So amazing, You are not reading this by accident. This is the confirmation You've been waiting for. God is saying to You, You are going to make it. No matter what the situation looks like right now. I am going to send a positive change Your way. With blessings, solutions, healing and love. So be strong, hold on, and don't give up. You're next in line for Your miracle and blessings. Amen !!!
@@murph804 who said love is the reason you need to marry? Do you then divorce when the person is no longer the person you “love”? Marriage was intended to raise a family, unify people and pool together resources. Love is a modern day conception
@@AkireMaru Especially when so many people quite obviously have absolutely no damn clue what "love" is supposed to be. A lot of people mistakenly believe that control is part of love -- it isn't (control and love are if anything polar opposites). Infatuation or being "in love" is not real love either. Yes, being "in love" feels terrific -- but when you take a critical look at it, you realize that it's actually very self-directed. Granted, most people are simply doing the best they know how based on the faulty and/or incomplete definitions of "love" which other people gave them -- but without ever realizing it, many people are essentially offering up a lump of pyrite believing it to be gold. Part of the problem, of course, lies in the fact that we really only have one word to describe all the different kinds of affection we feel for people -- our parents, our children, our partners, our pets, our friends, our chosen deities, our role models, our favorite movie stars, etc.. (We even use the same word to speak of nonliving things that we appreciate such as food or music.) The ancient Greeks had it right -- they used different words (agape, eros, storge, etc.) to refer to different kinds of affection.
Always be careful of what you say to her when you’re arguing. You can say you’re sorry, they can say they forgive you, but they CAN’t forget, & emotional pain creates deep resentment.
When a man truly loves you, there' no space to second guess. He will make sacrifices, be honest and straightforward, listen and act in ways that dictate so.
But he won't do it perfectly, especially on days he is very stressed with work etc. So be patient if he is generally a good guy who loves you. Life will always be full of ups and downs.
Yes that is true!!! A Man truly loves you will make sacrifices, be honest and straightforward, provide the support you need. Compromise and communication and put out fires.
I’ve been in a long relationship with a man who never held my hand, never showed love, never took pictures with me and I stupidly believed he just wasn’t an affectionate person. We just broke up last week and he said he just never “felt that way” about me. I realize I was constantly giving love and got absolutely nothing back, I’m sure it was convenient because I did every single thing for him. I deserve better, not whatever that was.
Agree. I love how he places the emphasis on being transparent with yourself especially for women and how our intuition is indeed powerful if we tap into it and nurture it
You would think so. But it's actually only their inner voice that women ever listen to at all. Their inner voice is also constantly afraid, undecisive and a bad judge of character. While you praise your inner voice, many other women fell into quite a bit of mischief for listening to their inner voice. Studies have shown (I think in Sweden) that women actually get happier when they listen to men. That's how you gonna save yourself from tragedy and heartache. But in todays society as soon as the notion comes up to listen to advise from a man, the women are immediately histerically crying about the oppressive patriarchy.
@@nightmareTomek nope not at all true. Our inner voice is spot on but we simply don’t want to face it because of the fantasy created in our minds already.
@@raeanneegan6191 What you just said is the fantasy already created in your mind. You women talk as if you need freedom of choice and you're getting dictated what to do all the time. Then we see you never listen, do random and idiotic choices all over the place, and run into problems constnatly head-on. Men all over the world shake their heads that you never heed their advise. "Becaus men don't understand the emmooootions that I'm going throu!" O_o Then you get into a relationships with a bad man and say you didn't listen to "your inner voice" or some similar bulls#_. When it's usually many men that would have told you the same, but they know you wouldn't have listened.
@@melvinjerry4975 It kind of was though, the person is just a collection of frequencies inhabiting a part of space and time, yes there was connection and exchanges. Energetic exchanges. It was highly charged magnetic and dielectric fields working together in the creation and destruction of potential in a dance that led to the feeling arising. We are forever shaping these fields, all is stored in the akash, when we tune in. Give it a go, I will as well, then lets chat.
This resonates deeply with me. The only interactions in my daily life are repeats of how my abusers treated me bc I'm not willing to accept any other way yet.. until I'm healed.. I'm working on that.
Watching this emotionally charged video brings back the agony of my recent breakup. My four year relationship ended abruptly when my partner walked away, leaving a deep, unhealed wound in my heart. No matter how much I try to forget, I can't seem to let go, feeling lost and unsure about my future without him. Despite my best efforts, I remain consumed by the emptiness he left behind, and I just needed to share this pain here.
It's incredibly hard to move on when someone you love becomes just a memory. I was in a similar situation when my five year relationship fell apart. I couldn’t imagine my life without him and fought endlessly to get him back. In my desperation, I reached out to a spiritual guide, who helped me restore what I thought was lost forever.
Interesting! I’m genuinely curious how did you discover this spiritual counselor, and what’s the best way for me to connect with someone who could help me in a similar way?
You should meet Fatherabulu, a highly regarded spiritual advisor who is renowned for helping people reconnect with their ex partners. His unique methods and spiritual insight have restored many broken relationships.
Thank you so much for sharing this. Your advice is invaluable, and I’m deeply grateful for pointing me in the right direction. I’ll definitely explore this and see if it helps me too.
Same here but after 14 years.. he cheated wiry a friend of mine and left me heartbroken. He seems to have avoidant attachment and I love him sooo much but I am too broken. I never felt so betrayed by someone in my life. He's turning 40 on the 2nd, I'm turning 34 in januar. He breadcrumbed me all this period untill I cut him off and 2 weeks no contact hoping he will teach out cuz I love him, but I think he's spending time wiry that 27 years old girl .. I'm devastated.
"If your partner thinks you're never going to walk away from them no matter what they do. You've lost. We have to get to a place where we realize that as long as we show up the way we're supposed to show up for each other, we've got each other's back. But neither of us will tolerate an unhealthy relationship and someone that blatantly does not want to work on making this better" That part!
I am from Alabama in U.S.A, I am the only child of my family. I was raised by a Priest After the death of my granny and father. My dad told me before his death that my mother died on the process of given birth to me. After the death of my father, my uncle John took me in as his son but the wife Janet was not really good to me
I am from Alabama in U.S.A, I am the only child of my family. I was raised by a Priest After the death of my granny and father. My dad told me before his death that my mother died on the process of given birth to me. After the death of my father, my uncle John took me in as his son but the wife Janet was not really good to me
I honestly believe so many ppl are in terrible, unhappy relationships because they are so scared of change and being alone. It is not easy being alone and facing dark times. It is not easy healing. I've been single most of my life but I absolutely don't put up with crappy, emotionally unavailable ppl in my life anymore or narcissists that drain my energy and don't give me anything back
I can attest to this. 20 years married. Horrible relationship. Still healing. Haven't even kissed a man in over a year. Been talking to this man and just being patient and seeing where it goes. So far, he's a great friend.
Realized we were both wasting our time. Ended it so now I can fully focus on my self before I give myself to anyone else. Singleness is a super power when used properly.
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self seeking, it is not angered, it keep no record of wrongs. LOVE does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trust, always hopes, always preserves. 1 Corinthians 13: 4-7
That was me.. “losing myself because I was scared I was going to lose the other person”. It started to make me stressed and anxious, questioning my own worth even. Lessened learned, if you’re not a good fit it’s ok. Don’t take it personal or your’ll face the consequences within yourself and your own value
For me, two indicators that a man loves me are peace and protection. Is he your light or your darkness? Does he cover you or abandon you? Those two things are unmistakable and speak volumes.
👏Really, that’s all a woman needs to know. Because I’m in a relationship like that now, and we don’t have the problems I had with my ex. My ex fed me a sob story. He was hurt and needed this and that to feel safe and wasn’t ready. The problem is, we become motherly. We want to take care of and heal. But the really ugly truth is that a man that needs a mother should go to his own. A man can’t step up for you, if you’re his mother. He can’t. He has to see you as someone that he needs his life together to attain. And because he has his life together, he has the ability to step into that roll as provider and protector. Not because you can’t provide for and protect yourself, but because a man can’t respect you, if he’s not serving you. He wants to know you won’t have a man who won”t step up for you, because you’re discerning.
Statistics show that women are the ones abandoning men, women initiate divorces in 80% of cases (or was it 90%)? If you're gonna say now "the man must have been abusive", it's not the case. The men are usually perplexed and surprised. And when the women are interviewed, they usually can't provide a good reason why they left (and often stole the house and robbed their kids of a father). I've seen some individuals ask so many uncomfortable questions until the women admitted they had left a good man for no good reason whatsoever. So much for loyality. That's how screwed up this whole thing is: women expect men to give them something that they're not willing to give in return.
I can't see your comment, YT makes it invisible. I could only read the first 2 sentences. I know that women love showing the exception to the rule. And love to pronounce their personal feelings as an argument. But statistics show that what women say and women do does not confirm. These are really easy to find, too, and have around the same values in all western countries. It makes sense biologically, too, it just paints women in a worse picture than they like to be painted in, thus they're always offended and there are outcries. But that's currently what's happening: women preach lots of sweet words (essentially lies) about loyality and trust and love and eternity, and in the end they are the ones to break up. How can a man even trust a woman then? The only conciliation there is for us is that the more naivly the women speaks about these things, the less the chance of a lasting relationship. So we can mentally prepare.
I've yet to meet a man who can be my peace and protection. Most didn't make me feel at peace or protected at all. Instead left me broken and used while I lifted them up.
My husband says he knew he loved me the first time he saw me smile. We definitely had fast love, hung out one time and didn't stop. It's still going strong ❤
oooouuu! well said! I learnt achieved this a year ago after my last heartbreak. Self Transparency is key- meta cognition and ultimately self-awareness which is indeed scientifically the highest level of human development according to Maslow's hierarchy of needs.
If it doesn’t involve you it isn’t the best ,never give up on love… If you take the easy path, life will be hard If you take the hard path, life will be easy..
I can agree! It's true that when someone is willing to be vulnerable with us, it can be a sign that they truly trust us and feel safe around us. When we're vulnerable with someone, we're opening up and showing them our true selves, which can be scary but also incredibly rewarding. It can help us build trust and understanding, and ultimately lead to more fulfilling relationships.
I think vulnerability is a strength and a skill (something that’s learned and practiced to be good at.) Some are still learning. But it doesn’t mean there isn’t love there. Or said differently, if a man isn’t vulnerable with you, it doesn’t necessarily mean he doesn’t love you. It may mean he is still learning himself.
Most people get caught up in a situation where they fall deeply in love with someone that gives them all they’ve been looking for in a relationship, they feel that comfort and security whereas the person does not actually love them. How can you get out of such situations?
There is no Mr right until we make him right. A relationship is never about how much at the beginning but how much we could make it grow into. My old friend and pastor would tell me, if you aren't ready to feel or look stupid, then don't fall in love ,lol But sincerely that is the bitter truth.
When I got divorced from my husband I thought it was the end for us.. we both moved on and started dating other people and did therapy on our own and became great friends because we had 3 kids together .. we fell in love again 4 years later.. it was a nice surprise and came out of no where
Going through a rough patch of my own, it's nice to hear about unexpected positive outcomes 😊 sometimes the pain of growing needs to be felt first before the growth can actually happen
I'm in my lowest now, I don't even know what I have to do with my own relationship, it feels like I'm the only one holding on now. I wanted to give up but we have 2 adorable children and I don't want them to get hurt
I have only felt the spark one time in my life. The man that I have been married to for 13 years. All other experiences always felt forced. When I met my husband, I saw the potential of having a family with him. Two weeks after I saw him, he asked me out. We were honest with each other in the beginning. We lost our way. I realised we were taking each other for granted. After 3 kids, we lost ourselves. A lot of negative things got let in. It was not healthy. I told him I was not happy. He told me he was not happy either. We decided therapy was needed. We started going, and it was the best thing we ever did. We are back on track. We're communicating and being honest with each other. Intimacy between us is the best it has ever been.
It's common for relationships to encounter obstacles, but there is always a solution. My own marriage faced considerable issues, but with appropriate guidance, my husband and I worked through them and deepened our connection. Solutions are achievable if you're ready to work together. Stay hopeful-there's always a way forward.
I'm facing significant relationship problems and can't stand the idea of losing him. My love and longing for my partner are profound, and I'm ready to do anything to restore our connection. I would greatly appreciate any advice or help you could give.
Parting with someone you love is always a challenging process, but in my experience, I had the guidance of a spiritual guide who prevented my marriage from collapsing. His name is Father Akunna.
I just searched for Father Akunna online indeed he is a very generous man and the most powerful spell caster that I have ever seen he brought my husband back to me with so much love ❤
When he spoke about how women's intuition is strong, that is so true. All the men that have hurt me, I always end up saying sorry to myself for not listening to my intuition telling me they weren't good. I will now listen to my intuition after all these situations but he's right I've always tried to ratioinalize it.
I'm the same. I know the rules to my heart but break my boundary and allow someone in. It is good that we are aware and it can only get better. But yes in hindsight it hurts because you knew.
