You know this man doesn’t know what a “naked” girl looks like. He would see a woman with foundation, nude lipstick, and nude eyeshadow, and call her a natural beauty.
@@nubian77 Ah because if these types can get you to agree to these insignificant things then their foot is in the door for the inevitable subsequent abuse. Just makes it easier for them.
I mean... They are raised like that sadly. True that they could at least think about it a bit more but they hear since they are kids that girls are always trying to look hot for them so... Thanks the parents for that.
Translation: wear what you want ladies because he's going to complain about it either way. I've tried that a natural look or a plain look it still pisses them off because it won't look feminine enough for them. They have no clue what looks good on a woman and they do want you to look like a street walker because sometimes a provocative look will keep them away from you too. I've seen a woman like this and she couldn't even get one to bring her a cigarette because it repels them from bothering you if you dress like the local hooker or you dress modestly and you have a look like you don't care what they think of you. These two looks trigger them off the most especially when you take there advice they see a street walker as competition too because they know she don't want him and there insecure or jealous that provocative clothing only looks good on her and not them.
You dress for the job you want. If women wear what you don't like, she isn't dressing for you. You are not the job they want. They don't want you. That is why they are ignoring you....they don't like you, or care about what you want. 😂
😅 your comment made me think of Jackie Chan and Chris Tucker in Rush Hour. Jackie: “I don’t care about you, I’m here for the girl!” Chris: “The girl don’t like you!” 😂😂😂
Dated a guy who had the mentality of the guy in the first video and let me tell you, it’s a lie. They ARE attracted to those type of women but if they can’t afford her lifestyle or have access to her, they get bitter. Even if they do happen to date them, then they’re against all of those things because they don’t want other men to see you at your best. Because they know they can’t compete with other men in the ways they couldn’t access those other women, and they don’t put stock into your love for them keeping you around, they want you to not look your best so you do the mate guarding for them. And they work on destroying your self esteem so you think you can’t do better. I remember the sudden shift in mood when my dusty ex picked me up for a date and I decided to dress up. It wasn’t even a lot of effort, but it was enough where he clearly felt self conscious and took it out on me. Then came the ‘anti-makeup’ campaign, getting my nice clothes dirty, trying to mess up my workout routine, deliberately inviting friends over and giving me no notice so I was underdressed and bonnet on, etc. In the beginning he said he didn’t care about my appearance, but it was clear he did. All that to say, this is yet another avenue of dusties trying to humble women they do want and get them to settle. They can’t afford your lifestyle and they can’t keep up being presentable, so they try to drag you down.
Good points! Oftentimes, these men don't want a woman with confidence and self esteem and criticizing her appearance is one of the many tools they use on their missions to break a woman down. It's all so creepy and psychopathic, but I'm glad more women are sharing their stories and teaching younger women how to recognize and avoid these dusty pitfalls.
This man went on Twitter to bemoan how he ended things with his gf. The reason? They've been dating a while, and he was thinking of proposing, but he asked her to change how she dressed and cut back on being the life of the party and she said he was trying to control her. It basically was a thread where he tried to make her the villain and himself, the nice guy. Ppl pressed, and he admitted she dressed like that and was an outgoing person when they met, but he expected she would change. That's when folks jumped him 😂. If you met her like that, asked her out and dated her for however long. Now, you want her to do your bidding on her outfit choices and doing fun things. Yes, you are trying to control her. They scream about wanting a church girl. The church pews are filled with church goers every Sunday, but no, they will be crying about why won't the women at the club wear 3 piece suits, a wide brim hat, and stop twerking. Make it make sense!
@Miawest01 is your husband my former employer? 😂😂 he'd brag about how he makes sure his wife doesn't wear wigs, makeup or "all those fake things." The young girls he rotated, some young enough to be his daughter had weaves past their butt, wore bum shorts and makeup when they came to the office to see him. It's all about control.
EXACTLY! One minute we're "fake" for putting effort into our appearance, the next minute we "let ourselves go" (as you've said) for being natural. I don't listen to confused children so go date a man or figure your preferences tf out ! 🙄
I did let myself go. When I hit puberty I developed the body of Dolly Parton. The comments and behavior of boys in school - as well as men old enough to be my grandfather - were deeply disturbing to me. This was back in the 70s and 80s, so it was “boys will be boys.” I started wearing loose baggy clothing and gained weight to disguise my body. I had a breast reduction in my 30s. Now I’m old and fat, and I’m okay with that. I have short hair, no makeup, and dress comfortably. I still get hit on, but now I’m old enough and experienced enough to brush it off.
Okay, see, I knew we knew this. This is just one way we attract our sisters. I found my bestie, she taught me wig life I taught her gel nail life. Been sisters for 7 years now.
Translation : wigs , makeup , nails and lash extensions are really expensive and we dont wanna pay for it so you should be low maintenance so broke guys like me can afford you.
The woman who said he should spend time on women who meet his standards is spot on. He needs to focus on that because there are plenty of women who fit that criteria (both types of women are great by the way) but he is busy chirping on social media about why women don't want to do what men want. It's fully about control and bending someone to his will. Sicko.
It's because they don't want the women they claim to want. They want the women who they claim to not want (aka those who wear the weaves and the make up etc)
I’m not a bw but I’ve had a gay guy do this to me.. this comment is everything .. love this energy ! Women should absolutely support eachother. You don’t see much of that these days sadly
‼️THIS‼️I took my son to the library & I wore a pink one piece with a silver puffer vest & gray boots with my hot pink lipstick. It was giving whole skier ⛷ vibes okuuur💅🏾this beautiful sister was at the counter & she was like "ok den sis, I see you, you look great!" Chiiiiile that made me my day😊I told her "I wanna be like you when I grow up!" Cuz she had the whole boho look going on. Lovely woman indeed ❤
My favourite part is when they say they don't like fake hair, fake lashes, fake nails, make up, but they won't look at any woman who goes all natural because we look tired etc. And because their expectations have for a long time had nothing to do with natural women. That's on top of the audacity to genuinely think we exist for them and all we can possibly care about is how we look for the men. Pathetic. Edit: The last man I think is the key to solving the problems. The men like OP are not listening to us, they don't respect us so they can't. We need other men to educate them.
I think he does say important things and clearly respects women. Sounds like he is a widow. He appears to really loved his wife. He seems like a genuinely good guy.
My ex told me to wear my hair natural and he cheated on me with a girl with weave, he said don’t wear make up he cheated with a glittery made up stripper, he told me to grow my hair long and cheated with a woman with alopecia, the best was when he said I needed to loose weight then he cheated with a bbw. Do what you want. 15 years all he did was keep my body count low, but I could have did that and not have to have children and be exposed to diseases.
Ur so right. My ex used to call me fat this fat that when i looked so good and fit and now he’s shacking up with and having more kids with an actual obese woman. More power to them but that dude had hate in his heart for me.
I stopped listening to men a long time ago. They’ll complain like the guy in the video but then get with a woman who has all the things they complain about
Women are creative and like to switch it up and so make-up, weaves, wigs, nails, eyelashes etc are tools used to express their creativity and individuality.
I'm gonna tell you why they're full of it, I don't wear any of those things and am all natural, I don't even like wearing nail polish, but I express myself through clothing (all modest) and... drumroll... they don't like that either 😂😂 Because they don't actually LIKE women. And it's all about misogyny and control
I don’t like calling people ugly, but the first guy deserves it. He should check himself in the mirror first before judging how women look. The audacity😒
@@Mini-ge9sm Yes, apparently it repulses ugly dusty entitlings, so save your nerves, wear a bright red lipstick, nice lashes, higher to blind the crusty mofo & chant, loudly with your whole chest, "I cast the dust away!!1" multiple times in the process, works like a charm!😌💅😂💜
This is BS. I've been natural my whole life and regularly get overlooked for the high maintainence women with the lashes, wigs, face full of makeup, etc. I will never present myself to appeal to any man. Never.
Men are not a monolith and some prefer the "natural" look. Thing is, most of them don't know the difference between a really natural look and the natural make up professional looks.
