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No Questions on Political views or Ideology ? Was that his demand for the interview ? Disappointing TBH. It was a 'feel good' only about the bloke. He is extremely articulate, so I dont know why you used a velvet glove w. the guy.
Steve has had many scientists and medical professionals on the show over the years, including psychologists, and yet Noah has given some of the most profound thoughts on life and human development. I will be listening to this episode again.
Agreed! Trevor's amazing at conveying his insights and knowledge in a way that's both simple and profound. Steven did a fantastic job interviewing and hosting Trevor, staying engaged and present the whole time ♥
Steven Bartlett your listening skills are on another level👏. What sets you apart is your ability to create an atmosphere where guests don’t just talk they reflect, go deep, and share parts of themselves that often remain untouched in other interviews. You don’t just ask questions; you unlock stories.
My 6 year old daughter said “these two brothers look so alike and they are speaking nicely to each other “ and I agree. I didn’t want this to end for so many reasons. What a gift to have witnessed this. The humility, the brotherly love, the appreciation of friendship and most of the importance of good relationships. I feel like I went to therapy. ❤
Why wouldn't half black men speak nicely to each other lmao. I don't really get the comment to be honest. Black or half black people are not less capable of being kind or civil it sort of seems like a really weird thing to say.
perhaps the prevailing prejudice of people from Africa ..it’s so warm . The intelligence insight and humanity. The icons and models from Africa at times are not the best. Likewise from everywhere ! The depth of humanity is so great. Both are fathering age but as far as we know are not fathers. They convey their truths so well and digestible. Thanks Steven
Thissss…..! Cause whilst I knew he was humorous I had no idea what a thoroughly deep and honest thinker he was and I was truly impressed and pleasantly surprised. I’m glad I stopped by and listened
Trevor, Abel was my car mechanic at the time you lived there, I lived around the corner in Orange Grove. I read your book for the first time and you won’t believe my shock and surprise when I got to the part where your mom met Abel and everything became so familiar!! I couldn’t believe that I’d been going to your house regularly to get my car serviced and fixed. All sorts of mixed feelings for a man who I thought was quite lovely and a great mechanic. I was quite outraged! I am just so happy your life turned out so well and that your mom is safe! ❤ You’re a wonderful human. And you Steve ❤️
Thanks for your comment. I have also had a dangerously violent man in my life, he is so charming that no one would ever guess. Only those who've known him longer know.
Yes! I love that Japanese art form! Is that the coolest?. I was just discussing this last week with someone. I forget the name of it But it is a most beautiful thing isn't it? I am glad Trevor talked about this. ❤
Trevor has a brain that doesn't shut off. I have never watched a podcast this long but so quite informative. Trevor is a treasure. Yes authentic he is.
@jbf5117 Hah! I'm an 86-yr old white woman and I'm still learning. It never ends. When I was 22, I assumed I would reach a point where I knew everything about how to get along in life. When I was 30, I began to get an inkling that was not likely to happen. If only we could sit down together and share a glass of wine or cup or tea or whatever. beannachtaí.
This is arguably the best episode I have ever watched in this show. Trevor's intellect is shocking. He's quite smart, the way he answers every question is really astounding. The wisdom too is mind blowing. Like I really did go to therapy today. Steve thank you
He has always seemed to be an impressive guy and very good professional but until this interveiw I had no clue he is an Apartheid kid. That's very interesting and eye opening to learn about him. Just like me he was a child born during the collapse of an opressive political regime. Very interesting thing to learn about him that kind of puts his professional life into perspective and allows people who have always admired him in a way to see him in a new light.
How can one human being be so smart, insightful, eloquent, funny, rich, handsome and loved by many? It doesn’t make any sense.. Trevor Noah is truly blessed!
He has incredible humility also. He said at one point that he has sat down with people more wise or intelligent than himself, and I thought, especially by the end of this recording, not sure anyone has anything on him.
I think the biggest thing I have learned about ADHD is that doing something that you dont want to do or that doesnt interest you is the hardest thing in the world and that mental strain to make yourself do it is what leads to the depression
Another stolen quote, just like Trevor steals everything. Also many of his jokes are stolen from other comedians. There is nothing authentic about Noah.
Trevor's answers to these questions are extremely realistic. When he says things like, "I really don't know," "I really don't know why," etc., he portrays a realistic view that celebrities are human, too. He doesn't want to show that he has everything figured out. He is extremely vulnerable and candid, and it would be an injustice to listen to this at face value. Deep stuff! And how he appreciates the people who were there for him. This is a healed human being who has met himself deeply. I pray for this grace.
Yes this. I enjoyed his “I don’t knows.” I enjoyed that they weren’t just “I don’t know,” but he shared his thoughts and feelings that helped us understand that this is something he has thought about and considered and not having a conclusion was a result of both knowing and acknowledging the part that cannot be known for sure.
I really relate to the show, kids growing up around domestic abuse really go through trauma that shapes their lives forever. For me, the hardest thing is these kids carrying burdens that overwhelm them and affect their growth and development. The fear of the unknown stays with you forever and it only takes a miracle to heal from such a fear.
I've read Trevor's book. My heart broke, then soared, so many times. I cried. I laughed out loud. My husband thought I was going nuts, and kept asking me if I was okay. Trevor, you are a treasure. Hugs, darling, stay strong. 💫
Trevor describing himself as a piece of ceramic that has been broken many times and put back together is one of the most beautiful descriptions I have ever heard. Thank you for this tender interview.
No parent is ever perfect. Also, spending time with Trevor would be the most fantastic time ever. Full of a full range of topics from serious to dark-humored! It reminds me so much of my brother (who is no longer here) to have a fraction of time for something like that. May we all find a Trevor in our life! ❤
I have been wondering for so long what the backstory was for Trevor that was not articulated in his written work. It was a perpetual nagging feeling of incompleteness. Yes, he has been abundantly transparent and self revelatory, but there always seemed like there was another story underneath his storytelling. This interview was it-- and Steve your talent for assisted narrative telling is becoming legendary. Kudos. Trevor is such a remarkable human being who has had the world at his feet yet never allowed the supplication of celebrity bring him hubristically to his knees. Having been exposed to such a breadth of humanity and still able to see a throughput of compassionate listening and wisdom is truly a gift from God. I have never forgotten the interview Trevor did with Kellyanne Conway, who is clearly a deeply troubled human being. Yet, he was able to give her humanity and shame her behavior. I sat back thunderstruck. Only a spirit who has experienced nooks and crannies of human existence that are hidden from most people would have been able to head the conversation away from the typical traps that someone like Kellyanne creates. She perverts language for a living, Trevor elevates language for a living and it was a masterful moment of television. Trevor impresses me as someone who is able to sit with grief and see its beauty and pathos at the same time which is ultimately the gift of all comedians. They make us laugh to keep our jovial tears from transforming to weeping. I wonder how he heals-- at a point when I was near death, his show and humor created enough dopamine for me to keep going, heal my brain, soothe my soul. How does he restore his soul? At a biochemical level, who or what gives him the dopamine and serotonin he rightfully deserves? Metaphysically, where will all of this soul work take him and his audience? He has already accomplished so much, I shudder in anticipation of the amazing places he will go. I genuinely pray that Trevor is able to rise to a level of his human experience that transcends his wildest dreams of happiness. He deserves it-- he has given so much to us through his transparency, authenticity and vulnerability. God speed on your journey, Trevor. May the road always rise up to meet you...
This was the interview I have been secretly hoping would happen! Because most DOAC interviews are so long, I typically take a few days, listening in 30 min increments. Today, I sat down in front of my laptop, full-screen view and watched from beginning to end, with absolutely no regrets. I am always blown away by Trevor's ability to articulate emotions, complex thoughts and nuanced contextualities. But Steven, having you listen, respond and ask questions only elevated this conversation to everything I never knew I wanted to hear from both of you. My 3 big takeaways: 1. Growing up in abusive homes can make many hypersensitive to those around them and conflict-averse (you don't have to protect everyone). 2. No one who does anything BIG does it alone! (My mentor always says: if you want to go fast, do it alone. If you want to go far, Squad Up!) 3. Make friends a priority. You will never regret it. Steven, you said the bigger the subscribers get, the bigger the guests get. You didn't lie! So glad to be one of your subscribers. One of the best interviews ever! (and that includes the ones with Mo Gadet and Gabor Mate)
Trevor is literally telling my story for me. This made me realize that I need to visit therapy because I believe this childhood trauma has continued to affect every relationship I get into. I don’t want to be like my father, I want to be better man.
I know the feeling fellow. I have tried to analyze myself on how much I think is a good / bad idea and how much is me just avoiding being anything like him. I'd rather be alone than become him. Therapy and good friends... maybe we will get where we want to be.
