Yes sir.. im 42 and after 2 years of therapy and walking in my faith, getting my mind, body and spirit aligned... has made me do the same thing.. question... is your mind right and how is your mental state..
@@kristopherhayes1957 There’s no set rules to femininity, but it’s going to be a woman who allows you take the lead and doesn’t argue for your respect or to let her handle things. Oh and this is the big one SHE WONT HATE MEN. She will not be claim that she hates all men, she most likely won’t even be a feminist, and she hopefully doesn’t hold any type of resentment toward ex’s.
And they refuse to accept accountability for actually having issues. Grown Women are totally a different class from females.. Big little girls. God says that we are mature, Perfect when we can control our tongue.
Real Truth 😂, I don’t listen to secular music. And If I did, my music world be old school. I was born in 79, this crap today isn’t music. Unless the old heads are still putting out hits.
In all honesty, there is no such thing. To control is to manage, like anger management. The issue is still there. You must be reprogramed. Learn how to be emptied of toxic behaviors. Address each emotion properly and separate it from subjects of thoughts. Healing and positive input is the Key... God's Truth through Jesus. You say you've learned how to control something, well what happens with buttons are pushed a control is lost and all that toxic build up comes out.
@@victoriousayesha825 That is what I did and continue to do. I reprogrammed it. I am still reprogramming it but it took one year to actually get a hang of it because like you said, you get triggered (a button gets pushed). It is very hard these days to get me to blow up. VERY HARD
I'm knockin on 32 this summer. Have not dated in 3 years going on 4. I'm just done with it all, modern dating is just... Bleh. I grew up in the wrong era. Just trying to heal and focus on myself -- all I can do.
As a woman of a certain age, happily married for 20yrs, working with "women" half my age. And listening to these 20 somethings, living at home, been through 5 jobs, no man, no nothing, talking about how they want a 6 figure man, an expensive car, a big diamond ring and a million dollar home because they DESERVE it. I can't even!
What happened to expecting humble beginnings and getting wealthy together? Isn't it how it happens most of the time? So sad how the younger generation seems so delusional.
I personally experience this with my mother. Emotional outbursts, yelling, swearing. It's blatant disrespect and disregard. And I literally feel like she acts exactly like my 3 year old. It makes me acutely aware of the fact that one of the most important things you do as a parent is teach your child to work through emotions to create healthy, beneficial outcomes for them.
Same! That's what I grew up with and refuse to be like that. I don't yell at children, I don't curse at all, and I don't ever hit children. It was such a toxic environment to grow up in.
For both men and women it is called a lack of impulse control and consequences for their behavior. It’s not about imbalanced hormones for men and women either. It is that impulse control is not taught early in life by parents. Often it is a generational problem in families. The behavior is then reinforced by others because they make excuses for those people like, “That’s just how he/she is”.
Yeah, I mean, women have always had hormones, and yet only recently have we had problems of grown women behaving like children when in past years they would be expected to be mature earlier than boys. (In the case of men, the problems of over-emotional men have always been apparent as this video points out, because the way they react to things emotionally tends to have more physical or visible consequences.) I definitely think this video is ignoring the parenting methods used nowadays. I see some parents and I'm like "...Can you at least tell your kid 'no?'" But no they completely just let their child run the show. This is why so many people nowadays have narcissistic personality disorder. Their parents never told them no, and in fact even told them they were "special." Your kid may be special to you, as well they should be, but if they go out into the world thinking that, it's not going to go well for them. You don't have to make them feel like garbage, but you SHOULD let them know that out in the real world, they're just like anybody else, and nobody owes them anything. Not a lesson being taught to children nowadays.
There's a couple in my department like this. They were moved to opposite ends of the building but still argue. They were warned many times about their unprofessionalism. The boyfriend just got fired because he ran down to her office and cursed her out. He has now lost his job and end of the year bonus. The girlfriend is in trouble too. Immature!
We all carry baggage to varying degrees, but some choose never to unpack (the ones to avoid). Unfortunately, identity politics tell one group to do whatever they want, and the other that they are toxic.
A woman who looks good doesn't mean she has a bad attitude or is extremely emotional. It's about the heart of a woman and is God in the center of her heart and life. The woman that God has for you will not be perfect but she'll be just right for YOU. A woman who acts out of character, seeks her identity from what she see's on social media or the music that is being played nowadays of course will cause headache to any man that she dates. Self-awareness is important. You can come across an 8, 9, or 10 who loves God and herself and make sure that she shows up as a woman who knows her worth. I'm a woman and I removed the "There isn't any good men out here" out of my vocabulary. I have no doubts that when the time come the man that God has for me will present himself.
Wow! When you talked about women getting a pass for emotional outburst due to hormone levels being heightened, yet men don't get a pass for heightened testosterone, that really hit different! It is in our best interest to learn to better control our emotions because verbal and emotional abuse is real and can leave lasting wounds!!
MinecraftKid120 it's not just about the testosterone but the cycle of women and the mood swings that correlate with those constant hormone fluctuations, also the brain itself is structured differently. The part of the brain that is connected to emotions (versus logic) is bigger in women while men can separate emotions and logic better at least based on brain anatomy
I had always had heightened emotionality, but it became severely unstable after my last relationship. It affected every area of my life so I started therapy because I needed to take responsibility for the sabotage I was doing to my life and relationships. I am far from perfections, but if I am trying to better myself and work on my toxicity and issues, then I expect my partner to do the same. We aren’t expecting the “accept me the way I am.” I think on a core value level that works, but it can’t be applied to every aspect of what makes us individuals.
The sign of immature women is when they get angry easily because of small things, and they make it bigger. Without realizing they are hurting the people around them.
Chris is hilarious, his natural reactions in conversations are funny as hell. This trait he has needs more attention he may be able to capitalize on it
They have some good points about women not acting femininely and soft as we all would have them be. But women’s behavior is NOT their fault. It is a product of their environment. If you “cannot find any good women”, it is a reflection of you. Men lead - women follow. Leadership = responsibility. Following = blame the leader. Remember that.
I mean for the last 10 years feminism been pushing and all this ” ignore men choose yourself etc” i mean i do feel like what u saying is right but i deadass think what’s happening now has nothing to do with men and just women influencing women
Men only lead in families where there is an agreement between them and their wives. Period. Random men don't lead random women. Boyfriends don't lead girlfriends. A single man leads himself just a single woman leads herself. Each person is responsible for their own lot. Single women are their own leaders (as are single men). So they can should their own blame (as should men).
@@nameless592 You don't want to follow men either way. Even if they have their shit together. You claim they are controlling or oppressive in some way just because they have standards for a partner. It's laughable honestly. Men are going their own way more and more for a simpler, more enjoyable life.
If you hold a woman to standards, they tell their family and friends you are emotionally abusive. That why EVERY woman you meet, tells you they were in an abusive relationship, I hear that and I run for the hills.
If that's what every woman around you says, then you should change friend groups. They are toxic. None of my girl friends say that about their relationship.
This describes my mom to a T. My poor dad and he's losing most of what he's worked for now. I try to regulate my crazy because I don't want to be like that.
EXACTLY! TOO MANY WOMEN OUT HERE STILL USING THE: TAKE ME AS I AM OR HAPPY WIFE. HAPPY LIFE, to the extreme of give me what I want or ELSE! We are Not supposed to live on our FEELINGS. THANK GOD HE DOESN'T OPERATE ON FEELINGS OR WE'D BE....
MOST High tells us to use self-control and bridle our tongues. Being self-aware is important. I'm a woman and I can't stand seeing it. Feminism has also allowed this to. Lady's don't know how much strength we actually have but we want to manipulate with emotions. Be careful stating that there are no "Good" woman out there. The enemy hears that and serve you what you speak. You just haven't met her yet. I also stopped saying "no good guys are out there." If he created me I can't sit around thinking I'm the only one." Y'all we're on point. It's always good to here the other side of things. 2 Tim 1:7 Great episode!