I can’t stop laughing at this man for thinking that we’re out here waiting for them to pick us choosing our clothing and make up based on what they like. Sir, I wear a fake engagement ring just so y’all will leave me alone in public and I am 50 years old. I was told I would become invisible when I got to be 25 or 30, I’m really mad that hasn’t happened, so I wear a fake ring. It doesn’t work that great I may switch it up to a fake wedding ring. I still get approached and it’s annoying.
Girl, I'm 48. They told me at 30 I would be invisible too. That sh!+ still haven't happened. My mama is 80, and Ole boy at the church is 75 and he's trying to Holla 😂. She ain't having that.
Yeah, I feel you! I once got hit on at work (when I was in my early 30s), despite wearing both my engagement and wedding rings. The dude didn't believe me when I said I was married, even when I pointedly showed him my hand. That's just one of the reasons why I can't wait until my hair starts going grey (also, because I'm hoping it'll make the purple hair dye stand out more).
I BEEN invisible and I'm a good looking 39 year old. Don't no body want me unless I choose to walk around half naked. I mean it's probably been a decade since anyone "hollered at me". The only ones who do are toothless old men, or those looking for a sugah momma cause they ain't got nothing to offer. Sometimes I figure it's a blessing, saving me from all them fools out there... If anyone ever felt invisible it's me...
I'm still trying to get over the "marriage is the prize" concept, that comes from men. Do this, this and this and we MIGHT wifey you up. We don't want to be your wife or have your children, sir, the goalpost is not worth it. I'll set my very OWN goalpost for myself, thank you very much.....
Yes. But honestly, women do this to women too. No matter how accomplished or financially secure a single woman is, there's a woman in her life telling her, "now all you need is a man!". Speaking from experience. The big insult women throw at other women is "yeah but you ain't got no man" and that's the 🎤 drop comment.
@@mettamorph4523 I know this all too well. I didn't want to get married nor have children when I was young but the pressure was unreal when I was young. My BIGGEST mistake was being single and hanging around my friends that got married or had children. Now that I look back, they HATED my freedom. So once I got married and had a kid those same "friends" some that I knew for a long time. Ghosted me and they did it with a smile on their face. Women need not be unequally yoked to thier friends either. If a woman wants to stay unmarried and childfree along with decentering xy's she needs to find the same group of friends that have the same mindset. Some women don't like seeing you happy either. 😕 and the next time a woman says that to you as a means to demean you all you have to say is: I'm not into volunteer slavery and then just look at them dead in the eye like they are stoooopid. Because they are and if they say, well you don't have a husband to cuddle with, then you say, like she did in disappearing acts. The big 🍆 just ain't worth the stress and stare at her again, like she's stoopid, because she is...🤡🤡🤡🥴🥴🥴
I have female family members who became immersed in beauty culture. It didn't stop them from ending up with men who abandoned them, cheated on them, or otherwise harmed them.
I had a classmate who had incredible style. also gorgeous girl. she was single in grad school and a guy friend told me guy classmates were venting to each other she is "too out there". really nuts if you think about it.... but also - she avoided shallow men in her life by being true to her authenticity.. there is inevitable anger and rejection once you step out of self destrubting people pleasing. it's just a price to pay to be authentic. but the benefit of being authentic is finding true relationship.
I dress to impress children and older women. I also dress in the things I enjoy, but the only compliment I like comes from a child or a woman. Compliments from men make me uncomfortable.
Same compliments from men are usually uncomfortable because I expect that they want something from me. I'm neutral on compliments from men I feel safe around
Right because I love looking at women who dress up and look hot! I could stare at them all day and I don’t even date women. Men that say what he does are definitely lying and they just don’t want other men going giving us attention. I love when women get glamorous, it inspires me to look amazing too. If I started dating women I wouldn’t even try to change them, we are creative by nature and I think men don’t understand what it’s like to be feminine fr
@@Supachosen men understand but abusive men that's unappealing and not high achieving are jealous of other men that can get the women they can't. These men are abusive, ugly, so unhappy and that's not our problem, stop listening to men you wouldn't date if they did have anything.
that's the first thing that repulsed me , like no Mr.crustball, I'm not your sister, we are not related & thank goodness, waddle away already! go put on a chapstick for once....vile
When I found out that men I do not like the sound of tend not to like "unnatural" hair colours, I took it as a sign to go get parts of my hair dyed purple :D
It's because they are constantly thinking about what other men think of them so they can't fathom the fact that women don't make their entire lives about men like they do 😭
The girl with the purple hair had me cackling. 😂 She went ASMR on him and gave him a manicure and hydration? She’s too kind. Out here doing the Lord’s Work. 👏🏽
This is hilarious. We tell men what we dont like them doing all of the time, and they not only do it anyway, but they tell other men that we actually do like it. For example, Catcalling.
Catcalling is flattering sometimes. Doesn't have to be crude. But a "man you look good" from a stranger in passing can make a person's day sometimes. Really don't get why a person can't admit to having an ego that likes flattery. It's human. We're not robots.
Yes! We tell them to stop the Black Femicide. They don't listen. We tell them to stop it with the verbal, physical, mental, & financial abuse. They don't stop it. We tell them to stop making babies they don't intend in raising. They don't listen. We tell them we don't like them ashy, dusty, pants sagging, with yellow teeth. We tell them we don't like uneducated, broken English speaking, and manipulative. They still don't listen. What are they thinking? What we're wearing pales in comparison to the mess they do that's women of any color, race, ethnicity or nationality repellent.
Not every woman likes that to be honest. I don't want some random I look good from a man I don't know. I want that comment from a man I'm trying to impress. I definitely don't feel bad walking by strangers and not hearing them catcall me. It's not flattering for some of us
He said women want to be opposite of them. Umm sir we are opposites, we are women. Are we supposed to look like men?. This man just needs to say he wants to look pretty with a wig and lashes. And since he would look ridiculous, he don’t want women to use those things cos it’s competition for him. He’s given sassy and cross dresser! Ladies he want y’all to tone it down cos he can’t compete for the men he want 🤣
They really do want to be the pretty princesses. They envy that we dress up, put on make up and wear nails and have fun doing that. When they do "cross over" and do that, they also hate on us .
You know what… I’d love to have someone go through his sent DMs because I have a SNEAKING suspicion that the very women he’s saying wear makeup and dress in a way he supposedly doesn’t like are the ones he’s desperately waiting on a response from. A response that will never come. It’s always the most unkempt-looking men who wanna act like they’ve ever even had a chance with a woman who likes to make herself feel beautiful. This is such a shame.
Men won’t just do this with your looks. If he puts you on a pedestal for “not being like other girls,” he’s looking for a reason to push you off. I had a man who insisted he was “submissive” do this to me and then promptly turn on me and sulk around like a baby when he found out I *wasn’t gonna vote the way he thought I should.* The Suffragette inside me said EXCUSE ME, SIR? I cut him off in an instant and then he let loose all the degradation about how awful I was.
Dear males, I do not spend hundreds of hard earn dollars on myself to make you happy nor to attract you. When my eyes awake from sleep I don’t think whether no job having Jerome, 5 baby mama having Tyrone or aggressive Jamal will find me attractive. My peace and happiness is top priority, which is obviously not your priority. So respectfully, mind your business. Ladies if you don’t mind drop some info on good quality HD lace fronts. God bless
@@WhoAuthorizedThis If you want some really good quality lace front wigs hit up a cosplay, ren fair or LARP community. Many of them make their own( with decently priced Etsy stores) or they know who to go to
I love how they think their perspective is the only viable perspective lol. Literally had a coworker male tell me he likes that i dont wear makeup but i had eyeline mascara concealer, eyebrows 😅
I just want to feel like a model and fashion icon (despite my height lol) when I go out. I make the effort for that. So who cares about what these dustys think. Being able to wear what I want is such a great feeling.
Sadly, I have always not dressed typically “sexy” b/c of harassment & abuse from men. It’s important to be careful. It’s a control factor, indeed. They’re lying when they say “no weave or wigs”, many of these men simply prefer biracial & Latina mixed women, b/c natural hair & locs RARELY is complimented by BM (particularly) IRL. They also don’t despise makeup when correctly applied.
@@mettamorph4523The crazy part is, is that a lot of them are not natural either lol Mfers just want an excuse to hop on the “Black woman hate train” Literally every ethnic group of women wear weaves or extensions for their own personal reasons but Black women receive the most disrespect about it.
