Bipolar and Love Relationships: 5 Things We Want Our Partner To Know
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- When you live with bipolar disorder, love relationships can be challenging. It is difficult for our partners to understand our condition and the way in which stigma affects our lives on a daily basis.
In my opinion, based off my experience living with bipolar 2 disorder, I feel a lot of relationship problems occur when there is no open communication. Our partner doesn't understand our lives with bipolar disorder and we are too exhausted to explain. Educating them about mental health, and getting them involved in the conversation, is the foundation for a good love relationship.
Love relationships are difficult, whether bipolar disorder is present or not. If the person is worth it, they will try their best to understand our life with bipolar disorder. To help out, I came up with five things I want my love interest to know and understand about my life with bipolar disorder.
What would you want your romantic partner to know about your life with bipolar disorder? Please share your comments below or do a response video and send it into info@healthyplace.com. See you next week! Hannah
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I accept my guy 10000000% the way he is. Even before I knew he had it, I just have grown to love the man he is. I don't consider bipolar as a "flaw". I don't discount his thoughts or how he feels as everything being from bipolar. When he needs to vent about something, I listen. I have never connected emotionally with anyone better than I have with him. We really like the same music, so I send him lyric videos from youtube if a song relates. The latest one was "Come What May" by Air Supply that beautifully expressed how I have faith in him, no judgement, and love him how he is. In a few months going to get a green mental health awareness ribbon tattooed on my arm as body of a butterfly. To me, it's like saying it's part of him, not all of him, and butterflies are beautiful.
I did mine also but now he rejects me. A roller coaster but it seems like it has stopped for a way too long. He has never married at fifty he finally found a mate and rejects them. Go figure
Update?
Aww he must not be abusive, u won the lotto girl
@@trudymitchell804Same, it was like that at first too. Seemed to connect so well but it turns over time. For us though we had the added mix of meth addiction and then porn obsession with that. It's been a 10 year roller coster. I've learned your emotions always comes second to theirs which causes a really lonely life.
@@kelleyoneal9780 how long have you been together?
It seems a lot of women with bipolar illness need ir expect a partner who is always on point, perfect in every way, and is a mind reader. Basically a man with super human intuition, and more than typically submissive to her needs and or outbursts. Thoughts please?
Shoot. If i could get rid of my bipolar i would. I had a life before bipolar and bipolar took that from me.
My wife of 25 years was diagnosed with bipolar disorder early and our relationship. I have tried so hard to always be there for her. When she needs it and when she wants it, she system lane. Treats me with total dis. Respect. She does not show signs of loving cbring. She recently told me she never really loved me. She only needed the safety that I brought that all I was good for. Was being a great father and protecting her from people that want to harm her.
I understand she has a mental disorder wbut how. It's a man supposed to deal with it this long.I'm at whits end. The first 5 maybe 8 years of our marriage. She made me feel like a king like she loved me and that was all I needed was to feel that love she gave me. I try so hard. Do not take things she says personally because I know she has a problem.
But I have always been hurt punching bag. I understand we're supposed to let them be themselves and to be supportive, but what is too far? About 15 years ago, she cheated on me with someone I thought was a close friend.
I have forgiven her for that.
And don't ever talk about it.
But now. With her telling me that she never really love me. She just married me for the safety Bixby feel as if I've wasted so much of my life.
I am so happy with the kids. That we have togethey are my rocks. All I pray for her is to be well. Then you be happy.
god… how are you doing? i really wanna just give you a big hug… also have you divorce her?
You must have great strength, and I hope you can love yourself unconditionally despite these challenges. Does she have a lack of empathy even when not in mania? Or does she respect you then? How old were you guys when you got married?