Domestic violence - silently killing women for 100s of years. Silent because the criminal is in your home. Universally accepted form of injustice and criminality. Thank you for sharing Trevor, your perception of life and experiences you have had is remarkable and the world needs to hear it
And self unaliving. It is so awful and tragic that these transparent, vulnerable people are in so much pain. They bring the world so much joy and relief from the hardness of life, yet they are suffering inside. It breaks my heart.
Artists have a tendency to get depressed and that isn't news. I think the main reason for it is that our culture goes against creative and independent thinkers; the people running our system like "obedient workers" as George Carlin said, and you're punished for being anything else.
One of the most powerful conversations on so many levels. Personal, psychoanalytical, social, political, where to end. In a tone of voice that is absolutely brilliant to listen to and be able to absorb, and feel the emotions without being overwhelmed. Thank you for this!!! Respect in every word and sharing!
@ceshmate1953 it's pretty wild. Usually this channel has fairly organic engagement but I think Trevor Noah is so universally disliked, they had to bring out the bots.
Trevor is such an eloquent speaker with such a strong grip on human psychology and philosophy. Never seen this side of him! Thoroughly enjoyed this convo
Probably one of the best interviews I've ever watched. Steven asked so many deep, hard hitting questions that most interviewers never venture towards. Trevor Noah is so articulate, soulful, and one of the most intelligent of the "celebrity" crowd. Basically I was hanging onto every word of this conversation. Feeling very contemplative now. Thank you to the gracious host, classy guest and every single person on the production crew to produce this video!
Hands down, one of THE BEST conversations I've listened to in over 15 years. The questions and then follow-up questions Steven Barlett asks Trevor Noah as he responds and then goes deeper in his response is beyond the beyond. These two men "go there" in extraordinary ways. Thank you for this interview and for sharing it with the world.
This is how I wish the world would be all the time. Good listeners and respectful, beautiful responses on life and how we are impacted. Great young men, great role models for communication. Thank you! I want more.
That's right. I used to be the guy who would always protect and please everyone until I got betrayed. I am glad he said it and I am grateful you reiterated it.
Was talking with my friend in a group, and he vocally established that he had no interest in our activities and only wanted us to partake in what HE enjoyed. We told him it was messed up to say, and the next day he came back and said after reflecting on his behaviour it was childish and he needed to be better. We told him it's okay to not do the thing everyone else is, but we shouldn't pressure our friends into stopping their enjoyment for ours. We love doing things with him that he enjoys, but we also love it when he does stuff with us that we like. We enjoy life together. I'm glad he's becoming more emotional aware.
As a South African, I really appreciate how Trevor represents our country and its nuances to the world. We're such a complex people with dynamics that are intrinsically understood by us who live our reality daily..but he articulates us so succinctly through his own story too. Its little understood how blessed a country and people we are in RSA to coexist as peacefully as possible with every race, religion, culture, languages etc today given the gruesomeness of our past..the consequences of which we're still grappling with today. Nkosi sikelela iAfrika nyan🙏🏽
I lived in SA for 15 years. A real education. Knew some truly amazing people there. But co existing in the blessedness you describe? The men can’t co exist with the women… rape… murder… the crime levels are off the scale!
To me, he is. He is as well a top bloke. This interview is, for me, very interesting as per his perspectives and insights due to his life experience. No need to force yourself to like him. It's maybe not interesting for you. You be you. I'll be me.
The last stuff i've heared about ZA is that people cut the powerlines, because they know then the energy company will cut the power, because there are energy problems. Any person from ZA that i talk with tells the same story... "get out if you can". People cant even run a foodstore, because the coolers cant run without power, so you cant really store anything like milk producs or fresh fish/chicken.
@@DreaMeRHoLicWondering where these people live in SA? I am from there and yes, this SOMEtimes happens in parts of SA…but it’s not a consistent standard…so? Not sure where these people live that spoke to you…pls share?
@@DreaMeRHoLicwe are not going anywhere. Every country has its problems and some of us are happy to live through the good and the bad. Power problems are being restored and the government is investing in renewable energy. I think you are meeting a lot of disgruntled SA expats.
You held that space on The Daily Show with so much grace and strength no one would ever know you were going through the most when you started , you are an amazing human being , and I love you .
You are insane. You love him? You have no idea who this man is when the cameras are off. He is a liar and a thief. Most of his material is stolen from other comedians. Stop worshipping these fake, inauthentic celebrities... 'I love you...' what an embarrasment you are...
82 year old from South africa ...i am gobsmacked with what i havebkearnt thru thus podcast..and Trevor youvare a wonderful human being ..proud you are from South Africa ❤
This young man has more maturity and wisdom than so many twice his age. Yes, he’s been through a lot, and rather than descend into victim, it’s transformed him and given him real backbone. How refreshing and inspiring.
I think the segment discussing men is most intriguing. Something that is urgent but is uncomfortable to talk about. Former times men and women were so focused on survival and acquiring that time to reflect wasn't even a consideration. And if you did you were strongly admonished to get your mind off yourself and get busy. Reflection was relegated to Sunday morning sermons only. Today's man is double challenged to adhere to those waning standards and figure out what the new standards are at the same time. I have compassion for them because it's a lonely road. Especially without faith in God.
From the dawn of public discourse to now, no conversation has been this phenomenal for the ADHD population. This is the ultimate interview for ADHD individuals in history. Thank you, Steven.
This interview really surprised me by how much I identified, especially at the end. I dislike "that happened for a reason." I really enjoy your guests & your questions.
My two favourite people on the planet. Two men who are compassionate, kind, curious, committed to learning and self growth; developing self insights and valuing vulnerability as one of our greatest strengths. May the two of you continue to learn and grow and share the journey with the rest of us. The shared experience... your theme park experience was a great example of valuing people as opposed to things and activities.
This was incredibly healing and heartwarming to watch, especially for someone who grew up in a toxic, patriarchal community where showing emotions and vulnerability was seen as a weakness.
You have no idea who these people truly are. Trevor is a liar and a thief who steals work from others. Many other comedians have claimed he stole their material. He is a disgusting and inauthentic garbage person.
Dear Trevor, deep love from a grandmother in New Zealand. I grew up in an unsafe household, I would freeze like an animal does, until I was in my forties. It was quite often a mental freezing, people usually didn’t notice. I love your book. Sending big hugs. You are marvellous 🤗💙🌺💐🇳🇿
I recently got diagnosed with ADHD through my depression. Not letting able to let go some specific ideas, the bad ones in particular has capacity to destroy your lives and your loved ones. I was not able to let go of some specific thought, couldn't sleep, lost my job, started abusing substances, lost 40 pounds(underweight), lost relationships and these last two years passed like it was a week. Finally talking to therapist and taking drugs brought me out my suicidal tendencies. His idea about observing your thoughts by being a fly in the wall is what my therapist suggested and has helped. His metaphor of focusing like a microscope and not being able to see anything around you is on point. The problem is sometimes you don't know your focus is so narrowed down that you cant see anything else. You might see it later but not at that moment. And even after knowing it sometimes you cannot help it. But you can see at some moments that there is hope. Hopefully someone who feels like this or similar should know there are ways to get out of it and should reach out for help and there are people who understand you and are able to help you. Hopefully I will be able to get out of it and others too.
This episode feels like a conversation between two friends. Sharing experiences and highlighting parts of one another’s lives that impacted them most. Amazing chemistry between the two of you. Love this ❤
You mean they arent friends?????? Kidding ;) Steven does it Always with the best guests - Africa, Glucose Goddess, James Sexton, i Always felt they are kinship
I am South African living in Sweden. I grew up under apartheid in South Africa. It is like hearing my own story . Because I know, I am sorry that you had to go through all you are going through. Thank you for sharing so honestly🙏🏻.
Thank for the privilege to see two black men have such a deep conversation. I have been blessed by this and will be sharing it with the men in my life.
@@sandrasmith4887 I understand. Maybe because USA is too rich , and they don't have to focus on other aspect of life but all these colors, LGBT, race, Genders, environmentalist etc. Here in third world like India, majority of us are too poor and don't even have time to focus of those things other than making livelihood, and we have problems too, but we tend to go through them and live a life with it
For the first time, someone described my life growing up in an abusive house. Because at a young age, you learn to get on with it. My way of being. Sensitive to how people feel. Always alert for possible violence... A lone ranger, and I never really trusted my surroundings. At the age of 52 today, I realized I still have trauma because I buried all of it deep on the inside. If you know me, I'm a jolly person who always wants to let people feel loved and appreciated. But in time, I also made changes, realizing that I'm not responsible for the next person's happiness. Nearly to a T, because he was also my stepdad after my dad passed away... Then living where you are the only one looking like this... Bullying from the outside also plays its role... Big up to you Trevor...
Such a lovely conversation. Trevor Noah is very profound. The fact that Trevor spent a lot of time with women made him a more well rounded person. I was a single parent. Due to this, my son is also a well rounded person. When children are raised with dominant men, they don't learn as much. They don't look around to see the different types of people and viewpoints. They lose a lot in life.