Clearly a lot of men DO like the wigs and nails, etc. Plus a lot of women dress the way they want to look and they get those looks from other women they think look good.
They tolerate wigs and nails most like the lady but could care less about the embellishments tbh. In other words, they really like you but keep quiet about fake stuff.
I don't even like compliments from men when i go out cos that's them usually fixing to start some xhit. When a woman compliments me, i know then that i actually look good.
Exactly. Whenever women are just being women we don't get to just be alone. Everything that women do is stupid and a waste of time. Time not being spent on someone else. It's not fair and it pisses me off.
It’s cute that he thinks that women care about his opinion, yet he literally looks like the poo that comes out of my senior pit bull’s behind every morning after I take her on a walk.😂
How does a woman who wears eyelashes, makeup and weaves look like transformers when it’s the transformers who want to look like women? That statement didn’t make an ounce of sense to me!
The response I learned from the most was the last gentleman, The Grown Man , The Silverback. Men teach men, he was calm, respectful but direct. Grown man indeed. When he spoke I took note of what he said because my femininity responds to that type of energy. Lots to learn from his response. 🙏🏾
@@shaunajones3244 exactly. We need to ignore these dusties. He needs to go to a barber and focus on his own grooming and hygiene. He needs to look in the mirror and think twice. Women don’t dress for men. We dress for ourselves. These men think everything is about them
If you want a woman that doesn’t wear those things find one. There are plenty of women who choose not to. There are other women who enjoy those things. Why try to change someone? They don’t want someone to change who they are but they want to change everything about us.
It is all about control. They want to convince women they should act how men expect. Rest assured, if they get a woman that doesn't wear all that...they will.tell her she let herself go😂😂😂..
3:53 this is sooooo true. y’all remember elliot roger? that incel that 🔫 up that college campus, his roommates, and then himself? he said that he got extremely angry and jealous when he saw couples holding hands.
13:30 I feel really bad for this guy. A good guy who lost his wife to cancer, married nearly 20 years, looks at today's dating culture and is like wtf. He sees that men are a real problem for other men, making a fool of themselves and repelling women. It's sad.
No makeup, no weave, no nails and no lashes. I am an old hag that doesn't give a 💩. Either someone likes me as i am or not. Really simple 🤓. If someone likes to have those things then why not? It looks good a lot of times 🤷🏽♀️ and people like to feel and look good.
I'm not black so I'm sorry if I'm stepping on any toes, but I'd like to give my personal insight. I'd describe my main look as Joker mixed with goth/emo/punk and maybe a smidge of scene when I am feeling a bit extra (this pic is old and I don't typically use this account for TH-cam. Too lazy to log into the main to comment). Im very pale, my hair has been green (sometimes with blue or purple too) for many many years, I draw on my eyebrows, and I wear heavy eye make up the majority of the time. That's my signature look. That's what I feel most comfortable and happy looking like. And when I want to switch it up, I wear wigs. I love my wigs. Ever since around 19 (I'm in my late 20s now) I've not had a shortage of men interested in me. It's been a pretty consistent flow of men interested. Alot of you guys don't have the right motivation in mind though and like half of my relationships haven't been good. Even still, I've been proposed to 4 times now. I said no each time. But the point is, if my pretty alternative Joker looking ass can get men, then nah you aren't all interested in natural beauties and being natural is not a mandatory requirement to get proposed to or wifed up. So just be you and look & dress how you want. And I promise I do this for me. If I wanted to purposely attract a lot of men, I'd do alot less and it'd save me a lot of time & money. But not everything is about you guys. What you don't probably realize is we prefer quality over quantity. Having lots of men interested in us and pursuing us isnt the dream for the majority of women. It ain't it. Maybe having a lot of women interested in you guys is your ultimate dream/fantasy but it doesn't work the other way around. - Invader Bethany Mertz
That man who said “we men need to stop projecting our personal insecurities onto women we see because we can’t have them or we want them to be a certain way because it makes us feel secure in our own insecurity” got it clear. He summarized the incels and these other mra weirdos in one sentence. The tea is overboiling and overflowing the damn pot ☕️ 🫖
Well i experiance this attitued alot when it comes to muslim men. They want us all dress fully and not show any skin. I tried wearing hijabs and turbans it made me overwarm. Men dont often understand how hard it to be woman and try live through their expecations..now i dont care l dress as i want and find my own modesty as muslim woman.
Hey Ladies, I am curious. Do you choose what you wear in clothing, makeup, hair based on what you think men will find attractive? I DON'T choose my clothing based on what men want. I actually dress the way that pleases me. Maybe in solidarity with other women, but not for a guy. As a scientist, I'm just curious what you all think? I apologize for the stupidity of the question, it's more about collecting data. I find this guy to be ridiculous and arrogant to think this. We aren't objects for their enjoyment. The guy who supported women doing their own thing won a lot of positive points with me being supportive of women as autonomous beings. Glad some exist out there.
I never dress for the male gaze. Men don’t know how to dress 98% of the time anyways to even have an opinion. There was an entire era of housewives wearing mumus and the same apron around the house for years. Their husbands STILL marry them and knock them up and could care less. Forget what men want. I’m married and still wear what I like and what makes me feel good. Hair wise too. These same men that swear up and down they don’t like lashes and woman who actually put effort into their appearance cheat on their natural/naked woman with a woman who looks exactly like that. Every time.
Men are easy to please. Its rare that you wont get a mans attention. Getting compliments from girls about your strappy sandals, or your champagne eyeshadow, or you backless dress - thats a flex!
I've based my wardrobe off the women I admire, rather than attracting men. Men are easy to please visually, especially if you are young looking and fit/curvy. Men don't know the difference between the color purple and chartreuse, so it would be dumb to leave my choice of self expression up to them/to please them. If I were to try to please them I would literally just need to make all my clothes tight enough to be a second skin. That's all.
i love my hair, i love having voluminous soft hair almost to my hips with loose waves with volume around my face (kind of like 90s hair), so i love compliments on it, men will call me fine but women are the ones who will compliment the details including my hair (or when i would put on 2 ribbons religiously for a year until i learned how to get the hair i wanted w out heat) im not saying i dress for women either, but i definitely appreciate their compliments a lot more (cause i love being told i have princess hair, being called fine is appreciated but ehh... a lil more effort is nice yk?) i mean, i could wear jeans & shirt and as long as it shows me off in some way men will be attracted to me, but like i said women look at the details (and tbh women are the ones who seem to like my feminity more than men who boast about it so much, i mean its only been women complimenting my hands)
I dress for myself, but I will admit, I used to be afraid of dressing up a certain way because of the misogynistic views that men have, i used to dress down because of others. I was afraid of being shamed or being sexualised consistently by men. I like wearing skin tight clothing, crop tops, short dresses and just hot girl clothes. I have a nice shape so I like to show up in cute clothes. Glam makeup and long hair has always been something I’ve loved too. I’ve finally accepted it about myself and I just do me. I find that men are threatened with everything we do and misogyny has affected women in so many ways. In this society, either women end up dressing “modest” for a man or they dress up to sexually attract men and that’s where we need to draw the line. Us women are supposed to be free and do whatever the hell we want, we shouldn’t be trying to impress men in any form. There’re literally women in Africa in some tribes walking around half naked and nobody says anything. It’s natural for us to flaunt ourselves without the “male gaze” in mind. Men make everything about them, we can’t even look sexy without them thinking it’s to attract their annoying asses. It’s crazy. Men have no right to tell us what to do with our bodies. They belong to us and we were not made to cater to their wants, needs or desires.
Everytime I see this dude, I chuckle. The audacity of him trying to take over a woman's bodily autonomy...it all just makes me laugh. And then I move on with my life-lashes and all!😂😂😂😂😂😂
I get dressed for myself first, and then honestly for other women 😂 I don't wear fake hair, lashes, makeup, etc. at all, I am all natural every day and have been labeled a "plain Jane"... BY MEN 😂 I am very into skincare and taking care of my skin, but only WOMEN compliment my natural skin for glowing. The few times in my life I've worn makeup and/or false hair, guess what? Male attention increased exponentially ‼️ But I felt like I had a clown mask on, and I don't want the attention anyway
I’ve even had other women ask why I “ cover up my pretty face with makeup?” First of all I don’t cover I accentuate what’s already there and secondly, I just like it. Does it ever cross anyone’s mind that women have a standard they want to meet just for THEMSELVES. A look that WE approve of just because WE want it not because we’re hoping someone else likes it. If you have a type go look for that type that’s fine, but quit telling others how to live
As a woman who has natural hair that is not made up into any sort of style beyond just brushing it, no false hair or eyelashes, and don't wear make-up... I have never once had a man hit on me. I'm not trying to attract men because I'm asexual, but I'm 100% natural and never had a man interested in me. So I call bs on the "natural women are more attractive".