Emotional intelligence is key for everyone. You need it in your personal and professional life. People who lack emotional intelligence have a hard time maintaining a satisfying relationship with people. Their moods are all over the place and they can't hold on to friends long enough.
I think a lot of people BECOME children when allowing gorgeous people to ACT like children to get what they want. They don’t have to earn anything because people don’t care for their character. They care for their looks. It’s a two way street. Both sides act like children.
I will start this list by stating that NO ONE is entitled to the fruits of YOUR labor. If you’re considering marriage, please read this first. 1. She will pressure you into marriage, when ironically, she is also more likely to divorce you. 2. If you leave her, you are viewed as a scumbag. If she leaves you, you are viewed as “not good enough.” 3. There is a 50% chance that you will get divorced. If you get divorced, there is a 70% chance that she will initiate the divorce. That means there is a total 35% chance of her leaving you. 4. American courts are biased against men. You will not get to see your kids and will have to pay child support/alimony. 5. During a divorce, she will take half or more of your total assets. 6. You are expected to spend 20% of your total income on an engagement ring. 7. During a divorce, she is not required to return the engagement ring 8. She can accuse you of rape and you will suffer, regardless of whether or not you actually did it. 9. If she rapes you, then no one will take it seriously. If it is vice versa, then all hell breaks loose. 10. She can hit you, and if you hit her back, you will get arrested for domestic violence. 11. She has total monopoly on sex. She chooses when to give you sex. 12. She can use sex as a tool to manipulate you. She will only give you sex if you do things for her. 13. You are expected to satisfy her sexual needs. She is not expected to satisfy your sexual needs. 14. After your first child, your sex life will die. 15. After you split up, the children will be conditioned to almost always blame you. 16. She can badmouth you to your children, causing them to resent you. 17. You are not allowed to tell her what to do because of feminism. But she is still allowed to tell you what to do. 18. If you upset her, she will punish you by emotional manipulation. 19. If you even mess up slightly, you are labeled as a “deadbeat dad/husband.” 20. But if she messes up, you are expected to “accept her flaws.” 21. She will try to change you and get angry if you don’t comply. 22. Women are more likely to get bored of the relationship. 23. Women are more likely to fall out of love. 24. Women marry up. That means you marry down. 25. Woman are taught that marriage is stability. Men are taught that marriage is responsibility. 26. If you get fired and end up unemployed, she will leave you so fast. 27. If you are going through a rough financial period, you will also go through a rough relationship period. 28. Money = sex. No money = no sex. Marriage is legalized prostitution. (Just buy a hooker). 29. If she divorces you and you are worse off financially than her, she still won’t have to pay alimony. 30. You will lose quite a bit of money through marriage: the wedding ceremony, buying her gifts, raising kids, divorce, etc. 31. During marriage, you will have no time for your hobbies. You will be expected to work and “support” your wife all the time. 32. If she doesn’t want to work, you are expected to support her in her decision. 33. If you don’t want to work, you are labeled as lazy and a leech. 34. Chances are, she won’t like your close high-school/college friends. 35. She will expect you to put her above your friends, even close friends that are more like brothers. 36. She will expect you to put her above your parents. She is your highest priority now. 37. If your parents end in poverty/homeless/terminally ill, then she will expect you to put them in a nursing home. 38. If you bring your parents home to live with you, she will leave so fast. 39. If you ever get mildly angry, then you are instantly labeled as “abusive.” 40. If she ever gets angry, then she is just “releasing her emotions.” 41. She will not let you go out with the boys. 42. If you do go out with your friends without her “permission,” expect constant phone calls and resentment when you get home. 43. So. Much. Drama. Expect to hear about how Jimmy broke up with Jenny for hours after work. 44. If you have a flaw, then she can divorce you and make a profit from it. 45. If she has a flaw, then she will still make a profit if you divorce her. It’s basically passive blackmail. 46. If you’re an athletic man, expect to lose all your muscle after getting married. Also expect to gain a lot of fat. 47. If you’re an athletic man, she will secretly resent you for your toned body, which she doesn’t have. 48. If you ever end up terminally ill, she can leave you as you’re considered a burden that will “weigh her down.” 49. If she ever ends up terminally ill, if you leave her, then you are considered a scumbag and selfish. 50. She has a whole posse of girl friends that will support her no matter what shitty actions she takes. They will enable her bad behaviors and vilify you. There ya go. There are so many innocent men that are blindly led into marriage like a sheep to slaughter. They do not realize that the whole system is against them. It is better to die on your feet than live on your knees. It is even better to live on your feet than die on your knees. You’re a man with free will and independence. Defend that fiercely and let no one command you. th-cam.com/video/uD773RYUH7U/w-d-xo.html
Wow....in worse case senerios with a damaged, vile woman yes this is true. However, unfortunately one day you may run across a great woman for you who is nothing like your persceptions but you will force this idealogy on her and push her away. In all kindness, maybe there are some things you need to heal from 🙏🏽 only then will you be able to see clearly and decipher if marriage (to a quality women, yes they do exist) is truly for you, or not as marriage is not for everyone. In all, it's hard for people to see clearly through broken, traumatized lens as this only allows us to live in fear. 🙏🏽
@Sareem J You are greatly naive lol. You never see a woman’s true colors until it’s too late. Women will always tell you what you want to hear in order to trap you. A man must trust his intuition.
@Sareem J Eh, you’re probably right that men can do the same but a man can never be too sure when it comes to women. Based on your profile pic, you seem to have a nice lady by your side so consider yourself lucky you didn’t get to experience the more darker side of female nature.
That is not possible at 100% yes we all should learn to better regulate our emotions but we are not robots. However, there is nothing that good comunication can't improve,but off course if after addressing and issue the behaviour continues is better to cut it of. Also, lets be honest some men love far toooo much palying mind games,a woman can try no to react all the time but sometimes too much on their side is also too much and it is also lack of maturity on the male's side.
It's a trip how being with a toxic person or claiming that your toxic and proud is such a trend.. I see it on t shirts and bumper stickers now and days.... im teaching my kids and nephew to not feed into this madness.
This video needs more views by women. It’s very true and there’s no excuses for projecting those inner issues and lack of regulation into other people and then justifying it is a way of trying to dismiss the consequences of her behavior. I always say this with a different example: let’s say two people are going back and forth about opinions. Then the woman, just cause she rather be reassured of what SHE thinks instead of coming to equal understanding, will try to dismiss or invalidate him/his opinion. Just wants to be RIGHT when it’s not about being right. It’s about comprehension, understanding and the ability to agree to disagree without taking it personal. Love this. Hope you guys keep more topics like this. This can help (hopefully) a lot of women open their eyes to this huge bias.
Well said. I have an autoimmune that attacks different organs in my body, as a result my hormones are also all over the place. I had to decide to not be a victim of my emotions. As Christians we have the tools to fight this e.g. the joy of the Holy Spirit and God is my strength.We know how to be thankful. And most importantly, we know that trials in God's hands develop character, endurance,faith and hope. PS I also have great friends who I can spend time with when I feel emotionally overwhelmed and they always speak truth into my life. Keep up the interesting and much needed discussion guys!
Accountability for self and the ability to step back. Feelings are feelings and holds to true to each person, however there are times that one does not have to do anything, react, lash out - it’s time to feel your feelings and step back, breathe. Can’t blame anyone for your behavior, accountability of self! The way a person speaks, behaves are a statement of who they are. TRUTHS... Depth of a person...
this is why men shouldn't just rely on a woman's beauty when considering her a s a lifelong partner, and just because she's an 8,9 or 10 doesn't mean she's officially a bad person. As much as we women need to be realistic with our desires men need to take this into consideration as well.
