My mom stayed to my dad when he had nothing we all slept on the same bed me and my siblings I watch my dad come up from nothing my mom stayed with him now his house and land payed for ....if my mom had the mentality of this new age chicks I wouldn’t be born ...
You clearly missed the point she was saying. For your dad to achieve that he was clearly doing what he needed to do to get there. The guy she was with wasn’t doing anything so that’s what she was saying. It’s not about having the results it’s about working towards the results. Why get mad at a women who wants a guy to be either working on building himself without the need of a woman building him or having himself already built. You new age guys lack ambition and get mad because women don’t want ya or want a girl who would just be okay with your complacency.
@@wanitadavid3585 That's only part of it. I also think the problem nowdays is that most women aren't inspiring men to do better. Back in the day most men would have the encouragement from his woman to get out and get it. But nowdays women will just criticize men and just leave them if they're not doing things fast enough.
@@scinnyc what back in the day are you referring to. Back in the day men married when they were already established, in what established was back then. They got the woman they wanted and married her and that’s just that. It wasn’t no encouragement from the woman. Mind you women was not at all on the same pay scale back then as woman are now. Though I do agree that women should be very encouraging to their partners goal and aspirations but they should not be the ones to push the guy to do it. People should have their own ambitions (woman and men). You shouldn’t need someone telling you to do xyz, you should want to already do it for yourself and whatever you want to pursue, a woman should support you as you pursue not nag you to pursue.
@@wanitadavid3585 That's not true. Both of my grandfathers married my grandmas before they were established and they built their way up together. I agree that a woman or man shouldn't have to push each other to be better but they should inspire and encourage each other. Most women these days don't inspire men to be at their best unless the man has low self esteem and he thinks he needs material possessions to even get a woman. But prior to the 80s women were more inspiring...often times men would want to work hard and give her the best because she was so supportive and down for him. But these days a lot of women are more focused on themselves and less cooperative to men which negates a lot of that inspiration
Because it IS like a job and it IS pointless. It's not fun anymore, now it's "you need this list of requirements and prerequisites before I even give you a kiss or a bj". I'm tired of it. Women can f off
@@Arcilios right. People don't even want to work on relationships and get married. Then why have requirements if People only want to sleep around smh 🙄
@@Roman-lc4wf very true about the not wanting to work on relationships thing. You'll often find the girl doesn't want to discuss accountability, real feelings or talk about real important things right as they arise. She'll either let it build up and talk to sisters, friends, girlfriends and then let that dictate what she says like the girl in this video or she'll be reluctant to support emotionally, actually discuss problems and work together towards solutions, no she'll just go in her phone and talk to other men and that's about it, you lose. It's pretty retarded, yet it's the state of the the "dating game", now.
@@scinnyc agreed I see these these youtube interviews with chicks and they straight up lieing saying things like oh personality is better and just be a nice guy meanwhile the alpha is behind the curtain.
@@bartoszzandrzej Sadly, the internet has people thinking there is always a better option around the corner. It plays with our psychology. Especially dating apps. The happiest and strongest couples I know of personally are normal hard working people, not rockstars and tv actresses. I just think these ideas that are displayed in this interview are damaging in the long run
@@bill7481 I really do believe it. We haven’t seen the end game of this. We are the guinea pigs of this endless partner experiment online. Look up the “paradox of choice” it’s a dangerous game to play.
@@nahomaberra9192 No, its just that men and women want different things from their partners. A woman doesn't have to work to achieve the things men want, just maintain her beauty, but men do have to work to achieve resources to provide.
@@teresam5199 its more than beauty women be forgetting they're completely disrespectful ways and expect people to just accept it. More men get left and turned down and cheated on for the pettiest things.
@@JustThinkingAboutIt if both of y’all are on the same level financially then who’s raising the kids some stranger? Most guys work long hours and lots of days so if the woman is doing the same who’s raising the kids, taking care of the house, etc.? The only way that works is if you don’t want kids imo
bruh. She started off trying to normalize a woman being more independent in the relationship, and indirectly saying gender roles can be switched. Then she goes on to prove why gender roles can't switch & how it doesn't work in a relationship. Does she realize she completely proved herself wrong?
Women can think and say two contradictory things at the same time. Good example for cognitive dissonance. That's why I would never go to a woman therapist/counsellor.
when are we all gonna admit we need each other? Instead we got women out here acting like they're miss independent & don't need a man. Then fellas out here going mgtow. Let's stop this sillyness
I've been told thousand times by my ladies "you don't need a man! you can survive alone" and all of them are married, and their IGs are full of their husbands pics. I don't get it..
You better get some practice in though... Because if you do get financially put together, there will be women targeting you. You had better know how to sort them out.
Girl in video got him thru his more viril years. She lost. The lesson here is for women. Not men. Women: date with a purpose. Men in teens and 20s don't need to date with a purpose. We are simply sex machines at that age. We dont have a biological clock to worry about.
@@mann8098 that’s the problem you need to focus on giving your life to Jesus 1st because you don’t know when your going to die. Second, focus on your career and success. Don’t waste your 20’s spilling your seed on porn or women.
@@iamzay4938 that would be preferable to what many are doing. But when young people date, we know what goes on. Hormones! I'm all for people giving their life to the Lord, but they better pair up with people they are equally yoked with or they'll be in trouble. I'm talking strategy for those who have chosen to not follow Jesus, which are many. Sadly.
@@mann8098 I would even say that Christians are also avoiding pairing and committed relationships. Especially Christian men. The dating pool (for marriage) is limited for us men to begin with because most women probably aren't followers of Jesus, and some of us just choose to not date seriously in our 20's. Its probably the same for Christian women (limited pool of serious Christians), although I hear that there are more Christian young women in churches than there are men. Men seem to be leaving churches, and the pandemic will probably make it worse. So in the near future, true godly men of Christ that are still in their 20's and even 30's still in the church will become more rare than true godly women of Christ.
that "I dont need you" energy is the worst, it comes with disrespect and contempt, I see other ethnicities working together through thick and thin and here we are, dysfunctional asf....
Yea but a lot of people can’t see the forest for the trees. 20 successful black married couples could walk by, the second u see a pair of ratchets they go “that’s the problem with black people”.
@@pyt8344 I accept people for who they are, no need to put fire under no one's ass to motivate them. If it's not working out due to incompatibility issues you know it's time to move on.
It's funny how she words it, like she was too good for him, girl he was just not ready for a relationship, period, that doesn't mean that you specifically were "too much" for him.
Agreed. Different people have different levels of ambition, and it's not true that the higher the ambition the better the person. That's emphatically not true. This same woman would 100% be singing a different tune If she was in a relationship with a man whose ambition was so much higher than hers that he was gone on the road 48 weeks a year and only had time to visit with her for 2 or 3 hours a week. in that case you'd be saying that he doesn't have his priorities straight and that she deserves more of his time. The point here is that different levels of ambition are perfectly valid so long that you can maintain yourself in a livable state. If your partner doesn't respect you at that level of ambition... They simply aren't the right partner for you. And yet she still gave four years for the life to this man. Enjoying being with him. And only when she got more successful than him did she decide that he was too lazy for her. This is not objective rationality... It's post hoc justification
yha that's why i'm single now just enjoying my life and making some protection plans cause i see how the dating world works and i agree girls are expensive well the young ones and those who aren't married but wants to. Heck even not dating i know how expensive girls can be from friends to family members like going to girls clothing store like some dressess cost like $600 even when on sale. Like no wonder guys are losing their minds and getting angry when the bills comes.
When you feel like your “too good for someone” in general is a poor mindset(ego). That energy will return to you. Someone will be to good for you just hope they don’t realize it.
Crazy part is my girl sent me this and before I even watched the full podcast I could tell she broke up with whoever she was with before Hafeez even said anything. My girl argued that her man was lazy and unmotivated being the main source of why she dumped him. Sooooo I looked up her age and net worth. She’s 21 and net worth in less than 2 years being estimated to 1$-5$ million dollars. Her Ex is 20 years old and was playing college sports.... I tried to calmly explain to my woman that for one she blew up because she leveraged her sex appeal to her advantage and was able to blow up on TH-cam because of her Insta following. Then I explained to her that her expectations of a 20 year old college student are RIDICULOUS. How can you expect him while playing college sports and doing academics to find a way to magically figure out how to accumulate that much wealth in LESS THAN 2 years. AND THEN look at this woman’s character. She claims she was “in love” with him. Then she throws her ex (that she was in love with) under the bus calling him feminine lazy and unmotivated, she also at first lies saying it was a “mutual breakup” which all women do, then even while telling the truth that she broke it off, she then goes and lies again saying “we talked it out to see if we could figure things out” then he said it wouldn’t work days later???? Cmon now. None of these stories are adding up. Her character shows she wants a FINISHED PRODUCT. She wants a high value man, making over 6 figures, that is an alpha that can make her submit. Her ex never stood a chance the moment that girl started touching money. Look how quickly she lost respect for him as she accumulated TH-cam wealth. If she had any respect for him at all in the first place. It took her less than 2 years from 19-20, 21 ish to magically realize now all of a sudden he’s having fun in college at 20 smh. Look at Hafeez, he’s said numerous times in his early 20’s he was learning as much as he could. He was not an overnight success story. It takes time. Whereas with woman who are as attractive as this woman, not only is it easier for them to make money at younger ages (nightlife, onlyfans, etc). They are also being spoiled by there fathers if they can afford it, not to mention sugar daddies, and being flown out all over the world for “business inquiries”. All in all I told my girl that the reason this relationship that she threw away for MONEY ended because of this woman’s LACK of Patience, and arrogance.
Ye that is what happens when they get entitled. Little fun fact is that women hold extremely high standards for men. While conducting an experiment, researchers asked females what standards they need their partner to measure up to. They found that on average, only the top 15% of men met the average standards of women. Meaning that an average woman, let's say 6/10, is looking for a 8.5+/10 man. Always fun how then girls have trouble finding the right guy. Sorry you're 6/10 and what you're looking for is a 9/10.
@@ashuranero5721 yes. lack of love and patience. Unfortunately no one escapes childhood and many PEOPLE are coming up with issues that they don’t deal with until they get to nearly 30 sometimes later. If you really love someone you have patience and give them the time and space to grow.
