Any chance can send you my paper of adhd as hunter gatherer leaders and how it was adaptive to those environments and only maladaptive to modern society?
When someone asks what are you good at ? Procrastination, reading up on subjects of interest but then stopping and not being able to remember much about it, having ideas but not following through on them
And don't forget the I can do everything until I'm overwhelmed and all is too much part 😅 that's me at work....I can take on the world until I can't and I'm always too late recognizing it 😅
Damn, after about a minute of watching, I already started reading the comments instead of listening to the video. And just when I got tired and was about to switch, I stumbled upon a comment (don’t remember whose) saying that everyone with ADHD had already skipped the video. Thank you, kind person who wrote that comment. It was only because of it that I pulled myself together and finished watching the video
Pure gold. Like looking in a mirror. Diagnosed at age 66. I've had decades of hyper-success, and decades living in a deep pit. The difference? The Why Frame. When I had a compelling Why, I smashed it. When that Why ran out of puff ( hit the summit, lost novelty), I decended into ADHD abyss, until I found a new Why. The Why gets me to live the right life cycle (sleep, exercise, nutrition, routine etc). If your young or youngish, follow this man and all his advice. He knows. He really, truly knows.
What do you mean why? Like whats the purpose of doing something??? I ask myself this everyday, i always ask what this life is about, why should I survive? Why should I socialize, why should i start a family.
Tell me you have ADHD without telling me you have ADHD. I wrote a comment that was 5 paragraphs long, it was fascinating and very detailed, but I erased it and put this one instead because it kept getting longer.
why though hahaha you could post that one as well anyway :D and some of the responses are very strange such as "19 here, ADHD and high functioning autism. I spent my teenage hood meditating, trying desperately to figure out what I can do to navigate my mind. No therapist, no medication. What a painful way to grow up, especially when family falls for a while like it did mine before it resembled again. Discipline equals freedom." BE CAREFUL AND BE WELL PEOPLE!
I have a free day today, so when I woke up, I spent about an hour in bed reading/watching TH-cam videos related to my latest hyperfixation when I found this video. Ignored it for a little while and was about to saved it for later when I decided to watch it. After two minutes I got up from bed, made something to drink and headed out to sunbathe for a little while cause I have vitamin D defiency and cant get enough sun on workdays So baby steps but it helped a lot
I feel like these “motivational” videos gaslight us with replayed messages and placebo solutions. What we need is a sense of community in order to even have good days anymore. A lot of us just don’t have community right now. It’s not that we don’t have motivation to do anything, it’s that we don’t have anyone to be motivated by, most of the time.
These gurus are yapping about the same regurgitated trash. Work out Get better social groups Positive energy and mindset Eat healthy Yet all these thing are nearly impossible to gain because of the society we live in. There is a reason why we all are falling into the same hole. Maybe the problem is not you but rather society as a whole and how the stupid elites and politicians are destroying the way we are living.
As someone who got his shit together(took years of journaling and reflecting) my method is; if I don’t feel like doing something…I won’t. As long as I can afford to. The KEY IS don’t do anything else and engage the task positive network. DO NOTHING until the dopamine comes back. Just lay down or sit in a quiet room.
To elaborate and put in another way; advice id give to a friend, just do nothing if you don’t feel like doing the work. Nothing doesn’t mean going on your phone or keeping yourself engaged like socializing with someone just sit there or lay down and relax maybe go for a walk. Just experiment with this and see if you end up wasting too much time for a week.
@@sperez3275 well my friend if I was guaranteed you’d watch and entire video I’d recommend you then I’d say, watch the first episode of the huberman lab podcast where he talks about how the brain works and how it learns. Then watch how to focus which is also an episode talking about task positive network and default mode network
I’ve noticed a significant improvement in my overall quality of life and motivation when I wake up early and exercise. However when I can’t get to sleep on time I end up waking up later and experience debilitating physical and mental fatigue. The importance of our sleep schedule/rhythm cannot be emphasized enough.
Standard sleep cycles last 1.5 hours. Aim to set an alarm for the end of a cycle, allowing 10 to 15 minutes to fall asleep to begin with. Interrupted sleep cycles can leave us feeling like we haven't slept.
I noticed the opposite. If I get up too fast and have to do things right away my whole day is ruined - and I mean the WHOLE day, right up to the moment I go back to sleep. I can't get it back together. Especially if I do exercise, which is not associated with a reward in my brain's scheme. Instead, I have to watch the sleep cycles very carefully and make really damn sure I don't wake up in the middle of a cycle. If I do, I have to go back to sleep (even if it takes 2 hours to fall back asleep) and complete the cycle. I also developed various meditation techniques that allow me to ease off from the sleep state into the waking state to prevent this. Waking up early also causes a full day of depression if it's not associated with a long sleep at noon (biphasic sleep). So yes, we have to watch our sleep among other things but there's no one size fits all solution - on the contrary, what works seems to be on a spectrum that stretches towards both poles.
Stop eating enriched foods and taking pills that have no evidence of curing or ridding you of the problem. YOU DONT PAY YOUR DOCTOR INSURANCE AND PHARMACEUTICAL COMPANIES DO.
Having ADHD all my life and only recently diagnosed at 54, I thank you for this particular video, but also your simple honest explanations. My life has been one flop after another. I wondered why my life consisted of "having"to do things, rather than "just" doing. I am still in my learning phase and now attempting to extricate myself from the people pleasing mask wearer. Thank you again mate.
Yes ‘have’ to do things, thinking about having to do things. Not just doing. It is wildly frustrating, others just seem to seamlessly do things. Even the simplest of things such as showering. Everything feels and thinks like a mountain
How do they diagnose you? My generation loves too self diagnose. I do things that I don’t even understand, and I thought most people do. Im just looking for answers
You nailed, when I enjoy something, I don't care spending hours on end on it. But when I don't like/enjoy it, seems that, somehow I feel physically and physiologically uncomfortable to keep doing it.
Same. Just studied for 8 hours straight today thanks to meds. Absolute game changer but honestly I want to be decently productive with and without the meds
@@DaveOh i used to be on meds for my ADHD. im having insane issues with keeping up in school right now because of it, but i refuse to go back on my meds because they would destroy my appetite and sleep cycle. kinda in a wierd spot right now
another huge problem im having is days are, and have been blending together. i cant remember anything substantial or notable in very many of my days at the moment, i feel like an NPC, if you will.
I hope it gets better.. keep your head up, sounds wack but I'm struggling today and my grades are slipping as well.. that's all we can do.. love you man @@SpazerLaser
Wow that is actually brilliant - realizing we have the ability to figure out how to do things the easy way. ADHD is a prospecting brain, we are good at finding the path of the least resistance. The rest of the world tells us if you don’t work hard, you aren’t performing well, but for our brain we NEED to be able to PLAY with everything - our work, leisure, food, activities. We just don’t see play as serious business. Once we figure out easy things matter, life can become easier. Follow the easy!
Right there with you , same age also. Have had a very recent diagnosis. My life is finally starting to make sense 💪🏼 power to you , love and luck from Ireland 🇮🇪
From a Specialist of Internal Medicine and Psychotherapy I can only tell you with great admiration: YOU ARE SIMPLY INCREDIBLY GREAT. These 17:33 minutes are more practical than 20 sessions with a Doctor or 10 sessions by a Psychotherapist or 5 sessions by a Mental coach. Bravissimo and THANK YOU! Dr. Jadaan
19 here, ADHD and high functioning autism. I spent my teenage hood meditating, trying desperately to figure out what I can do to navigate my mind. No therapist, no medication. What a painful way to grow up, especially when family falls for a while like it did mine before it resembled again. Discipline equals freedom.
That’s normal. People on the internet call it fancy names, like ADHD or “Fancy-object syndrome”. The truth is, we all are interested in something that we find fun or rewarding. But when it gets hard most quit, that’s why so few become rich, famous, good-looking, whatever
coz we are feelers. once we find something that was really meant for us, nobody will stop us. sadly we must jump around a lot. i also had to, it took me 29 but i finally found it. and it was always there, always defined me. but you know how it is...
@@bufotoxinbufo bro that is what I think every time I find something new, I disagree with you. I think that we just have to continue doing the same thing until we focus on it again
Seriously.. it's hard to function most of the time when my brain is like the Dog from the the movie "Up"... I'm focused, I'm focused, I'M FOCUSED.. SQUIRREL!!!... wait what was i doing again???? 😅 and the best part is being aware, but still can't stop it... this video had some helpful info, but most of it just sounded like telling a person with chronic depression to just cheer up... like that's not how it works 😅 if it's so simple to just do these things, then why is a main part of the disorder being that you have extreme difficulty doing them... it's a chemical brain deficiency, it's not something you can simply fix by saying "you know all those things you have extreme difficulty doing, well just do them and the chemical imbalance in your brain will simply go away!".... and using millionaire's/ billionaires as examples of "they are OK so you can too" that's hilarious 😂
I'm 14 and i started workout for the first time in my life just yesterday, i felt a good feeling and i wanted to workout more and more. I recommend to everyone with ADHD like me to start working out and you'll feel the change, I'm sure you'll love to workout cause of the hyperactivity 😁 hope this helps
I agree! Working out has helped me with self love and socializing with more confidence. But still suck at socializing but I'm sure that's a different problem
One of the most effective ways to manage it. Whenever you are doing well, take measures to keep the momentum. Do sports in a group or with friends, so that you have that extra outside motivator when your own motivation drops. :)
Working out is actualy so exhausting for me because my brain is constantly trying to motivate me to continue. So after workout my head is hurting and i feel more mentaly exhausted than physicaly.
@@_sekremmlin_8274 Are you exercising alone? ADHD makes it hard for me to stay motivated to exercise alone. I almost always go with a friend. Find a gym buddy. It makes the world of a difference. Find someone who will tell you to go to the gym with them. I started bouldering recently. It's super fun so I am motivated to go. Experiment with different sports and maybe you'll find something that you enjoy
I cried watching this. I’m an almost 37 year old man. I’m stuck in ADHD cycle currently and have seen its destructive power for most of my life. I needed this video. I wanted to find something that would help me see a good pathway to follow that’s simple. This is it! I’m convinced, this along with continuing to practice AA principles will revolutionize my life! Thank you for making this!
The point is "there's nothing to keep me constantly interested and motivated. I easily quit old habits and change daily routines. I need more excitement, even if things are going well and I'm doing well. I get bored no matter if I'm interested in what I'm doing or I hate it.
Thank you! I forget often how much i overthink positive things as negative just because of the "i should" thinking, never really letting myself hear my thoughts🎉
I seem to have acquired adhd, or at least adhd symptom after severe TBI in the military. This man’s advice has helped me more than anything else I’ve experienced.