👏🏽 this podcast. Growing is hard for many. Ladies we must look inward. You can get many men to come to the door. But if you lack substance, you haven’t taken the time to heal. Your will have men coming in and out like a revolving door. That too takes something out of you and leaves you even more confused. Basically be more then a beautiful face and body. Develop internally for beauty is fleeting.
That’s true. Women have to find out the difference between men who wants to have just bedroom fun vs who wants to be in longterm relationship with her. Just like men have to find out the difference between who wants him for his money or status vs who wants him for long term relationship.
These women that Hafeez and Chris speak off, who lack accountibility for their actions, most likely had no one around them to emulate healthy womanhood. No one around to call out these selfish traits of behavior. I know from my experience, my role models early in life had a powerful effect on my ability to understand and take accountability for my faults. I constantly saw my parents blaming the outside world, politics, other people as the problem. So I took on those beliefs because that was my normal, all I ever was shown from the adults I trusted at that time. It wasn’t until I started following TH-cam channels and podcasts, started reading books, that discuss topics of taking full responsibility for my life. That I have the ability to control my emotions and not blame the outside world for my situation. I just never knew this paradigm was out there. Sometimes we don’t know what we don’t know. Just my perspective.
Had to subscribe. Much love to you guys. Hafeez proud of you bro especially how you analyzed and exposed those young women on the Fresf & Fit podcast 🔥🔥💯💯
Chris's piece resonated. A lot (not all) of women feel like men owe them something. As if all they have to bring to any mutual relationship is there looks and body. It's not good enough anymore.
You two are doing such a great job helping men to heal, to grow and to connect with their healthy masculinity... It is so needed...Thank you to both of you... God bless you... 😊🙏
I loved this video. I feel like you guys are only looking at social media girls though. There are actually many beautiful girls out there with an amazing personality that are willing to listen and learn. In addition, you attract what you are so maybe you guys attract those type of girls. I may be wrong but just a thought. Sometimes we look in the wrong places.
Understanding to regulate emotions. Therapy. 4 into therapy, I wasn't able to regulate my emotions. My emotions were my reality. Absolutely. 6+ years into therapy, I am accountable for my actions and my emotions. An intense feeling is for a moment. It is not the world. It is not the day. 8+ years into therapy. Ladies, become accountable for who you choose to surround yourself with. Who you choose to marry. Accountability is 100. Also, be careful. Silent treatment is one of the most powerful ways that can cause someone to completely unravel. You are still accountable for what happens. And also understand, watch out for the vindictive man. Silent treatment is his game and you will be watched in every aspect of what you do when he chooses to use this tactic.
I met this beautiful girl few months ago, you know what she put on her instagram bio? "What I feel is the only truth for me" the moment I started using logic she short-circuited the relationship and left
Man this been my life motto for most of my life😂💯I told a guy i was seeing that “if i feel the sky is purple then the sky is purple” and he understood😂
The Lord hates haughty eyes and sharp tongues, but the fruits of the Spirit are Love, Joy, Peace, Patience, Kindness, Goodness, faithfulness, Gentleness, and Self-control
I can only speak for myself... I started dating a 35 year old woman. And she seemed right at the getgo not... How to say... Not up to speed with... Her age. Long story short, eventually came to find out that she was still a virgin, still living at home with her parents, unemployed and obsessing about Japanese cartoons. And here is the kicker. Her younger sisters, both had kids and one was even married. So i was just like.. Aha.... There are manchildren.. So the opposite is true as well. I just left and never looked back. It was such a bizarre experience.
I'm curious to know if you are giving any 8,9, or 10 "level" woman the time to show you who they are inside before you hit that delete button or are you make a snap judgement by the looks she has? Don't you think that women with good looks have been treated unfairly for that exact reason? Just because a woman has looks doesn't mean she hasn't educated herself, went through healing, etc.
Oh my goodness - I recognize MYSELF... I fly off the handle less than I used to, but far more than I’d like to. This is NOT GOOD!! I don’t want to be a slave to my emotions. Was widowed 3 years ago, ans I think I’m still so broken from losing my husband (not to mention hormones are out of whack) but, NO EXCUSES... I still have our kids to raise. This has REALLY made me take a look at myself and KNOW that I have got to take the proper steps to get some healing. Lord, help me... in Jesus’ Name, I pray... amen. 🙏🏽
The estrogen vs testosterone point is why I think women should be more mindful on social media places like insta and tik tok. We know that your baby making hormones wants to show off your curves and how well you can bring a baby into this world, but that doesn’t excuse your lack of self control.
Well hey any woman can bring a baby into this world but can they raise a baby the right way plus half of them can't even get a ring on their damn finger😓🙄
Not only that but once its out on the internet, that's it. All those risky and lewd inticeing photos. Half these women will get families, now they get kids or grand kids and imagine seeing your mom bending over in bikinis or twerking. It's brutal. Or those only fans girls.
But these are the women men want... Men want them because they are pretty and fine. Y’all don’t pursue healed and emotionally stable women. They are boring to y’all until these girls break y’all and damage y’all ❤️.
Men wants them for sex and not partners. (Talking about generality here). That's why most single moms are the same people having the type of personality hafeez is talking about. (Again generality and not exceptions)
One topic I don’t think that gets discussed is why have BW put such a high priority on attraction/sex when it comes to finding a man for relationship/marriage. When I talk to my female counterparts of Asian, white and Hispanic culture that is the last thing on their mind when finding a suitable man. KS talks about it sometimes that a lot of BW care more about getting piped down and looking good on Instagram with their fine dude than their bills getting paid and sleeping good at night when their man isn’t home: I think this causes more divide in the black dating/mating market
@@nameless592 actually love black women which is why the paragraph was necessary. If we don’t point out the issues in black dating how can we ever rebuild our community. Black Men aren’t perfect by any means, but our flaws are always discussed. Healing has to happen on both sides.
There's some guys who are like that as well. Thats right guys are in prison with that trait, not being able to control their emotions. Good sign of maturity is being able to step back and access the situation or to walk away and talk when clearer heads prevail. I know its not always the case. Thats why the personality matters more then looks!
I’m not sure you can say how a women should or should not feel when she’s on her period. You literally can’t know unless you’re a woman and even in that case we all have different experiences going through that. I think both sexes have a responsibility to educate our children in knowing how to navigate through their emotions better and how to build more meaningful, respectful relationships. Thank you for your videos, great content and great guests!
Again this is why I say go to the less hot 🔥 ones and that" throw a fit because they don't get what they want them" is less prevalence of that dissapate.
Funny thing is that there are many "books" telling that lack of emotional control, so called "empathy" is something to be proud about. It's easy to spot them because of pastel colors and cute animals on cover. I believe that it's mostly caused by long campaign against fatherhood masked as feminism. If you were abused fight with opressors (men) and if you weren't, you can always find somebody else abused and fight in his name. Either way, you can bash men and be proud of how sensitive you are. 😄 I came to the point where I for fun started to use women's abusive tactics like: ignoring, avoiding eye contact, looking with despise, accusing of being harmful, accusing of violence, point cruelty, signaling that woman need to deserve, cutting contact after accusation of abuse, acting busy, etc. It gives me some joy in life. 😎 It's easy to use, just some training and go with the flow. If woman doesn't work out character before 26 she is mostly doomed. After that age is really hard to change yourself. So we have lost generation of women. FCK them, i prefer to talk with my father instead is some princess/martyr. After 30 it's easy to get from women sex so no need to worry 😉
Chris is asking for a lot...that’s like when they tell us we are doing too much for wanting a spiritual thug,who is 6’0+, looks like Michael B Jordan,who is healed,can be faithful and wants us😂
@@IenaInspirationsdid you miss the part where he said to his mom "I'm asking for 8,9,10 and above..Godly character, no kids, feminine energy,great character and personality, and she has to be healed from past wounds, not that much damage, and she has to want me"...like...good luck, buddy lol. He's essnetially asking for a IG baddie that attends church every sunday, is a virgin, and has taken etiquette classes since she was 10.