@@ashuranero5721 not at all, they have to show a willingness to work on themselves. I would never suggest staying with a narc, I was raised by one. I wouldn’t suggest staying with anyone who isn’t willing to work on themselves.
I agree. She should explain her definition of independent in order for this to make sense. Men need women, women need men. Her words are coming off as men are options. They’re not. Their needed just as well as women are.
@@taunantaunette4828 That's the problem with the world we live in today, people see other people as options. Instead of sticking together and grow together in life.
My wife and I already had our own places, had good jobs, and were looking for something long term when we met each other. Neither of us are perfect but we have helped build each other up, we both contribute, and we work together.
@@scinnyc No they don't actually. They actually want the Tradition they just wanted the CHOICE to pick either or. Now they are learning you can't have it all
@New Alfa this wasn't about money. Did you hear? It was about AMBITION. Don't get it twisted to fit your own insecurity. Get off yo ass and have direction. Women respect that. Always.
Just like the word toxic, y’all learned the word submissive and just ran off with it. Empathy is not a synonym of submissiveness. Doing things for another person does not mean you’re submissive.
@@TA-ht4jo it does mean, however, that she’s yielding and ready to conform to the authority or will of her man (or a superior person), she is passive, and that she is not an equal. That’s just the definition.
@@ashleyirabor3240 What dictionary are you using because this is the meaning I found: : “to defer to or consent to abide by the opinion or authority of another.” Other dictionary meanings are variations of that and I didn’t see “superior”, or “passive.”Those are words that you added just like most women who are usually feminists, do so that they don’t have to do it.
@@ashleyirabor3240 Now as for the equality part, men and women are not equal but that doesn’t mean women are inferior. That’s something women (usually feminists) make up.
@@TA-ht4jo I don’t know about you or your relationships, but for me and mine, I’m equal to my partner. For someone to be submissive, that person has to be inferior because they are submitting to the will of the higher power. Again, that is straight from the definition. A submissive person puts everything for themselves lower than that of the person that they are with (I’m not going to call the man in this situation her partner, because that’s not a partnership).
@@cybertutorials5609 no, but her view on what men want, what she brings to the table and „social construct“ of men and women... don‘t think she has a lot of data behind her statements
# 1 advice gentlemen women only want you when you get to the finish line with the bag. They don’t want you during grind mode, or potential mode. You have to have your own kingdom in order before you step onto the dating scene.
Unfortunately women only want the success story and not the grind. She only wants you when you’re hokage but what about the other 500 episodes of struggle
I disagree, from personal experience and close friends and relatives. Women go out and are in love with bums and average Joe's all the time. Most of the time. They may generally want the guy with the bag but usually don't land it. Women tend to be more mental and the imagination and "story" of your relationship can really go a long way. Emotional and energy exchange with a lead and a follower is needed. You just have to be The #1 guy in your circle. The bag helps but really not needed if you know how to talk. My 2 cents
@@marty2970 I should’ve added some context to my statement. The finest of the finest women out here want are 𝗔𝗯𝗹𝗲 to obtain a successful, respected, affluent man. Since the numbers don’t work out for everyone the rest of women settle for bums to above average men. Your right tho women have great imaginations, which sometimes turn into delusion. Your also right that being that # 1 guy in your respectable circles and having game can get you many women but it’s not sustainable. Who your referring to is young and immature women. After a certain age women start to focus more about money, and lifestyle. If you always have the bag your options are abundant. Whereas being a bum or average will get you what you can get. Money is almost always a factor in relationships especially with influences of social media.
I think it's hilarious how she tries to evade every question because she doesn't want to sound "typical" only to finally give the OBVIOUS answer we already knew when pressed. 😂🙄😂
Or to show proof that you’re working towards that. Dudes needa stop chasing relationships until they’ve built themselves up or are thoroughly in the process of doing so. Men need confidence and ambition, and you aren’t having a successful relationship without either
Most women date down. If you listen to her she said she felt she was dating down and that’s why she’ll never do it again. That is how women get to the point of not dating down because we all tried it and it doesn’t work.
I understand we should get our things in order but this whole "he needs to get on my level" thing is something a lot of men are not concerned with at all. It sounds like a competition not a relationship.
it comes by being raised by a single mother , the girl cuts the heads off her Barbie's , Mom runs out and buys her a new one , the Father would say NO more toys until you learn to look after them
I guarantee his side of the story, don’t match hers. If didn’t have ish together now. He didn’t have his ish together when you pick him...In the voice of KS
Well they were together for 4 years and since they’re both young, that means they met in highschool. Most likely he was just a broke college kid like everyone else but since she started getting famous on social media, she probably wanted someone more on her level. Unfortunate, but it is what it is.
it comes by being raised by a single mother , the girl cuts the heads off her Barbie's , Mom runs out and buys her a new one , the Father would say NO more toys until you learn to look after them
Every woman wants a Ferrari, but some of them only want it for the price of a used Toyota. Fellas, you're a $500,000 vehicle, get a woman who is willing to give you what you're worth in return.
yet she doesn't want someone to over work her cause she's a motivated worker she does not want any man to take care of her but i'm like that's so confusing but i learn to stop listening and just be my self and not follow advice from these young girls but those i do look up to for advice or see how they fix their relationship is by talking to elderly's who doesn't mind walking out side together just for 5 mins.
@@ArnabAnimeshDas I'm so glad when I meet people like you because it keeps hope alive for me that men are seeing the truth. I tell men don't listen to women, WATCH THEM. The truth is in their actions, as it is with ALL people.
@@ralx225b Boys! I learned a good lesson in the last 6 months but more intensive in the last week! And I now know that I will never ever ever only listen a women, I'll look at her damn action and I will talk about ber attitude.. I was in a horrible relationship, I made bad and she did. Overall we weren't happy at all and now that I'm out of it my eyes are now open. Thank you for your comments, this is what I need today.
If she is telling the truth the real reason he broke up wasn’t because he wasn’t going to match her, it’s because he decided the relationship wasn’t worth the HEADACHE. You can tell this woman is a handful
Not all women want what she wants and not all women care if you are making alot of money!! all women are different!! she has high standards and thats fine! but not all women are like her.
@@kingroka5870 what does "on their level" mean? That's the problem. Men and women measure partners differently. She is an annoying, masculine woman with a speech impediment. Her "level" is lower than she thinks it is. Nobody cares she makes a few dollars.
@@fangiscool1 "On their level" would mean financial. What Taty is saying in this video is totally relevant. If she's bringing what she's bringing to a relationship, then she's very entitled to a man that can return the same. There's nothing masculine about a woman with her money up wanting her man to have his up as well, cry about it.
@@kingroka5870 first, no one is entitled to a relationship. I hope you're a child because an adult should not be saying what you said. Second, just because she thinks a man having money adds value to them doesn't mean men think having money adds value to her. Her money does not change her level. It only changes what level she thinks she is. This will make problems for her
...all of the sudden the lyrics to this song resonates as I am listening to this... American woman, stay away from me American woman, mama, let me be Don't come a-hangin' around my door I don't wanna see your face no more I got more important things to do Than spend my time growin' old with you Now woman, I said stay away American woman, listen what I say
I made this mistake and my marriage in a critical state . Young men focus on your dreams your partner is a by product of your journey not the main course
She wants to be independent, but don't want people depend on her. When has that ever classified as "strong"? Sure you are strong, but for nobody except yourself. She is not looking for a relationship in the first place and that attitude is never going to work.
Yeah... this isn't fun anymore. Relationships these days sound like a chore. I want a partner. Not a second boss. Edit: Mind you I'm not using this as an excuse to not try. I hate chores but I still do em.
It sounds like the guy she was with was content where he was and she wanted more, which is fine for both of them. I think it’s funny how she said the guy pulled the cord on the relationship but she ended it though. Ladies, just take ownership of your decisions and say you ended it instead of blaming everything on a man. Either way, the guy she was dating sounds like he’s going nowhere fast.
It didnt sound like that at all. Sounds like he was a normal college student who will have a stable career after graduation. If she didn't want to be with a student, then don't be with a student. She just wanted him to be done and be balling out with cash. She wants an older guy or some random young rapper with more money. I don't get how so many of you commenters see flaws in the male from this interview. He's following the path that all our parents tell us to follow. And she is framing is like he is some bum. Only lies and manipulation from her in this interview. She couldn't even say she ended the relationship.
@@michaelwojcicki3624 Manners is good I have em which put me in a lot of great situations but you don’t have to treat open all there doors trust me woman will never go for a guy who is nice to every girl but just as long as he’s nice to her, doesn’t mean to be rude tho just know when to do these things then you gas em up.
What she described about her ex is that she was 'carrying' him. He lacked leadership and drive. Why can't men see that a lot of them mature a lot slower than women in terms of social status.
No, she's being manipulative. Dude was a normal college student. That's a time when you don't have money. How are you interpreting that he had no drive? You can repeat everything she said about him about every single college student. Y'all tripping getting sucked into this manipulation
@@fangiscool1 if you heard her she said 4 year relationship and I am sure they ain’t meet when they were both freshman. But having money doesn’t equal drive wth you talking about
@@monsterhunterunite12 drive and ambition are just code for money in the future. And yes they met in high school. High school to college is a normal trajectory for a person. If she doesn't want to date a students then don't date a student. Don't frame it like being a student makes you some lazy asshole
@@fangiscool1 drive and ambition is not just code word for money. Yes he was a student but a student can be a student with no drive or ambition. For all we know he could have been in college just for the parties or because his parents wanted him to go but he had no dreams or aspirations of his own. Maybe to her no drive was him not taking his studies seriously or talking a big game but not taking the necessary steps or actions to get to where he claimed he wanted to be.
Stay the course gentlemen. Focus on your success, stay in shape and be able to be happy by yourself. There is no rush. If done right the choice will always be yours to make in the end. Remember we don’t have a wall to worry about.
The female nature naturally should submit to the man and the man be masculine. We should never grind for women but only for our purpose. Genesis 2:18 “ The LORD God said, 'It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.'"
Yeah he made a helper my ass. God doesn't exist and if he does he's full of sh1t. This Genesis quote is a man made fantasy for the world he wish it was. Unfortunately you can't bend reality to what you want so burn that wicked and false book full of contradictions anyway.
@Kea Lucky In what way are you equal to a man? The answer; None. No wait, you are equal in one way, we are both human mortals and that's pretty much it.