Born a crime is the best book i have ever read, it feels like you are walking with Trevor through his journey. I laughed, i cried, i mulled over the very meaning of life. What an amazing human being.
This is a concept that I find difficult to convince some younger generations in individualistic societies. Not just successes, of course, but that you're also shaped by foundations or lack thereof, built by generations before that have long passed. Something like the existence of labour laws, how the song "Cat's in the Cradle" struck the heart of many when it was out, and how they are now still eating the fruit from that movement. The people who influences you are not just those in your immediate contact, but a whole army from the past to the present and we, living in the present, is influencing those in the future.
Trevor has just given the most accurate description of _my_ experience of depression that I have ever heard. I never really associated it with my ADHD (also adult diagnosed, about 6 years ago) but the way he explains it makes so much sense. I'm going to share this with my friends and family. Thank you for having this conversation so that we all benefit from it.
l couldn't agree with you more! l'm 75 and was treated for depression much of my life - l requested l be looked at for ADHD and was diagnosed about 10 years ago. l know more about it than my psychiatrist, sadly. Trevor is fabulous! l feel it helps those of us who have ADHD and brings awareness to others.
Interesting... I noticed the differences. Trevor is a 'people' guy and Steven feels most himself when he's alone. Both are deep thinkers and emotionally expressive tho.
I've not avoided Trevor Noah and the Daily Show, but this is the longest time I have listened to his opinions and thoughts. I already knew he was intellectually intelligent; it is refreshing that he is also emotionally intelligent.
As a young man, Trevor Noah has the mind of a much older person. His family & his South African life has made him a very intelligent person. I wish him all the luck & good fortune but also his gift to teach other people how to live a better life. He can do whatever he wants now. At least I hope. I just love listening to him.
It's funny cause my grandma was half white half black but we didn't understand why ?she had to wear a scarf to cover her hair,she had to wear long clothing to cover skin 😢,
The weather is always nice above the clouds. But if I were a bird I’d go dancing in the thunderstorm. I’d fly across the clouds just like light. I’d listen to the symphony of the thunders under the rain. (Zaho de Sagazan - Symphonie des éclairs).
Trevor helped me understand how hyper-alert I was as a child and WHY. I could hear when my father downshifted 1/4 mile away! I was able to read his mood to sense whether he was approachable. Steven's mention of being able to identify feelings in a relationship and correlate it to childhood feelings blew me away! Some of the men I've dated were just like my father, AND I've felt fear and anxiety around them. This episode has been extremely therapeutic for me. Tysm!
Steven, I'm a 54-year-old black woman from very very poor beginnings. What I wish for you to read is (thank you) for every video I've had a chance to watch, listen to, and learn from... I'm still in a state of a humble life, but you and your staff have given this basic human a look into the other side of thinking. Which is always an eye opener. Thank you and your Staff😊
Ive never heard this ‘spidey-sense’ feeling explained so well…recognize the signs…finding patterns… seeing every tiny hand movement…i always knew i wasnt crazy but it feels good to know im not unique
Wow. Trevor Noah's explanation of his ADHD and Depression is the first time I've heard someone else describe my exact experience. I wasn't diagnosed until age 45. Didn't realize I was actually quite depressed because it had been my baseline experience for most of my adulthood.
Me, too. l'm 75 and had only been diagnosed with depression until above 10 years ago. No medication has any effect, which is extremely frustrating. l appreciate folks like Trevor, Simone Biles, and Michael Phelps bringing it to public awareness.
Same here. Diagnosed in adulthood and just being diagnosed, having something to make sense of the way I lived, the way others perceived me, etc., was like a weight off my shoulders. Therapy, learning and doing things differently and meds, have really helped! Also, ADHD affects men and women differently. Trevor is a wonderful human being. 💜
I like the way Trevor speaks and sounds the same way he did when he was in South Africa. We always laugh in Zambia when we see people go overseas for 'two weeks' then come back home with an accent 😂😂😂
Trevor and his humor helped get me through some rough times especially during the pandemic. I could feel something off with him as the shelter in place started lifting and tbh I'm glad he left the Daily show. There's this new energy to him and I really do hope he finds what he needs.
Trevor is such an introspective, intellectual person. I have never been into celebrity culture or had a celebrity crush, BUT, I pray that I get to meet/have a discussion with Trevor Noah in this lifetime. And he is funny!☺️
How was this over 2 1/2 hours long! Felt like it flew by. Trevor is an amazing human-his mother-simply out of this world! We need more Trevors, and even more Patricias! 💛
One of the things I love about Trevor is that he is relatable, and it doesn't even feel like he is trying (unlike most famous people). Thank you to Steve for having him on your show. 🇿🇦 We 🇿🇦 Are🇿🇦 Watching🇿🇦
With too many young men struggling to find real role models Steven and Trevor are the real deal. I would love for these two and a few other real men host a talk that addresses issues of connection and what being a man means today. Great podcast Steven.
Could be he meant qualities like authenticity esp on side of men..which is rare due to Men's ego and denial or even shying away from expressing their emotions genuinely. And I would mean this in a sense of being willing to genuinely seek help or support rather than keep quiet and depression hits and the next thing is the skyrocketing suicides. We are so protected. And it's high time we start thinking this way.
Noah hit the nail on the head about how you feel as a child and that invading adult life, I lived this and still do, I haven’t yet learned to calm the storm in my head. I have managed after over 40 years to set healthier boundaries but the guilt I can still feel if I haven’t been able to protect can sometimes feel soul crushing. Fantastic interview, thank you 🙏🏼
This honest, probing, respectful conversation between two men capable of truly listening, reflecting & sharing authentically is such a gift to us all. Thank you Steven & Trevor - just beautiful.
My mother hated conflict, worried and tried to please everyone, so self sacrificing, I grew up seeing how it effected her firsthand and what I've learnt is my hypersensitivity and senses now are derived from me developing those attributes to protect her. Definitely a gift and a curse
I admire Treva so very much . I was diagnosed as a small child and spent most of my life feeling so broken and such a trainwreck and completely unworthy but tried not to talk about it until I talked about it and truthfully since Trevor opened up and I found instagram and all the wonderful people who talk about it . I’m at so much piece and understanding about who I am . What a gift . I unfortunately cannot do life without medication and admire him for being able .
Steven Bartlett, your knack for listening is truly impressive! You have a unique ability to create a space where guests feel comfortable exploring their thoughts and emotions. Instead of just asking questions, you invite them to share their personal journeys in a way that feels genuine and impactful.
"Just because you've survived the storm doesn't mean you have to keep the storm." - Trevor Noah Thank you my brother for saying that! My outlook is similar, in the sense of giving close attention to our choices and decisions. I think if we're not careful we may lead people to think that it's ok for us to keep "allowing" all kinds of sufferings and storms. (By this I mean the avoidable kinds of storms). Take care of yourself people 💕
5:07 When he said.. I'm conscious of choosing my friends because I think that's me actively choosing the people who are going to be shaping me as I live my life. Yup same here 😊 I've been doing this because my energy is precious to me need to share it with meaningful individuals in my life only. ❤
Able sounds like he may have had narcissistic personality disorder. Narcissists can be so charming - funny, attentive, seemingly genuinely caring - UNTIL they do not get their way about something. Then, all Hell breaks loose.
This has been my struggle for the last 5 years since I was diagnosed after burning out and seeking medical support thinking I was developing a dementia. This episode was incredibly emotional for me. Thanks for getting vulnerable Trev, and thanks DOAC for doing what you guys continue to do every day. I am grateful.
Trevor has exceptional analytical skills and articulates his well thought out conclusions in a way nobody else does. He provides a unique perspective and has great story telling skills! I enjoyed this podcast and his book.
This is high up on the list of my favourite episodes. I appreciate Trevor’s honesty especially about the last question about hitting the button. I have now saved this to a playlist because I'll absolutely watch again
@@srzrochy oh man. And it flies quick. I play/listen to Beinf Black in America as a timer. It's exactly 1hr long. And the funny thing is that I still laugh as if it's my first time each time. Absolutely 👌
I loved this interview! The part where Trevor talks about growing up in an unsafe household, really spoke to me. Decades later, it still struggle with how that experience has shaped me, or continues to shape me.
I agree, I wish my partner had positive male friends around him that encourages openness and growth rather than toxic masculinity. He’s wonderful when he can be, but toxic people can really impact you negatively if you allow it or have no self worth, or if they don’t let you be yourself
@@Chunkybungus The amount of influence that social media has on women and their relationships is tragically enormous!! You all come here and see a small snippet of other people's lives and suddenly the relationships you have look like a dump. No wonder so many young women are initiating divorce and living miserable lives because you expect everything in your lives to be as "perfect" as you see on social media. It's so stupid!!!
