BIPOLAR DISORDER & RELATIONSHIPS: My Story
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"There are three things that always feel VERY WRONG in my life when I'm symptomatic... I either think something is wrong with my job, my relationship, or my living situation. It's almost like clockwork. The rest of the time, my relationship is awesome, my job is just fine, and I don't mind where I live. This has been incredibly difficult for those around me to understand.
When I'm unwell, the feelings that something is wrong with my life get so real I can taste them. It would be like someone punching me in the stomach in front of an audience and then everyone trying to convince me it didn't happen - when I can feel the wind knocked out of me. It doesn't matter how many books I've read or how perfect my meds are... There are still times where I can't see things clearly and this is simply part of the illness.
The one area of my life where I have so much regret and have done the greatest damage has probably been my relationships. I can look back on a train-wreck of collateral damage and broken hearts.
Today I'd like to share some of the reasons why I ended relationships, how I see those situations years later, and how I've worked with my current partner to stop this cycle from continuing. I know there are so many confused, hurt, and angry people out there who have been on the receiving end of a Bipolar relationship. Please know that I'm not minimizing hurtful or abusive behavior by any means with this video. My goal is to share some of my relationship experiences and help fill in some gaps of understanding.
I'll even include some tips I have for maintaining a healthy relationship towards the end of this video. If you aren't well, please come back and watch this video at a later time. When I'm not well, I'm just not open to advice and could miss something very important."
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Thank you so much for making this video. My husband has bipolar. We married each other twice. The first marriage lasted seven years and it ended because his bipolar episodes. We went on our own way after our divorce. Seven years later we started to date again, and we got remarried last year on June 17th. My husband's episodes are simular to yours. Once again we're going through his episodes and it's not easy. While I was watching this video he came into the room. I asked my husband to please sit down and watch this video with me. David watched the whole video. He loves it and asked me to save it. I also subscribed. Thanks for sharing your story. God bless.!
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Wow you’re such an amazing soul. Don’t ever forget
Thank you for sharing your story! It is encouraging.
My husband is bipolar. We’ve been together for 20 years and it’s very hard for me. He’s finally accepting therapy, but still resistant to the meds.
"I'll take care of myself for you and you take care of yourself for me"
I love that ❤️
I admire your honesty, self awareness, and vulnerability.
Hey Rob,long time no hear but I'm ok working very hard to Change my situation.Be that as it may,I would like to know how u deal with anger ?Like the kind that is dangerous almost to the point of laughter because the rage & anger is so much u can only laugh but are fuming on the inside,then it tends to seem like a light thing when in fact you are just so outraged that u can't do anything else.I'm at that place, on top of being a spritual person and intuitive yet there are still the unwanted voices or and thoughts at times its like I'm a freaking guess in my own body .Im just So over this Rob.I recently decided to finish my high school education and graduate in June. What a blessing, yet so many other things Iike I beat myself up bc of my age its humiliation times 3. I trust No one I see the world so different from what I did in the past.Not having my space ,time ,privacy respected along with living in a place in which I Hate with great the greatest passion and all I can do is work as hard as I can to Change it which by the way is a Fact a Promise to Myself that I will do .I am finally choosing Me Myself and yet I am trying to at least acknowledge my feelings and not just cast them away as others Always has.Anyhow thanks for being you & what you do to encourage others such as we are even though we all all unique and special in our on way yet we can relate being Warriors. Continue to Slay Rob bc I will😘😘😘
@@erikblack9663 Hi Erik, I am not an expert, but I know a temper can cause trouble. The phrase he used in this video "punch a wall" made me laugh. My first job was in a fast food restaurant. When I was mad about something, I would punch the door to the walk-in freezer. Until the time I could barely move my hand after I did it. I'm in my 50's now, and go for a fast walk to let off steam, then use words instead of fists for anger, so far. Life is a work in progress. God bless you.
@@maryw4511 it's very hard to be a family member or a relationship person with a bipolar person because you don't know how to react to them and it takes a lot on the other person's end so I'm choosing not to go in that direction because I don't want them to end up killing themselves
@@tammeyj1958 I'm sorry if I was too casual in my comment. I have bipolar and it is difficult for my family too. Please call 911 (emergency) or 211 (not emergency) anytime your family member says or indicates they are considering suicide. May God bless you and your family.
Thanks
I am in love with someone who suffers from bipolar. We met about a year and half ago. Had the most intense start/get to know phase. Were so in love. He used to share everything with me from his painful past relationship to his days and every little detail. He seemed to be working so hard at educating himself and trying to stay healthy then one episode and he hit the lowest of low and got unwell. Now he seems to not be doing so well. It is so heartbreaking to see him go through all that. He slowly drifted away and I had no idea what had happened when changed so much. So one day I told him how I still loved him and would never leave, and wanted us to be together. For him to only say he was not ready and had his mind all over the place and didn’t want a relationship. It was so hard. I know he needs help. I know he needs love and support but he keeps pushing me away and it’s the most excruciating pain. I never knew what bipolar was until I met him but I also didn’t know what real love and empathy was until that moment 😢 I don’t know anything about his healing because he barely shares anything anymore. I hate it. I pray and wish healing to anyone suffering!