My ex tried to get me to stop wearing heels after we got together (having been friends for a couple years already) because he _then_ didn’t like that I was the same height as him 🙄, then it was insisting on coming out dancing with my girlfriends when he hated clubbing so it would sour the whole evening. Then it was telling me he liked none of my friends i.e. you shouldn’t see them anymore. Then it was buying his own place in a town he knows I don’t like a year and a half into our relationship and asking me to move in but I don’t get a say in how anything looks or furnishings because ‘it’s his’. Then it was refusing to shut the bedroom door at night so he could hear his sodding fish tank whose noise would keep me up. More stuff but ugh, so glad I’m out of all that nonsense now. Dress how I want, talk to whoever and do what I please! Bliss ☺️
Hold up! No. I don't wear fake lashes, makeup, wigs, etc, etc. So I'm supposedly this dusty dudes "type." Yeah, no thank you! 😂 Stop trying to send him our way. That's not right because the "natural" women don't want his crap either!
You know this man doesn’t know what a “naked” girl looks like. He would see a woman with foundation, nude lipstick, and nude eyeshadow, and call her a natural beauty.
This comment is soo funny and true! 😂😂😂
Like Kim K
When they hear natural they think of the Kardashians
And curly bundles!
That is true. When women dont have make up, they call us ugly.😂😂😂
Why ya'll keep r8ping us, beating us, abusing us, cheating on us and murdering us when we say we don't like that?
Love u!!👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Right, that topic is more important than weaves and eyelashes. Their priorities are upside down
@@nubian77 Ah because if these types can get you to agree to these insignificant things then their foot is in the door for the inevitable subsequent abuse. Just makes it easier for them.
Exactly! They never protest this loudly about the abuse we experience from them.
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It’s hilarious how men actually think women think about men when they choose to wear what they want. 😂
Delulu. 😂😂
I do... gay men honey. I'm a straight woman who loves getting compliments from gay men who understand what a laid frontal looks like
I mean... They are raised like that sadly. True that they could at least think about it a bit more but they hear since they are kids that girls are always trying to look hot for them so... Thanks the parents for that.
Translation: wear what you want ladies because he's going to complain about it either way. I've tried that a natural look or a plain look it still pisses them off because it won't look feminine enough for them. They have no clue what looks good on a woman and they do want you to look like a street walker because sometimes a provocative look will keep them away from you too. I've seen a woman like this and she couldn't even get one to bring her a cigarette because it repels them from bothering you if you dress like the local hooker or you dress modestly and you have a look like you don't care what they think of you. These two looks trigger them off the most especially when you take there advice they see a street walker as competition too because they know she don't want him and there insecure or jealous that provocative clothing only looks good on her and not them.
We dress for women not men
Men have been criticizing women's fashion for centuries. It's nothing new. Rock on girls.
Period
First they criticize, then they copy !
@@nubian77-sips tea- 😂
@@nubian77and I ooooop🎯
@@nubian77🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
You dress for the job you want. If women wear what you don't like, she isn't dressing for you. You are not the job they want. They don't want you. That is why they are ignoring you....they don't like you, or care about what you want. 😂
Right-o! You hit the nail on the head and hammered it right in! ❤
Exactly!!! Save your preferences for the women that’s checking for you.
Damn so true…
That’s right he must stop stressing about people that don’t care about them
😅 your comment made me think of Jackie Chan and Chris Tucker in Rush Hour.
Jackie: “I don’t care about you, I’m here for the girl!”
Chris: “The girl don’t like you!”
😂😂😂
Dated a guy who had the mentality of the guy in the first video and let me tell you, it’s a lie.
They ARE attracted to those type of women but if they can’t afford her lifestyle or have access to her, they get bitter. Even if they do happen to date them, then they’re against all of those things because they don’t want other men to see you at your best. Because they know they can’t compete with other men in the ways they couldn’t access those other women, and they don’t put stock into your love for them keeping you around, they want you to not look your best so you do the mate guarding for them. And they work on destroying your self esteem so you think you can’t do better.
I remember the sudden shift in mood when my dusty ex picked me up for a date and I decided to dress up. It wasn’t even a lot of effort, but it was enough where he clearly felt self conscious and took it out on me. Then came the ‘anti-makeup’ campaign, getting my nice clothes dirty, trying to mess up my workout routine, deliberately inviting friends over and giving me no notice so I was underdressed and bonnet on, etc.
In the beginning he said he didn’t care about my appearance, but it was clear he did. All that to say, this is yet another avenue of dusties trying to humble women they do want and get them to settle. They can’t afford your lifestyle and they can’t keep up being presentable, so they try to drag you down.
💯 Everything you said... Where's the lie⁉️
Seriously... It's sickening how disturbed the MAJORITY of these dudes are... It's absolutely terrifying....
Good points! Oftentimes, these men don't want a woman with confidence and self esteem and criticizing her appearance is one of the many tools they use on their missions to break a woman down. It's all so creepy and psychopathic, but I'm glad more women are sharing their stories and teaching younger women how to recognize and avoid these dusty pitfalls.
Scary story, he tried to mess up your clothes and embarrass you in front of friends? Glad he’s an ex!!!
This man went on Twitter to bemoan how he ended things with his gf. The reason? They've been dating a while, and he was thinking of proposing, but he asked her to change how she dressed and cut back on being the life of the party and she said he was trying to control her. It basically was a thread where he tried to make her the villain and himself, the nice guy. Ppl pressed, and he admitted she dressed like that and was an outgoing person when they met, but he expected she would change. That's when folks jumped him 😂. If you met her like that, asked her out and dated her for however long. Now, you want her to do your bidding on her outfit choices and doing fun things. Yes, you are trying to control her.
They scream about wanting a church girl. The church pews are filled with church goers every Sunday, but no, they will be crying about why won't the women at the club wear 3 piece suits, a wide brim hat, and stop twerking. Make it make sense!
@Miawest01 is your husband my former employer? 😂😂 he'd brag about how he makes sure his wife doesn't wear wigs, makeup or "all those fake things." The young girls he rotated, some young enough to be his daughter had weaves past their butt, wore bum shorts and makeup when they came to the office to see him. It's all about control.
And when those women DO go natural, "tHeY lEt ThEmSeLvEs Go"... PICK a damn side!
EXACTLY! One minute we're "fake" for putting effort into our appearance, the next minute we "let ourselves go" (as you've said) for being natural. I don't listen to confused children so go date a man or figure your preferences tf out ! 🙄
@@B0OBIES Exactly! Go after a woman of his type instead of expecting women to change for him. It's simple, really...
They all in the holiness church down on 3rd and 5th street and they still ain't wanting them either. They call them 304's too.
I did let myself go. When I hit puberty I developed the body of Dolly Parton. The comments and behavior of boys in school - as well as men old enough to be my grandfather - were deeply disturbing to me. This was back in the 70s and 80s, so it was “boys will be boys.” I started wearing loose baggy clothing and gained weight to disguise my body. I had a breast reduction in my 30s. Now I’m old and fat, and I’m okay with that. I have short hair, no makeup, and dress comfortably. I still get hit on, but now I’m old enough and experienced enough to brush it off.
@@lisanygaard2720 I find that the older I get, the more looks matter less to me.
They will never say that about Rihanna or Beyonce. 👋.
Or the porn stars they wank to
Tell ‘em !!!! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Exactly! ❤ modals, singers etc mens fantasies are not natural, traditional women.
Because these men don't know what they want
These men talk so badly about only fans women but then turn around and pay for subscriptions to see these only fans women.
Like make it make sense?
Women don't dress up to please men. Women dress up to impress or fit in with other women.
PERIODSDDS
If woman want to impress other woman it is because they are still males programmed.