Basically they are referring to the guys in high school that were winning with the ladies. You see them 5 or 10 years later and they have completely fell off! They went from pulling 8’s, 9’s and 10’s to settling for 4’s and 5’s. You be like, Damn Homie!
@johnny bravo athletic success and popularity actually have a strong correlation with success. However, there are a multitude of other contributing factors. Including a longer time line for men.
@johnny bravo this is false. Former athletes are generally more successful in all aspects of life. Exceptions to every rule. As a business owner. Who would you rather hire? The former athlete, with a die hard competitive streak, intelligence, leadership and teamwork mentality that had to balance school with sports. Or the socially awkward geek. O think society created the geek turned success story narrative as being typical to appease lazy losers and deflect away from the advantages that being a true alpha provides.
@@kennyhayes4654 some jobs require nerds and without them u can't comment on a yt video or have any working technology there is a place for geeks in the work place
Nah, the man wasn't the problem, I don't agree with how the points were put. What's happening here is you have a woman driven by masculine values and ideals. He may be fine where he is/was at that moment or the present, maybe he was making $80,000 which is okay for him and she made 6 figures. She wanted more, him to be more, he couldn't give her that so she left. That wanting more, that never being satisfied, wanting to change men, women following masculine ideals is where the problem is, not necessarily how much the guy was making. He was on his own journey, most likely on the way to forging his own path
You came to this conclusion how ? Her wanting more is masculine. Will you tell your daughter she shouldn’t want more. I guess we wouldn’t have a Vice President as a women because it’s masculine and she wanted more.
But if dude unemployed or working minimum wage she would have a good point right? I know some dudes that really ain’t motivated in life, but they young so it’s okay, but if he older then it’s definitely not okay.
@@LB-do7kw she literally just shared masculine ideals, we see this all the time with women on Kevin Samuel's shows. Women rating eating themselves on masculine values, being very ambitious and expecting the same of men. He wasn't making what she was making. She obviously wanted a 6 figure with what she was talking but how many black men make 6 figures again???? How many are actually all that interested in being in the top 1-10% of earners?????
I don´t get why your hating on her. She gives her own experience. Some man complain that woman dosen´t listen and put words in their monuth but you do the same. You were not there, you don´t know what happend. But in your opinion, becouse she has her own income and has ambitions, you trasch tallk her?
If men and women listen to y'all and apply all this positive content, people will get what they want and be happy. One of my favorite channels, period. 💯
She made many good points. She has to date OLDER. Someone who is already established and she may have issues with control. But I feel she is well on her way.
@@karenkath4350 What do you mean? Most men with money are in their late 30s and early 40s. She’s like 22 so it might be a bit weird for her but that’s most likely her only option if she wants a rich dude.
@@cybertutorials5609 I am 21 and I am uncomfortable with the thought of being with a man who is closer to my mom’s generation. Maybe she is feels the same way. I don’t know....
@@karenkath4350 Yeah that’s understandable. But she seems deadset on getting a guy that makes either the same or more than her and those guys are usually older.
Men can’t go off of potential because we get “take me as I am” and so that’s a “nothing’s going to change” in our heads because you put it clear as day. If a women says to a bf “I want us to start going to the gym” or “babe you’re getting a little fat,can you get back to where you were please” he’s going to try. If a man says that to his gf it’s a whole argument
Well its kind of aggravating when a woman doesn't respect hardly anything or anyone. Especially when you giving what you can do. It happens more so than less.
Women are too lazy to change and they can’t accept criticism. That’s why men cheat and throw women away when we get bored. You all have the same sales pitch. It’s usually pointless to be with one woman.
She says society ingrained in us masculine/feminine roles yet she is unhappy when her bf doesnt live up to his masculine role. Which is? Do you want to break that circle and stay with someone you love or has society been right all along? Dont shift the blame on society, be responsible for what you want out of life
I just think it would be interesting to hear his story his take on it. It would be irrelevant to bring the male ex there because the damage was already done I just think it would be interesting to hear his take on it that's all I'm saying
@@The_GreatEscape91 Yeah , I agree to some degree. But what would happen with other guests? They have alot of man sharing their experience with woman and we just belive them. I think It should go both ways. But then it would be to complicated for The Roommates, to alwas bring the Ex´s of the guests. It would be Oprah 2.0 xD
@@nickjulius9078 I agree 100 percent I met no disrespect at all I do love and respect what you guys do you guys help me on my own journey thank you for taking the time to reply to me and talk to me keep up the good work you guys are saving alot of life's!!
@@nickjulius9078 I wouldn’t suggest the same with male guests because in my experience men are a lot more honest about how relationships ended than women are.
Men there will always be someone with more money, better looking etc... Just be the best you. No matter what you have or don't have, you are the line between peace and chaos, a home without you is dysfunctional, being a man has nothing to do with what you have, it's who you are. The best & strongest men I've ever met, were classified as poor.
1:15 Bull. We have literally had these roles for a reason. Women are good at housekeeping, cooking, caring for kids, men are good at working hard and providing. Women on average are more agreeable, and men on average are more aggressive. You can't just change biology. You can't avoid
Smart man considering 60 percent of all women in the United States of all races make on average $15hr. Middle class dudes & up don't have to jump through hoops to get an lackluster USA lady
back then, we had to date them to understand why we don't want them. Now they're freely exposing themselves on the internet. Pretty easy for us fellas.
I avoid bashing women for wanting a man who makes more money than them or at a higher level, and to provide for them. If that's what you want, then that's what you want. The problem I have is when those same women say, "I don't need a man," or "I'm independent." Because if you can do provide for yourself, then why would it matter that he provide for you? I can understand her not wanting to provide for man, so he can't be completely broke. But if makes enough money to live a comfortable life, but he just so happens to make less money than you, then why would they reject him? Women can provide for themselves, right?
Here's the confusion... What exactly is getting your "ish" together? I'm a 9-5er. Good solid job with potential growth in the company if I choose that route, but below High value standards because its less than 100k a year. Am I failing? Sounds like I'm failing when I listen around. If men started thinking like women and saying to themselves... I want more and get your "ish" together, especially during the relationship, we would be called bully's. Or we would get the excuse, just accept me as I am. Love me for me. Social expertement (don't actually do this) Go tell your girl right now, I want more from you. More cooking, More dressing up, More Cooperation, and More Se# and More whatever... Watch they eyes roll behind they head and hair electricity sparks come from sky and dust and rocks swirling around them. Men would be walking away with a black eye
@@keviscold i mean it helps, yet high value is about your mindset. Your mental strength to control your own life. Can you handle the pressures of life without freaking out and getting emotional, cracking under the pressure? Or will you be a beast, beat all the odds, become financially stable and win. It's all in you. That's what high value is. Can you smile and laugh through the pain and come out a better man on the other side? Or do you let your circumstances, people in your life and emotions get to you and ultimately rule you? It's hard to walk the path of confidence and strength. It's so difficult and painful. You will cry, be hurt, feel sad and down and in pain. It's all about how you stand back up from it and fight on or give up and become low value.
First of all - 9 to 5 job does not mean you’re failing but I do understand why you’re questioning it......a bit sad in terms of the expectations and today’s society we live in Secondly.....focus on your masculine energy because that is actually what mature women truly desire at the end of the day.
To a lot of women, in this day and age, “high value men” equates to ur income. Apparently the standard is six figures. Ask the women, listen to the Kevin Samuel types and so forth and that’s the number. It makes hard working men making under that feel worthless even though they are high value in every other regard. Kevin Samuels specifically says if ur making less than 10k a month ur not high value. There’s a lot of good men with great values making 70, 80 90k a year taking care their wives and children just fine. This income starting point to consider a man “high value” is just bullshit.
At 0:58, she says how women wanting a traditional man (ambitious, masculine, hardworking, breadwinner) is all a social construct - what they're taught - and not what she's biologically attracted to. She says she'd be okay dating a modern man (feminine, less ambitious, not the breadwinner), as opposed to a traditional man. She then proceeds to vent on how her boyfriend was not a traditional man, lies about her cutting it off and puts the blame on him, then basically admits to only being attracted to/looking for traditional men. The fact is this - women are either lying or too ignorant/privileged to see - they want to skirt the responsibilities of being a traditional woman, while still requiring men to be traditional/responsible. The only question is: why are they surprised they can't lock down a high value traditional man, as irresponsible, modern women?
I'd like to hear his side of the story. It really sounds like she destroyed the man's self-esteem to the point where he no longer wanted to try for her. Women can either be a muse and inspire or they can become a detriment a negative energy that will close you off and cause you to disengage.
The ambition has to be present within the man already, a woman can support or nurture it however it can’t be solely put on the woman or be her duty to “inspire” him.
@@GreekYogurtGranola yes but we're talking within the confines of a failing relationship. I know alot of men, me included who temporarily stopped trying once they realized she was going to destroy it all or take half. Ambition deferred until you break free from the relationship/marriage
This why I don't have a mrs. I don't have my ish together, I can admit it. I'm on my way up though. NoFap/semen retention lifestyle, getting in shape in the gym lifting weights. Have my investments, I just got no material wealth to show for it. I could cash in my investments and have a nice new car, and a deposit for a house. But chicks judge the job I have even though I'm in the average income range, and the lack of physical possessions and they say nah. Kinda sad chicks are this way, but I'm happy I'm in the position I'm in. In another life, I'd be married, have 2 kids and be unhappy, just like all the married men I know.
Now usually I can see where you guys are coming from... but this wasn’t it honestly. I didn’t like the lack of accountability throughout on her part painting it as if she didn’t contribute to the relationship ending I think she was unaware of just because you claim you’re empathetic... her energy is very masculine and having someone on her “level” doesn’t negate the issues that come with that. “Mo money mo problems” - Biggie Ultimately I think damages men because we are already expecting to do a ton ... to court, pursue, lead, provide all these things and it still could be not good enough?! 😂 bump that bruh there is no overnight success
It sounds like her biggest contribution was codependency. Every time she did it for him she told him she had no faith in his ability to grow and denied him the opportunity to do for himself. A lot of women make that mistake, thinking they are helping these boys (cause really they aren’t men mentally or emotionally) but they could be, if they had someone willing to let them learn from the consequences of their own actions. But they don’t want to do that because being with that person means they would have to suffer those consequences alongside them.
At the start she said she wanted to focus on her career and investments, but why would you look for relationships if a relationship is not your priority?
