What Happened to Marriage?
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 7 ก.ย. 2024
- This young woman seems to have sadness in her eyes as she asks "do men want to get married anymore?"
I think we all feel how badly relationships have degraded, but no one really understands why. The answers are in the changes we made to what used to work. That's called "hubris," - when you believe that you know better than thousands of years of tradition and that your best guess is going to yield better results.
We now live in a state of decay, declining quality of life, and cultural and social collapse, and it's because we were fooled - once again - into thinking that we could change all the rules to be more convenient and empowering and we wouldn't lose anything. In reality, laws, culture, technology, and all forms of change to our systems are like a wish made on a monkey's paw - you might get what you want, but you might not like what it costs.
(I tried making my own background music for this. It'll get better over time)
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My younger brother and I are trust fund kids. He married his girlfriend while going to med school. After the marriage she changed completely. He was doing his residency and didn't want to deal with it anymore. Filed for divorce, she happily declared she was going to take everything we owned. Reverse uno card. Trust funds are not marital assets, he was a broke med school student and she got nothing.
Stiffing you and your brother in court was her end plan all along. Glad it didn't work out. It's amazing how long they can plan and wait.
I love happy endings.
Thank you for sharing this experience. I will be sure to prepare my kids accordingly.
Why was he broke studen? Was his fund desolved?
@@LangChainAI maybe broke by the ex greedy standards. Most trust funds pay out a small percent when the heir accomplishes goals or milestones in the heir's life and saves the rest for retirement. . Some only pay the basics to motivate the heirs to find jobs and not depend pon the fund for daily expenses . Some might pay rent , school expenses, etc and pay out a lump sum after the child graduates, retires or becomes old. Most retain most of the funds for the next generations. Almost all exclude the partners of the heirs. Some stop paying out as soon as the child marries. This prevents greedy spouses from claiming any of the funds.
My son overheard two high school teachers talking, where he heard one say to the other that they canceled the coding workshop because only boys signed up. Let that sink in.
western society is collapsing
I had to threaten a title IX lawsuit against my kids school district a few years back because of their "girls in stem" field trips did not allow males to attend and did not offer alternative opportunities to boys. I did get every woman in the school district pissed at me though. So that was fun.
@@worndown8280 based dad alert 🚨
@@PS-lv1mr they didnt see it that way. I have been trying to explain what hoe math has been since the early 90s. Its like people dont care. They see only the short term gain to these policies and not the long term chaos and disfunction it causes.
@@worndown8280 What did you threaten it for? Better to be a man of action straight up file
I just tell women this:
would you sing a pre-nup that states that if you get divorced for any reason, you have to pay spousal support, you loose half of you stuff, and if you have kids, he gets custody and child support that he can spend on what ever he wants, so you have to work all week and take care of the kids on the weekend, while she "takes care" of them during the week while they are in school, while living in a house you have to pay for?
If you think that's a bad idea, what your really saying is "I don't want to treated like a man".
Very wise comment.
Vote this one into the top 3!!
You forgot to add, all these as long as you have more assets than me, and make more money.
This
This is literally the wisest comment I've read on TH-cam *ever*.
Women are so upset that men don't want to get married but if you turned the tables then the marriage rate would become zero starting tomorrow. The extreme cognitive dissonance that the modern woman exhibits is the base reason why I'm largely uninterested in relationships. I need a partner who can think clearly and effectively.
The public school system absolutely HATES little boys. I got treated like absolute shit by my female teachers as a child. Thank god I had an awesome mom who refused to put me on drugs and didn't punish me when I got suspended for standing up against the constant bullying I faced. I'm 42 now, so I can't imagine what these poor boys have to deal with today,
Can confirm. I'm just a few years older than you, and the general attitude in US public schools in the 80s and 90s was that boys were basically just defective girls with behavioral problems.
My mom tried to put me on drugs, and I told her and the doctor to go f*ck themselves.
I'm 42 also and I have similar experience. I think I was quite intelligent kid but the school system thought I was an annoying pest.
I get that feeling. My mom didn't get me put on medications and both my parents raised me to not be a bitch, even if someone starts a fight, be the one to finish it.
I’m 20 and i had a similar experience. I have ADHD, so they treated me like i was retarded or something.
This is literally my life. I am in the middle of a divorce because my wife got a bit more excitement from some sneaky-fucker at her job, despite me having been there through all the mental bullshit she went through, all the hard times, her extreme anxiety, I make 3 times more than she does... none of that matters when something a bit shinier in the moment comes through. She isn't taking my money, but we had a house that I am losing after putting in a whole lot of work on it, for our family after we moved to a place far away from everyone I knew so we could be closer to her folks (who I do actually care for)... and she could start living her best single life. I just work to remember that she is in reality a horrible person and not the person I met. But it's hard not to look at other women and be like, "you are just like that, aren't you".
sorry bro
How long did it took for her to get bored?
Easiest tell for how a woman is to look at how she talked about people she hates or is indifferent towards and what she does towards them.
That is a rough gauge for how she will treat you at the end of a relationship.
People with mental difficulties in general are not worth it. Some are bearable, but most will use it as an excuse to dump you or validate bad behaviour.
Keep your head up, man. Went through something similar with my ex. The important thing to remember is that yes, this is the same person you met, you just didn’t see it at the time. We tend to overlook red flags. One thing I’ve learned is to put a ton of weight into how often and in what way women talk about their exes. Oftentimes it’s all negative with no accountability in their part.
I hate how marriage has turned into an industry. We have people agreeing to vows they will never keep, it's just a complete debauchery of matrimony.
I used to work weddings and I remember one wedding had the vows changed from "for richer, for poorer" to "for richer and even richer."
It was pretty eye opening.
Western "marriage" has been an untenable contract from the day no-fault incentivized divorce grape started paying fee males to be vow-breaking wife failures. There is no marriage under a contract that pays one party to rob from the other.
The original meaning of "matrimony" is a contract between the groom and the father of the bride for the purpose of children.
Doesn't exist anymore, but men I think are relearning there is zero benefit to a man from marriage without children.
@@americana9692 This. Especially men post 40. Once you get to a point where you realise you are no longer going to be raising a family, you have zero incentive to ever even think about marriage.
She would and 10 other women also, because he was a Chad. So probably I would not exist.
Would your mother date your father if Tinder existed? That is a fantastic thought experiment.
We all know the answer to that. If I men had hundreds of messages a day from women online would they ever settle down? That is what even a way below average woman can have if she is active online. Loyalty is dead, the cellphone killed it.
Mine wouldn't. Mine would have aborted me if she had the chance. Or I would have been born because of my dad graping my mom. That's who my mom is and who my dad is. How I didn't turnout like either one is a miracle in itself (also I absolutely refused)
No. 100% of everyone would say "no"... emphatically.
I mean, It works both ways I don't think it's that simple. Back in the days some people (both women and men) were basically forced to get with each other if they didn't wanted to stay alone because there were no options. So both men and women sometimes ended up in shitty "forced" marriages where they are not happy with each other.
@@N4chtigall Thanks for your reasonable comment. This video is very well done and I agree with the bulk of it, but this comment section is pretty disappointing (yet not surprising). Sadly this kind of content will always attract bitter men who have a bone to pick with women, while being dishonest about the alternatives or about the flaws in male nature. I say this as a relatively masculine guy. We are hypocrites ourselves and it's very easy to mythologize the past as being way better than how things are now.
I used to work at a call center for a very large brokerage firm and one time I got a call from a woman in her late 50’s that was going through a divorce and wanted to check on the process of the paperwork. I pulled up her information on my computer to check her QDRO (divorce account of her ex husbands retirement) and it turns out she had THREE separate QDRO accounts from THREE separate marriages that gave her a net worth of 1 million dollars combined between them. She herself was not an investor nor had any retirement plans, only QDRO accounts from ex husbands. It made my stomach turn in disgust because she was a parasite.
Disgusting... It's all just a hustle in her eyes
This is reason, i will never get married, 👍thanks bro.. for confirming, what I was thinking...
@@am-vy1fb me too 😂😂
Leach. Disgusting.
She really triple H for real
This is all completely true, but I don't think most women would understand or care.
nope it goes over their heads
Only when all their safety nets are gone and they're in their late 30's will they even remotely consider
Yea because they're at such a place of privilege dealing with men the only things they see men for is to use them for money, sex, protection, social validation and/or attention (*most want a combination of all those things*) and the entire discussion around a "red pill" or due to 85-90% of men either not knowing or just plainly not being red pill women dismiss it and because the content gets 50-500k views half of which is female hate watchers they think this is men winning and crying or insulting them as women and their brains interpret it subconsciously as unattractive because they're hard wired to see men as a provider of the 5 things I listed at the beginning
I know that was a bit long but that's my perspective on why women don't care they don't care because a man to them like they are to us is a product and the product cannot make any demands when they are in a position of service to the consumer
You're clueless cause you would that in Western world boys are being forced by feminist teacher's to apologize for being a male which has triggered young girls that were touched.
@@baldrofasgard4793
No one worth their salts will want them then. And only simps they feel they're "settling for" will be with them. I just hope these types of women don't breed.
Women systematically stripped away every benefit marriage had for men.
Signing that particular agreement is (for me) the equivalent of buying a timeshare.
At least with a timeshare you get a place to go 1 week of the year in Mexico.
You nailed it.
A timeshare for an uncertain amount of time.
I think it was carefully planned and executed. AKA the feminism movement.
I agree it’s ALL women’s fault!
"Hey, do you want to play a game of chess? I get all queens...
Where are you going?"
That pretty much sums it up. The game is rigged, and 50% of the time, you end up in the divorce slaughterhouse.
No thanks.
Actually if played a game of chess and you had all queens.
You will get bored.
Think about it.
That chess board is the perfect metaphor 😂
No dude, 99% slaughterhouse. You don't have to get a divorce to be slaughtered
@@PhantomFilmmaker-jd9hoso no marriage can ever be happy or healthy?
@@atm1947 out of every married couple I've ever met, I know less than a handful were happy and most of them were remarried to someone they met in their 40's/ 50's. I still have hope, but hope is essentially just happy thoughts and prayer. I believe there is someone for everyone, but who, what, where and most importantly when in their/ your life will you meet?
I'm a woman. I played it practical. Found a genuine, kind, competent and sweet man who shared my values about God and family and chose to fall in love with him.
It might be true about most women but when I was a young girl I realized I could love just about anybody. I saw it was the commitment that made relationships special, not the emotions. I think when women realize this about themselves they instead get excited about all the conquests before them, it thrills them to feel powerful over men. Possibly.
11 years of marriage and I cannot imagine life without my sweet husband who is as kind and genuine as ever. He has grown so much more into his full potential and has supported me on my journey to reach mine as well.
This society did nothing to encourage my decisions. I feel a bit isolated at times, honestly, but would rather feel a little lonely sometimes than join their delusions and foolishness.
Thank you for not being a whore
Well said!
