". He knows that he is a psychopath, so he choose a friend he trusted as his moral compass. and if the times need it, he uses his traits for the benefit of the group/humanity. by decision. a strong character, and a completely different framing of psychopathy, that i never had seen before.
One of my favorite characters hehe. No muss no fuss.. just do what needs to be done s the situation calls for it. Am only on season 4 tho.. not sure how far they have gotten yet.. but yeah.. the actor nails it.
see the movie "nightcrawler" for a creepy but prob very real depiction of a corporate psychopath.
Psychopaths make the best friends if you can get them to trust you to show themselves to you. When they do, you have earned a loyal protector for life. Kinda like cats. Maybe that's why we like them so much.
Probably at the end it matters more what actions one takes, then how ones brain is bundled.
Amos Burton opened my eyes, that there could be more into psychopathy, than the clishees.
As an autist myself (way more into logic, then into emotions, but my empathy exists) i think i probably could communicate with a psychopath on a meta way. but to be a friend one would have to be open with his intentions and clear with his actions. Because most of the "tricks" to manipulate people barely work on people like me, because they mostly attack over the emotional route.
Anyway, if i ever meet a psychopath, that is open about that in real life, i wouldnt judge him anymore because of that. We are born how we are born, no faults and guilts with that.
The example you give sounds a lot like the series "Dexter". In the series the main character is a psychopath who works as a forensic blood spatter technician for a homicide unit. His father who was a cop saw he was a psychopath from an early age. While raising him, he mentors and focuses his sons lack of empathy and interest in killing things towards the benefit of humanity by bringing bad criminals (molesters, murderers etc.) to justice who the legal system failed. The ones who got off on technicalities.
I have had to deal with psychopaths, they have no remorse, no empathy, no conscience at all, always right, takes no blame or responsibility for action, always someone's fault. Appreciate you highlighting the difference between the two personality disorder
Sound like biden .denmark
@@hannesrensen9319 No, it sounds like Trump.
Did biden take respobolity sbout the 6 kids he bombede in afgainstan . No he called it a succes .
Like he did with the 80 billion he gave afganistan in war material .
Only a maniac give atom deal to your enemy Iran .
Open border who only benefit mexican cartels . Human trafikkers and drug dealer . How many americsn have died now from fentanol .
Vice presidents cannot declass7fy dokuments like presidents can . And bring it home . Biden did And had it in a garage he rentet out to hunter . And now they got a lot of money ? From china and ukraine . For what ?
He did not know about hunters business deal in china . But have office with hunter and the brother in china . Liar .
You should have followed the burisma case in ukraine court . Then you would se how corupt the biden gang is .
He said dont wote for trump he is a warmonger . But never startet a war . How many have biden startet 4 or 5 and now ww 3 .
We all know something is wrong in the head of biden . He cannot hold a speach where people 7nderstands what he is saying . He do not know where he is and who his wife is . Why avoid a cognitive test.
Only people who had something to hide need censur . Greating grandma denmark
Absolutely a definition on the biden gang
Only US president in 30 years to NOT go to war with another nation is the psychopath ... I'm guessing you're from that wing that's "always right, takes no blame or responsibility for action"@@novelist99
One runs cold one runs hot. I personally belive in apathy, bleaching out emotions until you can't feel anything, nothing to shock you, nothing to hurt you. No anger, no joy, no grief just a state of flatline. Modern day undead.
Tweaking vs Locked In
lmfaoooo
Lol
this comment made me laugh sm😭
real asf 😭
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I won't lie.
I wondered over my childhood years, and to some extent, presently, pondering over why I couldn't physically empathize with others. The only times I ever learned to feel for others was through stories. I only realized something was wrong with me when something dangerous happened in my life and the first thing I wanted to do was to think 'well, at least I got something interesting to tell people now' rather than feel scarred by it. Or when I pushed someone off once as a kid thinking 'well, they didn't get hurt in the cartoon, so they'll be fine if I push them right?"
I always wondered if I was either of the two after I first discovered the definitions of either of them. Rationally, I think it would explain a lot of things. Personally, I'm terrified at the thought of being a terrible person.
Like, I'm part-ways image/reputation-driven, partly wanting to be able to just be normal, even though the back of my head demands that I should be more reputable. If it were not for the humbler beginnings of growing up, being under a strict household, I would have been twice the monster I think myself to be. Moments after the act, I'd realize I'm dominating the narrative; sometimes, I'd yearn to make people see things my way. I had to learn how to physically empathize rather than to feel for others, and that to me isn't normal. I don't even know what this is innate of me, but I question my sanity every time I can't feel for others physically, to the point where it doesn't feel real until I felt emotions.
Sometimes I force myself to feel, knowing if I don't, I'd be seen as uncaring, making me more and more feeling disingenuous.
I questioned what is genuine every time I can't feel the emotions. I wondered each time, if I'm faking it to make me look better. Is that a sociopathic trait? I really cannot tell. The worst part is the loneliness that come with this unfeelingness. Because I have no way of knowing if I'm ever going to be able to tell if my attachment to people are genuinely out of love or for my own selfish manipulation.
Blew me away.
@@lookupyourredemptiondrawsn7285 😂😂 foh
You don't feel lonely your just manipulating for sympathy
@@humblewonder3260 But that's the thing. I really don't know nor could I tell the difference if I am manipulative or not. Am I mirroring emotions to make myself feel more human? Or is this what manipulation looks like? I don't know. I have no one to confirm this for me. I never had anyone to tell me otherwise. None to the point, I wonder if that was because I made it look like I was normal. There's more fear in me at the thought of being a terrible person that pushed me to learn how to empathize. Is that sociopathic? Or psychopathic? I put this out there because I don't have people to confirm this with me. I didn't write this post to have others cry for me. I put this out because i wanted to confirm if I am either a psycho or not.
Thank you for putting this feeling into words.
As a sociopath, I can say that this is a pretty accurate description of this condition. In my personal case, I can say that this does not affect my career in any way, on the contrary, to some extent it contributes to it. It can be very difficult for me to control my impulsiveness, although I have learned how to deal with it, a clear daily routine and discipline help a lot with this.
What do you do for a living?
I myself am on both spectrums, swaying back and forth every now and then with a trigger I have not yet identified. However It usually doesn't get in the way, in fact, I often consider my mind to be an advantage in most cases. Though, I do have a problem connecting to people, they are too unpredictable. Even with the same person, one day they will change it up on you. It's because of this I find it better to help people rather than cause harm
@@Zane12ai I understand what you mean, but the fact is that I (and most with a similar condition) do not feel the emotional difference between helping and harming. I consider both actions to be interactions with other people, but nothing more.
In Benedict Cumberbatch's "Sherlock" TV series he describes himself as a "high-functioning sociopath." It sounds like you're pretty self-aware and in control of yourself.
@@edwardkennedy6443I don't understand. Are interactions not supposed to be transactional? Not being a smartass or anything, I've never really understood people. They've always been an unnecessary burden.
Several years ago I had a strange mindful awakening when I realized that I grew up around narcissists and this caused me to be blind to it and I had a lot of psychopaths around my entire life. I didn't realize that in my experience my society loves them. I used to think something was wrong with me because of my empathy and inability to do what they would.