May we all have the strength and courage to love and heal (whether suffering from bipolar or having a loved one who does)❤️
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Amen!... I'm in the same spot
Me too
Im going through something similar my gf is being emotionally distant rn and it hurts..
I’m going through this painful feeling too 😢
The denial is what was killing me. Finally accepting and seeing the pattern and seeking help when I was 19... I caught it super early and after some trial and error I found the right medication cocktail. I'm 24 now and I'm on my way to graduate school to get a masters in Clinical Mental Health Counseling and hopefully be able to help people in the same situation I was. Wish me luck :)
That's wonderful Rick. Best of luck to you as you embark on this new journey! :) I hope it works out really well for you! -Rachel (Polar Warriors Team Member)
I wish you all the luck in the world ❤
Real life Transformers 💪🏼❤️💪🏼So proud of y’all!
i’m 24 now and starting to realize the truth however a lack or in denial support system is hurting me even more , i want help but don’t know where to start . a regular doctor visit first ?
My relationships/marriages always ended up in the toilet. It was always the other persons fault in my mind. I am newly diagnosed bipolar II and your videos are helping sort through the train wreck of my life. The train wreck that I created do to my mental illness. I am so blessed to have a loving partner now that is walking the journey of healing with me.
Good for you. I hope I can say the same thing one day. I ended an 8 year relationship almost a year ago and still do not feel ready to start a new one. This time I want to do some work on myself and become strong enough emotionally so I don't help destroy a good relationship. I'm happy for you that you found a partner that will support you on your journey.
My bf believes he has bipolar disorder and after doing some research I feel like he does. I want him to seek help for HIMSELF but it's so hard to get him to even call and make one
@@coriisvilla2925 same.
@@coriisvilla2925 mine too. He absolute hates the idea of therapy and I understand it’s not for everyone, but trying could be a start. I’m hoping to find or even start a small support group to help me and others find more coping methods and advice on how to be there for them
@@luzyera11 LMK what helps you cope because IK our mental health is important too. I recently started therapy for myself and we've decided to take a break for now. But IDK how to help him anymore or just be patient. Is there any advice you have that may be helpful
This is exactly what I feel when I'm getting symptomatic: Something is wrong with my job, my relationshio/friendships and the place where I live and, above all, I badly need to change everything completely in order to finally feel better😆. I could listen to you for hours - it always feels as if you were the male version of mine 😂🙊.
It doesn't help to change anything while under an episode as you take yourself with you wherever you end up. I lost the love of my life by not knowing I was bipolar and was being treated with SSRI'S.
This sounds so much like my relationship, she always blamed me and treated me like shiz . I gave her 11 years of my life and tried everything to make it work. I let it go because of the lies deception, feeling invisible and waiting for commitment promises that never happened. I love her so much and hope that she realizes that I would've given her the stars from the sky if I could ,but it was never enough .this isn't an easy disorder and I sympathize but it takes two to put in the work and i gave it 11 years she gave it zero .thank you for these videos they help me alot.
I just made it to year 11 myself and am finally tapping out of my marriage as well.
Maybe as advice you can introduce her to this channel it has helped me ....currently I don't know if I am blaming my relation because of my illness or i am actually in a bad relation .....on the brink of marriage and I am scared of ruining his life and mine ....the difference is I realize more about this illness... for the longest time even after the diagnosis I thought I was normal because my episodes kick in just once in two years I have long moments of stable period but now periods of instability is more frequent and I am blaming the stress around me like not being called back for my job or the upcoming wedding I feel I am not ready for :(
this is my biggest fear!
I don't want this to be be me.. I'm sorry you lost 11 years. I'm at 6, and still feel like I'm selfish and guilty as if I should've know that THIS time.. she's gonna have a break down due to honesty
Just curious as to what kinds of things she was lying about?
I totally get this, I abused drugs to self medicate and it ruined alot of things for me. I think addiction goes right along with bipolar disorder
The fact that you can record this video with little/no cuts is so impressive. Really brings a sense of closeness to the video.
Agreed
Hiya, I have just ended my relationship with my bipolar partner of 15 months. I am aware that he has had a cycle in all his previous relationships and I too was in this rapid cycle with him. I have been educating myself all the way through his journey, but he then started chasing elsewhere and the longer I remained the further away I was being pushed away, I too lost my sense of self in this whole experience. It’s been the most enduring journey, I made the decision that I need to look after myself ultimately as he is still unable to take ‘responsibility’, walking away was the hardest thing I have ever done. There has also been no intimacy for 12 months. I love him dearly, and I truly hope he finds a place a comfort eventually xxx
In those 15 months How long was he stable? In his episode, Did he go look for partners and not talk to you at all?...