That's what I thought. Same here.
I always make sure to compliment another woman cause of it 🎉
Okay, see, I knew we knew this. This is just one way we attract our sisters. I found my bestie, she taught me wig life I taught her gel nail life. Been sisters for 7 years now.
Some men love artificial beauty and others love natural beauty. Chose what you like and stay in that lane...simple!
Make up and hair is apart of creativity which is a feminine principle.
@@JusticeWarriorTVThey too simple understand we DON’T CARE!
Me hating football never stopped any guy I dated from watching 🤷🏻♀️. I let them be them and they need to stop trying to change our biology. 🫤
Wgaf what they love or not especially when it comes to looks?
What men think is natural is light makeup 😂 they’re d*umb
men: you should smile more
women: you should moisturize more 😂
😂😂 true!!! I don't like cuddling sand paper
I can't breathe 😂😂😂😂😂
Fez dudes don’t know a toothbrush from a toilet brush ew ❤😂🎉
lol
"stfu you don't even wash your ass"
Translation :
wigs , makeup , nails and lash extensions are really expensive and we dont wanna pay for it so you should be low maintenance so broke guys like me can afford you.
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sum it up perfectly 💯😏
facts
Right on 👍😀
Yep!! that's about right.
The woman who said he should spend time on women who meet his standards is spot on. He needs to focus on that because there are plenty of women who fit that criteria (both types of women are great by the way) but he is busy chirping on social media about why women don't want to do what men want. It's fully about control and bending someone to his will. Sicko.
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It's because they don't want the women they claim to want. They want the women who they claim to not want (aka those who wear the weaves and the make up etc)
Girl, love that! Honesty.
Exactly
You are assuming these women would want him. He dont realize those women who went natural did it to stop doing what people tell them to do.
I dress for the moment where a black woman yells "OK!!!" to me from across the street. Makes my week!
I’m not a bw but I’ve had a gay guy do this to me.. this comment is everything .. love this energy ! Women should absolutely support eachother. You don’t see much of that these days sadly
This
‼️THIS‼️I took my son to the library & I wore a pink one piece with a silver puffer vest & gray boots with my hot pink lipstick. It was giving whole skier ⛷ vibes okuuur💅🏾this beautiful sister was at the counter & she was like "ok den sis, I see you, you look great!" Chiiiiile that made me my day😊I told her "I wanna be like you when I grow up!" Cuz she had the whole boho look going on. Lovely woman indeed ❤
Such a vibe❤🎉😂
😂😂😂 I love this! I had a gay guy come up to me & say how much he liked my look! So flattering 💅🏾
Men: "I don't like that."
Women: "I guess it's a good thing you're not wearing it then."
My favourite part is when they say they don't like fake hair, fake lashes, fake nails, make up, but they won't look at any woman who goes all natural because we look tired etc. And because their expectations have for a long time had nothing to do with natural women. That's on top of the audacity to genuinely think we exist for them and all we can possibly care about is how we look for the men. Pathetic.
Edit: The last man I think is the key to solving the problems. The men like OP are not listening to us, they don't respect us so they can't. We need other men to educate them.
The fact that they’ll say they want a natural woman then cheat on you with the exact opposite they said they don’t like 🥴
I think he does say important things and clearly respects women. Sounds like he is a widow. He appears to really loved his wife. He seems like a genuinely good guy.
@@deeskezyeah, they only want fully natural woman as a doormat
@@annmarieknapp As a genuinely good guy, he needs to stay in his lane and stop telling strange women how to dress.
@@deeskez They'll wife any social model before any natural beauty. That says all it needs to. Stop listening to them. De center them.
My ex told me to wear my hair natural and he cheated on me with a girl with weave, he said don’t wear make up he cheated with a glittery made up stripper, he told me to grow my hair long and cheated with a woman with alopecia, the best was when he said I needed to loose weight then he cheated with a bbw. Do what you want. 15 years all he did was keep my body count low, but I could have did that and not have to have children and be exposed to diseases.
That’s why you don’t listen to them. They say one thing and do another.
How many times did he cheat on you sis???
Heavens! I hope you’re doing much better now love.
Ur so right. My ex used to call me fat this fat that when i looked so good and fit and now he’s shacking up with and having more kids with an actual obese woman. More power to them but that dude had hate in his heart for me.
Same
I stopped listening to men a long time ago. They’ll complain like the guy in the video but then get with a woman who has all the things they complain about
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Then complain about that as if he didn’t know who she was from the jump since he met her that way. 🥴🤦🏽♀️
Exactly smh
Women are creative and like to switch it up and so make-up, weaves, wigs, nails, eyelashes etc are tools used to express their creativity and individuality.
This exactly why dont mean understand this
I'm gonna tell you why they're full of it, I don't wear any of those things and am all natural, I don't even like wearing nail polish, but I express myself through clothing (all modest) and... drumroll... they don't like that either 😂😂 Because they don't actually LIKE women. And it's all about misogyny and control
Women switching it up, makes tattoos, not as good, since they can't be changed
That's a lie,as women we know it's a lie,women do those things to compete with other women
I disagree with individuality. Most women wear the same clothes, make up and have the same hair. Clones everywhere😅.
I don’t like calling people ugly, but the first guy deserves it. He should check himself in the mirror first before judging how women look. The audacity😒
For real. I don’t love to go for someone’s looks but he and his wispy little chin strap started it 😷🤮
His lips are ashy.
It's ALWAYS the ugly ones with all the audacity, like idk where they get it from .
That’s what I said 😂😂😂
Look at his the shape of his head, his hair. He should be sleeping rn, not moving his dry lips.
7:30 As a woman who doesn't wear weaves, lashes and makeup. I don't want him. No way in hell thank you.
Same here. I will start wearing everything he dislikes to keep him and others like him far away 😂😂😂
but the 'dusty the crust' desires you?😔🥺😂😂😂😂😂braking this "man's" heart like this?😂😂😂
wear bright lipstick at least, otherwise these cheeto crumbs will show interest in you! 😅💜
@@Mini-ge9sm Yes, apparently it repulses ugly dusty entitlings, so save your nerves, wear a bright red lipstick, nice lashes, higher to blind the crusty mofo & chant, loudly with your whole chest, "I cast the dust away!!1" multiple times in the process, works like a charm!😌💅😂💜
This is BS. I've been natural my whole life and regularly get overlooked for the high maintainence women with the lashes, wigs, face full of makeup, etc. I will never present myself to appeal to any man. Never.
Men are not a monolith and some prefer the "natural" look. Thing is, most of them don't know the difference between a really natural look and the natural make up professional looks.
but it’s clear as day that these men like the done up look.
That's because it is a lie and they don't even know what natural beauty even is
I can’t stop laughing at this man for thinking that we’re out here waiting for them to pick us choosing our clothing and make up based on what they like.
Sir, I wear a fake engagement ring just so y’all will leave me alone in public and I am 50 years old. I was told I would become invisible when I got to be 25 or 30, I’m really mad that hasn’t happened, so I wear a fake ring. It doesn’t work that great I may switch it up to a fake wedding ring. I still get approached and it’s annoying.
Girl, I'm 48. They told me at 30 I would be invisible too. That sh!+ still haven't happened.
My mama is 80, and Ole boy at the church is 75 and he's trying to Holla 😂. She ain't having that.
Yeah, I feel you! I once got hit on at work (when I was in my early 30s), despite wearing both my engagement and wedding rings. The dude didn't believe me when I said I was married, even when I pointedly showed him my hand. That's just one of the reasons why I can't wait until my hair starts going grey (also, because I'm hoping it'll make the purple hair dye stand out more).
I BEEN invisible and I'm a good looking 39 year old. Don't no body want me unless I choose to walk around half naked. I mean it's probably been a decade since anyone "hollered at me". The only ones who do are toothless old men, or those looking for a sugah momma cause they ain't got nothing to offer. Sometimes I figure it's a blessing, saving me from all them fools out there... If anyone ever felt invisible it's me...
Same 😂
@@laulutar
And this is why I have to work from home
I'm still trying to get over the "marriage is the prize" concept, that comes from men. Do this, this and this and we MIGHT wifey you up. We don't want to be your wife or have your children, sir, the goalpost is not worth it. I'll set my very OWN goalpost for myself, thank you very much.....