Best line: You’re not missing the person, you’re missing the feeling. Powerful statement and great revelation for many (including looking at my own past). Thank you 😊
"Most relationships that involve connection and true love are typically hard. Not because relationships have to be hard, but because most people have been hurt by something in their life, are holding onto past traumas and haven't resolved it. Once they meet this individual that they feel so strongly about, it is scary. This is where things get difficult - is the difficulty, and how do I handle this? How do I manage this? You'll have people feel like they're losing themselves... but they're not losing themselves: their true self is coming out. And it's this self that's been hiding behind that wall they've been using for 'protection'." Almost brought me to tears...
See I know this but I have met men that can’t handle this once they are faced with it and this is the place where they will either step into their best selves or, run. ❤🙏🏽
For me, the covert narcissist comes across as a people pleaser. They like to be in the spotlight to get the validation that they crave for, as other narcissists but at the same time, they pretend to be humble, simple, generous, over giving. The covert narcissist will take time to build a relationship/friendship with you. During this period, they will show their admiration and their devotion by helping you with everything that is you need. They will try to convince you that you are soulmates and that they understand you deeply. At the same time, you will see them being overly altruistic, maybe helping society by engaging in charities, activism. They feed the poor, take care of the homeless. All this makes you think how lucky you are for having met such a beautiful soul. You want to be by their side for ever. However, soon you notice how much they enjoy being invited in galas to talk about their achievements. But they don’t admit that. They still play the humble guy who doesn’t want all this. Who is beyond money, beyond fame and recognition, who wants to share the floor with other people. But their acts don’t match their words. You come to realise that this selfless soul is actually doing whatever it takes to be in the centre of attention. When you do something together be it at work or at home, they want to control everything about it. They just exerce their control in a more polite and implicit way, making you believe that your voice was heard whereas in reality you did what they wanted you to do. Covert narcissists have a smooth way of leading you on. They don’t shout, they don’t give orders. They are master actors. They convince you that you are together in this. What makes them a narcissist is that when the time comes for them to use you in order to draw certain benefits, they will do it without a second thought and you are not going to believe in your eyes. And when you stand up for yourself and raise your voice against them calling them for their phony identity, then you will see their rage for the first time and the mask will fall. Covert narcissists manipulate less with rage/exhibiting superiority and more with people pleasing behaviour/playing the eternal victim. They are not aggressive as overt narcissists. They are more cunning. What they both have in common is self-centered ness and lack of empathy. In the case of coverts, it will take you longer to find out.They knew what they wanted to get out of you from the beginning. They created a whole theatre play to fool you about who they are and their true motives. You will trust them with all your heart but when the time comes for them to prove their loyalty by choosing your bond over their personal gain, they will choose the latter with no remorse, without even taking any responsibility. Unlike the overt narcissist, they will have an eloquent excuse for doing so, rationalizing why they had to f@ck you over. They will pretend to be sorry about it because this is something that matches the image of modesty that they want to project but in reality they are not sorry at all. You will see them partying with your own money when they said they didn’t have enough to pay you back. You will see them being unfair and untrustworthy to other people as well. When the mask of the victim will fall, you will see the cruel smile of a perpetrator who managed to get what they want without deserving it. If you decide to unmask them run for your life. Additionally, If you’re noticing unsettling changes in your partner’s behavior, it might be worth paying attention to those instincts. I had a similar experience that began with small suspicions. After months of uncertainty, I finally chose to look into it and uncovered a hidden part of my husband’s life-secret conversations, a separate email account, and all the things I had feared. Though it was difficult, learning the truth ultimately brought me the clarity I needed to move forward. If you feel something is off, trust yourself. For support or guidance, you can contact MetaspyClubLLC@gmail. com.
Also running her into the ground first while living your wonderful lives is probably not exactly a great way to garnish her love. Selfish isn’t attractive.
@@BrieRonoh yes, also if you don’t know whether you’re in a relationship or not because no one is able to make it clear its probably best to wait until you can get any kind of clarity instead of assuming you are for like 20 or so years without any tangible proof.
A disagreement is not necessarily a "fight" and does not have to be. My husband and I did not argue or fight,. We listened to each other when we disagreed on an issue. You argue when you feel you have to be right. But the goal in relationships is to try to UNDERSTAND not to be right. Peace!
I’ve heard that about not being right, but giving in and pretending to be wrong is no solution. Sometimes both people believe they’re right and there isn’t enough information to prove it one way or the other. In that case, you have to agree to disagree if there’s evidence for both. Trying to “not be right” doesn’t seem like an honest solution to me, though.
@@Lisa-om4it yes, I think that’s fine if you both are able to agree to disagree, even better. This is a different mindset . What I’m saying that the mindset of - proving one is right and proving the other wrong is simply getting toxic in a relationship fast. Because proving something leads to a debate , it’s like in a court. It’s about separation and showing that one wins and one loses. It’s less about accepting others feelings and less about understanding each other, it’s competetive and rather disregards others feelings. So this attitude does not strengthen bond and bring partners together in long term. Except if both of you are really enjoying debating. But then it has to be respectful and entertaining.
“ it’s not the feminine energy that’s the problem it’s who you give it to” SIR YOU JUST OPENED A MAJOR HEALING DOOR FOR ME. I’ve been taken advantage of and I really adopted my masculine energy and dove into my life in nyc after that. I def saw my feminine energy as a weakness till recently and still work to keep it open
Good to hear you're working on allowing yourself to be genuine and feminine. The Bible let's us know that God not only made women different but He also highly regards the type of woman who has a gentle spirit.
Correction: you allowed yourself to be taken advantage of. By falling for a top 20% man who's most likely out of your league and is never gonna settle down because he's getting all the female attention from the whole city. And at all the people here embracing you being the victim will just accomplish that you're gonna be susceptible to be taken advantage of a few more times, maybe until you get resentful and distrust men altogether. Or you just listen to advise for a change. Or you don't even have to listen to me. I've seen many men independently come to the same conclusion. One of them is Kevin Samuels, he's dead and has a YT channel and he talked about this, from exactly this perspective of a top 20% high value man that had always multiple women being in love with him and thus didn't want to settle for just one.
It’s sad when you love someone based on what they presented and then when you truly get into it they become someone you don’t know and you’re stuck because you can’t sustain it.
I miss my husband of 43yrs, it wasn’t love at first but it grew. I’ve befriended a man about 2 years after he passed and we have been communicating daily, only met twice. We have many things in common but I will start asking more questions since he’s told me he fell “in love “. I do care for him deeply but he doesn’t know how to communicate other than the things we know we love about each other. Real love and affection is not just about the things we want to do together. It’s communication about other things also. I’m glad I listened to this. Now I need to ask him questions about the future since he wants me to move halfway across country to live with him. He’s been alone a long time, had 2 bad experiences with relationships. I’m going to start asking questions not pertaining to the usual things we talk about. I have enjoyed being on my own. I do want to have a good relationship based on love, giving and caring for each other. If he doesn’t want to discuss things other than what we have been, then I don’t think this relationship with him will work. Just being honest here and he knows how I feel now so it’s time to address the issues beyond just the things he wants. I want those things too. This video really made me realize I need to do it now. What I give I want in return.
Things that stood out for me: The lesson after being hurt isn't that you shouldn't love, it's that you loved the wrong person Loving is the right thing to do, rather than being closed off, because it exposes who they are faster You may have loved wrong because you were not at your full potential/healthy/confident/healed self Love fully
Just recently parted with my GF of five years. We had three amazing years and our relationship fell apart the last two. No matter what we did we couldn’t fix it. After listening to this, I finally found the courage to talk to her rationally and we agreed to give each other space and time to heal. I was definitely responsible for a lot of our issues and I was never able to see my wrongs before. We’ve been apart for a month now. It was extremely difficult at first to accept this. I missed her dearly and at times I had to fight with every ounce of strength in my body and soul to not call her. I’m at week 5ish now and the pain has slowly waned down and I have better clarity about our relationship. While I do believe if we found each other again, we could make it work, I’m no longer trying to force us to work.
Give it another try , and learn from each other more be honest and communicate openly and when hard times comes , you both have each other as support Start as friends again and see if something serious can grow again God Bless
Being with my ex narc for the past 8 yrs. made me observe this very pattern. I think they wanted to feel very important in a way that is disturbing. Instead of building trust with their intimate partners, they destroy the trust that they built with you (in that case lying when they tried to put you in their pedestal). Once they have a committed partner, they can’t stand being loved authentically by one person. Instead they go on and prey on other women that is susceptible to their love bombing. My ex narc was a compulsive pursuer in a relationship. He would go back and forth to the women he were involved before or try to meet women in complicated situation so that going public isn’t an option while having you as their main supply. In the end they destroy the very person that loved them. They are like toddlers testing your love for them. Showing and telling them you love them isn’t enough, they will cheat on your face to make you feel inadequate even if you are more than they deserve. They want to test your love for them so they keep hurting you and when you have enough of their abuse, you leave. Then they tell you, ‘you never loved me because you abandon me’. Well in fact it’s their actions and narcissistic behavior that made you leave or in other cases they discard you and will give silly reasons of the discard. Mine would use, ‘she’s crazy’, ‘she’s a nega-star’, ‘she insults me’, ‘she cheated on me’ et al. So with this pattern of infidelities and emotional abuse (who knows what else) it’s better to walk away. I did walk away and is now rebuilding my life with our daughter. We are struggling financially because I’m not earning enough to provide for my daughter but now we get to laugh and bring with us sunshine every day. No lies, no abuse and no fake love. We only live once, forgive yourself and move forward but never forget the lesson that narc abuse taught you. That is to respect yourself to walk away from what’s hurting and destroying you. That you deserve a life of solitude, happiness and love. Hugs*** :) Additionally I hired a private detective Barryinvestigation@gmail. com. Once I knew what the narc was up to, it got easier to get over that lying, cheating, sack of doo doo, loser. I didn’t need closure from the narc, I paid for it. Best money I EVER spent!
omgoodness you are literally explaining my exact situation 😮!! I appreciate you sharing hope with us 🙏❤️For giving strength to know we aren't alone and it's ok to put yourself first at time ❤️ 💜 💕 🙏 I believe God is speaking through you ❤️! Again, thank you so much and congratulations for staying true to you and your daughters and especially God ! ❤️
Thank you, I thought I was the only one going through the same situation 😢😢😢 I just walked out of my narc partner last week & I feel free 🥳💃🏾 I walked away with no explanation to him... And his reaction was no surprise to me because it's always the same when we have a disagreement 🙄🙄 he even posted that I left him because he was poor 🙄😞 and that hurt me so much, because I didn't care about what he had materialisticly, because I was supporting him financially. And he wasn't even working when we started talking & I even supported and helped him get a job 😢😢😢 But I'm not turning back I'm moving on with my life and his still going on saying mean things about me and not even mentioning every good thing I did for him...... 💔😔
If you love someone you do whats best for them and not whats best for you. Don't ever mistake infatuation for love, loyalty is how you build love, nothing else
So true about masculine energy. A man that does not walk in his masculinity sends cues to a woman that she will always have to carry him. Leaving her thinking, that she can never be carried, that she has to constantly protect him and he never protecting her. Part of masculinity is protection. If a woman doesn't feel you can protect her, how can she truly trust you?
Actually... I think that's where you are in the wrong. Because it would imply, a feminine person could never carry someone... but if you look closer, women are actually often fiercer in defending their kin then men. I won't deny there aren't weak men... but feminine ones often are anything but weak. They're are just less dominant. But not being dominant, or being emotionnal, doesn't imply not being strong. But have you ever seen any movie, any story, which a feminine small guy being the protector? I haven't... so inconsciously people just don't associate it with strength. But it's often not a reality. I believe the issue is more that woman are much more naturall protectors then men. So if the dude has any weakness, of suppossed weakness they will try to protect, point. They tend to do that with everyone and it's fucking exausting. So a guy who seems not to need protection, a "strong" dude, is a break, while they'll project the needed protection on any dude who doesn't seem strong enough. And people don't realise either, what someone is worth in a real crisis situation, and that's what matters. And actually funny, in my experience, it's those feminine guys you then can count on.
I broke up with my boyfriend only cause of that! I don’t feel protected and he just didn’t show me he’s ready to lead. And me as an independent woman, this is not what I want. I want a man who can lead and protect me 😅
I’m just going to have to be the one to say this… and I don’t want to. There are a LOT of broken people out there. You need to take the time to learn who you’re dealing with. If you see signs, WRITE THEM DOWN on a piece of paper. Otherwise, you’ll forget or just ignore them. Look at that everyday and ask yourself is this something you can live with everyday for the rest of your life. Secondly, if you’re dealing with something you don’t agree with - someone who won’t change for the better. Ask yourself, “if my BEST FRIEND was dealing with this very scenario, would I hurt for them. Not would you do anything because we know some people won’t listen to logic. But would you HURT for them. If so, he/she is not right for you. My two cents.
I like the whole writing things down approach (you can even write the good things.) Another thing I think can work is asking yourself if you would be ok with having children with him/her (even if you say you don't want kids) and them coming out exactly like him/her. Can you deal with his/her mini me 's for 18+ years? Same personality, same attitudes? Are you ok with him/her raising them/helping raising them instilling his/her values, morals, habits on them? Would they be a good role model? Would you trust them to care for the kids if you're gone? Really sit down and think this through and be honest with yourself while answering.
