Renowned ADHD Activist: "I Felt Broken. This ONE CHANGE Saved My Life!" - Laura Mears-Reynolds

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  • @lachatnoir1127
    @lachatnoir1127 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +33

    Got diagnosed at 40 last week. I am finally forgiving myself for the hundreds of things ive shamed myself over all my life. Its so freeing

    • @kristypucciarello4626
      @kristypucciarello4626 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      I just typed my whole thing...and accidentally deleted it. I understand the freeing part completely.

  • @miabyte
    @miabyte 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +71

    Literally hearing that medication turns off that constant background anxiety has got me like, "Wait, neurotypical people aren't just anxious all the time?"

    • @BranchDavidian-
      @BranchDavidian- 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      I never expected stimulants that are supposed to cause more anxiety do the opposite for me

    • @slugface322
      @slugface322 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      yeah we normal people aren't crazy AF Sorry to break it to yeah hunny.

    • @cujimmy1366
      @cujimmy1366 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Laura is a fantastic advocate, thank you both for a great podcast ❤.

    • @miabyte
      @miabyte 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      @slugface322 People with adhd aren't crazy. Educate yourself.

    • @nicolasbascunan4013
      @nicolasbascunan4013 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@slugface322normal people also take those medicines (as drug to feel “better”) and also can feel anxiety “all the time”. Normal people aren’t in that state naturally.

  • @Plethorality
    @Plethorality 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +32

    Knowledge really is power. A diagnosis can be life saving.

    • @curiousone6129
      @curiousone6129 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I do believe it's better to know, but I've just learned what has been causing my craziness. I'm starting to grieve the things in my life that have been affected by this, but can't be fixed.
      Please be careful about that formal diagnosis. It can have unintended consequences sequences.
      Perhaps get help in other ways.

  • @lauraluey
    @lauraluey 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    What a gorgeous human she is! 🩷✨️🌿

    • @Gimenez528Hz
      @Gimenez528Hz 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      She really is 🩷

  • @Gimenez528Hz
    @Gimenez528Hz 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    Cried my eyes out listening to her
    I can identify with so much of this

  • @vickis600
    @vickis600 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    This would be the best podcast I have seen with Laura and I resonate with her so much it has been great listening.

  • @derekwade4042
    @derekwade4042 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

    My wife is autistic and I am adhd... works perfect for 20 years without us knowing of the diagnosis for most of the time. 😊

    • @victoriazwergmaus9813
      @victoriazwergmaus9813 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Me ADHD, boyfriend Autistic 😍 have never been happier!!!!

  • @Eccentric_Villain
    @Eccentric_Villain 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

    Struggling to get a diagnosis for ADHD, it’s insanely hard in regional areas here in Australia. I know I’m AuDHD.
    I lucked out 5 years ago getting an Autism diagnosis, and no doubt that saved my life. After developing Fibromyalgia, One thinks because of a 30 year lifetime of stress of thinking im a dysfunctional human.

    • @2brunhilda
      @2brunhilda 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      The diagnosis isn’t rocket science because they rely on childhood behavior on much of it. . We know ourselves more than they do because we lived it.

  • @bringitbex
    @bringitbex 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

    I get that “ I need a break” in my relationships , all my relationships were failed and toxic too , I felt either too much or not enough in every single relationship including with my parents even today at aged 58 waiting on my adhd psychiatric assessment..

    • @curiousone6129
      @curiousone6129 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Hope you get the help you need.

    • @Gimenez528Hz
      @Gimenez528Hz 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      I totally feel you.
      I got my diagnosis last year at the age of 55.
      Has been an eye opener for me and also very emotional
      Hang on in there 🙏🏿

    • @Gimenez528Hz
      @Gimenez528Hz 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​​@Mr_Penguins_Pet_Human I am waiting for some CBT therapy to deal with emotional dysreg.
      I am looking forward to having more control of that aspect
      I am so glad that strategys can be put in place and also work 🙏🏿

  • @curiousone6129
    @curiousone6129 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +20

    Broken. Exactly. I do think i am.
    Had a very bad day today. All the symptoms came out today, and i'm new at this and dont know how to manage them yet.
    So tired from trying to function and keep up and stay under control. And now its bedtime and I can't sleep because my brain WON'T STOP CHURNING.