... Now that you mention it, that's right. We do tend to love basically anything that we spend time with, even on abusive relationships; that's how empathy works, a mechanism made precisely to make family bonds stronger, and that feeling Is just a way of justifying making a deep bond.
Once that spark ends, the follow up should be asking yourself "Am I fine being with this person?" instead of "This isn't working. NEXT.", because being confortable with the other without arguing Is fine, life is too long to be only emotion-driven.
What's worse than your spouse hiding money to leave?
Her hiding her debt that the family court will FORCE the man to pay for.
So damn real
Depends on the State, or it did at one time, anyway. I've been divorced a long time ago, and creditors were trying to come after me for her debts.
It was all only in her name. Her debt. I didn't have to pay a cent to them, but I did make sure to document for the future (just in case) and gave them all her phone number, address and place of work. Even helped a Private Investigator track her down for out of state check fraud. She had creditors calling her at work, the whole deal. Was great.
Unfortunately, my case was an outlier. When we were married, I had no money-- I was flat broke paying all the normal bills. Couldn't get a credit card to save my life (this is back when they were somewhat difficult to qualify for) and she had all that. Ran them up like mad behind my back.
I'm very lucky.
Check your state, and never get joint cards.
He also said there's a 1/3 chance of this happening. Wrong. 41% of first marriages end in divorce. 60% of second marriages end in divorce. 75% of third marriages end in divorce. Overall, it's somewhere over 50%. But he was talking about first marriages, and that's 41%, not 33.3%, as he stated.
@@leroyrussell8766 First marriages and new marriages are different. Statistics is a precise thing.
Been there.
Modern marriage for men is akin to buying a car from a dealer, and agreeing that the dealer can take the car back any time he wants, for whatever reason he wants, with no refund. Not only that, but you have to PAY him additional money for taking it back. And she really needs to ask if men still want to get married?
That sounds like digital movies from companies😂
Both are hard to do right now. Hard to find the one that you truly want and hard to find a good quality car
TH-cam Mary and Jesus in the Quran and Mohmmad in the Bible and the Scientific Miracles of the Quran
You forgot to add that the car you're buying is advertised as new but has 600,000 miles on it, jizz crusted seats, and some kids in the back.
Not only you don't get the refund, but you have to keep making payments to pay off a car, and additional cars that you don't own (alimony + child support)
Regarding the "song" you featured, this is a major factor. I am an old man. Here is how life really works. The analogy of the campfire. When you first start a campfire, you use a lot of thin dry wood as "kindling". It burns very fast and very bright. It is exciting! But then, if you let it burn down the main firewood starts to burn slowly. This isn't as exciting but it will burn a long time and provide a lot of warmth and a steady glow. This is how love is. Yeah, in the beginning is the "honeymoon" phase and you can't keep your hands off each other. But if you let it, this will lead to a slow steady burn that sustains you. These women want the honeymoon phase to last forever. It can't. It won't. So then they seek to start another fire with someone else. Rinse and repeat. This is not sustainable. Modern women do not know how to love.
This is a wise comment!
That's some great analogy! 👍
this explains all the 38 year old "want kids someday" women on dating apps
Brilliant dude, that was very well put. My wife and I have been married for 16 years and we're in the steady glow phase and we love it
Great analogy but ... how do you rinse a fire? :)
Lots of young girls mistake passion for love in our dopamine driven society.
Love is about putting someone’s needs above your own, while passion is about getting lost in the moment.
Love is intellectual, while passion is reactionary. If you don’t want to think but just react, a stable long term relationship is definitely something you won’t be able to experience.
Could not agree more; I'd like to add young girls mistaking _enablement_ for love as well. Enablement is fun and instant gratification like passion, but that having-to-reciprocate thing is just so hard for so many.
Lust rushes but love waits
Yeah that’s not happening in todays cultural narcissistic society.
Very well said sir.
women are easily influenced by other women.... one bad female friend and a loyal wife can become a 304 for the streets.
“Would your mother have chosen your father if she had tinder”Mind blown!!! Really think about that. Especially applies to those happy couples that have been married for 25+ years. My guess would be NO because 1) having a tinder would have changed her 2) if she had tinder she would have been chasing CHAD not DAD
Chad not Dad is the funniest thing I’ve heard all day
Depends. In 1960 my mom asked my dad out three times before he said yes. Married 59 years until her passing.
He wanted nothing to do with women, family, marriage, after losing both of his legs in an Army training incident. But she persisted. My mom was the most social person I've known, I'd leave her at the store door to go get her car, 90 seconds later I'm back, she's made a stranger friend, bummed a smoke off him, and was writing down his address because his son is deployed to Afghanistan and she's FedExing them some homemade salsa and candy. She shipped out such care packages daily, year in year out, she got awards for her veterans volunteering.
If I had even a quarter of that I'd be a Senator or CEO today.
yep, when i was a kid i could hear how all the moms were throwing around the number 1.85cm, roughly 6.1feet. that was in late 90's early 2k in romania. also i drove with a guy (crew truck driver) that told me some really wild stories about his grandfather. turns out his grandpappy was laying pipe in a small vilage way back in the day. he even fucked the priest's wife. women have always been like this, it's just visible now due to internet.
There’s a lot of couples married in 99-2000, who are coming up on 25 years. We need to fix ourselves first, so that we can be the 30year marriage in 2055
TH-cam Mary and Jesus in the Quran and Mohmmad in the Bible and the Scientific Miracles of the Quran
My ex wanted to get married, i said no.
So she left and married another guy...
2 years later she's left him to come after me again.
Stay safe
Did you took her back or sent her to the streets?
She wanted to get married. She didn't want to be a wife. You dodged a bullet there.
@@devilcwesker5980 He's refering to her as his ex, so i'd assume he took option b.
No, did not take her back. Nor will i. My offer is the same as before: stay with me if you want, but i'm never getting married or cohabitating.
I met my wife when I was 16 and she was 15, and we’ve been together for 16 years. Thank god I got to sidestep all this dating shit. We helped each other get to where we are now, and even though we aren’t rich, we’re comfortable and happy.
based
JBF is law
@@ethanc6638 What is JBF?
I knew my wife when I was 19 but I told her I won't get married until 30. If she can't wait that long, then she is not the one. 20+ yrs married so far.
"Just Be First"
I was literally suspended for being punched and not retaliating. When we were brought in for conflict resolution, the teacher asked what we learned and I looked her dead in the face and said,”the next time someone hits me I’m going to hit them back.” She was cool thankfully and thought the punishment was bullshit but had to follow through because it was school policy.
Public Schools are dens of misandry
If you get punished anyway might as well fight. Then there is no next time.
The mom tinder thing hit home. I remember asking my mom when I was young why she married my dad and her response was " it was a small town"
my mom married my dad at 16, they were from the same rural village in mexico, my dad was able to get citizenship and she was allowed to come here and they had a family. the village only had like 300 people
Oh, Thit!
Brutal
Ouch!
this sounds both horrible and wholesome at the same time
maybe humans are not compatible with technology after all
Boy I sure just love working for decades to be "settled for" and get the leftovers of what men with Height for personality and Face for skills got for no time, effort, or cost.
exactly
accept it. Do you think Michael Jordan's wife would be with him if he was a mechanic? As men, this is our lot in life. If we want to mate, you have to be worthy of it.
This viewpoint is always so interesting to me. What do you mean you get the leftovers of what other men got with "Height for personality"? I guess you are talking about sex?
See, from what you write it seems like you think women are not interested in you because you don`t look hot enough or something.
Have you ever thought about that you seeing a potential girlfriend/wife as nothing else but a free fuckdoll could be kind of offputting to women?
Don't forget, she'd do ANYTHING with him for FREE, be an utter freak in bed but with you she'll pretend she doesn't do this or that because you're not Chad
Damn if I could only go to a gym for my face and height someone would love me
I learned recently that I live in a "one party divorce" state, which basically means that if one partner wants out, they just get the paperwork, serve it, and the other partner gets no say. I found out because I heard through the grapevine of a friend of a friend who, at 24, has left her (second) husband who is extremely wealthy (especially in the context of where we live), gave her everything she wanted, was a nice and kind person (well-liked in the extended friend-group), and supported her through many issues. Her reasoning was "I have decided that I might want kids in the future, and he is ugly so I don't want ugly kids."
She is not at all attractive herself (Did I write that? I meant she's a 10). The guy is admittedly average at best, but could probably be better looking than her if he lost weight and got fit. He even pleaded with her to go to couple's therapy first, and then if she was so sure she could leave.
Was at a friend's baby shower recently, and this girl was there. Currently complaining with other women about how she isn't getting any good matches on OLD, and that she doesn't understand why. She also filters any potential men by their horoscope and excludes the ones the stars say she's incompatible with I guess. Logic dictates that she's not gonna have a good time, and at least the rich ex-husband will likely be able to find someone.
black p1ll never fails
A 304 will use any excuse available to torpedo a stable relationship. But the real reason is always the same…she’s a 304 and that’s what 304s do.
I know someone who married one of Henry Ford's great grandsons. She was given a life of luxury few could dream of. She divorced him because she suddenly got bored of him for no apparent reason. Despite he never cheated and she didn't even have to work. All while living a life of luxury to an extreme.
She got as much as she is gonna get and now she began her journey down hill.
She is going to be bitter and alone soon.
I shall quote directly from a prominent dual-citizen feminist. Linda Gordon. One who identifies with Israel BTW as all professional feminists do.
[quote] "The nuclear family must be destroyed. Whatever its ultimate meaning, the break up of families is an objectively revolutionary process. No woman should have to deny herself any opportunities because of her special responsibilities to her children."
Unpack that doozy and it's not hard to read between the lines. The collapse of marriage and Western civilization are traced directly to the dual-citizens and their feminism specialists.
I found out yesterday that one of my extended family members is separating and likely divorcing her husband after something like a decade of marriage because she wants to have sex with other people.
I’ve seen it coming. Twice in the past year at a family gathering I’ve heard her talking with her friends about how, “humans aren’t meant for monogamy.” And how unnatural it is to be monogamous. It’s been an open secret that she’s made him go on swinging vacations with other couples and has gone on “girls trips” to Italy and Spain. Where she had the absolute gall to post pictures on Facebook of her posing with her hunky “guide.”
They have two little girls that are just about the most bright, sweet, wonderful little girls you can imagine. And she is prepared to ruin their family and futures just to get her rocks off. She’s claiming that he hasn’t “been there for her emotionally.” But providing a crazy amount of money to afford her lavish lifestyle and tending to their daughters while she’s gallivanting across Europe on what was quite obviously a sexual tourism expedition (admittedly I don’t know that for sure but it feels obvious), that all wasn’t enough.
And what’s worse is that he’s reaching out to her family for help to talk her out of it and from what I understand they’ve all told him to man up or that they have to support her because she’s their sister.