I had a real sociopathic manager in my first office job. She went out of her way to gather information on people for blackmail or bad mouth them, she put people down and stepped on anyone to get promoted. She took on roles that weremt hers - like punishing people or ordering people around that weren't even in her work group. She was hated. She used fake charm to get you to open up pretending to be interested as your friend, then would subtely slip in a question so she could spread that information around. For example - what did you do at the weekend.. did you smoke weed or do any other drugs? (In a more subtle way than that) then tell everyone you're a junkie.
The worst thing she ever did to me was tell me that I wouldn't lose any paid hours if I came in late (I had an important appointment I couldnt move) I was less than 90 mimutes late and nobody even noticed when I did come in, but she decoded to deduct the entire day from me anyway.
I had a sociopathic general manager once. I was running late to work and so the outfit I picked out wasn't the best. The gm who was visiting for the day zeroed in on my ugly shirt because I was new.
The look she gave me was one of disgust, like "you're not dressed well enough to work here".
To make up for it, I decided to just stay quiet/invisible and work hard all day.
She didn't like that and throughout the day, would give me more and more work than anybody else, and reprimanded me that I wasn't working hard enough. (I got pulled into her office, my manager's office, and yelled at in front of my manager and the assistant manager, that I was being lazy all day)
When really I worked 6 hrs straight without a break. And only went to the bathroom once. I later found out the sociopath gm told my manager I had been in the bathroom a half an hour playing on my phone (lie).
I ended up 3 weeks later quitting because my manager said I could either quit or get fired. (my manager was bff's with the gm)
I chose to quit because I wasn't there long enough for employment government assistance, and walked away.
@@specialtwice4975 Wow.. awful managers must be 75% the reason people quit good jobs. Its awful waking up and dreading going to work because of the people. not the work.
sociopath or psyco? sounds like 2nd
Funny how narcissistic socio-psychopathy in authority are so eager & quick to snap the bull-whip of company policies & use it against you, to teach you a lesson!!
Managers think they’re gods.
I had a ‘friend’ that exhibited traits of both, he slowly destroyed everyone around him over a few years.
I wish i could hear more about this
@@avert_I am in a similar situation with a "friend"...
We have known each other for close to 3 years now and at one point in time I would have called her my best friend. I invited her and her 7 children to my hometown for Thanksgiving, I often (3-4 times a week) found myself at her house helping her with children. I would pick her up and bring her and the babies back to my house or take them to the river to explore or take her to run errands. I found myself doing all of the work to "help" her solve her problems but as quickly as one would get fixed, 3 more arose from her lawlessness, recklessness and continuous waste of resources.
My mind is highly neurotic so it's my natural inclination to keep an account of everything I do. Im an avid planner and keep track of things by using a detailed timeline. I truly tried to believe the audacious excuses that this person would make for being out of groceries, having a disgusting house EVERY time I came over, never having time to care for her children, not making her children go to school, etc... she would cause fights with her mate and older children. She is extremely pompous and debased in her belief systems. I have helped her move and find houses only for her to destroy them and leave thousands of dollars in damages in her wake. All while claiming to be a victim of domestic violence. In late winter, earlier this year, I confronted her on many topics. She made it almost impossible to corroborate her story with any one of substance. I was finally able to connect with her foster mother in person and her new boyfriend that was in prison. She gave him my # one evening in case she was arrested and someone would need to come rescue her babies. Making those connections helped me to understand so much that I suspected but was never able to confirm.
Turns out she had been lying and saying that I was putting my name on her work for a research project I worked on from Aug. '23 - Nov. '23. She had been selling her snap benefits for half price to gamble on her phone. It is only legal in WV and impossible to do when she would come to VA with me. I was able to give her foster mother my contact info and within a few days she had lied about the whereabouts of her newly gifted Dell laptop. The foster mother called me and we were able to connect the dots on 2 dozen more lies and see the patterns clearly.
Once I confronted her about her lies, her gambling, her blatant disregard for anyone else's time, energy, resources, feelings, trust etc. she blew up at me! She immediately twisted the story and made it all about me wanting to watch her fail. How I sabotaged her life and ruined everything she worked so hard for.
By early spring we had severed all direct contact but kept an update on her babies thru our teenager's friendship. The debauchery got so bad that I had no choice but to contact CPS. Her children were not attending school, her babies were malnourished, and her home was worthy to be condemned. The straw that broke the camels back for me was when she created a fake email address using my name and business contact to solicite "free" childcare thru a local entity. Thankfully she is a horrible con l-artist and used the wrong date on the email. The director of the child care servicing center called me to have me resend the email with corrections. I immediately knew that I had not sent any such email and I was able to ask a few questions to affirm that I was being manipulated once more by this person.
Discovering all of her tendencies and malicious motives was not difficult but she was very good at pretending to care about the things that mattered to me. She "mimicked" the social ques but with almost apparent disdain.
I would absolutely describe her as a narcissist and a sociopath but I am not so certain that she isn't a full fledged psychopath as well! She has zero remorse or guilt. She is a pathological, compulsive, habitual liar. She has audacious goals and illicit behaviors. The amount of aliases she has had via cell phone numbers and email addresses in the 3 years time that I've known her tell me that she is good at avoiding the consequences because no one has time to connect all of the chaos and manipulation.
There is soooo much more that didn't touch on because it would take me all day! The moral of the story is that I learned so much about Adverse Childhood Trauma, Type B Personality Disorders (Borderline, Histrionic, Narcissim etc.) and I was able to walk away without allowing anymore of my time and resources to be depleted!
Her children were never taken and they continue to suffer daily under her care. The sad reality is that people like this only escalate when there is no accountability. Sadly, her children will grow up to be just like her, if not worse.
I have been suffering with a psychopath for decades now. Once they have you, they really have you and they are not going to let you go or leave you alone. They are hauntingly possessed beings and that is their attitude toward their prey, one becomes their possession, their property they can do as they wish. They are figuratively and literally what nightmares are made of, only differences is one can awaken from a nightmare one can not awaken from these monsters. Beware, be educated because no human being could wish to become enmeshed with these vicious predators.
Sadly, my son’s father. Thankfully, he’s not a part.
I can relate. Please pray for me
You're talking about them as if they were monsters. They're sick people, who deserve as much help as they can get.
@@yasininn76 Easy to say when you're not suffering life long trauma from their monstrous acts, knowing they truly, profoundly, don't give a F.
@@yasininn76 They still have evil intentions and they are manipulative as hell
i really liked the part of your video when u said sociopaths don't go to treatment because they don't think they need it it so accurate
If only I’d been told 50 years ago that psychopaths are attracted to the Law, I’d have been able to save myself a lot of pain! This explains a lot of what l experienced at the hands of many of my ‘colleagues’.
My goodness - really ?
You never figured out on your own that poorly educated people with self-esteem issues who are given firearms and unqualified immunity are psychopaths? You never ever heard anybody use the term 'pig' when talking about cops???
Police officer? What kind of things have you experienced?
@@totalbliss1Police officers are the number one group of psychopaths. The really bad ones are just Bullies with Uniforms.
You will probably be okay if you don't argue or contend with police officers because psychos are always right.
You also must remember to ask them for permission to disagree with them.
"Don't you think that you are being just a little bit unreasonable?"