    • @CheltzyBunny
      @CheltzyBunny 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Ugh, I feel this. I don't think we are broken, but it certainly feels like we are, especially trying to fit into a neurotypical society.

    • @ChristineMeyer-hs9rg
      @ChristineMeyer-hs9rg 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Hang in there. My son suffers like you but he's gotten stronger and managed better over time.
      It's developmental delay so it just gets better as you get older and mature naturally. I think the young years are definitely the hardest. You are not alone so take heart in that. It's good you can listen to people like this who understand how hard it is.
      People in general are slowly getting to educate themselves which is better
      for all ADHD.

    • @curiousone6129
      @curiousone6129 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @A.desert.flower
      Thanks, I'll try them.

    • @curiousone6129
      @curiousone6129 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      @@ChristineMeyer-hs9rg
      Thanks for your encouragement. I'm 74 and just learned about ADHD this month. Huge relief to know about it. Listening to others explaining about their own situations does help me to feel less crazy.
      Good timing because i.have lately been facing some big challenges and feeling overwhelmed. Thanks again for helping.

    • @johanmalmgren5212
      @johanmalmgren5212 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      TM or Mantra meditation has worked wonders for me (sometimes) when sleep has been impossible.
      Listen to your brain saying Hu or Ohm on repeat. Aim for longer pauses of silence between the repetitions.
      Don't force it, just try to notice the repetition

  • @tgirlberra
    @tgirlberra 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    I am in love with your guest. The way she's so funny, honest and vulnerable really makes me relate to her more. Thank you both for creating this wonderful platform!! :))

  • @whracing
    @whracing 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    I feel calm in chaos. My room is filled with organised chaos, sorry. Doom piles. I’m load and my Daughter is hypersensitive same as me and i can also be to much for myself. It’s really a weird situation when you feel like your AUDHD . It’s almost like having two personalities. And being an introverted extrovert living a life of contradiction.

  • @jonhartmusic
    @jonhartmusic 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    45 min+ mark. Wow, bringing back memories of when I went into a mental health crisis in Dec 2021 with suicidal plans etc. I then had a psychiatric assessment on Christmas Eve 2021 (funsies) and I was told ADHD with ASD traits (when I thought it was Bipolar). That kicked in an identity crisis with recovery. Had a mental health crisis relapse in July 2022 and only got on my own 2 feet again in 2023 and have been building ever since. It was my wife and kids that kept me here. But I’m not sure I’d be where I am now without that experience and revelations. The grief/relief (or gri-lief I heard someone call it the other) is heavy. But that’s sliding doors moments we live through with a late diagnosis. Alex, loving these episodes. I’ve just released 30 episodes of The Neurodiveregent Musician podcast + transferring it to a book + releasing a Neurodivergent album as part of awareness / education etc. I think a lot of us have found ways to learn and then give back to help others. And your podcast + TH-cam is defo helping me with my quest 🙏🏻

  • @theviewfrommyfrontroom2039
    @theviewfrommyfrontroom2039 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    The biggest problem I've had with adhd is the times my mind goes away, and I have no idea what is going on around me in real life while my brain is ,for example,at the beach,or reading a book, my mind is actually in whatever story I am reading. The only way i can remain present in a lecture,or staff meeting situation is to doodle as it anchors me to the present. Accused of not "paying attention" and it is the only thing that allows me to be present.

  • @lumay333
    @lumay333 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    I have simplified my diet, started on elimination diet with fresh fatty meat only, little dairy, water and decaff coffee nearly a year ago. Advantages ; very little to no planning for meals and shopping, less money spent, minimal waste, short term memory improved 90%, executive function improved, anxiety gone, energy levels up and I can hold a conversation well without going off the tangent or loosing train of thought all together. Life is fantastic.

    • @lachatnoir1127
      @lachatnoir1127 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Would you say you're cured of adhd or diet has impacted dramatically.? You're diet is known for anti inflammatory purposed. I wonder if there is a link with that.
      Or insulin plays a role.