I messed up my first relationship because I lashed out. I was so immature.When I came back and said sorry it was too late. I hope God blesses me with a second chance to do things right with someone
100% correct. #CamelNeedle If these ladies were intelligent, they would understand the value of listening. They simply refuse to listen and that reveals their true character. 90's, 2000's, and the 2010s were the same. Challenges come with blessings. Thank your lucky stars for the internet, so you could learn from each other and share these lessons together. Just imagine you married one and had children, I wouldn't wish that on my enemy. #MaterialGirls are tripping on dopamine and do not understand the pair-bonding process within their own bodies. Cosmo took their money, lied for-profit, and destroyed them. #SadCase
But me being calm, wanting to unpack things, talk through things without attacking each other is viewed as me not caring 😂😂 and that I need to relax and stop trying to be a therapist. No dude you’re just not use to someone that’s over all of the dysfunction. I’ve allowed myself to go off my emotions then I’m crazy, I try the other approach and I want to be a therapist. Good luck ladies 😂😂😂
@@HXCORNERSTONE I have no desire to change a man, I was referring to us discussing disagreements without attacking each other. That was my goal. I simply wanted to have conversations and be vulnerable instead of having the normal yelling match. But I've learned that some people shy away from having true conversation bc they lack the skill to do so. It takes work, I use to love yelling lol until I realized that it took away from my femininity and solved nothing. but hey, it is what it is.
As men we just need to learn how to act around her impulses & guide her my mom gave the best advice ever she said if u look for somthing you will allways find it
Women live off their feelings more so than men, that is true, but this society has become highly emotional for both men and women. People typically can't even have convos about politics, religion, right and wrong, diet, interpreting science etc without getting emotionally riled up. Most people are not able to be calm, hear out another's view without feeling they need need put that idea down, and it seems like this shoes that people aren't as sure of themselves as they try to portray, but also most humans are afraid to say that they just DON'T KNOW, when we truly don't know more than we know. I am a woman, and talking logically to men is tough, but I have found it impossible almost, when it comes to trying to connect with other women. This is a let down for sure.
I love how emotions are an afterthought. If you were going to settle with like a five because she had emotional maturity but then cheat on your wife with anyone who meets you physical needs.
Haafez... related question.... if a guy is talking to you on the phone and then while you're answering a question he asked you you hear him start chatting up and flirting with a girl that's there where he's at... and you hang up after a minute or so of enduring their "chatting"... is he right to say i'm being immature or am I right to think he's being disrespectful af? I know impulse reactions have been a problem for me in the past but I have been working on it actively and didn't think this fell under that same category but since i could be in my feelings too much about this i'd like to get an outside opinion... thoughts?
That's straight up disrespectful! Talk to him about it, tell him you think this is disrespectful and if he doesn't agree or say sorry then find someone else. People should run for the people who treat them well, not the ones they "feel most" for if they are disrespectful.
Thank you fellas for this video, I had a difficult year to control my feelings. Had a burn out because the bucket was full of water, I overcame the burn out in less time I couldn't imagine but it helped me realise a lot. You don't own anything to anyone, you are your own person with your thoughts and feelings. I'm a autistic person and I'm okay with it but I find it hard to control my emotions at different times or situations. A positive attitude helped me to become a better person and version of me and I'm not done with it. I'll read, observe, take time to heal me and become the best person I want to be. Thankss❤️
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How old is Chris I gotta know how long it took for this man to get here😂
we have to learn to be like ‘yeah she’s attractive, but how are you for my mental health?”
daaaaaaaaaaaaamn dude, that's a solid thought right here. Thanks!
Sick pick up line lol
@@tonyinc9002 thanks brah
Yes, and women need to do the same when they see the "bad boy". So many issues in society will be healed when we all start using our intelligence.
Yes sir.. im 42 and after 2 years of therapy and walking in my faith, getting my mind, body and spirit aligned... has made me do the same thing.. question... is your mind right and how is your mental state..
Beauty does not equal femininity and that’s where a lot of guys get caught up.
Come on🙌🏾well said🤝
I agree !!
How do we find femininity? I know it exists but it's hard to identify and define it.
@@kristopherhayes1957 There’s no set rules to femininity, but it’s going to be a woman who allows you take the lead and doesn’t argue for your respect or to let her handle things. Oh and this is the big one SHE WONT HATE MEN. She will not be claim that she hates all men, she most likely won’t even be a feminist, and she hopefully doesn’t hold any type of resentment toward ex’s.
@@jasirirene1619 I guess that is a start. Thank you.
And they refuse to accept accountability for actually having issues.
Grown Women are totally a different class from females.. Big little girls.
God says that we are mature, Perfect when we can control our tongue.
I'm happy to see a Lady here.
@@ekpemeisong1331 , Amen. It's a pleasure to be seen. We do exist.
"A LOT of women slit in my DM bro" 🤐😣 and quoting some Gucci man song. Doesn't get any more immature than that 😶
Real Truth 😂, I don’t listen to secular music. And If I did, my music world be old school. I was born in 79, this crap today isn’t music. Unless the old heads are still putting out hits.
I guess that's good for me then. I haven't ever used curse words. I made a promise when I was young to never use curse words.
"The no. 1 sign of an immature woman, is the inability to regulate her emotions"
This is truth.
@RealTalk the Black Boy King Damn
@RealTalk the Black Boy King It’s all good, brother. At least you have plenty of wisdom to share with the younger bros coming up. 🙏🏾🤞🏾.
90 percent of women can’t control their emotions
@@joelrobert4053 that’s why you have to pick and choose the right one
@@natemclarke There’s no such thing as the right one, they’re all the same.
After 26 years, it took therapy and extreme effort to learn to control my emotions. It was HARD. But it is so worth it. I feel sane
In all honesty, there is no such thing. To control is to manage, like anger management. The issue is still there.
You must be reprogramed. Learn how to be emptied of toxic behaviors. Address each emotion properly and separate it from subjects of thoughts.
Healing and positive input is the Key...
God's Truth through Jesus.
You say you've learned how to control something, well what happens with buttons are pushed a control is lost and all that toxic build up comes out.
@@victoriousayesha825 That is what I did and continue to do. I reprogrammed it. I am still reprogramming it but it took one year to actually get a hang of it because like you said, you get triggered (a button gets pushed). It is very hard these days to get me to blow up. VERY HARD
So good to see that women can and do recognize this and give it value. You are rare, ladies.
Lol 💀 lost children
I can’t wait to master my emotions in a healthier way glad you went to therapy 💓
I'm knockin on 32 this summer. Have not dated in 3 years going on 4. I'm just done with it all, modern dating is just... Bleh. I grew up in the wrong era. Just trying to heal and focus on myself -- all I can do.
I'm 21 and same. A whole generation of thots.
I feel you I’m 20 and i spent last 2 years dating I’m done. Too much, I’m more focused on my business and career than going out on dates these days
@@David28311 ayeee. Stay focused
Fuck dating, just pump and dump
As a female i’m in same boat💯
As a woman of a certain age, happily married for 20yrs, working with "women" half my age. And listening to these 20 somethings, living at home, been through 5 jobs, no man, no nothing, talking about how they want a 6 figure man, an expensive car, a big diamond ring and a million dollar home because they DESERVE it. I can't even!