This interview is truly hard to swallow. I too am a hypersensitive person and instantly as I listen through the tragic story of his mom's shooting, this made the hair on my arms raised with goosebumps. I'm so choked up and I'm not even half way through as I don't know if I can listen to this entirely in one sitting. I would ball my eyes out the whole time emotionally.
Another South African here. Lovely conversation guys! Trevor is an exceptionally intelligent and sensitive person. Thoroughly enjoyed seeing you guys connect.
Thank you so much for sharing your experience with hyper awareness it's something I have been dealing with most or my life and I have never understood it and the way you explained it has made me now understand myself a bit to where I can now look back and channel how I developed it. I have held back from going to therapy but listening to you and how understanding you're about your feelings and past is very inspiring and you've inspired me to get that for myself. Also thank you Steven for always interviewing inspiring/educational guests and getting them to open up it's always great to watch. 🩵
This hits me hard. My life had been spiraling downward for who knows how long. Two weeks ago I hit a point where I knew I really needed to make a change. I had suspected I had ADHD for a while, but I didn't want to take meds, thought I could manage. Well, I was not managing. At least not on the inside. On the surface I was a successful, well educated, fit man in his 30s. Got officially diagnosed and started meds a week and a half ago. Holy shit. Took one pill to knock me out of my depression. Life is all of a sudden on easy mode. Getting myself to do work just happens. Cleaning up my place just happens. Working out feels good again like it did 10 years ago in my 20s. I'm doing the things I've been meaning to do for years but just couldn't get out of my head enough to do them. I'm able to eat with intention and not emotionally. The constant urge of wanting to get fucked up, drunk, high, w/e, is gone. I am amazed at the compensatory mechanisms I have developed in my life to survive for this long. Mental health is no joke, sometimes your brain is damaged or just isn't genetically wired to excel in your environment. Don't be afraid to get the help you need, life is too short!
So, a few things to talk about the neuroscience. I only learned these recently. 1) adhd causes anxiety. Because low dopamine causes low norepinephrine (also called noradrenaline) and a symptom of being low on noradrenaline is anxiety. 2) your body uses norepinephrine and serotonin for a lot more than your brain chemistry, I've seen both involved in seasonal allergies, pain, and sleep. But I first went down this path because nortryptaline was prescribed to me for my digestive issues. 3) so as you get older you get more responsibilities, more aches and pains, and worse digestion, which is why it felt easier in your 20s. 4) to answer the question, the specific meds you need depends on who you are. I do fabulously on nonstimulant meds like strattera, nortryptaline causes emotional blunting so I need a higher dose of straterra. But stimulant meds can have similar effects. What I like about strattera in particular is that it goes straight for the anxiety, whereas stimulant meds go straight for the focusing part. Anything that has serotonin will help with depression regardless of source, but recent research shows most people can't be on serotonin for long without getting a med induced emotional blunting/depression. (This seems to be because serotonin mostly helps the brain learn to cope with stress and once that learning happens you don't need as much serotonin)
"The things we've done are not done alone". I say this often. Listening to Trevor is a WOW factor of his recognition of love and the importance of people.
I’ve felt compelled to hit the like button at least 5 times now. Thank you Trevor for being so emotionally vulnerable, and for sharing several of your philosophies on life. Incredibly insightful.
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sure, I love this channel all the way from Nairobi Kenya, Africa
Keep up the good work Steve!
@@TheDiaryOfACEO trevor noah is racist.
Amazing, bring Pharrell Williams next pls 🙏 🙏🙏🙏
No Questions on Political views or Ideology ? Was that his demand for the interview ? Disappointing TBH. It was a 'feel good' only about the bloke. He is extremely articulate, so I dont know why you used a velvet glove w. the guy.
Steve has had many scientists and medical professionals on the show over the years, including psychologists, and yet Noah has given some of the most profound thoughts on life and human development. I will be listening to this episode again.
sameeeeeee
Agreed! Trevor's amazing at conveying his insights and knowledge in a way that's both simple and profound. Steven did a fantastic job interviewing and hosting Trevor, staying engaged and present the whole time ♥
@@themindfulmeanderings 🤪 you people are off the wall!
Same thoughts
Exactly. His wisdom.is awe inspiring
Steven Bartlett your listening skills are on another level👏. What sets you apart is your ability to create an atmosphere where guests don’t just talk they reflect, go deep, and share parts of themselves that often remain untouched in other interviews. You don’t just ask questions; you unlock stories.
Wow, so appropriately said: unlock stories.
Absolutely
Hear hear!
Dude! He's so good!
Steve you should work as a therapist.. With your listening skills and empathy.. You already are one. And a top one too👏🏻👏🏻😍
My 6 year old daughter said “these two brothers look so alike and they are speaking nicely to each other “ and I agree. I didn’t want this to end for so many reasons. What a gift to have witnessed this. The humility, the brotherly love, the appreciation of friendship and most of the importance of good relationships. I feel like I went to therapy. ❤
Rebecca.....
Why wouldn't half black men speak nicely to each other lmao. I don't really get the comment to be honest. Black or half black people are not less capable of being kind or civil it sort of seems like a really weird thing to say.
I agree with your daughter. They look like brothers!
They look like brothers, and they are great role models.
perhaps the prevailing prejudice of people from Africa ..it’s so warm . The intelligence insight and humanity. The icons and models from Africa at times are not the best. Likewise from everywhere !
The depth of humanity is so great. Both are fathering age but as far as we know are not fathers.
They convey their truths so well and digestible.
Thanks Steven
I could never skip a Trevor interview... he is a gifted thinker and articulates himself brilliantly.
Amen
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Thissss…..! Cause whilst I knew he was humorous I had no idea what a thoroughly deep and honest thinker he was and I was truly impressed and pleasantly surprised. I’m glad I stopped by and listened
Nah hes not. He is a cheat and a thief. He steals jokes from others. Trevor is a disgusting garbage person.
Trevor, Abel was my car mechanic at the time you lived there, I lived around the corner in Orange Grove. I read your book for the first time and you won’t believe my shock and surprise when I got to the part where your mom met Abel and everything became so familiar!! I couldn’t believe that I’d been going to your house regularly to get my car serviced and fixed. All sorts of mixed feelings for a man who I thought was quite lovely and a great mechanic. I was quite outraged! I am just so happy your life turned out so well and that your mom is safe! ❤ You’re a wonderful human. And you Steve ❤️
Thanks for your comment.
I have also had a dangerously violent man in my life, he is so charming that no one would ever guess. Only those who've known him longer know.
@@thiacari sending love and healing - so sorry to hear this
crazy! We need to beleive people when they talk about these experiences. Charming Narcissist bullies are the worst
Yes! I love that Japanese art form! Is that the coolest?. I was just discussing this last week with someone. I forget the name of it
But it is a most beautiful thing isn't it? I am glad Trevor talked about this. ❤
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Trevor has a brain that doesn't shut off. I have never watched a podcast this long but so quite informative. Trevor is a treasure. Yes authentic he is.
That’s all ADHD brains. But not all people who have ADHD are as smart, interesting and articulate as him.
I love Trevor. He is brilliant.
Yep that's exactly what it's like to have ADHD. It's a gift and a curse, a gift to the world but a curse for the one suffering thru the condition. 😞
I love the videos where he laughs at white ppl thats my favorite... so authentic
Did you Yoda at the end there, on purpose? Lol
Trevor, you are wise beyond your years. I’m a 79 year old black woman who is still learning these lessons.
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@jbf5117 Hah! I'm an 86-yr old white woman and I'm still learning. It never ends. When I was 22, I assumed I would reach a point where I knew everything about how to get along in life. When I was 30, I began to get an inkling that was not likely to happen. If only we could sit down together and share a glass of wine or cup or tea or whatever. beannachtaí.
@@PatrickTravisKellyYou are pale face, not white.
The harder you grow up the more wise you end up
Me too, on all counts.
This is arguably the best episode I have ever watched in this show. Trevor's intellect is shocking. He's quite smart, the way he answers every question is really astounding. The wisdom too is mind blowing. Like I really did go to therapy today. Steve thank you
He has always seemed to be an impressive guy and very good professional but until this interveiw I had no clue he is an Apartheid kid. That's very interesting and eye opening to learn about him. Just like me he was a child born during the collapse of an opressive political regime. Very interesting thing to learn about him that kind of puts his professional life into perspective and allows people who have always admired him in a way to see him in a new light.
@@agatastaniak7459please read his book. Born A Crime. Listen to it as he reads it. I didn’t know he had another book out so I just ordered it.
@@agatastaniak7459you really should read his book "born a crime" it's one of my favorites autobiographical stories littered with wisdom and humor
Why is his intellect “shocking”? Being host of The Daily Show required intellect.
Trevor's intellect is on another level. He's a gift that keeps on giving.
Until he opens his mouth about politics. No thank you
He is a gift--well said.
Yes love him!! ✨✨✨✨
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Many with ADHD are very deep thinkers.