    • @lumay333
      @lumay333 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@lachatnoir1127 Don't think I am cured, but my symptoms are managed really well. I am only 13 months into fatty meat based woe and the healing still takes place. There are bad habits that slowly get replaced with good ones. But I must admit I can't wait to see what other issues get improved.

    • @bianka4001
      @bianka4001 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I know a guy, well multiple actually, where this form of diet has ruined their intestines after 10+ years.. Just be mindful of possible negative long-term effects such one-sided forms of diet can have over the years. Wish you all the best.

  • @Jai-zh9qs
    @Jai-zh9qs 13 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Jesus! Bless you Laura. I don't think I've more strongly identified with anyone...... I'm at the struggling to move off the sofa point (literally 2 years in) and arguing with myself why being here is preferable to not....... Thanks so much for bravely sharing your story❤

  • @ravelanone9462
    @ravelanone9462 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I found the music in the intro very distracting, and the "Diary of a CEO" style teaser very annoying. That aside, this is a great podcast, very interesting and full of good information for those of us with ADHD. I'm glad I stuck with it despite the dizzying intro! Thank you! ❤

  • @evettejohnson6698
    @evettejohnson6698 8 วันที่ผ่านมา

    This could have been me sitting there. The thing Laura said resonated so much with me. I'm not yet diagnosed as ADHD, because it's hard to get a diagnosis as an adult in New Zealand, unless you have enough money.

  • @indigo-q7g
    @indigo-q7g 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    You're not too much! - Selfishly I guess, to me, you are just absolutely perfect, to be and say everything you did as you did in this video, as it really, benefitted me :D You're insights, having experiences and someone I can relate to , the getting more language to be able to understand myself and communicate this to others better, the renaming of RSD :) all incredibly invaluable. Thank youu for this brilliant podcast xx

  • @jonathanscarletmusic
    @jonathanscarletmusic 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Adhd and also long covid here. I use that 'well I might as well do a, b or c first' logic on a weekly basis. Resonate so much with this.

    • @snufkin544
      @snufkin544 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I'm more and more convinced of a link between Long Covid and neurodiversity.

  • @poetryofthecosmos
    @poetryofthecosmos 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Every single thing Laura shared resonated! :(

  • @personplaceorthing
    @personplaceorthing 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    I wish I had more people like Laura in my life. I don't mean to sound para-social. How she carries and expresses herself reminds me of how I behave at my happiest and most unreserved....which doesn't happen as much as I would like.

    • @starlingswallow
      @starlingswallow 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Me too!! Right?? She's glowing!! And when I'm this happy, I _feel like_ I'm glowing! ✨

  • @LydiaTheBusinessWoman
    @LydiaTheBusinessWoman หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Employment is a big one. How do you start your career after adhd/ocd/scrupulosity has destroyed 5 years of your non working life. How do you explain those wasted years to a potential employer?

  • @Kelly-wj7xd
    @Kelly-wj7xd 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    53 been diagnosed a few months ago but still waiting for triation why does it take so long for medication after waiting so long for a diagnosis. 🤯 My mum used to say why are you copying your friends I would just mimic whoever I was with. When I was a child. How do I find my community???? How did you find it? I feel so isolated.

  • @smol_nerdy_dwarf
    @smol_nerdy_dwarf หลายเดือนก่อน

    Known i had adhd since first grade... Not once i really had good support til now and all that time i had to mask, and learning to unmask is hard as hell

  • @HereatJodstas
    @HereatJodstas 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Just discovered you OMG you say everything I am going through. Just subscribed to you. Love who you are wish I could love me for me. Greetings from Melbourne Australia 🇦🇺

  • @carlyholds5331
    @carlyholds5331 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I used to use Hellofresh but found I would still decide to get takeout instead when it was a hard day (every other day tbh!) 😬 so it would still just sit there in the fridge...

  • @briana9918
    @briana9918 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    What a lovely woman! ❤❤

  • @TheRealUncensoredTravelGuide
    @TheRealUncensoredTravelGuide 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I'm like her with her tangents. I don't speak as loud but i get most of what she's saying.