I hear you. The delusion is real in the young women & it will be their undoing.
What happened to expecting humble beginnings and getting wealthy together? Isn't it how it happens most of the time? So sad how the younger generation seems so delusional.
If a man said they wanted a 6 figure woman because they deserve it they would be looked down upon.
The #1 Sign of Immaturity is the inability to process and regulate your emotions towards accepting reality in spite of your feelings about it.
I personally experience this with my mother. Emotional outbursts, yelling, swearing. It's blatant disrespect and disregard. And I literally feel like she acts exactly like my 3 year old. It makes me acutely aware of the fact that one of the most important things you do as a parent is teach your child to work through emotions to create healthy, beneficial outcomes for them.
I’m sorry you went through out. I feel for my students when they say their mom yells and their dad is reasonable. I also feel for the dad.
Same! That's what I grew up with and refuse to be like that. I don't yell at children, I don't curse at all, and I don't ever hit children. It was such a toxic environment to grow up in.
For both men and women it is called a lack of impulse control and consequences for their behavior. It’s not about imbalanced hormones for men and women either. It is that impulse control is not taught early in life by parents. Often it is a generational problem in families. The behavior is then reinforced by others because they make excuses for those people like, “That’s just how he/she is”.
Yeah, I mean, women have always had hormones, and yet only recently have we had problems of grown women behaving like children when in past years they would be expected to be mature earlier than boys. (In the case of men, the problems of over-emotional men have always been apparent as this video points out, because the way they react to things emotionally tends to have more physical or visible consequences.) I definitely think this video is ignoring the parenting methods used nowadays. I see some parents and I'm like "...Can you at least tell your kid 'no?'" But no they completely just let their child run the show. This is why so many people nowadays have narcissistic personality disorder. Their parents never told them no, and in fact even told them they were "special." Your kid may be special to you, as well they should be, but if they go out into the world thinking that, it's not going to go well for them. You don't have to make them feel like garbage, but you SHOULD let them know that out in the real world, they're just like anybody else, and nobody owes them anything. Not a lesson being taught to children nowadays.
There's a couple in my department like this. They were moved to opposite ends of the building but still argue. They were warned many times about their unprofessionalism. The boyfriend just got fired because he ran down to her office and cursed her out. He has now lost his job and end of the year bonus. The girlfriend is in trouble too. Immature!
Always stay hungry and humbled with yourself and goals because someone right now is wishing to have what you have.
When I watch you guys... Even though the truth hurts but it helping me as well to become a better woman. Thank you!
Willingly subjecting oneself to painful truths is a trait to be lauded and is very attractive to the right people.
We all carry baggage to varying degrees, but some choose never to unpack (the ones to avoid). Unfortunately, identity politics tell one group to do whatever they want, and the other that they are toxic.
A woman who looks good doesn't mean she has a bad attitude or is extremely emotional. It's about the heart of a woman and is God in the center of her heart and life. The woman that God has for you will not be perfect but she'll be just right for YOU. A woman who acts out of character, seeks her identity from what she see's on social media or the music that is being played nowadays of course will cause headache to any man that she dates. Self-awareness is important. You can come across an 8, 9, or 10 who loves God and herself and make sure that she shows up as a woman who knows her worth. I'm a woman and I removed the "There isn't any good men out here" out of my vocabulary. I have no doubts that when the time come the man that God has for me will present himself.
Yes ! 100%
Same here and I'm a man✊
Can emotionally immature women be empaths?
Wow! When you talked about women getting a pass for emotional outburst due to hormone levels being heightened, yet men don't get a pass for heightened testosterone, that really hit different! It is in our best interest to learn to better control our emotions because verbal and emotional abuse is real and can leave lasting wounds!!
Damn never thought about that its so true
Men constantly get passes
MinecraftKid120 it's not just about the testosterone but the cycle of women and the mood swings that correlate with those constant hormone fluctuations, also the brain itself is structured differently. The part of the brain that is connected to emotions (versus logic) is bigger in women while men can separate emotions and logic better at least based on brain anatomy
I had always had heightened emotionality, but it became severely unstable after my last relationship. It affected every area of my life so I started therapy because I needed to take responsibility for the sabotage I was doing to my life and relationships. I am far from perfections, but if I am trying to better myself and work on my toxicity and issues, then I expect my partner to do the same. We aren’t expecting the “accept me the way I am.” I think on a core value level that works, but it can’t be applied to every aspect of what makes us individuals.
This is a very real issue. This is the mentality of a toddler. In adulthood this is the groundwork for narcissistic personality disorder.
The sign of immature women is when they get angry easily because of small things, and they make it bigger. Without realizing they are hurting the people around them.
Chris is hilarious, his natural reactions in conversations are funny as hell. This trait he has needs more attention he may be able to capitalize on it
They have some good points about women not acting femininely and soft as we all would have them be.
But women’s behavior is NOT their fault. It is a product of their environment.
If you “cannot find any good women”, it is a reflection of you.
Men lead - women follow.
Leadership = responsibility.
Following = blame the leader.
Remember that.
I mean for the last 10 years feminism been pushing and all this ” ignore men choose yourself etc” i mean i do feel like what u saying is right but i deadass think what’s happening now has nothing to do with men and just women influencing women
Agree to some extent but the problem is that a lot of women do not want to follow anymore. 🤷♂️
Men only lead in families where there is an agreement between them and their wives. Period. Random men don't lead random women. Boyfriends don't lead girlfriends. A single man leads himself just a single woman leads herself. Each person is responsible for their own lot.
Single women are their own leaders (as are single men). So they can should their own blame (as should men).
@@james271993 yeah we don’t want to follow men with no clue on how to lead or take responsibility.
@@nameless592 You don't want to follow men either way. Even if they have their shit together. You claim they are controlling or oppressive in some way just because they have standards for a partner. It's laughable honestly. Men are going their own way more and more for a simpler, more enjoyable life.
If you hold a woman to standards, they tell their family and friends you are emotionally abusive. That why EVERY woman you meet, tells you they were in an abusive relationship, I hear that and I run for the hills.
There are some cowardly men out there hun. Trust and believe that.
If that's what every woman around you says, then you should change friend groups. They are toxic. None of my girl friends say that about their relationship.
out of all the languages, y’all decided to speak facts 🔥
This channel is brilliant. Sorry i only discovered it today. Keep up the great work guys. Your content could literally save lives lol.
This describes my mom to a T. My poor dad and he's losing most of what he's worked for now. I try to regulate my crazy because I don't want to be like that.
EXACTLY! TOO MANY WOMEN OUT HERE STILL USING THE: TAKE ME AS I AM OR HAPPY WIFE. HAPPY LIFE, to the extreme of give me what I want or ELSE!
We are Not supposed to live on our FEELINGS. THANK GOD HE DOESN'T OPERATE ON FEELINGS OR WE'D BE....
Every episode of this show is very interesting and opens your eyes to many things about women.
Stop chasing women.
Chase excellence.
These two are so perceptive! It’s amazing. God bless them. 🙌🏼
Nothing but the truth in this video!
MOST High tells us to use self-control and bridle our tongues. Being self-aware is important. I'm a woman and I can't stand seeing it. Feminism has also allowed this to. Lady's don't know how much strength we actually have but we want to manipulate with emotions.
Be careful stating that there are no "Good" woman out there. The enemy hears that and serve you what you speak. You just haven't met her yet. I also stopped saying "no good guys are out there." If he created me I can't sit around thinking I'm the only one." Y'all we're on point. It's always good to here the other side of things. 2 Tim 1:7
Great episode!