I'm no doctor so I won't diagnose him. What I know is that all the love that we once shared nor my willingness to fight any issue by his side. Even after constantly educating myself learning how to curve my words to make sure I didn't offend him. When in reality I was just begging for him to let me in. It not enough
I’m bipolar and just ended my relationship with my boyfriend today. I know he can really relate to this because he told me the same thing. He felt I kept pushing him away. He lost his self because he’s alway thinking about how to help me and that made him tired. I understand him and his decision because I love him. I just want to be better so that I can be stable and have a happy relationship soon
I had to end mine after almost three years and it hurt so much! I had enough when I lost myself in begging for his attention and affection. I had to request to spend time with him because he said I didn’t earn it. Next thing you know I’m pregnant driving at 2am looking for him while he ignored all my calls and texts. I finally found him drinking and driving and ensured he came home safely. After he acted like nothing happened and when I said I had enough he grew angry and said he’ll always go out and always take care of himself first.
I wish I saw these videos before, nice that people share there experiences.
This video made me cry. The amount of times I have wanted to give up and end my relationship when I have my low episodes is insane. And then I always wondered why once time had passed why I didn’t feel that way anymore? Why I felt so separated from that thought process? I recently got diagnosed so I’m doing a lot of research and it’s very comforting to relate to other people.
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Same the number of times I have told my boyfriend to break up with me just so that I can be alone and have the pain by myself
That resonated with me big time -- thinking that something's wrong with my job, relationship, or living situation. I've experienced so many rounds of that thinking...
Jared Beckwith same dude, I don’t even know what’s real and what’s not anymore xx
Hope your keeping well?
When I'm Manic, I truly think I'm either Jesus or a Prophet.
Same thing here. I've left jobs and dropped out of school and put way too much on my plate only to crash and burn. Also pushing people away because I was genuinely ill. I'm happy I can look back at that now and recognize the signs. Therapy has been a big help. There is hope
I'm constantly looking for a "better" job and a better mate and a better place to live. Now I know it's me that's the common denominator. Ugh!
@@EnjoyLife-sg3kt seriously? How come? Thanks
You are so talented. I don't have bipolar , but I love your channel. I can tell you are a kind man with a good heart and I love that you are helping others.
What you've described is what I've been dealing with for 20 years , it's cyclical. I won't ever give up on her. 🙌
1:05 - Broken hearts
2:50 - Overachieving & Mania
12:05 - Pain of heartaches
13:20 - Extreme Choices
14:00 - Constant Episodes
15:40 - Learning about Bipolar
My girlfriend breaks up with me whenever she hears something she doesnt like about herself. Unlike Rob she isn't humble and her narcissistic abusive personality makes things so much more difficult. Luckily she keeps to her meds but hearing Rob and a few others mention a therapist sounds like the only other answer possible. Rob got to a place where he knew he had to fix himself and face his demons. That takes so much courage and self awareness ... you fully acknowledged and owned your past actions and responsibilities.
Well done mate. All the best 👍
Sounds just like my ex girlfriend, mine used to bring that behaviour to the bedroom and wondered why I lost interest in her. Although I made the right decision I kind of miss the ,,,I'll do anything anywhere crazy stuff probably the main attraction tbh I now studying this Chanel so I don't make the same mistake again, I told her you pushed the button to far this time she just flipped the finger walked off ranting onto her next victim hopefully.
Sorry about the comments being disabled on the video! I made an error in the new TH-cam settings that determine if videos are "made for kids" or not. I'm so glad I got this fixed because the comments are such an important part of the Community here
You're welcome friend 😝
Haha that's funny, I just finished watching this and I went to like and add it to my favorite's list and was super confused about the comments being disabled. I refreshed the video and saw your comment and was relieved haha; I'm not sure if you'll see this Rob but I can't thank you enough for the helpful content you continue to put out. Thanks so much and remember your work is valued and appreciated by many
Rob, thanks again for all that you do for the BP community, those who suffer with it as well as those who suffer with us. Every video of yours that I (and my wife) have seen has been clear, informative, and most importantly caring. I thank GOD that my BP is being managed with lower doses of meds than some and trying to better care for myself. I am also extremely blessed to have my wife walking through our lives side by side together. For others suffering with BP, take care of yourselves, take your meds, see the doctor when you need to do so, and try to work at your relationships with your friends and loved ones. Especially put extra work in your closet relationships when you're well. We are better going through life not as lone wolves, but with friends and loved ones. If you are alone currently and in a bad way, then PLEASE remember that GOD always loves you, and Do Not Harm Yourself or Others!!!!! The statistics on BP suicide are truly frightening for those who are off medication and or very unbalanced. Remember GOD loves you (John 3:16 17), you will be missed by someone, and life will be better again for you. Take care and GOD be with you.