  • @salparadise1220
    @salparadise1220 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    No two people with ADHD are the same (because no two people are the same), yet at the same time people with ADHD, from across the world, from diverse cultures, genders, nations, religions and philosophies, all use broadly the same words to describe their ADHD.
    (Just as, victims of Covert/Passive Narcissistic Abuse also use the same words, broadly, to describe their experiences, with many reporting the same words being used by the abusers.)
    So, there's way more similarity than difference.

  • @sportygirlplays
    @sportygirlplays หลายเดือนก่อน

    Auadhd is a creative smart person can work and do things ourselves supports are not needed much we just get bullied sometimes by others also have it masking it everyday at work didn’t claim unseen disability’s to system they project it onto others pick on them

  • @Kelly-wj7xd
    @Kelly-wj7xd 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    How do you find your community?

  • @bringitbex
    @bringitbex 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I would absolutely love to be interviewed on adhd chatter by you Alex 🙌
    I do have a very colourful back story .. just saying 👀🙌🙌

  • @jbug884
    @jbug884 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I have the number blind thing too, it’s called being thick as sh#t at maths! But I do like the idea of blaming something else other than myself for it 😂
    Also the change in voice thing, that’s normal. I sound like lady muck on the phone, and common as muck in person 😂

  • @Habanero92
    @Habanero92 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Could you think of the period before just staying on the couch?was that happening, maybe, because you had a burnout?

  • @scarlettifluff
    @scarlettifluff 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Can we also just talk about the incredible charisma that people with ADHD also have? The magnetism, the hilarity and the ability to not be boxed in? Laura is the sort of person I search out, there was nothing about the tangential way Laura put her thoughts together that I found difficult, I self diagnose as ADHD and have also probably got similar side gigs going on, I also lost my best friend this year and have been struggling but have also been illuminated by recently working out why and what my brains all about for the first time in 63 years along with accompanying grief. I completely understand the magic of the leopard and the ladle, ( Laura that could be the title of your next book!) as I also employ similar accoutrements

  • @dogdude2457
    @dogdude2457 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I'm undiagnosed but, this deep dive into understanding ADHD. I realize that I have to many of the symptoms to ignore. What can I do and how can I get help? Please 🙏

    • @Hasbo340
      @Hasbo340 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Book an appointment with your GP. Speak to them about it as honestly and openly as you can. Explain and put as much emphasis on how it is impacting your life negatively. Also explain to them which aspects of your life are being affected and how. Is it relationships, work, finances, your overall happiness? If it’s any or all of those things, give a little example of how each thing it being affected. But also outline how these problems are caused by what you believe to be ADHD.
      Do try to be honest. The more honest you are the more accurately they can assess you. You might not have ADHD and instead have autism, depression or anxeity, so being clear and honest is important for you to get the CORRECT diagnosis and treatment.
      Once the GP agrees that you could meet the criteria, ask them to book you in with a specialist.
      The specialist will take you through the official process that your country adheres to throughout the diagnosis process. Check and find out online, what the process is for your country.
      You may need two people to fill out a collateral form each. One filled out by someone who knew you well as a child, and one who knows you well now as you are today.
      They too, need to be honest about it. Its best if they fill it out and submit the forms, knowing that you will not see what they’ve written. Because they might be brutally honest and if they know you’re going to see it, they might withhold valuable information.
      Once the specialist has those, you might get a two hour appointment which would form your formal assessment. They’ll ask you a lot of personal questions, some of which might make you quite emotional just to talk about.
      They’ll then give you their verdict and explain it to you. Then discuss what you’d like to do about it. Medication, therapy or coaching are the three main options they may suggest.
      None will “fix” you, you will still have ADHD and always will. But they could make a positive difference to you life overall. No one is the same so it’s something you will have to find out for yourself, which treatment works best for you.
      Hope this helps!