Tell them that they are doing a fantastic job and you're good to go, possibly even without a ticket.
Lawyers are trained liars. I imagine they're attracted to it because they're good at it.
I’ve been diagnosed with BPD for 10 years now, and i’ve had 8 severe head injuries in my life, a couple with inter-cranial bleeding and swelling. the last one was in mid 2019 and really fucked me up. i had to relearn a lot of things, and one of the biggest problems was it threw my emotional control completely out of the windows and i was in psychosis for over a year after.
i got my mind back piece by piece and at the end of it, i feel like my personality and emotional spectrum are much flatter. i used to have a destructively strong sense of empathy that i couldn’t turn off, now i have a switch i can’t always turn on. same with other emotions. i don’t hurt nearly as bad as i used to emotionally, but i’m never as happy and i feel more detached from others than ever. and while therapy definitely helped me get a lot of the impulsive behaviors and fear under control, now i’m left with over-control problems and rage. as much as i struggle with the things that have changed, honestly everything’s still better now. i’m accepting the journey more now than ever.
wear a fucken helmet even when you go to bed
Bill Hicks will always give me a good laugh if i'm really pissed, remember this is just a ride
You're not alone, man. BPD can be an absolute bitch. It's like being the driver and backseat passenger at the same time. I'm a very caring person normally, but I was prone to psychotic/sociopathic episodes before I was diagnosed and treated. I still disconnect from reality occasionally, but it's nothing like it was.
Increase serotonin. Plus olanzapine.
I have dealt with both types. Psychopaths are often easier to deal with because if you are not in their way, or targeted by them they are just oddly calm and if you know what they are they are easy to distance from. A sociopath is chaotic and completely unpredictable.
Reverse my guy Psychopath are like School Bullie's while a Sociopath is the guy who was abused by that Psychopath.
@@Resident4Island Psychopaths are monsters that make even bigger monsters out of common (before the abuse) people. Creating a sociopath with bullying on school is one way to backfire for psychopaths when that kid comes back fueled to the bone with anger/revenge mindset and carrying guns. it is a cycle of complete destruction.
@@KaiserNightcoreMusic Extacly now you know why school shooting happen. It has nothing to do with gun's more to the fact what's going on in school's . When you spent 8 year's in school with monster's the damage to the brain can't be reverse. Worst still the teacher's didn't do anything about it i once was bullied in front of the teacher and she pretending nothing ever happen. That feeling of defenseless or powerless why they take their anger upon revenge.
@@Resident4Island Why i say If you are not targeted by one.
I don’t agree I was married to a psychopath and still targeted, life is good if they don’t target you but when you become theirs different story
I Own An Airbnb Off the Grid Campsite and Next to My Property Lives A Psychopath and His Cycle is Every 2 weeks He Acts out or Do something to Gain attention or Play His Music Up so Loud with Inappropriate Language 2 AM or 3 AM IN the Morning and sometimes between 7 AM and 9 AM with Childish Behaviors, MY Prayers goes out for People That have this Mindset, because they have a lot of Hurt and Hatred in their hearts, and SO Sad....
The thing that frightens me most is the fact that these things are not being taught, and murderers like Ted Bundy are idolised by people who don’t understand the truth…our society places more favour on looks and charisma than good behaviour. We need to get beyond the media cliches and stereotypes and learn about these conditions, and how to react in tricky situations with people we meet who show these traits, then we will live in a much safer world. I have a family member who is a highly functioning sociopath. They’re doing well, because it was diagnosed, and we learned how to understand them, and understanding is the key. Thank you for this!
pretty much all the people in positions of power would fall into one of these categories so that influences society deeply, including in regard to the teaching of these archetypes
@@MrWhitePerson absolutely. Which is even more concerning, and very much a reason for education. And self education is something I really encourage in my kids. We’re living alongside so many people who fall into these categories. We need to know how to be safe.
agreed 100%. instead of calculating hypotenuses, teach something we'll use in everyday life, like navigating manipulative behaviors. of course, i am personally convinced the educational system uses manipulation in its so-called "lessons" so i don't see it happening any time soon... but i pray it does.
Thanks for the video.
I’m a retired Mental Health Therapist.
I absolutely LOVED my chosen career. I did have to retire early on a medical after going blind.
Though I haven’t worked since 08, I still try to keep up on my skills.
Yes I still study from the DSM.
I have a few friends who still practice as Counselors.
I recently met a young man who has completed his intern and no longer has to be supervised by a PhD.
He still asks me questions when he is unsure of how to counsel any one of his particular clients.
I enjoy him “picking my brain”, as I too learn from him in his technique’s.
I’ve subscribed to this podcast as I still want to keep my mind sharp.
From time to time I still counsel others, but only as a non paid Counselor / Mentor.
@Hello there, how are you doing this blessed day?
Thank you for continuing to help others in their healing journeys. 🙏
How do you write comments while blind?
@@lilvro7016 The computer has a program in which you speak to the computer and it types whatever you say
I actually always thought that my ADHD was comorbid with psychopathy, since I feel little remorse when leaving my relationships in the cold, as I am distant even with closest friends, but then that is also a symptom of ADHD, where those who are not present simply "do not exist" to my brain. With this thorough explanation I have a much better understanding of the two, and also the fact that many of my "unemotional" situations are due to the extremely logic brain the ADHD gives me.
Sounds like a blessing in disguise!! I wish I were a psychopath with no emotions at all, only logic and intelligence.
Being cold to ending relationships is not pyschopathy. Thats a defense mechanism. Now if you found actual joy in ending those relationships knowing you are causing pain, very different.
Thank you for this
Yea it is hard when you are disassociating with ADHD to not feel like a psychopath because everyone else's emotional responses feels so distant from all the thoughts you are focusing on
Is it terrible that I'm a hospital nurse and most days I wonder if I'm actually dead inside edit: hospice nurse not hispital
Bro it's 4:30 in the night tf am i doing here
Same bro it's 4:45 and I can't sleep
Here at 4.09
Thank you for giving examples. Knowing parental emotional neglect fosters sociopathic traits explains so much.
Except that’s not true. Sociopaths are all cluster b and there is a huge debate about nurture vs nature. This video is misleading
@Laurel Much evidence supports nurture as largely causal in personality development in general, including sociopathy. Parental emotional neglect is extremely impactful on personality development, the earlier neglect and or abuse, the greater psychological harm.
I'm going to guess that this guy messed around with an INTJ personality and live to regret it. because he's describing an INTJ as a psychopath.
There's a major difference between a psychopath and an INTJ personality
But you cross a INTJ personality you will not like the outcome.
@@marlak4253 Blaming everything on the parents is so Gen Z. It’s the thing to do and say now. At some point humans need to take responsibility for their own emotions and mental disorders.
@@laurel1865 that isn't going to happen bozo
I want to remind everyone that, even though it’s been 50 years, punk rock or scene kid dress styles doesn’t make your kid antisocial or a psychopath.
But I’m a sociopath and I’m proud
Yeah but rap music makes young black kids tote guns around and it makes teen girls into wh*res....