Emilia Lecter Thank you so much!🤗🤗
Polar Warriors
Rob, you are correct, the comments are very important
Thanks for taking the time to fix the problem:)
I'm type 2 bi polar and i feel constantly down well atm neutral and all i wanna do is sleep after work... I'm always agitated and have to force myself to interact with ppl... I'm unmedicated
My last relationship was for 10 years and alcohol was such an enemy. I feel horrible for the things I put him through. I have now been married for 6 years and my husband and I have not drank a sip of alcohol for 7 years. He decided not to drink when I realized that I could not handle alcohol anymore. It has been a better life without it. I still have horrible downward spirals, but they are far better without the alcohol. Thank you for your video. My husband actually introduced me to your channel. We need more people like you and your followers to be brave and just tell their stories, so thank YOU and thank you guys/gals below
Good for you both of you. 👏
I just shared this with my husband. It's such a comfort to have this resource. Thank you for sharing your experiences.
This is actually very beneficial
It’s great to hear about someone else’s personal experience with bipolar disorder because when I search around the internet 99% of the content I find on bipolar disorder is giving a general description of the illness, which isn’t helpful - I’m already aware of my symptoms. Sharing our specific stories is unifying, thank you for your channel!!!
After my last self-sabotage with alcohol and relationships I sought professional help, meds and therapy and realizing I can do things to help manage the madness is such a powerful step!
I'm so glad you've taken steps towards better managing your symptoms. Best wishes to you as you continue on this path!-Rachel (Polar Warriors Team Member)
I am clearly bipolar ...once a Dr listened to my life story and he said the same thing. Every three years I have quit my job and dumped everything I own to Goodwill or given it away to a friend, hauled ass to a city where I've never lived and haven't got a job( with usually $1200 to $2000 to my name )
I usually break up with someone and move to another city with no warning. Then in three years do it again and dump the new boyfriend because I don't have any indication that they are the ONE....then I've moved back to live with my single mom three times....I've lived in 11 cities and at least 29 different living situations!!! I've had two marriages and a new relationship every 2 or three years ....living with the person and then abruptly leaving with no warning.....I've quit jobs on a whim and moved with no job waiting....lol. I thought of that as just being part of my adventurous spirit !
Thank you for telling your relationship story. I've done some very similar things, even dropping out of college and moving to another state where I didn't have a job or anything. My bipolar symptoms began to creep up around 10 years old, which is young. Every relationship I've ever been in has ended in disaster. Most relationships that end do, but I'm talking bipolar disaster here. My wife refuses to leave me and we've been married for 13 years. Things are strained right now, but I finally have a team of medical professionals trying to figure out the right cocktail of meds and therapy for me. Wish me luck.
My husband is 46 and finally realized that he needs help. We have been together for 25 years and I have known the entire time that something was wrong. I started researching about 5 years ago and sharing the information with my husband. About 6 weeks ago he finally realized that he needed help, after a manic outburst.
Bipolar is ruining my life.. on paper I have it all, but in real life I’m really really struggling.
Hope I find the right med dosage soon.
This video helps so much.
Thank you ❤️❤️❤️
Eleasha Thomas Williams thank you I really thought I was the only one that felt that way !
How are you? I'm struggling as well looking for answers. Asking myself whats wrong with me. I seeded normal but then I question the mania and the next day I'm sad and hopeless
I also don't know how to deal with my issues as well was diagnosed young and now it's affecting me.......I am trying to find a reason and I get it finding a reason helps but you tend to victimise yourself and blame others especially those who are close to you which is always not a good thing
You will Eleasha, just don’t give up! 🙏🏻💕
Sweetheart go to a good doctor I mean a good one and tell him or her everything and get meds if doesn’t work go back get another one also get a good psychologist to help u on a weekly basis or at least bimonthly stay away from drugs and alcohol anyway I can relate to u been bipolar for 40 years!!!
My ex has bipolar disorder we broke up like 10 times and it was really hard to go trough those break up I tried alot to understand her but it was really hard I hope she finds someone who is able to understand her alot more than I did. If any one has a partner with a bipolar disorder just understand them and love them give them hope and all the support you can. Learn about the disorder and help them.
Sorry to hear mate. I was in a similar situation except i believe I have bipolar as well and it became a fire and dynamite situation and I just couldn't get back with her even though she wanted to because she cheated on me but I couldn't get over it even though I had feelings for her too. She was a lot worse whether it be from trauma or just because it's a worse case but I think I've been with two girls at least with it one was for sure from trauma the other I'm not quite sure because she was very deceptive
God bless though 🙏✝️
Yes, love them and help them, and also learn to remove yourself from the relationship when it is too much. If you want a functional partner then reconsider... it is an awful lot of work that usually gets no recognition, retribution, or appreciation. They use you until you are drained and your needs are not even considered most of the time.