I like the vibe and team of these 2 guys. They are like the Bad Boys (The movie) of this field. Girl admits traditional roles by sooooo many Freudian Slips. There is a reason tradition lasts cos there is covert science in tradition. Gender Polarity Reversal in the guise of Equality will become the destroyer of marriage. Marriage is the foundation of Family. Career Life needs to Compliment Family Life, not destroy it. Love is foundation and currency of Family. Money is the Currency of Greed. Greed destroys Family. I wrote a saying : "When Love becomes Nothing, Greed becomes Everything...and Everything becomes Nothing. When Love Evaporates, Greed Precipitates."
In order for men to improve themselves, women must improve themselves just as much. And truly, anyone who speaks lowly of their exes.....without any understanding of why their ex acted the way they did.....Still needs to find inner strength & clarity.
I disagree with the first part. I don’t think these differences between the sexes all boil down to culture and society. I think a big part of this is simply biology.
The one who is most aware & sincere about the connection... are ALWAYS the last to cut the cord. I feel like she is STILL cutting that cord. Otherwise, she wouldn't be laughing or making excuses.
I understand where she is coming from and can relate. When a man has no vision, isn`t progressing in his purpose, not financially trying to better his situation, a woman cannot respect him nor view him as a leader. The issue comes when people want to encourage mediocrity by keeping standards at an all time low. I am glad that she saw this huge red flag and kept it pushing. Ladies, more of us need to do this and not settle for potential.
It’s all fun and games until the woman gets in those mid 30s and still talking about the bag like men are walking wallets! If he is able to provide for u n a family and willing to marry you...I would suggest women get on board, or possibly be thrown around from relationship to relationship without anything serious! Women=feminine,fit,affectionate, Pleasant to be around,good communication skills. Date the man not his wallet! But we must be able to provide. Lead
I know you're not suggesting that women just marry a man simply because he is willing to marry them. If we marry, we have to marry a suitable mate not just anyone who comes along willing to marry us.
Met a girl like her at 24. Driven smart and beautiful. She left my ass. Why? Because at the time I was still a little boy. It traumatized me in a way that made me question everything. I eventually realized that it wasn’t my woman leaving me... it was my mommy leaving me. That’s why I was so traumatized. To this day, I cannot express the gratitude I have for that woman. And all driven woman for that matter. Ya’ll are gold. Especially for the kids... regardless of age. A lot of guys think they’re an adult because they hit a certain age or can pay a bill, but with a mother like this you’ll realize that it’s the farthest thing from the truth.
@@The-DAWG957 yup. A broke man may as well be broken. It’s all designed to make us better so long as we chalk up our losses and become our best selves.
Towards the end the guy on the left said “it’s one thing if he’s not there yet but he’s putting that same energy as you you can be like I respect that” just watch the movie Acrimony with Taraji P Henson, man was literally on his grind for the entirety of their marriage but after a while you “not being there yet” and “putting in that same energy” is only going to go so far with a woman if it doesn’t pay off in the time frame that she thinks it should.
This being the case doesn’t really make it right though. Women have every right to choose whether or not they want to be with that man, but if that’s the basis for them drawing the line with that person then the line has to be defined to fit who they specifically are. This is why we have an overwhelming majority of modern women in the dating pool that “shoot for the stars” sorta speak when they frankly have no business doing so. You see the natural order calls for us to bind together with people more on our same wavelengths as individuals but chaos, dysfunction and unsatisfaction is met when people fight against that.
@@KevinJXT38 I’m not saying that she doesn’t have the right I’m just saying him making the statement “it’s different if you’re on grind” or “putting in the same energy she is” is only correct to a certain extent. While that may extend the respect she has for you or it may extend the amount of time she’s willing to wait and see how things play out, at some point if it still hasn’t worked out for you she still will end up with that same feeling of less respect or just wanting to move on more than likely.
@@AyeeeTV1 yeah I understood what you were saying. You might have to read my response again though because I’m just explaining that although you do have a point, I’m saying we shouldn’t look at that as a good thing and just accept it because it’s not the best, most optimal way to date or displace your value onto a man.
@@KevinJXT38 oh ok I see what you’re saying, personally I don’t look at it as a good thing at all. Really you have no choice but to accept it if that’s what the woman wants to do but I just don’t agree with him saying as long as you’re putting in the work or putting in the same energy she is towards getting better/to your goals then that will somehow be different. It will only be different if you end up succeeding, if you don’t it will more than likely end how it would have if you weren’t on your grind at all which is sad but true.
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The woman can depend on a man yet act like a man, but the opposite is bad. Did I get that right?
My mom stayed to my dad when he had nothing we all slept on the same bed me and my siblings I watch my dad come up from nothing my mom stayed with him now his house and land payed for ....if my mom had the mentality of this new age chicks I wouldn’t be born ...
Gbam 👊🏾
You clearly missed the point she was saying. For your dad to achieve that he was clearly doing what he needed to do to get there. The guy she was with wasn’t doing anything so that’s what she was saying. It’s not about having the results it’s about working towards the results. Why get mad at a women who wants a guy to be either working on building himself without the need of a woman building him or having himself already built.
You new age guys lack ambition and get mad because women don’t want ya or want a girl who would just be okay with your complacency.
@@wanitadavid3585 That's only part of it. I also think the problem nowdays is that most women aren't inspiring men to do better. Back in the day most men would have the encouragement from his woman to get out and get it. But nowdays women will just criticize men and just leave them if they're not doing things fast enough.
@@scinnyc what back in the day are you referring to. Back in the day men married when they were already established, in what established was back then. They got the woman they wanted and married her and that’s just that. It wasn’t no encouragement from the woman. Mind you women was not at all on the same pay scale back then as woman are now. Though I do agree that women should be very encouraging to their partners goal and aspirations but they should not be the ones to push the guy to do it. People should have their own ambitions (woman and men). You shouldn’t need someone telling you to do xyz, you should want to already do it for yourself and whatever you want to pursue, a woman should support you as you pursue not nag you to pursue.
@@wanitadavid3585 That's not true. Both of my grandfathers married my grandmas before they were established and they built their way up together. I agree that a woman or man shouldn't have to push each other to be better but they should inspire and encourage each other. Most women these days don't inspire men to be at their best unless the man has low self esteem and he thinks he needs material possessions to even get a woman. But prior to the 80s women were more inspiring...often times men would want to work hard and give her the best because she was so supportive and down for him. But these days a lot of women are more focused on themselves and less cooperative to men which negates a lot of that inspiration
Women don’t care about your struggles, they wait at the finish line and pick the winners
Sadly, the world has no empathy for the struggles of men
Shout out to Rich Cooper 😂
@@DeezNutzMMA lol fr
As she should, every male is not a man.
@@jazzyone1986 Lol And still Black women are the most single women in America. So maybe that strategy isn't working too well
Dating just seems pointless. Feels like the job market at this point
Because it IS like a job and it IS pointless. It's not fun anymore, now it's "you need this list of requirements and prerequisites before I even give you a kiss or a bj". I'm tired of it. Women can f off
@@Arcilios right. People don't even want to work on relationships and get married. Then why have requirements if People only want to sleep around smh 🙄
@@Roman-lc4wf very true about the not wanting to work on relationships thing. You'll often find the girl doesn't want to discuss accountability, real feelings or talk about real important things right as they arise. She'll either let it build up and talk to sisters, friends, girlfriends and then let that dictate what she says like the girl in this video or she'll be reluctant to support emotionally, actually discuss problems and work together towards solutions, no she'll just go in her phone and talk to other men and that's about it, you lose. It's pretty retarded, yet it's the state of the the "dating game", now.
@@Arcilios they don't want to put in work these days. Their are good women out there but they are also like unicorns.
Like I always say, dating is prostitution with extra steps.
Rule 1 don't believe a word a girl says only what they do in their actions
Facts. Women like this have kids with broke Pookies snd Ray Rays everyday.
@@scinnyc agreed I see these these youtube interviews with chicks and they straight up lieing saying things like oh personality is better and just be a nice guy meanwhile the alpha is behind the curtain.
And men
Facts!!!
The same can be said for men.
It’s all about “RESPECT” fellas. If she doesn’t respect you , she will never love/submit
I agree 1000 percent
FACTS!!!!!
Though very true, we need to apply that same pressure back because most these modern women aren’t even respectful individuals to begin with.
ABSOLUTELY!!!!!!
@@KevinJXT38 I agree! Basic niceness seems to be rare. Too much hostility and bad attitude.
The illusion of endless options and the entitlement that you always “deserve more” will leave a lot of individuals single and alone.
100%
That’s deep!
@@bartoszzandrzej Sadly, the internet has people thinking there is always a better option around the corner. It plays with our psychology. Especially dating apps. The happiest and strongest couples I know of personally are normal hard working people, not rockstars and tv actresses. I just think these ideas that are displayed in this interview are damaging in the long run
10000% 🙌🏼
@@bill7481 I really do believe it. We haven’t seen the end game of this. We are the guinea pigs of this endless partner experiment online. Look up the “paradox of choice” it’s a dangerous game to play.
Treat her like a celebrity she will treat you like a fan
Facts. So just don't treat her at all
Dude your on every self improvement page on TH-cam
Gold
Damn, well said
@@Arcilios nah u treat her like a casual. If u don’t treat her at all you have no connection with her
“Men don’t date potential” because we know y’all won’t want to change, it’s always “Take me as I am or don’t take me at all”
Fck that, I look at the bio in the description and analyze before I swipe 😂
That’s the double standards in full effect ofc 😂
@@nahomaberra9192 No, its just that men and women want different things from their partners. A woman doesn't have to work to achieve the things men want, just maintain her beauty, but men do have to work to achieve resources to provide.
@@teresam5199 its more than beauty women be forgetting they're completely disrespectful ways and expect people to just accept it. More men get left and turned down and cheated on for the pettiest things.
@@JustThinkingAboutIt if both of y’all are on the same level financially then who’s raising the kids some stranger? Most guys work long hours and lots of days so if the woman is doing the same who’s raising the kids, taking care of the house, etc.? The only way that works is if you don’t want kids imo
bruh. She started off trying to normalize a woman being more independent in the relationship, and indirectly saying gender roles can be switched. Then she goes on to prove why gender roles can't switch & how it doesn't work in a relationship. Does she realize she completely proved herself wrong?