@@alexialira3839 Agreed. Many of us put ourselves aside for the love of someone who doesn’t even deserve us. They put more thought into buying a car or a house. 🤦🏽♀️ 😂 Trying to keep it light but finding the right one is important and it’s not just finding someone who likes you. Like this man said, connection, chemistry AND compatibility. And you’re right, be honest with yourself. And take your time. Because if he/she is the right one, they’re not going anywhere.
Watching this captivating video stirs up painful memories of the recent end of my 4 year relationship. My beloved partner chose to depart, leaving me with an unyielding ache. Despite my relentless efforts to reconcile, I find myself grappling with frustration and an inability to envision a future without him. Despite attempts to purge him from my mind, I remain haunted by his absence, feeling compelled to express my longing here.
It's hard to let go of someone you love; I went through a similar experience when my 12-year relationship ended. I tried everything to get him back, and eventually I had to turn to a spiritual counselor for assistance.
I married someone who should’ve been a one night stand by ignoring and silencing my intuition. I lost myself being afraid to lose him. After my divorce I found myself on the journey of trusting myself as soon as my intuition speaks. The very first time. About anything. This singleness journey has me loving myself like no one else can.
When I red your comment Miley’s song came to mind😂😂!!!you have to love you before you can love anyone else ! When you love you ,you know your worth and recognize when someone else recuperate what you feel and the level you feel it!!!
The statement that resonated the most is "If your partner think that you wont walk away no matter what they do, You"ve already lost". In my case I had to end it and walk away. This episode really helped me during my healing process.❤❤❤
I think we all really know in our hearts when someone loves you! You feel it, they make their intentions known, they pay attention to you, they follow thru with what they say they are going to do, you don’t have to second guess. If it’s not there don’t try to force the process.. That never works!
remember ladies a man can love more than one woman, make sure you ask him the big question "what your future looks like with him"? then you'll know to either let go and move on or continue talking to him. I met a man that loved me and also loved his wife. showed all the qualities of making time for me and telling me to go visit my son and gave me money to go visit him. one thing that stood out from the rest of the guys that I've never heard a man say to me he said to me, "dont think of no man not even him". I laughed in my head because i believe he just want me to himself.
Most people get caught up in a situation where they fall deeply in love with someone that gives them all they’ve been looking for in a relationship, they feel that comfort and security whereas the person does not actually love them. How can you get out of such situations?
You can have connection, chemistry, and compatibility with many people! You have to have respect for yourself and them. You have to maintain self agency. I agree, know who you are otherwise you become what your partner wants.
Stephan was defining "connection" in a different way than you are. You can have compatibility and chemistry with many, but that "soul connection" where your spirit recognises them as "your one" only happens once or twice in a lifetime. I can truly verify this. I thought I experienced true connection before, but now that I have really experienced it I can attest to the fact that this is a once in a lifetime event and is like nothing I have ever known before.
Dear friend, when a man truly loves you, his actions will speak louder than words. He will prioritize your happiness and well-being above his own, communicate openly and honestly with you, and make an effort to understand and support you. Trust your instincts and observe his behavior, as true love is consistently shown through actions rather than just words. Remember to also communicate your needs and feelings to ensure a healthy and fulfilling relationship. Best of luck on your love journey!
Love what you said & also want to highlight that a man who loves you will also prioritize himself. There is this hidden misconception that as a woman in a relationship you need to come before all else & within that I see a lack of foundation. A man will prioritize the relationship you two hold because it is of value to him. It is also important that he is prioritizing himself as well because he is a active participant of the relationship. A relationship is not a one way street or a linear experience ( we face obstacles in a relationship, growth & more often than not new experiences that give us more understanding of our partner) it’s important that both parties are prioritizes their growth, identifying their triggers, work on their independent confidence/ insecurities, discover how to regulate their own emotions & reflecting on their behavior, etc. These are big foundational pieces & aspects to a relationship. Because there are moments where happiness isn’t present, actions can be misinterpreted, & or communication is difficult ( these are very normal things & it’s important remember that you are two individuals navigating a relationship together). I’m not saying that you aren’t aware of this I just like to empathize the importance of this in conversations because a relationship is complex with so many different areas that really stem from our individual experiences, journeys & choices. So I think it’s less about him putting you above him & more about how he elevates himself in correlation to the respect, love & care he has for you & vice versa because ultimately that will produce a relationship that is grounded in the wellness of each other & nourishment progress!
This discussion highlights the importance of understanding love and emotional growth. The journey to self love workbook by Cameron J. Clark is a companion.
A happy relationship isn’t about feelings but sharing the same principles, trust me feelings always come and go. It depends if you want to remain with them and have a family or move on. Beginning stages everyone loves hard because it feels good but the same values is what will keep two together. Not feelings.
Yes. Agreed. Short and simple. I am so glad that my husband and I were 'on the same page' as far as principles go. I married my penpal. We got to know each other by writing letters. We've been married almost 29 years now.
Love is a choice as well as a feeling, yes (the choice being to make your partner's needs and feelings as much of a priority as your own) -- but in all fairness, you need the feelings as well. The foundation of a relationship should ultimately be a close friendship rather than just infatuation or lust, but trying to have a relationship with someone purely for logical or practical reasons is probably going to be less than satisfying because most people aren't that logical or practical. Yes, trying to be in a relationship with someone whose values are significantly different from yours is usually the "kiss of death"...but while trying to have a relationship with someone primarily because this person "looks good on paper" is better, at least as often as not, it tends not to work terribly well in the long run.
@@OreadNYC I would disagree here that feelings have to be involved for a successful relationship. First this is first you must have some attraction to that person , but even that will get old and dusty what then ? Committed people figure out ways to see new things , in life and in their partner . Only commitment both ways works. I remember my weight loss journey that took me from 220 to 170 . I remember very clear that every single day my feelings where not in place as a matter of fact my biggest hurdle in loosing weight were my feelings . Thank God I got up did the works out and ate correctly without listening to my feelings , why ? Because if I did I would %100 be fat still. Feelings we give to much credit to , life goes beyond the way we feel.
Absolutely agree. Having the same core principles is very important when merging lives together. If you decide to have a family together, children etc. How will you raise these children? What values, lessons etc will you teach these children? 🥰😘
So far everything this guest has said about love is exactly what I feel. And then I burst into tears when he said; "love is about giving." This guest you have right here is a high quality man. 🏆👏
Love is about giving. This should be a real wide eye opener to those around us: a lot of takers walking amongst us & that shows how much of the population do not even love themselves let alone others.
I stopped having anxiety when I stopped trying to present myself any other way than I truly am. If you are genuine and they love you, you know they love YOU and not the idea of you.
Healing from childhood neglect , emotional neglect , abandonment issues. How we were cared from a caregiver can affect who we choose, caregiver was emotional unavailable as a child, we will tend to be attracted to the unavailable person cause it seems familiar and the healthier available seems boring although it’s the healthy option . Breaking the patterns , so we don’t repeat the same patterns. C-PTSD will give way to limerence so choosing g to one to heal it’s a process , knowing g yourself . Crappy Childhood Fairy on you tube gives insights on healing etc . You got this! You are enough!🙏🙏🙏❤️❤️❤️
"people doesn't change but actually they just become conscious who they really are" "sometimes you're not missing the people, you're missing the feeling" i love that
i just ended a relationship of 3 years with my first love. it was very toxic and codependant. one of the reasons i stayed with him is because i felt unlovable and thought id never find anyone else who loved me. he never loved me and he was a waste of time. he would love bomb me and give me attention when he was bored then practically go missing 80% of the time. it was a learning experience. im hoping one day ill find someone who loves hard like me and puts effort into becoming a better person and being open minded. i only know love is real because of how i love.
I was in you’re position 3 years ago I’m now in a loving relationship with the most sweetest guy ever . One thing I encourage you to do is to completely step into you”re feminine era to attract passionate men from the way you present yourself, speak and act trust me it works
My ex and I were together for 13 years, a month after he left me I met my current boyfriend, within 5 days of knowing each other I ended up in the hospital for a month, and he spent every single day with me taking care of me. I knew the first week he was my husband. I knew our souls had agreed to meet again. And that’s my future husband 💙💙💙
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let her go i did all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring her back
Awe, I’m right there with you. 5 years together but I’m slowly realizing and accepting I didn’t truly know who I was with. I gave myself without giving them a chance to show me they deserved it. Now I’m 5 months pregnant getting ready to be a single mom, and all he can say is he fucked up. This was on point, I don’t know who I was in that relationship and became the worst version of myself. It will get better❤😊
I left my husband of 27 years. I too knew that it was what was necessary, but like you, my body didn't understand. I became so sick, hospitalized and all. There are children involved as well so the guilt definitely ate me up but I've heald from it, I'm just so glad that I trusted my decisions.
My boyfriend never knew how to show love. I thought he took me for granted. I always put in efforts to make him feel special, but he never did anything for me. The truth is, he doesn’t know what I expect from him. Neither did I; yes, even men have expectations. And, we never openly talked about it. To build understanding, we now play "Lovify" questions game. In this game, we have to guess what we expected from each other. I learn a lot about my boyfriend. we are tring to open up about topics we previously avoided ❤
Work on your feminine energy. Not everyone has love inside anyway. If a person doesn't give you love, it's because they don't know it, they don't have it, they don't know... get out of there before they hurt you more.
Thank you for this video. I had 2 boyfriends before my 25th. A "Late bloomer" so to speak After a lot of spiritual, emotional growth and travelling around the world, I finally met my true love connection at 36. The moment we met we both 'just knew'. Immediately pregnant with twin boys we had 4 children in 3,5 years and still In love. If I had met him in my 20's I would not have recognised the love connection. It is all meant to be. I hope you all find the one for you❤
I felt so happy for you!! I think,when it happens,you just know it is love and he or she will be your future. I was hopeless as 18 year old because generation doesnt really like wanting to have family and thinking serious. But now I think I have enough time :)
@@blackeneddove Time is an illusion, feelings are not. When you, your soul and spirit feel it is the moment for love, it will come to you.. First love and know yourself, then the rest will follow ❤️🩷❤️
Most people get caught up in a situation where they fall deeply in love with someone that gives them all they’ve been looking for in a relationship, they feel that comfort and security whereas the person does not actually love them. How can you get out of such situations?
@@mylifeyourwill7800 Oh you can love them but life will be miserable. They will act like they love you because they need your love and adoration but if they don't love themselves they can never return true love.
What is meant for you will find you. Louis Hay said “let them go and love yourself “ or “let go and let God”. I am not the same person of a year ago and I am thankful I became aware of how is important for me to be at peace where I am in life. Single and glad I never got married with anyone I met because I had low self esteem. I have goals in my life and if I want to get drunk I’ll drink the best wine 🍷 Love yourself and be a good person. 🙏❤️
I love Louis Hay ❤ She has good advice for life. My favorite line she said, “You have to love yourself first before you can love those around you.” Which is true. How can we love someone or respect them if we can’t love and respect ourselves? ❤
@@cad5017 that’s a journey right there, then when we think we love ourselves someone comes along and we realize that we still have work to do 🤣 I have deep issues in that department and I am scared because I am aware how easily seduce we are. It’s a pointless conversation because it doesn’t matter, I realize that the relationships I have are worth it and everything else is a bonus.
The part where he said “Woman’s intuition is extremely powerful I’m a huge believer in it and I feel like Women know very early this isn’t it but they rationalize reasons to convince themselves to give this man a chance and this again is a waste of time because it just doesn’t work.” It is so true. Ever since I was a small little girl, I always followed my intuition. Except my previous relationship, I didn’t listen to it and it has been the biggest lesson by far in life. God gave me so many signs and I tried to control the relationship. I changed so much for the person that I lost myself. I am growing closer to God and I feel at peace, knowing that if I can understand how to allow God to guide me, I will be okay. I hope many woman and men watch this video. These are two very wise men speaking.
Its true. I left my child's father after 2 years. I didnt feel loved. I moved on and gave this guy a chance that had been chasing me since I was 18 years old. I've never been so happy in my life before.
In my experience as a woman, I am happy to be calming and loving when my partner gets heated and angry in order to get back to center…but only if they are being respectful. So often that line is crossed by men where the “masculine” side comes out directed TOWARD the female. I don’t believe we should be expected to withstand that.
There must be something wrong with my eyes, I can't take them off you. Let's commit the perfect crime, I'll steal your heart and you steal mine.😅😅 I'm sorry sorry for intercepting you this way but I think you need someone interesting in both inside and outside.🤔😊😊😊😊😊
Most people get caught up in a situation where they fall deeply in love with someone that gives them all they’ve been looking for in a relationship, they feel that comfort and security whereas the person does not actually love them. How can you get out of such situations?
Love is commitment, a leap of faith, a decision you make. It is not a rush, not a feeling. You deliberately make a choice if you love that person forever, even after death. To give anything, unconditionally, and be happy for that person's growth and success, moving forward together through good and bad times.