@@noahclark657 I’m not sure. I was an infantryman, not a neuroscientist. I only know that I spent about 3 years in a “walking coma”, and what little memories I have of that time are disjointed and probably unreliable.
@@LaVidaAwesome I completely relate. Had some trauma + PTSD which affected me for several years after. I remember at the time feeling like you said, in a 'walking coma', I felt like a zombie or a NPC. I have very little memories from the time, but after going to therapy and healing I now have ADHD symptoms, which I did not have before.
How did you time travel? Either you feel like you time travel or that you are waking from a coma. That is the feeling I get when I realize that years go by. Watch how time will fly and you will return to your comment in 1 to 2 years. I always return to comments I posted months even 2 to 3 years ago and I cannot believe how many videos on ADHD I did not finish watching. ADHD makes you warp time. Einstein had ADHD so most likely experienced time warping throughout his life.
Yeah aye, good too. Oh no I don't even know what was said because I went to comments and reckon the comments are way more interesting and insightful. Sorry dude on the video, might try a watch it later.
Thank you very much. I am 30 recently self diagnosed myself with adhd. My life has been a rollercoaster with mostly downs and a very few ups. It was confusing frustrating and most of the time I hated myself. Watching your video gave me hope that i can climb out of this pit.
People like you, who “self diagnose” are the reason we can’t get proper treatment or medication. You are not a doctor or psychiatrist. You didn’t diagnose a single thing. See a therapist bc you probably DONT have adhd
this makes so much sense , its super hard to hit the gym , but when i do , i dont get out , i'm like working out for more than 3 hours , people look at me and be like this guy is working hard , and i'm feeling real good in those 3 hours , the work out ends , i go my way , and now the real problem is going back to the gym , i just cant , but once I'm in , I'm unstoppable
Thank you for making this content. I have a 14yr old ADHD Son, who is currently struggling with a lot in his life due to ADHD. I’ve gotten him to watch this & it’s given him hope ❤️
@@adamsh1I regret not taking Adderall/ meds when I was in school. 26 now I could have learned alot more. I did not realize just how much I missed 😵💫 let it be the kids decision... I hated pills because I was put on some nasty meds that made me feel like crap. Meds should be a bit of a last resort not a first solution tbh but I mean they can help alot too. Keep the tolerance low don't use it too much have breaks from it so it doesn't cause too much dependency because it WILL do that long term. It has pros and cons. Cheers.
Amazing video. I’m 21, and I genuinely don’t know where the past few years since I’ve graduated high school have gone. Mostly due to the repetitive, unproductive cycle I’ve been stuck in that you described to a T. Wake up, check the phone, think about what I need to do today, eat something quick, hop on the computer, eat something else, laze around and again think about stuff I need to do, etc. If it's a work day, I’ll just lay in bed planning everything I need to do before my shift, down to calculating the smallest detail, before eventually procrastinating much too long and ending up consistently 2-10 minutes late almost every time. I’ve made minimal efforts here and there to make progress, but since that progress was so aimless I always managed to fall out of the habit at one point or another. The hyperfocusing too, whew. I can’t tell you how many hobbies I’ve picked up and spent eight hours a day on for three months to a year and gotten great at, before dropping it entirely out of the blue. Chess (2000elo in a year), guitar (was shredding that baby within a month), cooking (this one I still surprise people with), and even metal detecting (no faster plug digger in the west 😎). Even 20 minutes ago, I opened TH-cam habitually, watched some shorts and half of two videos before clicking on yours. It’s genuinely terrifying how I’ll get sucked into it for hours at a time before snapping back to reality. I’ve made countless schedules and plans in my notebook, only to flip to the next page and do it again after I fail myself. I haven’t been screened or diagnosed with ADHD, so I can’t say for sure whether or not I have it, but this video is a straight godsend nonetheless. I’m mostly making this much-too-long comment for myself to come back to so I can remember when the turning point was, but if you happen to see this and even read my not-so-short essay, thank you for the help I didn’t know I needed so badly. Aaand now I’m off to your next part 😅
Wow. This is so me. If I get up and look at youtube or any of the places I normally haunt then I can spend hours and feel really bad, feel like the day is over and I'm not getting anything done. But, if I get up and get dressed immediately and head out to my shop to start working then after a few hours I have gotten so much done and I feel fantastic and want more. I can see now that I've been trying to quiet my mind to get into the flow state but what I really need to do is get into flow state to quiet my mind. Fortunately I love my work and nothing feels better to me than to be in the zone and productive.
This is so true, I'm out of work, If I get up and then look at my emails I'll want more dopamine and look at messenger and then FB even though I had paused them all over night... But if I get up, get washed and changed and go out after breakfast then I will get things done until I go on my phone and then I fall off. It's so dangerous as it's like I just want to engage and chat about what I'm into online with friends but then I get nothing done apart from going grocery shopping and cooking
@@deanslife1 I don't even have a phone. It's too much of a temptation. The damn things were made to addict people, and we are so much more susceptible. There's a guy I watch on TH-cam who has a rule: Flow before phone. By that, he means he gets up and works for at least 4 hours before he picks up his phone. I find that if I get up really early, like 3 AM, and go straight to work for at least 4 hours, I get into a flow state, and I can be done with my work, at least my carving, by 8 AM. I get deeply into flow, and I become undistractible. But if I even turn the computer on to check my email, it's over.
@@shaec3405 They really are. TH-cam is a real problem for me. I was working in my shop the other day and had to come in to get something. I always check my email because customers have questions. I made the mistake of looking at TH-cam. You can guess what happened. 45 minutes later, I slogged back out to my shop, mad with myself, and forgot to get what I came in for. I've started to tell myself that I'm going into the house to get something I need and that's it. When I'm disciplined, I reward myself.
I turned off Watch History on TH-cam and the similar thing on Google. So NO suggestions when I open it. Just a white page with a search box. Has done me no end of good.
I have adhd & your channel is slowly changing my life. I’m putting the pieces together as to why I’ve been such a huge procrastinator, gone for the wine bottle after my shitty job in the past. I’m three months sober from alcohol and starting to my energy towards activities that I actually love, they fuel me, and my life is starting to feel more fulfilled. This seems like magic
I am similar. Late diagnosis, panic disorder, smart but afraid to get a better job. I started drinking a few years ago, got covid brain etc. I really want to get out of this mental limbo.
you make it sound SO SIMPLE. Just choose to do the thing you want to do. WELL IF I COULD JUST CHOOSE TO DO IT I WOLDN:T HAVE A PROBLEM IN THE FIRST PLACE. I got all excited by the title, but then this video makes me want to no al1ve anym0r3. Thanks a lot.
If you rly got adhd this intro is so goddamn exhausting so the good news is when you managed to watch the complete video you're either already mastered a good portion of your adhd or you dont have any
I am 63. ADHS since early childhod. It caused a totally, never ending burn out in 2014. No energy for life any more. The medication helps me to live a satisfied live. I am grateful about this shit. I hope this live is possible one day without medication. Thank you for your channel.
19 ADHD diagnosed last year, living with it, without knowing anything about why i would feel terrible some days and really good on others, why i would always be "different" made me grow up with non parents that would always make things to change me, or atleast try without success, until i was 15 and discovered ADHD, started researching about it and started changing so much things, meditating, looking inside of me and talking and basically having conversations with this innerself about doing things and forcing myself to do them, this helped me a lot to become functional and getting into university, dealing healthy with addictions and in general changing my habits without exhausting myself and feeling bad at the end of the day, thank you for this video. Hope this gets the target audience soon enough to stop them from basically being dead in life.
ADHD is real!! Good to feel better about yourself 😎 idk what the other guy's problem is 🤔🤔🤔 seems really into this whole thing. It's real it's real it's real not fake. Good to find answers which leads to solutions. Cheers good luck!
@@Troy-q3e ever get sick of being played?? you know what overmedication is? bipolar,,, adhd,,, anxiety... all medicated dummies... there are side effects too,, BUT DONT WORRY!! they have pills for that too. you are not paying attention and it shows. you already lost.
This video made me cry so much. I have 24 years and was diagnosed whilst 7 and second time while 11. For over 15 years every teacher, family member and specialist(?) told me that I'm just stubborn, lazy and i don't listen to them. Now even tho those diagnosis are valid my close ones are laughing at me when I bring this topic up
Thanks for this video! I've been diagnosed this year January with my ADHD and been trying to follow the exact life structure as you suggested and been doing pretty well but then there are days like today when it does not feel right and videos like yours help me uplift. Love from India! 🙏
You've put into words the way I now live my life! It's taken me 2 years of hard work (Diagnosed 2 years ago) to get where I am and I can honestly say "I am a free Man". I've learnt a lot from you and I truly appreciate it. Thank you.
I don't like studying, but I do like the idea of become the best at my craft to create that project I wanted to create. Suddenly everything I'm being told "I need to do" is just another sidequest I can do now, instead of down the line, to get me the skills I need to create that project. It's not derailing me anymore.
ADHD can feel like a curse at times, especially with the constant struggle to focus, manage time, and control impulses. However, the fact that it also talks about 'how to beat it' is empowering-it suggests there are tools, strategies, and maybe even mindset shifts that can help manage the symptoms. It’s a reminder that while ADHD has its challenges, there are ways to regain control and thrive
I was on a great trajectory with running meditation and yoga first thing in the morning to be focused and upbeat and calm and sometimes inconsistent sometimes consistent . Your channel teaches me to accept the Inconsistent and yet build the consistent life I love . Your example and shares are wonderful There is so much negative standard health literature on adhd it’s really painting adhd people as raging and unevolved .yet we can be in our super power and put our minds to learn and be unlimited possibilities. Evolved Adhder s are thinkers outside the box exciting and inventing our lives to be the best version of ourselves .
"Evolved Adhder s are thinkers outside the box exciting and inventing our lives to be the best version of ourselves." -> this is exactly what the world needs more than ever right now, where the current "box"/system is heading over the cliff. Us ADHD-ers can not only invent our own lives, but can also help society re-invent a better way of living and to be the best version of society it can be. Lots to do. No shortage of super-meaningful _missions_ in the world today.
Actually cried watching this bc I feel like my life is going nowhere it’s hard for me to retain knowledge always have I don’t have a diploma or ged bc I had to go through a “slow” class and graduate with a blank paper I’ve been working since high school and neither job has paid enough nor mentally good for me on top of not having a stable family I grew up with my grandma she was at work most of the time and taught myself how to cook from her old cooking books while I was home alone but I just feel like I’ve been jumping around from life experience to life experience and not really getting anywhere relationships all ended up the same it’s just been loss and trauma on repeat
I can't thank you enough for this video. It's hitting me at the right time to begin what I need to do. My energy has been so scattered, but this explains it so beautifully.