I've seen my wife in bad mental shape and I so often forget that she's sick b/c she doesn't ''look'' sick. She explains her symptoms even WHILE she's experiencing them! That alone makes her appear normal to me. Each description of a mood is so foreign to me, (as she is often mildly manic to which I'm accustom to) I write it off to her nerves and I'm now ashamed of doing that. Maybe I don't want her to be sick so much that I'm not facing reality myself? When we are together she seems so normal it's hard to believe she has bipolar. She's funny, smart, creative, best friend, a great listener, beautiful, but then she can change in seconds if I accidentally say something to trigger her! It's so hard to be around her when she's irritable. It's not the normal persons irritable, she's caps locked IRRITABLE and I'm always the reason or the fall guy. You've made me realize it's not always me. You've got a great channel going here Robert. I've been catching up here on you tube with the many helpful insights you share with others who have this illness. I will continue to learn from you by listening to your channel now; as my wife who has been following you for some years has been telling me to. I feel much more informed by watching and listening to your plights. Thanks for trying to help so many people who suffer.
I hear you buddy. We have to remind ourselves we arent the fall guy, it's not our fault, this isnt a normal relationship and that we have placed ourselves in a very vulnerable position.
Thank you for not quitting on your wife. She loves you and is trying her hardest to be the best person she can be. I applaud your efforts to learn about this disorder so you can support her as well as yourself. Always remember to take care of yourself so you remain healthy. Good Luck to both of you. 👍
I concur FULLY with your comment Sir. I have experienced the exact same conditions.
I going through this with my girlfriend! Thats how got to this video and your comment happens to be at the top. We’ve already broken up couple times and left wondering whether this relationship is worth it.
@@dkg6826 if you love her, it is worth it. There is a group called NAMI(National Association for the Mentally Ill).They are an organization that helps friends and family members cope with a loved ones mental illness. You might look up a group near you. The group usually has doctors, therapists, and clinicians that speak at the meetings. They meet once a month. Don't give up on your partner. Hope she is seeking support as well. Good luck.
Your page has always been amazingly helpful. Thank you
I could relate so much to your story. Everyday is hard work whether it's up or down, but it's worth it. I find so much inspiration from your videos. Thank you!
This is one of your best videos. Thank you!
Your videos have given me such a deeper understanding of bipolar disorder. It’s incredible to me how little I knew compared to how much I thought I understood.
Thank you so much and I thank GOD for your videos because I was just diagnosed with Bipolar 1 a week ago I left the office feelings relieved and at the same time embarrassed but to sum my story up is I'm 48 and just getting diagnosed but as a teenager I knew something was wrong but never had a clue that. I had a serious problem.but I could go on and on about my life but you nailed it and really appreciate what you are doing
This has truly how I’ve been feeling! I feel so much guilt for having these thoughts I’m glad I’m not alone 🥺
You’re such a sweet, sincere person. I related greatly with your self-awareness and humility for the things you caused in the past. Thank you for this video! Keep working hard to live with this disorder, as we all should. It’s hard work!!
thank you so much for sharing this story. I relate to it so much looking back on my life and troubles in relationships, jobs etc. I haven't been diagnosed, in my family it was "if you don't have an illness we can see you're not really sick" mentality and now that im an adult in my early 30s I'm seriously seeking help before I destroy my life anymore than I already have and this helped tremendously.
Wow this help me to understand what happen with us. Even know my heart got broken into pieces I’m glad I was part of your life cause I did learn so much and I’m so happy we can’t still be very good close friends. I respect you so much Rob!! This video really help me to finally understand that it was nothing I could do to save us at the time.
Thank you, this is so helpful. Just knowing I’m not the only one living with this makes a difference, figuring what to do about it is difficult. Starting with your suggestions is valuable.
Sir, thank you for all that you do. Your videos are giving me hope and I'm more than relieved to not feel alone.
Thank you for sharing. I’m new to my diagnosis & can relate to so much of your story. I didn’t realise how much I needed to hear it
Wow Rob so many parallels in my own life. Good for you to keep fighting! You have helped me so much...Blessings
When you described the feeling of needing to change everything I felt so exposed but things made so much more sense. Watching really helped me see things in a different light and has given me hope that I will be able to work through the challenges with my amazingly understanding and accepting boyfriend.
Wow ! this video will be in my favourites for a long time. You just lighten me up on a lot of episodes in my life. I did not even knew at this time that my depression and anxiety blinded me so much that I could not even see the manic in me destroying the most important things in my life, blaming them at the same time. THANK YOU for sharing with us !