I saw a man at work the other day and told him I liked his pin. It was a rose pin he had in the middle of his shirt where the buttons were, he said he lost his wife in March and that Rose was her name so he wore it to have her with him. They were together for 50 and half years he said. 😢😮❤
At the 38:00 time stamp. Wow that resonated with me so much! Never ever let anyone change you from being a kind loving and caring person in a relationship. If someone doesn’t appreciate that or value that, move on. You don’t need this world to change you into a harder shell of yourself. The right person will value your compassionate nature and hold on to you ❤
What resonates: 1) “You may not be right for each other right now” relieves the pressure and allows for growth possibilities. 2) Writing the letter - love that - allows full processing. 3) express yourself - ending the relationship without stating the reasons why doesn’t allow for processing by either person.
Stephan and Jay do a great job of breaking down the signs that a man truly loves you. I think it's important to remember that love is not just about how he makes you feel, but also about how he treats you. If he's respectful, supportive, and makes you feel loved and valued, then there's a good chance that he truly cares for you.
Definitely an eye opener but also got handed a mirror. We both become an issue off trauma neither of us gave each other. And feeding off that trauma caused us to actually hand each other trauma 😢prayers to everyone 🙏😊 Things will get better. You will get better. God has a plan for everyone.
“We’re so scared of losing someone that we're okay with not asking important questions and discovering important truths that actually define whether this relationship is going to last. Ultimately, you’re not being yourself, you're losing yourself, scared that you're going to lose the other person so you're okay with not being yourself”
Divorce is never the way out, My wife and I have been having issues before I sort out help from a spiritual adviser,i wasnt going to let my marriage of 18years crash
I disagree. Sometimes divorce is the answer for some people. I am certain you are not advocating for people to stay married regardless of situation. Abuse? Neglect? Everyone’s situation is different. I am glad you decided to do the hard work to save your marriage. I wish you well.
This is one of the best dialogue I have seen regarding "relationship and how and why", let alone its between two men talking about very sensitive and intricate issues. Most refreshing.
Don’t be in a relationship if you are wanting to fix, improve or change your partner because wanting to fix your partner basically says you don’t want them! Ending your relationship may mean growing, so try it. That was Stephan’s best message!
Very cool video A month ago, I ended a five-year relationship. My soulmate made the decision to walk away from me, and even though I've done everything in my power to get him back, I can't help but feel disappointed because I can't see my life with anyone else. I want to say that I've tried everything to stop thinking about him, but I simply can't. I miss him so much and I don't know why I'm saying this here.
I learnt the hard way that saying goodbye to someone you love is difficult when a 12-year relationship ends. But I was unable to let him go, so I made every effort to get him back. I eventually sought aid from a spiritual counsellor, and he was able to assist me in getting him back.
I appreciate you providing this important information; I've just checked him up online. striking I just checked Father Obah Eze online, and wow, he's really genuine. Thank you so much again ❤
When I went on dates I give the guy a couple weeks at the most if this is a relationship that I would invest my time and energy in. I know the guys that I let go were sad and upset with me for breaking the relationship off but I told them “it’s not fair to you or to me to be wasting our time together if it’s not going to work out. We both deserve better and we can both learn from this relationship experience of what worked and what didn’t work. What we liked and what we didn’t like.” It’s best to be true to yourself and to always grow as a person.
For the first time in forever, I have met someone whom is all. There is a deep understanding of each other's needs, wants , and desires. We had compatibility first, then we started truly connecting on a level, I haven't felt beforehand. We have an INTIMACY of minds and being. It feels natural/normal. We discussed EVERYTHING! Religion, politics, what we wanted and needed, sex, lifestyle, and defined roles ! I kept testing for red flags, so far , I have found none. The emotional intelligence, empathy, and introspection is off the charts! We also find each other very attractive...and yes there is even chemistry! We have talked for hours at a time. Seen each other and it is all so easy! No games, no second guessing, just fluidity. We are aligned so well, it is uncanny. Both of us would ask open ended, and freely answer , questions. Rhe polarity between is is crystal clear. He is the man type for me, he has a gentleness and caring, AND he is 100 percent in his masculine energy. The only way I can describe is to say...' I know we know,
Im literally in tears of joy after watching! I felt like i was alone in the journey of my thinking. Thank you for scientifically proving why i had those standards but not fully understanding why. And not just for religious reasons, but I've heard gods voice telling me these things.
I was the problem in the relationship; looking through this with unbiased eyes was the blessing I needed to understand how to go about a relationship. This is my first true love, and I've been going about it the wrong ways, seeing things very childishly from anxiety, trauma and lack of balance with my masculinity and femininity. I felt cornered by my thoughts and didn't know what to do and what I was thinking or truly understanding. I know most people on here will see this video as a sign to move on from who they have or had, but this was a beautiful wake up call so the person I love can have the man she deserves. This helped a relationship remain true. And I didn't expect this outcome to come from a thumbnail like "That's Not Real Love!" I was scared to open this but I'm glad I did. Now I can be better.
Stephan hits the nail, hits the mark on relationships, dating and healing! Love his no BS, honest approach in his videos! Love these quotes from Jay: "We think people change, but actually they're just starting to understand themselves...You met an unconscious version of a person and now you think they're changing, but they've just become conscious of who they are." "Society doesn't encourage that time of getting to know yourself. When you're young, you're not trained to think of how you wanna be, you're trained into thinking of what you wanna do. It's about your job, it's about your career. You're not thinking about who you are as a person." "Often I found that two people need to grow individually to be able to grow collectively. And we're forcing growing together so hard, but we need space to grow."
I loved the part where stephan said that it's the hardest when people that are meant for each other have the hardest time getting together. I testify to that.
I don't know how Stephan managed to enunciate what so many people feel (almost on a daily basis), in such a clear manner. Very well articulated message, simple and potent.
That bit where they talk about how unsustainable it is showing certain sides and suppressing other sides of your personality to attract people is so spot on. It can be so disheartening to the person who worked on themselves to fall for someone who was hiding their true self and turns out to be almost a stranger in the end.
"Being your best self for the wrong person will bring out the worst version of you. "
😮This hit hard ! 😢
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Yes I’m a living testimony
@@patriciaduvall6946 I want you to be my sugar baby I'm just letting you know my intentions
That’s an accurate twist!! 😮
So amazing, You are not reading this by accident. This is the confirmation You've been waiting for. God is saying to You, You are going to make it. No matter what the situation looks like right now. I am going to send a positive change Your way. With blessings, solutions, healing and love. So be strong, hold on, and don't give up. You're next in line for Your miracle and blessings. Amen !!!
Amen 🙏🏻
Sending many blessings your way as well!
Amen. I needed this message. I pray God to make his/her instrument
Amen. I receive this.. God is going to bless and favor you..Thank you!🙌🏾
Thanks you too pleased
Amen ❤
“The safe choice is usually the wrong choice.” That was a hard lesson to learn
A necessary lesson.
So true 😂😂
People are like okay this person is better than wht I have..
Thn they call it love.. 😅
@@murph804 who said love is the reason you need to marry? Do you then divorce when the person is no longer the person you “love”? Marriage was intended to raise a family, unify people and pool together resources. Love is a modern day conception
Hmmm... I'm 1 minute in, is there an in depth discussion about this during this episode?
@@AkireMaru Especially when so many people quite obviously have absolutely no damn clue what "love" is supposed to be. A lot of people mistakenly believe that control is part of love -- it isn't (control and love are if anything polar opposites). Infatuation or being "in love" is not real love either. Yes, being "in love" feels terrific -- but when you take a critical look at it, you realize that it's actually very self-directed. Granted, most people are simply doing the best they know how based on the faulty and/or incomplete definitions of "love" which other people gave them -- but without ever realizing it, many people are essentially offering up a lump of pyrite believing it to be gold.
Part of the problem, of course, lies in the fact that we really only have one word to describe all the different kinds of affection we feel for people -- our parents, our children, our partners, our pets, our friends, our chosen deities, our role models, our favorite movie stars, etc.. (We even use the same word to speak of nonliving things that we appreciate such as food or music.) The ancient Greeks had it right -- they used different words (agape, eros, storge, etc.) to refer to different kinds of affection.
Always be careful of what you say to her when you’re arguing. You can say you’re sorry, they can say they forgive you, but they CAN’t forget, & emotional pain creates deep resentment.
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Bingo 👌🏻
Very true... I'm about to divorce my husband
This!!!!
Stupid males say hurtful things
“Walking around unhealed is like walking around with broken glasses. Can’t see straight no matter how hard you try!” Wow did I need to hear this!!
I swear to god literally as I was reading this, he said it!😭😭
Same, I have a few things to work through.....
Sincerely I was really touch
That’s the fact we to let it heal
thats roght
When a man truly loves you, there' no space to second guess. He will make sacrifices, be honest and straightforward, listen and act in ways that dictate so.
yeah that guy you described is in the friendzone. women lust over men who are selfish and disrespectful
But he won't do it perfectly, especially on days he is very stressed with work etc. So be patient if he is generally a good guy who loves you. Life will always be full of ups and downs.
Yes that is true!!! A Man truly loves you will make sacrifices, be honest and straightforward, provide the support you need. Compromise and communication and put out fires.
Ok Cinderella
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I’ve been in a long relationship with a man who never held my hand, never showed love, never took pictures with me and I stupidly believed he just wasn’t an affectionate person. We just broke up last week and he said he just never “felt that way” about me. I realize I was constantly giving love and got absolutely nothing back, I’m sure it was convenient because I did every single thing for him. I deserve better, not whatever that was.
Sorry to read that you will find happiness
I know the feeling.
Stay strong
He might be a narcisst a utiliser. Research on this within yourself why u attract such toxic people in life and correct the pattern within urself.
There are so many of these guys out there. I personally think they are lost souls.
These two men are the dads we didn't know we needed. I'm a girl and I think they're speaking pure wisdom.
Amen to that sis
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Agree. I love how he places the emphasis on being transparent with yourself especially for women and how our intuition is indeed powerful if we tap into it and nurture it
Ditto❤👍💯
I learnt alot honestly
It’s true, as women we know. If we would honour our inner voice we would have saved ourselves a lot of heartache, tragedy and pain
You would think so. But it's actually only their inner voice that women ever listen to at all. Their inner voice is also constantly afraid, undecisive and a bad judge of character. While you praise your inner voice, many other women fell into quite a bit of mischief for listening to their inner voice.
Studies have shown (I think in Sweden) that women actually get happier when they listen to men. That's how you gonna save yourself from tragedy and heartache. But in todays society as soon as the notion comes up to listen to advise from a man, the women are immediately histerically crying about the oppressive patriarchy.
@@nightmareTomek nope not at all true. Our inner voice is spot on but we simply don’t want to face it because of the fantasy created in our minds already.
@@raeanneegan6191 What you just said is the fantasy already created in your mind.
You women talk as if you need freedom of choice and you're getting dictated what to do all the time. Then we see you never listen, do random and idiotic choices all over the place, and run into problems constnatly head-on. Men all over the world shake their heads that you never heed their advise. "Becaus men don't understand the emmooootions that I'm going throu!" O_o
Then you get into a relationships with a bad man and say you didn't listen to "your inner voice" or some similar bulls#_. When it's usually many men that would have told you the same, but they know you wouldn't have listened.
@@raeanneegan6191 Men are just more selfish then women, and it becomes a tit for tat
AMEN!
"You're not really missing the person you are missing the feeling." So true ❤
That feeling is always available if you are willing to listen for it.
That same feeling was not from a thin air...
@@melvinjerry4975 It kind of was though, the person is just a collection of frequencies inhabiting a part of space and time, yes there was connection and exchanges. Energetic exchanges. It was highly charged magnetic and dielectric fields working together in the creation and destruction of potential in a dance that led to the feeling arising.
We are forever shaping these fields, all is stored in the akash, when we tune in.
Give it a go, I will as well, then lets chat.
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But if it's love, then it's normal
“Walking around unhealed is like walking around with broken glasses. You can’t see straight ” ❤❤❤❤ THATS A WORD RIGHT THERE
Whew
I was told that God healed me of my Seizure Disorder and God says I'm married b/c I have a 21 yr old son. He feels that I am married in his eyes.
This resonates deeply with me. The only interactions in my daily life are repeats of how my abusers treated me bc I'm not willing to accept any other way yet.. until I'm healed.. I'm working on that.
Great comment, I see it clearly 🤓
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Watching this emotionally charged video brings back the agony of my recent breakup. My four year relationship ended abruptly when my partner walked away, leaving a deep, unhealed wound in my heart. No matter how much I try to forget, I can't seem to let go, feeling lost and unsure about my future without him. Despite my best efforts, I remain consumed by the emptiness he left behind, and I just needed to share this pain here.
It's incredibly hard to move on when someone you love becomes just a memory. I was in a similar situation when my five year relationship fell apart. I couldn’t imagine my life without him and fought endlessly to get him back. In my desperation, I reached out to a spiritual guide, who helped me restore what I thought was lost forever.
Interesting! I’m genuinely curious how did you discover this spiritual counselor, and what’s the best way for me to connect with someone who could help me in a similar way?
You should meet Fatherabulu, a highly regarded spiritual advisor who is renowned for helping people reconnect with their ex partners. His unique methods and spiritual insight have restored many broken relationships.