@user-jw8rr3zy8y You gotta keep the ego hidden like Light Yagami if you're gonna larp. Don't reveal your power level 48 laws of power type shit
@@KingFloch88 bro wtf 🤣
@@KingFloch88 nah sir you are based
One of my professors describe two types of psychopaths those that get things done and those that do things. The group that gets things done includes your CEOs, entrepreneurs, etc. They have channel their psychological traits to a mostly positive direction. The group that do things are the ones who have channeled their psychological traits into a negative direction manipulating others in a devastating way. CEOs can also do this, but it is usually tempered within the realm of their aspirations at job advancement. The others manipulate you for a cup of water.
It is just like companies that have a standard "hire, use, fire" policy!! Forget it you will never get seniority & build yourself up because the highest ups are the only ones that will long-term benefit & they only want the 'most experienced workers'' to be hired!! Also they get high & a kick out of being ruthless & cruel to the common little-folk!! Also they can get angry in a jiffy like gasoline burning!!
Wow, that is super interesting about the link between brain injuries and sociopathy. My aunt has done some seriously messed up stuff to her own family, and I've always suspected that she is a sociopath. Someone threw a brick at her head when she was a kid, causing brain injury and epilepsy. Crazy.
I was diagnosed with aspd as a kid, made to go to counseling and anger management for a year but my counselor told me flat out I was a psychopath, not even conduct misbehavior, though this was the early 90s. But I know they were wrong. The entire reason I was in that place was because I was tired of being bullied for years and finally stood up for myself. Prior I didn't care because my home life was worse but I only realized it got worse and worse with time, they got too used to talking to me and treating me like shit and when it went to physical bullying I didn't snap per se, I just knew i needed to deal with it. I wasn't angry at all. I didn't resent them for it. It was purely practical. I got expelled from school and one of the kids mom's tried to sue me and my family. But in court when the truth came out I was reinstated into school and even though the judge told the kids mom she was lucky my family wasn't suing them instead he still forced me into counseling and anger management. Since I was a kid though the diagnosis didn't go on my record.
In truth I nearly killed one kid. Fractured his skull and gave him several deep lacerations from banging his head into the concrete floor. In reality I'm a mix between autism, psychopathy, and sociopathy. I have traits from them all.
I was born like this but my environment influenced me to prioritize myself. I dislike lying even if it's for good, because lies are easily uncovered down the road. It has nothing to do with guilt, because lying in the first place is ego oriented. Empathy and apathy. I have emotions and feel them like the next person does, I just don't let them influence my decisions. I try to think about things logically and rationally. I was also raised by my grandparents without a mother or father figure with all my cousins around because my grandparents was basically an orphanage for their grandkids. I was physically and sexually abused from a young age and mentally as well. Spoken about like the apple of someone's eye while in public but treated like a burden or a tool in private.
Either way the difference between them is just the argument one was born and the other made. I wasn't born violent or hateful, but I did realize from an early age the contradictions and hypocrisy of human nature. I still don't consider myself violent or hateful either, truth is I don't care enough about anyone to hate them. Pure and simple. Emotions make you weak and easy to control. Slaves to our whims.
Most consider me sneaky, creepy, too judgemental or an asshole because "you have too high of standards!" In reality I don't, you just have no standards at all.
People are tedious and liars, lying to themselves the most out of anyone. All we care about is ourselves. How we appear in others eyes. Believing our own narratives regardless of what reality is showing. We have higher expectations on others than we do for ourselves. We fault others for not being knowledgeable enough, for not having foresight, awareness, dedication, and even in some cases fault them for not being psychic. But where's that same level of self expectations? Why are we so quick to judge and to try and label others but immediately get pissed when it happens to us? It's unfair, isnt it? The lengths we will go to to lie to ourselves are the real mental illness.
We are just a product, both in the sense that we are made by our surroundings and societal expectations but also because we market ourselves to make a living. At least, we are supposed to. Humanity is a resource and has always been. So we delude ourselves into convincing ourselves we are different or unique. Have the superior genetics or traits, are the originals while everyone else is just fake. And we distract ourselves in anyway we can to avoid acknowledging that life is cruel and unfair, because we all eventually realize it's better off happening to someone else instead of me personally. Another lie, the copium isn't based on sense. It was always emotions that have shackled us, and always another person like us holding the leash and using that as a tool for their own gain.
It's easier to believe our own narratives instead of stopping and taking in the truth of our reality. Escapism is the only way life becomes pleasurable.
Damn there's a lot there man, best of luck to you and I hope you find fulfillment and happiness someday. While you didn't ask, you do sound more sociopathic than psychopathic to me from your various takes on life.
@@lukenawrocki5042 I romanticize violence as much as the next person, think it's admirable if it's done for a just cause. The issue is I know anything can seem just with the right circumstances. But really no matter how you justify it violence is still violence. In an ideal world there would be no need for it, but ideals are just as romanticized and further a product of society. Ignoring all the death, murder, violence in nature only leaves one blinded.
I think what I did that day was a moment of weakness, but a necessary one, because despite years of bullying, it stopped once I responded in kind with more force. Same with the abuse I was suffering at home. The only way you get people to stop abusing you and to leave you alone is you scare them with threat of death, and make sure they know it isn't some idle threat. They might laugh about it at first but I've learned if you can't even respect yourself, no one else will.
Though I think I'm a bit of both, a psychopath and sociopath.. I truly was born feeling detached from my emotions. It's allowed me a certain level of clarity from a young age that I don't think most experience at first. I could go into more detail but I think this is already dark enough subject wise... No need to scar people online.
I do think I was born with a critical eye, I just never made efforts to communicate with others because I felt like it was pointless. I didn't have the love of parents growing up and I know it had a large part in me shutting down emotionally, plus with little to no self esteem or self value, I never felt like i could make a difference in anyone else's life because I already realized the little contradictions within us all was just hypocrisy and ignorance, but even trying to tell someone this does nothing but make them angry with you. No one likes a person who points out their flaws, apparently, because they feel like they are being judged and labelled and take it like you are pretending to be better than them. In reality it's because I can relate and empathize with them that I'm able to see it.. still, my life just further desensitized me and made me cynical, distraught even, depressed with the grim outlook that is our shared existence.
A nihilist and pessimist through and through. But not without reason.
Honestly, happiness is impossible for me. I'm better off alone and immersing myself in work or something else that keeps my mind distracted from the trauma that is my memories. I don't resent it, though I, like everyone else probably would, would like to go back and change things if given the chance, but the reality is I've been suicidal since I was 12 years old and in the 21 years since then nothing has changed. I got older, uglier, a little more seasoned with greys and experience, but I've come to terms with the gaping wound within me. Nothing can fulfill it. I'm okay with that, because unlike most I don't need others to make me feel validated. I want love and acceptance as much as the next person, I just can't sell my dignity to get it. And unfortunately that's always the price I've been asked to pay.
I thought one day I might love myself and then find true love and be happy, but it's a pipe dream. Nothing I do will ever be good enough. They say a person is shaped by nature and nurture, but what happens when nature always oppresses them and nurture was never an option?
Cringey, I know, pathetic even. I bet I sound like a spoiled brat who's ungrateful for my squandered opportunities in life. A good foot in the ass and a push in the right direction and I would've turned out fine, no? 😂 Sadly no one has ever cared about me enough to see me as anything other than an object or a tool for their own ends. No platform to launch from, just the punching bag for layers of toxic relationships that don't even give the typical benefits.