I feel for you brother. I'm there..same story..same le el of abuse us some. It's extremely difficult to find that line between "supportive" and "this is too much and toxic". I wish the best for you and yours friend. 💪
I have to be honest with you bro, Run!!!! they only can pretend for so long. I seen this story a million times. When someone shows you who they are. Take it at face value. When a woman cheats, she's submitting to another man, and if you forgive her, she's going to hate you for it and show it. IE the disrespect. She's showing signs of narcissism and it appears you are in the discarding stage. Don't take my word for it. Seek therapy on this situation and love thyself.
I just left a relationship with someone with this disorder. It was too toxic for me, and I had to put myself first because it was not healthy for me. If you have this disorder, please get help and healing for the demons you are dealing with before getting into a relationship, or you will bring the next person down. God Bless 🙏🏾
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same here
@@rsmartin621 Hey can you tell me about it? Right now it's all about her and she is chronically leading men on so she can experience falling in love. Does this sound typical?
@darioussmith3450 I’m in a relationship with a bi polar girl right now.. and I feel like I’m going crazy
@@xantanatravels23get that person some help. Not sure if you two have children together but you have to take care of you. They are fighting demons that you do not have the expertise to fight.
My husband is very anti social and doesn’t want to get treatment- also denies that his in and out of suicidal depression is dangerous or draining for himself and those around him🤷🏻♀️. I have had to enforce treatment for everyone’s safety. So you’re take on bd is very different to how my husband wants things. He’s very stubborn, narrow minded and ignorant where as you are not. He’s very loyal, extremely genuine with a good heart just a very very unstable and self sabotaging mind.
This is exactly what I endure with mine... I need help! I personally dont know how to handle it and he won't get help.... Its getting to a point I often want to just not continue my relationship anymore.
You will answer it but will you answer it correctly or honestly LOL😂
I love how people with bipolar expect other people to decipher between when they're being bipolar and when they're being themselves? It's impossible for people to know that to know that
so yas want to be the dominant person in the relationship not to be an actual partnership and to withhold love affection and sex and only on your terms these things will happen
I would take mine away in a heart beat
I did. I accepted him for who he was but he never fully let me in. And when I would make him aware of my feelings he would give vague answers and shut down. 😢
I accept her when her mania started to get worse (flirt/rude to strangers/steal) take care of her when she's depressed. She leave me for another guy.
And i keep hearing them says. It's not the person, it's the illness. And this video saying the illness doesn't define you. Now. Can you explain that to me? Because i sure as hell getting too many discrepancy
Was thinking the same , shit video
It takes a lot offf energyyyy to diffucult
My man is bipolar, & I love every inch of him!
Honestly here. Am I the only one who takes weird as a compliment?
0:35 - We are humans. Not Bipolar
1:02 - Embrace what makes us different
1:25 - Get involved with the mental health community
1:54 - Don't try to save or fix us
2:15 - When we are distant, we still love.
2:40 - Being a lover. Loving Love
3:10 - Wanting and Never changing BP
thanks for this
‘When we are distant , we still love ‘ is something that should be spoken out loud , a lot
Sure, just:
1) Don't Cheat.
2) Understand that, if we learn and understand your condition YOU SHOULD DO THE SAME FOR YOUR PARTNER.
3) Talk, Express yourself, let us know about how youre feeling and how you're gonna feel at x time.
4) Develope mindfulness.
5) Look for healthy role models and mimic their good things.
6) DON'T USE YOUR CONDITION AS AN EXCUSE TO TREAT YOUR LOVE ONES OR ANYONE ELSE LIKE SHITE.
Just those 6 for now and WE'LL LOVE YOU WITH OUR LIVES.
Not trying to be disrespectful but my wife has a mental disorder and I was emotionally destroyed and I had to become bulletproof.
Dating someone with bi polar is extremely draining 0 out of 10 don’t recommend.
I embraced and adore him and he keeps pushing me away. I don't know when he really wants me or doesn't. It's been a while since he made me move. He acts like he doesn't love me and I have my all
But honestly if I could take MINE away I would! It’s hurt me and those I love so much.
"No!" Yes! I love it. Accept your partner for who they are and work through the tough stuff together. 💓
How common is it that people with bd cheat in a relationship?