It took me many years to finish my award-winning debut first book because of ADHD, but I also blended genres innovatively because ADHD kept making connections. Despite winning an award and being finalist in some competitions I went back and redid a 2nd edition of my book years later before I could move on to the next book once that was set in my mind. This video really sums it up well. I often refer to myself as an inconsistent momentum-driven person. I avoid notifications on many things to avoid exactly what he's talking about. I've removed Facebook from my phone.
My (as-yet-unpublished) book efforts were also delayed by outside forces and I experienced the same as you. A deepening of the book and continuing to make connections. Getting close to being in a productive position again so that I can "get it out" and published. I likewise try to remove any distractions or interruptions. I turn my phone off before bed and don't turn it on if I get up (with ideas) and begin working.
Wow.!!! this is so on point and true to my experience. I’m fighting nicotine and alcohol. But I’m finally diving into a great social group, fun physical activities (paddleboarding and rock climbing) and diving back into mathematics and computer programming which I am truly passionate about. I finally am feeling happy…… I finally feel like I have the energy and power to fight my addictions. Thank you so much for this material 🙏🏻
Hi Nik, I just wanted to thank you for the hard work you put into all these videos. You’ve really helped me learn more about myself and how to truly manage my ADHD. Keep up the good work man! 😁🎉
At LAST A VIDEO ON HOW TO GET ON WITH LIFE WITH YOUR ADHD ISSUES. JUST LIKE CPTSD ITS ALL WHATS WRONG NEVER HOW 2 FIX THE PROBLEM 4 REAL.. SHORT SWEET AWNSERS 2 FIX THE MOST RELEVANT ISSUES IS WHATS NEEDED 👏👏 WELL DONE 👏👏 /( ps) please get 2 the meat on all your new videos LIKE this one ASAP. 💫🕊💫
I can see what you are saying here but I still have one important question. What if we can't find our path, not because we don't know what interests us, but because too many things interest us? My biggest problem is that I love and want to do everything. Art, programming, music, streaming, editing, writing stories and so much more... and I'm decent at several of these things but every time I get on the path to really pushing one, I get super motivated by another, completely unrelated field, out of nowhere. If I only found one, I have no doubt I would crush it.... but it's never just ONE.
You're obviously a highly talented individual who excels in things you find enjoyable in the moment, so why not become a jack of all trades and master everything? There's nothing wrong with switching from time to time; eventually, you'll be the very best in all of your fields just by knowing what you want to do at the moment. Don't limit yourself to 1 when you're capable of so much more
I have the same problem. I'm sort of simplifying and making "a list" of them. And setting priorities. I can tell you that I even experience "pain and anxiety" wanting to choose 1 2 3 things lol It's really very disturbing. What you can do is unite them all into 1 single mass. Understanding that life will really pass us by if we don't do this work of uniting them all in some way. And then distribute them at times per week.
Oh oh, One of my passions! I'm on Year 12 of daily cold showers. The past few years I even dropped the hot. I shower every single day and I've had only 3 or 4 hot showers Total in the past year. And it got to -47 farenheit in the winter, where I live AND I used to hate the cold and winters, used to get very depressed. . VERY depressed. Now, I can't wait for winter and built a wood fired outdoor sauna and roll in the snow in swim trunks, swim in the frozen river. I have an outdoor dunk tank that I use until it freezes solid ha : ) . . . The river, I started staying in till late October, water temp 50 (that's your basic cold tap, can stay in 50 degrees forever, perfect temp) . . . then below 50 degrees, I'd put on a wetsuit, down to 33 degrees ((no not the Masons)) Then, eventually I ditched the wetsuit. More than once I've axed a big hole in the river ice to get in. (Remember getting hit in the face with a stinging cold snowball as a kid? Imagine that feeling but your whole body!! It sets off a lot of drugs in your system!) Early on I had a goal to swim 12 months in the river, and I did 24 months in a row. And I'm NOT an athlete and I'm NOT a super achiever or anything. Seriously I'm as nobody as it gets. I'm going on and on here because it fixed so many things for me. And listen . . . A cold shower is Free! Don't make it complicated, just take a hot, end with cold. Figure out your breathing (exhale all the way) Have a mental daydream where you train yourself to space out during the cold.(just like you sort of relax and mentally let go during a hot shower) This is automatic for me now. Easiest thing ever. Scream, WHOO!! be excited (that's natural) and turn on some music if that helps, set a timer,(I had a cheap waterproof watch hanging in the shower) Have a goal 30 sec. One minute, two minutes, five. Then, try just a cold shower, no hot. See what it does for your whole day. Mental. Physical. Spiritual even. So, I'm so dumb and ignorant, I didn't even know it was a thing at the time. I came to it naturally, spontaneously on my own. I just liked swimming and in the fall the river's Beautiful, lots of birds, zero people, ha.. And I'd been doing it a while then discovered on TH-cam that it's a thing , but even then, 2012, there was practically zero cold shower stuff on TH-cam. Also, got diagnosed this past year ADHD, age 55. Get started figuring stuff out, because there are forces working against it(within and without) and it takes time. Please watch Dr Russell Barkley, leading expert, I have no affiliation. But he's the guy. Peace y'all.
You are increasing the watch time with us ADHD-ers :)) I got stuck at something you said in the first minutes, thinking about it and I had to rewind the entire video. Hate when this happens in conversations though ”Can you repeat what you said in the last 10 minutes?” Great video, gave me a lot to think about, so this happened multiple times throughout this video.
Its astonishing how much this aligns with how my life plays out. I've always noticed my best days are ones where I have to get up early and go somewhere and do something with a time constraint, and from there the day feels hours longer, in a good way, and I can accomplish so much more. To hear that behaviour isnt unique is wonderful. Thank you so much.
This is so interesting, it's shocking how much I relate to this and i want to break out of this cycle. Im 30 and i lost joy of my everyday life and loosing my Father early made it harder. I want take control and built my life a new!
I view my everyday life as a video game now. Instinct decides for me. Life has been incredible since that PIVOTAL day I decided to let go of pleasing everyone and doing what I "should do". Poison is right. That's almost all it was.
42 year old ESTP here. Ive struggled with ADHD my whole life. Barely completed the typical school curriculums but passed with honors anything that was physical or creative. Dove into the personality traits a few years ago and that helped me understand alot, however the struggle is still there. Im somewhat of a serial entrepreneur. Creating products, getting the business up and going and meeting people was so easy but I always got board with the daily grind of keeping things going. This video was very helpful and made me look back at times that i did well and had great momentum vs times i felt stuck. Ive felt stuck for the past week. Thanks for this video. You are 100% correct and sometimes its hard to see the things that are right in front of you. Looking forward to checking out your other stuff.
This is amazingly helpful, and to all those who can’t watch past 30 seconds, ur not ready to improve ur life yet. I’ve been battling with ADHD my whole life, and info like this is how I keep winning
While I cannot relate, I DO know people who have / live this... to understand and not dismiss ppl's feelings helps with empathy, and that's the difference between good vs toxic positivity. ❤ (And who knows, perhaps on more micro levels I don't realize, this can still help moi, as well! Afterall, knowing yourself and having purpose applies no matter what)
As someone with ADHD and Autism, I have struggled with all of these symptoms and more and it does feel like a curse. My mood seems to fluctuate so much even though I usually end up at (as you said) "level -10". I find that it's much easier to remain at this "level" than to help make a change in myself. You said this perfectly when you said "a slave to your brain". Overall, I found everything you said applies to the struggles I have to navigate through. This video has given me a boost of confidence and I hope I and others who suffer with ADHD find a way out to become the best version of themselves they can possibly be. We can fight this together.
Most of my mornings I actually don't spend on my phone and usually I can just chill. But a lot of times during the middle of the day I'll get bored or maybe even a little depressed, then I go on TH-cam and spend the next several hours on my phone. (This is exactly what happened today) Sometimes if I'm trying to stay off TH-cam I can do it but then at night I go right back to TH-cam. It's like once I start it's impossible to get off it. The worst thing is that at the end of the day I realize that me going on TH-cam at 2 pm would snowball into me being on it/my phone untill 11pm or later, but when the next day comes around and I feel that middle of the day boredom, I think "hmm, I'm pretty damn bored right now (or some other negative emotion) maybe watching a TH-cam video would alleviate it. And a lot of times it does, but not for the better. And I don't think of how that choice of me going onto TH-cam because I'm bored will effect the rest of the day. Or I just don't care
Absolute best video I’ve watched so far for adhd. Every other video I’ve watched is just telling you to exercise, drink coffee or “just start” the task you’re avoiding. This video gets down to the root cause of how you get into a vicious daily cycle of procrastinating……by the way I stopped and read the comments 20 seconds in. Then continued watching and wrote this comment 7 minutes in 😄
I don't know if I have ADHD or not, but I was diagnosed with it as a kid. I certainly relate to this whole video. I'm excited to start my day right tomorrow! Thank you Sir!
I was never diagnosed and outgrew a diagnosis. I am in my mid 30s. I have mistrust of health care professionals and the health care system in the US, but I realized a long time that nobody will ever believe you including psychiatrists and doctors unless you are lucky to meet someone with empathy. The effects and time wasted of ADHD all my life are starting to show their consequences of long term silent suffering. This is why today I have problems with work and live on the edge of losing everything due to ADHD. I never had friends nor family. I lost contact with family since I was in my teens for this reason. I still cannot achieve my full potential even though I was able to obtain a Master's and IT certification, yet my ADHD prevents me from staying focus to develop more and I self-sabotage to much that I let time pass.
Don’t convince yourself that you ‘outgrew diagnosis’. I’m 45 and was diagnosed appropriately 2 years ago when my career changed from individual contributor (head down, laser focus) to management (meetings & boring research/tasks). It became immediately evident that I had something ‘wrong’ with me. The alternative is to go inward, start meditating and do shadow work to root out childhood traumas, etc.
My dad is ADHD and is in incredible shape at the young age of 76! I am also ADHD, and it is a superpower period! I look and feel 40 years younger than my bio age. I was never on medications thanks to my mom saying no to the doctors who offered drugs to sedate me. Matter of fact I have never tried any kind of drugs street or conventional. I have been a personal trainer and a gym rat since the age of 12! I have so many advantages over most folks!
I don't think you have ADHD. You seem to focused in your training since age 12. People with ADHD cannot maintain that level of commitment for years let alone go to the gym. People with ADHD are too exhausted to have a rigid training and also the overstimulation of a gym can demotivate ADHD'ers. I believe you are hyperfocused but not ADHD hyperfocused. For example, did your hyperfixation make you sacrifice other commitments, lead to bad grades, bad relations with others because of your hyperfocus? Hyperfocusing with ADHD involves sacrificing other commitments.