Thank you so much for sharing this. Your advice is invaluable, and I’m deeply grateful for pointing me in the right direction. I’ll definitely explore this and see if it helps me too.
Same here but after 14 years.. he cheated wiry a friend of mine and left me heartbroken. He seems to have avoidant attachment and I love him sooo much but I am too broken. I never felt so betrayed by someone in my life. He's turning 40 on the 2nd, I'm turning 34 in januar. He breadcrumbed me all this period untill I cut him off and 2 weeks no contact hoping he will teach out cuz I love him, but I think he's spending time wiry that 27 years old girl .. I'm devastated.
It’s so refreshing to see two men who can talk about feelings and vulnerabilities. We need more of this in this world.
😂 or stop watching crap like sneako and Myron
I agree and both have good communication skills!! Amicable discussions.
Amen&Amen 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
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@@Tmo2024those guys are so mad at women it’s sad lol
"If your partner thinks you're never going to walk away from them no matter what they do. You've lost. We have to get to a place where we realize that as long as we show up the way we're supposed to show up for each other, we've got each other's back. But neither of us will tolerate an unhealthy relationship and someone that blatantly does not want to work on making this better"
That part!
I think the Bees have it all figured out. Research it.
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@@shadysidehairstudiomessine8556for real
I am from Alabama in U.S.A, I am the only child of my family. I was raised by a Priest After the death of my granny and father. My dad told me before his death that my mother died on the process of given birth to me. After the death of my father, my uncle John took me in as his son but the wife Janet was not really good to me
I am from Alabama in U.S.A, I am the only child of my family. I was raised by a Priest After the death of my granny and father. My dad told me before his death that my mother died on the process of given birth to me. After the death of my father, my uncle John took me in as his son but the wife Janet was not really good to me
“Being your best for the wrong person”. That resonates.
So true, you put your all in it turn out not to be the right one
Yup
Yep .
Same
Indeed...
I honestly believe so many ppl are in terrible, unhappy relationships because they are so scared of change and being alone. It is not easy being alone and facing dark times. It is not easy healing. I've been single most of my life but I absolutely don't put up with crappy, emotionally unavailable ppl in my life anymore or narcissists that drain my energy and don't give me anything back
This is perfectly said
The fear of being lonely or starting over is the major force mkg people stay in toxic relationships
Showing up for my reality check. Being alone is better than being in an unhealthy relationship for the wrong reasons.
100%
I rather the opposite 😢 I’m scared of being alone
@@Laurendaw 💗alone is hard to it's hard both ways.
I can attest to this. 20 years married. Horrible relationship. Still healing. Haven't even kissed a man in over a year.
Been talking to this man and just being patient and seeing where it goes. So far, he's a great friend.
💯 percent right 🎉
Realized we were both wasting our time. Ended it so now I can fully focus on my self before I give myself to anyone else. Singleness is a super power when used properly.
Love this ❤
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So true. Good to know others think like me. I don’t need to be dating every weekend just because I don’t have a boyfriend.
Excellent information kings❤
REAL TALK TRUTH🤗
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self seeking, it is not angered, it keep no record of wrongs. LOVE does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trust, always hopes, always preserves. 1 Corinthians 13: 4-7
Therefore first love people experience is with a dog or cat or any pet, someone who does not use analytical mind so much.
@alaalfa8839 those analytical thinkers are the worst. They're emotionless. My ex told me crying was a sign of weakness
Amen 🙏 thank you for spreading the word.
Amen!
GOD IS LOVE❤
That was me.. “losing myself because I was scared I was going to lose the other person”. It started to make me stressed and anxious, questioning my own worth even. Lessened learned, if you’re not a good fit it’s ok. Don’t take it personal or your’ll face the consequences within yourself and your own value
I love this!
For me, two indicators that a man loves me are peace and protection. Is he your light or your darkness? Does he cover you or abandon you? Those two things are unmistakable and speak volumes.
👏Really, that’s all a woman needs to know. Because I’m in a relationship like that now, and we don’t have the problems I had with my ex. My ex fed me a sob story. He was hurt and needed this and that to feel safe and wasn’t ready. The problem is, we become motherly. We want to take care of and heal. But the really ugly truth is that a man that needs a mother should go to his own. A man can’t step up for you, if you’re his mother. He can’t. He has to see you as someone that he needs his life together to attain. And because he has his life together, he has the ability to step into that roll as provider and protector. Not because you can’t provide for and protect yourself, but because a man can’t respect you, if he’s not serving you. He wants to know you won’t have a man who won”t step up for you, because you’re discerning.
Statistics show that women are the ones abandoning men, women initiate divorces in 80% of cases (or was it 90%)? If you're gonna say now "the man must have been abusive", it's not the case. The men are usually perplexed and surprised. And when the women are interviewed, they usually can't provide a good reason why they left (and often stole the house and robbed their kids of a father). I've seen some individuals ask so many uncomfortable questions until the women admitted they had left a good man for no good reason whatsoever.
So much for loyality. That's how screwed up this whole thing is: women expect men to give them something that they're not willing to give in return.
I can't see your comment, YT makes it invisible. I could only read the first 2 sentences.
I know that women love showing the exception to the rule. And love to pronounce their personal feelings as an argument.
But statistics show that what women say and women do does not confirm. These are really easy to find, too, and have around the same values in all western countries. It makes sense biologically, too, it just paints women in a worse picture than they like to be painted in, thus they're always offended and there are outcries.
But that's currently what's happening: women preach lots of sweet words (essentially lies) about loyality and trust and love and eternity, and in the end they are the ones to break up. How can a man even trust a woman then? The only conciliation there is for us is that the more naivly the women speaks about these things, the less the chance of a lasting relationship. So we can mentally prepare.
Can u elaborate please
I've yet to meet a man who can be my peace and protection. Most didn't make me feel at peace or protected at all. Instead left me broken and used while I lifted them up.
My husband says he knew he loved me the first time he saw me smile. We definitely had fast love, hung out one time and didn't stop. It's still going strong ❤
😮 Lucky!
If we could all be so fortunate 😂. ✨✨ Congratulations 🎊🍾🎉✨✨✨✨💖✨✨✨
Congratulations ❤️ 🙏🏻
@@christinet6336 I dated guys who were abusive and treated me like shit and cheated on me before I met him. So yes, I feel very fortunate!
I hope to find love and compatibility again some day
“If you haven’t healed, you are 90% more likely to pick the wrong person”. Damn. Right.
Right!?! So many profound things being said here!
Such a raw and intelligent podcast. No blaming other sides, just promoting self awareness which is hugely lacked these days!
oooouuu! well said! I learnt achieved this a year ago after my last heartbreak. Self Transparency is key- meta cognition and ultimately self-awareness which is indeed scientifically the highest level of human development according to Maslow's hierarchy of needs.
Yesssss frrrr
You will find love when you find peace inside of you.
very true
You will find love when you find God. The bible says Jesus is the prince of peace
If that was true why do I know people who found love during stressful times? Its not fair to say that to people.
So true. Finally after 33 years i found my person. Right after 6 long years of working hard on my soul
@@yardvarkslawncare7866 I like that
Love is when you want what is truly best for the other person, even if that doesn't involve yourself in their life.
Well said!
Sad but true💔💔💔💔💔
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If it doesn’t involve you it isn’t the best ,never give up on love…
If you take the easy path, life will be hard
If you take the hard path, life will be easy..
I think it shows a man really loves you if he feels safe enough to be vulnerable with you. I can't speak for other women, but that's how I feel.
I can agree! It's true that when someone is willing to be vulnerable with us, it can be a sign that they truly trust us and feel safe around us. When we're vulnerable with someone, we're opening up and showing them our true selves, which can be scary but also incredibly rewarding. It can help us build trust and understanding, and ultimately lead to more fulfilling relationships.
I think You’re so right it is frightening.
I think vulnerability is a strength and a skill (something that’s learned and practiced to be good at.) Some are still learning. But it doesn’t mean there isn’t love there. Or said differently, if a man isn’t vulnerable with you, it doesn’t necessarily mean he doesn’t love you. It may mean he is still learning himself.
@@AnnTsungMD 😊
Sometimes men also get angry that they were vulnerable and showed weakness. Sometimes it’s a catch 22
find Partner from Dreams by Bruce Thornwood (thank me later)
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Biggest thing I have learned is to not fall for the potential. It’s more about the effort a person is willing to put in
Most people get caught up in a situation where they fall deeply in love with someone that gives them all they’ve been looking for in a relationship, they feel that comfort and security whereas the person does not actually love them. How can you get out of such situations?
There is no Mr right until we make him right. A relationship is never about how much at the beginning but how much we could make it grow into. My old friend and pastor would tell me, if you aren't ready to feel or look stupid, then don't fall in love ,lol But sincerely that is the bitter truth.
Hi@@ConradKurtMorgan
When I got divorced from my husband I thought it was the end for us.. we both moved on and started dating other people and did therapy on our own and became great friends because we had 3 kids together .. we fell in love again 4 years later.. it was a nice surprise and came out of no where
What a story. Congratulations
Going through a rough patch of my own, it's nice to hear about unexpected positive outcomes 😊 sometimes the pain of growing needs to be felt first before the growth can actually happen
I'm in my lowest now, I don't even know what I have to do with my own relationship, it feels like I'm the only one holding on now. I wanted to give up but we have 2 adorable children and I don't want them to get hurt
The friendship element
Really fallout a love and fall in back thats serious 😳
I have only felt the spark one time in my life. The man that I have been married to for 13 years. All other experiences always felt forced. When I met my husband, I saw the potential of having a family with him. Two weeks after I saw him, he asked me out. We were honest with each other in the beginning. We lost our way. I realised we were taking each other for granted. After 3 kids, we lost ourselves. A lot of negative things got let in. It was not healthy. I told him I was not happy. He told me he was not happy either. We decided therapy was needed. We started going, and it was the best thing we ever did. We are back on track. We're communicating and being honest with each other. Intimacy between us is the best it has ever been.
I’m so happy for you:) I live stories of not giving up and thriving…prayers for peace, joy and joy!!
That’s so awesome!! So glad you two are in a good position ☺️❤
That’s so great!! I’m happy for you! 😢
This was lovely to read. Well done to you both for being willing to do the work to save your relationship. ❤
That is beautiful ❤
It's common for relationships to encounter obstacles, but there is always a solution. My own marriage faced considerable issues, but with appropriate guidance, my husband and I worked through them and deepened our connection. Solutions are achievable if you're ready to work together. Stay hopeful-there's always a way forward.
I'm facing significant relationship problems and can't stand the idea of losing him. My love and longing for my partner are profound, and I'm ready to do anything to restore our connection. I would greatly appreciate any advice or help you could give.
Parting with someone you love is always a challenging process, but in my experience, I had the guidance of a spiritual guide who prevented my marriage from collapsing. His name is Father Akunna.
I'II quickly search for him online. Thank you.
I'm optimistic that taking this approach will yield results for me as well; his absence is keenly felt.
I promise you will not regret it.
I just searched for Father Akunna online indeed he is a very generous man and the most powerful spell caster that I have ever seen he brought my husband back to me with so much love ❤
When he spoke about how women's intuition is strong, that is so true. All the men that have hurt me, I always end up saying sorry to myself for not listening to my intuition telling me they weren't good. I will now listen to my intuition after all these situations but he's right I've always tried to ratioinalize it.
I’m about to cry. I’m in the same boat..
Agree! I'm finally listening to mine!
I'm the same. I know the rules to my heart but break my boundary and allow someone in. It is good that we are aware and it can only get better. But yes in hindsight it hurts because you knew.
yes well said I also have to listen to that sign somethings wrong
Umm, right in the kisser! Luv this
Best line: You’re not missing the person, you’re missing the feeling.
Powerful statement and great revelation for many (including looking at my own past).
Thank you 😊
For me I am missing the person, too. .a special man. Different
For me I'm missing the girl too regardless of the difference we have with each other
"Most relationships that involve connection and true love are typically hard. Not because relationships have to be hard, but because most people have been hurt by something in their life, are holding onto past traumas and haven't resolved it. Once they meet this individual that they feel so strongly about, it is scary. This is where things get difficult - is the difficulty, and how do I handle this? How do I manage this? You'll have people feel like they're losing themselves... but they're not losing themselves: their true self is coming out. And it's this self that's been hiding behind that wall they've been using for 'protection'."
Almost brought me to tears...
Hello how are you doing today
Time stamping for my own records, this begins at 23:23
Soemtimes the true self is so ugly and toxic and disgusting that ppl wear masks to hide who they really are
See I know this but I have met men that can’t handle this once they are faced with it and this is the place where they will either step into their best selves or, run. ❤🙏🏽
Looks like my ex. Experience .
For me, the covert narcissist comes across as a people pleaser. They like to be in the spotlight to get the validation that they crave for, as other narcissists but at the same time, they pretend to be humble, simple, generous, over giving. The covert narcissist will take time to build a relationship/friendship with you. During this period, they will show their admiration and their devotion by helping you with everything that is you need. They will try to convince you that you are soulmates and that they understand you deeply. At the same time, you will see them being overly altruistic, maybe helping society by engaging in charities, activism. They feed the poor, take care of the homeless. All this makes you think how lucky you are for having met such a beautiful soul. You want to be by their side for ever.