I’m glad you made this. Makes me feel less alone. God bless 🥺
this man has for most part defined every relationship ive had since childhood
You explain so much! Really helps me understand what happened. Mental illness is so crazy. Irrational, disruptive, and painful for us family members. We love so much because there is so much to love and then we loose them and they blame us and we start to believe them because they are so convincing. But out of control lives are not worth living, or worth living with. It feels demonic.
This is brave and self aware! I am so happy you figured out what was going on in you!
Hearing about your stories being a tears to my eyes because of how much I can relate to you and your past. Watching your video made me realize I’m mentally ill and I’m pushing the people I love most away. I think I was having an episode because just last night I was ready to end a relationship of 1 year and move away again. After watching this video I am more aware of what I have done and I am thankful to have come across your channel.
Thanks for sharing your experiences and thoughts. It's comforting. God bless you
Interesting... This video says "my story" and people STILL dislike it. Perfect example of how we aren't open to reason when we are sick. I LOVED this video by the way
Thank you for your honesty and sharing your life. Your transparency will help me understand my 18 yr old son more. He is showing symptoms and I am exhausted. I will keep on keeping on for him and still take care of myself, as well. May God bless you for your kindness in doing what you’re doing.
Happy new year to you and yours Rob. I hope 2020 treats you kindly. I have learned so much from your videos. Thank you.
You're such a good speaker and very calming to listen to....
❤️ So I subscribe and gave a thumbs up
I realized recently that I'm having bipolar disorder. When thinking about my past it is like a nightmare living with my illness without knowing it. Now I'm educating myself about my illness more.
Mean bro that's a big step! Congrats 👍
hope you have visited a psychiatrist
Same here. It is kind of a relief to understand that I was sick while all of that was happening or while I was doing weird stuff. But it doesn't go away.
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You're such a wonderful person Robert ! I'm so glad i found your channel ! thank you so much for opening up, sharing your experience and giving us valuable advice ! sending you all my best wishes
Amazing video thank you. I needed this to help accept my past decisions and understand my current situation
Thank you for the videos Robert! Happy New Year to you! March will be one year together with my long-distance guy in Texas. He just celebrated working 34 years at American Airlines on December 30. He sticks to a monthly budget and takes his meds daily. He has other health issues as well and very open to talking about it. I am so proud of him and how well he stays on top of everything daily. He also is a single dad who has a 29-year old autistic son that lives with him. Sometimes I do have to encourage him to take a day of paid vacation to just be lazy at home. Even with living 800 miles apart, it has been the best relationship ever. I love him more every day.
Thank you so very much for sharing your story I am having A hard time accepting my diagnosis. This hit straight on the head. I truly related to your story.
I believe 100% finding this video tonight was a sign from somewhere. For the past year I have really been learning exactly what having bipolar disorder meant for me. It’s been one hell of a journey the past ten years with different adventures to different states with different husbands while feeling like I’ve already lived my best life because I hit my rock bottom with drawling in a jail cell 2 years ago. My fiancé doesn’t understand me, yet I hope, or understands how I know I achieve certain things within our relationship. Your “testimony” says everything I’ve not been able to express about my life with bipolar and it helps me show him that recovery is possible. That I don’t have to be that person anymore. Thank you.
Very healing brother. Thank you. Good to know im not alone. Very articulate, well said, accurate.
Thank You for your videos! They are so helpful.
I’ve recently been starting to accept and become aware that A lot of the times I swear I’m right
I’m not and I’m just manic and angry
So when u said don’t punch holes in ur relationship because there not so easy to patch up
Gave me such a big motivation
This is the exact video I was searching for, but was starting to think didn't exist! I've watched a handful of other bipolar videos, but this was the first one to hit the nail on the head! I'm going to send this video to my husband of 10+ years, in hopes it will hit home and drive him to seek the help he so desperately needs. Thank you for using your voice, platform, and personal experience to help all of those (and their loved ones) struggling with similar experiences! 💕
For bipolar sufferers and their partners alike, this is such an important video. My marriage of 11 years was full of cyclical, undiagnosed mania that significantly affected our ability to understand and support each other. And, oh the empty promises I'd make when panicking about being left. That marriage ended badly, but I'm hopeful for a future relationship in which I can be vulnerable and honest. Your channel is so very helpful, thank you.
You give me so much insight. Thank you for you're service. I can tell that you doing this isn't just for us but for you as well. I just moved from another state and got caught between medical insurances. Been manic since December. It's March. A couple of weeks ago I made a second attempt on my life. Called the ambulance on myself then left the hospital. I live alone. No family here no friends. I'm checking in in the morning. I love to work. I can't right now. Gotta get right. I finished my 4th book last night. Can't seem to put down the pen. Thank you for being you. Keep on! We are paying attention
My heart is broken and your videos are the only thing that give me some explanation of what happened to my once beautiful life.
there is still beauty to be found friend
Sorry Syra. Love you so much. Bye.