Lol ong
Women can think and say two contradictory things at the same time. Good example for cognitive dissonance. That's why I would never go to a woman therapist/counsellor.
@@Gmanisable facts
she literally didn't, she was talking about herself and the type of person she can be with.
@@ianmacdonald4163 well she ended the relationship because she felt like the provider.
So evidently she can't CAN'T be with that type of person.
when are we all gonna admit we need each other? Instead we got women out here acting like they're miss independent & don't need a man. Then fellas out here going mgtow. Let's stop this sillyness
Exactly!! If we didn't need eachother it wouldn't be 8 billion people. Too much ego
FACTS
Thank you
I've been told thousand times by my ladies "you don't need a man! you can survive alone" and all of them are married, and their IGs are full of their husbands pics.
I don't get it..
@@mayaj2354 honestly, female friends don't keep it real. They're saying that to be nice.
Gentlemen, just don't date until you have your financial life together.
Dude exactly. Just gotta do that and be patient till it happens
Fr
haha basically
You better get some practice in though... Because if you do get financially put together, there will be women targeting you. You had better know how to sort them out.
@@breakingthemasks very valid point. Happy hour should be your bestfriend when you're trying to date as you get your financial life together.
Moral of the story, don’t date seriously without a kingdom of your own!🤴🏾
Girl in video got him thru his more viril years. She lost. The lesson here is for women. Not men. Women: date with a purpose. Men in teens and 20s don't need to date with a purpose. We are simply sex machines at that age. We dont have a biological clock to worry about.
I agree Queen
@@mann8098 that’s the problem you need to focus on giving your life to Jesus 1st because you don’t know when your going to die. Second, focus on your career and success. Don’t waste your 20’s spilling your seed on porn or women.
@@iamzay4938 that would be preferable to what many are doing. But when young people date, we know what goes on. Hormones! I'm all for people giving their life to the Lord, but they better pair up with people they are equally yoked with or they'll be in trouble. I'm talking strategy for those who have chosen to not follow Jesus, which are many. Sadly.
@@mann8098 I would even say that Christians are also avoiding pairing and committed relationships. Especially Christian men. The dating pool (for marriage) is limited for us men to begin with because most women probably aren't followers of Jesus, and some of us just choose to not date seriously in our 20's. Its probably the same for Christian women (limited pool of serious Christians), although I hear that there are more Christian young women in churches than there are men. Men seem to be leaving churches, and the pandemic will probably make it worse. So in the near future, true godly men of Christ that are still in their 20's and even 30's still in the church will become more rare than true godly women of Christ.
that "I dont need you" energy is the worst, it comes with disrespect and contempt, I see other ethnicities working together through thick and thin and here we are, dysfunctional asf....
@Wandering Endlessly You missed it.
@Wandering Endlessly Got to separate to compare and realize that we are against each other and that's why we fail.
Yea but a lot of people can’t see the forest for the trees. 20 successful black married couples could walk by, the second u see a pair of ratchets they go “that’s the problem with black people”.
@@locdogg86 Agreed but for every 20 black successful couples there are so many others. I see it all know selection bias everybody is not a bum etc.
@Wandering Endlessly 😂
She said it, "Men don't date Potential, we date the person in front of them."
Good observation on her part
Yeah I agree with that..that’s about it lol
We accept women as they are today, she did not accept her ex bf as he was back then. He was like nah I don’t need that, good for him.
@@BenGenio sounds personal
@@pyt8344 I accept people for who they are, no need to put fire under no one's ass to motivate them. If it's not working out due to incompatibility issues you know it's time to move on.
It's funny how she words it, like she was too good for him, girl he was just not ready for a relationship, period, that doesn't mean that you specifically were "too much" for him.
Reach for that one.....
Agreed. Different people have different levels of ambition, and it's not true that the higher the ambition the better the person.
That's emphatically not true.
This same woman would 100% be singing a different tune If she was in a relationship with a man whose ambition was so much higher than hers that he was gone on the road 48 weeks a year and only had time to visit with her for 2 or 3 hours a week.
in that case you'd be saying that he doesn't have his priorities straight and that she deserves more of his time.
The point here is that different levels of ambition are perfectly valid so long that you can maintain yourself in a livable state.
If your partner doesn't respect you at that level of ambition... They simply aren't the right partner for you.
And yet she still gave four years for the life to this man. Enjoying being with him. And only when she got more successful than him did she decide that he was too lazy for her.
This is not objective rationality... It's post hoc justification
@@breakingthemasks then you should go play Xbox with him all day.
yha that's why i'm single now just enjoying my life and making some protection plans cause i see how the dating world works and i agree girls are expensive well the young ones and those who aren't married but wants to. Heck even not dating i know how expensive girls can be from friends to family members like going to girls clothing store like some dressess cost like $600 even when on sale. Like no wonder guys are losing their minds and getting angry when the bills comes.
When you feel like your “too good for someone” in general is a poor mindset(ego). That energy will return to you. Someone will be to good for you just hope they don’t realize it.
Crazy part is my girl sent me this and before I even watched the full podcast I could tell she broke up with whoever she was with before Hafeez even said anything. My girl argued that her man was lazy and unmotivated being the main source of why she dumped him. Sooooo I looked up her age and net worth. She’s 21 and net worth in less than 2 years being estimated to 1$-5$ million dollars. Her Ex is 20 years old and was playing college sports.... I tried to calmly explain to my woman that for one she blew up because she leveraged her sex appeal to her advantage and was able to blow up on TH-cam because of her Insta following. Then I explained to her that her expectations of a 20 year old college student are RIDICULOUS. How can you expect him while playing college sports and doing academics to find a way to magically figure out how to accumulate that much wealth in LESS THAN 2 years. AND THEN look at this woman’s character. She claims she was “in love” with him. Then she throws her ex (that she was in love with) under the bus calling him feminine lazy and unmotivated, she also at first lies saying it was a “mutual breakup” which all women do, then even while telling the truth that she broke it off, she then goes and lies again saying “we talked it out to see if we could figure things out” then he said it wouldn’t work days later???? Cmon now. None of these stories are adding up. Her character shows she wants a FINISHED PRODUCT. She wants a high value man, making over 6 figures, that is an alpha that can make her submit. Her ex never stood a chance the moment that girl started touching money. Look how quickly she lost respect for him as she accumulated TH-cam wealth. If she had any respect for him at all in the first place. It took her less than 2 years from 19-20, 21 ish to magically realize now all of a sudden he’s having fun in college at 20 smh. Look at Hafeez, he’s said numerous times in his early 20’s he was learning as much as he could. He was not an overnight success story. It takes time. Whereas with woman who are as attractive as this woman, not only is it easier for them to make money at younger ages (nightlife, onlyfans, etc). They are also being spoiled by there fathers if they can afford it, not to mention sugar daddies, and being flown out all over the world for “business inquiries”. All in all I told my girl that the reason this relationship that she threw away for MONEY ended because of this woman’s LACK of Patience, and arrogance.
Ye that is what happens when they get entitled. Little fun fact is that women hold extremely high standards for men. While conducting an experiment, researchers asked females what standards they need their partner to measure up to. They found that on average, only the top 15% of men met the average standards of women. Meaning that an average woman, let's say 6/10, is looking for a 8.5+/10 man. Always fun how then girls have trouble finding the right guy. Sorry you're 6/10 and what you're looking for is a 9/10.
And lack of love in the first place
@@ashuranero5721 yes. lack of love and patience. Unfortunately no one escapes childhood and many PEOPLE are coming up with issues that they don’t deal with until they get to nearly 30 sometimes later. If you really love someone you have patience and give them the time and space to grow.
@@jessicajohnson8674 So i am suposed to wait years for a narc woman to become healthy that might even happen in the first place?
@@ashuranero5721 not at all, they have to show a willingness to work on themselves. I would never suggest staying with a narc, I was raised by one. I wouldn’t suggest staying with anyone who isn’t willing to work on themselves.
Its contradictory for a woman to say that she's independent because she doesn't want to depend on a man but wants a man to be a provider.
Most American women are lost in 2021 brother. It only gets worse.
I agree. She should explain her definition of independent in order for this to make sense. Men need women, women need men. Her words are coming off as men are options. They’re not. Their needed just as well as women are.
@@taunantaunette4828 That's the problem with the world we live in today, people see other people as options.
Instead of sticking together and grow together in life.
She wanna save her $$ and spend yours basically bro
@@BRlGADE_KINGPIN not just women in America my guy women are like this in majority of the world lol 😂
My wife and I already had our own places, had good jobs, and were looking for something long term when we met each other. Neither of us are perfect but we have helped build each other up, we both contribute, and we work together.
This is very relatable, unfortunately, "dating potential" is dangerous and this is why this channel is so important!!
Yup for both women and men. I’ve definitely seen guys date potential too.
@New Alfa it’s just the natural order of things. Read more Jordan Peterson.
@New Alfa Exactly. It's all just hypocrisy. Most women want to be equal to men but treated like a traditional woman all at the same time.
@@scinnyc No they don't actually. They actually want the Tradition they just wanted the CHOICE to pick either or. Now they are learning you can't have it all
@New Alfa this wasn't about money. Did you hear? It was about AMBITION. Don't get it twisted to fit your own insecurity. Get off yo ass and have direction. Women respect that. Always.
Just like the word toxic, y’all learned the word submissive and just ran off with it. Empathy is not a synonym of submissiveness. Doing things for another person does not mean you’re submissive.
I agree. Just like people somehow have turned submission into slavery. A woman being submissive doesn’t mean she’s subservient.
@@TA-ht4jo it does mean, however, that she’s yielding and ready to conform to the authority or will of her man (or a superior person), she is passive, and that she is not an equal. That’s just the definition.
@@ashleyirabor3240 What dictionary are you using because this is the meaning I found: :
“to defer to or consent to abide by the opinion or authority of another.”
Other dictionary meanings are variations of that and I didn’t see “superior”, or “passive.”Those are words that you added just like most women who are usually feminists, do so that they don’t have to do it.
@@ashleyirabor3240 Now as for the equality part, men and women are not equal but that doesn’t mean women are inferior. That’s something women (usually feminists) make up.
@@TA-ht4jo I don’t know about you or your relationships, but for me and mine, I’m equal to my partner. For someone to be submissive, that person has to be inferior because they are submitting to the will of the higher power. Again, that is straight from the definition. A submissive person puts everything for themselves lower than that of the person that they are with (I’m not going to call the man in this situation her partner, because that’s not a partnership).