How can one human being be so smart, insightful, eloquent, funny, rich, handsome and loved by many? It doesn’t make any sense.. Trevor Noah is truly blessed!
Through pain... Some levels of achievement and reverence are hard-fought through pain.
Exactly..... "Blessed " / 🙏❤️
You just said it yourself...it makes sense he's loved cos he has all of those qualities you just described
He has incredible humility also. He said at one point that he has sat down with people more wise or intelligent than himself, and I thought, especially by the end of this recording, not sure anyone has anything on him.
Exactly what we all think! Amazing person!
I think the biggest thing I have learned about ADHD is that doing something that you dont want to do or that doesnt interest you is the hardest thing in the world and that mental strain to make yourself do it is what leads to the depression
I agree. Very well said.
Exactly, it makes it nearly impossible to do things you don't like.
Totally agree 👍
exactly, this is so true for me aswell. its like mental torture, and that prolonged "torture" is what leads to depression
Great interview so insightful, well done to you both ❤👏
"You can't choose what happens to you,but you can probably choose who you can handle it with ".. Trevor Noah....such an inspiring show.
Another stolen quote, just like Trevor steals everything. Also many of his jokes are stolen from other comedians. There is nothing authentic about Noah.
@@krook5158get a life
I could listen to Trevor all day. So much life and wisdom in his soul. We are fortunate that he shares himself with us.
Me too😀
I wouldn't. Because I don't enjoy being socially engineered by lib propaganda.
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Agreed!
Barf. You might suffer from celebrity worship. Trevor is a thief who steals most of his jokes and quotes from others.
Trevor's answers to these questions are extremely realistic. When he says things like, "I really don't know," "I really don't know why," etc., he portrays a realistic view that celebrities are human, too. He doesn't want to show that he has everything figured out. He is extremely vulnerable and candid, and it would be an injustice to listen to this at face value. Deep stuff! And how he appreciates the people who were there for him. This is a healed human being who has met himself deeply. I pray for this grace.
Yes this. I enjoyed his “I don’t knows.” I enjoyed that they weren’t just “I don’t know,” but he shared his thoughts and feelings that helped us understand that this is something he has thought about and considered and not having a conclusion was a result of both knowing and acknowledging the part that cannot be known for sure.
A healed human being that has met himself deeply. Beautifully said.
very inspiring !
I really relate to the show, kids growing up around domestic abuse really go through trauma that shapes their lives forever. For me, the hardest thing is these kids carrying burdens that overwhelm them and affect their growth and development. The fear of the unknown stays with you forever and it only takes a miracle to heal from such a fear.
I would add that he admits that he isn't healed it is a long process of processing, in fact a lifetime condition, you might say!
I've read Trevor's book. My heart broke, then soared, so many times. I cried. I laughed out loud. My husband thought I was going nuts, and kept asking me if I was okay.
Trevor, you are a treasure. Hugs, darling, stay strong. 💫
Same here and because of that my wife read it too and felt the same, the book is amazing
Which one??
@@cv2995His autobiography, "Born a Crime".
You people are easily amused and manipulated
@@Andrej89NS why does it bother you?
Thank you for posting this. People don’t understand that adhd comes with anxiety, depression, and more.
Trevor describing himself as a piece of ceramic that has been broken many times and put back together is one of the most beautiful descriptions I have ever heard. Thank you for this tender interview.
These two need to start a mental health podcast for men. I just think they are both so amazing! Two Black men speaking so deeply is just refreshing! 🤎
Yes!!
I agree
Yes!!!
It should be called The Inside Men
they mixed
Wow, Trevor, I can only hope to instill as much love and wisdom in my son as your mum did for you. ❤
No parent is ever perfect. Also, spending time with Trevor would be the most fantastic time ever. Full of a full range of topics from serious to dark-humored! It reminds me so much of my brother (who is no longer here) to have a fraction of time for something like that. May we all find a Trevor in our life! ❤
I have been wondering for so long what the backstory was for Trevor that was not articulated in his written work. It was a perpetual nagging feeling of incompleteness. Yes, he has been abundantly transparent and self revelatory, but there always seemed like there was another story underneath his storytelling. This interview was it-- and Steve your talent for assisted narrative telling is becoming legendary. Kudos.
Trevor is such a remarkable human being who has had the world at his feet yet never allowed the supplication of celebrity bring him hubristically to his knees. Having been exposed to such a breadth of humanity and still able to see a throughput of compassionate listening and wisdom is truly a gift from God. I have never forgotten the interview Trevor did with Kellyanne Conway, who is clearly a deeply troubled human being. Yet, he was able to give her humanity and shame her behavior. I sat back thunderstruck. Only a spirit who has experienced nooks and crannies of human existence that are hidden from most people would have been able to head the conversation away from the typical traps that someone like Kellyanne creates. She perverts language for a living, Trevor elevates language for a living and it was a masterful moment of television.
Trevor impresses me as someone who is able to sit with grief and see its beauty and pathos at the same time which is ultimately the gift of all comedians. They make us laugh to keep our jovial tears from transforming to weeping. I wonder how he heals-- at a point when I was near death, his show and humor created enough dopamine for me to keep going, heal my brain, soothe my soul. How does he restore his soul? At a biochemical level, who or what gives him the dopamine and serotonin he rightfully deserves? Metaphysically, where will all of this soul work take him and his audience? He has already accomplished so much, I shudder in anticipation of the amazing places he will go.
I genuinely pray that Trevor is able to rise to a level of his human experience that transcends his wildest dreams of happiness. He deserves it-- he has given so much to us through his transparency, authenticity and vulnerability. God speed on your journey, Trevor. May the road always rise up to meet you...
You have a gift with words-I hope that Trevor reads this!
Paragraphs sis.
Wow!
Wow, are you a writer? this was amazing to read, Trevor must read this, it seems it comes from a very genuine place.
That is as so beautifully written! I agree and couldn’t have said it better!!❤
Mzansi let's gather here ❤❤ Much love for Our brother Trevor Noah
He is a incredible person for sure. Great interview!!! Andre
Sikhona!
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Trevor noah is racist.
This pos only get famous because he talks about trump everyday.
This was the interview I have been secretly hoping would happen! Because most DOAC interviews are so long, I typically take a few days, listening in 30 min increments. Today, I sat down in front of my laptop, full-screen view and watched from beginning to end, with absolutely no regrets. I am always blown away by Trevor's ability to articulate emotions, complex thoughts and nuanced contextualities. But Steven, having you listen, respond and ask questions only elevated this conversation to everything I never knew I wanted to hear from both of you. My 3 big takeaways: 1. Growing up in abusive homes can make many hypersensitive to those around them and conflict-averse (you don't have to protect everyone). 2. No one who does anything BIG does it alone! (My mentor always says: if you want to go fast, do it alone. If you want to go far, Squad Up!) 3. Make friends a priority. You will never regret it. Steven, you said the bigger the subscribers get, the bigger the guests get. You didn't lie! So glad to be one of your subscribers. One of the best interviews ever! (and that includes the ones with Mo Gadet and Gabor Mate)
Same. Watched the whole thing in one sitting! Amazing.
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Same!
Same
Same
I'm a victime of domestic violence. And just left and escaped from 10 years mariage. Wish me courage and power
Trevor Noah is highly intelligent, articulate and wise. Thank you for this interview Steven, what a treat!😊
when Trevor admits to not knowing something is truly authentic.
He reminds me of James Baldwin.
Nah hes not. He is a cheat and a thief. He steals jokes from others. Trevor is a disgusting garbage person.
Trevor is literally telling my story for me. This made me realize that I need to visit therapy because I believe this childhood trauma has continued to affect every relationship I get into. I don’t want to be like my father, I want to be better man.
I know the feeling fellow. I have tried to analyze myself on how much I think is a good / bad idea and how much is me just avoiding being anything like him.
I'd rather be alone than become him. Therapy and good friends... maybe we will get where we want to be.
If you truly want to be better you will be!
Just don't bring this up on a first date and you will be fine bro 😅 Keep looking till you find the right one
we will become what we truly want to be ♡ in my case years of therapy and meds help . shoutout to all traumasurvivors ♡
An honourable goal if there ever was one. The key is to find a therapist you click with!
Domestic violence - silently killing women for 100s of years. Silent because the criminal is in your home. Universally accepted form of injustice and criminality. Thank you for sharing Trevor, your perception of life and experiences you have had is remarkable and the world needs to hear it
Thousands of years...
I heard something about comedians having ironically high rates of depression. May Mr. Noah find lasting peace and happiness.
And self unaliving. It is so awful and tragic that these transparent, vulnerable people are in so much pain. They bring the world so much joy and relief from the hardness of life, yet they are suffering inside. It breaks my heart.
Artists have a tendency to get depressed and that isn't news. I think the main reason for it is that our culture goes against creative and independent thinkers; the people running our system like "obedient workers" as George Carlin said, and you're punished for being anything else.