It makes be physically sick and I had to calm myself down when I found out. I got divorced in the past year. It hurt like hell even without any children. But now I’m thankful that my exwife at least didn’t pull anything like this. This guy and I aren’t close and he’s not wanting to talk to me about it for obvious reasons. But it’s unlikely I’ll ever be friendly with her again.
And now I’m left to wonder: are those two sweet, smart, adorable little girls doomed to grow up and be like their mother? Or might they learn the lesson of what selfishness does to the people around you? I don’t know.
It's pretty wild that we fight tirelessly generation after generation for a higher standard of living. But this is the kind of people that are produced when things are too easy and entitled ironically. People form the strongest of bonds when they are committed through a hard life together. And those 2 little girls are the innocent bystanders thoughtlessly affected by this. Wild times
It's time to pat myself on the back again for not getting married. Even loneliness doesn't sting as much as that level of humiliation.
Depends on if the mother tries to get her claws into the daughters at certain points. If she abandons them then the daughters will be hurt but will swear too not be like that when they grow up.
If the mother gets her claws in, she’ll twist their minds and turn them into narcissists like herself.
She's right about monogamy, though.
@@caiofernando We're not meant for monogamy as much as we're not made to work 8h a day. Both require discipline are are necessary for a well functioning society. So saying "we're not meant for monogamy so I'm just not gonna do it" is just weak and dumb as hell and generally a very stupid thing to encourage on a large scale. That mindset needs shaming, not encouragement.
So yeah, in the process of divorce and a lot of this is actually quite spot on. My ex opt to leave because “she needed to find herself.” We were in the middle of raising two young kids, it was hard for her, she hit eject. Rough patches exist and the eject button is getting bigger and bigger. My grandparents literally had to survive an economic depression together, otherwise they would have probably just died. Times are very different
Imagine if your grandmas bridge club was the size of entire internet whispering in her ear how she could do better every day 16 hours a day.
Important to note I’m 37 and she’s 36 so the idea of “finding themselves” is very ridiculous and shows a huge lack of self development over the years
You should force her to either take full custody of the kids or you get full custody of the kids. This way she doesn't have a bargaining chip to hold over you. And it's better for the kids without having parents trying to use them to be petty with the other. If she gets full custody then she wont be able to live out her single fantasy. If you get full custody then she won't get to see her kids and she might even have to pay child support. I know it might seem harsh but there's nothing worse than split custody.
To add from an article about the subject:
" "Son’s wife is definitely going to divorce him. Said they could do 50/50 custody. Son taking Vox’s advice, says he’s not going to play the custody game and argue over every little life decision with her. If she wants her “freedom,” he wants full custody, if she won’t give it to him, then she can have full custody and responsibility for the two kids 24/7/365. Says she was shocked to hear it, thinking she was going to have a nice set up. Says she’ll take full custody then. I think she thinks he’s bluffing.
My wife is aghast that he’s taken this position, but I agree it’s the right course. His wife can’t manage without him pitching in considerably. No way she’s going to do it without him in the picture helping out, working full time, and trapped at home every night as the kids sleep. She has no local support network. Even if she goes through with taking full custody, I can’t see her keeping it."
It’s a brutal and difficult decision, but it is the right one in the situation of a wife-driven divorce. Given the way the legal deck is stacked against men in the USA, she will have de facto full custody regardless of what the court-ordered custody structure is, only she will also have effective practical control of him as well.
This all-or-nothing approach leaves him a mostly free agent who has room to operate when she slips up somehow or tires of bearing the sole burden of single parenthood, as she probably will. A positive outcome is absolutely not guaranteed, but the probability of one is in his favor given what is known of her character.
The fact that she was shocked is good. It means she never even contemplated what is now the most likely outcome. And the possibility of turning all the responsibility for the children over to her ex-husband is going to grow more and more tempting to her over time, especially when she wants to pursue men who will be actively dissuaded by her having children.
"Son’s wife definitely is not getting it. She made a list of what she wants in the mediation agreement. After listing several household items, she included “100% legal and physical custody” of the children. She then went on to list that visitation will be decided at the beginning of each month, with her getting at least one weekend with the girls. My son is resetting her expectations that she will have them every weekend, all weekend, and every evening as well."
Notice the wife’s incoherent desires and her inability to understand what 100-percent custody means. It’s simply not wise to base one’s strategy on such a creature’s ability to recognize, let alone be reasonable about, the best interests of the children.
It may sound callous and counterintuitive, but the observable fact is that in certain situations, the best way a man can protect his children is by demonstrating that he is willing to walk away from them. "
Intresting strategy but I work 12 hour swing shift so full time custody is impossible even though I would love it. She’s aware of that going into this.
Women love the idea of getting married because of social pressure but have no idea how to stay married.
They like the idea of marriage but not the wife part.
A lot of women wanna get married but don't wanna be wives.
Women don't want marriage they just want a wedding.
A lot of them just want pretty wedding pictures on their social media and the wedding itself, when they are the absolute focus of attention. The status of a wife, the bragging rights from expensive gifts (like a stupid shiny overpriced rock on their finger).
And then the lights go out, the party is over and it's time to put your socks in the washing machine and pressing 2 buttons, and it turns into "oppression" and "servitude to a man" (because God forbid they do anything for you without getting an immediate reward) and if they are working (and you split housework), you will never hear the end of it, how she "has to do everything herself, why do I even need a man?". Almost as if the whole point of marriage was to be together for love and building something together...
@@SirRivelion This, 100% nailed it.
I got hit in the head with rebar 12 years ago. I got detention and the kid who hit me didn’t. If you want me to hate you all you have to do is talk about the school system and act like they do a good job.
when i was little, kids would punch me and i told one of the duty ladies. she said dont be a tatelltale.
school and job, Or school and work, do not belong in the same sentence. Ever
a friend of mine got assaulted by some nut job at school and the funny thing is his school has 0 tolerance for bullying, even had a meeting about it on monday, yet they haven’t done anything to guy who did this to him, i won’t say much but just know it messed em up pretty bad, thankfully i got there in time to help leave the premise and chilled for the rest of the day, it’s crazy out here.
Man I sure do love the school system.
In Europe that is, because no matter if you're in France or Germany, they ain't going to let any of that slide.
its run by women in Oz
"How dare men refuse to partake in a game that is obviously rigged against them!"
I remember in 2004 thumbing through the notebook of scholarships in high school.
As a white, male, 3.5GPA, non-religious, with parents who happen to be middle class, I didn't qualify for a single scholarship out of a couple hundred.
There were tons of scholarships for women and nonwhites, even if middle-class or with lower GPAs. That was TWENTY years ago.
At least a whole generation of men have been constrained and repressed. No surprise most of us have so little success we give up after a few years of trying for relationships and marriage.
That summed it up quite well.
Twenty years ago I got the itch to know why things seemed to go down the drain - so I studied.
Thankfully more and more people are realizing whats going on, though they are not as "fortunate" they have not even started on the rollercoaster called "five stages of grief".
denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance.
hey! this is between you and the womans. dont bring the nonwhites into this.
Cap n cope
@@smegmatic308 its not cap. i was also there in 04 it was a late 90s invention from a 70s invention
The only ones you qualify for as a "fucking white male" are state scholarships and merit scholarships. You will get state scholarships upon meeting the criteria, assuming they're funded. The merit scholarships are a crap shoot and still usually got to women and non-whites. That's Civil Rights law and its consequences.
My take is that a lot of women just don't understand men. My personal story is that my ex who i was with for 6 years, cheated on me, and i found out without her telling me. I kicked her out, since we weren't married (thank God), and to this day she's trying to get me to take her back. One of the big things I've noticed is how she talks about her cheating, the whole "i didn't love him, it was just sex", illustrates a fundamental lack of understanding of male sociology. When i tell other guys about it, they obviously get that there's no way i should take her back, but when i talk to women, they understand that it's bad, but don't get the degree of the betrayal.
I think in general men in our society are taught what woman want, but woman aren't taught what men want, and are surprised when they run into the differences.
" I think in general men in our society are taught what woman want," even that is wrong. They tell you lies so you can fail.
We're told what women SAY they want [from people they're Already Attracted To]
Men who cheat also say the same thing. "I didn't love her honey, I love YOU!". Turns out cheating women are just the same as cheating men. We're not very different, and that's what's so disappointing.
@parker9012 Yes and no. Simple "double standards" is enough to describe it.. She "doesn't cheat bc she only had sex". In her eyes you cheat if you have sex.
(Oh if I only had known all this 20 yrs go... at a mostly girrls party. I would have shamed them all, incl my then gf.)
They don't get the degree of betrayal as you call it bc it's not about themselves. That, and the "empathy gap". Rephrased: Its maybe not as much understanding males (your morals dont differ that much) as it's not having empathy for other than women (and maybe siblings and dad).
@@jasonwismer2670 Men and women cheat DIFFERENTLY. If a man has sex with some random woman, he tends to NOT have feelings. Unless the man is a Chad-Rone, he is cheating because his sex life is dead or he has to be a "good wittle dancing monkey" for some DUTY sex. He will still provide and protect his wife. He will still want to give his wife attention. If the mistress was ran over by a bus, he would think "Aww, no more sex."
When women cheat, they usually catch feelings or emotional attachment with the guy. They have grown tired of her husband. They don't respect their husband. Women tend to cheat to leave. If the Chad-Rone she was seeing got hit by a bus, she would think "Now I gotta drag myself to Basic Bob or Cubicle Carl. Hopefully he doesn't want sex."
I don't condone cheating, but I understand why people cheat.
It's all about the SHOW. If a woman insist on a Big Wedding no matter what your financial situation is. RUN FAST...... Fellas it Will Not Last. That's a RED FLAG once u hear it. Good Luck Young Guys
Most women want to be a bride but not a wife.
Some are calling it a, "coronation."
i've noticed the less fancy a marrige ceremony the better the relationship is because there is no illusion of grandeur, just two people who decide to live together and make a family
@@sovietunion7643 Yep. My parents got married in the backyard of the house they bought to start a family. They've been together for more than 15 years and realize love isn't akin to excitement.
Very, very sound advice. A big wedding is how women compete with each other. Nothing to do with the marriage. No different to a £3000 handbag. When she wants you, she'll marry with £50 behind the bar, and a rubber-band for a ring. In fact if she won't, don't.
Im 44, but I've been told i look more like 34. Being in the military, constantly working out helped I guess. 😆. Anyways. I've been through a divorce, a couple of failed relationships. So now, i don't even bother talking to women. Being a tall, fit guy at a bar, or club and just watch women sit next to you, constantly glance over. Expecting you to say something. Then, watching them get frustrated and walk away when you don't 😆. No more. My peace and tranquility are paramount!
Same here. 42.
That's right bro!!! You disciplined asf💪
They value attention. Not you. It is a trap to give up your attention on yourself. They hate it
What? They don't have any game/pickup lines? I'm so surprised. How will they ever get your retirement savings?
How do you have sex then?
