Yes! We sure do! ❤❤ We have an almost 5 year old with some sensory processing disorders and sometimes his tantrums can be due to what looks like to people on the outside, "the craziest things", but when you have been through something like this, you will try anything. Lucky for us, he is a very silly boy and 9 times out of 10, distracting him with something super silly can take his mind off of why he is upset just long enough to let him calm down and start to process what is actually going on. Then a lot of hugs and reassuring that it is ok to feel the way he does and that we are right there with him and will always help him get through those tough times. ❤
Tried a similar technique around and hour ago. It make my toddler happy for 2.5 seconds then went back to having a fit. With 200 other parents watching. And "wiggling " was more like "flailing ".
Hi there my toddler who is 3.5 years old, he mostly gets irritated when i stop him doing something not good, like throwing stuffs on someone, stopping him doing something which is actually misbehaving, he gets irritated how should i deal with this behaviour please do reply will be big help... Thanks
This lady will not agree with me, lol.... Yah, if your kiddo is slapping things out of your hand, and he's over 18 months, start a routine of telling him what you expect. No screaming, no throwing things, if you need mums attention, put your finger on your nose (yup, it worked with all my kids by 20 months). If you act out in the store, I will bring you outside for discipline. Period. Always tell them before hand, always stay calm, do NOT wait until you are frantic and You've "begged" them to quiet down. By 2.5 years they know (outside the most strong willed kids) they will not get what they want, they will get a calm mum who takes them outside, smacks their bum, and then speaks gently. Then, you go back inside and finish your task. I'm a teacher, and "gentle" parents have the worst behaved tweens. They have no idea how to stop and obey. They cannot "stop it. Now. Because I said so. Because I have 25 other kids and I don't have time for a healing 10 minute talk with you right now". They always need YOU to corral their emotions, always need something to be at fault for their feelings, they can't accept that things bigger than them trump their needs, always think they automatically get time to regroup. These kids cannot handle life. Literally 5th grade life, never mind the real thing. Also, my kids are young adult and financially independent, have friends and steady employment, and still call me. So, spanking them didn't ruin them.
@@mmmmdddd2267only thing I don’t agree with, is spanking before 2.5 yrs old!!! The conversations should start right away, but a spanking too young is a no for me.
May daughter is almost 18m and we are by no means paxt this stage, but redirecting instead of just "no" has helped tremendously. Not just distraction, but saying we don't hit, we tickle! We don't throw things on the floor, we put them back when we're done! (Mostly in the kitchen setting, toys 50/50) so giving an alternative to the bad behavior because no is mean and makes them sad and doesn't let them express anything. But giving a different option gives them a chance for reward. Also we celebrate even mundane things because you don't want them acting out because it's the only time you give them attention. So if I'm cooking while she's eating in her high chair and she gets a bite on the fork and eats it we do a little. "Whoop whoop! Big girl eating all by herself!" And a little dancy dance. Something to make her want to keep doing the good things instead of throwing her food so I have to come running and say no.
I had the same experience at the airport. My baby boy strapped to my chest was so frustrated and started screaming. My solution has to pick him up hold him high. He switches to a happy and laughing.
Nice, I’ve tried everything with my five year old. The airport example is understandable. What about when you’re at a birthday party or somewhere else where people are supposed to have fun and he starts kicking and punching and screaming the first second he doesn’t get what he wants i.e. the first piece of birthday cake or a second scoop of ice cream, etc…
Yes I did that one time and really worked. When my daughter had her tantrum I start talking about buying princess dresses and beautiful things that we will get she just stopped crying
@@HayleyRiceParentingTips instead of making the child feel inconvenient and rejected on top of it, rather we offer an alternative. A distraction that overwrites the stressor. I bet that kid won't grow up feeling less than, and will learn to regulate way better. Thank you. To be honest, I left your video immediately. Then went back, because I had hope that a woman with that smile won't pull... The classic. I'm rather grateful I stayed. Thank you.
@@katemiller7874 sometimes that’s not an option and we make essential flights for different reasons. This is more about supporting parents not about flying as this could have taken place anywhere! 😅🤣
Yeah maybe would work with a “toddler” but what about an adult acting 4 y/o? It’s my grandson and I watch him. He has an early BD so won’t start prek until fall. That wouldn’t work for him
My toddler would smack that banana out of my hands so fast 🥲
Ayo 😂😂😂
Maybe the toddler wanted to try it too 😅
Yes I was thinking the same thing. My son would do the same thing
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Lmao 😂
I learned recently that understanding a child's reaction patterns can make handling such situations perfectly. This video just prove me right😂
When I was a child I would too scared to have a tantrum, my parents would have slapped the shit out of me... It was enough of a deterrent for me.
Same 🫠
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Same here , that's why therapists have alot of work to do lol 😂
i m sure u now as a result feel like its ok to slap children.
Mine took 😢😢😢
Yes! We sure do! ❤❤ We have an almost 5 year old with some sensory processing disorders and sometimes his tantrums can be due to what looks like to people on the outside, "the craziest things", but when you have been through something like this, you will try anything. Lucky for us, he is a very silly boy and 9 times out of 10, distracting him with something super silly can take his mind off of why he is upset just long enough to let him calm down and start to process what is actually going on. Then a lot of hugs and reassuring that it is ok to feel the way he does and that we are right there with him and will always help him get through those tough times. ❤
Tried a similar technique around and hour ago. It make my toddler happy for 2.5 seconds then went back to having a fit. With 200 other parents watching. And "wiggling " was more like "flailing ".