Emotional intelligence is key for everyone. You need it in your personal and professional life. People who lack emotional intelligence have a hard time maintaining a satisfying relationship with people. Their moods are all over the place and they can't hold on to friends long enough.
Say it louder! 👏🏻
facts 💓
Well unfortunately i might be working on this one for the remainder of my life😏
@@jessicabarlow7412 I am working on building a tool that will help people enhance their emotional intelligence. It's hard but you are not alone.
I think a lot of people BECOME children when allowing gorgeous people to ACT like children to get what they want. They don’t have to earn anything because people don’t care for their character. They care for their looks. It’s a two way street. Both sides act like children.
Very well put. Its both ways as you say.
I will start this list by stating that NO ONE is entitled to the fruits of YOUR labor.
If you’re considering marriage, please read this first.
1. She will pressure you into marriage, when ironically, she is also more likely to divorce you.
2. If you leave her, you are viewed as a scumbag. If she leaves you, you are viewed as “not good enough.”
3. There is a 50% chance that you will get divorced. If you get divorced, there is a 70% chance that she will initiate the divorce. That means there is a total 35% chance of her leaving you.
4. American courts are biased against men. You will not get to see your kids and will have to pay child support/alimony.
5. During a divorce, she will take half or more of your total assets.
6. You are expected to spend 20% of your total income on an engagement ring.
7. During a divorce, she is not required to return the engagement ring
8. She can accuse you of rape and you will suffer, regardless of whether or not you actually did it.
9. If she rapes you, then no one will take it seriously. If it is vice versa, then all hell breaks loose.
10. She can hit you, and if you hit her back, you will get arrested for domestic violence.
11. She has total monopoly on sex. She chooses when to give you sex.
12. She can use sex as a tool to manipulate you. She will only give you sex if you do things for her.
13. You are expected to satisfy her sexual needs. She is not expected to satisfy your sexual needs.
14. After your first child, your sex life will die.
15. After you split up, the children will be conditioned to almost always blame you.
16. She can badmouth you to your children, causing them to resent you.
17. You are not allowed to tell her what to do because of feminism. But she is still allowed to tell you what to do.
18. If you upset her, she will punish you by emotional manipulation.
19. If you even mess up slightly, you are labeled as a “deadbeat dad/husband.”
20. But if she messes up, you are expected to “accept her flaws.”
21. She will try to change you and get angry if you don’t comply.
22. Women are more likely to get bored of the relationship.
23. Women are more likely to fall out of love.
24. Women marry up. That means you marry down.
25. Woman are taught that marriage is stability. Men are taught that marriage is responsibility.
26. If you get fired and end up unemployed, she will leave you so fast.
27. If you are going through a rough financial period, you will also go through a rough relationship period.
28. Money = sex. No money = no sex. Marriage is legalized prostitution. (Just buy a hooker).
29. If she divorces you and you are worse off financially than her, she still won’t have to pay alimony.
30. You will lose quite a bit of money through marriage: the wedding ceremony, buying her gifts, raising kids, divorce, etc.
31. During marriage, you will have no time for your hobbies. You will be expected to work and “support” your wife all the time.
32. If she doesn’t want to work, you are expected to support her in her decision.
33. If you don’t want to work, you are labeled as lazy and a leech.
34. Chances are, she won’t like your close high-school/college friends.
35. She will expect you to put her above your friends, even close friends that are more like brothers.
36. She will expect you to put her above your parents. She is your highest priority now.
37. If your parents end in poverty/homeless/terminally ill, then she will expect you to put them in a nursing home.
38. If you bring your parents home to live with you, she will leave so fast.
39. If you ever get mildly angry, then you are instantly labeled as “abusive.”
40. If she ever gets angry, then she is just “releasing her emotions.”
41. She will not let you go out with the boys.
42. If you do go out with your friends without her “permission,” expect constant phone calls and resentment when you get home.
43. So. Much. Drama. Expect to hear about how Jimmy broke up with Jenny for hours after work.
44. If you have a flaw, then she can divorce you and make a profit from it.
45. If she has a flaw, then she will still make a profit if you divorce her. It’s basically passive blackmail.
46. If you’re an athletic man, expect to lose all your muscle after getting married. Also expect to gain a lot of fat.
47. If you’re an athletic man, she will secretly resent you for your toned body, which she doesn’t have.
48. If you ever end up terminally ill, she can leave you as you’re considered a burden that will “weigh her down.”
49. If she ever ends up terminally ill, if you leave her, then you are considered a scumbag and selfish.
50. She has a whole posse of girl friends that will support her no matter what shitty actions she takes. They will enable her bad behaviors and vilify you.
There ya go.
There are so many innocent men that are blindly led into marriage like a sheep to slaughter. They do not realize that the whole system is against them.
It is better to die on your feet than live on your knees. It is even better to live on your feet than die on your knees.
You’re a man with free will and independence. Defend that fiercely and let no one command you.
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Wow....in worse case senerios with a damaged, vile woman yes this is true. However, unfortunately one day you may run across a great woman for you who is nothing like your persceptions but you will force this idealogy on her and push her away. In all kindness, maybe there are some things you need to heal from 🙏🏽 only then will you be able to see clearly and decipher if marriage (to a quality women, yes they do exist) is truly for you, or not as marriage is not for everyone. In all, it's hard for people to see clearly through broken, traumatized lens as this only allows us to live in fear. 🙏🏽
@Sareem J You are greatly naive lol. You never see a woman’s true colors until it’s too late. Women will always tell you what you want to hear in order to trap you. A man must trust his intuition.
@Sareem J Eh, you’re probably right that men can do the same but a man can never be too sure when it comes to women. Based on your profile pic, you seem to have a nice lady by your side so consider yourself lucky you didn’t get to experience the more darker side of female nature.
Yessss. Emotional intelligence is a skill many have not mastered. It takes awareness and discipline...
Working on this
@@LivingLight me too. Its not easy. 🙏🏻
That is not possible at 100% yes we all should learn to better regulate our emotions but we are not robots. However, there is nothing that good comunication can't improve,but off course if after addressing and issue the behaviour continues is better to cut it of. Also, lets be honest some men love far toooo much palying mind games,a woman can try no to react all the time but sometimes too much on their side is also too much and it is also lack of maturity on the male's side.
Most of the mature women ive met in my life had a father figure growing up.
It's a trip how being with a toxic person or claiming that your toxic and proud is such a trend.. I see it on t shirts and bumper stickers now and days.... im teaching my kids and nephew to not feed into this madness.
This video needs more views by women. It’s very true and there’s no excuses for projecting those inner issues and lack of regulation into other people and then justifying it is a way of trying to dismiss the consequences of her behavior. I always say this with a different example: let’s say two people are going back and forth about opinions. Then the woman, just cause she rather be reassured of what SHE thinks instead of coming to equal understanding, will try to dismiss or invalidate him/his opinion. Just wants to be RIGHT when it’s not about being right. It’s about comprehension, understanding and the ability to agree to disagree without taking it personal. Love this. Hope you guys keep more topics like this. This can help (hopefully) a lot of women open their eyes to this huge bias.
He was on his Kobe "shaq did it too" when he said Chris had it too
Well said. I have an autoimmune that attacks different organs in my body, as a result my hormones are also all over the place. I had to decide to not be a victim of my emotions. As Christians we have the tools to fight this e.g. the joy of the Holy Spirit and God is my strength.We know how to be thankful. And most importantly, we know that trials in God's hands develop character, endurance,faith and hope. PS I also have great friends who I can spend time with when I feel emotionally overwhelmed and they always speak truth into my life. Keep up the interesting and much needed discussion guys!
This hit so different. This is deep
Accountability for self and the ability to step back. Feelings are feelings and holds to true to each person, however there are times that one does not have to do anything, react, lash out - it’s time to feel your feelings and step back, breathe. Can’t blame anyone for your behavior, accountability of self! The way a person speaks, behaves are a statement of who they are. TRUTHS... Depth of a person...