My so called girlfriend thinks I triggerd her
Is there a law people with bipolar have against saying I’m alive or Ill be in touch when I can when they disappear for weeks out of nowhere ? Do you ever think of anybody but yourself ? How much trouble is a common courtesy text to someone you claim to care about ? Or does bipolar break your fingers too. Asking for a friend
Is this still happening? thanks
How about the ones that don’t have bipolar in the relationship? How do we cope with it? It’s been a struggle for me and I am so close to being done! A lot is unfair to me
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Is there a lack of empathy from your partner? Curious cause I'm interested in someone, but they are all over the map and currently in mania.
most videos on YT highlight the amazing sides of the person with bipolar and give you a long manual of excuses for what they do. You just have to swallow it all and accept that half of the time (if you are lucky) you will feel alone and drained and on a rollercoaster, and you will not find the same empathy you show toward them. It is gonna feel like parenting sometimes, or like a one-sided relationship other times, and all in exchange for just a couple times where they act like a normal person. That's the thing, they cannot be normal and they never will be. It is a rollercoaster, take it or leave it. I couldn't take it so I left. I empathize with their situation and the fact that they did not choose to be like that, but still choose to stay away because I also deserve to be treated right.
@@salomeyul you just described how my boyfriend is! I’ve felt like I put more in that I got back in our relationship a few times! He also hops from job to job! It’s been almost 3 years and I just feel like an idiot for staying! My therapist said when I’m ready I will be ready! It’s like you get addicted to having them around! It sticks
@@tabithatierney6512 if you wait till you are ready you might never take the step. You are gonna feel guilty, feel like you are abandoning someone, but if you stay you abandon yourself. People with bipolar require an insane amount of attention and energy. There is simply no way you can have a balanced relationship.
Do u think that your partner to just put up with their shoneyit
Finally found out my girl has this disorder so am going through every videos to know much about this. Thanks for the tips.
Run way!!!!! This does not get better! That’s what they make us believe you do not have to take care someone with BD you deserve to be happy!, I finally got out of a relationship with someone with BD and I ended destroyed, I have to be in therapy for trauma. But I’m happy I did I now don’t have to deal with the horrors of getting attack for any reason!!! Good luck!! Lwt me know how did it go loll
@@erulucas1549 haha it didnt work out. It was not a BD she was interested in other men. Gave some experience though.
@@erulucas1549 how long were you with the person for if I may ask and has therapy helped for getting over the trauma?
@@ashleysekobolo3392 7years and nothing happened every day was getting worst! Therapy help a little bit but it was still happening one day it was beautiful and intense next five days kaos!!!
@@ashleysekobolo3392 in my side for the trauma it did help a lot just keep your head busy doing something like gym yoga etc etc go ride your bike to the beach or woods keep in touch with friends!!
Doesn't everyone want to be loved like this? It is very hard when you are on the receiving end of it. They do the bad things and we suffer the consequences.
It can be very challenging for sure, these kind of people can be too prideful and private, communicating very little
I'm sorry did she say she's always going to be loyal to us?
One of the biggest problems with bipolar people is cheating LOL
This sounds nice if your bipolar isn’t affecting the partner. Easy to support them if you aren’t getting verbally abused.
What if your new wife (who is bipolar) gets really really mad when you didn’t have the reaction she wanted (even if I wasn’t a negative reaction), and she is threatening to call the police and tell them you hit her, and call you employer and get you fired, and she insults you with every sensitive spot she can think of?
What do you do? How do you live with it? I’ve tried every approach.
As this lady mentioned above…not everything can or should be blamed on bipolar disorder.
It’s sounds to me like your wife is just a crappy person. I’m sorry, but I’m just being honest.
If she’s willing to ruin your life over a small miscommunication…run.
@@supernova11711 Hm...you said that "not everything can or should be blamed on bipolar disorder". and you are making the person crappy! Come one! Neillatz at least is asking, seaching for a solution...hm....