However, soon you notice how much they enjoy being invited in galas to talk about their achievements. But they don’t admit that. They still play the humble guy who doesn’t want all this. Who is beyond money, beyond fame and recognition, who wants to share the floor with other people. But their acts don’t match their words. You come to realise that this selfless soul is actually doing whatever it takes to be in the centre of attention. When you do something together be it at work or at home, they want to control everything about it. They just exerce their control in a more polite and implicit way, making you believe that your voice was heard whereas in reality you did what they wanted you to do. Covert narcissists have a smooth way of leading you on. They don’t shout, they don’t give orders. They are master actors. They convince you that you are together in this. What makes them a narcissist is that when the time comes for them to use you in order to draw certain benefits, they will do it without a second thought and you are not going to believe in your eyes.
And when you stand up for yourself and raise your voice against them calling them for their phony identity, then you will see their rage for the first time and the mask will fall. Covert narcissists manipulate less with rage/exhibiting superiority and more with people pleasing behaviour/playing the eternal victim. They are not aggressive as overt narcissists. They are more cunning. What they both have in common is self-centered ness and lack of empathy. In the case of coverts, it will take you longer to find out.They knew what they wanted to get out of you from the beginning. They created a whole theatre play to fool you about who they are and their true motives. You will trust them with all your heart but when the time comes for them to prove their loyalty by choosing your bond over their personal gain, they will choose the latter with no remorse, without even taking any responsibility. Unlike the overt narcissist, they will have an eloquent excuse for doing so, rationalizing why they had to f@ck you over. They will pretend to be sorry about it because this is something that matches the image of modesty that they want to project but in reality they are not sorry at all. You will see them partying with your own money when they said they didn’t have enough to pay you back. You will see them being unfair and untrustworthy to other people as well. When the mask of the victim will fall, you will see the cruel smile of a perpetrator who managed to get what they want without deserving it. If you decide to unmask them run for your life.
Additionally, If you’re noticing unsettling changes in your partner’s behavior, it might be worth paying attention to those instincts. I had a similar experience that began with small suspicions. After months of uncertainty, I finally chose to look into it and uncovered a hidden part of my husband’s life-secret conversations, a separate email account, and all the things I had feared. Though it was difficult, learning the truth ultimately brought me the clarity I needed to move forward. If you feel something is off, trust yourself. For support or guidance, you can contact MetaspyClubLLC@gmail. com.
"Anything that is not sustainable is unhealthy. " -Stephan Speaks 🗣️
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Sustainable doesn’t work with someone who refuses to be real or in a real full time relationship.
Also running her into the ground first while living your wonderful lives is probably not exactly a great way to garnish her love. Selfish isn’t attractive.
If it feels like draining you then it's unhealthy. I learnt that,,I'm happy now.
@@BrieRonoh yes, also if you don’t know whether you’re in a relationship or not because no one is able to make it clear its probably best to wait until you can get any kind of clarity instead of assuming you are for like 20 or so years without any tangible proof.
A disagreement is not necessarily a "fight" and does not have to be. My husband and I did not argue or fight,. We listened to each other when we disagreed on an issue. You argue when you feel you have to be right. But the goal in relationships is to try to UNDERSTAND not to be right. Peace!
So well put, ty for this
Very nice said. Competing about who is right just for the ego to be right can start intoxicate things fast.
Exactly! Sounds like a healthy relationship/marriage 😊 🙏🏻 ᥫ᭡
I’ve heard that about not being right, but giving in and pretending to be wrong is no solution. Sometimes both people believe they’re right and there isn’t enough information to prove it one way or the other. In that case, you have to agree to disagree if there’s evidence for both. Trying to “not be right” doesn’t seem like an honest solution to me, though.
@@Lisa-om4it yes, I think that’s fine if you both are able to agree to disagree, even better. This is a different mindset . What I’m saying that the mindset of - proving one is right and proving the other wrong is simply getting toxic in a relationship fast. Because proving something leads to a debate , it’s like in a court. It’s about separation and showing that one wins and one loses. It’s less about accepting others feelings and less about understanding each other, it’s competetive and rather disregards others feelings. So this attitude does not strengthen bond and bring partners together in long term. Except if both of you are really enjoying debating. But then it has to be respectful and entertaining.
“ it’s not the feminine energy that’s the problem it’s who you give it to” SIR YOU JUST OPENED A MAJOR HEALING DOOR FOR ME. I’ve been taken advantage of and I really adopted my masculine energy and dove into my life in nyc after that. I def saw my feminine energy as a weakness till recently and still work to keep it open
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I understand this fully 💕
Good to hear you're working on allowing yourself to be genuine and feminine. The Bible let's us know that God not only made women different but He also highly regards the type of woman who has a gentle spirit.
Correction: you allowed yourself to be taken advantage of. By falling for a top 20% man who's most likely out of your league and is never gonna settle down because he's getting all the female attention from the whole city.
And at all the people here embracing you being the victim will just accomplish that you're gonna be susceptible to be taken advantage of a few more times, maybe until you get resentful and distrust men altogether. Or you just listen to advise for a change.
Or you don't even have to listen to me. I've seen many men independently come to the same conclusion. One of them is Kevin Samuels, he's dead and has a YT channel and he talked about this, from exactly this perspective of a top 20% high value man that had always multiple women being in love with him and thus didn't want to settle for just one.
I realized this not too long ago.
It’s sad when you love someone based on what they presented and then when you truly get into it they become someone you don’t know and you’re stuck because you can’t sustain it.
A great way to describe how I feel 😢
I was looking for a comment that said just that.
@@victoriabernice I hope you make it out okay. There is real love out here it’s just truly scarce.
@@Kinsugi 🙏🏾 you’re welcome.
I give too much in my relationship and he’s not appreciating and the giving energy does not reciprocate
„Sometimes you‘re not missing the person, you’re missing the feeling.“ 🙌
I am missing the feeling right now. Not the man.
Facts😊
I miss my husband of 43yrs, it wasn’t love at first but it grew. I’ve befriended a man about 2 years after he passed and we have been communicating daily, only met twice. We have many things in common but I will start asking more questions since he’s told me he fell “in love “. I do care for him deeply but he doesn’t know how to communicate other than the things we know we love about each other. Real love and affection is not just about the things we want to do together. It’s communication about other things also. I’m glad I listened to this. Now I need to ask him questions about the future since he wants me to move halfway across country to live with him. He’s been alone a long time, had 2 bad experiences with relationships. I’m going to start asking questions not pertaining to the usual things we talk about. I have enjoyed being on my own. I do want to have a good relationship based on love, giving and caring for each other. If he doesn’t want to discuss things other than what we have been, then I don’t think this relationship with him will work. Just being honest here and he knows how I feel now so it’s time to address the issues beyond just the things he wants. I want those things too.
This video really made me realize I need to do it now.
What I give I want in return.
How do I know which is which , missing the person or the feeling?
Things that stood out for me:
The lesson after being hurt isn't that you shouldn't love, it's that you loved the wrong person
Loving is the right thing to do, rather than being closed off, because it exposes who they are faster
You may have loved wrong because you were not at your full potential/healthy/confident/healed self
Love fully
I didn’t love the wrong person though ☹️🔫
Perfect recap, now I can quit thinking so hard. Thanks for your help. Their convo/breakdown was truly amazing. Wisdom Downloaded.
Just recently parted with my GF of five years. We had three amazing years and our relationship fell apart the last two. No matter what we did we couldn’t fix it. After listening to this, I finally found the courage to talk to her rationally and we agreed to give each other space and time to heal. I was definitely responsible for a lot of our issues and I was never able to see my wrongs before.
We’ve been apart for a month now. It was extremely difficult at first to accept this. I missed her dearly and at times I had to fight with every ounce of strength in my body and soul to not call her. I’m at week 5ish now and the pain has slowly waned down and I have better clarity about our relationship. While I do believe if we found each other again, we could make it work, I’m no longer trying to force us to work.
Awwwww boobie, go get your lady back ❤
I agree go fight for her not with words or promises but with actions. Show up for her and make her your priorty
Give it another try , and learn from each other more be honest and communicate openly and when hard times comes , you both have each other as support
Start as friends again and see if something serious can grow again God Bless
@@lucimancariEvery day ask her "What can I do to make your life easier?" Then do it. Few days and she will come to you.
Why do people support getting back together over exploring new connections...
Being with my ex narc for the past 8 yrs. made me observe this very pattern. I think they wanted to feel very important in a way that is disturbing. Instead of building trust with their intimate partners, they destroy the trust that they built with you (in that case lying when they tried to put you in their pedestal). Once they have a committed partner, they can’t stand being loved authentically by one person. Instead they go on and prey on other women that is susceptible to their love bombing. My ex narc was a compulsive pursuer in a relationship. He would go back and forth to the women he were involved before or try to meet women in complicated situation so that going public isn’t an option while having you as their main supply. In the end they destroy the very person that loved them. They are like toddlers testing your love for them. Showing and telling them you love them isn’t enough, they will cheat on your face to make you feel inadequate even if you are more than they deserve. They want to test your love for them so they keep hurting you and when you have enough of their abuse, you leave. Then they tell you, ‘you never loved me because you abandon me’. Well in fact it’s their actions and narcissistic behavior that made you leave or in other cases they discard you and will give silly reasons of the discard. Mine would use, ‘she’s crazy’, ‘she’s a nega-star’, ‘she insults me’, ‘she cheated on me’ et al. So with this pattern of infidelities and emotional abuse (who knows what else) it’s better to walk away. I did walk away and is now rebuilding my life with our daughter. We are struggling financially because I’m not earning enough to provide for my daughter but now we get to laugh and bring with us sunshine every day. No lies, no abuse and no fake love. We only live once, forgive yourself and move forward but never forget the lesson that narc abuse taught you. That is to respect yourself to walk away from what’s hurting and destroying you. That you deserve a life of solitude, happiness and love. Hugs*** :) Additionally I hired a private detective Barryinvestigation@gmail. com. Once I knew what the narc was up to, it got easier to get over that lying, cheating, sack of doo doo, loser. I didn’t need closure from the narc, I paid for it. Best money I EVER spent!
omgoodness you are literally explaining my exact situation 😮!! I appreciate you sharing hope with us 🙏❤️For giving strength to know we aren't alone and it's ok to put yourself first at time ❤️ 💜 💕 🙏 I believe God is speaking through you ❤️! Again, thank you so much and congratulations for staying true to you and your daughters and especially God ! ❤️
I was in that same predicament for about 5 yrs ago. But Thank GOD I’m out.
OMG! You were married to my soon to be ex? Everything you said I've lived for 20 years now I've been discarded.Thank God!!
Thank you, I thought I was the only one going through the same situation 😢😢😢 I just walked out of my narc partner last week & I feel free 🥳💃🏾 I walked away with no explanation to him... And his reaction was no surprise to me because it's always the same when we have a disagreement 🙄🙄 he even posted that I left him because he was poor 🙄😞 and that hurt me so much, because I didn't care about what he had materialisticly, because I was supporting him financially. And he wasn't even working when we started talking & I even supported and helped him get a job 😢😢😢 But I'm not turning back I'm moving on with my life and his still going on saying mean things about me and not even mentioning every good thing I did for him...... 💔😔
wow sounds like my dad a little
If you love someone you do whats best for them and not whats best for you. Don't ever mistake infatuation for love, loyalty is how you build love, nothing else
Yes. If only about love. But in a love relationship, you need to think of fair partnership.
That's true Paul how are you?
Needs to be fair. That isn’t fair
That's not in any form love.
So true about masculine energy. A man that does not walk in his masculinity sends cues to a woman that she will always have to carry him. Leaving her thinking, that she can never be carried, that she has to constantly protect him and he never protecting her. Part of masculinity is protection. If a woman doesn't feel you can protect her, how can she truly trust you?
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Yes!
Actually... I think that's where you are in the wrong. Because it would imply, a feminine person could never carry someone... but if you look closer, women are actually often fiercer in defending their kin then men. I won't deny there aren't weak men... but feminine ones often are anything but weak. They're are just less dominant. But not being dominant, or being emotionnal, doesn't imply not being strong. But have you ever seen any movie, any story, which a feminine small guy being the protector? I haven't... so inconsciously people just don't associate it with strength. But it's often not a reality. I believe the issue is more that woman are much more naturall protectors then men. So if the dude has any weakness, of suppossed weakness they will try to protect, point. They tend to do that with everyone and it's fucking exausting. So a guy who seems not to need protection, a "strong" dude, is a break, while they'll project the needed protection on any dude who doesn't seem strong enough.
And people don't realise either, what someone is worth in a real crisis situation, and that's what matters. And actually funny, in my experience, it's those feminine guys you then can count on.
This made me think of my own relationship so true
I broke up with my boyfriend only cause of that! I don’t feel protected and he just didn’t show me he’s ready to lead. And me as an independent woman, this is not what I want. I want a man who can lead and protect me 😅
I’m just going to have to be the one to say this… and I don’t want to. There are a LOT of broken people out there. You need to take the time to learn who you’re dealing with. If you see signs, WRITE THEM DOWN on a piece of paper. Otherwise, you’ll forget or just ignore them. Look at that everyday and ask yourself is this something you can live with everyday for the rest of your life.