I've been married and I have cohabitated.
I would love to have a female partner but have found they become a liability financially, physically, emotionally and socially.
Often you are expected to take all the responsibility and are given no authority making you a slave in a contract that benefits the other party to break.
But this fabled superman of a REAL man makes everything work, and fulfills all her desires! They don't have to start from zero to find him though, they can just party an look on your dime while you pay for all her needs.
Women have always been like this. It's just that modern men are tricked into viewing women as an asset
If you are expected to take all the responsibility, you’re being given authority. Leaders take responsibility for the actions of their team. Maybe learn to stand up for yourself a little more. If she doesn’t respect what you stand for, then either you didn’t make it clear or she isn’t the girl for you.
@@nickthompson1812 agreed 100%
@@nickthompson1812 A nice fantasy, but does not work under gynocentric law. Just get on a knee, sign a contract that removes a man's legal, parental and financial rights, then keep your new owner "happy" every second of the day until one of you dies, or she divorce grapes you. Funny fantasy you have there.
It always makes me laugh when modern American women mock and belittle the passport bros and the women of different countries for daring to go after what they actually want. The generational gaslighting that has been done to women is incalculable
And they'll continue to seethe as some men (passport bros) find love and happiness elsewhere. Instead of introspectively reflecting on the falsehoods they allowed themselves to be bamboozled by by a certain [...]inism they will instead blame men for attempting to find happiness elsewhere.
It’s not only women it’s men that bash the passport bros too smh
@@Figgs101 You mean the simps bash the passport bros. Most men I know could not care less about passport bros.
@@Figgs101Thing about passport bro-ing is that it only works if you're white. And then there's the women that pretend to love you so that they can get a green card.
My only issue with the passport bros is that their generally delusional. The reason you’re going to another country to find a women is, because most women don’t find you attractive. The only reason you have more success there is, because you’re richer relative to the women there. The other thing is most guys just go to get escorts, and don’t actually marry lol.
This is one of the saddest things I’ve heard. Especially the part where he says “ I wanted to do the right thing and I still got punished”. 😢
the only winning move is not to play
@@alexandermccabe556 PREACH. Seeking marriage in 2024 is the equivalent of volunteering yourself to go to prison. Like you KNOW it’s horrible and the system is intentionally designed to break you down and abuse you. So what on Earth makes you think you will be magical unicorn that beats all the odds?
Blame your kind
@@Llamaifunny Agreed
Dude sounds around the same age as me, it was rough, probably worse now. The system made it impossible to stand up for yourself if you actually cared about being expelled. I had a lot of regrets for a long time because of it.
At work employee of the year was a woman who ran the D&I community group lunches (one per month). Not the guy that gave CPR to the dying client and saved his life, nor (and I shit you not) stopped the COO’s son from choking to death.
I feel like we're missing some context here. Why does it matter if CPR guy can't run D&I? Did he want to run D&I?
@svendays Thanks for the comment but i don't think I made my original comment clear.
The CPR guy (Steve) wasn't interested in the D&I stuff as most of us aren't. He is simply a good bloke, colleague, staff member and team leader. He was in the right place at the right time, twice to offer aid and assistance.
The point I was trying to make was it seems the expectations seem to be different. Essentially where saving 2 lives is outweighed by holding a D&I monthly luncheon event for clique group.
@@Eehonda_again your comment was clear enough, I understood it just fine. The other commenter's reading comprehension sucks.
Did you actually do your job right? Saving someone’s life won’t make you employee of the month.
@@Cleifairy If you saved *two* lives you are already above someone who just leads group lunchs. Period. The system is rigged to benefit women
I had a similar problem in school. Literally fought off a bully hitting my friend and I was punished. The cognitive dissonance between the aphorisms and "wisdom" that are spouted at us and real actions begins that early. "Be nice to everyone" + "beat out the competition" all in the guise of 'niceness'
Ironically you could just be hardcore violent all the time and the school would just leave you be after a while. Kind of disturbing frankly
Because school encourages a feminine way of competition. Subtle and 'safe', verbal relationship testing. Men compete and come to an understanding after physical or explosive arguments. This is seen in wider society as troublesome or evidence of Anti social behaviour. Thus it is squashed.
They gave you a valuable criminal lesson: dont get caught.
ugh i deal with this at my corpo job. everyone is always positive and don't bring up negative personal issues!!
also minority bullies seem to get huge breaks lately. can you claim that or trans? Lol. saw a video in NY where a lady ran over a cop and broke his leg, she got an assault charge, not murder or attempted murder, or anything
mgs 2 moment
I'm happily married now but my ex-wife told me the guy she cheated on me with was a 10 out of 10 guy and I was only in 8 out of 10 guy. He left her😂
I am happy you got a little revenge. 😂
Lol what women dont understand is that her ap knows shes a cheater. Shes for fun only
She was a 4 out 10 woman 🤣
@@Heeroyui752 oh she was hot lol but a trash personality. I was young and stupid I knew she was crazy.
Bump that number up at least to 9. You know as well as I do she ain't spitting facts about the rating she gives to an EX.
I appreciate you making this video. Whenever someone asks me why I’m 29 and still don’t want to commit to the women I’ve dated in the past. I’ll send them this video. It sums up how broken the system feels. It’s emotionally draining the expectations women have.
thank you!
i know you have other people managing your server but theres something they maybe cant do without you: you have mods to replace: urgudfren was banned today after being openly targeted in image shitpost channel for "trolling" and being accused of being under 18 . your server and channel wouldnt survive if mods above you treated you this way, and now your server has these kinds of people isolating people content like mine, a divide and conquer issue. @@hoe_math
I feel you on the system being broken. I’m still single at 29 too, because I am so tired of dealing with the bullshit games on dating apps. Feels like people are looking for perfection instead of a partner nowadays.
@@hoe_math Hey um, just out of curiosity, why don't you ever bring up the suggestion of just dating outside western society? Yes western society is a fêmíníšť hëll hole nowadays and is completely collapsing, but other countries in Asia, eastern europe and South America don't seem to be as bad. My father got married to a woman in Asia and they've been happily married for 12 years. He was constantly getting divorced and having no luck on dating websites, pen pals, before that, I had no idea it was still that bad in the 2000s. What's the point of trying to date western women when you already know what the outcome is, you already know they're indoctrinated and they're essentially all nihilistic, conceded, sociopathic, dopamine & serotonin chasing addicts. Why bother dealing with all that when you can just date girls from more traditional societies and not even have to worry (as much) about losing 50% of your assets, getting cheated on, manipulated, etc? Albeit there are some caveats like language difference, culture differences, and things that take time to adjust to and get around.
But all in all, I feel 90% of women in western society are unsalvageable and are only good for hook ups and OF nowadays, trying to marry them is like trying to turn a free falling plane back up with only 500 feet of altitude left. I can't see why any guy would even bother, when there are much better traditional societies and cultures out there, with actual normal people who aren't mentally ill.
Besides that, thank you for your videos, I enjoy your content and I love the awareness you're spreading, keep doing what you're doing 💕
TH-cam Mary and Jesus in the Quran and Mohmmad in the Bible and the Scientific Miracles of the Quran
Such an excellent video. Been married 15 years to my highschool sweetheart. People laugh when I tell them how I love being "bored" with my husband 😂. He provides me a sense of stability that is unmatched. Coming home to listen to him give me way too much information about some sport or gadget and how it works, while i sit with my feet on his lap and he rubs them, is literally my favourite thing😂. Stability is a turn on for me. But listening to women around me, stability is sheer boredom for them, most women are like this. It's really sad.
"Stability is a turn on for me"
SAME, GIRL! I've taken a bit of flack over the years for it and have been told more than once how I go for the boring guys. If that's dull, then I don't care. I love the peace, warmth, and comfort stable guys bring me ☺
If you're bored, you're boring.
As a single 55 yo guy never married let me just say to you young men - it gets easier as you get older as your feelings will wane your worth will go up, the risks of relationships go up, rewards go down. Stay the course, work hard, invest, buy a house, retire early, and live your childhood dreams. My only regrets was not retiring at 40. Most men my age I know are divorced, financially destitute and starting over and probably die working a job they hate. In fact many I know cannot even switch jobs if it means less money and more happiness as the courts will rape them in alimony.
Wisdom.
100%. Seen that movie a hundred times in my circle.
Life is about managing risk . Its all about the risk reward ratio. How good are you at managing those risks and what other resources do you have to draw on? Most people will confess on themselves. That is one tip I can pass along. If you run into the odd sociopath, my condolences but I never fell for the contextual exceptions to bad behavior. If she has enemies and hates people, it will come around to you.
Another thing to remember. If you attract women at a certain "level" ,they are disposable to you. Even if you like them, friend zone them. You can get more. You can charm them, and be nice to them , but don't have sex with them. You need to know women and people and the best way to do that is by contrast. Meet a lot of them. Look at what they do, what friends they have and how they resolve issues. Again, only the odd sociopath really hides who they are. Maybe I got lucky, who knows? However ,by that time, I almost knew how my wife would turn out, and its been 20 years.
Why was I so forward thinking? Besides having an early relationship based on "she is hot", I saw my brother walk into a disaster anyone should have been able to see coming. I was determined to learn from his mistake.
Lastly, there is a social contract. If the social contract is broken by an unreasonable application of justice and ends up to be a "state of war" in Hobbesian terms ...What does she know of what is in the arsenal such that she will understand the benefits of diplomacy?
You peak at your fifties, bro!
I concur, seriously, stay single get a cheap small house, retire early and you literally can do whatever you want, whenever you want. Men have sacrificed for too long for what women want. From a risk return perspective it's a no brainer to stay away from marriage.
That song is literally what I'm going through right now. I'm a good father, and a good provider. We never fight and communicate positively. I'm 6'3" and make over six figures, but I'm not "exciting" anymore. I'm in my mid 40's so I'm not in the same shape I used to be. Once it wasn't "easy" after 15 years of marriage she is deciding to leave me. The only saving grace is she isn't trying to take me for everything and is with me on putting the kids first.
Basically me, but so far I've managed to hang onto her by the skin of my teeth. 25 years married now, and her leaving is STILL on the table. And gents, she's one of the best women I've ever known; a best case scenario...
@@AgentM3tallionwtf
She's in for a big surprise when she hits the dating market as a single mother in her 40s.
Start ignoring her and working/going out at times with the kids and at times alone. It seems antithetical to do so, and it might seem like you're running a risk of losing but you're already on the razors edge it seems.
Switch up your diet, drop the alcohol and start going out not with the boys but by yourself or the kids, go hiking, play some sports. When she asks and gets uppity, just leave. Start doing things by yourself, when she asks for help with small things assess the situation first before helping then her without saying a word and leave. Larger "helps" require more distance and "pondering"
Most importantly, start logging your TIME. Where you went, people you meet, gym time etc. You'll realize how much time you're wasting either doing trivial tasks, or waiting beck and call for a woman who doesn't love you.