I've been with a bipolar lover for three years. Never ONCE didn't they do or say anything hurtful to me, even during fights when very angry. So there you go, bipolar doesn't force them to act that horrible. So your wife does such horrible things because she's a horrible person tbh and bipolar has nothing to do with it. Sure it makes them more angry, but how they choose to use that anger says about who they are. RUN ! And don't feel guilty cuz you shouldn't
Run!!!
Hannah I do not won't you to get mad at me for picking at you about the hoops but I do like them and they look really good on you. now I had a lot of issues with my mom and dad growing up and my mom was bipolar. just like yourself I would not be here if they let bipolar get in the way of there love for each other. so I have leaned to honor thy mother and thy father and all that came before them because without them I would not be here today. bipolar power
Not every argument of emotional outburst should be blamed on bipolar disorder but a percentage can be correct?
Girl: “hun if you could take away my bipolar would you?”
Guy as he sits alone on Christmas heartbroken over unnecessary drama and a drained bank account: “hmm I’m not sure hun, I love you”
“I’m just happy you’re talking to me after ghosting me for 6 weeks after your kid spilled milk on your couch”
Yea followed all these steps with a person with was badly bipolar and PTSD always been loving paitent loving gentle etc always get shit on and tossed aside now ive been betrayed im getting put in a bag of toys as an option and all of a sudden for years of forgiving and still remaning tonguce nothing but thebutmist gentle love and understanding now im just getting kept around as an option on the back burner as they no longer wanna be commited to dating just me and want to explore other options as they say now their feelings werent genuine all those lies i believed inwas always left for absolutely no reason now im messed up
Some of the most difficult people you will ever have to deal with, they often need significant help with their shadow work
I appreciate your perspective over some fights have nothing to do with bi- polar - It's hard not to be hyper-vigilant in fights when you and your child both have PTSD from two long episodes of terrifying, aggressive hypo-mania. That's why we're not together - although I offer endless support as a close friend & co- parent. but I cannot see his 'angry face' without reliving the trauma. I don't want anywhere near it. It's an amygdala hijack and I go immediately into fight or flight.
RIGHT ON FREAKING POINT...everything u said👌💗
I love him for everything he is, we will work through whatever comes together. I want him to feel confident to move forward & address what he feels is necessay, knowing I will be there with love & support. Is it easy? No,it is a commitment to assure the best life possible for us both....
How is it going. You have a good heart.
First of all thank you for posting this video. My SO never wants to discuss his bipolar so I've learned about it on my own. I can't really tell when he's going through things because he's always got a poker face on. He says he's perfected it because no one has ever accepted his illness. What can a spouse do to continue to be supportive of our loved one if they don't want to discuss the illness at all?
I can appreciate the situation you're in, Davidica Music. It's really an impossible one. And besides talking to your SO about it and getting him to be more open about his feelings (therapy might help with that), I'm really at a loss to better help. I can see both sides. He's afraid of opening up and letting you see the real him for fear that you will reject him (I've been there) and, for you, there's probably a lack of intimacy because if the person won't truly reveal themselves, no matter what the reason, then it's kind of a one-sided relationship in that regard. How does it make you feel that "he always has his poker face on"? Hannah
HealthyPlace Mental Health well I didn't know it was an act until he told me. I just thought...wow he's not all over the place like how people with bipolar are described. After though, I feel hurt that he doesn't feel its safe to share all parts of himself with me. Since I posted this he has explained that in the past his loss of emotional control caused him to lose relationships. Says he doesn't want to do that to me. He said if he focuses too much on his illness it brings him down. I'm patient and I love him, so I told him if he can make small efforts I would stand by him. He agreed. Thank you for replying. I appreciate it.