Secondly, if you’re dealing with something you don’t agree with - someone who won’t change for the better. Ask yourself, “if my BEST FRIEND was dealing with this very scenario, would I hurt for them. Not would you do anything because we know some people won’t listen to logic. But would you HURT for them. If so, he/she is not right for you. My two cents.
I like the whole writing things down approach (you can even write the good things.)
Another thing I think can work is asking yourself if you would be ok with having children with him/her (even if you say you don't want kids) and them coming out exactly like him/her.
Can you deal with his/her mini me 's for 18+ years? Same personality, same attitudes? Are you ok with him/her raising them/helping raising them instilling his/her values, morals, habits on them? Would they be a good role model? Would you trust them to care for the kids if you're gone?
Really sit down and think this through and be honest with yourself while answering.
@@alexialira3839 Agreed. Many of us put ourselves aside for the love of someone who doesn’t even deserve us. They put more thought into buying a car or a house. 🤦🏽♀️ 😂 Trying to keep it light but finding the right one is important and it’s not just finding someone who likes you. Like this man said, connection, chemistry AND compatibility. And you’re right, be honest with yourself. And take your time. Because if he/she is the right one, they’re not going anywhere.
That’s a good idea to write it down
AMEN love this!!!
Ofc I’m going to listen to this pod episode but can someone give me the run down or “too long didn’t read version”
Watching this captivating video stirs up painful memories of the recent end of my 4 year relationship. My beloved partner chose to depart, leaving me with an unyielding ache. Despite my relentless efforts to reconcile, I find myself grappling with frustration and an inability to envision a future without him. Despite attempts to purge him from my mind, I remain haunted by his absence, feeling compelled to express my longing here.
It's hard to let go of someone you love; I went through a similar experience when my 12-year relationship ended. I tried everything to get him back, and eventually I had to turn to a spiritual counselor for assistance.
Interesting! How did you locate a spiritual counselor, and how can I get in touch with him most effectively?
His name is Father Akunna, and he is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
he is father akunna, he has great powers, he can help you.
I appreciate you providing this important information; I've just checked Father Akunna online, and wow, he's really genuine. Thank you so much again ❤
I married someone who should’ve been a one night stand by ignoring and silencing my intuition. I lost myself being afraid to lose him. After my divorce I found myself on the journey of trusting myself as soon as my intuition speaks. The very first time. About anything. This singleness journey has me loving myself like no one else can.
When I red your comment Miley’s song came to mind😂😂!!!you have to love you before you can love anyone else ! When you love you ,you know your worth and recognize when someone else recuperate what you feel and the level you feel it!!!
Congrats Sandra, good to hear you're in a good space now ❤
I felt that “ lost myself being afraid of losing him”
The statement that resonated the most is "If your partner think that you wont walk away no matter what they do, You"ve already lost". In my case I had to end it and walk away. This episode really helped me during my healing process.❤❤❤
Cool❤
I need to walk away after 40 plus years.
@@Butterflylove4231that’s tough. Me after almost 10.
Of course my dear friend, which I'm also here for you
I walked away! Im so happy I did
I think we all really know in our hearts when someone loves you! You feel it, they make their intentions known, they pay attention to you, they follow thru with what they say they are going to do, you don’t have to second guess. If it’s not there don’t try to force the process..
That never works!
remember ladies a man can love more than one woman, make sure you ask him the big question "what your future looks like with him"? then you'll know to either let go and move on or continue talking to him. I met a man that loved me and also loved his wife. showed all the qualities of making time for me and telling me to go visit my son and gave me money to go visit him. one thing that stood out from the rest of the guys that I've never heard a man say to me he said to me, "dont think of no man not even him". I laughed in my head because i believe he just want me to himself.
@@lyricgirl2012Any man or woman who falls for someone loving more than one person is naive and wants to stay clueless.
You can never ever love two people at tge same time, thats BS, one will suffer for sure.
Most people get caught up in a situation where they fall deeply in love with someone that gives them all they’ve been looking for in a relationship, they feel that comfort and security whereas the person does not actually love them. How can you get out of such situations?
Love is a beautiful thing to feel for someone, but being in love with loyalty is priceless 💯💋♥️
You can have connection, chemistry, and compatibility with many people!
You have to have respect for yourself and them. You have to maintain self agency. I agree, know who you are otherwise you become what your partner wants.
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Very very TRUE ... know yourself , love yourself first ... then maybe you are ready to be in a relationship. Be TRUE.
Alignment ... AMEN !
Stephan was defining "connection" in a different way than you are. You can have compatibility and chemistry with many, but that "soul connection" where your spirit recognises them as "your one" only happens once or twice in a lifetime. I can truly verify this. I thought I experienced true connection before, but now that I have really experienced it I can attest to the fact that this is a once in a lifetime event and is like nothing I have ever known before.
Thank you! You will not have a connection with many ppl.
Dear friend, when a man truly loves you, his actions will speak louder than words. He will prioritize your happiness and well-being above his own, communicate openly and honestly with you, and make an effort to understand and support you. Trust your instincts and observe his behavior, as true love is consistently shown through actions rather than just words. Remember to also communicate your needs and feelings to ensure a healthy and fulfilling relationship. Best of luck on your love journey!
Absolutely 💯 Amazing!!
Perfectly said! You are right on it🎉🎉🎉
Love what you said & also want to highlight that a man who loves you will also prioritize himself. There is this hidden misconception that as a woman in a relationship you need to come before all else & within that I see a lack of foundation. A man will prioritize the relationship you two hold because it is of value to him. It is also important that he is prioritizing himself as well because he is a active participant of the relationship. A relationship is not a one way street or a linear experience ( we face obstacles in a relationship, growth & more often than not new experiences that give us more understanding of our partner) it’s important that both parties are prioritizes their growth, identifying their triggers, work on their independent confidence/ insecurities, discover how to regulate their own emotions & reflecting on their behavior, etc. These are big foundational pieces & aspects to a relationship. Because there are moments where happiness isn’t present, actions can be misinterpreted, & or communication is difficult ( these are very normal things & it’s important remember that you are two individuals navigating a relationship together). I’m not saying that you aren’t aware of this I just like to empathize the importance of this in conversations because a relationship is complex with so many different areas that really stem from our individual experiences, journeys & choices. So I think it’s less about him putting you above him & more about how he elevates himself in correlation to the respect, love & care he has for you & vice versa because ultimately that will produce a relationship that is grounded in the wellness of each other & nourishment progress!
@@roselavalley9337 so well said 🙌🏻
Men need love too it doesn't have to be men doing everything to make y’all happy.
"The same wall that's protecting you is the same wall that is blocking your blessings"...this is profound!!
This discussion highlights the importance of understanding love and emotional growth. The journey to self love workbook by Cameron J. Clark is a companion.
A happy relationship isn’t about feelings but sharing the same principles, trust me feelings always come and go. It depends if you want to remain with them and have a family or move on. Beginning stages everyone loves hard because it feels good but the same values is what will keep two together. Not feelings.
Yes. Agreed. Short and simple. I am so glad that my husband and I were 'on the same page' as far as principles go.
I married my penpal. We got to know each other by writing letters. We've been married almost 29 years now.
Amen to that! Feelings are the flavour, principles are the quality.
Love is a choice as well as a feeling, yes (the choice being to make your partner's needs and feelings as much of a priority as your own) -- but in all fairness, you need the feelings as well. The foundation of a relationship should ultimately be a close friendship rather than just infatuation or lust, but trying to have a relationship with someone purely for logical or practical reasons is probably going to be less than satisfying because most people aren't that logical or practical. Yes, trying to be in a relationship with someone whose values are significantly different from yours is usually the "kiss of death"...but while trying to have a relationship with someone primarily because this person "looks good on paper" is better, at least as often as not, it tends not to work terribly well in the long run.
@@OreadNYC I would disagree here that feelings have to be involved for a successful relationship. First this is first you must have some attraction to that person , but even that will get old and dusty what then ? Committed people figure out ways to see new things , in life and in their partner . Only commitment both ways works. I remember my weight loss journey that took me from 220 to 170 . I remember very clear that every single day my feelings where not in place as a matter of fact my biggest hurdle in loosing weight were my feelings . Thank God I got up did the works out and ate correctly without listening to my feelings , why ? Because if I did I would %100 be fat still. Feelings we give to much credit to , life goes beyond the way we feel.
Absolutely agree. Having the same core principles is very important when merging lives together. If you decide to have a family together, children etc. How will you raise these children? What values, lessons etc will you teach these children? 🥰😘
So far everything this guest has said about love is exactly what I feel. And then I burst into tears when he said; "love is about giving." This guest you have right here is a high quality man. 🏆👏
Love is about giving. This should be a real wide eye opener to those around us: a lot of takers walking amongst us & that shows how much of the population do not even love themselves let alone others.
Me too!
My thoughts exactly ❤
Hey how are you doing today?
You have a good heart from your expressions
I want to know more about you
When he said “You present yourself as something to someone that you can’t sustain” hit me right in the feels, as well as the gut. 😮😢😊🤷🏻♀️
Pretty much describes every man I ever dated.
I’m not understanding…
I stopped having anxiety when I stopped trying to present myself any other way than I truly am. If you are genuine and they love you, you know they love YOU and not the idea of you.
Healing from childhood neglect , emotional neglect , abandonment issues. How we were cared from a caregiver can affect who we choose, caregiver was emotional unavailable as a child, we will tend to be attracted to the unavailable person cause it seems familiar and the healthier available seems boring although it’s the healthy option . Breaking the patterns , so we don’t repeat the same patterns. C-PTSD will give way to limerence so choosing g to one to heal it’s a process , knowing g yourself . Crappy Childhood Fairy on you tube gives insights on healing etc . You got this! You are enough!🙏🙏🙏❤️❤️❤️
"people doesn't change but actually they just become conscious who they really are" "sometimes you're not missing the people, you're missing the feeling" i
love that
deep
Hey how are you doing today?
@@AndrewJamesBaldwin Not bad, thanks for checking
@@jacensage4489 can we be friends?
Hi beautiful ❤
i just ended a relationship of 3 years with my first love. it was very toxic and codependant. one of the reasons i stayed with him is because i felt unlovable and thought id never find anyone else who loved me. he never loved me and he was a waste of time. he would love bomb me and give me attention when he was bored then practically go missing 80% of the time. it was a learning experience. im hoping one day ill find someone who loves hard like me and puts effort into becoming a better person and being open minded. i only know love is real because of how i love.
Wow smh I felt this on another level
I was in you’re position 3 years ago I’m now in a loving relationship with the most sweetest guy ever . One thing I encourage you to do is to completely step into you”re feminine era to attract passionate men from the way you present yourself, speak and act trust me it works
This is what I'm going thru right now. Are you okay now? Have you fully moved on?
@@divineoshun5099do you have more ideál about it ?
My ex and I were together for 13 years, a month after he left me I met my current boyfriend, within 5 days of knowing each other I ended up in the hospital for a month, and he spent every single day with me taking care of me. I knew the first week he was my husband. I knew our souls had agreed to meet again. And that’s my future husband 💙💙💙
Amazing ❤
Love can be expressed in many ways. One way I know is to send it across the distance to the person who is reading this.
That was really amazing
Lmao what a fast rebound,only women could do that. Hope that this won't be a future divorce 🤣🤣
Oh stop. A month later. Good gosh
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let her go i did all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring her back
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her?
Her name is Shelly renee white , and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive
Awe, I’m right there with you. 5 years together but I’m slowly realizing and accepting I didn’t truly know who I was with. I gave myself without giving them a chance to show me they deserved it. Now I’m 5 months pregnant getting ready to be a single mom, and all he can say is he fucked up. This was on point, I don’t know who I was in that relationship and became the worst version of myself. It will get better❤😊
“The detox” I felt that! Leaving my partner of 12 years was debilitating. My mind and heart knew it was best to let go, but my body didn’t understand!
Hello, how did you find the courage and strength to leave? Congrats on making that move.
Really hard especially when you have kids together
I left cause I felt like throwing up all the time from nerves couldn't eat...
Also I feel the detox
I left my husband of 27 years. I too knew that it was what was necessary, but like you, my body didn't understand. I became so sick, hospitalized and all. There are children involved as well so the guilt definitely ate me up but I've heald from it, I'm just so glad that I trusted my decisions.
He absolutely had me at "God is love." This is the way to truly show and receive someone's love.
Same. This made clear to us.
Does spirituality matters in a relationship?
Hey how are you doing,?
Yes cause if you’re not evenly yoked it won’t work out in the long run.*@@ConradKurtMorgan
Nah, atheists experience love too, it has literally nothing to do with “god”
My boyfriend never knew how to show love. I thought he took me for granted. I always put in efforts to make him feel special, but he never did anything for me. The truth is, he doesn’t know what I expect from him. Neither did I; yes, even men have expectations. And, we never openly talked about it. To build understanding, we now play "Lovify" questions game. In this game, we have to guess what we expected from each other. I learn a lot about my boyfriend. we are tring to open up about topics we previously avoided ❤
Sounds wonnderful, how is the game 'played', may i ask? I mean, how do you start and proceed with it
@@alinavolkova748 you can play it on your phone. Its actually an app.