Most comedians are laughing that they don't cry......( In there beginning)❣️😊
I heard comedians are the product of depressed parents...
Also have unusually high rates of ADHD... For what it's worth
One of the most powerful conversations on so many levels. Personal, psychoanalytical, social, political, where to end. In a tone of voice that is absolutely brilliant to listen to and be able to absorb, and feel the emotions without being overwhelmed. Thank you for this!!! Respect in every word and sharing!
Lol you bots are out of control.
@LordRykard9376 right ? All i see are people commenting that he's intellectual. Paid bots most likely.
@ceshmate1953 it's pretty wild. Usually this channel has fairly organic engagement but I think Trevor Noah is so universally disliked, they had to bring out the bots.
Trevor is such an eloquent speaker with such a strong grip on human psychology and philosophy. Never seen this side of him! Thoroughly enjoyed this convo
Thank you, Steven and your staff
Nah hes not. He is a cheat and a thief. He steals jokes from others. Trevor is a disgusting garbage person.
Probably one of the best interviews I've ever watched. Steven asked so many deep, hard hitting questions that most interviewers never venture towards. Trevor Noah is so articulate, soulful, and one of the most intelligent of the "celebrity" crowd. Basically I was hanging onto every word of this conversation. Feeling very contemplative now. Thank you to the gracious host, classy guest and every single person on the production crew to produce this video!
Hands down, one of THE BEST conversations I've listened to in over 15 years. The questions and then follow-up questions Steven Barlett asks Trevor Noah as he responds and then goes deeper in his response is beyond the beyond. These two men "go there" in extraordinary ways. Thank you for this interview and for sharing it with the world.
This is how I wish the world would be all the time. Good listeners and respectful, beautiful responses on life and how we are impacted. Great young men, great role models for communication. Thank you! I want more.
You should watch more conversations xD
South African here. Trevor is such a philosopher, well read logical sensible person. Love this guy.
Nah hes not. He is a cheat and a thief. He steals jokes from others. Trevor is a disgusting garbage person.
“It’s not my job to protect everybody.” Trevor is so real for that!
That's right. I used to be the guy who would always protect and please everyone until I got betrayed. I am glad he said it and I am grateful you reiterated it.
Was talking with my friend in a group, and he vocally established that he had no interest in our activities and only wanted us to partake in what HE enjoyed. We told him it was messed up to say, and the next day he came back and said after reflecting on his behaviour it was childish and he needed to be better.
We told him it's okay to not do the thing everyone else is, but we shouldn't pressure our friends into stopping their enjoyment for ours.
We love doing things with him that he enjoys, but we also love it when he does stuff with us that we like. We enjoy life together.
I'm glad he's becoming more emotional aware.
As a South African, I really appreciate how Trevor represents our country and its nuances to the world. We're such a complex people with dynamics that are intrinsically understood by us who live our reality daily..but he articulates us so succinctly through his own story too. Its little understood how blessed a country and people we are in RSA to coexist as peacefully as possible with every race, religion, culture, languages etc today given the gruesomeness of our past..the consequences of which we're still grappling with today. Nkosi sikelela iAfrika nyan🙏🏽
I lived in SA for 15 years. A real education. Knew some truly amazing people there. But co existing in the blessedness you describe? The men can’t co exist with the women… rape… murder… the crime levels are off the scale!
To me, he is. He is as well a top bloke. This interview is, for me, very interesting as per his perspectives and insights due to his life experience. No need to force yourself to like him. It's maybe not interesting for you. You be you. I'll be me.
The last stuff i've heared about ZA is that people cut the powerlines, because they know then the energy company will cut the power, because there are energy problems. Any person from ZA that i talk with tells the same story... "get out if you can". People cant even run a foodstore, because the coolers cant run without power, so you cant really store anything like milk producs or fresh fish/chicken.
@@DreaMeRHoLicWondering where these people live in SA? I am from there and yes, this SOMEtimes happens in parts of SA…but it’s not a consistent standard…so? Not sure where these people live that spoke to you…pls share?
@@DreaMeRHoLicwe are not going anywhere. Every country has its problems and some of us are happy to live through the good and the bad.
Power problems are being restored and the government is investing in renewable energy.
I think you are meeting a lot of disgruntled SA expats.
We often forget just how intelligent comedians really are. Trevor Noah is a perfect example……….
He also doubles down on the fact that quite a number of comedians are dealing with different types of depression.
I agree, intelligente is essentiel for humor.
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you gotta be intelligent to be a great comedian. Even ones making edgy jokes are actual geniuses.
Truthfully you can’t be a good comedian if you aren’t Intelligent…the people who just cuss aren’t really comedians😆😂
You held that space on The Daily Show with so much grace and strength no one would ever know you were going through the most when you started , you are an amazing human being , and I love you .
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You are insane. You love him? You have no idea who this man is when the cameras are off. He is a liar and a thief. Most of his material is stolen from other comedians. Stop worshipping these fake, inauthentic celebrities...
'I love you...' what an embarrasment you are...
One of the best DOAC talks yet. Really inspiring and touching. Thank you SB x
82 year old from South africa ...i am gobsmacked with what i havebkearnt thru thus podcast..and Trevor youvare a wonderful human being ..proud you are from South Africa ❤
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This young man has more maturity and wisdom than so many twice his age. Yes, he’s been through a lot, and rather than descend into victim, it’s transformed him and given him real backbone. How refreshing and inspiring.
You are so right! Trevor has never played the victim, not even with the White/Black dynamics and trauma of being born in apartheid South Africa.
@@francesohanenye2067he actually has played victim. Hence some of the abuse he got on the Daily show.
well he’s not a young man he’s 40!
@@tjkingdom it’s a relative statement. I’m 65 and 40 is young. Perhaps you’re also young and haven’t realised it yet.
I think the segment discussing men is most intriguing. Something that is urgent but is uncomfortable to talk about. Former times men and women were so focused on survival and acquiring that time to reflect wasn't even a consideration. And if you did you were strongly admonished to get your mind off yourself and get busy. Reflection was relegated to Sunday morning sermons only. Today's man is double challenged to adhere to those waning standards and figure out what the new standards are at the same time. I have compassion for them because it's a lonely road. Especially without faith in God.
From the dawn of public discourse to now, no conversation has been this phenomenal for the ADHD population. This is the ultimate interview for ADHD individuals in history.
Thank you, Steven.
Yes yes and yes!!! 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
ADHD is caused by diet
Knowing Trevor has ADHD brought tears to my eyes
Trevor Noah, the propagandist, has ADHD? Oh my goodness!
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Why don't you just crawl back under your rock.
This interview really surprised me by how much I identified, especially at the end. I dislike "that happened for a reason." I really enjoy your guests & your questions.
My two favourite people on the planet. Two men who are compassionate, kind, curious, committed to learning and self growth; developing self insights and valuing vulnerability as one of our greatest strengths. May the two of you continue to learn and grow and share the journey with the rest of us. The shared experience... your theme park experience was a great example of valuing people as opposed to things and activities.
This was incredibly healing and heartwarming to watch, especially for someone who grew up in a toxic, patriarchal community where showing emotions and vulnerability was seen as a weakness.
You have no idea who these people truly are. Trevor is a liar and a thief who steals work from others. Many other comedians have claimed he stole their material. He is a disgusting and inauthentic garbage person.
Dear Trevor, deep love from a grandmother in New Zealand. I grew up in an unsafe household, I would freeze like an animal does, until I was in my forties. It was quite often a mental freezing, people usually didn’t notice. I love your book. Sending big hugs. You are marvellous 🤗💙🌺💐🇳🇿
How can someone NOT like this guy??!! Love goes out to Trevor!! Hugs from your Dad's country 🇨🇭🤜🏼🤛🏼❤️
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agree! Trevor is one of my favorite humans.
I recently got diagnosed with ADHD through my depression. Not letting able to let go some specific ideas, the bad ones in particular has capacity to destroy your lives and your loved ones. I was not able to let go of some specific thought, couldn't sleep, lost my job, started abusing substances, lost 40 pounds(underweight), lost relationships and these last two years passed like it was a week. Finally talking to therapist and taking drugs brought me out my suicidal tendencies. His idea about observing your thoughts by being a fly in the wall is what my therapist suggested and has helped. His metaphor of focusing like a microscope and not being able to see anything around you is on point. The problem is sometimes you don't know your focus is so narrowed down that you cant see anything else. You might see it later but not at that moment. And even after knowing it sometimes you cannot help it. But you can see at some moments that there is hope. Hopefully someone who feels like this or similar should know there are ways to get out of it and should reach out for help and there are people who understand you and are able to help you. Hopefully I will be able to get out of it and others too.