Make it seem like you're into the game already and have options and that your kids are on board, but always arrive back ON TIME (Women love the "he's coming home late so I assumed he was cheating." route at court). She'll either back down or if she decides to go for the kill in 6-8 months you're already set up for living a new minimalist life.
I'm sorry, brother. Stay up.
make no mistake... social engineering wasnt a coincidence!
yup
Jews?
I can see it, but I struggle to find actual goal of all this insanity. They cant ruin the world over few dollars and a congress seat, right? 🤨
please explain?
Jews
This channel helps me keep my sanity. It made me realize that I never had a chance to get what my grandparents had.
With extreme wealth and wisdom you can still have what your grandparents had.... but only with both will it be possible for men of today.
When I say extreme wealth it means having the money to travel to any country and spend multiple months finding, investigating and dating good women then choosing the best quality. Most men do not have such money or the free time for such a task.
There seriously is nothing more crushing than having an ex entertain other men in a house you paid for
Does that happened to you? I’m really sorry for you if that happened to you brother.
Is that why you're a stay at home dad? Sheer paranoia? Cause honestly I can respect that.
I'm the kind of guy who wouldn't let that stand. Which is among the reasons I avoid signing any open-ended agreement that I can't get out of without losing everything.
kick her the fuck out?
Yeah I can’t let this happen to me because I would probably end up in prison
Simple, don't play a game where the deck is stacked against you. Go after your dreams... Stay away from the dream killers. Freedom and peace above all...
And remember how common it was for men in the past to be alone and unmarried. It was the majority
@@FirstLast-gk6lgstill is, no?
"Only 40% of men reproduce."
Amen!
A man can literally have all his dreams come true... by focusing on his career.
With money and wisdom the man can have the house of his dreams, 100% custody of his child(ren) and one or more women granting any of his wishes. Fathers just need to guide their sons in the right direction.
Marriage was the biggest worst decision I ever made in my life. Period.
women are not meant to have the same rights or freedoms as men. This is the consequence.
You’re a man I take it?
Care to share any details ?
No marriage was the smartest decision I ever made in my life. Period. 😄
Yup, most dangerous thing ive ever done and ive done some crazy shit before
@@bengraham5699 No relationships ever was the wisest decision I made in my life. Modern women are dangerous to men's well being.
Excellent information. My wife, whom I've been married to for over 40 years, hails from overseas. I met her here in the States, and she's far more than just a housewife; she's my domestic engineer. I thank God for blessing me with such a remarkable woman-she's not only a devoted wife but also an exceptional mother of four. She's an individual in her own right, and truth be told, I would give my life for her without hesitation. If I was in this current environment of relationships I would definitely look into the passport bros community.
Ive alwasy been impressed w non american women I go on dates with
"passport bros" is a cheat code it doesn't change the fundamentals. I'm from a country that some passport bros go into, trust me women here can be the same as in the West. They are not as far gone granted but most of them are especially if they're educated they're all looking to be "taken care of". The passport bros simply benefit from being considered "rich" just for being from the West, that's it. They're not getting different women but different treatment based out of a perception that they're loaded. If you were a billionaire in the US surely you'd get the same treatment from your local women. Tldr: some passport bros are "lucky" but most of it isn't real. Remember that they're influencers and they show the best of it all
What's her nationality? Can't just travel to random countries expecting to find diamonds.
I ended up in a cardboard box. Lost my kids, house, money, jobs, friends, etc so she could trade me up for her affair partner. I'll never bother dating again. I can't tell the difference between a good wooman and a bad one; if there is really a difference.
That kind of personally makes me angry… hope you’re in a better position now.
never marry again, but try and find a woman abroad
@@QH96 Women are the same everywhere.
I hope the best for you my friend
Dating is fine, I'll just likely never think about commiting again. I've been used and cheated on many times by women that I thought were good. Not risking my livelyhood for a partner and pussy.
If I had a dollar for every guy I know who got divorced and paying for his ex, his kids (who hate him thanks to the ex playing "victim")...and as a bonus of having Chad in the house he is still paying for....I would be rich.
You can add me to that list. I did eventually find a wonderful women to marry but it did require two divorces, hundreds of thousand of dollars in child support and lost savings to do it.
Many of my friends growing up were in this situation. I vividly remember the new boyfriend my friend's mom brought into the house shortly after the divorce and thinking, "that's who you wanted over the Dad? Really?"
@@jl696 was it worth it? Why didn't you quit?
Happening to me. Home, children 100s of 1000s and an insane amount of child support is stolen from me at gunpoint or I will be sent to prison. All because my vow breaking "wife" failure committed fraud.
@user-ev8hx1su5y Yes. Would it matter under gynokuk law even if they weren't?
I remember my last crush. We both were studying STEM in college. She came from a wealthy family but got a scholarship anyway and bought a car with it (to get to school, but still). She became a stay-at-home mom maybe a year or two after graduating. I think a sciency mom is better than one that isn't, but I'm sure the scholarship people wanted to see a female chemical engineer or something like that.
and that's the BEST outcome from the current inputs
Absolutely based woman.
It's so funny how many women get a career, and then switch it off. Socially, investing in men is such a better payoff.
@@eliotcamel7799 I would have absolutely zero qualms about burning woke academia’s money
yeah, literally a waste of fucking time, wether people want to admit it or not most women want to have children, even women who claim otherwise. those are usually brainwashed into thinking children are leeches and parasites. @@1Plebeian
I want to talk about the switchup as I call it. I actually did all of the steps in the video, went to school, met a girl, got a career job, got a house together, engaged, then she left me within a month of losing my job while taking the house with me getting none of what I put into it. Everything can be fine, then one thing can happen that's easily recoverable from and they just lose their minds over it. You also get scnereos where they tell you its fine, but then you get to marriage its actually not fine and they expect YOU to change for them even though they said it was going to be a problem. From the beginning she knew I had a interest in hunting/guns and said it wasn't a problem but suddenly when we get the house, its a problem I want guns in the house with me and need a rifle to shoot a deer with. I still want a marriage, but no one wants to go through all of this to get it
if you lose your job the longest they stay is about 9 months
Thats so messed up I cant fathom it, your ex wife got your house if youre divorced? What mf wrote that into the law its crazy
Narcissist Personality Disorder is a growing problem.
I think narcissists have always been there but since men have been declawed there’s no one to keep them at bay.
The bigger problem is that the word "narcissist" has gone viral and everyone is throwing it around whenever they don't like someone. It actually takes a licensed professional to apply that label correctly, not Miss Suzy Butthurt after 3 minutes on either WebMD or Wikipedia.
@@monkeyking617 Or living through that shit firsthand and healing from it. I was extremely stupid, and fell in love with a woman with NPD comorbid ASPD. She had all the signs, I completely ignored my intuition, the relationship was textbook narc, devaluation, etc, she lied constantly, every story I had she had to come up with one that was more difficult or better than me somehow.
I was obsessed for months after, spent all day doing research, and did a program to heal from narcissistic abuse, and it worked. So not always needed a licensed professional. Also, I got a polymer chem degree, psychology is a cakewalk compared to the stuff I took in that. So not as complex as people think.
Female nature revolves around narcissism, and women will admit that there's more female narcissists than male.
@monkeyking617 Thats nowhere near as bad as the problem itself. The symptoms cannot be faked. My ex-wife was diagnosed by a doctor she played it off. Cannot feel love or empathy and cannot honor a commitment inability to feel regret or remorse. I ignored it and it wasted about 15 years of my life stole everything from me because I tried to ignore it
The whole 'treat boys poorly in school' is a serious problem. I still remember in school being told to put my hand down in class when the teacher wanted the kids to answer questions and I was the only one who put my hand up. I don't think I ever got over that. Also when projects I did which were far ahead of my classmates(basic engineering/electrical at 8 years old) got me a B, and if I worked my arse off for an A, girls always got marked better or the same for lesser work.
Marriage has no incentive for men anymore. It has tons for women though. Its not a balance, a partnership, it is now a straight up gamble. Will you get cheated on, lose half your stuff, get cheated on and then raise another man's child, or get framed for DV or something and you're not allowed prenups because those get thrown out often because reasons.
ROLL THOSE DICE, say the party that has none of the risk.
Hella a lot of co-dependency with the low end of the scales tilting on men
The ground-level of the school sysrem is also infiltrated by liberal women that are getting worse by the year. The gov/unions are her husband and her MO is bringing down the patriarchy, one child at a time
Women are the house. They win either way.
I always recommend everyone read "Dumbing Us Down" by John Gatto. The most eye opening book on the government education monopoly in the USA.
Public school is about creating intellectual dependents, people obedient to authority, with provisional self-esteem. It's not structured to create self-motivated and ambitious people. It's all about control.
Ritalin is addictive
Men: “so do you want to make the same as a man, or do you want your man to make more than you?”
Women: “BOTH!”
Men: “uhh, you do see how that won’t mathematically work, right?”
Women: “You’re just a misogynist!”
Mathogynist
now that feminist statement about math being patriarchy makes sense
we need to stop basing the structures of society on womens emotions and do what actually makes sense and creates a functional society again
The answer is all of the above + more
@@asura8495 Liberal democracy is a disaster.
The facts are: would you skydive if there was a 35 to 45% chance of chute failure? That is marriage.
Half of all marriages end in divorce.... just because someone marries again doesn't mean marriage is successful.
I've come to the conclusion that there are people that believe in commitment and monogamy, colaboration, compromise, and working through problems....and then there are people that see relationships as disposable, people as replaceable, and that are quick to jump ship when there is a shiny new object or they are unhappy. They dont want to work at anything or collaborate. The difficulty comes in trying to vet the people you are talking to figure out which camp they are in.
finally a sane comment. you are right, not everyone is shallow, but many are, and how to find out who is who…? this i dont know
@@anarup916 Thats what keeps good people, both men and women, away from relationships.
One can live with you for a decade and still backstab you, and the worst is you'll blame YOURSELF for not seeing who they really were for all that time, it's traumatic as fuck.
It’s really easy actually. Watch how they act when they do something wrong. A sincere apology includes admitting wrongdoing, trying to understand how they caused pain, communicating to create a solution together, implementing that solution, and regular check ups on how that solution is working, along with creating a new solution, if the first one did not create measurable progress. Most women I have met will not admit to wrongdoing. The ones that say sorry never implement a solution. I’m 37 and have yet to find a woman willing to go to through all of that *with anyone*.
Unfortunately, this kind of conflict resolution is not optional for a healthy relationship. What I am saying is just textbook stuff you can hear from any psychologist on how to have a healthy relationship. If you are looking for a that in 2024, you are screwed. But, at least, now you know what to look for.
@samuelcavalcanti3345 Yes. You come out of it not only with trust issues with other women, but for yourself, too. You don't trust yourself to be able to see red flags or pick a decent partner.