Don't sweat it though, I long for the release of the void because I know then I will be free and happy. From my experiences, life after death will be a nightmare. My happiness lies in my misanthropy.
I just find it a little weird how I check 90% of all these boxes but never fully fit into one of them? Aside from psychopathy and sociopathy, nihilism is the belief nothing matters and is all pointless, with an general distaste for life and its rules itself. I do think it's pointless but insofar as I know we have to be the ones to assign its value. Same with misanthropy, an loner who secludes him or herself because they hate the world and people around them. Except, I don't hate anyone. Not even myself anymore. I just don't have that energy inside of me. The rest fits but I truly don't hate people unless you give me a reason to, and even then I dislike it because hating someone insinuates you care somewhat about them. Or did at one point. I don't have that in me either.
I'm just broken, really. And I know it. I don't even want to fix it, wouldn't know where to start even if I wanted to try. Because what my issue is is a lot more deep-seated than ego or resentment.
I appreciate the sentiment though, but I suppose I'm as happy as I'm ever going to be. I've been waiting for my life to start in a sense but I've only wasted it. I've needed a reason, something to motivate me to want to be better but no matter what happens or comes my way, I just want to shut down and forget it. Because I fully realize now that all the shit people in my life weren't just coincidence. I'm as much at fault as the next person is for my inability to show my emotions. The thing is everytime I've done so in the past, let my emotions take over and dictate my actions, i see myself becoming the thing I always told myself I would never be. Vindictive, jealous, egotistical, vain, cynical, and judgemental. I see my humanity and I'm disgusted by it. I wish I could be different, unique, or special, but I'm not different than anyone else. Aside from maybe being a little more self aware than typical. I'm genuinely scared of who I might be if I allow myself to be happy and motivated. If I had money and respect I would just abuse it and corrupt it.
I know me all too well, my character and inner demons. I would be no different than those already in power and control, because unlike most, I know the monsters and evil exists within us all, aren't some separate and alien entities.
Either way I'm done rambling and ranting. I appreciate your thoughts and wishes but you're better off saving them for someone who can actually make use of them. I'm beyond redemption, I've already made my bed. Now I just want to lay in it.
Uh oh😂 cool kid here. You are a joke 😂
@@darkerdaemon7794 bro wtf is wrong with u
@@Abc123tyuas I do believe I already mentioned all that, the fundamentals of it at least.
I’ve dealt with both. Avoid psyhopaths at all cost. Feeling sympathy is something they know you’re doing and will take advantage of you. It’s hard but the only way to deal with either of these is to cut your emotions off from them completely which means some what becoming one. It’s better to do this than have them change you into one of them from too many interactions.
Not all psychopaths are malicious, don't generalize a mental disorder just because they wouldn't feel bad about ending your life doesn't mean they necessarily want to cause you harm they don't have the same type of emotions as you
@@dommysprite3771 you are very naive...
@@capitcha Let us be glad you are in no position to pass judgment on others. Nor a position in which your opinion online holds any worth.
I believe the statistic is about 1 in 10 men with women being understudied per usual but most people with ASPD are functional in society and barely noticeable to the untrained/inexperienced. This just to back up the claim of @dommysprite3771
@@ItsABnuuy why do u talk like that
Keep in mind that the DSM 5 (Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders) written by the American Psychiatric Association does NOT ever mention the term psychopath or sociopath. Any individual seeking insurance reimbursement for mental health treatment in the US must be diagnosed by a mental health professional with one or more diagnoses from this manual. Another words, psychopath and sociopath are laymen's terms and not official diagnoses of the APA. So dictionaries may define them differently, but the psychiatric community does not use or define such terms.
Interesting. Wonder what they do use.
@@monicadaniels784 Probably the closest would be Antisocial personality disorder. That is the one trump has along with also trump having a narcissistic personality disorder. Just sayin'.
@@billythekid1949 Thanks, yes he is the one I had in mind as I looked at this video. Definitely narcissistic, but he also has qualities of what I was using in the term sociopath. In uninformed society, me included, when one uses 'anti social,' it makes one think of someone who shies' away from people. He doesn't, but he definitely seems incapable of empathy.
@billklatte7536 you dont really understand apd do you
@@sdivine13 Thanks for responding. I'm not sure what you mean. Could you clarify for me. Thanks.
My young cousin, though not formally diagnosed, exhibits behaviors that cause us concern. We feel uncomfortable and unsafe around him. This isn’t his fault. His parents neglected him at a young age, leaving him alone at 8 or 9 years old. His father also physically and verbally abused him, despite their religious claims.
Out of compassion, my sister-in-law offered him a job at her restaurant. However, she noticed some troubling behaviors. He was indifferent to helping coworkers and, more alarmingly, attempted to SA a colleague, leading to his dismissal.
Now, at 23, he's withdrawn and rarely leaves home. We've expressed our concerns to his parents, but they've dismissed our worries and assured us they’ll handle the situation. Yet, we fear that nothing is being done.
At 70, I've met quite a few people during my lifetime and hearing these traits, I'm almost certain I've encountered more than one of these people. Even without knowing these symtoms, I've almost always instinctively made a point of steering clear of these people. It's interesting to note that many have been successful in their careers (doctors and lawyers!), unfortunately, many times at the expense of others, who they find expendable.
@Hello there, how are you doing this blessed day?
because they are created social media, education, entertainment and the news make them. the older generation was right all along.
Exactly lawyer's have a tendency.
@@edithbannerman4 fine and you, how you doin'?
@@paulafulner2559 Great how’s your day going and what’re you up to?
I have a sibling we believe has a severe personality disorder. As a youngster, the joke was that she cried "crocodile tears". Little did we know at the time, that her later publicly expressed emotions as an adult were also just a ruse. Destroyed our family by way of lies, conceit, and taking over assets on the sly.
or you and your family destroyed her/him by treating her/him as a pathological lier and a ''mentaly ill'' person the fact that sociopathy and psychopathy exist doesnt mean IN FACT that they have those symptoms most times YOU and everyone else tend to bring the worst in others and make assumption on their mental health i talk out of experience , i have been diagnosed with three different mental illnesses assuming i am a sociopath with ''anger issues'' cause they felt i am the problem for being myself or the problem is the humans that have ''power'' in their hands and yet THEY (most likely YOU) dicide that we really do became sociopaths or even are psycopath because you are afraid what you cannot understand and what you cannot understand you seek to destroy it .... talk about mental problems... although your actions based on your history brought chaos in our lives because YOU couldnt handle us the way we handle YOU those ''crocodile tears'' have you ever thought that YOUR inabiliety to act like a human being cut off someone elses chances to feel like a proper human being that the impact of your actions made us who we are or does your ego flows above all and everything that you cant admitt the truth . We are more sane and normal that you could ever be in all of your life time she/ he didnt destroyed your family ...there wasnt any family to begin with i bet you and your parents for sure treated her/him and even psycologicly declare a war over her/his inabiliety to lets say feel sane feel like she/him belongs somewhere and even feel accepted by her/his OWN family but oh well humanity never ceast to surprise me you are full of lies and pretensious moves over the weak ones making your ego shine through time and space because you cant handle the truth and the actions of us because our pinky is more capable of understanding the whole existance of this world rather by caring for your unworthy wannabe attraction to reality so you can live your life as A) it was dreamed by you and B) because someone planted that idea in your little puny brain of yours. YOU and your kind disgust me .PERIOD
@@prettydraw1757 You seem to (claim to) know a remarkable amount about a family and people you have no direct experience with. It is beyond arrogant to think you know anything at all with certainty that contradicts the bona fide facts stated by @MrDibbons. Frankly your comment says far more about you than it casts any doubt on his offhanded remark. The "us" vs "them" mentality (which is your characterisation and your choice) from your rant speaks volumes. Just some food for thought from a third party observer that has no axe to grind. May you be happy and well.
seethe weirdo@@prettydraw1757
Just a scumbag
My stupid PR babysitter who helped raise me would always claim I was crying crocodile tears. I was really just a sensitive kid that would cry if sock seams rubbed in between my toe nails or if my nails were cut down past the hyponychium. I was not allowed to show anger or cry as a kid so now when I'm angry, which is a lot, it's either dulled or it comes out as tears. And man, the temper tantrums I had as a kid... They were so bad I gave my mom a black eye, lol.