I hope this girl never meets Kevin Samuels. He would mop the floor with her and give her a huge reality check!
She seems too intelligent for that.
@@teresam5199 what? Avoiding Kevin? 😄
She’s pretty so he couldn’t really tell her that she’s “average at best” this time around 😭.
@@cybertutorials5609 no, but her view on what men want, what she brings to the table and „social construct“ of men and women... don‘t think she has a lot of data behind her statements
@@JM-mq1bt that’s true
# 1 advice gentlemen women only want you when you get to the finish line with the bag. They don’t want you during grind mode, or potential mode. You have to have your own kingdom in order before you step onto the dating scene.
Yes
Unfortunately women only want the success story and not the grind. She only wants you when you’re hokage but what about the other 500 episodes of struggle
I disagree, from personal experience and close friends and relatives.
Women go out and are in love with bums and average Joe's all the time. Most of the time. They may generally want the guy with the bag but usually don't land it.
Women tend to be more mental and the imagination and "story" of your relationship can really go a long way. Emotional and energy exchange with a lead and a follower is needed. You just have to be The #1 guy in your circle.
The bag helps but really not needed if you know how to talk. My 2 cents
@@marty2970 I should’ve added some context to my statement. The finest of the finest women out here want are 𝗔𝗯𝗹𝗲 to obtain a successful, respected, affluent man. Since the numbers don’t work out for everyone the rest of women settle for bums to above average men.
Your right tho women have great imaginations, which sometimes turn into delusion. Your also right that being that # 1 guy in your respectable circles and having game can get you many women but it’s not sustainable.
Who your referring to is young and immature women. After a certain age women start to focus more about money, and lifestyle.
If you always have the bag your options are abundant. Whereas being a bum or average will get you what you can get. Money is almost always a factor in relationships especially with influences of social media.
@@TimXMan1000 then wonder why we ditch them for younger women
I think it's hilarious how she tries to evade every question because she doesn't want to sound "typical" only to finally give the OBVIOUS answer we already knew when pressed. 😂🙄😂
Most important thing to do as a young single man is 2 secure your 💰. Everything else follows in line and if it doesn't you can walk away.
Real talk my fella
Or to show proof that you’re working towards that. Dudes needa stop chasing relationships until they’ve built themselves up or are thoroughly in the process of doing so. Men need confidence and ambition, and you aren’t having a successful relationship without either
@@bigsmall2842 facts
Women don't date down.
Bingo
@Carlo They date down looks-wise only because of financial security. They cheat on the side
Most women date down. If you listen to her she said she felt she was dating down and that’s why she’ll never do it again. That is how women get to the point of not dating down because we all tried it and it doesn’t work.
@_ MeTHoD _ well you said it 🎯
So many experts, so little PHD.
Bruh ... I thought you had Saweetie on here for a second 😅
Yo i swear 😆
I thought that was her also. Is it not? lol
What’s her @?
@@Mr.JackMe0rClapMe she is Taty Cokley on TH-cam
@@Mr.JackMe0rClapMe she gives relationship advice
I understand we should get our things in order but this whole "he needs to get on my level" thing is something a lot of men are not concerned with at all. It sounds like a competition not a relationship.
it comes by being raised by a single mother , the girl cuts the heads off her Barbie's , Mom runs out and buys her a new one , the Father would say NO more toys until you learn to look after them
Her level of ambition. Its not that hard fellas. Don't be lazy and you won't get left.
I guarantee his side of the story, don’t match hers. If didn’t have ish together now. He didn’t have his ish together when you pick him...In the voice of KS
Well they were together for 4 years and since they’re both young, that means they met in highschool. Most likely he was just a broke college kid like everyone else but since she started getting famous on social media, she probably wanted someone more on her level. Unfortunate, but it is what it is.
@@cybertutorials5609 They did meet in high school and she’s also older than him.
@@cybertutorials5609 EXACTLY she was blessed with looks and she knew how far she could go in life.
@@cybertutorials5609 ... Nailed it
it comes by being raised by a single mother , the girl cuts the heads off her Barbie's , Mom runs out and buys her a new one , the Father would say NO more toys until you learn to look after them
Complain but complain when you get your life in order is some of the realest ish I have ever heard
Every woman wants a Ferrari, but some of them only want it for the price of a used Toyota.
Fellas, you're a $500,000 vehicle, get a woman who is willing to give you what you're worth in return.
Preach
And conversely, they try to sell a used Toyota for the price of a new Ferrari
@@FlexSZN23
With 80 owners and a salvage title
Great analogies fellas!!
Thank you
Can’t we just be happy and just chill.
*NOPE*
I swear dawg, why be miserable by choice......
Law 10: Avoid the unlucky and unhappy.
no
@Wandering Endlessly what does it mean to settle.
Summarising her story: "He is not man enough to take care of me. Hence I didn't stick."
yet she doesn't want someone to over work her cause she's a motivated worker she does not want any man to take care of her but i'm like that's so confusing but i learn to stop listening and just be my self and not follow advice from these young girls but those i do look up to for advice or see how they fix their relationship is by talking to elderly's who doesn't mind walking out side together just for 5 mins.
@@mysticstrikeforce5957 she wants to be progressive but her biology doesn't. Shr doesn't understand the conundrum.
@@ArnabAnimeshDas I'm so glad when I meet people like you because it keeps hope alive for me that men are seeing the truth. I tell men don't listen to women, WATCH THEM. The truth is in their actions, as it is with ALL people.
@@ralx225b Boys! I learned a good lesson in the last 6 months but more intensive in the last week! And I now know that I will never ever ever only listen a women, I'll look at her damn action and I will talk about ber attitude.. I was in a horrible relationship, I made bad and she did. Overall we weren't happy at all and now that I'm out of it my eyes are now open. Thank you for your comments, this is what I need today.
Summary of story: He is not man enough to get off his ass, and I feel like the dick in this relationship.
If she is telling the truth the real reason he broke up wasn’t because he wasn’t going to match her, it’s because he decided the relationship wasn’t worth the HEADACHE. You can tell this woman is a handful
There is a old saying chase women and you will end up broke, chase money and you will never run out of women.
Well said
Fax 💯
Money and women are meaningless. But a good wife (not an ig model) and a family to come home to makes life meaningful. Come on brother..
@@BRlGADE_KINGPIN I have both brother but ok lolol
Very true.
Not all women want what she wants and not all women care if you are making alot of money!! all women are different!!
she has high standards and thats fine! but not all women are like her.
90 percent are like her.
@@MikeJones-pf4wd but not all
@@_method_5877 nobody said it was wrong!
Some of y'all need to give her break, she's only 21. She's still so very young.
What she's saying is completely valid. I think everyone in a relationship would like a partner that is on their level, man or woman.
@@kingroka5870 what does "on their level" mean? That's the problem. Men and women measure partners differently. She is an annoying, masculine woman with a speech impediment. Her "level" is lower than she thinks it is. Nobody cares she makes a few dollars.
@@fangiscool1 "On their level" would mean financial. What Taty is saying in this video is totally relevant. If she's bringing what she's bringing to a relationship, then she's very entitled to a man that can return the same. There's nothing masculine about a woman with her money up wanting her man to have his up as well, cry about it.
@@kingroka5870 first, no one is entitled to a relationship. I hope you're a child because an adult should not be saying what you said. Second, just because she thinks a man having money adds value to them doesn't mean men think having money adds value to her. Her money does not change her level. It only changes what level she thinks she is. This will make problems for her
Bu
...all of the sudden the lyrics to this song resonates as I am listening to this...
American woman, stay away from me
American woman, mama, let me be
Don't come a-hangin' around my door
I don't wanna see your face no more
I got more important things to do
Than spend my time growin' old with you
Now woman, I said stay away
American woman, listen what I say
I made this mistake and my marriage in a critical state . Young men focus on your dreams your partner is a by product of your journey not the main course
She wants to be independent, but don't want people depend on her. When has that ever classified as "strong"? Sure you are strong, but for nobody except yourself. She is not looking for a relationship in the first place and that attitude is never going to work.
You're being judgemental
@@maryamhassan7060 So are you, what does that have to do with anything?
The next generation of 40 and single
Facts💯
Men will get the last laugh 😂😂😂
Talking about "I choose to be single"
40 with 2 delinquent kids and no father
Sad part is most people don’t realize they men don’t reach this level of maturity and ambition until late 20’s early 30’s. Smh
Yeah... this isn't fun anymore. Relationships these days sound like a chore. I want a partner. Not a second boss.
Edit:
Mind you I'm not using this as an excuse to not try. I hate chores but I still do em.
The money was more impartant than the relationship.
Always is.
No finance no romance hahaha
“First you get the money and then you get the power and then you get the woman” ~Tony Montana
It sounds like the guy she was with was content where he was and she wanted more, which is fine for both of them. I think it’s funny how she said the guy pulled the cord on the relationship but she ended it though. Ladies, just take ownership of your decisions and say you ended it instead of blaming everything on a man. Either way, the guy she was dating sounds like he’s going nowhere fast.
It didnt sound like that at all. Sounds like he was a normal college student who will have a stable career after graduation. If she didn't want to be with a student, then don't be with a student. She just wanted him to be done and be balling out with cash. She wants an older guy or some random young rapper with more money. I don't get how so many of you commenters see flaws in the male from this interview. He's following the path that all our parents tell us to follow. And she is framing is like he is some bum. Only lies and manipulation from her in this interview. She couldn't even say she ended the relationship.
I don't even think it's a man woman thing that's just a respect thing period. It's all about pulling your weight.
It’s def a gender thing this society is tryna feminize everything even men their are a lack of real alpha males
You wrong
Yes!!!! I have this Problem as a man
@@A_LivingTestimony nope it is not
Men dont Realize when they aint ready haha
She is smart, attractive and could manipulate either of you two, at will.
If she can manipulate you then it makes sense why your here LOL don’t let that happen broski give your self some value.
@@megatron_steel704 an attractive women "could" get their; tire changed, door held, etc. It's nature.
@@michaelwojcicki3624 Manners is good I have em which put me in a lot of great situations but you don’t have to treat open all there doors trust me woman will never go for a guy who is nice to every girl but just as long as he’s nice to her, doesn’t mean to be rude tho just know when to do these things then you gas em up.