Seriously! Who wants to be wifed to someone like that? They only want wives so they can disappoint and control them
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Yes.
But honestly, women do this to women too. No matter how accomplished or financially secure a single woman is, there's a woman in her life telling her, "now all you need is a man!". Speaking from experience. The big insult women throw at other women is "yeah but you ain't got no man" and that's the 🎤 drop comment.
@@mettamorph4523 I know this all too well. I didn't want to get married nor have children when I was young but the pressure was unreal when I was young. My BIGGEST mistake was being single and hanging around my friends that got married or had children. Now that I look back, they HATED my freedom. So once I got married and had a kid those same "friends" some that I knew for a long time. Ghosted me and they did it with a smile on their face. Women need not be unequally yoked to thier friends either. If a woman wants to stay unmarried and childfree along with decentering xy's she needs to find the same group of friends that have the same mindset. Some women don't like seeing you happy either. 😕 and the next time a woman says that to you as a means to demean you all you have to say is: I'm not into volunteer slavery and then just look at them dead in the eye like they are stoooopid. Because they are and if they say, well you don't have a husband to cuddle with, then you say, like she did in disappearing acts. The big 🍆 just ain't worth the stress and stare at her again, like she's stoopid, because she is...🤡🤡🤡🥴🥴🥴
I have female family members who became immersed in beauty culture. It didn't stop them from ending up with men who abandoned them, cheated on them, or otherwise harmed them.
I had a classmate who had incredible style. also gorgeous girl. she was single in grad school and a guy friend told me guy classmates were venting to each other she is "too out there". really nuts if you think about it.... but also - she avoided shallow men in her life by being true to her authenticity.. there is inevitable anger and rejection once you step out of self destrubting people pleasing. it's just a price to pay to be authentic. but the benefit of being authentic is finding true relationship.
Well said, and definitely true!👏🏼👏🏼
Let me guess : the guys that were complaining were the ones she was completely uninterested about, and they didn't like that .
DING DING DING! Being "too much" is an amazing filter, never make yourself less.
Yes, a true relationship with yourself!
It's a repellent for men like you, sir!😂
I dress to impress children and older women. I also dress in the things I enjoy, but the only compliment I like comes from a child or a woman. Compliments from men make me uncomfortable.
RIGHT⁉️Like... God forbid we dress ourselves in such a way that makes us happy with our reflection looking back at us 🤦🏻♀️
I wear the stuff I promised my 9-year-old-self I would wear when I was in charge one day. I’m in charge now, so…
@@SuperStella1111me too ❤
Fucking same!!!!!
Same compliments from men are usually uncomfortable because I expect that they want something from me. I'm neutral on compliments from men I feel safe around
That guy is lying !! of course men love hair and makeup, some men only say they don't because they think it makes them sound like good or something
Actually it's cause their jealous and abusive and don't want competition from other men for women they can't get
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Right because I love looking at women who dress up and look hot! I could stare at them all day and I don’t even date women. Men that say what he does are definitely lying and they just don’t want other men going giving us attention. I love when women get glamorous, it inspires me to look amazing too. If I started dating women I wouldn’t even try to change them, we are creative by nature and I think men don’t understand what it’s like to be feminine fr
@@Supachosen men understand but abusive men that's unappealing and not high achieving are jealous of other men that can get the women they can't.
These men are abusive, ugly, so unhappy and that's not our problem, stop listening to men you wouldn't date if they did have anything.
This is the one. You're absolutely correct 💯 And once he wants variety in order to keep his attention guess what he'll tell her to do?
On a side note, black men need to stop calling black women "sisters".
that's the first thing that repulsed me , like no Mr.crustball, I'm not your sister, we are not related & thank goodness, waddle away already! go put on a chapstick for once....vile
Not all skinfolk are kinfolk.
I tell them… I ain’t never seen you at my mama’s dinner table! Bye!
It makes me want to wear what he said he didn't like 😂😂
Same here 😂😂😂
🤣🤣 I'm waiting on my new hair now
Me too and I have never worn a weave or lashes before 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
When I found out that men I do not like the sound of tend not to like "unnatural" hair colours, I took it as a sign to go get parts of my hair dyed purple :D
@@edunlap6594 welcome. You're gonna love it. It's so artistic and uplifting to make ourselves show on the outside what I feel on the inside.
7:55 plot twist: the women he likes don't like him 😂
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These males think we are thinking about them as we put on makeup or get dressed for the day? 😂
Chilleee! I wonder when are they going to get it. Wait, no I don't. I don't wonder about them at all.🤔
🤣 they do be thinking that, let them be
We don’t dress up to be gazed at by peasants.
@@beepbopboop7727❤😂😊
It's because they are constantly thinking about what other men think of them so they can't fathom the fact that women don't make their entire lives about men like they do 😭
The girl with the purple hair had me cackling. 😂 She went ASMR on him and gave him a manicure and hydration? She’s too kind. Out here doing the Lord’s Work. 👏🏽
It’s lady with the locs and the dude with the powdered donuts for me 😂
@@drae815The donuts Took. Me. Out!!! 😂
It's the guy with the powder donut for me! 😂🔥
He said …ashy knuckles ? Check! Crusty lips? Check 😂😂😂
He had to get in his dusty character 😂😂 the lips really took me out. 🤭
So petty!
lol I was waiting for this short to come up. As soon as I seen him grab the doughnuts lol I was 💀
@phillygemini526 I died you hear me lol😂😂😂😂😂
This is hilarious. We tell men what we dont like them doing all of the time, and they not only do it anyway, but they tell other men that we actually do like it. For example, Catcalling.
There's a section of men who think that we feel bad if we _don't_ get catcalled and it's really weird out there.
Catcalling is flattering sometimes. Doesn't have to be crude. But a "man you look good" from a stranger in passing can make a person's day sometimes. Really don't get why a person can't admit to having an ego that likes flattery. It's human. We're not robots.
Yes! We tell them to stop the Black Femicide. They don't listen.
We tell them to stop it with the verbal, physical, mental, & financial abuse. They don't stop it.
We tell them to stop making babies they don't intend in raising. They don't listen.
We tell them we don't like them ashy, dusty, pants sagging, with yellow teeth. We tell them we don't like uneducated, broken English speaking, and manipulative. They still don't listen.
What are they thinking? What we're wearing pales in comparison to the mess they do that's women of any color, race, ethnicity or nationality repellent.
Not every woman likes that to be honest. I don't want some random I look good from a man I don't know. I want that comment from a man I'm trying to impress. I definitely don't feel bad walking by strangers and not hearing them catcall me. It's not flattering for some of us
@@mettamorph4523 cut the BS, save it, some people have self-respect!
He said women want to be opposite of them. Umm sir we are opposites, we are women. Are we supposed to look like men?. This man just needs to say he wants to look pretty with a wig and lashes. And since he would look ridiculous, he don’t want women to use those things cos it’s competition for him. He’s given sassy and cross dresser! Ladies he want y’all to tone it down cos he can’t compete for the men he want 🤣
He basically said he wanted a man without saying it now that I’m thinking about it.
They really do want to be the pretty princesses. They envy that we dress up, put on make up and wear nails and have fun doing that.
When they do "cross over" and do that, they also hate on us .
Lol ...I was thinking that his vocabular dexterity didn't extend far enough to use the word oppositional. "...women want to be oppositional......" 😂😂😂
You know what… I’d love to have someone go through his sent DMs because I have a SNEAKING suspicion that the very women he’s saying wear makeup and dress in a way he supposedly doesn’t like are the ones he’s desperately waiting on a response from. A response that will never come. It’s always the most unkempt-looking men who wanna act like they’ve ever even had a chance with a woman who likes to make herself feel beautiful. This is such a shame.
Yup they could have a natural woman but they will cheat on her so fast with a Walmart jayda Wayda. They don’t know what they want
I can sadly confirm that you are 100% correct.
That's exactly the men who consonantly harass me
Despite claiming they hate everything I am
I’m so sorry about that. I hate that this is the story of so many women.
"Date a man!" 😆 🤣 Omgosh that had me rolling!!!
That had me rollin too 😂😁
well....his world will crumble, cos even men don't want him....'Mr.offensive head shape' is in his 'desperado' mode....