TH-cam Mary and Jesus in the Quran and Mohmmad in the Bible and the Scientific Miracles of the Quran
I want my grandparents marriage. The whole "for better or worse, til death do us part" thing. They were married for 56 years and that's incredible, I guess I'm just an old fashioned romantic. Women like those from my grandmothers era are few and far between these days. I'm not particularly interested in being a loot piñata in modern divorce court for the "modern" woman who decides she's "bored" after a decade.
Its hoeflation.
You need to be 10x the man your grandfather was to get 10x worse woman than your grandmother was.
You should ask about the truth behind their marriage. Everything looks great on the surface, but drugs, alcohol and domestic abuse were all exceedingly common back then
@@iceman5117 If drugs, alcohol, and domestic abuse keep a marriage together for 56 years I'll take those over this wretched, cursed "freedom" we supposedly have now. Fuck feminism
Yeah in some houses but not in majority @iceman5117
@@iceman5117 love comments like these. Did it happen? Yes. Was it common? No.
Was the net result better or worse than today? It was better.
Nothing is perfect, and your idiotic comment shows how little thought you put into it.
"We got 5% of people with problems. I know we will destroy the whole system that generally works so now we have problems that are 100x worse for the civilization in general and we still didn't fix the original problem."
I have had multiple long term relationships end because i told her “I will commit to you for the rest of our lives, I will get a ring, I will have a ceremony, but I won’t sign a legal contract that can screw one of us if it doesn’t work out for some reason”. They initially act like that’s fine. 2+ years later that’s suddenly a problem. Strange, I thought it was about the relationship, not the contract.
They switch up on you because another girl pointed it out or bragged about getting her share from divorce. The worst thing to happen to women is other women
if they left you because of that, they would have eventually left you and taken half your stuff, if you had actually married them. consider yourself lucky
Interesting way of avoiding the legal entanglements of marriage but watch out for common law marriage. If your state recognizes common law unions it doesn’t matter if you have a marriage license or not. The state will say you are married and boom. You’re on the hook as if you had a license. Check out your state’s laws on this. Good luck.
@@TheOriginalBrent pressure needs to be put on politicians to reform: alimony, child support, common law marriages, mandatory paternity tests, 50/50 child custody and making prenups the default for all marriages.
I've had this happen with dating-level relationships as well. Last one I attempted (about 6-7 years ago) I proposed what I called a 'loosely-comitted fwb relationship'. She didn't really like the idea but she was thinking all she had to do was s*x me up and I would eventually cave in. Her real goal was to cohabitate and she was being a chameleon. Not happening! Shelved the idea of dating finally after I experienced that.
I just went through this, I wasn't married, but we were together for five years. And when she was at a distance, she simply became bored and decided, secretly from me, to date someone else. I put so much effort, so much energy into this relationship to then be left alone. I feel dead
Its been 4 months. Did you get better?
The scholarships part is spot on. When I was studying there were scholarships for the top students that maintained A+ or the scholarship became a compound interest loan or scholarships for those that were female. Women would apply for classes in STEM, apply for the STEM scholarships attend 1 class and cancel the class after they got the scholarship which was usually within the class cancelation period of two weeks.
Head hunters and companies would come to lectures looking for the brightest, women and offer them jobs and their education paid for if they joined the company. They were all smart enough to take the offers, most of the guys who graduated were without work in their STEM fields for years because companies also wanted 3-5 years experience from male graduates.
It wasn't much better in the workplace, guys get all the tough jobs and are expected to work without pay whenever their female managers demanded it or face losing their job. If you complain it goes to a female HR team who tell you to suck it up.
That’s why we need to help each other build passive income. Then we can stand up to that BS.
I, as a guy living in Canada, have struggled immensely to get jobs whereas my sisters seem to have a much easier time getting hired. Wonder if it's just a coincidence...
@@johnsampson6387 There government and private institution devoted to helping them and giving them money to get them into these job positions and laws that put whole companies at risk if they don't meet quotas. No, it's probably not a coincidence.
I encourage you to straight up lie about your education on a résumé. Nobody in recruiting (wine moms) ever calls a college admissions department, and they're ghosting you anyway.
What does 100% happen is "HR" comparing you to her kids. Whatever her (ex-)husband is spending on college, that's the standard. Same mentality as dating apps.
Gross, right? Here's the other side of the interview table. That guy gets to deal with constant sexual harassment (flirting with physical contact), because HR knows his salary... disguised as cougar joooookes. If he doesn't play along, it escalates. Because it's a sh*t test.
Picture a bored teenage girl, but she's 55.
I have a coworker that got promoted to making 20k more than me when they did not have the experience or knowledge because they are a woman. I assist her in meetings because she lacks knowledge in an area that I have. And of course, I attend the meetings and help because I don't want my female director and managers punching down on me.
Kind of getting distracted by a random point at the start of your video here, but the part about boys getting in trouble at school due to "zero tolerance" policies really reminded me of my own childhood experience. I remember being in third or fourth grade, and this kid from another class coming over to my group of friends, which was a mixture of boys and girls, and trying to kiss one of the girls, who didn't like it. Me and a group of the boys all got together and made him leave. I don't think we even touched him, but we got together as a crowd and he fell backward. The kid had a learning disability, and the principal showed up to my classroom to pull me and the other boy in my class out. She told us we were "bullies" and behaving "like a gang," and tore into us. She had the meanest, angriest look I'd ever seen on an adult, and she didn't want to hear anything from us about our side of the story. For the rest of the year, I had to leave class to attend an "anti-bullying committee" made up of students as punishment. Years later I became an elementary school teacher, and I tried to treat my students with the respect and compassion that hadn't been shown to me.
Yes. Women teachers in general are horrible for boys
*Tried?*
Funniest part about this whole story is the kid you told to leave probably killed himself or some shit down the line hah
yup
i think the same thing about "Zero Tolerance"
Even when defending girls the boys get punished by a woman.
Now they ask why men just walk by instead of helping haul their A/C out of their car. (Also regarding that one video specifically...why are they hauling the A/C out of their cars up to their flat? Aren't you supposed to order that and have it delivered and put where you can stow it safely until the HVAC guy can install it?)
I grew up in the age we got to fight it out, 40 years ago. It's such a good thing for men to be taught how to handle themselves. Not to be violet, but not to fear violence either.
The rabbit hole goes deep. How deep? Personally I believe most of the issues boil down to young boys not being able to rough and tumble play anymore. Personally as a Xennial me and the boys where play wrestling for a good 1-2 hours per day in school. You learn how much aggression you can use against others without the play breaking into a actual fight.
Play fights is also a way to establish order and status among boys, which greatly help at preventing actual violence and bullying as engaging in active play helps you overcome the displeasure of pain.
My social anxiety vanished the moment I bought my first gun.
@@MK_ULTRA420 so anyway, I started blasting
For a second there I thought you were talking about the divorce lmfao
@@zealgaming8161well see this part of the vid conflicts with my experience.
Throughout my schooling, I don't think I've witnessed a single fight, and not because I'm in a dark corner of the school yard during lunchtime.
I think the issues that begin for boys here stem from poor or absent parenting, which has much worse effects now in the digital age than it did before.
Now escapism is incredibly easy, and you can sink time into watching anime, or playing games, or scrolling through social media.
With so much easy dopamine, it's easy to see why there's been a degrading of social activity and less risk taking in social contexts.
It's no mistake male suicide is a prevalant issue right now.
Discovering this channel has made me so incredibly grateful for my wife, my son, and my life in general.
I could not deal with today’s dating.
I just scrolled down and read all comments. Yours was last. It is the happy end we all needed.
Amen, Brother.
Dump this channel before you turn into one of these self-loathing, women-hating men in these comments.
It's the opposite for me. Just makes me wish I had been watching channels like this two decades ago, so I wasn't saddled with the wife I have now. I'm happy with my son (for now, we'll see how the wife's influence plays out) but I could possibly have had a son *and* a better wife...
I decided to ignore dating in my 20s. I’m now in my early 30s and feel like that meme of Donald Glover walking into a burning apartment. It’s fucking brutal out here and I don’t know how anyone puts up with it.
I heard a saying that went something like; being single and lonely stinks, but being in a miserable relationship has carried a more lonely feeling than being single.
I can attest to this
If I’m going to feel lonely, tis better to be alone.
I think for a lot of guys, my aspie self for sure, the default is melancholy. I’m neither happy nor sad but can exist, stoic. I can accomplish things, sometimes I’m into it and there’s happiness, sometimes I’m not and there’s at least pride in being done.
But as soon as other people enter my space, it’s amazing how those people can change things. Negativity can really bring you down - especially if it’s constant negativity from someone you care about and who you used to find joy in.
Weigh it out brothers - if the time with your woman is spent walking on egg shells, and not joyous, then fix your relationship or get out.
Its better to be lonely alone then to be lonely together. At least when you are lonely alone you control all the inputs but together you only control half but invest all
a lot of those "single depressed men" are divorces, never forget that. They count the divorced men always in the single men group and never extra for a reason
bro 100% true, 3months divorced from a 7 year marriage, i didnt know what was peace, even my anxiety is gone now.
im eating healthy (no more fastfoods and restaurant foods, just my own good food, which i like)
and for sure better sleep
I believe a majority of women like the idea of getting married as far as getting a ring and dolled-up for the ceremony than the long-term commitment. Also, they rather wait for a man at the finish line than build and grow with him while expecting others to accept them wherever they are in life + baggage/trauma these days too.
Not to be all “not all women!!” But just my personal anecdote/rant. I wanted to grow up and mature with my ex-bf(we’re in our early 20s). I committed a lot for him. Family, career, etc. my ex-bf couldn’t care less, he only wanted to date someone he could see marrying and he though I was not supportive enough. I hate this mindset! I was starting to build up my career so that I could provide that support but he didn’t want to wait and overcome rough patches together. Sure this is just one example but I won’t be surprised if this sentiment becomes more gender neutral as well.
@@zozo-fl6jxwith all the talk of equality from women, yes you can expect men to treat you the way you and your peers have treated them.
That’s a bed y’all made, now you gotta lay in it.
I married my husband because I couldn't imagine my life without him. Getting dolled up for the wedding was fun, but it is nothing compared to knowing that I get to spend the rest of my life with my husband
@@zozo-fl6jx Honest question, what percentage of women do you think view marriage in the way OP described? Because for a lot of men, they know there are a few good women out there, but marriage is just too big of a risk to men to risk it.
@@symptomofsouls idk dude I just wanted to rant about my ex
What a lecture. How come this is not mandatory in schools? I work for a bank and every time I call a client to remind them of late mortgage payment and they inform me that the "ex wife is now responsible" he forgets the deed is in his name and it goes full circle.
Refinance or default...
He's already out of the house. He doesn't GAF.
Dare he to pay a couple of months in a row and the ex could claim a hidden source of income and demand permanent mortgage payment
It sounds like they're indirectly telling you that you aren't going to get money from them for the house they aren't living in anymore and the ownership of that house was (potentially) awarded in the divorce to the ex-wife.