@@jacqueslee2592 Unfortunately ADHD has been sadly misconstrued. Although, adults can be misdiagnosed, I was not. I did have bad grades in school, I could not focus on anything other than rainbows and butterflies or anything that I was truly interested in which was not much. I was put into therapy at a young age, because it was supposed to help me focus on learning to read, write etc.. I was forced to go to the gym at a young age, which was part of therapy. Over time the gym became my medicine. You speak from very limited knowledge on this subject. You do present some very good questions. I have not only lived with ADHD for over 50 years, but I have intensely studied it for decades. MY childhood was rough. I just thank my mom for refusing all the doctors' recommendations to put me on meds. I am going to upload a video on my channel that will give actual facts concerning this neurodivergent brain wiring that has been labeled ADHD. Have a great day!
Also it sounds like this is their job so they are quite literally surrounded by this day to day you know? So when you are visually reminded of something on a day to day basis, you don't exactly escape it, it can actually motivate you since we have a tendency to get bored so we want to challenge ourselves!! I'd always get bored and do something like that especially calisthenics at work. I was doing workouts before my first delivery on the tailgate. I understand them but they have kept up their training much better apparently than me haha 🫡
@@jacqueslee2592 Your comment: You can't have ADHD since ADHD people are intrinsically limited and there's NO way to overcome this limitation i personally disagree
As someone without a proper diagnosis, I deeply resonate and understand every single damn word you spoke in this video, and that was beautiful, so thank you. Thank you for this incredible video, I do think I was caught inside the negative spiral for a total of 25 years, but I scratched it all off starting at age 25, and really asked myself all this questions, and I do this on a daily basis! I feel better than ever and is crazy that just now when I feel like I get a sense of reality, I run into your wonderful video, breaking down what it is that has been working for me! Really amazing! And when you mentioned freedom, that really made me tear up of pure joy, because ive been stuck in the negative loop for my entire life, and been feeling liberated ever since I decided to live under my own terms. And it almost feels like a promise that all I have to do is keep it up, just focus on what matters, follow my curiosity, listen to myself, work towards my vision and I will be free indeed, until the end of my time. This feeling is truly a delicacy, so thank you for reassuring my efforts, thank you for making this video, I am sure many many others are feeling the same way, or many other will not have to waste a quarter of their lifes to learn about this simple mindset. I hope you stay strong, locked in and positive too! And keep spreading hope 🫶😭
I’m 34, all my life I just accepted that I am dumb, that I don’t always listen, that I am inherently angry, that I am just a quitter, that I am always going to be addicted to some form of intoxication, that I am someone who doesn’t always read the room, that I am just loud and erratic and so on. I’m not diagnosed yet but I’ve recently seen enough evidence that I can confidently say that I am at least ADHD. Still I feel hopeless.
Find people who are like minded!!! You are not stupid/ dumb.. I have the same problem but it takes finding the right interest that makes you engaged to really feel smart and to not compare yourself to others.. but I'm a hypocrite as I do struggle with it.. today I feel good though. Social media and work is always shoving comparisons up our ass and it makes everything seem alot worse. Something that will blow your mind.... This whole society thing? FABRICATED! WE COULD ALL DIE TOMORROW IN AN APOCALYPSE AND IT WOULDNT MATTER WHO WAS SOCIALLY INEPDT OR THE PARTY WIZARD!! We're like these little toy soldiers buzzing around playing pretend.. Really it's the system trying to convince everyone in it that we have these "values" and stuff.. it's all made up mumbo jumbo that we gotta just learn so we can play in it to succeed at the end of the day! Most people are acting, ADHD / Learning disorder or not! And if you dive deep into other people's lives you see they got these damn problems too and it's kind of funny . Once you break that "fourth wall" with people it helps you get comfortable and realizing that they're part of the same thing. Facing issues so it makes you feel better about your own, it can I hope. I have always been into drugs as well, I have been smoking pot non stop since the age of 16/17 and sometimes even enjoyed double dosing my script. I get it man. Good luck know you're not a quitter but probably have just not found the right thing.. or you like to try alot of different things! I have had 20 jobs in the last 8 years.. half of that was involuntary 😬😬 I get it I get it .. good luck
I'm almost 32, and finally got diagnosed 2 weeks ago, the sense of relief I felt, finally having an answer for why it always felt like beating my head against a wall just to get things done, was immensely calming and I felt the best I have in years. just the last few days I felt the darkness creeping back in as I need to move house in 3 weeks, but I am making changes to do what I want rather than just please those around me and give no shits. I just really hope I'll be strong enough to keep it going, and not fall back into the spiral.
13:08 just made me burst a cry out loud. This information is truly invaluable. In addition to ADHD I have BPD, life isn’t easy up here but videos like this truly help A LOT. Thank you SO very much!
Incredible stuff, thank you for mentioning how we might be tempted to give up due to how many times we’ve tried to change, this is my first real week of consistency, and after 500 great weeks with 2000 bad weeks of my adult life, I have more spark than ever, disabling social media, choosing one SMALL step daily, and gettin it, THANK YOU !!! We got this
People and friends think that I am a nighttime person. I mean yeah I love the night becauae it is quiet and it's the only time I can feel myself (like who I really are). But that is because I lack any ADHD management. Because deep down in my heart I am the type of person going to bed at like 9:30 or 10pm, waking at 04:30 and immediately doing 90min of soft to medium excercise in the morning. I LOVE cycling (all kinds of). And I would do this every morning. Waking up later is terrible for me. Even 6am is too late. Days I get late out of bed are ALWAYS pretty terrible days. But when I wake up early and *do* excercise it is a game changer. Maybe 6am works for you. I am pretty extreme.
can you give us a video on how to change our perspective to make working more enjoyable and what we have to avoid? what kind of thoughts we should follow and which we should reject.. depending on how they make us feel maybe..
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Can you please show me the littriture that you showed statistics of ADHD
Any chance can send you my paper of adhd as hunter gatherer leaders and how it was adaptive to those environments and only maladaptive to modern society?
@@winstoncoolidge1644wanker
@@nhingedwanker
Unlock my balls scammer
When someone asks what are you good at ? Procrastination, reading up on subjects of interest but then stopping and not being able to remember much about it, having ideas but not following through on them
Yes brother
Yes brother
And don't forget the I can do everything until I'm overwhelmed and all is too much part 😅 that's me at work....I can take on the world until I can't and I'm always too late recognizing it 😅
@@LindaDutchy1988And forgetting to drink water and sometimes even to breathe
Is this called adhd if so I might have it 😢
Damn, after about a minute of watching, I already started reading the comments instead of listening to the video. And just when I got tired and was about to switch, I stumbled upon a comment (don’t remember whose) saying that everyone with ADHD had already skipped the video.
Thank you, kind person who wrote that comment. It was only because of it that I pulled myself together and finished watching the video
Certainly, I fast forwarded. But then it's 3:15... That's my excuse!
Omgosh SAME.
@@shawncarrell9101 me too
Only took me 23 seconds into the video to find this comment...😊
Same 😅
Pure gold. Like looking in a mirror.
Diagnosed at age 66. I've had decades of hyper-success, and decades living in a deep pit. The difference? The Why Frame.
When I had a compelling Why, I smashed it. When that Why ran out of puff ( hit the summit, lost novelty), I decended into ADHD abyss, until I found a new Why.
The Why gets me to live the right life cycle (sleep, exercise, nutrition, routine etc).
If your young or youngish, follow this man and all his advice. He knows. He really, truly knows.
👍👍
Look into Islam
What do you mean why? Like whats the purpose of doing something??? I ask myself this everyday, i always ask what this life is about, why should I survive? Why should I socialize, why should i start a family.
@@mohammadbuhamad7744 🤣
@@QuinefanI second the Islam comment. Look into it Big Bro.
Tell me you have ADHD without telling me you have ADHD.
I wrote a comment that was 5 paragraphs long, it was fascinating and very detailed, but I erased it and put this one instead because it kept getting longer.
I read it and i concur I'm guilty of the same thing daily.
Literally me with every youtube video where I want to share my opinion 😂😢it gets too long and i thinkbis redundant and delete it ..
I write a detailed comment and youtube deletes it - almost every time
why though hahaha you could post that one as well anyway :D and some of the responses are very strange such as "19 here, ADHD and high functioning autism.
I spent my teenage hood meditating, trying desperately to figure out what I can do to navigate my mind.
No therapist, no medication.
What a painful way to grow up, especially when family falls for a while like it did mine before it resembled again.
Discipline equals freedom." BE CAREFUL AND BE WELL PEOPLE!
Did you say that they are being poisoned? It's food followed by pills
Just woke Up, reached for my Phone, but today, the Fist Thing i found was this Video. Thanks, today will be a good day.
I hope you will have a streak of good days following! You can do it, for sure
Same...
@@mohammadbuhamad7744السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته
Tell us, was it a good day?
I have a free day today, so when I woke up, I spent about an hour in bed reading/watching TH-cam videos related to my latest hyperfixation when I found this video. Ignored it for a little while and was about to saved it for later when I decided to watch it. After two minutes I got up from bed, made something to drink and headed out to sunbathe for a little while cause I have vitamin D defiency and cant get enough sun on workdays
So baby steps but it helped a lot
I feel like these “motivational” videos gaslight us with replayed messages and placebo solutions. What we need is a sense of community in order to even have good days anymore. A lot of us just don’t have community right now. It’s not that we don’t have motivation to do anything, it’s that we don’t have anyone to be motivated by, most of the time.
These gurus are yapping about the same regurgitated trash.
Work out
Get better social groups
Positive energy and mindset
Eat healthy
Yet all these thing are nearly impossible to gain because of the society we live in. There is a reason why we all are falling into the same hole. Maybe the problem is not you but rather society as a whole and how the stupid elites and politicians are destroying the way we are living.
Spot on, my friend.
THANK YOU
That you friendless is your fault, not ours.
As someone who got his shit together(took years of journaling and reflecting) my method is; if I don’t feel like doing something…I won’t. As long as I can afford to. The KEY IS don’t do anything else and engage the task positive network. DO NOTHING until the dopamine comes back. Just lay down or sit in a quiet room.
Need more of this info. Do you have any books or vids along these lines
Do you have any videos or any links I can read more about this? Or anything I can google to learn more? “Task positive network”?
@@danbrown4415 I just saw this approach mentioned by Dr K (healthy gamer)
To elaborate and put in another way; advice id give to a friend, just do nothing if you don’t feel like doing the work. Nothing doesn’t mean going on your phone or keeping yourself engaged like socializing with someone just sit there or lay down and relax maybe go for a walk. Just experiment with this and see if you end up wasting too much time for a week.