I grew up in a "transitional" inner-city neighborhood. Many enriching experiences, but also developed a good sense of danger. There have been a few instances over the many years when I picked up .... vibes?... from a stranger. Being an inner-city kid I dealt with all sorts of people. I recognized the "dead" eyes and odd facial and body movements as dangerous. Cross the street, retrace my steps... and run... to a safe place, never ever ignore my gut instincts. I have had those experiences only a few times, (thank god) but quickly assessing the situation and acting on it is part of my DNA. That's why it is important to teach children how to judge others, especially adults, and the signs of danger. I used to tell my son if ... god forbid... we got separated in a store or mall, go to a mother with children or a store clerk for help. Fortunately that never happened, but children need to know what to do in challenging situations.
Im so glad to honestly say neither of these are definding me, i was almost convinced that i was 50 % psychopath, 30% socialpath and 20% normal , which is good to know , , now i need to find out what am i
*_Some of us do not have Netflix nor have even heard of Tommy. A very long time was spent describing psychopaths and about a fifth of the time describing sociopaths. Why? While we are supposed to be learning the difference between the two, they are not actually compared. A huge big long list of the traits of psychopaths is followed by a list describing sociopaths and we are expected to remember what was said about psychopaths instead of comparing and contrasting traits between the two one at a time. In other words, I did not learn the distinction._*
A psychopath doesn't care and a sociopath can't differentiate. A psychopath has no remorse and a sociopath does.
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I lived in that same apartment with a psychopath. I always knew there was something off about that guy but I could never out my finger on it. Watching this video, it hit every point about him.
One way other to identify them is by the darkness and emptiness in their eyes even when they're being "friendly".
So u sayng blue eyed people cant be psycopaths?
That's- that's not what he meant😭😭@@Emanuel10348
I was married to a psychopath. He had every trait. No remorse, no empathy, violent, pathological liar, repeated criminal activity, unfaithful. He was fearless and didn't care if he was risking anyone's life. He was cold and never showed any affection, never apologize for his bad behavior. After five months, I left him. I had to sneak away and run to another state so he couldn't find me. It was terrifying to say the least. A nightmare!
I am glad that you got away ❤❤
I'm so glad you're now safe. 🤍🙏
How'd you even get married to him in the first place?
Lol, all did was out yourself as the, I like bad boys types, I can change him. How did changing him work out for you? Lmfao
@@__-hu1ph some women like dudes like that until they cannot take it anymore. See it all the time
When I was a child I went through many traumatizing events. From seeing death first hand to physical, mental, and emotional abuse by my mother, sister and other peers. I grew up cold because of this. I didn't like people touching me and most people described me as cold and standoffish. I didn't like being around people, and I didn't care to make conversation that would just lead me to pretending to care about what was happening in their lives As I grew older, into my teens, I was constantly angry, or as professionals would later describe it 'quick to anger'. I first became aggressive towards my sister as a way to defend myself, but later, I actually enjoyed it. I became depressed at a certain point and tried to take my life on quite a few occasions. I was diagnosed with bipolar disorder, anxiety, depression and Sld (a type of memory loss). After a while, I made some friends, but it felt off somehow? I was never able to keep a stable job due to my indifference. I've been in therapy since I was a kid and had been taking medications for said diagnosis. They made everything worse. I told my therapist as much, and she just insisted I give it time even after a year. I lashed out more and kept to myself to keep others safe, not liking who I was around them. I finally decided to speak to a specialist to figure out why I am the way I am. Turns out I am, in fact, a sociopath. I am now seeing a specialist regularly and am on the PROPER medication. I have never been happier in my life. I'm able to be around people and not feel any annoyance. I am able to feel regret, sympathy, empathy. I am able to manage my emotions in ways I never thought possible. I feel like a weight has been lifted. I have no interest in harming anyone or myself. I am able to understand actions and consequences as well, as this was something I used to really struggle with. I do sometimes wonder if I'll ever feel that deep connection, though. The one where you look at your loving parents and feel that emotional link or two people who feel like they have come together as one, or your child and feel that connection in your chest (soul). Some have desribed it as a ball of light, or happiness. Of true bonding. That's something I don't feel still. Somedays, I hate that I am me just for that. It's rather lonely sometimes. But before, I was always so confused by my own self, and now I know.
wow, thank you for sharing. hopefully, you can someday experience all you want to experience :) i wish you the best!
It’s interesting how a short video like this could help me understand my family members and the people I was friends with as a child and a teen. Psychopaths and sociopaths are among us through our lives and our every day experiences.
at least 8%
Careful. This video is extremely surface level, generalized/simplified.
@@pRaX85815as a sociopath I agree
It’s frustrating how closely the different types of personality disorders come together. I got reminded of borderline personality, antisocial personality, narcissistic traits etc I couldn’t imagine being a psychiatrist having to decide what exactly a person is
I was DXd with BPD last year by a psychiatrist the first time she met me. But through my own research, I am so all for the cluster B spectrum that I genuinely can’t tell which of the 4 I have or if I am comorbid with any of the 4, most likely NPD/ASPD imo. I’ve been DXd with psychosis, bipolar I, BPD, ADHD, anxiety and PTSD. I don’t know what the fuck is wrong with me and no doctor can give me the same DX because they all get a different version of me or they think I’m overreacting or exaggerating when I’m actually trying to be honest about what I’m like. I don’t know what I am and it actually eats at me all the time to the point that I have to NOT think about it bc I will obsess and that’s part of the reason I went to a hospital last year bc I couldn’t stop obsessing about it. It’s confusing for the doctors and it’s a living nightmare for us.
@@Fmradio803 No you definitely bpd, based on how much you whine and make yourself out to be a victim, its not npd cause in your spiel about how hard your life is you didn't blame anyone else for it a narc would. Honestly you should probably just kiss yourself people with bpd are horrible creatures and leave destruction in their wake. And you literally sound insane.
I’m all 4
@@Fmradio803 Have you looked into CPTSD (complex PTSD)? People with it are often misdiagnosed with some of the disorders you mentioned.
@Fmradio803 it's not possible to be diagnosed with a personality disorder after just one session with a psychiatrist, it requires multiple sessions. further, there's a difference between having a full blown personality disorder versus just traits thereof. almost all people have some traits of BPD to some degree. it is massively overdiagnosed in women, especially women who were sexually abused at a very young age as well as autistic women (meltdowns caused by sensory overload mistaken for intense emotional dysregulation).