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You explained this so well. I’ve been in so many relationships that ended for the same reasons. now that I’m in a relationship with somebody who is bipolar as well it definitely puts me in his perspective sometimes and helps me understand myself better.
Wow thank you so much for sharing this. I am currently going through a crisis with my partner who has bipolar 1 and this video was incredibly helpful to me. It gave me insight into what they may be feeling and also how to manage my own reactions. It is good advice for anyone not to make life-altering decisions when you are unwell. I am feeling unwell myself in response to this stress, and so I keep reminding myself that as much as I may want to take action in order to combat the stuck feelings I have, there is no reason for me to do so and it is okay to wait until things are more settled. Thank you.
Honestly, this is a gift. Thank you so much for bring willing to put yourself out there for the betterment of others. You are an earth angel. Thank you. All the love and light I can muster to you!
This was an immensely brave and helpful video you've shared. I was with someone for 20 months who suffered the severity you describe. She totally denied anything was wrong and the relationship nearly ended my life. So I take my hat of to you for sharing this with everyone
Thanks so much for this video, I have learned why all my relationships ended for weird reasons, keep going with your videos
You’re spot on buddy. I can highly relate. I hope the best for you. You articulate how it feels incredibly accurately.
It was deja vu. Hitting pause is wise for me. Yet I run like the hatter. Thank you for this insight. It helps in relationship..you're doing a great job.
As a partner of a bipolar 1 person, this video was so very needed 🙏 Your story seemed relatable to me in some way cause of my partner's story. It's so sad to see how less research has been put into this disorder when clearly so many have been impacted by it.... You're doing such a great job of giving us all much needed info and tips about this illness. Thank you ☺️
Absolutely true. Totally relatable.
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Thanks for the advice. You have made more sense in 19 minutes than my doctors have for years.
Thank you so much for sharing! It’s like you are expressing exactly the way that I feel.
Wow! You just described my life exactly! I truly appreciate your open honesty. Hearing you describe what you have experienced has helped me to understand myself and this disorder better. I've reached out to accept help finally, thank you so much!
This is wonderful! I don't know you but I am proud of you. Getting help is scary.
Thank you for sharing this. I’ve been struggling with Bipolar Disorder myself. In exactly, 7 more days, it’ll mark a year, since I’ve been diagnosed with it. I’ve been struggling with Bipolar for the longest. It’s hard for me to feel love with someone, and to not feel like an oddball out. Thank you for the advice. I’ll be sure to use it 😊
Thanks for creating this channel and clearly articulating the challenges and tactics for dealing with the bipolar illness! Usually when I try to research or read about it the advice is very generic and not very actionable. This was very helpful! Thank you!
I don't know how to thank you, I have a friend who has bipolar disorder and I have been trying to learn more and your channel has helped me so much.
You're doing a very good deed, thank you so much.
Excellent video thank you very much for sharing your experience with us, I related to so many points. makes a huge difference to see and feel i am not alone with this challenging condition. All the best for you :) and please, keep making these videos, they are very very helpful.
Thank you for taking about "forgetting your pills". I'm doing same thing it's valuable tip
Holy moly there is a light at the end of the tunnel! So happy to see someone that recognizes their illness (clearly the person in my life hasnt). Im happy to know that awareness is possible. Thank you!
I love this guy, he's an champion over the inner struggle, I haven't made it there yet nor has my son's mother but goodness does this inspire me to be and do better and get me on the path of change. Instead of seeing ourselves as victims of anything, more like an survivor than perhaps someday, a Champion! Thank you!
Just found your channel. Thank you for this! I’ll be suggesting this Video and channel to my husband! He recently had a manic episode and is in jail due to his decisions.
I can't put into words the help that this is giving me with understanding what someone is going through. Unfortunately I'm on the backend of this after they made a terrible decision to end things only days after we were in such a good place. I'm dedicating myself to understanding and being there no matter what. Thank you for all you do I'm sure I'm not the only one searching for answers and comfort to ease the pain.
I just wanted to say thank you. I put myself in the hospital 4 years ago after I had my biggest mania episode and didn’t understand what was happening and the person I just started dating was so scared of my weird behavior they were gonna call the police on me (I wasn’t violent, just having delusions and arguing with them about what was real and what wasn’t and freaked them out). Was diagnosed with bipolar amongst many other things that they ended up taking away I guess??? then just treated me for bipolar. I haven’t truly believed I was actually bipolar till I found your video about the anger, and you described exactly what I’ve been scared of myself for years about. Then in this video you nailed it once again. Idk why but these two videos finally gave me relief I needed to hear. You just describe it so well that I feel normal again. Thank you dude. Subscribed
Thank you for this valuable video. As a partner of someone with bipolar, a lot of the content resonates with how I feel and some of the challenges we face. Very informative and useful video.