@@sperez3275 well my friend if I was guaranteed you’d watch and entire video I’d recommend you then I’d say, watch the first episode of the huberman lab podcast where he talks about how the brain works and how it learns. Then watch how to focus which is also an episode talking about task positive network and default mode network
I want to give this man a hug. I don't even need a solution. I feel heard.
I’ve noticed a significant improvement in my overall quality of life and motivation when I wake up early and exercise. However when I can’t get to sleep on time I end up waking up later and experience debilitating physical and mental fatigue. The importance of our sleep schedule/rhythm cannot be emphasized enough.
Standard sleep cycles last 1.5 hours. Aim to set an alarm for the end of a cycle, allowing 10 to 15 minutes to fall asleep to begin with. Interrupted sleep cycles can leave us feeling like we haven't slept.
Try reading a book while in bed , it will help you fall asleep faster and will keep you asleep longer.
I noticed the opposite. If I get up too fast and have to do things right away my whole day is ruined - and I mean the WHOLE day, right up to the moment I go back to sleep. I can't get it back together. Especially if I do exercise, which is not associated with a reward in my brain's scheme.
Instead, I have to watch the sleep cycles very carefully and make really damn sure I don't wake up in the middle of a cycle. If I do, I have to go back to sleep (even if it takes 2 hours to fall back asleep) and complete the cycle. I also developed various meditation techniques that allow me to ease off from the sleep state into the waking state to prevent this.
Waking up early also causes a full day of depression if it's not associated with a long sleep at noon (biphasic sleep).
So yes, we have to watch our sleep among other things but there's no one size fits all solution - on the contrary, what works seems to be on a spectrum that stretches towards both poles.
@@hishamkaissi8771Unless you’re a reader like me. 🤦🏽♀️I will stay awake all night to finish a book.
Stop eating enriched foods and taking pills that have no evidence of curing or ridding you of the problem. YOU DONT PAY YOUR DOCTOR INSURANCE AND PHARMACEUTICAL COMPANIES DO.
Was anyone else yelling " GET TO THE POINT! " in their head?
Me too kinda but he tells but my bit when I want the entire answer right away (I believe you too)
yea, but that could be my german heritage, too :-D
yep within the first 15 seconds
Ha I was doom scrolling so I didn’t notice
Lmao seriously
Having ADHD all my life and only recently diagnosed at 54, I thank you for this particular video, but also your simple honest explanations. My life has been one flop after another. I wondered why my life consisted of "having"to do things, rather than "just" doing. I am still in my learning phase and now attempting to extricate myself from the people pleasing mask wearer. Thank you again mate.
Yes ‘have’ to do things, thinking about having to do things. Not just doing.
It is wildly frustrating, others just seem to seamlessly do things. Even the simplest of things such as showering.
Everything feels and thinks like a mountain
@@Gingebearit can be a mountain. Jist thinking about standing under tye water, has helped me, many times of being stuck.
How do they diagnose you? My generation loves too self diagnose. I do things that I don’t even understand, and I thought most people do. Im just looking for answers
adhd isnt even real. you got played. fact.
Do you have the feeling of time travelling due to time blindness? With ADHD, you age faster and experience time not linearly.
Pretty interesting, Ill definitely have to finish the last 12 minutes of this video later. Or maybe tomorrow. I'll bookmark it.
I hope you finished it.I thought you might need a reminder😂
lol here’s your second reminder because you ignored the first one 😂
@@laurab972
OK OK, I'll schedule a time to finish it first thing tomorrow!
Lol
@@jamesspencer7740 lol, ty James ;)
Did you finish it?
You nailed, when I enjoy something, I don't care spending hours on end on it. But when I don't like/enjoy it, seems that, somehow I feel physically and physiologically uncomfortable to keep doing it.
Same. Just studied for 8 hours straight today thanks to meds. Absolute game changer but honestly I want to be decently productive with and without the meds
@@DaveOh i used to be on meds for my ADHD. im having insane issues with keeping up in school right now because of it, but i refuse to go back on my meds because they would destroy my appetite and sleep cycle. kinda in a wierd spot right now
another huge problem im having is days are, and have been blending together. i cant remember anything substantial or notable in very many of my days at the moment, i feel like an NPC, if you will.
I hope it gets better.. keep your head up, sounds wack but I'm struggling today and my grades are slipping as well.. that's all we can do.. love you man @@SpazerLaser
I feel that.. @@SpazerLaser
Wow that is actually brilliant - realizing we have the ability to figure out how to do things the easy way. ADHD is a prospecting brain, we are good at finding the path of the least resistance. The rest of the world tells us if you don’t work hard, you aren’t performing well, but for our brain we NEED to be able to PLAY with everything - our work, leisure, food, activities. We just don’t see play as serious business. Once we figure out easy things matter, life can become easier. Follow the easy!
Your channel has helped me tremendously, I’m 31 and struggling with ADHD but I’m trying to get it under control
Right there with you , same age also. Have had a very recent diagnosis. My life is finally starting to make sense 💪🏼 power to you , love and luck from Ireland 🇮🇪
31 gang , same lol. It’s hard
31 Club checking in.
32 checking in. Started Vyanse in Februari this year, holy shit
30, tried many different tools, recently got diagnosed and prescribed meds, ended up abusing meds, still optimistic
From a Specialist of Internal Medicine and Psychotherapy I can only tell you with great admiration: YOU ARE SIMPLY INCREDIBLY GREAT. These 17:33 minutes are more practical than 20 sessions with a Doctor or 10 sessions by a Psychotherapist or 5 sessions by a Mental coach. Bravissimo and THANK YOU! Dr. Jadaan
19 here, ADHD and high functioning autism.
I spent my teenage hood meditating, trying desperately to figure out what I can do to navigate my mind.
No therapist, no medication.
What a painful way to grow up, especially when family falls for a while like it did mine before it resembled again.
Discipline equals freedom.
Meditation is the key.
You are lucky you have found this tool.
Its a life changer
same life here
it's shit
Literally me
Asd +adhd is a true gift ,.it just takes time to figure it out . I wish you the best .
@@giovannamoro8564 ASD + ADHD is a pure nightmare. You can't barely function. It is a disability.
0:52 but first, let me take a selfie
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The reason I read the comments
ADHD moment
@@Storvaisen yes owo
My main interest changes week-by-week. It's impossible to focus on one thing without becoming bored of it quickly afterwards.
That’s normal. People on the internet call it fancy names, like ADHD or “Fancy-object syndrome”.
The truth is, we all are interested in something that we find fun or rewarding. But when it gets hard most quit, that’s why so few become rich, famous, good-looking, whatever
@@VelzixMC Thanks for the insight, doc.
I accidentally tried a carnivore diet. A few weeks later I'm killing it on focus.
coz we are feelers. once we find something that was really meant for us, nobody will stop us. sadly we must jump around a lot. i also had to, it took me 29 but i finally found it. and it was always there, always defined me. but you know how it is...
@@bufotoxinbufo bro that is what I think every time I find something new, I disagree with you. I think that we just have to continue doing the same thing until we focus on it again
The constant racing thoughts, obsessions, ocd and neuroses are exhausting.
Id like to learn how I can harness the beast that is my brain.
🙌🏻yesss! Me too. I hate the feeling of knowing I could conquer the world if only I could order my brain!
Seriously.. it's hard to function most of the time when my brain is like the Dog from the the movie "Up"... I'm focused, I'm focused, I'M FOCUSED.. SQUIRREL!!!... wait what was i doing again???? 😅 and the best part is being aware, but still can't stop it... this video had some helpful info, but most of it just sounded like telling a person with chronic depression to just cheer up... like that's not how it works 😅 if it's so simple to just do these things, then why is a main part of the disorder being that you have extreme difficulty doing them... it's a chemical brain deficiency, it's not something you can simply fix by saying "you know all those things you have extreme difficulty doing, well just do them and the chemical imbalance in your brain will simply go away!".... and using millionaire's/ billionaires as examples of "they are OK so you can too" that's hilarious 😂
@@ixwillxeatxurxbabies I have never agreed more with a comment.
Thats probably why we tend to self medicate with various substances.
One word. Lifestyle
@ please do expand upon that if you have suggestions.
I'm 14 and i started workout for the first time in my life just yesterday, i felt a good feeling and i wanted to workout more and more.
I recommend to everyone with ADHD like me to start working out and you'll feel the change, I'm sure you'll love to workout cause of the hyperactivity
😁
hope this helps
I agree! Working out has helped me with self love and socializing with more confidence. But still suck at socializing but I'm sure that's a different problem
One of the most effective ways to manage it.
Whenever you are doing well, take measures to keep the momentum. Do sports in a group or with friends, so that you have that extra outside motivator when your own motivation drops. :)
Sports in a group is extremely demotivating to me.
Avoiding that, though, is motivating to workout at home alone. @@DuDeMBR
Working out is actualy so exhausting for me because my brain is constantly trying to motivate me to continue. So after workout my head is hurting and i feel more mentaly exhausted than physicaly.
@@_sekremmlin_8274 Are you exercising alone? ADHD makes it hard for me to stay motivated to exercise alone. I almost always go with a friend. Find a gym buddy. It makes the world of a difference. Find someone who will tell you to go to the gym with them.
I started bouldering recently. It's super fun so I am motivated to go. Experiment with different sports and maybe you'll find something that you enjoy
I cried watching this. I’m an almost 37 year old man. I’m stuck in ADHD cycle currently and have seen its destructive power for most of my life. I needed this video. I wanted to find something that would help me see a good pathway to follow that’s simple. This is it! I’m convinced, this along with continuing to practice AA principles will revolutionize my life! Thank you for making this!
The point is "there's nothing to keep me constantly interested and motivated. I easily quit old habits and change daily routines. I need more excitement, even if things are going well and I'm doing well. I get bored no matter if I'm interested in what I'm doing or I hate it.
I feel that :(
Thank you! I forget often how much i overthink positive things as negative just because of the "i should" thinking, never really letting myself hear my thoughts🎉
I seem to have acquired adhd, or at least adhd symptom after severe TBI in the military. This man’s advice has helped me more than anything else I’ve experienced.
Frontal lobe injury? That's what controls executive function (which is what people with ADHD struggle with)
@@noahclark657
I’m not sure. I was an infantryman, not a neuroscientist.
I only know that I spent about 3 years in a “walking coma”, and what little memories I have of that time are disjointed and probably unreliable.
@@LaVidaAwesome I completely relate. Had some trauma + PTSD which affected me for several years after. I remember at the time feeling like you said, in a 'walking coma', I felt like a zombie or a NPC. I have very little memories from the time, but after going to therapy and healing I now have ADHD symptoms, which I did not have before.