I would get a second opinion.
Perfect. As I have always suspected. Social media is creating Sociopaths in our communities.
Social, feminism, capitalism, fascism, nazism, religions, courts and police... all the same sh!t.
Psychopath? ^^^ Or sociopath?
FACT!!! Being a proper Psycho requires logic and planning instead of compulsive reaction.........
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I actually think most of these movements are spearheaded by vile psychopaths who have recruited a wide variety of personality disordered people to their cause. Mostly narcissists and borderlines who are either personally invested or are caught up believing they are doing something meaningful with their pain.
Perhaps: Jacobin activists via the schools and media!
Sadly, I fear my mother may be a psychopath. Though she doesn't laugh at murder or feel at ease watching it, she has always had an inappropriate way of giggling out of nowhere when I've cried or tried to confide something emotionally difficult. She's even done it in talk therapy and made the therapist ask why she did it and she always says she didn't laugh. I've always wondered what it was. She's lies a lot and they're dumb lies too. I've often told her, it's like she doesn't seem to be complete until she's lied at some point in the day. She hits almost every mark on this but maybe one, even down to the shallow relationship part. It is all there.
Thank you for sharing, that must've been very difficult
I had to leave my family completely alone. My mother my brother and every kid my brother has their psychopaths. Mean and cruel and sneaky. There's no cure for them just get away for your own personal safety. And of course our mental health
That could be more along the lines of narcissism. The not laughing at murder or not feeling at ease about it kind makes the difference
A little bit of knowledge can be dangerous... When you share your problems and your mom smiles or even chuckles, she might just be uncomfortable and doesn’t know what to say or do. The smile isn’t one of happiness, it’s one of confusion. She might be a pathological liar, but hold on with diagnosing her as a psychopath!
@C B honest to God I don't know how they do it. My father stuck with her even though she had an affair with another man and had my brother. Also she was full of ridicule and violence towards me just like your mom. To this day I can't do anything right. To this day every time my brother does something wrong it's because of me and my bad attitude. I've been the one holding him back for 60 years
Sociopathy starts at 8:54
I was a management assistant for 10 years during my working life. Met quite a few psychopaths that masqueraded as caring CEO's, whilst making the most ruthless decisions without blinking. That is the reason I quit my last job. Just could not bear being around those sorts of people.
Maybe more sociopathic than psychopathic?
@@lilmoe4364 No. That is factor one psychopathy, plain as day.
Yeah, these types love to fire & hire!! I remember various jobs in my youth of companies that did such proceedures!! They also want only highly experienced workers. "experienced only need to apply" & "profit, profit, profit", only the bottom-line figures matters!! Using the business as a menas of "get rich quick & retire early"!! All crooked bosses are at least narcissists if not worse!! They did not care that I was trying to get experience, go somewhere else & get your experience there, sorry not here!!
I once called my ex a psychopath when he was raging at me, unwarranted and out of no where. (This was before I figured out he was a narcissist.) And after I said that to him he said “I’m not a psychopath, I’m a sociopath and I’m smart enough to know the difference.” I will never forget that.
Omg! These moments of clarity.. so heartbreaking but valuable.
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Damn he called you dumb 😂😂😂
Your ex was a sociopath.
U just throwing all the terms around
My father is a narcissistic sociopath (clinicly diagnosed). Its a very difficult thing to deal with as a kid. At home a monster, to the rest of the world a saint. They find it easy to justify the abuse they cause, and refuse to take responsibility for the things they do to the people i lm their lives no matter what. EVERYTHING they do, even for other people, is for themselves. When it does come to them admitting their wrongs the do it in a way that they dont fully admit any wrong. The most frustrating thing is that in their work life they will fool everyone into believing they are good hearted people, while those in his family see a totally different person and feel disdain when people compliment them as a "good person". Luckily m father was able to make aome changes, but i can still see the lingerring affect of his sociopathy. If t was ever told to me that my father was a serial killer, I would not be the least bit surprised. At times, I expected it.
Dr.les Carter is my life line to cope with a narcissist. I recommend him because he is the best. Sorry to read your situation, I understand it and know how difficult it is to have a narcissist in the family.
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"Sociopathy" isn't a real thing. He'd be diagnosed with ASPD(Anti-social Personality Disorder).
I understand your pain, my father was diagnosed as a sadistic psychopath and my mother as a narcisistic borderline... Especially those who aren't aware that there is something wrong with them will hurt beyond believe... But still a person isn't a disorder there is a free will... Sorry you experienced so much pain 🌺
The last video I watched was about social effects of capitalism and I mentioned that it relies on apology gifts. This is that too. The normal some fools want to get back to makes people that way.
I really am the person with ten years of college, living in a van down by the river. Y'all are nucking futz.
I think you got the conscience part back to front. I believe it's psychopaths who are more socially intelligent and aware; but just don't care; why sociopaths are generally less aware of how their actions influence others.
This is false, not being every connected emotionally it's difficult to grasp any emotions to their fullest, this has caused me to seek a path of pure logic and reason. Which of course has lead me to being even less emotionally connected, as now instead of going "hey this thing made people upset" I think "hey, *why* did this make people upset?"
I only view the illogical errors in I'd thought process, and view the concept of respect as required to an extent, but vastly taken to overkill by the majority of the population.
Hope this cleared some things up
I struggle with being empathetic, I know a lot of people do, but I am pretty blunt to people because my entire year level and generation is a shit heap, they always ask how I am in a sarcastic voice, when I tell them to go away they act like I’m being mean for no reason. I’m virtually a social exile in my grade, not even kidding, have been since year 3 and it bloody shows when they have to sit next to me while we listen for what we have to do in PE, I’m not overly weird, not unsporty, only slightly nerdy because I know how to listen.
God humanity is done for, whether I’m a sociopath or not.
Important to remember some sociopaths like me also learn to hide their issues and are more ticking time bombs. In cases like that they become even harder to distinguish, really the biggest difference is nature and nurture.
According to this video, it sounds like psychopathy is caused by nature (bad genetics), whereas sociopathy is a result of nurture (bad upbringing).
@@GymRowboat Correct. Also sociopaths are capable of feeling empathy, but only to those they have strong bonds with.
Though I have heard of psychopaths having 'favorites', not the same thing they don't empathize by nature but they can like people.
It is complicated, but important. Sociopathy can be treated psychopathy really can't be.
@@deplorabledegenerate2630 Many thanks. The favorites is something I noticed too. Yes, it's complicated. Humanity is more difficult to troubleshoot than the electronics I'm used to but it's starting to make sense. Spotting my own faults is humbling. 🤪
You can distinguish cos they always have gut issues 😂😂😂
You should add that all the symptoms you describe are experienced by many people in a normal daily life but Psychopaths and sociopaths experience very exacerbated version of those. Too many people start to believe they suffer from a mental illness because of normal brain behavior related to a way of living, or life events, rather than to a physiological disfunction.
We all experience various degree of mental illnesses, but we are considered ill when these have an uncontrollable impact on our life and the life of people around us
Thank you. You are so spot on.