Your thoughts are so well put and so true! Relating greatly to your videos on relationships and I am so thankful for your honesty and genuine content every week. Thanks Hannah :D
Thank you madis17. Hope to see you tomorrow night at our TH-cam Live. 7p ET/ 6 CT. Hannah
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Hey, the topic of loving love: Is is possible that a woman can be addicted to falling in love with new men, then getting them to friend-zone. Can falling in love for a woman be like sex for men?
I just found you !
I am bypolar an my wife of many years left me she had enough!!
But I just listen to you and I Think I love you!!😢
I'm working on myself, struggling with this and ADHD and PTSD. But I'm aware and am working super hard on stability. I'm learning skills that help channel it. But...living with someone while having it and not being on the same page with realistic expectations are a thing. It's not easy living with it most times. I want badly to be healthy to be with a partner but I want to be secured. Once secured...what's the best way to approach relationships again once you're good? What's a way to maintain healthy stepping stones in your attraction and what's the best way to maintain an evolving love?
I get punished for being bipolar and its agonizing.
Gteat video yeah when I love I love hard. Its beautiful to connect with someone and have them accept all of you.
Hi Steven! Acceptance from the person we love is beautiful--you are right! Thank you for sharing! -Hannah
I would love to give that acceptance....but first she has to start treating the issue.
I would love to take the pain from them, but change who they are? No way. I understand that taking their pain would change who they are, I'm just saying...
I am having to help him because they put him on a wrong medication that made him so manic .
This whole video is absolute manure.
she just keep ghosting me i dont know if shes trying to test me or what
LOVE YOU
I found your channel a few months ago following a massive breakdown a prolonged period of low mood and co -caused by my relationship breakdown…
I am so close to being diagnosed with Cyclothymia and possibly High functioning Autism..
Strangely I have always know i had something it but never realised it was bipolar/Asperger’s and was always told it was just SAD and/or mild anxious depression (which it all may be) but when I started to draw distant from my ex she seemed to want to move on…
May be marriage wasn’t to be???
Thanks for the videos as they are truly helping me gain perspective
So my girlfriend doesn't want me involved she went in a manic episode and cheated and he go to nownis to push me away and isolate from me and no matter what I say or do she just doesn't want me involved and I leave and she cone back saying how much she loves me and wants us but doesn't do anything to help
Run!!!!
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Very helpful video
OMG - great videos. Love all of them!!❤
thank you for honesty and information
Hannah I tried to add you on facebook! Add me! lol
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Yay Hannah we always bounce back
Awsome video
I wish you could share this with my wife😞
Hi. Just wondering why you can't share it. Hannah
HealthyPlace Mental Health bad communication
@@healthyplace because they blow up and verbally abuse maybe even hurt you
Sounds like a bunch of excuses for poor behavior. No person should have to be saddled with someone's bs..keep thinking like this and you'll never get a man. Js..
Interesting. I wonder why, if you feel this way, you would come to a mental health community just to put others down. Hannah
I agree that they need to face their demons, from the depths, past traumas, and take accountability. They need to work and share with their partner, even if they don't feel like it. No one is the other persons mom or dad. To love someone is not to say I dont want your illness. What kind of dumd thing to say is that? Of course people don't want to live with illbess. Would you want to say to your spouse, oh I wouldn't take away your cancer? Fool. One loves despite of illness but if they could they would take it away.
Hey there I’ve been chasing a girl tryna talk with her, i already expressed myself that I loved her but she just showed her respect.. day by day when i showed my poetic ways to her, I think she liked me too but shit when i tend to comment on her beauty as a text from dm she became scarce and then I decided to unfollow her. but than realise that she preferred not talk with me cuz unfollowing issue that’s why she’s been spoiling to talk with me, I’m from Istanbul Turkey and all shitty Turkish girl all spoiling awkwardly that I can’t stand no more. So pls advice me what I can do about this situation cuz, my mind is like speedy gonzalez and roller coaster mind.. I’m nowadays in hypomaniac I think so, but I’m fearing that what if I can’t talk with her because the way she spoils making me crazy 😓