There's nothing you can really do that can force that person to pay for something they no longer want to. You work for a bank, not child support. You can't threaten them with jail for failure to pay, just damage to their credit score; which in those kinds of situations tends not to be cared about because that credit score is already being damaged in numerous other ways. All you can do is one or more of the following:
> inform them, and the ex-wife, that if it is the case that ownership of the house was awarded to the wife, that they need to file a quit claim deed(if the ex-wife can't afford the mortgage she's likely to refuse, even if a court orders it to be done as a part of the divorce proceedings)
> reach out to the ex-wife to try and refinance the mortgage only in their name(they are likely to refuse if they cant afford the mortgage payments, which if its not been getting paid then they likely cant)
> proceed onto default and foreclosure.
Stop wasting your time and everyone else's by banging your head against a proverbial brick wall trying to accomplish what is indirectly being said won't be happening. Fulfill whatever legal obligations you have in sufficiently notifying involved parties of things, then move the process along.
You guys aren't seeing the long game. The court demands he keep paying for the house, while only she is allowed to occupy it. So what are his options? Either keep forking over money for something you can't use or stop paying and (she) loses it.
If he stops paying (which is what it sounds like is happening if the mortgage company is calling him), the bank seizes the asset and kicks her out. He is strategically choosing to win by losing. What's the damage? His credit score? Yawn. That can recover.
Let me translate "Ya wanna get married?"
She's asking us, "Do you want to pay me to work for me and service me?"
Nah, honey, we're good.
Holy shit dude, you're a brilliant communicator. This is really important work.
ty, I know. I didn't think anyone was ever gonna listen, so I'm making the most of this
@@hoe_math Well keep pumping these out man. The West is in DESPERATE need of examination of many of our values and we NEED people like you do act as a counterbalance to the insane, degenerative direction we are headed in. (And we need to do it without alienating those who are on the fence, or those who haven't yet begun asking themselves these types of questions.)
@@TheQuietPartOutLoud This is something I've noticed. If you truly want change in the world and understand the origin of a problem, especially a common error in judgement from a specific group, you should always approach the topic in a respectful manner because otherwise you simply perpetuate the cycle of hatred by calling someone out in a humilliating manner. All because you really needed that mic drop moment.
@@JibrilPCDoesn't matter. A calm explanation isn't going to change minds -- sadly it's preaching to the choir because the people who perpetuate the problems want to reap the benefits of a broken system but also want to complain about not being able to benefit long term from the broken system. Nothing will change so long as the system is in place, and women see absolutely zero reason in wanting to tear down the current system.
Don't push it.
His work is not that important.
He is "average".
This might be, without hyperbole, one of your best videos to date.
Agreed!
He has several good ones, but this one resonates.
Yeah I'm reeling from this one omg
If even 1 man sees this and is spared from the hell of western marriage (male husbandceldom/slavery) and divorce grape then he has done a great service here.
The music adds a lot 🙂
The concept of marriage as a partnership is part of what’s killed it. You’re not supposed to be partners, you’re supposed to be one. Getting divorced should be like amputating your legs. Under the idea that marriage is a partnership, of course you would leave if you’re unhappy. But you wouldn’t chop off your legs because of it.
I mean yeah, the "until death do us part" isn't suppossed to be something you just say at your weeding, it's a sacred vow sworn in a place of worship before God and men declearing that you would sooner die than leave the other person's side. The modern "vow" is far removed and a sad shadow of it's former self. Once upon a time it meant something damn it.
This sounds a bit insecure and controlling. You should never give up your autonomy, I don’t care what some drummed up legal document says. Unless you’re unable to make decisions for yourself, you should always have the decision to leave an unhappy relationship.
Amen
Not really, it's precisely because it's no longer a partnership that it's killed, it has become an incredibly unfair contract of service of men to women which has, given how most people behave currently, zero reasons to be signed. The death of trust and accountability was the death of marriage. Someone not trustworthy and not held accountable is NOT a partner.
Western "marriage" was destroyed the day no-fault divorce INCENTIVIZED and PAYED a vow breaking wife failure to leave for any/no/idiotic reasons. The only idiots now are the NPC feminized beta knee-takers who still submit to indentured servitude as a husbandcel under gynokuk laws.
Said it before, say it again...
Any woman who says or hints or intimates that "You're not exciting enough" or "I need excitement in my life" -
That is a woman you do not need in your life.
Ever.
That's a pretty good way of communicating DEI. When twitter laid off 90% of their staff and kept running, people don't connect the dots and realize it was DEI and diversity quota fluff jobs that were all being let go.
And on top of that they constantly improve it,adding streaming,community notes,voice groups etc..
"Kept running" if you want to call it that.
@@IkusaGT its doing quite fine now. When they had those layoffs it was QUITE clear that it was being sabotaged before those people left.
@@IkusaGT I have no idea how you'd call it anything else.
“kept running” also pretending like Twitter was made by white people only is hilarious, take that energy to the Hub champ 😂
“I don’t want to get married so I don’t have to deal with divorce.”-Modern Men 2024
I wanted marriage so bad. Then a breakup pulled the rug from under me, sending me into an 8-years long depression, stealing my 30s from me. And i figured out how relationships work.
My current partner would love a marriage but it's no longer on the table. It's a matter of survival, and not getting any benefit or warranty, as a man. Blame other women!
You’re me in the future. I just went through that breakup that will begin my own version of your experience. Hopefully I’ll come out of it alright, but even the best-case scenario looks a lot like yours.
Why blame anyone? She can leave you any time she wants if she does not then she is okay with this arrangement is not she?
I can relate. Messed me up, shes fine though ,she never had to sleep alone
@@damlakacmaz8743you must have been dropped
@@damlakacmaz8743No, she's looking to secure stability -- marriage for her is a retirement plan. And he's the Peter Bob to give it to her, if she can reel him in. Thankfully, he cannot be reeled in.
When i was at University i had a freind die at the university on his birthday. I was told to just push on and if i worked hard it would help me get over it.
Later met a woman who got a free pass throigh half of the course because she had a freind die 2 years before the course started.
It felt very unfair.
This guy’s out here saving lives. Not the hero we asked for, but the one we needed
🤔...not all Heros wear capes....some of them draw with colored pencil..
Bravo. Great comment!
I’m personally terrified of being married. I am a lover boy at heart and I want someone to share life with but I can’t fathom going back to square 1 over bullshit divorce. I’ve seen it happen to great men, my role models when I was young. Lawyers, business owners, hell even my uncle I though was rich cause he sold stuff, I watched them all crumble by women who literally told all 3 of em “I just want more, this life isn’t enough” one wanted money, one wanted fun, of course one didn’t even know what she wanted, and all 3 men had to start their lives from scratch. I’ve spent too long being frugal to save my money and working towards my dream position in life, I can’t let a lady take it from me. My goal is to own my home and the land under it before I let anyone move in. That way no matter what happens, I can keep the home I worked for.
Just dont marry anyone born and raise in the United States and you should be good
Doesn't quite work like that, you can't let anyone move in ever or you could fall under common-law marriage cohabitation laws.
@@ashraile I think he could at least protect the house by putting it in a living trust in combination with a prenup if he gets married. Then there would be nothing she could loot so hopefully it wouldn't be a thought for her.. It's like a poker game with the current legal system and men are the fish.
@@andrewericson8741...why even take the chance? DON'T COHABITATE. She has her place, you have yours. Then when she changes her mind capriciously...she can't loot you.
@@andrewericson8741 there was that Moroccan football player (soccer) who got divorced but had almost all of his money and assets in his mom's name so his wife lost the settlement.
😂😂 " You what to play chess? I get all Queens."
Honestly, I enjoy your delivery every time.
As unromantic as it sounds, request a credit report and write a legal prenup before saying your vows. If she has debts you didn't know about or won't agree to make a potential divorce amicable, she's not wife material.
Prenups are not enforceable in most States.
My approach to all of the changes that have disadvantaged men in the past few years is to stop pursuing and instead focus on making myself worthy of being pursued. Every time I feel lonely, or horny or discouraged - I try to focus that energy on improving the qualities that would make me more attractive. That self improvement energy is never wasted - unlike the energy spent on supporting the narcissistic self image of some woman who's already being pursued by plenty of other guys.
As a man who is pursued I can tell you it is worth it. I would rather be eternally alone than be the one chasing these modern women. If they aren't chasing you, then don't participate
Probably just attracting your own demise tho. Unless you are very disciplined about playing strictly catch and release.
Problem with self-improvement is your genetics are a concrete ceiling. You can improve but there's very much an upper limit to improvement for most men.
@Krelian4400 nah men have an almost unlimited number of ways they can improve. Genuinely a big advantage we have over women. A man can be valuable on countless basis. An ugly woman though? Doomed
If you have to self improve they will never love you.
Only your money, status, or muscles. Those go, the woman goes.
I got a female coworker fired 3 months ago because she sexually harassed me and multiple other people. I just heard she got hired back at the same place but in a different department and position. DEI at its finest.
Women will take everything they have for granted.
Bro my friend is paralyzed from the waist down and is trying to apply for a tech job since its his degree, he was rejected despite being the most qualified while an air stewardess was hired. It was for a tech role....
Wow, this is so accurate it's frightening. I reached a point where I feel quite stable in my life, and now I start doubting I want a woman in it because it's likely to screw-up everything I worked for...
Same here brother. Finally have a stable life on all fronts and am thinking about what's next, but am having serious doubts about women and marriage.
It will screw-up everything you worked for. Think about it like this: make a list of the things that you could lose by getting married. Now make a list of things you gain by getting marrid. Easy answer.
The answer is "no marriage". Cohabitation in a non-common-law-marriage state. If she complains and asks why, just teach her the realities of modern anti-men laws. If she still doesn't understand, she's not the one. Rational mature women know things are screwed too, they will come around and those are your keepers.
@@ShannonBarber78This. Way too many Manosphere gurus tell men to "focus on yourself; build your wealth" but that's bad advice for men who even want to think about getting married at some point, because then you are marrying someone meeting you at the finish line of your journey rather than at the start; a woman like that will never appreciate you for you because she's only getting to experience your best self after you've been through the ups and downs in life. It also means she has nothing to lose and everything to gain by being with someone who has already established himself.
@@Billy-bc8pkI mean you are true and all. But I have to give my own testimony of getting into a relationship while I was still in the process. I ended up expending the energy I had trying to babysit her and keep her alive and I ended up not having the power or energy to pursue my own goals. I held me back from becoming what I wanted to, and at least when you are established you have the time to give attention to women and still be comfortable. We all know most won't stick around without both of those. You aren't even an option with nothing you are invisible.
I was very fortunate to have an old British lady for a teacher in elementary school who realized that all I needed as a kid to succeed in school was an outlet for my energy.