Hi there my toddler who is 3.5 years old, he mostly gets irritated when i stop him doing something not good, like throwing stuffs on someone, stopping him doing something which is actually misbehaving, he gets irritated how should i deal with this behaviour please do reply will be big help... Thanks
For sure this can be so hard to manage. I have tonne on my Instagram page on this @hayley_rice__ see you over there
This lady will not agree with me, lol....
Yah, if your kiddo is slapping things out of your hand, and he's over 18 months, start a routine of telling him what you expect. No screaming, no throwing things, if you need mums attention, put your finger on your nose (yup, it worked with all my kids by 20 months). If you act out in the store, I will bring you outside for discipline. Period. Always tell them before hand, always stay calm, do NOT wait until you are frantic and You've "begged" them to quiet down. By 2.5 years they know (outside the most strong willed kids) they will not get what they want, they will get a calm mum who takes them outside, smacks their bum, and then speaks gently. Then, you go back inside and finish your task.
I'm a teacher, and "gentle" parents have the worst behaved tweens. They have no idea how to stop and obey. They cannot "stop it. Now. Because I said so. Because I have 25 other kids and I don't have time for a healing 10 minute talk with you right now". They always need YOU to corral their emotions, always need something to be at fault for their feelings, they can't accept that things bigger than them trump their needs, always think they automatically get time to regroup. These kids cannot handle life. Literally 5th grade life, never mind the real thing.
Also, my kids are young adult and financially independent, have friends and steady employment, and still call me. So, spanking them didn't ruin them.
@@mmmmdddd2267only thing I don’t agree with, is spanking before 2.5 yrs old!!! The conversations should start right away, but a spanking too young is a no for me.
@@mmmmdddd2267still aint gonna smack my kids. Smacking is abuse and makes one a darn weak parent.
May daughter is almost 18m and we are by no means paxt this stage, but redirecting instead of just "no" has helped tremendously.
Not just distraction, but saying we don't hit, we tickle! We don't throw things on the floor, we put them back when we're done! (Mostly in the kitchen setting, toys 50/50) so giving an alternative to the bad behavior because no is mean and makes them sad and doesn't let them express anything. But giving a different option gives them a chance for reward. Also we celebrate even mundane things because you don't want them acting out because it's the only time you give them attention. So if I'm cooking while she's eating in her high chair and she gets a bite on the fork and eats it we do a little. "Whoop whoop! Big girl eating all by herself!" And a little dancy dance. Something to make her want to keep doing the good things instead of throwing her food so I have to come running and say no.
I had the same experience at the airport. My baby boy strapped to my chest was so frustrated and started screaming. My solution has to pick him up hold him high. He switches to a happy and laughing.
Does it work for a 10 year old preteen meltdown/tantrum?
Nice, I’ve tried everything with my five year old. The airport example is understandable. What about when you’re at a birthday party or somewhere else where people are supposed to have fun and he starts kicking and punching and screaming the first second he doesn’t get what he wants i.e. the first piece of birthday cake or a second scoop of ice cream, etc…
We’re going home… because no.
Are you from Ireland or Scotland bcz I hear your accent
Hehe I am in Ireland ❤
Yes I did that one time and really worked. When my daughter had her tantrum I start talking about buying princess dresses and beautiful things that we will get she just stopped crying
@@Blingmira nice! 🙌
This is much better than just the strategy of NO and ignorance.
Thank you!! I agree xx
@@HayleyRiceParentingTips instead of making the child feel inconvenient and rejected on top of it, rather we offer an alternative. A distraction that overwrites the stressor. I bet that kid won't grow up feeling less than, and will learn to regulate way better. Thank you. To be honest, I left your video immediately. Then went back, because I had hope that a woman with that smile won't pull... The classic. I'm rather grateful I stayed. Thank you.
@@angelikaolscher7104 100% it makes such a difference for everything from esteem to regulation 🙌 thank you 🥰
@@angelikaolscher7104 you might like my free toolkit! www.hayley-rice.com/free-ebook
What you do is don’t fly with a child until they can understand what is expected of them. Your welcome
@@katemiller7874 sometimes that’s not an option and we make essential flights for different reasons. This is more about supporting parents not about flying as this could have taken place anywhere! 😅🤣
I’m a child that would not be me I’m 10 I don’t have a single tantrum
I will give it a try
Brilliant 👍
Thank you
That would be a 10 second call on the banana phone
Yeah maybe would work with a “toddler” but what about an adult acting 4 y/o? It’s my grandson and I watch him. He has an early BD so won’t start prek until fall. That wouldn’t work for him
Your gorgeous and, your voice is beautiful:)
What’s a GREAT idea!
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What if you dont have a banana 😂😂😂
Doesn’t make sense to me but ok
What if they're grown adults? Are they beyond help at that point? 😂
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This isn't realistic lol
Not for my toddler anyway; there’s NO reasoning with this kid when he’s upset
Yyyyeeeeesh this doesn’t work for me
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This is an example of redirecting.
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Thanks so much
False. 😊
@@michellep9536 those tantrums can be very hard to navigate ❤️
Last time blah blah blah, and more time, telling us how to solve the problem
That's called redirecting
Whatever works for you 👏
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