🤣
Nah
What she described about her ex is that she was 'carrying' him.
He lacked leadership and drive. Why can't men see that a lot of them mature a lot slower than women in terms of social status.
Yeah because men and women dating potential are naturally inverse of each other.
No, she's being manipulative. Dude was a normal college student. That's a time when you don't have money. How are you interpreting that he had no drive? You can repeat everything she said about him about every single college student. Y'all tripping getting sucked into this manipulation
@@fangiscool1 if you heard her she said 4 year relationship and I am sure they ain’t meet when they were both freshman. But having money doesn’t equal drive wth you talking about
@@monsterhunterunite12 drive and ambition are just code for money in the future. And yes they met in high school. High school to college is a normal trajectory for a person. If she doesn't want to date a students then don't date a student. Don't frame it like being a student makes you some lazy asshole
@@fangiscool1 drive and ambition is not just code word for money. Yes he was a student but a student can be a student with no drive or ambition. For all we know he could have been in college just for the parties or because his parents wanted him to go but he had no dreams or aspirations of his own. Maybe to her no drive was him not taking his studies seriously or talking a big game but not taking the necessary steps or actions to get to where he claimed he wanted to be.
Stay the course gentlemen. Focus on your success, stay in shape and be able to be happy by yourself. There is no rush. If done right the choice will always be yours to make in the end. Remember we don’t have a wall to worry about.
-Lack of confidence
-Nothing going on for yourself
-No drive
-You might as well not exist. 😆😂
Damn
That's exactly why I used to not want to exist
Yep. Still lingers in my mind
The female nature naturally should submit to the man and the man be masculine. We should never grind for women but only for our purpose. Genesis 2:18 “ The LORD God said, 'It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.'"
Yeah he made a helper my ass. God doesn't exist and if he does he's full of sh1t. This Genesis quote is a man made fantasy for the world he wish it was. Unfortunately you can't bend reality to what you want so burn that wicked and false book full of contradictions anyway.
@@kubasniak everything but the Word of God is wicked. You have it twisted
@Kea Lucky In what way are you equal to a man? The answer; None. No wait, you are equal in one way, we are both human mortals and that's pretty much it.
@Kea Lucky To vague, typical woman talk. What do you mean by 'no human is above anyone'? You know that dosent make any sense what do ever.
@Kea Lucky Wow you are going for the two misspelled words and choosing the academic superiority as an out.
Basically they are referring to the guys in high school that were winning with the ladies. You see them 5 or 10 years later and they have completely fell off! They went from pulling 8’s, 9’s and 10’s to settling for 4’s and 5’s. You be like, Damn Homie!
I thought you was the man homie!
@johnny bravo athletic success and popularity actually have a strong correlation with success. However, there are a multitude of other contributing factors. Including a longer time line for men.
@johnny bravo this is false. Former athletes are generally more successful in all aspects of life. Exceptions to every rule. As a business owner. Who would you rather hire? The former athlete, with a die hard competitive streak, intelligence, leadership and teamwork mentality that had to balance school with sports. Or the socially awkward geek. O think society created the geek turned success story narrative as being typical to appease lazy losers and deflect away from the advantages that being a true alpha provides.
@@kennyhayes4654 some jobs require nerds and without them u can't comment on a yt video or have any working technology there is a place for geeks in the work place
I really love when you invite women on here to interview because it’s really nice to get the female perspective on her own female nature.
The mind is powerful attack everything with a positive mindset and watch how things change! Have a blessed day.
Fine
Yes.
never trust a woman who blames everything on her ex
saving this video so that I can read the comment section later
Nah, the man wasn't the problem, I don't agree with how the points were put. What's happening here is you have a woman driven by masculine values and ideals. He may be fine where he is/was at that moment or the present, maybe he was making $80,000 which is okay for him and she made 6 figures. She wanted more, him to be more, he couldn't give her that so she left. That wanting more, that never being satisfied, wanting to change men, women following masculine ideals is where the problem is, not necessarily how much the guy was making. He was on his own journey, most likely on the way to forging his own path
Well said this is why I hate videos like this 😒 its just dis honest dating potential ....that mindset its condescending as hell ....
You came to this conclusion how ? Her wanting more is masculine. Will you tell your daughter she shouldn’t want more. I guess we wouldn’t have a Vice President as a women because it’s masculine and she wanted more.
But if dude unemployed or working minimum wage she would have a good point right? I know some dudes that really ain’t motivated in life, but they young so it’s okay, but if he older then it’s definitely not okay.
@@LB-do7kw she literally just shared masculine ideals, we see this all the time with women on Kevin Samuel's shows. Women rating eating themselves on masculine values, being very ambitious and expecting the same of men. He wasn't making what she was making. She obviously wanted a 6 figure with what she was talking but how many black men make 6 figures again???? How many are actually all that interested in being in the top 1-10% of earners?????
I don´t get why your hating on her. She gives her own experience. Some man complain that woman dosen´t listen and put words in their monuth but you do the same. You were not there, you don´t know what happend. But in your opinion, becouse she has her own income and has ambitions, you trasch tallk her?
If men and women listen to y'all and apply all this positive content, people will get what they want and be happy. One of my favorite channels, period. 💯
She made many good points. She has to date OLDER. Someone who is already established and she may have issues with control. But I feel she is well on her way.
I honestly don’t know about that.....
@@karenkath4350 What do you mean? Most men with money are in their late 30s and early 40s. She’s like 22 so it might be a bit weird for her but that’s most likely her only option if she wants a rich dude.
@@cybertutorials5609 I am 21 and I am uncomfortable with the thought of being with a man who is closer to my mom’s generation. Maybe she is feels the same way. I don’t know....
@@karenkath4350 Yeah that’s understandable. But she seems deadset on getting a guy that makes either the same or more than her and those guys are usually older.
@@cybertutorials5609 ok I understand. I see your point.
A woman needs something to Respect. We need to start going off of what it is and not what it could be as well just as "men" do.💯💯💯
Men can’t go off of potential because we get “take me as I am” and so that’s a “nothing’s going to change” in our heads because you put it clear as day. If a women says to a bf “I want us to start going to the gym” or “babe you’re getting a little fat,can you get back to where you were please” he’s going to try. If a man says that to his gf it’s a whole argument
I’ve dated with potential on not just body goals and they don’t change nor do they try to
Well its kind of aggravating when a woman doesn't respect hardly anything or anyone. Especially when you giving what you can do. It happens more so than less.
Women are too lazy to change and they can’t accept criticism. That’s why men cheat and throw women away when we get bored. You all have the same sales pitch. It’s usually pointless to be with one woman.
So, she wanted a project-man to fix, not someone to be with. But she also wanted no responsibilities at all.
I think we are the only one that peeps that.
She says society ingrained in us masculine/feminine roles yet she is unhappy when her bf doesnt live up to his masculine role. Which is? Do you want to break that circle and stay with someone you love or has society been right all along?
Dont shift the blame on society, be responsible for what you want out of life
Good point, she needs to clarify.
getting women to tell the truth is like pulling teeth.
We were taught to try hard not to offend a man’s fragile ego
@@user-hl2rm5db8h that’s funny, we were taught not to hurt your fragile feelings.
Exactly!! I literally just left a relationship that was very similar!
She's full of it 😂 That dude she's talking about dodged a bullet fellas.
Get her ex on there bro we need both stories so we can get the facts!! Yall still go crazy keep up the good work guys
Would you suggest the same for the male guests?
I just think it would be interesting to hear his story his take on it. It would be irrelevant to bring the male ex there because the damage was already done I just think it would be interesting to hear his take on it that's all I'm saying
@@The_GreatEscape91 Yeah , I agree to some degree. But what would happen with other guests? They have alot of man sharing their experience with woman and we just belive them. I think It should go both ways. But then it would be to complicated for The Roommates, to alwas bring the Ex´s of the guests. It would be Oprah 2.0 xD
@@nickjulius9078 I agree 100 percent I met no disrespect at all I do love and respect what you guys do you guys help me on my own journey thank you for taking the time to reply to me and talk to me keep up the good work you guys are saving alot of life's!!
@@nickjulius9078 I wouldn’t suggest the same with male guests because in my experience men are a lot more honest about how relationships ended than women are.
Men there will always be someone with more money, better looking etc... Just be the best you. No matter what you have or don't have, you are the line between peace and chaos, a home without you is dysfunctional, being a man has nothing to do with what you have, it's who you are. The best & strongest men I've ever met, were classified as poor.
@1PUNCHusleep: Well said!
1:15 Bull.
We have literally had these roles for a reason. Women are good at housekeeping, cooking, caring for kids, men are good at working hard and providing. Women on average are more agreeable, and men on average are more aggressive.
You can't just change biology.
You can't avoid
100% roles are reversed nowadays thats why shits fucked, man are acting like gyal and gyal are acting like man!
Let me guess confidence and looks. Money and being tall would also help. At this point though I don't really care I just want to live my life.
Smart man considering 60 percent of all women in the United States of all races make on average $15hr. Middle class dudes & up don't have to jump through hoops to get an lackluster USA lady
@@MikeJones-pf4wd Lol I remember Mike Jones the rapper.
So true , Much needed conversation in this generation .
back then, we had to date them to understand why we don't want them. Now they're freely exposing themselves on the internet. Pretty easy for us fellas.
Why Shauty looks like Saweetie?
Thought I was the only one that saw this😅
I was literally thinking the same exact thing. Maybe she’s trying to look like her or maybe she’s not. Or I would say Laurie Harvey as well.
Funny how they give drug dealers all the support but a regular guy gotta get his sh*t together....💀👀🤔
🤣🤣
Pokee and RayRay
Strictly transactional
I avoid bashing women for wanting a man who makes more money than them or at a higher level, and to provide for them. If that's what you want, then that's what you want. The problem I have is when those same women say, "I don't need a man," or "I'm independent." Because if you can do provide for yourself, then why would it matter that he provide for you? I can understand her not wanting to provide for man, so he can't be completely broke. But if makes enough money to live a comfortable life, but he just so happens to make less money than you, then why would they reject him? Women can provide for themselves, right?
Here's the confusion... What exactly is getting your "ish" together? I'm a 9-5er. Good solid job with potential growth in the company if I choose that route, but below High value standards because its less than 100k a year.