This episode feels like a conversation between two friends. Sharing experiences and highlighting parts of one another’s lives that impacted them most. Amazing chemistry between the two of you. Love this ❤
You took the words off my mind!! Well said ❤️
Such a beautiful dance ❤
It was a pleasure watching the two of them have heart to heart conversation. ❤
You mean they arent friends?????? Kidding ;) Steven does it Always with the best guests - Africa, Glucose Goddess, James Sexton, i Always felt they are kinship
You don't cease to make us proud as south Africans
Trevor Noah waving the South African flag internationally, you make us proud homeboy ❤🇿🇦🇿🇦🇿🇦💯
He is waving the Motherland, Africa flag.😀😃
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I understand how you feel, He represents Africa well. I am from Nigeria.He is such a beautiful soul.
This conversation was therapy. It's likely the best you've both ever done. Thank you both.
What an insightful interview. Thank you. Love Trevor's interpretation, "we get to wear our cracks with a new kind of beauty".
I connected with how Trevor explained it! 🎉 I’m definitely sharing this with my family and friends because it’s going to be helpful for them too! 💖✨
I am South African living in Sweden. I grew up under apartheid in South Africa. It is like hearing my own story . Because I know, I am sorry that you had to go through all you are going through. Thank you for sharing so honestly🙏🏻.
BLACK LIVES MATTER
Thank for the privilege to see two black men have such a deep conversation. I have been blessed by this and will be sharing it with the men in my life.
Why always a color?
I just wish they werent obsessed with WW
@@jamesboth3785because that's what society sees. We are counted, divided,demographed by race and color, sort of racism!
@@sandrasmith4887 I understand. Maybe because USA is too rich , and they don't have to focus on other aspect of life but all these colors, LGBT, race, Genders, environmentalist etc. Here in third world like India, majority of us are too poor and don't even have time to focus of those things other than making livelihood, and we have problems too, but we tend to go through them and live a life with it
@@jamesboth3785, isn’t the caste system a form of lighter skin versus darker skin.
For the first time, someone described my life growing up in an abusive house. Because at a young age, you learn to get on with it. My way of being. Sensitive to how people feel. Always alert for possible violence... A lone ranger, and I never really trusted my surroundings. At the age of 52 today, I realized I still have trauma because I buried all of it deep on the inside. If you know me, I'm a jolly person who always wants to let people feel loved and appreciated. But in time, I also made changes, realizing that I'm not responsible for the next person's happiness. Nearly to a T, because he was also my stepdad after my dad passed away... Then living where you are the only one looking like this... Bullying from the outside also plays its role... Big up to you Trevor...
Such a lovely conversation. Trevor Noah is very profound. The fact that Trevor spent a lot of time with women made him a more well rounded person. I was a single parent. Due to this, my son is also a well rounded person. When children are raised with dominant men, they don't learn as much. They don't look around to see the different types of people and viewpoints. They lose a lot in life.
Born a crime is the best book i have ever read, it feels like you are walking with Trevor through his journey. I laughed, i cried, i mulled over the very meaning of life. What an amazing human being.
So good to hear Trevor acknowledge that nobody gets success all by themselves; they have people behind them to support them.
This is a concept that I find difficult to convince some younger generations in individualistic societies. Not just successes, of course, but that you're also shaped by foundations or lack thereof, built by generations before that have long passed. Something like the existence of labour laws, how the song "Cat's in the Cradle" struck the heart of many when it was out, and how they are now still eating the fruit from that movement. The people who influences you are not just those in your immediate contact, but a whole army from the past to the present and we, living in the present, is influencing those in the future.
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Such as the many other comedians who Trevor stole most of his jokes from. This is his guilty concience speaking, just like his depression.
Trevor has just given the most accurate description of _my_ experience of depression that I have ever heard. I never really associated it with my ADHD (also adult diagnosed, about 6 years ago) but the way he explains it makes so much sense. I'm going to share this with my friends and family. Thank you for having this conversation so that we all benefit from it.
l couldn't agree with you more! l'm 75 and was treated for depression much of my life - l requested l be looked at for ADHD and was diagnosed about 10 years ago. l know more about it than my psychiatrist, sadly. Trevor is fabulous! l feel it helps those of us who have ADHD and brings awareness to others.
These young men are so wise! Thank you Trevor and Steven for having and sharing this deep conversation.
Struck by so many levels of similarity between the host and the guest! 😊💪
That is exactly 💯 what I was thinking!
Interesting... I noticed the differences. Trevor is a 'people' guy and Steven feels most himself when he's alone. Both are deep thinkers and emotionally expressive tho.
Agreed❤
Two dudes that are *excellent* at asking and answering questions. So articulate!
Me too
I've not avoided Trevor Noah and the Daily Show, but this is the longest time I have listened to his opinions and thoughts. I already knew he was intellectually intelligent; it is refreshing that he is also emotionally intelligent.
This!!!
Same here 🥺🥹😇😇
As a young man, Trevor Noah has the mind of a much older person. His family & his South African life has made him a very intelligent person. I wish him all the luck & good fortune but also his gift to teach other people how to live a better life. He can do whatever he wants now. At least I hope. I just love
listening to him.
It's funny cause my grandma was half white half black but we didn't understand why ?she had to wear a scarf to cover her hair,she had to wear long clothing to cover skin 😢,
Mesmerizing and deeply thoughtful conversation. Thoroughly enjoyed.
It's strange but it is comforting to know that there are more people like me with hypersensitivity. He is literally describing me.
Same I feel so seen and I appreciate Trevor for this reason, he explained it very well
Me too
He didnt feel any sensitivity when he joke abt trump with fake news fact.
@@Ian-hn8tygo away trumpist
The weather is always nice above the clouds. But if I were a bird I’d go dancing in the thunderstorm. I’d fly across the clouds just like light. I’d listen to the symphony of the thunders under the rain. (Zaho de Sagazan - Symphonie des éclairs).
Trevor helped me understand how hyper-alert I was as a child and WHY.
I could hear when my father downshifted 1/4 mile away! I was able to read his mood to sense whether he was approachable.
Steven's mention of being able to identify feelings in a relationship and correlate it to childhood feelings blew me away! Some of the men I've dated were just like my father, AND I've felt fear and anxiety around them.
This episode has been extremely therapeutic for me.
Tysm!
Steven, I'm a 54-year-old black woman from very very poor beginnings. What I wish for you to read is (thank you) for every video I've had a chance to watch, listen to, and learn from...
I'm still in a state of a humble life, but you and your staff have given this basic human a look into the other side of thinking. Which is always an eye opener.
Thank you and your Staff😊
Why is race or money important?
@@iwantgoat because people live in the real world and all of that affects their experiences in life.
@@iwantgoatDid you miss the interview?
@@soraia_4383 keep whining about race I'm sure it will make things better
@@soraia_4383 how does whining and complaining help?
Ive never heard this ‘spidey-sense’ feeling explained so well…recognize the signs…finding patterns… seeing every tiny hand movement…i always knew i wasnt crazy but it feels good to know im not unique
I am exactly the same. I don’t know if it is a gift or a curse if I am honest
Wow. Trevor Noah's explanation of his ADHD and Depression is the first time I've heard someone else describe my exact experience. I wasn't diagnosed until age 45. Didn't realize I was actually quite depressed because it had been my baseline experience for most of my adulthood.
Me too. I had undiagnosed ADHD as a child. Depression followed me into adulthood. Much therapy was very helpful to me.
Same. Diagnosed at 50. Got on the right meds and it's night and day
Me, too. l'm 75 and had only been diagnosed with depression until above 10 years ago. No medication has any effect, which is extremely frustrating. l appreciate folks like Trevor, Simone Biles, and Michael Phelps bringing it to public awareness.
Same here. Diagnosed in adulthood and just being diagnosed, having something to make sense of the way I lived, the way others perceived me, etc., was like a weight off my shoulders. Therapy, learning and doing things differently and meds, have really helped! Also, ADHD affects men and women differently.
Trevor is a wonderful human being. 💜
I’m so happy to hear a South African accent and a British accent side by side so I can finally hear the difference.
😂😂 I love this comment,
And I still barely hear it :D
I like the way Trevor speaks and sounds the same way he did when he was in South Africa. We always laugh in Zambia when we see people go overseas for 'two weeks' then come back home with an accent 😂😂😂
At 73, this has reinforced how I’ve felt my entire life. Thank you, Trevor and Steve.
Trevor and his humor helped get me through some rough times especially during the pandemic. I could feel something off with him as the shelter in place started lifting and tbh I'm glad he left the Daily show. There's this new energy to him and I really do hope he finds what he needs.
Trevor is such an introspective, intellectual person. I have never been into celebrity culture or had a celebrity crush, BUT, I pray that I get to meet/have a discussion with Trevor Noah in this lifetime. And he is funny!☺️
Trevor Noah is incredibly articulate, such a profound conversation.
How was this over 2 1/2 hours long! Felt like it flew by.
Trevor is an amazing human-his mother-simply out of this world! We need more Trevors, and even more Patricias! 💛
"an unsafe household" - tremendous wisdom from Noah.