    • @curiousone6129
      @curiousone6129 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      Not to discourage you from medical diagnosis, but you may want to think hard before getting a formal diagnosis. ADHD is apparently considered a MENTAL ILLNESS in some places.
      A medical diagnosis becomes part of your "permanent record". This information does NOT STAY PRIVATE. Despite HIPA regulations and other non disclosure laws, numerous situations allow disclosure under certain circumstances.
      Example; I recently had to renew my driver's license. Several questions on the renewal form deal with mental health. Disclosing an ADHD diagnosis could potentially lead to prohibiting you from driving, or anything else the government de
      Decides. Different places and government entities do different things, and can change requirements at will.
      If you think this through, that could have a profound affect on your life. It can restrict you from things you want to do, and force you into other undesirable situations.
      Examples; it could affect the outcome of a child custody case, or your ability to work in certain jobs, if you are deemed mentally ill.
      Once others have the information and label you "mentally ill", they can use that information to interfere in your life in whatever ways they choose.
      Ronald Reagan said the most dangerous words are "I'm from the government and I'm here to help you."
      Just asking you to please carefully consider the potential ramifications and unintended consequences of having such a diagnosis in your records. There are other ways to get help or to help yourself without having a formal diagnosis.
      Best wishes with whatever you decide to do.

    • @dogdude2457
      @dogdude2457 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @curiousone6129 wow thank you so much for you honesty and thought out comment. I was unaware of those things but, I am not surprised either. I feel as If I need help but I've lasted 33 years so maybe I will continue to just deal

    • @curiousone6129
      @curiousone6129 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@dogdude2457
      You are so welcome. Glad to give you some things to consider.
      If you decide to stay "undercover", you may want to study more about ADHD. There are lots of sources on the internet and many good books to help you deal. Both have great suggestions to deal with the symptoms
      In my humble opinion, half the battle is knowing you have ADHD, whether by self diagnosis or formal testing!
      The next part is to understand this illness so you can see which parts apply to you.
      Following that, search for hacks for your various symptoms that will help you cope and improve how you feel and your behavior.
      After our recent understanding of the appalling things big pharma, the medical establishment, and governments around the world have been doing and continue to do to us, my faith in all of them is almost non- existent. I tend to stay away from them, unless there is no other way to solve a problem. Even then I watch them carefully and double check whatever they tell me.
      Sad that it is necessary, but it has been proven that most are not working in our best interests. They have made their priorities power and greed.
      I realize there are some exceptional individuals who are exceptional and brave and will tell us the truth. So many have been silenced, intimidated, and harmed, but thank God for them!
      Best of luck on your journey. Things can improve.🐕🦮🐕‍🦺🐩🙂

    • @azizakaseruuzi206
      @azizakaseruuzi206 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@dogdude2457no, still go and get assessed. Because you run the very likely risk of complete burn out, not being able to go any further and it gets harder to get out of that the longer you go undiagnosed, not seeking the resources or support that could actually help you. Some may still regard it a “mental illness”, but I think more people consider it a “mental disorder” which idk if it is worse or bad, but also it can’t be ignored that many people (especially those with ADHD) see it as being simply wired differently, in a way that the systems of the world are not built for. So it’s really up to you to assess how bad your situation is and evaluate everything you’ve tried to make it better - if an ADHD assessment is of consideration but you haven’t tried that yet, you definitely should. I’m in a period between having gotten my preliminary diagnosis and waiting for my definitive diagnosis- literally on the brink lol go get assessed. You don’t have to tell your employers, but for your peace of mind, and Road to getting better, do it. Sorry for the paragraph, really passionate about this right now lol

  • @GreenGranny
    @GreenGranny 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Min 25:00

  • @sportygirlplays
    @sportygirlplays หลายเดือนก่อน

    Add /adhd people can drive and work thats total bs should be allowed to drive do things they want without being controlled by system carers as long as their abiding by the law.

    • @Raven.13
      @Raven.13 หลายเดือนก่อน

      She was talking about her own experience.

  • @whracing
    @whracing 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Until people stop stereotyping neurodivergence things will never be understood or improve. Every person on this planet is effected differently by anything in the world around them

  • @howyoullappear1187
    @howyoullappear1187 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Yea, an adhd video, where you should drop the 1hour and condense the waffle to about 4 mins, then you might be onto something….

  • @thinkingloud1988
    @thinkingloud1988 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    The interviewer fancies her

  • @nikkyk4839
    @nikkyk4839 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    did she really say that mercury is in retrograde? Seriously?

    • @lachatnoir1127
      @lachatnoir1127 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Hopefully she was being funny

  • @sportygirlplays
    @sportygirlplays หลายเดือนก่อน

    Figet toys 😂 plastic toys wasted crap adults adhd dont care lol