She told me to just say your using the bathroom and just take a quick walk down the hallways and around the school. Walk fast because people don't think your skipping if you look like you have somewhere to be and it'll let you burn off more energy per trip.
Thanks Mrs Law. Idk what kind of drugs I would have been fed or what kind of trouble I would have gotten in for being male without you.
Im a 35 year old married mom of 3. I have many relatives who are young 18-20 ish girls. I pray my advice to them about this stuff sinks in. I pray i raise my daughter to think criticality through her choices and my sons to choose carefully. All big brain activity lol
Way to go!
I hope it's enough. But I doubt it will be that easy. Those girls will be brainwashed and "empowered" through social media where they'll quickly become unreasonable with the sole goal to consoooooome and be hedonists.
Best thing you can teach a girl is to appreciate, respect, and value being frugal. It has the domino effect of making them less shallow and hedonistic, where they will find peace and fulfilment in life with less.
And if "having less" sounds bad, that's just a testament of how fucked our consoooomer brains are.
Thank you, I hope women like you become more common
I hope they listen to you, because they sure as fuck aren’t listening to us.
We're asking girls to go against their base, animalistic nature, while at the same time GIVING them most of the political, educational, and societal power. In other words, we're asking them to ''settle down'' when all of their innate, natural, animal instincts tell them not to settle for physically average men. So they aren't settling down with regular guys because they don't have to because they have UNNATURAL political, economic, legal, educational, and societal power OVER men!
My wife and I met as freshmen in college and have been married for 20 years. We got lucky... but I'm scared sh¡tless for our son.
Get him through college and then send him off to a traditional conservative country to find a wife.
Decent advice, but remember that people from different countries may have completely different communication styles, and while their decisions may be the same, their reasons might be completely different. It is still a hill to climb. From what I’ve seen the climb is more worth it than staying in your home country, but that doesn’t mean it’s easy
Don’t be. You’re filling your head with red pill nonsense; get off the internet so that your child doesn’t inherit your negativity. You attract the energy you put out.
@@user-lt1jd1ye3v his son will find out one way or another
@@Raidori17college? Smdh.
Alimony should no longer exist, or certainly should stop when the ex is living with another person. Not a man's job to pay for his ex's partner. Regarding hidden bank accounts, it's almost impossible to hide during discovery of a divorce proceeding. It'd have to be hidden in an offshore account.
Hide it in cash
1/3rd? Divorce rate is 50-60%
First marriage divorce rate is at 1/3, all marriages is in the 1/2+.
@@conradmills4977 no, 1st marriages have 50% of div rate, 2nd marriage have 70% div rate
@@conradmills4977 According to the American Psychological Association, approximately 40-50% of first marriages end in divorce
@@NTJedi I must be using old data then. Noted.
The flaw in your understanding is that it is at least 60 years, more than your lifetime. The internet has enabled men to talk again and understand. Before this, men just figured it was uniquely their experience.
... and each single man that raised his voice could easily be picked upon.
It's definitely something in between this time, although only TV and movies were teaching people bad habits. Some people explain that women dreaming with 60s stars like Elvis were the beginning of this revolution. The internet came to create the illusion all of them can marry the "winner".
All the data and stats show that this is largely a modern problem that has rapidly accelerated in recent years. Feminism and social media changed everything.
@@jonashellsborn7648that still happens. the court of social media (which is overwhelmingly female or white knights) will bust out the torches and pitchforks if anyone speaks out about women's behavior.
Women act like their are nobility and that (non-rich non-handsome) men are plebes. "how dare you criticize your betters, sir."
That's so profound!
I think the biggest issue for the 0 tolerance policy in school is that it's main negative effect is on the victim. For example, I was a smaller kid. If I got into a fight with a kid who was a bully, I was likely going to lose. On top of that, most bullies don't/didn't care about discipline, but most people who get bullied do. So what would happen is I would get bullied, get into a fight (likely from being attacked by a bully), I would lose, and we would both get punished with me losing the fight, my self esteem, and be looked as a weakling from my peers. The bully on the other hand would look strong for beating someone up, receive the same punishment as me, and not care about the consequences.
These policies are inhuman. You have a right to defend yourself. If a school punished my child for defending themselves, I think I'd show up to the principal's office and ask if I assaulted them, would they punish themselves? Then I would caution them to think very carefully about the consequences of the answer.
In 2004, a high school bully kicked my hand and broke two fingers. The damage was so severe I needed reconstructive surgery to stop my fingers from rotting and falling off. The school did nothing until my dad learned the bully threatened to break my fingers again while I was still in a cast. I was not the only person the bully would punch/kick in school on a regular basis, my fingers were just the only severe injury he caused. When the principal asked the bully why he does these things, the bully said that I punched/kicked him too. I was asked if that's true and replied I only did so in self defense after he would start throwing punches and teachers would do nothing when it happened right in front of them. The principal told me I was facing expulsion for retaliation and bullying while my hand was in a cast, but decided to be lenient on both of us and only gave me and the bully warnings.
School teaches boys to never stand up for yourself, just accept being a victim with a smile or you'll get punished the same or worse as your attacker. Bullies on the other hand are taught that if they apologize when they get in trouble, it's like nothing ever happened so they never get punished or taught not to do these things
@@grandarchon6969 I'm not even gunna send my kid to these schools. The American school system has shown that it is beyond unqualified to ensure my children's safety, that on top of being unqualified to actually educate children. I know how I grew up and that there were several factors that greatly hindered my education and where I could have been if I could have just focused on learning rather than the socio-political environment of my school.
@@stevennagy6341 I think the education system failed kids long ago when they decided on the "no child left behind" policy. The sad reality is that there are some kids who are just going to become criminals due to the environment they're raised in, and there's no amount of benefit of the doubt that is going to change that. So instead of removing them for the betterment of society, children are forced to face the consequences of these bad actors until they inevitability break the law and are legally punished.
@@grandarchon6969 Thanks for giving me that idea if that ever happens to my kids.
As someone who got married, I can tell young men: Don’t. Just don’t.
Improve as if you planned to, invest in making yourself better, get into difficult and challenging relationships, be a good potential partner, but when it comes to committing legally because you’re sure you found “the one”, don’t.
She’s not the one, she’s not special, and the complacency of marriage will show it to you. And you’ll only see it clearly AFTER you’ve invested yourself in the marriage, and you trust her.
Don’t. Just fucking DON’T.
I’ve had the same experience.
Can't you do it at the church without passing by the gov?
@@sabn9139 Not in the USA, but even if you could, why?
@@Ebvardh you marry someone without condemning yourself to whatever incentives the government put to make marriage a fraud for men.
@@sabn9139It's not possible, so don't even try it. The government is waaaaaay ahead of you on this. It's called "cohabitation", and in many states you're still treated as married in the eyes of the law. You still lose everything after separating as if you were legally married.
You forgot to include the 1/3rd of men raising another man's child and having no idea about it. That ****** is insane.
Edit: Go look it up if you don't believe me.
always dna test. Except in France where *it is illegal* lmao
@@Shyhalu 1/3? You can't possibly believe that. Look it up where exactly?
@@tomasrocha6139 I am citing statistics.
Go look it up yourself.
@@tomasrocha6139 You can look it up yourself, I am not making this up.
@@tomasrocha6139 You can find studies on it.
"How do you write women so well?"
"I imagine a man. Then I take away all reason and accountability."
- As Good as it Gets.
Exactly, you are not supposed to end your marriage over simple boredoms and petty fights. If you can just honored your marriage vows your life would go without any problems.
This is how stable societies operates. Traditional marriages and purity laws were invented to solve most of these problems.
It's not that your life would go without any problems, it's that you can work through your problems and overcome them.
There are becoming fewer and fewer benefits to men getting married. Plus the selection is terrible, I thought women my age were terrible, it’s even worse now.
But the biggest problem is women keep asking men to change but are unwilling to change anything. So it becomes a battle of “ why try”
Let it rot. No housing, no wife, no work, no point. Let the super rich be rich with no one to make their lattes or fix their buildings.
There is no benefit to getting married when women don't want to be wives. Feminism taught lies, to hate men, and not be partners for men since the 1970s. Which that full conditioning took over the generation born in the late 70s and after. The main problem is that men let themselves fall in love with women and get blindsided with the reality that she wasn't raised to be your wife.
Fewer?
Neme me JUST ONE
@@arthurdirindinjr1792 Um... Uhhhhh... Tax benefits? No, no, that hardly counts, plus you'd need kids for that to work, and, well, divorce court is hell and will take far more than whatever you keep... Uhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh...
@@arthurdirindinjr1792taxes I guess
It's absolutely true. I was in a relationship for 7 years, and she left 2 months before i proposed. She had my heart and full dedication. The only solace i have is that we WEREN'T married because she admitted she probably would have stayed with me a few more years and then left.
I genuinely think our society over represses physical violence and under represses psychological violence (violence I'd just call damaging something - the body or the mind, or intentionally causing pain - physical or mental).
Yes, and women couldn't be physical agressors due to their strength, so instead they resort to manipulation
That is a sign of an overly feminized society.
Yes, this is absolutely true
edit: and it's not even accurately accounting for physical violence either
Good observation. Male violence is a crime even when used as defence from an attacker but women’s form of violence has no legal consequence whatsoever all just by ‚coincidence‘ that is of course
You're not allowed to use physical force against women but there's no matching taboo against a woman using emotional or mental violence against men. Men are just expected to take it and not snap, no matter how much they're provoked.
"You guys still want to get married?"
The mere question from these women is insulting to a lot of men these days. They expose their utter cluelessness regarding the lives and pressures of men these days. And yes, while no one cares about men, if these women want serious long term relationships, they had better start paying attention.
They don't though, that's the whole point. Arguably they never did, but socioeconomic and cultural circumstances made a long term relationship and literally a matter of life and death. They had to bend the knee to reality or die in the gutter. Not so anymore. For better or worse (arguably better, more human freedom is generally better) women are now liberated to engage in endless partner novelty seeking or upgrade chasing with zero risk or consequences. If it wasn't what they wanted to do, they wouldn't do it.
It is insulting. Good pickup.
You got it - solipsism in full effect. They don't care about what's important to us or how we feel. They don't consider us - only how things impact them.
Huh. Seems like every time I watch one of these videos, I learn something new. THIS is what the men’s rights movement should look like. Not just dunking on OF thots on Twitter (though we do need some of that), but articulate expression of what is wrong, how it went wrong, and how to fix it.
Sadly anything that doesn't make women seem like the embodiment of perfection gets written off and labeled as hate speech. This material is great but it will never be widely accepted - at least not without a massive cultural shift away from feminism and wokeness.
I'm fairly certain thats why he's doing this.
Its out there, just in the older content creators material. Like Aaron Clarey's books.
This is what men's rights movements have looked like for decades. Only the dunking on OF thots is what got popular on youtube so that's all people see nowadays. Most of that has nothing to do with them anyways.
Why do you care so much about people having an OF