Which advice are you talking about? He has endless number of videos .@@LaVidaAwesome
@@DarkDark-ht3eb
Yeah, that was my experience to the T
I have adhd, ocd, clinical depression, dyslexia, cognitive learning disabilities, stress, anxiety, doom and gloom dilemmas.... etc, etc....
My whole 27 years of living in a 17 minutes video
@@rehmannagur4299 welcome to the family 😘
Dude I'm almost 39 & I'm finally going for it. Go for it.
We are not wired for the linear, but for exponential change, & quantum leaps.
😂 true 👍🏼
How did you time travel? Either you feel like you time travel or that you are waking from a coma. That is the feeling I get when I realize that years go by. Watch how time will fly and you will return to your comment in 1 to 2 years. I always return to comments I posted months even 2 to 3 years ago and I cannot believe how many videos on ADHD I did not finish watching. ADHD makes you warp time. Einstein had ADHD so most likely experienced time warping throughout his life.
I didn’t look for this video it found me. Thank you
Yeah aye, good too. Oh no I don't even know what was said because I went to comments and reckon the comments are way more interesting and insightful. Sorry dude on the video, might try a watch it later.
Thank you very much. I am 30 recently self diagnosed myself with adhd. My life has been a rollercoaster with mostly downs and a very few ups. It was confusing frustrating and most of the time I hated myself. Watching your video gave me hope that i can climb out of this pit.
I'm so glad this helped.
Get a formal diagnosis from a professional. Ask your doctor to give a referral so it gets covered by your insurance.
People like you, who “self diagnose” are the reason we can’t get proper treatment or medication. You are not a doctor or psychiatrist. You didn’t diagnose a single thing. See a therapist bc you probably DONT have adhd
this makes so much sense , its super hard to hit the gym , but when i do , i dont get out , i'm like working out for more than 3 hours , people look at me and be like this guy is working hard , and i'm feeling real good in those 3 hours , the work out ends , i go my way , and now the real problem is going back to the gym , i just cant , but once I'm in , I'm unstoppable
Thank you for making this content. I have a 14yr old ADHD Son, who is currently struggling with a lot in his life due to ADHD. I’ve gotten him to watch this & it’s given him hope ❤️
You’re not giving him adderall are you
@@adamsh1 Depending on the severity I would either hope not or hope so?
@@Szajba1762 doctors prescribe it with little to no severity. It’s seen as the only solution other than those non amphetamine brand drugs
@@adamsh1I regret not taking Adderall/ meds when I was in school. 26 now I could have learned alot more. I did not realize just how much I missed 😵💫 let it be the kids decision... I hated pills because I was put on some nasty meds that made me feel like crap. Meds should be a bit of a last resort not a first solution tbh but I mean they can help alot too. Keep the tolerance low don't use it too much have breaks from it so it doesn't cause too much dependency because it WILL do that long term. It has pros and cons. Cheers.
Amazing video. I’m 21, and I genuinely don’t know where the past few years since I’ve graduated high school have gone. Mostly due to the repetitive, unproductive cycle I’ve been stuck in that you described to a T.
Wake up, check the phone, think about what I need to do today, eat something quick, hop on the computer, eat something else, laze around and again think about stuff I need to do, etc. If it's a work day, I’ll just lay in bed planning everything I need to do before my shift, down to calculating the smallest detail, before eventually procrastinating much too long and ending up consistently 2-10 minutes late almost every time. I’ve made minimal efforts here and there to make progress, but since that progress was so aimless I always managed to fall out of the habit at one point or another.
The hyperfocusing too, whew. I can’t tell you how many hobbies I’ve picked up and spent eight hours a day on for three months to a year and gotten great at, before dropping it entirely out of the blue. Chess (2000elo in a year), guitar (was shredding that baby within a month), cooking (this one I still surprise people with), and even metal detecting (no faster plug digger in the west 😎).
Even 20 minutes ago, I opened TH-cam habitually, watched some shorts and half of two videos before clicking on yours. It’s genuinely terrifying how I’ll get sucked into it for hours at a time before snapping back to reality. I’ve made countless schedules and plans in my notebook, only to flip to the next page and do it again after I fail myself.
I haven’t been screened or diagnosed with ADHD, so I can’t say for sure whether or not I have it, but this video is a straight godsend nonetheless.
I’m mostly making this much-too-long comment for myself to come back to so I can remember when the turning point was, but if you happen to see this and even read my not-so-short essay, thank you for the help I didn’t know I needed so badly. Aaand now I’m off to your next part 😅
Thank you, brother for caring so much you take all this time to make these videos. That's an extraordinary display of love.
this was by far the best video about this very perticular struggle that I have ever seen. thanks a lot!
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Wow. This is so me. If I get up and look at youtube or any of the places I normally haunt then I can spend hours and feel really bad, feel like the day is over and I'm not getting anything done. But, if I get up and get dressed immediately and head out to my shop to start working then after a few hours I have gotten so much done and I feel fantastic and want more. I can see now that I've been trying to quiet my mind to get into the flow state but what I really need to do is get into flow state to quiet my mind. Fortunately I love my work and nothing feels better to me than to be in the zone and productive.
This is so true, I'm out of work, If I get up and then look at my emails I'll want more dopamine and look at messenger and then FB even though I had paused them all over night... But if I get up, get washed and changed and go out after breakfast then I will get things done until I go on my phone and then I fall off. It's so dangerous as it's like I just want to engage and chat about what I'm into online with friends but then I get nothing done apart from going grocery shopping and cooking
@@deanslife1 I don't even have a phone. It's too much of a temptation. The damn things were made to addict people, and we are so much more susceptible. There's a guy I watch on TH-cam who has a rule: Flow before phone. By that, he means he gets up and works for at least 4 hours before he picks up his phone. I find that if I get up really early, like 3 AM, and go straight to work for at least 4 hours, I get into a flow state, and I can be done with my work, at least my carving, by 8 AM. I get deeply into flow, and I become undistractible. But if I even turn the computer on to check my email, it's over.
Yes. These "smart* phones are the devil to us.
@@shaec3405 They really are. TH-cam is a real problem for me. I was working in my shop the other day and had to come in to get something. I always check my email because customers have questions. I made the mistake of looking at TH-cam. You can guess what happened. 45 minutes later, I slogged back out to my shop, mad with myself, and forgot to get what I came in for. I've started to tell myself that I'm going into the house to get something I need and that's it. When I'm disciplined, I reward myself.
I turned off Watch History on TH-cam and the similar thing on Google. So NO suggestions when I open it. Just a white page with a search box. Has done me no end of good.
Late diagnosed woman here. I needed this message. Thank you!! Finally i can harness how my brain works.❤ part 2 of my life will be amazing.
Lets go 🚀
I feel you. I joined a girls basketball team age 14 and then they all noticed while showering after practise. 😁
I have adhd & your channel is slowly changing my life. I’m putting the pieces together as to why I’ve been such a huge procrastinator, gone for the wine bottle after my shitty job in the past. I’m three months sober from alcohol and starting to my energy towards activities that I actually love, they fuel me, and my life is starting to feel more fulfilled. This seems like magic
@@supervixenxiii may God bless you in every step you take !! I feel your comment 💯🙏❤️
I am similar. Late diagnosis, panic disorder, smart but afraid to get a better job.
I started drinking a few years ago, got covid brain etc.
I really want to get out of this mental limbo.
@@theinvisibleguestsmade the mistake of trying a THC edible, gave me horrible panic attack. Just dont.
fake account. this dude is a scammer
you make it sound SO SIMPLE. Just choose to do the thing you want to do. WELL IF I COULD JUST CHOOSE TO DO IT I WOLDN:T HAVE A PROBLEM IN THE FIRST PLACE. I got all excited by the title, but then this video makes me want to no al1ve anym0r3. Thanks a lot.
Thank you man.
I have always felt extremely hopeless and useless all my life but only recently I found that I have ADHD .
If you rly got adhd this intro is so goddamn exhausting so the good news is when you managed to watch the complete video you're either already mastered a good portion of your adhd or you dont have any
I have watched several videos about ADHD. This one makes the most sense to me.
Thank you!
started watching this at 10a.m., now it's 2pm and haven't finish it... finished at 5pm. youtube ate my day
Your channel is a blessing. I thought I was alone and the only one suffering through these things
How do you expect people with adhd to finished up this super long video 😅
Increase playback speed😀
@@Llamaguruthat’s what I do 😅
Weeding out the people who are a lost cause
That’s short attention span; not necessarily caused by ADHD. It’s most likely caused by watching too many short videos.
It's good dopamine, brother.
Time to embrace
I am 63. ADHS since early childhod. It caused a totally, never ending burn out in 2014. No energy for life any more. The medication helps me to live a satisfied live. I am grateful about this shit. I hope this live is possible one day without medication. Thank you for your channel.
19 ADHD diagnosed last year, living with it, without knowing anything about why i would feel terrible some days and really good on others, why i would always be "different" made me grow up with non parents that would always make things to change me, or atleast try without success, until i was 15 and discovered ADHD, started researching about it and started changing so much things, meditating, looking inside of me and talking and basically having conversations with this innerself about doing things and forcing myself to do them, this helped me a lot to become functional and getting into university, dealing healthy with addictions and in general changing my habits without exhausting myself and feeling bad at the end of the day, thank you for this video.
Hope this gets the target audience soon enough to stop them from basically being dead in life.
adhd isnt even real. you got played. fact.
@@youaresoft-ee4ub K my guy, you don't exist either, think about it
ADHD is real!! Good to feel better about yourself 😎 idk what the other guy's problem is 🤔🤔🤔 seems really into this whole thing. It's real it's real it's real not fake. Good to find answers which leads to solutions. Cheers good luck!
@@Troy-q3e ever get sick of being played?? you know what overmedication is? bipolar,,, adhd,,, anxiety... all medicated dummies... there are side effects too,, BUT DONT WORRY!! they have pills for that too. you are not paying attention and it shows. you already lost.
I needed this. Been struggling last two months with bad days.
Ditto 😢
Never ever give up. Keep fucking fighting, easy Mode is for noobs.
This video made me cry so much. I have 24 years and was diagnosed whilst 7 and second time while 11. For over 15 years every teacher, family member and specialist(?) told me that I'm just stubborn, lazy and i don't listen to them. Now even tho those diagnosis are valid my close ones are laughing at me when I bring this topic up
Thanks for this video! I've been diagnosed this year January with my ADHD and been trying to follow the exact life structure as you suggested and been doing pretty well but then there are days like today when it does not feel right and videos like yours help me uplift. Love from India! 🙏
You've put into words the way I now live my life! It's taken me 2 years of hard work (Diagnosed 2 years ago) to get where I am and I can honestly say "I am a free Man". I've learnt a lot from you and I truly appreciate it. Thank you.