One of the things I love about Trevor is that he is relatable, and it doesn't even feel like he is trying (unlike most famous people).
Thank you to Steve for having him on your show.
🇿🇦 We 🇿🇦 Are🇿🇦 Watching🇿🇦
I can listen to Trevor Noah share his insights about everything forever.
I can't listen to that clown for more than 5 minutes.
With too many young men struggling to find real role models Steven and Trevor are the real deal. I would love for these two and a few other real men host a talk that addresses issues of connection and what being a man means today. Great podcast Steven.
There is nothing "role model" about Trevor Noah.
@@LordRykard9376 I guess that depends on your definition of role model.
Could be he meant qualities like authenticity esp on side of men..which is rare due to Men's ego and denial or even shying away from expressing their emotions genuinely. And I would mean this in a sense of being willing to genuinely seek help or support rather than keep quiet and depression hits and the next thing is the skyrocketing suicides. We are so protected. And it's high time we start thinking this way.
Noah hit the nail on the head about how you feel as a child and that invading adult life, I lived this and still do, I haven’t yet learned to calm the storm in my head. I have managed after over 40 years to set healthier boundaries but the guilt I can still feel if I haven’t been able to protect can sometimes feel soul crushing. Fantastic interview, thank you 🙏🏼
This honest, probing, respectful conversation between two men capable of truly listening, reflecting & sharing authentically is such a gift to us all. Thank you Steven & Trevor - just beautiful.
My mother hated conflict, worried and tried to please everyone, so self sacrificing, I grew up seeing how it effected her firsthand and what I've learnt is my hypersensitivity and senses now are derived from me developing those attributes to protect her. Definitely a gift and a curse
Listening to this man speak is therapeutic and cathartic and I’m sure a lot of people who have had a similar upbringing can relate. ❤
I admire Treva so very much . I was diagnosed as a small child and spent most of my life feeling so broken and such a trainwreck and completely unworthy but tried not to talk about it until I talked about it and truthfully since Trevor opened up and I found instagram and all the wonderful people who talk about it . I’m at so much piece and understanding about who I am . What a gift . I unfortunately cannot do life without medication and admire him for being able .
Steven Bartlett, your knack for listening is truly impressive! You have a unique ability to create a space where guests feel comfortable exploring their thoughts and emotions. Instead of just asking questions, you invite them to share their personal journeys in a way that feels genuine and impactful.
"Just because you've survived the storm doesn't mean you have to keep the storm."
- Trevor Noah
Thank you my brother for saying that!
My outlook is similar, in the sense of giving close attention to our choices and decisions.
I think if we're not careful we may lead people to think that it's ok for us to keep "allowing" all kinds of sufferings and storms.
(By this I mean the avoidable kinds of storms).
Take care of yourself people 💕
5:07 When he said.. I'm conscious of choosing my friends because I think that's me actively choosing the people who are going to be shaping me as I live my life. Yup same here 😊 I've been doing this because my energy is precious to me need to share it with meaningful individuals in my life only. ❤
how simplistically insightful 😊
💯 this for me too
Choosing fake news media?
Able sounds like he may have had narcissistic personality disorder. Narcissists can be so charming - funny, attentive, seemingly genuinely caring - UNTIL they do not get their way about something. Then, all Hell breaks loose.
This has been my struggle for the last 5 years since I was diagnosed after burning out and seeking medical support thinking I was developing a dementia.
This episode was incredibly emotional for me. Thanks for getting vulnerable Trev, and thanks DOAC for doing what you guys continue to do every day. I am grateful.
Trevor has exceptional analytical skills and articulates his well thought out conclusions in a way nobody else does. He provides a unique perspective and has great story telling skills! I enjoyed this podcast and his book.
This is high up on the list of my favourite episodes. I appreciate Trevor’s honesty especially about the last question about hitting the button. I have now saved this to a playlist because I'll absolutely watch again
The way I see it, too. Had stop everything to watch to the end. 👍
No matter how much attention deficiency I have, when it's Trevor, I'm hooked. Im very devoted
Same here. I love his brain and his mouth.
Same here! Love him.
Came here to listen for half an hour and stayed 2.5 hours 😂
@@srzrochy oh man. And it flies quick. I play/listen to Beinf Black in America as a timer. It's exactly 1hr long. And the funny thing is that I still laugh as if it's my first time each time. Absolutely 👌
I love Trevor Noah! I can't watch The Daily Show without him. There is no one else like him.
I loved this interview! The part where Trevor talks about growing up in an unsafe household, really spoke to me. Decades later, it still struggle with how that experience has shaped me, or continues to shape me.
We all need a Trevor in our lives
I do. 😔 😏 ❤❤❤❤
I wish my husband spoke with his friends like this.....what an example of how guys should feel comfortable communicating with each other!
Please stop! You are undermining your own relationship without even realizing it!
Yeah you value his friends more than your husband..
I agree, I wish my partner had positive male friends around him that encourages openness and growth rather than toxic masculinity. He’s wonderful when he can be, but toxic people can really impact you negatively if you allow it or have no self worth, or if they don’t let you be yourself
They don’t have enough depth with each other and I find that to be sad.
@@Chunkybungus The amount of influence that social media has on women and their relationships is tragically enormous!! You all come here and see a small snippet of other people's lives and suddenly the relationships you have look like a dump. No wonder so many young women are initiating divorce and living miserable lives because you expect everything in your lives to be as "perfect" as you see on social media. It's so stupid!!!
This interview is truly hard to swallow. I too am a hypersensitive person and instantly as I listen through the tragic story of his mom's shooting, this made the hair on my arms raised with goosebumps. I'm so choked up and I'm not even half way through as I don't know if I can listen to this entirely in one sitting. I would ball my eyes out the whole time emotionally.
Another South African here. Lovely conversation guys! Trevor is an exceptionally intelligent and sensitive person. Thoroughly enjoyed seeing you guys connect.
Thank you so much for sharing your experience with hyper awareness it's something I have been dealing with most or my life and I have never understood it and the way you explained it has made me now understand myself a bit to where I can now look back and channel how I developed it. I have held back from going to therapy but listening to you and how understanding you're about your feelings and past is very inspiring and you've inspired me to get that for myself.
Also thank you Steven for always interviewing inspiring/educational guests and getting them to open up it's always great to watch. 🩵
This hits me hard. My life had been spiraling downward for who knows how long. Two weeks ago I hit a point where I knew I really needed to make a change. I had suspected I had ADHD for a while, but I didn't want to take meds, thought I could manage. Well, I was not managing. At least not on the inside. On the surface I was a successful, well educated, fit man in his 30s. Got officially diagnosed and started meds a week and a half ago. Holy shit. Took one pill to knock me out of my depression. Life is all of a sudden on easy mode. Getting myself to do work just happens. Cleaning up my place just happens. Working out feels good again like it did 10 years ago in my 20s. I'm doing the things I've been meaning to do for years but just couldn't get out of my head enough to do them. I'm able to eat with intention and not emotionally. The constant urge of wanting to get fucked up, drunk, high, w/e, is gone. I am amazed at the compensatory mechanisms I have developed in my life to survive for this long. Mental health is no joke, sometimes your brain is damaged or just isn't genetically wired to excel in your environment. Don't be afraid to get the help you need, life is too short!
Getting the diagnosis is walking through a door, even before getting the first med. I was 51 when I got mine 25 years ago. Very glad for you.
What meds were they that helped ?
So, a few things to talk about the neuroscience. I only learned these recently.
1) adhd causes anxiety. Because low dopamine causes low norepinephrine (also called noradrenaline) and a symptom of being low on noradrenaline is anxiety.
2) your body uses norepinephrine and serotonin for a lot more than your brain chemistry, I've seen both involved in seasonal allergies, pain, and sleep. But I first went down this path because nortryptaline was prescribed to me for my digestive issues.
3) so as you get older you get more responsibilities, more aches and pains, and worse digestion, which is why it felt easier in your 20s.
4) to answer the question, the specific meds you need depends on who you are. I do fabulously on nonstimulant meds like strattera, nortryptaline causes emotional blunting so I need a higher dose of straterra. But stimulant meds can have similar effects. What I like about strattera in particular is that it goes straight for the anxiety, whereas stimulant meds go straight for the focusing part. Anything that has serotonin will help with depression regardless of source, but recent research shows most people can't be on serotonin for long without getting a med induced emotional blunting/depression. (This seems to be because serotonin mostly helps the brain learn to cope with stress and once that learning happens you don't need as much serotonin)
@@steggopotamus Thanks
@steggopotamus I'm really glad you're feeling better! Life getting harder with more responsibilities really resonated with me.
"The things we've done are not done alone". I say this often. Listening to Trevor is a WOW factor of his recognition of love and the importance of people.
I’ve felt compelled to hit the like button at least 5 times now. Thank you Trevor for being so emotionally vulnerable, and for sharing several of your philosophies on life. Incredibly insightful.