Men won’t just do this with your looks. If he puts you on a pedestal for “not being like other girls,” he’s looking for a reason to push you off. I had a man who insisted he was “submissive” do this to me and then promptly turn on me and sulk around like a baby when he found out I *wasn’t gonna vote the way he thought I should.* The Suffragette inside me said EXCUSE ME, SIR? I cut him off in an instant and then he let loose all the degradation about how awful I was.
exactly, make is just a first stage!
It’s never even crossed his mind that we (women) don’t care about men’s opinions
I'm gonna wear everything that he said to keep dusties at bay.
Dear males,
I do not spend hundreds of hard earn dollars on myself to make you happy nor to attract you. When my eyes awake from sleep I don’t think whether no job having Jerome, 5 baby mama having Tyrone or aggressive Jamal will find me attractive. My peace and happiness is top priority, which is obviously not your priority. So respectfully, mind your business.
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God bless
Haha. Facts. They wish they can wear wigs and lashes. Male creatures are a joke
I’m honestly looking into a thin part wig from innovative weaves.
@@WhoAuthorizedThis If you want some really good quality lace front wigs hit up a cosplay, ren fair or LARP community. Many of them make their own( with decently priced Etsy stores) or they know who to go to
Literally, the way men’s preferences change like the seasons, if I was wearing it for them, I’d be so broke by now😂
The last guy is gold and deserves everything he wants.
I love how they think their perspective is the only viable perspective lol. Literally had a coworker male tell me he likes that i dont wear makeup but i had eyeline mascara concealer, eyebrows 😅
tell me you told that to him?
@karineaghajanyan I did and he didn't believe me
This ninja look like he make $13 an hour. He need to be quiet 😂
Nah
$8.75
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He’s giving “let me flip your tax money so we could be good” energy 😂
You tryna steal his “wealth” 😂😂😂😂
And we don’t care what you like! 🥴
The guy who dusted himself up with donette sugar is a g.
I just want to feel like a model and fashion icon (despite my height lol) when I go out. I make the effort for that. So who cares about what these dustys think.
Being able to wear what I want is such a great feeling.
And you are!
Sadly, I have always not dressed typically “sexy” b/c of harassment & abuse from men. It’s important to be careful. It’s a control factor, indeed. They’re lying when they say “no weave or wigs”, many of these men simply prefer biracial & Latina mixed women, b/c natural hair & locs RARELY is complimented by BM (particularly) IRL.
They also don’t despise makeup when correctly applied.
Truth. He's not saying he wants 4c short hair women. He's saying he picks long straight hair races because they're "natural".
@@mettamorph4523The crazy part is, is that a lot of them are not natural either lol Mfers just want an excuse to hop on the “Black woman hate train” Literally every ethnic group of women wear weaves or extensions for their own personal reasons but Black women receive the most disrespect about it.
Right. They want Non Black Women.
Yall dragged this ninja to hell
Where thr "ninja" came from?😂 I dont remember black men baimg called taht year ago
I, literally, was just about to say this and you said it perfectly.😅😅😅😅
As they should. The nerve of that ninja 🤭 one thing they always have is audacity.
Clearly a lot of men DO like the wigs and nails, etc. Plus a lot of women dress the way they want to look and they get those looks from other women they think look good.
Women having looks from other women is pathetic and it shows they have no self identity, to be creative to show their personality
Right, women aren’t out here dressing for men… we dress for other women or ourselves
They tolerate wigs and nails most like the lady but could care less about the embellishments tbh. In other words, they really like you but keep quiet about fake stuff.
Would love to be there IF he realizes he’s explaining why women get weaves, nails & eyelashes 😂😂😂😂😂😂
😂😂😂😂
Dude with the donuts and ma'am with the grease has me screaming 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Drops the 🎤! That Nigerian MAN said it! 💁🏽♀️
I don't even like compliments from men when i go out cos that's them usually fixing to start some xhit. When a woman compliments me, i know then that i actually look good.
I'm about to buy like 3756 packs of weave right now 😂🤣
Me too😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
😂😂😂😂😂
The man with the powdered doughnuts. 💀rol! Love that.
It's the feminine thing they keep saying is important in women 🤷🏾♀️
The feminine is creative and colorful. Women are just being women.
Exactly. Whenever women are just being women we don't get to just be alone. Everything that women do is stupid and a waste of time. Time not being spent on someone else. It's not fair and it pisses me off.
I like men with nice shapes teeth , their lips moisturized and haircuts and yet there he is
I don’t care enough about this man's opinion to respond.
There are so many women who don’t wear make up they can talk to and yet… 🤦🏾♂️
It’s cute that he thinks that women care about his opinion, yet he literally looks like the poo that comes out of my senior pit bull’s behind every morning after I take her on a walk.😂
🐶 💩
How does a woman who wears eyelashes, makeup and weaves look like transformers when it’s the transformers who want to look like women? That statement didn’t make an ounce of sense to me!
I thought a transformer was a robot that turned into a car 😂
Exactly!
They say all this, but they dont like a woman who doesnt shave or wear makeup.
The response I learned from the most was the last gentleman, The Grown Man , The Silverback. Men teach men, he was calm, respectful but direct. Grown man indeed. When he spoke I took note of what he said because my femininity responds to that type of energy. Lots to learn from his response. 🙏🏾
Why are men so entitled? We can wear what we want. This dude needs to mind his own business
His crusty behind tried to holla at someone with that stuff on and he got ignored.
@@shaunajones3244 exactly. We need to ignore these dusties. He needs to go to a barber and focus on his own grooming and hygiene. He needs to look in the mirror and think twice. Women don’t dress for men. We dress for ourselves. These men think everything is about them
If you want a woman that doesn’t wear those things find one. There are plenty of women who choose not to. There are other women who enjoy those things. Why try to change someone? They don’t want someone to change who they are but they want to change everything about us.
It is all about control. They want to convince women they should act how men expect. Rest assured, if they get a woman that doesn't wear all that...they will.tell her she let herself go😂😂😂..
@@em7937 right? And the man telling her that will have a belly so big he can’t see his p*nis.
And yet they'll complain that their girl looks homeless, unattractive, and that she never dress up while he looks like he dumpster dives for fun. Smh
Ugh fr I can't with these men. Like why be a hypocrite.
The beautiful man who lost his wife to cancer….please know that my heart is with you, and you are in my thoughts. Love all the way from Australia.
All the men that came for him too. You all Rock!👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾😅😅😀😀
Can I get a room full of mics dropping for the man at the end? Goddammit I got chills.
Everything the last guy said is chef's kiss. Perfection. I love it. Men holding other men accountable.
3:53 this is sooooo true. y’all remember elliot roger? that incel that 🔫 up that college campus, his roommates, and then himself? he said that he got extremely angry and jealous when he saw couples holding hands.
Dang, I remember that! I didn't realize that is the reason he did it. So sad😢
13:30 I feel really bad for this guy. A good guy who lost his wife to cancer, married nearly 20 years, looks at today's dating culture and is like wtf. He sees that men are a real problem for other men, making a fool of themselves and repelling women. It's sad.
@7:38 said it all. Stop pursuing and trying to control women who aren’t your type. It could all be so simple.
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No makeup, no weave, no nails and no lashes. I am an old hag that doesn't give a 💩. Either someone likes me as i am or not. Really simple 🤓. If someone likes to have those things then why not? It looks good a lot of times 🤷🏽♀️ and people like to feel and look good.
*YET THESE SAME MEN LIKE I.G. BADDIES*
Every single time
As well as the only fan ladies too.
@@brooklynforever1990preach
@@chinaking918yeeeessss every time
I'm not black so I'm sorry if I'm stepping on any toes, but I'd like to give my personal insight.
I'd describe my main look as Joker mixed with goth/emo/punk and maybe a smidge of scene when I am feeling a bit extra (this pic is old and I don't typically use this account for TH-cam. Too lazy to log into the main to comment). Im very pale, my hair has been green (sometimes with blue or purple too) for many many years, I draw on my eyebrows, and I wear heavy eye make up the majority of the time. That's my signature look. That's what I feel most comfortable and happy looking like. And when I want to switch it up, I wear wigs. I love my wigs.