ASPD is a spectrum BUT it works a little different than for example Autism, according to some studies an average person is in about 30% a Psychopath, to these 30% you can put a wanting a good career, egoism at some point, micromanagement or manipulation BUT unconscious such as "if you don't wash the dishes you won't get pocket money for 2 months" etc
In ASPD these traits are escalated
Also another thing, Psychopaths are more like imposters, they care A LOT about how they appear to other people manipulating their way out of troubles, they're more incognito but outstanding
Sociopaths however don't pay attention to social image, they're just different and couldn't care less, they live by their own rules and make it obvious, they don't really pretend to be sane and stable, Sociopaths are menace to society and everyone knows it (Psychopath are also menace depending on their sadism and narcissism level, if they're highly sadistic and narcissistic, they're serial killers, lower levels of these make them more useful to society)
Psychedelic's definitely have potential to deal with mental health symptoms like anxiety and depression, I would like to try them again but it's just so hard to source here.
I have researched and found out that shrooms are very helpful , it has really helps to reduce anxiety and depression . I would love to try magic mushrooms but I can't easily get some , Is there any realiable source I can purchase one
The Trips I've been having have really helped me a lot,I finally feel in control of my emotions and my future and things that used to be mundane to me now seem incredible and full of nuance on top of that I'm way less driven by my ego and I have alot more empathy as well
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@@hinesann8058 Sporeville
You explained this so clearly. i have had counselors that cannot tell the differences in the terms so thank you for clarity.
It’s so important to study this stuff, in the past people would just jump to assumptions about the devil.
I have to deal with a sociopath every single day. Every time I wake up and look in the mirror, in fact. It's actually really difficult to not revert back to problematic ways of thinking. Especially when you see them as having been beneficial for you in the past. I survived incarceration very well. Then again, I wouldn't have been incarcerated had I not engaged in the behavior that I did.... it's a jumble, really.
I have Borderline personality disorder, and I fall into the sociopath category. I've known this for some time after carefully evaluating myself... I think violent things, and evil plots, but never have acted on any of them...I just realize the thoughts, and allow them to pass. All of my brutal violence has been impulsive with no true motive behind them other than the release of rage. I'm not a stupid person by any means of the phrase, and I'm very good at any job I get... I do tend to choose jobs like dishwasher, or anything outta sight that will allow me to deal with ppl the least (even tho I'm quite the social butterfly). I have NEVER maintained consistent employment, and even when I'm able to gain some semblance of it; my work is varied, and differentiates widely. I have a fascination with serial killers, but I can't look at, hear, or be around extreme violence (watching on TV, hearing stories, etc) without it pushing what's called "intrusive thoughts" into my mind. The fascination with them has always been WHY they do it where I'm just aware of the ideas within myself. I'm also intrigued by their intelligence, as I've always excelled academically. A natural attention and interest in human behavior is what I know I have in common with them, but I'm well aware that we are not the same; me and psychopaths. Shout out to whoever made this video. Good shit, and way better than the armchair psychology most do now. I don't feel like enough is said about the intellectual capacities of both socio, and psychopaths; their interest in the psychological responses of people, or their ability to use the findings of said interest to cold read potential victims. I'm rambling tho. Thanks for the video again.
I think you have a wild imagination. You don't hold jobs, because you are not interested. Be a crime novels writer, that may be you calling. With time you might also write other types of novels. I don't like crime novels myself.
The more times someone goes impulsive with no true motive behind actions other than the release of rage, the more their brain ends up becoming wired in a sociopathic way. The more times someone lets their thoughts pass by like birds chirping or the wind blowing, the more the brain will rewire itself to be able to control one's reactions. We are what we consume. This is why meditation works.
@@zekihasan-yg9xv sry man but u just don't understand what goes on in our minds. I have borderline too and im a lot like him, especiaally the employement thing - it is extremely consistent amongst our type and believe me "I think you just have a wild imaginition" while a guy is trying to list out the way in which is mental illnesses effects him is pretty fucking cruel tbh. We've already been denied a normal mind by our own childhoods and genetics and now the rest of society wants to deny us the ability to put a name to our disorder when we do it? Now it's just a "wild imagination"
Lemme ask you: Does Amber Heard ( johnny depp's abusive ex) have a "wild imagination" is that what produced all of her insane behavior? cus a whole fuckton of psychologists identify that series of behaviors that caused her to ruin her life in regular ass people like us too. It explains a lot. She's EXACTLY like me. Exactly like us. I'd argue i'm a lot worse tho - and it is not because of a wild imagination. This man is barely scratching the surface of the horrors our rages unleash. But it's not really super treatable. Even as I'm typing to you right now i'm struggling to control my anger at how fucking insolent and ignorant some of you humans are...
We get bored very easily and will straight up quit goals / jobs etc. We'd rather die than do whatever it is that you want us to do. We will fight, physically, tooth and nail against you and it doesn't matter who you are or your position of authority in the many hierarchies of mankind... its like our brains just didn't care to begin with, then obviously we're forced by society to participate in it regardless... and invariably we get bored and depressed to the point where we either just quit or like me and the last job i had to work : try and kill yourself. But actually Sincerely try this time.
tbh i'd put the whole lot of us to death now that i think about it. Cluster B personality disorders are like 95%+ of all serial killers, all mass shooters etc. imo we're pure evil, berserker warriors without a war and withotu a country that wants us as warriors. :/
Hell it's unethicaly for me to ever even have children. I've discussed that a lot with doctors. I want kids naturally as im about that age but .... i don't want to bring something into the world only to hurt it eventually in anger I can't control. Not to mention whatever partner agrees to that fate lmao
My favorite bit of this Video is when at the end i realized (or rather it was confirmed), that even though i share most of the traits of both groups, i am something altogether different.
Bc this video was straight garbage. So generic with no in depth explanations. It's done this way for the clicks and views. I learned nothing from this video.
This helped me to understand that the man I married (stayed married for 20 years) was both a psychopath & a sociopath. Could never work out exactly what he was. This opened my eyes to how much danger he was to me. Yes, I divorced him, but I still have the effects of that behaviour to this day. I still have ongoing intermittent therapy. He was extremely violent, but the emotional and mental is what I'm still dealing with.
We endured over 35 yrs of a violent, manipulative creature, moved 6 times, two stints in refuges, but he always said "It doesn't matter where you go, I'll find you, I'll get you and I'll kill you". "I'll smash your f'ing head in and cut your f'ing throat" was also popular". There were others.The creature died last year and I was so relieved, but it doesn't make up for the traumatic years and years of cruel behaviour. All that time, wasted on just trying to get on and have a decent life, that's what gets to me. If only....It's gets me down sometimes, but I try and just get on with things. I do wonder sometimes as to the point of it all. On the upside, I find i notice a lot of things about people's body language and demeanour and recognise certain traits which I find useful when dealing with people. Hope your situation gets better with time, we hope. Good luck.
He was likely one way with you (more overt) and another in public (more covert). Likely one syndrome. A psychopath.
You can’t be both. You’re incredibly uninformed. You’re another overly emotional unintelligent female claiming that her cheating ex was totally a psychopath. Two thoughts occur when I see comments like this.
1. I don’t fucking care
2. You’re an idiot who has no clue what they’re talking about, you’re so unintelligent it’s almost cringeworthy.