Am I failing? Sounds like I'm failing when I listen around.
If men started thinking like women and saying to themselves... I want more and get your "ish" together, especially during the relationship, we would be called bully's. Or we would get the excuse, just accept me as I am. Love me for me.
Social expertement (don't actually do this) Go tell your girl right now, I want more from you. More cooking, More dressing up, More Cooperation, and More Se# and More whatever... Watch they eyes roll behind they head and hair electricity sparks come from sky and dust and rocks swirling around them.
Men would be walking away with a black eye
First thing first... High Value ain't got nothing to do with money..
@@keviscold copy that. What are your opinions when you hear - getting your ish together? Remove the notion of high value.
@@keviscold i mean it helps, yet high value is about your mindset. Your mental strength to control your own life. Can you handle the pressures of life without freaking out and getting emotional, cracking under the pressure? Or will you be a beast, beat all the odds, become financially stable and win. It's all in you. That's what high value is. Can you smile and laugh through the pain and come out a better man on the other side? Or do you let your circumstances, people in your life and emotions get to you and ultimately rule you? It's hard to walk the path of confidence and strength. It's so difficult and painful. You will cry, be hurt, feel sad and down and in pain. It's all about how you stand back up from it and fight on or give up and become low value.
First of all - 9 to 5 job does not mean you’re failing but I do understand why you’re questioning it......a bit sad in terms of the expectations and today’s society we live in
Secondly.....focus on your masculine energy because that is actually what mature women truly desire at the end of the day.
To a lot of women, in this day and age, “high value men” equates to ur income. Apparently the standard is six figures. Ask the women, listen to the Kevin Samuel types and so forth and that’s the number. It makes hard working men making under that feel worthless even though they are high value in every other regard. Kevin Samuels specifically says if ur making less than 10k a month ur not high value. There’s a lot of good men with great values making 70, 80 90k a year taking care their wives and children just fine. This income starting point to consider a man “high value” is just bullshit.
When women start saying "I feel", you know they're about to spit some contradictory nonsense.
I’m independent, and empathetic. And not single. There are plenty of women out here that support the blk mans progress. The comments are 🧢🧢
Still rare...
Why would anyone take chances
You are the exception. Not the rule
Explain how are you independent inna relationships 🤔 😕 🤣
At 0:58, she says how women wanting a traditional man (ambitious, masculine, hardworking, breadwinner) is all a social construct - what they're taught - and not what she's biologically attracted to. She says she'd be okay dating a modern man (feminine, less ambitious, not the breadwinner), as opposed to a traditional man. She then proceeds to vent on how her boyfriend was not a traditional man, lies about her cutting it off and puts the blame on him, then basically admits to only being attracted to/looking for traditional men. The fact is this - women are either lying or too ignorant/privileged to see - they want to skirt the responsibilities of being a traditional woman, while still requiring men to be traditional/responsible. The only question is: why are they surprised they can't lock down a high value traditional man, as irresponsible, modern women?
Exactly, the bottom line is they don’t know what they want
Let's see if she has the same opinions when she hits 30 smh lol
Women throw tht word loosely . “ I’m independent women this and that “ but got mad assistance along the way .
I'd like to hear his side of the story. It really sounds like she destroyed the man's self-esteem to the point where he no longer wanted to try for her. Women can either be a muse and inspire or they can become a detriment a negative energy that will close you off and cause you to disengage.
The ambition has to be present within the man already, a woman can support or nurture it however it can’t be solely put on the woman or be her duty to “inspire” him.
@@GreekYogurtGranola yes but we're talking within the confines of a failing relationship. I know alot of men, me included who temporarily stopped trying once they realized she was going to destroy it all or take half. Ambition deferred until you break free from the relationship/marriage
This why I don't have a mrs. I don't have my ish together, I can admit it. I'm on my way up though. NoFap/semen retention lifestyle, getting in shape in the gym lifting weights. Have my investments, I just got no material wealth to show for it. I could cash in my investments and have a nice new car, and a deposit for a house. But chicks judge the job I have even though I'm in the average income range, and the lack of physical possessions and they say nah. Kinda sad chicks are this way, but I'm happy I'm in the position I'm in. In another life, I'd be married, have 2 kids and be unhappy, just like all the married men I know.
Now usually I can see where you guys are coming from... but this wasn’t it honestly.
I didn’t like the lack of accountability throughout on her part painting it as if she didn’t contribute to the relationship ending
I think she was unaware of just because you claim you’re empathetic... her energy is very masculine and having someone on her “level” doesn’t negate the issues that come with that.
“Mo money mo problems” - Biggie
Ultimately I think damages men because we are already expecting to do a ton ... to court, pursue, lead, provide all these things and it still could be not good enough?! 😂 bump that bruh there is no overnight success
It sounds like her biggest contribution was codependency. Every time she did it for him she told him she had no faith in his ability to grow and denied him the opportunity to do for himself. A lot of women make that mistake, thinking they are helping these boys (cause really they aren’t men mentally or emotionally) but they could be, if they had someone willing to let them learn from the consequences of their own actions. But they don’t want to do that because being with that person means they would have to suffer those consequences alongside them.
I think she just needed him to get up and get a job. Not much to ask for.
At the start she said she wanted to focus on her career and investments, but why would you look for relationships if a relationship is not your priority?
I like the vibe and team of these 2 guys. They are like the Bad Boys (The movie) of this field. Girl admits traditional roles by sooooo many Freudian Slips. There is a reason tradition lasts cos there is covert science in tradition. Gender Polarity Reversal in the guise of Equality will become the destroyer of marriage. Marriage is the foundation of Family. Career Life needs to Compliment Family Life, not destroy it. Love is foundation and currency of Family. Money is the Currency of Greed. Greed destroys Family. I wrote a saying : "When Love becomes Nothing, Greed becomes Everything...and Everything becomes Nothing. When Love Evaporates, Greed Precipitates."
In order for men to improve themselves, women must improve themselves just as much.
And truly, anyone who speaks lowly of their exes.....without any understanding of why their ex acted the way they did.....Still needs to find inner strength & clarity.
I want to hear her talk to Kevin Samuels
Facts
😂🤣😂 she not ready
At 3:04 when they said " break that down for me" in addition with the hand movements of confusion has me rolling 🤣🤣
I disagree with the first part. I don’t think these differences between the sexes all boil down to culture and society. I think a big part of this is simply biology.
The one who is most aware & sincere about the connection... are ALWAYS the last to cut the cord.
I feel like she is STILL cutting that cord. Otherwise, she wouldn't be laughing or making excuses.
The expression "not on my level" seems so narcissistic to me.
I understand where she is coming from and can relate. When a man has no vision, isn`t progressing in his purpose, not financially trying to better his situation, a woman cannot respect him nor view him as a leader. The issue comes when people want to encourage mediocrity by keeping standards at an all time low. I am glad that she saw this huge red flag and kept it pushing. Ladies, more of us need to do this and not settle for potential.
You are not even worthy to date the potential.
I can’t wait to do an interview with y’all 😅😆
Go on girl XD
soon time
Ouuuuuuu
We can’t wait either!
Fucking who?
So it boils down to the man not making enough money. They use the words level, respect, ambitions. But it all links to money.
Pretty much
Never chase girls, work on you, hustle, grind, and the rest will settle it alone when you are at the highest mountains.
My #1 turn off is when a woman says ish.
It’s all fun and games until the woman gets in those mid 30s and still talking about the bag like men are walking wallets! If he is able to provide for u n a family and willing to marry you...I would suggest women get on board, or possibly be thrown around from relationship to relationship without anything serious! Women=feminine,fit,affectionate,
Pleasant to be around,good communication skills. Date the man not his wallet! But we must be able to provide. Lead
Exactly
I know you're not suggesting that women just marry a man simply because he is willing to marry them. If we marry, we have to marry a suitable mate not just anyone who comes along willing to marry us.
Met a girl like her at 24. Driven smart and beautiful. She left my ass. Why? Because at the time I was still a little boy. It traumatized me in a way that made me question everything. I eventually realized that it wasn’t my woman leaving me... it was my mommy leaving me. That’s why I was so traumatized. To this day, I cannot express the gratitude I have for that woman. And all driven woman for that matter. Ya’ll are gold. Especially for the kids... regardless of age. A lot of guys think they’re an adult because they hit a certain age or can pay a bill, but with a mother like this you’ll realize that it’s the farthest thing from the truth.
@@The-DAWG957 yup. A broke man may as well be broken. It’s all designed to make us better so long as we chalk up our losses and become our best selves.
Towards the end the guy on the left said “it’s one thing if he’s not there yet but he’s putting that same energy as you you can be like I respect that” just watch the movie Acrimony with Taraji P Henson, man was literally on his grind for the entirety of their marriage but after a while you “not being there yet” and “putting in that same energy” is only going to go so far with a woman if it doesn’t pay off in the time frame that she thinks it should.
This being the case doesn’t really make it right though. Women have every right to choose whether or not they want to be with that man, but if that’s the basis for them drawing the line with that person then the line has to be defined to fit who they specifically are. This is why we have an overwhelming majority of modern women in the dating pool that “shoot for the stars” sorta speak when they frankly have no business doing so. You see the natural order calls for us to bind together with people more on our same wavelengths as individuals but chaos, dysfunction and unsatisfaction is met when people fight against that.
@@KevinJXT38 I’m not saying that she doesn’t have the right I’m just saying him making the statement “it’s different if you’re on grind” or “putting in the same energy she is” is only correct to a certain extent. While that may extend the respect she has for you or it may extend the amount of time she’s willing to wait and see how things play out, at some point if it still hasn’t worked out for you she still will end up with that same feeling of less respect or just wanting to move on more than likely.
@@AyeeeTV1 yeah I understood what you were saying. You might have to read my response again though because I’m just explaining that although you do have a point, I’m saying we shouldn’t look at that as a good thing and just accept it because it’s not the best, most optimal way to date or displace your value onto a man.
@@KevinJXT38 oh ok I see what you’re saying, personally I don’t look at it as a good thing at all. Really you have no choice but to accept it if that’s what the woman wants to do but I just don’t agree with him saying as long as you’re putting in the work or putting in the same energy she is towards getting better/to your goals then that will somehow be different. It will only be different if you end up succeeding, if you don’t it will more than likely end how it would have if you weren’t on your grind at all which is sad but true.