Ever since around 19 (I'm in my late 20s now) I've not had a shortage of men interested in me. It's been a pretty consistent flow of men interested. Alot of you guys don't have the right motivation in mind though and like half of my relationships haven't been good. Even still, I've been proposed to 4 times now. I said no each time. But the point is, if my pretty alternative Joker looking ass can get men, then nah you aren't all interested in natural beauties and being natural is not a mandatory requirement to get proposed to or wifed up. So just be you and look & dress how you want.
And I promise I do this for me.
If I wanted to purposely attract a lot of men, I'd do alot less and it'd save me a lot of time & money. But not everything is about you guys. What you don't probably realize is we prefer quality over quantity. Having lots of men interested in us and pursuing us isnt the dream for the majority of women. It ain't it. Maybe having a lot of women interested in you guys is your ultimate dream/fantasy but it doesn't work the other way around.
- Invader Bethany Mertz
We don’t dress for them. So their opinion matters none.
I feel like the man at 11:11 definitely won’t be single for much longer. He presents really well.
Right!!!! IM Nigerian American also. Hello! Lol
That man who said “we men need to stop projecting our personal insecurities onto women we see because we can’t have them or we want them to be a certain way because it makes us feel secure in our own insecurity” got it clear.
He summarized the incels and these other mra weirdos in one sentence. The tea is overboiling and overflowing the damn pot ☕️ 🫖
Well i experiance this attitued alot when it comes to muslim men. They want us all dress fully and not show any skin. I tried wearing hijabs and turbans it made me overwarm. Men dont often understand how hard it to be woman and try live through their expecations..now i dont care l dress as i want and find my own modesty as muslim woman.
Yes sis. You are totally correct!!❤ Ma Salaam.
Hey Ladies, I am curious. Do you choose what you wear in clothing, makeup, hair based on what you think men will find attractive? I DON'T choose my clothing based on what men want. I actually dress the way that pleases me. Maybe in solidarity with other women, but not for a guy. As a scientist, I'm just curious what you all think? I apologize for the stupidity of the question, it's more about collecting data. I find this guy to be ridiculous and arrogant to think this. We aren't objects for their enjoyment. The guy who supported women doing their own thing won a lot of positive points with me being supportive of women as autonomous beings. Glad some exist out there.
I never dress for the male gaze. Men don’t know how to dress 98% of the time anyways to even have an opinion. There was an entire era of housewives wearing mumus and the same apron around the house for years. Their husbands STILL marry them and knock them up and could care less. Forget what men want. I’m married and still wear what I like and what makes me feel good. Hair wise too. These same men that swear up and down they don’t like lashes and woman who actually put effort into their appearance cheat on their natural/naked woman with a woman who looks exactly like that. Every time.
Men are easy to please. Its rare that you wont get a mans attention. Getting compliments from girls about your strappy sandals, or your champagne eyeshadow, or you backless dress - thats a flex!
I've based my wardrobe off the women I admire, rather than attracting men. Men are easy to please visually, especially if you are young looking and fit/curvy. Men don't know the difference between the color purple and chartreuse, so it would be dumb to leave my choice of self expression up to them/to please them. If I were to try to please them I would literally just need to make all my clothes tight enough to be a second skin. That's all.
i love my hair, i love having voluminous soft hair almost to my hips with loose waves with volume around my face (kind of like 90s hair), so i love compliments on it, men will call me fine but women are the ones who will compliment the details including my hair (or when i would put on 2 ribbons religiously for a year until i learned how to get the hair i wanted w out heat)
im not saying i dress for women either, but i definitely appreciate their compliments a lot more (cause i love being told i have princess hair, being called fine is appreciated but ehh... a lil more effort is nice yk?)
i mean, i could wear jeans & shirt and as long as it shows me off in some way men will be attracted to me, but like i said women look at the details (and tbh women are the ones who seem to like my feminity more than men who boast about it so much, i mean its only been women complimenting my hands)
I dress for myself, but I will admit, I used to be afraid of dressing up a certain way because of the misogynistic views that men have, i used to dress down because of others. I was afraid of being shamed or being sexualised consistently by men. I like wearing skin tight clothing, crop tops, short dresses and just hot girl clothes. I have a nice shape so I like to show up in cute clothes. Glam makeup and long hair has always been something I’ve loved too. I’ve finally accepted it about myself and I just do me. I find that men are threatened with everything we do and misogyny has affected women in so many ways. In this society, either women end up dressing “modest” for a man or they dress up to sexually attract men and that’s where we need to draw the line. Us women are supposed to be free and do whatever the hell we want, we shouldn’t be trying to impress men in any form. There’re literally women in Africa in some tribes walking around half naked and nobody says anything. It’s natural for us to flaunt ourselves without the “male gaze” in mind. Men make everything about them, we can’t even look sexy without them thinking it’s to attract their annoying asses. It’s crazy. Men have no right to tell us what to do with our bodies. They belong to us and we were not made to cater to their wants, needs or desires.
Everytime I see this dude, I chuckle. The audacity of him trying to take over a woman's bodily autonomy...it all just makes me laugh. And then I move on with my life-lashes and all!😂😂😂😂😂😂
I get dressed for myself first, and then honestly for other women 😂 I don't wear fake hair, lashes, makeup, etc. at all, I am all natural every day and have been labeled a "plain Jane"... BY MEN 😂 I am very into skincare and taking care of my skin, but only WOMEN compliment my natural skin for glowing. The few times in my life I've worn makeup and/or false hair, guess what? Male attention increased exponentially ‼️ But I felt like I had a clown mask on, and I don't want the attention anyway
My wife wears makeup. She’s into skin care her skin glows too. She doesn’t need it she likes it so I love it!
Why won't men understand that we just don't care about what they think?
Haha! I never wear make up but out of pure spite I would put some on to piss of that guy in the first video 😂
Some people really need to grow up and evolve like this guy..
I’ve even had other women ask why I “ cover up my pretty face with makeup?” First of all I don’t cover I accentuate what’s already there and secondly, I just like it. Does it ever cross anyone’s mind that women have a standard they want to meet just for THEMSELVES. A look that WE approve of just because WE want it not because we’re hoping someone else likes it. If you have a type go look for that type that’s fine, but quit telling others how to live
And when you take it off they ask if you're sick 😂. Dont believe them ever.
As a woman who has natural hair that is not made up into any sort of style beyond just brushing it, no false hair or eyelashes, and don't wear make-up... I have never once had a man hit on me.
I'm not trying to attract men because I'm asexual, but I'm 100% natural and never had a man interested in me.
So I call bs on the "natural women are more attractive".
One word. Exhausting.
My ex tried to get me to stop wearing heels after we got together (having been friends for a couple years already) because he _then_ didn’t like that I was the same height as him 🙄, then it was insisting on coming out dancing with my girlfriends when he hated clubbing so it would sour the whole evening. Then it was telling me he liked none of my friends i.e. you shouldn’t see them anymore. Then it was buying his own place in a town he knows I don’t like a year and a half into our relationship and asking me to move in but I don’t get a say in how anything looks or furnishings because ‘it’s his’. Then it was refusing to shut the bedroom door at night so he could hear his sodding fish tank whose noise would keep me up. More stuff but ugh, so glad I’m out of all that nonsense now. Dress how I want, talk to whoever and do what I please! Bliss ☺️
It's the audacity! And it's always the crusty ones
The audacity of calling women “sisters” while he sexualizes them and attempts to force his aesthetic decisions onto people who dgaf about his opinion
Funny how he's throwing the word "clown" around like that knowing FULL WELL- 🤡💀
Some men really go out of their way to tell us they hate everything about us lol. So lame
I'm hella glad it's been a repellant for these toxic angry men, you should be able to express yourself what you like to wear no matter what 💖
I put makeup 💄 on for fun.
Notice how he didn’t wanna say “they don’t care” also imagine looking like a dehydrated grasshopper and speaking on women.
I was waiting for him to say it like he was so close but ofcourse these kinds of men love being willfully ignorant
Dehydrated grasshopper 🦗 ❤
Hold up! No. I don't wear fake lashes, makeup, wigs, etc, etc. So I'm supposedly this dusty dudes "type." Yeah, no thank you! 😂 Stop trying to send him our way. That's not right because the "natural" women don't want his crap either!
What an incredibly long and roundabout way of saying you’re broke. Dude we do not care!😂