I was in second grade so i had a speech problem. I thank my dad ,teacher, my speech teacher. Now i can speak better than i did before. This video 👍🏽
this is why men shouldn't just rely on a woman's beauty when considering her a s a lifelong partner, and just because she's an 8,9 or 10 doesn't mean she's officially a bad person. As much as we women need to be realistic with our desires men need to take this into consideration as well.
Enabling that kind of behavior is a liability waiting to happen.
“Chris had it too!”
Chris: “Calm down” 😂😂😂
I watch you guys everyday! Still waiting for God to send my husband and with every video, things get easier.
👏🏽 this podcast. Growing is hard for many. Ladies we must look inward. You can get many men to come to the door. But if you lack substance, you haven’t taken the time to heal. Your will have men coming in and out like a revolving door. That too takes something out of you and leaves you even more confused. Basically be more then a beautiful face and body. Develop internally for beauty is fleeting.
Wow u get it❗️💯
Word spoken right here
Right at the end of the day beauty is only skin deep and women like that become baby mamas before they even become engaged or wives
That’s true.
Women have to find out the difference between men who wants to have just bedroom fun vs who wants to be in longterm relationship with her.
Just like men have to find out the difference between who wants him for his money or status vs who wants him for long term relationship.
Women basically avoid the men who hold them accountable.
These women that Hafeez and Chris speak off, who lack accountibility for their actions, most likely had no one around them to emulate healthy womanhood. No one around to call out these selfish traits of behavior. I know from my experience, my role models early in life had a powerful effect on my ability to understand and take accountability for my faults. I constantly saw my parents blaming the outside world, politics, other people as the problem. So I took on those beliefs because that was my normal, all I ever was shown from the adults I trusted at that time. It wasn’t until I started following TH-cam channels and podcasts, started reading books, that discuss topics of taking full responsibility for my life. That I have the ability to control my emotions and not blame the outside world for my situation. I just never knew this paradigm was out there. Sometimes we don’t know what we don’t know. Just my perspective.
@@allsmiles2160 thank you for your kind words!
💯💯💯
Exactly, feminine evil is just as bad as masculine evil.
The first is more misleading and often not punishable by law.
Had to subscribe. Much love to you guys. Hafeez proud of you bro especially how you analyzed and exposed those young women on the Fresf & Fit podcast 🔥🔥💯💯
Chris's piece resonated. A lot (not all) of women feel like men owe them something. As if all they have to bring to any mutual relationship is there looks and body. It's not good enough anymore.
You two are doing such a great job helping men to heal, to grow and to connect with their healthy masculinity... It is so needed...Thank you to both of you... God bless you... 😊🙏
I love this channel, their thoughts and opinions of women are clear, and as a woman I appreciate it
If the wrapping is better than the gift, then there is NO GIFT.
I loved this video. I feel like you guys are only looking at social media girls though. There are actually many beautiful girls out there with an amazing personality that are willing to listen and learn. In addition, you attract what you are so maybe you guys attract those type of girls. I may be wrong but just a thought. Sometimes we look in the wrong places.
True
Understanding to regulate emotions. Therapy. 4 into therapy, I wasn't able to regulate my emotions. My emotions were my reality. Absolutely. 6+ years into therapy, I am accountable for my actions and my emotions. An intense feeling is for a moment. It is not the world. It is not the day. 8+ years into therapy. Ladies, become accountable for who you choose to surround yourself with. Who you choose to marry. Accountability is 100. Also, be careful. Silent treatment is one of the most powerful ways that can cause someone to completely unravel. You are still accountable for what happens. And also understand, watch out for the vindictive man. Silent treatment is his game and you will be watched in every aspect of what you do when he chooses to use this tactic.
i like that walmart shelf lamp. it was hard to assemble i bet.
5:40 Why Chris tryna keep it on the low tho, ahah this kind of man lmao !
I met this beautiful girl few months ago, you know what she put on her instagram bio? "What I feel is the only truth for me" the moment I started using logic she short-circuited the relationship and left
Why are you approaching someone who thinks like that to begin with. What’s wrong with you it’s a you problem not her.
Man this been my life motto for most of my life😂💯I told a guy i was seeing that “if i feel the sky is purple then the sky is purple” and he understood😂
The Lord hates haughty eyes and sharp tongues, but the fruits of the Spirit are Love, Joy, Peace, Patience, Kindness, Goodness, faithfulness, Gentleness, and Self-control
What he said at the 12.marke hit different because its reallyyyyyyyyy facts 💯 dam , u can't word it no better then dat fr
This pandemic has really showed which adults are still emotionally immature, not just women.
Thank you for speaking the truth in love😊
I watch these videos and think “I’m nothing like the girls they’re talking about so why am I single?” Lol
I know! Maybe my friends are not Instagram hot, but their characters are gold and they are good friends.
Just be you Queen, keep your mind healthy and he'll find you. Trust me.
@@HallelujahHollaback lol
This is so true when I started dating stable older men they weren’t having my bratty attitude 😩😂 I had to shape up & grow up 🤎
This is the good good conversation 🙏🏼💕
Another deep level discussion that is needed 💯 I gotta go watch the whole one 👍
I can only speak for myself... I started dating a 35 year old woman. And she seemed right at the getgo not... How to say... Not up to speed with... Her age. Long story short, eventually came to find out that she was still a virgin, still living at home with her parents, unemployed and obsessing about Japanese cartoons. And here is the kicker. Her younger sisters, both had kids and one was even married. So i was just like.. Aha.... There are manchildren.. So the opposite is true as well. I just left and never looked back. It was such a bizarre experience.
I'm curious to know if you are giving any 8,9, or 10 "level" woman the time to show you who they are inside before you hit that delete button or are you make a snap judgement by the looks she has? Don't you think that women with good looks have been treated unfairly for that exact reason? Just because a woman has looks doesn't mean she hasn't educated herself, went through healing, etc.
Facts💯
Oh my goodness - I recognize MYSELF... I fly off the handle less than I used to, but far more than I’d like to. This is NOT GOOD!! I don’t want to be a slave to my emotions.
Was widowed 3 years ago, ans I think I’m still so broken from losing my husband (not to mention hormones are out of whack) but, NO EXCUSES... I still have our kids to raise. This has REALLY made me take a look at myself and KNOW that I have got to take the proper steps to get some healing.
Lord, help me... in Jesus’ Name, I pray... amen. 🙏🏽
The estrogen vs testosterone point is why I think women should be more mindful on social media places like insta and tik tok. We know that your baby making hormones wants to show off your curves and how well you can bring a baby into this world, but that doesn’t excuse your lack of self control.
Well hey any woman can bring a baby into this world but can they raise a baby the right way plus half of them can't even get a ring on their damn finger😓🙄
Not only that but once its out on the internet, that's it. All those risky and lewd inticeing photos. Half these women will get families, now they get kids or grand kids and imagine seeing your mom bending over in bikinis or twerking. It's brutal.
Or those only fans girls.
But these are the women men want... Men want them because they are pretty and fine. Y’all don’t pursue healed and emotionally stable women. They are boring to y’all until these girls break y’all and damage y’all ❤️.
Then go back to say women are horrible. They enable that behaviour. Its a two way street
Men wants them for sex and not partners. (Talking about generality here). That's why most single moms are the same people having the type of personality hafeez is talking about. (Again generality and not exceptions)
did you even listen to this.
One topic I don’t think that gets discussed is why have BW put such a high priority on attraction/sex when it comes to finding a man for relationship/marriage. When I talk to my female counterparts of Asian, white and Hispanic culture that is the last thing on their mind when finding a suitable man.