Thanks for sharing your experience :)
This is so cute & such a great way to communicate in a fun way ♥️
Work on your feminine energy. Not everyone has love inside anyway. If a person doesn't give you love, it's because they don't know it, they don't have it, they don't know... get out of there before they hurt you more.
Thank you for this video.
I had 2 boyfriends before my 25th. A "Late bloomer" so to speak
After a lot of spiritual, emotional growth and travelling around the world, I finally met my true love connection at 36. The moment we met we both 'just knew'. Immediately pregnant with twin boys we had 4 children in 3,5 years and still In love.
If I had met him in my 20's I would not have recognised the love connection.
It is all meant to be.
I hope you all find the one for you❤
Do you think it is hard to be in love in early 20? Because i think yes
Your story is so beautiful and gives me so much hope. Best wishes to you and your family.
I felt so happy for you!! I think,when it happens,you just know it is love and he or she will be your future. I was hopeless as 18 year old because generation doesnt really like wanting to have family and thinking serious. But now I think I have enough time :)
@@blackeneddove Time is an illusion, feelings are not. When you, your soul and spirit feel it is the moment for love, it will come to you.. First love and know yourself, then the rest will follow ❤️🩷❤️
@@NonoNana-et9we well, when you are young you might not be confident enough or still need room to grow. Love is wonderful when it is reciprocated.
I always say - you can’t love someone who doesn’t love you back. That is in terms of a relationship. It’s soo true 🙏❤️
Most people get caught up in a situation where they fall deeply in love with someone that gives them all they’ve been looking for in a relationship, they feel that comfort and security whereas the person does not actually love them. How can you get out of such situations?
Hey how are you doing,?
I say you can’t love someone who doesn’t love themselves
Love is a two way stuff not one sided so the both persons deserve to receive same energy, how are you?
@@mylifeyourwill7800 Oh you can love them but life will be miserable. They will act like they love you because they need your love and adoration but if they don't love themselves they can never return true love.
"So scared of losing someone so don't ask right questions to see if the relationship will work...not being yourself"- Jay Shetty
What is meant for you will find you. Louis Hay said “let them go and love yourself “ or “let go and let God”.
I am not the same person of a year ago and I am thankful I became aware of how is important for me to be at peace where I am in life. Single and glad I never got married with anyone I met because I had low self esteem.
I have goals in my life and if I want to get drunk I’ll drink the best wine 🍷
Love yourself and be a good person.
🙏❤️
I love Louis Hay ❤
She has good advice for life. My favorite line she said, “You have to love yourself first before you can love those around you.” Which is true. How can we love someone or respect them if we can’t love and respect ourselves? ❤
@@cad5017 that’s a journey right there, then when we think we love ourselves someone comes along and we realize that we still have work to do 🤣
I have deep issues in that department and I am scared because I am aware how easily seduce we are. It’s a pointless conversation because it doesn’t matter, I realize that the relationships I have are worth it and everything else is a bonus.
@@cad5017 BTY I don’t understand men but I understand incarnated souls having an experience.
The part where he said
“Woman’s intuition is extremely powerful I’m a huge believer in it and I feel like Women know very early this isn’t it but they rationalize reasons to convince themselves to give this man a chance and this again is a waste of time because it just doesn’t work.”
It is so true. Ever since I was a small little girl, I always followed my intuition. Except my previous relationship, I didn’t listen to it and it has been the biggest lesson by far in life. God gave me so many signs and I tried to control the relationship. I changed so much for the person that I lost myself. I am growing closer to God and I feel at peace, knowing that if I can understand how to allow God to guide me, I will be okay.
I hope many woman and men watch this video. These are two very wise men speaking.
Its true. I left my child's father after 2 years. I didnt feel loved. I moved on and gave this guy a chance that had been chasing me since I was 18 years old. I've never been so happy in my life before.
Wow. Emotionally Intelligent men really do exist. This video is proof. helped me so much. ♥
❤ really ! this topics used to be women's area , I'm also so happy to find these emotionally intelligent men who are able to share their insights.
In my experience as a woman, I am happy to be calming and loving when my partner gets heated and angry in order to get back to center…but only if they are being respectful. So often that line is crossed by men where the “masculine” side comes out directed TOWARD the female. I don’t believe we should be expected to withstand that.
"Holding 2 opposing ideas" - And being okay and at peace with that is the heart of dialectical behavior therapy, DBT
He said a word!! “Don’t change your ability to maintain your feminine/masculine energy just because you’re sharing it with the wrong person” ❤❤❤
There must be something wrong with my eyes, I can't take them off you. Let's commit the perfect crime, I'll steal your heart and you steal mine.😅😅 I'm sorry sorry for intercepting you this way but I think you need someone interesting in both inside and outside.🤔😊😊😊😊😊
You are so beautiful and i was instantly attracted to your smile .....
Most people get caught up in a situation where they fall deeply in love with someone that gives them all they’ve been looking for in a relationship, they feel that comfort and security whereas the person does not actually love them. How can you get out of such situations?
Love is commitment, a leap of faith, a decision you make. It is not a rush, not a feeling. You deliberately make a choice if you love that person forever, even after death. To give anything, unconditionally, and be happy for that person's growth and success, moving forward together through good and bad times.
I saw a man at work the other day and told him I liked his pin. It was a rose pin he had in the middle of his shirt where the buttons were, he said he lost his wife in March and that Rose was her name so he wore it to have her with him. They were together for 50 and half years he said. 😢😮❤
Relationships are hard because as a young person most of us didn’t have support, someone to talk to, explain things etc. Good Luck to everyone.
Your goodluck doesnt help at all😭
Do you know how many relationships you saved just with this podcast... my lovely tears from my broken heart to healing soul..cheers to you
😊😊
At the 38:00 time stamp. Wow that resonated with me so much! Never ever let anyone change you from being a kind loving and caring person in a relationship. If someone doesn’t appreciate that or value that, move on. You don’t need this world to change you into a harder shell of yourself. The right person will value your compassionate nature and hold on to you ❤
Absolutely 💯 spot on ❤
I'm available
What resonates: 1) “You may not be right for each other right now” relieves the pressure and allows for growth possibilities. 2) Writing the letter - love that - allows full processing. 3) express yourself - ending the relationship without stating the reasons why doesn’t allow for processing by either person.
What could be more important than a happy ending?
Stephan and Jay do a great job of breaking down the signs that a man truly loves you. I think it's important to remember that love is not just about how he makes you feel, but also about how he treats you. If he's respectful, supportive, and makes you feel loved and valued, then there's a good chance that he truly cares for you.
Right
Definitely an eye opener but also got handed a mirror. We both become an issue off trauma neither of us gave each other. And feeding off that trauma caused us to actually hand each other trauma 😢prayers to everyone 🙏😊
Things will get better. You will get better. God has a plan for everyone.
“We’re so scared of losing someone that we're okay with not asking important questions and discovering important truths that actually define whether this relationship is going to last. Ultimately, you’re not being yourself, you're losing yourself, scared that you're going
to lose the other person so you're okay with not being yourself”
Exactly what is a lasting relationship? Relationship that last one year? 5 to 10 years? 15 years?
@@hiddenname9809 for me it’s till death do us part
Divorce is never the way out, My wife and I have been having issues before I sort out help from a spiritual adviser,i wasnt going to let my marriage of 18years crash
@DailamiPuang well not the orthodox way but i was referred by a friend to a spiritual adviser and healer
@DailamiPuang her name is SHELLY RENEE WHITE,and she is a great spiritual adviser as well as caster
you can look her name up online and you will find all you need.
I disagree. Sometimes divorce is the answer for some people. I am certain you are not advocating for people to stay married regardless of situation. Abuse? Neglect? Everyone’s situation is different. I am glad you decided to do the hard work to save your marriage. I wish you well.
Becoming intuned with self is a priority above everything else. I can testify to this discussion
Such wisdom ! Don't stop being the loving, good person you are just cause you were hurt by a wrong person.
This is one of the best dialogue I have seen regarding "relationship and how and why", let alone its between two men talking about very sensitive and intricate issues. Most refreshing.
Don’t be in a relationship if you are wanting to fix, improve or change your partner because wanting to fix your partner basically says you don’t want them! Ending your relationship may mean growing, so try it. That was Stephan’s best message!
Nice❤
But what if the person is willing to change?
Some things need to be changed in a person, even if you don't end up with the person. Some things are just not healthy.
@@kkync4309 then they are becoming better for themselves and not you.
@@studylive99 I guess you are right..
Very cool video A month ago, I ended a five-year relationship. My soulmate made the decision to walk away from me, and even though I've done everything in my power to get him back, I can't help but feel disappointed because I can't see my life with anyone else. I want to say that I've tried everything to stop thinking about him, but I simply can't. I miss him so much and I don't know why I'm saying this here.
I learnt the hard way that saying goodbye to someone you love is difficult when a 12-year relationship ends. But I was unable to let him go, so I made every effort to get him back. I eventually sought aid from a spiritual counsellor, and he was able to assist me in getting him back.
Interesting-sounding! How can I most efficiently get in contact with a spiritual counsellor that you recommended?
His name is Father Obah Eze, and he is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
he is father obah eze, he has great powers, he can help you.
I appreciate you providing this important information; I've just checked him up online. striking I just checked Father Obah Eze online, and wow, he's really genuine. Thank you so much again ❤
When I went on dates I give the guy a couple weeks at the most if this is a relationship that I would invest my time and energy in. I know the guys that I let go were sad and upset with me for breaking the relationship off but I told them “it’s not fair to you or to me to be wasting our time together if it’s not going to work out. We both deserve better and we can both learn from this relationship experience of what worked and what didn’t work. What we liked and what we didn’t like.”
It’s best to be true to yourself and to always grow as a person.
For the first time in forever, I have met someone whom is all. There is a deep understanding of each other's needs, wants , and desires. We had compatibility first, then we started truly connecting on a level, I haven't felt beforehand. We have an INTIMACY of minds and being. It feels natural/normal. We discussed EVERYTHING! Religion, politics, what we wanted and needed, sex, lifestyle, and defined roles ! I kept testing for red flags, so far , I have found none. The emotional intelligence, empathy, and introspection is off the charts! We also find each other very attractive...and yes there is even chemistry!
We have talked for hours at a time. Seen each other and it is all so easy! No games, no second guessing, just fluidity. We are aligned so well, it is uncanny.
Both of us would ask open ended, and freely answer , questions. Rhe polarity between is is crystal clear. He is the man type for me, he has a gentleness and caring, AND he is 100 percent in his masculine energy. The only way I can describe is to say...' I know we know,
That’s limerence, bro.
I was guided to this. Been in a relationship for 2.5 years now. Confirming now that I made the right decision to leave ❤
I had to leave mine yesterday. I’m hurting, and I’m not sure why, he became verbally abusive. I know I made the right decision. I’m just sad
@@briannaarnett9101I’m just sitting in my car crying. I’m so tired
@@briannaarnett9101I’m sorry to hear that. How are you doing now?
I need prayers so I can get out 😢
@@anlinmanalili2835I am sending prayers to you!
Im literally in tears of joy after watching! I felt like i was alone in the journey of my thinking. Thank you for scientifically proving why i had those standards but not fully understanding why. And not just for religious reasons, but I've heard gods voice telling me these things.
I was the problem in the relationship; looking through this with unbiased eyes was the blessing I needed to understand how to go about a relationship. This is my first true love, and I've been going about it the wrong ways, seeing things very childishly from anxiety, trauma and lack of balance with my masculinity and femininity. I felt cornered by my thoughts and didn't know what to do and what I was thinking or truly understanding.
I know most people on here will see this video as a sign to move on from who they have or had, but this was a beautiful wake up call so the person I love can have the man she deserves. This helped a relationship remain true. And I didn't expect this outcome to come from a thumbnail like "That's Not Real Love!" I was scared to open this but I'm glad I did. Now I can be better.
takes real strength to admit a misgake like that! all the best to you
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This comment should get pinned!!!💖💖💖 that's amazing
Stephan hits the nail, hits the mark on relationships, dating and healing! Love his no BS, honest approach in his videos!
Love these quotes from Jay:
"We think people change, but actually they're just starting to understand themselves...You met an unconscious version of a person and now you think they're changing, but they've just become conscious of who they are."
"Society doesn't encourage that time of getting to know yourself. When you're young, you're not trained to think of how you wanna be, you're trained into thinking of what you wanna do. It's about your job, it's about your career. You're not thinking about who you are as a person."
"Often I found that two people need to grow individually to be able to grow collectively. And we're forcing growing together so hard, but we need space to grow."
I loved the part where stephan said that it's the hardest when people that are meant for each other have the hardest time getting together. I testify to that.
I don't know how Stephan managed to enunciate what so many people feel (almost on a daily basis), in such a clear manner.
Very well articulated message, simple and potent.
That bit where they talk about how unsustainable it is showing certain sides and suppressing other sides of your personality to attract people is so spot on. It can be so disheartening to the person who worked on themselves to fall for someone who was hiding their true self and turns out to be almost a stranger in the end.