Thank you. I felt seen, heard and exposed but ultimately very understood. Good to know there's a community and people like you seeking to help others!
I used to love school so much and that’s why I was the best at that time but things got worse and that’s why I’m here thank you for explaining why
The best thing about watching videos when I wake up was that it made me watch this video this morning!!🥳
I don't like studying, but I do like the idea of become the best at my craft to create that project I wanted to create. Suddenly everything I'm being told "I need to do" is just another sidequest I can do now, instead of down the line, to get me the skills I need to create that project. It's not derailing me anymore.
ADHD can feel like a curse at times, especially with the constant struggle to focus, manage time, and control impulses. However, the fact that it also talks about 'how to beat it' is empowering-it suggests there are tools, strategies, and maybe even mindset shifts that can help manage the symptoms. It’s a reminder that while ADHD has its challenges, there are ways to regain control and thrive
I was on a great trajectory with running meditation and yoga first thing in the morning to be focused and upbeat and calm and sometimes inconsistent sometimes consistent .
Your channel teaches me to accept the Inconsistent and yet build the consistent life I love .
Your example and shares are wonderful
There is so much negative standard health literature on adhd it’s really painting adhd people as raging and unevolved .yet we can be in our super power and put our minds to learn and be unlimited possibilities.
Evolved Adhder s are thinkers outside the box exciting and inventing our lives to be the best version of ourselves .
"Evolved Adhder s are thinkers outside the box exciting and inventing our lives to be the best version of ourselves."
-> this is exactly what the world needs more than ever right now, where the current "box"/system is heading over the cliff.
Us ADHD-ers can not only invent our own lives, but can also help society re-invent a better way of living and to be the best version of society it can be. Lots to do. No shortage of super-meaningful _missions_ in the world today.
Actually cried watching this bc I feel like my life is going nowhere it’s hard for me to retain knowledge always have I don’t have a diploma or ged bc I had to go through a “slow” class and graduate with a blank paper I’ve been working since high school and neither job has paid enough nor mentally good for me on top of not having a stable family I grew up with my grandma she was at work most of the time and taught myself how to cook from her old cooking books while I was home alone but I just feel like I’ve been jumping around from life experience to life experience and not really getting anywhere relationships all ended up the same it’s just been loss and trauma on repeat
I can't thank you enough for this video. It's hitting me at the right time to begin what I need to do. My energy has been so scattered, but this explains it so beautifully.
It took me many years to finish my award-winning debut first book because of ADHD, but I also blended genres innovatively because ADHD kept making connections. Despite winning an award and being finalist in some competitions I went back and redid a 2nd edition of my book years later before I could move on to the next book once that was set in my mind. This video really sums it up well. I often refer to myself as an inconsistent momentum-driven person. I avoid notifications on many things to avoid exactly what he's talking about. I've removed Facebook from my phone.
My (as-yet-unpublished) book efforts were also delayed by outside forces and I experienced the same as you. A deepening of the book and continuing to make connections. Getting close to being in a productive position again so that I can "get it out" and published. I likewise try to remove any distractions or interruptions. I turn my phone off before bed and don't turn it on if I get up (with ideas) and begin working.
Top effort for sticking to your guns. Completion before alternation. Is that even a word.
Wow.!!! this is so on point and true to my experience. I’m fighting nicotine and alcohol. But I’m finally diving into a great social group, fun physical activities (paddleboarding and rock climbing) and diving back into mathematics and computer programming which I am truly passionate about. I finally am feeling happy…… I finally feel like I have the energy and power to fight my addictions. Thank you so much for this material 🙏🏻
Hi Nik, I just wanted to thank you for the hard work you put into all these videos. You’ve really helped me learn more about myself and how to truly manage my ADHD. Keep up the good work man! 😁🎉
I got you Phillip!
the fast pace of this video actually matching my adhd and kept me from exiting the video for 7 mins
well done
bye bye after 8 mins
This video is so wholesome and now I am working on focusing more on the good dopamine!!
That a long video to finish for someone with ADHD.I genuinely tried.
At LAST A VIDEO ON HOW TO GET ON WITH LIFE WITH YOUR ADHD ISSUES. JUST LIKE CPTSD ITS ALL WHATS WRONG NEVER HOW 2 FIX THE PROBLEM 4 REAL.. SHORT SWEET AWNSERS 2 FIX THE MOST RELEVANT ISSUES IS WHATS NEEDED 👏👏 WELL DONE 👏👏 /( ps) please get 2 the meat on all your new videos LIKE this one ASAP. 💫🕊💫
Please quit screaming.
@@poollife777Nah. Keep it up. Loud energy 🎆🎆🎆 😁
I can see what you are saying here but I still have one important question. What if we can't find our path, not because we don't know what interests us, but because too many things interest us? My biggest problem is that I love and want to do everything. Art, programming, music, streaming, editing, writing stories and so much more... and I'm decent at several of these things but every time I get on the path to really pushing one, I get super motivated by another, completely unrelated field, out of nowhere. If I only found one, I have no doubt I would crush it.... but it's never just ONE.
You're obviously a highly talented individual who excels in things you find enjoyable in the moment, so why not become a jack of all trades and master everything? There's nothing wrong with switching from time to time; eventually, you'll be the very best in all of your fields just by knowing what you want to do at the moment. Don't limit yourself to 1 when you're capable of so much more
Yes! There are too many choices and it paralyzes me.
I have the same problem. I'm sort of simplifying and making "a list" of them. And setting priorities. I can tell you that I even experience "pain and anxiety" wanting to choose 1 2 3 things lol It's really very disturbing. What you can do is unite them all into 1 single mass. Understanding that life will really pass us by if we don't do this work of uniting them all in some way. And then distribute them at times per week.
You forgot to mention to finish off the shower ice cold. Cold showers were one of the major game changers for me.
In the morning or evening? Does it make a difference?
He didn't include breakfast either
@@matthijsbakker342in the morning or whenever you need a little pep.
@matthijsbakker342
Honestly a cold shower after morning cardio is great
Oh oh, One of my passions! I'm on Year 12 of daily cold showers. The past few years I even dropped the hot. I shower every single day and I've had only 3 or 4 hot showers Total in the past year. And it got to -47 farenheit in the winter, where I live AND I used to hate the cold and winters, used to get very depressed.
. VERY depressed. Now, I can't wait for winter and built a wood fired outdoor sauna and roll in the snow in swim trunks, swim in the frozen river. I have an outdoor dunk tank that I use until it freezes solid ha : )
. . . The river, I started staying in till late October, water temp 50 (that's your basic cold tap, can stay in 50 degrees forever, perfect temp) . . . then below 50 degrees, I'd put on a wetsuit, down to 33 degrees ((no not the Masons))
Then, eventually I ditched the wetsuit. More than once I've axed a big hole in the river ice to get in. (Remember getting hit in the face with a stinging cold snowball as a kid? Imagine that feeling but your whole body!! It sets off a lot of drugs in your system!)
Early on I had a goal to swim 12 months in the river, and I did 24 months in a row. And I'm NOT an athlete and I'm NOT a super achiever or anything. Seriously I'm as nobody as it gets.
I'm going on and on here because it fixed so many things for me. And listen . . . A cold shower is Free! Don't make it complicated, just take a hot, end with cold. Figure out your breathing (exhale all the way) Have a mental daydream where you train yourself to space out during the cold.(just like you sort of relax and mentally let go during a hot shower) This is automatic for me now. Easiest thing ever. Scream, WHOO!! be excited (that's natural) and turn on some music if that helps, set a timer,(I had a cheap waterproof watch hanging in the shower)
Have a goal 30 sec. One minute, two minutes, five. Then, try just a cold shower, no hot. See what it does for your whole day. Mental. Physical. Spiritual even.
So, I'm so dumb and ignorant, I didn't even know it was a thing at the time. I came to it naturally, spontaneously on my own. I just liked swimming and in the fall the river's Beautiful, lots of birds, zero people, ha.. And I'd been doing it a while then discovered on TH-cam that it's a thing , but even then, 2012, there was practically zero cold shower stuff on TH-cam. Also, got diagnosed this past year ADHD, age 55. Get started figuring stuff out, because there are forces working against it(within and without) and it takes time. Please watch Dr Russell Barkley, leading expert, I have no affiliation. But he's the guy. Peace y'all.
6:30 ok well thanks but if your solution is to “get up and do it” then I’m not sure how I failed.
Whoa, he's telling us to just not be lazy, as if we've never heard it before
You are increasing the watch time with us ADHD-ers :)) I got stuck at something you said in the first minutes, thinking about it and I had to rewind the entire video. Hate when this happens in conversations though ”Can you repeat what you said in the last 10 minutes?” Great video, gave me a lot to think about, so this happened multiple times throughout this video.
Like, when you said ”think about your chieldhood” - Me: ”Fine... oh, the video ended already, lets go back”
Its astonishing how much this aligns with how my life plays out.
I've always noticed my best days are ones where I have to get up early and go somewhere and do something with a time constraint, and from there the day feels hours longer, in a good way, and I can accomplish so much more. To hear that behaviour isnt unique is wonderful.
Thank you so much.
We are not wired for the linear, but for exponential change, & quantum leaps.
Yes.
I came across this on my Home page, shared it with my 12yo son; and I know it’s going to help him. Thank you so much!!!
This is so interesting, it's shocking how much I relate to this and i want to break out of this cycle. Im 30 and i lost joy of my everyday life and loosing my Father early made it harder. I want take control and built my life a new!
I view my everyday life as a video game now. Instinct decides for me. Life has been incredible since that PIVOTAL day I decided to let go of pleasing everyone and doing what I "should do".
Poison is right. That's almost all it was.
42 year old ESTP here. Ive struggled with ADHD my whole life. Barely completed the typical school curriculums but passed with honors anything that was physical or creative. Dove into the personality traits a few years ago and that helped me understand alot, however the struggle is still there. Im somewhat of a serial entrepreneur. Creating products, getting the business up and going and meeting people was so easy but I always got board with the daily grind of keeping things going. This video was very helpful and made me look back at times that i did well and had great momentum vs times i felt stuck. Ive felt stuck for the past week. Thanks for this video. You are 100% correct and sometimes its hard to see the things that are right in front of you. Looking forward to checking out your other stuff.