Thank you for being so generous with your time teaching how to live with bipolar. I was diagnosed recently with cyclothymia at age 58!!! What I told the psychiatrist nurse was going on in my thoughts and behavior coul qualify me back at ten years old. My mania includes arts and crafts, clothes, and constantly buying new journals because this one I will write in daily-and that stops in about a week. I believe now that the meds help me greatly. I have bought dogs and then had to regime them-a Great Dane, a collie, and a schnauzer. I lookin my closet today as I am minimalissing thinking who lives like this??? Where did all this stuff come from? A big relief is your explaining thins. I have been a member of AA 23 years, got sober which I now see my desperate attempts to self medicate and over years couldn’t live without it. Plus pain pills for brief times like toothaches and surgeries felt like I needed to stay on the opiates, but didn’t have a regular supply so I didn’t get hooked. I love being in this warrior group living one journey day at a time. You reminded me to be truthful about this and so far I have two people similar to me. Thank God for being fearfully and wonderfully made. I am learning to love me all over again. Plus no spending half a paycheck on crap. Take care!
It’s so breathtaking to hear someone else finally be able to communicate what I’ve always felt and thought about but had no idea how to express bc other people don’t listen or understand the depth of how serious everything you’re saying really truly affects us.
Hi Sydnee! Welcome to the community! ❤️🙏
I was diagnosed with Bipolar 2 this week. My mom was Bipolar 1 and untreated. I watch these videos every night, thank you so so much for making me feel normal.
This is another great video and so helpful. Thank you so much for your honesty and for the enlightenment. This video is extremely necessary. 🙏🏾❣🙏🏾
It’s the never ever ever saying sorry for anything that’s the worst.
I have the same disorder and I also abused alcohol as well as many , many other harmful substances in order to try to level the roller coaster! When I got clean and sober and took my meds properly I finally started getting better! It will never go away I don’t think but I’m much more capable of dealing with it now ! People should understand that it will never be easy but we must play the hand life dealt us as best we can! I constantly study my illness and learn everything I can about it in determination of fighting it effectively! This condition has at least made me a very strong person inside even through the terrible times ! I know I’m stronger than my problem but I battle it constantly and refuse to give up! You have made me even stronger with your great insight and honesty about the subject! The worse I feel, the harder I fight this hell on earth in hopes of one day defeating it ! Probably never happen but I will never surrender to it ! Thank you for your help!!!
Damn... this is so spot on for my relationship and the current "mixed episode" we are going through now... its like a mirror of every other episode every time... Its almost like shes following a script where she blames me for all of her lacking in life and moves out over night and is starting a "Life Coach" business with her friend who is equally lost... shes practically ghosted me for the 5th time and every time she comes back 2-3 months later its always how she now sees the pattern and will get it under control next time.... that obviously doesnt happen. Awesome video and description man.... thank you for putting the clarity out there. I am no doubt not perfect but I sometimes wonder if this time it really is something ive done... but this is too spot on and validates my gut instinct that this is another episode.. go through this every 6 months to a year...
I was researching and came across this video to send over to my mom. I really like how you explain things. I’m recently diagnosed and it’s hard for my family to understand me sometimes. It’s hard for me to understand me sometimes. But when after hearing your experiences, I don’t feel alone.
It’s OK 😊 New change takes time. Thank you for opening up, i know it can be risky💪. Congratulations on finding the one😊. My partner has helped me figure things out in the early days, Things are going very well 😊. In fact, he really surprised me back doing what he has to do to move forward from things in his past. I’m so proud of him, i honestly thought that the distance would take its toll. Knowing both sides of dating ( here vs far away) this is the only one i don’t regret fighting for. Well, more like waiting.
I'm single for 5 years now. I want, I wish, for the next woman I kiss to be the one I die with. It is a dream - just like my next job being the one I'll retire from. I know I am a dreamer, but I hold dearly to those dreams. Hence the super importance to take BP2 seriously. Learn it, embrace it, master it. I hope I am not just delusional.
Have been seen a wonderful with 3 mental illness and
WOW does he no how to kiss a girl no one could ever kiss me like that and no will ever kiss like he does 8 months 😳 so I think you will find that right girl do not rush into I wait 6 years I would never let a other guy kiss or make love to me good luck
I don't feel like I can have a relationship with this illness...
Okay, checked in last week and said you changed a lot for me. Had my first appointment with my shrink today and just picked up my script. Going to give this a go and keep watching. I'm sure you hear this all the time and have no idea your interest level in it, but if you aren't already, you should consider going to school to do this professionally or even run a group. Your great dude. Thanks a lot for everything.