What to do When Your Man is Passive
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 28 ส.ค. 2017
- Are you tired of your man being passive? What do you do when your man is passive? We've got a few practical suggestions to help your marriage find a balance in teamwork.
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"Why does he need to be the leader in that area?" Because it contributes to attraction and prevents resentment.
How about don’t get involved with a man that doesn’t initiate dates, slow making decisions, can’t answer a straight question…
This is very draining to have to poke him with a fork to plan, answer questions, set up dates…this is a wounded masculine form…some sort of trauma preventing him from standing fully on his masculine square
As a woman I don’t feel he can protect or make me feel secure
That part!!! Just don't get involved at all.
This is soooo f**** exhausting. I rather dump or divorce him than to have him "teach" a grown man to be comfortable in HIS OWN MASCULINE
This feels like rewarding his passively
If you mean rewarding his passivity, I would say that the only example they gave that could be misconstrued in this way is the example of complimenting/praising your spouse to support them in their dealings with depression. This is NOT rewarding bad behavior, it is inspiring better behavior. It would be extremely callous to argue against giving words of affirmation to someone that is struggling with depression…
But in the early discussions in the video they were pretty harsh, like out right stopping taking out the trash to bring a husband’s complacency out into the open. This is the opposite of rewarding and is quite tense and confrontational - though I agree with the speakers that it can be a very organic way of addressing a very sensitive subject to broach.
Appreciate this. It also feels a bit like the wife is having to parent the child. Why are parents/mothers/fathers not teaching these things to their hound boys? Why are men growing up not understanding how to make decisions, contribute to and lead a home?
I love this!!! Thank you for sharing. I felt so discouraged because my husband is very passive although he is good to me and my daughter. I felt hopeless and was contemplating divorce. Please keep doing these videos. God bless you!
None of this worked on my husband. He’s on the extreme end. No masculinity.
Andrea why are you with him?
sdg954 no simple answer there
Don't give up on him. You continue to pray for him, THERE IS NOTHING TO HARD FOR GOD! Ask the Lord to guide you to a counselor for yourself. You need someone to talk to while going through this. Ask the Lord to also surround your husband with married men who are sincerely sold out for God to encourage him. There are lots of good books out there as well that can give you advice too about being alone in marriage. God is more than able to help him and you!
@@andie5402 I understand you completely. :(
@@lovingkingjesus4822 He gave up on his self! lol
How to avoid or deal with silent treatment when one person is introvert and another extrovert? One wanting to talk through things and other withdrawing during the heated/tense discussion? Or another extreme is being unable to keep emotions in check and hurting with words? What can i do to find the balance?
Never get married= problem solved
That legit made me laugh. Very true.
Indeed 😂
Oooo y’all went deep. Thank you for this ❤️ Very vulnerable video. I’m single & celibate, preparing for marriage. This could be tough ... but starting to practice now and praying over our marriage now ❤️Whew that one is a challenge y’all! I get soooooo mad at this one!
Mine is spineless…..I’m leaving at the end of the month. Complete waste of time
The last guy I met asked me how much I earn... he is looking to be' mantained and this is the Extreme passivity. I find it disgusting
Wow
it sure is
gross
My husband. Smh We don't have kids and I'm glad we don't. He is so absent minded. I have think for and him. I will say he keeps a job. BUT other than that. Nothing.
What do you bring to the table other than your pussy?
Thank you very much for sharing this great info. The devil hates when any help for what God intended to be a blessing is given to strengthen the family. Yall are doing amazing work please keep it coming its so needed today. Yall make it look so easy but I know every situation is goin g to be different
Thank you. This helps
Getting prepared mentally for marriage while I'm single.. Your videos are great. Lanette you look super cute:)
+NYC Chisolm thank you 🥰
But first you all have to be open about the finances. He has his money I have mine. Definitely NOT what I want or what God wants but I can’t make him do anything he doesn’t want to do. I just pray. 🤷🏽♀️😢
Maybe he wants a second mother ! Maybe she wants a son . This relationship stuff needs serious updates
What if i do literally everything, work,cook,clean,bills,and care for kid but he still doesnt help me even after ive expressed it multiple times and or tried leaving it until he does it . How do i make him respect me and communicate with me?
Hes in damaged masculine form, he need therapy to decide that he wants to be a FULL grown man. This is a man boy
Sorry for your choice of man
You are a whole fool and man in the relationship…why should he do anything and he’s definitely not going to respect that you have no value in yourself so he doesn’t see you as valuable….if you accepted him like this it’s you with a mental problem along with a broken man
A fight I gave up 😩
Don’t try to change a man. Accept how he is or move on. Men don’t change.
That men don’t change or that woman don’t change is deeply counter-scriptural. In being saved and being reborn in Christ, we are not only changed but made new entirely before God and are so unfathomably changed by this process that the Holy Spirit comes to dwell in us.
I’ve gone through agnostic phases myself so if you aren’t religious or if you don’t believe in the concept of being born again in Christ and the Holy Spirit moving into and dwelling in us then fine - but if you ARE a Christian, to make the claim that men CAN’T change is blatantly heretical.
I like the advice but how come these type of discussions are always geared towards black relationships ,it seems like other races don't have to be on TH-cam discussing each other's roles.
This made me sad 😢
Things will never be on a consistent level with a black woman, she's always looking and lurking to start and create drama even when she knows her man is doing the best he can.
If “the best he can” is subpar to what any competent human can do then why stay with him? Just move on.
Bro that’s literally every woman! 😂
Please stop generalizing black women . It’s irresponsible and immature