KS talks about it sometimes that a lot of BW care more about getting piped down and looking good on Instagram with their fine dude than their bills getting paid and sleeping good at night when their man isn’t home:
I think this causes more divide in the black dating/mating market
Just say you don’t like black women and keep it pushing. You didn’t need a whole paragraph bro.
@@nameless592 actually love black women which is why the paragraph was necessary. If we don’t point out the issues in black dating how can we ever rebuild our community. Black Men aren’t perfect by any means, but our flaws are always discussed. Healing has to happen on both sides.
"I feel therefore it's true, I feel therefore I do"
That's how children think
Hello there. I have problems controling my emotions & impulses.I act like a child. I am 17 years old and is it to late for me to change?
A woman who I showed interest in acts immature and childish because she assumes that I'm a bad guy because I pursued her the right way
There's some guys who are like that as well. Thats right guys are in prison with that trait, not being able to control their emotions. Good sign of maturity is being able to step back and access the situation or to walk away and talk when clearer heads prevail. I know its not always the case. Thats why the personality matters more then looks!
I’m not sure you can say how a women should or should not feel when she’s on her period. You literally can’t know unless you’re a woman and even in that case we all have different experiences going through that. I think both sexes have a responsibility to educate our children in knowing how to navigate through their emotions better and how to build more meaningful, respectful relationships. Thank you for your videos, great content and great guests!
Again this is why I say go to the less hot 🔥 ones and that" throw a fit because they don't get what they want them" is less prevalence of that dissapate.
We are all screwed up sometimes.... men or women. Grow together instead of giving up cause you think you desearve a 10 image plus 10 personality!
Chris... we exist!
Preach
Funny thing is that there are many "books" telling that lack of emotional control, so called "empathy" is something to be proud about.
It's easy to spot them because of pastel colors and cute animals on cover.
I believe that it's mostly caused by long campaign against fatherhood masked as feminism.
If you were abused fight with opressors (men) and if you weren't, you can always find somebody else abused and fight in his name. Either way, you can bash men and be proud of how sensitive you are. 😄
I came to the point where I for fun started to use women's abusive tactics like:
ignoring, avoiding eye contact, looking with despise, accusing of being harmful, accusing of violence, point cruelty, signaling that woman need to deserve, cutting contact after accusation of abuse, acting busy, etc.
It gives me some joy in life. 😎
It's easy to use, just some training and go with the flow.
If woman doesn't work out character before 26 she is mostly doomed. After that age is really hard to change yourself. So we have lost generation of women. FCK them, i prefer to talk with my father instead is some princess/martyr.
After 30 it's easy to get from women sex so no need to worry 😉
Chris is asking for a lot...that’s like when they tell us we are doing too much for wanting a spiritual thug,who is 6’0+, looks like Michael B Jordan,who is healed,can be faithful and wants us😂
I agree
Im a man and even i sometimes wonder how both of them think theyre high value , good looking and all that .. youtube money sure makes confident
Being in control of your emotions is asking for to much?
@@IenaInspirationsdid you miss the part where he said to his mom "I'm asking for 8,9,10 and above..Godly character, no kids, feminine energy,great character and personality, and she has to be healed from past wounds, not that much damage, and she has to want me"...like...good luck, buddy lol. He's essnetially asking for a IG baddie that attends church every sunday, is a virgin, and has taken etiquette classes since she was 10.
@@Cwade14 lmaoooooo yes I clearly did 😂😂 I’m in class rn half way paying attention
Very insightful
I messed up my first relationship because I lashed out. I was so immature.When I came back and said sorry it was too late. I hope God blesses me with a second chance to do things right with someone
I wish my lady could see this and get some advice from you. I’m 33, she is 28 but just an absolute immature child 🤦🏽♂️
100% correct. #CamelNeedle If these ladies were intelligent, they would understand the value of listening. They simply refuse to listen and that reveals their true character. 90's, 2000's, and the 2010s were the same. Challenges come with blessings. Thank your lucky stars for the internet, so you could learn from each other and share these lessons together. Just imagine you married one and had children, I wouldn't wish that on my enemy. #MaterialGirls are tripping on dopamine and do not understand the pair-bonding process within their own bodies. Cosmo took their money, lied for-profit, and destroyed them. #SadCase
They didn’t lie though. A lot of emotionally immature women out there.
Truth 🔥
There's a lot of double standards
But me being calm, wanting to unpack things, talk through things without attacking each other is viewed as me not caring 😂😂 and that I need to relax and stop trying to be a therapist. No dude you’re just not use to someone that’s over all of the dysfunction. I’ve allowed myself to go off my emotions then I’m crazy, I try the other approach and I want to be a therapist. Good luck ladies 😂😂😂
Nah, you're good sis. If you're emotionally mature, only deal with emotionally mature men. You've fixed yourself. Don't let the crazy rub off on you.
Because you’re picking guys you think you can fix or change....and you can’t change men.
Are you displaying empathy in those situations? I've been in the same boat with my woman lol
@@HXCORNERSTONE I have no desire to change a man, I was referring to us discussing disagreements without attacking each other. That was my goal. I simply wanted to have conversations and be vulnerable instead of having the normal yelling match. But I've learned that some people shy away from having true conversation bc they lack the skill to do so. It takes work, I use to love yelling lol until I realized that it took away from my femininity and solved nothing. but hey, it is what it is.
@@tb8654 Yes I was but I think it's just one of those things where it does not feel right to them bc it's different.
It’s just impossible to be in a relationship nowadays.
The only way is if all social medias stopped running for good.
I'm glad they are finally having this convo. Looks will get you in the door but maturity and personality is very important
I have not met a mature woman in years!!
As men we just need to learn how to act around her impulses & guide her my mom gave the best advice ever she said if u look for somthing you will allways find it
Women live off their feelings more so than men, that is true, but this society has become highly emotional for both men and women. People typically can't even have convos about politics, religion, right and wrong, diet, interpreting science etc without getting emotionally riled up. Most people are not able to be calm, hear out another's view without feeling they need need put that idea down, and it seems like this shoes that people aren't as sure of themselves as they try to portray, but also most humans are afraid to say that they just DON'T KNOW, when we truly don't know more than we know. I am a woman, and talking logically to men is tough, but I have found it impossible almost, when it comes to trying to connect with other women. This is a let down for sure.
For the record, I am a highly emotional creature, but to be productive, emotion has to be put aside for the sake of logic.
I love how emotions are an afterthought. If you were going to settle with like a five because she had emotional maturity but then cheat on your wife with anyone who meets you physical needs.
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Haafez... related question.... if a guy is talking to you on the phone and then while you're answering a question he asked you you hear him start chatting up and flirting with a girl that's there where he's at... and you hang up after a minute or so of enduring their "chatting"... is he right to say i'm being immature or am I right to think he's being disrespectful af? I know impulse reactions have been a problem for me in the past but I have been working on it actively and didn't think this fell under that same category but since i could be in my feelings too much about this i'd like to get an outside opinion... thoughts?
That's straight up disrespectful! Talk to him about it, tell him you think this is disrespectful and if he doesn't agree or say sorry then find someone else. People should run for the people who treat them well, not the ones they "feel most" for if they are disrespectful.
Thank you fellas for this video, I had a difficult year to control my feelings. Had a burn out because the bucket was full of water, I overcame the burn out in less time I couldn't imagine but it helped me realise a lot. You don't own anything to anyone, you are your own person with your thoughts and feelings. I'm a autistic person and I'm okay with it but I find it hard to control my emotions at different times or situations. A positive attitude helped me to become a better person and version of me and I'm not done with it. I'll read, observe, take time to heal me and become the best person I want to be. Thankss❤️