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This is amazingly helpful, and to all those who can’t watch past 30 seconds, ur not ready to improve ur life yet. I’ve been battling with ADHD my whole life, and info like this is how I keep winning
This video speaking to my soul. Thank you
While I cannot relate, I DO know people who have / live this... to understand and not dismiss ppl's feelings helps with empathy, and that's the difference between good vs toxic positivity. ❤
(And who knows, perhaps on more micro levels I don't realize, this can still help moi, as well! Afterall, knowing yourself and having purpose applies no matter what)
As someone with ADHD and Autism, I have struggled with all of these symptoms and more and it does feel like a curse. My mood seems to fluctuate so much even though I usually end up at (as you said) "level -10". I find that it's much easier to remain at this "level" than to help make a change in myself. You said this perfectly when you said "a slave to your brain". Overall, I found everything you said applies to the struggles I have to navigate through. This video has given me a boost of confidence and I hope I and others who suffer with ADHD find a way out to become the best version of themselves they can possibly be. We can fight this together.
16:14 you read my mind
Most of my mornings I actually don't spend on my phone and usually I can just chill. But a lot of times during the middle of the day I'll get bored or maybe even a little depressed, then I go on TH-cam and spend the next several hours on my phone. (This is exactly what happened today) Sometimes if I'm trying to stay off TH-cam I can do it but then at night I go right back to TH-cam. It's like once I start it's impossible to get off it.
The worst thing is that at the end of the day I realize that me going on TH-cam at 2 pm would snowball into me being on it/my phone untill 11pm or later, but when the next day comes around and I feel that middle of the day boredom, I think "hmm, I'm pretty damn bored right now (or some other negative emotion) maybe watching a TH-cam video would alleviate it. And a lot of times it does, but not for the better. And I don't think of how that choice of me going onto TH-cam because I'm bored will effect the rest of the day. Or I just don't care
Absolute best video I’ve watched so far for adhd. Every other video I’ve watched is just telling you to exercise, drink coffee or “just start” the task you’re avoiding. This video gets down to the root cause of how you get into a vicious daily cycle of procrastinating……by the way I stopped and read the comments 20 seconds in. Then continued watching and wrote this comment 7 minutes in 😄
Thanks for everything ❤, your videos has changed my life
Man makes video about adhd and yaps on for 4 minutes before my adhd brain got bored. Wrote this comment and left
I have ADHD i watched the video in 2x speed but couldnt make it trough the end. But i came back to comment this 😂😅
I don't know if I have ADHD or not, but I was diagnosed with it as a kid. I certainly relate to this whole video. I'm excited to start my day right tomorrow! Thank you Sir!
I was never diagnosed and outgrew a diagnosis. I am in my mid 30s. I have mistrust of health care professionals and the health care system in the US, but I realized a long time that nobody will ever believe you including psychiatrists and doctors unless you are lucky to meet someone with empathy. The effects and time wasted of ADHD all my life are starting to show their consequences of long term silent suffering. This is why today I have problems with work and live on the edge of losing everything due to ADHD. I never had friends nor family. I lost contact with family since I was in my teens for this reason. I still cannot achieve my full potential even though I was able to obtain a Master's and IT certification, yet my ADHD prevents me from staying focus to develop more and I self-sabotage to much that I let time pass.
Don’t convince yourself that you ‘outgrew diagnosis’. I’m 45 and was diagnosed appropriately 2 years ago when my career changed from individual contributor (head down, laser focus) to management (meetings & boring research/tasks). It became immediately evident that I had something ‘wrong’ with me. The alternative is to go inward, start meditating and do shadow work to root out childhood traumas, etc.
@@digitalwizard79 Thanks for the advise.
I feel this...
I don’t comment much, but this has literally changed my life.
My dad is ADHD and is in incredible shape at the young age of 76! I am also ADHD, and it is a superpower period! I look and feel 40 years younger than my bio age. I was never on medications thanks to my mom saying no to the doctors who offered drugs to sedate me. Matter of fact I have never tried any kind of drugs street or conventional. I have been a personal trainer and a gym rat since the age of 12! I have so many advantages over most folks!
I don't think you have ADHD. You seem to focused in your training since age 12. People with ADHD cannot maintain that level of commitment for years let alone go to the gym. People with ADHD are too exhausted to have a rigid training and also the overstimulation of a gym can demotivate ADHD'ers. I believe you are hyperfocused but not ADHD hyperfocused. For example, did your hyperfixation make you sacrifice other commitments, lead to bad grades, bad relations with others because of your hyperfocus? Hyperfocusing with ADHD involves sacrificing other commitments.
@@jacqueslee2592 Unfortunately ADHD has been sadly misconstrued. Although, adults can be misdiagnosed, I was not. I did have bad grades in school, I could not focus on anything other than rainbows and butterflies or anything that I was truly interested in which was not much. I was put into therapy at a young age, because it was supposed to help me focus on learning to read, write etc.. I was forced to go to the gym at a young age, which was part of therapy. Over time the gym became my medicine. You speak from very limited knowledge on this subject. You do present some very good questions. I have not only lived with ADHD for over 50 years, but I have intensely studied it for decades. MY childhood was rough. I just thank my mom for refusing all the doctors' recommendations to put me on meds. I am going to upload a video on my channel that will give actual facts concerning this neurodivergent brain wiring that has been labeled ADHD. Have a great day!
@@jacqueslee2592 People with ADHD can't go to the gym? I think that is BS. That sounds like excuse making.
Also it sounds like this is their job so they are quite literally surrounded by this day to day you know? So when you are visually reminded of something on a day to day basis, you don't exactly escape it, it can actually motivate you since we have a tendency to get bored so we want to challenge ourselves!! I'd always get bored and do something like that especially calisthenics at work. I was doing workouts before my first delivery on the tailgate. I understand them but they have kept up their training much better apparently than me haha 🫡
@@jacqueslee2592 Your comment: You can't have ADHD since ADHD people are intrinsically limited and there's NO way to overcome this limitation
i personally disagree
As someone without a proper diagnosis, I deeply resonate and understand every single damn word you spoke in this video, and that was beautiful, so thank you. Thank you for this incredible video, I do think I was caught inside the negative spiral for a total of 25 years, but I scratched it all off starting at age 25, and really asked myself all this questions, and I do this on a daily basis! I feel better than ever and is crazy that just now when I feel like I get a sense of reality, I run into your wonderful video, breaking down what it is that has been working for me! Really amazing! And when you mentioned freedom, that really made me tear up of pure joy, because ive been stuck in the negative loop for my entire life, and been feeling liberated ever since I decided to live under my own terms. And it almost feels like a promise that all I have to do is keep it up, just focus on what matters, follow my curiosity, listen to myself, work towards my vision and I will be free indeed, until the end of my time. This feeling is truly a delicacy, so thank you for reassuring my efforts, thank you for making this video, I am sure many many others are feeling the same way, or many other will not have to waste a quarter of their lifes to learn about this simple mindset. I hope you stay strong, locked in and positive too! And keep spreading hope 🫶😭
I’m 34, all my life I just accepted that I am dumb, that I don’t always listen, that I am inherently angry, that I am just a quitter, that I am always going to be addicted to some form of intoxication, that I am someone who doesn’t always read the room, that I am just loud and erratic and so on. I’m not diagnosed yet but I’ve recently seen enough evidence that I can confidently say that I am at least ADHD. Still I feel hopeless.
Find people who are like minded!!! You are not stupid/ dumb.. I have the same problem but it takes finding the right interest that makes you engaged to really feel smart and to not compare yourself to others.. but I'm a hypocrite as I do struggle with it.. today I feel good though. Social media and work is always shoving comparisons up our ass and it makes everything seem alot worse. Something that will blow your mind.... This whole society thing? FABRICATED! WE COULD ALL DIE TOMORROW IN AN APOCALYPSE AND IT WOULDNT MATTER WHO WAS SOCIALLY INEPDT OR THE PARTY WIZARD!! We're like these little toy soldiers buzzing around playing pretend.. Really it's the system trying to convince everyone in it that we have these "values" and stuff.. it's all made up mumbo jumbo that we gotta just learn so we can play in it to succeed at the end of the day! Most people are acting, ADHD / Learning disorder or not! And if you dive deep into other people's lives you see they got these damn problems too and it's kind of funny . Once you break that "fourth wall" with people it helps you get comfortable and realizing that they're part of the same thing. Facing issues so it makes you feel better about your own, it can I hope. I have always been into drugs as well, I have been smoking pot non stop since the age of 16/17 and sometimes even enjoyed double dosing my script. I get it man. Good luck know you're not a quitter but probably have just not found the right thing.. or you like to try alot of different things! I have had 20 jobs in the last 8 years.. half of that was involuntary 😬😬 I get it I get it .. good luck
@@Troy-q3e thanks dude
@@lukestevenson7927 😎Cheers man take er eeze
I'm almost 32, and finally got diagnosed 2 weeks ago, the sense of relief I felt, finally having an answer for why it always felt like beating my head against a wall just to get things done, was immensely calming and I felt the best I have in years. just the last few days I felt the darkness creeping back in as I need to move house in 3 weeks, but I am making changes to do what I want rather than just please those around me and give no shits. I just really hope I'll be strong enough to keep it going, and not fall back into the spiral.
Make a plan for what you will do if you feel like you're getting sucked into the spiral again
This is hands down the best advice I have ever come across for turning your life around with ADHD 😎🔥
Jumped straight to the comments to find a synopsis of the video. Wow!!!!
13:08 just made me burst a cry out loud. This information is truly invaluable. In addition to ADHD I have BPD, life isn’t easy up here but videos like this truly help A LOT. Thank you SO very much!
I got you brother.
“Mental health professionals” are too eager to label people.
Oh same. Same same same.
Incredible stuff, thank you for mentioning how we might be tempted to give up due to how many times we’ve tried to change, this is my first real week of consistency, and after 500 great weeks with 2000 bad weeks of my adult life, I have more spark than ever, disabling social media, choosing one SMALL step daily, and gettin it, THANK YOU !!! We got this
Good video, lets put in a watch later playlist
I have over a thousand waiting 😅
@@leafmebeeme, too😅
People and friends think that I am a nighttime person. I mean yeah I love the night becauae it is quiet and it's the only time I can feel myself (like who I really are). But that is because I lack any ADHD management. Because deep down in my heart I am the type of person going to bed at like 9:30 or 10pm, waking at 04:30 and immediately doing 90min of soft to medium excercise in the morning. I LOVE cycling (all kinds of). And I would do this every morning. Waking up later is terrible for me. Even 6am is too late. Days I get late out of bed are ALWAYS pretty terrible days. But when I wake up early and *do* excercise it is a game changer. Maybe 6am works for you. I am pretty extreme.
can you give us a video on how to change our perspective to make working more enjoyable and what we have to avoid? what kind of thoughts we should follow and which we should reject.. depending on how they make us feel maybe..